That is exactly what my ex-husband narc said to me the day after Christmas, "I don't love you anymore, people change their mind" when he left me 3 months pregnant. Little did he know our 2 year old daughter overheard him. She took her little hands, lifted my tear filled face by my cheeks, stared me in the eyes and said "Mommy, it is ok, I love you." I felt God himself speaking through my daughter that day.
I am sorry you went through that. It must have been devastating @Ljc316. But dont worry that reflects on him not you. I went through something similar. He said he doesnt love me anymore. I asked him why did he say yesterday that he loved me and if he lied about that. He said i will not answer out of respect with a evil smile on his face. It is devastating seeing your partner turn into devil itself. We need to rise above!
What I did was the opposite. I left him, the narcissist. I never knew what that was until I went into Therapy. I got deathly sick, was rushed to the hospital via ambulance, but thank God, I made it. He was GREEDY and he saved his money while I paid for dinners and vacations. Long story short, 2 weeks after I left him he went bar-hopping and met a very RICH woman, and married her. I haven't seen him in over 12 years.
Today at 11:03 am est. my divorce with my narc was finalized. She had a double life for at least the last 6 months of our marriage. She left everything for a younger, more pliable supply, and ended 10 years of my indentured servitude. I was lucky enough to immediately file because 2 weeks after the discard I found your videos. Trapped in her own delusion with her new supply she literally walked away from her kids, child support, alimony, home and all it’s equity, just for the chance to have someone to control. She controls this new supply’s multiple jobs and already has him doing chores…he cheated with my wife so I have nothing but wishes for a long…..looooong relationship between them. Thanks god for you and this channel. My shackles weren’t just removed by God he gave me a severance package to move on with my kids.
Praise god !!! You escaped you have your life back so happy for you !!! But be careful they will b back they can’t possible see you free or happy . Change phone number , get off all social media , disappear enjoy your freedom and bolt that door forever !!!
@@martyc2637 I promise you it will get better. The holidays make it difficult, but if you can survive a Discard at this time of year and make it through with your sanity you can make it through anything. I was blessed enough to discover what and who she was and once you know, you can at least understand that this had nothing to do with you. She controlled the bills and left our mortgage three months behind and left me $300 in the bank with two kids. She has since tried multiple times to Hoover up until last week, but hold fast and believe that God got this person out of your life.
My narc ex left me for one of his co-workers. The night before he left me for her, we spent a very emotionally and physically intimate and what I perceived as a loving night together. He was showing affection that night i hadnt seen in him for awhile, and i felt like we had made some sort of breakthrough as a couple that night. We talked, cuddled, spent uninterrupted time together. Then, by noon the next day, he just sent me a text message while he was at work saying it was over and found a woman at work he wanted to be with. The pain these people cause. The emotional pain becomes physically painful as well. I could physically feel my heart breaking, especially when he had spent the night before being so kind and acted so loving and involved. Everything is a game to them. Within a month, he was back to love bombing and hoovering...begging me to take him back. As mentioned in another video perhaps, they hoover because they just got dumped. They're going back to easier, familiar supply. Took me way too long to realize i was dealing with a walking, talking Cluster B Personality Disorder. So glad I'll never go through it ever again. Being alone and being close with God is my main focus now
12 years married to a complete lie. His discard was brutal, cold and he blindsided me with intent. I didn't realize exactly what be was until that night 😈 I watched his eyes go dark & his voice changed like i hadn't witnessed in 12 years. Off he went to shack up with the secretary from his work that he had been grooming. (I realized this afterwards). All of it is a devastating realization but i definitely don't ever want to be around that energy again
I jumped straight out of a narc relationship straight into the bottom of a bottle for a few months. i now realise what Dave has been saying. I thought I was free whereas i just became a slave to something else. i'm finally actually healing now. Giving myself to God and asking for help has saved me. Thanks Dave. Onwards and upwards from here.
I appreciate is... I did too many hookups and very risky behaviour. I was ted to kill everything inside of me... I don't know how to stop 😢 ... These videos keep me afloat tho
I did the same and even got a DUI, which is way out of character for me. 7 years after not a single human can bullshit me anymore, I call out ALL bullshitters. We seem to be swimming in the devil's piss at this point. Good luck, it will get better but you will never be the same. These devil's take a big part of you with them. And us guys get no empathy, we are just supposed to suck it up.
@@arsenelupiniii8040 That's true... It seems strange when you tell othet guys how it made you feel. It appears as though you're feeling too strongly. I hope you're getting better by the day... I've improved slightly... One hand is back on the steering wheel...
Just glad it was just a temp entanglement, no kids or marriage. Being alone is getting easier. Thanks to these teachings. I never knew these type of people exist. SMH.
The narcdemon nearly killed my soul, i never experienced pain like that in my life. I'm 58 years jung. Evil is real, so there must be good. The narc unwillingly opend my eyes to god ! Thank you my jesus for coming inro my life !
12 years with my wife and a child and she just turned round one day out the blue I’m not happy I want a divorce it hit me like a sledge hammer!!!! No closure and wanted to remain friends I moved out and slowly getting my strength back …
My X came home from work and said; Your not happy, time for you to leave! Married 2- years. I had moved to his State. It took me three months to get my it together- financially to move. Divorce Finalized on my Birthday! That was ❤️.
I’m a hot mess!! The battle I encountered was epic!!! I was completely blindsided. Somewhere in my soul… I knew that the struggle was spiritual. On the healing road.
One terrible day God gave me the revelation, No, this is not what my life is supposed to be, this is not what my life is going to be, major changes and alot of hard work from then on leading to good things, thank God
Wow…… some of this is exactly what happened to me. Kissing, loving, snuggling, “I’ll be thinking about you at work today…” never came home. Bizarre! Cruel and unfit for any kind of relationship with a normal person!
One night I told him that something was chasing him and he left right after I said that. Idk what me say that except for the spirit. He was gone . It was really weird.
Saying no to a narc will offend them so much! Mine used to say I was rude if I said no after I set boundaries during so many hoover attempts. Has anyone been called rude, and the way the narc says it is like it’s the worst name they could call you? Is that an attempt to insult me because I pride myself on my manners and I’m certainly not rude nor have I ever been rude, I’ve always been told by others I’m one of the most polite people they’ve met. Is it just said to gaslight me into thinking Im rude because I set a boundary and wouldn’t flirt with them or compliment them when they wanted me to? Why is the word rude so powerful to them?
"Indifferent?"..... "That Narcissist is out there. It can't be bargained with. It can't be reasoned with. It doesn't feel pity, or remorse, or fear. And it absolutely will not stop EVER!!!....Until you are dead." Kyle Reese to Sarah Connor The Terminator Movie example of...."indifferent."
Mine ended things like this: I am done !!! I said, "arent you going to give me a reason"? he said, "NOPE". That is how he ended 3 yrs of friendship/love. He is back with his ex wife and totally ignores me which is fine.
These are the steps I took right before the discard stage. This was all before I knew anything about narcissism. I said to myself sometimes you have to play the fool, so that the fool, Who’s thinks their fooling you…..gets fooled. As I saw them make the decisions at my expense. As I stood my ground and watched in silence as they dug a grave for my demise. Little did they know…. the moment, I decide to make my move. They were the ones that fell in headfirst into the hole. I was able to my next move. I’d beat them to the punch and kick them out. Without fair warning. I felt victorious. I proud, I felt strong. soon after that I started to feel their absence but down in my gut I know this was the best thing that could’ve happened. Once I found your videos, all the pieces fell into place, and then I understood the whole process step-by-step that he had planned for my demise. knowledge is power. Thank you for this channel.
Dave, when I see you come up on my utube I go into a quiet room to listen. Tonight you spoke to me directly…I was not crazy as I searched for the husband who wasn’t …after his swift discard I had no direction. He has no soul. It felt inhuman. We are blessed to have you! We matter and God is by our side❤
Fanatical WW2 Kamikaze pilots could not be deterred from varying from their mission for any reason their dedication was that strong. No amount of Machine Gun Fire or Triple-A [Anti-Aircraft Artillery] could cause them to deviate from their flight-plan. Not even their own mothers could persuade them to back out and give up their "Banzai" mindset and mentality nor would they try and dishonor their devotion. These modern-day Samurai were totally "indifferent" to all distraction.
10 months from the discard and its been rough. Everything you have said makes sence now. I will still never know exactly what i did or why she left. Divorce is certified now. So after almost 30 years together, what do i do now?
What you do now… You thank God above that He lead you out of Egypt and go on live a life that matters. (This is what I’m trying to do after 26 years) God bless you!
26 years 25 married You walk into the promised land of peace and closeness to God and a beautiful new chapter of joy Feel the pain but it won’t last forever
Thank you so much for your take on these demonic individuals I lived it for so long finally seen through it it's really playing the game with the devil I feel like I need to tell my story but I know my ex narc watches everything I do thank you keep up God's work you are spot on 💯❤️🙏
Thankful to God for giving me the strength to conquer this demonic spirit. This relationship has awakened a deeper level of intercession for me. I am taking my power back. Today is the day that I walk away from 5 long hard years narcissistic abuse. Cheers & tears as I sign these divorce papers, and move on with God, myself, and my new dog 🐶. I found this channel in 2019, and Dave you are God sent! Blessings to you.
He went out for breakfast and texted me hours later that he was back with his ex-wife and not to call him anymore. We were living together for 2 years... Thought I would die.
It’s so great to feel the healing of God on the heart after narc deception & false love experience that seemed so hard, now that my eyes are opened up to what these people are, tools of Satan, I am so glad Jesus has delivered me from more wasted years & from missing my destiny in God
Hi Dave, You described my discard . it is scary how accurate it was for me. We had a fight 2 days before the discard. I called them out on their lie and just exploded at the narc. I was setting boundaries and called him a disgusting after they lied about something major in our relationship. He gaslighted me and made it out to be all my fault. I apologised for the reactive abuse and I thought he forgave me. He pretended to move on while planning his revenge. At night i asked why he is acting a bit distant and I asked if he was still mad at me. He said he doesn’t feel the same and doesn’t know if he ever will.Apparently he recorded me when i lost my temper and showed it to the police and his family. He forced me to leave his apartment immediately the next morning. I havent slept all night and i was in shock that the love of my life would do something like this. He acted like everything was fine the previous day and then he turned into a monster. I was so confused and in the state of shock i was having panic attacks and wanted to take my life. Of course he used that against me as well to make me look crazy even more. After i had no choice but leave his house which he made me call my home multiple times. It was the second day of my new job as well which i got after months of struggle after moving to a country I didn’t speak the language in. He made me move there now i was in a country where i had nowhere to go.Even after everything i still fought for the relationship.
There is no problem we can't learn from. There is a whole life to learn from and build the person and life we want to live. The past can write the present but not the future.
Hey...I'm so sorry to hear what you went through. I've been through this a few times with different people and it is traumatizing to say the least. Your love is real and that is why you tried to fight through it...just try to understand if you don't already that you were dealing with someone who can't actually love and wasn't playing by the same rules. Best of wishes to you, always remember your value as a person and that you deserve to be loved and cared for in the way you love and care for others.
Thank you for your response! It is just still so confusing because i never felt so loved and cared for by anyone like him. In the beginning he treated me so well I really felt like I found my soulmate. That is why when his mask came off just a little bit even i was in shock.
@@goldmarie171that is so strange , I don’t work like this. We had a couple fights but I even forgot about them after we sorted it out. That is why the discard was so shocking to me because I thought we moved on from that fight.But now I realise that this is true and he probably remembered every comment or criticism that can be hurtful to the narc. It is crazy how fragile his ego is.
That was mine … 3 weeks after he moved in he announced he didn’t love me anymore. He asked for 2 years to move in then this … the days have been a rollercoaster ride. Trauma from them is real
Thank you dave. He who i was with word salad so much i had a heart attack. Didnt stop even as i was clutching my chest! But acc to him he was a hero because he brought some items for me into hospital. Never encountered such evil before as i did with him! As with all other victims i endured so much i walked away with total burnout. I decided to name this person as a warning to others, as i think we should all do. Even tho ive asked for god to work on him! Brian sandford, bournemouth. For those who are receiving gifts from him to try and engage trust in him. For those who are so proud for his care of his dear disabled daughter clair! You see him with her now and again, whilst he dumps her for others to take care of ! She is used for his pity party, whilst he gallivants with his girlfriends behind his wives back! He cares for noone. Pure evil, and whilst visiting his church, he knows hes going to hell. He doesnt even want to go to heaven. If anybody wants to know if the devil is real. Brian is one! Beware, all his relationships have either died or left because their ill!
Dave this triggered me . I was discarded over 100 times but a few of them were brutal one put me in hospital . We had been on a 24 hour road trip he was an otr truck driver . He said he said he can't live without me he threw me to the curb Thanksgiving day . Fast forward 7 years . He left my bed on a Jan 13th we had a trip planned . He methodically hung my fav shirt of his on my bed . Kissed my forehead and off to another otr drive . 2 weeks later he posted the hood rat in a relationship . 2 years ago . Game over . hood
amen you get it ❣️ & they were born this way,, baby no victim shaming though love ya 🤗💗 brother stop calling lovers codependent : *5 components of Love* ❤️ • seek 1st understanding (listen) • have appreciation & compassion for • self-sacrifice (not for vain glory) • to ensure survival of & maintain the integrity of the other • willingness to die to self ~> for the other "Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends." used in reference to those who die -or are willing to die- in the service of other people
Yes, Dave, praise God. We will be in heaven on that day at that table with God. As the song says: " The Morn will be bright when the Lamb is the light, and the night will be as bright as the day. Then there'll be Peace in the Valley for me, someday" (for all of us one day very soon)
Shes getting her toxic mother to try to apologise for abusing our daughters, attacking me,cheating in front of the kids,lying to police then it backfired....yeah....your apology means nothing!
I remember when I first joined years ago I had no idea what Mrs A or Mrs B meant. Funny. I found out very quickly. Learned a lot here. It helped me to understand and use that to completely be free from boundage. God did that and used this channel and David to help me. I am very thankful. There was no looking back. Praise the Lord!
Yep I found mine having a double life it came to light over Christmas as he couldn’t keep up the hiding the getting away as he was given 2 weeks of leave and was so agitated to get away a day after Christmas when I told him I no ur game he held a knife to me and strangled me as he new he’s game was up they are dangerous people and they thrive on living double life’s knowing they hve the power over everyone involved if they abuse us it makes them feel superior
Dave i had him figured out I told him you are a manipulator, you don't love nobody including yourself, I know you and he just agreed he said yes I don't care about people. 😮 I was in shock he said yes. After all that he would ignore me more, we were in same bed but in different places. He would be on his phone till he went to bed not even speak to me. The hurt pushed me to hate him more and more.
Yeah, it hit me like a freight train. She went back east for her cousin's wedding , I stayed home and took care of business, pets and such. Picked her up at the airport, things seemed fine, then the next evening she walked in the door and said " I don't love you anymore" I said, " oh, what would you like for dinner tonight?" I always cooked and paid the rent. Later that night I was in the kitchen and her phone went off, it was a text from a "friend" from FB. The Friend was asking how I took the break-up, did I freak out or get angry. 2 months later I was driving her and her stuff back to Michigan. I was loyal to the end. Since then I have become super detective about others, and have found that most others are hell. That was just over 7 years ago. Been blocked ever since.
Your such amazing intelligent man! ❤ you always hit the nail on the head! Your talking about my ex boyfriend and I'm soooo glad I'm free thank you! jesus saved me and your videos have helped me so much xx
Please do you have a video or opinion on narcissists being in a relationship with women only to hide the fact that they are gay, that they need to keep up appearances, pretend they are normal, especially when it comes to protecting their image at work? I was just curious about this. Thank you
Oops 🙊 Dave trouble here again 😂 it’s mind over matter. They don’t mind anymore bc they never did bc we never mattered. My ex loved that moniker. I bought him his own dunce hat 🎩 with that very thing on it. Abbreviated 😮 I’ll let you guess what I picked out for him 😂I’m a goofball 😅 it was immature. I’m all about Happy Days now 🎉I’m a Mrs. C for Christ bc He loves me bc I’m strange fruit 🍌 my ex narc always said ❤. Rotten he’d say. No. I’m forgiven. Cheers 🥂 Dave and thank you for putting up with me. I appreciate your friendship 😢 you are special ❤ I look forward to joking with you and your beautiful lady in Heaven brother.
Never understood why my narc would always bother me in the bathroom, especially when I was shaving. Still don't, I believe it was some form of devalue just to subtle for me to comprehend.
I had to forgive myself for letting what happened happen. I HAD TO GO TO GOD! And pray for his forgiveness in all of what happened cause I had a part in it too. I'm still healing it's hard but slowly but surely I am getting better.
This is the saddest exspirence i ever had. He gave the AP his attention/all of his vacations/finances. When dod came and everything stopped she ruined his reputation on the internet. He should have just taken my advice and end it.
My ex called me a Mrs. C Dave. He was disgusting 🤢 😂 you get it. We have daughters 😮 classy I know. I’m done. Promise 😊. I pray for him still 🌸 he’s still a toolbox 🧰
I’m no picnic 🧺 ❤ I’m something else. My exes could not keep up. I married three narcissists 😅oops. 3 strikes 🪧 I’m out. Jesus is my man 👨 no one ☝️ else stacks up ⬆️ or gets me anyway. Never did. 😂
This person here tried to shut me up to the point that I wouldn't tell my story !! That sent people to tell me to mind my own business !! When Aaron never even had a job !! That's why he made the story up the way he did !!
Ince you see them for what they truly are …. Pure evil 👿 then that’s when you bury that empathy and it becomes a battle for your life or there’s . Good against evil !!! For yourself your will to live must b stronger than theirs is to destroy u . For the spiritual warfare pray to god to rally the armies of his angels to defeat what has manipulated its way into your life because they are possessed with at least 8 deminiaturise entities which u cannot fight yourself !!
I broke it off with my x narc and he threatened suicide and said I was keeping him from wanting to do it. He tried to be friends after a bunch of threats to hurt himself i eventually told him I don’t want to be friends with someone who threatens to him themselves his reply was I never threatened to harm myself and I am like lies lies and lies your right it’s always about them not u
I am bananas 🍌 sometimes 😂🎉 still. I’m still forever grateful 🥹 to Jesus for loving 🥰 me just as I am. Run to Him 🎊 Happy Days can be here again 🎉with Him. I’m old. 😂
The narcissist no matter how much money and assets they have for sure miss what they had. Sometimes that includes mssing their uncle and their brother. Sometimes that includes missing the sons whom they have taken for granted too. Sometimes that includes missing their former spouses whom they have discarded one at a time in as many discreet methods as they can come up with only in order to keep on maintaining their only on the outside apearances. I have heard reports about women being raped in the bathroom too. Maybe that would help explain why the women's washrooms sometimes have a yellow long narrow strip of plastic put across the doorway too including a sign that says, "Wet floor" to cover up the truth to help maintain the squeeky clean image of that building. Narcissists do what they do only because they can. Simple as that. Until we start standing up to all of the 'old' men (and 'old' women) out there who are in the habit of demanding that 14 year olds take a title only so they can record us as being adults at that age in their employee records after they have hired us for pay. Hired us sometimes for 'pay' so they can give us a back hand while accusing us of being drunk instead. When are we going to stand up to all of the narcissists who tell us that only they can make us beautiful?
1 John 4 Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God: because many false prophets are gone out into the world. Hereby know ye the Spirit of God: Every spirit that confesseth that Jesus Christ is come in the flesh is of God: and every spirit that confesseth not that Jesus Christ is come in the flesh is not of God: and this is that spirit of antichrist, whereof ye have heard that it should come; and even now already is it in the world
@@Narcologyunscripted i feel better today after doing this. Should I do it every night until God elevates me? Ive been meditating for 5 years and have gone through alot of darkness and my twinflame activated my kundalini in 2019. There has been alot of shadow work.
You need to stop lying !! I can't stand you !! I never met someone that when confronted with the truth such as Aaron never worked !! Went around telling everyone I didn't shave !! I'll sit in court accused of not shaving as long as this person faces charges for what they done here !!
That is exactly what my ex-husband narc said to me the day after Christmas, "I don't love you anymore, people change their mind" when he left me 3 months pregnant. Little did he know our 2 year old daughter overheard him. She took her little hands, lifted my tear filled face by my cheeks, stared me in the eyes and said "Mommy, it is ok, I love you." I felt God himself speaking through my daughter that day.
That is POWERFUL. And beautiful. Be strong. You are worthy of love.
😢❤
Amen. God is powerful and he is my strength.@@mickcrovo5238
I am sorry you went through that. It must have been devastating @Ljc316. But dont worry that reflects on him not you. I went through something similar. He said he doesnt love me anymore. I asked him why did he say yesterday that he loved me and if he lied about that. He said i will not answer out of respect with a evil smile on his face. It is devastating seeing your partner turn into devil itself. We need to rise above!
What I did was the opposite. I left him, the narcissist. I never knew what that was until I went into Therapy. I got deathly sick, was rushed to the hospital via ambulance, but thank God, I made it. He was GREEDY and he saved his money while I paid for dinners and vacations. Long story short, 2 weeks after I left him he went bar-hopping and met a very RICH woman, and married her.
I haven't seen him in over 12 years.
Today at 11:03 am est. my divorce with my narc was finalized. She had a double life for at least the last 6 months of our marriage. She left everything for a younger, more pliable supply, and ended 10 years of my indentured servitude. I was lucky enough to immediately file because 2 weeks after the discard I found your videos. Trapped in her own delusion with her new supply she literally walked away from her kids, child support, alimony, home and all it’s equity, just for the chance to have someone to control. She controls this new supply’s multiple jobs and already has him doing chores…he cheated with my wife so I have nothing but wishes for a long…..looooong relationship between them. Thanks god for you and this channel. My shackles weren’t just removed by God he gave me a severance package to move on with my kids.
You are amazing. I'm sure you are a great dad.
Praise god !!! You escaped you have your life back so happy for you !!! But be careful they will b back they can’t possible see you free or happy . Change phone number , get off all social media , disappear enjoy your freedom and bolt that door forever !!!
I am sorry you had to go thru that...push forward
God bless my man for your strength. She discarded me for a younger guy two months ago and still in a fog. Your strength is a real inspiration
@@martyc2637 I promise you it will get better. The holidays make it difficult, but if you can survive a Discard at this time of year and make it through with your sanity you can make it through anything. I was blessed enough to discover what and who she was and once you know, you can at least understand that this had nothing to do with you. She controlled the bills and left our mortgage three months behind and left me $300 in the bank with two kids. She has since tried multiple times to Hoover up until last week, but hold fast and believe that God got this person out of your life.
My narc ex left me for one of his co-workers. The night before he left me for her, we spent a very emotionally and physically intimate and what I perceived as a loving night together. He was showing affection that night i hadnt seen in him for awhile, and i felt like we had made some sort of breakthrough as a couple that night. We talked, cuddled, spent uninterrupted time together.
Then, by noon the next day, he just sent me a text message while he was at work saying it was over and found a woman at work he wanted to be with.
The pain these people cause. The emotional pain becomes physically painful as well. I could physically feel my heart breaking, especially when he had spent the night before being so kind and acted so loving and involved. Everything is a game to them. Within a month, he was back to love bombing and hoovering...begging me to take him back. As mentioned in another video perhaps, they hoover because they just got dumped. They're going back to easier, familiar supply.
Took me way too long to realize i was dealing with a walking, talking Cluster B Personality Disorder. So glad I'll never go through it ever again. Being alone and being close with God is my main focus now
12 years married to a complete lie. His discard was brutal, cold and he blindsided me with intent. I didn't realize exactly what be was until that night 😈 I watched his eyes go dark & his voice changed like i hadn't witnessed in 12 years. Off he went to shack up with the secretary from his work that he had been grooming. (I realized this afterwards). All of it is a devastating realization but i definitely don't ever want to be around that energy again
I jumped straight out of a narc relationship straight into the bottom of a bottle for a few months. i now realise what Dave has been saying. I thought I was free whereas i just became a slave to something else. i'm finally actually healing now. Giving myself to God and asking for help has saved me. Thanks Dave. Onwards and upwards from here.
I appreciate is... I did too many hookups and very risky behaviour. I was ted to kill everything inside of me... I don't know how to stop 😢 ... These videos keep me afloat tho
But you recognized what was happening, and acted positively on it.
I say it was a BIG Win for you
@@thendebelepraying for your strength 🙏🏾🛐
I did the same and even got a DUI, which is way out of character for me. 7 years after not a single human can bullshit me anymore, I call out ALL bullshitters. We seem to be swimming in the devil's piss at this point. Good luck, it will get better but you will never be the same. These devil's take a big part of you with them. And us guys get no empathy, we are just supposed to suck it up.
@@arsenelupiniii8040 That's true... It seems strange when you tell othet guys how it made you feel. It appears as though you're feeling too strongly. I hope you're getting better by the day...
I've improved slightly... One hand is back on the steering wheel...
Just glad it was just a temp entanglement, no kids or marriage. Being alone is getting easier. Thanks to these teachings. I never knew these type of people exist. SMH.
The narcdemon nearly killed my soul, i never experienced pain like that in my life. I'm 58 years jung.
Evil is real, so there must be good.
The narc unwillingly opend my eyes to god !
Thank you my jesus for coming inro my life !
12 years with my wife and a child and she just turned round one day out the blue I’m not happy I want a divorce it hit me like a sledge hammer!!!! No closure and wanted to remain friends I moved out and slowly getting my strength back …
My X came home from work and said; Your not happy, time for you to leave!
Married 2- years. I had moved to his State. It took me three months to get my it together- financially to move. Divorce Finalized on my Birthday! That was ❤️.
@@jennyferguson5583 sorry to hear and hope your healing well
I call them plastic fruit
I’m a hot mess!! The battle I encountered was epic!!! I was completely blindsided. Somewhere in my soul… I knew that the struggle was spiritual. On the healing road.
This is one of the greatest explanation of a narcissist and the discard, ladies and gentlemen, this is how they operate
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. There is no beauty in their eyes
One terrible day God gave me the revelation, No, this is not what my life is supposed to be, this is not what my life is going to be, major changes and alot of hard work from then on leading to good things, thank God
I was ghosted only after 2 years of marriage
No warning
2 years is how long mine lasted too. I feel your pain
Mine lasted 7 months. I'm sorry for you both.
Wow…… some of this is exactly what happened to me. Kissing, loving, snuggling, “I’ll be thinking about you at work today…” never came home. Bizarre! Cruel and unfit for any kind of relationship with a normal person!
BOTH John and Paul said to test the spirits in different ways....you are correct. 1 John 4:1-6, 1 Corinthians 12:10,
Thanks Dave Mrs A....walking straight away with combat boots.
Love that! ❤😂
Walking with your!!!
One night I told him that something was chasing him and he left right after I said that. Idk what me say that except for the spirit. He was gone . It was really weird.
Saying no to a narc will offend them so much! Mine used to say I was rude if I said no after I set boundaries during so many hoover attempts. Has anyone been called rude, and the way the narc says it is like it’s the worst name they could call you? Is that an attempt to insult me because I pride myself on my manners and I’m certainly not rude nor have I ever been rude, I’ve always been told by others I’m one of the most polite people they’ve met. Is it just said to gaslight me into thinking Im rude because I set a boundary and wouldn’t flirt with them or compliment them when they wanted me to? Why is the word rude so powerful to them?
"Indifferent?"..... "That Narcissist is out there. It can't be bargained with. It can't be reasoned with. It doesn't feel pity, or remorse, or fear. And it absolutely will not stop EVER!!!....Until you are dead." Kyle Reese to Sarah Connor The Terminator Movie example of...."indifferent."
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Mine ended things like this: I am done !!! I said, "arent you going to give me a reason"? he said, "NOPE". That is how he ended 3 yrs of friendship/love. He is back with his ex wife and totally ignores me which is fine.
These are the steps I took right before the discard stage. This was all before I knew anything about narcissism. I said to myself sometimes you have to play the fool, so that the fool, Who’s thinks their fooling you…..gets fooled. As I saw them make the decisions at my expense. As I stood my ground and watched in silence as they dug a grave for my demise. Little did they know…. the moment, I decide to make my move. They were the ones that fell in headfirst into the hole. I was able to my next move. I’d beat them to the punch and kick them out. Without fair warning. I felt victorious. I proud, I felt strong. soon after that I started to feel their absence but down in my gut I know this was the best thing that could’ve happened. Once I found your videos, all the pieces fell into place, and then I understood the whole process step-by-step that he had planned for my demise. knowledge is power. Thank you for this channel.
Dave, when I see you come up on my utube I go into a quiet room to listen. Tonight you spoke to me directly…I was not crazy as I searched for the husband who wasn’t …after his swift discard I had no direction. He has no soul. It felt inhuman. We are blessed to have you! We matter and God is by our side❤
Fanatical WW2 Kamikaze pilots could not be deterred from varying from their mission for any reason their dedication was that strong. No amount of Machine Gun Fire or Triple-A [Anti-Aircraft Artillery] could cause them to deviate from their flight-plan. Not even their own mothers could persuade them to back out and give up their "Banzai" mindset and mentality nor would they try and dishonor their devotion. These modern-day Samurai were totally "indifferent" to all distraction.
10 months from the discard and its been rough. Everything you have said makes sence now. I will still never know exactly what i did or why she left. Divorce is certified now. So after almost 30 years together, what do i do now?
What you do now… You thank God above that He lead you out of Egypt and go on live a life that matters. (This is what I’m trying to do after 26 years) God bless you!
26 years
25 married
You walk into the promised land of peace and closeness to God and a beautiful new chapter of joy
Feel the pain but it won’t last forever
Thank you so much for your take on these demonic individuals I lived it for so long finally seen through it it's really playing the game with the devil I feel like I need to tell my story but I know my ex narc watches everything I do thank you keep up God's work you are spot on 💯❤️🙏
Thankful to God for giving me the strength to conquer this demonic spirit. This relationship has awakened a deeper level of intercession for me. I am taking my power back. Today is the day that I walk away from 5 long hard years narcissistic abuse. Cheers & tears as I sign these divorce papers, and move on with God, myself, and my new dog 🐶. I found this channel in 2019, and Dave you are God sent! Blessings to you.
He went out for breakfast and texted me hours later that he was back with his ex-wife and not to call him anymore. We were living together for 2 years...
Thought I would die.
It’s so great to feel the healing of God on the heart after narc deception & false love experience that seemed so hard, now that my eyes are opened up to what these people are, tools of Satan, I am so glad Jesus has delivered me from more wasted years & from missing my destiny in God
Hi Dave, You described my discard . it is scary how accurate it was for me. We had a fight 2 days before the discard. I called them out on their lie and just exploded at the narc. I was setting boundaries and called him a disgusting after they lied about something major in our relationship. He gaslighted me and made it out to be all my fault. I apologised for the reactive abuse and I thought he forgave me. He pretended to move on while planning his revenge. At night i asked why he is acting a bit distant and I asked if he was still mad at me. He said he doesn’t feel the same and doesn’t know if he ever will.Apparently he recorded me when i lost my temper and showed it to the police and his family. He forced me to leave his apartment immediately the next morning. I havent slept all night and i was in shock that the love of my life would do something like this. He acted like everything was fine the previous day and then he turned into a monster. I was so confused and in the state of shock i was having panic attacks and wanted to take my life. Of course he used that against me as well to make me look crazy even more. After i had no choice but leave his house which he made me call my home multiple times. It was the second day of my new job as well which i got after months of struggle after moving to a country I didn’t speak the language in. He made me move there now i was in a country where i had nowhere to go.Even after everything i still fought for the relationship.
There is no problem we can't learn from. There is a whole life to learn from and build the person and life we want to live. The past can write the present but not the future.
A Narc will never forgive and never forget
Hey...I'm so sorry to hear what you went through. I've been through this a few times with different people and it is traumatizing to say the least. Your love is real and that is why you tried to fight through it...just try to understand if you don't already that you were dealing with someone who can't actually love and wasn't playing by the same rules. Best of wishes to you, always remember your value as a person and that you deserve to be loved and cared for in the way you love and care for others.
Thank you for your response! It is just still so confusing because i never felt so loved and cared for by anyone like him. In the beginning he treated me so well I really felt like I found my soulmate. That is why when his mask came off just a little bit even i was in shock.
@@goldmarie171that is so strange , I don’t work like this. We had a couple fights but I even forgot about them after we sorted it out. That is why the discard was so shocking to me because I thought we moved on from that fight.But now I realise that this is true and he probably remembered every comment or criticism that can be hurtful to the narc. It is crazy how fragile his ego is.
It is so so true 👍🏻‼️Thank You Dave🙏🏼😔
That was mine … 3 weeks after he moved in he announced he didn’t love me anymore. He asked for 2 years to move in then this … the days have been a rollercoaster ride. Trauma from them is real
Thank you dave. He who i was with word salad so much i had a heart attack. Didnt stop even as i was clutching my chest! But acc to him he was a hero because he brought some items for me into hospital. Never encountered such evil before as i did with him! As with all other victims i endured so much i walked away with total burnout. I decided to name this person as a warning to others, as i think we should all do. Even tho ive asked for god to work on him! Brian sandford, bournemouth. For those who are receiving gifts from him to try and engage trust in him. For those who are so proud for his care of his dear disabled daughter clair! You see him with her now and again, whilst he dumps her for others to take care of ! She is used for his pity party, whilst he gallivants with his girlfriends behind his wives back! He cares for noone. Pure evil, and whilst visiting his church, he knows hes going to hell. He doesnt even want to go to heaven. If anybody wants to know if the devil is real. Brian is one! Beware, all his relationships have either died or left because their ill!
My narc always said I" I not deserve you!!!"
Dave this triggered me . I was discarded over 100 times but a few of them were brutal one put me in hospital . We had been on a 24 hour road trip he was an otr truck driver . He said he said he can't live without me he threw me to the curb Thanksgiving day . Fast forward 7 years . He left my bed on a Jan 13th we had a trip planned . He methodically hung my fav shirt of his on my bed . Kissed my forehead and off to another otr drive . 2 weeks later he posted the hood rat in a relationship . 2 years ago . Game over . hood
Thank you 🙏 Dave.
Omg. 20 days out.... But I remember saying for a year. Thank God, I never got cancer with this man.
Your so unique! I pray you don't stop your support for us because we all love you, your so raw it's what we need ❤ thank you so much 🙏🙏💫💫
amen
you get it ❣️
& they were born this way,, baby
no victim shaming though
love ya 🤗💗 brother
stop calling lovers codependent :
*5 components of Love* ❤️
• seek 1st understanding (listen)
• have appreciation & compassion for
• self-sacrifice (not for vain glory)
• to ensure survival of
& maintain the integrity of the other
• willingness to die to self
~> for the other
"Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends."
used in reference to those who die
-or are willing to die-
in the service of other people
Yes, Dave, praise God. We will be in heaven on that day at that table with God. As the song says: " The Morn will be bright when the Lamb is the light, and the night will be as bright as the day. Then there'll be Peace in the Valley for me, someday" (for all of us one day very soon)
Watched U years and I see U R not as U always are.
Cheer up bro U have saved many lives.
More then most!
Thank you for reminding us of our worthiness❤
Wow!❤❤😢😊🙏🫶🙌
Amen Dave
Shes getting her toxic mother to try to apologise for abusing our daughters, attacking me,cheating in front of the kids,lying to police then it backfired....yeah....your apology means nothing!
Hi David
You are a blessing to so many and no ego involved the holy spirit leads these lessons Thank you
Thank you Dave, and brothers and sisters. 🎉❤🎉
He’s Sleezy Like Sunday Morning 😂 🎶 had to do it. You’re in Nashville 😅
Hi Dave, after 5 years i left him bcse i wanted to LIVE...
Lol … Wow that was a great pour Dave
Thank you so much. This was such a huge help. God bless.
I remember when I first joined years ago I had no idea what Mrs A or Mrs B meant. Funny. I found out very quickly. Learned a lot here. It helped me to understand and use that to completely be free from boundage. God did that and used this channel and David to help me. I am very thankful. There was no looking back. Praise the Lord!
Excellent content
💯% TRUE
What you said about this drinking and a narcassist
This was the best video Dave❣️🙏🏽❤️
I needed this today brother ❤
Yep I found mine having a double life it came to light over Christmas as he couldn’t keep up the hiding the getting away as he was given 2 weeks of leave and was so agitated to get away a day after Christmas when I told him I no ur game he held a knife to me and strangled me as he new he’s game was up they are dangerous people and they thrive on living double life’s knowing they hve the power over everyone involved if they abuse us it makes them feel superior
Your video’s are the best !
Best of the best !Dave i
Thanks so much Dave. Always informative and so right about everything.
So nice of you
Dave i had him figured out I told him you are a manipulator, you don't love nobody including yourself, I know you and he just agreed he said yes I don't care about people. 😮 I was in shock he said yes. After all that he would ignore me more, we were in same bed but in different places. He would be on his phone till he went to bed not even speak to me. The hurt pushed me to hate him more and more.
Really great talk. Deep insights
Asked about her saying that she loved me? She said love means many different things.
10:25 - Yes, this is what they miss. I “made” them “feel” .
Yeah, it hit me like a freight train. She went back east for her cousin's wedding , I stayed home and took care of business, pets and such. Picked her up at the airport, things seemed fine, then the next evening she walked in the door and said " I don't love you anymore" I said, " oh, what would you like for dinner tonight?" I always cooked and paid the rent. Later that night I was in the kitchen and her phone went off, it was a text from a "friend" from FB. The Friend was asking how I took the break-up, did I freak out or get angry. 2 months later I was driving her and her stuff back to Michigan. I was loyal to the end. Since then I have become super detective about others, and have found that most others are hell. That was just over 7 years ago. Been blocked ever since.
Your such amazing intelligent man! ❤ you always hit the nail on the head! Your talking about my ex boyfriend and I'm soooo glad I'm free thank you! jesus saved me and your videos have helped me so much xx
Thanks Dave so true this is how i felt in discard stage keep up the good work
Please do you have a video or opinion on narcissists being in a relationship with women only to hide the fact that they are gay, that they need to keep up appearances, pretend they are normal, especially when it comes to protecting their image at work? I was just curious about this. Thank you
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Oops 🙊 Dave trouble here again 😂 it’s mind over matter. They don’t mind anymore bc they never did bc we never mattered. My ex loved that moniker. I bought him his own dunce hat 🎩 with that very thing on it. Abbreviated 😮 I’ll let you guess what I picked out for him 😂I’m a goofball 😅 it was immature. I’m all about Happy Days now 🎉I’m a Mrs. C for Christ bc He loves me bc I’m strange fruit 🍌 my ex narc always said ❤. Rotten he’d say. No. I’m forgiven. Cheers 🥂 Dave and thank you for putting up with me. I appreciate your friendship 😢 you are special ❤ I look forward to joking with you and your beautiful lady in Heaven brother.
Never understood why my narc would always bother me in the bathroom, especially when I was shaving. Still don't, I believe it was some form of devalue just to subtle for me to comprehend.
I had to forgive myself for letting what happened happen. I HAD TO GO TO GOD! And pray for his forgiveness in all of what happened cause I had a part in it too. I'm still healing it's hard but slowly but surely I am getting better.
This is the saddest exspirence i ever had. He gave the AP his attention/all of his vacations/finances. When dod came and everything stopped she ruined his reputation on the internet. He should have just taken my advice and end it.
Great take, Dave what is your opinion on whether to keep flying monkeys as friends or family members?
Good question
Once you are aware of who they are you limit what you say to them
My ex called me a Mrs. C Dave. He was disgusting 🤢 😂 you get it. We have daughters 😮 classy I know. I’m done. Promise 😊. I pray for him still 🌸 he’s still a toolbox 🧰
Thank you.
For the last several days, the "About" has been missing on many videos of many Tubers. Anyone else see this?
Good evening Dave! You’re microphone sounds different. The narc relished listening to me begging. Great video. Hugs Dave. 💕
Exactly 🥺
i really enjoy your talks and wow Jesus the creator you did say it :)
Great channel,,,,
Thank you!
I’m no picnic 🧺 ❤ I’m something else. My exes could not keep up. I married three narcissists 😅oops. 3 strikes 🪧 I’m out. Jesus is my man 👨 no one ☝️ else stacks up ⬆️ or gets me anyway. Never did. 😂
This person here tried to shut me up to the point that I wouldn't tell my story !! That sent people to tell me to mind my own business !! When Aaron never even had a job !! That's why he made the story up the way he did !!
Thank you
The meat suit
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How do I stop messaging him. I can't stand the rejection
Ince you see them for what they truly are …. Pure evil 👿 then that’s when you bury that empathy and it becomes a battle for your life or there’s . Good against evil !!! For yourself your will to live must b stronger than theirs is to destroy u . For the spiritual warfare pray to god to rally the armies of his angels to defeat what has manipulated its way into your life because they are possessed with at least 8 deminiaturise entities which u cannot fight yourself !!
Cool baseball jersey i want one looking good dave mrs a all the way is the only way true facts sir
I broke it off with my x narc and he threatened suicide and said I was keeping him from wanting to do it. He tried to be friends after a bunch of threats to hurt himself i eventually told him I don’t want to be friends with someone who threatens to him themselves his reply was I never threatened to harm myself and I am like lies lies and lies your right it’s always about them not u
Why do narcs treatened to kill themselves? It seems like narcs are so similar to eachother?
Power and Control. To scare you.
Don’t worry the research says Narcs almost never DO
I am bananas 🍌 sometimes 😂🎉 still. I’m still forever grateful 🥹 to Jesus for loving 🥰 me just as I am. Run to Him 🎊 Happy Days can be here again 🎉with Him. I’m old. 😂
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The narcissist no matter how much money and assets they have for sure miss what they had. Sometimes that includes mssing their uncle and their brother. Sometimes that includes missing the sons whom they have taken for granted too. Sometimes that includes missing their former spouses whom they have discarded one at a time in as many discreet methods as they can come up with only in order to keep on maintaining their only on the outside apearances. I have heard reports about women being raped in the bathroom too. Maybe that would help explain why the women's washrooms sometimes have a yellow long narrow strip of plastic put across the doorway too including a sign that says, "Wet floor" to cover up the truth to help maintain the squeeky clean image of that building. Narcissists do what they do only because they can. Simple as that. Until we start standing up to all of the 'old' men (and 'old' women) out there who are in the habit of demanding that 14 year olds take a title only so they can record us as being adults at that age in their employee records after they have hired us for pay. Hired us sometimes for 'pay' so they can give us a back hand while accusing us of being drunk instead. When are we going to stand up to all of the narcissists who tell us that only they can make us beautiful?
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1 John 4
Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God: because many false prophets are gone out into the world. Hereby know ye the Spirit of God: Every spirit that confesseth that Jesus Christ is come in the flesh is of God: and every spirit that confesseth not that Jesus Christ is come in the flesh is not of God: and this is that spirit of antichrist, whereof ye have heard that it should come; and even now already is it in the world
I think it is.
How do you give yourself to God? I so want this……
Say I repent God, please show yourself to me. Please come into my heart and reveal yourself Jesus.
I pray you will do this
@@Narcologyunscripted do I need to say it often?
@@ainahaga Just once from your heart:)
And when you did this you just got all this wisdom suddenly? Or did it grow over time?
@@Narcologyunscripted i feel better today after doing this. Should I do it every night until God elevates me? Ive been meditating for 5 years and have gone through alot of darkness and my twinflame activated my kundalini in 2019. There has been alot of shadow work.
Do you realize that green eyes are rare?
Taylor’s admittance in the lyrics to covert narcissism isn’t what you think.
You need to stop lying !! I can't stand you !! I never met someone that when confronted with the truth such as Aaron never worked !! Went around telling everyone I didn't shave !! I'll sit in court accused of not shaving as long as this person faces charges for what they done here !!
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