I will,pray for you , it has been 5. Months for me now zero contact with my ex gf bpd/ npd, all cluster b personality disorders have a second tier disorder mine was a diagnosed bpd with 2nd tier narccistic traits , I know exactly what you are going through , I went no contact changed my cell number blocked her and her friends , her parents I deleted all forms of beings associated with her …. I am feeling much better , remember they are not who you thought they are , just think of that parson as just a bad dream , a figment of your imagination , I bet you are a beautiful human being that is why you feel deeply …but feel deeply about someone who is real and gives you back real love , this person is out there for you … God Bless you …
I will pray for you. I believe the only way over it is through it and you will be a different person as you heal god is with you. you are the prize you win 💜
My ex started to ask me if he was the best in bed and also if his private part was the biggest. I thought to myself hes been with someone and maybe shes said hes the best. This was us 8 years married and he also had gay tendencies which i later found out.Devil he was Thanks for this lv ya💙
She couldn't be at home, with our child. She needed to live in that bar. It was more than just her job, it was her "second family". She was a "social butterfly" and all those strange men at the bar were just her "guy" friends. I needed to stop being so insecure and jealous. She hated jealousy in men... She was "with me" and I needed to deal with that, or risk losing her... Yeah, I bought it for way too long and that's on me. Yeah, I had to do the final discard and yeah, I had to make my own closure. We wanna believe the patently unbelievable. We gotta quit that.
My ex narc is covert. He's a sneak. He's older. He had a drop dead beautiful wife. He drove her nuts as I learned later on. They divorced. I was told by a family member of his that she was his possession. Red flag for me! At the time I had no idea about narcs.With time the flags piled up. I had to go! Long story short, he's older, I am too. Narcs never change. Glad you got out when you did!!
I stay home with our 5 month old and I am also pregnant with second while he goes to work and does perverted things with the woman there and it’s the same script. We are not crazy and we didn’t deserve this. God is strong and the love he has for you will break all bondages, chains, and curses.
I had to hit the thumbs up when you brought up the duper marriage counselor that falls for the narcs charm and victimhood. It happens a LOT. Such an insult!
That’s why I never go to shrinks until they’ve gone through my personal vetting process first I would encourage everyone to do the same or you will wind up the victim to them as well it’s your dime make them answer your questions b4 u agree to tell them anything
When you're told you're the best snuggler with the person you love, it means a lot. Arms around a warm body and the most comfortable place you could ever be, really hurts when you think back and learn it was a facade. You then question everything they ever said or did. This is why we need people like you, Dave. To help us make sense of this whole charade.
So true. When everything about me was “the best”… I mean, I didn’t tell him how great he was…. But if I would talk like this about a man an directly to him it would be the truth so I too don’t get a grip how this sweet talking was never true …. Very sad.
This hits me so hard. I was the best, of so many things. I believed him, and when it hit me that it was all fake, I fell into a deep🎉 depression. It was all a lie
Have been married to one for years. Did not know about narcissism until 3 years ago when a friend mentioned ot to me. Since I was speaking French for years till I came to the US, I never knew or heard about a lot of expression that peoples uses. For example, flying monkey ,Anyway I did try to separate years ago twice and he made my life hell , using the kids against me. I know do not let him co trol me or gaslight me without calling him out. The Bible says , resist the devil and he will flee from you. That's what I do cause it's a spiritual war not carnal . We do not wrestle against flesh and blood but against spiritual forces. My relationship with Jesus had kept me sane throughout all this chaos . I learned a lot about NPD and now I can see through it and how dark it is. God is my refuge and my strength. Amen ❤️
That's exactly what I thought. "Who are you?" I swore I was talking to a demon. I even said so to a friend. I turned into Mrs. A immediately. He really misjudged me. We didn't live together so I wasn't really trapped. I don't think he'll be back, I thought I was the primary but now realize I probably wasn't. I've never met anyone so deceptive. He said he was a Christian. Pftt, yeah right. He's about as Christian as a gerbil. It's been seven months now, and it's really hard to wrap my mind around the fact that I was living in a false fantasy for 3.5 years.
wow. i know your feel. be me. planning to spend my life with her. planning to adopt her Son. loving him as my own boy from age 1 to age 3. calls me Daddy. one day she hits him and i said don't do that. tension is rising. out of nowhere like a rabid dog she tells me with absolutely no mercy, no humanity don't tell me how to raise MY SON. YOU'RE NOT HIS FATHER. i was in actual mental shock. i could not process the extent of evil she was so willing to go to, on a whim, and mean it. feeling zero emotion. it destroyed me. it was the final thing. i moved from midwest suddenly, to east coast and haven't gone back. it was like talking to a demon. btw she left me for dead. i woke up and went to the ER myself. she wouldn't even have known.
Next week marks a year of no contact since he announced on a Monday morning he was leaving like it was something he was checking off a to do list. Over the weekend I had attempted to hold him accountable for a lie I realized he had told me. I said one word…ok…and trusted God in that moment and started walking forward to my new life. I do take some comfort in remembering the stunned look on his face when I didn’t react. On reflection…my body knew before I did. I’ve always taken care of myself and have enjoyed vibrant health. During our first year together, I started having episodes of my heart racing, dizzy, feeling like I would pass out. Out of the blue..and often. There was even a day I lost consciousness sitting next to him in church and woke up in an ambulance. No doctor could figure out why. When he left, I could feel my nervous system calm down, all symptoms went away and I began to understand the gravity of what I had been through with him, knowing God had delivered me from this diabolical person who wore such a beautiful mask. In my devastation in the early weeks, and often since on challenging days, I can feel the arms of God wrap me in what feels like a warm blanket…encouraging me to not feel alone.
thanks Dave.i was discarded 6months ago.i asked God for help and your videos have got me this far.i met a woman who is an angel compard to the demon I was with. keep making these videos they are helping all of us.
My husband narc left me alone at home with our twin boys and i was pregnant & could not breathe. My dr said go to the e.r. My narc husband said i am at work. Have my dad take you. Then i called my husband narc from the hospital and said they are gonna keep me in hospital for tests. I am scared for me & our developing baby He said i am not coming to see you. I never get to do anything with my friends. 3 yrs later, i filed divorce. And God helped me get free!
Had no idea what a narcissist was. 33 years with one. Broke me to pieces. But we know who put me back together, unmovable and unstoppable!! All Glory be to GOD!!
I cried on my wedding night in a bathroom stall, thinking and knowing I just made the biggest mistake of my life. Did my ex husband come look to see where his wife was? No absolutely not he was on the dance floor getting all the attention and tons of women surrounding him dancing.
I felt alone on the wedding day. I kiss him. Thanks Dave! I felt the twilight zone the second day knew I made a mistake. He was pushing it because I told him I only wanted to marry once. He was nothing but a dirt bag.
🎉Hi, Dave! I was discarded in August and saw many red flags in my 25 years of marriage but ignored the signs, thinking it was me and was a pleaser. He was cheating with a long-distance relationship, introducing his lover as his girlfriend. I'm just baffled with no shame in the game. Your videos have woken me from a deep trance. I would love to get my hands on one of your bibles since I started getting closer to God since my mother's passing in 2022 which is when I guess I went into some sort of depression and I guess my husband saw me as not paying him any special attention. I guess I wasn't allowed to grieve my loss. But, I again thank you for your voice, experience, and advice on this topic.
I'm saved, sanctified, and filled with Holy Ghost! God showed me my ex narc's spirit(it was dark) a month before he came into my life, and I ignored it because I was in a dry place ( a wilderness ), and my guards were down. The love bombing totally caught me off guard! I'm thanking God for Jesus!!! His love knows no bounds. He brought me out! I got away! Jesus IS the author and the finisher of my faith!!! I Thank God for you!
I dealt with a narcissist from hell with many demons in them for 10 long miserable years. I finally left, and the first day I was gone, I slept like a baby. He tried to break me, didn't work, I was to strong for him. Whatever he did to me, I did to him, he couldn't handle it. Lol 😊
Again WOW !! My husband at our wedding left me at the table that his bosses were sitting, I didn't know them and was uncomfortable, and that was the beginning of feeling alone, we had dated 6 years and he became a Christian?? I thought. Excellent mask, was so good at mirroring everything. The wedding nite was robotic, no human connection, empty...loveless 28yrs. later he took the mask off and said just what you said they say, "I feel empty inside" I told him if the Holy Spirit lives inside you you are never empty. He was in Adultery and totally taken over by the devil I told him I don't have to divorce you, because I would have never married this. I can't wait until this demon of narcissism is cast into the bottomless pit and no one has to ever be harmed by him again!!
Dave I’m laughing because I can relate to your story about them wrapping their fingers around the therapist! My narc got the therapist to talk about going golfing all during our therapy!!!! We got nowhere in therapy except the narc hot his supply! I stopped seeing the counselor! He was so duped! God bless you! Keep em coming Dave! You’re a riot and so wisdom filled- thanks be to God! 🎉🎉🎉🙏🙏🙏
They discard no matter what until they just can’t $ afford to discard anymore & they are too old and or not as well in health . Some people may think differently with experience . Would like to see comments if so .
Baptism will break the demonic soul tie. Its like the spirit of confusion slowly wears off as long as you don't re-engage the host. It took me about 3 weeks to go from terrible pain and suffering to contentment. Thanks Jesus! Thanks God!!
Here's the hardest thing...I wasted my youth ...36 years with this pperson who doesn't love me...dosen't reciprocate care when i needed it and abused me. I left but I gave everything to her...gave her all my love...care...affection..loyalty and Im left with nothing. v
Been struggling for about 5 months not giving into the hoover/breaking no contact. I feel like I'm trying to break free from a drug addiction. I've recently started going back to Church and am looking to redirect all the energy and attention I was giving her to God. I very much want to leave her influence in my life behind in 2023.
Thank you for helping me. I started listening to your channel April 2021. I didn’t know about narcissism. Now I know the only one for me is my Heavenly Father. You are absolutely right in this end times so many relationships are about the flesh God taught me so much through the pain, abuse, ptsd. And I got so much peace from listening to your episodes thanks and continue doing God’s work. He is coming soon and devil throws narcissists into peoples lives to destroy. So I go to the throne. 🙏🙏❤️
Dave, thank you so much for this blessed channel. I have watched for 3 yrs! I am free from two narcs! I wanted to tell you all that I am a Christian and one time God showed me an image, kind of a dream, but i was awake. And I clearly saw the herum garage. But it was a set of 3 or more caves. And there was a woman in each cave. The narc was walking back and forth, like pacing (a roaring lion waiting to see who he could destroy). It really scared me to see this truth! Anyway, I Finally got the full truth about narcissists. God bless you all who watch this channel.
I had dreams also of my narc with certain other women that I did think he was with. It was really sad to see the truth in my dreams. They were always in houses. I think I dreamt that because I was his realtor and also his good friend and I didn’t like the idea of him making a house with someone else.
Hi Dave, your video popped up while I am in my therapy, aka making apple butter. 😊 Your videos a few years ago really helped me after a 2 year discard from my always angry Narc. He came back after being gone for a year and a half. Begrudgingly, I agreed to try counseling but that was only for him to Air everything I did to him. It did help me open my throat charaka, and I voiced many things I never had before. I set my 1st boundaries and held strong. When he said "I want to move home, but don't expect anything from me," and said I should have said "I'll do anything to make this work" that was it for me. The divorce was final a month ago, and it was and is all God. God held me up and gave me the strength to put myself first, finally. Thanks again for all you do. You are helping us all become Mrs. A'a. ❤
You were my first narcissist abuse healing channel...i still get so much out of your videos...5 years watching...whenever i struggle in my recovery i listen to you and i can cope..the battles still come in ways i didn't expect...as the fog clears, i m ready to understand another thing that im supposed to. Im also a christian, so i appreciate God being included. Its so much deeper than other channels. Thank you..God must be blessing you so much. Ive been single and celibate for 7 years now...i can feel jesus holding the men away from me..he knows i cant do it myself..its very sweet. If god thinks im ready for a relationship, then he will bring a man of god into my life and that day will be so beautiful.. I'll be 60 this year but im full if hope and i love my life. God is at the centre. At last. 😊
I prayed and here is my answer thank you Lord thank u for your time family. It’s hard to swallow the pill and not regress to negative ways but I’ll make sure I can do it
I'm having my ☕ sounds like someone is urinating Dave when you pour your coffee☺️ forgive me, have jokes, needed that while on this touchy subject. I ❤️ your videos.
I thank God that I came across your channel Dave. You really hit the nail on the head. You have open my eyes wide open, I didn't know what I was dealing with. Thank you my lord for this information. Keep letting God use you Dave. So many others are living under this EVIL SPIRIT! BLESSINGS, ❤
Escape it…that was me. I knew I couldn’t win! I went into the guest room as his wife. He let me know he had a girlfriend. We were married a short time! He told me how pleased he was by her. What???? I was in a new home we built, we were in love….I guess not. My heart just broke to pieces…God help me. 12 years single and waiting for this? He was so gorgeous. His body, now….no sex…but I am married…he hated me….ptsd was major! What did I do? Who is this man….I
This brought back a memory i was watching a video about angels and he walked in a startled me, he started laughing saying youre watching stupid videos of angels ...ha ha ha. I saw him as the devil. How dare him mock whatever i watch when im alone. He watches videos of people fighting and enjoys that.
I’m so grateful for channels like this………I’m in the beginning of my healing journey. I was in a 20 years Narcissistic relationship/marriage and didn’t know what it was until a few months ago. I know this is gonna be hard but I pray I make it through.🙏🏻🙏🏻
After our wedding reception, my spouse wanted to stay with his parents after driving them home. His dad said, I'll go with you tomorrow and you can drop me off at another relative's home. That was the one they didn't invite to the wedding. After a visit, my father in law said we could then pick him up and take him back home! My mother in law gasped, saying, you can't go on their honeymoon ! My husband didn't say a word. That's because he'd already told me we'd have our honeymoon at another time.He was tired and wanted to sleep. BTW, after 39 years we never had that honeymoon. But he did continue sleeping all the time. Thank God for helping me to become separated from him for the last 7 years!
Now I can see the entire timeline of what happened and everything you’re saying makes so much sense. Even things he said to me afterwards and projecting the cheating on to me. When I didn’t even know that was even happening on his end. Disgusted. I was so loyal. Also, in the beginning, I asked him not to sleep with other people, (so I don’t catch anything) We weren’t serious at that time, and I remember him asking me. “Why did you say that to me?” I think he was trying to figure out if I was one of them.
Glory to God for the knowledge that the LORD has given you Mr. Dave, to share with us that helps us wake up to deal with this horrible narcissist guys. This guys confused me like what kind of man is this? I never met someone like him before…, he’s so weird!!!’ but after listening to your podcast it woke me up and said ‘’ this is it enough is enough” and now that I am not responding to his text messages and calls he’s going crazy. I asked the LORD to keep me safe because I am afraid he might hurt me. I live by myself because I am a widow. Since I stopped engaging with him he’s more texting and calling me more than before. I feel uncomfortable specially at night. Please, include me in your prayers🙏
Dave, you are lucky that it was only a year for you...and you learned so much. For men, I believe the female narcissist is easier to figure out as she has none of the nurturing qualities that women are prized for. It took me 23 years and 3 divorces (with the same man!) to figure out that the toxic cycle will never end.
It DID take years.... for me. It went from one narcissist to another. Then I would be reeling after the last one compounding on the other original one.. compounding the effects it had on my children ... And not being able to rescue or fix THEM.... To losing a child, to walk into an extremely dangerous narc where I was almost killed... To then be rescued from that situation by an old bf... To leaving there in that situation that was platonic but he was not happy with it being that way unto it got verbally abusive relationship .... 2 going back to my home and working on health issues... That I know are a direct result of all of the stress in my life as one of my issues is so much acid reflux that it is literally killing the inside of my esophagus and the tissue is sloughing away. That's a lot of stress for many years... I tried for the sake of my kids to try to have some sort of a decent relationship with the original narcan which I have children from being married for many years to be discarded like the most foul trash and smeared my name and left me without any everything that means anything to me... I didn't have to say much to tell the original narc that he crossed the line for the LAST FINAL TIME. I CAN'T EVEN IMAGINE HAVING SOMEBODY THAT LOVES ME IN THE WAY THAT GOD DESIGNED IT TO BE. PERHAPS IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN AND I AM JUST FINE WITH THAT. I JUST KNOW I WILL NEVER END UP IN ANY OF THOSE SITUATIONS AGAIN ‼️ SO HELP ME LORD‼️🕊️💪
Sad you had to go thru so much! You never know what God has planned for you --- even if it's life without a "partner" ---- a life where you are free, healthy and loved by God.
😂😢😮 I had a dream wedding in Santa Barbara 300+ reception at hotel on the water. We had an ocean front suite...so I thought he changed the room to a smoking room! No beautiful view! Was not even interested in my fancy lingerie. Told me to hurry up so we could consummate and he could sleep. We were going to church the next am with about 70 friends and family I was so miserable in the am. I didn't even want to go on the honeymoon. I did not know where the honeymoon was until the second plane!
One time I told him I was going to church and he said, "What's more important? Going to church or spending time with your man? You need to do what I want you to do." Really??? Yeah. I went to church.
Hi my wedding night was an absolute horror movie. He said the most horrible things and I sat in the bath crying while he was snoring the night away. What a night! It set the stage for what was yet to come.
THANKYOU for reassuring me that Jesus will help me (& my adult kids) kick the narc out of our life forever! We put up with his evil tactics for 30 years! I will keep praying to Jesus!! THANKYOU THANKYOU THANKYOU!!!!!! I need this video very much! JESUS I trust in You!🎉🎉🙏🙏
35:08 False relationship- DETANGLE YOURSELF. Doomed to fail from second 1 - you are so correct. Thanks cause it isn’t me that is to blame or unlovable. I will write that down.
Hi Dave. I thank you, you are the one who helped me so much, years ago. Now I am back. I wasn't as strong as I thought I was. I'll be strong again.. Thank you Dave. 🙏❤️ praise the Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.
They constantly push your buttons you got that right! Thank God for these channels so we can finally figure out what the hell was going on!! 4 years free thanks Dave!!
After my first ex of ten years and I got together, she made a mission of driving away all my friends and family, with this false religion she was always and forever cramming down everyone's throat. Just last week I learned a friend of mine I have known for 40 years had passed away. He and I were as close as brothers at one point, but I hadn't seen him in 12 years, because of my narc ex, and making him feel unwelcome in her home. By that time, i didnt have my own car, nor could I have went to visit him. My whole relationship was an episode of The Twilight Zone, with a storyline like I was catapulted to Nazi Germany.
It’s not always the narc who slips for sure 😮oops I did it again Dave 🎉 sadly. Our son’s birthday was Oct. 9th. Third tee up 😅in as many months with my ex. He belched at the dinner table at the restaurant **so loud** I just lost it…quietly 😂 of course bc I’m human unlike him so 😂 I told him he’s so classy in public. I quickly looked at my son and daughters and smiled 😅and PROMPTLY PRAISED JESUS 🤎 for everything GOOD in my lifetime 🥲 Amen 🙏 forgive me Lord Jesus and give me strength 🙌🏻 He NEVER lets me down Dave 😢 neither do you when I need to hear your voice either 💕 I’m beyond thankful 🥹
Thank God 4 these videos they really helping me was with the narcissist for 10yrs. Been done for 9months I'ma Ms.A can't take it anymore never ever & didn't know he was narcissistic until he left...
I convinced my X husband to go to couples counciling. He ended up wrapping her around his finger. I sat there like a stranger, unwanted in the room!!! I refused to go back with him. I did not know about narcissism @ the time. What a waste of time.
The ex narc had texted me the next day after I found out he had moved in with the new supply ..he had the nerve to tell ME I needed meds and help he would always love me 🤮.. I texted back one final and last time to never contact me again ..he didn’t excist to me anymore and all pics were even gone He Was gone..then I blocked the creature on everything I could think of and never looked back ..it felt great to get that off my chest now I’m in healing mode. I have my good and bad days with it ..
I financially supported my family of 3 for 23 years of marriage. Then I found evidence of his cheating. I paid the mortgage for our home, the car, the truck, our son, etc. When I realized he was cheating with another woman I divorced him. I'm in counseling and take an antidepressant. I drink now and I never drank before. I've done things I never would have imagined I'd do. But I am a child of the Creator of All Things. I'm forgiven by God. I love the Lord for blessing me to be out of those situations. I'm becoming who God means for me to be. I have inner peace now.
That pain is so bad. Pray for me Dave 💔
I will,pray for you , it has been 5. Months for me now zero contact with my ex gf bpd/ npd, all cluster b personality disorders have a second tier disorder mine was a diagnosed bpd with 2nd tier narccistic traits , I know exactly what you are going through , I went no contact changed my cell number blocked her and her friends , her parents I deleted all forms of beings associated with her …. I am feeling much better , remember they are not who you thought they are , just think of that parson as just a bad dream , a figment of your imagination , I bet you are a beautiful human being that is why you feel deeply …but feel deeply about someone who is real and gives you back real love , this person is out there for you …
God Bless you …
I will pray for you. I believe the only way over it is through it and you will be a different person as you heal god is with you. you are the prize you win 💜
My ex started to ask me if he was the best in bed and also if his private part was the biggest. I thought to myself hes been with someone and maybe shes said hes the best. This was us 8 years married and he also had gay tendencies which i later found out.Devil he was Thanks for this lv ya💙
It gets better
I’ll pray for you. I’m sorry your hurting so badly.
She couldn't be at home, with our child. She needed to live in that bar. It was more than just her job, it was her "second family". She was a "social butterfly" and all those strange men at the bar were just her "guy" friends. I needed to stop being so insecure and jealous. She hated jealousy in men... She was "with me" and I needed to deal with that, or risk losing her...
Yeah, I bought it for way too long and that's on me.
Yeah, I had to do the final discard and yeah, I had to make my own closure.
We wanna believe the patently unbelievable.
We gotta quit that.
My ex narc is covert. He's a sneak. He's older. He had a drop dead beautiful wife. He drove her nuts as I learned later on. They divorced. I was told by a family member of his that she was his possession. Red flag for me! At the time I had no idea about narcs.With time the flags piled up. I had to go! Long story short, he's older, I am too. Narcs never change. Glad you got out when you did!!
I stay home with our 5 month old and I am also pregnant with second while he goes to work and does perverted things with the woman there and it’s the same script. We are not crazy and we didn’t deserve this. God is strong and the love he has for you will break all bondages, chains, and curses.
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I am no contact till my divorce is finalized he has tried to reach out no contact , Im keeping busy till the Lord Jesus returns 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Happy Friday Ladies & Gentlemen!!!!
No contact & No attention is key
Happy Friday & weekend to you Dave 🕊️
Happy Friday!😁 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
TGIF Dave
I had to hit the thumbs up when you brought up the duper marriage counselor that falls for the narcs charm and victimhood. It happens a LOT. Such an insult!
That’s why I never go to shrinks until they’ve gone through my personal vetting process first I would encourage everyone to do the same or you will wind up the victim to them as well it’s your dime make them answer your questions b4 u agree to tell them anything
My counselor I went to post discard told me to stop talking about the narc, move on ,-and to go to a dating app and find someone. I DUMPED HER.
When you're told you're the best snuggler with the person you love, it means a lot. Arms around a warm body and the most comfortable place you could ever be, really hurts when you think back and learn it was a facade. You then question everything they ever said or did. This is why we need people like you, Dave. To help us make sense of this whole charade.
So true. When everything about me was “the best”… I mean, I didn’t tell him how great he was…. But if I would talk like this about a man an directly to him it would be the truth so I too don’t get a grip how this sweet talking was never true …. Very sad.
I agree Beth,my narcissist was so cold an distant.
last winter was the coldest I ever had in my life.
God bless
They do come back, I told my mistake that he was too crazy for me. And he is, it did not take long for the crazy to come back.
This hits me so hard. I was the best, of so many things. I believed him, and when it hit me that it was all fake, I fell into a deep🎉 depression. It was all a lie
Oh mine said he loved cuddling it’s really lazy bread crumbing ! Ugh I walked away but it doesn’t hurt any less.
Have been married to one for years. Did not know about narcissism until 3 years ago when a friend mentioned ot to me. Since I was speaking French for years till I came to the US, I never knew or heard about a lot of expression that peoples uses. For example, flying monkey ,Anyway I did try to separate years ago twice and he made my life hell , using the kids against me. I know do not let him co trol me or gaslight me without calling him out.
The Bible says , resist the devil and he will flee from you. That's what I do cause it's a spiritual war not carnal . We do not wrestle against flesh and blood but against spiritual forces.
My relationship with Jesus had kept me sane throughout all this chaos .
I learned a lot about NPD and now I can see through it and how dark it is. God is my refuge and my strength. Amen ❤️
That's exactly what I thought. "Who are you?" I swore I was talking to a demon. I even said so to a friend. I turned into Mrs. A immediately. He really misjudged me. We didn't live together so I wasn't really trapped. I don't think he'll be back, I thought I was the primary but now realize I probably wasn't. I've never met anyone so deceptive. He said he was a Christian. Pftt, yeah right. He's about as Christian as a gerbil. It's been seven months now, and it's really hard to wrap my mind around the fact that I was living in a false fantasy for 3.5 years.
He never lived with me after we got married
He’d come around once a month
wow. i know your feel. be me. planning to spend my life with her. planning to adopt her Son. loving him as my own boy from age 1 to age 3. calls me Daddy. one day she hits him and i said don't do that. tension is rising. out of nowhere like a rabid dog she tells me with absolutely no mercy, no humanity
don't tell me how to raise MY SON.
YOU'RE NOT HIS FATHER.
i was in actual mental shock.
i could not process the extent of evil she was so willing to go to, on a whim, and mean it. feeling zero emotion.
it destroyed me. it was the final thing. i moved from midwest suddenly, to east coast and haven't gone back. it was like talking to a demon. btw she left me for dead. i woke up and went to the ER myself. she wouldn't even have known.
@@DarkMetaOFFICIAL I'm sorry, I know it's extremely painful.
I just looked up gerbil and it got me 😂😂😂😂😂
I received my Bible from you about 4 years ago and it's been such a help especially this last week. Thank you
I'm glad!
Next week marks a year of no contact since he announced on a Monday morning he was leaving like it was something he was checking off a to do list. Over the weekend I had attempted to hold him accountable for a lie I realized he had told me. I said one word…ok…and trusted God in that moment and started walking forward to my new life. I do take some comfort in remembering the stunned look on his face when I didn’t react. On reflection…my body knew before I did. I’ve always taken care of myself and have enjoyed vibrant health. During our first year together, I started having episodes of my heart racing, dizzy, feeling like I would pass out. Out of the blue..and often. There was even a day I lost consciousness sitting next to him in church and woke up in an ambulance. No doctor could figure out why. When he left, I could feel my nervous system calm down, all symptoms went away and I began to understand the gravity of what I had been through with him, knowing God had delivered me from this diabolical person who wore such a beautiful mask. In my devastation in the early weeks, and often since on challenging days, I can feel the arms of God wrap me in what feels like a warm blanket…encouraging me to not feel alone.
thanks Dave.i was discarded 6months ago.i asked God for help and your videos have got me this far.i met a woman who
is an angel compard to the demon I was with.
keep making these videos they are helping all of us.
My husband narc left me alone at home with our twin boys and i was pregnant & could not breathe. My dr said go to the e.r. My narc husband said i am at work. Have my dad take you. Then i called my husband narc from the hospital and said they are gonna keep me in hospital for tests. I am scared for me & our developing baby
He said i am not coming to see you. I never get to do anything with my friends. 3 yrs later, i filed divorce. And God helped me get free!
What a miserable SOB. Glad you are out
What a strong woman! I admire you!!! God bless you and your kids.
I’m so sorry, he was a coward! You deserve a Man of God! Sending you love and blessings to your and your entire family
The bottom line as hard as it is move on don't look back seek the Lord he will carry us through 🙏🙏🙏
Had no idea what a narcissist was. 33 years with one. Broke me to pieces. But we know who put me back together, unmovable and unstoppable!!
All Glory be to GOD!!
I cried on my wedding night in a bathroom stall, thinking and knowing I just made the biggest mistake of my life. Did my ex husband come look to see where his wife was? No absolutely not he was on the dance floor getting all the attention and tons of women surrounding him dancing.
Darling...I am so sorry
@@Victoria-qc9vw Thank You
The same happens to me😢
@@shedimwarriors78I am so sorry you expererienced this too.
It’s so sad
I only do Passive Aggression in my mind. My Narc has no idea what’s going on in my head. No Contact since 2017.
I felt alone on the wedding day. I kiss him. Thanks Dave! I felt the twilight zone the second day knew I made a mistake. He was pushing it because I told him I only wanted to marry once. He was nothing but a dirt bag.
Aw bless so sad x
Lmaoo😂 they have a itch they gotta scratch they will go to work scratch it Dave the commentary has me giggling so funny it's true.
🎉Hi, Dave! I was discarded in August and saw many red flags in my 25 years of marriage but ignored the signs, thinking it was me and was a pleaser. He was cheating with a long-distance relationship, introducing his lover as his girlfriend. I'm just baffled with no shame in the game.
Your videos have woken me from a deep trance. I would love to get my hands on one of your bibles since I started getting closer to God since my mother's passing in 2022 which is when I guess I went into some sort of depression and I guess my husband saw me as not paying him any special attention. I guess I wasn't allowed to grieve my loss. But, I again thank you for your voice, experience, and advice on this topic.
I'm saved, sanctified, and filled with Holy Ghost! God showed me my ex narc's spirit(it was dark) a month before he came into my life, and I ignored it because I was in a dry place ( a wilderness ), and my guards were down. The love bombing totally caught me off guard!
I'm thanking God for Jesus!!! His love knows no bounds. He brought me out! I got away!
Jesus IS the author and the finisher of my faith!!!
I Thank God for you!
I would never speak nor see him again if not shared parental rights. Ty so much for this channel, i have been here for some years
I don’t feel lonely here anymore 😢❤
I dealt with a narcissist from hell with many demons in them for 10 long miserable years. I finally left, and the first day I was gone, I slept like a baby. He tried to break me, didn't work, I was to strong for him. Whatever he did to me, I did to him, he couldn't handle it. Lol 😊
Again WOW !! My husband at our wedding left me at the table that his bosses were sitting, I didn't know them and was uncomfortable, and that was the beginning of feeling alone, we had dated 6 years and he became a Christian?? I thought.
Excellent mask, was so good at mirroring everything.
The wedding nite was robotic, no human connection, empty...loveless
28yrs. later he took the mask off and said just what you said they say, "I feel empty inside" I told him if the Holy Spirit lives
inside you you are never empty. He was in Adultery and totally taken over by the devil I told him I don't have to divorce you,
because I would have never married this.
I can't wait until this demon of narcissism is cast into the bottomless pit and no one has to ever be harmed by him again!!
Dave I’m laughing because I can relate to your story about them wrapping their fingers around the therapist!
My narc got the therapist to talk about going golfing all during our therapy!!!!
We got nowhere in therapy except the narc hot his supply!
I stopped seeing the counselor!
He was so duped!
God bless you!
Keep em coming Dave!
You’re a riot and so wisdom filled- thanks be to God!
🎉🎉🎉🙏🙏🙏
They discard no matter what until they just can’t $ afford to discard anymore & they are too old and or not as well in health . Some people may think differently with experience . Would like to see comments if so .
Baptism will break the demonic soul tie. Its like the spirit of confusion slowly wears off as long as you don't re-engage the host. It took me about 3 weeks to go from terrible pain and suffering to contentment. Thanks Jesus! Thanks God!!
Here's the hardest thing...I wasted my youth ...36 years with this pperson who doesn't love me...dosen't reciprocate care when i needed it and abused me. I left but I gave everything to her...gave her all my love...care...affection..loyalty and Im left with nothing. v
21:18 This side of you is so great. You got it going on making me laugh. It’s so sad and true, but I enjoy the levity .
Been struggling for about 5 months not giving into the hoover/breaking no contact. I feel like I'm trying to break free from a drug addiction. I've recently started going back to Church and am looking to redirect all the energy and attention I was giving her to God. I very much want to leave her influence in my life behind in 2023.
Only God and going to church helped me really. And I'm a very strong survivor in life (thanks to God). May you combat.
@Victoria-qci was thinking of going back to church. They said they miss me. 21 days demon dave free!
Thank you for helping me. I started listening to your channel April 2021. I didn’t know about narcissism. Now I know the only one for me is my Heavenly Father. You are absolutely right in this end times so many relationships are about the flesh God taught me so much through the pain, abuse, ptsd. And I got so much peace from listening to your episodes thanks and continue doing God’s work. He is coming soon and devil throws narcissists into peoples lives to destroy. So I go to the throne. 🙏🙏❤️
Strange wedding night, people around and did not consummate for a week. 18 years of misery, I survived her.
Dave, thank you so much for this blessed channel. I have watched for 3 yrs! I am free from two narcs! I wanted to tell you all that I am a Christian and one time God showed me an image, kind of a dream, but i was awake. And I clearly saw the herum garage. But it was a set of 3 or more caves. And there was a woman in each cave. The narc was walking back and forth, like pacing (a roaring lion waiting to see who he could destroy). It really scared me to see this truth! Anyway, I Finally got the full truth about narcissists. God bless you all who watch this channel.
I had dreams also of my narc with certain other women that I did think he was with. It was really sad to see the truth in my dreams. They were always in houses. I think I dreamt that because I was his realtor and also his good friend and I didn’t like the idea of him making a house with someone else.
Hi Dave, your video popped up while I am in my therapy, aka making apple butter. 😊 Your videos a few years ago really helped me after a 2 year discard from my always angry Narc. He came back after being gone for a year and a half. Begrudgingly, I agreed to try counseling but that was only for him to Air everything I did to him. It did help me open my throat charaka, and I voiced many things I never had before. I set my 1st boundaries and held strong. When he said "I want to move home, but don't expect anything from me," and said I should have said "I'll do anything to make this work" that was it for me. The divorce was final a month ago, and it was and is all God. God held me up and gave me the strength to put myself first, finally. Thanks again for all you do. You are helping us all become Mrs. A'a. ❤
You were my first narcissist abuse healing channel...i still get so much out of your videos...5 years watching...whenever i struggle in my recovery i listen to you and i can cope..the battles still come in ways i didn't expect...as the fog clears, i m ready to understand another thing that im supposed to. Im also a christian, so i appreciate God being included. Its so much deeper than other channels. Thank you..God must be blessing you so much. Ive been single and celibate for 7 years now...i can feel jesus holding the men away from me..he knows i cant do it myself..its very sweet. If god thinks im ready for a relationship, then he will bring a man of god into my life and that day will be so beautiful.. I'll be 60 this year but im full if hope and i love my life. God is at the centre. At last. 😊
I prayed and here is my answer thank you Lord thank u for your time family. It’s hard to swallow the pill and not regress to negative ways but I’ll make sure I can do it
I'm having my ☕ sounds like someone is urinating Dave when you pour your coffee☺️ forgive me, have jokes, needed that while on this touchy subject. I ❤️ your videos.
Yes,
We are in the last days!
I thank God that I came across your channel Dave. You really hit the nail on the head. You have open my eyes wide open, I didn't know what I was dealing with. Thank you my lord for this information. Keep letting God use you Dave. So many others are living under this EVIL SPIRIT! BLESSINGS, ❤
10000% your videos are amazing! All of them are all true. They went to same school and same book.
I love you Dave!!! Your videos is my narc pipe. Thank you so much for your healing ❤️🩹
Judge Judy hahahaha. Needed that!
Escape it…that was me. I knew I couldn’t win! I went into the guest room as his wife. He let me know he had a girlfriend. We were married a short time! He told me how pleased he was by her. What???? I was in a new home we built, we were in love….I guess not.
My heart just broke to pieces…God help me. 12 years single and waiting for this? He was so gorgeous. His body, now….no sex…but I am married…he hated me….ptsd was major! What did I do? Who is this man….I
Go to the thrown! ❤❤❤❤ My life is BETTER since the narc. God is good!
Man I thought you had pigtails in the thumbnail
This brought back a memory i was watching a video about angels and he walked in a startled me, he started laughing saying youre watching stupid videos of angels ...ha ha ha. I saw him as the devil. How dare him mock whatever i watch when im alone. He watches videos of people fighting and enjoys that.
I’m so grateful for channels like this………I’m in the beginning of my healing journey. I was in a 20 years Narcissistic relationship/marriage and didn’t know what it was until a few months ago. I know this is gonna be hard but I pray I make it through.🙏🏻🙏🏻
I agree. I like listening to you. I found your channel years ago.i felt at peace instantly.
The wedding night was weird - makes me cringe now
the narc whisperer 😂
After our wedding reception, my spouse wanted to stay with his parents after driving them home. His dad said, I'll go with you tomorrow and you can drop me off at another relative's home. That was the one they didn't invite to the wedding. After a visit, my father in law said we could then pick him up and take him back home! My mother in law gasped, saying, you can't go on their honeymoon ! My husband didn't say a word. That's because he'd already told me we'd have our honeymoon at another time.He was tired and wanted to sleep. BTW, after 39 years we never had that honeymoon. But he did continue sleeping all the time. Thank God for helping me to become separated from him for the last 7 years!
We Are not to tolerate evil and cast it out
Now I can see the entire timeline of what happened and everything you’re saying makes so much sense. Even things he said to me afterwards and projecting the cheating on to me. When I didn’t even know that was even happening on his end. Disgusted. I was so loyal. Also, in the beginning, I asked him not to sleep with other people, (so I don’t catch anything) We weren’t serious at that time, and I remember him asking me. “Why did you say that to me?” I think he was trying to figure out if I was one of them.
They will go out at night & Replace you with Tom Dick Harry indeed but don’t forget also Sally
Definitely wedding night was off. It felt empty, something was missing. It made no sense.
We hear that so often with these N's. It appears that once they've locked up the "deal" they veer away from what one would consider loving/normal. Hug
Glory to God for the knowledge that the LORD has given you Mr. Dave, to share with us that helps us wake up to deal with this horrible narcissist guys. This guys confused me like what kind of man is this? I never met someone like him before…, he’s so weird!!!’ but after listening to your podcast it woke me up and said ‘’ this is it enough is enough” and now that I am not responding to his text messages and calls he’s going crazy. I asked the LORD to keep me safe because I am afraid he might hurt me. I live by myself because I am a widow. Since I stopped engaging with him he’s more texting and calling me more than before. I feel uncomfortable specially at night. Please, include me in your prayers🙏
Dave, you are lucky that it was only a year for you...and you learned so much. For men, I believe the female narcissist is easier to figure out as she has none of the nurturing qualities that women are prized for. It took me 23 years and 3 divorces (with the same man!) to figure out that the toxic cycle will never end.
It DID take years.... for me. It went from one narcissist to another. Then I would be reeling after the last one compounding on the other original one.. compounding the effects it had on my children ... And not being able to rescue or fix THEM.... To losing a child, to walk into an extremely dangerous narc where I was almost killed... To then be rescued from that situation by an old bf... To leaving there in that situation that was platonic but he was not happy with it being that way unto it got verbally abusive relationship .... 2 going back to my home and working on health issues... That I know are a direct result of all of the stress in my life as one of my issues is so much acid reflux that it is literally killing the inside of my esophagus and the tissue is sloughing away. That's a lot of stress for many years... I tried for the sake of my kids to try to have some sort of a decent relationship with the original narcan which I have children from being married for many years to be discarded like the most foul trash and smeared my name and left me without any everything that means anything to me... I didn't have to say much to tell the original narc that he crossed the line for the LAST FINAL TIME. I CAN'T EVEN IMAGINE HAVING SOMEBODY THAT LOVES ME IN THE WAY THAT GOD DESIGNED IT TO BE. PERHAPS IT WILL NEVER HAPPEN AND I AM JUST FINE WITH THAT. I JUST KNOW I WILL NEVER END UP IN ANY OF THOSE SITUATIONS AGAIN ‼️ SO HELP ME LORD‼️🕊️💪
Gold bless you I’m sorry that happened but you are so much better now! Sending you love
Sad you had to go thru so much! You never know what God has planned for you --- even if it's life without a "partner" ---- a life where you are free, healthy and loved by God.
😂😢😮 I had a dream wedding in Santa Barbara 300+ reception at hotel on the water. We had an ocean front suite...so I thought he changed the room to a smoking room! No beautiful view! Was not even interested in my fancy lingerie. Told me to hurry up so we could consummate and he could sleep. We were going to church the next am with about 70 friends and family I was so miserable in the am. I didn't even want to go on the honeymoon. I did not know where the honeymoon was until the second plane!
wow Tiff, thanks for sharing...
One time I told him I was going to church and he said, "What's more important? Going to church or spending time with your man? You need to do what I want you to do." Really??? Yeah. I went to church.
Escaped 1 week ago, feels surreal. Thankyou from New Zealand
we weren't intimate on our wedding night
& the honeymoon was a huge disappointment
So sorry! How awful. I hope you have moved on.
Hi my wedding night was an absolute horror movie. He said the most horrible things and I sat in the bath crying while he was snoring the night away. What a night! It set the stage for what was yet to come.
I'm sorry about that. Seems to be a recurring theme where a N is involved.
Thank you Dave for your fellowship always ❤ bless your heart 💜
Thank You Renee!
Everything you say happened to me. This whole thing is traumatic. I'm trying to forgive and move on.
THANKYOU for reassuring me that Jesus will help me (& my adult kids) kick the narc out of our life forever!
We put up with his evil tactics for 30 years!
I will keep praying to Jesus!!
THANKYOU THANKYOU THANKYOU!!!!!!
I need this video very much!
JESUS I trust in You!🎉🎉🙏🙏
35:08 False relationship- DETANGLE YOURSELF. Doomed to fail from second 1 - you are so correct. Thanks cause it isn’t me that is to blame or unlovable. I will write that down.
Hi Dave. I thank you, you are the one who helped me so much, years ago. Now I am back. I wasn't as strong as I thought I was. I'll be strong again.. Thank you Dave. 🙏❤️ praise the Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.
Happy Friday Dave and everyone cheers i didnt get tea i got my white peach ginger ale 😊it taste good.
Nice one!
Yes, once you know, you know. Who wants to be yoked to the devil? Not me!
25:08 JESUS YOUR THE HEALER
They constantly push your buttons you got that right! Thank God for these channels so we can finally figure out what the hell was going on!! 4 years free thanks Dave!!
17:22 Dave that was a hoot. VOID VOID VOID, I feel lonely - fill the void. Yep that’s the narc. A new supply every year that I know of.
After my first ex of ten years and I got together, she made a mission of driving away all my friends and family, with this false religion she was always and forever cramming down everyone's throat.
Just last week I learned a friend of mine I have known for 40 years had passed away. He and I were as close as brothers at one point, but I hadn't seen him in 12 years, because of my narc ex, and making him feel unwelcome in her home. By that time, i didnt have my own car, nor could I have went to visit him.
My whole relationship was an episode of The Twilight Zone, with a storyline like I was catapulted to Nazi Germany.
You are correct about the wedding
It’s not always the narc who slips for sure 😮oops I did it again Dave 🎉 sadly. Our son’s birthday was Oct. 9th. Third tee up 😅in as many months with my ex. He belched at the dinner table at the restaurant **so loud** I just lost it…quietly 😂 of course bc I’m human unlike him so 😂 I told him he’s so classy in public. I quickly looked at my son and daughters and smiled 😅and PROMPTLY PRAISED JESUS 🤎 for everything GOOD in my lifetime 🥲 Amen 🙏 forgive me Lord Jesus and give me strength 🙌🏻 He NEVER lets me down Dave 😢 neither do you when I need to hear your voice either 💕 I’m beyond thankful 🥹
"Aggression and Passive-Aggression, wrapped up in one."
😂what are going to do when you get out jail!!! I can’t laughing about that comment
lol
That pour was sick dave lol
Hope you're thriving and joyful Dave! You're the best.♥️🙂👍
Miss you Heavy Joe! You rock brother
Holy Spirit you are welcome here...
I love all your videos. they bring so much strength. Thank you Dave lv ya💙
I recently received a text, saying 'hey'. So I replied, 'new phone, who dis?' 😂
Haven't received a response 🎉
Hope still us good ones out there ❤❤❤❤
Thank God 4 these videos they really helping me was with the narcissist for 10yrs. Been done for 9months I'ma Ms.A can't take it anymore never ever & didn't know he was narcissistic until he left...
Your Tom Tom club reference was on cue!!! I love you Dave!
Definitely comment of the day!
I CHANGED MY NUMBER!!....!
Be Blessed, Dave.
Comment of the day: I'm gonna change my number TOMORROW!! I heard about this right now from you! Thank you!
Mine served me with child support. That’s definitely over. That’s cutting the tie 💯
So depressing .
I am a Christian.
Struggling.
Lisa, hang in there Christian God Loves you:)
I like your videos the best because you show, this is a spiritual war, I am now narc free
I convinced my X husband to go to couples counciling. He ended up wrapping her around his finger. I sat there like a stranger, unwanted in the room!!! I refused to go back with him. I did not know about
narcissism @ the time.
What a waste of time.
Yes! My wedding night was so strange! I ended up playing the slot machine by myself for hours!
I would get "punished" every morning before going to work...Thankful for a over 10 year separation and peace that surpasses all understanding ❤🙏
I changed my number a long time ago. I’ve had peace since then.
amen cheers with a budwiser
This one really hits home Dave! Thank you for spreading the Truth.
I truly hope you can help others before it's too late.
The ex narc had texted me the next day after I found out he had moved in with the new supply ..he had the nerve to tell ME I needed meds and help he would always love me 🤮.. I texted back one final and last time to never contact me again ..he didn’t excist to me anymore and all pics were even gone He Was gone..then I blocked the creature on everything I could think of and never looked back ..it felt great to get that off my chest now I’m in healing mode. I have my good and bad days with it ..
I financially supported my family of 3 for 23 years of marriage. Then I found evidence of his cheating. I paid the mortgage for our home, the car, the truck, our son, etc. When I realized he was cheating with another woman I divorced him. I'm in counseling and take an antidepressant. I drink now and I never drank before. I've done things I never would have imagined I'd do. But I am a child of the Creator of All Things. I'm forgiven by God. I love the Lord for blessing me to be out of those situations. I'm becoming who God means for me to be. I have inner peace now.
So happy for you! Praise God that all that is behind you