All women will do this, regardless of how good things are going. There has to be an element of potentially losing you for them to attach, that’s just their nature. When she pulls back, just match the behavior and get even busier, line up another date in the meantime. You have to be okay losing her to have her. Peace
As a woman, I think usually the nice type of women, who don't seek just sex, they seek the connection as 100 years ago they did as well connection in sense of empathy He should express the type of empathy toward himself, - healthy food, healthy sports, nature and things like that things that are good for the body and you may notice about yourself that when you spend time in nature, your mood changes, you are more humorous, happy, emphatic connected open-minded then he is able to give the same empathy for her, to nurture her. Because you have to understand that real nice women want a guy who loves himself, who takes care of his body and mental health not a guy who is not happy with himself, who can not experience joy. the empathy goes both ways and she probably this way nurtures herself, she wants healthy food healthy sports etc but I guess this type of woman don't seek sex, or robotic sex, without emotion, but seek mostly intimacy, they want to know where you want to travel on vacation or what are your hobbies what make you happy. every day topics that seem meaningless from the point of materialism but are meaningful in sense of mental stability.
@@alaalfa8839 would you like to add anything else more to it? Or would you recommend me a movie or a book that's explains this more in depth as I am taking notes?
I liked it when Corey says : "You violated a lot of the principles in the book , now you're just an option to her" . Corey your sense of humour is amazing !
I follow all of coach Corey’s work and literally went through this two days ago. I messaged a girl and she left me on read on Snapchat but later messaged me 12 hours later. I know she was testing me to see if I’d break and good thing I read his book because I didn’t.
3 years in, and when she does this I make sure to send her down a rollercoaster of emotions with a very subtle way .The impact is amazing, literally goes back to her sweet caring loving ways, almost an auto reset of the relationship over and over
@@spacepod100 personally, like Corey promotes, I back off slightly, start focusing more on personal goals, friends, training, and work. Occasionally, depending on the issue, I have to loving state that I have a fucking problem with whatever the situation that came up or even lack of energy and investment in particular happenings then calmly recenter and back off gently. Even with us having very little problems generally she will occasionally test, and I understand consisting she is significantly younger and stunning, but so ridiculously blindly in love with me. Pay attention to even the unspoken language with Corey’s work and others like him. I am living though proof of the work they have done; after 3 long term toxic/lackluster relationships in my life I still managed landing a 8/9 woman that compliments and even has adopted the things I love and enjoy in my life
@@Loth-n1v too much man, women are so much more insightful than we are, they see that as a manipulative tactic. Eventually they will use that as an opportunity to duck out themselves…
I swear to god. Been following Corey for a couple of years and everytime I have doubts, he turns out to be always right. Keep up the good work legend 🙌
This is an interesting case study because it is sort of the inverse of what normally occurs. Typically it's the man that tries to take things too fast, too soon. In this case, it was the woman wanting to take things fast by immediately introducing him to friends/family and wanting to see him all of the time. As the man, you're responsible for setting the pace and tone of the courtship, and if you're simply going along with her every wish and whim and always making yourself available - instead of keeping things slow and steady - you end up sabotaging yourself. I think it's also fair to point out that, just as there are men, there are women who exhibit clingy behavior from the get go. By maintaining a slow and steady pace throughout, this enables the man to gauge through her actions whether her behavior is simply out of high interest, or whether it's red flag behavior coming from a place of neediness and insecurity. And if you've ever had to deal with a needy and insecure woman after you, you can immediately understand why that behavior is such an attraction-killer!
Hey coach I followed the advice you gave I started doing what I love! I started streaming on twitch and I have 400 follows! Thanks for saying follow your dream with a business plan!
We as guys need to reach a point where we are so sure of ourselves and comfortable about who we are . All outer actions from woman should not change our frame, but remain strong and centered loving but not jerked around Thanks couch
Best way to make sure this doesn't happen is to purposely take it slow for the first few weeks, even if she wants to see you more, which I know can be a bit robotic, but it's playing it safe because it's easy to get caught up in seeing her too much too soon which makes you seem too available. If she wants to see you tonight, you're busy, but you'd love to see her on Thursday etc, then make definite plans. No group dates or agreeing to meet her parents, you're busy. After the first few weeks i'd relax a bit more and go with the flow, like if she contacted me and wanted me to come over that night and I wasn't busy, i'd go with it, but I still wouldn't do group dates or meet her parents until she is in love.
Don’t worry about things you can’t control. Fuck that. If she blows you off because of what someone else said about you and didn’t confront you about it first, you dodged a bullet. Alpha males don’t care if she knows his friends. Doesn’t matter
Even though it's not really the men's fault when women cheat, since the men are doing what they're supposed to and it's the women in that context that shows you she respects what you have - those aren't friends dude. Any guy that would even try is not a friend and you shouldn't be that insecure if you know deep down they will. Value yourself more and get better friends. Because there's always an undeterminable grey area and you won't know if it's his or her fault or how much. It's not worth it just to not feel alone. It happened to me too and already knew he wasn't much of a friend and she didn't respect me so I lost both when they did it
I guess I was into her more than she was into me, which led to her ghosting me, but it was for the best! Why pursue anyone with a sullied past? I was “butt hurt” but kept working on me. A month later I met another woman who is definitely into me to where the role is almost reversed…I have to keep some space between us and she is rushing it a bit. Still, it is a much better situation and I feel better about myself in this new relationship. The new girl has not had the same opportunities the previous girl had. I interest the new girl with less “trying” because what I offer are new experiences to her. The former girl was privileged and married 2x, has had affairs after marriage and I found out she was on a dating app, etc. What a difference between the two! The new woman makes me feel safe , whereas, the former person kept me guessing. Don’t get too caught up in the relationship if it’s not going well… there are others who will value you more.
Remember fellas, "your time is valuable." It's common for most women to pull back a bit so let them! If they are really into you they WILL bounce back to you twice as hard (...as long as you don't come unglued in the meantime, lol.)
@@DTHRILLS.DANIEL.THRILLRIDETVI totally agree and I'd like to know more, would you recommend me more of this explained in detail or a book of some sort?
@TheGeektrick from my own experience. She ended up being on alcohol and substances probably many other guys. She didn't want the good guy saw her a month later looked horrible. Never ignore red flags. They are hiding some thing with this weird behavior
@@DTHRILLS.DANIEL.THRILLRIDETV their always hiding and wearing a mask man..... could you please recommend me something that explains more about women behaviors and stuff?
Women have to feel like you’re okay without them and don’t need them. When they feel like your dependent on them or their attention, their interest drops fast. Allow her to pullback and be unsure of you. In that moment your lack of attention and inaction plays in your favor. Especially if when she pulls back you become unsure of her as well ;)
Same thing is happening with me right now she backed away after one month,but I let her be and she reaches out 2 times a week but wouldn't make definite dates so I told her to reach out when she's free and we plan something then,now she starts to like and reply to my Instagram stories but I won't reach out, they always come back if you didn't do anything wrong,stay strong gents and focus on your purpose and hobbies and friends when this happens it helps you keeping you from doing something stupid and ruin it
@@laner1172 haven't heard from her since she got into a relationship and deleted me on social media,had nother girl who I dated for 3 months last year then friend zoned me,went no contact and she reached end decemeber made a date at my place she came and we hooked up January 1st,after that I haven't heard from her,I ran into her then she started to invite me on group dates like 5-6 times but I decline all of em now it's been a week since she called and ask me out on a group dates which j refused also and told her to reach out if she want to come to mine,I have other options so I won't jump into being her man servant or gay male best friend,o KY if she comes to mine on my terms or she is out.
Thank-you Corey!!! I wish my ex had read your book! I really loved that man, but everything perturbed him. And then he’d sulk and withdraw his love. And that’s at 62! I’ll wait for my 3 % man. Thank-you!
Its all well and good to know the principles in the book but if you cant control yourself when you know you are doing the wrong thing. Its called emotional intelligence and it is very hard to master if you have demonstrated these traits in the past..
Suprise ! It's just your turn fellas ; ) on too the next or better just focus on yourself and become successful in other and more important parts in your life.
My ex and I started talking again, went out on a date, she was hot and heavy for 2 weeks then went cold and said she doesn’t want a bf right now. Needed to hear this!
So instead of letting an ex do 100% of the pursuing and just hanging out, having fun and hooking up like Corey says, you pursued her, and either outright told her you want to get back together or were putting some sort of relationship pressure onto her without realizing it.
@@Hugo-pj1eoYes, lots has happened since then. She came back and we were talking off and on. Then she invited me to go to Vegas to watch her brother compete in Jiu Jitsu. When I got there, she was the meanest to me I have ever seen her even after I got her a bit of gifts. Treated me like a second class citizen and was disgusted by me.
I’ve been that beta years ago that pursued too much or caught feelings early on. It’s unattractive and a sure fire way to have her running for the hills. Dudes have to remember this fact, you had a life before you approached her, worked with her, swiped on her profile, etc. If she backs off and it becomes permanent, then so be it. Stay on your purpose and your mission in life. You are the prize. Corey is right about those group dates too. Huge strategic mistake. That’s a hard pass for me
The more videos i watch, the more I say “why whyyy are women like this??”” Whyy do I need to be mysterious and don’t show my emotions to make her fall in love with me !!! Why should I torture myselfe and don't express my feelings !!! When I feel her when I love her… just why and why and why!! Crazy World 😫
Polarity exist due to testosterone being stronger than estrogen. Because of this many guys can’t control themselves causing females to have a perceived inflated value. Anyone with multiple options treats a few of them as disposable
Because women need to feel safe first. Men who are needy, insecure, and/or easily perturbed can be dangerous. The worst thing a woman can do to a man is laugh at him. The worst thing a man can do to a woman is kill her.
I think because they are our opposites. Women have the mentality of ten year olds. Showing emotions and feelings is a feminine trait. The opposite is masculine.
It is 100% true about well-intentioned friends who inadvertently torpedo you. My best friend is like that. He has absolutely no clue. He's like Steve Bartman: my #1 biggest fan who snatches the ball out of my glove when I'm 5 outs from the World Series. Keep her away from your friends until you two are an item.
Corey is 100% right Recently had a girl pull away very quickly after she knew my feelings She liked me because we had hooked up numerous times before, but when I wanted more ( became more available ) she disappeared overnight She ghosted me for over a month, returns asks for just friendship, spends the night ( No sex ) and the next day after she left I get a text asking for space That was over 2 months ago, no contact at all
@@craig8304 100% yes. My fault completely. Plus, she had made it clear she didn’t want to date. Even Friends With Benefits stopped. That’s how low the attract fell after she knew she had me. This was 7 months ago and I’ve never heard from her again. Lesson learned?
@@STFU255 - Yep, lesson learned, but we've all made that mistake. She obviously had some interest in you otherwise she wouldn't have been hooking up with you. Did you start over pursuing? Doing more than 30% of the calling and texting? Guys usually start doing that when a girl pulls away for the first time, which they always do in the early stages of dating, either because their emotions become engaged so they get a little scared and back away for a little while to process these new emotions, or it's because they've seen too much of you so they get bored and back away to restore attraction, or they back away and test if they sense weakness or feel any kind of relationship pressure. Then guys start chasing and make it worse. From what you said it sounds like at some point you may have opened up and told her how you feel about her before she was feeling it? Maybe you brought up the idea of a relationship? At the very least you may have behaved like you were in a relationship with her and she could feel it, instead of just having a take it or leave it attitude and just focused on hanging out, having fun, and hooking up. Another thing that could have been going on is that maybe she was seeing or started seeing another guy she had higher interest in, and who wasn't putting any relationship pressure onto her, which is why she may have ghosted you for that month. Then, maybe the other guy showed some weakness so she backed away from him, and because you never chased her or reached out she started thinking about you, so she reached out. But due to your mistakes in the past she tested you, gave you the friendship test, and you failed because you let her stay over (no sex) which communicated you were happy to go along with friendship when she could feel that is not what you wanted deep down. Then after that either her interest hit 4 and you were out, or maybe she just backed away again but ended up gravitating back towards the other guy because he passed one of her tests and then eventually fell in love with him. Hence you haven't heard from her in 7 months. If you just let her go after that night of no sex 7 months ago and didn't chase her, i'd say she will be back if things start going sideways with the other guy.
@@craig8304 She was overseas for a few years and returned ( She contacted me every couple months while overseas, Covid hit could not visit. ) I created this fantasy that she would return and the "relationship" would magically go back to what we had before We traveled together, staying at my place a lot, exploring together, sex, intimacy Also, I am 37 and she is 25 When she got back from overseas, I was overly excited about what the possibilities of what we could have together, instead of just going with the flow I mean she told me she didn't want to date, and I should have respected that At first when she got back we text everyday, multiple times per day, she responded quickly and seemed excited, I was setting dates and seeing her when I had time About two or three months go by and her messages start to decrease to about once day and her responses are quick and not really engaging I started the " Good Morning Beautiful" text in the morning and would sometimes here back in a few hours or she would not text until 1am or later saying she " talking with her brother " for hours We had only been intimate twice in about 2-3 month period, while before it was everyday basically. I was DEF contacting her way to much, something like 60% I was contacting her because at first she was really engaged I just NEVER BACKED off when her attention for me decreased Hugging and kissing became a NO, she would turn head and not want me at all Could tell her mood around me was different, poor attitude, indifferent, no affection at all She goes Ghost for about 5 weeks and returns on birthday, she had started a new job she never even told me she had applied for She comes over and start crying her eye's out, multiples times, tells me Let's Just Be Friends She mentioned she should leave, and I didn't want her to leave so she stays two nights with me and no sex happened 100% should have told her to leave She said she wasn't attracted to me anymore, it " set in stone " as she put it Like you said she most likely found someone else and he didn't make the same mistakes that I made Multiple mistakes that you can't recover from She told me basically to figure out my emotions and contact her, and she can't give me what I want After she left she sent me a text asking for space Like I said 7 months have gone by and she's never contacted me, so I think found another guy which would make sense I have never contacted her since I made so many mistakes that it's not shocking once you look back at your behavior, just sucks that I ruined it with my needy/simping behavior
@@STFU255 - We've all done it, more than once. It's extremely difficult to cause a beautiful girl with lots of options to fall in love with you. It's takes a huge amount of internal strength, and knowing when to make a move, and also back away. It's even harder to keep her in love. But you'll get there one day.
They pull back because you're chasing her and not your purpose.. women to chase men.. that'd the challenge.. your attention is valuable give it away too freely and it loses its value
Just yesterday made this stupid mistake of a vague plan, a girl outside the city I live in said she wants to come to the city for some matters and later see me. I didn’t make definite plans and seemingly she found some other dude to go to. I am wracked
It was going well and suddenly she stopped talking and its been a month (long distance relationship),….we decided to talk after her exams but damn exams are over idk why she’s is not responding , she left me?/
Went on a trip with her. Last time I spoke to or heard from her was Friday (today is Monday night). Trip went great, I know my game was on point, she had a great time; but her energy changed once we got back to our home city. I havent reached out, and I will not. Let’s see.
Hey coach my situation is similar however she is in a different state. Like you said it’s a negotiation. Should I let her know what I want and if she is not ok with that then back off? I know she is not ready for something serious, which is fine but like you say…hangout,have fun, and hook up. So my ultimate goal is to fly out and see her to hook up but she is going to be wishy-washy then move on correct?
Both of us caught coof and we were off. Really wanted to see this girl and she wanted me to get some medicine. She backed away when we embraced so I just left. Haven't heard from her. I'm just going to chill because I like her but she isn't there yet
I’ve listened to your book 20 plus times. Still made a mistake and got needy after the 3rd date. We had sex and when the 4th date came around.. she changed her mind about going. I said “ no worries “ and waited 24 hours to text. She didn’t text back though. Odd?
No because woman didn't have as much of an option then and no social network ls for their validation and not to mention the feminist movement and all these chicks that pride themselves as being "independent"
So how come mine pulls away every week or two even through I'm sure I'm not that much caring? She herself sometimes complains that I don't pursue her too often and I never text her first.but she keeps being such a drama queen so often and pulls away regularly.
Your not the only she’s talking too keep that in mind, they want a strong man who’s not too caring but at the same time like attention from beta orbiters. Women just dont know what they want. Your doing well keeping your frame!
@@mohammedeid7033 just play it cool and be patient with her and give her time space. let her hit u up, it can anytime 2days, 2wks, 2mths whatever the time is it, just focus on yourself and other things in the meantime and don’t stress over it.
That's even worse because it's coffee and at noon. You'd look very beta if you agree. I think this is a compliance test from her Politely decline stating you have a matter to deal with No group dates. no exceptions.
@@kenbandman9875 or she wanted her girl friends to judge him and tell her that she can do better afterwards cause of x reasons, basically a group analysis of that man's negative traits
Hey Corey, I just had a great first date with a woman over the weekend. We have a date scheduled for Sunday (it’s Monday now) and that’s so far away. Do I text her now that the date is set or go radio silent unless she reaches out? It feels like a long time and I don’t want it to fizzle out. Is there a way to get a date before that or am I stuck waiting on her to initiate? Just discovered your channel and reading your book online. Don’t want to mess things up since I’m just getting started. Thanks for all the advice!
Read the book bro. Don’t try to get quick facts and apply them you’ll fail. You need to be fully equipped and change the way you think by reading the book.
My move from reading the book is do not call or text her. You made a definite plan for Sunday, and by not texting you giver her the subtle signal that you expect the date. Any texting to re-confirm looks like weakness. wait it out. But if she texts you to re-confirm, say kindly "of course I will be there."
Radio silence. 24 hours before the date call, don't text, to confirm the specifics. Depending on her reply/if she even answers or calls back, there's her interest level right there. If she texts first during this radio silence period, confirm your definite plans, or if she's showing high interest right there, make a date on the spot and meet up that same night or bump the date up a few nights! Just play it cool. Don't think about it and get your mind racing during this waiting period. Talk to other women, live your life. And yes, read the book.
@@h80k Thank you for the advice. Yeah, not going to reach out until she does. And going to continue reading the book. I'm just not going to be able to finish it in my first read through in a week because I want to be able to absorb and retain the info. So this helps from more experienced members of the community. Thanks again!
@David Camero That's actually correct. If you don't keep in touch it's awkward for a week and she will take that you lost interest and make other plans.
You're Apple, and she is hemming and hawing over whether she wants to stick with your brand. Lol okay! Best of luck with Android, Cricket, or T-Mobile. Even if this happens, you get more time to yourself/ with your family, friends/ your dog, and you can go to the gym/ work on yourself. While she navigates the wasteland that is dating, and sitting across from spergs who don't have a tenth of the game you do. Find the humor in it.
Never gave 2 shits in meeting her friends ect. Honestly im noylt mean guy but i always seen it as women have too many hangups think deeply into everything but also are too easily swayed and all it takes is one friend of hers to say stay away and guess what she will. If she walks dont worry about it just keep going or you will go crazy thinking about her ehat shes doing why is she bscking off ect. Not worth it guys just get a new one.
I am not playing that game. If she goes dating another guy, probably sleeping with him, then no second chances. But I am not from the US and hook up culture is way less pronounced where I am from so sleeping together has a bit more meaning here than it does in the US.
Meet those friends; meet the beta male orbiters who have been circling for years; meet the parents; all at any stage. If you’re authentic and genuinely charismatic, any shit talking or naysay will be brushed aside. If any negativity comes of the interaction, then they aren’t meant to be in your life. You want people around you that are attracted to your genuine nature. If not, then it’s not meant to be.
True. Relationships are not a math equation that always works out properly when the correct method is used. Show confidence and these meetings may not have any impact on the outcome of the interaction with your date.
Is there anyone that has used Corey's method of writing down the qualities you want in a women and achieved it that can share an example of what you wrote? I can provide a throwaway email to anyone that's willing to share.
She backs away from you… = You are done. Time to officially move on. There is zero chance you’ll ever win back her attraction. Sucks to hear out loud… but it honestly makes sense haha!
What? Lol. Not at all. Women back away for a variety of reasons. Sometimes, in the early stages of dating when they get a little to close and their emotions get engaged, they get a little scared and confused and back away. Or if the feel that you are more into them than they are into you, then back away. They sometimes get bored if you see each other too much and back away to restore attraction. Other times it's because they sense weakness so they back away and test, or they have other guys that they are also interested in, so they back away from everyone to see who is the most masculine. Could just be "that time of the month" lol. Whatever the reason we as men should just remain unbothered. You just don't chase her and give her space. The fall back position is if she goes cold you wait a week to reach out. If she likes you she'll be back. If you haven't done anything to completely screw it up they come back.
All women will do this, regardless of how good things are going. There has to be an element of potentially losing you for them to attach, that’s just their nature. When she pulls back, just match the behavior and get even busier, line up another date in the meantime. You have to be okay losing her to have her. Peace
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As a woman, I think usually the nice type of women, who don't seek just sex,
they seek the connection
as 100 years ago
they did as well
connection in sense of empathy
He should express the type of empathy toward himself, - healthy food, healthy sports, nature and things like that
things that are good for the body and
you may notice about yourself that when you spend time in nature, your mood changes, you are more humorous, happy, emphatic connected open-minded
then he is able to give the same empathy for her, to nurture her.
Because you have to understand that real nice women want a guy who loves himself, who takes care of his body and mental health
not a guy who is not happy with himself, who can not experience joy.
the empathy goes both ways
and she probably this way nurtures herself, she wants healthy food healthy sports etc
but I guess this type of woman don't seek sex, or robotic sex, without emotion,
but seek mostly intimacy, they want to know where you want to travel on vacation or what are your hobbies what make you happy.
every day topics that seem meaningless from the point of materialism but are meaningful in sense of mental stability.
It’s this
I totally agree and I'd like to know more, would you recommend me more of this explained in detail or a book of some sort?
@@alaalfa8839 would you like to add anything else more to it? Or would you recommend me a movie or a book that's explains this more in depth as I am taking notes?
"The quickest way to get someone's attention is to remove yours"
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I liked it when Corey says : "You violated a lot of the principles in the book , now you're just an option to her" . Corey your sense of humour is amazing !
Give them an emotional rollercoaster; show them love theyve never seen- then take it all away, rinse and repeat. Has worked for me
I totally agree and I'd like to know more, would you recommend me more of this explained in detail or a book of some sort?
If you want a weak female, this will work. Why manipulate
@@TheGeektrick get 3% man
Trying to fix the weather... best analogy for women I've ever heard.
100%
So, spray women with chemtrails?
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Heart warming advice: "they'll be back
"you should do nothing. Stop. Wait to hear from her. At this point since she's backing away, let her do 100% of the calling"
"Overpursued, acted needy, got perturbed"
Corey, you always make me feel better when I'm down about an ex girl!
Me too
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Why she backs away suddenly…?
Because you didn’t read the book 10-15 times!
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I follow all of coach Corey’s work and literally went through this two days ago. I messaged a girl and she left me on read on Snapchat but later messaged me 12 hours later. I know she was testing me to see if I’d break and good thing I read his book because I didn’t.
how'd it go after that?
Ayo what happened
3 years in, and when she does this I make sure to send her down a rollercoaster of emotions with a very subtle way .The impact is amazing, literally goes back to her sweet caring loving ways, almost an auto reset of the relationship over and over
how do you create the rollercoaster of emotions?
How did you do it?
@@spacepod100 personally, like Corey promotes, I back off slightly, start focusing more on personal goals, friends, training, and work. Occasionally, depending on the issue, I have to loving state that I have a fucking problem with whatever the situation that came up or even lack of energy and investment in particular happenings then calmly recenter and back off gently. Even with us having very little problems generally she will occasionally test, and I understand consisting she is significantly younger and stunning, but so ridiculously blindly in love with me. Pay attention to even the unspoken language with Corey’s work and others like him. I am living though proof of the work they have done; after 3 long term toxic/lackluster relationships in my life I still managed landing a 8/9 woman that compliments and even has adopted the things I love and enjoy in my life
Probably break up or say something like they're not interested
@@Loth-n1v too much man, women are so much more insightful than we are, they see that as a manipulative tactic. Eventually they will use that as an opportunity to duck out themselves…
It's funny that whenever you release a new video it's always exactly what I need to hear. Thanks coach, you're the man 👍
he's psychic :)
Same here!
I swear to god. Been following Corey for a couple of years and everytime I have doubts, he turns out to be always right. Keep up the good work legend 🙌
Haha so she asks him to meet his mother then she says she wants to take things slow? Completely deranged.
Yea they don’t make much sense
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It's all about how she feels in the moment. Funny how the smallest slip ups change everything
Nut job
@@lolzeez4186I totally agree and I'd like to know more, would you recommend me more of this explained in detail or a book of some sort?
This is an interesting case study because it is sort of the inverse of what normally occurs. Typically it's the man that tries to take things too fast, too soon. In this case, it was the woman wanting to take things fast by immediately introducing him to friends/family and wanting to see him all of the time. As the man, you're responsible for setting the pace and tone of the courtship, and if you're simply going along with her every wish and whim and always making yourself available - instead of keeping things slow and steady - you end up sabotaging yourself. I think it's also fair to point out that, just as there are men, there are women who exhibit clingy behavior from the get go. By maintaining a slow and steady pace throughout, this enables the man to gauge through her actions whether her behavior is simply out of high interest, or whether it's red flag behavior coming from a place of neediness and insecurity. And if you've ever had to deal with a needy and insecure woman after you, you can immediately understand why that behavior is such an attraction-killer!
Who gives a f. Her loss. Stay on your purpose
Facts
Yess! 👏🏻 that’s the truth
As soon as I heard the part that says "met some of her friends". EL RED-O FLAG-O!!!
Hey coach I followed the advice you gave I started doing what I love! I started streaming on twitch and I have 400 follows! Thanks for saying follow your dream with a business plan!
When you read the book 10 to 15 times you notice something new everytime and find different perspectives
If You Like A Girl Don't Chase Or Persue Her And If A Girl Says, I Don't Want To Hurt Your Feelings. That Means You Want Her More Than She Want You.
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Facts!!! A girl told me this a couple of months ago…. Really hurt me
I totally agree and I'd like to know more, would you recommend me more of this explained in detail or a book of some sort?
We as guys need to reach a point where we are so sure of ourselves and comfortable about who we are . All outer actions from woman should not change our frame, but remain strong and centered loving but not jerked around Thanks couch
Best way to make sure this doesn't happen is to purposely take it slow for the first few weeks, even if she wants to see you more, which I know can be a bit robotic, but it's playing it safe because it's easy to get caught up in seeing her too much too soon which makes you seem too available. If she wants to see you tonight, you're busy, but you'd love to see her on Thursday etc, then make definite plans. No group dates or agreeing to meet her parents, you're busy. After the first few weeks i'd relax a bit more and go with the flow, like if she contacted me and wanted me to come over that night and I wasn't busy, i'd go with it, but I still wouldn't do group dates or meet her parents until she is in love.
weeks?? How about MONTHS? Never tell the truth to them.
Thank you for this video, even subtle text mistakes I've found ruin things. Reading your book every day and practising .
I’m staying away from girls that might know my friends. It’s blown up in my face 3 times in a row
Don’t worry about things you can’t control. Fuck that. If she blows you off because of what someone else said about you and didn’t confront you about it first, you dodged a bullet. Alpha males don’t care if she knows his friends. Doesn’t matter
@@gabrielwilliams5387 you right
Yeah cos they all cock block out of jealousy
Even though it's not really the men's fault when women cheat, since the men are doing what they're supposed to and it's the women in that context that shows you she respects what you have - those aren't friends dude. Any guy that would even try is not a friend and you shouldn't be that insecure if you know deep down they will. Value yourself more and get better friends. Because there's always an undeterminable grey area and you won't know if it's his or her fault or how much. It's not worth it just to not feel alone. It happened to me too and already knew he wasn't much of a friend and she didn't respect me so I lost both when they did it
I guess I was into her more than she was into me, which led to her ghosting me, but it was for the best! Why pursue anyone with a sullied past?
I was “butt hurt” but kept working on me. A month later I met another woman who is definitely into me to where the role is almost reversed…I have to keep some space between us and she is rushing it a bit. Still, it is a much better situation and I feel better about myself in this new relationship. The new girl has not had the same opportunities the previous girl had. I interest the new girl with less “trying” because what I offer are new experiences to her. The former girl was privileged and married 2x, has had affairs after marriage and I found out she was on a dating app, etc.
What a difference between the two!
The new woman makes me feel safe , whereas, the former person kept me guessing. Don’t get too caught up in the relationship if it’s not going well… there are others who will value you more.
how has it been going since?
Remember fellas, "your time is valuable." It's common for most women to pull back a bit so let them! If they are really into you they WILL bounce back to you twice as hard (...as long as you don't come unglued in the meantime, lol.)
its wild first time this has happened that one pulled back after she led with kisses hugs obsession after 1 day exchanging info. Now pulled back
@@DTHRILLS.DANIEL.THRILLRIDETVI totally agree and I'd like to know more, would you recommend me more of this explained in detail or a book of some sort?
@TheGeektrick from my own experience. She ended up being on alcohol and substances probably many other guys. She didn't want the good guy saw her a month later looked horrible. Never ignore red flags. They are hiding some thing with this weird behavior
@@DTHRILLS.DANIEL.THRILLRIDETV their always hiding and wearing a mask man..... could you please recommend me something that explains more about women behaviors and stuff?
@TheGeektrick I don't know of any thing just my experience and UA-cam vids
Gotta let them come to you.
Your book made me realize a lot of things. I'm thankful for the valuable information
So many valuable reminders. Its great to keep reading the book and see the examples!
Women have to feel like you’re okay without them and don’t need them. When they feel like your dependent on them or their attention, their interest drops fast.
Allow her to pullback and be unsure of you. In that moment your lack of attention and inaction plays in your favor. Especially if when she pulls back you become unsure of her as well ;)
Same thing is happening with me right now she backed away after one month,but I let her be and she reaches out 2 times a week but wouldn't make definite dates so I told her to reach out when she's free and we plan something then,now she starts to like and reply to my Instagram stories but I won't reach out, they always come back if you didn't do anything wrong,stay strong gents and focus on your purpose and hobbies and friends when this happens it helps you keeping you from doing something stupid and ruin it
how'd it go since then?
@@laner1172 haven't heard from her since she got into a relationship and deleted me on social media,had nother girl who I dated for 3 months last year then friend zoned me,went no contact and she reached end decemeber made a date at my place she came and we hooked up January 1st,after that I haven't heard from her,I ran into her then she started to invite me on group dates like 5-6 times but I decline all of em now it's been a week since she called and ask me out on a group dates which j refused also and told her to reach out if she want to come to mine,I have other options so I won't jump into being her man servant or gay male best friend,o KY if she comes to mine on my terms or she is out.
How long did it take for her to reach out after not contacting her?
@@laner1172 we ran into each other few times but she had a bf that time and we never saw each other since.
@@christo-gj1qk 3-4 months and i had another girl reach out after 9 months, and we're together now for 4 months.
You know you’re familiar with Coach’s work when you notice this is the first Under Armor shirt being worn in a newsletter since forever
Thank-you Corey!!! I wish my ex had read your book! I really loved that man, but everything perturbed him. And then he’d sulk and withdraw his love. And that’s at 62!
I’ll wait for my 3 % man.
Thank-you!
Its all well and good to know the principles in the book but if you cant control yourself when you know you are doing the wrong thing. Its called emotional intelligence and it is very hard to master if you have demonstrated these traits in the past..
Yeah man. Real result only come when the material is applied in earnest
She wanted her ex to hear about you in order to make him jealous.. let it go man
Suprise ! It's just your turn fellas ; ) on too the next or better just focus on yourself and become successful in other and more important parts in your life.
True
My ex and I started talking again, went out on a date, she was hot and heavy for 2 weeks then went cold and said she doesn’t want a bf right now. Needed to hear this!
So instead of letting an ex do 100% of the pursuing and just hanging out, having fun and hooking up like Corey says, you pursued her, and either outright told her you want to get back together or were putting some sort of relationship pressure onto her without realizing it.
Any update?
@@Hugo-pj1eoYes, lots has happened since then. She came back and we were talking off and on. Then she invited me to go to Vegas to watch her brother compete in Jiu Jitsu. When I got there, she was the meanest to me I have ever seen her even after I got her a bit of gifts. Treated me like a second class citizen and was disgusted by me.
@@JohnyZmanwtf is wrong with those people.
@@panashonik I made the mistake of buying gifts and acted like I cared.
I’ve been that beta years ago that pursued too much or caught feelings early on. It’s unattractive and a sure fire way to have her running for the hills. Dudes have to remember this fact, you had a life before you approached her, worked with her, swiped on her profile, etc. If she backs off and it becomes permanent, then so be it. Stay on your purpose and your mission in life. You are the prize. Corey is right about those group dates too. Huge strategic mistake. That’s a hard pass for me
The life before…. Hell yea 👏🏻
“Read the book 2 times cover to cover” = never read the book, watched a couple of videos looking to validate his choices
Hahahaha. Does listening to the audio 10-15 times = reading it 10 - 15 times ? Coach pls clarify
The more videos i watch, the more I say “why whyyy are women like this??”” Whyy do I need to be mysterious and don’t show my emotions to make her fall in love with me !!! Why should I torture myselfe and don't express my feelings !!! When I feel her when I love her… just why and why and why!! Crazy World 😫
Polarity exist due to testosterone being stronger than estrogen. Because of this many guys can’t control themselves causing females to have a perceived inflated value. Anyone with multiple options treats a few of them as disposable
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Because women need to feel safe first. Men who are needy, insecure, and/or easily perturbed can be dangerous.
The worst thing a woman can do to a man is laugh at him. The worst thing a man can do to a woman is kill her.
For real man
I think because they are our opposites. Women have the mentality of ten year olds. Showing emotions and feelings is a feminine trait. The opposite is masculine.
It is 100% true about well-intentioned friends who inadvertently torpedo you. My best friend is like that. He has absolutely no clue. He's like Steve Bartman: my #1 biggest fan who snatches the ball out of my glove when I'm 5 outs from the World Series.
Keep her away from your friends until you two are an item.
I wish I’d had the Coach as my mentor, when I were younger.
Corey is 100% right
Recently had a girl pull away very quickly after she knew my feelings
She liked me because we had hooked up numerous times before, but when I wanted more ( became more available ) she disappeared overnight
She ghosted me for over a month, returns asks for just friendship, spends the night ( No sex ) and the next day after she left I get a text asking for space
That was over 2 months ago, no contact at all
So you basically put "relationship pressure" onto her. One of the biggest interest killers.
@@craig8304 100% yes. My fault completely. Plus, she had made it clear she didn’t want to date. Even Friends With Benefits stopped. That’s how low the attract fell after she knew she had me.
This was 7 months ago and I’ve never heard from her again. Lesson learned?
@@STFU255 - Yep, lesson learned, but we've all made that mistake.
She obviously had some interest in you otherwise she wouldn't have been hooking up with you. Did you start over pursuing? Doing more than 30% of the calling and texting? Guys usually start doing that when a girl pulls away for the first time, which they always do in the early stages of dating, either because their emotions become engaged so they get a little scared and back away for a little while to process these new emotions, or it's because they've seen too much of you so they get bored and back away to restore attraction, or they back away and test if they sense weakness or feel any kind of relationship pressure. Then guys start chasing and make it worse.
From what you said it sounds like at some point you may have opened up and told her how you feel about her before she was feeling it? Maybe you brought up the idea of a relationship? At the very least you may have behaved like you were in a relationship with her and she could feel it, instead of just having a take it or leave it attitude and just focused on hanging out, having fun, and hooking up.
Another thing that could have been going on is that maybe she was seeing or started seeing another guy she had higher interest in, and who wasn't putting any relationship pressure onto her, which is why she may have ghosted you for that month. Then, maybe the other guy showed some weakness so she backed away from him, and because you never chased her or reached out she started thinking about you, so she reached out. But due to your mistakes in the past she tested you, gave you the friendship test, and you failed because you let her stay over (no sex) which communicated you were happy to go along with friendship when she could feel that is not what you wanted deep down.
Then after that either her interest hit 4 and you were out, or maybe she just backed away again but ended up gravitating back towards the other guy because he passed one of her tests and then eventually fell in love with him. Hence you haven't heard from her in 7 months.
If you just let her go after that night of no sex 7 months ago and didn't chase her, i'd say she will be back if things start going sideways with the other guy.
@@craig8304 She was overseas for a few years and returned ( She contacted me every couple months while overseas, Covid hit could not visit. )
I created this fantasy that she would return and the "relationship" would magically go back to what we had before
We traveled together, staying at my place a lot, exploring together, sex, intimacy
Also, I am 37 and she is 25
When she got back from overseas, I was overly excited about what the possibilities of what we could have together, instead of just going with the flow
I mean she told me she didn't want to date, and I should have respected that
At first when she got back we text everyday, multiple times per day, she responded quickly and seemed excited, I was setting dates and seeing her when I had time
About two or three months go by and her messages start to decrease to about once day and her responses are quick and not really engaging
I started the " Good Morning Beautiful" text in the morning and would sometimes here back in a few hours or she would not text until 1am or later saying she " talking with her brother " for hours
We had only been intimate twice in about 2-3 month period, while before it was everyday basically.
I was DEF contacting her way to much, something like 60% I was contacting her because at first she was really engaged
I just NEVER BACKED off when her attention for me decreased
Hugging and kissing became a NO, she would turn head and not want me at all
Could tell her mood around me was different, poor attitude, indifferent, no affection at all
She goes Ghost for about 5 weeks and returns on birthday, she had started a new job she never even told me she had applied for
She comes over and start crying her eye's out, multiples times, tells me Let's Just Be Friends
She mentioned she should leave, and I didn't want her to leave so she stays two nights with me and no sex happened
100% should have told her to leave
She said she wasn't attracted to me anymore, it " set in stone " as she put it
Like you said she most likely found someone else and he didn't make the same mistakes that I made
Multiple mistakes that you can't recover from
She told me basically to figure out my emotions and contact her, and she can't give me what I want
After she left she sent me a text asking for space
Like I said 7 months have gone by and she's never contacted me, so I think found another guy which would make sense
I have never contacted her since
I made so many mistakes that it's not shocking once you look back at your behavior, just sucks that I ruined it with my needy/simping behavior
@@STFU255 - We've all done it, more than once. It's extremely difficult to cause a beautiful girl with lots of options to fall in love with you. It's takes a huge amount of internal strength, and knowing when to make a move, and also back away. It's even harder to keep her in love. But you'll get there one day.
They pull back because you're chasing her and not your purpose.. women to chase men.. that'd the challenge.. your attention is valuable give it away too freely and it loses its value
I've been burned by group outings. Don't do this 💩.
Haha. No group dates ever. Never do it
Facts
Definitely don’t go on them too early in the relationship
Hey just want to say your videos our great it’s great that your trying to teach guys like me how to deal with women
As a man, for a change , you back away and don’t come back. If she begs and cries, tell her to get over it aNd say you are disgusted.
Just yesterday made this stupid mistake of a vague plan, a girl outside the city I live in said she wants to come to the city for some matters and later see me. I didn’t make definite plans and seemingly she found some other dude to go to. I am wracked
Charlotte's in the house!
It's not the culture, Corey, needy behaviour stems from childhood, from emotionally unaivalable parents.
It was going well and suddenly she stopped talking and its been a month (long distance relationship),….we decided to talk after her exams but damn exams are over idk why she’s is not responding , she left me?/
Went on a trip with her. Last time I spoke to or heard from her was Friday (today is Monday night). Trip went great, I know my game was on point, she had a great time; but her energy changed once we got back to our home city. I havent reached out, and I will not. Let’s see.
How did it go?
DAMN it. How many guys are lost?
Get 'em on some kind of hustle and grind and stop with the nice guy bullshit. Start attracting females
Being a nice guy never works
How the 🤬do these videos come out EXACTLY when I’m having this scenario 😮😮😮
I second that motion! Perfect video for me today as well!
May i third that🤣
4th
Same
Me too… it’s like all these women decide when to exactly to pull away
First lol. Great work Corey!
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Hey coach my situation is similar however she is in a different state. Like you said it’s a negotiation. Should I let her know what I want and if she is not ok with that then back off? I know she is not ready for something serious, which is fine but like you say…hangout,have fun, and hook up. So my ultimate goal is to fly out and see her to hook up but she is going to be wishy-washy then move on correct?
Would this advice also apply to spending the night at her place while she has roommates?
She hasn't fully. But she is getting more distant.
I'm really curious what coach Corey would look like with a full long beard. I think he'd rock it.
Update your book and expand more on being unperturbed
Never, ever apologize.
Both of us caught coof and we were off. Really wanted to see this girl and she wanted me to get some medicine. She backed away when we embraced so I just left. Haven't heard from her. I'm just going to chill because I like her but she isn't there yet
I’ve listened to your book 20 plus times. Still made a mistake and got needy after the 3rd date. We had sex and when the 4th date came around.. she changed her mind about going. I said “ no worries “ and waited 24 hours to text. She didn’t text back though. Odd?
I wonder if men in the 50s, 60s, and 70s had it this tough lol
No, they had fathers and older brothers who explained this stuff to them
No because woman didn't have as much of an option then and no social network ls for their validation and not to mention the feminist movement and all these chicks that pride themselves as being "independent"
So how come mine pulls away every week or two even through I'm sure I'm not that much caring? She herself sometimes complains that I don't pursue her too often and I never text her first.but she keeps being such a drama queen so often and pulls away regularly.
@@alexhowley9834 yes man that's for sure but I feel like pulling away too much often on a weekly basis is just too much
Your not the only she’s talking too keep that in mind, they want a strong man who’s not too caring but at the same time like attention from beta orbiters. Women just dont know what they want. Your doing well keeping your frame!
@@SiriusLeeMusic thanks man this could be the issue indeed
@@mohammedeid7033 just play it cool and be patient with her and give her time space. let her hit u up, it can anytime 2days, 2wks, 2mths whatever the time is it, just focus on yourself and other things in the meantime and don’t stress over it.
No group dates, I get that. But what opinions are there on if she asks you for like a quick nooner coffee date with just her female friends?
That's even worse because it's coffee and at noon. You'd look very beta if you agree. I think this is a compliance test from her Politely decline stating you have a matter to deal with No group dates. no exceptions.
BIG NO. Never accept that dude
@@FokwaDivine I didn't. Yea it was a compliance test, and she wanted to show off to her girl buds.
Read the book 10-15 times! He literally talks about that situation in his book.
@@kenbandman9875 or she wanted her girl friends to judge him and tell her that she can do better afterwards cause of x reasons, basically a group analysis of that man's negative traits
Because she’s backed up against another guy
Hey Corey, I just had a great first date with a woman over the weekend. We have a date scheduled for Sunday (it’s Monday now) and that’s so far away. Do I text her now that the date is set or go radio silent unless she reaches out? It feels like a long time and I don’t want it to fizzle out. Is there a way to get a date before that or am I stuck waiting on her to initiate? Just discovered your channel and reading your book online. Don’t want to mess things up since I’m just getting started. Thanks for all the advice!
Read the book bro. Don’t try to get quick facts and apply them you’ll fail. You need to be fully equipped and change the way you think by reading the book.
My move from reading the book is do not call or text her. You made a definite plan for Sunday, and by not texting you giver her the subtle signal that you expect the date. Any texting to re-confirm looks like weakness. wait it out. But if she texts you to re-confirm, say kindly "of course I will be there."
Radio silence. 24 hours before the date call, don't text, to confirm the specifics. Depending on her reply/if she even answers or calls back, there's her interest level right there. If she texts first during this radio silence period, confirm your definite plans, or if she's showing high interest right there, make a date on the spot and meet up that same night or bump the date up a few nights! Just play it cool. Don't think about it and get your mind racing during this waiting period. Talk to other women, live your life. And yes, read the book.
@@h80k Thank you for the advice. Yeah, not going to reach out until she does. And going to continue reading the book. I'm just not going to be able to finish it in my first read through in a week because I want to be able to absorb and retain the info. So this helps from more experienced members of the community. Thanks again!
@David Camero
That's actually correct. If you don't keep in touch it's awkward for a week and she will take that you lost interest and make other plans.
it's been killing me for 4 years trying to figure out who you looked like.
You are Brett Favre's doppleganger. don't argue with me.
It’s not common that you get this many massages that are the same situation, maybe is there something happening to woman’s
3:00 The Mother Nature analogy is spot on. Imagine trying to fix nature XDDDD
You're Apple, and she is hemming and hawing over whether she wants to stick with your brand. Lol okay! Best of luck with Android, Cricket, or T-Mobile.
Even if this happens, you get more time to yourself/ with your family, friends/ your dog, and you can go to the gym/ work on yourself. While she navigates the wasteland that is dating, and sitting across from spergs who don't have a tenth of the game you do. Find the humor in it.
Never gave 2 shits in meeting her friends ect. Honestly im noylt mean guy but i always seen it as women have too many hangups think deeply into everything but also are too easily swayed and all it takes is one friend of hers to say stay away and guess what she will. If she walks dont worry about it just keep going or you will go crazy thinking about her ehat shes doing why is she bscking off ect. Not worth it guys just get a new one.
I just wish I had exactly this internalized before the summer of 2018. Ahh dammit. :(
All women will back away from time to time , subconsciously they are testing your strength
corey i give you permission to use Brutal in your name
thing is, when she backs away and she possibly dates another guy....... do you take her back?
It’s part of the game bruh
I am not playing that game. If she goes dating another guy, probably sleeping with him, then no second chances. But I am not from the US and hook up culture is way less pronounced where I am from so sleeping together has a bit more meaning here than it does in the US.
Naw
Meet those friends; meet the beta male orbiters who have been circling for years; meet the parents; all at any stage. If you’re authentic and genuinely charismatic, any shit talking or naysay will be brushed aside. If any negativity comes of the interaction, then they aren’t meant to be in your life. You want people around you that are attracted to your genuine nature. If not, then it’s not meant to be.
True. Relationships are not a math equation that always works out properly when the correct method is used. Show confidence and these meetings may not have any impact on the outcome of the interaction with your date.
Is there anyone that has used Corey's method of writing down the qualities you want in a women and achieved it that can share an example of what you wrote? I can provide a throwaway email to anyone that's willing to share.
Replace her alwyas
She backs away from you… = You are done. Time to officially move on. There is zero chance you’ll ever win back her attraction. Sucks to hear out loud… but it honestly makes sense haha!
What? Lol. Not at all. Women back away for a variety of reasons. Sometimes, in the early stages of dating when they get a little to close and their emotions get engaged, they get a little scared and confused and back away. Or if the feel that you are more into them than they are into you, then back away. They sometimes get bored if you see each other too much and back away to restore attraction. Other times it's because they sense weakness so they back away and test, or they have other guys that they are also interested in, so they back away from everyone to see who is the most masculine. Could just be "that time of the month" lol. Whatever the reason we as men should just remain unbothered. You just don't chase her and give her space. The fall back position is if she goes cold you wait a week to reach out. If she likes you she'll be back. If you haven't done anything to completely screw it up they come back.
You’re wrong. You’re probably just bad with women dude
GET ON THE FRESH AND FIT PODCAST COREY! ID LOVE TO HEAR YOUR OPINIONS AGAINST MYRON AND FRESH!
Those guys and the people they have on are goofs. Corey has class.