5 Things You Need to Remember When You're Feeling Discouraged // Stop Feeling Discouraged
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- When things get hard it's easy to get discouraged and then give up - but giving up won't help you move forward or have what you want most in life. Here are 5 things you need to know when you're feeling discouraged that will help you stay focused, motivated and moving forward toward the things that are important to you.
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Living in the past and feeling guilty has been something I have been dealing with for nearly 20 yrs. watching your videos has helped me so very much. Thank you for doing what you do
Always. Really glad you're here.
I made a comment last night about how discouraged I feel in humanity right now. This was the first video on my list this morning. Coincidence?
Nope. Synchronicity
fate!
@Jen T That's very hard. I feel discouraged too. I have to stay away from news, huh?
I think not!
ouuuu... that's either amazing or a little spooky! lol
Watching from afar, but love videos like this Julia!
Thanks - I appreciate and respect all the good work you're putting out into the world too.
yay! Phsych2Go is hereeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
I’m from India & right now the 2nd wave of pandemic is ravaging our country.. with cyclones on both our east & west coasts. Every single person is feeling discouraged. Your video brought a lot of solace with it’s wisdom of “right now where we are, is the only place we can be.” Thank you. Subscribed. 🧡
I’ve been feeling a lot less discouraged lately, especially when it comes to work, but I can’t wait to hear your insights regardless!! I hope you have a wonderful rest of your week 🙏🏻❤️
Awesome!
what connected Admir?
@@juliakristinamah For me, the biggest takeaways were to not dwell on making mistakes because, for example, every time I make one at work I’m learning and improving, and making the proper adjustments! Also, I’ve come to realize that the world doesn’t owe me anything, and if I want something, I need to put the effort in to get/achieve it
Always soooo happy to be here. Thanks for taking us along the Urnen.
Loved the point about the world not owing us anything despite wanting it! That is not often said.
My boyfriend and I just listened to this. It came to us at the right time. As always, thank you 😊❤
Omg u hit the nail on the head with exactly how im feeling and the thoughts im dealing with, this is the 1st video ive ever watched and so glad i found this channel , subscribed!!!
The first point really got me 😂😂😂!!! This has been me 1000% thank you! I think this will really work!
Yep. The Name it and Claim it movement is lying to us. We can do our best and sometimes we dont get what we want even if we work hard for it. Sometimes the process teaches us alot and grows us but we dont get to the finishline where we have that job or that body we wanted or the degree we wanted. We can just do our best.
Thanks Julia! This was at the perfect time for me. I didn't share this particular video but I have shared your name and invited a good friend of mine to follow you on facebook. She has just started watching your videos and they are really hitting home for her. You have and still are changing my life and and so I shared you with someone I thought you could help. One day she just may be a shifter never know. ❤ #shifter
You're be insightful and talented, Miss Julia. I greatly appreciate your help.
Exactly what I needed to today. Thank you so much!
Very helpful.more self Love🙏🏾
Hi Julia. Thank you for sharing your thoughts here regarding feelings of discouragement. I am a Masters Psyc student searching for practicum, and this pandemic has made this search so very tough. Please continue releasing such amazing and supportive content; it is much appreciated. Cheers.
Feeling that way lately. Very nice video. Thank you, I shared it on FB
was feeling down so searched this on youtube
I enjoy videos like these. It’s very hard after things happen in my life.
Your video was very insightful and uplifting.
Thank you, Needed This, Sharing😊😀😃
Thanks Julia, I am intrigued by your talk, a very realistic observation and practical help tips you covered in this talk!! You’re compassionate and yet sharing the realistic options than self pity and griefs. ❤️
Brilliant!
You are very talented . . . so good at what you do. Thanks so much for sharing all this information because no one explains it like you can Julia. Blessings! Carol
Love this message, perfect timing for someone who has a few life changes up ahead
Helpful, honest, relatable. Thank you!
Thank You
Thank you 😭
These are amazing therapy sessions, Julia! High-quality content and your communication is clear!
Needed this, thank you 🙏🏽
Loved this... I needed to hear this today. ❤
I was unaware of the brain having a negative bias in its effort to self-protect. No wonder I catch myself being skeptical about things. Tks.🙏
This is me. Thank you I thought I was lazy
Needed to hear this today!
Thank you so much
Because of my failures in the past i feel like i can do nothing but fail in the future.
same I feel you
I’m a recovering perfectionist learning to look for small wins but it hasn’t occurred to me to celebrate them.
Another very helpful video Julia! Thank you~
#shiftsociety #coach
Hello Julia
Love your video's my name is Carmine wish you would do relationship videos I'm going through heartache
Hello”
I've been feeling discouraged by the pandemic for the last 11 months.
What is up with your hair? It is works! Love your channel!
Yes the idea that we are born the same have the same amount of hours in a day, I know the value of time in a way I didn't before, my wingman, Lukas had to show me this. He wated me to walk with him he had a whole realm of Lukasland only he wanted me to do it with him. I heard his somehow from him 'I know I don't hsve as much time as you do, I just want to spend all mine with you.' And he'd be so happy to go he'd jump up like a bronco and come down wiggling his butt and he looked like a big ol furry Rott. Those memories come back when missing him comes on or I wonder if he's around trying to let me know he misses me too.
I like your videos.
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Just wrote a whole lot and then I thought: Did I just say this on the world wide internet??? So it all transferred into a few dots :p
In short: I really like your videos! However... (I rest my case here on the internet :) )
Hello. Fortuna dicitur caeca...
anyone else count 6 things?
ADHD. This happens on the daily it’s not a special occasion 😅
Sometimes in spirituality we understand that our mind is our enemy, a "Monster", i COMPLETELY disagree; because, ok , so we know it's not productive and good to beat ourself up. But i believe our mind want the Good, we have to remember our mind is NOT the product of the 'evil' society, but of Nature: thé way the neurones communicate is the création of Nature, not man. And so, as Always in Nature, there is in the natural flux of thinking, a way to exhaust the wastes. So we Can be more trustfull to our mind, and when it says "get up and do this you are such a coward" it can be right ! I mean we human of 2021 we lives at ..1% of our capacities? (intellectual and physical) we can do better
Hey it's me how r you I'm ok
Do less...that's super interesting lol for me that is like a damn epiphany. I'm an over achiever
This message came at the right time for me!🙏🏼
And for me too, feeling this way right now at this moment.
I love it when that happens.
Hello”
Its funny cause every week i make up a 2 page list of what i need to get done on the weekend and evey Saturday i wake up overwhelmed and dont do anything but lay on the couch. Then Sunday I get myself together but don't get much done and I'm agrivated with myself for not getting enough done!
okay. So, can you commit to doing less?
@@juliakristinamah it's a weird thing for me. Everything seams important, like I can't cut anything out. I do little tricks, like instead of putting down one big project I break it up into smaller individual things, than I get to cross off more stuff, and looks like I did more. Thanks for replying though, actually means more than you realize to someone who feels like their never heard!
Oh my, this is exactly how I’m feeling :( I honestly feel like my whole life fell apart in so many ways and it’s just really hard not to feel discouraged. Hope this knowledge helps me
1. Do less. But consistently. So much less, than it's not overwhelming.
2. You can't be anywhere else. Wether it's future or past. Be present... in present.
3. Just because you want something it doesn't mean the world owes it to you. (but if we pay attention to it we might win in a long run)
4. Our brain is always looking for a threat. All we have to do is to at least to get it from negative to neutral.
5. Celebrate all wins! We are all beat up. As a christian I'd prefer a view that it's not me who beat me up. Devil/society/family etc. as a kid I wouldn't criticise myself to deepest moments. It happened to me.
Thank you. My name is Denis, I am 26. I am struggling to start my architectural career.
And again your content is exactly what I am struggling with. I am in my master's program for counseling right now and I find myself struggling with school work despite me having plenty of time and resources to complete them. Part of me constantly feels guilty when I'm not making progress. Guilty because I know that nearly in my program has kids, full times jobs, spouses, and mental health struggles of their own. I will give myself one day off and spend the entire day mentally justifying my day off, instead of enjoying it and trusting myself to complete what I need to.
Good luck in school. What population do you want to work with?
@@ButterflyBeginningsCounseling I believe I would like to focus on the LGBTQIA+ community. It is hard to know because I am interested in so many aspects of mental health.
@@arlenemartin8894 totally understand, so many need help
Hello i am schizoaffective help me
So needed this! I'm dealing with depression and anxiety...and been working on my dream of drum wellness program...and NOW adapting it virtually. But run out of energy FAST! As long as we're making progress on our dream...no matter how small...you're STILL making progress (you're not quitting. Look around how many people quit on their dream because of the pandemic). Be gentle with yourself...and small steps.😁
So good! This is one of my favorite talks I’ve heard on UA-cam for years...so much valuable content packed in there...hopefully many people will “unpack it” for themselves! I will be sharing with a couple people today :)
Wow I just found you today. This has helped me so much as I have always discouraged with myself and thinking about the past too much. I did share this on my Facebook so that I won't lose your video cuz I think that I'll need to listen to this again. I'm just now learning to love myself at 55.
Awesome. Remember you are the exact journey that you are suppose to be on! Good for you!
@@chrisdigitalartist thank you! Each day I learn so much. I have to remind myself, baby steps because I am so eager to be healed.
@@loriraemorris4142 Yes! Good job. As Julia says, do less everyday. Baby steps. May you be healthy, may you be peaceful, may you be happy and may you live with ease my friend!
Well said! Noting mistakes, I encourage mistakes as that's how wisdom is earned to not only make better choices in the future but to fix the mistakes rather quickly. Mistakes can benefit any many ways, like the invention of the microwave!
Yes and to remind ourselves that mistakes doesn't make us a failure, it is just experiences with a undesirable outcome so then we can learn from it.
This message came right on time for me!! I needed to hear this on today. Thank you ❤️🙏🏾
I totally shared this! I've been getting better at treating myself well, but it's still a challenge for myself and many of my friends. These tips are quite helpful. Thank you.
I always expect too much and give too much. Just fed up. Not trying anymore to make friends.
4:44 you can’t do more than you can do
I've been in therapy and support groups and listening to you and others, and it has been really hard work but it has been so worth the effort. This video in particular is covering some of the same things I am currently doing in therapy and it is so helpful. I can't tell you how much my life has improved and your videos are a part of it.
A year now.
Hi Julia...im sandy. Thank you for sharing this video
Good morning I'm grace I have been crying ever since I lost my god father and been taken it hard I can't even get my self togther nomore
I needed to hear this today, this was a W for the algorithm
Makes so much sense
crucial advice ! thank you!!
Personally I find it important to identify the source of my feelings of discouragement. If the identified sources are not modifiable - if it is something I cannot do anything about, I learned that the sooner that I accept it, the earlier I can get out of the discouragement zone. Julia's advice on starting small consistent steps helps a lot because these steps not only distracts you from magnifying the nonmodifiable sources of your discouragement, but it also keeps you motivated mentally. Knowing that you are doing something towards your goals help a lot.
So helpful 👌🏿👌🏿 thank you 🙏🏿🙏🏿❤️
I feel so lost 😔 and I’m in a bad state right now. Felt like this for years but it’s really come to the fore now. Just feel like a failure. Thank you for this video
So sorry to hear that. Remember you are not a failure. (I have thought about that myself too and it isn't true) You are worthy person my friend!
@@chrisdigitalartist thank you 😔 I feel like a worthless piece of crap everyday
@@kevinferrari1267 Oh I am sorry to hear that. I understand. I have been there before. The struggle is real. My problem is that I always took that my worth is based on accomplishments. I learned that isn't true. Just know you just being human is all it takes for your worthiness. Julia's Shift society really helped with these thoughts. There are some book recommendations that may help you on your journey. Right now, I am reading the Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden (I haven't finished it yet, but so far, I love what I am reading.) I would also highly recommend Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Kristin Neff. Please hang in there. It does get better. May you be healthy. May you be safe. May you be peaceful and May you live with ease my friend.
@@chrisdigitalartist that’s extremely kind of you to say thank you. I’ll check out them books, by god I need help
@@kevinferrari1267 You're very welcome. 🙏
Wonderful and thought provoking. This applies to me 1000%. Now that I am aware, I can “work” on making small changes. Thank you for opening my eyes! Have a wonderful day!
I just realized how rich i am with all my time to get things done
This is fantastic - thank you!
Me and my son was kick out of are apartment because the landlord didn't like the nosie my son was making. Now I've been living back at my parents home at 54. That in itself is terrible!! And trapped because I can't afford rent lowest price is 1200 . Got a dog , and I have a record. No one will rent. Don't know where I'm going with this. But totally not where I want to be. Not the life I wanted to be at 54.
Prefect timing! Thank you for your words of wisdom! Much appreciated!
Hi Julia.. i have been sharing your name with alot of diff people thru the yrs because your videos are very helpful and encouraging to me.. thks as always!!
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1 Do Less consistently! A Little Bit Consistantly is Better than Nothing!! Baby Steps!!
2 The Only Place to Be is in the NOW!! Not in the Past/Future
3 The world doesn’t owe me anything!! I never promised you a Rose Garden Entitlement!!
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how, got low battery, but i did as u said xD im sirijan from india, back t the video then '!
I needed this soooo much almost like a handbook to get out of the fire! I just wanted to let you know that you are really so helpful
This hit home! I’m just starting out as a recovery and ptsd coach and have been feeling so overwhelmed with all that goes into getting started then adding every day living to that , I just end up doing nothing since I’m not sure the best place to start . I came to the conclusion that making a daily task list with only one or two things a day on it would be the most helpful . Things are getting done and the way I feel is much better !
Thank you Jesus for this message . I'm watching from India🇮🇳 God bless you 🙏🙏🙏👍👍👍
Very motivating & insightful, thank you! 🙏😌
I’m Back, new to the Shift Society. Need help with discouragement … I don’t like where I am in life. My boys aren’t talking to me and I’m very discouraged., I know I have to wait for them to come back to me but I’m very discouraged and have regret. I know I need to realize me feelings are just my thoughts are just words words in sentences. Ya I am looking back in the past but I have control what I think and I will change them I do grieve what could have been. But I will move forward because I don’t want to sit in the miserable . This is very helpful.
Hi. I'm 24. Just graduated with a Master's degree in English. Jobless. I've applied for more then 350 jobs in the past 6 months and they are either not responding or rejecting my application because I'm not an experienced professional. This is literally stabbing my self esteem to the grave because if they don't let me work... How will I gain the experience in the first place?
Hi I am Ernesto. I am currently feel discouraged about my job & I haven't seen any progress in myself. I know something is wrong. Is it my job? If so then I am willing to leave to another job.
Your channel has really been helping me and my family understand things a lot better.
Thank you. It's trying to start a dating life for me is what has been hard. Nothing seems to be working out or making anysense. I know I have to keep trying, but Its challenging to see the point if all I see and feel is discouragement.
Watching your Channel.
I wish I could say I'm all better from listening to you but it's just words I'm hearing. I'm so discouraged with people and life. I'm dealing with tonsilitis right now and in addition was passed over for a promotion which is the 3rd time this has happened to me in my career. I think being gay, I've not been allowed to promote up as the straight white males didn't want a gay guy to be at their level so they all kept me down. I recently had 3 interviews with what would be a dream job and after multiple attempts just to get a status update, they won't even return my emails. People are just absolutely horrible and I'm starting to think living on earth in actually hell and when we die our reward is heaven having to deal with this crappy life.
Thanks very much. Your videos are always very helpful.
This helpede more than you think....❤ Thankyou for this vid
I love your content it helped me alot in my life
Hi Julia I've have got discharged alot even from people and last night we had two people had come in and we said rebuke in Jesus name and how do we overcome this and sent it back we had a lovely Wednesday morning come right overcome that
apathy takes care of being discouraged. disassociate yourself with the results.
Thank you for the advice I really appreciate it and needed it. Just went through a terrible experience.
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