I Stopped Trying To Improve Myself & Grew A Better Way
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- Опубліковано 27 вер 2024
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Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.
Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!
His record-breaking programs Transformation Mastery, Transformation Mastery Live, Transformation Mastery Live Advanced, Transformation Mastery Academy & Transformation Mastery Mentoring help people around the world achieve the HEALTH, WEALTH, RELATIONSHIPS & HAPPINESS they deserve!
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I Stopped Trying To Improve Myself & Grew A Better Way
How to raise your self esteem and build self confidence! In this video, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals the root cause of low self-esteem and how you can improve your self-esteem today... A clear-cut, easy-to-follow process!
This video will teach you how to be confident and how to be more confident in yourself by increasing your self esteem and your self worth.
Discover how to access the power of your subconscious mind and learn everything you need to know about subconscious mind reprogramming!
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Dude, from a clinical psychologist perspective - standing ovations, you're awesome
Such a great great great speech
Thanks Julien, I watch you from Iran with a limited internet and banned UA-cam which I have to use VPN to connect, but it is worth it.
The hardest part is to locate the kernel of a root belief, once this is done the release is 🤯
Yeah its so hard. Sometimes I think it never releases
Yes, we do so much to stifle that stuff…
@gtm781 listen to those pettiest of thoughts & write them down in single one notebook. Going through them again while doing a release might give you a hint of what exactly search for and what exactly look at.
No, it does it takes time but it does@@gtm781
@@mmepingWow, thanks for sharing. And have you managed to let go of a belief doing this?
00:00] 🧠 Children can form negative associations with success if it leads to jealousy or social isolation.
03:37] 💡 Three filters influence acceptance of secondhand experience: certainty, congruence, and authority.
05:52] 🤔 Core beliefs formed in childhood heavily influence adult behavior and perception.
07:21] 🌳 Beliefs form interconnected "belief trees," making it difficult to challenge or let go of core assumptions.
09:19] 🔍 Examining beliefs about health, wealth, relationships, success, and self-identity can reveal subconscious biases.
14:05] 🦸♂ Identifying with specific character archetypes can influence behavior and mindset, impacting personal growth and success.
20:07] 💭 Diving into negativity and confronting underlying patterns is crucial for personal growth, even if it contradicts the "positive thinking" movement.
ABSOLUTELY ACCURATE 💯
I have been struggling with superstitious beliefs about eye-twitching. It’s very common in multicultural communities, especially Asian, Indian & African ones. It goes like.. when your right eyelid twitches, it’s a bad omen and it’s the opposite for the left eyelid. If one is talking some future projects and someone else sneezes, it will either realise or it will never happen.
Despite being educated and exposed to so many means and tools of awareness, I still struggle with disbelieving these BA superstitions because I literally grew up believing in them and tried so hard to overcome it through affirmations, self-talks and diverting my focus. My RAS drives me into believing that something bad will happen when the right eyelid twitches EVEN THOUGH I know that lack of sleep, too much focus on screen, stress…etc result to eye-twitching. That belief drives me crazy and hinders a lot in my life - or if I can put it in this way - it literally controls my day-to-day decision-making and germinates fears deep within me.
Checking on this video today, I believe GOD is showing me the way to grasp, UNLEARN & RELEARN the true sense of LIVING & LIFE.
My biggest takeaway is that Confidence, Congruence, and Authority, stemming largely from social proof, are the key factors that determine whether you come off as charismatic, or untrustworthy, low-value, whatever you wanna call it, socially, but also to yourself, and how YOU feel, AKA state management.
Damn, Julien, I really felt identified with the story about your client that used to push away easy success, because internally I still thinking that to feel special or something I gotta beat a huge enemy or conquer something really tough, like: I used to spend the whole semester without studying and then I used to spend the whole night before the exam with my notes, even with homeworks and all, DAMN, and now I realize how silly I am
Bros outfit is the definition of self confidence and embracing who you are! Hell yeah keep up the great content, helping me tremendously after bad breakup and moving out from a covert narc. She isn’t even aware either. Glad to be getting myself back!
my problem is that i'm Inconsistant, As soon as I make any decisive statement about myself it starts to feel untrue, because I know I'm not absolutely that way 100% of the time with any given person. I guess I'm scared of being pulled up on it. someone saying “no you're not!” and i know i'm not. If I had more confidence in my own identity I think this would worry me less.
The confidence in your identity is why this is happening
When you gaze into the abyss, the abyss gazes into you. That's why it can be scary, but so worth it.
Oh my god, you got to the character identification and a lot clicked within me. It explains so much why I romaticize things to happen a certain way because it fits into the character's personality traits. Thanks 🙏
I'd like to officially thank all the genius teachers who told me as a kid over and over how im not living up to my potential lol. Perfect thing to tell an insecure and socially anxious kid with ADD :)
"We think that by opening ourselves up to the darkness, we manifest more of it; we let it out. But in reality, by opening yourself up to the darkness, you let in the light."
The first character that jumped out to me and always has is Kelly Severide from Chicago fire. He’s the kinda heartless guy that doesn’t really care about peoples feelings, Only because he doesnt want to get hurt anymore.
But at the same time he’s such a smart, observant dude that is just in so much pain all the time because his traumas from early life way down on him so heavily, and saving people from fires is his way of caring about them as they are. He’s the savior, the “Prince” if you will. But only until you’re out of danger, because after you’ve been dropped off at the hospital its onto the next one.
Yeah. Im in therapy 😂
Thanks bro you opened my mind and it's really helpful all the new and common things that you bring every time
God bless you julien your wife and your 2 daughters too.
🙏🙏🙏
The last part matches with my experiences in life 100%
Really interesting and compelling how this correlates with my internal dialogue rn, kind of cool honestly
Wow! Amazing video! And the last sentence you said truly summs it up.
This brings fashion to the final boss fight ❤
I am empath introvert and have a traumas from my childhood from mockery .How can I be healed.All become insignificant from me but I hardly express myself in my full potential
Wonderful ending, by the way, worthy of a true 'Master of Ceremonies'
Hello Julien, I hope you see this and answer my question. You keep saying that we have to internally believe that we are "good enough" but won't that also mean we will stop trying to improve ourselves because we are already "good enough"?
Once you feel good enough you will naturally make healthier choices which will improve you, because you will know you deserve it.
why would you think if you become good enough you wont do anything? there is more energy and passionate for you to make your dream comes true even
if you believe your actions will come from a place of lacking, which is a bad fuel to take.
Being good enough gives you love, passion and inspiration to take action and these are stronger, healther fuel that last longer and better
So don't worry about the action. You are attached to taking certien actions
You can let go, just ba aware, release , and you are ok
Digging deeper, when I finished that sentence of money, happiness, success means 'x', the first word that my mind produced was madness.
It's a key clue to the last bit of shadow work that will contribute to my main metamorphosis, but also to that of the masses, and the integration of the mysteries into their mind, so that we might form a world of 'chaortic' purpose, instead of drowning in that pool of madness, or floating atop on your life raft, or whatever income bracket of vessel you possess metaphorically, and having to see all the dead bodies in the water, of those whom drowned and didn't escape it, dearly wondering to yourself if there's something you could have done, to save them from drowning, kinda like that scene from Lord of The Rings where they have all the dead people in the swamp trying to drag Frodo under with them.
A metaphor within a metaphor, man who can mentally grasp it, must have, out of necessity, proven himself worthy of The Mysteries.
You have to have an endless vault of confidence to rock that look. You look like a weekend warrior jabroni trying his hand at professional wrestling by using hand me downs from Goodwill to double as your wrestling gear.
I literally laughed out loud...thank you😂
This guy’s outfits are getting more outlandish by the day 🤡 hahahaha
Hey i am just asking for some feedback to my daily letting go thing: so first i do shadow questions, and then i take the answers and i question them (the trail of why's)
Then i sometimes do action, trigger, release, repeat. In the end i do am letting go meditation. I just
I like the way you dress yourself not giving a fu*k
21:55 Locuras
Actually I saw all of the characters you said inside me.
a self destructive artist that has to proof everyone is wrong and needs a prince and... goes to all of them. What do I do?
Bro my 18 , study plus one commerce,my dream become rich,
I don't have aim about, no skill, next career path way, which skill i wanna study and masters ??? ,
after plus 2 which course or drop out , i ready to sacrifice everything for my dream,
Which skill current study??
Bro you opinion
22:08
Petite question perso; t'as préservé ton niveau de français depuis le temps ? Salutation depuis Genève
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I dont get any of this?
Very very Helpful.Thankyou #julianhimself ❤️❤️
Look how bro wrote sussec on the board 😂
dope but id still care about my appearance to make myself feel good
From time to time I come back here, but he is still repeating the same old feel-good rubbish without any substance and people are still paid to suck up to him in the comments.
I’m curious why you think it’s rubbish?
I just can't get past the ridiculous outfits
Lol was that princess identity for the two obnoxious girls in the front row? Honestly couldn't stand their hmmmmming all the time. Am I the only one who noticed this???
ABSOLUTELY ACCURATE 💯
I have been struggling with superstitious beliefs about eye-twitching. It’s very common in multicultural communities, especially Asian, Indian & African ones. It goes like.. when your right eyelid twitches, it’s a bad omen and it’s the opposite for the left eyelid. If one is talking some future projects and someone else sneezes, it will either realise or it will never happen.
Despite being educated and exposed to so much means and tools of awareness, I still struggle with disbelieving these BA superstitions because I literally grew up believing in them and tried so hard to overcome it through affirmations, self-talks and diverting my focus. My RAS drives me into believing that something bad will happen when the right eyelid twitches EVEN THOUGH I know that lack of sleep, too much focus on screen, stress…etc result to eye-twitching. That belief drives me crazy and hinders a lot in my life - or if I can put it in this way - it literally controls my day-to-day decision-making and germinates fears deep within me.
Checking on this video today, I believe GOD is showing me the way to grasp, UNLEARN & RELEARN the true sense of LIVING & LIFE.
One of your best talks that I've seen on UA-cam so far brother. Well done.
Thank you so much! Glad this resonates!
OMG I identify with the sidekick... I'm a sidekick in all my relationships.
Awesome that you could make that distinction off of free content, Julien's free stuff is better than most people's paid content, I'd put my life on it.
Out of all the self help on you tube most is useless trash. Julian when I follow your advice my life not only improves not by a lot but I find myself overall happier. Idk maybe a lot of what you say just resonates better than from others but it is what it is so go with what works I guess.
00:00 🧠 Success as a child can lead to feelings of alienation if others feel threatened, potentially programming the belief that success leads to loneliness and abandonment.
05:00 🕵♂ Three filters-certainty, congruence, and authority-shape how individuals accept secondhand experiences, influencing their beliefs about themselves and the world.
10:50 💔 Traumatic experiences, like breakups, can create deep-seated beliefs about relationships, influencing future perceptions and behaviors.
15:00 💡 Identifying with certain character archetypes, whether consciously or subconsciously, can shape self-perception and behavior patterns, affecting one's approach to success and relationships.
20:11 💬 While positive thinking has its benefits, diving into negativity and exploring deep-seated beliefs is essential for personal growth and overcoming self-imposed limitations.
The fact that stood with me the most was this " (I personally read through EVERY single comment) ". It motivated me to watch the video again and try to extract something worth commenting. "Nobody is paying attention so why bother". I see it, I know it, heh hard to find motivation sometimes.
I once saw a movie called Detachment which led me to the thought All those people involved who had a bad "fate", they had nobody believing in them. And they ended up really living to uphold the image they had created.
I know I am the constructor of my own narrative. I know it takes time to change. I know awareness is part of the equation.
What I would add is that focusing on outside topics like how I sabotage a certain aspect of my life doesn't really work for me.
The journey is more like a constant loop of "something bothers me inside. look at it. process. reassess actions and beliefs".
Otherwise it feels like I'm addressing something when it's not its turn.
I've been on this journey for a couple of years now, I'll see where this takes me.
Man I'm the spider man 😂😂😂😂😂
hey julian, i have social anxiety and i overthink a lot, coz of which my conversations are boring(i don't have a sense of humour), i can't hold'em for long, and also i can't come up with comebacks when someone throws a jibe at me...coz of which my self esteem dips further....i just end up overthinking and overthinking, creating scenarios in my mind, and then crying over it, instead of taking action....what course of action should i take to come out of this rut, which i've pushed myself deep into and how long will it take to get to a normal level?
what I did when I was in a social rut, was just taking action, even if it's just a simple walk around the neighbourhood and saying hi to people... my goal was to first do it, then second to congratulate myself and third to let the triggering emotions come to the surface and just observe them
as the "hi" got comfortable, then I started to spark a short conversation etc and repeated the action-congratulations-letting'go-repeat cycle until it brought me out of it...
did in small "missions" daily for a few weeks and it gets better and easier
Cut out porn, sugar, drugs, and meditate 10 minutes at least per day
well this helps a lot, but what about the sense of humour part and the comeback part(when someone taunts me), will they too get better with time, with practice, once i just start going out and start speaking to people, coz that shit just fucks me up real bad and i just end up overthinking@@FellowshipWithTudor
well that helps a lot, but what about that sense of humour part and comeback part(when someone taunts me), will that too get better with me going out, with practice, coz that shit just fucks me up real bad and i just end up overthinking@@FellowshipWithTudor
Are you overthinking in hopes that knowing all possible outcomes of a future action will make you less anxious when the time finally comes to do it? If you are, don't do that, it won't, thinking doesn't help with anxiety, in fact it makes it worse the longer you anticipate it
Such awesome depth you take us to always!!!
Btw, following the trail of whys, why were you a self-destructive artist in the first place? What does a final why look like?
Just love your stuff. Makes so much sense... Thank you!❣️
You're so welcome! 🙌
For me. There's one character who I just thought: "This guy is me" Kanan from Star Wars Rebels. He is a well intentioned person who loves his family. He has great talent and skill, but he uses them to survive and as a tool for self preservation. Yet he closed his feelings for his girlfriend, and to what he is (a Jedi) due to fear of the past. He is a father figure and a mentor, but he's just not feeling good enough. He doubts about himself because of the lack of training, and he's hesitant to teach Ezra about the Jedi way. There's a point where he is blinded and he believes to have lost his connection to the force. Only to let go of his fear and become the best version of himself. I just love his character development. I too struggle with self doubt and fear because of the past, so I don't allow people in. But life has taught me that even if there's darkness, there's always light. And to that light I shall be guided by letting go of my fears and doubts
I have this negative core belief that I keep thinking I know what other people are thinking secretly. This causes me to overthink unintentionally. Do you have any tips?
Yes, the next step is to learn how to LET GO of these negative core beliefs... Here's the system that I use for that: www.julienhimself.com/8p 👌
Notification SQUAD!!! Have a nice weekend!🔥🔥🔥
As an artist, I’m not as afraid of failing as I am of being mediocre. Being mediocre means you’re the same as everyone else. That is not what you want to hear as an artist!
Thank you very much Julien, it is about me) I can say, that I will take your course or just go to see you live you are really amazing gury)
This is some good content. Powerful stuff juliene! Thank you. 👍
I regularly observe the social programming done on my subconscious the letting go aspect of this process is so difficult for me.
No matter how much I watch myself stay congruent with my socially programmed, as counter culture as I believe myself to be, letting go of these codes and creeds of thought eludes me.
It feels as if I’m watching the solar system of my life spin around the projected path of gravitational influence through a telescope of introspection. Those astral bodies too large and distant to be affected.
Write everything down, ask yourself is it true? Is it thinking worst case scenario
When you mention "Letting go of something", Do you mean accepting it and making peace with it so that it stops triggering me?
It’s having control over what ever feeling triggers are within you. Feeling them fully instead of suppressing them to actually be full present with those triggers then let them go, letting go is just accepting and loving it no matter what, not fighting it. Action, Trigger, Release, Repeat! Formula☝🏻
I suggest you try to do different types of thumbnails
that is the most constructive thing, he said "suggest". He didn't go out his way to insult like you, maybe you should take a look in the mirror.@@juliangoodman33
This is like a stoic Fight Club shit but in a positive sense, not nihilistic and destructive. I am wondering why you haven't blown up and have billion followers. Awesome stuff, you are a genius.
Thanks for doing this
You're welcome!
what is the satisfaction you get from being a background character?
Saving up to have this guy in my locker. What an amazing perspective. Thx J
Nice video ❤️ Thanks Julien❤️ you are the best
I would like to be a Valkyrie.. I don’t know what to do with that
I still believe Self-Development has it's place. Of course I'm biased though
It does, of course... However without this type of deep inner work, classic self development won't be as result-producing.