I’ve never heard ANYONE talk about being content IN singleness but not W singleness and how that’s OKAY! This was so freeing for me because I always thought something was wrong with me for not wanting to be single.
You right alot of times church just focus on married couples witch it wrong,, there married they don't care about the single people, its like Finn for yourself,
Remember though that any sexual relationships outside marriage are just porn and people go to hell for that. Having that in mind decide if you think marriage is good or bad. God showed only two ways, be single like a monk or married. No third way.
My walk has been stumbling daily lately especially with my discontent with singleness. I am tempted so badly because of it. I do find it helps that I have a group at my church I can speak to about this heartache as well as listen to their challenges. I also have a lot of great advice from my sister who is a strong Christian and older and more mature in Christ. It’s very tough but I guess you could say Christian council/support has helped me. Seek Godly people like yourself out. I actually prayed God would help me find cool Christians in my city to be friends with and I was led to this awesome group of girls through Celebrate Recovery. It’s been an amazing help. Even though it’s still hard God is good to me through these ladies! Lots of 💕💕💕💕💕💕
Justine: The simple fact that you have posted what you have posted seems to tell us that you are on "The Tipping Point." The simple fact that you have commented on this site tells us that you are inclined to tip in God's direction. Stay strong. Stay the course. And be prepared for both what you wish for and what you get. Rejoice for either. You are a child of God. Jehovah Jireh
I know the pain. I have never been married too and still waiting on God for that godly man. You are doing the wiser thing by keeping serving. My best friend keep telling me "before God you'll not have regret for not being married but for not having served Him". Continue Keeping your focus on the faithful God and serving faithfully.
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger answer, this, why a lot of churches just , focus on the married couples, I'm so sick of that, if they have the spirit, of God inside , should the spirit, tell them how to lift up the single people and encourage them, marriage retreat all kinda things, for them, i need prayer I'm tired of that, God love every body, some may just care about themselves, what they have,
Sis, you are not alone I'm 37 and never been married and no kids. I'm remind myself every day that God has plan for my life. That my heavenly father knows what's best for me. Cause he made me, he knows when I'm ready for something and when I I'm not, he will give me what I need. Not what I want. Much love Sis
Thank you Mark videos like this really help me in my walk with God. I've been single for 12 years, am 62 years young. I'm finally in subsidized housing so I can afford to live alone. My walk with God has become so much closer since I moved here 9 yrs ago. God has been my constant companion & I'm loving being single - most of the time. Over the past 3 years or so, God has been rebuilding my body, from very sick to wellness. Not just my body though, my mind & spirit. He has given my wisdom & discernment to realize the damage pharmaceuticals were doing & has shown me natural remedies for whatever ails me. Praise God!!!
Sometimes the "want"of marriage, which is not a "need", can be so obsessive that it can take God's place and turn into idolitry. Realizing that God's love is what we NEED and understanding HIS TRUE AND UNFAILING LOVE for us is sooo big(to send your only Son to die for our eternal Salvation is the ultimate expression of His love), and consistent makes you realize that contentment is the way to go because now He (God/Christ Jesus and The Holy Spirit )is the focus because His love is ever lasting. This makes it so much easier in singleness because you figure out that God's timing is truly best, you're not relying on another person to make you happy and you are not going to make the other person miserable because there's no pressure on feeling complete through him/her. God wants us to have a mate but not to make that person #1 in your life. God should be #1 and #2 your spouse. As you said Mark, God should be our ultimate source of happiness. We need to go to Him to fill up our love tank. And He will send the right companion at the right time using the right method for each of us. Great video Mark!
Rose Morales Marriage is a need for those who can not handle sexual temptation. Being single can be a massive trial for those needing that kind of intimacy.
@@LoveBeyondTheSea I don't think marrying to quench sexual temptation is the right way to go. Sex is important, but if it's the bases of your marriage, you're going to have a hard time the day your spouse can't meet that need. Of course, it's better to marry than burn, but making sure that you marry the right one for the right reason for the Glory of God is best...my point of view. Conclusion: Pray and let God guide you
GodBotherer1 I can relate to this. It took me until 53 to marry. Church was the hardest place for me. Especially when told singleness was so great, nevermind what God wanted me to do.
#2 is so true. I'm going through it right now and it's making me happier in knowing what qualities I need in a mate. I will continue waiting and receive my joy from Christ rather than a relationship.
This video is very helpful, I've broke up with my boyfriend for 4 years. And now enjoying God's peace and security now that I'am single for months Im living the life that Gods want me to be even a relationship doesn't fulfill my longing that only God could give. 😍♥ But never the less I'm still praying for his perfect time to be married someday and while waiting, as you mention God will be the source of my joy. 🙌
It's important not to idolise marriage in singleness. There are many Christians who thought marriage was the 'font of happiness.' But once they're married.... they'll realise isn't what they expected and they end up disappointed. It's important not to set yourself up for a whopping big disappointment by having unrealistic expectations of marriage. Comparing yourself to others is like using too much social media...you'll just end up thinking your life is c*** when it isn't!
People idolise marriage (single, dating, and married) because it's used as social currency. A marriage portrays to the world, "Look. Someone loves me and I have someone to love". No one talks about the negatives of marriages because then people will assume that you aren't as loved as much as you portrayed to the world. I once had a "friend" tell me, "I hope you find a love like me and B ". I was angry. Not because I felt I would never have love. Mind you I am 32 and still single, but I've never been afraid of being alone. I always had faith and still have faith that I will be in a God-filled marriage. What angered me was her complete immaturity and foolishness. So because we're 23 (at the time) and I'm not shacking up with my boyfriend, you're going to wish for me to find a "love likes yours and his" 🤣 It still makes me laugh to this day. I still get a bit upset at the comment but I also laugh. People today- especially my age- have a very misguided view regarding marriage. But, hey. These are the same people who feel they are adults because they lost their virginity by 18.
@@eve3363 Frankly, what I see among western couples as the NORM (as an outsider from a conservative east Asian culture) is dating and then break up, or dating, dating long enough, marrying just because we reach a certain age or whatever other reason, then troubles come, with angry wife who manipulates the husband, and husband reacts harshly, and then divorce. This is literally what is see among western couples. I even know of some Christians of various denominations who are or have been divorced. And these are Christians! It makes me wonder, what's going on????????!!!!! SERIOUSLY??????!!!!!!!! What's going on among Christians in west????????!!! As for me, I believe in trusting on God for a spouse. God is wiser than I am. I honestly think that people are so desperate for marriage because they only want the BENEFITS of marriage but do not in any way want to make the sacrifices necessary or fulfil the responsibilities of marriage. Not many people at all want holy matrimony at all, but only a roommate to 'enjoy life' with.
LOVE YOU GUY. I'M SO DARN CONTENT W/SINGLENESS IT IS GREAT. BEEN SINGLE FOR 23YRS. MY FOCUS IS NOT A RELATIONSHIP W/HUMAN. MY RELATIONSHIP W/GOD OVERRIDES EVERYTHINGGGGHG! HAPPINESS WITHIN ONESELF, KNOWING WHO I AM, WHERE I CAME FROM, IS ENOUGH TO KEEP MY SOUL FOR JESUS CHRIST. CLEAN MIND, BIDY, AND SOUL!
I am single again and have no plans or desire to marry again. I am single and want to focus on my self awareness and knowing the Lord better! A woman claimed to be interested in me last year, but she just wanted my money!
A LOT more! Most men of the Lord are NOT as masculine and gentle, theologic as Mark is. I formed a singles group many years ago and as of now I do go to few events. So I could do a thesis on Christian single men and the church lol! There’s a few books out there too about men and church.
In a few months I will be 50 and never married. I have been struggling the past few months with being single. I feel like I am losing it. I don't know how to handle what I am feeling anymore. I am concerned with all of the Christian jargon and what I am, and I am not supposed to feel. I was content for a long time. I don't know why after all of these years and I feel crazy inside my head because I want life long male companionship. I have been raising my sisters kids which have given me joy, but I feel like something is missing.
Thanks Mark. Your video reminded me of a great quote by Pastor John Piper where he said, "God is most glorified in me with I am most satisfied in Him."
It’s hard because I’ve never even had a boyfriend. Ik this is about marriage but I’m struggling to even get to the dating stage. PS: the church totally idolizes marriage.
@@dakotad.8609 still nothing. I tried online dating, but I never felt like I connected with someone who is in love with Jesus. However, I am content in the Lord.
I admire your maturity so much. Because you're very young from my point of view (in my 40's) but you really have the wisdom of an "old soul" so to speak. Thank you so much for sharing it with the world.
I am 64 years old. Never married. All my life I have asked God to send me teachers so that I can be the right person, and to send the right person. I will never hold my own child in my arms, or any grand child.and I weep inside most days.
I’m so sorry for the pain you’re experiencing. It’s a different experience and type of grief that most people don’t understand Even other singles that have not experienced lifelong singleness, maybe they were married but are now divorced or lost a spouse through death and are widowed have at least shared some of their life with a partner or have children from their marriage. I’m a woman in my mid fifties and was in an abusive non marital relationship where I ended up having a child. This was before I became a Christian at 28 years old. I believed and trusted God for a spouse and a family but long story short I never married. I likened my pain to mourning a loss or death. No I did not bury a husband but I did have to bury and grieve a husband that never came and a dream that never happened. I had to bury a strong and beautiful desire for a life shared with an intimate partner in a unique way, designed by God to be different than all other earthly relationships. And still see this blessing be given to the majority of people in this world. I am like Jacob wrestling the angel, struggling to understand and submit to why God has allowed this to happen to me. Looking back I now see that although I fought and resisted God, He had me in the palm of His hand all along He was merciful, faithful, loyal, and loving, even though I was not to him. Those of us who have walked in the absence of the blessing of family have a pain that very few can relate to or understand. I’m middle aged now It’s been a long time to wrestle with God but I’m thankful I have Him. I haven’t always seen it but I’m alive today because of Him. I’m trying to stop wrestling and finally give God my pain. I pray He heals not only you’re you’re heart but also the pain in you’re soul. I pray he blesses you abundantly in every area of your life. In Jesus name. Amen 🙏🏽💔❤️🩹❤️
I thank God soooooo much for you, Mark! God really spoke to me through this video! Learning that my joy only comes from God is sooooo key to prevent putting unrealistic expectations on my future spouse when I do get married! I know that God wants His best for me and not what I think is best for me and your video helped drive that truth home! I am interested in someone and that interest has been reciprocated but right now God has made it clear to both of us that He wants us to grow in intimacy with Him! We're still great friends and I'm trusting in Him to lead that friendship into whatever He wants it to be. Yes, it is extremely difficult and I've never had a close friendship with a female before and I'm 31. But, I can only give God all the credit because He's given me the grace to get out of my comfort zone and even get to know this person through the confines of a friendship. I pray that God continues to pour out His grace on all Christian singles to empower them to continue gazing upon our Heavenly Father because even in a marriage, He's the one who sustains us! I cannot thank God enough for you, Mark! I pray that God continues to grow you in deeper intimacy in your relationship with Him!
This is very wise advice listening to many people who tell you what they feel like God is doing in your season of singleness will cause you great confusion and to be tossed to and from like the wave of the sea 🤦🏽♀️
That is my biggest problem, i see other couples happily in love. I feel like, why cant i have that happiness. It bothers me so much, i get very depressed.
@Tyler Gibson I been looking for a good woman, for months. They don't exist no more, women love money. That's all they love, that makes very difficult for a guy to find a good woman.
This is the first time I am hearing someone say it's ok to be discontent with being single. I also keep hearing you have to be content with yourself. I don't know what to think anymore.
Im in a season of singlenesd so im very content...best time ever..i want more of God and i known God is my altimate Source of Joy in my life ..Happy clappy😊🤗🙏
Great info, Mark! I wanted to test the waters when I went out with the guy I hurt last year. God did tell me but I just wouldn't listen, you are right he teaches us in our circumstances. Now, am doing great. Can see clearly that were both not ready for a relationship coz we don't know each other that well.
I’m 46, never married, date only two women in my life, I live on disability, live with parents unfortunately. I’ve wasted my life. Need God more now than I have than ever before.
I really liked that second point. A big part of the reason why I’ve always been single is because I don’t put myself out there. I’ve always wanted the Lord to bring me a man who would pursue me because I feel like that’s the only way I would know if they really were interested.
Thank sooooooo much for taking a few moments to qualify that. Some Christians and groups do go out of their way to make you feel worse about not WANTING to be single or that there is something wrong with you since you ARE currently single.
They are doing that just to make you feel bad because they look down on singles, or secretly resent how singles don't have to deal with problems they have to deal with.
Try telling this to single men and women who are elderly and desire a mate...What you are saying only encourage young people but there are middle aged men and women who have been alone for years and all the bingo, church picnics and grand children visiting does not help.... Some people only get to a place of acceptance and suffer in silence from being lonely....They perhaps have tried all the tips, read all the books, went to all the singles functions, got in the prayer lines; fasted and prayed; yet remain alone....Some, sadly die in their loneliness....
Tonzo Wall I was only speaking of those I personally know or have heard of or read about....I was trying to be very careful in my post by saying Some people because I know what I said does not apply to all.....I suppose my sympathy of those in this situation got the best of me.....In any future posts I will be more mindful and express more of my own experiences....I really appreciate your comment to me, lesson learned...God bless.
I'm kinda feeling like I'm being set apart because we're in the end times. All the signs are there. Even though I know this I still long for a relationship, I think this is my flesh crying out because it knows it's dying. All thoughts and opinions welcome.
I agree with you. I was single my entire life until I met my toxic ex at the age of 28, all I got was heartbreak and some emotional damage. Long story short she also drew me into the new age. Where you can get money,love and so on. And they used to tell me "I am God" and so on. Long story short there are at least 1b people on the planet that are now New Agers. I chose christianity over trying to "manifest" my desires and my ex-back. I felt God pulled me back. I feel a lot of pain right now, but it doesn't really matter because I also think we are in the end times. Diseases, A.I technology and virtual reality, New Age religion,War and so on. The signs of the end times are there.
Kinda feeling the same way. I long for God to help me find someone more trustworthy; but how long will it last? God bless you in your pursuit and please pray for me.
Just keep giving it over to God, and He will guide your steps. Surrender is the only way to find peace in our singleness and if you will get married or not, regardless of the times. Remember that Jesus even mentioned that people were getting married and being given in marriage when Noah entered the arc(Luke 17:27).
I find myself more and more content as I chase and chase the Lord. For the most part I am and I just watch these for reminders and usually I learn something new in every vid. I find myself still daydreaming about being in one though. It’s sort of a more swing. But I’m definitely not as worried!
So sad, i am lonely and struggling to be single... my heart desires knows it requires good reason and time. but sometimes i dont understand and impatience...
Relationships are great if you’re with the right person, but for many(most) cases it’s nearly impossible to find the one that’s perfect for you. I’m a young, kind, educated, employed and handsome young man and I have had an absolutely shameful love life, failed relationships and heartbreak throughout, the shame and reproach is there. I’ve always been a Christian and soon had an urge to get closer with Jesus and like they hymn goes I’d rather have him. I’m not ruling out the possibility of one day finding love but I’m certainly not holding my breath. The decision has affected my family more than myself and that is this biggest burden, other ones viewing me as emotionally closed off or gay and that is untrue.
Thank you for making this video, this is something I have been struggling with for a long time now and I appreciate the spiritual edification. God bless
That is true. When I focus on my relationship with God, I feel better because I am doing something I'm sure to get great Love than any man can give me. I'm sure he won't disappoint me. On the contrary; 😔when I meet someone, I tend to get excited and so focused on them. It's like a child with a new toy. I try to move slowly most times but I eventually get so caught up with them, I spend less time in the word and prayer. I always cut them off eventually because God keeps pulling me back to focus on him. I get confused too. Like how do I deal with relationships? I am scared I may get too attached to men amd fail my relationship with God. Especially if they don't pray much. Sigh...I sometimes do feel maybe for me, marriage is not it.
Mark, I think you should make a video on the idea that unwanted singleness is a part of the Fall of man back in Eden. The entire universe is now cursed as is the human race. Maybe some believers fall victim to the brokenness of this world just as do some people fall victim to hurricanes, tornadoes, and tsunamis? I do agree that the churches could do a better job in dealing with their single members and the unique set of problems they experience.
Single hood is an affliction, not a vocation. The churches are simply afraid to say it outright, so they label it a ‘vocation’. Furthermore, content creators make content on how the afflicted should be processing the suffering from this affliction. Prayer doesn’t work, to petition God for why this is happening - to get some insight for why it is happening, why it hurts in a very specific way and why he allows it to continue with no perceivable and in sight. The simple answer is there is no answer. It becomes existential at that point, how do you process your suffering in a way that is not self destructive because no one is going to give you usable insight on how it feels to be where you are now. Especially someone who is married or in a relationship
How can women be proactive? I am meeting and getting to know people, helping in the church, putting myself outhere... It feels after a while that there are 70 to 30 ratio of Christian women to men.
My standards I strive to live by are these Born again Christian Man 👨 Read Bible daily or regularly Pray daily Listen to Christian content of t.v. and radio and UA-cam Go to church pretty much every Sunday Hold a job and pay bills Live frugal Give tithes and offerings Active in men's group and service Yes, it can be lonely with no one to share intimately about joys, triumphs or downer times However, I am not alone persay Have learned to be comfortable in my own skin If someone comes along that's on the same page ... Great
@@majesticcompany9447 When I pray to God about marriage and motherhood, I tell God that I would love to be mother and that it's the deepest desire but I also tell God that I know it's whatever in Your will and that I accept and respect Your will. I've always dreamt of being a wife and mother since I was a child. Oddly enough, I was an incredibly shy girl. It wasn't until after graduating high school that I made it a goal to be social. I was still awkward, but I improved a lot by forcing myself to converse and hang out even when I didn't want to. I found men attractive but never had enough gumption to say anything. But to be honest, none of them struck me enough to date exclusively anyway. All these years, I was single and alone but I was never lonely. I was content in being single. I still wanted marriage in the future, but not then. It wasn't until moving to a country at the age of 30 that my attitude began to change. Now I wanted to wake up next to someone. Now I wanted to be around someone all day. Now I wanted to open up and tell someone my secrets and fears. Now I wanted to share everything with someone. Now I wasn't alone; I finally felt lonely (in the romantic sense). I was focused on school so I didn't have much time to devote to me emotions. But after finishing my program, I sat with God and thats when all those hidden anger and fears I had blocked for so long finally came out. But I welcome it because I believe it's God waking up those final desires of my heart so that I can retrieve my blessings. I used to be terrified of the opposite sex, like literally shaking sometimes when around them in a romantic sense. I used to ignore text messages. I used to never go on dates. From talking with God since February and rebuilding my relationship with Him, I have gone on 3 dates. One was online and the other 2 men I actually met just walking around! I don't know what the future holds. But just seeing how much my situation changed since February, I know God is real! I was a complete mess. I really thought I was going to lose it. Sometimes I would tell myself, "Am I going crazy? Am I going to wake up one day and just be out of it"? I was in a very dark place but as I've said, I believe God put me there so that I could face what I needed to face to prepare me for my blessings. I'm making this comment because we have to be honest with ourselves. If we're still hurt by someone, tell God. If we're still having feelings about an ex, tell God. If we truly want to get married, tell God. Dont try to be macho with God and pretend like you're doing good. Be honest with Him so that He can help you.
A long season of singleness? LOL. I’ve been single since I was 23. I’m 51 now and still single. I found out not too long ago that the “girlfriends “ I did have only went out with me only out of pity and were asked to go out with me just to make me feel better. They didn’t want to date me. I ask God to take away this desire to be married, I don’t want it. I even asked God to set me up, no answer. I give up. I don’t want to start a family at my age.
Probably a wise decision. I am 60+ and single. I find that surrendering my desire for physical intimacy to God is the best and only option! I have recently learned that I was abused and neglected as a child. So my view of relationships/marriage is warped!
How come some Christian desire marriage but it never happens? What if that season is your whole life despite all you pray and putting yourself out there as this video suggests
Yesterday I confessed to my friend Savannah Woodard, who is married to a guy named Josh Stuelke now, I was jealous because I had feelings for her since 2017 or 2018, but I never had the courage to tell her. When Savannah revealed her news of getting married, I was jealous and hurt and was having a hard time letting go, especially since we’ve been friends for 7 years. When I made that confession, I felt a huge weight lifted off my shoulders, especially after God gave me the revelation. He told me that jealously is rooted in selfishness, and the Bible says this: “If you have bitter envy and selfish ambition, do not brag and deny the truth. For such wisdom does not come from above, rather it is earthly, unspiritual and demonic. For wherever envy and selfish ambition exist, there is a disorder and every kind of evil practice.”- James 3:14-16
I’m almost 17, and somehow this almost made me feel worse. The scheme of the plan yet. So far she’s made it abundantly clear that she just wants to stay friends, but I hadn’t even said anything about it yet. But maybe that will change, or maybe there will be someone else. I don’t know. Pray for me.
I'm blessed been single hasn't even fazed me I've used the time to get closer to jesus to heal to completely forgive 🙏 I've only just started to relize I think God's been preparing me for a relationship I was sat in church other day just in awe of jesus and I heard I'm preparing him 🙏 i prayed and said out loud i cancle all thoughts that's from the enemy in the name of jesus I cancle all thoughts of my own that's not of the Lord I heard I am preparing him and I said Lord bearing in mind God knows our hearts he knew what I was asking if I'm right one what I think this is in your plan please have someone come pray with me and I was stood and seconds of me saying that praye in my thoughts no one heard that praye please have someone come pray with me and a lady from church out of no where placed her hand on me and started to pray it was so emotional and beutifull but even with all this my eyes are on jesus and my focus is on jesus I'm not allowing it to take it any time away from the lord 🙏 none that's needed anyway I'm blessed
3years ago I'm sorry but I'm just wanting to be at peace with this😩😫how to be content in singleness watch his vids🤝🏽binge watched alot of his relationship videos n its unreal I felt the literal urge for a relationship go down with each vid because my desire for it was really above God.
Tony no I'm not really making fun but the scripture says right up to the end people will be marrying and being given in marriage. we don't know what tomorrow holds. we may die before the end comes so we must live life fully.
I consider myself lucky to have been married before (36M, divorced). My marriage was rather enjoyable, it only ended because my ex wife didnt want kids anymore. Because of that experience I don't put relationships or marriage on the pedestal like I did before I got married. If I get married again, great. If not, that is ok.
@@biancaeggers888 He doesn't. Christians have long seasons of singleness largely due to the awful dating advice that comes from the Christian world. Ignore all that. You gotta get on the market if you wanna find a guy.
Bianca Eggers in the same boat gonna be 24 and nothing happening. I’m not the best on advice in anything in life all I can say is Psalms 84:11- 11. For the Lord God is a sun and shield: the Lord will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly. Bianca I don’t understand what God has planned for us in life I’ve prayed for years to find a godly women who is filled with the Holy Spirit and one who Loves Jesus more then she would love me and someone who would obey God in spirit and truth. The man God wants for you will be that. Trust God and always loves Jesus above everyone and everything. Proverbs 3:5-6 5.Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 6. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Trust God Bianca Jesus loves you very much you are precious and Gods eyes and he wants what’s best for you I pray if it’s in God’s will he puts a Godly man in your life. Find the man who will love Jesus above you and everything else that will be the man that can show you true love. Those who love God keep his commandments so who obey God show truly they love Jesus. Sorry for the long rant Jesus loves you Bianca trust God.
ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger thank you brother in Christ, I always watch your videos about relationships, they really help me. Keep doing what you’re doing and you will receive rewards in heaven✝️🙏 Hebrews 10:24-25 "Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near."
Land- My sister and her husband often tell me blessed I am. And I am blessed but Im still painfully lonely. It doesn't come off as understanding my situation. I love my sister immensely but she can't help. It's like, it takes one to know one. Please forgive my personal venting....I was on a roll😛 and no harm intended.😛
Hey mark, I recently broken up with my ex-bf this year in feb and I have a desire to get married have a question what if you can’t drive and how can I find the one
Season of singleness is more like decades of singleness and its getting old. Why when you pray and trust God some things never happen? It's not good for man to be alone and he who finds a wife finds a good thing right? So why is this prolonged so long? I dont think someone who is married really understands.
Now that Feminism is much worse than Cancer nowadays that is really caused by these very pathetic women, which of course it will be very difficult for many of us single guys trying to find love now.
Mark, can you explain what you mean specifically by the roots of the advice being rooted in conservatism and tradition rather than being biblical? Like what sort of conservative ideologies about dating are you referring to?
The paradox in the church is so real. They want you to be 'good' and always listen, but in reality all they want is something juicy to gossip about and get bored when there isn't anything to fix.
I picked the wrong women now im 32 never married gor two daughters and a broken heart for two yrs ive isolated havent tried to date i keep thinking somethin wrong wit me
I’ve never heard ANYONE talk about being content IN singleness but not W singleness and how that’s OKAY! This was so freeing for me because I always thought something was wrong with me for not wanting to be single.
Society makes singles feel like something is wrong with them. Churches do it as well.
No, the church makes people who want to get to married feel like there's something wrong with them and that they should, " embrace singleness more."
You right alot of times church just focus on married couples witch it wrong,, there married they don't care about the single people, its like Finn for yourself,
Mark Lawrimore they do!
Remember though that any sexual relationships outside marriage are just porn and people go to hell for that. Having that in mind decide if you think marriage is good or bad. God showed only two ways, be single like a monk or married. No third way.
@@patriotfan6633 Totally true!
Please pray for me! My walk with the Lord has been stumbling lately. I’m finding it really hard to trust Him & I keep wanting to take control. 😞❤️
Justine C he’s in control and loves you Justine trust God.
My walk has been stumbling daily lately especially with my discontent with singleness. I am tempted so badly because of it. I do find it helps that I have a group at my church I can speak to about this heartache as well as listen to their challenges. I also have a lot of great advice from my sister who is a strong Christian and older and more mature in Christ. It’s very tough but I guess you could say Christian council/support has helped me. Seek Godly people like yourself out. I actually prayed God would help me find cool Christians in my city to be friends with and I was led to this awesome group of girls through Celebrate Recovery. It’s been an amazing help. Even though it’s still hard God is good to me through these ladies! Lots of 💕💕💕💕💕💕
Just prayed for you
I will sweetheart. I'm totally with you on this one.
Justine: The simple fact that you have posted what you have posted seems to tell us that you are on "The Tipping Point."
The simple fact that you have commented on this site tells us that you are inclined to tip in God's direction.
Stay strong. Stay the course. And be prepared for both what you wish for and what you get.
Rejoice for either.
You are a child of God.
Jehovah Jireh
I needed to hear this. I just turned 41 and never married. It hurts but I just keep focused and continue to serve.
God is trustworthy, so glad you are relying on him!
I know the pain. I have never been married too and still waiting on God for that godly man.
You are doing the wiser thing by keeping serving. My best friend keep telling me "before God you'll not have regret for not being married but for not having served Him".
Continue Keeping your focus on the faithful God and serving faithfully.
@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger answer, this, why a lot of churches just , focus on the married couples, I'm so sick of that, if they have the spirit, of God inside , should the spirit, tell them how to lift up the single people and encourage them, marriage retreat all kinda things, for them, i need prayer I'm tired of that, God love every body, some may just care about themselves, what they have,
Wow you're gorgeous
Sis, you are not alone I'm 37 and never been married and no kids. I'm remind myself every day that God has plan for my life. That my heavenly father knows what's best for me. Cause he made me, he knows when I'm ready for something and when I I'm not, he will give me what I need. Not what I want. Much love Sis
Thank you Mark videos like this really help me in my walk with God. I've been single for 12 years, am 62 years young. I'm finally in subsidized housing so I can afford to live alone. My walk with God has become so much closer since I moved here 9 yrs ago. God has been my constant companion & I'm loving being single - most of the time. Over the past 3 years or so, God has been rebuilding my body, from very sick to wellness. Not just my body though, my mind & spirit. He has given my wisdom & discernment to realize the damage pharmaceuticals were doing & has shown me natural remedies for whatever ails me. Praise God!!!
Sometimes the "want"of marriage, which is not a "need", can be so obsessive that it can take God's place and turn into idolitry. Realizing that God's love is what we NEED and understanding HIS TRUE AND UNFAILING LOVE for us is sooo big(to send your only Son to die for our eternal Salvation is the ultimate expression of His love), and consistent makes you realize that contentment is the way to go because now He (God/Christ Jesus and The Holy Spirit )is the focus because His love is ever lasting. This makes it so much easier in singleness because you figure out that God's timing is truly best, you're not relying on another person to make you happy and you are not going to make the other person miserable because there's no pressure on feeling complete through him/her. God wants us to have a mate but not to make that person #1 in your life. God should be #1 and #2 your spouse. As you said Mark, God should be our ultimate source of happiness. We need to go to Him to fill up our love tank. And He will send the right companion at the right time using the right method for each of us. Great video Mark!
Rose Morales Marriage is a need for those who can not handle sexual temptation. Being single can be a massive trial for those needing that kind of intimacy.
@@LoveBeyondTheSea I don't think marrying to quench sexual temptation is the right way to go. Sex is important, but if it's the bases of your marriage, you're going to have a hard time the day your spouse can't meet that need. Of course, it's better to marry than burn, but making sure that you marry the right one for the right reason for the Glory of God is best...my point of view. Conclusion: Pray and let God guide you
Rose Morales Marriage won’t quench it, we still need to flee formication but marriage is what God tells us to do to avoid formication. It helps a lot.
@@LoveBeyondTheSea Yes...I agree...definitely help A Lot! Lol
GodBotherer1 I can relate to this. It took me until 53 to marry. Church was the hardest place for me. Especially when told singleness was so great, nevermind what God wanted me to do.
That's true Mark..its not wise to compare yourself with others..it hurts
Amen Terrie, God has a unique plan for us all!
I’ve been single for many years and I’m still learning and growing during this season. I’m content in Christ.
I tell people God doesn't always give us what we want but just love God through the good and the bad
#2 is so true. I'm going through it right now and it's making me happier in knowing what qualities I need in a mate. I will continue waiting and receive my joy from Christ rather than a relationship.
Amen, God is good
This video is very helpful, I've broke up with my boyfriend for 4 years. And now enjoying God's peace and security now that I'am single for months Im living the life that Gods want me to be even a relationship doesn't fulfill my longing that only God could give. 😍♥ But never the less I'm still praying for his perfect time to be married someday and while waiting, as you mention God will be the source of my joy. 🙌
Amen, it sounds like you have a great perspective!
It's important not to idolise marriage in singleness. There are many Christians who thought marriage was the 'font of happiness.' But once they're married.... they'll realise isn't what they expected and they end up disappointed. It's important not to set yourself up for a whopping big disappointment by having unrealistic expectations of marriage. Comparing yourself to others is like using too much social media...you'll just end up thinking your life is c*** when it isn't!
Well said
I Agree ! ! ! !
People idolise marriage (single, dating, and married) because it's used as social currency. A marriage portrays to the world, "Look. Someone loves me and I have someone to love". No one talks about the negatives of marriages because then people will assume that you aren't as loved as much as you portrayed to the world. I once had a "friend" tell me, "I hope you find a love like me and B ". I was angry. Not because I felt I would never have love. Mind you I am 32 and still single, but I've never been afraid of being alone. I always had faith and still have faith that I will be in a God-filled marriage. What angered me was her complete immaturity and foolishness. So because we're 23 (at the time) and I'm not shacking up with my boyfriend, you're going to wish for me to find a "love likes yours and his" 🤣 It still makes me laugh to this day. I still get a bit upset at the comment but I also laugh. People today- especially my age- have a very misguided view regarding marriage. But, hey. These are the same people who feel they are adults because they lost their virginity by 18.
@@eve3363 Frankly, what I see among western couples as the NORM (as an outsider from a conservative east Asian culture) is dating and then break up, or dating, dating long enough, marrying just because we reach a certain age or whatever other reason, then troubles come, with angry wife who manipulates the husband, and husband reacts harshly, and then divorce.
This is literally what is see among western couples. I even know of some Christians of various denominations who are or have been divorced. And these are Christians! It makes me wonder, what's going on????????!!!!! SERIOUSLY??????!!!!!!!! What's going on among Christians in west????????!!!
As for me, I believe in trusting on God for a spouse. God is wiser than I am. I honestly think that people are so desperate for marriage because they only want the BENEFITS of marriage but do not in any way want to make the sacrifices necessary or fulfil the responsibilities of marriage. Not many people at all want holy matrimony at all, but only a roommate to 'enjoy life' with.
@@user-qu6xp3jq4c I agree. I just wouldn't reduce marriage issues to the Western world
LOVE YOU GUY. I'M SO DARN CONTENT W/SINGLENESS IT IS GREAT. BEEN SINGLE FOR 23YRS. MY FOCUS IS NOT A RELATIONSHIP W/HUMAN. MY RELATIONSHIP W/GOD OVERRIDES EVERYTHINGGGGHG! HAPPINESS WITHIN ONESELF, KNOWING WHO I AM, WHERE I CAME FROM, IS ENOUGH TO KEEP MY SOUL FOR JESUS CHRIST. CLEAN MIND, BIDY, AND SOUL!
Me,too...although i just met someone!
I am single again and have no plans or desire to marry again. I am single and want to focus on my self awareness and knowing the Lord better! A woman claimed to be interested in me last year, but she just wanted my money!
This world needs more men like you
A LOT more! Most men of the Lord are NOT as masculine and gentle, theologic as Mark is. I formed a singles group many years ago and as of now I do go to few events. So I could do a thesis on Christian single men and the church lol! There’s a few books out there too about men and church.
@@920pipsqueak well most women of the Lord aren't feminine and submissive. Its a two way street.
In a few months I will be 50 and never married. I have been struggling the past few months with being single. I feel like I am losing it. I don't know how to handle what I am feeling anymore. I am concerned with all of the Christian jargon and what I am, and I am not supposed to feel. I was content for a long time. I don't know why after all of these years and I feel crazy inside my head because I want life long male companionship. I have been raising my sisters kids which have given me joy, but I feel like something is missing.
Thanks Mark. Your video reminded me of a great quote by Pastor John Piper where he said, "God is most glorified in me with I am most satisfied in Him."
Being single can be soo peaceful and relaxing too 😎🙌
True!
John, I completely agree with you. I love being single.
I appreciate you saying "more content". That's better. Even a little more is better.
Amen, it's a process!
It’s hard because I’ve never even had a boyfriend.
Ik this is about marriage but I’m struggling to even get to the dating stage.
PS: the church totally idolizes marriage.
@Tony Rowan I'll keep this in mind
Late to this, but totally agree concerning the churches. Little to none in the way of helping singles. Be blessed.
What about now?
You don't need to date. You shouldn't. Look for Paul Washer's videos on this topic
@@dakotad.8609 still nothing. I tried online dating, but I never felt like I connected with someone who is in love with Jesus.
However, I am content in the Lord.
I admire your maturity so much. Because you're very young from my point of view (in my 40's) but you really have the wisdom of an "old soul" so to speak. Thank you so much for sharing it with the world.
This man is very knowledgeable every single talk that gives I listen and it helps God bless him
I am 64 years old. Never married. All my life I have asked God to send me teachers so that I can be the right person, and to send the right person. I will never hold my own child in my arms, or any grand child.and I weep inside most days.
I’m so sorry for the pain you’re experiencing. It’s a different experience and type of grief that most people don’t understand Even other singles that have not experienced lifelong singleness, maybe they were married but are now divorced or lost a spouse through death and are widowed have at least shared some of their life with a partner or have children from their marriage. I’m a woman in my mid fifties and was in an abusive non marital relationship where I ended up having a child. This was before I became a Christian at 28 years old. I believed and trusted God for a spouse and a family but long story short I never married. I likened my pain to mourning a loss or death. No I did not bury a husband but I did have to bury and grieve a husband that never came and a dream that never happened. I had to bury a strong and beautiful desire for a life shared with an intimate partner in a unique way, designed by God to be different than all other earthly relationships. And still see this blessing be given to the majority of people in this world. I am like Jacob wrestling the angel, struggling to understand and submit to why God has allowed this to happen to me. Looking back I now see that although I fought and resisted God, He had me in the palm of His hand all along He was merciful, faithful, loyal, and loving, even though I was not to him. Those of us who have walked in the absence of the blessing of family have a pain that very few can relate to or understand. I’m middle aged now It’s been a long time to wrestle with God but I’m thankful I have Him. I haven’t always seen it but I’m alive today because of Him. I’m trying to stop wrestling and finally give God my pain. I pray He heals not only you’re you’re heart but also the pain in you’re soul. I pray he blesses you abundantly in every area of your life. In Jesus name. Amen 🙏🏽💔❤️🩹❤️
Thats so kind of you.
@@oceandovethank you
IM GOING TO THE GRAVE SINGLE. PERIODT 💪👊💯
I thank God soooooo much for you, Mark! God really spoke to me through this video! Learning that my joy only comes from God is sooooo key to prevent putting unrealistic expectations on my future spouse when I do get married! I know that God wants His best for me and not what I think is best for me and your video helped drive that truth home! I am interested in someone and that interest has been reciprocated but right now God has made it clear to both of us that He wants us to grow in intimacy with Him! We're still great friends and I'm trusting in Him to lead that friendship into whatever He wants it to be. Yes, it is extremely difficult and I've never had a close friendship with a female before and I'm 31. But, I can only give God all the credit because He's given me the grace to get out of my comfort zone and even get to know this person through the confines of a friendship. I pray that God continues to pour out His grace on all Christian singles to empower them to continue gazing upon our Heavenly Father because even in a marriage, He's the one who sustains us! I cannot thank God enough for you, Mark! I pray that God continues to grow you in deeper intimacy in your relationship with Him!
I want to Agree 📖🙄📖😏 ! ! ! !
This is very wise advice listening to many people who tell you what they feel like God is doing in your season of singleness will cause you great confusion and to be tossed to and from like the wave of the sea 🤦🏽♀️
So true!
Thanks for your honesty, I can see I’ve been struggling with a few of these issues. Keep up the great 👍 work God bless you 🙏😊
That is my biggest problem, i see other couples happily in love. I feel like, why cant i have that happiness. It bothers me so much, i get very depressed.
I feel the same way.
@Tyler Gibson I been looking for a good woman, for months. They don't exist no more, women love money. That's all they love, that makes very difficult for a guy to find a good woman.
Good luck fellas I been trying for a while but seem like only certain people get to have it
"God Is the God of God" #period👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
God rules!
This is the first time I am hearing someone say it's ok to be discontent with being single. I also keep hearing you have to be content with yourself. I don't know what to think anymore.
You should read Philippians, especially chapter 4
Im in a season of singlenesd so im very content...best time ever..i want more of God and i known God is my altimate Source of Joy in my life ..Happy clappy😊🤗🙏
Mark you have no idea how much your vids helped me. Thank you so much for taking the time. God bless you brothers 💪😎
Great info, Mark! I wanted to test the waters when I went out with the guy I hurt last year. God did tell me but I just wouldn't listen, you are right he teaches us in our circumstances. Now, am doing great. Can see clearly that were both not ready for a relationship coz we don't know each other that well.
Amen, thanks for sharing this with us!
I’m 46, never married, date only two women in my life, I live on disability, live with parents unfortunately. I’ve wasted my life. Need God more now than I have than ever before.
Hugs
I really liked that second point. A big part of the reason why I’ve always been single is because I don’t put myself out there. I’ve always wanted the Lord to bring me a man who would pursue me because I feel like that’s the only way I would know if they really were interested.
Lisa, yeah it's ok if you as the woman breaks the ice with someone they're interested in.
So glad this was helpful to you :)
GodsWordSaves 7 thank you!
ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger hey Mark! Thanks! 🙂
Lisa, welcome 😁
Thank sooooooo much for taking a few moments to qualify that. Some Christians and groups do go out of their way to make you feel worse about not WANTING to be single or that there is something wrong with you since you ARE currently single.
They are doing that just to make you feel bad because they look down on singles, or secretly resent how singles don't have to deal with problems they have to deal with.
These videos have helped me. Thank you 🙂
So glad they have been helpful to you!
Try telling this to single men and women who are elderly and desire a mate...What you are saying only encourage young people but there are middle aged men and women who have been alone for years and all the bingo, church picnics and grand children visiting does not help.... Some people only get to a place of acceptance and suffer in silence from being lonely....They perhaps have tried all the tips, read all the books, went to all the singles functions, got in the prayer lines; fasted and prayed; yet remain alone....Some, sadly die in their loneliness....
Philippians 4:4
BROWNGURL 88 you should really try and speak for yourself and your own experience.
Tonzo Wall I was only speaking of those I personally know or have heard of or read about....I was trying to be very careful in my post by saying Some people because I know what I said does not apply to all.....I suppose my sympathy of those in this situation got the best of me.....In any future posts I will be more mindful and express more of my own experiences....I really appreciate your comment to me, lesson learned...God bless.
BROWNGURL 88 It’s a very difficult situation to be in. I didn’t marry until 53 but not for lack of effort.
BROWNGURL they can still marry. i know people who married in their 70s after being widowed. it can happen 😊
I'm kinda feeling like I'm being set apart because we're in the end times. All the signs are there. Even though I know this I still long for a relationship, I think this is my flesh crying out because it knows it's dying.
All thoughts and opinions welcome.
I agree with you. I was single my entire life until I met my toxic ex at the age of 28, all I got was heartbreak and some emotional damage. Long story short she also drew me into the new age. Where you can get money,love and so on. And they used to tell me "I am God" and so on. Long story short there are at least 1b people on the planet that are now New Agers. I chose christianity over trying to "manifest" my desires and my ex-back. I felt God pulled me back. I feel a lot of pain right now, but it doesn't really matter because I also think we are in the end times. Diseases, A.I technology and virtual reality, New Age religion,War and so on. The signs of the end times are there.
Kinda feeling the same way. I long for God to help me find someone more trustworthy; but how long will it last? God bless you in your pursuit and please pray for me.
Just keep giving it over to God, and He will guide your steps. Surrender is the only way to find peace in our singleness and if you will get married or not, regardless of the times. Remember that Jesus even mentioned that people were getting married and being given in marriage when Noah entered the arc(Luke 17:27).
This just solved a lot of my thoughts around waiting for the man god has for me. Thank you. This video changed my life.
AMEN have been blessed by this message mark God continue using you more and more
I find myself more and more content as I chase and chase the Lord. For the most part I am and I just watch these for reminders and usually I learn something new in every vid. I find myself still daydreaming about being in one though. It’s sort of a more swing. But I’m definitely not as worried!
So sad, i am lonely and struggling to be single... my heart desires knows it requires good reason and time. but sometimes i dont understand and impatience...
Level headed, scripture based advice. Excellent as always!
Thank you my brother for this lovely reminder
My pleasure!
Relationships are great if you’re with the right person, but for many(most) cases it’s nearly impossible to find the one that’s perfect for you. I’m a young, kind, educated, employed and handsome young man and I have had an absolutely shameful love life, failed relationships and heartbreak throughout, the shame and reproach is there. I’ve always been a Christian and soon had an urge to get closer with Jesus and like they hymn goes I’d rather have him. I’m not ruling out the possibility of one day finding love but I’m certainly not holding my breath. The decision has affected my family more than myself and that is this biggest burden, other ones viewing me as emotionally closed off or gay and that is untrue.
Any updates?
Eek! I did the same thing last week and was turned down too. I felt free that I could now move on
Thank you for making this video, this is something I have been struggling with for a long time now and I appreciate the spiritual edification. God bless
Thank you for this video, you always make a lot of sense. Praise God!
Amen, so glad this was helpful!
Thanks Mark really helpful advice...:-)
My pleasure!
Continue to Apply God's Word, sir.
You are a 21st Century Paul.
Stay the course.
Thanks for the encouragement Marvin!
Amen, very well said. It can't be anymore clear. God bless you👍🙃😇
Amen, so glad this was helpful
I would like to hear this from someone my age who has never married. Not someone who is young, happily married with children.
I agree
This is so educative.
Point 2 hit my heart and soul hard!! I’m very guarded but I’m healing....I been praying about this
Amen, seek the Lord and he will lead you on what to do
That is true. When I focus on my relationship with God, I feel better because I am doing something I'm sure to get great Love than any man can give me. I'm sure he won't disappoint me. On the contrary; 😔when I meet someone, I tend to get excited and so focused on them. It's like a child with a new toy.
I try to move slowly most times but I eventually get so caught up with them, I spend less time in the word and prayer. I always cut them off eventually because God keeps pulling me back to focus on him. I get confused too. Like how do I deal with relationships?
I am scared I may get too attached to men amd fail my relationship with God. Especially if they don't pray much. Sigh...I sometimes do feel maybe for me, marriage is not it.
Mark, I think you should make a video on the idea that unwanted singleness is a part of the Fall of man back in Eden. The entire universe is now cursed as is the human race. Maybe some believers fall victim to the brokenness of this world just as do some people fall victim to hurricanes, tornadoes, and tsunamis? I do agree that the churches could do a better job in dealing with their single members and the unique set of problems they experience.
I’m legit tired of being happy for everyone. My sister, my friends, aunts, uncles! Dang it! I want someone to be happy for me!
Hello Marc. I ordered your book The One. Happy to get it soon and to read :) Thank you for you chanel, keep on good work :)
This is so good! Thank you for this
Single hood is an affliction, not a vocation. The churches are simply afraid to say it outright, so they label it a ‘vocation’. Furthermore, content creators make content on how the afflicted should be processing the suffering from this affliction. Prayer doesn’t work, to petition God for why this is happening - to get some insight for why it is happening, why it hurts in a very specific way and why he allows it to continue with no perceivable and in sight. The simple answer is there is no answer. It becomes existential at that point, how do you process your suffering in a way that is not self destructive because no one is going to give you usable insight on how it feels to be where you are now. Especially someone who is married or in a relationship
Thank you for the differenciation between conservatism and biblical instruction!!
Thank you Pastor Mark for this video! It has been extremely helpful. So thankful for you and your channel. ❤
How can women be proactive? I am meeting and getting to know people, helping in the church, putting myself outhere... It feels after a while that there are 70 to 30 ratio of Christian women to men.
This may help: ua-cam.com/video/B8Okywe65zU/v-deo.html
I am a born again Christian man 👨
Have to agree with You
Blessings to You on Your Journey 😊
when we are happy from within being single doesn't matter... but problem arises only when we become unhappy and only then we crave for someone..
My standards I strive to live by are these
Born again Christian Man 👨
Read Bible daily or regularly
Pray daily
Listen to Christian content of t.v. and radio and UA-cam
Go to church pretty much every Sunday
Hold a job and pay bills
Live frugal
Give tithes and offerings
Active in men's group and service
Yes, it can be lonely with no one to share intimately about joys, triumphs or downer times
However, I am not alone persay
Have learned to be comfortable in my own skin
If someone comes along that's on the same page ... Great
I'm like Paul called to be single. I'm content in singleness.
How was you able to recognize it ?
That means she is not content in it. Much like my situation.
@@majesticcompany9447 When I pray to God about marriage and motherhood, I tell God that I would love to be mother and that it's the deepest desire but I also tell God that I know it's whatever in Your will and that I accept and respect Your will.
I've always dreamt of being a wife and mother since I was a child. Oddly enough, I was an incredibly shy girl. It wasn't until after graduating high school that I made it a goal to be social. I was still awkward, but I improved a lot by forcing myself to converse and hang out even when I didn't want to. I found men attractive but never had enough gumption to say anything. But to be honest, none of them struck me enough to date exclusively anyway. All these years, I was single and alone but I was never lonely. I was content in being single. I still wanted marriage in the future, but not then. It wasn't until moving to a country at the age of 30 that my attitude began to change. Now I wanted to wake up next to someone. Now I wanted to be around someone all day. Now I wanted to open up and tell someone my secrets and fears. Now I wanted to share everything with someone. Now I wasn't alone; I finally felt lonely (in the romantic sense). I was focused on school so I didn't have much time to devote to me emotions. But after finishing my program, I sat with God and thats when all those hidden anger and fears I had blocked for so long finally came out.
But I welcome it because I believe it's God waking up those final desires of my heart so that I can retrieve my blessings. I used to be terrified of the opposite sex, like literally shaking sometimes when around them in a romantic sense. I used to ignore text messages. I used to never go on dates. From talking with God since February and rebuilding my relationship with Him, I have gone on 3 dates. One was online and the other 2 men I actually met just walking around! I don't know what the future holds. But just seeing how much my situation changed since February, I know God is real! I was a complete mess. I really thought I was going to lose it. Sometimes I would tell myself, "Am I going crazy? Am I going to wake up one day and just be out of it"? I was in a very dark place but as I've said, I believe God put me there so that I could face what I needed to face to prepare me for my blessings.
I'm making this comment because we have to be honest with ourselves. If we're still hurt by someone, tell God. If we're still having feelings about an ex, tell God. If we truly want to get married, tell God. Dont try to be macho with God and pretend like you're doing good. Be honest with Him so that He can help you.
Thank you for this message.
Most people are not jealous but they will not tolerate being taunted
Good Message. Much needed. Thank you ❤️😊
A long season of singleness? LOL. I’ve been single since I was 23. I’m 51 now and still single. I found out not too long ago that the “girlfriends “ I did have only went out with me only out of pity and were asked to go out with me just to make me feel better. They didn’t want to date me. I ask God to take away this desire to be married, I don’t want it. I even asked God to set me up, no answer. I give up. I don’t want to start a family at my age.
Probably a wise decision. I am 60+ and single. I find that surrendering my desire for physical intimacy to God is the best and only option! I have recently learned that I was abused and neglected as a child. So my view of relationships/marriage is warped!
Take a role in dating instead of always waiting🙌🏾
How come some Christian desire marriage but it never happens? What if that season is your whole life despite all you pray and putting yourself out there as this video suggests
Some people are called to singleness tbh.
Not everyone will marry.
Great video!
Thanks David!
good Word.
Great video
I'm fixing to be 47 and I'm still single if that's what He wants for me so be it His will be done
Yesterday I confessed to my friend Savannah Woodard, who is married to a guy named Josh Stuelke now, I was jealous because I had feelings for her since 2017 or 2018, but I never had the courage to tell her. When Savannah revealed her news of getting married, I was jealous and hurt and was having a hard time letting go, especially since we’ve been friends for 7 years. When I made that confession, I felt a huge weight lifted off my shoulders, especially after God gave me the revelation. He told me that jealously is rooted in selfishness, and the Bible says this: “If you have bitter envy and selfish ambition, do not brag and deny the truth. For such wisdom does not come from above, rather it is earthly, unspiritual and demonic. For wherever envy and selfish ambition exist, there is a disorder and every kind of evil practice.”- James 3:14-16
I’m almost 17, and somehow this almost made me feel worse. The scheme of the plan yet. So far she’s made it abundantly clear that she just wants to stay friends, but I hadn’t even said anything about it yet. But maybe that will change, or maybe there will be someone else. I don’t know. Pray for me.
Thank you
You are welcome!
I'm blessed been single hasn't even fazed me I've used the time to get closer to jesus to heal to completely forgive 🙏 I've only just started to relize I think God's been preparing me for a relationship I was sat in church other day just in awe of jesus and I heard I'm preparing him 🙏 i prayed and said out loud i cancle all thoughts that's from the enemy in the name of jesus I cancle all thoughts of my own that's not of the Lord I heard I am preparing him and I said Lord bearing in mind God knows our hearts he knew what I was asking if I'm right one what I think this is in your plan please have someone come pray with me and I was stood and seconds of me saying that praye in my thoughts no one heard that praye please have someone come pray with me and a lady from church out of no where placed her hand on me and started to pray it was so emotional and beutifull but even with all this my eyes are on jesus and my focus is on jesus I'm not allowing it to take it any time away from the lord 🙏 none that's needed anyway I'm blessed
3years ago I'm sorry but I'm just wanting to be at peace with this😩😫how to be content in singleness watch his vids🤝🏽binge watched alot of his relationship videos n its unreal I felt the literal urge for a relationship go down with each vid because my desire for it was really above God.
Do you know of any good books on being content in being in Christ? I think I am, but I believe there is always room for improvement.
Statistically speaking, single men who never marry do not live as long as married men. It is a problem.
Machi74005 it is but what is the solution?
@@godswordsaves7673 Accept our fate and prepare for an early departure, I suppose.
Machi74005 reject that. don't be defeatist
Tony, eat drink for tomorrow we may die.
Tony no I'm not really making fun but the scripture says right up to the end people will be marrying and being given in marriage. we don't know what tomorrow holds. we may die before the end comes so we must live life fully.
I consider myself lucky to have been married before (36M, divorced). My marriage was rather enjoyable, it only ended because my ex wife didnt want kids anymore. Because of that experience I don't put relationships or marriage on the pedestal like I did before I got married. If I get married again, great. If not, that is ok.
If only singleness lasted a season. It's lasting years. Shouldn't last this long unless I've fallen out of God's favor (proverbs 18:22)
Tell me about it, been single all my life and I am 23!
Niches of Narcissism Why do you think God has others wait longer?
@@biancaeggers888 He doesn't. Christians have long seasons of singleness largely due to the awful dating advice that comes from the Christian world. Ignore all that. You gotta get on the market if you wanna find a guy.
Bianca Eggers in the same boat gonna be 24 and nothing happening. I’m not the best on advice in anything in life all I can say is Psalms 84:11- 11. For the Lord God is a sun and shield: the Lord will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly. Bianca I don’t understand what God has planned for us in life I’ve prayed for years to find a godly women who is filled with the Holy Spirit and one who Loves Jesus more then she would love me and someone who would obey God in spirit and truth. The man God wants for you will be that. Trust God and always loves Jesus above everyone and everything. Proverbs 3:5-6 5.Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. 6. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. Trust God Bianca Jesus loves you very much you are precious and Gods eyes and he wants what’s best for you I pray if it’s in God’s will he puts a Godly man in your life. Find the man who will love Jesus above you and everything else that will be the man that can show you true love. Those who love God keep his commandments so who obey God show truly they love Jesus. Sorry for the long rant Jesus loves you Bianca trust God.
Jansen T Thank you Jansen, the thing is I haven’t even had my first kiss so I seem like a total outcast.
I had a pastor tell me it may not be God Will I marry. I told him you know not the future
This is so hard.
true, thankfully God's grace can empower us. God bless!
ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger thank you brother in Christ, I always watch your videos about relationships, they really help me. Keep doing what you’re doing and you will receive rewards in heaven✝️🙏
Hebrews 10:24-25 "Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near."
It is somewhat hypocritical for a married person to preach that you should be content being single.
Philippians 4:4, not my words
Land- My sister and her husband often tell me blessed I am. And I am blessed but Im still painfully lonely. It doesn't come off as understanding my situation. I love my sister immensely but she can't help. It's like, it takes one to know one.
Please forgive my personal venting....I was on a roll😛 and no harm intended.😛
Is it wrong for an apostle to tell someone that the person in their life isn’t for them? Even if the couple are in love?
Hey mark, I recently broken up with my ex-bf this year in feb and I have a desire to get married have a question what if you can’t drive and how can I find the one
Cool.
Should you date or be friends with the opposite sex if they are separated because the spouse left for someone else and the divorce is not final?
Good Question
Nice to know
Season of singleness is more like decades of singleness and its getting old. Why when you pray and trust God some things never happen? It's not good for man to be alone and he who finds a wife finds a good thing right? So why is this prolonged so long? I dont think someone who is married really understands.
Now that Feminism is much worse than Cancer nowadays that is really caused by these very pathetic women, which of course it will be very difficult for many of us single guys trying to find love now.
interesting 🌅🌅🙄😏🌄🌄 ! ! ! !
Mark, can you explain what you mean specifically by the roots of the advice being rooted in conservatism and tradition rather than being biblical? Like what sort of conservative ideologies about dating are you referring to?
God wants me to except a Man for KINGDOM SPOUSE
The paradox in the church is so real. They want you to be 'good' and always listen, but in reality all they want is something juicy to gossip about and get bored when there isn't anything to fix.
That's your church...
I've been to 2 churches like this so I know how you feel. I'm glad we changed churches
My church isn’t like that
I picked the wrong women now im 32 never married gor two daughters and a broken heart for two yrs ive isolated havent tried to date i keep thinking somethin wrong wit me
Am I the only one who seems to be struggling to listen to these speeches about singleness from people who are married???