A Police Officer’s Tango with PTSD & Complex Trauma

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  • Опубліковано 27 бер 2019
  • Ed Pila became a #policeofficer in the Detroit area, where he focused on the domestic violence unit. Upon retirement, he sought counseling for #PTSD recovery and also found his way to Argentine #tango.
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    As a child, Ed witnessed domestic violence and acts that no child should ever see. In his work, Ed says, his heart was endeared to the many women and children that became victims of domestic violence.
    “Yet, I was not aware of the ramifications that would come from witnessing a career length of traumatic incidents. This is known in the psych world as ‘secondary #trauma.’”
    Ed found himself affected by the compounded traumas he witnessed in his role as a police officer. He chose to retire from the police department, but it didn’t solve his troubles. In fact, his emotional state worsened.
    “I found myself isolating, alone, and #depressed,” he said.
    After much contemplation, he realized that his police training may have been part of the problem - it taught him to stay six feet away from people at all times, for safety reasons.
    “The trauma in childhood, secondary trauma from a police career, and a focus of many years on keeping my distance from people had caught up to me. I needed healing. But, I wasn’t sure where to begin.”
    One evening, Ed walked out of a martial arts class one evening and observed a business with a large window across the parking lot. Inside people were dancing close together. He was drawn to the positive energy. And although he had never danced before, #Argentinetango became a surprising and effective therapeutic activity.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 64

  • @TrialTappersMentalHealthTips
    @TrialTappersMentalHealthTips 3 роки тому +9

    In law enforcement we need more of these stories. Keep reaching out to others. I might need to take up dancing. Your story make you stronger.

    • @OC87RD
      @OC87RD  3 роки тому

      Thank you for leaving your comment. Dancing does look like such a fun activity.

  • @silentjellybean
    @silentjellybean 4 роки тому +5

    It creeps in slowly over many years, till you start experiencing anxiety that you don't understand, followed by panic, confusion and helplessness. CBT helps, and escitalopram.

    • @OC87RD
      @OC87RD  4 роки тому +1

      Thank you for sharing your experience, and so glad to hear that those treatments are working for you right now.

  • @MaryDuprie
    @MaryDuprie 5 років тому +7

    Wow, great message and wonderful production team.

    • @OC87RD
      @OC87RD  4 роки тому

      Thank you Mary for taking a moment to appreciate the film! Our team works hard to honor recovery stories and we're so glad that came through for you in this one.

  • @francoiseropert31
    @francoiseropert31 5 років тому +7

    Thank you for your testimony. Hug is so powerful and without judgment.

    • @OC87RD
      @OC87RD  4 роки тому

      You're so right, Françoise. So glad to know this Ed's story resonated with you.

  • @juliemcintosh2594
    @juliemcintosh2594 3 роки тому +3

    Beautiful story! Dance is a great way to express yourself. One definitely gains “life” and joy through movement and connection. Thank you for sharing your experience Ed Pila!

    • @OC87RD
      @OC87RD  3 роки тому

      Yes! Thank you so much for watching and leaving your message for Ed. 💙

  • @daniellapadula9395
    @daniellapadula9395 4 роки тому +2

    It melt my heart hearing this. Great job Ed

    • @OC87RD
      @OC87RD  4 роки тому

      thank you for watching, Daniel.

  • @samsevern
    @samsevern 5 років тому +5

    So inspiring!

    • @OC87RD
      @OC87RD  4 роки тому

      So glad to hear that, Sam!

  • @AxiomofDiscord
    @AxiomofDiscord Рік тому +2

    Your pain hurts those on the otherside of the badge as well. It benefits us all for you to find your humanity.

  • @pedroandsarah6222
    @pedroandsarah6222 3 роки тому +2

    I’m so glad to hear that “Tango” which is one of our national treasures in my country (Argentina) helped you in your life! Cheers! You’re a hero !

    • @OC87RD
      @OC87RD  3 роки тому +1

      Aww, thank you, Pedro, for watching and leaving this beautiful comment.

  • @kapricewilliamson1579
    @kapricewilliamson1579 4 роки тому +2

    Wow! Just wow. Bravo!

    • @OC87RD
      @OC87RD  4 роки тому

      Thank you, Ed is amazing.

  • @HelenBeeYoga
    @HelenBeeYoga 4 роки тому +1

    These stories are so important to share. It's great that you made this series of videos.

    • @OC87RD
      @OC87RD  4 роки тому

      So meaningful to know that the videos are resonating with you. Here's the whole playlist: ua-cam.com/play/PLm4CMoNTIH6kbZJGD91OPorEEmkY114po.html

  • @lailaissa7836
    @lailaissa7836 Рік тому

    I love these series ♥️mental health needs to be talked about more. Police officers do an important job ♥️

    • @OC87RD
      @OC87RD  Рік тому +1

      So important to talk about mental health, thank you for the appreciation of this series.

  • @1391knug
    @1391knug 4 роки тому +1

    A beautiful story.

    • @OC87RD
      @OC87RD  4 роки тому

      Thank you very much for watching.

  • @shelleydelayne4195
    @shelleydelayne4195 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much for sharing this. Tango helped me begin to integrate my own complex trauma history, and I'll be forever grateful it found me. I'm glad it found you, too. Abrazos.

    • @OC87RD
      @OC87RD  4 роки тому

      How amazing, Shelley! Love to hear that tango has also supported you in recovery.

  • @Fjuncaj
    @Fjuncaj 4 роки тому +1

    Just watching this for the first time! Ed I’m sorry I haven’t noticed before this video and testimony. Much respect my friend!

    • @OC87RD
      @OC87RD  4 роки тому +1

      So glad you found your way to the film!

  • @kayak9078
    @kayak9078 4 роки тому +1

    Very heartfelt! You are strong and courageous for sharing that story. As a massage therapist, I understand the need for touch as a healing mechanism. Your story about dance reinforces that idea!

    • @OC87RD
      @OC87RD  4 роки тому

      So glad to hear that Ed's story resonated with you! Especially knowing your professional background with healing touch.

  • @quantumfineartsandfossils2152

    4:42 awesome :D yesssssss

  • @quantumfineartsandfossils2152

    3:00 "6 feet away from people to be safe" "how do I get back to being close to others"? yes why change what works & from real documented threats (!!!???) this is mind blowing to hear him say it its like hes witnessing my behaviors probably many others wow
    wow
    I also show love through giving a lot of space others show me love by giving me space too the act of showing you are doing that is a third real 'space' thing 'im here I respect my defender (gives lots of space)'
    if I really need to ill get into space but that would probably be to use proof to defend others and myself, not just myself
    any threat to me is generally a universal threat

  • @BruceSanchez
    @BruceSanchez 3 роки тому +1

    I am a Correctional Officer in Melbourne and I went through PTSD, my claim was accepted by the insurance company after an investigation that lasted 28 days, received professional help that it was just a joke, I then took massive action and I started to research on my own, I dug deep into the human brain how it's been programmed, I started to understand why we think what we think and how to manage those thoughts and stress and take advantage on them.
    That happened early 2020 before COVID, and today, August 2020, after just a few months not even half year, i am having the time of live, I have allowed myself to learn from that experience with PTSD and also, I have started to help other brothers in blue who are struggling with the same nightmare as I was.
    I have become a coach out of my work hours, to Emergency and Law Enforcement Personnel because when I was dwelling on that dark place I couldn't find exactly what I needed so I became my counselor, my therapist my coach and I met other coaches around the world, sharing my story, being vulnerable and trying to break the culture of silence that exits among Law Enforcement Officers.
    My first step to get out of that situation was changing the way I was communicating to myself , understanding that we don't own what we think, we don't own what we feel, we are not feelings, emotions or thoughts, they come and go, we are above and beyond any emotions, feelings or thoughts. We tend to get attached to labels such as depression, stress, anxiety, etc those labels disempower people and is very easy to fall into those traps and make them mean everything, but that's the way we've been programmed to live in, I am seeing it every day with the Officers I am currently helping. We might be different in many aspects of life but at core.... We all the same, we all have the same basic needs, we all want to be good enough so we can be loved.
    I trust this little story of my life can inspire you or at least can make you see that we can overcome everything in life, sometimes we need someone to guide us, someone who's been there before.
    Regards
    Bruce Sanchez

    • @OC87RD
      @OC87RD  3 роки тому

      Thank you for sharing your story with us. We are glad that you found a way to help yourself. Be well.

  • @quantumfineartsandfossils2152

    6:00"no matter what your age you need to keep moving" YES WE ARE NATURE healthy when in movement in life tango !!! :D

  • @gabrielfinch1117
    @gabrielfinch1117 4 роки тому +1

    Great video

    • @OC87RD
      @OC87RD  4 роки тому

      thank you. We hope these films will make a positive impact.

  • @quantumfineartsandfossils2152

    5:55 awwwwwwwww

  • @quantumfineartsandfossils2152

    2:30 its true that seeing if someone can go back to work is not addressing the problem something has to change in the work environment that is what he should have heard from the Dr

  • @coralfeatherstone7019
    @coralfeatherstone7019 Рік тому

    As I discovered when I started social dancing, many women who have been held down or raped get kicked into flight or fight in a dance studio. Tango, Cha cha, ended up becoming exposure therapy for the 1st few years until the adrenaline eventually stopped coming. I was told by my dance instructor that many women don't push through the experience and stop dancing. The intimacy and cologne can be intense. Who knew that adrenaline can run for a week and a half.
    Dancing is amazing after your Amigydala stops sabotaging you.

  • @alexandergrinberg5678
    @alexandergrinberg5678 3 роки тому +1

    PTSD pattern of symptoms include 1) intrusion symptoms where the event is re-experienced in memories, dreams, and flashbacks 2) avoidance of stimuli associated with event (avoiding thought, memories, feelings about event or avoiding activities, situations, and people who will arouse uncomfortable recollections of the event) 3) negative changes in cognitions and mood (exaggerated negative beliefs about self, others, or the world such as "I am a bad person" or "noone can be trusted" or "the world is a dangerous place" 4) alterations in arousal and reactivity (irritability and angry outbursts with little or no provocation and self destructive behavior such as excessive alcohol or drug use and hypervigilance and exaggerated startle response). If you think you have PTSD ask for help.

    • @OC87RD
      @OC87RD  3 роки тому +1

      A very complex disorder. Thank you for leaving your message.

    • @alexandergrinberg5678
      @alexandergrinberg5678 3 роки тому

      @@OC87RD don't give up

  • @quantumfineartsandfossils2152

    "I grew up in a home with domestic violence" & yes the instant you encounter a child (knowing all children are our children) you have to set an example for them and present a self aware independent person who while responsible & polite does not depend on validation Being dependable in general- is a universal source of intelligence is at core of paying forward communal strength which is invaluable compared to the worthlessness and danger of boosting egos that have yet to prove themselves
    Facts and consistency builds love there is no love without facts & consistency

  • @rolinmaracle1907
    @rolinmaracle1907 10 місяців тому

    yea its hard to handle roger that even ambulance and fire fighters deal with ptsd daily go kick but lol

  • @kevinnapier1014
    @kevinnapier1014 5 років тому

    #BreakTheStigma | #WeCare | #MentalHealthAwareness | 👍
    “I experienced more trauma before my 10th birthday than most people experience their whole lives! The trauma in childhood, secondary trauma from a police career, and a focus of many years on keeping my distance from people had caught up to me. I knew I did not want to end up like three of my police department associates-a victim of suicide. I needed healing. ”~Officer Ed Pila
    Ed found himself affected by the compounded traumas he witnessed in his role as a police officer. He reached out for help with his mental health, but found a lack of support in his department, including the department appointed psychiatrist. Ed chose to retire from the police department.
    Ed is currently writing, "Six Feet Away," about the physical, mental, psychological, & spiritual welfare of Officers, First Re-sponders & their families.
    #MentalHealth #YourStoryIsntOverYet #BreakTheSilence #Police #balanceforbetter #diversityandinclusion #BeBetterEveryDay #policeadministration #wisdom #leadershipdevelopment #business #inspiration #leadership #strength #usa #canada #peace #repost #amazing #support #government #museum #fashion #facebook #twitter #instagood #snapchat #linkedin #emotionalintelligence #mentalhealth #nevergiveup #share #love #life #womenleaders #positivity #empower #socialmedia #living #video #today

  • @rolinmaracle1907
    @rolinmaracle1907 10 місяців тому

    yep id say its something to live with everyday looosing people on the fiel rest in peace bye

  • @rolinmaracle1907
    @rolinmaracle1907 10 місяців тому

    live even super heros have ptsd DDIM AWESOME BUT REALISTICALLY im leaving that as is boss

  • @Louisdegalfilla7
    @Louisdegalfilla7 7 місяців тому

    Does ptsd have anything to with police corruption.?