My oldest son has gone through this. Sadly, I believe it’s a symptom of societal decay.Give yourself a break. You’re not a loser. You’re lonely and depressed. Go for a jog. Join a gym. I don’t have any grand advice, but physical exercise is helpful in fighting depression. Thank God you have your parents support. Don’t diminish the value of that relationship.
I have same condition, been working out and in martial arts for 14 years, that didn't help, becuase it's not a disease, it's the soul state, the who your really are, nothing can change the nature, thr only thing remains is accepting and living the same non willing not interesting life hoping it won't be long
@@jameshunt9208He said "societal decay" not "spiritual decay". This generation is the first to have less prospects than their parents. Few will get to own their own houses. They will have to live at home longer. The old job-for-life security is well gone. That's what he meant. On top of this, this girl suffers anxiety which is very debilitating.
I’m a married man with 2 kids. Allow me to say a few things. 1. You’re not a loser. 2. I’m lazy too. You’re not the only one. 3. We all spend too much time on the internet. Try to cut your hours down one day at a time. 4. Living at home Is going to become the norm. If you and your parents love each other and your folks are ok with it, don’t worry about it. Moving out is unaffordable for many unless you have a partner or do it with friends. My wife and I were renting for ages and we only own our one home now, because we had help from my wife’s mother. We lucked out. 5. You’re not stupid. Just this video is enough to prove that. Making mistakes means you’re human. 6. I don’t drive either and I’m 36. I refer you back to the laziness thing. My wife drives and I really need to help her out with it. But again, just know that you’re not the only one. 7. The secrets thing is again, normal. Anyone that says they have no secrets is just lying. 8. Sex is great. That’s a fact that I can’t lie about. But truly, it’s not all that. There’s so much pressure on people to sleep around and it’s silly. I lost my virginity in my 20’s and when it happened, nothing really changed. 9. Wanting attention is once again normal. Especially for women. That has been proven btw, so don’t come at me. Don’t beat yourself up for wanting attention from other humans. 10. Not being able to cook is the only thing I’d say that you should try to resolve. It means you aren’t reliant on others to feed you. But take it one step at a time. Learn to make something like a burger and go from there.
did you asked your wife is that what age did she lost virginity and how many times have she have sex with boys-mans before you married with you ? Learn these and share with us.I tell somethings about facts
@@welshed 👏👏 I think the cooking thing even for me would be good cause I know like 5 dishes tho I hope to learn more towards the distant future. Attention is something we all want so that's normal. Sex is wonderful tho it's important to be selective... Enough said!
As a 29 year old male that can resonate with almost everything you said its very refreshing to see other people are in this situation. Sometimes we feel like its just us
I guess you've not yet decided what is important to you. When you do, and decide they are worth pursuing, you'll find a passion in living. From this passion comes drive. Also, your social life well begin to coalesce around this. Many people go through this phase at some point.
Im 27, and you're the most relatable person I've seen on here. We got a lot in common, which is rare for me to say. I understand 100% how you feel . Life is hard to go through when you feel like you haven't done anything truly meaningful after all these years. I'm also afraid of driving it looks so stressful, but I'll give it a shot eventually...maybe. But I will say this, you will find your way to greatness. We might be losers now, but we can all turn into winners! Never give up champ we are all in this together!
@@GerLovezGermanSheps Touche, yeah I should've worded that a bit differently lol. Sometimes I don't even believe it myself but the that 3 0 is staring at me.
Girl I don't think you realise how relatable you are. Self-doubts can be really paralysing and take away our motivation to do about anything. I am experiencing the same. I just wanted to tell you that your video kind of helped me to finally get into action today. By listening to you I realised that I keep talking to myself in a negative way as well. I feel compassion for your situation and I don't think you are a loser, in fact you are incredibly brave for sharing your story. I immediatly felt the urge to encourage you to not give up on yourself. You can pull yourself out of this. And now I am able to tell myself the same. So thank you for this video. ❤
It's crazy. You're describing me basically in my 20s. I didn't even really change until I was just about 30. I remember thinking to myself one day... "Pick something, anything, just do that one thing SO well that one day someone will notice". I chose something in the physical space. It's crazy because it seems so distant ago but I can remember it all like it was yesterday. The thing that I stuck with(physical activities/fitness) is the thing that people at random stops me in public to ask me questions about. To them, it's as if I've been doing this my whole life. Whoever that you feel like you are right now, things can change in what seems like a blink of an eye. Most people will never know what I was like in my 20s because now in my 30s, they assume that I've been this physically adept for the entirety of my life. You'll find that something one day. It may require a series of events to happen that seems like it might have been the worst day of your life, but that "worst day" was just a catalyst for your best days to come. Hang in there!
Whatever u Tell her she won't belive u. It's her journey let her discover things a little by little till a point where the Old Becomes just a story In cases like this i prefer not giving any advice to anyone Not because i'm Evil it's because it's meant to happen like this we can't change Change require self discovery
She needs extra help. Mayne her parents needed to give her more individual attention when she was growing up because i think she thinks she has a lot more growing up to do.
Your honesty is the best. Confidence can be built one small step at a time. Take small, doable steps and allow yourself relapses of anxiety if they come. But CELEBRATE each step without comparing yourself to others... I wish you the best!
@@RichardWagner-hi4zn She's more of a winner than most every person. Why? Because she is a virgin for one reason, and it's the fault of the people who think they are better who caused this nay -shun to be 35 trillion in debt.
Having co-workers is great, especially if you like each other. Having a job is so you can pay your bills or even save some money. Almost nobody has found their dreamjob, most are just in the daily grind. Personally I don't see the benefit of friends. Take too much time, too much energy. To those fortunate people with friends, kudos to you. It's just not worth the effort for some.
She has 10 000 subscrivers and she said "my videos only have a couple of hundred views" 😮 what? It's nonsense. She is just repeting what the devil is putting inside her head. I understand she has anxiety... but *just* a couple of hundred views???
You're not a loser! I understand anxiety and depression more than you can imagine. Please keep positive and your head up. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
I'm a 43 years old virgin guy from Germany and I have to say that some things you want to be called are not completely unattainable. (BTW, some men are reserved because they don't want to be perceived as perverted or pushy.) You are a brave person, you are good looking and you could actually be quite intelligent as you sound reflected. Don't get hung up on superficial attributes.
You still have time, Im a virgin 61 years old, only had one girlfriend in my life when i was 19-21. I still look youthful and extremely healthy, no any joint pain, never get sick, no disease. People always get shocked when they know my age, they say I look like I'm in late 20s. I'm a 7/10 facially 6ft1 height (no aging height loss at all because I take my diet and supplement very serious), athletic lean physique, i research lots of aging topic and manage to delay my skin aging with specific natural molecule supplemens. You probably wonder why I'm still a virgin loser it's because of money. I work a government job. In my lifetime there are lots of girls whom I talked to that showed interest in me (i would say around 30-40 and I gave up after that) but once they knew that I work a gov job with average salary, they ghosted, blocked me and disappeared. For men, Life during your student years is the most important if you cant land a high paying corporate job than you can say goodbye to your dream of having a relationship. Money is truly everything. do I feel lonely?, absolutely and I dread this feeling every day and night.
Go around a bar and bang a milf or a good gilf if you can, get moving man, to hell with what people think, if a 60yo woman winks at you at work show no mercy just go at it. Date anything that moves (optional ) and casts shadow (preferably ) you'll get comfortable around women and embrace rejection like a true men, nothing is better at teaching in life than fucking things up. And when you get comfortable with girls just hang with the ones you like to talk with, no need to have sex or kiss them, you also can be friends with them, grow your social circle, that's how you get a girlfriend. And women are just like me and you, and if a girl likes you great, and if she doesn't, she just isn't for you, don't take it personal, you'll also reject people in the process, it is what it is, just go next. C'mon, even heat ler had a wife, you can do this shit bro don't let me down, exercise a bit, buy some clothes a nice parfum and have fun.
@@CarlBland-l8lWhy would you want that? Literally paying for something you know is fake? No love, or even cuddling afterwards? It’s pathetic and worse than not experiencing it at all.
I am in a very similar situation right now, diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety when I was 12 and now that I am 26, I just found out 4 months ago that I am autistic, since then the way I see myself and the world has started to change, I am trying to exercise everyday, at least 10 minutes, and let me tell you, it works. Believe in yourself, seek help with a professional and find yourself, you will be fine. Your future self wishes to tell you that it is never too late.
First minute in, I can tell you are covered in blessings. Amen I pray you're still doing great. The world always see winners as losers. It's that far skewed. Keep it up.
Male virgins: "I've never been good enough for anyone to want me" Female virgins: "I haven't decided to do it yet / I haven't found a guy who is good enough" Not really the same
@@iexist7408 Why would I do that when it's already accurate? Literally all animal species operate this way. Men compete, women choose out of the winners.
Dunno why this came up on my feed. But just wanted to say. Your open and honestness about yourself is quite beautiful. Its sad to hear you have so low opinion of yourself. I hope you can find peace and some happiness in this life. Life is not easy and is ofter cruel. Ty for sharing. Love from Scotland ❤
This video is great in many ways. First of all, you're not alone in this feeling and this situation of your life. Your story, that you was brave enough to tell us, can help a lot of people, because it shows they are not alone too. It happens to a lot of people in the world. So, the second thing is that you had courage to make this video, to confess, to admit many things that you are not satisfied with your life. Oh, yes, that a lot and you can already see it by the sheer amount of attention this video has brought. I just want to thank you for this video and wish you find that will and strength to change what you want to change in your life, little by little. Small steps are super important! Good luck! With respect from Kazakhstan.
46 year old man here. Step dad to great 20 something boys. I was lost in life and had no direction. I was a loser but I found that giving of myself and being something to other people lifted me up. Love yourself and love the ones you have and love and peace will find you. Embrace and engage those opportunities to encourage and love others the way you want to be loved and encouraged. This is the first time I've seen a video of yours but I'm subbed now and I believe in you. Peace.
Stop coddling and lying to her. She is a f**king loser. If you keep saying stuff like that she will never feel a strong enough need to make a change in her life. When are you going to realize that this positive affirmation cr*p only ends making her feel better with the situation she is on... For significant change, you need to make it so the person faces reality and understands that the current situation in untenable.
You are an absolutely beautiful young woman! I'm a 33 old man and I have huge social anxiety and depression! It sucks, but fuck those social standards, you are a big WINNER for posting this video! There is a lot of us, and you have no idea how nice it is for my sore eyes to see a sincere and simple young woman contrary to all those fake no brainers on social media, and you feel bad because of them? Don't!!! Well, easier said than done, I should know with my mental problems. BUT you made this few minutes of my day more beautiful, know that! Stay strong, I repeat, you are beautiful and very nice young woman!!!
I am the real life version of the 40 year old virgin, well 41 now. I live with my mother because of fear of going my own way and medical issues with my back. Now she is as dependent on me as I am on her. I was all ways afraid of women after having so many make fun of me when trying to talk to them. My point with revealing my secret is to let you know you are not a loser at all. You are young and have your hole life ahead of you to find love. Please do not give up and hide like I have, I beg you 😢.
@user-tr8hr4xm1l no. In my parents home 2nd story living/TV room. House smelled overwhelmingly of dog pee from untrained terriers. JESUS encounter supernaturally removed smell of dog pee with frankincense and myrrh. I got radically supernaturally transformed and it's effects are still 100% set in my inner being 20+ years later
"I exist" as a statement is the most relatable phrase I've ever read on the internet. Always remember that you are not alone in this struggle, people are just REALLY good at hiding the mental decay their experiencing. I for one get compliments on how outgoing and positive I am when in reality the only reason I am so positive and outgoing is because of how terrible my mental health is, I've just learned over time to hide my emotions and appear as the happiest person you will ever meet.
I Exist, I have lost 100 pounds, and went from smoking weed and sitting at home without a job for 20 years to moving to a new city all of my own plan and design. Moved into a new apartment, and after 9 years of unemployment, now have job and can make a living wage. I am dating and got into a 2 month relationship with a person in this new city I live in. And all of this started with one thing: I changed my internal dialogue from insulting to encouraging. That led me to walking by the river behind my apartment. Then to hikes. Swimming. Gym, which I still maintain to this day. And the journey of loving myself. Please try to do that one thing. It'll take work, but that will set you on the path of self-redemption. At the same time, your world will change to encourage you. Much love from afar.
The inner dialogue advice is a good one, hope she read it. Unless this is just some weird fringe channel to attract losers for ad money. If she starts accepting herself and encouraging herself, she can overcome this, or get it under control.
when I was 26 i went through a similar phase , im 31 now and i found my way through it with music. im still a loser though lol , 31 still living at home, i dont drive, i dont have friends, i totally understand, youll get there its just very difficult finding yourself these days, do or find anything that makes you feel good.
This is the most authentic video I have ever seen on YT. Try not to worry too much. I'm 53 and still have many of the traits you describe. I have learned to accept that this is who I am, and I'm good with it now.
What you're describing is what literally every single person has experienced at some point. You just have the courage to admit who you are right now. Being honest is a very attractive quality. I think you'll find that the more you open up and put yourself out into the world, the easier things get. I can tell you that everything you said I experienced myself in my 20s. I think you're totally normal and healthy. Therapy is what helped me the most. I highly recommend it. You're going to be OK.
Being honest doesn't resolve you of the burden of having to work on yourself. If you don't want to put energy into making yourself better, don't expect anyone else to have extra for you. Im in a similar boat, but its really nobodys fault for the circumstances I was born into and how I used the hand I was dealt with. I certainly wouldn't be going on UA-cam to make a video to complain about my life situation and expect that to do anything for me.
Take this from someone who is turning 44 single, divorce, handsome and alone. Who has nothing going on in his life besides work, bills, travel, homeless currently despite having plenty of means, taking care of my kid, and the world imposing on me constantly despite having something of a boring but meaningless/meaningful peaceful life unless everyone else around me disrupts it. I have plenty of artistic hobbies but no connections (I can trust anyways) to share them with. The only attention I get is commentary from people on You Tube. I watch You Tube to occupy my mind very frequently. On one hand I inherently know my worth, and on the other I feel worthless at times. We all can and do. Let it pass and try to be present and try to get out and do something new to break the cycle and pattern. Even if it is something as simple and reserved as walking a new block once a week. We love comfort and familiarities. But that very comfort and complacency prevent us from growing sometimes too. Anyways my point. Comparison is the thief of joy.
@@Sor9ry426I've seen similar videos, especially from younger guys. At least there people were empathetic and shared advice just like here, which was nice. Genuine talk seems to make viewers more empathetic.
Im 44 man, never married, no children, getting ready to start my 3rd career, I have such hard time connecting with people, youre a loner not a loser, in fact you are actually really the prize, I promise.
Right there with you. 47 male, never married no kids. Somehow have managed to stay at my job for about 13 years. I think about quitting every single day. Day dream of working different jobs. What a life we live.
I was diagnosed with MS and went back to school to community college after 40. Went from construction work to healthcare and now over 60. You are still very young and alot of life left. My only friends were people that drink with me back when I was drinking heavy. You do have a job so that is a big plus. I always drank and smoked weed to take the edge off and easier to be around people. At least you not a user and suffering addictions along with anxiety. Use your energy positively to improve yourself instead of self pity. Looks like you are doing good on here with tons of views so making a little money here is nice for you and that's a positive.
I am a male, a virgin, I speak a completely different language than yours, living in a completely different culture, and yet I felt that you are literally talking about me and my life. I have the same exact symptoms as you have. I realize that it's a pattern associated with the same things: loneliness, low self-esteem and hiding from the world in our comfortable rooms.
You haven't met a real loser yet, he resides in Malaysia. An expat from eastern europe with a phd who ended up as refugee here with no job, no citizenship, no family and almost no money. Anxiety, depression and social phobia are my old buddies, but i managed to complete my studies despite all that. My only hope is that one day i might be relocated to another country because the country i am in now does not recognize refugees. It may sound as a platitude but try to be more appreciative of what you have. Wish you all the best and hope you get out of the depression you're in now. And pls, stop calling yourself a loser. You're beautiful and young. Peace & love.
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Its the curse of the really smart..... but you will succeed, but know 2 things, know your limits, and know what your willing to do to get there, best of luck, I never finished school when my family fell apart when I was 14, was homeless for a while as I didn't want to end up being molested in an orphanage, so I became streetwise and fell in with a bad lot, I managed to get away from that when I was 18 and went into the army was there for a few years then left it to get married and it fell through as she was humping my so called friend, so I put my nose to the grindstone and studied hard and did so for over 10 years studying many fields in IT including 5 languages, in the meantime I worked whatever job I could get, I learned a lot from each one, from dishwasher to mechanic, to system builder, repair tech, domain admin to network engineer, the world is wicked and it will crush you if you let it... you have to adapt and overcome, and time waits for no one.. best of luck dont give up, there are many of us that have been through it, and when you come through the other side you will be a stronger person for it.
Being a loser can be a state of mind, especially when you suffer from anxiety and depression. I'm a loser, not because I have crippling anxiety or depression but because I seem to have made really bad choices in opportunities and people I've involved in my life. I don't blame anyone for the way my life turned out, although I didn't reach my current situation by myself. I saw red flags and ignored them because I used to be the type of person who hoped for the best and figured as long as I did my part the best I could, things would work out well. I work hard, no drug or alcohol problems, overall pretty healthy mentally and physically. I've raised 2 great kids who are a benefit to society, and very well adjusted considering their mother and I divorced when they were reaching their teens. I hope everyday for something to fall my way, but to be honest I've learned to expect the worst because that is what I seem to get. Our expectations start to become a reflection of what we experience in life. I've come to the conclusion that it really comes down to a "balance" in the world. Not everyone can be a winner, there must be losers too. Not everyone can be successful, there has to be people who are unsuccessful. It can be really exhausting being on the losing end, but we're generally pretty resilient because we have to be. I know people who think having a tough day or a tough week is not making it to the gym on their schedule or not making their second or third night out of fun for the week, or only being able to take a one week vacation instead of the normal 2 week. You're still young, you can try to make a change in your life and see how it plays out. Some of us have nothing to look forward to but grinding out an existence until we depart this world. I hope things get better for you.
“Lonely older men” 😂 You got me on that one. But even if I was in my 20s again, I can still relate. I always feel dumb when I talk to people cause of my poor memory. Hard to tell any interesting stories or info when my mind can’t recall anything. I hope for the best for you.
You are not a loser. Do you, love yourself and enjoy life as much as you can. One thing I have learned is to not compare my life to others. You are you, one of one. Greetings from South Africa 🇿🇦 Cape Town is a beautiful city, I hope you finish your painting and get to visit sometime in the future.
Just FYI most guys, even attractive ones, aren't ever gonna call you "beautiful", "sexy", or "hot" and risk being labelled a creep or weird for saying that, unless you actively express interest in them. I'm sure some decent men at some point in your life have thought those good things about you but didn't have an appropriate time to express those feelings.
@truthteller3024 You haven't been able to form deeply intimate bonds with women in 33 years yet are apparently rejecting them "monthly" because your standard are bonkers. It's not possible to be an absolute stud and a virgin.
@@mrdojob my standards were the normal standards for thousands of years. I just want a normal sweet feminine wifey virgin girl who dreams of becoming a mother and cooks well! Literally the majority of females were like this before the invention of feminism recently.
I have had zero luck as far as relationships go my whole life. I am single man with a cat in my 50's and that might be the way it goes. I gotta make the best of it. Please stop with disliking yourself and try to vaule who you are, I wish you good luck.
25 year old female virgin here. It’s bizarre how rare it seems to be. I feel so alone but it’s interesting to see that there are more of us. Don’t know if I would have the courage to make a video about it though.
If it makes you feel better, you have a leg up in the game if you ever want to get married any time soon. Most men are more serious with virgins than non-virgins. Matter of fact, the more pure a woman is, the better. So, pat yourself on the back for that.
@@Slitwheel you do not speak for all of us. Keep that toxic masculinity/trad wife searcher BS to yourself. Fetishising virginity is creepy and having disrespectful judgemental hang-ups about women is not manly.
Just wanted to say YOU HAVE VALUE despite whatever worldly achievements you have or have not accomplished. My son is on the autistic spectrum and a very high percentage of people with autism have societal anxiety and are depressed. We are bombarded with all kinds of toxins through our environments, vaccines, food, water, etc etc in which can cause this type of outlook as well. You are LOVED by your creator for just being and without doing anything. I would love to encourage you to change your internal and external dialogue to "I am loved", "I have value", "I am gaining confidence every day" and so forth. Spoken words and internal dialogue are extremely powerful and can create and manifest. We don't want to self-sabotage with our words. I did this with my son and it helped. In addition, I just went through one of the deepest valleys of my life and definitely experienced feelings of extreme isolation, depression and lethargy. I am exiting this wilderness season now but I believe everyone can relate to this at some point in their life journey. Please change your thoughts and words to positive and remember YOU ARE LOVED & NOT ALONE!!
From my own experience(I'm similar to her), it's very easy to say that but very hard to actually follow. I lose the "zeal" after one or two days. Then you go back to being what you are.
@@icyman2Yes, you'r right but he say what you need to do, and its that simple, do thinks like exercise, go out, meet people... Simple thinks and you will go better. Dont give up!! 💪
@@icyman2 I understand that. For me the zeal or high energy comes around when you finish something. A lot of time it only starts out w no zeal. I know it’s hard to get motivated. I try to stay in motion. You’re capable of more than you think I bet.
Depression sucks. The trick is to get excited about SOMETHING. I went through a year of deep depression where I didn't want to die but didn't want to "live" either. For me, I found my dream sailboat for free and have plans for the future to fix it up and travel in it, explore new places. You seem to feel depression as well. You have to find something that interests you and gives you purpose. I know that seems like an impossible task. We all have secrets. I'm "cute" to most people until they take the time to know me better. Then I miraculously get better looking. I much prefer that than the other way around. I see your perfect relationship being with someone who is unanxious, calm and adventurous. These are the things you want in your life. The more you are around it, the easier it is. The more you do, the more you want to do. I wish I could help.
This sounds like everything I’ve been looking for. A woman that doesn’t need validation from social media or others. A woman that doesn’t have a long list of guys in her past. A woman that’s beautiful and physically fit. A woman that values family to still live with them, not worried about “proving herself or finding her way!” Damn, she’s putting herself down and all I can think of is “how can I meet someone like this?”
I'm a 27 year old virgin and I am in the EXACT same boat. I am on the autism spectrum and I feel like an absolute idiot. I'm really bad with socializing and making friends, and holding conversations. I am subscribing to you, because you're the female version of me 😂 Also I just want to add that you're beautiful and you're more intelligent than you think!
@@realDunalTrimp Kind of feel like you're trolling at this point 💀 but seriously though everyone knows how to just search up an educational video on youtube.
@@lynxarcade2020 doesn't help in real life buddy, that's why your first sexual partner should always be someone with experience so that they can guide you. We have now been condemned to a lifetime of virginity. It's too late for us.
@@ilqar887Mostly something that they feel is too embarrassing or too uncalled for to tell others. Might not even be something they are aware of if it is something that is not hard to hide. Could also be something that they have been entrusted with to keep confident between them and just that one other person. Or something more practical, done for gain, acceptance, lawfulness or safety reasons. Like a PIN number, a trade secret, a professional or company secret, or to never have exposed themselves to a minor, thereby keeping their body a secret from a defined group of people.
You are fine. I’m fact you are doin great. Take a deep breath. And thank you for this very very honest and deep introspection. You sound like you are very level headed. Just pump the brakes on the self loathing. You don’t need that. Everybody has anxiety so don’t let that bug ya either.
@@metalmike570 it makes you feel better to shame people who are using a platform like that to make a living? There’s more nobility in OF content creation than being a fucking soldier, cop, or politician
Ngl, it was me a couple of month ago. 26M, virgin, no GF, passing to much time on YT and lazy on the side. BUT I didn't give up on life, kick myself to go out of my comfort zone. Found a job, ask one of my female friend out (she said yes and we are now a couple) and trying to go to the gym and read books. My advice : Get out of your confort zone, try new things. Don't rush for a relationship, if you don't at least value yourself. And don't go on dating apps (worst decision for a meaningfull relationship) My opinion about you : You are cute, you are honest and have self-reflexion. The first step before improvement is : self-reflexion and finding the problem, so you are in the right path. But you need to act after finding the problem. Edit: Being call cute is a soft way to say beautiful in my book. I don't want to put your problems down, but almost no men don't even get call cute. At least you have compliments :|
Listen to this guy, lady. He's right in my estimation. I've had a very successful life, had a few kids, checked off my bucket list, etc... You've got tons of potential. It's up to you to do with it as you please.
My heart goes out to you. I have struggled wuth depression since I was a kid, and I hate to see anyone feel the same way I have felt so many times in my life. I felt the same way you do when I was in my mid-20s. I often still do. Its a daily struggle. I wish I could give you a big hug and take it a away. Your feelings are valid, and you are a beautiful person for having the strength to share this online. I never would have had the courage to do what you're doing here, and I admire the hell out of you for it. Sharing your feelings is actually a good first step. Its not that you're selfish, but I get why you feel that way. Its just that so much of your energy is being consumed by depression that everyday existence becomes a struggle, and you have nothing left to give to other people. You also seem like more of an introvert, just like me, so that doesn't make you a loser, just different. With introverts like us, interacting with others taxes our energy, so we need time alone to recharge. Depression makes that even harder. For people like us - and there are a LOT of us - holidays and social occasions in general suck. Yet, at the same time, it's only normal - hell it's only human - to crave human contact. It's one of the basic needs that all humans have. That doesn't make you a bad person or selfish. It makes you human. You're also suffering from anxiety, so fear of driving is totally understandable. Hell, I'm a loser myself. My ex-wife left me, and Ive struggled to find anyone since. Ive basically given up where that is concerned. I'm a single dad. I struggle to keep up with work and chores around the house. Im on two different medications for depression. That's not to even mention my bas health, namely that I am overweight and have diabetes. I have NEVER been normal. I never go out. My hobbies consist of reading, collecting figures and reviewing movies online with my friends. Yeah, some social life I have. Oh, and I also spend WAY too much time online. But you know what? Fuck it. Yeah, my love life is non-existent, but I have realized that I'm not in the right place for a relationship anyway. Im focusing on myself and my kids. Yeah, I worry about my kids. My daughter is grown, like you, and she still lives at home. I wouldn't have it any other way, though. She deals with anxiety just like you, and she is a beautiful person, just like you. Yeah, it's hard to balance work, duties at home and hobbies (such as they are). But hell, I'm doing my best. Yeah, I'm on medicine for depression. They do help, though, and I couldn't function without them (I've tried). Yeah, I'm fat and have diabetes. I've also started eating right and getting more exercise (just walking but still), and I have lost over 60 pounds, and my A1C is back down to normal now. Yeah, my hobbies are lame, but they are mine, and they bring me great joy and comfort. Yeah, I have no friends where I live, but the friends I have made online are still my real friends. I've even met them in person. We're all really close, and we support each other. I can't ask for more than that. I don't know you, but just know that I am rooting for you. A lot of us have been where you are. Depression is a son of a bitch, and anxiety is, too. Together, they're crippling. I'm proud of you just for getting through the day. It took guts to share this. Believe us when we say we do care. We got you.
I just wanted to say I am a woman. And I relate to you. I don't drive. I ride the bus to work where I essentially sift through unwanted trash all day and listen to co workers talk about their lives when I really couldn't care less. I feel as if I am a terrible person for this. But it is just how I honestly feel. I feel as if there is no purpose in living this life. I have no friends or boyfriend. I live by myself in a low grade one bedroom apartment. I spend my days off and nights after work just staying in my apartment in my room only watching youtube or movies. I never go anywhere I don't have the money to take a trip or time for it. So I just exist..
Same here... Male, 43 living alone, working, eating, just existing. You are not alone, i think you feel like that when people talk about their trivial lives because it feels like a waste of time, there are more subject matters to you because you have an emergency to "get on " with life, so in that respect you won't be able to sympathise easily with others until you feel like you are back on track sort of speak. That's completely normal for persons in our situations. I hope i made sense, and that i didn't presume things.
Maybe take a ride on a different bus, take in the scenery, approach and talk to a stranger about whatever strikes you about them or the place / situation you both are in? Just to break the routine, take one step away from boredom and self-alienation, you know?
I'm also kind of going through this. I'm 30 years old, semi-attractive male who fell into depression. I used to be full of life and have a big friend group but that is all dwindling. You are not alone. Exercise is the one thing that is helping me get through this and have confidence in myself. Thank you for sharing.
Somewhere out there, you’re someone’s type. The hard part is figuring out how to meet them. Btw, you don’t have to live up to other’s’ standards for what’s “normal” or “smart”. It took me a long time to learn that one. It also took me a while to learn that there’s no shame in having therapy
What I mean is eventually, at some point, you'll realize whatever you're doing is not working and keep finding out other ways to manage - and one of those will work, or at least 'work out' in a way you can manage. @@sergeantdoomkin8873
Just want to say thanks for making this vid. I'm literally the male version of you lol same age, same anxiety, etc. I'm trying to turn it around while I still have time and hope you're able to as well.
@@juliapigworthyDo you know whether the OP has kids or not ? Why would you without appropriate knowledge about his life make such a pointless remark about him assigning him responsibilities he hasn't taken up himself. What if he's unemployed because of mental or health issues he has no control over? It's like telling someone homeless to just get a home without knowing what knowing what made them homeless in the first place. Remarks like yours are disgusting and are uncalled for. A fool would be thought of as wise if they kept quiet. Some thoughts you should just keep to yourself.
@@shadrachemmanuel1720It's called tough love. People like you are encouraging bad behaviors by making excuses. I've seen people confined in wheel chairs making ends meet. I've seen people who lost limbs still are motivated to press on with their lives.
Social media shouldn't just be about "showing your lifestyle" but sharing your hobbies/crafts/passions. Thats a much better and more fulfilling use of it imo
So, I've felt the same way about myself in my younger years, you're not alone here. One thing to always remember...focus on your core values, do you treat people well, honesty, kindness, empathy. These solid traits define a good person, and trust me, the world and (good) people will respond to that. Be good to yourself, always!
I share many aspects with you especially laziness and privacy/introversy. Though I'm not a loser and I'm quite happy almost every day. It feels like the difference is mostly psychological: I permit myself certain levels of laziness and weirdenss and 'losery'. And value my desire to be real. Loving yourself is very normal. As well as selfishness (if properly balanced). Then you can dream/imagine yourself (in your heart) in all the beauty (go beyond and imagine even the unimaginable levels of beauty) which will create a constant pull for a natural change. That way you can cast better version of yourself into existence without struggle and using just love and passion. This is my first impression of this channel and I enjoyed this video very much. Hopefully, you're happier these days and Cape Town is getting closer. BTW, I'd love to discuss such topic on a date :) And you remind me of my wife :D She's also very prone to anxiety and laziness. Accept yourself and get a bit of external support and enjoy having 'abnormalities', we're all unique🙏😊. And beauty is in the eye of beholder and the most intimate beholder is you yourself.
I clicked on this video because it was not a generic UA-cam video from a generic UA-cam channel. Your personality is actually a gift in this world. I think you may have to process some traumas and work through some things and you will eventually see just how gifted you are and how much you really have going for you. Sometimes trauma can go way back to when we were very small children or toddlers. And sometimes our parents can have their own undiagnosed issues like personality disorders which have caused them to unconsciously or even consciously traumatize us. You may have to dig deep to get to the root of this depression and nihilistic state of living. Anyhow see you around you sexy beautiful thing you.
You’re not a loser. You’re still so young, you can still do just about anything. And in an extremely phony world, you are brave enough to be honest, which means you’re helping people who feel the same way. You are helping other people who feel lonely. Trust me, you are. That is huge. I wouldn’t pay much mind to people who question you, they don’t know your situation as you do. You have a very pleasant speaking voice and I’m now a subscriber. Please take care of yourself, be good to yourself, you deserve it. Thank you. 🙏
Im also a loser, I have horrible existential anxiety 24/7 and around people, I no energy, motivation, house ridden, no job I hate people, too dumb to understand school, all F's, can't understand people when they speak also sometimes, my brothers and 1 friend just don't get me or how hard life is. I can't stand talking on the phone, never had a real lover, everyone just used me and now I'm asexual 😂Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable! Seeing this 9 months later ha so I don't know if you'll read this but almost everything you said describes me to a T, you also have a self awareness and amazing vibes that other people don't, the first thing I thought before watching this video was wow this girl is gorgeous! I used to think I was hideous for a long time too till I turned 30 so I hope you can see how beautiful you truly are someday and that you're not a loser, you are very strong, dealing with mental health, it truly is a full time job that we don't get paid for and no one will ever understand, but try to love yourself cause you deserve it and fuck what anyone else thinks, you're one of the best genuine souls out here in this mad world ❤ You are natually beautiful and you don't have to change anything one bit! You should look up Stephanie Lange, she helped my self confidence so much
Let’s face it - this is a competitive life. We all have to try at some point. I believe you when you feel low self-esteem. As a 73 year old retired guy, I don’t feel as egotistical as I used to feel. You’ve created this UA-cam channel, and you are certainly appealing! You’ll see, things will get better soon.
You are actually the realest person,just admiting everything your saying and having the courage to show your face is Brave!I wish more people talked about their insecurities.I have so much respect for you and not being afraid to upload such deep thoughts and feelings.
This video is very grounded, I feel a sense of humility coming from this woman, and a lot of what she is experiencing is actually reminiscent of what a lot of people are going through in the americas. Some people never find motivations, some people find it late in life, but some times its trying something new that can make us with youth feel energized. I personally have been trying to do things that energize me as I get closer and closer to mid life. One day the boring, lame, and mundane will be all that's left to energize us in old age.
Girl you are beautiful 💗 inside and out. It sounds like to me you possibly have a depressive disorder (I am diagnosed Major Depressive Disorder). It sounds like you also have some social anxiety, which is totally normal for many soft souls these days. I can tell you are an intellectual who probably imagines every possible catastrophic event that could happen if you reach outside of your comfort bubble. I have PTSD from a serious heart issue, so I understand that feeling. Trust me when I say you are beautiful, and being a virgin at 26 in this day and age is actually so SPECIAL! You have the chance to find someone you connect to intellectually and emotionally, and to share that special moment with them in a way many young girls today will never understand. Take some time to yourself. Get your nails painted, find women who inspire you (not women who make you feel less then), and aspire to find a new and feminine side of yourself. Sit outside in the sun for just 10 minutes a day. Eat healthy and be hydrated. Take small steps every day to loving yourself, and finding nurturing environments for yourself. And most important of all love yourself on this journey of life. Your soul is so kind and honest and there’s just not enough people out there like you. I know there’s someone out there for you who is looking for someone just like you 💗 Social media is so manipulative and malignant. Even though it is hard for all of us, we need to get off of our phones and computers and resist living too much in the online presence of others. Do things for yourself, first 🫶🏻 you are worthy and it may take some time to feel that way but just start being kinder to yourself if you can 💗 Don’t give up on yourself, love 💗 it may not seem like it reading this but I can tell there is such potential in you. Take up a new hobby, and discover yourself! You never know what you may thrive in, but you have to give it your all 💙 and learn to grow through the pain with self love. Good luck and safe travels in this wild but secretly beautiful world 🌎
I like you am a major depressive. I also have anxiety issues sometimes social but for the most part, I have live the life. I have a now six-year-old as of August 29 now her mother was borderline personality. I don’t see that in this woman. I just think she’s antisocial and an introvert and obviously something else that I can’t diagnose, I’m not a doctor but she’s awesome. She’s beautiful and I just wish that she would realize this. I’m sure you realize that it’s not because you are beautiful, but you have to know from being smart from being beautiful. It’s a factor of many things to make one beautiful in my opinion, the age of the Internet has lot of women and men especially with dating is it OK for women to sleep around and still to sleep around and as a guy to see all the sad DNA test everywhere I’m glad I don’t have to worry about that, even though my ex is a pain in the ass I’ve been dealing with her Five years in court still going on more. Well, I seen your comment Erika and it was a beautiful comment because it explains a lot about mental health and that’s what I tried to teach people so thank you and may God bless you
You’d be surprised how much things improve when you just clean your room. It’s transcends just cleaning your room and it’s all correlated with other facets of life.
That's the dumbest shit I ever read. I know very sucessful, intelligent, and / or attractive people whose places look terrible. It has 0 correlation. You might as well use your zodiac sign to explain things. Equally stupid.
Trust me you’re not alone, you’re not the only one that feels this way and has these problems, I used to be like this, but after getting a job at a restaurant I had to talk to hundreds of strangers every single day even if I didn’t feel comfortable, but after doing this for a year or so I started feeling more comfortable and confident. so trust me you will overcome this problem if you want to, and don’t talk down about your self, that just makes it worse, you’re NOT a loser you are you, and that makes you special. Everyone has insecurities and NOBODY is perfect. Just keep pushing yourself forward and you’ll get to where you want to be ❤❤
I hear you focusing on the negatives. Lets work on your assets and look for a solution which would involve gaining a different perspective. I can relate to you, and find it necessary to think differently so I dont get self destructive.❤
Sounds like you're a human being trying to figure stuff out like the rest of us. Life is what you make it. Don't compare yourself to others. Joy is a choice and it can take time to build a life you are happy with and proud of.
Finding a woman who is a virgin in her 30ies is way easier than you think. Finding the one that is not an absolute useless train wreck mentally - they just don't exist. You don't want to find them, trust me!
This is relatable. Probably more than you think. I'm pretty much in the same situation than you at the moment so i totally understand how you feel. But i just want to say, all this doesn't make you a loser. Being boring is ok, never have been a relationship is ok, being mentally unwell is ok, being lonely is ok, being average looking is ok. It doesn't make you a bad person, please understand that. Life is hard, sometimes unreasonably so. I hope you'll find happiness❤
Imagine if a guy made a video like this. I’m in a similar situation, but if I posted a video like this, I’d get 10 views and no people would care. But I hope shit gets better for you. Keep your head up and stay strong💪🏾 You aren’t a loser. You are very genuine which is hard to find these days.
Bro, I’m going to reveal a brutal secret: nobody gives a shit about you if you’re a man. Just look at the previous comment, you’ll just be called an incel who needs to touch grass and take showers, and your problems will never be addressed.
@@tshegom03because if a woman is unable to find a man, it’s 100% because her standards are too high, men pursue women, women do not pursue men, men get what they can get, women skim off the top
Find something you're good at, get rid off selfpitty and don't compare yourself to others. To me, you seem just fine. Wish I had you as a friend. Stay strong, much love from Germany! 💪
My oldest son has gone through this. Sadly, I believe it’s a symptom of societal decay.Give yourself a break. You’re not a loser. You’re lonely and depressed. Go for a jog. Join a gym. I don’t have any grand advice, but physical exercise is helpful in fighting depression. Thank God you have your parents support. Don’t diminish the value of that relationship.
I have same condition, been working out and in martial arts for 14 years, that didn't help, becuase it's not a disease, it's the soul state, the who your really are, nothing can change the nature, thr only thing remains is accepting and living the same non willing not interesting life hoping it won't be long
@@cheap_clips
Not everyone is as "spiritually decayed" as you. Better yourself, and don't try to drag others down just because you've given up.
She has severe anxiety, shes not going to go for a jog or go to a gym 🤷
@@cheap_clips Everyones mileage varies my friend. I don't know you and I'm not a psychologist...but maybe you should look into dysthymia.
@@jameshunt9208He said "societal decay" not "spiritual decay". This generation is the first to have less prospects than their parents. Few will get to own their own houses. They will have to live at home longer. The old job-for-life security is well gone. That's what he meant. On top of this, this girl suffers anxiety which is very debilitating.
You're cute and honest. Those two qualities alone would make 90% of men happy and lucky to have you
I really hope most men have higher standards than just wanting a cute and honest woman
@@brianmeen2158 Sure, but being cute and honest and caring sure helps.
She doesn't want to be cute, she wants to be hot and beautiful haha
@@brianmeen2158 asking a woman to be honest is a pretty high bar.
AND a virgin, thats super important, and super rare today. god id give my left and maybe right testicle to marry a virgin.
I’m a married man with 2 kids. Allow me to say a few things.
1. You’re not a loser.
2. I’m lazy too. You’re not the only one.
3. We all spend too much time on the internet. Try to cut your hours down one day at a time.
4. Living at home Is going to become the norm. If you and your parents love each other and your folks are ok with it, don’t worry about it. Moving out is unaffordable for many unless you have a partner or do it with friends. My wife and I were renting for ages and we only own our one home now, because we had help from my wife’s mother. We lucked out.
5. You’re not stupid. Just this video is enough to prove that. Making mistakes means you’re human.
6. I don’t drive either and I’m 36. I refer you back to the laziness thing. My wife drives and I really need to help her out with it. But again, just know that you’re not the only one.
7. The secrets thing is again, normal. Anyone that says they have no secrets is just lying.
8. Sex is great. That’s a fact that I can’t lie about. But truly, it’s not all that. There’s so much pressure on people to sleep around and it’s silly. I lost my virginity in my 20’s and when it happened, nothing really changed.
9. Wanting attention is once again normal. Especially for women. That has been proven btw, so don’t come at me. Don’t beat yourself up for wanting attention from other humans.
10. Not being able to cook is the only thing I’d say that you should try to resolve. It means you aren’t reliant on others to feed you. But take it one step at a time. Learn to make something like a burger and go from there.
Yep
Very well said
did you asked your wife is that what age did she lost virginity and how many times have she have sex with boys-mans before you married with you ? Learn these and share with us.I tell somethings about facts
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@@welshed 👏👏 I think the cooking thing even for me would be good cause I know like 5 dishes tho I hope to learn more towards the distant future. Attention is something we all want so that's normal. Sex is wonderful tho it's important to be selective... Enough said!
“I should clean my bedroom, but I don’t” felt.
lmao
Most people don't feel like cleaning their room. At any age.
@@Corina-dq2my once I get started, though, the whole house is getting cleaned
As a 29 year old male that can resonate with almost everything you said its very refreshing to see other people are in this situation. Sometimes we feel like its just us
grow up
@@titodenino thank you for this input Tito. Id rather be a deadbeat loser than be named Tito though
@@adidaman1234 yikes
It’s comforting to hear I’m not alone. But at the same time, it’s sad we’re all on the same boat. The loser boat
@@titodeninoidk u, but u got issues. Maybe worse than mine
You will realize at some point,you are actually the valuable one.
Yep, pure.
I guess you've not yet decided what is important to you. When you do, and decide they are worth pursuing, you'll find a passion in living. From this passion comes drive. Also, your social life well begin to coalesce around this.
Many people go through this phase at some point.
Virgin women like her are valuable@clouddash-qp9tq
@clouddash-qp9tqPurity and youth
@clouddash-qp9tq because men value and prefer that, end of the discussion. It's our preference, we like that.
Im 27, and you're the most relatable person I've seen on here. We got a lot in common, which is rare for me to say. I understand 100% how you feel . Life is hard to go through when you feel like you haven't done anything truly meaningful after all these years. I'm also afraid of driving it looks so stressful, but I'll give it a shot eventually...maybe. But I will say this, you will find your way to greatness. We might be losers now, but we can all turn into winners! Never give up champ we are all in this together!
27????
@@GerLovezGermanSheps Yeah 27 years old
@@DreamingOni after all these years doesn't sound like a 27 Yr old, you wouldn't lie though
@@GerLovezGermanSheps Touche, yeah I should've worded that a bit differently lol. Sometimes I don't even believe it myself but the that 3 0 is staring at me.
@@DreamingOni you wish 30 was looming
Girl I don't think you realise how relatable you are. Self-doubts can be really paralysing and take away our motivation to do about anything. I am experiencing the same. I just wanted to tell you that your video kind of helped me to finally get into action today. By listening to you I realised that I keep talking to myself in a negative way as well. I feel compassion for your situation and I don't think you are a loser, in fact you are incredibly brave for sharing your story. I immediatly felt the urge to encourage you to not give up on yourself. You can pull yourself out of this. And now I am able to tell myself the same. So thank you for this video. ❤
How can someone be this honest and unfiltered on the internet? You have my deep respect 🥺
It's crazy. You're describing me basically in my 20s. I didn't even really change until I was just about 30. I remember thinking to myself one day... "Pick something, anything, just do that one thing SO well that one day someone will notice". I chose something in the physical space. It's crazy because it seems so distant ago but I can remember it all like it was yesterday. The thing that I stuck with(physical activities/fitness) is the thing that people at random stops me in public to ask me questions about. To them, it's as if I've been doing this my whole life.
Whoever that you feel like you are right now, things can change in what seems like a blink of an eye. Most people will never know what I was like in my 20s because now in my 30s, they assume that I've been this physically adept for the entirety of my life. You'll find that something one day. It may require a series of events to happen that seems like it might have been the worst day of your life, but that "worst day" was just a catalyst for your best days to come.
Hang in there!
You're not stupid. And you're not a loser.
Whatever u Tell her she won't belive u.
It's her journey let her discover things a little by little till a point where the Old Becomes just a story
In cases like this i prefer not giving any advice to anyone
Not because i'm Evil it's because it's meant to happen like this we can't change
Change require self discovery
Maybe Austic . Which is kinda normal. Be kind and Honest. you are ok.
Fake it till you make it.
yes she is
She needs extra help. Mayne her parents needed to give her more individual attention when she was growing up because i think she thinks she has a lot more growing up to do.
Your honesty is the best.
Confidence can be built one small step at a time. Take small, doable steps and allow yourself relapses of anxiety if they come. But CELEBRATE each step without comparing yourself to others... I wish you the best!
Refreshing to see a normal, smart, lazy, funny, beautiful person with some self doubts. Really honest, quite rare.
the only adjective that fits is lazy.
@@RichardWagner-hi4zn She's more of a winner than most every person. Why? Because she is a virgin for one reason, and it's the fault of the people who think they are better who caused this nay -shun to be 35 trillion in debt.
Im a male virgin
@@ANewChallenger-o96 What do you want, a cookie?
@@TheVirginGary no I like telling people im a virgin.
She has coworkers. She has a job.
Having co-workers is great, especially if you like each other.
Having a job is so you can pay your bills or even save some money. Almost nobody has found their dreamjob, most are just in the daily grind.
Personally I don't see the benefit of friends. Take too much time, too much energy.
To those fortunate people with friends, kudos to you. It's just not worth the effort for some.
glad to see she is getting better❤
I'm sure she even has male orbiters too
Your room doesn't look messy compared to mine, anyway. Looks okay to me.
She has 10 000 subscrivers and she said "my videos only have a couple of hundred views" 😮 what?
It's nonsense. She is just repeting what the devil is putting inside her head.
I understand she has anxiety... but *just* a couple of hundred views???
You're not a loser! I understand anxiety and depression more than you can imagine. Please keep positive and your head up. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
Depends on what her “secrets” are. If it’s that she’s a sexual sadist or attracted to dead bodies/children or something, then she kind of is a loser.
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What hides behind that opposite thing..
You’re not a loser. You’re a young, beautiful woman, with so much life ahead of you.
Not with that attitude she's not lol. Especially not the "women have life so much harder than men" mentality that she's displaying in the comments.
I'm a 43 years old virgin guy from Germany and I have to say that some things you want to be called are not completely unattainable. (BTW, some men are reserved because they don't want to be perceived as perverted or pushy.) You are a brave person, you are good looking and you could actually be quite intelligent as you sound reflected. Don't get hung up on superficial attributes.
I'm 36 btw.
You still have time, Im a virgin 61 years old, only had one girlfriend in my life when i was 19-21. I still look youthful and extremely healthy, no any joint pain, never get sick, no disease. People always get shocked when they know my age, they say I look like I'm in late 20s. I'm a 7/10 facially 6ft1 height (no aging height loss at all because I take my diet and supplement very serious), athletic lean physique, i research lots of aging topic and manage to delay my skin aging with specific natural molecule supplemens. You probably wonder why I'm still a virgin loser it's because of money. I work a government job. In my lifetime there are lots of girls whom I talked to that showed interest in me (i would say around 30-40 and I gave up after that) but once they knew that I work a gov job with average salary, they ghosted, blocked me and disappeared. For men, Life during your student years is the most important if you cant land a high paying corporate job than you can say goodbye to your dream of having a relationship. Money is truly everything. do I feel lonely?, absolutely and I dread this feeling every day and night.
Never heard of a brothel
Go around a bar and bang a milf or a good gilf if you can, get moving man, to hell with what people think, if a 60yo woman winks at you at work show no mercy just go at it. Date anything that moves (optional ) and casts shadow (preferably ) you'll get comfortable around women and embrace rejection like a true men, nothing is better at teaching in life than fucking things up. And when you get comfortable with girls just hang with the ones you like to talk with, no need to have sex or kiss them, you also can be friends with them, grow your social circle, that's how you get a girlfriend. And women are just like me and you, and if a girl likes you great, and if she doesn't, she just isn't for you, don't take it personal, you'll also reject people in the process, it is what it is, just go next.
C'mon, even heat ler had a wife, you can do this shit bro don't let me down, exercise a bit, buy some clothes a nice parfum and have fun.
@@CarlBland-l8lWhy would you want that? Literally paying for something you know is fake? No love, or even cuddling afterwards? It’s pathetic and worse than not experiencing it at all.
I am in a very similar situation right now, diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety when I was 12 and now that I am 26, I just found out 4 months ago that I am autistic, since then the way I see myself and the world has started to change, I am trying to exercise everyday, at least 10 minutes, and let me tell you, it works. Believe in yourself, seek help with a professional and find yourself, you will be fine. Your future self wishes to tell you that it is never too late.
26?????
Severe depression at 12 ?? What ?? 😂
You are taking the first step in overcoming your anxiety by talking about it.
Keep fighting for your freedom !
First minute in, I can tell you are covered in blessings. Amen I pray you're still doing great. The world always see winners as losers. It's that far skewed. Keep it up.
Male virgins: "I've never been good enough for anyone to want me"
Female virgins: "I haven't decided to do it yet / I haven't found a guy who is good enough"
Not really the same
Huh? Try flipping the genders for those statements
@@iexist7408 Why would I do that when it's already accurate? Literally all animal species operate this way. Men compete, women choose out of the winners.
@@Koroar no sir
yeah thats true guys do have it a lot harder
nah he speaking facts
@@iexist7408
Dunno why this came up on my feed. But just wanted to say. Your open and honestness about yourself is quite beautiful. Its sad to hear you have so low opinion of yourself. I hope you can find peace and some happiness in this life. Life is not easy and is ofter cruel. Ty for sharing. Love from Scotland ❤
I think you’re awesome and love your willingness to share…that’s a huge step. Anxiety sucks, stay strong. You’re not a loser, you’re beautiful!
Yer gonna marry her 😻😻
This video is great in many ways. First of all, you're not alone in this feeling and this situation of your life. Your story, that you was brave enough to tell us, can help a lot of people, because it shows they are not alone too. It happens to a lot of people in the world.
So, the second thing is that you had courage to make this video, to confess, to admit many things that you are not satisfied with your life. Oh, yes, that a lot and you can already see it by the sheer amount of attention this video has brought.
I just want to thank you for this video and wish you find that will and strength to change what you want to change in your life, little by little. Small steps are super important! Good luck!
With respect from Kazakhstan.
46 year old man here. Step dad to great 20 something boys. I was lost in life and had no direction. I was a loser but I found that giving of myself and being something to other people lifted me up. Love yourself and love the ones you have and love and peace will find you. Embrace and engage those opportunities to encourage and love others the way you want to be loved and encouraged. This is the first time I've seen a video of yours but I'm subbed now and I believe in you. Peace.
46???
@@GerLovezGermanSheps ???
@@DIYAllied weird weird to keep changing your age in comments
@@GerLovezGermanSheps interesting that you "joined" UA-cam 3 days ago.
@@GerLovezGermanSheps burner account?
Quick advice: You will never be a loser in the right eyes. You'll be loved, you'll be appreaciated, it's just a matter of perspective. :)
its called a bubble then. There is right and wrong, bad and good. Stop making her living in the bubble
As long as you're a woman :)
Would you tell the same to a 26 yo man? I guess they should be valuable and loved too in the same position.
@@salvadordulantoarrieta2865 Of course they wouldn't :)
@@dd-uy5lx Stop posting retarded comments
Time to force yourself to do new things, you’re NOT a loser. Digging yourself out of this dark place isn’t easy but worth it. You got this.
Your not a loser
Stop coddling and lying to her. She is a f**king loser. If you keep saying stuff like that she will never feel a strong enough need to make a change in her life. When are you going to realize that this positive affirmation cr*p only ends making her feel better with the situation she is on... For significant change, you need to make it so the person faces reality and understands that the current situation in untenable.
You are an absolutely beautiful young woman! I'm a 33 old man and I have huge social anxiety and depression! It sucks, but fuck those social standards, you are a big WINNER for posting this video! There is a lot of us, and you have no idea how nice it is for my sore eyes to see a sincere and simple young woman contrary to all those fake no brainers on social media, and you feel bad because of them? Don't!!! Well, easier said than done, I should know with my mental problems. BUT you made this few minutes of my day more beautiful, know that! Stay strong, I repeat, you are beautiful and very nice young woman!!!
@@ivanblazevic9353 thank you for your kind words Ivan! I like being called a winner 😄. I hope everything works out for you. The struggle is real
Ok simp
I am the real life version of the 40 year old virgin, well 41 now. I live with my mother because of fear of going my own way and medical issues with my back. Now she is as dependent on me as I am on her. I was all ways afraid of women after having so many make fun of me when trying to talk to them. My point with revealing my secret is to let you know you are not a loser at all. You are young and have your hole life ahead of you to find love. Please do not give up and hide like I have, I beg you 😢.
Siento mucho...de verdad su situacion..es pero algun dia tedes..la oportunidad...de conocer. ..a alguien😊
Blessed are the merciful for they SHALL obtain mercy. You need JESUS brother. I had direct encounter with JESUS in NJ in early 2001...
Wow you’re given a life and scared to live it
@@cicio7777 Was the encounter with Jesus in a home for the insane?
@user-tr8hr4xm1l no. In my parents home 2nd story living/TV room. House smelled overwhelmingly of dog pee from untrained terriers. JESUS encounter supernaturally removed smell of dog pee with frankincense and myrrh. I got radically supernaturally transformed and it's effects are still 100% set in my inner being 20+ years later
This honesty is a blessing. It helps people like me right now as i go through some struggles myself. So please continue!
"I exist" as a statement is the most relatable phrase I've ever read on the internet. Always remember that you are not alone in this struggle, people are just REALLY good at hiding the mental decay their experiencing. I for one get compliments on how outgoing and positive I am when in reality the only reason I am so positive and outgoing is because of how terrible my mental health is, I've just learned over time to hide my emotions and appear as the happiest person you will ever meet.
Not a looser. Very honest it seems. Pleasant to watch and listen to.
Wish you were more comfortable with things. We all struggle.
I Exist, I have lost 100 pounds, and went from smoking weed and sitting at home without a job for 20 years to moving to a new city all of my own plan and design. Moved into a new apartment, and after 9 years of unemployment, now have job and can make a living wage. I am dating and got into a 2 month relationship with a person in this new city I live in. And all of this started with one thing: I changed my internal dialogue from insulting to encouraging.
That led me to walking by the river behind my apartment. Then to hikes. Swimming. Gym, which I still maintain to this day. And the journey of loving myself.
Please try to do that one thing. It'll take work, but that will set you on the path of self-redemption. At the same time, your world will change to encourage you.
Much love from afar.
How old are you? If you don’t mind me asking
Wow, you’re a bigger loser than she is 😈 bahaha!!!’ Jk😆
I need this type of change in my life
The inner dialogue advice is a good one, hope she read it. Unless this is just some weird fringe channel to attract losers for ad money.
If she starts accepting herself and encouraging herself, she can overcome this, or get it under control.
Hey thanks man. I'll try this.
You answered my question @3:00 . Anxiety is devastating, and it leads to social awkwardness, panic attacks, isolation. Speaking from experience.
Anxiety is normal if you're expecting it some kind of danger, doesn't have to be actually dangerous.
The more you just accept it the less it happens.
when I was 26 i went through a similar phase , im 31 now and i found my way through it with music. im still a loser though lol , 31 still living at home, i dont drive, i dont have friends, i totally understand, youll get there its just very difficult finding yourself these days, do or find anything that makes you feel good.
This is the most authentic video I have ever seen on YT. Try not to worry too much. I'm 53 and still have many of the traits you describe. I have learned to accept that this is who I am, and I'm good with it now.
Choosing to be a loser is crazy
@@StevenMithers So is choosing to be an asshole...
@@StevenMithers So is choosing to be an a$$hole
@@StevenMithers So is choosing to be an a**hole.
What you're describing is what literally every single person has experienced at some point. You just have the courage to admit who you are right now. Being honest is a very attractive quality. I think you'll find that the more you open up and put yourself out into the world, the easier things get. I can tell you that everything you said I experienced myself in my 20s. I think you're totally normal and healthy. Therapy is what helped me the most. I highly recommend it. You're going to be OK.
Being honest doesn't resolve you of the burden of having to work on yourself. If you don't want to put energy into making yourself better, don't expect anyone else to have extra for you. Im in a similar boat, but its really nobodys fault for the circumstances I was born into and how I used the hand I was dealt with. I certainly wouldn't be going on UA-cam to make a video to complain about my life situation and expect that to do anything for me.
Take this from someone who is turning 44 single, divorce, handsome and alone. Who has nothing going on in his life besides work, bills, travel, homeless currently despite having plenty of means, taking care of my kid, and the world imposing on me constantly despite having something of a boring but meaningless/meaningful peaceful life unless everyone else around me disrupts it. I have plenty of artistic hobbies but no connections (I can trust anyways) to share them with. The only attention I get is commentary from people on You Tube. I watch You Tube to occupy my mind very frequently. On one hand I inherently know my worth, and on the other I feel worthless at times. We all can and do. Let it pass and try to be present and try to get out and do something new to break the cycle and pattern. Even if it is something as simple and reserved as walking a new block once a week. We love comfort and familiarities. But that very comfort and complacency prevent us from growing sometimes too.
Anyways my point. Comparison is the thief of joy.
Nobody cares about us guys Lol
I swear if we opened a channel, there'd be zero views😆
@@Sor9ry426I've seen similar videos, especially from younger guys. At least there people were empathetic and shared advice just like here, which was nice. Genuine talk seems to make viewers more empathetic.
44????
@@Sor9ry426could give yourself views from your own accounts maybe
Well said, full of truth.
Im 44 man, never married, no children, getting ready to start my 3rd career, I have such hard time connecting with people, youre a loner not a loser, in fact you are actually really the prize, I promise.
Right there with you. 47 male, never married no kids. Somehow have managed to stay at my job for about 13 years. I think about quitting every single day. Day dream of working different jobs. What a life we live.
Im 48 man, never married, no children, and still living with my parents 😢
44, woman, never hitched, no kids, good looking, inner beauty.. sad, & full of regret.
I was diagnosed with MS and went back to school to community college after 40. Went from construction work to healthcare and now over 60. You are still very young and alot of life left. My only friends were people that drink with me back when I was drinking heavy. You do have a job so that is a big plus. I always drank and smoked weed to take the edge off and easier to be around people. At least you not a user and suffering addictions along with anxiety. Use your energy positively to improve yourself instead of self pity. Looks like you are doing good on here with tons of views so making a little money here is nice for you and that's a positive.
I am a male, a virgin, I speak a completely different language than yours, living in a completely different culture, and yet I felt that you are literally talking about me and my life. I have the same exact symptoms as you have. I realize that it's a pattern associated with the same things: loneliness, low self-esteem and hiding from the world in our comfortable rooms.
You haven't met a real loser yet, he resides in Malaysia. An expat from eastern europe with a phd who ended up as refugee here with no job, no citizenship, no family and almost no money. Anxiety, depression and social phobia are my old buddies, but i managed to complete my studies despite all that. My only hope is that one day i might be relocated to another country because the country i am in now does not recognize refugees. It may sound as a platitude but try to be more appreciative of what you have. Wish you all the best and hope you get out of the depression you're in now. And pls, stop calling yourself a loser. You're beautiful and young. Peace & love.
Where are you from originally?
I like you answer, I am from east Europe, and I know there is a lot of very stupid people which you defined😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. In Slovakia, we had also already so stupid premier minister similar to this people.😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Igor Matovic brother of Donald Trump😂😂😂😂😂😂
"Does not recognize refugees"
Good. Based Malaysia
@@StarboyXL9 Exactly. Preserve culture. Fight globalism.
Its the curse of the really smart..... but you will succeed, but know 2 things, know your limits, and know what your willing to do to get there, best of luck, I never finished school when my family fell apart when I was 14, was homeless for a while as I didn't want to end up being molested in an orphanage, so I became streetwise and fell in with a bad lot, I managed to get away from that when I was 18 and went into the army was there for a few years then left it to get married and it fell through as she was humping my so called friend, so I put my nose to the grindstone and studied hard and did so for over 10 years studying many fields in IT including 5 languages, in the meantime I worked whatever job I could get, I learned a lot from each one, from dishwasher to mechanic, to system builder, repair tech, domain admin to network engineer, the world is wicked and it will crush you if you let it... you have to adapt and overcome, and time waits for no one.. best of luck dont give up, there are many of us that have been through it, and when you come through the other side you will be a stronger person for it.
Being a loser can be a state of mind, especially when you suffer from anxiety and depression. I'm a loser, not because I have crippling anxiety or depression but because I seem to have made really bad choices in opportunities and people I've involved in my life. I don't blame anyone for the way my life turned out, although I didn't reach my current situation by myself. I saw red flags and ignored them because I used to be the type of person who hoped for the best and figured as long as I did my part the best I could, things would work out well. I work hard, no drug or alcohol problems, overall pretty healthy mentally and physically. I've raised 2 great kids who are a benefit to society, and very well adjusted considering their mother and I divorced when they were reaching their teens. I hope everyday for something to fall my way, but to be honest I've learned to expect the worst because that is what I seem to get. Our expectations start to become a reflection of what we experience in life. I've come to the conclusion that it really comes down to a "balance" in the world. Not everyone can be a winner, there must be losers too. Not everyone can be successful, there has to be people who are unsuccessful. It can be really exhausting being on the losing end, but we're generally pretty resilient because we have to be. I know people who think having a tough day or a tough week is not making it to the gym on their schedule or not making their second or third night out of fun for the week, or only being able to take a one week vacation instead of the normal 2 week. You're still young, you can try to make a change in your life and see how it plays out. Some of us have nothing to look forward to but grinding out an existence until we depart this world. I hope things get better for you.
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“Lonely older men” 😂 You got me on that one. But even if I was in my 20s again, I can still relate. I always feel dumb when I talk to people cause of my poor memory. Hard to tell any interesting stories or info when my mind can’t recall anything. I hope for the best for you.
You are not a loser. Do you, love yourself and enjoy life as much as you can. One thing I have learned is to not compare my life to others. You are you, one of one. Greetings from South Africa 🇿🇦 Cape Town is a beautiful city, I hope you finish your painting and get to visit sometime in the future.
Yeah, "not compare my life to others" is a great tip. The correct way is to compare self to the self of the previous day :-)
Just FYI most guys, even attractive ones, aren't ever gonna call you "beautiful", "sexy", or "hot" and risk being labelled a creep or weird for saying that, unless you actively express interest in them. I'm sure some decent men at some point in your life have thought those good things about you but didn't have an appropriate time to express those feelings.
Yes sir
Yes, as a man I can confirm this, you rarely say anything you aren't sure you can get away with cleanly, no matter truth or lie.
stop simping
@@thoubias
💯 I’ve often seen hidden beauty in women that seem overlooked, but I get afraid too that I’ll come off the wrong way.
@@RichardWagner-hi4zn Who here is simping? Do you even know what that word means kid?
I'm a virgin male who is about to be 31, they do exist
I am going to be 32 in november in NO NUT NOVEMBER höhöhö but yeah i feel all the people with the same issue PROBLEM ...
@truthteller3024 You haven't been able to form deeply intimate bonds with women in 33 years yet are apparently rejecting them "monthly" because your standard are bonkers.
It's not possible to be an absolute stud and a virgin.
Same here. Mid-30s. My physical disability and my mindset about myself related to this is something that bothers me ton, some days worse than others.
@@truthteller3024 your standards are way too high. No way on earth you haven't met anyone in all those years
@@mrdojob my standards were the normal standards for thousands of years. I just want a normal sweet feminine wifey virgin girl who dreams of becoming a mother and cooks well! Literally the majority of females were like this before the invention of feminism recently.
So, so soothing to hear this, thank you
I have had zero luck as far as relationships go my whole life. I am single man with a cat in my 50's and that might be the way it goes. I gotta make the best of it. Please stop with disliking yourself and try to vaule who you are, I wish you good luck.
25 year old female virgin here. It’s bizarre how rare it seems to be. I feel so alone but it’s interesting to see that there are more of us. Don’t know if I would have the courage to make a video about it though.
If it makes you feel better, you have a leg up in the game if you ever want to get married any time soon. Most men are more serious with virgins than non-virgins. Matter of fact, the more pure a woman is, the better. So, pat yourself on the back for that.
Its not that rare, its just that nobody will come to you like - hi my name is Anne, i am 25 years old and i am a virgin.
in todays climate, its hard to believe a 25 year old woman is a virgin. ho3flation is real.
@@lycan2494 ^this^
@@masticloxpoker1006 Its rare, very rare. Maybe 1 out of 200 women are virgins at the age of 25. Probably 1/10 of men are virgins by that age.
I can relate to this a lot. And hey! Your channel is one of the rare ones that are authentic and genuine. This is what UA-cam was for.
Thanks Kumar. I can always count on ur uplifting comments to brighten my day ☀️
@@iexist7408 Don't forget about Harold's uplifting comments as well
@iexist7408 Youre very special!! Men PERFER women who are virgins and im sure when you meet the right man he will Greatly appreciate it ❤❤
@@Slitwheel you do not speak for all of us. Keep that toxic masculinity/trad wife searcher BS to yourself. Fetishising virginity is creepy and having disrespectful judgemental hang-ups about women is not manly.
@@iexist7408 Your issues don't exist. It's ALL in your mind. Stop the self-pity...
🤘👻👉 thanks for making these videos this is my new favorite channel.
Just wanted to say YOU HAVE VALUE despite whatever worldly achievements you have or have not accomplished. My son is on the autistic spectrum and a very high percentage of people with autism have societal anxiety and are depressed. We are bombarded with all kinds of toxins through our environments, vaccines, food, water, etc etc in which can cause this type of outlook as well. You are LOVED by your creator for just being and without doing anything. I would love to encourage you to change your internal and external dialogue to "I am loved", "I have value", "I am gaining confidence every day" and so forth. Spoken words and internal dialogue are extremely powerful and can create and manifest. We don't want to self-sabotage with our words. I did this with my son and it helped. In addition, I just went through one of the deepest valleys of my life and definitely experienced feelings of extreme isolation, depression and lethargy. I am exiting this wilderness season now but I believe everyone can relate to this at some point in their life journey. Please change your thoughts and words to positive and remember YOU ARE LOVED & NOT ALONE!!
Hey, thanks for saying this! I too am the autism spectrum and struggle greatly with my self-worth and loneliness.
Get up early, drink coffee, make goals list, chase dreams. Example- Goal #1. Clean room
From my own experience(I'm similar to her), it's very easy to say that but very hard to actually follow. I lose the "zeal" after one or two days. Then you go back to being what you are.
@@icyman2Yes, you'r right but he say what you need to do, and its that simple, do thinks like exercise, go out, meet people... Simple thinks and you will go better. Dont give up!! 💪
@@icyman2 I understand that. For me the zeal or high energy comes around when you finish something. A lot of time it only starts out w no zeal. I know it’s hard to get motivated. I try to stay in motion. You’re capable of more than you think I bet.
i agree but fuq coffee
Less complaining and more action.
Depression sucks.
The trick is to get excited about SOMETHING. I went through a year of deep depression where I didn't want to die but didn't want to "live" either. For me, I found my dream sailboat for free and have plans for the future to fix it up and travel in it, explore new places. You seem to feel depression as well. You have to find something that interests you and gives you purpose. I know that seems like an impossible task.
We all have secrets.
I'm "cute" to most people until they take the time to know me better. Then I miraculously get better looking. I much prefer that than the other way around.
I see your perfect relationship being with someone who is unanxious, calm and adventurous. These are the things you want in your life. The more you are around it, the easier it is. The more you do, the more you want to do. I wish I could help.
You can't you realize everything is temporary everything is dying...it's like instead of enjoying everything you just Dee through it ..
This sounds like everything I’ve been looking for. A woman that doesn’t need validation from social media or others. A woman that doesn’t have a long list of guys in her past. A woman that’s beautiful and physically fit. A woman that values family to still live with them, not worried about “proving herself or finding her way!” Damn, she’s putting herself down and all I can think of is “how can I meet someone like this?”
Prime SMV, but the arms are just starting to turn. 😢
I'm a 27 year old virgin and I am in the EXACT same boat. I am on the autism spectrum and I feel like an absolute idiot. I'm really bad with socializing and making friends, and holding conversations. I am subscribing to you, because you're the female version of me 😂
Also I just want to add that you're beautiful and you're more intelligent than you think!
I'm such a loser that I am still a virgin even though I have been married for more than 6 years now.
@@realDunalTrimpalright bro hold up that is not normal now. Can you explain more about your marriage?
@@lynxarcade2020 neither of us was taught how to have sex, so we don't know what to do.
@@realDunalTrimp Kind of feel like you're trolling at this point 💀 but seriously though everyone knows how to just search up an educational video on youtube.
@@lynxarcade2020 doesn't help in real life buddy, that's why your first sexual partner should always be someone with experience so that they can guide you. We have now been condemned to a lifetime of virginity. It's too late for us.
Nah you ain't a loser. Stop putting yourself down so much. Life is a journey. Just gotta catch a vibe, ya feel me
Everyone has secrets. If they say they don't they lie.
Can u give me an example
@@ilqar887 exactly he should speak for himself
@@ilqar887Mostly something that they feel is too embarrassing or too uncalled for to tell others. Might not even be something they are aware of if it is something that is not hard to hide. Could also be something that they have been entrusted with to keep confident between them and just that one other person. Or something more practical, done for gain, acceptance, lawfulness or safety reasons. Like a PIN number, a trade secret, a professional or company secret, or to never have exposed themselves to a minor, thereby keeping their body a secret from a defined group of people.
You are fine. I’m fact you are doin great. Take a deep breath. And thank you for this very very honest and deep introspection. You sound like you are very level headed. Just pump the brakes on the self loathing. You don’t need that. Everybody has anxiety so don’t let that bug ya either.
A young woman being completely honest. She's a unicorn....
At least she doesn't do Onlyfans!!
@@metalmike570 it makes you feel better to shame people who are using a platform like that to make a living? There’s more nobility in OF content creation than being a fucking soldier, cop, or politician
@@J.S.3259 LOL!
Either unicorns are real, or you forgot your Haloperidol today.
Which is logically more likely?
@@J.S.3259 cope and seethe, used up, unwanted leftovers
Enjoy your cats and boxed win. lmao.
No man would EVER want a wh**e.
Not even Jesus wants you.
I’m a 23 year old girl that watches your channel. It’s very soothing and relatable. I find your thoughts interesting, authentic, and unfiltered.
you're another woman virgin by choice
Authenticity is hard to come by and it’s calming to the soul to see another soul’s story.
23???
@@GerLovezGermanSheps well 24 now
@@sharpiesarecool814 when do you sleep?
Ngl, it was me a couple of month ago. 26M, virgin, no GF, passing to much time on YT and lazy on the side. BUT I didn't give up on life, kick myself to go out of my comfort zone. Found a job, ask one of my female friend out (she said yes and we are now a couple) and trying to go to the gym and read books.
My advice : Get out of your confort zone, try new things. Don't rush for a relationship, if you don't at least value yourself. And don't go on dating apps (worst decision for a meaningfull relationship)
My opinion about you : You are cute, you are honest and have self-reflexion. The first step before improvement is : self-reflexion and finding the problem, so you are in the right path. But you need to act after finding the problem.
Edit: Being call cute is a soft way to say beautiful in my book. I don't want to put your problems down, but almost no men don't even get call cute. At least you have compliments :|
Maybe she needs to go out with a dude like you!
Listen to this guy, lady. He's right in my estimation. I've had a very successful life, had a few kids, checked off my bucket list, etc... You've got tons of potential. It's up to you to do with it as you please.
@@metalmike570😂😂😮😂😂
Congrats on having such a happy and fulfilled life!!!!!!!
@@GerLovezGermanSheps I think I didn't read his whole statement, but you know what I mean.
I am in my 60's, I don't have natural offspring I never had a wife and the list goes on.
A lot of people can’t talk about personal things so compared to them you are very strong
My heart goes out to you. I have struggled wuth depression since I was a kid, and I hate to see anyone feel the same way I have felt so many times in my life. I felt the same way you do when I was in my mid-20s. I often still do. Its a daily struggle. I wish I could give you a big hug and take it a away.
Your feelings are valid, and you are a beautiful person for having the strength to share this online. I never would have had the courage to do what you're doing here, and I admire the hell out of you for it. Sharing your feelings is actually a good first step.
Its not that you're selfish, but I get why you feel that way. Its just that so much of your energy is being consumed by depression that everyday existence becomes a struggle, and you have nothing left to give to other people. You also seem like more of an introvert, just like me, so that doesn't make you a loser, just different. With introverts like us, interacting with others taxes our energy, so we need time alone to recharge. Depression makes that even harder. For people like us - and there are a LOT of us - holidays and social occasions in general suck.
Yet, at the same time, it's only normal - hell it's only human - to crave human contact. It's one of the basic needs that all humans have. That doesn't make you a bad person or selfish. It makes you human.
You're also suffering from anxiety, so fear of driving is totally understandable.
Hell, I'm a loser myself. My ex-wife left me, and Ive struggled to find anyone since. Ive basically given up where that is concerned. I'm a single dad. I struggle to keep up with work and chores around the house. Im on two different medications for depression. That's not to even mention my bas health, namely that I am overweight and have diabetes. I have NEVER been normal. I never go out. My hobbies consist of reading, collecting figures and reviewing movies online with my friends. Yeah, some social life I have. Oh, and I also spend WAY too much time online.
But you know what? Fuck it. Yeah, my love life is non-existent, but I have realized that I'm not in the right place for a relationship anyway. Im focusing on myself and my kids. Yeah, I worry about my kids. My daughter is grown, like you, and she still lives at home. I wouldn't have it any other way, though. She deals with anxiety just like you, and she is a beautiful person, just like you. Yeah, it's hard to balance work, duties at home and hobbies (such as they are). But hell, I'm doing my best. Yeah, I'm on medicine for depression. They do help, though, and I couldn't function without them (I've tried). Yeah, I'm fat and have diabetes. I've also started eating right and getting more exercise (just walking but still), and I have lost over 60 pounds, and my A1C is back down to normal now. Yeah, my hobbies are lame, but they are mine, and they bring me great joy and comfort. Yeah, I have no friends where I live, but the friends I have made online are still my real friends. I've even met them in person. We're all really close, and we support each other. I can't ask for more than that.
I don't know you, but just know that I am rooting for you. A lot of us have been where you are. Depression is a son of a bitch, and anxiety is, too. Together, they're crippling. I'm proud of you just for getting through the day. It took guts to share this. Believe us when we say we do care. We got you.
I just wanted to say I am a woman. And I relate to you. I don't drive. I ride the bus to work where I essentially sift through unwanted trash all day and listen to co workers talk about their lives when I really couldn't care less. I feel as if I am a terrible person for this. But it is just how I honestly feel. I feel as if there is no purpose in living this life. I have no friends or boyfriend. I live by myself in a low grade one bedroom apartment. I spend my days off and nights after work just staying in my apartment in my room only watching youtube or movies. I never go anywhere I don't have the money to take a trip or time for it. So I just exist..
Have you tried doing something like walk for exercise and for pleasure and to just get out? Maybe listen to some music that you like. 😊
Me too, just in male version, Glad to see your comment!
How many times do you make masturbation a week to relax and explore enery on you with tool or without tool?
Same here... Male, 43 living alone, working, eating, just existing. You are not alone, i think you feel like that when people talk about their trivial lives because it feels like a waste of time, there are more subject matters to you because you have an emergency to "get on " with life, so in that respect you won't be able to sympathise easily with others until you feel like you are back on track sort of speak. That's completely normal for persons in our situations. I hope i made sense, and that i didn't presume things.
Maybe take a ride on a different bus, take in the scenery, approach and talk to a stranger about whatever strikes you about them or the place / situation you both are in? Just to break the routine, take one step away from boredom and self-alienation, you know?
Highest value women:
1. Virgin
2. No debt
3. No education
4. No social media
5. Lives with dad
6. Humble
I'm also kind of going through this. I'm 30 years old, semi-attractive male who fell into depression. I used to be full of life and have a big friend group but that is all dwindling. You are not alone. Exercise is the one thing that is helping me get through this and have confidence in myself. Thank you for sharing.
Somewhere out there, you’re someone’s type. The hard part is figuring out how to meet them.
Btw, you don’t have to live up to other’s’ standards for what’s “normal” or “smart”. It took me a long time to learn that one. It also took me a while to learn that there’s no shame in having therapy
🙋♂️ yea mine
Thats right. Well put.
Many people would say that such a lack of confidence and whiney attitude is not attractive.
We attract WHO WE ARE NOT WHAT WE WANT that’s the law
I didn't start doing things with my life until I was 27, you'll get there. You got this. I believe in you.
As someone approaching 27, what do you mean?
What I mean is eventually, at some point, you'll realize whatever you're doing is not working and keep finding out other ways to manage - and one of those will work, or at least 'work out' in a way you can manage. @@sergeantdoomkin8873
@@sergeantdoomkin8873 Earning capital most likely and/or being in a relationship
Just want to say thanks for making this vid. I'm literally the male version of you lol same age, same anxiety, etc. I'm trying to turn it around while I still have time and hope you're able to as well.
I'm basically a male version of you just 1 year older and actaully not even having a job :). Thank you for sharing
Get a job then.. it's like a bare minimum accomplishment for a provider.
@@juliapigworthyDo you know whether the OP has kids or not ? Why would you without appropriate knowledge about his life make such a pointless remark about him assigning him responsibilities he hasn't taken up himself. What if he's unemployed because of mental or health issues he has no control over? It's like telling someone homeless to just get a home without knowing what knowing what made them homeless in the first place. Remarks like yours are disgusting and are uncalled for. A fool would be thought of as wise if they kept quiet. Some thoughts you should just keep to yourself.
@@shadrachemmanuel1720It's called tough love. People like you are encouraging bad behaviors by making excuses. I've seen people confined in wheel chairs making ends meet. I've seen people who lost limbs still are motivated to press on with their lives.
@@juliapigworthy provide for who?
@@firefly9838 a paypig-master or multiple?
Social media shouldn't just be about "showing your lifestyle" but sharing your hobbies/crafts/passions. Thats a much better and more fulfilling use of it imo
So, I've felt the same way about myself in my younger years, you're not alone here.
One thing to always remember...focus on your core values, do you treat people well, honesty, kindness, empathy. These solid traits define a good person, and trust me, the world and (good) people will respond to that.
Be good to yourself, always!
I share many aspects with you especially laziness and privacy/introversy. Though I'm not a loser and I'm quite happy almost every day. It feels like the difference is mostly psychological: I permit myself certain levels of laziness and weirdenss and 'losery'. And value my desire to be real.
Loving yourself is very normal. As well as selfishness (if properly balanced). Then you can dream/imagine yourself (in your heart) in all the beauty (go beyond and imagine even the unimaginable levels of beauty) which will create a constant pull for a natural change. That way you can cast better version of yourself into existence without struggle and using just love and passion.
This is my first impression of this channel and I enjoyed this video very much. Hopefully, you're happier these days and Cape Town is getting closer.
BTW, I'd love to discuss such topic on a date :) And you remind me of my wife :D She's also very prone to anxiety and laziness. Accept yourself and get a bit of external support and enjoy having 'abnormalities', we're all unique🙏😊. And beauty is in the eye of beholder and the most intimate beholder is you yourself.
Keep your head up. I'm 49 and live across the country from my family. Life beats me up everyday.
49????
I clicked on this video because it was not a generic UA-cam video from a generic UA-cam channel. Your personality is actually a gift in this world. I think you may have to process some traumas and work through some things and you will eventually see just how gifted you are and how much you really have going for you. Sometimes trauma can go way back to when we were very small children or toddlers. And sometimes our parents can have their own undiagnosed issues like personality disorders which have caused them to unconsciously or even consciously traumatize us. You may have to dig deep to get to the root of this depression and nihilistic state of living. Anyhow see you around you sexy beautiful thing you.
You’re not a loser. You’re still so young, you can still do just about anything. And in an extremely phony world, you are brave enough to be honest, which means you’re helping people who feel the same way. You are helping other people who feel lonely. Trust me, you are. That is huge. I wouldn’t pay much mind to people who question you, they don’t know your situation as you do. You have a very pleasant speaking voice and I’m now a subscriber. Please take care of yourself, be good to yourself, you deserve it. Thank you. 🙏
0:32 to be your age and a virgin is actually something to brag about.
If she's internally dissatisfied with it, I can't see why she would brag about it.
You’re a weirdo homie
No it's not
@@cultmeccaBecause he doesnt want a girl with 10 preowners? Lol get real.
@@origaminefretami3480 thinking about women as things to be owned is why you’re a weirdo homie
Im also a loser, I have horrible existential anxiety 24/7 and around people, I no energy, motivation, house ridden, no job I hate people, too dumb to understand school, all F's, can't understand people when they speak also sometimes, my brothers and 1 friend just don't get me or how hard life is. I can't stand talking on the phone, never had a real lover, everyone just used me and now I'm asexual 😂Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable! Seeing this 9 months later ha so I don't know if you'll read this but almost everything you said describes me to a T, you also have a self awareness and amazing vibes that other people don't, the first thing I thought before watching this video was wow this girl is gorgeous! I used to think I was hideous for a long time too till I turned 30 so I hope you can see how beautiful you truly are someday and that you're not a loser, you are very strong, dealing with mental health, it truly is a full time job that we don't get paid for and no one will ever understand, but try to love yourself cause you deserve it and fuck what anyone else thinks, you're one of the best genuine souls out here in this mad world ❤ You are natually beautiful and you don't have to change anything one bit! You should look up Stephanie Lange, she helped my self confidence so much
u r beautifiul 2
None of that is true I'm sure your an amazing woman what other people think doesn't matter it's what's inside your heart that does
If you ever feel like a loser again, you reach out to me, because there's nothing that either one you should make you feel that way..
Yes but your not a virgin which means you've been plowed
Existential crisis and self awareness kills
Depression. Ask your family doctor about this. Its very tough.
I don t think she's depressed. Rather disappointed
Let’s face it - this is a competitive life. We all have to try at some point. I believe you when you feel low self-esteem. As a 73 year old retired guy, I don’t feel as egotistical as I used to feel.
You’ve created this UA-cam channel, and you are certainly appealing! You’ll see, things will get better soon.
26 is still pretty young. Just make some goals and follow them!
26 is young enough to turn your life around but you need to have the drive to do so
You are actually the realest person,just admiting everything your saying and having the courage to show your face is Brave!I wish more people talked about their insecurities.I have so much respect for you and not being afraid to upload such deep thoughts and feelings.
But she’s playing the victim card and that’s her reality
@@DMRCapitalHill how exactly, could you elaborate. To me it feels like the only thing she blames for her behavior is herself
This video is very grounded, I feel a sense of humility coming from this woman, and a lot of what she is experiencing is actually reminiscent of what a lot of people are going through in the americas. Some people never find motivations, some people find it late in life, but some times its trying something new that can make us with youth feel energized. I personally have been trying to do things that energize me as I get closer and closer to mid life. One day the boring, lame, and mundane will be all that's left to energize us in old age.
Purpose allows discipline. Discipline allows you achieve when eb and flow of motivation comes and goes.
Your young and have the whole world ahead of you 👍 Take your time to become a stronger you 💪🇬🇧
Girl you are beautiful 💗 inside and out. It sounds like to me you possibly have a depressive disorder (I am diagnosed Major Depressive Disorder). It sounds like you also have some social anxiety, which is totally normal for many soft souls these days. I can tell you are an intellectual who probably imagines every possible catastrophic event that could happen if you reach outside of your comfort bubble. I have PTSD from a serious heart issue, so I understand that feeling. Trust me when I say you are beautiful, and being a virgin at 26 in this day and age is actually so SPECIAL! You have the chance to find someone you connect to intellectually and emotionally, and to share that special moment with them in a way many young girls today will never understand. Take some time to yourself. Get your nails painted, find women who inspire you (not women who make you feel less then), and aspire to find a new and feminine side of yourself. Sit outside in the sun for just 10 minutes a day. Eat healthy and be hydrated. Take small steps every day to loving yourself, and finding nurturing environments for yourself. And most important of all love yourself on this journey of life. Your soul is so kind and honest and there’s just not enough people out there like you. I know there’s someone out there for you who is looking for someone just like you 💗
Social media is so manipulative and malignant. Even though it is hard for all of us, we need to get off of our phones and computers and resist living too much in the online presence of others. Do things for yourself, first 🫶🏻 you are worthy and it may take some time to feel that way but just start being kinder to yourself if you can 💗
Don’t give up on yourself, love 💗 it may not seem like it reading this but I can tell there is such potential in you. Take up a new hobby, and discover yourself! You never know what you may thrive in, but you have to give it your all 💙 and learn to grow through the pain with self love.
Good luck and safe travels in this wild but secretly beautiful world 🌎
You're a special & benevolent person boo. Never stop being yourself
I like you am a major depressive. I also have anxiety issues sometimes social but for the most part, I have live the life. I have a now six-year-old as of August 29 now her mother was borderline personality. I don’t see that in this woman. I just think she’s antisocial and an introvert and obviously something else that I can’t diagnose, I’m not a doctor but she’s awesome. She’s beautiful and I just wish that she would realize this. I’m sure you realize that it’s not because you are beautiful, but you have to know from being smart from being beautiful. It’s a factor of many things to make one beautiful in my opinion, the age of the Internet has lot of women and men especially with dating is it OK for women to sleep around and still to sleep around and as a guy to see all the sad DNA test everywhere I’m glad I don’t have to worry about that, even though my ex is a pain in the ass I’ve been dealing with her Five years in court still going on more. Well, I seen your comment Erika and it was a beautiful comment because it explains a lot about mental health and that’s what I tried to teach people so thank you and may God bless you
You're a vegan activist? No wonder you wrote such a kind and compassionate message.
Agree. A lot of women feel depressed because they think they are not beautiful but they are.
@@GriffinDuyThespian Thank you- that means a ton
You’d be surprised how much things improve when you just clean your room. It’s transcends just cleaning your room and it’s all correlated with other facets of life.
That's the dumbest shit I ever read. I know very sucessful, intelligent, and / or attractive people whose places look terrible. It has 0 correlation. You might as well use your zodiac sign to explain things. Equally stupid.
Work begets work
Thanks Jordan peterson
Thanks Lobster king Jordan
😂😅@@yellymack8981
Trust me you’re not alone, you’re not the only one that feels this way and has these problems, I used to be like this, but after getting a job at a restaurant I had to talk to hundreds of strangers every single day even if I didn’t feel comfortable, but after doing this for a year or so I started feeling more comfortable and confident. so trust me you will overcome this problem if you want to, and don’t talk down about your self, that just makes it worse, you’re NOT a loser you are you, and that makes you special. Everyone has insecurities and NOBODY is perfect. Just keep pushing yourself forward and you’ll get to where you want to be ❤❤
I hear you focusing on the negatives. Lets work on your assets and look for a solution which would involve gaining a different perspective. I can relate to you, and find it necessary to think differently so I dont get self destructive.❤
Sounds like you're a human being trying to figure stuff out like the rest of us. Life is what you make it. Don't compare yourself to others. Joy is a choice and it can take time to build a life you are happy with and proud of.
0:47 welcome to the club
And How old are you?
Its not about showing off..just be yourself...
Finding a woman that's a virgin is like finding a mint 1968 Mustang GT 500 abandoned in a barn.
That starts right up!
Sounds Like the same odds of finding Elenor in grandpas old garage
Bro ur horny. She's admitting a lot of red flags
Finding a woman who is a virgin in her 30ies is way easier than you think. Finding the one that is not an absolute useless train wreck mentally - they just don't exist.
You don't want to find them, trust me!
The sad truth is that this is more common than you think
This is relatable. Probably more than you think. I'm pretty much in the same situation than you at the moment so i totally understand how you feel.
But i just want to say, all this doesn't make you a loser. Being boring is ok, never have been a relationship is ok, being mentally unwell is ok, being lonely is ok, being average looking is ok.
It doesn't make you a bad person, please understand that. Life is hard, sometimes unreasonably so.
I hope you'll find happiness❤
The only time you are truly free is when you are alone free from the manipulation and scrutiny of others
Imagine if a guy made a video like this. I’m in a similar situation, but if I posted a video like this, I’d get 10 views and no people would care. But I hope shit gets better for you. Keep your head up and stay strong💪🏾 You aren’t a loser. You are very genuine which is hard to find these days.
proobably we would get such comments to ''fuk yourself be man not a pusy!'' :DD and many other hateful stuffs
Bro, I’m going to reveal a brutal secret: nobody gives a shit about you if you’re a man. Just look at the previous comment, you’ll just be called an incel who needs to touch grass and take showers, and your problems will never be addressed.
@@tshegom03because if a woman is unable to find a man, it’s 100% because her standards are too high, men pursue women, women do not pursue men, men get what they can get, women skim off the top
@@tshegom03 she is technically the incel
@@tshegom03but he's right, if its a guy no one feels sorry for him
Guys, she is one of us now 😢
Indeed maybe if we are believe in the revolutionary theory
So many Indians on the internet 😅
Hahaha good one .😅. It does suck tho man😢
Find something you're good at, get rid off selfpitty and don't compare yourself to others. To me, you seem just fine. Wish I had you as a friend. Stay strong, much love from Germany! 💪
At the time of viewing this. 18.5 thousand subscribers, seems pretty good to me. You're clearly doing something right.