I learned the "women are like cats" analogy from the coach a few years ago. When she wants your attention, she'll come around. When she wanders, let her.
I get what CCW is saying and I used to believe it was acceptable when I first heard it, and that's perfectly fine if you're dating non-exclusively. In a relationship though you don't get to just come and go as you please. She has the perks of the relationship but not any assumed responsibility of actually participating and communicating outside of when she feels like it. He should've just dated this one.
I think what it really comes down to it being able to handle that gutwrenching feeling when she's suddenly not into it as she used to be without starting to panic ,which always results in over pursuing or trying to force her into a talk about "what's wrong?". Just live your life and leave her alone, she will be back. The more often you do this right the easier it becomes, because you have to experience that it works to lose your fear. First couple of times feels like a leap of faith.
I felt this so so hard, hit me in the face and the gut as I see myself JUST LIKE THIS. It's so hard to do as I fear of losing her forever... but I guess it's for the best, right?
@@LorenPhilippe Going though it right now man. It's hard. But in order to avoid that feeling is better for you to not get attached or at least completly when it comes to being with a woman. Makes things easier and convinces yourself you're not loosing anything at all. All those worries are just part of how you decide to program yourself psychologically. Take care of your mind first.
Thanks for this. I didn't really realize that this is just a process that will happen over and over again with the same person. Kind of infuriating but simply a fact of life.
Fucking spot on. This is exactly where I’m at. Well I’m at the point that I realize this is what I need to be doing. I wish I could unsend my desperate texts. Well, I won’t do this mistake moving forward. I need to occupy my time and forget about her
This is why it is so important to stay in great shape, remain ambitious and driven, have hobbies, be working toward a goal, and have your money right. This will give you options and good mental health. If a woman begins to disrespect you and your time, you need to move on and remove your attention out of self respect.
Yup, I’m college I used to like this girl and she was never into me unless I ignored her. Any time I stop texting or trying to get a date, she would come and make out with me.
Like CCW states, she can either ride the fun bus or stand on the street at the bus stop. Keep the motion and the emotion moving in the forward direction with a smile on your face.
Live your own life and stop chasing relationships. It's as simple as that. Once you understand you don't need all the drama, that's when you can start living.
Dropped a fiance because she complained we didn't see each other enough but didnt complain when we were out wasting my money on weekends. Wanted to see me more, but didnt wana get married yet. Invited her to hangout at my house but she had bored face the whole time. After she left, I was like "oh ok, seems like she just wants me waste money on her on weekends too". Got my ring back and sent her back to the streets.
If you’re not in a committed exclusive relationship, always keep more than one gal in rotation. Remember - A good driver doesn’t go out on the road without a spare tire!
Great video! Stay objective fellas. No matter how much you like a particular girl, you HAVE to gauge how she's acting. You'll KNOW when she's genuinely into you.
IMO, though he has some fault by overpurusing, he shouldn't have given this one a relationship. If they were dating non-exclusively and she did pulled back, fine, let her go, and both can date other people. In a relationship, this doesn't fly. It's incumbent upon both to actually participate and communicate. She's going to lose attraction, we understand that. But in a relationship, she must be an active participant in improving the dynamic, not just be a taker. It's not just "oh I don't feel like it so today I'm not in a relationship." A relationship has added perks for her, but also added responsibilities. If she can't do that, she can't handle a relationship.
@@kvs7876 I agree. I guess that's just up to this guy and his options. If he thinks he's not going to find anyone else, then maybe he has to put up with this. I don't think it's worth it but maybe he does.
CCW’s book says that if you’re with her, you let her know how you feel. Maybe give her the benefit of the doubt that she didn’t understand it after the first time. If you tell her again how you feel, and nothing changes, it means she doesn’t care about doing anything different. Be prepared to never bring it up again, walk away forever, and mean it.
@@daveh9803 well, where I will blame the guy here is that you have to let her know what you'll tolerate and what you won't tolerate early on, and let it be known that wishy washy communication isn't going to work for you. You can't tolerate a certain behavior early on and then get angry when she continues it in a relationship. It's probably too far gone for him to make a big deal of it now so either he has to accept or move on IMO. But I don't agree with this blanket application of "oh just let her wander off like a cat and she'll come back when she's ready." That's fine if you never plan on making it more than dating. If you want to date exclusively you have to find someone that doesn't behave like this, and with that comes communicating and showing her that she will lose you if she acts a certain way. What's next, they're married and she just gets to wander off and then come back when she's ready? No bueno. Once you step up in commitment, the behavior has to change. If she wants it enough it will change.
It's incredibly easy to lose your frame when she starts getting distant. This has been said countless times, but if her place in your world is where it should be (i.e., she is a compliment to your life, not the center of it), it's easier to not get anxious over the change in her behavior.
Imo I think this video is what a lot of guys have been waiting for. The situation this guy is in is where so many guys are at (myself included) with few answers on what to do. Thanks for this Corey
When a woman tells you she wants to focus on herself more, you could save yourself some trouble and end the relationship there. Her interest is low or she is selfish, so either way it is best to entertain other options
My gf told me once she thought we should take a break. I told her no,we need to talk and work it out. But if she wants to go,go. I wont be here when she comes back.
Never give a woman to much time, even if she asks for it cuz eventually she gets bored. You need to make a women miss you, they are all about emotions.
Once that happens it’s pretty much over. In my experience, I’ve done the stoic approach and they do come back, but it’s only temporarily, as they already showed their cards when they left the first time
Is so dumb that people don't just match each other's energy.. If I put in a lot of effort I wish she'd just do the same. You are right on the money tho man. I'm in a long distance relationship and I can tell if I make it too easy for her she starts acting bored. If I start acting like I don't care and ignore her messages a little she comes back at me hard. I feel like we're playing games tho. I don't want games but I guess that's just the way it is.
Life is a game. It ain’t fair, you just have to play according to the rules and the nature of law. You’re doing well keep it up man! How’s it going with your relationship now after knowing this? I’m genuinely curious
@@caveman354 still too many games. I don't think it's gonna last much longer. They recently came into some money and ever since that day she's been treating me differently. I can't say much tho because I've had a suspicion from the beginning that I was just a means to an end for her. That or we have a very different idea of what love is.
@@earthisfat6184 you should try to tell her to meet up in person. Either she will accept or refuse. From there I think you would know wether she genuinely wants to meet you or not.
@@caveman354 well we meet in person weekly. Every other week she spends about 5 days with me. But that's also been messed up because of the money. She's buying a home and having it moved and stuff and every time it comes time to come spend the week with me she has other stuff Goin on. So it's definitely not gonna last much longer.
@@earthisfat6184 ldr’s are all a means to an end. Been there a million times. Only time it did work out was when I told the girl I’m coming to visit on this date. LdR’s are a woman’s frame. They’ll leech your attention without giving reward, (sex) and it’s just an emotional trip, a slight feeling of what love is but not genuinely real love. I believe real love is achieved through physicality and emotional connection. You need both for it to work.
I'd say the same like Corey, but would also add that in my case, if she is starting to act like that, I'd consider it to be over. Go do other stuff, you stuff, family, friends, maybe other women. Who knows, maybe you meet someone who is excited to hang out with you. In many cases it's not your fault that it's over. It's the era of instant gratification and thirsty men, being so weak, they'd do anything for a woman. Women live in a whole other galaxy because of that. Interest levels drop fast. Get some hobbies, fill your time. Don't make women a priority. Don't be a thirsty weak man.
I'm starting to realize modern day relationships with most modern woman is almost rediculous. U can't seem to have something real where u both are serving each other. Woman seem to always after some time crave attention from other men. If u are on your purpose u sacrifice a lot of fun to get where u would like to be in life. Fun usually means spending money. I notice when I talk to men we all seem to feel the same thing. We notice the toxic traits and start thinking why don't they recognize there own behavior. I guess it's all about what u will tolerate with a woman.
Your right. Fun 100 % equates to spending time and money, creating a vacuum in the building areas of your life. There are not many women not down with this balance and sacrifice thing in modern dating.
This is why you should be social and do stuff. Make her miss your presence, but be spontaneous. I have ADHD, so it makes dating harder and it is easy to hyperfocus on a woman when I'm into her. But I'm working on it now.
Same here bro!! Got adhd and I basically make my girlfriend the center of my life. I try so hard not to but it's just natural for me. But you can definitely tell when you're putting in a whole bunch of effort and she don't. She says she wants you but then acts like she doesn't. Then the second you try your best to back off a little they ramp up the attention. It feels like games tho! I can't stand it.
Got also ADHD, remember to have options . Don’t focus on one girl till she earns it bro. Corey is so true in his book… just read it again and again. I’m using the audiobook and i make notes while listening… good luck and be on the fun bus
Funny enough, earlier during my shift my co-worker spoke of how his grandmother bought him a dog and a cat for his sister. Turns out his sister’s cat appreciated him more and vice versa with his dog. The cat analogy CCW usually brings up came to mind.
I used to be a drug dealer and I got used to replying super quick. I've also sold many other things on Facebook and craigslist. What customers enjoy, a person who responds quickly. Women don't like that. I respond quickly to everyone. Like lightening fast.
Women get bored easily. Most have nothing interesting going on besides social media and their phone. Shopping traveling lying in bikinis on yachts and chasing Chad's don't count . 🙉
Shit. I know There’s no imperfection and that I’ve only ever done what I was meant to do, but if this video had just come out 1.8 months ago, I wouldn’t have fuck it up with my girl to the point of breaking it up with her last Sunday… life’s truly got a sense of humor
Should have pursued her as fwb from the beginning instead of boyfriend/girlfriend. Sometimes that's all a single parent wants. A dependable weekly smash to schedule into the diary. Don't spoil it by being needy and seeking more than what it is.
Experience the beauty of the game. Love it, hate it but accept it. Not all women play games though, just be a centered man in all aspects of your life (even if you aren’t, pretend or work towards that, but don’t try to be perfect). This is how it feels but it’s the game, not the women.
Yeah I did this, turns out she was cheating with 3 or 4 different dudes. The retraction of my attention due to her pulling away caused her to seek external attention and validation from other men.. She’s back to the streets now
Perhaps, this Guy's chick , found another fun bus..a lot times when a woman says we need space, usually there's another option out there she is not disclosing..she could be testing out the New fun bus for the used fun bus (boyfriend) and she is seeing where it will leading.. regardless what the her reasoning is, I would just cut off communication with her and see where it ends up...just like the old saying," throw the bottle into the ocean and it comes back to you, it's meant to be, if not, move on..
He’s not saying it’s acceptable for your women to stray and cheat but sometimes women (and men) rather do need some space. However that being said you have to judge if the space that she needs is just healthy space or it’s happening a lot and you need to confront it and decide whether it’s the relationship for you because you want a woman that’s crazy about you
Dude you forgot all the fundamentals. Mirror her actions and interest(maybe just a tad less). Also you have lost your center, You have kids and a business so you have plenty to keep you busy but you are all about what she is doing. She should be doing 90% of the chasing and all of the reaching out. 13 months... be prepared that she may have another orbiter in the picture. Live your life and if she moves on ....You will have another lady come in the picture.
Without watching the video the answer from me would be shes either gone off you or was never that into you. What you do about it is truely accept the only person who has your back in life is you and focus on being a man. Be on your mission, understand your value and let her come yo you.
I haven't watched yet, but I will guess. One or two reasons; they see each other too often, and/or he isn't varying up when and where they go on dates. Let's see if I'm correct. EDIT: I knew it was one of my answers. He over pursued. Welp, all part of the learning process.
She said she needs time alone to recharge she has another guy. She loved bombed him in the beginning now she’s pulling away it could be a test. If she’s your gf it shouldn’t be a problem to see them on the weekend every other week sometimes maybe back to back
Hey Corey! Yes, you are right! I like it more when I am into the guy, that makes me feel great. But then it is not so fun when I am not sure if the guy likes me the same way. And sometimes I have found that if I start pursuing guys after they showed me interest, they are not interested any more 🤷🏼♀️ so it looks like you can’t win Ugh!
He C-Dub's work when he was supposed to - everything that has happened in his life has brought him to where he is now, no need to look at the past, only the present.
Currently in the same situation and trying to stop overthinking and take space for myself but when I'm not around she gets even more mad, kinda feels like she just wants me around for the attention and validation.
I gotta ask. I’ve had relationships die by going and doing my own thing when they were backing up. Like, it just lead to her getting mad at me for going out with my friends while she was home with her kid. And wasn’t down to actually meet up either. Meanwhile she was talking with men behind my back and started a new relationship before ours was done. So it’s like… this is a balance no?
I'm beginning to suspect coach Corey is a vampire. He doesn't appear to age as the years pass by. Has probably been giving relationship advice for hundreds of years now. No wonder he's so wise!
Yeah. Cannot agree more....being around all the time sucks. We don't want even a touch from a guy like that....and when even you saying for the guy to go around meet his friends or go out with his kids and nothing happens? go away a bit, family, etc. And with covid and home office things gets even worst!
Hey all, looking for some input. GF dumped me 1 month ago (because I turned into a mangina) and I immediately went no contact without warning. I didn't say "if you change your mind give me a call". Think it's best to just maintain no contact? To clarify, part of me wants her back clearly otherwise I wouldn't be here, but I'm also focused on myself and I'm dating new women. I just want my ex to know I didn't slam the door in her face, and that it's still slightly ajar. She dropped hints that she left the door slightly ajar as well.. also, I get why we broke up, I was insecure and controlling. She did the right thing.
@@rd-lw4td update: I've moved on. She contacts me from time to time, I don't want her back though. She had her shot. Sweet girl, but her dark side was too much.
What the writer lacks is reading her actions and acknowledging that he's pursuing more than she is. If there's a purpose then that's thebfocus she'll come and go as she please. keep reading the book!
The writer sounds like he has co-dependency issues and he needs therapy. He's acting too much like a bitch. He needs to have a life and know his value to women in general. I've read Corey's book and I'm on my 19th read. There's no fucking way you should be making rookie mistakes like that. Wtf.
After 1 year of dating is seeing my girl once or twice a week normal. She also has a 12y old son so it’s hard to be sexually active with herunless he is at his dads for the weekend.
He should have handled the logistics properly as coach said. 90% of the time, if she is anticipating that something is going to happen (going back to whoever's place and so on) and the gradual escalation doesn't happen on that night, then her emotions disappear. This is extremely common and this guy's case isn't anything unique. In fact, this result (of her pulling back/ghosting) is what he should have expected and he should have already been lowering his expectations of her reaching out to him again.
I don't know what this is all about, to me she's just reach that point where the fantasy meets reality, and this guy isn't the vampire, werewolf, prince charming, dragon slayer that she had in her head when they started dating.
Hmm. Interesting...however, that's only if the guy tries too hard at the beginning. If he remained mysterious which is what Corey teaches in his book, then she uncovers little by little every time they're together.
It's amazing how many guys in the comments still don't get it. Just because she's your girlfriend or wife doesn't mean you have to call and text her all the fucking time. If you make the relationship a chore they will get bored and leave.
What would u do if your in a relationship for a little over a year and we don’t live together although I’m over her place every night. She’s not over mine all the time cuz she has a 7 year old son. She asked me to move in and when I said I love u but soon just not yet she started crying. I feel really bad. Then when I’m at work I get a text for the first time “I want to be alone today” cuz of dropping her son off to the fathers and she has to wake up early for work. Blah blah blah, it’s cuz she’s really upset I’m not moving in. How would u react to that ?????
I learned the "women are like cats" analogy from the coach a few years ago. When she wants your attention, she'll come around. When she wanders, let her.
I live with 7 cats David, and this is true
I get what CCW is saying and I used to believe it was acceptable when I first heard it, and that's perfectly fine if you're dating non-exclusively. In a relationship though you don't get to just come and go as you please. She has the perks of the relationship but not any assumed responsibility of actually participating and communicating outside of when she feels like it. He should've just dated this one.
You just don’t wanna mess with her once he stepped foot in someone else’s litter box
@@chiefskingdom4151 If she steps out on me, she can keep walking.
Give Cat Away, Get a Dog !
I think what it really comes down to it being able to handle that gutwrenching feeling when she's suddenly not into it as she used to be without starting to panic ,which always results in over pursuing or trying to force her into a talk about "what's wrong?". Just live your life and leave her alone, she will be back. The more often you do this right the easier it becomes, because you have to experience that it works to lose your fear. First couple of times feels like a leap of faith.
I felt this so so hard, hit me in the face and the gut as I see myself JUST LIKE THIS. It's so hard to do as I fear of losing her forever... but I guess it's for the best, right?
@@LorenPhilippe Going though it right now man. It's hard. But in order to avoid that feeling is better for you to not get attached or at least completly when it comes to being with a woman. Makes things easier and convinces yourself you're not loosing anything at all. All those worries are just part of how you decide to program yourself psychologically. Take care of your mind first.
Thanks
Thanks for this. I didn't really realize that this is just a process that will happen over and over again with the same person. Kind of infuriating but simply a fact of life.
Fucking spot on. This is exactly where I’m at. Well I’m at the point that I realize this is what I need to be doing. I wish I could unsend my desperate texts. Well, I won’t do this mistake moving forward. I need to occupy my time and forget about her
This is why it is so important to stay in great shape, remain ambitious and driven, have hobbies, be working toward a goal, and have your money right. This will give you options and good mental health. If a woman begins to disrespect you and your time, you need to move on and remove your attention out of self respect.
Agree 100%!
Its always your fault fellas. You didnt read his book 15 times.
Pursuing written all over it, gotta have the hobbies prioritized. She will come around, remember time flies when your having fun!
@@ammoisking yup 💯
Use Your Illusions I & II are two of the greatest hard rock albums of all time.
@@sadboi7537 lol yes they are 💯
Facts
The best way to regain someone's attention is to drop your attention
Plus, if they don’t notice the drop, or don’t seem to care about it, you’ll have all the answers you need.
Yup, I’m college I used to like this girl and she was never into me unless I ignored her. Any time I stop texting or trying to get a date, she would come and make out with me.
but then u reply to there messages after days they havent said boo. you reply end up comming over, fuck them and back square one
what if you pull away and doesn't get her attention ?
@@frankraym then you’ve got your answer. Next.
Like CCW states, she can either ride the fun bus or stand on the street at the bus stop. Keep the motion and the emotion moving in the forward direction with a smile on your face.
I'm striving to do that.
Live your own life and stop chasing relationships. It's as simple as that. Once you understand you don't need all the drama, that's when you can start living.
Great read man. And you are right
I'm Still tryna get it right 🤣
Amen
Dropped a fiance because she complained we didn't see each other enough but didnt complain when we were out wasting my money on weekends. Wanted to see me more, but didnt wana get married yet. Invited her to hangout at my house but she had bored face the whole time. After she left, I was like "oh ok, seems like she just wants me waste money on her on weekends too". Got my ring back and sent her back to the streets.
If you’re not in a committed exclusive relationship, always keep more than one gal in rotation. Remember - A good driver doesn’t go out on the road without a spare tire!
Great video! Stay objective fellas. No matter how much you like a particular girl, you HAVE to gauge how she's acting. You'll KNOW when she's genuinely into you.
IMO, though he has some fault by overpurusing, he shouldn't have given this one a relationship. If they were dating non-exclusively and she did pulled back, fine, let her go, and both can date other people. In a relationship, this doesn't fly. It's incumbent upon both to actually participate and communicate. She's going to lose attraction, we understand that. But in a relationship, she must be an active participant in improving the dynamic, not just be a taker. It's not just "oh I don't feel like it so today I'm not in a relationship." A relationship has added perks for her, but also added responsibilities. If she can't do that, she can't handle a relationship.
Exactly!!
So how long and how many times should you let them pull away. After a while it’s BS to keep putting up with it.
@@kvs7876 I agree. I guess that's just up to this guy and his options. If he thinks he's not going to find anyone else, then maybe he has to put up with this. I don't think it's worth it but maybe he does.
CCW’s book says that if you’re with her, you let her know how you feel. Maybe give her the benefit of the doubt that she didn’t understand it after the first time. If you tell her again how you feel, and nothing changes, it means she doesn’t care about doing anything different. Be prepared to never bring it up again, walk away forever, and mean it.
@@daveh9803 well, where I will blame the guy here is that you have to let her know what you'll tolerate and what you won't tolerate early on, and let it be known that wishy washy communication isn't going to work for you. You can't tolerate a certain behavior early on and then get angry when she continues it in a relationship. It's probably too far gone for him to make a big deal of it now so either he has to accept or move on IMO. But I don't agree with this blanket application of "oh just let her wander off like a cat and she'll come back when she's ready." That's fine if you never plan on making it more than dating. If you want to date exclusively you have to find someone that doesn't behave like this, and with that comes communicating and showing her that she will lose you if she acts a certain way. What's next, they're married and she just gets to wander off and then come back when she's ready? No bueno. Once you step up in commitment, the behavior has to change. If she wants it enough it will change.
It's incredibly easy to lose your frame when she starts getting distant. This has been said countless times, but if her place in your world is where it should be (i.e., she is a compliment to your life, not the center of it), it's easier to not get anxious over the change in her behavior.
Imo I think this video is what a lot of guys have been waiting for. The situation this guy is in is where so many guys are at (myself included) with few answers on what to do. Thanks for this Corey
When a woman tells you she wants to focus on herself more, you could save yourself some trouble and end the relationship there. Her interest is low or she is selfish, so either way it is best to entertain other options
She might just have a Sigma personality too, some people just need alone time to re-charge
Nah, it’s almost ALWAYS another guy involved!
My gf told me once she thought we should take a break. I told her no,we need to talk and work it out. But if she wants to go,go. I wont be here when she comes back.
Never give a woman to much time, even if she asks for it cuz eventually she gets bored. You need to make a women miss you, they are all about emotions.
Once that happens it’s pretty much over. In my experience, I’ve done the stoic approach and they do come back, but it’s only temporarily, as they already showed their cards when they left the first time
Amen. That's the Real TRUTH
Is so dumb that people don't just match each other's energy.. If I put in a lot of effort I wish she'd just do the same. You are right on the money tho man. I'm in a long distance relationship and I can tell if I make it too easy for her she starts acting bored. If I start acting like I don't care and ignore her messages a little she comes back at me hard. I feel like we're playing games tho. I don't want games but I guess that's just the way it is.
Life is a game. It ain’t fair, you just have to play according to the rules and the nature of law. You’re doing well keep it up man! How’s it going with your relationship now after knowing this? I’m genuinely curious
@@caveman354 still too many games. I don't think it's gonna last much longer. They recently came into some money and ever since that day she's been treating me differently. I can't say much tho because I've had a suspicion from the beginning that I was just a means to an end for her. That or we have a very different idea of what love is.
@@earthisfat6184 you should try to tell her to meet up in person. Either she will accept or refuse. From there I think you would know wether she genuinely wants to meet you or not.
@@caveman354 well we meet in person weekly. Every other week she spends about 5 days with me. But that's also been messed up because of the money. She's buying a home and having it moved and stuff and every time it comes time to come spend the week with me she has other stuff Goin on. So it's definitely not gonna last much longer.
@@earthisfat6184 ldr’s are all a means to an end. Been there a million times. Only time it did work out was when I told the girl I’m coming to visit on this date. LdR’s are a woman’s frame. They’ll leech your attention without giving reward, (sex) and it’s just an emotional trip, a slight feeling of what love is but not genuinely real love. I believe real love is achieved through physicality and emotional connection. You need both for it to work.
I'd say the same like Corey, but would also add that in my case, if she is starting to act like that, I'd consider it to be over. Go do other stuff, you stuff, family, friends, maybe other women. Who knows, maybe you meet someone who is excited to hang out with you. In many cases it's not your fault that it's over. It's the era of instant gratification and thirsty men, being so weak, they'd do anything for a woman. Women live in a whole other galaxy because of that. Interest levels drop fast. Get some hobbies, fill your time. Don't make women a priority. Don't be a thirsty weak man.
I'm starting to realize modern day relationships with most modern woman is almost rediculous. U can't seem to have something real where u both are serving each other. Woman seem to always after some time crave attention from other men. If u are on your purpose u sacrifice a lot of fun to get where u would like to be in life. Fun usually means spending money. I notice when I talk to men we all seem to feel the same thing. We notice the toxic traits and start thinking why don't they recognize there own behavior. I guess it's all about what u will tolerate with a woman.
+1 spot on
Nah, you didn't met the right kind of woman until now
Your right. Fun 100 % equates to spending time and money, creating a vacuum in the building areas of your life. There are not many women not down with this balance and sacrifice thing in modern dating.
Exactly, literally had that situation happen to me just now
@@WildBillHickums yup.
Women want to do as they please while keeping you at a moments notice. I'm done with that crap !!
Don’t hate the player, hate the game. Lol
I'm literally going through this right now
Same bro
Same here
Walk Away :).
Same !!
Same for years
Thank you for continuing your work. There are so many negative ‘pill’ variants out there, always great to hear the truth from the true source.
Haa it’s pain in back side she’s probably speaking to other men and not wanting to settle
This is why you should be social and do stuff. Make her miss your presence, but be spontaneous. I have ADHD, so it makes dating harder and it is easy to hyperfocus on a woman when I'm into her. But I'm working on it now.
Same here bro!! Got adhd and I basically make my girlfriend the center of my life. I try so hard not to but it's just natural for me. But you can definitely tell when you're putting in a whole bunch of effort and she don't. She says she wants you but then acts like she doesn't. Then the second you try your best to back off a little they ramp up the attention. It feels like games tho! I can't stand it.
Got also ADHD, remember to have options . Don’t focus on one girl till she earns it bro. Corey is so true in his book… just read it again and again. I’m using the audiobook and i make notes while listening… good luck and be on the fun bus
@@earthisfat6184 never put a women on a pedastol! And always rate her on her actions! Rate her attraction level, the courtship never ends !!
@@Robin-is3ke how does adhd get diagnosed?
Me to bro!
I am going through this exact same thing currently! Thanks for this video Coach.
Coach 3% man has changed me a lot as man and trust me it is giving me all the happiness what I was looking for ❤️
On to the next brother. U cannot negotiate attraction
Funny enough, earlier during my shift my co-worker spoke of how his grandmother bought him a dog and a cat for his sister. Turns out his sister’s cat appreciated him more and vice versa with his dog. The cat analogy CCW usually brings up came to mind.
I used to be a drug dealer and I got used to replying super quick. I've also sold many other things on Facebook and craigslist. What customers enjoy, a person who responds quickly. Women don't like that. I respond quickly to everyone. Like lightening fast.
same issue. Im too available
Bruh I am a day trader, I work like 1hour a day and I'm too available too. I'm in introvert so no friends :/ I pushed them all away.
After 13 months of dating they only see each other once a week? Time to move on.
Women get bored easily. Most have nothing interesting going on besides social media and their phone. Shopping traveling lying in bikinis on yachts and chasing Chad's don't count . 🙉
Shit. I know There’s no imperfection and that I’ve only ever done what I was meant to do, but if this video had just come out 1.8 months ago, I wouldn’t have fuck it up with my girl to the point of breaking it up with her last Sunday… life’s truly got a sense of humor
Now u know bro, welcome to the club haha
Should have pursued her as fwb from the beginning instead of boyfriend/girlfriend. Sometimes that's all a single parent wants. A dependable weekly smash to schedule into the diary. Don't spoil it by being needy and seeking more than what it is.
This exactly happened. I got affected by her nonsense and she pulled back. Less you care the more they want
The more I watch these videos, the less I wanna have anything to do with women...
Experience the beauty of the game. Love it, hate it but accept it. Not all women play games though, just be a centered man in all aspects of your life (even if you aren’t, pretend or work towards that, but don’t try to be perfect). This is how it feels but it’s the game, not the women.
If she doesn't want your attention it''s because she wants the attention of someone else.... Spin plates, don't focus in just one girl.
I'm coach corey weeeeeeeen ! Great video thanks !!!
Simple wisdom and truth. I gotta share this with the boys. Full send.
Over pursuing = desperation
When you chase a cat…. She’s gone bro! Neglect the cat and she’ll be back 😎
Lmao
Yeah I did this, turns out she was cheating with 3 or 4 different dudes. The retraction of my attention due to her pulling away caused her to seek external attention and validation from other men.. She’s back to the streets now
She did you a favor. How did you find out?
You dodged a bullet there then
Fruitloop
I’ve been hearing a lot of different advice on what to do in this situation, but I’m gonna trust you
Perhaps, this Guy's chick , found another fun bus..a lot times when a woman says we need space, usually there's another option out there she is not disclosing..she could be testing out the New fun bus for the used fun bus (boyfriend) and she is seeing where it will leading.. regardless what the her reasoning is, I would just cut off communication with her and see where it ends up...just like the old saying," throw the bottle into the ocean and it comes back to you, it's meant to be, if not, move on..
Yeah and if you're wrong, you should have a lady that's interested in you. Better to move on to the next fun bus.
Rather drive a bang bus than a fun bus
He’s not saying it’s acceptable for your women to stray and cheat but sometimes women (and men) rather do need some space. However that being said you have to judge if the space that she needs is just healthy space or it’s happening a lot and you need to confront it and decide whether it’s the relationship for you because you want a woman that’s crazy about you
Just what I needed! Must get back to reading the book again Corey - thanks 🙏
Dude you forgot all the fundamentals. Mirror her actions and interest(maybe just a tad less). Also you have lost your center, You have kids and a business so you have plenty to keep you busy but you are all about what she is doing. She should be doing 90% of the chasing and all of the reaching out. 13 months... be prepared that she may have another orbiter in the picture. Live your life and if she moves on ....You will have another lady come in the picture.
The curse of being together too long! Trade her in for a new model.
Seems like so much damn game playing. Why be in a relationship if you have to deal with this?
Wouldn’t mind some clarification on this in a video. Has one already been created?
Without watching the video the answer from me would be shes either gone off you or was never that into you.
What you do about it is truely accept the only person who has your back in life is you and focus on being a man.
Be on your mission, understand your value and let her come yo you.
This video came at a good time. Thanks Coach. I appreciate your work.
It was an excellent quotation, so simple and reasonable, but apparently we forget reason so easily and have to relearn!
I haven't watched yet, but I will guess. One or two reasons; they see each other too often, and/or he isn't varying up when and where they go on dates. Let's see if I'm correct.
EDIT: I knew it was one of my answers. He over pursued. Welp, all part of the learning process.
The dating variety part doesn't sound too bad to fix up.
Over pursuing is the enemy of all men
Hell yeah man I’m pimpin not simpin keep up da grind mane
if the guy pulls back won't the girl just accuse him of being a cold fish though? How does the guy get around this
it’s okay if she does it. but if YOU do it, you’re an asshole. that’s how it goes unfortunately
Or fuck other dudes. Get rid of the GF if she's a freaking cat, lol
Say your busy with work and family
She said she needs time alone to recharge she has another guy. She loved bombed him in the beginning now she’s pulling away it could be a test. If she’s your gf it shouldn’t be a problem to see them on the weekend every other week sometimes maybe back to back
Girl's night out? GIRL'S NIGHT OUT?!?!
Ohhh HELLLZ NAW!!
1st!
Love you man!
found your work 3 years ago and i grew up as a man like never before.
As i learn more from your videos i become even more of an Alpha.
this is my situation bro totally thanks bro
I can almost predict at this point, before he's even gone through the email what the guy emailing him is doing in regards to his lady at this point.
Great advice!
Hey Corey! Yes, you are right! I like it more when I am into the guy, that makes me feel great. But then it is not so fun when I am not sure if the guy likes me the same way.
And sometimes I have found that if I start pursuing guys after they showed me interest, they are not interested any more 🤷🏼♀️ so it looks like you can’t win Ugh!
He C-Dub's work when he was supposed to - everything that has happened in his life has brought him to where he is now, no need to look at the past, only the present.
The guy needs to give her some dread. He is also too focused on the relationship.
Currently in the same situation and trying to stop overthinking and take space for myself but when I'm not around she gets even more mad, kinda feels like she just wants me around for the attention and validation.
If your girlfriend is acting like a cat, get rid of her. I think this is good advice for dating rather than relationships.
100 percent bro. Screw all that.
This man right here, Is the real fucking deal. Been following his work for a minute! 💯
I gotta ask. I’ve had relationships die by going and doing my own thing when they were backing up. Like, it just lead to her getting mad at me for going out with my friends while she was home with her kid. And wasn’t down to actually meet up either. Meanwhile she was talking with men behind my back and started a new relationship before ours was done.
So it’s like… this is a balance no?
Sounds like you dodged a bullet
I'm beginning to suspect coach Corey is a vampire. He doesn't appear to age as the years pass by. Has probably been giving relationship advice for hundreds of years now. No wonder he's so wise!
Check his smoothie recept (Tony Robbins is his mentor)
Thank you sir...reading mastering yourself.
Start a fling with someone younger/hotter, that will get her acting right 😂
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There was time I would talk to her 4-6 hours on phone and when we met there was no spark !!
Yeah. Cannot agree more....being around all the time sucks. We don't want even a touch from a guy like that....and when even you saying for the guy to go around meet his friends or go out with his kids and nothing happens? go away a bit, family, etc. And with covid and home office things gets even worst!
I don’t wanna just drive the fun bus, I wanna drive the bang bus 😏
Hey all, looking for some input. GF dumped me 1 month ago (because I turned into a mangina) and I immediately went no contact without warning. I didn't say "if you change your mind give me a call". Think it's best to just maintain no contact?
To clarify, part of me wants her back clearly otherwise I wouldn't be here, but I'm also focused on myself and I'm dating new women. I just want my ex to know I didn't slam the door in her face, and that it's still slightly ajar. She dropped hints that she left the door slightly ajar as well.. also, I get why we broke up, I was insecure and controlling. She did the right thing.
Don't contact, move on, and find another woman.
@@rd-lw4td update: I've moved on. She contacts me from time to time, I don't want her back though. She had her shot. Sweet girl, but her dark side was too much.
@@TheDoctornaut that's good! Always move on.
Holy crap. This is too much work. Too much psychological BS. Get a dog, and an occasional escort lol
or just don't get into relationships. date women and when they do this stuff, just move on to other women.
What the writer lacks is reading her actions and acknowledging that he's pursuing more than she is. If there's a purpose then that's thebfocus she'll come and go as she please. keep reading the book!
The writer sounds like he has co-dependency issues and he needs therapy. He's acting too much like a bitch. He needs to have a life and know his value to women in general. I've read Corey's book and I'm on my 19th read. There's no fucking way you should be making rookie mistakes like that. Wtf.
Or to quote Orion Tariban “women want to be the adorer not the adored”
Good video, I can relate
After 1 year of dating is seeing my girl once or twice a week normal. She also has a 12y old son so it’s hard to be sexually active with herunless he is at his dads for the weekend.
In a situation like this should you end it?
Dealing with this right now
He should have handled the logistics properly as coach said. 90% of the time, if she is anticipating that something is going to happen (going back to whoever's place and so on) and the gradual escalation doesn't happen on that night, then her emotions disappear. This is extremely common and this guy's case isn't anything unique. In fact, this result (of her pulling back/ghosting) is what he should have expected and he should have already been lowering his expectations of her reaching out to him again.
Yup their sex life became a big bore. However, some time apart can reignite that
When you pulled up the come on man mug I lost it 😂😂
How do you manage that when you eventually want to move together with your girlfriend someday?
I don't know what this is all about, to me she's just reach that point where the fantasy meets reality, and this guy isn't the vampire, werewolf, prince charming, dragon slayer that she had in her head when they started dating.
Hmm. Interesting...however, that's only if the guy tries too hard at the beginning. If he remained mysterious which is what Corey teaches in his book, then she uncovers little by little every time they're together.
It's amazing how many guys in the comments still don't get it. Just because she's your girlfriend or wife doesn't mean you have to call and text her all the fucking time. If you make the relationship a chore they will get bored and leave.
Bro you're the man and hilarious 🤣 thanks brother
I’m wondering if she’s pulling back because she wants a commitment from him. They’ve been hooking up for over a year.
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What would u do if your in a relationship for a little over a year and we don’t live together although I’m over her place every night. She’s not over mine all the time cuz she has a 7 year old son. She asked me to move in and when I said I love u but soon just not yet she started crying. I feel really bad. Then when I’m at work I get a text for the first time “I want to be alone today” cuz of dropping her son off to the fathers and she has to wake up early for work. Blah blah blah, it’s cuz she’s really upset I’m not moving in. How would u react to that ?????
Bruh dont date single mothers
That crying part is weird. Maybe she feels guilt for something
whats with some women texting you more after you set the date she keeps initiating texts
I break up with them when they do that. Fuck that shit. They need to put the effort in if they are relationship material.
she's for the streets, like most of them.
Great content on a very relatable situation. Applies equally to when you live with your significant other as well. Keep doing God's work, coach!
I believe this info but she's cheating people make time for what they want to make time for a period
¿could the moods of a woman be biased by her actions or inactions that compromise her to family issues?
Yes external outcomes can be considered into factors but usually not the main issue.
"Perturbed!"
Thanks
Some people are spontaneous and some are plan makers. The two are rarely compatible. lol