Hey sweet mom. Just subscribed. This is great advice and reasoning behind it. It's something I hadn't really thought about. My little one is six years old and I was so blessed by this conversation in preparation when the situation does present itself. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. 🙏☺️
This is such a valuable conversation that contributes to the broader conversation about the beauty of pursuing and building a Christian home intentionally. Choosing a mate is not flippant or silly, as so many pretend. Really appreciate your words on this topic.
Thank you, dear sister! This is such a controversial topic, and this is something I've been discussing with my children. This is definitely something we want to redirect in our children and pray over them about. If you allow them screen time, you will see the horrible things that are being promoted to our babies. The world does encourage child relationships even with older adults and its sickening. This is very harmful to them.
Interesting thoughts and I agree. I actually used to be like that from early childhood, always dreaming of someone. Thankfully it was oy one sided but didn't help. Just thought consuming and getting used to be driven by emotions. I definitely don't want it for our daughters who are approaching teen years. Thankfully it wasn't a thing so far and we talk very openly with them about everything. But there's a big influence in that direction from movies and books. Even books that are for 10 years often contain a love story. Unfortunately here in Germany there's not too many good christian literature for kids and even less good movies. And yes I appreciate this kind of videos and that they're short. Thanks!
Yes, the books and movies definitely encourage these kinds of ideas to children early on and it so important and such a gift that you can speak very openly with your daughters about everything. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me and I appreciate your feedback so much! ❤️🙏🏻
You're intension is really good. Of course in real life as a parent you are the role model for this kind of good behaviour. 😊 So teaching them the good way is our responsibility.
I agree your intention is really good. But, personally, i think it's misguided. I don't think there's anything wrong with having a crush on someone - especially in your younger years: that's what you were designed to do! - as long as you learn to deal with it appropriately. e.g. try to learn not to obsess; to focus on healthy things despite the feelings; not to pursue the feelings, especially if either is attached to someone else. Children and teenagers should not be in relationships?? I don’t necessarily agree with that. Telling your child they *don't* have a crush?? That's just violating their personhood, imo: telling them how they feel. It's one thing saying you can't have something yet. It's another thing: and unnecessary, imo, to say you're not allowed to desire it yet. Crushing is desiring something you're designed to want.
Totally agree! My 13 year old said she has started to like a boy in her youth group- I reassured her that it’s normal at her age to start looking at the opposite sex in that way. That they should continue to get to know each other as friends and if in their late teen years they are still interested in pursuing each other, they can then start courting. I know plenty of people that are devout believers and followers of Christ who met their now spouses in their teen years and got married at 18, went on to have many children and a successful, healthy marriage. It is not our place to choose who our children end up with… the Lord already knows who He has for them. It is our job to safely guide them to foster healthy relationships in a healthy, safe way. And that person He has chosen for them just might be someone they meet at 16.
Thank you both for sharing your thoughts and differences with me. ❤️I actually met my husband at 14, married him at 19 and have been so blessed in my marriage for nearly 18 years. I agree with and understand a lot of what you’re saying here. ❤️🙏🏻
Thanks everyone for your comments! 😊❤ Leaving the link to PART 2 here: PART 2 Should Children Have Crushes? | What to Do | Mom of 9 | #christian #parenting ua-cam.com/video/H-waydDSlug/v-deo.html
I’m curious to know why so we can learn from your experience? Also, are you a Christian? I personally am a Christian who had to learn the hard ways in these areas growing up (I’m 31 now and happily married now PTL). I really needed the guidance that this video explains and I didn’t get it from my parents. However, as an OCD struggler I also relate to your comment because one can often feel tremendous guilt simply for being attracted to a person. I think a lot of it is about what to do with that attraction (I.e. learning to control yourself and make wise decisions and put up proper boundaries). There will always be attractive people in the world that you interact with, even at church! My husband and I have boundaries such as: never be alone with the opposite sex; our emails, texts, social media accounts are fair game for our spouse to look at anytime (we share logins and pws); if the opposite sex sends us a message on social media, we immediately notify the other spouse and clue them in while making a game plan together with how to proceed from there; it takes humility and open communication to uphold boundaries and our relationship is richer because of it. But I do think we need to be careful and not associate attraction in and of itself with being a sin. For an OCD struggler like me it loads on massive amounts of guilt and fear of attraction and then I’m caught in an obsessive cycle on the other extreme. So there has to be a lot of open communication and clarifications for children in these areas to help navigate these things rightly in my opinion. I really appreciate this youtube video because I get the heart of where this woman is coming from and do think Godly guidance is necessary in this arena. God bless you all, I hope this helps someone ❤️
Hey sweet mom. Just subscribed. This is great advice and reasoning behind it. It's something I hadn't really thought about. My little one is six years old and I was so blessed by this conversation in preparation when the situation does present itself. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. 🙏☺️
Wow, thank you. ❤️🙏🏻 I am so blessed to have you here. ❤️
This is such a valuable conversation that contributes to the broader conversation about the beauty of pursuing and building a Christian home intentionally. Choosing a mate is not flippant or silly, as so many pretend. Really appreciate your words on this topic.
Thank you for such a kind and thoughtful comment. ❤️🙏🏻😊
Thank you, dear sister! This is such a controversial topic, and this is something I've been discussing with my children. This is definitely something we want to redirect in our children and pray over them about. If you allow them screen time, you will see the horrible things that are being promoted to our babies. The world does encourage child relationships even with older adults and its sickening. This is very harmful to them.
Amen. ❤️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻Thank you for your comment and encouragement! 🙏🏻❤️
Interesting thoughts and I agree. I actually used to be like that from early childhood, always dreaming of someone. Thankfully it was oy one sided but didn't help. Just thought consuming and getting used to be driven by emotions. I definitely don't want it for our daughters who are approaching teen years. Thankfully it wasn't a thing so far and we talk very openly with them about everything. But there's a big influence in that direction from movies and books. Even books that are for 10 years often contain a love story. Unfortunately here in Germany there's not too many good christian literature for kids and even less good movies.
And yes I appreciate this kind of videos and that they're short. Thanks!
Yes, the books and movies definitely encourage these kinds of ideas to children early on and it so important and such a gift that you can speak very openly with your daughters about everything. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with me and I appreciate your feedback so much! ❤️🙏🏻
This is so an interesting conversation, thank you for being open and honest to talk about this!!!
Thank you!! ❤️I’m considering a Part 2 video on this conversation. 🙏🏻
You're intension is really good. Of course in real life as a parent you are the role model for this kind of good behaviour. 😊 So teaching them the good way is our responsibility.
Thanks for your comment. ❤️
I agree your intention is really good. But, personally, i think it's misguided. I don't think there's anything wrong with having a crush on someone - especially in your younger years: that's what you were designed to do! - as long as you learn to deal with it appropriately. e.g. try to learn not to obsess; to focus on healthy things despite the feelings; not to pursue the feelings, especially if either is attached to someone else.
Children and teenagers should not be in relationships?? I don’t necessarily agree with that.
Telling your child they *don't* have a crush?? That's just violating their personhood, imo: telling them how they feel.
It's one thing saying you can't have something yet. It's another thing: and unnecessary, imo, to say you're not allowed to desire it yet.
Crushing is desiring something you're designed to want.
Totally agree! My 13 year old said she has started to like a boy in her youth group- I reassured her that it’s normal at her age to start looking at the opposite sex in that way. That they should continue to get to know each other as friends and if in their late teen years they are still interested in pursuing each other, they can then start courting. I know plenty of people that are devout believers and followers of Christ who met their now spouses in their teen years and got married at 18, went on to have many children and a successful, healthy marriage. It is not our place to choose who our children end up with… the Lord already knows who He has for them. It is our job to safely guide them to foster healthy relationships in a healthy, safe way. And that person He has chosen for them just might be someone they meet at 16.
Thank you both for sharing your thoughts and differences with me. ❤️I actually met my husband at 14, married him at 19 and have been so blessed in my marriage for nearly 18 years. I agree with and understand a lot of what you’re saying here. ❤️🙏🏻
@@aprils-home-made nice! Thanks for your reply.
So wonderful, too, to hear of a successful, long-lasting, Godly marriage. Beautiful! God bless!🙏🏼💞
Thank you. 😊😊❤️❤️
Thanks everyone for your comments! 😊❤
Leaving the link to PART 2 here:
PART 2 Should Children Have Crushes? | What to Do | Mom of 9 | #christian #parenting
ua-cam.com/video/H-waydDSlug/v-deo.html
this way of thinking and rhetoric put me in therapy. this is so harmful.
I’m curious to know why so we can learn from your experience?
Also, are you a Christian?
I personally am a Christian who had to learn the hard ways in these areas growing up (I’m 31 now and happily married now PTL). I really needed the guidance that this video explains and I didn’t get it from my parents. However, as an OCD struggler I also relate to your comment because one can often feel tremendous guilt simply for being attracted to a person. I think a lot of it is about what to do with that attraction (I.e. learning to control yourself and make wise decisions and put up proper boundaries). There will always be attractive people in the world that you interact with, even at church! My husband and I have boundaries such as: never be alone with the opposite sex; our emails, texts, social media accounts are fair game for our spouse to look at anytime (we share logins and pws); if the opposite sex sends us a message on social media, we immediately notify the other spouse and clue them in while making a game plan together with how to proceed from there; it takes humility and open communication to uphold boundaries and our relationship is richer because of it. But I do think we need to be careful and not associate attraction in and of itself with being a sin. For an OCD struggler like me it loads on massive amounts of guilt and fear of attraction and then I’m caught in an obsessive cycle on the other extreme. So there has to be a lot of open communication and clarifications for children in these areas to help navigate these things rightly in my opinion. I really appreciate this youtube video because I get the heart of where this woman is coming from and do think Godly guidance is necessary in this arena.
God bless you all, I hope this helps someone ❤️