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- Опубліковано 8 вер 2021
- Another reaction video about love and dating in Vietnam. Are you excited? I am haha because I'm Vietnamese, so I'm excited and curious to see how it's like to date a Vietnamese girl. You will learn some tips when dating a Vietnamese girl at the end of this video, so don't forget to watch until the end.
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THIS is exactly what I was talking about in an earlier comment when I said that since you have lived in the west, you can "translate" Vietnamese customs (and their differences from the west) SO WELL, and I really love how you do it! Your vlogs are great!
I have a Vietnamese daughter-in-law. She is so very sweet to me. When she and her two children moved here. It was a great change for all of us. Still learning after two years. Whatever you can share sure would be a big help to us all.
My mom who is Vietnamese was so confused when I got together with my current boyfriend because he was taking me on dates every weekend. She was like… “What’s in it for you?” He handled it well and said, “I get to eat too.” It makes me feel better to know it was more of a cultural thing and not that my mom doesn’t understand why he’d go out with me specifically 😂.
A nice time.
I have been Married to my wonderful Vietnamese wife for 20 years. Now the roles are reversed as we have been living in America for 10 of those years. My wife has taken on the Western culture, and I still use the Vietnamese culture lol and I am American. We are always laughing at the role reversals!! BUT when I was in Vietnam I most definitely respected and followed all of the culture when dating my wife and with interactions with her family. Her family treated me as one of their own and still do. Watching your videos truly makes me appreciate my wife so much more!!
Happy wife happy life!! Good man
disgusting.
That's sad
I like that little skit with the young lady introducing her boyfriend to her parents. I watched it twice and laugh so hard. Very good.
I can relate to most of these things even dating being older (46 and her 43). Saving face, respecting her family and using the right names (chu,ong,co,...), Leading even if she is a leader in her job. Only thing I see is public display affection (not in front of her family) has been ok. I m sure that her parents still expect me to marry her at some point (I do even if its our 2nd marriage). And yes the first time I met her parents it was at a restaurant and her dad seemed super distant (her mom much more open , long distance relationship doesn't help feeling secure) . Her Dad feeds me now though loll bringing me food or drinks when i m in vn . Lucky me I love nuoc mam :)
As an American man who moved to Vietnam nearly 3 years ago, I just want to say that it was like I had died and gone to heaven when I discovered the dating scene in Vietnam. Vietnamese women are beautiful, charming, delightful, respectful and, unlike American women, they don't hate men. I found getting dates as easy as getting wet in the rain, and I'm not talking about "paid dates" (if you want that then go to Thailand). No need for dating sites, and I avoided the bars. I found amazing young women eager to talk to me everywhere I went. Eventually, I found the woman of my dreams and we got married. I am now happier than I ever thought possible and I have no plans to ever return to America. So, if you're thinking about dating a Vietnamese woman, I say GO FOR IT!
I discovered Vietnamese women in 1970. My biggest mistake in life was not marrying a Vietnamese woman when I was a young man and wasting 50 years of my life on American women.
@@bboomermike2126 I hear you man. American women SAY they want men who are kind, sensitive, supportive and genuinely concerned with their happiness. This is a big lie. Men like that will have their hearts broken by American women who will then conspire with the courts to take them for everything they have. Vietnamese women, on the other hand, truly appreciate men who genuinely care about them and respond in kind. I'm sure you have discovered by now that once you capture the heart of a Vietnamese woman, she will dedicate herself to you for life. That is why so many men who come to Vietnam end up marrying a Vietnamese woman.
@@chrishamlin5863 I agree 100%. Kind, sensitive, supportive, nice guys come in last. Bad boys make out.
Vietnamese women are good because they are been well trained by Vietnamese man
I would love to meet a Vietnamese woman & merry her. They are so beautiful. For real.
Great video! Thanks for sharing it! I watch all your videos! Good job Van!
I can agree with most of these traits as a general rule of thumb, though do think how much these traits actually play out solely depends on the individual/family like most countries. I'm British and my wife is Vietnamese and we live in Da Nang. Though her father is more traditional, the family in general are all pretty laid back and insist I don't worry too much about the formalities and traditions as they understand I'm foreign. Though I do try at specific gatherings, (still struggle with all the family pronouns when saying hello though :))
The 'saving face' trait in Vietnam is quite an important topic, and could probably be a whole video on its own. It is interesting and to a degree I can understand and agree with the general concept, but there are often situations however where I've also seen it can be used as a way for someone to not own up to their mistakes/errors/bad behaviour or accept them when pointed out, which in a way has it's own set of social problems I think.
It's not uncommon that I've witnessed locals lose their temper and overreact or create dangerous situations due to the stigma of 'losing face' (be that on the street on while driving), rather than just take ownership, apologise, learn from it, and move on. Admittedly it can happen anywhere, but does seem 'losing face' has a much bigger impact here on peoples behaviour during confrontations (especially on the roads from personal experience) so being very aware/mindful of your approach as a foreigner in particular can make all the difference between a calm resolution, or a car/van driver chasing after you and trying to mow you down out of rage over a disagreement ;)
Great post! I have lived in China many years and now might go live in Vietnam. I’m American and married a Chinese woman. I found at work in China or interacting that Chinese (some) will go beyond “saving face” to just out right lying! For many Asian people “losing face “ is beyond comprehension to them and I know this to be especially true in China 🇨🇳. It actually effected my marriage to where later I had to divorce my Chinese wife. It became unbearable, but I would still love to meet someone in my life.
'losing face' (be that on the street on while driving), rather than just take ownership, apologise, learn from it, and move on ==> correct
My asawa used saving face often in the beginning our relationship when she was embarrassed and didn't want to accept responsibility for small things. Two of our five arguments in all of these years are due to this. I eventually was taught by her father that it was better off for me to own up to her mistakes and shortcomings and let her deal with me being angry at home with her so so that she would learn from my pain and heartache over the situation. Same outcome, just I am using the Asian way of getting there. I certainly don't allow it to bother me for no more than a day when she does something and I can Tampo just as good as she can. It was her father who actually told me to do this method of dealing with my wife and daughters.
stupid life.
I really learned a lot. Very cool video.
This was fun to watch.
Thanks Van! Very entertaining, and your actors did a great job! 😀
Hi, I am admiring your work, yes absolutely give us a video about courting and dating/marrying Vietnamese ladies please! Keep up the good work!
Thanks for this funny, but very informative video. This is not just interesting in terms of dating, but also insights into Vietnamese thought, culture and social expectations.
Thank you for watching!
@@WhatThePho what is your position in vietnam?
Hi bautiful
A very insightful video 🙂🎥 Love your work! 😁❤👍
So funny and I concur with your advice. I definitely think that my absolute love of Vietnamese food helped me overcome my language barriers when meeting my fiancé family. Bun Cha is love in a bowl…and my working in medicine helped also..🤣🤣
Haha that's great!!
Are you in nursing, a physician, PA, NP, surgeon? I am curious of the medical opportunities in Vietnam.
This person has a great sense of humor
Hi Van, thank you for opening up my eyes to your beautiful people and its culture, Vietnam is am amazing country, utile your next video, take care and stay safe.
Until 168hrs then..
Thanks! Love the content. Just visited HCMC and love it. My fiancé lives there. Be back in March ❤❤❤
I've always been especially attracted to Asian women and not long ago I discovered Vietnamese women seem to be my favorite. My Tam and other singers, all the ladies building awesome things in the jungle and other vietnamese ladies I know of impress me with their beauty, abilities, and nice personalities. If you see My Tam tell her I love her. 💘 🥰
this is pretty much true and can relate to my case....first time i was in Da Nang for a business trip and met a girl. Next day, she introduced me to her parents and we had a great dinner at restaurant near My Khe beach. I came back to US and faced busy work reality. And i missed and didn't respond her text right away probably got her anxiety high caused our relationship ended. However, she still text me as a friend and which is good. Anyhow, in life, we have to choose one thing first, career or family? Hopefully, i could settle it one day and Da Nang is always in my heart. Thanks for the video!
My Vietnamese friends say if you want to seriously date a Vietnamese woman, you must first win the heart of the family. Also, this may be unique to my experience or true in general that if you give her an expensive bouquet she will say “that’s sweet, but next time just give me the money”. One last observation, when you propose, never surprise her with a ring you bought. She prefers to take her Mom to their favorite quality jewelry store and pick out the ring you will purchase.
🤗❤️🤗 thank you for the video ... informative and entertaining
Great information.
Yes more dating/relationship videos
Thanks Van. I learn lots when watching your videos♥️
Can you make a video what Vietnamese people do on Moon festival?
Yes of course :))
This is spot on!!! 😂😂
just two days away is the real time when i get married to my current girlfriend. We have been in love with each other for over 8 year, exactly when we got into a hight school . So I hope this covit 19 pandemic will disappear so soon, Thanks so much for your fantastic video, through this video , I can acquire a lot of precious experience of getting married as well as the way I should do when I go on a date with my wife ^^
Once you’ve dated a Vietnamese woman you’re done with western girls!
It’s a win for me, I love all of those customs and traits.
This was a very interesting video, thank you for sharing. I have been most interested in the Vietnamese culture since having the pleasure of meeting a family in america. I have had to pleasure of being around this family for over 20 years. They have actually suggested that I travel with them to the West Coast to meet their parents. So any additional information when meeting someone who is of the Elder culture would be most helpful.
Very informative. And interesting..having a Vietnamese wife in the near future sounds nice 👌
Im a viet kieu that lived in Vietnam for several years and even i was confused about the girls and the dating etiquettes there
You should never forget, you are the price, not your car, not your job, not your money. So many nice guys I saw in a worst case. You must have experience as a Westen guy in Asia.
Nice reaction video.I like how you give a broader perspective on what goes on...I've heard that VN girls tend to be very jealous(it also happens here)
You'r so cute. I love watching your videos, Van!
6:42 That Chinese commercial was so funny!
Vietnamese women are the gems of Asia and I have every intention of dating and definitely wouldn't mind marrying one 😍
Also Van from Vietnam is so beautiful 😁🇻🇳❤️
You need to prepare to marry not only her but the whole family. Good luck.
@Philip Nguyễn challenge accepted...I also come a heavily family orientated background 😎
@@GordyaZarrinkhat it is wonderful you are a caring, loving and thoughtful person. I wish you all the best. Vietnamese girls are the most sensitive people in the world. I always have to be careful with my words sadly I still could not handle the double personalities after all these years .One wrong word you are done. Southern girls are more straight forward. Northern girls can be very stimulating like Vuvan and girls from Heu middle of vietnam can be so romantic and daring. Different strokes for different folks. Take your time meet different girls from different regions then you can be sure . Always remember you are the captain of your life. Enjoy VN.
@@GordyaZarrinkhatcough cough religion, most vietnamese don't want to become Islam, they have faith in folk religion ,Buddhism and taoism
I dated 3 vn women, married 2 and am still married to my last one with happy life and a little boy... I talked to a lot in the past, have some good vn friends women I consider as my little sisters and as mixed couple we are together with many other mixed couple nearly every week end...
One thing important to show and tell, is that when you date a vn woman, you are dating vietnam.
If you don't like the food, the karaoke, the culture,... no need to go further, the relationship is doomed already.
As for the family, I guess i never had the problem as I have a good situation and I always needed a few minute to make the families like me, even I was married before and have 2 other kids...
That is true that dating is taken at a serious level and mostly it is not like in the west as much people see dating as playing with no consequences. With the society pressure in Vietnam, mostly each woman after 25 is looking for a familly or her familly expect it. Even I was older when I came to vn, I met a lot of younger ones that wanted to make me theirs... :)
One point that is not mentioned here is that a vn woman will accept girls around one guy as long as he is not her guy. Once the relationship has started, she will clean around and beware the one that will try to snatch her boyfriend... they are very exclusive...
(i like that... )
Enjoyed Video
Very interesting video please make more videos about the dating culture in Vietnam. I enjoy videos about interracial dating!
Great video
Nice condirions to know about a date in vietnam
its funny the mix of different ideas and culture.I think in thailand they have that saving face culture too
I laughed a lot and facepalmed at the part "She's thinking marriage potential". Interesting video!
I have been amazed by Vietnam since I was a kid. It's now time to go visit there and maybe find a nice girl. Hope they open up to foreigners soon
thanks Van, I think middle & northerner more strict than southern ... in general man should be able to provide financial support for his family and he & she should walk together on the path of life
True that :))
I’m from VietNam, that’s great to hear
Right on - get to the point reality is that needs a good job and bread winner despite looks
Yes I totally like this being I'll be with my Vietnamese girlfriend hope soon after all this pandemic. Yes more like this please Van
6:54 that was so funny 😂
Thanks for posting! Although my GF is Thai, I see a lot similarities in the culture. She has a Visa and can visit here more often. Usually anything that causes stress, is me being a bit goofy and her staying along cultural teachings. Definitely helped seeing the "too clingy" sketch, something I'm not use to.
thailand is nothing like vietnam and differs in so many ways
I would have loved to started watching your UA-cam videos a year or two sooner.
Before I started going out with my (now) wife.
I had to learn everything the ward way.
I went out with a vietnamese girl and all she did was yell at me every 5 minutes. It was awful. I had to constantly take pictures of her and she always complained the pictures were terrible while cursing at me
Great Job 👍
Very informative ! Good video . Wish i was drinking tea or coffee and visiting with you . You are so beautiful .
Really superb video. BTW Van=Eye Candy.
You should talk about "yellow fever" in another video, it's a big problem of foreigners who's living in Vietnam.
Yup. I wanna see that video too. I also notice many western men living in Asia having misogynist worldview
@@Feudorkannabro we have yellow fever because 90% of the western women are gross.
Started acting like little ho- ho’s about 1965 and never looked back
YEp total facts and they are FEMININE =:0
"Yellow fever" is just another way to try to hang derogatory labels on someone who has a preference (which they have EVERY RIGHT to have).
If you're going to use dumbass phrases like "yellow fever" why don't you just say what you really mean which is white men shouldn't be allowed to like, date, marry or be with Asian women. How racist!!!!!
Imagine coming up with a derogatory name for a guy who prefers other guys or something like that? No on dares do that in this day and age.
@@Feudorkannabro Another butthurt misandrist (yup, I get to use words like that too!) who just can't handle the fact that some white men have a preference.
One thing for sure Van... you will have ZERO problems getting a date I'm pretty sure :D
how come?
This comment is so tight
I am IN.
So helpful and interested video sharing, dear friend. Have nice day!
This is toooooo funny 🤣
Wish I knew these “rules” when I was younger 🥰
Great video, did you link the original video that you were reacting to?
Oh yes, thank you for reminding, I'll do it right now
@@WhatThePho Thanks 😊
that was fun
Haha was very funny the man in the restaurant with the girl and her parents. Lol
the only thing my wife's parents were asking her when she first told them about me was: "Does he love you?"
@@aussietim7974 I'm German, my wife (40) came here a few years ago, she's not what you would call Germanized. I do hope she will never be...
Cool I love it
The commercial is so funny
Loved the your video, i wish i was younger , i would to go to Vietnam , it look so beautiful.
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That is very good information for younger people. I meet my future wife on my 72 birthday. We get married when I was 74 and my is 61. So I am the oldest in my Vietnamese family.
Hi Van Vu..., A ( wise ) man would watch and listen to this video... two or three times... I think... I will watch and listen carefully to this video two times... Then maybe within a week to 10 days..., watch the video again... Excellent video and very informative, especially for a man and learn more about the Vietnamese culture, customs, and dating a beautiful Vietnamese woman... Awesome video, and thank you for sharing the video... * Don't forget to ( respect and honor ) the Vietnamese Parents... Bright, intelligent, and attractive... Mike in Montana :)
I thought he was going to take exception to everyone dipping their food into the same bowl of fish sauce. It was called "Double Dipping" on Seinfeld.
Vietnamese women are so beautiful
Rất giỏi giang ngưỡng mộ em ❤
You know you've been dating Vietnamese girl when you finally quit taking shower at night because your girlfriend keeps telling you about "toxic wind"! (yes if you know what I am talking about, you've dated Vietnamese girl) lol
Haha
Wait what? What is the Toxic Wind, I would like to know. lol
Toxic wind is a widespread belief in Vietnam that the air at night (especially after 9:30 PM) is very harmful for your body, if you take a shower at those time you might easily catch a cold or worse, have a stroke.
@@longbeach225 the weather in Vietnam is a bit hard, toxic wind appears in late night or early morning, this kind of wind can make you have headache easily
Hmm...Been dating a Vietnamese girlfriend for over 5 years and It's pretty accurate, but I think it also depends on your girlfriend's personality. Language barrier is something I worry about sometimes but Vietnamese parents seem friendly and cool about me. I noticed they feed you a lot whenever there's a meal. Haha
Not possible hook up in Vietnam ??
@@doriangraham2644possible,go to the bars and clubs where most of the women are westernizedd
Can you do a skin care routine? Your skin look soooo great
Some lovely Vietnamese people in my church. Not trying to date. But glad to learn that I haven't inadvertently been treading poorly over cultural lines! (Dude, must find some that play Catan!)
Vietnamese-American women are quite different from Vietnamese women living in Vietnam. I'm a naturalized Vietnamese-American guy in my 30s, and I personally see that difference plenty of times already. No wonder most of my Vietnamese-American male friends went back to Vietnam to marry a Vietnamese woman and bring her over here...
So Pho where where you and your videos this time last year.
When I was dating my "now Vietnamese wife"?
Pro tip- when you guys first ask out a Vietnamese girl- be prepared for a NO at that point- just blow it off and ask out again a little later.
You may have to ask 3 times
Each time don’t make a big deal of it.
Don’t lose your cool
Of course- each situation is different.
So, basically you have to beg.
2:24 I like how the hindu guy just jams out to the vietnamese song even though he didn't understand anything lmao.
If I was in Vietnam, I would want to take you out on a date. Good special reaction video from you sweetheart.
The differences with dating a Vietnam native woman vs dating a Vietnamese American woman can be seen in this simple example.
In Vietnam, poetry is everywhere. The slick tongue of a Vietnamese speaker when he flirts with a girl in Vietnam sounds more romantically than a Juan don slick guy in the states. In Vietnam, we say em oi, anh oi sounds cute but in America, a comparable is hey babe. The passion in words are missing. Like let's say a walk in Vietnam countryside and the scenery is peaceful and surreal but do that in America and with them American born viet girls, well her make up is melting and she wants to go home.
In Vietnam, if you can play an instrument or can sing to a chick, you will get her attention and melt your heart. Do that to an American Vietnamese chick and she'll tell you to stop it.
Vietnamese women are not alike. Like van vu there. I wouldn't hit on her as I see her like an aunt. How the hell you guys can get thirsty over her is beyond me.
Dating a Vietnamese woman is complicated. It is either you have to become viet wash yourself or have her drop her Vietnamese culture down a notch and become americanized. I can't see it having done in any other way.
More! Please!
Thanks Van 😘
I had a "dating" experience when I was in college. As in "want to go out on a date" and then there's saving face. We were good friends though. BTW her roommate told me about the dating / marriage thing (facepalm lol). Bottom line is that women from Southeast Asia want an ambitious guy who is successful (money and career), polite, respectful. I agree with the "you are marrying the family not just the girl".
Thank you for this video. I'm looking to move to Vietnam, either HCMC or Da Nang. I would love to learn more about dating in Vietnam.
I have a youtube channel dedicated to moving to Vietnam with detailed steps and stories on what it is like. From TEFL to job hunting.
@@Vietnam_Chr0nicles I started a UA-cam channel in May. JJ the Lonely Bull in Asia. We should get together sometime and collaborate.
@@JJthelonelybullinasia I would love that. No joke. Connections are everything here
@@JJthelonelybullinasia just sub'd to you
you are saying "the west" this is too general as many western countries have very different dating cultures, yanks have a very different culture to the brits and europeans
I think dating Vietnamese girl in VN is so much different from dating Vietnamese girl in US or in some other western countries. Could you have a follow up video talking about these differences? Thanks.
Haha sure
The realization of unlimited potential based on abilities instead of dependence?
I heard the exact opposite buồn không
I would love to see this production. Where can I buy some good popcorn in Hanoi?
Video Request:
Age gap relationship in Vietnam (older man with young women) ???
some from the west might think its materialistic , but in asia , south east asia, especially countries where the those parents , they grew up poor , everything is a strive, and every penny very difficult to earn, and most of the grandparents and parents generation , dont get to finish high school even ... makes them revere and look up to educated professionals doctors , especially, and they seek practicality , and a solid son in law, so manners, gentlemen quality, and also a good job , or a good career, a good salary is important , its more practical safety for their daughters not to suffer like them, and hope they marry into a better life , or at least not a downgrade. how much you love that boy is secondary. and having a house on mortgage or a car is a bonus , showing your prepared and you have a ''nest'' shows you're future planning is good and you're a dependable. so an answer like '' we are just going to chilll for a couple of years travel the world and see what happens'' answer will get a big frown. '' care-free'' is negative value. pragmatic preparedness and stability is highly desired , for woman and parents of asia origin like vietnam,malaysia, china, thailand etc.
Another great video Van very insightful about your culture but the Chinese commercial 😂😂😂😂😂
My girlfriend LOVES boba without boba( so it’s basically milk tea) we once walked 4 km just to have one. I mean we can take a grab but this way we can talk more😅
So cute
Aw!! lucky girl 😍
I'm dating a Vietnamese girl and she's my everything now. ^-^
Are all vietnamese women as pretty as you? Tell your husband don't get upset, it is a compliment and a blessing for him to have a beautiful wife as you.🎉❤😊
well, after stumbling across this I know I'm never gonna land me a Vietnamese girl then
I don't have most of those issues because my fiance and myself are the oldest in the family.
Hi Beautiful thanks for sharing take care.
Need this tips to win someone 😌
😀😀😀interesting and very true in most examples and the Chinese bf seeing his gf s parents is sort of true to some degree especially if their daughter is very young, pretty, and successful. if their daughter is closed to marriage age, the parents would usually have lower expectations even if their daughter is pretty and successful.
I love this video the best. Very funny and informative. Keep the great content coming.
Clingy isn't a bad thing. Psycho stalker IS a bad thing. Unfortunately, too many people don't know how to tell the difference.
晚回面子saving face is so important in most Asian cultures! I find so many similarities from this video to that of Chinese culture.
My Chinese wife has her own way of saving face, she never admits to being wrong and everything is always someone else's fault. Usually mine.