When The Narcissist Finally Realizes That They Messed Up.

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  • When The Narcissist Finally Realizes That They Messed Up.
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  • @Narcologyunscripted
    @Narcologyunscripted  Рік тому +21

    Mrs. A - Moves on with discernment and understands the toxicity of their Narcissist mate or Ex who could not or would not change. This person is or was wearing a mask and is willing to say anything to keep the gaslighting and abuse going. No matter what the Narcissist throws at her (Good or Bad) she knows by entertaining any correspondence with the Narc will indeed without a doubt hinder her true purpose in life, and will inevitably destroy it.
    Mrs. B - Is waiting impatiently for answers and will go along with anything the Narcissist has for her to keep the abuse in tact in her life. Mrs. B typically has child-hood wounds that keeps her codependent. Looking for the toxic person to come back so she can please the abuser and prove to the abuser that she is worthy of him. Mrs. B never fulfills her purpose in life. Mrs. B never relies on God, only tries to fill the void with other abusive people.
    (Mrs. A can be Male or Female)

  • @treelover1050
    @treelover1050 Рік тому +166

    WEIRDEST THING TO WATCH THEM ACT LIKE THEY DID NOTHING WRONG. EVEN THOUGH WE KNOW THE TRUTH. THEY HAVE NO WISH TO FACE THE TRUTH.

    • @pebblesvonk8916
      @pebblesvonk8916 Рік тому +12

      Yep, they feel entitled. Especially being that 45 has never, until now, been held accountable one day in his miserable life.

    • @moniquevanleeuwen6514
      @moniquevanleeuwen6514 Рік тому +17

      Searching for the truth is even an insult and a abomination to them.
      It is WRONG to them!!
      You’re a BAD person for desiring truth!!

    • @nopereradicator
      @nopereradicator Рік тому +11

      It would make you laugh except it’s happening to you.

    • @reneeboehm558
      @reneeboehm558 Рік тому +5

      Yup

    • @mostHigh23
      @mostHigh23 Рік тому +9

      Weird.... it's downright insane😅

  • @michaelmorgan7893
    @michaelmorgan7893 Рік тому +80

    Most of them don't ever realize that they messed up, until one day they see our value as a "source" that they wasted, and throw us away like garbage when we can no longer keep up with their demands. So they go find someone else they figure can keep up with them. It's ironic for sure when they meet another narcissist.

    • @CharMinsky
      @CharMinsky Рік тому +6

      They can’t function around non narcs.

    • @fainitesbarley2245
      @fainitesbarley2245 Рік тому +3

      The only longish relationship the covert I knew had was with an overt. The second longest (short) the same. Otherwise all short term. Hardly any friends.
      They seemed puzzled by this.

    • @princessmandy1757
      @princessmandy1757 Рік тому +2

      Its funny, too lol

    • @craigy691
      @craigy691 10 місяців тому +3

      12 years I was with my wife she discarded me out of the blue 2 weeks before an operation and my head was all over until a friend said to me your wife sounds like a covert narcissist I’ve done research and yes she’s a narc alright and so are her sister and mother

    • @judyholland1054
      @judyholland1054 10 місяців тому +2

      ..........does a narc know they are a narc????

  • @johnpatzold8675
    @johnpatzold8675 Рік тому +61

    My wife denied she was cheating even when she was caught with lingerie in the trunk of her car, and on camera with two different guys. Never could admit it. Gaslighted me until I just didn't care to talk it about it anymore, kicked her out, and went no contact. Only reason I hesitated for so long was the kids. Caught on tape saying she needed me as a father to my step kids. I was totally used!!!! Now she lives with some playboy.

    • @deannamartinez7233
      @deannamartinez7233 Рік тому +7

      Her loss!!❤

    • @HonestyIsAVirtue7
      @HonestyIsAVirtue7 Рік тому +16

      He's probably a Narcissist too... Eventually, they will both reap what they've sown. They don't get away with it forever...

    • @P4Eight
      @P4Eight Рік тому +8

      Yep, extra clothes in the trunk for the other life... Try not to take it to hard about raising her kids, they're all like that. At least her children got some real love, attention, patience and guidance from you. It's never wasted. Blessings brother

    • @leratomusi4595
      @leratomusi4595 Рік тому +6

      I bet she blames you for how her life is now... these birds aren't human at all

    • @pamelabarone5868
      @pamelabarone5868 Рік тому +3

      Her loss that is what they do. Its total insanity. Ignore do not ever engage again. I am sorry this happened to you. Ive been there. Never again. These groups help so we all see the truth.

  • @cherihill1687
    @cherihill1687 Рік тому +89

    Happy INDEPENDENCE day to everyone living narc free🎉 and to everyone who seen through the mask🎉 ! to everyone still entrapped-listen to Dave! He’s not sugar coating any of this, it is a battle between good and evil-every time you look at that narc you’re living with, look beyond the flesh, beyond the mask and see the demon. Get out-you won’t regret it❤God has bigger plans for you😊

    • @ComedianWillRodriguez
      @ComedianWillRodriguez Рік тому +6

      It only takes a tap of a button to block a narcissist and it’s worth it.

    • @esthero1994
      @esthero1994 Рік тому

      Demon infested....not even human. After you see it for what it is, you never look at anything else the same.

    • @danielkomorowski7966
      @danielkomorowski7966 Рік тому +1

      🤣🤣🤣 you think you're free

    • @cherihill1687
      @cherihill1687 Рік тому +7

      @@danielkomorowski7966 I know I’m free. When God pulls you out of somewhere you don’t belong and you wake up and realize he has bigger plans for you, you don’t take that lightly. Yes, I was devastated at the end, I was lost, I didn’t know who I was or how to be alone. I got a cat. I tried going out to socialize, but I felt empty. I have no interest in small talk or dating. I’ve been on a journey of getting to know my new self, self isolating, staying away from the fake people out there. I am at peace and content. I don’t have to answer to anyone, only God. We all have free will. In order to move forward we must change the way we think, the way we act and the way we feel. We are in control of our lives, not the narcissistic demon sent to destroy us. We are not meant to be controlled. Life is short and it is for you to live the best life you can. I wish you well. Be strong💐

    • @danielkomorowski7966
      @danielkomorowski7966 Рік тому +2

      @@cherihill1687 that's nice. He don't live in my neighborhood no more

  • @Existmusiccloud
    @Existmusiccloud Рік тому +6

    Or, they act like a child, bewildered that they've actually done something wrong when they're caught

  • @smarternow
    @smarternow Рік тому +47

    Dave,
    I am off ALL social media but LinkedIn for work. No dating sites. Alone but healthy and now doing what I want! My shine is back, my body is back and my relationship with God is back.
    I wake up and pray!
    I work out!
    I listen to you
    AND I work hard retaining N/C.
    Had I not found you I may have stayed, begged, and looked like crap for another 16 years! A loser, cheating, lying husband is not what God intended for me❤ thank you for helping me stay alive… I feel like singing the song… stayin alive!!! Ha ha ha Narc I am stayin alive….

  • @zeldavanniekerk226
    @zeldavanniekerk226 11 місяців тому +7

    A narc doesnt have feelings, they never mean it when they say sorry.

  • @thenarrowroad6731
    @thenarrowroad6731 6 місяців тому +7

    The BEST “revenge” when dealing with a narcissist is absolute, total utter INDIFFERENCE!! It infuriates them!! It confuses them! It makes them question their own importance in your life and they try to deny that they just don’t matter to you anymore, no matter how obvious it is to them and everyone else. THEY start looking like the fool! THEY start looking like the “obsessed” one because they can’t let it go. How dare you ignore them? It sets them off and goes against everything they deceive themselves (and everyone else) into believing. BUT, you can not give in or cave EVER AGAIN! You take back your power and control the minute you become completely indifferent…and they KNOW IT!!

  • @Ljc316
    @Ljc316 Рік тому +14

    “For he will order his angels to protect you wherever you go. They will hold you up with their hands so you won’t even hurt your foot on a stone. You will trample upon lions and cobras; you will crush fierce lions and serpents under your feet!”
    ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭91‬:‭11‬-‭13‬ ‭NLT‬‬

  • @docyoumomeries8613
    @docyoumomeries8613 Рік тому +31

    I think sometimes we get so caught up with who they were in the beginning that , that is the hard part to let go of, it takes a lot of self love and healing to realize that was all a false perception. You'll get there , keep praying and thank God that he took you out of that.

    • @GGSmalls
      @GGSmalls 8 місяців тому

      This is where I am stuck. He treated me amazingly until year 8. I am not sure he’s a full on narc, but definitely had traits and lots of the things said sound like what he did. Cheated for months before I was made aware. Denied denied denied. I stayed and then caught him myself. He did the back and forth “fake break” with me go to the other then beg me back on his hands and knees crying etc etc etc. I finally left in September after he wanted to end this rollercoaster and marry me and wanted to make it up to me the rest of our lives. Was he ever in love with me? Did he ever mean anything he ever said? He did everything in the world for me the first 8 years then he was someone I didn’t know after he got caught cheating.
      He was much younger than me too so maybe that had to do with it. Idk.

    • @ThimbleFox350
      @ThimbleFox350 7 місяців тому

      @@GGSmalls He was never in love with you the way that you're thinking. The way that you love him he is not capable of. He does not love the new supply either because well he can't. He only can love himself. Change is possible for the narcissist but only if you leave him where he is. If you stay then he will never change.

    • @angelablaney4575
      @angelablaney4575 6 місяців тому

      Many people say the narcissist is not of the devil and they are just hurt persons. I disagree. Many of us have been through hurt but still managed to behave rationally. No, their behaviour is definitely of the devil. Pathetic individuals, sadistic. People need to know how evil they are!

  • @narcslayerg2631
    @narcslayerg2631 Рік тому +19

    It’s all turns into projection. When they know you know, game over.

  • @deannamartinez7233
    @deannamartinez7233 Рік тому +20

    AMEN!!!!! Give it ALL to GOD- He will fight for you…
    Exodus 14:14 KJV🙌💟🙌

  • @WoodenFeather-xm3vl
    @WoodenFeather-xm3vl Рік тому +12

    Keep healing and going to the throne survivors!

  • @bonnyB123
    @bonnyB123 10 місяців тому +5

    Living with a narc is like walking through a land mile field!!

  • @Langolin1998
    @Langolin1998 Рік тому +35

    It doesn’t matter how many pieces of evidence you have to support your claim for their bad behavior, they will always always try to get out a bit by gaslighting. I could’ve had an envelope full of pictures of my ex in bed with another woman, and he would’ve denied it was him! The amount of effort they put into lying and covering up is exhausting to watch. I would always ask, wouldn’t it just be easier to admit the truth then play the mental gymnastics games all the time

    • @deannamartinez7233
      @deannamartinez7233 Рік тому +12

      satan is the father of all lies… Leslie, you would think that if they put all of that energy into the relationship it would work- but they rather play games… The fact is that the whole relationship was a big lie(.) Standing Strong with you Sis❤ JESUS has Set Us Free!!!🙌💟✝️

    • @Langolin1998
      @Langolin1998 Рік тому +8

      @@deannamartinez7233 100%. It’s all about the games. They have zero desire to be in a normal, healthy, adult relationship. It took three years to realize I’d been duped, and make my exit! I was married for 16 years before, to the father of my kids….although the relationship didn’t work out in the end, it was a “normal” relationship with none of the fakery and mental and emotional abuse. I thought I’d found a second chance at love after staying single for 6 years. Boy, was I wrong! I found the devil incarnate! God revealed the truth of this severely disordered person to me, and led me out! Stay strong, too. We will not let them break us!! 💪

    • @P4Eight
      @P4Eight Рік тому +5

      @@deannamartinez7233 yes, also the author of confusion. I honestly don't think it's as labor intensive for them to hustle ,as it would be for someone with virtue, they do what believers do when we get saved . You give your whole we life over to Christ, we want him to take the wheel.. They do the same thing, except they give themselves over to Satan, and his bag of tricks is delightful to the natural flesh. When the buzz wears off they go
      " worship" some more. I bet it's natural and involuntary for them, just makes sense to me

    • @moniquevanleeuwen6514
      @moniquevanleeuwen6514 Рік тому +5

      When they think you’re out to get them, there will be no limits in what they do or say to get ‘back at you’..

    • @deborahrichardson3731
      @deborahrichardson3731 Рік тому +3

      I said the same thing. Why are you lying? The truth is easier.

  • @jinnyh
    @jinnyh Рік тому +19

    I was discarded after 15 years married. Spent 2 years on a contentious divorce, just as we’re getting to the legal finale, he told me that he would be glad when it was over so we could start “ brand new”. Wha? Have been no contact for 30 years😊

  • @Jessicaisfreee
    @Jessicaisfreee Рік тому +23

    I am a codependent and empath and therefore should never date again haha I get myself into way too much trouble. Evil is drawn to me like flies.

  • @JaneJ993
    @JaneJ993 Рік тому +20

    Hang in there Christie❤ it gets better. Ask Jesus to just sit with you when your lonely. He's right here

    • @bobbarker1798
      @bobbarker1798 Рік тому +1

      finding a trustable friend is great therapy.

  • @Sun_moon_1111
    @Sun_moon_1111 Рік тому +24

    You have such a calm and great energy. What a gentlemen. Ladies please treat this lovely man with so much love and respect. The world needs more man like this and women who can appriciate them. ❤

    • @user-ye9jm2xk9e
      @user-ye9jm2xk9e 8 місяців тому +2

      Agree he’s a rare and very talented and special man. May the lord keep him protected always and prospering well in his life.

    • @Sun_moon_1111
      @Sun_moon_1111 8 місяців тому

      @@user-ye9jm2xk9e Amen. God bless you as well. 😊🙏

  • @eliindblom1020
    @eliindblom1020 Рік тому +14

    “They’ll give you a phony to-do list”. LOL!! My Narc told me if I sought therapy and dropped the child support order, we could work on our relationship, and he would break up with his girlfriend

  • @deannamartinez7233
    @deannamartinez7233 Рік тому +21

    He told me that I was to Nice…. It’s like they have this backwards mentality. 🤦‍♀️ Been Free since, Thank you, JESUS!!!! 🙌💟✝️

  • @leratomusi4595
    @leratomusi4595 Рік тому +11

    Honestly narcs are good for soul healing. Dude overcame addiction after dealing with a narc. Pain is the only door to self love, healing and growth of all three physical, emotional and spiritual and yes it's a hard road to recovery but the results are worth it

    • @jacquiehoot4638
      @jacquiehoot4638 8 місяців тому

      So agree. I feel so much pain and anxiety and a little bit of paranoia now in the early stages of healing. It’s really hard to trust literally anybody.

  • @Ljc316
    @Ljc316 Рік тому +23

    So true, “narcs channel evil forces” and you’re right Dave, it is warfare. I believe narc abuse is nothing but spiritual warfare. We cannot go to battle with these evil forces without God and the Holy Spirit. I have to continue to pray everyday for strength and wisdom. I find myself going back to narc videos, even though I’ve tried to move on, because I want to stay aware and not let my guard down ever again. I have witnessed the lack of repentance from my narc, even after 20 years of prayer and my forgiveness, letting him back a second time. I realize he is never going to change, and in fact I believe he got worse, living a secret lifestyle that was devastating to learn about.
    Have a blessed and safe 4th! God bless America! 🇺🇸

  • @michaelmorgan7893
    @michaelmorgan7893 Рік тому +15

    Relationships is the one game that I'm glad that I'm finally long out of now. No more wasting time, youth, hope, and money thinking I've found someone to be a life partner to help build with you, only to find "love" is one big battle that cannot be won.

    • @breadoflife7535
      @breadoflife7535 Рік тому +3

      You are very tired of it. I too got out of the game. But I don’t ever think there isn’t someone out there for me. I just stopped looking. It’s nice being pain free in the arena of relationships, but at times I do get very lonely. On the other hand I’ve been through 60 yrs of narcissistic abuse from my family. I do think it’s possible to not pick a narcissist as a mate, more than a family you’re stuck with. I finally walked away from every last one of them at 60 yrs old. It’s been 6 yrs now of a freedom I wouldn’t jeopardize for anyone or anything.

    • @michaelmorgan7893
      @michaelmorgan7893 Рік тому +3

      @@breadoflife7535 me too. I just turned 57 today, and I'm blessed and fortunate to make it this far. First I wasn't the type of strong, collegiate football playing son that my dad hoped for, to dealing with a lifetime of illnesses and disability issues that makes me still look "odd" and "slow" to this day.
      I've been told no matter what I do, I will never be accepted as a "valid life partner" to any woman in the eyes of today's modern society. Even the women in the church are conditioned from their teenage years to "go find a rich man" and "make daddy proud", so I was the one who was always threatened by those parents when I would so much talk to their daughters back in the day. It got me thrown out of church, and threatened with legal action, just for being "poor" and "odd" in everyone's sight.
      If that is what's supposed to represent "love" and "Christianity" then I'm good just being alone.
      The less people I see, are the less people I'll have to harbor anger against for attacking me out of nowhere. I'm just done with the whole scam of love and relationships after 40 years of hell I've been through.

    • @P4Eight
      @P4Eight Рік тому +2

      @@breadoflife7535 ❤️

  • @utabsksuavaoan-dg6xo
    @utabsksuavaoan-dg6xo Рік тому +4

    Their sorry is a LIE.

  • @lisamooney6297
    @lisamooney6297 Рік тому +7

    The best thing I ever did was block him everywhere. God bless you Dave!

  • @JumpWatson45
    @JumpWatson45 Рік тому +5

    My narc x took me to church on our first date and was tryin to hurry up and tie the knot. He mirrored me I never forget him saying he didn’t like basketball 🏀 and all the sudden he became the biggest Milwaukee Bucks fan! He even got mad at me and said he will go to a game alone and that’s when I knew he was full of shhhhh I basically told him so u don’t like Bball but ur willing to go to a game so you must be looking 👀 for ppl and he got upset. I knew he was a creep at that moment.

  • @archiehendricks6093
    @archiehendricks6093 Рік тому +4

    They will get irrate 100% oftime. Run .

  • @JaneJ993
    @JaneJ993 Рік тому +8

    Yes, have blocked the narc. There's nothingvelse to do with these people. Anything else gives them fuel

  • @fromhopelesstovictorious275
    @fromhopelesstovictorious275 Рік тому +8

    True repentance = Totally surrendering their foul ways to Christ...which they are not doing...ever. Get out of that triangulation web of lies and live your life, without them.

  • @emmamonroe3311
    @emmamonroe3311 Рік тому +7

    I called them the devils rejects becuz they know who he is and what he does 👹👈🏻

  • @HonestyIsAVirtue7
    @HonestyIsAVirtue7 Рік тому +11

    They fit the biblical scripture of demonic entities. They believe that they are their own gods with the little g....
    Meanwhile, they are little demons riding on the road known as "The Highway to Hell."

    • @deannamartinez7233
      @deannamartinez7233 Рік тому +3

      True and they do have a choice❤️ JESUS is The Only Way!!!!! 🙌💟✝️

    • @HonestyIsAVirtue7
      @HonestyIsAVirtue7 Рік тому +2

      ​@@deannamartinez7233Truth! God gave us all free will. They chose to follow the devil. They are reprobates.

    • @nanettesimon9388
      @nanettesimon9388 Рік тому +3

      Facts 😂

  • @kiddytube3915
    @kiddytube3915 Рік тому +10

    Love yourselves!! I know you didn’t truly experience true love in this relationship. And yes, an abusive person is good at being nice and kind but recognise it’s only to suck you back into the abuse.
    These evil people never loved you. They wanted you there to receive their abuse. They will answer to God for what they did. In the meantime, love yourselves more and heal from this. The narcissist was there to teach you this lesson.

  • @ronicatravis6264
    @ronicatravis6264 Рік тому +5

    Yes...looks are very dangerous...don't get hooked on the beauty of A person

  • @mostHigh23
    @mostHigh23 Рік тому +5

    They do get off on any kind of attention 😅.. Crazyyyyyy

  • @christinaholtzclaw2738
    @christinaholtzclaw2738 Рік тому +14

    Hello Dave! I wish you a fun and safe Independence Day tomorrow. There are so many on your channel who broke free and have a new meaning to the word freedom. I’m one of them. Hugs Dave! 💕

  • @AlwaysLisaLisa
    @AlwaysLisaLisa Рік тому +4

    When it no longer matters🧑🏼‍🎓

  • @Tommytwostroke
    @Tommytwostroke Рік тому +4

    They are nervy , My Narc told me “ I better go the other F’ing way if I ever see him” lol really what losers ! because I exposed him idc no one is going to treat me like that and just walk away
    Blocked and deleted !

  • @browneyes9507
    @browneyes9507 Рік тому +3

    Nope the narc husband didn’t tell me he messed up instead he said” I fucxxd up” . He knows I was the best he ever had .

  • @archiehendricks6093
    @archiehendricks6093 Рік тому +3

    Test the spirit, everyone you know or talk to.
    Practice how to test.

  • @angelawatts4390
    @angelawatts4390 Рік тому +3

    May God bless you and keep you,let His countenance shine on you
    and give you peace.
    You are a survivor.
    You are a warrior.

  • @angelawatts4390
    @angelawatts4390 Рік тому +4

    They are born of hell.

  • @teshablair2901
    @teshablair2901 Рік тому +7

    Happy 4th of July! Love to you all! Keep going to the throne and don’t give up! The Lord loves you so much! ✝️🇺🇸❤

  • @anta3612
    @anta3612 Рік тому +6

    I've just remembered that during the discard my ex fiancé actually blurted out to me that he didn't believe in God. The whole "Christian" thing is a mask that he continues to wear so that others trust him. His ex business partner went into business with him for the same reason that I let my guard down with him: he too thought that he was an honest Christian whom he could trust.

  • @isabelleallemand6063
    @isabelleallemand6063 Рік тому +3

    Hahaha Dave ,
    You are so laser sharp at describing them.
    🤗

  • @tamerastone4732
    @tamerastone4732 Рік тому +2

    U r helping me!!! Thank u!!! I really appreciate u coming from a Christ centered teachings!!

  • @ThanosXenidis
    @ThanosXenidis Рік тому +11

    Much love from Greece Dave thanks for your videos you opened our eyes completely ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉

  • @mariamanta2123
    @mariamanta2123 Рік тому +4

    He told me suddenly i cant control myself when i asked about cheating 🙄 weird ..

  • @yvechambers864
    @yvechambers864 Рік тому +4

    Thank you,I needed this...I'm a struggling Mrs A.

  • @ladyvirgo9514
    @ladyvirgo9514 Рік тому +6

    I'm in the divorce stage after 12 years. The discard was brutal. 😈he's shacked up with the next 5 miles away from our home. Hopefully the 7 days a week alcohol catches up.
    I'm struggling to be angry

  • @JaneJ993
    @JaneJ993 Рік тому +8

    Many thanks Dave, for all you do🎉❤

  • @JamesNGames
    @JamesNGames Рік тому +9

    Observing a narcissist acknowledging their own shortcomings is a significant development, underscoring the potential for self-reflection and personal growth even within the most self-centered individuals. While it is encouraging, it remains crucial to exercise caution and maintain healthy boundaries. Recognizing their capacity for change should not overshadow the need for continued vigilance and protection against potential harm. Balancing empathy with prudence is essential when navigating relationships with individuals who have demonstrated narcissistic tendencies, ensuring our own well-being while acknowledging the possibility of transformation.

    • @fainitesbarley2245
      @fainitesbarley2245 Рік тому +3

      Depends whether they have a narcissistic style or are a full blown narcissist.

    • @bobbarker1798
      @bobbarker1798 Рік тому +1

      She transformed alright! Threatened me with using electronic surveillance, torture, and death, harassment with gang stalking, even people in the medical industry were involved.

    • @archiehendricks6093
      @archiehendricks6093 Рік тому

      What the heck do you know , acknowledging, nonsense, if you expose them, out comes the devil.

    • @JamesNGames
      @JamesNGames Рік тому

      @@archiehendricks6093 Well, congratulations on your impressive expertise in ignorance and baseless assumptions. If exposing the truth brings out the devil, then I guess it's time for you to face your inner demons, my friend.

  • @annbarrington7298
    @annbarrington7298 Рік тому +5

    I realized he resented me the whole time. He chased me yet wanted to be with someone else the whole time. His baby’s mother.. what a joke. He’s obsessed with the child , taking custody of the child to keep her around.. so that’s why he ruined all holidays and vacation he hated being tied down with me when he could he using those holidays as opportunities to go lay down with that wh*** ,6 kids 4 different men.. he is desperate to be with her.. ran right back first argument. Beware they never know what they want, never make a decision

  • @darleenmcbride8900
    @darleenmcbride8900 Рік тому +6

    Happy July 4th everyone! Pray 🙏 for our country 🙏✝️🇺🇲

  • @leniecelewis3415
    @leniecelewis3415 Рік тому +8

    Dave This Message Is Spot On Thank You

  • @isabelleallemand6063
    @isabelleallemand6063 Рік тому +3

    Much love to you ,
    You are helping ,clearly🕊️✨🙏

  • @mostHigh23
    @mostHigh23 Рік тому +4

    They will definitely tell you something is wrong with you...that its all made up.... And that' your crazyyyyyy 😅 absolutely ridiculous

    • @treelover1050
      @treelover1050 Рік тому +1

      I was called crazy. But it was really him.

  • @Imnotyourdoormat
    @Imnotyourdoormat Рік тому +2

    Then comes the worse part for them... They must stand before their master the devil and apologize for using too much toxicity in their abuse cycles. That sent their targeted Empath scurrying away screaming bloody murder never to return again for more abuse. They know if they displease their king one more time he'll call them home to him forever.

  • @joannetier3044
    @joannetier3044 Рік тому +3

    My ex Narc believes that I am living miserably without him, he tells our son that I regret leaving. He’s inherited money and he says that I missed out big time by leaving, he could be a multi millionaire and I would still choose my life rich in peace and calm, money means nothing.

  • @archiehendricks6093
    @archiehendricks6093 Рік тому +2

    I have such an amazing time listening and thinking about all these angles.
    Its like someone who likes politics, or someone who loves talking about God, jesus christ.

  • @onlyonce1707
    @onlyonce1707 11 місяців тому +2

    Dave what I love about your messages is you get right to the nitty gritty. Your 'get a counsellor and celebrate me' is so spot on! Just what I need. Thanks so much.

  • @Whymeahhh
    @Whymeahhh Рік тому +5

    By His scars we are healed 😢. ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

  • @JaneJ993
    @JaneJ993 Рік тому +4

    TY Dave. Happy Monday🎉Happy 4th of July tomorrow🌟🌊🎉

  • @ronicatravis6264
    @ronicatravis6264 Рік тому +3

    Thank you once again Dave.... Every WORD 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

  • @princessmandy1757
    @princessmandy1757 Рік тому +12

    I think they mirror our negative behavior towards them also. If you don't call, they don't or you don't text they don't... A way of fishing you out.

  • @kimbersundstrom2100
    @kimbersundstrom2100 Рік тому +2

    Asking for prayers 🙏🏼 I'm one who is the other parent, after many years he now wants to be in the childs life. I would of been thrilled about this right after the separation but when I look at him know he is ugly the mask shattered. We are still not divorced because he keeps that chain around us. Yet has an entire different family. Which I pray for them daily that they all find salvation and redemption. Thanks Dave for the work you do. God Bless 🙏🏼

  • @Dee-tt3gs
    @Dee-tt3gs 10 місяців тому +1

    You're so right. Mine pretended to love exercise and walking. After marriage, he just sat around and watched old movies and didn't want to walk, let alone, exercise. We are now divorcing and dragging it out despite me walking away with no settlement. He's definitely a narcissist.

  • @archiehendricks6093
    @archiehendricks6093 Рік тому +3

    Been their dave, I got into a session with her personnal phycologist, and ex turn thing to where my honesty back fire on me, I did learn from that.
    Do not enter marriage counseling with narszist dr, a worldly dr.
    I set bounderie that that freak could not even park in front of my house, if son or daughter brought her, i would be done with them.
    And i am done with them.

  • @themalonetribe
    @themalonetribe Рік тому +4

    Yep..22 years together....she threw our daughters and me away for cheating and abuse....now realising....tooooooo late!

    • @julieriley2442
      @julieriley2442 Рік тому +2

      It’s never to late. Your future is bright😊

    • @kjsfl386
      @kjsfl386 Рік тому +2

      @@julieriley2442They meant too late for the narc ex.

  • @dianelowe3890
    @dianelowe3890 Рік тому +2

    This is hitting home, god has been speaking to my heart for a while and you just validated everything! Praise God! They did everything you described.

  • @jameswinkels2465
    @jameswinkels2465 Рік тому +4

    Thanks for this spiritual experience. It is reaching me at a time I needed to hear the most; and so special to read other mens personal experience of this *evil* in life. My experiences have emasculated me as a man and decimated my empathic virtue I was once learned was admirable. Thanks for this message.

  • @debbierockz1
    @debbierockz1 7 місяців тому

    The Narc loved the song by foreigner “I wanna know what love is .. I want you to show me” lol 😂 that’s a narcs song right there !!

  • @flyawaybutterflyhealingchannel

    The blame game they are famous for it

  • @rosesantiago174
    @rosesantiago174 Рік тому +3

    ALWAYS TAKING A SECOND TO GIVE A THUMBS UP! THANK YOU!

  • @tracybirden4503
    @tracybirden4503 Рік тому +1

    The narc got on Twitter it's favorite place to express itself and said: Some of my friends say I F*cked up .🤣🤣🤣 And he was trying to convince others that others thought he was right. sad

  • @pamelabarone5868
    @pamelabarone5868 Рік тому +2

    I know they are so mad about these videos. It narrows down the harem garage and only people that deal with them are taking from them because they have no other options. 😮

  • @hauntedgreeneyes5961
    @hauntedgreeneyes5961 Рік тому +2

    Thank you Dave, I continue to watch your videos and listen about Spirit. Even Mrs. A needs reinforcement on keeping the spiritual door shut and locked. It’s almost like keeping a monster under lock and key starving them out. Staving the demon out. I’ve been watching for 2 years and even in a new healthy relationship I still need support because of the trauma bond. ❤

  • @thenarrowroad6731
    @thenarrowroad6731 6 місяців тому

    EXACTLY!!! Wow, Dave, I swear you’re talking to me directly every video. Lol! It’s amazing how IDENTICAL the narcissist’s playbook is to another narcissist. My narc ex is so “remorseful” …… that he “got caught!” He’s sorry he didn’t cheat “smarter” so that I would still be clueless and naive, still with him while he continued living his double life. That’s ALL he’s sorry for, getting found out.

  • @smartsurvival2605
    @smartsurvival2605 Рік тому +3

    I'm 388th. lol. I honestly do not think he will ever contact me again. He knows I know. What he did to me was foul.

  • @archiehendricks6093
    @archiehendricks6093 Рік тому +2

    What does it mean really in new testament, suffer a witch not to live.
    A narssist is a witch.
    Does it mean to not try and deliver them, or does it mean , burn’em

  • @doranvee5944
    @doranvee5944 7 місяців тому

    When you spoke about the push/pull after she was with a new supply, and the "this is exactly why..," both hit home with me. She would often during our court phase, let loose on a tirade about whatever I was doing was "exactly why ... " guilt guilt guilt passive aggressive.

  • @thomaslopez6518
    @thomaslopez6518 Рік тому +1

    Explain what Mrs. A & Mrs. B means. That's vocab that's not in other Narcissistic recovery videos. "If you keep the communication lines open to a person who is channeling evil...keep in contact with the Narcissist." Best line

  • @amyt7378
    @amyt7378 Рік тому +1

    Ugh yes thank you Dave♥️ I TOTALLY unwillingly rejected the Hoover!! I wanted to talk and wanted to go there but simply COULDN’T go there again!

  • @PeterShaw-ne1yq
    @PeterShaw-ne1yq Рік тому +3

    Yes!
    They live their alter ego
    What happened to their real ego; it must be within their psyche somwhere🤔

  • @johnpatzold8675
    @johnpatzold8675 Рік тому +8

    Great video Dave. On the topic of triangulation, however. My wife used to always accuse me of bad motivations even if I was at a little league basketball game complimenting one of my teammates son's mothers on her boy's jumpshot. Everything was cheating. It was ridiculous. I even changed my facebook account to be a couple rather than me. I was truly pathetic in those days. Clearly she was projecting as all the while SHE was the one cheating, and on more than one occasion.

    • @passerby6168
      @passerby6168 Рік тому

      They judge everyone else by their own standards. It must be hell for them.

    • @nobodyCanForget
      @nobodyCanForget Рік тому

      ❤️

  • @miak6859
    @miak6859 Рік тому +3

    Thank you Dave please Have a Happy 4th of July, and Dave GOD BLESS you also Dave💞

  • @careerdianabaul
    @careerdianabaul 8 місяців тому

    On our last “chat” that we had together, he said things like, “Are you still thinking about this? I don’t even remember this anymore”; “I told you I don’t want to have feelings”; “I never said that - you think too much into the details and words: words are just words”; “I mean, we can meet and discuss as many times as you wish to understand why I broke up”; “I don’t feel guilty nor any remorse” - it was the craziest interaction I had with a person. It was a mix of word salad, with gaslighting, and there was no connection in between sentences. I literally couldn’t follow a specific line of conversation nor thought because he literally was able to throw me off within 3 minutes of our conversation.

  • @Idiopathogen
    @Idiopathogen Рік тому +3

    They don’t realize they messed up, ever. You messed up when you started dealing with them, and you continue messing up when you pay any attention to them.
    1 O Patient, spotless One!
    Our hearts in meekness train,
    To bear Thy yoke, and learn of Thee,
    That we may rest obtain.
    2 Jesus, Thou art enough
    The mind and heart to fill;
    Thy life, to calm the anxious soul,
    Thy love. its fear dispel.
    3 O fix our earnest gaze
    So wholly, Lord, on Thee,
    That, with Thy beauty occupied,
    We elsewhere none may see.

  • @WaterBug46
    @WaterBug46 Рік тому +2

    Oh my goodness. These very words were spoken in my house. If I stand up? How dare you! If you don’t like it just leave! String of affairs. Lies. But yet it’s all my fault. Fine. I’m ok with that. I just want to live in peace. Filed for divorce after 22 years.

  • @cajuncrackerranch7990
    @cajuncrackerranch7990 Рік тому +3

    Cheers ☕️ Dave!
    I respect and enjoy your channel and your contributions to the Cluster B Subject matter.
    I will not pen a foul word for the crazy bird, however, duck the Narcissist! 😂
    Thank you 🙏 sir!
    Have a great day and a safe 4th of July.
    Peace ✌️

  • @sarajohn6855
    @sarajohn6855 4 місяці тому

    Love your phrase “empty meat suits”
    I haven’t seen a better phrase to describe them.

    • @sarajohn6855
      @sarajohn6855 4 місяці тому

      There’s really “nothing” in them, I mean NOTHING, no matter how hard you look and how desperately you search.

  • @amazonarms
    @amazonarms Рік тому +2

    Sounds just like Jonathan Kleck! What an ordeal he’s put me and my family through!

    • @amazonarms
      @amazonarms Рік тому

      He calls himself a prophet and has a UA-cam channel. Just fair warning, the man is not who he claims to be! Stay away from him.

    • @kjsfl386
      @kjsfl386 Рік тому +1

      How so? If you don’t mind 😊

    • @amazonarms
      @amazonarms Рік тому

      @@kjsfl386 I followed him of UA-cam as did my sister, it’s a long story and we looked at him as a spiritual leader. He’s got a thing he’s been trying to prove about this being a “twins system”. We just never saw the set up (we are twins). When he was done with us he accused my sister and brother in law of stealing, called me and my sister the most evil things that exist, turned our friends that followed him too against us. It was most amazing how he accomplished it all! Gene Revel has a channel that explains the story more fully. Kleck won’t stop trying to beat us down, so we just keep telling the truth about his lies in hopes of warning those what would innocently trust him, like we did. We ended up having to file police reports because he whipped up his followers into a friend y. Didn’t want to be the victim of some religious fanatic who thought they’d do the world a favor and kill the most evil thing on earth or one of our family members. He exposed my mom’s address as well as my sisters. Pretty scary for a little while!

  • @thebookishkhmerican4303
    @thebookishkhmerican4303 11 місяців тому

    This makes so much sense why my mom would put “god” in the house all the time and make me and my sisters believe in “god” when we were kids. She was “god” and wants to be adored and doesn’t say sorry.

  • @nobodyCanForget
    @nobodyCanForget Рік тому +2

    God bless you! ❤️

  • @teresaclipston716
    @teresaclipston716 8 місяців тому

    So true “unwillingly” not contacting the Narc .. so hard

  • @citydrums7525
    @citydrums7525 Рік тому +2

    Good, informative video.
    What is the True Self? That part of the self that is not in opposition to God and others.
    What is the False Self? That part of the self which is egoically over-attached to power/control, affection/esteem, survival/security via cultural conditioning & childhood emotional programming.

  • @alouise3557
    @alouise3557 7 місяців тому

    My Narcissist did say he was a terrible person, ruined his life, hates hurting people, horrible alcoholic, etc. Got sober and treated me like gold for 2 weeks, fully attentive but still in those 2 weeks, laid little breadcrumbs of doubt that would really bother me. I said something about it, he immediately called me crazy and said "i thought you changed like I have, this isn't going to work. Bipolar psycho". I flipped on him. Picked up my stuff yesterday immediately afterward and can't even eat. The nervousness won't stop. I'm sick over this. This has been the worst nightmare of my life. I am constantly thinking I'm the problem. I should've never said anything. I should've brought it up a different time, a different way. I know I'm being manipulated but can't stop owning all of it as my fault. Lowest I've ever felt. I don't know if I'll make it through this.

  • @jeanludtke2913
    @jeanludtke2913 8 місяців тому +1

    The light of Christ sends them away running.

  • @mostHigh23
    @mostHigh23 Рік тому +4

    Mine's justified everything he did wrong ..😢... And I mean everything😅