Hi there! Thank you for all the great videos! I am a mother of 11 month old boy. I will do my best to follow the steps! What I am worried about is that in my country there are very few of us raising our children in a modern way. Will this be a problem while communicating with other children, because they learn from each other. And what would you suggest to do when the other children react in a different ways from what I`ve teached him? Thank you!
Hi Iglika, you are most welcome! The best advice is that you can only do as much as you can with your own children and in public it is certainly not disrespecting a child when you use these communication methods. You are in fact building the skills of the other child too. I know it's hard in different cultural settings but the best thing for you to do is model to the other children and parents. They will then see you being respectful and the response the children give you will speak for itself :)
Hi, I really looking forward to apply montessori ways to raise up my twins..its a new way for our culture settings. I am a mother of fraternal twins. They are 17months now. They really have problems in sharing toys now😅 now I know, they suppose to take turn instead of sharing. Looking forward for more video. ❤
Turn taking is great when children are at home or they're playing with common toys at a kindergarten. But what should I do when my daughter doesn't want to share her toys with other children at the playground, but she would borrow toys from other children. Every time another child comes to the sandpit she would hide her toys, because she's afraid someone will take them. She would tell other children that it's not theirs to play with, but she's eager to play with others' toys...
Hi there, may I ask what is the right thing to do after acknowledging the child that got the toy taken away from them, what to do with the offending child? Do you take the toy back and give it to the original child. This is a scenario that plays out between my two young children daily. Either way it is upsetting to both children and I can only deal with one at a time.
So you always acknowledge the most distressed child first and then turn to the other and say 'I see you really want to play with that, but your sister was working with it, you can give it back to her or place it in my hand' so you never want to take it physically off them before giving them the choice to do so first as that is the same thing as them taking it off the other child. They can choose to wait their turn or find another toy to play with while they wait. Meanwhile if they refuse to give it back you can say 'You just want a turn, you will have one, in my hand or I'll have to take it from you and hand it back'. The original child can also place out their hand and usually this will sort it out.
@@GuideGrowTV Thank you! This is so helpful. I'm struggling with addressing the distressed sibling because it seems she doesn't calm down until the toy is back in her hand. Good tip on giving the other child a choice and what to do when the resistance persists.
Question.. I was wondering about when you say "you're angry" to the child. Is telling them what they feel suppose to help them? Because I wouldn't like it if someone told me how I was feeling so I'm wondering why it is ok for us to do it to them? Is it cause they don't really know how to sort through their feelings at a young age, and if that's the case then how do we know when it's ok to ask them how they are feeling rather then tell them? Hope I made sense.
Great question! There is a fine line between acknowledging what they are actually feeling in that moment and telling them what they are feeling and it comes down to the tone we use and how we approach it. So you can always say 'I see you are angry, it seems you're frustrated, I can tell you're a bit upset" only when it is relevant. It is important to use descriptive language around feelings when they are young so they can associate the feelings with the word, I also would describe what happened, 'Oh the tower fell' and not assume anything on behalf of the child either just stating your observations.
@@GuideGrowTV Great thank you for the clarification, I'm really enjoying your videos. I wish they had the internet when my daughter was little. I did attend some parenting classes when she was little but I have forgotten things and there's way more knowledge on parenting now it seems. I am brushing up on my knowledge for my grandson and grand baby that'll be here in the fall. Feeling blessed 💗
@@izzy2116 Oh wonderful to hear! Yes it is a very different world we live in and one that the children are growing up in, the shift means we have to be even more prepared to support them as best we can for the future. Any topics you are interested in learning about just comment and I'll make a video :)
With Montessori are children allowed to use two different trays at the same time? Or mix the trays but then putting the correct objects back on the correct trays? I love your videos by the way!
Thank you! I think it's important never to be too strict with anything in life and if you can see a purpose why a child is using two or exploring items then it's important to allow for that exploration and development to occur. Traditionally the answer would be not quite but I think child development and following their interests and learning is very important! And then you just help them pack away on the correct trays :)
Thank god for these videos. We are having issue with this, hitting at preschool because of it. Our only child just takes things from the other kids
You can definitely share these videos as a great resource with the preschool too
Hi there! Thank you for all the great videos! I am a mother of 11 month old boy. I will do my best to follow the steps! What I am worried about is that in my country there are very few of us raising our children in a modern way. Will this be a problem while communicating with other children, because they learn from each other. And what would you suggest to do when the other children react in a different ways from what I`ve teached him? Thank you!
Hi Iglika, you are most welcome! The best advice is that you can only do as much as you can with your own children and in public it is certainly not disrespecting a child when you use these communication methods. You are in fact building the skills of the other child too. I know it's hard in different cultural settings but the best thing for you to do is model to the other children and parents. They will then see you being respectful and the response the children give you will speak for itself :)
Hi, I really looking forward to apply montessori ways to raise up my twins..its a new way for our culture settings. I am a mother of fraternal twins. They are 17months now. They really have problems in sharing toys now😅 now I know, they suppose to take turn instead of sharing. Looking forward for more video. ❤
Yes it will really help you and them :)
Turn taking is great when children are at home or they're playing with common toys at a kindergarten. But what should I do when my daughter doesn't want to share her toys with other children at the playground, but she would borrow toys from other children. Every time another child comes to the sandpit she would hide her toys, because she's afraid someone will take them. She would tell other children that it's not theirs to play with, but she's eager to play with others' toys...
Hi there, may I ask what is the right thing to do after acknowledging the child that got the toy taken away from them, what to do with the offending child? Do you take the toy back and give it to the original child. This is a scenario that plays out between my two young children daily. Either way it is upsetting to both children and I can only deal with one at a time.
So you always acknowledge the most distressed child first and then turn to the other and say 'I see you really want to play with that, but your sister was working with it, you can give it back to her or place it in my hand' so you never want to take it physically off them before giving them the choice to do so first as that is the same thing as them taking it off the other child. They can choose to wait their turn or find another toy to play with while they wait. Meanwhile if they refuse to give it back you can say 'You just want a turn, you will have one, in my hand or I'll have to take it from you and hand it back'. The original child can also place out their hand and usually this will sort it out.
@@GuideGrowTV Thank you! This is so helpful. I'm struggling with addressing the distressed sibling because it seems she doesn't calm down until the toy is back in her hand. Good tip on giving the other child a choice and what to do when the resistance persists.
Question.. I was wondering about when you say "you're angry" to the child. Is telling them what they feel suppose to help them? Because I wouldn't like it if someone told me how I was feeling so I'm wondering why it is ok for us to do it to them? Is it cause they don't really know how to sort through their feelings at a young age, and if that's the case then how do we know when it's ok to ask them how they are feeling rather then tell them? Hope I made sense.
Great question! There is a fine line between acknowledging what they are actually feeling in that moment and telling them what they are feeling and it comes down to the tone we use and how we approach it. So you can always say 'I see you are angry, it seems you're frustrated, I can tell you're a bit upset" only when it is relevant. It is important to use descriptive language around feelings when they are young so they can associate the feelings with the word, I also would describe what happened, 'Oh the tower fell' and not assume anything on behalf of the child either just stating your observations.
@@GuideGrowTV Great thank you for the clarification, I'm really enjoying your videos. I wish they had the internet when my daughter was little. I did attend some parenting classes when she was little but I have forgotten things and there's way more knowledge on parenting now it seems. I am brushing up on my knowledge for my grandson and grand baby that'll be here in the fall. Feeling blessed 💗
@@izzy2116 Oh wonderful to hear! Yes it is a very different world we live in and one that the children are growing up in, the shift means we have to be even more prepared to support them as best we can for the future. Any topics you are interested in learning about just comment and I'll make a video :)
With Montessori are children allowed to use two different trays at the same time? Or mix the trays but then putting the correct objects back on the correct trays? I love your videos by the way!
Thank you! I think it's important never to be too strict with anything in life and if you can see a purpose why a child is using two or exploring items then it's important to allow for that exploration and development to occur. Traditionally the answer would be not quite but I think child development and following their interests and learning is very important! And then you just help them pack away on the correct trays :)
@@GuideGrowTV thank you!
@@GuideGrowTV I’ve already watched so many of your videos! Thank you for making them and explaining these concepts so well!
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