I really needed this video today! My toddler did not want to leave the mall (he likes to walk around and point at people lol) and he had a bit of a meltdown when I said it was time to leave. Thanks for sharing!
I try so hard to offer choices! My little one is very into learning words, so she just repeats the last word I said 😅I think maybe we need to discuss what "choice" means..
Exactly d same my girl repeat last word we say..how about ur child is she can choose in a right way I mean does she knows how to make choices not reapting..plz reply
my (toddler)daughter is mostly like daddys girl if i leave she cries but when her mom used to tell her something shed just tell her wit full on sass "no"
What is your advice when a toddler just says (or yells) no to both of the choices offered? I did this a lot when my son was 12-24 months but now at 2.5, offering choice works less than 50% of the time. Most of the time he will either say no to my choices or try to negotiate another option that is not possible or realistic considering the circumstances. What is your advice in these circumstances? I feel like my child is trying to negotiate with me ALL day long.
Yes this is very common and can be quite frustrating when all you are hearing is no. I would watch the Montessori & Discipline video as I explain some more techniques as to how to deal with that situation. The first thing you have to do is acknowledge your child by stating, "You really don't want to choose", then state the choices firmly and short, "this or this" and then I would state "If you don't choose I will have to choose for you" then ultimately you will make the choice for the child and just let them know that they decided for you to choose because they didn't. Usually the "no" comes out and the refusal of choices because they haven't been acknowledged or felt connected with you or the situation taking place...once this happen it can change the outcomes. Good Luck!
My son is 5 and he is hitting punching and kicking me when he is frustrated. I have been doing wrong parenting since always actually. Now i am doing like yoour video. My question is normally how long should it take to get over it. Like 3 months .?
Habits and developing new ones take time and consistency yes, a few months to start with and continuing the skills will help with the transition, don't give up
I've read somewhere that children brains tend not to notice negation in a sentence... So for example if you say "forks are not for throwing", what they hear is "forks" and " throwing"... Have you hear about it?
Hello Bianca, I would personally give the child the fork only once. I would make sure I follow all those 3 steps as they really set clear boundaries, expectations and give the child the opportunity to choose to act differently but if the child would throw it again I would take it away stating: "It looks to me that you do not want the fork so I am taking it away and you can leave the dinner table." The child might change their mind and cry which is fine and I will give the fork back after reinforcing that they understand they can have the fork if they use it for eating with and take it to the basin once they finish. But also inform your child about the following conseguences if the fork flies in the air again, that you will put it in the basin yourself and the dinner is over. Their choice. They can have cutlery to eat with for the next meal. You might see a tantrum but stay calm and let the child deal with it. Talk to them once they've calmed down just reinforcing what has been said. But children usually respond well when they feel that the adult is stable and reasonable in expectations. I thought I share this even though your comment was 2 years ago.
So the option is not yes or no, it's HOW to do something or WHICH one, this one or this one. This colour or this one, mum or dad help you, this foot first or this one you choose. So the options are not IF they want to do something or not but rather how they are going to do it if that makes sense 😊
Awesome! Awesome and very practical Thank you!
I'm glad you feel like it is! Any other topic suggestions just let me know :)
Thank you so much for summarising all this in a short video. Brilliantly done ❤️
You're welcome glad you found it helpful!
I really needed this video today! My toddler did not want to leave the mall (he likes to walk around and point at people lol) and he had a bit of a meltdown when I said it was time to leave. Thanks for sharing!
You're welcome! The strategies will really work try them and let us know how you go!
I try so hard to offer choices! My little one is very into learning words, so she just repeats the last word I said 😅I think maybe we need to discuss what "choice" means..
Hahaha sounds like you're on the right track!
Exactly d same my girl repeat last word we say..how about ur child is she can choose in a right way I mean does she knows how to make choices not reapting..plz reply
All good, but the real question is, do you take the fork from their hand or force the shoe on, when the child keeps doing what they did before?
my (toddler)daughter is mostly like daddys girl if i leave she cries but when her mom used to tell her something shed just tell her wit full on sass "no"
What is your advice when a toddler just says (or yells) no to both of the choices offered? I did this a lot when my son was 12-24 months but now at 2.5, offering choice works less than 50% of the time. Most of the time he will either say no to my choices or try to negotiate another option that is not possible or realistic considering the circumstances. What is your advice in these circumstances? I feel like my child is trying to negotiate with me ALL day long.
Yes this is very common and can be quite frustrating when all you are hearing is no. I would watch the Montessori & Discipline video as I explain some more techniques as to how to deal with that situation. The first thing you have to do is acknowledge your child by stating, "You really don't want to choose", then state the choices firmly and short, "this or this" and then I would state "If you don't choose I will have to choose for you" then ultimately you will make the choice for the child and just let them know that they decided for you to choose because they didn't. Usually the "no" comes out and the refusal of choices because they haven't been acknowledged or felt connected with you or the situation taking place...once this happen it can change the outcomes. Good Luck!
My son is 5 and he is hitting punching and kicking me when he is frustrated. I have been doing wrong parenting since always actually. Now i am doing like yoour video. My question is normally how long should it take to get over it. Like 3 months .?
Habits and developing new ones take time and consistency yes, a few months to start with and continuing the skills will help with the transition, don't give up
I've read somewhere that children brains tend not to notice negation in a sentence... So for example if you say "forks are not for throwing", what they hear is "forks" and " throwing"... Have you hear about it?
What if they ignore your choices and keep throwing the fork?
Hello Bianca, I would personally give the child the fork only once. I would make sure I follow all those 3 steps as they really set clear boundaries, expectations and give the child the opportunity to choose to act differently but if the child would throw it again I would take it away stating: "It looks to me that you do not want the fork so I am taking it away and you can leave the dinner table."
The child might change their mind and cry which is fine and I will give the fork back after reinforcing that they understand they can have the fork if they use it for eating with and take it to the basin once they finish. But also inform your child about the following conseguences if the fork flies in the air again, that you will put it in the basin yourself and the dinner is over. Their choice. They can have cutlery to eat with for the next meal.
You might see a tantrum but stay calm and let the child deal with it. Talk to them once they've calmed down just reinforcing what has been said. But children usually respond well when they feel that the adult is stable and reasonable in expectations.
I thought I share this even though your comment was 2 years ago.
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How do you tell a 3year old to not hit, kick or push his brother who's 7 months? 😊
That's a great question! Here is a video that will tackle that :) let us know if you have any other questions: ua-cam.com/video/0on3znGWrhE/v-deo.html
give him another brother to choose
So I gave my toddler the option to say Yes or No to things and now all he chooses to say is No even if if he wants it. What do I do now lol
So the option is not yes or no, it's HOW to do something or WHICH one, this one or this one. This colour or this one, mum or dad help you, this foot first or this one you choose. So the options are not IF they want to do something or not but rather how they are going to do it if that makes sense 😊