How To Fight Right / Don't Win The Argument and Lose Your Marriage

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  • Опубліковано 13 лют 2023
  • Arguing in a relationship is inevitable. And we are not new to it. After 23 years of marriage we have learned the do's and don'ts of arguments. In this episode we are going to show you principles of how to fight right with your spouse.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 88

  • @mo_sozo21
    @mo_sozo21 Рік тому +40

    “My angels know the speed that I drive…” 😂😂😂😂

    • @marshaesmith
      @marshaesmith 8 місяців тому +1

      😭🤣

    • @marshaesmith
      @marshaesmith 7 місяців тому +1

      😭🤣😂😂😂

    • @So_Easy_
      @So_Easy_ 4 місяці тому +1

      Boy I heard my wife right there😂

  • @alisheabasson2987
    @alisheabasson2987 Рік тому +31

    The biggest fight actually restored my broken marriage! I believe it was Holy Spirit lead and broke us down to build us up!

  • @MaShiaMone
    @MaShiaMone 2 місяці тому +2

    “I believe that you can outrun your angels.” When I say I screamed so LOUD Pastor Ken.☠️☠️☠️☠️ OMG!

  • @resmith44321
    @resmith44321 Рік тому +11

    She said you were fighting by yourself 😆 🤣 😂.

  • @1jazzjasmine
    @1jazzjasmine 4 місяці тому +3

    I feel bad for Tabatha…she reminds me of me, I have a gentle spirit and hate getting into arguments because I’m easily overpowered. People see people shut down and still continue to yell and do so much

  • @yourshma
    @yourshma 3 місяці тому +2

    It's crazy how I am soooo hooked to your videos even though I am not married and single. Haha! I am learning soooo much from you Mr. Ken and Mrs. Tabatha. I wanna be like Mrs. Tabatha -- she's so eloquent, calm, and gentle yet so empowered. God bless your marriage! Praying that many single people would watch your videos and learn a lot like how you impacted my life.
    Greetings from the Philippines!

  • @marshaesmith
    @marshaesmith 8 місяців тому +5

    Can you guys do a video breaking down the biblical roles of the Husband and Wife? That’s something I feel has gotten pretty blurred lately to the point where we really don’t know our roles and/or we’ve seen our mothers have to play a role that wasn’t hers and now we’re growing up doing the same and it’s holding us back

  • @StayHealthyWithLinda
    @StayHealthyWithLinda 8 місяців тому +3

    I love the fact Ken and Tabatha are being realistic. I’m learning a lot and really appreciate. Thank you for allowing the Holy Spirit to guide your podcasts❤❤❤ yep married for 14 years everyday is a new day. Marriage is beautiful and lovely ❤❤❤

  • @dwaynebastiany9816
    @dwaynebastiany9816 13 днів тому

    I really love the intelligent manner in which you two can discuss your differences. We can see that even in this video, there are some points that need ironing out, but it’s worked out really effectively, with respect.

  • @mbusosibanda8951
    @mbusosibanda8951 8 місяців тому +1

    The Phone Police!!! Wow. Perspectives, you are bound by any rule that you have not challenged at inception in the home.💗

  • @Sabrinajbeltran
    @Sabrinajbeltran 8 місяців тому +1

    Tab! I love your spirit! 😂 this episode has me laughing out loud!

  • @UhHuhReedsy
    @UhHuhReedsy Рік тому +2

    I loved this! Totally re-watching/listening to take notes. Thanks y’all!

  • @allysonrose6515
    @allysonrose6515 5 місяців тому

    This channel is such a blessing ❤

  • @SheSharpNotFlat
    @SheSharpNotFlat Рік тому +1

    This was so good!!

  • @kellyquenery5166
    @kellyquenery5166 6 місяців тому +3

    it’s so funny how you discuss this infront of so many people!! I just love how genuine you are guys!!!! I thank You Jesus for bringing this people to my life!! I am learning a lot from this since I am newly married! 😃
    sending love from Canada!!! 🇨🇦
    God bless!!!🎉

  • @NijahBrunea
    @NijahBrunea Рік тому +1

    This was so good!

  • @samarhernandez2601
    @samarhernandez2601 Рік тому +3

    So much wisdom, wow!

  • @user-ii7kl4mz1c
    @user-ii7kl4mz1c 4 місяці тому +1

    I love how even on air you all resolved something ❤

  • @sherrynelson365
    @sherrynelson365 9 місяців тому

    Great nuggets

  • @Ehipopo
    @Ehipopo 9 місяців тому +1

    These podcasts are always so inspiring

  • @georgeblackwell4670
    @georgeblackwell4670 Місяць тому

    This is blessing my life!

  • @elishajorden4457
    @elishajorden4457 2 місяці тому

    So happy I found you guys page 💜🙏🏽

  • @michelleestevez3234
    @michelleestevez3234 9 місяців тому

    Hahaha you guys are such a blessing with your messages. I thank God for your obedience..

  • @Derionna
    @Derionna Рік тому +2

    Loving this podcast and love you too pastors! 💗 So happy to hear from you guys in another format.

  • @AngelaMillion-gq5nf
    @AngelaMillion-gq5nf 5 місяців тому

    Your podcast have really been helping me out I ❤ that you give examples of you guys experience because we all are human and none of us is perfect ❤

  • @tarshapatriz3632
    @tarshapatriz3632 5 місяців тому

    Me & my love needed this one. We are in the dating phase. This is going to help us🙌🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾thank u for transparency

  • @losenanakailoma5437
    @losenanakailoma5437 Місяць тому

    Love listening to you both. Thanks for such an impacting interaction!

  • @cynthialocke2269
    @cynthialocke2269 Рік тому

    Happy Valentine's Day to 2 of my favorite people! Podcasts are absolutely amazing 👏

  • @crisjacobs7322
    @crisjacobs7322 2 місяці тому

    Your podcasts have truly helped my marriage. This one will be a game changer!!! I am the one who is "always right". In January, I made the resolution to not have to prove it! I can be right but sometimes I can just know that in my heart without shoving it down his throat. Key #1 is going to be what puts me in the correct space to keep it from escalating. Thank you for your real life examples and Keys to make it doable!!!!

  • @AngelGarcia-fy8yx
    @AngelGarcia-fy8yx 5 місяців тому

    I love listening to you both, when you speak I know god’s presence is just surrounding you guys. I’ve gained so much wisdom from the month & half of listening to your old and new podcast about marriage. As a 22 year old woman who is married I will be the first to say it is hard, but I absolutely love learning and growing in our marriage, growing up and till this day I have parents who haven’t learned a foundation for their marriage and I see how it really can destroy your marriage your self image and all around you, I have such amazing parents but unfortunately they didn’t learn the foundations of a marriage. So I love I can hop on UA-cam and listen to you both and share it with my husband and share it with my mom and my dad. You guys are such a blessing and I’m thankful god sent me here! Thank you guys for the honesty the realness and the guidance! Y’all are amazing! God is good! 🙌🏼❤️‍🔥

  • @jamaracrockett5489
    @jamaracrockett5489 3 місяці тому

    yoou really have made me see things in a different way im 34 and dating to get married and it gets tough but i stick it out in listen and write all the nuggets down so i can make the bond better

  • @LoratoPhefo
    @LoratoPhefo 2 місяці тому

    Wow, you guys are always so real and vulnerable. It’s always the small meaningless things that end up blowing up 🤦🏿‍♀️. You look back and you just like mhmm if I had just kept quiet, if I had just said sorry 🤦🏿‍♀️. Thank you so much for this video

  • @user-bx8lx8lg5i
    @user-bx8lx8lg5i 5 місяців тому

    This was one of my favorite episodes.
    Thank you sooo for helping my marriage and my relationship with Jesus!!!🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @zmatolo
    @zmatolo Рік тому +3

    Thank you so much for the podcast, going through each and learning so much from you guys. Its so good to be in the kingdom because God made a provision for all we need in this life. Your union is a blessing.

  • @carola.richards9405
    @carola.richards9405 Рік тому +4

    I sense the unconditional love btw you two. God bless you both. ❤

  • @cameliamoodie4928
    @cameliamoodie4928 4 місяці тому

    I really appreciate your openness to share real life situations to help so many marriage couples struggling or heading to divorce.

  • @belindasierra5775
    @belindasierra5775 Рік тому +3

    That's absolutely correct Agree to disagree.. Sister Im with you. I do same thing living in high desert I also drive on 2 lanes.n these turtle 🐢 drivers just to slow
    I'm with you Tabitha 💯 ❤️

  • @norahnakalanzi931
    @norahnakalanzi931 5 місяців тому +1

    This is very good, the Holy Spirit will always keep reminding us what we did wrong, and ask for forgiveness, Amen. I love you Ken and Tabitha, your Awesome ❤

  • @biiraruth7290
    @biiraruth7290 8 місяців тому

    God led me to this channel thanks for teaching us

  • @l.dozier1984
    @l.dozier1984 9 місяців тому

    Practice the grace of forgiving. ❤

  • @choyceybarra1274
    @choyceybarra1274 4 місяці тому

    Thank you both for being real and vulnerable to share your experiences and stories. As a fallen world, We need more of this and less of the scripted, polished, smiling fakery that most “Christian” leaders offer.

  • @jessefoster2832
    @jessefoster2832 10 місяців тому +2

    FOR GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD THAT HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON THAT WHOSOEVER SHALL BELIEVETH UNTO HIM SHALL NOT PERISH BUT HAVE EVERLASTING LIFE
    JOHN 3:16

  • @shannonwhite6591
    @shannonwhite6591 7 місяців тому

    This is so helpful to couples. Thank you for your transparency

  • @maameodeadu-gyamfi7913
    @maameodeadu-gyamfi7913 3 місяці тому

    Listening from Ghana!!!! God bless you both

  • @purposedwifelife3825
    @purposedwifelife3825 6 місяців тому

    I love this prodcast

  • @mangalisopepper4507
    @mangalisopepper4507 8 місяців тому

    Thank you for the Life lesson, God bless you in The Mighty name of Jesus Christ Amen

  • @Ehipopo
    @Ehipopo 9 місяців тому +1

    Passenger seat driver😂 , gotta love ‘em

  • @jenriquefilms1634
    @jenriquefilms1634 Рік тому +1

    Love this channel. These podcast’s have been such a blessing ❤️🙏🏽

  • @cameliamoodie4928
    @cameliamoodie4928 4 місяці тому

    I really love that jacket tab. I'm trying to find it ...

  • @MrHandoverfist
    @MrHandoverfist Місяць тому

    Praise the #Lord

  • @olabuk2000
    @olabuk2000 8 місяців тому +1

    I think the rule about no cell phone on the table brings order especially when there are children, because that's good manners and you have to lead by example, and there can't be one rule for the kids while you are doing the same.
    How about leaving the table and attend to your phone, which makes it appear real necessary as opposed to sitting on the table flipping through your phone, because in these days of social media, your being on the phone among people especially during family time is just not on.

  • @ChristFan868
    @ChristFan868 10 місяців тому

    Hey guys, thank you so much for sharing this. I'd like to know, what happened after two years that improved your marriage?

  • @kristineford9185
    @kristineford9185 Місяць тому

    Like today.

  • @jessyjonas4988
    @jessyjonas4988 9 місяців тому

    “There is something u r doing more important than your rule”😮
    You’re kidding right 🤔

  • @akayla_playz
    @akayla_playz Рік тому

  • @sandrashavers1516
    @sandrashavers1516 Місяць тому

    Mr. Ken again you were wrong, your justifying your wrong, again Tabatha was right. I'm getting upset listening to you guys. Blessings, you guys still rock

  • @blackcure8744
    @blackcure8744 8 місяців тому +1

    I just apologies for everything because i feel like my partner wants to win every argument, misunderstanding and anything that she can win. It ends up draining to always be the one that apologies for everything for the sake of peace and sometimes when you keep quite you end up feeling like you dont have a voice in the marriage, and that's also hard. Because how do you lead if your voice is not given much of a chance.

  • @sharalyndemonte2511
    @sharalyndemonte2511 3 місяці тому

    lol I like to fight too Tabitha 😂 that’s what my husband says

  • @susanhaines7358
    @susanhaines7358 4 місяці тому

    Silence us agreement. If the wife made the rule and the husband did not rebut or rebuke the rule then he agreed the rule stands and also does disservice to all involved when he breaks the rule. The time to act was when the rule was spoken . A husband can go and remove a vow the wife made

  • @IamTreyWarren
    @IamTreyWarren Рік тому

    📝💎🖤

  • @sandrashavers1516
    @sandrashavers1516 Місяць тому

    Mr. Ken why are you trying to work in the car while the car is moving, it's not her fault if there's a bump in the road. I Believe Mr. Ken your wrong and Tab is right. Blessings. You guys rock

  • @dandelane8088
    @dandelane8088 8 місяців тому

    How do you leave the past in the past when the same thing keep showing up in the present while pressing?

    • @Mhelinblack
      @Mhelinblack 7 місяців тому

      Im struggling with this one as well

  • @karenbailey921
    @karenbailey921 10 місяців тому

    😍❤😍❤🥰

  • @jessefoster2832
    @jessefoster2832 10 місяців тому +3

    REPENT FOR THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN IS AT HAND TURN FROM SIN AND TURN TOWARDS RIGHTEOUSNESS THROUGH CHRIST JESUS
    JESUS CHRIST IS COMING BACK SOON AND WE MUST BE READY FOR WHEN HE COMES BACK

  • @226justt3
    @226justt3 9 місяців тому +1

    “Public displays equal private withdrawals.” What did you mean Ken in the intro?

    • @Mhelinblack
      @Mhelinblack 7 місяців тому +2

      I think he means he’s gonna get some reward later 😅

  • @andreag8416
    @andreag8416 5 місяців тому

    LOL.

  • @dwaynebastiany9816
    @dwaynebastiany9816 10 днів тому

    Anyone. Please answer for me I don’t know what they mean by #1. Shut up. Do u mean don’t reply? Let the addresses go w/ o an answer?

  • @lisasweeney6509
    @lisasweeney6509 9 місяців тому

    Lol! Yall both were petty and wrong about the phone situation.
    You should have asked respectfully to give you 5 min. It is a business deal.
    Maam you on the other hand could have used 5 min to deep breath to prepare you for some real intimacy time. Lol

  • @chrisbryant9473
    @chrisbryant9473 10 місяців тому +1

    This video on how to fight fair is really disturbing to me. Ken you got out of character. Your wife holding your hand is to calm was you down. 😢

    • @Doinglifewithkenandtabatha
      @Doinglifewithkenandtabatha  10 місяців тому +3

      What is disturbing about it?..

    • @bernadettejohn3055
      @bernadettejohn3055 8 місяців тому

      They are really people…..love covers ❤

    • @cameliamoodie4928
      @cameliamoodie4928 4 місяці тому +1

      No judgements, please . They're trying to help others by sharing real situations and issues. There is no need to comment any judgments. People are so close-minded and appear to be so perfect. It's difficult for them to process real people with real-life issues.

  • @marysebaya306
    @marysebaya306 Рік тому

    Thank you for this podcast. It really applies not only in marriage but when single, with family members. I will fully support, every video I will watch I will definitely comment. You’re international! I’m listening from London 🇬🇧🫶🏾