How about "forgive your mistakes, remember the lessons". Forgiving myself for making a mistake, not getting something right, and failing are things I beat myself over for long periods of time. I would love to forgive myself, and remember that the world didn't end that one time I got something wrong at work.
One quote that has stuck in my mind was "discipline is choosing what you want most over what you want now". Once I heard it, I kept repeating it and it helps.
What you want most over what you want now Value based decisions Dont give into instant gratification work on structuring your life and environment against instant gratification create a disciplined environment
What I love about this channel is that joey doesn’t want himself to come off like he lives this perfect life in a perfect mindset and say we can too. He’s like the people who watch this channel and that’s how he can relate to us and actually give us achievable videos and goals.
_This._ That's precisely why I like him more and trust him more than some other motivational speakers who show that they have their act together (maybe they do, but probably not all the time).
This is so true. I've had this realization after 2 years of reading self-help books and watching productivity videos. I've always treated each book or video as a band-aid to the lack of motivation I had. I had the thought that one book or one video is going to change the trajectory of my life forever. But I realized that it's not the one book or the one video that changes a person, it's the consistency of showing up; it's the stacking amount of experiences that gradually improves our lives. "Action precedes motivation"
Yes I hope you are proud of yourself for taking all that time and hard work to do all that reading and watching self help videos when you could have been watching cute cat videos.
I've been holding off readin self improvement books or books in general thinking they would help me but seeing these made me realize I just need to take action. I know everything I need to know I'm just afraid, and don't take action.
Action over motion. Don’t let preparation become procrastination go out there and get the reps in take the actions and gain the small wins towards your desired identity the only way is through consistent action every single day or else nothing will change.
He says when we are in a rut, to say: "We don't think ourselves into new ways of living, we live ourselves into new ways of thinking." However, I prefer to say it the following way - because it gets through to me much better: "We don't 'think' our way out of it, we 'action' our way out of it". Or, an even more simple way to say it is: "Stop thinking and start acting." When we get into a rut of inaction, saying it this way may be better than the quote he gave in the video.
I feel this, especially right now when I'm becoming a bit overwhelmed with a few things. One of the best things I could ask for is a great support system to get me through.
I have thought this way for a long time, but now I came to a conclusion that doing both is the best alternative. Comparing you only to yourself can blind you because this way you won't have an outise reference to tell how big is your progress. I call it absolute progress and relative progress, the first one you can use to know big is your progress copared to others and the second is your current progress compared to what you had sometime beofre it. Doing so you'll be able to see the big picture allowing you to be aware of the whole situation, witch I think is essencial to make better decisions. No a native, ignore the gramma mistakes, pls.
I had a similar spark from the quote of Albert Einstein's "the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results". I was such in a rut and decided to push myself outside my comfort zone and it worked wonders to fix my situation.
And it's so true. We all need that circuit-breaker moment which goes against your impulsiveness and is out of the norm like going to a new place alone or doing something you're fearful of. Mind over matter
This reminds me of a David Goggins quote, which goes something like this: "You don't find inspiration by doing nothing, you need to live in the grip of life to find inspiration. Put challenges ahead of yourself, when you put challenges ahead of yourself and attack it, that's when you find inspiration." Words to live by, in my opinion.
I think it’s important to address the “pseudo depressive state” comment. If you find yourself in this kind of rut often, and/or really struggle to get yourself out, it might be a good idea to talk to a professional. If you are constantly in this loop of motivation and self-loathing/pity, why keep doing the same thing? There is no shame in getting help when you need it.
Psychiatrists are a scam. And this has nothing to do with "toxic masculinity" or shame or taboo or any of that. I have no reservations about asking for help or talking about feelings. But psychiatrists are a scam. They have two goals: to keep you coming back and to collect kickbacks from pharmaceutical companies for each prescription they write. Your well-being is not in their interest. Don't fall for the medicalization trap modern society tries to normalize to squeeze out every last penny out of mental illness.
Well there are psychologists, and again I must believe that doesn't happen in public psychiatrists because they don't make a profit out of selling the medicines and I have to doubt they would be incentivised to do so unless your country is a corruption shitfest
A few days ago, I was fed up with the internet, computer, sitting idly by, and I thought to myself, you have to do something new. The next day I woke up at 5 am, ran 1 kilometer and watched the sunrise by the river, it was great I was energetic all day long, I saw myself in the video, thank you Joey .
One of the biggest traps is trying to become the best version of yourself from a place of lack. It happened to me, I read books, attended seminars, listened to podcasts, all because I wanted to be perceived as charismatic, and get rid of my social anxiety, but the truth was, I was just trying to improve because I didn’t feel enough, no matter what I learned, until I addressed the root problem and that was me not loving myself, nothing really changed
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck explains it really well, basically pursuing positive experience is a negative experience, and accepting negative experience is a positive experience, its cakled the backwards law in psychology and it ia the basis of the most credible studies of fulfillment and happiness, and the book expands drastically on this point, highly reccomend you read it if you havent already.
I am in it right now. It's now been 10 weeks since my mother died. I need to pull it tf together. I did the lake jump (not an actual lake, I hoped on a plane...took an impromptu trip after mother's day... jumped in the car and drove 8 hours to Idaho for memorial day weekend)... even random daily stuff: painted a mural, learner how to make sushi 🍣 ...now I'm addicted to making my own sushi.. but my motivation is truly SO gone, that it feels like an uphill and rather pointless unrewarding battle... BUT if I'm going to feel this flat lined either way... I guess I might as well actually work on my studies. I may have just solved my own problem ..
I'm so sorry for your loss. Try to not block emotions by distracting your mind, live them, feel them. It is part of the duel. Losing our mother must be one of the worst feelings we'd get to experience, but we will meet with our loved ones one day. Hope you find peace soon. 🍃🌺
I also want to chime in and say that processing grief or recovery in general is more like a whirlwind than a simple linear line. You will have good days. You will have bad days. Sometimes you'll be doing great for weeks or months and everything crashes down. The most important part is to acknowledge and process your feelings. Maybe keep a journal. Maybe have a trusted friend or therapist to bounce thoughts off of or express feelings towards. The second most important part is the conceit of this video: consistency and action towards a modified but new lifestyle. Everything you mentioned in your OP is perfect. These activities, hobbies, hangouts, sessions.. will help you stay grounded and help give purpose. But do not feel down on yourself if you don't feel up to it some days. Just try to get back to the things you love when you feel like it is time. I am truly sorry for your loss. It is in our weakest and most vulnerable moments that we are truly the strongest. You are loved!
dang I'm so sorry for your loss. Grief is a process and it takes time to feel normal again, especially after losing someone important like your mom. It honestly sounds like you're handling it pretty well and I think you should be proud of yourself for getting out and doing something new when you are going thru a tough time. I wish you the best
"By doing something that I hadn't done before, I started thinking things I hadn't thought before". Holy shit. This quote just single-handedly launched me out of my rut of inaction. Thanks!!
I have a quote from a book I read during therapie (translated from Dutch) it's something like : AND I feel down, tired and insecure, AND I will do it anyway. It's on a post-it in my bathroom so I see it every day, and every time I'm like "yeah.. That's true" and I do the thing I'm afraid of or too tired for.
Broke my leg Wednesday and everything in my life has been going down hill since. It really threw my life into a hard point. This helped a lot. It’s not oxymoronic. Sometimes we need to be reminded that we need to take action before things can improve. I’ve already known this. But I just got done with a hard argument with someone I love and it felt like things were hopeless. I didn’t know what to do. I can’t get outside or work out very easily anymore. I can’t do very much. I needed to be reminded that even though I can’t do very much (which oftentimes throughout the day feels like I can’t do anything) I can still choose to take action. Try to get things on track instead of playing the same old song I wrote months ago on guitar thinking I’m being productive.
Sam, I hope you heal quickly. I had a broken leg years ago. It makes you deal with things because you cant run away and distract yourself. Simple things like getting something to eat is a big deal. How about spending your sedentary time writing more songs? That is wonderful that you can play.
@@betterideas thanks man. It’s just been getting harder and harder. Usually when I have to get my life back on track the first thing I do is clean my room which I can’t do very well rn while I’m hobbling around in crutches and can’t bend over properly. I’ll figure something out but it’s 5x more of a challenge than it usually is. Idk what to do anymore. I need a break that I can’t find. But again. Your video reminded me that these things will pass. I just hope it’s soon
Sam 2 years ago had an accident where I broke a cruciate ligament from my right knee playing football, it was a hard time because I usually played 6 days per week. So I decided to change my objetives in life and start to learning new things that had intersted me before, thanks to that my perspective changed and defeat depression. Now can tell you that I consider my accident as a personal tranformation that made me stronger, more intelligent and open my eyes to new and exciting activities Sorry if my english isn’t good enough Wish you the best bro! 💪🏼
This is so real, bro. During this class break, I decided to do something different. An idea popped into my mind, and I wanted to buy some self-improvement books, which I hadn't done before. When the books arrived, everything clicked into place. As I read one page, I became more and more interested in the information. I started applying it to my life, and from that moment on, everything changed. So much has happened to me just because of that one thing I tried doing differently. My way of thinking has completely transformed, and so has my life.
I just have to say I love how you use your own “stock” videos instead of random clips of different people running in a field or drinking a cup of coffee
A month ago I was starting to question my goals in life and had a bit of a meltdown, along with that I had gone thru a breakup. During that period I spent a lot of time watching UA-cam and looking for short-term comfort. I got a little tired of how I felt and I wanted a change. This week I've been spending my time reconnecting with old friends and I'm currently searching for a summer job. Seeing this video really helped me look forward to this new change.
I spent the last two years of my life browsing motivational videos on UA-cam. I convinced myself that I would find a saying or routine that would change my life, but while doing so, I did not feel the need to look back at my own thoughts. All my life I have tried to cope with ADHD. Recently, that famous "algorithm" threw your channel in my face. Well then, I said, let's see what this is. I'm so happy to have looked. As I listened to some of the characters you described in your videos, I felt as if a mirror was being held at me. Now I realize how blinding it is to be so attached to the idea that I can find the motivation to improve my own life by watching sections from the lives of others. I still watch your videos when my mood is low. I watch because they remind me that I am in control of my life, not others. And I sincerely thank you for being different from other channels and for providing me with considerable help without even realizing it. Although it seems unlikely in the near future, I would like to meet you one day. I would be very happy if we could just sit and chat for an hour. Thank you, I hope you never lose the motivation you have caught in your inner world.
I'm in this rut. It's causing me many issues in different aspects of my life. The same day on repeat has caused me depression. Breaking the cycle is key. I need to take action.
He says when we are in a rut, to say: "We don't think ourselves into new ways of living, we live ourselves into new ways of thinking." However, I prefer to say it the following way - because it gets through to me much better: "We don't 'think' our way out of it, we 'action' our way out of it". Or, an even more simple way to say it is: "Stop thinking and start acting." When we get into a rut of inaction, saying it this way may be better than the quote he gave in the video.
2 years ago I passed trought a depression phase, so took the decision of plant trees and organize people from my community to do social projects, and since that moment my undestanding of life changed a way that few people comprehend If you are having a bad day, help you and help others Good video bro! I’ve been waiting for it
This is a great reminder, whenever I'm in one of those 'rut' like days this channel brings me right out. One quick video later and I feel back on track. Thank you!
What I love about this channel is that Joey never tries to look perfect and have the perfect productive live, he speaks to you like a friend, not like a productivity god
I really want to say that literally every video you make spark a huge motivation rush in me, it even became a part of my routine, im unmotivated to do something, i watch a random video of yours and bam now i do the thing i needed to do
5:25 A great show I can recommend that treats that same theme and many more for those who are into anime is The Tatami Galaxy, it's a must to for every people who is gonna turn 18 soon, whether you're into anime or not, and a great watch for those who are older. Good video Joey! Many people needs it
I've been climbing out of a slump lately and everything you've said I have found so true. It's hard but your pep talk has encouraged me more. Thanks Joey.
I spend the last several years trying to find out, why I felt so miserable. I watched literally every single UA-cam video talking about motivation, depression, low self esteem etc. yesterday your channel pops up and honestly... you are by far the only person in the world I ever listened to, who knows how I actually been feeling for the last years. And your advice is already helping me. Thank you
Just finished the video, I can’t express how much I needed this! :,) “By proceeding to act differently, you will begin to think differently!” “Your actions precede your thoughts” Love it :))
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Man, the timing of finding this is impeccable. Been isolating, slowly devolving for the past while. It's finally caught up to where it is affecting my work. This weekend was slightly warmer and I knew I needed to get outside and get some sun. But I've been in such a funk that even going for a walk in the woods is sort a utilitarian thing I do for maintenance, and doesn't have the soul soothing effect it usually, or at least once did. I often feel this great pressure to be more productive, and yet procrastinate by playing chess online, or watching "one more youtube video", read one more article. I have ADHD and hyperfixation can be a godsend when it is something that I want and need to be doing, but those rarely seem to align. Yesterday, I decided my version of self-care would be just pull out a chair and sit in the yard with the sun on me and read a good book with a cup of tea. I definitely feel better today. Planning to start a routine tomorrow, and so this video was good timing and even though intellectually I knew those things, it is comforting and inspiring to hear that I'm not the only one. Thanks
It was so funny to me that you're contradicting yourself by saying that don't always read or find quotes yet you found inspiration from a quote or you say that don't find a video to inspire yourself yet you have inspired a lot of us with this video. That being said, I was inspired by what you said to live my life a different way or do something different that I haven't done to make life better and I just love that. Thanks joey! I'm gonna sit outside now.
i’m evolving constantly but this is probably one of my biggest shifts. i deleted tik tok a couple months ago because i knew how negatively it was affecting me. you can never think for yourself on there and i hated it. after that i stopped talking to a negative influence on my life and told myself to stop taking life so seriously. i noticed that even people’s negative comments don’t affect me as much anymore and now i got a job and i’m starting to do new things and step out of my comfort zone. my little life changing moment was on top of a parking garage. i wanted to get up on one of the posts and hang my feet over the edge, but i was nervous. i did it anyways and it felt so good, i broke my pattern right then and there, after that is actually when i applied for the job and this all happened 5 days ago 🤣
One of the worst self-improvement mistakes I believe one can make is having unrealistic expectations. It's important to remember that self-improvement is a continuous process and progress takes time.
What happened to me a few days ago is the epitome of living into new ways of thinking. Since my early teen years, I've always admired people who gave speeches in front of people and I've wanted to give it a try. But everytime I was offered a chance, my default answer was no. Because I was afraid of being the center of attention. That I might stumble on my words or forget what I was going to say. But a few days ago, I was offered yet another chance but this time I accepted it. During the speech, I actually forgot what I was supposed to say. I spent like 10 seconds trying to remember and I started getting visibly anxious. I did remember what to say eventually and the rest of the speech went just fine. If I was given another chance to give a speech, would I accept it? Hell yes. Because after I gave my speech, I realized that my fears weren't as terrifying as I thought they were. People couldn't care less about how nervous I was because most of them can relate. And quite frankly, I didn't care about it either. I wouldn't have realized how insignificant my fears were if I didn't face them.
The quote that stuck with me day after day when I was 14ish was from Kung Fu Panda (2008) and the quote is, "Yesterday is history, Tomorrow is a mystery, but Today is a gift. That is why it is called the present." And the three things of getting me out of a rut are thinking about, "Tomorrow" or the next day ahead of me, and to think --- instead of changing the routine I turn it in a completely new direction right when I wake up. If I can change it right from the start I have a new beginning. "Today" which I like to think of as the most precious thing in the life that I do have. And even if the day is an example of a rut then I can think of it as a gift. "yesterday" where it may have been boring or stressing or desensitizing but that I need to take a step forward and be open and honest to myself.
This mindset was what helped me out of my depressive state not too long ago. When I kept reflecting about how my parents would always say to “be positive”, over and over, I stopped and actually considered it and it’s taking me a little bit but I’m doing much better at implementing a new positive outlook on life. (Plus it helps that my blood type just so happened to be B+ lol and they kept pointing that out to me whenever I was negative). Your negativity just ends up clouding all the beautiful things that happen to you in life. So when I thought about all the times I lost focusing on the bad things I lose it on all the amazing moments in life. It’s just like the Pixar movie that came out, “Soul”. It really did feel exactly like that.
but toxic positivity can be just as damaging as negativity, we are humans at the end of the day and we are all going to have negative emotions, blocking them or ignoring them can do a lot of damage to you, you have to experience them and then move on
Groundhog day is actually just my life, with the difference that im not reliving one day over and over, but that ive been living the same day for years and changing nothing about it. Time to stop that
5:00 LOL curiously enough this is the video that made me close my multiple tabs of procrastination and prompted me to start work. So long and thanks for all the advice!
This is exactly what i needed to hear. I've been procrastinating and stressing watching an endless amount of youtube videos on self improvement and reading books. This opened my eyes. A total hit in the head of what I've been doing wrong
"You're always going to suffer, therefore find something worth suffering for!" - Nietszche It's not the exact same quote but it's the same idea. It really helped me because it made me stop prioritising avoiding suffering and made me instead just accept that I'm going to do uncomfortable things no matter what at some point and that I might as well not think anything negative about suffering. Now I instead just prioritise doing things that are worth suffering for, like hobbies and goals.
My life rn is just what you've said. Ever since my grandmother died last year followed by my grandfather this year, I always get anxious about everything and anything. I also get a lot of frustrations focusing on things I really want but hard. I also get so insecure of trying to get a job because I might end up not doing it well. Your videos have been doing a lot for me just by watching and listening.
As someone who just started their first job and Is living on their complete own for the first time -- the back half of this video really resonated with me and I will definitely consider changing up my "Groundhog Day" routine (or what my day typically consists of) going forward. Also, just came across your channel and enjoying all of the videos so far.
Great video, I have felt that relying too much on self-improvement can sometimes make you feel like you are taking action, when in fact, you are making no progress at all in whatever you are chasing.
This video is the best video i've seen in years!, I've been in groundhog day for seven months i thought i could break out by waiting for the perfect moment to arise for motivation but it never happened all i did was procrastinate about what i was going to do and then never do it. i wanted to start my youtube channel and gain over 10k subs by the end of the year but i haven't made a video in seven months and allowed my channel to die. Thanks to you i have a clear vision on what to do with my life. THANK YOU Better Ideas! i am now taking charge of my life right this second!
What a video, congrats man. Didnt thought about watching lots of self improvement vids or reading books like those were bad, but you are right. You cant just stay searching how to change your life, you have to take action. Lots of thanks, i'll be a new person since now.
I didn't want this video...I needed it. Thanks! My online business took a nose dive, my loud neighbors have been driving me crazy and our family pet of 12 years recently passed away. I've been in a rut....in just the last two days between a good friend and this video I'm starting to pull out of it. Again, a sincere thank you...You are an amazing person.
This reminds me that people can always say “I’m gonna finish my homework,” but will they? The action takes much more energy, and effort to do than the simple words.
video overview: Many have fallen into ruts before. They are inevitable. But many stay in ruts longer than necessary. Many wait for the energy to come, but it's inefficient. Similarly, quotes, books, and talks can act as redundant meh and not do much for us. talk notes: “We don't think ourselves into new ways of living, We live ourselves into new ways of thinking.” - Life only changes intentionally by force - Breaking out of pattern can surface new energy - Stop waiting for inspiration to act ex: Groundhog day - The guy was stuck in loop of repetitive negativity - Only escaped by stepping outside himself + helping others - Stuck in a loop? Live differently. The worst self-improvement mistake is passively waiting for a "magic" change. One must change their behaviors to produce a change in outcomes + a change in life.
First of all, thank you for these videos, I live with schizoaffective disorder, depression, etc, I can go on lol, with all that said I have learned to teach myself to live with my mental health bc I have changed the way I thought, it is not easy with my conditions but I make it happen thanks to your videos and just getting it done, not sure if I am making sense but thank you and keeps these awesome videos coming. I love Groundhog Day, one of my favs.
"Stop letting your potential go to waste because you don't feel confident or ready enough, people with half your talent are are making serious waves while your still waiting to feel ready."
"Stop waiting around for some quote or some video, ironically this might be the video that springs you into action so, I don't know how that works out philosophically though, maybe this whole video is bullshit" 😂😂😂😂
1:40 Thats a good point. The problem is that we are conditioned via movies or books, that you get the call to adventure. Something gonna happen - outside of your control - that puts you on a right track. Just like in those movies where the hero finally meets Morpheus or Tyler Durden, gets bitten by a radioactive spider or just a "long time no see" dude gives him a drug that makes him... Limitless :). Its always a push from the outside. Problem is that life rarely works that way, and if you wait to long you just gonna waste time.
Watching hours of motivational videos I learned that almost all that information contradicts and conflicts with itself. That quote at the beginning is so useful and truthful that it alone motivates me
“I said to myself, I need to go jump in a lake or something. So that’s what I did.” The issue with actions changes your thoughts is you LITERALLY have to think something before you do it. It’s quite honestly a cop out if anything. But nevertheless, to defend it- I always thought (no pun intended) of your thoughts as being important bc if you think you’re a loser, you’re going to do things (OVER TIME NOT IMMEDIATELY) that losers do. Think yourself a winner and same thing. Kinda like, “…I need to go jump in a lake or something…” came before jumping in a lake or something. What sucks is when people act like they can just listen to good quotes and take no action. That’s just criminal. I’m ranting and nobody will read this and being up for 20hrs isn’t healthy. Stay safe out there friends ✊🏿 😴
"Stop waiting around for some quote or some video... Action is a far more reliable source of inspiration than inspiration itself." Thanks for kicking me in the arse with this. You've led me to decide to stop searching for something that'll drag me out of this rut that's lasted for years by now. Gonna go get that gym membership that I was dreading because of how expensive it is and whether if I'll ever actually use it, and finally open the book and start studying seriously for uni. Meet me in a year under this quote to see how well it went.
Did you go to the gym yet? I started going recently and realized it's really easy. I feel like everyone is talking about how tough the grind is and how hard it is and stuff but in reality it's pretty chill. It feels like you wouldn't belong but in reality everyone is friendly and as long as you commit to going there, exercising is not bad at all. And the feeling of tiredness is so nice, I just fall asleep naturally. Pretty interesting how the internet can be mostly wrong about 1 thing so consistently. People here always try to give advice but most answers to gym questions should be probably "depends" but everyone will still give you their opinion and fight for it with their life.
Literally been in a rut for a month, and knew I was needing to get out, so I’m walking to the bus and going on an adventure and I already feel so much happier. Needed a change 💜 appreciate the video
You’ve no idea how much i needed to hear this, I’ve always disregarded the idea of the aha moment since i never thought I’d be affected by it, then lately it has turned out that perfectionism has grown to become my worst enemy, I couldn’t bring myself to doing anything until the final hours before the deadline, and was stuck trying to look for that cheatcode, that mindset shift that will hopefully change everything in my life for the better once and forever. Thank you so much for such a simple reminder that miracles aren’t real and life isn’t going to live itself… I’m still struggling to fight through perfectionism, my schedule is still a mess, but you brought me hope to look forward to a better tomorrow, I’ll keep moving forward, for whatever heaven or hell life is about to bring upon me, as long as I keep fighting, I know I won’t be dead.
Life has its ups and downs. The happiness and joys that you experience are impermanent. So are the struggles and pain. And it's this in contrast in emotions that make life beautiful and meaningful ☀
I want to expand on my previous post. A big issue I have is that I have been overthinking everything. I am to the point that I am not doing things I should be doing, because I just think about those things (and analyze) instead of doing them. For the longest time I've been looking at famous quotes, watching videos and reading self-help books, trying to get myself "motivated" to take action. And it turns out that what those things have actually done (the quotes, videos, books) is that they have taken the place of action, causing in me inaction. And that is why my life is currently at a standstill. And I suspect this situation is the case for many others as well. We all have to follow the basic advice of the video, which is: Stop thinking and start acting.
I feel like self improvement takes away the thinking aspect from my conscious problem solving, and in turn my brain doesn't think it needs to learn on it's own so it relies on this external "brain"
I wish he read/responded to posts. He's on to something here. I struggled with depression where I felt stuck in a dark cave tormented for years before coming out of it. The thing that got me out was not self help crap, though I read mountains of that stuff. The thing that pulled me out of it was an artist called NF. I heard his song "hate myself" on the radio and I cried in my car for an hour because I have never related to anything more in my life. As I listened to more of his songs I realized that he struggles really bad with anxiety and depression, but he pushes through it. For me I woke up when I realized that everyone feels those things, but we choose yo let it stop us from becoming what we want. So know when I feel anxiety or fear I let them know that we are doing it anyways, and I'm the captain of this ship!
It feels like this guy knows what I'm thinking, this weekend I was thinking about self improvement. WOW Your talented! You can make great content and read minds.
This really does hit home with me and Mark Manson also puts this in a very interesting way in his book "Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck", he says typically we follow this pattern of Emotional Inspiration --> Motivation --> Desirable Action, but a better way of actually being productive and sustaining it is following this pattern Action --> Inspiration --> Motivation. It really helped me and I hope it helps whoever is reading it. Definitely recommend reading the book.
I'm in a rut and i overthink a lot, and i was on my phone all day so one day i started actually doing things i should do like learning for school or training, but i dont feel like im doing it the way i should, in a way that i cant focus because i conciousely think while doing those things all the time instead of focusing on tasks, and so everyday still feels the same or maybe even worse because i dont feel like im doing it the way i should so i start getting angry and nervous, and so im still in a rut even though im doing things that i should do
In the inevitable down-time moments that everyone shares, remember that it's yourself that will change the way you live, not the quote or video essay. If you don't put it into action, nothing will change.
I just saw another video of yours and this one played after... This is just what I needed. Really enjoy your grounded down-to-earth approach. Thanks man!
I had therapy for postnatal depression a couple of years ago and this was exactly where they started. I believe the 'official' name for it is behavioural activation, and there's quite a bit of science behind its effectiveness at overcoming depression and anxiety. Totally changed my life.
“Forget the mistake, but remember the lesson.”
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How about "forgive your mistakes, remember the lessons". Forgiving myself for making a mistake, not getting something right, and failing are things I beat myself over for long periods of time. I would love to forgive myself, and remember that the world didn't end that one time I got something wrong at work.
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"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit." -Aristotle
Well if we are what we repeatedly do, i guess that makes me "your mom".
@@grahamholbrook9112 this is the first "your mom" joke that's made me laugh in like 20 years, thanks
Not Aristotle, Will Durant while analyzing Aristotle.
Bro if you study history, then u know that everything Aristotle said was wrong 😂😂😂😂
@@Hello-jb2kv
You're wrong
“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.”
-C. S. Lewis
One quote that has stuck in my mind was "discipline is choosing what you want most over what you want now". Once I heard it, I kept repeating it and it helps.
What you want most over what you want now
Value based decisions
Dont give into instant gratification work on structuring your life and environment against instant gratification create a disciplined environment
What if I don’t know what I want most
@@Cormac_YTby “structuring your life”, do u mean schedule everything down to the minute? Tried that, felt like shit all day following a schedule.
Do what scares you the most. You will find it was never so scary after all.
Ok I'm going to fight a room full of poisonous snakes wish me luck
@@StephenIC 😂😂
@@StephenIC i was about to write that haha exactly black mamba snakes
Mushroom trip
@@StephenIC im going to watch boku no pico wish me luck
What I love about this channel is that joey doesn’t want himself to come off like he lives this perfect life in a perfect mindset and say we can too. He’s like the people who watch this channel and that’s how he can relate to us and actually give us achievable videos and goals.
So true
"My perfect morning routine" in their perfect house with their perfect life and their perfect other half.
Boring.
Joey = relatable
Agreed
I was scared about giving a public speech, I did and it was a total disaster, I'm still not recovered of the trauma....
He's like a friend
I love how he reassures us that he’s not perfect, that he’s also gone through the low points we are going through. Gives me lots of hope :))
Me too feeling stressed 😫
Noone and nothing is perfect. We all have flaws. 'Randomness' is the beauty of nature and of life. :)
Anyone who says otherwise is a liar, lizard person, or a robot....we ALL have bad days...the difference is how we manage the bad days.
Yeah
When the hoodie is up…the mood is down.
Keep the faith!
_This._
That's precisely why I like him more and trust him more than some other motivational speakers who show that they have their act together (maybe they do, but probably not all the time).
This is so true. I've had this realization after 2 years of reading self-help books and watching productivity videos. I've always treated each book or video as a band-aid to the lack of motivation I had. I had the thought that one book or one video is going to change the trajectory of my life forever. But I realized that it's not the one book or the one video that changes a person, it's the consistency of showing up; it's the stacking amount of experiences that gradually improves our lives.
"Action precedes motivation"
Yes I hope you are proud of yourself for taking all that time and hard work to do all that reading and watching self help videos when you could have been watching cute cat videos.
I've been holding off readin self improvement books or books in general thinking they would help me but seeing these made me realize I just need to take action. I know everything I need to know I'm just afraid, and don't take action.
Action over motion.
Don’t let preparation become procrastination go out there and get the reps in take the actions and gain the small wins towards your desired identity the only way is through consistent action every single day or else nothing will change.
@@suatt38 ik what to do but i can't do because of lack of taking action laznes and procastinaton.. any help?
He says when we are in a rut, to say: "We don't think ourselves into new ways of living, we live ourselves into new ways of thinking." However, I prefer to say it the following way - because it gets through to me much better:
"We don't 'think' our way out of it, we 'action' our way out of it". Or, an even more simple way to say it is: "Stop thinking and start acting."
When we get into a rut of inaction, saying it this way may be better than the quote he gave in the video.
I feel this, especially right now when I'm becoming a bit overwhelmed with a few things. One of the best things I could ask for is a great support system to get me through.
You will find it friend🙂
Love your videos dude! Your shokugeki no soma videos are the most cozy/entertaining videos i've watched. Keep it up
Holy shit, is that CHEFPK?
me too. too many things to fix..
Tough times never last but tough people do 🙌
What a great video. For me, self-improvement in a nutshell is:
action > thinking
Action over thinking very true
Don’t compare yourself to others, compare your self to yourself.
Yeah, to your former self. That way you can see how much of a change you have made!
I have thought this way for a long time, but now I came to a conclusion that doing both is the best alternative. Comparing you only to yourself can blind you because this way you won't have an outise reference to tell how big is your progress. I call it absolute progress and relative progress, the first one you can use to know big is your progress copared to others and the second is your current progress compared to what you had sometime beofre it. Doing so you'll be able to see the big picture allowing you to be aware of the whole situation, witch I think is essencial to make better decisions.
No a native, ignore the gramma mistakes, pls.
Compare yourself to who you were yesterday against who you are today and who you want to be.
@@DaviSouza-kq7xz This. Well said, brother.
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I had a similar spark from the quote of Albert Einstein's "the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results". I was such in a rut and decided to push myself outside my comfort zone and it worked wonders to fix my situation.
that's also a video game reference😄
@@poyakhajei2585 Yeah, Vaas from Far Cry 3 used the Einstein quote
And it's so true. We all need that circuit-breaker moment which goes against your impulsiveness and is out of the norm like going to a new place alone or doing something you're fearful of. Mind over matter
Get out of your comfort zone
Albert Einstein definition of insanity quote so
Go out there and take action everyday
@@Cormac_YTwhat can I do right now to get out of my comfort zone?
"Action is a far more reliable source of inspiration than inspiration itself." Thanks for these down to earth gold nuggets. 🙏
I thought I was the only one who noticed that GEM
This reminds me of a David Goggins quote, which goes something like this: "You don't find inspiration by doing nothing, you need to live in the grip of life to find inspiration. Put challenges ahead of yourself, when you put challenges ahead of yourself and attack it, that's when you find inspiration." Words to live by, in my opinion.
I think it’s important to address the “pseudo depressive state” comment. If you find yourself in this kind of rut often, and/or really struggle to get yourself out, it might be a good idea to talk to a professional. If you are constantly in this loop of motivation and self-loathing/pity, why keep doing the same thing? There is no shame in getting help when you need it.
thankyou for this comment!
@@richardtbohnen5070 "if you haven´t failed then you haven't tried" kinda sums that up
Psychiatrists are a scam. And this has nothing to do with "toxic masculinity" or shame or taboo or any of that. I have no reservations about asking for help or talking about feelings. But psychiatrists are a scam. They have two goals: to keep you coming back and to collect kickbacks from pharmaceutical companies for each prescription they write. Your well-being is not in their interest. Don't fall for the medicalization trap modern society tries to normalize to squeeze out every last penny out of mental illness.
Well there are psychologists, and again I must believe that doesn't happen in public psychiatrists because they don't make a profit out of selling the medicines and I have to doubt they would be incentivised to do so unless your country is a corruption shitfest
@@poika22 This comment is quite bullshit, and maybe it applies to the USA but there are many places in the world where it does not apply.
after all my mental/thoughts changing work i can declare you with confidence this video got influence on me the most
A few days ago, I was fed up with the internet, computer, sitting idly by, and I thought to myself, you have to do something new. The next day I woke up at 5 am, ran 1 kilometer and watched the sunrise by the river, it was great I was energetic all day long, I saw myself in the video, thank you Joey .
Running always makes me feel better
@@emmamartin35 absolutely yes :)
@@emmamartin35 yes 100%
@@emmamartin35 haha yeah, you feel like shit in the moment and once you smash it and get it done you feel so much better 💪
That was a good idea!
"Seek Discomfort" is THE quote for me idk why, but it works.
- Yes Theory
You’ve posted! :)
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I just discovered Psych2Go. Probably because I am subscribed to this channel. Thank you for all the videos about HSP !!!
One of the biggest traps is trying to become the best version of yourself from a place of lack. It happened to me, I read books, attended seminars, listened to podcasts, all because I wanted to be perceived as charismatic, and get rid of my social anxiety, but the truth was, I was just trying to improve because I didn’t feel enough, no matter what I learned, until I addressed the root problem and that was me not loving myself, nothing really changed
How did u change it?
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck explains it really well, basically pursuing positive experience is a negative experience, and accepting negative experience is a positive experience, its cakled the backwards law in psychology and it ia the basis of the most credible studies of fulfillment and happiness, and the book expands drastically on this point, highly reccomend you read it if you havent already.
@@rudalph529 thanks for replying man:)
@@Kingsloop no worries, check out the book though, i got it as a free pdf online
@@rudalph529 could you send us the link please ?
I am in it right now. It's now been 10 weeks since my mother died. I need to pull it tf together. I did the lake jump (not an actual lake, I hoped on a plane...took an impromptu trip after mother's day... jumped in the car and drove 8 hours to Idaho for memorial day weekend)... even random daily stuff: painted a mural, learner how to make sushi 🍣 ...now I'm addicted to making my own sushi.. but my motivation is truly SO gone, that it feels like an uphill and rather pointless unrewarding battle... BUT if I'm going to feel this flat lined either way... I guess I might as well actually work on my studies. I may have just solved my own problem ..
I'm so sorry for your loss. Try to not block emotions by distracting your mind, live them, feel them. It is part of the duel.
Losing our mother must be one of the worst feelings we'd get to experience, but we will meet with our loved ones one day.
Hope you find peace soon. 🍃🌺
I also want to chime in and say that processing grief or recovery in general is more like a whirlwind than a simple linear line. You will have good days. You will have bad days. Sometimes you'll be doing great for weeks or months and everything crashes down. The most important part is to acknowledge and process your feelings. Maybe keep a journal. Maybe have a trusted friend or therapist to bounce thoughts off of or express feelings towards. The second most important part is the conceit of this video: consistency and action towards a modified but new lifestyle. Everything you mentioned in your OP is perfect. These activities, hobbies, hangouts, sessions.. will help you stay grounded and help give purpose. But do not feel down on yourself if you don't feel up to it some days. Just try to get back to the things you love when you feel like it is time.
I am truly sorry for your loss. It is in our weakest and most vulnerable moments that we are truly the strongest. You are loved!
I'm sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is really hard on many levels. It will get better in time, but you will always miss her. Hang in there.
dang I'm so sorry for your loss. Grief is a process and it takes time to feel normal again, especially after losing someone important like your mom. It honestly sounds like you're handling it pretty well and I think you should be proud of yourself for getting out and doing something new when you are going thru a tough time. I wish you the best
You got this and your handling it well. Sorry for you loss.
2:44 "Amateurs wait for inspiration…the rest of us just get to work” -Stephen King. The only quote that helped
"By doing something that I hadn't done before, I started thinking things I hadn't thought before".
Holy shit. This quote just single-handedly launched me out of my rut of inaction. Thanks!!
He started the video saying "everyone has a time in their life where they feel". Exactly, that's my situation Right now.
“Do the thing and you will have the power” -Ralph Waldo Emerson
Was my screen picture for a while 👌🏼
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I have a quote from a book I read during therapie (translated from Dutch) it's something like : AND I feel down, tired and insecure, AND I will do it anyway.
It's on a post-it in my bathroom so I see it every day, and every time I'm like "yeah.. That's true" and I do the thing I'm afraid of or too tired for.
Broke my leg Wednesday and everything in my life has been going down hill since. It really threw my life into a hard point. This helped a lot. It’s not oxymoronic. Sometimes we need to be reminded that we need to take action before things can improve. I’ve already known this. But I just got done with a hard argument with someone I love and it felt like things were hopeless. I didn’t know what to do. I can’t get outside or work out very easily anymore. I can’t do very much. I needed to be reminded that even though I can’t do very much (which oftentimes throughout the day feels like I can’t do anything) I can still choose to take action. Try to get things on track instead of playing the same old song I wrote months ago on guitar thinking I’m being productive.
Keep up the great work Sam! You got this :)
Sam, I hope you heal quickly. I had a broken leg years ago. It makes you deal with things because you cant run away and distract yourself. Simple things like getting something to eat is a big deal.
How about spending your sedentary time writing more songs? That is wonderful that you can play.
Take care !
@@betterideas thanks man. It’s just been getting harder and harder. Usually when I have to get my life back on track the first thing I do is clean my room which I can’t do very well rn while I’m hobbling around in crutches and can’t bend over properly. I’ll figure something out but it’s 5x more of a challenge than it usually is. Idk what to do anymore. I need a break that I can’t find. But again. Your video reminded me that these things will pass. I just hope it’s soon
Sam
2 years ago had an accident where I broke a cruciate ligament from my right knee playing football, it was a hard time because I usually played 6 days per week. So I decided to change my objetives in life and start to learning new things that had intersted me before, thanks to that my perspective changed and defeat depression. Now can tell you that I consider my accident as a personal tranformation that made me stronger, more intelligent and open my eyes to new and exciting activities
Sorry if my english isn’t good enough
Wish you the best bro! 💪🏼
"The best time to water the plant was yesterday, the second best time is now." - Chinese proverb
If you really want to improve your situation, you have to do it right now. Every bit of "waiting game" just makes it less likely that it will happen
Thank you I needed to hear this
And if you can’t get it done now for whatever reason, give yourself an EXACT deadline/starting point, and stick to that 100%.
This is so real, bro. During this class break, I decided to do something different. An idea popped into my mind, and I wanted to buy some self-improvement books, which I hadn't done before. When the books arrived, everything clicked into place. As I read one page, I became more and more interested in the information. I started applying it to my life, and from that moment on, everything changed. So much has happened to me just because of that one thing I tried doing differently. My way of thinking has completely transformed, and so has my life.
Right on time, I heard the first few sentences and I knew that I needed this.
Yah same here
Same here (2)
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I've been in a rough phase in the past months and this video really helped me. Just wanted to say thanks.
I just have to say I love how you use your own “stock” videos instead of random clips of different people running in a field or drinking a cup of coffee
Reminds me of Yoda: "Do. Or do not. There is no try."
𝘛𝘏𝘈𝘕𝘒𝘚 𝘍𝘖𝘙 𝘠𝘖𝘜𝘙 𝘊𝘖𝘔𝘔𝘌𝘕𝘛
𝘐 𝘞𝘐𝘓𝘓 𝘈𝘋𝘝𝘐𝘚𝘌 𝘠𝘖𝘜 𝘛𝘖 𝘎𝘌𝘛 𝘐𝘕𝘛𝘖 𝘊𝘙𝘠𝘗𝘛𝘖𝘊𝘜𝘙𝘙𝘌𝘕𝘊𝘠 𝘐𝘕𝘝𝘌𝘚𝘛𝘔𝘌𝘕𝘛 𝘞𝘐𝘛𝘏 𝘛𝘏𝘌 𝘈𝘐𝘋 𝘖𝘍 𝘔𝘠 𝘛𝘙𝘜𝘚𝘛𝘌𝘋 𝘛𝘙𝘈𝘋𝘌𝘙 𝘖𝘕 𝘞𝘏𝘈𝘛𝘚𝘈𝘗 𝘈𝘕𝘋 𝘔𝘈𝘒𝘌 𝘎𝘖𝘖𝘋 𝘗𝘙𝘖𝘍𝘐𝘛𝘚....
@@user-sf6zi1vi7e thanx fake joey for your advice
A month ago I was starting to question my goals in life and had a bit of a meltdown, along with that I had gone thru a breakup. During that period I spent a lot of time watching UA-cam and looking for short-term comfort. I got a little tired of how I felt and I wanted a change. This week I've been spending my time reconnecting with old friends and I'm currently searching for a summer job. Seeing this video really helped me look forward to this new change.
I spent the last two years of my life browsing motivational videos on UA-cam. I convinced myself that I would find a saying or routine that would change my life, but while doing so, I did not feel the need to look back at my own thoughts.
All my life I have tried to cope with ADHD.
Recently, that famous "algorithm" threw your channel in my face. Well then, I said, let's see what this is.
I'm so happy to have looked.
As I listened to some of the characters you described in your videos, I felt as if a mirror was being held at me. Now I realize how blinding it is to be so attached to the idea that I can find the motivation to improve my own life by watching sections from the lives of others.
I still watch your videos when my mood is low. I watch because they remind me that I am in control of my life, not others.
And I sincerely thank you for being different from other channels and for providing me with considerable help without even realizing it.
Although it seems unlikely in the near future, I would like to meet you one day. I would be very happy if we could just sit and chat for an hour.
Thank you, I hope you never lose the motivation you have caught in your inner world.
I'm in this rut. It's causing me many issues in different aspects of my life.
The same day on repeat has caused me depression.
Breaking the cycle is key. I need to take action.
He says when we are in a rut, to say: "We don't think ourselves into new ways of living, we live ourselves into new ways of thinking." However, I prefer to say it the following way - because it gets through to me much better:
"We don't 'think' our way out of it, we 'action' our way out of it". Or, an even more simple way to say it is: "Stop thinking and start acting."
When we get into a rut of inaction, saying it this way may be better than the quote he gave in the video.
2 years ago I passed trought a depression phase, so took the decision of plant trees and organize people from my community to do social projects, and since that moment my undestanding of life changed a way that few people comprehend
If you are having a bad day, help you and help others
Good video bro! I’ve been waiting for it
This is a great reminder, whenever I'm in one of those 'rut' like days this channel brings me right out. One quick video later and I feel back on track. Thank you!
What I love about this channel is that Joey never tries to look perfect and have the perfect productive live, he speaks to you like a friend, not like a productivity god
5:04 bro ur channel is literally propelling me out of my low point rn
i feel so motivated after watching your videos
I really want to say that literally every video you make spark a huge motivation rush in me, it even became a part of my routine, im unmotivated to do something, i watch a random video of yours and bam now i do the thing i needed to do
5:25 A great show I can recommend that treats that same theme and many more for those who are into anime is The Tatami Galaxy, it's a must to for every people who is gonna turn 18 soon, whether you're into anime or not, and a great watch for those who are older.
Good video Joey! Many people needs it
i’m 17 i’ll see it, I read the sinopsis and seems pretty interesting
I've been climbing out of a slump lately and everything you've said I have found so true. It's hard but your pep talk has encouraged me more. Thanks Joey.
I spend the last several years trying to find out, why I felt so miserable. I watched literally every single UA-cam video talking about motivation, depression, low self esteem etc. yesterday your channel pops up and honestly... you are by far the only person in the world I ever listened to, who knows how I actually been feeling for the last years. And your advice is already helping me. Thank you
Just finished the video, I can’t express how much I needed this! :,)
“By proceeding to act differently, you will begin to think differently!”
“Your actions precede your thoughts”
Love it :))
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Man, the timing of finding this is impeccable. Been isolating, slowly devolving for the past while. It's finally caught up to where it is affecting my work. This weekend was slightly warmer and I knew I needed to get outside and get some sun. But I've been in such a funk that even going for a walk in the woods is sort a utilitarian thing I do for maintenance, and doesn't have the soul soothing effect it usually, or at least once did. I often feel this great pressure to be more productive, and yet procrastinate by playing chess online, or watching "one more youtube video", read one more article. I have ADHD and hyperfixation can be a godsend when it is something that I want and need to be doing, but those rarely seem to align.
Yesterday, I decided my version of self-care would be just pull out a chair and sit in the yard with the sun on me and read a good book with a cup of tea. I definitely feel better today.
Planning to start a routine tomorrow, and so this video was good timing and even though intellectually I knew those things, it is comforting and inspiring to hear that I'm not the only one.
Thanks
It was so funny to me that you're contradicting yourself by saying that don't always read or find quotes yet you found inspiration from a quote or you say that don't find a video to inspire yourself yet you have inspired a lot of us with this video. That being said, I was inspired by what you said to live my life a different way or do something different that I haven't done to make life better and I just love that. Thanks joey! I'm gonna sit outside now.
I love sitting outside! Enjoy it:)
𝘛𝘏𝘈𝘕𝘒𝘚 𝘍𝘖𝘙 𝘠𝘖𝘜𝘙 𝘊𝘖𝘔𝘔𝘌𝘕𝘛
𝘐 𝘞𝘐𝘓𝘓 𝘈𝘋𝘝𝘐𝘚𝘌 𝘠𝘖𝘜 𝘛𝘖 𝘎𝘌𝘛 𝘐𝘕𝘛𝘖 𝘊𝘙𝘠𝘗𝘛𝘖𝘊𝘜𝘙𝘙𝘌𝘕𝘊𝘠 𝘐𝘕𝘝𝘌𝘚𝘛𝘔𝘌𝘕𝘛 𝘞𝘐𝘛𝘏 𝘛𝘏𝘌 𝘈𝘐𝘋 𝘖𝘍 𝘔𝘠 𝘛𝘙𝘜𝘚𝘛𝘌𝘋 𝘛𝘙𝘈𝘋𝘌𝘙 𝘖𝘕 𝘞𝘏𝘈𝘛𝘚𝘈𝘗 𝘈𝘕𝘋 𝘔𝘈𝘒𝘌 𝘎𝘖𝘖𝘋 𝘗𝘙𝘖𝘍𝘐𝘛𝘚....
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This video also falls under the category of self-help. And so the cycle continues...
i’m evolving constantly but this is probably one of my biggest shifts. i deleted tik tok a couple months ago because i knew how negatively it was affecting me. you can never think for yourself on there and i hated it. after that i stopped talking to a negative influence on my life and told myself to stop taking life so seriously. i noticed that even people’s negative comments don’t affect me as much anymore and now i got a job and i’m starting to do new things and step out of my comfort zone. my little life changing moment was on top of a parking garage. i wanted to get up on one of the posts and hang my feet over the edge, but i was nervous. i did it anyways and it felt so good, i broke my pattern right then and there, after that is actually when i applied for the job and this all happened 5 days ago 🤣
"Action is a far reliable source of inspiration, than ispiration itself" wow man this is awesome
One of the worst self-improvement mistakes I believe one can make is having unrealistic expectations. It's important to remember that self-improvement is a continuous process and progress takes time.
What happened to me a few days ago is the epitome of living into new ways of thinking.
Since my early teen years, I've always admired people who gave speeches in front of people and I've wanted to give it a try. But everytime I was offered a chance, my default answer was no. Because I was afraid of being the center of attention. That I might stumble on my words or forget what I was going to say. But a few days ago, I was offered yet another chance but this time I accepted it.
During the speech, I actually forgot what I was supposed to say. I spent like 10 seconds trying to remember and I started getting visibly anxious. I did remember what to say eventually and the rest of the speech went just fine.
If I was given another chance to give a speech, would I accept it? Hell yes. Because after I gave my speech, I realized that my fears weren't as terrifying as I thought they were. People couldn't care less about how nervous I was because most of them can relate. And quite frankly, I didn't care about it either. I wouldn't have realized how insignificant my fears were if I didn't face them.
This is a honest conversation. Thanks Joey!
"we don't think ourselves into new ways of living, we live ourselves into new ways of thinking." Powerful stuff!!!
The quote that stuck with me day after day when I was 14ish was from Kung Fu Panda (2008) and the quote is, "Yesterday is history, Tomorrow is a mystery, but Today is a gift. That is why it is called the present." And the three things of getting me out of a rut are thinking about,
"Tomorrow" or the next day ahead of me, and to think --- instead of changing the routine I turn it in a completely new direction right when I wake up. If I can change it right from the start I have a new beginning.
"Today" which I like to think of as the most precious thing in the life that I do have. And even if the day is an example of a rut then I can think of it as a gift.
"yesterday" where it may have been boring or stressing or desensitizing but that I need to take a step forward and be open and honest to myself.
This mindset was what helped me out of my depressive state not too long ago. When I kept reflecting about how my parents would always say to “be positive”, over and over, I stopped and actually considered it and it’s taking me a little bit but I’m doing much better at implementing a new positive outlook on life. (Plus it helps that my blood type just so happened to be B+ lol and they kept pointing that out to me whenever I was negative). Your negativity just ends up clouding all the beautiful things that happen to you in life. So when I thought about all the times I lost focusing on the bad things I lose it on all the amazing moments in life. It’s just like the Pixar movie that came out, “Soul”. It really did feel exactly like that.
but toxic positivity can be just as damaging as negativity, we are humans at the end of the day and we are all going to have negative emotions, blocking them or ignoring them can do a lot of damage to you, you have to experience them and then move on
Groundhog day is actually just my life, with the difference that im not reliving one day over and over, but that ive been living the same day for years and changing nothing about it. Time to stop that
5:00 LOL curiously enough this is the video that made me close my multiple tabs of procrastination and prompted me to start work. So long and thanks for all the advice!
im on self improvement and its not easy for me especially because i have crippling social anxiety
This is exactly what i needed to hear. I've been procrastinating and stressing watching an endless amount of youtube videos on self improvement and reading books. This opened my eyes. A total hit in the head of what I've been doing wrong
"You're always going to suffer, therefore find something worth suffering for!" - Nietszche
It's not the exact same quote but it's the same idea.
It really helped me because it made me stop prioritising avoiding suffering and made me instead just accept that I'm going to do uncomfortable things no matter what at some point and that I might as well not think anything negative about suffering. Now I instead just prioritise doing things that are worth suffering for, like hobbies and goals.
My life rn is just what you've said. Ever since my grandmother died last year followed by my grandfather this year, I always get anxious about everything and anything. I also get a lot of frustrations focusing on things I really want but hard. I also get so insecure of trying to get a job because I might end up not doing it well. Your videos have been doing a lot for me just by watching and listening.
This video wasn’t bullshit at all, thank you for sharing your perspective and that quote. I needed to read it too. Thank you.
As someone who just started their first job and Is living on their complete own for the first time -- the back half of this video really resonated with me and I will definitely consider changing up my "Groundhog Day" routine (or what my day typically consists of) going forward. Also, just came across your channel and enjoying all of the videos so far.
So its what your days consist of that makes the difference fill your days with activities that will make you who you wish to become
Great video, I have felt that relying too much on self-improvement can sometimes make you feel like you are taking action, when in fact, you are making no progress at all in whatever you are chasing.
A phrase that has stuck with me forever is one I made up:
"Think less, do more"
This video is the best video i've seen in years!, I've been in groundhog day for seven months i thought i could break out by waiting for the perfect moment to arise for motivation but it never happened all i did was procrastinate about what i was going to do and then never do it. i wanted to start my youtube channel and gain over 10k subs by the end of the year but i haven't made a video in seven months and allowed my channel to die. Thanks to you i have a clear vision on what to do with my life. THANK YOU Better Ideas! i am now taking charge of my life right this second!
"That which you most need to find, will be where you least wish to look" -Dr Jordan B Peterson
What a video, congrats man.
Didnt thought about watching lots of self improvement vids or reading books like those were bad, but you are right. You cant just stay searching how to change your life, you have to take action.
Lots of thanks, i'll be a new person since now.
UA-cam must have "slap me so I can do my sh*t" button that actually slaps
I didn't want this video...I needed it. Thanks! My online business took a nose dive, my loud neighbors have been driving me crazy and our family pet of 12 years recently passed away. I've been in a rut....in just the last two days between a good friend and this video I'm starting to pull out of it. Again, a sincere thank you...You are an amazing person.
This reminds me that people can always say “I’m gonna finish my homework,” but will they? The action takes much more energy, and effort to do than the simple words.
video overview:
Many have fallen into ruts before. They are inevitable. But many stay in ruts longer than necessary. Many wait for the energy to come, but it's inefficient. Similarly, quotes, books, and talks can act as redundant meh and not do much for us.
talk notes:
“We don't think ourselves into new ways of living, We live ourselves into new ways of thinking.”
- Life only changes intentionally by force
- Breaking out of pattern can surface new energy
- Stop waiting for inspiration to act
ex: Groundhog day
- The guy was stuck in loop of repetitive negativity
- Only escaped by stepping outside himself + helping others
- Stuck in a loop? Live differently.
The worst self-improvement mistake is passively waiting for a "magic" change. One must change their behaviors to produce a change in outcomes + a change in life.
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𝘐 𝘞𝘐𝘓𝘓 𝘈𝘋𝘝𝘐𝘚𝘌 𝘠𝘖𝘜 𝘛𝘖 𝘎𝘌𝘛 𝘐𝘕𝘛𝘖 𝘊𝘙𝘠𝘗𝘛𝘖𝘊𝘜𝘙𝘙𝘌𝘕𝘊𝘠 𝘐𝘕𝘝𝘌𝘚𝘛𝘔𝘌𝘕𝘛 𝘞𝘐𝘛𝘏 𝘛𝘏𝘌 𝘈𝘐𝘋 𝘖𝘍 𝘔𝘠 𝘛𝘙𝘜𝘚𝘛𝘌𝘋 𝘛𝘙𝘈𝘋𝘌𝘙 𝘖𝘕 𝘞𝘏𝘈𝘛𝘚𝘈𝘗 𝘈𝘕𝘋 𝘔𝘈𝘒𝘌 𝘎𝘖𝘖𝘋 𝘗𝘙𝘖𝘍𝘐𝘛𝘚
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First of all, thank you for these videos, I live with schizoaffective disorder, depression, etc, I can go on lol, with all that said I have learned to teach myself to live with my mental health bc I have changed the way I thought, it is not easy with my conditions but I make it happen thanks to your videos and just getting it done, not sure if I am making sense but thank you and keeps these awesome videos coming. I love Groundhog Day, one of my favs.
Love the fact you make your own stock footage, helps deliver the message better imo
Dude... You've got such a great grasp on what we need in today's self improvement. Absolutely incredible
"Stop letting your potential go to waste because you don't feel confident or ready enough, people with half your talent are are making serious waves while your still waiting to feel ready."
"Stop waiting around for some quote or some video, ironically this might be the video that springs you into action so, I don't know how that works out philosophically though, maybe this whole video is bullshit" 😂😂😂😂
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You really wrote everything 😂 You could have just put the timeline
@@syrgakomuraliev 😅😂😂
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𝘐 𝘞𝘐𝘓𝘓 𝘈𝘋𝘝𝘐𝘚𝘌 𝘠𝘖𝘜 𝘛𝘖 𝘎𝘌𝘛 𝘐𝘕𝘛𝘖 𝘊𝘙𝘠𝘗𝘛𝘖𝘊𝘜𝘙𝘙𝘌𝘕𝘊𝘠 𝘐𝘕𝘝𝘌𝘚𝘛𝘔𝘌𝘕𝘛 𝘞𝘐𝘛𝘏 𝘛𝘏𝘌 𝘈𝘐𝘋 𝘖𝘍 𝘔𝘠 𝘛𝘙𝘜𝘚𝘛𝘌𝘋 𝘛𝘙𝘈𝘋𝘌𝘙 𝘖𝘕 𝘞𝘏𝘈𝘛𝘚𝘈𝘗 𝘈𝘕𝘋 𝘔𝘈𝘒𝘌 𝘎𝘖𝘖𝘋 𝘗𝘙𝘖𝘍𝘐𝘛𝘚....
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1:40 Thats a good point. The problem is that we are
conditioned via movies or books, that you get the call to adventure. Something gonna happen - outside of your control - that puts you on a right track. Just like in those movies where the hero finally meets Morpheus or Tyler Durden, gets bitten by a radioactive spider or just a "long time no see" dude gives him a drug that makes him... Limitless :). Its always a push from the outside. Problem is that life rarely works that way, and if you wait to long you just gonna waste time.
Beautiful, this went straight into my “wisdom” playlist because it is straight wisdom
𝘛𝘏𝘈𝘕𝘒𝘚 𝘍𝘖𝘙 𝘠𝘖𝘜𝘙 𝘊𝘖𝘔𝘔𝘌𝘕𝘛
𝘐 𝘞𝘐𝘓𝘓 𝘈𝘋𝘝𝘐𝘚𝘌 𝘠𝘖𝘜 𝘛𝘖 𝘎𝘌𝘛 𝘐𝘕𝘛𝘖 𝘊𝘙𝘠𝘗𝘛𝘖𝘊𝘜𝘙𝘙𝘌𝘕𝘊𝘠 𝘐𝘕𝘝𝘌𝘚𝘛𝘔𝘌𝘕𝘛 𝘞𝘐𝘛𝘏 𝘛𝘏𝘌 𝘈𝘐𝘋 𝘖𝘍 𝘔𝘠 𝘛𝘙𝘜𝘚𝘛𝘌𝘋 𝘛𝘙𝘈𝘋𝘌𝘙 𝘖𝘕 𝘞𝘏𝘈𝘛𝘚𝘈𝘗 𝘈𝘕𝘋 𝘔𝘈𝘒𝘌 𝘎𝘖𝘖𝘋 𝘗𝘙𝘖𝘍𝘐𝘛𝘚....
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Watching hours of motivational videos I learned that almost all that information contradicts and conflicts with itself. That quote at the beginning is so useful and truthful that it alone motivates me
“I said to myself, I need to go jump in a lake or something. So that’s what I did.”
The issue with actions changes your thoughts is you LITERALLY have to think something before you do it.
It’s quite honestly a cop out if anything. But nevertheless, to defend it- I always thought (no pun intended) of your thoughts as being important bc if you think you’re a loser, you’re going to do things (OVER TIME NOT IMMEDIATELY) that losers do. Think yourself a winner and same thing.
Kinda like, “…I need to go jump in a lake or something…” came before jumping in a lake or something.
What sucks is when people act like they can just listen to good quotes and take no action. That’s just criminal.
I’m ranting and nobody will read this and being up for 20hrs isn’t healthy. Stay safe out there friends ✊🏿 😴
Seen a few videos by this channel and it's nice to see someone who deals with depression in a way and who isn't trying to sell me something.
"Stop waiting around for some quote or some video... Action is a far more reliable source of inspiration than inspiration itself."
Thanks for kicking me in the arse with this.
You've led me to decide to stop searching for something that'll drag me out of this rut that's lasted for years by now. Gonna go get that gym membership that I was dreading because of how expensive it is and whether if I'll ever actually use it, and finally open the book and start studying seriously for uni. Meet me in a year under this quote to see how well it went.
Did you go to the gym yet? I started going recently and realized it's really easy. I feel like everyone is talking about how tough the grind is and how hard it is and stuff but in reality it's pretty chill. It feels like you wouldn't belong but in reality everyone is friendly and as long as you commit to going there, exercising is not bad at all. And the feeling of tiredness is so nice, I just fall asleep naturally.
Pretty interesting how the internet can be mostly wrong about 1 thing so consistently. People here always try to give advice but most answers to gym questions should be probably "depends" but everyone will still give you their opinion and fight for it with their life.
Hey you earned a follower by putting the ad at the end and not in the middle
Literally been in a rut for a month, and knew I was needing to get out, so I’m walking to the bus and going on an adventure and I already feel so much happier. Needed a change 💜 appreciate the video
You’ve no idea how much i needed to hear this, I’ve always disregarded the idea of the aha moment since i never thought I’d be affected by it, then lately it has turned out that perfectionism has grown to become my worst enemy, I couldn’t bring myself to doing anything until the final hours before the deadline, and was stuck trying to look for that cheatcode, that mindset shift that will hopefully change everything in my life for the better once and forever. Thank you so much for such a simple reminder that miracles aren’t real and life isn’t going to live itself…
I’m still struggling to fight through perfectionism, my schedule is still a mess, but you brought me hope to look forward to a better tomorrow, I’ll keep moving forward, for whatever heaven or hell life is about to bring upon me, as long as I keep fighting, I know I won’t be dead.
Life has its ups and downs. The happiness and joys that you experience are impermanent. So are the struggles and pain. And it's this in contrast in emotions that make life beautiful and meaningful ☀
"The only thing permanent in this world is impermanence"
lmao look at this guy with his ups in life who does he think he is
I want to expand on my previous post. A big issue I have is that I have been overthinking everything. I am to the point that I am not doing things I should be doing, because I just think about those things (and analyze) instead of doing them. For the longest time I've been looking at famous quotes, watching videos and reading self-help books, trying to get myself "motivated" to take action. And it turns out that what those things have actually done (the quotes, videos, books) is that they have taken the place of action, causing in me inaction. And that is why my life is currently at a standstill. And I suspect this situation is the case for many others as well. We all have to follow the basic advice of the video, which is: Stop thinking and start acting.
I feel like self improvement takes away the thinking aspect from my conscious problem solving, and in turn my brain doesn't think it needs to learn on it's own so it relies on this external "brain"
I wish he read/responded to posts. He's on to something here. I struggled with depression where I felt stuck in a dark cave tormented for years before coming out of it. The thing that got me out was not self help crap, though I read mountains of that stuff. The thing that pulled me out of it was an artist called NF. I heard his song "hate myself" on the radio and I cried in my car for an hour because I have never related to anything more in my life. As I listened to more of his songs I realized that he struggles really bad with anxiety and depression, but he pushes through it. For me I woke up when I realized that everyone feels those things, but we choose yo let it stop us from becoming what we want. So know when I feel anxiety or fear I let them know that we are doing it anyways, and I'm the captain of this ship!
It feels like this guy knows what I'm thinking, this weekend I was thinking about self improvement. WOW Your talented! You can make great content and read minds.
This really does hit home with me and Mark Manson also puts this in a very interesting way in his book "Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck", he says typically we follow this pattern of Emotional Inspiration --> Motivation --> Desirable Action, but a better way of actually being productive and sustaining it is following this pattern Action --> Inspiration --> Motivation. It really helped me and I hope it helps whoever is reading it. Definitely recommend reading the book.
I'm in a rut and i overthink a lot, and i was on my phone all day so one day i started actually doing things i should do like learning for school or training, but i dont feel like im doing it the way i should, in a way that i cant focus because i conciousely think while doing those things all the time instead of focusing on tasks, and so everyday still feels the same or maybe even worse because i dont feel like im doing it the way i should so i start getting angry and nervous, and so im still in a rut even though im doing things that i should do
In the inevitable down-time moments that everyone shares, remember that it's yourself that will change the way you live, not the quote or video essay. If you don't put it into action, nothing will change.
“The hard days are what make you stronger.” Sharing some love from small UA-camr
I just saw another video of yours and this one played after... This is just what I needed.
Really enjoy your grounded down-to-earth approach.
Thanks man!
I had therapy for postnatal depression a couple of years ago and this was exactly where they started. I believe the 'official' name for it is behavioural activation, and there's quite a bit of science behind its effectiveness at overcoming depression and anxiety. Totally changed my life.
A friend of mine that passed away a couple years ago used to repeat: "you can say whatever you want, but you are what you do"