I wouldn't ever describe myself as the life of the party, I definitely dominate conversations, but more so in a way where I try to guide more socially awkward people into getting a chance to speak too. In college I used to go around the class to make sure that everyone was coping mentally and I'd have snacks at the ready just in case.
Will you marry me? Lol JK. But seriously that's INTP catnip. Not because I could not do it myself but the combo of your SE Hero making Our Si child comfy INSANLY LOYAL TO YOU and your Fi parent helping our Fe inferior Would Allow our Ti hero to shine at your Te child and our Ne parent has the back of your Ni inferior. That cycle sounds like a happy life/marriage never noticed till now.
Maybe you're not an ESPF...I'm sure jealous people have said... some people like to be in the spotlight or get al the attention... while thinking your a narcissist instead of your personality type... or you've heard 'fake it till you make it' ... or said 'knock knock' ... and you've given this face 🤨 Dont rely on the tests... get to read all personality types.
That hit me deep. Hearing the truth about yourself is almost traumatizing. We view ourselves how we want to view ourselves and project ourselves to others how we want them to view us. When you peel that away and get to the core of someone, it's intense.
As an INTP, it is interesting to read this and see that so many people agree. I am just now learning that many if not most people think like this. I don't; I think hearing the truth about myself is more of a welcome relief than an intense experience, since I always want to understand everything and understanding myself is no exception. I have found I am also usually pretty good at getting to the core of people, and when I blurt it out I tend to piss people off even though I assume it is what they wanted or needed to hear, or perhaps just because I like being right (Ti hero). Also sometimes I do not realize I "figured someone out" so to speak and they will suddenly be put off because I inadvertently put them on blast. I guess the lesson is that many people feel differently than I do about this and to accommodate that I should make an effort to be tactful.
This is one of the most unbiased descriptions of ESFPs that I have ever watched, with the exception of Michael Pierce. You hit it on the nail. ESFPs are very interesting people. They are actually smarter than we give them credit for and are very very quick learners. Funnest people on planet earth and they bring life to the world. Never a boring time with them - just don't overload them with Ti because you will loose them. They don't live in their Ni, but when they access it from time to time, they can come up with some near genius amazing things.
My brother is very smart. He focuses all those brains on pretty unusual topics, but he knows them inside and out, and his enthusiasm for them is huge. He's awesome.
@@mutantmacrophage6653 You need to relate your Ti to ESFP interests for their Fi/Te to really enjoy it, even better if they can try out the thing you explain immediately, especially if you yourself can show them. ESTPs love hearing the why logically about that stuff. For example, if you and an ESFP play the same instrument and you show them a technique combined with how to use it practically that is enough for them to love it, but they'll rarely figure out the "why, where and when" from a logical standpoint, just vibes. So if you explain to them what mood you're creating, how the musical logic works and where it does and doesn't make sense then their Te has all the knowledge for creating the vibe/emotion they want at the right time. If you Ne them hard with different examples of outside the box uses too it is metaphorically like you've just given them all the different shades of say yellow, and next time they feel yellow is the colour, or say I v bVI ii is the chord progression, they can accurately express themselves
Also the fact that when I watch ESFP definition videos, rather than focusing on what the definition says, I spend time reading comments containing other types opinions about us😂 which is SO ESFP LOL
When you are an ESFP with a slightly social anxiety and can’t really relate to being the life of the party. Like i am though in my circle of friends...I mostly choose shy people as friends because i get the chance then to be the loudest,best dressed,Center of attention. I do run in two circle. Popular squad and “not so cool squad” I agree with being insecure of others think and being afraid i am stupid. Like my ISTP sister keeps asking me why i care about grades and i’m like “I don’t want to be the dumbest in my class”. I mean i know a lot of friends who get good grades because they are curious and want to learn. On the other hand i study because i am competitive and can’t imagine being the most stupid in the class. By the way as an ESFP i come often to this video because i love hearing about myself. True about the dressing part. Like my ISFJ mother and INTJ friend keep telling me Red lipstick is way too bold while i am like “That’s the point”.
sometimes i hate how much i focus on giving others an experience. i cant even enjoy myself sometimes because im all focused on will this person like the music im playing is this person feeling awkward is this person appreciating the moment that i cant even enjoy myself lol
same here, you gotta take some time for yourself to pamper yourself and then you will be good to go again, and you'll feel good about doing it again (until you burn yourself out and dont again haha). balance is key. gotta gind that healthy balance as we get older.
God, so much this. I struggle to play music with others because all of my stuff is so weird. Or if ai suggest a movie to watch I'll worry so much if the other person is enjoying it
I agree, I'm an esfp but I personally dont like parties because I'm really selective of who I fw and also have terrible anxiety- so I also prefer acting out in my group of friends instead of acting out at a party
As an ESFP, house parties can make me distressed sometimes. I've never felt that when partying outside, and I think it's because the environment lends me the option to approach strangers or explore nightclubs.
ENFJ here, I was married to an ESFP & when he didn't like how pissed off I was when I found out about his affair and my divorce proceedings, he obliterated my reputation to every friend and person around saying horrible untrue things and not mentioning his infidelity. Even calling my own father and making up insanity issues about me. I wish I had known about his demon and could have prepared for it. It was horrible. I still have neighbors that I am sure think I have a certain personality disorder and am a drunk.
Something happened like this to me. I get Infj/ Enfj/ Entp on tests. People perception esp after all the work I put in, into a relationship and tending to that person- it hurts.They were quite disordered/ toxic and projected a lot.
Best ESFP description I have ever watched. I am very impressed. I am an ESFP and you just unlocked a lot of things about myself that I know can make sense of. Thanks
You're on point with the colorful clothes comment. I spend alot of time color coordinating my outfits, just want to give off good vibes. Also, I get the "when I first met you I thought you were an airhead" comment alot, it's really annoying. I do have to thank that Te Child for shutting people up.
Ugh , after learning how to type people- I have definitely noticed ESFPs are the ones I find most frustrating to deal with. But I also find them the most fascinating, I wonder why? It's almost refreshing to see how they live so much in the moment, abhor planning & still manage to be pretty darn successful in life; in contrast to me, who tries to plan every second of his life & gets stuck in a rut
I don't know why, but as INTP, I always spot these Entertainers from the crowd, and I instantly adore them. It doesn't bother me that they're loud and colorful, which is kinda weird. I love ESFPs =)
As another INTP I feel the same! Y'all totally get us out of our "humanity is screwed, no one cares, and nothing matters" overthinking rut and show us the value of living in the moment and enjoying life for what it is. You kind of remind us of how we saw the world as kids, in a good way, i.e. full of wonder, possibilities, and excitement, before we got jaded. Maybe I'm just speaking for myself. Just know that even if we seem reserved and detached, and even if we make you feel silly with our Se trickster, we love you!
It's nice that they take the spotlight away from you, but it's a either a bore/chore to hold a discussion with an ESFP who haven't developed their Te/Ni and who haven't found their 'passion' since it's all regurgitated 'news' straight out of someone else's mouth, no deeper research or fact check.
Wow, wow, wow I am an ESFP and this video was the most informative and accurate video I have ever seen about my personality. I am definitely in stagnant mode right for fear of making another bad decision. And yes my ISFJ just guilted me lol, which has definitely made me want to take action, he definitely let's me burn my hand😁
“.....you will be exiled. They will destroy you. Well! That is the ESFP profile, hope you found that educational....” Oof. Thanks for revealing the darkest parts of my soul 😂
This is a poem I wrote last year. I am a ESFP. Any others relate? Poem: Depreciated M.Southall The sky is falling in fall with an ominous feeling of fear. That emotion I ignore the most, and yet the one that seems to steer. When you repetitively regret the things you did living a life without regret. It burdens me to dwell on deeds that I should just forget. Ruminating thoughts of failure, and future visions of the end. Fight or flight is limited when your confidence is dead. If only I could exit this place of burden and despair. I've fortified so much before, but am I beyond repair? Not to leave this earth, but rather the mind where I lament. I just want to be present in the moments that bring us deep content.
So true how they can be super intelligent people! The one I know closely was a talented electrician and ran a successful company for several years and tells me how he was at his happiest doing that out of all the careers he had.
VERY helpful and accurate. I am an INFJ mom with an ESFP forty year old son. He is exactly as you describe and what a relief that I now know this and can meet him where he is, accept his wonderful gifts, not fight them.
ESFPs really bring out the best in us NFJs....yes, have known a couple of ESFP event coordinators, very personable and also quite intellectually engaging.
ESFPs are anything BUT intellectually engaging lol from an INFJ's standpoint. They are loud but not funny, unlike INTJ's subconscious ESFP. At worse they're selfish and feel entitled to other ppl's attention to them alone (other people just HAVE to listen and pay attention to them only or else they're "shit") but they don't reciprocate and are judgmental & resentful towards other for a small fraction of their own hypocrisy. At best, they are genuine and radiate sunshine and positive energy without being too obnoxious and being lovable.
Oh my God! It seems like you have extensive knowledge of ESFP. I’m one. Graduated college with Math and now working on Comp Science while applying for PA school and serving in the army. Took me 6 years to go through Math. But you hit the nail on the head about everything. God I’m blown away
Romantic partnership recommendations and how the pan out for ESFPs: 1. Golden pair: ESFP - ISFJ (switch I/E and P/J) Highest understanding/emotional compatibility "Best" emotional/sexual compatibility Greatest high points, worst low points 2. Silver pair: ESFP - ESFJ (switch P/J) Highest level of mutual respect, but don't understand each other Very good emotional/sexual compatibility 3. Bronze: ESFP - INTP (switch everything but P/J) The most common marriage and longest-lasting relationships (usually). Companionship - one fills the other's shortcomings. Emotional/sexual compatibility is not very high, but the relationship feels like being a child again, very freeing. 4. Pedagogue: ESFP - ISTJ (switch everything but N/S) The relationship for developing/learning the most from each other. Sexual compatibility is off the Richter scale. It is recommended to be intimate as often as possible. Like, daily. Emotional intimacy needs to be developed 5. Benefactor: ESFP - ESTJ (switch everything but I/E and N/S) Very little conflict, lots of respect. Very good emotional/sexual compatibility (same as silver pair) Hope this helps!
Statistically that bronze pair is the least likely. Possibly because of how introverted/extroverted the two are in comparison they just aren't ever in the same circles.
@@Owl-yc2yu cognitive introversion and extroversion had nothing to do with the IRL introverted and extroverted terms (the definitions are VERI different , although cognition does somehow tamper this. and esfp can very well be introverted although they have the cognitive tools to be an extrovert.
I have to admit that I am an ESFP and for about two years, 2015-2018 I was in the failure to launch syndrome right after high school when I graduated in 2015. Now, in 2018-2019 I'm in college after transferring from community college and doing several internships, I finally like you said, "got my wings". Now I know why I am an ESFP. Ti child, yes your right. I have an interest in music, history, and other things, and have the encyclopedia format and share it with others. This is why I always thought I was an NT or NF, because like you said people think ESFP's or in general SP's are "stupid". Anyways, thanks for the videos.
I'm an ESFP and this is so beautiful how you explained this! I know things now that I have always wanted to know about myself and another thing I have literally said to some of my family members that I usually take what other people say and use it as a source for my "knowledge"
I'm almost exactly your istp video analysis, my son is almost exactly your definition of an esfp. This will help me better understand our relationship. Thank you!
I can’t begin to emphasise how much I can relate to constantly changing what I want to do. Every year I change what I want to do/become. It’s so good to hear someone say this 😅
This is one helll of an accurate analysis about ESFP, soaking up others' intelligence literally transforms me and yes I do think everyone is immoral unless they prove otherwise. Thanks for a great and inclusive presentation, much apprecated.
Ever since learning about MBTI and the cognitive functions, suddenly things just make sense. I have an ESFP friend who’s super close with ISFJ friend and I now understand why that is. Or why I, an ENFJ, am so close with my INFP friend. Thank you so much for making these videos, they’re really informative and helpful, they really fuel my passion for psychology and understanding people :)
This content is so eye opening and life changing. As an ESFP I'm not great at internalizing myself deeply. I'm always so worried about how everyone else views me, that it blurs the vision of who I actually am deep down. I've went through periods of my life where I though I had Social Anxiety because of Trauma where someone really close to me rejected me and hurt me emotionally. It destroyed my ego. It was conflicting because I knew I was a very social and fun person, but subconsciously dwelling on that one rejection made any signs of social disapproval cause me high anxiety... I am so happy that I am starting to overcome this and blossom into the energetic, caring, spontaneous and fun loving person. Being 23 years old trying to figure out who I am and what paths to take is a constant question I ask myself. I fear that I will never truly know, or that I will make the wrong choice. This just cleared up my head so much about what my strengths are and how I want to incorporate them with this world. Thank you so much for helping me in my transition into a beautiful life ♥️
This is a beautiful comment to read. It's great that you are growing to love yourself! As a 27 year old ESFP, let me tell you that you still have so many years to figure out "who you are" and what you want to do (as do I). People will try and make those decisions for you. They might tell you that your spontaneity, your playfulness, your desire to be out in the world rather than settling down etc are bad things, but let me assure you that those things are what make you who you are! Your energy for others, your zest for experiences, your humour, your desire to entertain people - these things are what will give you purpose, energy and security in your identity for most likely the rest of your life. These qualities are all wholly loveable. (I am still learning this myself) Don't let people dim your light!
Let me tell you something brother! Apparently I am an ESFP and this was fairly accurate. I don't dress up in flamboyant clothes or anything but many other things hit the nail on the head.
Great video :) describes my ESFP friend so accurately, who’s the life of the party, loves make-up and clothes, and is also really good at physics and math.
I'm pretty sure my dad is an ESFP, how lucky am I ?...as an INTJ haha He has always encouraged me to test new limits & try new things. He can be a bit brash in how he puts it, but I'm able connect a lot more dots now- after finding your channel!
I think i might be an ESFP but instead of becoming lazy when not making progress, i get really obsessed with the topic and keer gathering data so i can get to an answer, even if the gathering gets me nowhere
okay wow when you said we need someone like an esfj, i felt that....my best friend is an esfj and she’s literally my rock scary accurate (about literally EVERY single thing) in such a good way, absolutely love this
I am an ESFP and my boyfriend is an ESFJ. Your description of what the ESFJ does for the ESFP is so spot on. You made so many points that hit the nail on the head. Thanks for the awesome video!!
One of the funniest things I’ve ever seen happened to an ESFP friend of mine about 3 years ago. During marching season at my school we had to March outside on the parking lot, and he comes on to the field basically in his night clothes, no shoes or socks on, and obviously disoriented. He said something along the lines of “I live 15 minutes away and I drove here in 3 minutes because I woke up really late” come to find out he was driving 115 on the backroads to school.
I have a ESFP female friend that helped me with math all my four HS years. She is very intelligent and capable. It’s funny, she’s pursuing a child development career. I have other ESFP female friend that always helps me to keep track of everything related to schools events, financial aid information and important documents. Both are amazing !
As an ESFP, I SUCK at sales. I’m way too transparent, and I’m too go-with-the-flow and prefer to trust that people know what they want. If they say no, I respect that choice. I’m also highly anxious, and I hate being the center of attention. However, I’m EXCELLENT at anatomy, and massage therapy was the best career move I’ve ever done. One on one, dark room, soothing music, healing experience. That being said, my clients say I’m the highlight of their month 🤣 I’m also not spiteful. When I leave a relationship, it’s because it’s been toxic, or I’ve been taken advantage of and I realized it. I choose to always make a clean cut exit, and I’m friends with most of my ex’s. I’m not one to retaliate. That being said, my ex’s always regret hurting me. I always hear about it years down the road from them how much they enjoyed me and how sorry they were for treating me the way they did.
Omg yes I am an ESFP and I loooove physics. Unfortunately my country's educational system didn't allow me to study that, so now I'm studying statistics.
Am only now in a place to realize Im most likely an ESFP. It makes sense given my past and recent personal growth. Im intellectual in a very applied way and I guess I always gave that more weight than I should have in terms of my ego, but in practice its still really strong. The biggest issue I have is that my Ni is something Im having to protect against and it makes it so hard to take on bigger challenges with confidence Im doing the right thing as I usually miss super obvious things. A lot of success for me looks like embracing the short term and doing things where success is subjective.
my mom is one of the best business women/entrepreneurs I've encountered, very true, they THRIVE in any trading situations, it's amazing to watch really.
Hi C.S. Joseph! Thank you so much for this very informative video. Among all the ESFP articles and videos I have seen, I think that your video best describes an ESFP. I have taken Myers Briggs personality test several times as I felt that my personality does not fit the description most gave. Your description of an ESFP has helped me understand myself better and has made me conscious about my actions and behavior. Thank you! :-)
You don't know how accurately you described me. Im 26 years old, dropped out of my degree after 4 years failing in engineering and now in a new one(finance and banking). I have no idea what i want to do in life and a settled life w marriage and kids seems so far away even though I'm already so old (compared to my peers who are getting engaged, finding new homes etc vs me still living off my parents). I always don't finish what I start esp when it comes to my studies. I feel like an insurance agent path might suit the way I am and what stimulates me but Im overly caught up about what people would think of me :(
I'm ESFP and I agree with most of it... but though I agree with "ESFP LIKES TO DOMINATE EVERYONES ATTENTION " , I feel uncomfortable with colourful clothes because they catch attention, idk why!! Maybe because it's not the kind of attention I want?.. And kinda disagree also with attacking people back if i got attacked..because i choose to take care of people feelings instead of mine which always hurts me in the inside but at the same time i can't do the opposite! all the other things are TRUE, I'm surprised, it's the first time someone gives us credits, all the other similar videos/facts spread everywhere just made me redoing the test and always getting ESFP and shock lol so thank you.
yes you are correct it is a generalization, sometimes some social situations with ISFJ shadow call for having as little attention as possible, but I was mostly speaking about ESFP ego more so than ISFJ shadow.
Wow my daughter is brilliant with math and science. She's majoring in engineering. She's also very much a people person. She loves to dress up. She's very advanced and super smart. She always tests entj or estj though. She is indecisive about everything but she completes everything with perfect results and is awesome at time management. She's the sweetest thing and is not confrontational or mean in any way. She's mellow and humble but kicks ass in every way. She really defies type. She has all of the capabilities and level headedness of the estj and entj but none of the harshness and bluntness. She is well liked and respected by everyone. She rubs no one the wrong way. She's also a tremendous athlete. I can't type her.
I REALLY enjoyed this!!! This gave a lot of insight into my ESFP personality that I didn't realize before! I actually uploaded a "life lessons from an ESFP" video last year, and this just confirmed so much! Thank you for this!
I mean, thank you for the information. We had a teacher- that is in my son's classroom in 1st grade- who would play the guitar and sing with /to kids while they did their work and that helped him immensely! I learned to do many technical things sometimes with a manual, sometmes seeing someone else do it or sometimes just because I was left alone and told to do it. Including playing musical instruments, cooking, working an IT department by myself and helping out a paralegal that I only came to give a message to. I had seen how to be a paralegal in a movie backed by trying to look up a law or two on my own when a court clerk was nearby to answer questions one day as I was walking past the courthouse in a different town. I only say this really because figuring out my personality type has been a long journey and I like to leave myself trail markers in case I get lost again.
It's actually funny that you say that they're good parents because I think my mom is one of them (not sure if she's Introvert or extrovert, but seems quite xsfp). And actually it makes sense because when I was a child she always tried to adapt herself to my learning process and trying to respect my personality (Maybe her Fi parent was procteting my Fi hero? xD). She's actually a language teacher so that make sense. Thank you for the information, as always :D
My Mum is an ESFP, we get along very well (INFP) 💛 the main thing that connects us is our mutual interest in personal development and the same sense of humor 😊
Wow!!! I'm amazed.. I'm an esfp (mistyped as esfj for the longest time) studying electrical engineering. I always thought it was a weird thing for my type but now it all makes sense! Incredible really
Hmmm.. Lemme give this a shot: Observe/Gather all the data (Se). Discover the point/allow the meaning(s) to manifest (Ni). Decide whether or not they value it/them (Fi). Compose & execute a plan (to either avoid, or, obsessively pursue/master it/them) (Te). ✔ ?
Hi Chase, I'm thrilled to discover how incredibly deep into one's psyche the cognitive functions go. I had no idea they did this, even though I've been a Myers Briggs user for 30 years. I'm a member of all these Narc groups, MBTI groups, anxiety disorder groups, and the like on Facebook, so I've been sharing your personality analyses with each of them. I hope that's alright. From what I've heard, you're analyses are describing my mother, sisters and myself to a T.... We're all different types....ESFJ, ESFP, INFJ.... I study alot of the Clinical personality disorder types - Anti-Social personality disorder, Dependent Personality Disorder, and even those are incorporated into your exposes on each type, although not mentioned by name. Your analyses even take into account Amir Levine's work about Anxious, Avoidant, and Secure relationship types. So I find myself perfectly persuaded, although I do find myself disagreeing about what you say some people are typed as - Trump for instance is ESTJ to me....not ENTJ. I wouldn't give him that much credit! I've been on the hunt for what has been ailing me for quite some time, and swoop, you incorporate them all under one umbrella. I'm bowled over. It's fascinating. You've left me in awe. Ha! Keep going. I'm listening.
As an INTJ, I find myself emulating the INFJ (at least we both have similar Hero and Inferior so it's quite easier) when I interact with the ESFP girl that I liked to cater to her needs/wants. Btw, the last bit you shared about the ESFP's Ne Demon aiming to destroy you, that kind of happened. I felt the people who I trusted have also become aloof at the same time that the ESFP was kind of taking them away from me. She was always finding them and spending time with them and kind of isolating me essentially. I have had some confusion between me and this girl because apparently we cannot be on the same page at the same time. I studied some psychology on why she was doing the things she was doing and stumbled upon literature on Narcissism. And they all clicked and made sense in line with the ESFP's actions and your descriptions in this video as well. They want to be babied. They are not typically relationship material and I felt I was led on. As you said, they like to start things but not finish it (make commitments). But for me, as an INTJ, I was looking for closure and I wanted to make it work. But I had to learn to let go and be more sensitive in sensing and discriminating good from bad potential relationship partners. As an aside, you had a video that talked about one's ego going to the subconscious when the person got drunk. My first interaction with this ESFP was that I let her lead the conversation while being completely receptive and laughing it off with her (which is hard for me as an INTJ lol but I tried to establish rapport). After that interaction, I felt drunk! Like I was a kid or the kid inside woke up. That's what happens it seems when the subconscious speaks to the conscious (ego). Also, when I would be in high spirits and be genuinely laughing, she would respond by acting like she's the INTJ lol. I have had to study all of these to make sense of typing, myself, the ESFP girl, personality disorders (not saying anyone's disordered but just something in my gut felt wrong), and my overall situation. Thanks CS Joseph. For me as an INTJ, I realize that the ESFP may be nice to have around to elicit that positive vibes, but just too much and too volatile emotionally for me. I acknowledge our differences and incompatibility and must move on.
So I got all this pressure is so goddamn indecisive that and then have goes transitions the wrong way but we know that outcome.. and that's why I love work!
Thank you for your good information. I didnt know that many people think ESFP is stupid before. I feel bad little bit with it. Anyway I always want to show my performance on the street. Yes, some people think Im crazy or drug high. But I dont do it. Just natural. God just made me like that way.so I cant help it. We are all different. Hope we can help each other and give good energy. :)
Im always asking people what they think im good at. And im always trying to see others perspectives on me but hate getting the answer i dont want lol! I always tell people I dont know what I want to do for a living because so many things sound fascinating and theres not enough time to do it all.
This is my Mum! So many times she has descoved something new and says "I'm going to do this everyday" and never does it again. My ISFJ Dad bought her a violin 15 years ago, and she had probably touched it a total of 6 times. 😂
I love how this video made my behavior make sense to me. I'm an ESFP; however I use my subconscious, my unconscious, and my superego a lot more than most. Thank you! 👏😊
Just shared this with my ESFP pastor, hopefully he finds it insightful. I did not realize all the negative things mentioned about ESFPs before I shared it with him. Oh well, every-type has strengths and weaknesses. Right now I'm just trying to figure out how to apply the cognitive functions to following Jesus. I know you posted this awhile ago but I just wanted to say thanks for the content!
Love the Lord your God, with all of your heart, mind soul and strength, AND love your neighbor as yourself. For God does not give us a spirit of fear but a Spirit of Power and Sound Judgment.
It was shocking to realized i was an ESFP. But it is good to know it. I fought my shadows, an i have a great passion with theoretical concepts, abstract, metaphors, esoteric, occult, philosophy and psychology specifically. I understood why my Ni used to be a child and scary function, but then became my greatest talent.
INTJ and ESFP is the same psyche. The difference is that as an INTJ i prioritize objective logic (Te) and symbolic interpretations (Ni) rather than objective data (Se) or my feeling judging function (Fi). Fi exists, but it's blocked by Te and Te it's inspired by Ni. Se it's temporal, and only when it's necessary. I don't show feelings, but i have them, they are absolutely controlled by my prefrontal cortex.
Only at minute 10, but as a textbook EFSP, relating to a lot of your content so far. Did I mention I’m a CPA serving as a manager in public accounting? Those Te child tendencies are for real
I am a INTJ and have noticed there is a billion videos on INTJs coz we are great at learning ourselves, but there ain't many ESFP videos and any that I have seen so far have not been made by ESFP's it made by other personality types. My wife is ESFP and I totally get why there's no vids made by ESFPs. She is too busy out socialising and keeping in the loop to even research herself, let alone work out how to make a video. She calls herself a technophobe. I laugh coz her phone is never out of her hand using it as the most important function in her life which is to keep in the loop with all the friend circles she has going on.
Fe critic is real. My dad was an ESFP, and when I was upset about something, he would often tell me 'You'll get over it.', thereby guaranteeing that I would NEVER get over it. Mostly great dad though. We played baseball every day in the park one summer, built a tree house together, went on fishing trips... good times.
I miss typed myself as ENFP for years!! I'm taking in all of the esfp information and learning about myself now. I don't like esfp! 😂 This video is very encouraging.
I really thank you and value the content you put out there, this video has really helped me out with a friend of mine help deal with her problems and taught me what approach to take in the delicate situation she is in.
Woah omg. I feel so seen and affirmed! Especially the part about the early childhood thing.... that’s exactly my career path and I never could quite explain what drew me to it!
Updated as I watch more of the video the part about incapable of logical thinking LOLLLL ughhhhhhhh yes yes yes a million times true for me unfortunately. I have a boyfriend who is RIGHT ON with that but I just cannot or do not have the mental capacity to organize all of the cause and effects of everything that I do 😅😭
I just recently took a guy's test through cs joseph personality test.. his result came out as esfp.. he told me these are barnum statements.. yet I know that what Chase said was applicable to him..
Wow, very insightful… My daughter is an ESFP and I can relate a lot to what you said. What’s also little nerve-racking is a lot of narcissism comes through or even narcissistic personality..Yikes, at that point I wouldn’t call them good people if they destroy someone else because they can’t get the loyalty or freedom they want… Incredibly immature
Thank you very much. This is educational. Before this, I hate my 16personality result (btw its ESFP) because i think those means you're always take decision based on feeling. In fact i've took many consideration. Even i realise sometimes deep down i could plan a horrible plan for the one that i hate. Now i understand where they came. Thank you very much :) #sorry for my writing skills
I, as an ESFP, live with an ESTJ and ENJF. We're all girls. And boy, it's crazy. Also, we have another roommate, but she's introverted and she is scared of us. I would like her to join the fun, but it's hard to do with my ESTJ and ENJF roommates, because they don't understand why she's acting a little strange.
First I’m typed as ISFJ, then ISTP, and now ESFP I’m for sure an artisan, I’m very interest based and really concrete when I’m comparing myself with my abstract friend, but I couldn’t acknowledge yet which interaction style I have.
I wouldn't ever describe myself as the life of the party, I definitely dominate conversations, but more so in a way where I try to guide more socially awkward people into getting a chance to speak too. In college I used to go around the class to make sure that everyone was coping mentally and I'd have snacks at the ready just in case.
Will you marry me? Lol JK. But seriously that's INTP catnip. Not because I could not do it myself but the combo of your SE Hero making Our Si child comfy INSANLY LOYAL TO YOU and your Fi parent helping our Fe inferior Would Allow our Ti hero to shine at your Te child and our Ne parent has the back of your Ni inferior. That cycle sounds like a happy life/marriage never noticed till now.
@@jakeogden2072 bronze pair. long live and liberate all.
Completely describes me!
Maybe you're not an ESPF...I'm sure jealous people have said... some people like to be in the spotlight or get al the attention... while thinking your a narcissist instead of your personality type... or you've heard 'fake it till you make it' ... or said 'knock knock' ... and you've given this face 🤨
Dont rely on the tests... get to read all personality types.
I was a class monitor for years in school...
That hit me deep. Hearing the truth about yourself is almost traumatizing. We view ourselves how we want to view ourselves and project ourselves to others how we want them to view us. When you peel that away and get to the core of someone, it's intense.
Exactly me too
As an INTP, it is interesting to read this and see that so many people agree. I am just now learning that many if not most people think like this. I don't; I think hearing the truth about myself is more of a welcome relief than an intense experience, since I always want to understand everything and understanding myself is no exception. I have found I am also usually pretty good at getting to the core of people, and when I blurt it out I tend to piss people off even though I assume it is what they wanted or needed to hear, or perhaps just because I like being right (Ti hero). Also sometimes I do not realize I "figured someone out" so to speak and they will suddenly be put off because I inadvertently put them on blast. I guess the lesson is that many people feel differently than I do about this and to accommodate that I should make an effort to be tactful.
He is sooooo spot on about never finishing anything and needing the power of choice
Renatina ikr!
Its so sad right. I have SO many unfinished symphonies! LOL
This is one of the most unbiased descriptions of ESFPs that I have ever watched, with the exception of Michael Pierce. You hit it on the nail. ESFPs are very interesting people. They are actually smarter than we give them credit for and are very very quick learners. Funnest people on planet earth and they bring life to the world. Never a boring time with them - just don't overload them with Ti because you will loose them. They don't live in their Ni, but when they access it from time to time, they can come up with some near genius amazing things.
TOTALLY
My brother is very smart. He focuses all those brains on pretty unusual topics, but he knows them inside and out, and his enthusiasm for them is huge. He's awesome.
"just don't overload them with Ti because you will loose them." Isn't that a good thing? Some people need to loosen up.
@@mutantmacrophage6653 I think he meant lose on that one.
@@mutantmacrophage6653 You need to relate your Ti to ESFP interests for their Fi/Te to really enjoy it, even better if they can try out the thing you explain immediately, especially if you yourself can show them. ESTPs love hearing the why logically about that stuff. For example, if you and an ESFP play the same instrument and you show them a technique combined with how to use it practically that is enough for them to love it, but they'll rarely figure out the "why, where and when" from a logical standpoint, just vibes.
So if you explain to them what mood you're creating, how the musical logic works and where it does and doesn't make sense then their Te has all the knowledge for creating the vibe/emotion they want at the right time. If you Ne them hard with different examples of outside the box uses too it is metaphorically like you've just given them all the different shades of say yellow, and next time they feel yellow is the colour, or say
I v bVI ii is the chord progression, they can accurately express themselves
Also the fact that when I watch ESFP definition videos, rather than focusing on what the definition says, I spend time reading comments containing other types opinions about us😂 which is SO ESFP LOL
Got to look at what others think in order for you to believe aka ethos instead of logos... good times :)
Doing that now😂😂😂😂 on every vid i watch
Omg omg omg 😭😭😭🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 here I am doing the same
Same!!!!
same as an esfp, i do this so often!
When you are an ESFP with a slightly social anxiety and can’t really relate to being the life of the party. Like i am though in my circle of friends...I mostly choose shy people as friends because i get the chance then to be the loudest,best dressed,Center of attention. I do run in two circle. Popular squad and “not so cool squad”
I agree with being insecure of others think and being afraid i am stupid. Like my ISTP sister keeps asking me why i care about grades and i’m like “I don’t want to be the dumbest in my class”. I mean i know a lot of friends who get good grades because they are curious and want to learn. On the other hand i study because i am competitive and can’t imagine being the most stupid in the class.
By the way as an ESFP i come often to this video because i love hearing about myself.
True about the dressing part. Like my ISFJ mother and INTJ friend keep telling me Red lipstick is way too bold while i am like “That’s the point”.
I'm smiled for those last sentence.
sometimes i hate how much i focus on giving others an experience. i cant even enjoy myself sometimes because im all focused on will this person like the music im playing is this person feeling awkward is this person appreciating the moment that i cant even enjoy myself lol
same here, you gotta take some time for yourself to pamper yourself and then you will be good to go again, and you'll feel good about doing it again (until you burn yourself out and dont again haha). balance is key. gotta gind that healthy balance as we get older.
God, so much this. I struggle to play music with others because all of my stuff is so weird. Or if ai suggest a movie to watch I'll worry so much if the other person is enjoying it
Been holding that board for 30 mins that’s more will than any esfp has
as an esfp i dont like to go to parties, i just like to be around my friends and talk to them, instead of just dancing n shit
@@kyriefoskey1285 I don’t think ‘going to a party’ defines smn as an esfp lolol
I agree, I'm an esfp but I personally dont like parties because I'm really selective of who I fw and also have terrible anxiety- so I also prefer acting out in my group of friends instead of acting out at a party
turbulent instead of assertive maybe?
Actually found out that I'm an enfp btw
As an ESFP, house parties can make me distressed sometimes. I've never felt that when partying outside, and I think it's because the environment lends me the option to approach strangers or explore nightclubs.
ENFJ here, I was married to an ESFP & when he didn't like how pissed off I was when I found out about his affair and my divorce proceedings, he obliterated my reputation to every friend and person around saying horrible untrue things and not mentioning his infidelity. Even calling my own father and making up insanity issues about me. I wish I had known about his demon and could have prepared for it. It was horrible. I still have neighbors that I am sure think I have a certain personality disorder and am a drunk.
Something happened like this to me. I get Infj/ Enfj/ Entp on tests. People perception esp after all the work I put in, into a relationship and tending to that person- it hurts.They were quite disordered/ toxic and projected a lot.
Best ESFP description I have ever watched. I am very impressed. I am an ESFP and you just unlocked a lot of things about myself that I know can make sense of. Thanks
You're on point with the colorful clothes comment. I spend alot of time color coordinating my outfits, just want to give off good vibes. Also, I get the "when I first met you I thought you were an airhead" comment alot, it's really annoying. I do have to thank that Te Child for shutting people up.
My ESFP wife spends 1/2 day getting ready.
Ugh , after learning how to type people- I have definitely noticed ESFPs are the ones I find most frustrating to deal with. But I also find them the most fascinating, I wonder why?
It's almost refreshing to see how they live so much in the moment, abhor planning & still manage to be pretty darn successful in life; in contrast to me, who tries to plan every second of his life & gets stuck in a rut
intj, huh?
I don't know why, but as INTP, I always spot these Entertainers from the crowd, and I instantly adore them. It doesn't bother me that they're loud and colorful, which is kinda weird. I love ESFPs =)
Thank you ❤️
As another INTP I feel the same! Y'all totally get us out of our "humanity is screwed, no one cares, and nothing matters" overthinking rut and show us the value of living in the moment and enjoying life for what it is. You kind of remind us of how we saw the world as kids, in a good way, i.e. full of wonder, possibilities, and excitement, before we got jaded. Maybe I'm just speaking for myself. Just know that even if we seem reserved and detached, and even if we make you feel silly with our Se trickster, we love you!
You must never get very close bc they will suck anything good about you
It's nice that they take the spotlight away from you, but it's a either a bore/chore to hold a discussion with an ESFP who haven't developed their Te/Ni and who haven't found their 'passion' since it's all regurgitated 'news' straight out of someone else's mouth, no deeper research or fact check.
Wow, wow, wow I am an ESFP and this video was the most informative and accurate video I have ever seen about my personality. I am definitely in stagnant mode right for fear of making another bad decision. And yes my ISFJ just guilted me lol, which has definitely made me want to take action, he definitely let's me burn my hand😁
I see why they’re known as the performer. They’re natural good actors
we are like carebears that can turn into evil little monsters lol
Preach.
cancer zodiac signs lol
Renatina it’s funny because i am an esfp and my zodiac sign is cancer snd this is actually accurate kskskggh
jimin yoongi lover same here!! Haha it couldn’t be more true
Talia Parma 😂😂😂
“.....you will be exiled. They will destroy you. Well! That is the ESFP profile, hope you found that educational....”
Oof. Thanks for revealing the darkest parts of my soul 😂
This is a poem I wrote last year. I am a ESFP. Any others relate?
Poem: Depreciated
M.Southall
The sky is falling in fall with an ominous feeling of fear.
That emotion I ignore the most, and yet the one that seems to steer.
When you repetitively regret the things you did living a life without regret.
It burdens me to dwell on deeds that I should just forget.
Ruminating thoughts of failure, and future visions of the end.
Fight or flight is limited when your confidence is dead.
If only I could exit this place of burden and despair.
I've fortified so much before, but am I beyond repair?
Not to leave this earth, but rather the mind where I lament.
I just want to be present in the moments that bring us deep content.
😯 that’s awesome
ScotianSouthy di deeep
so awesome😍😍
Man I love this my esfp brother. It resonates for sure.
That's way too melancholic for me
So true how they can be super intelligent people! The one I know closely was a talented electrician and ran a successful company for several years and tells me how he was at his happiest doing that out of all the careers he had.
VERY helpful and accurate. I am an INFJ mom with an ESFP forty year old son. He is exactly as you describe and what a relief that I now know this and can meet him where he is, accept his wonderful gifts, not fight them.
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That's so sweet from you. I wish my mom would watch this too and be more understanding.
ESFPs really bring out the best in us NFJs....yes, have known a couple of ESFP event coordinators, very personable and also quite intellectually engaging.
ESFPs are anything BUT intellectually engaging lol from an INFJ's standpoint. They are loud but not funny, unlike INTJ's subconscious ESFP. At worse they're selfish and feel entitled to other ppl's attention to them alone (other people just HAVE to listen and pay attention to them only or else they're "shit") but they don't reciprocate and are judgmental & resentful towards other for a small fraction of their own hypocrisy. At best, they are genuine and radiate sunshine and positive energy without being too obnoxious and being lovable.
My mom is an esfp
And she just fit the infj guy here description about esfps@DxonBwn
Oh my God! It seems like you have extensive knowledge of ESFP. I’m one. Graduated college with Math and now working on Comp Science while applying for PA school and serving in the army. Took me 6 years to go through Math. But you hit the nail on the head about everything. God I’m blown away
Got burned by an ESFJ’s super ego once. That hurt. Respect their sense of loyalty even if it doesn’t make sense to you.
“If you lock ESFPs in a room with no windows...” yep, me rn during quarantine. I hate this!! I MISS PPL!!!
Same this is horrible😔
This is me atm ughhh
Romantic partnership recommendations and how the pan out for ESFPs:
1. Golden pair: ESFP - ISFJ (switch I/E and P/J)
Highest understanding/emotional compatibility
"Best" emotional/sexual compatibility
Greatest high points, worst low points
2. Silver pair: ESFP - ESFJ (switch P/J)
Highest level of mutual respect, but don't understand each other
Very good emotional/sexual compatibility
3. Bronze: ESFP - INTP (switch everything but P/J)
The most common marriage and longest-lasting relationships (usually).
Companionship - one fills the other's shortcomings.
Emotional/sexual compatibility is not very high, but the relationship feels like being a child again, very freeing.
4. Pedagogue: ESFP - ISTJ (switch everything but N/S)
The relationship for developing/learning the most from each other.
Sexual compatibility is off the Richter scale. It is recommended to be intimate as often as possible. Like, daily.
Emotional intimacy needs to be developed
5. Benefactor: ESFP - ESTJ (switch everything but I/E and N/S)
Very little conflict, lots of respect.
Very good emotional/sexual compatibility (same as silver pair)
Hope this helps!
Statistically that bronze pair is the least likely. Possibly because of how introverted/extroverted the two are in comparison they just aren't ever in the same circles.
I have been married to an ISFJ almost 20 years they are definitely a great match for ESFP.
@@Owl-yc2yu cognitive introversion and extroversion had nothing to do with the IRL introverted and extroverted terms (the definitions are VERI different , although cognition does somehow tamper this. and esfp can very well be introverted although they have the cognitive tools to be an extrovert.
@@Owl-yc2yu totally wrong, learn typology again.
I am talking to an ESFP in a dating app. Damn I need to stop talking to him. I am INFP
I have to admit that I am an ESFP and for about two years, 2015-2018 I was in the failure to launch syndrome right after high school when I graduated in 2015. Now, in 2018-2019 I'm in college after transferring from community college and doing several internships, I finally like you said, "got my wings". Now I know why I am an ESFP. Ti child, yes your right. I have an interest in music, history, and other things, and have the encyclopedia format and share it with others. This is why I always thought I was an NT or NF, because like you said people think ESFP's or in general SP's are "stupid". Anyways, thanks for the videos.
Te child.
I'm an ESFP and this is so beautiful how you explained this! I know things now that I have always wanted to know about myself and another thing I have literally said to some of my family members that I usually take what other people say and use it as a source for my "knowledge"
ARE YOU NOT
ENTERTAINED!?????
😀
😂 another unhealthy ESFP
100%😂
I'm almost exactly your istp video analysis, my son is almost exactly your definition of an esfp. This will help me better understand our relationship. Thank you!
I can’t begin to emphasise how much I can relate to constantly changing what I want to do. Every year I change what I want to do/become. It’s so good to hear someone say this 😅
This is one helll of an accurate analysis about ESFP, soaking up others' intelligence literally transforms me and yes I do think everyone is immoral unless they prove otherwise. Thanks for a great and inclusive presentation, much apprecated.
Ever since learning about MBTI and the cognitive functions, suddenly things just make sense. I have an ESFP friend who’s super close with ISFJ friend and I now understand why that is. Or why I, an ENFJ, am so close with my INFP friend. Thank you so much for making these videos, they’re really informative and helpful, they really fuel my passion for psychology and understanding people :)
This content is so eye opening and life changing. As an ESFP I'm not great at internalizing myself deeply. I'm always so worried about how everyone else views me, that it blurs the vision of who I actually am deep down.
I've went through periods of my life where I though I had Social Anxiety because of Trauma where someone really close to me rejected me and hurt me emotionally. It destroyed my ego.
It was conflicting because I knew I was a very social and fun person, but subconsciously dwelling on that one rejection made any signs of social disapproval cause me high anxiety...
I am so happy that I am starting to overcome this and blossom into the energetic, caring, spontaneous and fun loving person. Being 23 years old trying to figure out who I am and what paths to take is a constant question I ask myself. I fear that I will never truly know, or that I will make the wrong choice.
This just cleared up my head so much about what my strengths are and how I want to incorporate them with this world. Thank you so much for helping me in my transition into a beautiful life ♥️
This is a beautiful comment to read. It's great that you are growing to love yourself! As a 27 year old ESFP, let me tell you that you still have so many years to figure out "who you are" and what you want to do (as do I). People will try and make those decisions for you. They might tell you that your spontaneity, your playfulness, your desire to be out in the world rather than settling down etc are bad things, but let me assure you that those things are what make you who you are! Your energy for others, your zest for experiences, your humour, your desire to entertain people - these things are what will give you purpose, energy and security in your identity for most likely the rest of your life. These qualities are all wholly loveable. (I am still learning this myself) Don't let people dim your light!
Let me tell you something brother! Apparently I am an ESFP and this was fairly accurate. I don't dress up in flamboyant clothes or anything but many other things hit the nail on the head.
Great video :) describes my ESFP friend so accurately, who’s the life of the party, loves make-up and clothes, and is also really good at physics and math.
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I'm pretty sure my dad is an ESFP, how lucky am I ?...as an INTJ haha
He has always encouraged me to test new limits & try new things. He can be a bit brash in how he puts it, but I'm able connect a lot more dots now- after finding your channel!
I think i might be an ESFP but instead of becoming lazy when not making progress, i get really obsessed with the topic and keer gathering data so i can get to an answer, even if the gathering gets me nowhere
This is so accurate! I have no words :) i am so happy to know this.
okay wow when you said we need someone like an esfj, i felt that....my best friend is an esfj and she’s literally my rock
scary accurate (about literally EVERY single thing) in such a good way, absolutely love this
Man this is spot on, you brought up things about myself that I havent seen on other personality sites. Very helpful.
CS Joseph flexing his Apple Watch for thirty minutes strait.
great video
Se- Ni observation
@@Thespiritualphilosophy yup
I am an ESFP and my boyfriend is an ESFJ. Your description of what the ESFJ does for the ESFP is so spot on. You made so many points that hit the nail on the head. Thanks for the awesome video!!
One of the funniest things I’ve ever seen happened to an ESFP friend of mine about 3 years ago. During marching season at my school we had to March outside on the parking lot, and he comes on to the field basically in his night clothes, no shoes or socks on, and obviously disoriented. He said something along the lines of “I live 15 minutes away and I drove here in 3 minutes because I woke up really late” come to find out he was driving 115 on the backroads to school.
Oh, THANK YOU!
Now I'm so glad to find a way to help them grow and aspire to a great future…
I have a ESFP female friend that helped me with math all my four HS years. She is very intelligent and capable. It’s funny, she’s pursuing a child development career. I have other ESFP female friend that always helps me to keep track of everything related to schools events, financial aid information and important documents. Both are amazing !
As an ESFP, I SUCK at sales. I’m way too transparent, and I’m too go-with-the-flow and prefer to trust that people know what they want. If they say no, I respect that choice. I’m also highly anxious, and I hate being the center of attention.
However, I’m EXCELLENT at anatomy, and massage therapy was the best career move I’ve ever done. One on one, dark room, soothing music, healing experience. That being said, my clients say I’m the highlight of their month 🤣
I’m also not spiteful. When I leave a relationship, it’s because it’s been toxic, or I’ve been taken advantage of and I realized it. I choose to always make a clean cut exit, and I’m friends with most of my ex’s. I’m not one to retaliate. That being said, my ex’s always regret hurting me. I always hear about it years down the road from them how much they enjoyed me and how sorry they were for treating me the way they did.
Omg yes I am an ESFP and I loooove physics. Unfortunately my country's educational system didn't allow me to study that, so now I'm studying statistics.
Am only now in a place to realize Im most likely an ESFP. It makes sense given my past and recent personal growth. Im intellectual in a very applied way and I guess I always gave that more weight than I should have in terms of my ego, but in practice its still really strong. The biggest issue I have is that my Ni is something Im having to protect against and it makes it so hard to take on bigger challenges with confidence Im doing the right thing as I usually miss super obvious things.
A lot of success for me looks like embracing the short term and doing things where success is subjective.
EXCELLENT! Thank you! This helps me understand someone significant in my current life-space! Stay safe, and be well, Chase!
my mom is one of the best business women/entrepreneurs I've encountered, very true, they THRIVE in any trading situations, it's amazing to watch really.
Shadow side: 19:25-22:06
Ti trickster: 22:07-25:56
Ne demon 25:57-28:18
Great stuff. I’m a ESTP and she is a ESFP.
Hi C.S. Joseph! Thank you so much for this very informative video. Among all the ESFP articles and videos I have seen, I think that your video best describes an ESFP. I have taken Myers Briggs personality test several times as I felt that my personality does not fit the description most gave. Your description of an ESFP has helped me understand myself better and has made me conscious about my actions and behavior. Thank you! :-)
dope!
You don't know how accurately you described me. Im 26 years old, dropped out of my degree after 4 years failing in engineering and now in a new one(finance and banking). I have no idea what i want to do in life and a settled life w marriage and kids seems so far away even though I'm already so old (compared to my peers who are getting engaged, finding new homes etc vs me still living off my parents). I always don't finish what I start esp when it comes to my studies. I feel like an insurance agent path might suit the way I am and what stimulates me but Im overly caught up about what people would think of me :(
Read every book by Russell Brunson
I'm ESFP and I agree with most of it... but though I agree with "ESFP LIKES TO DOMINATE EVERYONES ATTENTION " , I feel uncomfortable with colourful clothes because they catch attention, idk why!! Maybe because it's not the kind of attention I want?.. And kinda disagree also with attacking people back if i got attacked..because i choose to take care of people feelings instead of mine which always hurts me in the inside but at the same time i can't do the opposite!
all the other things are TRUE, I'm surprised, it's the first time someone gives us credits, all the other similar videos/facts spread everywhere just made me redoing the test and always getting ESFP and shock lol so thank you.
yes you are correct it is a generalization, sometimes some social situations with ISFJ shadow call for having as little attention as possible, but I was mostly speaking about ESFP ego more so than ISFJ shadow.
Wow my daughter is brilliant with math and science. She's majoring in engineering. She's also very much a people person. She loves to dress up. She's very advanced and super smart. She always tests entj or estj though. She is indecisive about everything but she completes everything with perfect results and is awesome at time management. She's the sweetest thing and is not confrontational or mean in any way. She's mellow and humble but kicks ass in every way. She really defies type. She has all of the capabilities and level headedness of the estj and entj but none of the harshness and bluntness. She is well liked and respected by everyone. She rubs no one the wrong way. She's also a tremendous athlete. I can't type her.
What does your weird rant of someone who, first, tests as "entj or estj", and, second, whom you "can't type", have to do with the video above?!
I didn’t understand why I kept getting ESFP, I kind of understand now!
Lauren Danvers same! since i’m also shy
I REALLY enjoyed this!!! This gave a lot of insight into my ESFP personality that I didn't realize before! I actually uploaded a "life lessons from an ESFP" video last year, and this just confirmed so much! Thank you for this!
I'm so glad
I mean, thank you for the information.
We had a teacher- that is in my son's classroom in 1st grade- who would play the guitar and sing with /to kids while they did their work and that helped him immensely!
I learned to do many technical things sometimes with a manual, sometmes seeing someone else do it or sometimes just because I was left alone and told to do it. Including playing musical instruments, cooking, working an IT department by myself and helping out a paralegal that I only came to give a message to. I had seen how to be a paralegal in a movie backed by trying to look up a law or two on my own when a court clerk was nearby to answer questions one day as I was walking past the courthouse in a different town.
I only say this really because figuring out my personality type has been a long journey and I like to leave myself trail markers in case I get lost again.
My sister is an ESFP...a lot of this resonates. Why yes, she is an accountant.
It's actually funny that you say that they're good parents because I think my mom is one of them (not sure if she's Introvert or extrovert, but seems quite xsfp). And actually it makes sense because when I was a child she always tried to adapt herself to my learning process and trying to respect my personality (Maybe her Fi parent was procteting my Fi hero? xD). She's actually a language teacher so that make sense. Thank you for the information, as always :D
My Mum is an ESFP, we get along very well (INFP) 💛 the main thing that connects us is our mutual interest in personal development and the same sense of humor 😊
I am INTJ and I have ESFP supervisor and I don't know why I like the energy around. Right to your face its true.
Wow!!! I'm amazed.. I'm an esfp (mistyped as esfj for the longest time) studying electrical engineering. I always thought it was a weird thing for my type but now it all makes sense! Incredible really
Hmmm..
Lemme give this a shot:
Observe/Gather all the data (Se).
Discover the point/allow the meaning(s) to manifest (Ni).
Decide whether or not they value it/them (Fi).
Compose & execute a plan (to either avoid, or, obsessively pursue/master it/them) (Te).
✔ ?
Wow now that sounds like a description .........- some where in the mbti
Hi Chase, I'm thrilled to discover how incredibly deep into one's psyche the cognitive functions go. I had no idea they did this, even though I've been a Myers Briggs user for 30 years. I'm a member of all these Narc groups, MBTI groups, anxiety disorder groups, and the like on Facebook, so I've been sharing your personality analyses with each of them. I hope that's alright. From what I've heard, you're analyses are describing my mother, sisters and myself to a T.... We're all different types....ESFJ, ESFP, INFJ.... I study alot of the Clinical personality disorder types - Anti-Social personality disorder, Dependent Personality Disorder, and even those are incorporated into your exposes on each type, although not mentioned by name. Your analyses even take into account Amir Levine's work about Anxious, Avoidant, and Secure relationship types. So I find myself perfectly persuaded, although I do find myself disagreeing about what you say some people are typed as - Trump for instance is ESTJ to me....not ENTJ. I wouldn't give him that much credit! I've been on the hunt for what has been ailing me for quite some time, and swoop, you incorporate them all under one umbrella. I'm bowled over. It's fascinating. You've left me in awe. Ha! Keep going. I'm listening.
Shelby Nicholson thank you for your kind words. I have 300 videos planned and I will keep going.
As an INTJ, I find myself emulating the INFJ (at least we both have similar Hero and Inferior so it's quite easier) when I interact with the ESFP girl that I liked to cater to her needs/wants.
Btw, the last bit you shared about the ESFP's Ne Demon aiming to destroy you, that kind of happened. I felt the people who I trusted have also become aloof at the same time that the ESFP was kind of taking them away from me. She was always finding them and spending time with them and kind of isolating me essentially.
I have had some confusion between me and this girl because apparently we cannot be on the same page at the same time. I studied some psychology on why she was doing the things she was doing and stumbled upon literature on Narcissism. And they all clicked and made sense in line with the ESFP's actions and your descriptions in this video as well. They want to be babied. They are not typically relationship material and I felt I was led on. As you said, they like to start things but not finish it (make commitments). But for me, as an INTJ, I was looking for closure and I wanted to make it work. But I had to learn to let go and be more sensitive in sensing and discriminating good from bad potential relationship partners.
As an aside, you had a video that talked about one's ego going to the subconscious when the person got drunk. My first interaction with this ESFP was that I let her lead the conversation while being completely receptive and laughing it off with her (which is hard for me as an INTJ lol but I tried to establish rapport). After that interaction, I felt drunk! Like I was a kid or the kid inside woke up. That's what happens it seems when the subconscious speaks to the conscious (ego). Also, when I would be in high spirits and be genuinely laughing, she would respond by acting like she's the INTJ lol.
I have had to study all of these to make sense of typing, myself, the ESFP girl, personality disorders (not saying anyone's disordered but just something in my gut felt wrong), and my overall situation.
Thanks CS Joseph. For me as an INTJ, I realize that the ESFP may be nice to have around to elicit that positive vibes, but just too much and too volatile emotionally for me. I acknowledge our differences and incompatibility and must move on.
I'm kind of wishing she is an ENFP instead so we're a good match lol. Doesn't work that way sadly.
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Explaining the esfp (I'm just saving this comment to understand)
Hello, I am a drunk INTJ = ESFP!!! hehehehehe 😂😂😂
So I got all this pressure is so goddamn indecisive that and then have goes transitions the wrong way but we know that outcome.. and that's why I love work!
Thank you for your good information. I didnt know that many people think ESFP is stupid before. I feel bad little bit with it. Anyway I always want to show my performance on the street. Yes, some people think Im crazy or drug high. But I dont do it. Just natural. God just made me like that way.so I cant help it. We are all different. Hope we can help each other and give good energy. :)
Awesome!
Im always asking people what they think im good at. And im always trying to see others perspectives on me but hate getting the answer i dont want lol! I always tell people I dont know what I want to do for a living because so many things sound fascinating and theres not enough time to do it all.
Right?😱
This is my Mum! So many times she has descoved something new and says "I'm going to do this everyday" and never does it again.
My ISFJ Dad bought her a violin 15 years ago, and she had probably touched it a total of 6 times. 😂
I love how this video made my behavior make sense to me. I'm an ESFP; however I use my subconscious, my unconscious, and my superego a lot more than most. Thank you! 👏😊
Just shared this with my ESFP pastor, hopefully he finds it insightful. I did not realize all the negative things mentioned about ESFPs before I shared it with him. Oh well, every-type has strengths and weaknesses. Right now I'm just trying to figure out how to apply the cognitive functions to following Jesus. I know you posted this awhile ago but I just wanted to say thanks for the content!
Love the Lord your God, with all of your heart, mind soul and strength, AND love your neighbor as yourself. For God does not give us a spirit of fear but a Spirit of Power and Sound Judgment.
@@CSJoseph Awesome scripture! Thank you
It was shocking to realized i was an ESFP.
But it is good to know it.
I fought my shadows, an i have a great passion with theoretical concepts, abstract, metaphors, esoteric, occult, philosophy and psychology specifically.
I understood why my Ni used to be a child and scary function, but then became my greatest talent.
INTJ and ESFP is the same psyche.
The difference is that as an INTJ i prioritize objective logic (Te) and symbolic interpretations (Ni) rather than objective data (Se) or my feeling judging function (Fi).
Fi exists, but it's blocked by Te and Te it's inspired by Ni.
Se it's temporal, and only when it's necessary.
I don't show feelings, but i have them, they are absolutely controlled by my prefrontal cortex.
I am INTJ, i apologize.
Only at minute 10, but as a textbook EFSP, relating to a lot of your content so far. Did I mention I’m a CPA serving as a manager in public accounting? Those Te child tendencies are for real
Mary Anna Wright awesome!
The tertiary can be quite useful
I am an ENFJ and I’m a CPA!
I am a INTJ and have noticed there is a billion videos on INTJs coz we are great at learning ourselves, but there ain't many ESFP videos and any that I have seen so far have not been made by ESFP's it made by other personality types.
My wife is ESFP and I totally get why there's no vids made by ESFPs. She is too busy out socialising and keeping in the loop to even research herself, let alone work out how to make a video. She calls herself a technophobe. I laugh coz her phone is never out of her hand using it as the most important function in her life which is to keep in the loop with all the friend circles she has going on.
Fe critic is real. My dad was an ESFP, and when I was upset about something, he would often tell me 'You'll get over it.', thereby guaranteeing that I would NEVER get over it. Mostly great dad though. We played baseball every day in the park one summer, built a tree house together, went on fishing trips... good times.
I miss typed myself as ENFP for years!! I'm taking in all of the esfp information and learning about myself now. I don't like esfp! 😂 This video is very encouraging.
I really thank you and value the content you put out there, this video has really helped me out with a friend of mine help deal with her problems and taught me what approach to take in the delicate situation she is in.
My sister’s an esfp this whole video has me laughing 🤣
You so wrong😂 I'm and esfp and my bro be playing mind games with me
17:55 Hearing you talking about Si made me understand my ESTJ friend :o ~intp
This video deserves alot more credit its really good👍👍
Woah omg. I feel so seen and affirmed! Especially the part about the early childhood thing.... that’s exactly my career path and I never could quite explain what drew me to it!
Updated as I watch more of the video the part about incapable of logical thinking LOLLLL ughhhhhhhh yes yes yes a million times true for me unfortunately. I have a boyfriend who is RIGHT ON with that but I just cannot or do not have the mental capacity to organize all of the cause and effects of everything that I do 😅😭
Also my mind is boggled at how you did this in one take without going on tangents HAHA omg you rock!
I'm ESFP and you posted this on my birthday last year! :D
I can’t believe that you thought that you were an ESFP…
Love what you said at 7:40 I’m an esfp with math degrees 😅
This is totally me.. I won many costume rewards when I was a kid. Everybody can remember me. I'm the energy source. Thank you for this VDO.
So stuck right now. Forced into shadow being a stay at home mom, somewhere i have no "friends" and not being able to really relate to anyone...
🤔✨Wow you're so good at explaining this. It all makes sense now 🤠✨
No exiling ppl or attacking hearts but this is great stuff. Thank you yet Again Mr C S Joseph 😀
I just recently took a guy's test through cs joseph personality test.. his result came out as esfp.. he told me these are barnum statements.. yet I know that what Chase said was applicable to him..
Wow, very insightful… My daughter is an ESFP and I can relate a lot to what you said. What’s also little nerve-racking is a lot of narcissism comes through or even narcissistic personality..Yikes, at that point I wouldn’t call them good people if they destroy someone else because they can’t get the loyalty or freedom they want… Incredibly immature
Thank you very much. This is educational. Before this, I hate my 16personality result (btw its ESFP) because i think those means you're always take decision based on feeling. In fact i've took many consideration. Even i realise sometimes deep down i could plan a horrible plan for the one that i hate.
Now i understand where they came.
Thank you very much :)
#sorry for my writing skills
I, as an ESFP, live with an ESTJ and ENJF. We're all girls. And boy, it's crazy. Also, we have another roommate, but she's introverted and she is scared of us. I would like her to join the fun, but it's hard to do with my ESTJ and ENJF roommates, because they don't understand why she's acting a little strange.
wow this is crazy accurate! thanks for a great video!
First I’m typed as ISFJ, then ISTP, and now ESFP
I’m for sure an artisan, I’m very interest based and really concrete when I’m comparing myself with my abstract friend, but I couldn’t acknowledge yet which interaction style I have.
Check out the type grid companion, it's available for free on the csjoseph.life homepage.
@@CSJoseph thank you for the tip, my conclusion is that I’m an ISTP
This is a really fair coverage of ESFP.
Callin' it: Jackie Chan's gotta be an ESFP.