Why 50/50 Pursuing Always Leads To Friend Zone
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- Опубліковано 5 лют 2025
- Why 50/50 pursuing always leads to friend zone and couples becoming platonic roommates instead of passionate lovers.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who started following my work about four years ago. He only read the book about four times, and then assumed he had women all figured out and stopped reading my book and watching my videos and reading my articles. A few months ago he met a woman he really liked and reverted back to his old beta male ways. Now she takes a long time to reply to his messages and often won’t set dates and doesn’t get back to him about her schedule availability when he asks. He asks what he should do now.
“Women naturally seek a man’s attention and validation because beauty needs a witness and feminine energy grows through praise. It’s a scientific fact that women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear. A man who is focused on his mission and purpose in life and who is balanced, happy, whole and complete on his own, doesn’t seek a woman’s attention or validation, but does enjoy romancing and sweeping her off her feet when she comes to him so they can share their completeness together. Anytime a man pursues a woman more than 30% of the time, her feelings of attraction and enthusiasm for him will diminish. When it becomes 50/50 they become platonic roommates instead of passionate lovers. It’s as predictable as the sun coming up in the east and setting in the west.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne
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Pursuing 50 / 50 because things are cooling off is like flooding an engine because it wouldn't START quickly. There's a reason the primer bulb says DO NOT SQUEEZE MORE THAN TWO TIMES.
@@geb2 thank you very much!
You can’t force the birds to land on your perch, but you can make your perch the most attractive one to choose. Stay focused on having fun today, with lessons, but no regrets from the past and no expectations of the future. Just do your best thing and the right one will choose to be with you, over and over.
Well said! Needed this
Love is freedom and giving her the opportunity to come and go as she pleases. "Love in such a way that the person you love feels free."
But Remember to set boundaries..Always
There must also be honestly and integrity for 80/30 ratio to work
"Free" meaning you're not gonna be a walking mat for her right?
@@princepacifico1512 correct bro
Well said....
Something I’ve realized from Coach is that it’s very easy to try to drag on a relationship when she simply lost interest. Sometimes due to your fault, or life just happens. But when it does happen, just let go and relax man. She’ll come back if it’s meant to be for that moment in time.
She'll come back after all the other pick up artists and simps are done gaming her for sure... because that's the reality of the recent decades.
How to avoid the friendzone? don't allow yourself to be placed in the friendzone, either she wants or she doesn't, no in between.
His book gave my spark back in my relationship. Cheers coach.
Just wanted to thankyou Corey, with the help of yourself and after years of failure with women, I’ve found the woman of my dreams, you deserve every good thing that happens to you
Over thinking everything. Comes down to focus. Focusing on the one.
You need to bring that badass intro back wayne, got me pumped everytime.
Hey dude (lol)... I'm starting my own dating channel right now. I agree, the old intro was epic! Didididi :)!
I would love to hear what you think about the intro on my videos :) Too short? Sound ok?
That annoying music!? Nah
I've watched you for 10 + years and it's amazing how you figured this all out!
A beautiful woman and I "accidentally" friend zoned each other because we didn't communicate properly.... turned out we likes each other the whole time.
How the heck does one accidently friendzone another? Like, were you both too careful not to come over as needy and a partner?
How did it go? Did you get together?
Coach, I've recently had several softballs thrown my way which were altered by my actions. Too much thinking, too little focus on my purpose, and too little staying centered and in the moment. Thank you for your work, looking forward to 14 more reads of your book. 💪
Time to go “no contact”
For anyone who may be new... After you read the book it is most essential to watch EVERY newsletter that corey releases. It helps keep you centered and tightens your game in areas you didn't even know you needed tightening in
Coach, thanks for sharing the quote ‘Beauty Needs a Witness’ by Zan Perrion. I searched him out and realized he’s a pretty amazing fellow after watching a video of him speaking to a group of people. He has a great life story like yours.
Your stuff is always on point Coach. I wish I had found your material before I screwed up thing with the last girl. Nonetheless I'm glad I found your work, going forward.
I need to buy this book. I didn't even buy it and a girl is perhaps interested in me. I'm so tired of women that I don't even want to persue her at all because I need to try something new.
Guys, realize that not every attractive woman you meet is gonna jump in bed with you. That's just ridiculous. The friend zone thing is normal, don't take it personally, and move on. How would you like to have a daughter who sleeps with every guy she knows?
@@tank6641 Sounds more like somebody did a lousy job raising her.
ok but as a female I will initiate all the time and the guy I am seeing he is doing this but now I am losing interest because I think he is not interested so this works with woman who are insecure this does not work on me. just my opinion interesting how things things work what happened to two people just making a mutual agreement about things.
Looking good coach.
Thanks for the teaching coach am on my 9th read 👍🏾
Lol I am in this position! Just met this really cute blonde chick. First impression was OK, but not optimal. I have to read this book again today and plan my next step cos I like her.
********Please do another video clip about
Younger men and older men on the dangers of dating and connecting with married women.***********
Be it emotionally or intimately.
This needs to addressed very seriously.
Thank you.
Just. Don't. If you value your integrity.
Or someone that's there. Love. If you love her let her go. Have fun.
50/50 doesn't always lead to that if she really likes you tho (like a 9 or 10 interest level and you'll know), there are always exceptions.
Tis true. We had a very comfortable love though, almost boring at times
And if she doesn't like you anyways and you pursue less than 50% you will probably be a stranger
Hey Corey was wondering what are your thoughts on eastern philosophy? I find many parallels in your teachings and Taoism in particular. I always wondered if that was a source of inspiration.
"Before you can grasp, you must first open your hand"
❤️ something tells me this will be another great video
You can't be a 3% man, if you're only willing to do 15% of the work.
It’s great that you make this stuff Corey. Many guys wouldn’t even think to have that 70:30 or less ratio. Just that principle alone has had a dramatic impact on my dating life.
How exactly do we measure our pursuing in our relationship via the 80:20 or 70:30 rule?
@@DallasLeyva I’ve never personally written it down or anything hardcore like that. It’s just a general feeling that the girl is initiating more often than I am. Just sort of aim to initiate about half as often as she does and that works for me.
We miss the intro coach.
I don't think so
Not!
Currently on my third listen of the audio book I’ve listened to it fully every day since I bought it and it’s something I plan on listening to once a week once I start retaining the information
thank you corey for keeping us on top of our shit and checking us when we need it 💯
I think all it takes is masculine frame to keep women's interest high in a relationship. That means being willing to tell her what to do, so she perceives you as her boss. Just pulling back to make her pursue isn't enough. You can't do that if you cohabitate or get married. Plus, she could be cheating on you while you're pulling back to make her pursue.
There are some extreme opinions in this video but there is also some very good advice. I don’t pursue women but some men act like women too and some don’t so it’s more complicated. I wish this guy could extend his conversations to different sexual preferences. I’d like to hear what he can come up with.
Fix that skull 💀 a king should have a queen
Corey, you're a god damn legend
Been watching your for a while Corey, just bought your book the other day and I'm putting in work! Great video as always man!
The mindset I developed after my last painful breakup equals to "out of sight, out of mind".
Sounds like borderline personality disorder
@@erikquint1989 maybe. Its just a way to protect myself and never get attached to someone ever again. If they wanna leave...I'll say "fine, best of luck for your future"
@@1CAG
I think i understand. I just recently experiences what it is like when someone you still love so much just walks out.
But what you say also sounds pretty cold and distant. You are pretty much saying that you never want to love again. And i get that because it can hurt you so badly..
But maybe, it is better to still go on dates/ relationships with woman, with a open attitude, positive mindset and a open but secure heart.
@@erikquint1989
This. But don't bother going on dates until you're ready. No sense in that. Best to become more capable and secure
@1CAG out of sight out of mind merely means forgetting someone without being at peace with what happened rather than moving forward with no resentment. That’s where you wanna be my friend
4:52 on my 11 th reading.
I see so many men unfocused on their priorities : career or business!
Everything else should be secondary at least for a few years
CC is the G.O.A.T.!
“It’s your own fault buddy. Should’ve read my book 15 times” 😂
😂😂😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Coach you are a boss
I’ve read the book almost 11 times and I am 17 and I just realized around the 6 months I have been dating her (aka from last November to the end of April) the pursuing ratio has been 50/50 but now she is slowing starting to come back and I am seeing her about once a month with her doing all the pursuing from May 31st to now, however, if you look at all the time I spent with her from this past November to now I am still over pursuing her and the ratio is about 40/60 if you count the 9 months we’ve been dating. Hope she falls for me at some point and if not some other girl will.
"I have a bigger purpose in life and its fucking awesome" - this should be your mentality and trust me it would turn her on to her core. Have a purpose, don't fake it, be truly inspired to do something big (career wise or for yourself). Your purpose and passion are in your control unlike women who behave in unpredictable ways. Nuke your attention towards them and make your purpose your priority and see how everyone (especially women) would love to jump on the bandwagon with you.
What when she says, text me when you think about me…then you don’t text for a couple days and she calls and asks if you’ve been thinking about her and why haven’t you texted 🤷♂️ (she’s coming over tonight but dang it’s cryptic)
Coach I want ur opinion on what I should do, so I’m having a matric dance in a month which is the equivalent of final prom in the US, and my classmates aren’t the greatest people to be friends with but they’re my only option of course not the whole class is bad( by bad I mean they’re kinda controlling and try to dictate me to be like them or conform). Now I was thinking if I should just skip the whole dance and not attend but I was also thinking that maybe I should probably go because I’m that quiet guy in class and a lot of advice I get from ppl who are good at socialising is that I should always be getting out there and I guess having fun with people, there’s a slight chance I could possibly get laid too( if I get things right), and so I just want to hear what u think , should I go and just try to have fun and try to socialise or just skip it all together (not reward their bad behaviour)…I’d be nice to get laid at 18tho…
Do not waste good opportunities. Go and make the best of it. Even if you don't get laid you may learn something about successful and not successful socializing.
Go to the dance and don't worry about getting laid. The time will come
Go to the dance - that doesn’t reward their bad behavior, it is a reward for you
I’ll just go have fun and improve social skills , thanks guys
i need the book cory
want the book
want the book
I’ve met a girl at the gym (she actually came to me) and for the first “date” we had a late night leg workout
After the workout we went to the stretching area she would lay right next to me and touch me and smile play with her hair and just wanted to be closer to me definitely showing high lvls of attraction, later on that night she texted me and said it was great spending time with me and would definitely like to see me again, I set the next date for dinner she said no because she can’t eat that because of her diet and is prepping for a competition But suggested a bodybuilding friendly place I agreed to that and set the time we should meet(I know corey Wayne says no lunch dates but those healthy restaurants close early and she doesn’t really eat out or drink unless is like some protein house type food with macros on the menu)
second date went well, I got a kiss at the end when I got home I really wanted to talk to her again so I texted her thanking her for coming out and spending Time etc… (I know I know) At this point I was going against all that I’ve learned from Corey and was now going back to my pleasing nice guy ways because all I can think of now is that ass so now I’m
Sucking up to her as the days go by texting her and I think along the way she loses attraction because I was being needy and when I tried to set the next date she never replied.
I’m 28 and throughout the years I’ve applied all that Corey teaches and I have had a ton of success stories, but I really fucked this one up and went against all that I knew not to do please don’t make the same mistake I did and be all nice pleasing guy to try and get some ass.
Yea, dont set dates right after leaving the first date and thanking her for spending time together
How did it go dude?
thanks for sharing talking to a girl ver similar situation haven’t acted needy
Most women are an anchor that will sink your ship of prosperity and peace
Long time no see. How you been coach ?
thanks
We great men|| THE ADVANTAGEOUS ONES
Some dude or a few of them are digging her guts out she's perfectly satisfied with that and not interested in this guy anymore. he needs to move on at this point. he's just begging for vajj at this point, because there's no way you can win her heart back. Hopefully he at least got to smash
1:30 “Women naturally seek a man’s attention and validation because beauty needs a witness and feminine energy grows through praise. It’s a scientific fact that women are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear. A man who is focused on his mission and purpose in life and who is balanced, happy, whole and complete on his own, doesn’t seek a woman’s attention or validation, but does enjoy romancing and sweeping her off her feet when she comes to him so they can share their completeness together. Anytime a man pursues a woman more than 30% of the time, her feelings of attraction and enthusiasm for him will diminish. When it becomes 50/50 they become platonic roommates instead of passionate lovers. It’s as predictable as the sun coming up in the east and setting in the west.”
9:44 Thinking about an LTR is feminine energy
9:50 Having your life, purpose and mission become unbalanced and becoming unsure of yourself will make you in essence start acting a woman. Instead of letting her seeking his attention and validation, and praising her, and lifting her up and lighting her up and giving her the "hot beef injection," he started seeking her attention and validation - which started turning her off. Before she was chasing him, now he's starting to chase her.
12:10 Dating is like a game of tennis.
Just goes to prove that you can NEVER predict when a beautiful woman will enter your life.
Watchable at 1.5x speed
This way of navigating the world gets you what you deserve, the low hanging fruit. The people who live based on their conditioning. The “NPC’s”.
I’ll just keep reading the book AND I suggest studying Patrick Swayze in the movie roadhouse hahah he gives 0 fucks and look at them blood ladies chasing him. The one said “ Dalton, you can stay here with me, you know?” He looks her right in the eyes “I don’t think so” and they fuck again but outside on the roof hahah live your life like that bros 😅💪🏼✊🏼✌🏼
When somebody asks me what I want to eat: 14:37 LOL
Hilarious
1:33 Women naturally seek a man's attention
If it takes this much work and having to play a game of keeping my interest under 30%, then I it’s not for me.
When I want something, I go and get it. Works every time. Would rather wait for an enlightened woman who isn’t susceptible to her evolutionary wiring.
its not about keeping your interest under 30% its about having self-control. It means not being needy and obsessive.
I absolutely hate pursuing women. I'm highly allergic to rejection. 😆
LET HER CHASE BROS
If a woman says you aren't compassionate what is she implying.? I know women really speak in codes. I was thinking she wants a soft emotional beta male and is intimidated by my masculine energy
Probably her way of saying you’re an a**hole.
Ask a question with a question,what do you mean?
This is where I get confused, anyone please feel free to chime in. At first we have to do 100 percent of the pursuing unless the woman is crazy into you off the bat. How long should it take for them to start doing the majority of the pursuing? For example I have a girl that I’ve been out with twice and says she wants to get together again (a little difficult finding time since our schedules don’t match but such is life) She always responds quick when I hit her up, seems to be interested and hasn’t really played any games but setting up a date once a week doesn’t really work unless I work around her schedule which puts me automatically in a weak position so really my question is should I only text her once a week and ask her a day that works and try and make it work with my schedule? She doesn’t usually text first but has. I’m having a real hard time telling if she wants me to pursue her at the same rate or not. We have a date up in the air for when we can make a day work but I don’t want to just go out for drinks again in a night that suits her so my options are back off and see what happens or keep setting up dates. I’m nervous to back off so early especially if she’s sitting there waiting for me to make things happen, backing off could kill things. I know I’m kinda rambling but anyone who has any advice I’m all eyes
3 weeks you let off the gas.
@@mhaas281 nah I have it more than 3 weeks. She had an ex in the picture I wasn’t aware about
Any friend zone walk away next pump and dump she not your just your turn.
So wouldn’t liking the memes or Instagram posts she sends be giving her attention and validation when she tried to put in me the friends zone sever times?
W0men just hate expectations & standards cos they cant live up to them. Its as simple as that. Pursue her & Place expectation, she will suddenly feel uneasy or make her feel like she is more valuable than you, she will feel like she is not getting the best deal. Though it has to be said, if you've got good looks & body, that doesn't really matter.
I mean I had a conversation with a guy who had a crush on me. He’s 32 now. He said he realized that 50/50 mindset will get him a woman but, not the woman he truly wanted. If you want a 50/50 woman you’ll have 50% of the power and 50% of the respect.
If you want a long term or permanent relationship, then you can’t begin it with sex.
It's boring when the feelings are not clear.Its not a receipt relationship. Love should grow and couples should have plans together otherwise turns off.This never end unclear feelings generate pursuing other guys .Cause almost everybody is looking for love .Don't play too much with the unclear feelings
Bad advice if you’re a guy. A woman isn’t attracted to that. Think John Wayne.
hi coach, i know this is off topic, but i'm very scared for the fact that they're forcing us to vax ourselves.
how do i not vax my self but still have a good life? :(
Your reply would mean a lot
Just get the vaccine! It has more pro's then cons and noone's forcing anyone at least where I am from🤷♂️
Nobody can force you
If you really don't want to, you can either quarantine yourself like a hermit, or take ivermectin
Do not get the vaxx! Just say no. You can still live your life. Don’t let anyone have power over you. They can only get away with what you allow.
I just got the 3% man book. Does that only work on all females? Im 25 i dont wanna be with anyone older than me
It works on healthy women. The book brings the best of the best very quick and the worst of the worst very quick.
Lmao
The "How To Be A 3% man" book only works on healthy minded women. The book doesn't work on women with insecurity issues.
Life is short get all the experience you can from older and younger girls just go with the flowand enjoy the journey
My question is why do we idolize women, why don't you treat yourself like you are the prize 🏆 makes no sense to me
I would not ask for her schedule - I'd just ask her out o my timeline and let her tell me if she is free or not, and then work out a day then.
She's feeding the dude a few breadcrumbs on Instagram to avoid real communication with him. She's clearly demonstrating lowered interest so why even respond? Silence shows her you're busy.. Replying back with likes and love hearts? C'mon man
Longest commercial ever
What if you are a man of God & would like to keep sex off until marriage?
Surely it’s possible to keep or obtain these relationships with the absence of sex
Most definitely it’s possible, once a woman is in love with you she’ll do anything for you
As long as she has the same values, sex/seduction happens on your wedding night.
@@gladiatormechs5574 tell that to my body count
This kind of dating leads to sex & then marriage.
COURTING however leads to marriage and then sex.
Also don’t you suppose sinful women have sinful desires? And therefore are subject or fancy sinful men.
@@CoachCoreyWayne thanks man, much appreciated!
As long as you don’t even CONSIDER she’s FOR THE STREETS!
Some women are programmed to expect men do all work
Bcz of society
Don't do 50/50
But contact her more
Spcialy in beginning
5:40 6:50
“The Last Man” the new FX show is written by one of those bozos. In the show every man in the world dies from a virus except one giga Chad and he has 4 billion women to himself.
I rather be rich and be alone. Than waste my money on some non sense book.
It's free to read on my website by subscribing to my free newsletter: understandingrelationships.com/free-ebook
It only seems like nonsense because you don't understand the material.
Lack of wisdom, the books free bro.
Women are also getting a man s job routine and very stressed.
Prob the best advice is to make so much money that women flock to you. Or just don't go for western women.
They will flock to you take your money (while behind the scenes they are giving themselves for free to guys they're actually attracted to).
@@skinnyguy7773 they will take your money only if you let them.
Genesis 2:18: And Jehovah God proceeded to say: "It is not good for the man to continue by himself. I am going to make a helper for him, as a complement of him . . . . 22 And Jehovah God proceeded to take the rib that HE had taken from the man and build it into a woman and to bring her to the man. (Some translations render vs. 18 as "I am going to make a helper for him as a counterpart of him.")
Deuteronomy 19:15: "No single witness should rise up against a man respecting any error or any sin, in the case of any sin that he may commit. At the mouth of two witnesses or at the mouth of three witnesses the matter should stand good." Jesus Christ repeats the same principle at Matthew 18:15: “Moreover, if your brother commits a sin, go lay bare his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. 16 *_But if he does not listen, take along with you one or two more, in order that at the mouth of two or three witnesses every matter may be established."_*
1 Peter 3:3: "And do not let YOUR adornment be that of the external braiding of the hair and of the putting on of gold ornaments or the wearing of outer garments, 4 but let it be the secret person of the heart in the incorruptible [apparel] of the quiet and mild spirit, which is of great value in the eyes of God." (Some translations render vs. 4 as "but let it be the hidden man of the heart in the incorruptible [apparel] of the quiet and mild spirit, which is of great value in the eyes of God.")
When men don't pay attention to these three God-given signs pairing them with the right women for wives in unforeseen occurrences Jehovah is controlling and not them, instead chasing women solely on the basis of their looks, they won't know how to read their minds and hearts and will get screwed every time! When a girl is young, she wonders if every guy that approaches and asks for her phone number will be her Mr. Right and he rarely is because Jehovah has not brought her to him with any striking observableness that they and everyone else can see and know are right for each other with the same mind and heart.
Man said he met a girl he REALLY liked -- in what common bond of the mind and heart that were the same for her, and where were the two or three witnesses seeing their common bond suit them in everything from the beginning that would stand up as witnesses at their wedding that they are right helpers and complements/counterparts for life?
He said they committed fornication on the first day/night -- big mistake right there -- Jehovah God does NOT bring a woman to a man for fornication, but for marriage! All those times she initiated their fornication, did she ever say in the heat of passion: "Oh, I love you, baby; I want to marry you, baby; I want to bear your babies, baby; do you want to marry me?" Did any of their friends, neighbors, family members, employers, coworkers or even strangers see them fit in everything from the beginning that each asked repeatedly: "When are you two going to get married with my blessing?" No! He found himself a barracuda that just used him for fornication and he was flattered when he should have been repulsed! I wouldn't be surprised if she used him repeatedly as a revenge-f&&k to bolster her ego and get back at another man she actually wanted for marriage that had repeatedly wronged her with other women! The White Man has not printed a lie in the 20th century; some people just don't pay attention. If you have never seen the 1996 movie _The Mirror Has Two Faces,_ go find it and see how ex-girlfriend Candace used Gregory for a revenge-f&&k in the opening scene -- and AFTER he had begged his friend Henry to not let him go home with her -- and thus screwed up his head and heart for the right woman for wife that Jehovah would bring to him in the next scene!
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Lol why the fuck would you read a book 10 times?
Why do you talk so much about yourself though, in most other videos, giving examples is one thing but sometimes you come off too cocky to your viewers and unsympathetic. A little too rigid per say.