That isn't a motivational comment, it's sheer basic logic. You are only tired if you haven't got any energy - another dumb statement And FYI, this woman is someone talking about narcissism, while professing to be a councillor, whilst also putting up fairly provocative pictures of herself - the bare knee, like she's curled up, being your lover and wanting to listen - signs of advertisement from a narcissist. Don't be fooled by people online.
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The narcissist will do everything to not allow you to dump them. Then once they lure you back into a commitment they will ambush dump you when you are in the most vulnerable position.
@Sheepleeater so how are you feeling inside after all that? Remember, You're not dealing with a normal person. Narcissist are a different breed of people.
You know what's crazy? How well these blueprints fits into real life. Literally I've got goosebumps watching these videos, because I feel like you've describing my EXACT case, just like you were watching. Crazy.
I know right, it's like she was there. It is extremely validating. But I'm afraid I'm becoming addicted. I keep telling myself I don't need to watch these videos any longer, but here I am.
What’s really crazy is soooo Many Ppl saying the same thing! It’s like Their Blueprint Never changes from Person to Person!! It has to be from One Source of Energy
My wife has projected on me for years that I am the selfish narcissist, and that I gas light her. I really can’t imagine how I haven’t seen it all these years. She is the one who gaslights, I feel like I’m going crazy sometimes
I'm in the most unbearable and inexplicable situation and I had listened to a few of her vids, but this one fits my situation best. So sad and there was no need for any of this. Such a sad disorder, ruins lives and really damages children.
Mine keeps saying I miss my boyfriend (the way I was before I was aware of this information, how I would react), I am so glad I started following you, thank you!!!!
thank you very much for this video. after 31 years I still want my wife back. we have a lot of history together. including 5 grown up kids. I know her like the back of my hand or at least I thought I did
Some consequences do apply, if you have children....is very difficult and the only reason I stay as I try to figure out a way to solve the challenges without losing my children.
Holy crap! 🤯 When you started talking about the blame shifting it was spot on. He would always say that the reason they were acting that way was because of Me. I was crazy. I was insecure. I was hung up in the Past.
Good, accurate information. But many have reached an age and station in life where simply “getting out” and starting over is no longer a viable option. What would your advice be in such cases??
Funny hearing this when I think that I am in the starting stage. We have had the "GREAT fight" it - and it seems like she actually regrets and she sees her flaws! Getting much more love and kind text from her - but she also need a lot of reassurance and I have to promise never to leave. And then she have this vulnable fase every other day which kinda gets me thinking she could be "vulnable narc". But after 2 decades of marriage it isn´t very easy to walk away. And I still have this idea, that maybe she can change because we are getting better to talk about the issues. Life is full of surprices... but the video did stir up some thoughts - so THANK YOU for that!
In one of your videos, you’ve convinced me I’m not the narc, because I’m asking the question, but in this video, I’m doing some of what you say: suggesting Catholic marriage counseling, how can you divide this family with another divorce threat (she’s filing after threatening 100+ times in 7 years of marriage), and I’ve said she’s the problem. Now I’m even more confused.
Not everyone can simply leave a relationship with a person who has narcissistic tendencies. This is especially so for folks who are older and retired living on the proverbial fixed income. There are issues with health insurance, housing and standard of living. I survive by having minimal contact and living like a big gray rock. Nope. Don’t wish my way of life on anyone.
All of this is spot on and to one degree or another something I have personally experienced. One more threat that I also experienced is the threat of suicide. Mine threatened suicide and said "go ahead and leave me, you can be the one to tell our kids that YOU are the reason mommy is dead".
After learning how my narcissistic wife operated I started using her same tactics back on her and she asked me, "How did you learn how to fight so well?", I told her it was from watching her. Now I also know what to watch out for in people I have dealt with at work as well as customers.
She made a terrific smear campagn against me calling police , discredit me in my work , etc etc. Than she agresing me with incontrolable rage even agesing me fisically. I have pased a nighmare with her
I was lucky. My NP ex wife hooked up with a college boyfriend when she saw I wasn't jumping as high as I was previously. Things could have been much worse if it wasn't for this selfless man who laid himself down on the train racks in my stead.
When I blocked my ex narc gf on my phone and deleted my social media a few months after our breakup (we were still living together) she had the biggest tantrum I ever saw in a person. Let's say if she had a Knive in her hand by that time, I would've been stabbed. A few months after that she said to me, that she was really scared of me by that time and she thought that I would strangle her while she was sleeping. In that moment I knew that this was a projection and she literally thought about killing me in my sleep.... good times....
Great video as always. I only disagree with one thing. I won't say all, but SOME narcissists ARE bad people!! I don't have the grace it takes to deal with them.
I was blackmailed in my relationship. She threatened to reveal the drugs I was taking. She was also my supplier. I take responsibility for falling to that addiction. I was a weak bitch. When I tried to leave or get clean, and I often did for weeks or months, she would dangle it and then fly into a rage because she couldn't quit... which was always my fault. I wasted my life. If you read this. The pain of leaving is far lower than the pain of regret. Almost a decade wssted.
Okay so I’m confused on a particular point. Are narcissists aware or not aware that they’re narcissists? Because I see contradicting statements about them. For example on one hand “narcissist’s don’t think there is anything wrong with them” and “they don’t think they are abusive”. But now we are discussing what happens when they know that we know that they’re abusive narcissists?? Are narcissists self aware or not???
It’s more about being found out! They have a high level of shame and guilt that They process but look at as if You know then You shouldn’t allow it! It’s not necessarily conscious, it’s just about pushing the limit and seeing how far they can get! Once They realize They’re about to be punished or get in trouble, that’s when They realize they’ve went to far but process it for a few secs/mins depending on how valuable of supply You was, or having a complete collapse if You was the Main supply!! Honestly, think of a little Child that You keep telling not to touch the eye of the stove but after they’ve been burnt, they don’t remember and fry it again just bc You said not to touch it!! That’s what it is! They don’t regulate or process it like normal Ppl and want to Win at all cost and prove EveryOne else Wrong even w a Burnt up hand
I think the real answer to all of it is Jesus. When I put Jesus on the Throne and took my wife off God started to show me through videos like this the lies I was believing about myself and about my wife.
My divorce started the day she locked me out. That day was September 16th. She and her attorney are not willing to negotiate or communicate with my attorney. I went to a flea market, not knowing if she had a booth or not. I passed her booth and just glanced at her. I had no expression on my face. She called the cops and tried to have me arrested.
so unbelievably accurate it's uncanny , almost eerie, to hear about your own life on a video made by someone you've never known or met !! WOW !!!
But that's a good thing isn't it. Light bulb moment
"You are only rebellious in the eyes of those who can't manipulate or control you."
That isn't a motivational comment, it's sheer basic logic. You are only tired if you haven't got any energy - another dumb statement
And FYI, this woman is someone talking about narcissism, while professing to be a councillor, whilst also putting up fairly provocative pictures of herself - the bare knee, like she's curled up, being your lover and wanting to listen - signs of advertisement from a narcissist.
Don't be fooled by people online.
Guilt, Shame, Fear, Gas Lighting
- Manipulation Weaponry
The narcissist will do everything to not allow you to dump them. Then once they lure you back into a commitment they will ambush dump you when you are in the most vulnerable position.
So true, I just finished dealing with this
@Sheepleeater so how are you feeling inside after all that? Remember, You're not dealing with a normal person. Narcissist are a different breed of people.
You know what's crazy? How well these blueprints fits into real life. Literally I've got goosebumps watching these videos, because I feel like you've describing my EXACT case, just like you were watching. Crazy.
I know right, it's like she was there. It is extremely validating. But I'm afraid I'm becoming addicted. I keep telling myself I don't need to watch these videos any longer, but here I am.
What’s really crazy is soooo Many Ppl saying the same thing! It’s like Their Blueprint Never changes from Person to Person!! It has to be from One Source of Energy
My wife has projected on me for years that I am the selfish narcissist, and that I gas light her.
I really can’t imagine how I haven’t seen it all these years.
She is the one who gaslights, I feel like I’m going crazy sometimes
Book 1:1 with me if you need help processing and navigating this, my scheduling link is in my bio. You are by far not alone.
Ignoring her is what makes her freak out the most
I like this woman. She breaks it down very well.
You hit the nail on the head. Now I can't figure how to get out without losing everything I worked for all my life I'm drowning in this relationship
Narcissists are bad people. Do not diminish their capacity for evil. They know what they are doing, and that makes them terrible.
Narcissist have ZERO Remorse or Empathy
CYA= Cover Your Arse
Record, Record, Record
A quick video of them speaks volumes
You are very different than other experts, you are straight, short, on point. And I can see some extra insights on NPD. Thank you.
It's like Liliya was a fly on the wall in my marriage. Going through a divorce right now. Thanks for clearing the fog.
I'm in the most unbearable and inexplicable situation and I had listened to a few of her vids, but this one fits my situation best. So sad and there was no need for any of this. Such a sad disorder, ruins lives and really damages children.
Mine keeps saying I miss my boyfriend (the way I was before I was aware of this information, how I would react), I am so glad I started following you, thank you!!!!
thank you very much for this video. after 31 years I still want my wife back. we have a lot of history together. including 5 grown up kids. I know her like the back of my hand or at least I thought I did
Some consequences do apply, if you have children....is very difficult and the only reason I stay as I try to figure out a way to solve the challenges without losing my children.
Little pebbles… yes thats exactly what is happening to me
You are God sent blessing!! Thank you SO MUCH. EVERY SINGLE video of yours is 150% EXACTLY THE TRUTH. ❤❤❤
I just realized finding your program has helped me see the truth about my soon you be better than I ever have
Holy crap! 🤯 When you started talking about the blame shifting it was spot on. He would always say that the reason they were acting that way was because of Me. I was crazy. I was insecure. I was hung up in the Past.
Good, accurate information. But many have reached an age and station in life where simply “getting out” and starting over is no longer a viable option. What would your advice be in such cases??
Yes that's me to old to get out
You only live once.
Funny hearing this when I think that I am in the starting stage. We have had the "GREAT fight" it - and it seems like she actually regrets and she sees her flaws! Getting much more love and kind text from her - but she also need a lot of reassurance and I have to promise never to leave. And then she have this vulnable fase every other day which kinda gets me thinking she could be "vulnable narc". But after 2 decades of marriage it isn´t very easy to walk away. And I still have this idea, that maybe she can change because we are getting better to talk about the issues. Life is full of surprices... but the video did stir up some thoughts - so THANK YOU for that!
That sounds a bit bpd to me
They won't change. They will only pretend to.
Many victims of this situation need to hear this truth. Thanks for sharing.
Expert. I expereinced this and thank you for the validation
In one of your videos, you’ve convinced me I’m not the narc, because I’m asking the question, but in this video, I’m doing some of what you say: suggesting Catholic marriage counseling, how can you divide this family with another divorce threat (she’s filing after threatening 100+ times in 7 years of marriage), and I’ve said she’s the problem. Now I’m even more confused.
Awesome video. Spot on
Not everyone can simply leave a relationship with a person who has narcissistic tendencies.
This is especially so for folks who are older and retired living on the proverbial fixed income. There are issues with health insurance, housing and standard of living.
I survive by having minimal contact and living like a big gray rock.
Nope. Don’t wish my way of life on anyone.
This is me what you said. I'm retired and trapped and it's awful. I spend a lot of time in the garage or yard in summertime
Makes me feel so much better than I have done the last few days..Thanks again
You are very welcome. Schedule with me if needed, link in bio. You are by far not alone.
If nothing else works then they threaten cross petitioning!
All of this is spot on and to one degree or another something I have personally experienced. One more threat that I also experienced is the threat of suicide. Mine threatened suicide and said "go ahead and leave me, you can be the one to tell our kids that YOU are the reason mommy is dead".
After learning how my narcissistic wife operated I started using her same tactics back on her and she asked me, "How did you learn how to fight so well?", I told her it was from watching her. Now I also know what to watch out for in people I have dealt with at work as well as customers.
Very helpful, thank you!
You are the best. Your videos make me know that my wife is cover malign narcisist. I am now in no contact with her. Thank you very much❤💟🤍🧡💚
You are right on again, GREAT VIDEO!!!!!!!!!!
She made a terrific smear campagn against me calling police , discredit me in my work , etc etc. Than she agresing me with incontrolable rage even agesing me fisically. I have pased a nighmare with her
Mine has locked me out of the house and filed for divorce
You are very accurate even when compared with other psychiatric experts on youtube 👍
You nailed it! They almost always start dropping the love bombs. Just discovered your channel. I love it!❤
thank you for your videos. 😊
This has been helpful. Thank you!!!
Spot on! Great video! Ty!
Iam so grateful for this advice, this help's so much.
Amazing content. Thank you so much.
She relied on my Empathy to stay... didn't ask what i thought...
that's really good :)
Intelligent & Easy on the 👀's.
& Helping the 🌎.
Thanks
wow! this video is telling my life story. i realized it was something, but couldn’t put a name on it. this maybe the best video i’ve ever seen
Thank you 👍🏻
I was lucky. My NP ex wife hooked up with a college boyfriend when she saw I wasn't jumping as high as I was previously. Things could have been much worse if it wasn't for this selfless man who laid himself down on the train racks in my stead.
I’d like to share a recording with you of her communication after midnight on a work night 5 nights a week. Crazy
When I blocked my ex narc gf on my phone and deleted my social media a few months after our breakup (we were still living together) she had the biggest tantrum I ever saw in a person. Let's say if she had a Knive in her hand by that time, I would've been stabbed. A few months after that she said to me, that she was really scared of me by that time and she thought that I would strangle her while she was sleeping. In that moment I knew that this was a projection and she literally thought about killing me in my sleep.... good times....
Great video as always. I only disagree with one thing. I won't say all, but SOME narcissists ARE bad people!! I don't have the grace it takes to deal with them.
Where were u before I got married sheesh
I was blackmailed in my relationship. She threatened to reveal the drugs I was taking. She was also my supplier.
I take responsibility for falling to that addiction. I was a weak bitch. When I tried to leave or get clean, and I often did for weeks or months, she would dangle it and then fly into a rage because she couldn't quit... which was always my fault.
I wasted my life. If you read this. The pain of leaving is far lower than the pain of regret. Almost a decade wssted.
do better brother..
Okay so I’m confused on a particular point. Are narcissists aware or not aware that they’re narcissists? Because I see contradicting statements about them. For example on one hand “narcissist’s don’t think there is anything wrong with them” and “they don’t think they are abusive”. But now we are discussing what happens when they know that we know that they’re abusive narcissists?? Are narcissists self aware or not???
It’s more about being found out! They have a high level of shame and guilt that They process but look at as if You know then You shouldn’t allow it! It’s not necessarily conscious, it’s just about pushing the limit and seeing how far they can get! Once They realize They’re about to be punished or get in trouble, that’s when They realize they’ve went to far but process it for a few secs/mins depending on how valuable of supply You was, or having a complete collapse if You was the Main supply!! Honestly, think of a little Child that You keep telling not to touch the eye of the stove but after they’ve been burnt, they don’t remember and fry it again just bc You said not to touch it!! That’s what it is! They don’t regulate or process it like normal Ppl and want to Win at all cost and prove EveryOne else Wrong even w a Burnt up hand
Wow! Have you been reading my mail?
Coverts track you... they see how your acting and mirror you mirroring them or blocking them etc... yep nothing works
I have an interesting question . Maybe out of context, please forgive me for that. What will happen if you and I decide to get married?
Ok how to live with it
Beautiful nails and lipstick, Liliya 😍
Exactly they call you the crazy Narcissists smh exactly what has happened here! I exposed her a fews years ago... i was shocked
💯
Hahahaa my word. This is the woman that I am married to. 11 years of hell. My God
Too late. But thankyou
can psylocibin "cure" narcissism?
Reacting is vital ? Does the reaction equal love . When you walk away from a conflict needling to get u come back is normal dysfunction ?
What happens if sex isn’t excepted … and then the “ you hate me .” Begins ..
I think the real answer to all of it is Jesus. When I put Jesus on the Throne and took my wife off God started to show me through videos like this the lies I was believing about myself and about my wife.
I need to ask a question....are relationship coaches etc always able to recognise narcissictic behaviour?
Feel free to schedule 1:1 with me and we can talk about this. Will do what I can to help you process this. Link in bio.
Why it sounds like page to page copy from my ex's playbook?
I disagree with one comment you said I think some narcissists are bad and evil
Coach lilya just letting you know someone is pretending to be you and asking people for private sessions.
Big red flag. Lots of skin showing.
They ARE bad.
Mine has Bachelors degree in psychology
hi can you share some of her behaviors?
Just watch this ladies video's, you will learn
My divorce started the day she locked me out. That day was September 16th. She and her attorney are not willing to negotiate or communicate with my attorney. I went to a flea market, not knowing if she had a booth or not. I passed her booth and just glanced at her. I had no expression on my face. She called the cops and tried to have me arrested.
To a tee
Thank you very much.
Thank you very much.