Toxic Mother-In-Law? Here's How You Can Handle This
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- Опубліковано 21 жов 2022
- The Mother-In-Law Syndrome is a problem that many families face. It is a serious problem that can drastically affect the emotional health of most families. It can also be an obstacle to healing due to the depression most women face in such marriages. Is there something that can be done about it? Absolutely yes! Watch this video to know more.
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Luke Coutinho is a globally renowned Holistic Lifestyle Coach in the field of Integrative and Lifestyle Medicine and a pioneering figure of preventive care in the country. His approach towards prevention and disease management revolves around four pillars of lifestyle, namely: Balanced Nutrition, Adequate Exercise, Quality Sleep, and Emotional Detox.
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7 years of trying to please my in laws constantly, I realized that I was slowly becoming a door mat. One day I ripped the band-aid, was painful and I was labeled cruel but it was so worth my peace of mind. Now at 40, I couldn't have been more happy. I let my husband maintain his relationship with his mother but I am out and there is no looking back. Their loss, not mine.
Just like me...but now she hates her son (my husband) too...and she is the eldest in her family so she has made sure no relatives talk to us anymore
@@Aan_2012more peace for u who needs relatives
Same ❤
@@Aan_2012better ...less people..less fuss
Wonderful
True...imagine being in a relationship where you are not feeling accepted and face subtle criticism for almost everything...where you are not appreciated . How can you call that person your mother or think that place your home...the constant comparison, criticism and making you feel not good enough plus no emotional support of your spouse and not acknowledging the toxic nature of his mother causes emotional stress to a woman.
Thank u Luke for atleast addressing it and unlike others who would just gaslight women, as if it’s all delusional. It is fact that MIL syndrome exists. Trying to control, showing superiority and purposely interfering in son’s married life is the worst thing few women do that leads to destroy the families
It’s not really about toxic mil, fil, dil, sil. It’s about toxic PEOPLE, who are anywhere and everywhere !!
It's the first time someone is speaking of this issue, the toxicity existing in our society. It's a relief 😊
I am a daughter in law , been in the family for 30 years and the expectations are skyrocketing and there is no end to it. We are told right from the start that we must adjust to save the marriage . Its the girls who are to sacrifice always..this is our society.☹️
True
that was a roller coaster of emotions watching this Luke! i didn't know whether to laugh, cry or admire you more😃. You are so right in so many ways.. Keep spreading the truth, love and healing... 🌼
Now the daughter in laws are well educated and self independent, they should be considered as daughter in love not maid with no salary, joint family has become curse for women these days. specifically after having a child.
My wife was sick and in hospital once. My MIL called my parents and blamed them and my family for her being sick saying the don't pray to God enough and that's why my wife got sick
This is so true. I had to take counselling to get my confidence back after all the torture from MIL to my husband and me
Me too
I’m in therapy to deal with in laws who should be in therapy t👀😞
This is a topic which cannot be undernined because the syndrome exists. The degree may vary but it has affected a lot of young daughter in laws and son in-laws. Be it emotional or physical it does take a toll on the health. Thank-you for bringing this awareness. 😇
A big thank you luke sir for adressing this problem🙏🙏 almost in every community women suffer from this..women pay tolls of their health to please MIL all the time..husband dont want to hurt his mom but to hurt wife ...thats worst part of story..
All the time women should do all chores despite of education is real cause of stress...its big problem now a days ...nothing changed here
I realized early in my marriage that no 2 woman must share the same kitchen.
Exactly ...i am married 6 years back and living with inlaws ...they are well educated ...yet i suffered alot just because of two women mother in law and sister in law ...i have multiple health issues , mentally physically ill...few months back we started living separately things got better ...and it happened because of my husband who stand for me ...and now he is a bad son for both of them ...
This is absolutely true. Kitchen should always be separate
@@rss2009 Reading your comment felt like I was reading my story exactly. But I haven’t moved out yet as the husband doesn’t really support the idea of living in a different house from the parents in the same city. After a really really hard time and after having a baby we’ve decided to move out of the country. I hope that’ll change things for better.
@@vijetabhatia5969 it will definitely change dear . 1st time in last 6 years i am out of anxiety and panic attacks .. much much better and happy .....I could not sleep earlier...this though coming back in mind that why me , what i have done wrong .I loved them the day i saw them ....gave my 6 years to them ....My parents brother husband all of them supported me . They did not say anything to them but they advised me to leave separately if things are not getting better and my health was detoreating . Was on antidepressant ...Now out of medication .Meditating daily and exercising ...going out in sun just to heal myself ...i have 2 little kid 5 year and 1 year 10 months old as well ....A bad relationship can do this much harm to a person ..i never though this .....I pray to god no one go through this during pregnancy and child care specially ....I pray for you my dear ....Sab kuch aapki life me achaa ho aap happy aur healthy rahe...alag rahne se hi chije thik ho sakengi...
I totally agree. I hope my husband can see that too
What a crucial and real problem addressed by Luke here. Thank you for openly speaking about it.
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wow. Amazing content, how come more people aren't covering this? It's a HUGE issue. We have been together for 14 years. I've WASTED 14 years and I'm sick to my stomach about the waste of time. Anyway, I'm out of here, my husband and his mom and his sister can have each other. I can't do this anymore.
I know one thing for sure, I will NEVER EVER destroy my son's marriage and I will be more sensitive to the sacred unity that he and his wife will have as a result of this form of torture.
I'm hurting so badly for my kids, everything else is perfect, except for the fact that my husband won't stand up to his disrespectful and cunning mom and sister. His poor dad, is a victim to these females as well. They have literally taken the testicles from the dad and my husband thinks this is the way that men are supposed to be.
Are there any sure fire ways to know if a mother in law will be a problem? I should have stuck with my original plan of marrying an older more mature and established man, that way there was a better chance that his mom would be dead.
Thank you so much for this video. This is so true and it really exists. I experienced this for 3 and a half years n was still willing to sacrifice myself and own happiness to continue with the marriage for the sake of wanting the marriage to work. I went through continous emotional and verbal abuse. Always being compared to her and her family. Always been insulted, always picking on my family and my upbringing because it was different to theirs. Always competing and then even though I still wanted it to work. He eventually ended it because he felt he wants his mother to be happy so I should leave n they can be happy together. Was tough... Almost a year now. But my health has improved mentally emotionally and physically being away from toxic people. This is so true though there really is a MIN Syndrome. Very scary and sad.
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Yes this is true... it hurts soo bad when you are not even considered in the house.. not accepted, always blamed.. always taunted.. the house feels like a cage to you.
If you try to please them you will end up in slavery with depression..
So go ahead get out of this environment and start your new life with new positivity.. it will help you in growing.
Such a good topic this ‘man’ has chosen. I seriously didn’t think someone would choose this. That someone would ask the women and also the men in postion. Those who suffer only would understand. Respect and love to him💕 Sir!! i cant express what my heart feels for you now as a person suffering from anxiety and many other diseases due to this!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻
I am immunocompromised due to medication I take for a genetic autoimmune disease, Ankylosing Spondylitis. For decades, I didnt know what was causing chronic pain, fatigue, brain fog and other symptoms. At age 42, I was accurately diagnosed with Ankylosing Spondylitis, Fibromyalgia, and Congenital Cervical Spinal Stenosis; aka born with a narrow spinal canal.
For about ten years of the pain being chronic, my MIL would say things like, "it can't hurt that bad", and would compare her pain to mine. When I was diagnosed, it continued.... And worsened. She would tell me, "I wish you had a higher pain tollerance like my family", "I have arthritis, it can't hurt that bad", "my neice has fibromyalgia, you cant have chronic pain too", I wish you would let FIL (with Dementia and one leg) to live with you but you're not a caretaker like my family, "I wish you were a hard worker like my family", "Your childhood wasnt that bad"..... < I was mentally physically, emotionally, phsychologically abused by my narcissistic bipolar stepdad...... My parents divorsed when I was agr five because my dad molested my big sister......>. Then when the covid pamdemic came it was, "family cant get family sick", "its just allergies", "let me in, I won't get you sick" (while banging on the front door and windows), "You are not immunocompromised", "you are not high risk of covid", "there is no such thing as an autoimmune disease", "You're making it up", "You are ruining the family", "family don't just abandon family" (even though the ghosted my son and I for 2 years when my husband lived with and took care of his dad , until we got his dad into assisted living specifically for dementia patiants.....), Ahemm..... "Covid isnt real", "covid is just a cold", "I need proof of your medical condition", I need a doctors not stating you need boundaries, you are being too hard on MIL, but family!!!!!!
My husband has stood by my boundaries, but I do feel the pressure from other in-laws. I have learned when I start feeling drained, or if the conversation is either asking why I am still taking immunosuppressant medication for a genetic disease.... Or start pressing about boundaries, I excuse myself and go home. One thing, being immunocompromised, I dont do indoor gatherings, whether its public, private or with family.... Outdoor events, I am good with. I have tried to set up outdoor family gatherings during clement wheather, but seems to be met with push back and drama. With that being said, I stopped trying to reach out with the olive leaf, I am tired of being the only one reaching out with the olive branch, just to be burned......
* Married for 23 years, but I didn't realize what it was until my pain became chronic. Since I was diagnosed so late (his dad with Dementia and his mom's health went first, up until his dad went into assisted living).... I was actually diagnosed at age 42, Ankylosing Spondylitis has done it's damage, and I am disabled. I have accepted this and am working on Radical Acceptance, Isness, Boundaries, Self Love Self Care. Luckily, my husband has respected my boundaries, but some days, I know the pressure from his mom and family is gnawing at him.... I know he will be asking me when we can go back to normal...... What normal? Things have changed. I manage Ankylosing Spondylitis, and have to take immunosuppressants for the rest of my life. I have to be mindful and stay healthy as immunocompromised means I could easily land in the hospital from a cold, flu, covid.... Any virus. It's not going back to "pre-diagnosis" times.... It is what it is...
Thank you Luke for putting up this video! Its sad its exists and ur just one who spoke about it! U mentioned that staying away from joint family would help but in todays times there are nuclear families and inspite of that Mother-in-laws control their sons life over the phone! How to deal with somethg like that!and how to deal when husband doesnt realise at all!
Hats off to you dear Luke, very well explained. So real, half of my married life was destroyed by this so called MIS. Glad you touched on this topic. May God bless you always🙏
Amazing Luke! Thanks for talking about this very important topic!
I wish I could see this video one year back before my marriage where I wish I could have known how to deal with her. Well better late than never.
Most common and need of the times, subject. Thank you Luke 🙏
Luke, this was an amazing topic for today. Hats off to you 👏 ❤️
Thank you Luke!! First time ever someone spoke about this openly!!! Kudos !! Xoxo from Lex!!!
Finally,you spoke about it.
Why women need to fulfill unrealistic expectations of their in laws and husbands ? Why they have unrealistic expectations from their daughter in laws ?
Few days back I was talking to a guy regarding marriage and he wants a girl who is working ! Okay right ! Then he doesn’t want a girl who is into teaching okay fine his preferences from his spouse ! He wants a girl who is working in corporate! What isn’t acceptable was he doesn’t believe that a teaching job is a job he thinks that woman will remain free ! He doesn’t want to help his women in household work because he thinks it’s responsiblity of a girl to do household work ! He said he or his mother will not help ! He wants someone who will takecare of his old mother ! The girl asked about househelp he said that won’t be possible because he doesn’t like to have househelp ! He doesn’t even want househelp for cleaning and utensils! He thinks women will remain healthy if she works more and more and the problem like pcod is arising because women doesn’t like to work as if other things she is doing is not even considered as work ! Aren’t we women are humans ? He even wants to control her earnings ? And then society blame girls for everything great 👏🏻 one girl very politely said to him that it is not possible for a girl to house work and career together unless men give his 50% he said to me have a look on working women views ! How much ego and attitude girl’s have ! But failed to realise the fact that he lacks empathy for his own wife !
And adding onto this he was literally conditioning me ( at least I left like that ) that but you seems a nice person you seems adjusting! Blah blah ! So I felt what he meant was that I am a nice person only till I keep my mouth shut won’t utter a word and keep doing everything for them ! I mean disgusting and pathetic people
Save other women from these toxic men, he wants women who earn, do household chores, and stay with him and his toxic parents.
hats off luke for telling the facts
Thank you Luke!!!
You know what, I decided to live with in laws and never trust any of the and I will be stranger of them all.
Thank you for this; understanding doesn't solve anything, but it helps. I had a lumbago crisis after realizing I (and my husband) are dealing with such a character... she played a really bad one on us. The back problem went away, but I developed tinnitus immediately afterwards, which can be triggered by emotional pain. It is driving me nuts!
You can try reading our blog on this too. And write to info@lukecoutinho.com for personalised guidance by Luke or Team Luke.
love you Luke ❤️
The toxic mother-in-law may be a narcissist.
Absolutely! The men will never understand this syndrome. 😁
A women always is a piece of adjustment. It’s always expected to adjust in new family….Smart mil are the ones who shows their originality once their son gone to office. 😀 n different person when son is back to home… 😅
Out of 10 women’s I know all are victims of such syndrome!!
And their are 1 percent women’s who r good and accept DIL and daughter… for whom DIL is the syndrome. 😂.
Count me in
I'm suffering frm her and his brother's wife for last 28 yrs bcs no support frm husband as I'm financially dependent
I was just thinking of the way you rightly addressed this mil syndrome which happens in so many families. All serials on television keep focussed on this drama without any solution. They tend to aggravate situations at home.
Quite good!
I think the vidai system has some toxicity attached. Couple should choose the place to establish their marriage.
But how do we deal with it ? If we are not able to leave the MIL then how can we manage ? It's so exhausting for me, I feel suffocated, I feel tired because of all the stress my mind takes. I don't have any solution and I am scared for entire life.
Mother In Laws.they don't realise it but for them the sons are their emotional husbands they're filling the void which has been left by the father himself he didn't work with his wife he didn't sort issues and didn't give her the love and the required affection and attention. Bus yahin se hoti hai zindagi khrab. Then she starts competing with his son's wife and want to prove his son that she's better she knows better she's the great👍
Truely agree with Luke..u choose burning topics 😂.. but i feel if it's mil syndrome or sil fil etc syndrome..bottom line is we as a family fail if such things happen..it not only destroys one's self esteem also many relationships at one go.. families should learn to share open communication must be entertained..mil syndrome's one major cause is lack of open minded communication.. feeling of one's authority..but we forget family is a circle not pyramid..
Being a doctor I am also suffering because ppl in the family think it happens in all family. Somehow this time made them to have a relationship counseling at least. I don't know how much it will work
I am a victim of MIS, my husband has defended me definitely but I still feel like I lack emotional support because he avoids the topic. I'm left in many cases left to seek for people to support me emotionally. On the other hand, my mother in law is not giving up either, she wants her son on her side. What do you do in this case...
same here😢
Thank you. As impossible as it may sound to imagine a person liking their in - laws more than their parents, in some cases, it happens to be true. Humble,polite loving and all things nice. It is very natural to automatically get attracted to people who are more giving. Gone are the times when in - laws were only portrayed as the negative characters in someone's life. People are coming around to be more accepting, understanding and faithful.
I am a victim and now I’m tired and I’m exhausted after years. It’s to late because I thought my husband would overcome his fear of her but he probably never will
Luke i have mil fil sil and unsupportive husband , thnks for raising such issue but no solution , no one understands me , I'm the always wrong person , at times feel like committing suicide or leaving them but for my child ....
@Sarita Shah...Please stand strong and confident and take care of your health
Wiah! Happens to other people in urban India!
You should do a video on how to overcome this
Pls do a video on toxic grown step daughters
Thank you 😢 my mother in law tried to fight me physically. Said I was taking her son away I almost had a stroke 4 days ago.
Omg! I have experienced yelling and emotional violence from my mother in law. It is devastating! Take care of yourself and stay away from her at all costs!!!
Sir....first of all let's change this 'marrying and getting into another family' concept for woman. That's the issue. If men were asked to do the same things will they be ok? The only solution to this is let's NOT FORCE joint family system. People who are happy together, let them be. People who don't get along well, must be give the option to move out. By moving out I don't mean not looking after the parents or cutting cords.Some people are better off and peaceful in thier own space.
Make video on toxic daughter in law as well.
Thank you Luke for taking up this topic. I have been through both mil n sil syndrome and got mental breakdown within one year of marriage as both tried to dominate n control me.
You are not alone in this. I’m going through same. Be brave and stand for your self esteem.
Same...25yrs and still im stuck
Luke❤
U are noted this problem,Iam marred for 25years still not accepted all decesion s are took by inlaws husband also not consider me
Luke plz make a video about which is better one child or two child
SOME OCCURRENCES DURING THE 3 YEAR PERIOD
Tampered Beef chilli fry:
In the first month of marriage, the first dish that the newly married young daughter-in-law was excited to make was, beef chilli fry and she did so, and it turned out to be super yummy and looked like a stunner. Her hubby was busy relishing it in his plate and she too was loving it, then she saw her mother-in-law making sour faces, so she wondered if a little more salt was needed or something. Her in-law too the opportunity to say, “Yes it needs salt. It’s so insipid.” She did not argue as it did have salt and was in no way insipid at all, but okay some people like the extra zing so she sprinkled little more on hers and on her in-law’s share just to see the difference. Well it already tasted great but the light sprinkle of salt on top gave it an extra zing. She asked her in-law how was it after the salt sprinkle and her in-law said, “Yes, it is fine now.” So the young newly married woman was very happy with her dish and told her family she would get some for them the next day. But when she woke up the next morning, guess who was tempering with her dish… her dearest MIL of course. She asked her in-law what was she doing and why? Her in-law said, “Your dish was so insipid it needed salt.” When she looked at her dish, she noticed that it had been watered down. She said to her in-law “You say it needed salt, but then why is the whole dish looking so different and looking so watery?” Her in-law replied, “Your dish was dry, had no gravy, no curry, it needed gravy.” She explained to her in-law that she had made a beef chili fry, which was not meant to be a gravy or curry and that it was not insipid, and that only a little extra salt could have been just sprinkled on top if anything had to be done. She argued that it was insipid and that she should pack the dish that she fixed. She told her in-law that she wanted to take the dish she made and she told her family she would. Her in-law said, “Yea, yea, this is the dish that you only made, look I have only added salt because it was insipid and water because there was no gravy, it is your dish only.” The newly married young daughter-in-law was in a rush and she had no time to argue and she did not want to argue nor make a big deal nor did she want to complain to her family about her in-law. So she took her tampered with dish and her family tried to humor her and encourage her upon tasting the dish, saying, “Not bad, so nice that you are now cooking at your mother-in-law’s home.” She did not want to complain about her in-law and how it had actually tasted so good before. But when she returned back to her in-law’s home, dearest MIL was on the phone with her mother and told her mother this…”What did your daughter cook? She does not know how to cook. What she made was so hopeless, bland and insipid. What you ate was what she made. she made the dish so good and made it tasty. What she made was hopeless.” Then her in-law said to her “I spoke to your mother and told her that what you had made was so insipid and hopeless and what she ate was her dish. she made it so good and tasty.” The newly married daughter-in-law wanted to tell off her mother-in-law, but she controlled herself and just remained silent. After this mother-in-law called out to daughter-in-law to tell her something “I want to tell you something, she said, “ You know honestly, I never approved of you, I did not want you, because I knew you would not be capable of much, you would not be able to do things, I knew you would not know how to cook or do anything, but I had no choice but to be okay because my son chose you, God alone knows why, God knows what he sees in you, why he went for you, so many nice girls were after him, wanting to marry him, but he somehow chose you, God knows why, maybe it was for looks. But you should have known how to do things already and you should learn something. When I was your age, my how much I did, I did so much and such a lot and people would just praise me so much for my cooking, you don’t know how much I used to cook and in bulk and everyone was so in awe of me.”
Tampered Pork vindaloo:
In the second year of marriage, the daughter-in-law threw a big birthday party for her hubby and invited both sides of our immediate families home for a feast. She made everything from appetizers to desserts. Everybody was loving all the dishes and voicing out compliments and praises and then sent her messages of how much they loved the food. She was very happy. The dish that people praised the most was the pork vindaloo. She then noticed that her in-law did not look happy. The next morning, her in-law was in the kitchen tampering with her dish. All of a sudden there were 2 pork dishes sitting on the stove. Her dearest mother-in-law said to her, “Come here and taste these dishes.” She walked over and saw one dish looking like the one she made and which everyone loved and another looking like some watered down dish. Her in-law told her to taste the watered down dish first. She tasted it and it was so bad, it was just some watery nothing with some pork pieces floating in it. Her in-law then told her to take a spoonful of the dish that looked like the one from the party and so she did take a spoonful and realized it tasted like her dish and so the daughter-in-law said, “Yes this one is my dish, what I made yesterday.” Her dearest mother-in-was was furious and said to her, “Liar! How dare you say this is your dish. This is not your dish. Your dish is that watery hopeless insipid dish which tastes so bad and looks so bad. This dish which looks so nice and vibrant in color and tastes so good is mine. Look at the way you cook…so bad and see how she cook… so well I cook.” The daughter-in-law affirmed to her mother-in-law that the watered down mess was not her dish, but that was what her in-law just did, and the other one was hers. Her in-law was so furious and kept called her daughter-in-law a Liar.
Tampered Sausage gravy
One time, when the young working daughter-in-law made a sausage gravy, somewhere in the first few months of marriage, at the last moment before plating up, her in-law went against her will and poured a stale old leftover bean dish cooked by mother-in-law into the freshly cooked dish cooked by daughter-in-law and it ruined the flavor and smell of the freshly made pork sausage gravy dish and made it foul.
Eggs and frankfurters:
One day, when the young working daughter-in-law was in a rush to go to work and had a long day ahead she decided to make a dish with eggs, chicken sausages and chill fry. Now what happened was when she was shaking the pan and tossing the ingredients, a very small fire entered in for a brief second or two and went off immediately but she made a shocked sound and her mother-in-law said “What happened?” She replied, “Nothing nothing, everything is fine” and she coughed once, because in kitchens while cooking or frying, sometimes the air may get slightly smoky. Just then her mother-in-law coughed after she heard her daughter-in-law cough. Anyway the young working woman whipped it up together quickly, packed her lunch and was headed off to work. Her Mother-in-law asked her while she was leaving and at the the door, “What were you doing in the kitchen? What were you making?” The biggest mistake she did was to use the word “experimenting.” She said, “No it was nothing much, just experimented with some eggs and franks…” But her in-law chimed in saying, “But what happened? Because something happened, I was coughing, what happened?” The working daughter-in-law replied, “Oh nothing happened maybe because a little fire came in for a second but it went off immediately, the air must have got a bit smoky, I’m so sorry about that.” She said, “What a fire! Yes I know I saw bright light on the reflection the floor, and there was so much smoke and I was coughing, because you are doing such experiments at home, don’t do such outdoor experiments in my home ever again.” She replied, “So sorry but don’t worry it was fine, nothing happened.” And then she said “Okay, I’ve really got to go.” Her hubby was asleep as he worked nights shifts. He would get up at noon time and she would speak with him on call, during her lunch break at work. So after her lunch she went out to speak to her hubby as usual, only for him to call her up and yell at her due to complaints made against her by his mother. “Why were you experimenting in the home, with smoking barbecuing techniques that are done outdoors?, he asked. “Mother says there was fire and thick black smoke in the house and that you’re doing such dangerous activities. Say sorry to mother and never repeat this again.”
Sadly some mothers and fathers does not realize they gain a son.or a daughter in the marriage of their children.
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How to deal with a situation elwhen FIL has passed away and its only MIL. You can not leave MIL alone. Though husband is understanding thr strugle but others are not and it looks like a immoral decision of moving out and starting own family.
I am blessed that i have not faced any of these situations and have lovely relationships within the family with daughter in law also. Also fortunately this syndrome is on the decline but the daughter in law syndrome is so rampant in urban and rural India as well. Young girls do not want to live with their own parents leave alone in laws. This scenario has come about in last 15 years due to over protection and indulgence to girl child. The daughter in law has the option of leaving the in laws home but what do old parents/ in laws do as they have no one to turn to. They do not even complain as that effects their family prestige. Simply they suffer and die a slow death. All in all one should follow- Live and let live in peace
If u respect n love your Dil ....give her proper freedom....n consider her family member ....trust me no Dil will ever leave her in laws......never ever ...
Well hv to go thru video but what wn u hv to face a toxic mother daily bases so also a friend turned foe
Luke what about daughter in law's behaviour. Now days we seniors are more adjusting and sufferings due to daughter in law behaviour. They work, they don't give respect, they want all the freedom and privilege. In short they have become rude and we don't care for anything type
Luke I spoke related to real mother's
In my case is toxic dil. I keep my distance & just focused on my grands.
How about toxic daughter in law
The same shit😂 they are both the same shit
You did not tell how to handle the situation! You just told to not get married into a family if the mom in law is bad. But.. what if someone is already married & in the situation?
Nuclear families is the best system which nurtures the bond between the couple their would be children. The fact is the old couples r fit enough to tc of themselves until they r in their late 70s. Even there the concept of neighbourhood families work really well. Urge to men who easily divorce their wives when they have to chose bet their mother n wife, that pls dont do that. You will spoil her life as well as urs just to satisfy ur mom's ego. The tag of divorcee is still a taboo n being separated from a man who the woman was physically n emotionally so closely involved breaks the women down compared to the men. She has to look for a widower or a divorcee to remarry n make 10 times more compromises. Ur mum will die in ur 50s. Then u will only have ur wife by ur side. Young men these days have really become mummas boy unlike their fathers. (young at the 90s) Their fathers valued the couple relationship more than the blood relations but after the film baghban, guys these prioritise all kind of blood relations but wives.
Well roles reversed. My wifes mother is the problem.... but yes this is a thing
my mil is witch
These days daughter in law syndrome exists also
You describe the problem but don't really give much about "handling this"
Civilized way from mothe rin always is a joke .. the only solution is to stop talking to any in law who creates issues .. instead of crying , depressed and standing up nothing happens .. it's better to let them go .. stop talking and hope it becomes a change and finally these mother n law stupids stops irritating behavior can be tammed
The husband acts like a man only until the rings on the finger. Once that's done he goes back to being mummas bubba
YES. I'M A VICTIM OF M-I-S
This video is not helpful at all. You basically said either don't get married or if you are married then consider moving away which is not always possible. Your video title is very misleading. Mother inlaw problems are immensely complicated and people who experience them require much more than this video provides. I had a little peace today and watching your video has upset me and left me feeling helpless and full of anxiety. Thanks for reminding me of my problem and giving me no real solution.
Get a divorce and stay happy alone !!!! That’s the solution
Moving away is only option.......dear....