Your choice to inform his caretakers rather than scold, to express an understanding of the difficulties that can be a part of giving care and to educate them in proper care has no doubt made this patient’s life easier. Your sensitive approach is perfect. Thank you.
I loved that discussion so much. Stealthily asking if she's is actually taking care (obviously not) of those poor feet. Turns out it's mostly him. You always have to be careful with that! Thank you for the right approach. I love the way you handle people, and your patients!
We have to keep in mind that this guy is 90, which means his daughter is 70 taking care of him. Not easy when you are a senior yourself. Bless her heart. ❤
Ok I get it. But coming sense tell you you are the care giver aren't you helping with the activities of daily living? Washing daily? Aren't you checking his feet on the daily basis?
Have you ever dealt with someone with dementia. They don't always realise they need help and will get argumentative and very emotional. It take a lot out you as a caregiver. Sometimes you just have to pick your battles. 🤷🏼♀️
Which means it can easily be her NEXT Quick.. therefore THE WAY SHE'S demeaning him and the WEAK STOMACH which is cray bcz she claims to work at a hospital.. This is so uhhhh idk imagine u sitting there depending on someone u raised and sacrifice for sitting there just😢😢
Dear Dr Jefferson, I used to be a nurse and I think you're the best foot doctor I've ever seen. You're so kind and empathetic towards your patients and their families. My mum got Alzheiimer's disease and she died in 2017, so I know what it's like to care for a parent with dementia, and I've also worked in Aged Care facilities here in Melbourne, Australia. And I know it's not easy, but I felt so sorry for this elderly man in your video. I couldn't believe the amount of toe jam he had between his toes, not to mention everything else that was wrong with his poor feet. His daughter clearly needs help in looking after him, as it's impossible for one person to look after a parent with dementia. My dad and I used to bath my mother everyday - until the Alzheiimer's progressed to the stage where she had to go into a nursing home - and it was easy for us as there were two of us to do it together. I would bath my mother and then my dad could lift her out but obviously this man's daughter can't bath her father on her own, especially as she sounds like she's quite elderly herself. Is her father eligible for care in his home? I hope he gets the care he needs. You did a brilliant job of treating him, his feet looked so good and so much younger after you had finished, and he even seemed to be happy about it. 😀 Thank you for sharing this video with us. Cheers from Amanda Jones in Melbourne, Australia 👍❤ ❤ ❤
This doctor is the kindest, most understanding and informed doctor I've come across in forever. He didn't try to embarrass these people he just wanted to help them. Kudos to this guy for his caring and respectful nature 💜
If anyone has been a caregiver to a person with dementia it is a 24 hour a day job. My husband would sneak out of the house and try to steal farm machinery you name it. He never done this before. So I can understand how these things happen. I can imagine he wanted to help them and not humiliate them. God Bless you.
@@wyleejensen3646 Most likely she does. The amount is not enough, but he's her father. I can't believe she said she DIDN'T want to clean between his toes. Wow.
The way the caregiver said "everday!!!" In regards to his daily hygienic needs and foot powder was extremely telling. She is overwhelmed and needs to hire a home health care aid 😢
It was! She annoyed me. Even if he wouldn’t let her touch his feet she should have taken him in to get cared for. His feet should never be this bad. You can tell the dr was dropping hints that she needs to be doing more. But respectfully of course. He’s amazing.
Did anyone notice his feet dancing at the end? He was so relieved and grateful. My dad lived until he was 100, and we cared for him like we cared for ourselves. Not trying to judge his daughter bc i know caregiving is a difficult responsibility, but if you can't do it, then get someone else to do it or help you. This gentleman is a veteran, and there are services available for him. Get the help he needs and deserves. The transformation of his feet was exceptional.
This may sound silly but I cried like a baby over this poor gentleman’s feet. I’m so glad that you were tactful but straight forward with the daughter. Although it is very difficult to be a caregiver for an individual with dementia. Stay safe and God Bless
It doesn't sound silly at all. My heart broke for this poor man, and his daughter - well, momma always said if you can't say something nice -. I would hope that maybe he can have a visiting nurse stop by at least once or twice a week. I spent 17 years care-giving for my parents, both who had Alzheimer's. It's a terribly difficult job, but when someone can't take care of themselves, you find a way to make it happen.
That quiet “Thank you, sir” and the repeated “He knows what he’s doing” tells it all. Daddy’s in there, he’s just wrapped up by the dementia. Caring for your parent(s) can be extremely challenging, because in their eyes, we’re always their babies! The relief he must have felt when his toes were made new. Stay strong, daughter, and thank you for caring for your Daddy. 🌺
Give it a year or two. Dementia is a progressive disease so sooner than later he will lose himself completely. If he hasn't already. Like watching when my dog had cancer and just wasted away at 14 because she was too old to live through any surgery. And before anyone comments, my grandfather and uncle had dementia/alzheimers. And I can say 100% my grandfather was no longer there. Especially when the family decided to push him to get chemo at 81 for his stomach cancer. He suffered so badly and the chemo ended up shortening his life (big surprise there!). But I was honestly so glad to hear he passed. That had not been him since I was 11 (he died 2 years ago when I was 28) and he was diagnosed after a stroke. I lack empathy and rather take a more cynical but logical view. Or nihilist, I suppose. But I do not think I have ever cried or felt bad or been empathetic toward anyone except when I was rolling on some mdma, or toward animals. Anyway, it is a shame that families will push so hard to try to get someone to live just a few years longer by sacrificing their comfort. It is ALWAYS because people want to avoid grieving at any cost. So they will keep a loved ones body artificially working like a mindless tumor, just because they do not want to let go. It is selfish to make someone do that. My great grandmother died a few years back and was begging for at least 2 years before that to be brought to Oregon to be euthanized, but she did not have any chronic fatal diseases. She just didn't want to live without her husband and was done with this shithole people call life.
@@antwan3163Everyone progresses differently. They are always in there, however less and less able to escape and express. It’s a terrible disease for anyone to endure. You just gotta cherish the good days when they happen. And take the bad when they come. 🤷🏻♀️
Her comment, he won't let her? I don't think she has really tried. Those feet are in horrible shape. Don't they know a care giver is responsible for his cleanliness and health? Who ever she is probably got an ugly look from the doctor. This is just insane!!
Wow, have any of you actually been a caretaker for an adult…for years? You only have so much energy and you have to pick your battles or you’ll wear out pretty quickly. This woman is not a young person. And you don’t know what her medical condition is.
She’s 90 years old and needs a caregiver herself, don’t judge if you haven’t been there, I’m a caregiver of a very sick husband and disabled myself, it is not easy. He has had a few diabetic sores and the doctors praised me fir what a great job I did helping him heal.
Yall stop making excuses for her poor neglect. Caregivers must have a treatment plan to ensure good health and hygiene. You don't just sit there and watch t.v. or feed your face. You work! This woman didn't want to do it! The doctor said she has to, every day. I wonder how much she gets paid for such poor care?
It must be traumatic at times to be confronted with such degrading lack of care. I know you're a Doctor, but also a human being. You have my admiration and best wishes.
The doctor tells the daughter to put foot powder every day and she says what if she is the one taking care of him she need to step up and do her job. I feel bad for the poor man he lets the doctor do his feet he would let her to if she would do it.
THIS VIDEO NEEDS TO BE REQUIRED VIEWING FOR DOCTORS & NURSES! Your approach, and the way you assisted him while educating them was everything. I will always remember shortly after I was diagnosed with asthma. I had an asthma attack, was brought to ER in an ambulance with my mother. First the nurses were nasty to the ambulance driver for not informing them they were coming to their location. After I got situated, My mother stepped out of the room to go to the bathroom, and The nurse was so nasty to me, because I didn’t know how to use a nebulizer, and had to come there so late. I thought i was dying, and then was made to feel like i was in their way, and the stupid scum of the earth. I told my mother years later, and she was so angry that i didn’t tell her then.
That's sad too.Ive had similar treatment read a bad head injury( fractured skull).. Ones can have the knowledge but their needs to empathy...All who have been through such things...take care...😊
This poor man! I teared up when he thanked the Doctor. What a blessing you are. You can hear your frustration but you're respectful and kind to his daughter. You educated her without belittling her.
Thank you for taking the time to clean up the nails! As a licensed cosmetologist its a huge pet peeve of mine to see podiatrists just cut away then leave dead skin & sharp jagged nails. A lot of people who come to podiatriats are elderly or disabled & cant reach their own feet to clean them up. Jagged nails lead to catching on things & dead skin leads to more toenail issues including ingrowns. I think these doctors that dont clean up think they are creating repeat patients... but thats not the case. People return to those that actually care for them and do a good job!
Look how nice his feet looked afterwards. I took care of mother and father before they passed away. My dad had a stroke and was lying on his floor for three days before he was found. I remember bringing him home and had to take of him like a baby. I know he felt shameful that I had to do those things for him but I always assured him how much I loved him and I was returning the love and care he showed me as a child. I’m the baby of 11 children(6 girls and 5 boys) I had to learn how to shave him. What was shameful to me was that none of his sons cared enough to shave or bathe him. I wouldn’t change a thing, I’d do it again!
Thank goodness for your responsibility and caring for your dad. He needed you and you stepped up to do what needed to be done. Thanks to you! God Bless you.
I know this is old, but I am touched by how well the doctor cared for his elderly patient, showing him dignity and great care as if it were his own loved one. Bless this man
Right and I'm bedridden nobody messes with my feet unless I want them to which is very seldom they hurt when you mess with them in the doctor understands that and frankly most doctors don't
I love the respect and compassion you have for not only the patient but to the caregivers, too! You didn’t come off as higher than thou. So she listened to you. Had you confronted or embarrassed her, she’d ignore anything you said. Another great job, sir😇
If the doctor was a professional, he'd be calling the authorities after this one. That woman isn't not doing a good job as a caregiver. She isn't even helping to wash the guy's feet.
After an injury my grandad was declared brain dead. The Dr was demonstrating how they came to this diagnosis and the foot tickle test was one of them. Why I bring this up is the private joke my mom and i shared thru our tears. My grandad NEVER EVER let anyone see his feet. There was nothing wrong with them at all. I guess HE felt there was something wrong with them. You have a new sub. Your care and candor are a blessing. Plus I'm just kinda weird that I love this stuff anyways.
she said he fights her when she tries to do his feet but I didn't see him once pull away from you...I think he enjoyed it..but maybe it was because you're a doctor and he was just happy to be out of the house.
I worked for a Podiatrist for 15 years and loved my job. I saw a lot of cases like this but never this bad. Thank you for your utmost care that you gave these gentlemen. You were patient, kind, thorough, tender and professional. That his caregivers would let it get to this point is a very sad thing. Talking to them the way you did was a great way to address the issue. We need more Doctors like you. I went into Dialysis after the Foot Dr but I will always remember my time there as humbling.
With each passing year I learn that I cannot assume anything and I don’t know these people. That said, here are my impressions - which don’t mean much. 1. This is 100 percent clear. This doctor should be recognized for his excellence in care. He did not demean or shame the caregiver. He gave clear instructions. He encouraged home health care. He suggested she get the most days of help possible. 2. She does not come across as a concerned caregiver and she appears to have lots of excuses. But if he’s 90, she’s 70. Some 70 year olds are still sprite. Other 70 year olds have dementia themselves and struggle to care for themselves let alone a 90 year old father. 3. My dad has dementia. I know what combative behavior in a dementia patient does and doesn’t look like. I also know each day is different. But this man was relaxed. He was making noises of being soothed and relief. He clearly loved how getting his feet done by the doctor felt. Since we don’t know the situation I am not comfortable blaming the daughter but but I think it’s far more likely that his care might be overwhelming to her. Perhaps whenever she tried she hurried through it, she wasn’t gentle enough, etc. Maybe because it was too much for her her technique suffered and his response was a result of that. 4. I cannot in good conscience blame her without knowing her and the situation but I can say that the amount of “toe jam” built up 100 percent indicated neglect of this poor man. It might merely be circumstantial. The daughter’s feet might look the same. Whatever the case, this man needs more personal assistance than he’s receiving. I hope arrangements can be made because at the end, he’s so clearly relieved. The man is rubbing the shea butter on and his nails and feet are clean and he’s moaning with satisfaction. It had to feel so good to him. 5. Without more information I don’t think we should attack the daughter, but I also hope people who can help them line up resources to get assistance with his care and potentially her care, too. 6. Again, kudos to the doctor who could not have been kinder, more thorough or more patient! ❤️
Your approach to the caregiver was subtle and brilliant. Much better choice than confrontational. You are always so caring with your clients. I don’t know why, but I like to watch these videos sometimes, and I like listening to the smooth jazz. Thanks for your instructions, I’ve learned much.
I don’t actually blame her as much as other people are because when I looked after my mom she was just like this. Every time we went to the doctor she was nice but when I tried to do things she wouldn’t cooperate. I would spend ages setting things up and she would end up firing anyone we got to help her. She wouldn’t even take showers near the end. Who knows what kind of relationship they had before. It’s very easy to sit back and criticize but it’s very hard to look after someone you are related to.
Yes! My grandmother has moderate stage dementia and whenever my mom takes her to her doctor she would be nice and almost put on a front as if nothing is wrong.
I don't blame her either. She said herself that he won't allow her to touch his feet or bathe him. One comment said they would do it while their parent is sleeping... Ummm not when they have dementia. That'll wind up being a very messed up situation, as someone without dementia just the thought of waking up to someone touching me is scary... I can only imagine how scary that would be for someone with dementia.
Your care of this gentleman's feet was amazing - the gentleness, caring, compassion & treating him with respect, was absolutely a pleasure to watch! On top of all that, being willing to share your personal experience as a caregiver to help his daughter deal with this difficult & horrible disease of dementia, was above & beyond the call of duty - not too many doctors would do that! I have so much respect for not only your skills as a doctor, your professionalism, 'bedside manner', but you as a human being above all! Keep on doing what you do best, helping the world one patient at a time, & don't ever change that wonderful caring attitude for each & every patient!!
I was my Mom's caregiver and she was always impeccable! People used to comment how beautifully dressed and groomed my Mom always was. I agree with another person's comment, negligence, down right elder abuse! AND I NOTICED AFTER YOU MANICURED AND CLEANED HIS FEET AND MOUSTURIZED THEM, HE WAS LOVING IT AND MOVING HIS FEET IN GRADITUDE AND THANK YOU TO YOU! LIKE OH THANK GOD! FINALLY!
But sometimes not….. my impeccable mother completely changed in her mid 90’s and dementia started to set in …..we have to make appointments for her to shower, get her hair done, get toes trimmed……
every situation is different! a lot of elderly people especially with dementia can be very hostile to caregivers and caregiving and sometimes they have so many other things to deal with that some things fall to the side. i take great care of myself but sometimes i get busy with work and family and life that i can’t take the same time and attention to take care of myself at that level. we dont know whats going on in these people’s lives so we shouldn’t be making such big assumptions and judgements.
There is no way I would let my father's feet get to this condition! There is no excuse! She should be ashamed of herself!!! Thank you Dr. Jefferson for all that you do. God bless you.
My mom also had dementia and the only time I can cut her toenails or fingernails was when she was asleep taking a nap. Otherwise she would become angry and try to hit or bite me. She just didn’t understand & thought I was trying to cut her. Had to keep her fingernails short since she would eat with her hands sometimes or rub her eye & I didn’t want her nails to trap & transfer bacteria
One thing I learned from lookin after my pops, you can't let them tell you what to do. You gotta do what you gotta do. Let them pout. You're lucky if you get a thank you. If you gotta be rough, get it done.
if only my mom had pouted. she was 5 ft tall and weighed less than 100 lbs. one day she wanted me to leave her alone. i was trying to get her dressed for a dr’s appointment. she balled up her little bony fists, hit me w/a left and drew blood!
Dr. Jefferson’s bedside manner is exemplary. I love to watch him care for the feet of the elderly. Surely his kindness, patience, and expertise is a gift from God. Thank you for sharing.
To those who are complaining that the daughter is uncaring please consider this: the doctor stated that Daddy was 90 years old which means that if he had his daughter at 20 years old, she would be 70 years old herself. If she isn’t in the best of health herself, it would be a challenge to take care of his needs. Sometimes people need help. I can’t help but wonder if those who are scolding would have been willing to care for his feet if daughter couldn’t physically bend.
Wow, I actually didn't think of it like that. Thank you, because honestly I thought she had definitely neglected him but after this comment I'm understanding a lot more.
@unicornmadness6286 plus on top of that it's his daughter. He may not be putting up a fight because it's a doctor. It's his senior daughter who has ro take care of him. It takes a lot of humility to want to ask for that kind of help from their kid in any case. Caretaker fatigue is a real thing, and takes a toll on people half her again. If she's a senior as well, her health isn't the best to be taking care of another senior who needs a lot of help.
Doc, you did an absolutely wonderful job on this elderly patient. Your kind, smooth and reassuring voice and attitude, puts you miles ahead of your group of medical professionals. Plus the fact that you have experienced first hand at being a caregiver and at such a young age. Thank you for what you do.
Dr. you not only did an amazing job on his feet, but you also subtlety asked about all other aspects of his home care & medical care. Thank you for what you do & how you do it! I'm in Southern Maryland BTW & take care of my 89 year old Dad, along with my daughter & 3 teenage granddaughters, & my husband who takes him to at least half of his Dr appointments. I take him to the podiatrist every 10-12 weeks to help keep his feet in good condition.
I like how he gave the daughter advice instead of just getting mad like most of the comments. It really is hard caring for someone with dementia and what you see at the doctor's is not what you see at home. This is the daughter, not a professional, doing unpaid work on top of everything else, it can't be easy. Of course I hope she or someone will take care of the feet better but let's not judge too hard for having neglected them.
My Mum was a bit disabled plus dementia, every week I made pedicure and manicure, and every day I washed her. And cooked. I was lucky to have the time to do so and it made her so happy and comfortable. It was exhausting, but I guess it was also exhausting for her when I was a child. The circle of life.
Girl didn't even know why he couldn't walk 🤦♀️ she knew ....just didn't want to touch them, don't blame her ...but damn ...take him to the doctor sooner!
Doc you are the best. This is the worse I've ever seen. I love how you don't scold the family, but he needed intervention prior to your visit. This is as nice as I can say it, without being judgemental. Thank GOD you're available for our DC elderly. GOD bless you!
You are a good man with a big heart and a great podiatrist. Your "bedside manner" is excellent and i praise you for not being judgemental. Your patients and their families are fortunate to have you caring for them.
I don't care if they fuss and cuss I'm going to get thm finger nails and toenails. I had to do it for my Aunt because she didn't want anyone touching her hands or feet. But she got thm done.
My dad used to sit on the floor with my disabled brother on his lap and Dad would wrap around brother like an anaconda trying to kill its prey. It was the only way to trim hair nails. But damn it, it got done regularly!
If he was combative with her, as my mom was with me, she could cause injury to fight him. However, she should bring him to the podiatrist as often as his insurance allows.
I don’t care what anyone says! This was straight up negligent! I cared for my mother and she fought me everyday putting lotion on, clipping her nails, cleaning her feet…..but damn it, it was done because she deserved the best care! My heart breaks for this man!😢
Totally agree.. it’s no way she takes good care of this poor man she is negligent in her care.. put him in a nursing home if you’re not going to do your job properly
I agree with you 100% this was nothing but neglect. This man's feet have not been cleaned or cared for in what looks to be years. I think the doctor was amazing, but he really needs to report this because this elderly man is not being cared for whatsoever.
Oh my!!! The patients laugh at 15:55 just put pure joy into my soul!!! His laugh is pure orneriness!!! I bet he was a hoot during his hey days!!! Thank you, Dear Sir, for the wonderful moment of happiness that made me laugh really hard!!! It was much needed!!! Be blessed!!! Amazing job DOC!!! Amazing 🤩!!!
I heard that too. When she stated that "She's been his caregiver for 5yrs" I said that she's getting paid and isn't doing skin care at all. He needs a new caregiver with passion to love the dignity of who God created.
That’s exactly right. The way she said, “Every day?!” at one point made me cringe. Yes, moron, every freaking day. He can’t do it himself. If you can’t stand to do it, pay someone else to. Don’t just ignore growing problems.
Towards the end of this gentleman's procedure, you could tell that he was happy! He kept shaking his feet and moving them around! 😊✨️🙌 Great job Doctor!
When the Doc says she has to use foot powder everyday, the daughter is shocked! What does she do herself to keep her feet clean? Doesn’t she bathe everyday? Or dry her feet? How could she allow her dad’s feet get to this state?
That was the first thing I thought too!!! WTH does she do with her feet then? Does she not have kids? You gotta take care of them every day too. Jesus.
Again, we don't understand what people go through. Some people just literally do not know certain things. Instead of criticizing her or asking all the "how could she not know" questions, let's just praise this doctor for being there to teach them. I'm sure there's stuff you do that people would ask questions about, just because they don't have the same life experiences as you do.
I use to cut both my parents nails every two months, after every shower I would put lotion on their feet. They appreciated it so much. Your compassion shows by how you take care of your parents. Unfortunately there are very few who would even think of their discomforts and care enough to do something about it. Thank you for what you do.
Dr. You performed a miracle! Your patient care is that of a Saint! God bless you for giving this gentleman the care he so desperately needed! Best of health to this patient- prayers 🙏🏽
My daddy had Alzheimer and my mom and I took care of him for 5 years until he passed away. I bathed him 4 times a week, cut his nails, his hair, brushed and cleaned his mouth. My Mommy cooked and fed him. We NEVER NEVER would have let his feet get in that condition!! I was truly appalled by the sight of the poor man’s feet. We should always take care of our parents with love and patients.
I used to work in a retirement home and it kinda pisses me off when I hear caretakers complaining about doing there job. It reminds me of my old co-workers who would always do the bare minimum and would just be plain lazy. Some people just don't deserve to be around such vulnerable people. It's gross.
@@RD-vz6cc they were referring to the caregivers as gross, not the patient. The point was that a lot of ppl who worked with them didn't really give a crap about their patients. So yeah, if a professional caregiver is letting it get that bad, they need to be judged. They need a different job, one where they aren't putting people in danger or jeopardizing the health and well-being of their patients. SMH
The social worker at the nursing home my mom was at said they don’t do client’s nails. The podiatrist comes in to see them every so often (less with COVID) and that’s it. I am 2000 miles away and couldn’t do it for her. I even called around to local nail places and they wouldn’t go to nursing homes.
Hon, I'm 84 years old and trying to care for my 85-year-old husband when I can hardly reach my own feet. I have trouble changing the sheets. It takes me half a day because I have to do a little at a time and keep resting because it hurts my back. He's like a 2-year-old and I clean up after his messes and spills all day. He can't get into the tub. He won't change his own clothes. He has urinary incontinence, sometimes fecal. He won't wash himself. He doesn't want to change his socks or underwear, even his urine-soaked underwear. He asks me the same half dozen questions many times each day. He won't let me out of his sight. I can't even go to the bathroom without being called. Don't you get pissed off at me and others like me if things are not perfect around here. This is an old video, but 3 years later, your post still annoys me. I damn well will complain if I want to.
Great job treating this elderly gentleman’s feet. He has got to have felt better after you were done. Hope the family takes your advice on caring for his feet, and hoping the elderly man is willing to let them do it.
Congratulations. Thank you, Dr. Kevin for the video and many more videos. It's very sad when a person toe nails get very bad. Some doctors do not care about their patience. That happens when a person becomes elderly in some cases. Yes, toe jam holds an odor. That comes from not taking baths and hygiene. Home care providers can contribute to the problems also by not taking care of their problems and not caring. Thank you again for helping this elderly person. Everyone is greatly appreciated. Love always, Patricia ❤🎉😊
Doc you deserved "combat pay" on this job. I cannot even begin to imagine the strength of the odor from accumulated dirt between the toes. Good man and good job! I am rising in age now (69) and the need for a Doctor with the people skills you possess is important to me. You have a rich blessing for the service to man that you provide.
When did he last have a bath or shower? For her not to know how bad they were was what really shocked me. I know people with dementia can be stubborn, refusing to let you help. But if you're doing even just the bare minimum you'd know it was there. She has a husband who could help out, probably kids as well. I worked with dementia care patients - in a care home, as a visiting carer and as a live-in. They are so lucky coming to this doctor who did such a thorough but gentle job.
@@BakeryHobbit You can’t hold people down and force care. Patients always have the right to refuse. Other than reporting it to your management that they continually refuse or to family you can’t do anything more
@@Cynful033 Very true! I work at a nursing home in the dementia unit, and one man in particular refuses all the time..the ONLY way he will shower is if his wife is there..unfortunately she doesn’t visit him often…maybe once every 3 weeks..it’s sad…basically I have to try to get him to shower and ask several times, and if he refuses each time, I inform my nurse, she re asks him and then we document…it’s sad
You can tell the difference between the people that REALLY take care of their loved ones versus the ones that don't. My grandfather is 96 years old with dementia. We take VERY GOOD CARE OF HIM ON A DAILY & REGULAR BASIS. We make sure he's clean because WEEEEE keep him clean EVERYDAY. Even if he has a "bad day" and doesn't really wanna get in the tub or shower, we still, at the very least, wash him up. When you walk in the house, you WILL NOT smell urine or any foul odors that you tend to smell when you know a person isn't being taken care of. And to be honest with you, it's not a burden AT ALL to take care of my grandfather. It's actually very rewarding and a privilege to look after him. Every bath I give him, every diaper I change, every sheet I change if he had an "accident" during the night, every shave of his face I give him, every meal I prepare for him, and every kiss he gives me to THANK ME for taking care of him is my pleasure to do those things. Mabey it's easier for me to feel this way because I'm a very empathetic person & can't stand to see the elderly, the disabled, and kids being mistreated. I don't really know, but I DO KNOW that I'm happy to oblige in helping my grandfather with all of his needs.
@@laurieeyebee thank you so much! I don't know the position you're currently in, but if you're ever in need of assistance throughout your life, I hope & pray you have someone just as PATIENT, loving, caring, and empathetic as I am.
I really appreciate your non-judgmental tone when talking to both the patient and their caregiver. As a newly minted healthcare professional watching you work has been truly inspiring. Thank you for being patient communicative and educational for all involved.
That’s the worst case I’ve seen since watching your videos. This is years of neglect. I’m glad you got him together Dr. J. I know he feels a lot better!
Being an Air Force Veteran, (Medic), this interaction between Doctor, patient, and family member is very heartwarming indeed!! It is very apparent that you as a physician have a genuine investment with your patient’s care and well being. Truly an educational and inspirational video!! God Bless 🙏
You sir are a compassionate Doctor with great skill. Not many Md's are that way. Thank you for taking care of us old people. I am a retired pharmacist. Much respect, sir.
Because it represents a lack of hygiene and proper care. The toe nails are an infection that can be caught anywhere. I got it from dancing. But that skin- that’s neglect, plain and simple.
I really love the way you directly address the care issue without sounding like a pedantic teacher. I bet he went home and marveled at his refreshed feet for days.
I swear you are the best doctor I have ever seen. Seriously, Thank you! You never lose your cool, and stay very professional when telling the caretakers what they should be doing. As well as letting the patients know all the problems without making them feel embarrassed or self-conscious. And you treat all your patience equally from the homeless to the upper middle financial class. You do your job so thoroughly and perform miracles on feet that some other doctors might have given up on. You are truly amazing! It's too bad I'm not in the DC area or I would recommend everybody I know to you. -shout out from Chicago brother✌️
My Goodness Dr. Jefferson, that build up between this sweet little man's toes is unreal. That took a long time to get that much. I love his little chatter and talk while you are working on him. You have such a way with your patients they really trust you. He reminds me of my start in healthcare, I worked twenty years in long term care until the nineties. I loved it and my residents so much we were like one big extended family unlike today. Our elders deserve so much respect. I personally enjoyed the naughty ones because you could see changes in them with a little TLC. My heart went out to them and I will cherish all my memories, years and love I gave to and received from them (and a few smacks a long the way). I must admit...never did I soak any feet that had that kind of "toe jam" like you just cleaned out. Wow!!!!! You are the man!!! :)
After about 2 years of subscribing to this channel and watching it consistently, this is probably my favorite episode of all. The kindness and thorough work Dr. Jefferson does here is wonderful. I've also always had a soft spot in my heart for elderly people; they deserve all the respect and good care they can get. God bless you, Dr. J!
The man is definitely a credit to our species and his people. For younger generation its not as big an issue, but for an older black man with dementia Im sure it is very comforting to have someone who looks like him providing his care. That is why it is so important to have diversity amongst professions.
I remember my grandfather having dementia and Alzheimer's. We went through about 4 home health aides before we found 1 that he would accept. He ended loving that woman like she was family. He listened to her because she never got upset with him, but she was firm about the things he needed to do. To this day, her and my grandmother are still friends.
I really appreciate the Doc causally asking about the patient's other medical visits, ie "When did he last go to his primary care doc?". It seemed the doc was trying to see if the patient was being taken care of in other aspects.
My granny had dementia and I cared for her she would get upset with me doing her feet,but when the hospice nurse came she would let her do anything. As long as it got done I was happy
You are such a kind hearted doctor. You took the time to explain everything as you went along. His nails were shocking, especially between the toes. I was a caregiver myself, and understood completely when his daughter explained that her father isn't always cooperative. Thank you for giving her ideas on how to get around the different moods that her father may have day to day. Sometimes hour by hour. Very good advice. 😊
Incredibly kind doctor! He treated his patient with so much respect and very gently instructed the daughter on how to provide continuous footcare to her father in between appointments. He went above and beyond in caring for this patient, even giving him a foot massage with shea butter. What a class act!
@@titsmagee4469 Agreed she's a lazy cow and should be ashamed at the state of his feet. I just can't believe she was acting like she didn't know that cleaning his feet and between his toes was as important as cleaning everywhere else, is just ridiculous. So either she's cleaning everywhere, except his feet and toes or she's not cleaning and part of him properly I think it's the latter!
Wow… having that filth removed from his feet must have felt fantastic for that elderly man! Thank you for looking after him, and for your diplomatic approach to his carer.
Sounds like he's like your other patients when he's at home, and if they got bad enough to feel sensitive I can even sort of understand. He really took a shine to Dr Jefferson though. Did I hear him even cut in to say, "He knows what he's doing?" 🤣
I have been watching you for a while now and I have to say you must be one of the most caring people I have seen You treat all your clients with the utmost respect and dignity
Your patients are very lucky to have you as thier physician. You teach and explain, you do not admonish or embarrass your patients. I have to say I wish just one of my physicians had your respectful demeanor. Thank you for helping your patients and for teaching me how to care for my feet.
If that happened to me, I would leave them a bag of toe-jam and clippings from the dr. Put it in a fancy locked chest with money signs on the outside 😂😂
I really really appreciate the empathy and care you showed for the patient AND his caregiver, choosing to educate compassionately rather than scold. The research shows that shame never creates sustainable change. You just impacted both of their lives positively, I’m sure.
Bless You for taking care of his feet. I'm sure he feels much better. So sad to see our seniors health neglected. You can tell he was grateful when he told you, "you know what your doing."
He is hands down the most consistently thorough doctor of all the other doctors, as well, he is so respectful and sincere with his patients, especially the seniors, very diplomatic and just such a nice person.
This breaks my heart. I can’t listen to audio because I’d break my phone trying to reach out and connect with her face. If she’s not willing to care for him she needs to get him professional care. This is unacceptable.
I am humbled by your empathy, honesty and compassion for this situation. I believe that you made such a positive impact on both their lives. Loved how he was wiggling his feet at the end. You could see how much better he felt.
Your choice to inform his caretakers rather than scold, to express an understanding of the difficulties that can be a part of giving care and to educate them in proper care has no doubt made this patient’s life easier. Your sensitive approach is perfect. Thank you.
Beautiful observation and I couldnt agree more! 🌻🌻
He should have scolded her, she needed to be, what s crying SHAME.
I loved that discussion so much. Stealthily asking if she's is actually taking care (obviously not) of those poor feet. Turns out it's mostly him. You always have to be careful with that! Thank you for the right approach. I love the way you handle people, and your patients!
I agree.
Sugar is sweet and easy to take
We have to keep in mind that this guy is 90, which means his daughter is 70 taking care of him. Not easy when you are a senior yourself. Bless her heart. ❤
Ok I get it. But coming sense tell you you are the care giver aren't you helping with the activities of daily living? Washing daily? Aren't you checking his feet on the daily basis?
毎日とは言いませんが足を洗い綺麗にする必要がありますね 私も今年７７歳のおばあさんです 病気の後遺症もあり 足の爪を切るのは大変です でも少し伸びたら切る様に頑張ってますよ 左半身の麻痺と痛みがあるので右手だけは子供達に頼んでいます 7年目になりますが家事もしています 自分の出来る範囲でやっていきましょう
Have you ever dealt with
someone with dementia.
They don't always realise
they need help and will get argumentative and very emotional. It take a lot out you as a caregiver.
Sometimes you just have to pick your battles. 🤷🏼♀️
Which means it can easily be her NEXT Quick.. therefore
THE WAY SHE'S demeaning him and the WEAK STOMACH which is cray bcz she claims to work at a hospital..
This is so uhhhh idk imagine u sitting there depending on someone u raised and sacrifice for sitting there just😢😢
Stop being so fuckin' judgemental!! Being a caregiver is not easy. Especially when you are a seniorcitizenyourself. @estherkritharakis9443
Dr. Jefferson you made him so comfortable, he did not have a reason to fuss.
BRAVO
He started doing the "Happy Feet" at the end. So sweet!
@@tripdawkinsOkay buddy
Dear Dr Jefferson, I used to be a nurse and I think you're the best foot doctor I've ever seen. You're so kind and empathetic towards your patients and their families. My mum got Alzheiimer's disease and she died in 2017, so I know what it's like to care for a parent with dementia, and I've also worked in Aged Care facilities here in Melbourne, Australia. And I know it's not easy, but I felt so sorry for this elderly man in your video. I couldn't believe the amount of toe jam he had between his toes, not to mention everything else that was wrong with his poor feet. His daughter clearly needs help in looking after him, as it's impossible for one person to look after a parent with dementia. My dad and I used to bath my mother everyday - until the Alzheiimer's progressed to the stage where she had to go into a nursing home - and it was easy for us as there were two of us to do it together. I would bath my mother and then my dad could lift her out but obviously this man's daughter can't bath her father on her own, especially as she sounds like she's quite elderly herself. Is her father eligible for care in his home? I hope he gets the care he needs. You did a brilliant job of treating him, his feet looked so good and so much younger after you had finished, and he even seemed to be happy about it. 😀 Thank you for sharing this video with us. Cheers from Amanda Jones in Melbourne, Australia 👍❤ ❤ ❤
Someone his age would qualify for free in-home health aide for 4-8 hours/day.
There was over 1300 people watching PLEASE give the Dr a 👍🏾we all know how wonderful he is
Already did after seeing one of his videos a few weeks ago, he’s great👍👍
I agree 💯
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I can't believe how respectful the Doc was with the daughter-caregiver after she said, "I have to do that EVERY day?!?"
How in heavens name do people walk with all that crappie between their toes
This doctor is the kindest, most understanding and informed doctor I've come across in forever. He didn't try to embarrass these people he just wanted to help them. Kudos to this guy for his caring and respectful nature 💜
I agree with you 100% nice post LyJo5
If anyone has been a caregiver to a person with dementia it is a 24 hour a day job. My husband would sneak out of the house and try to steal farm machinery you name it. He never done this before. So I can understand how these things happen. I can imagine he wanted to help them and not humiliate them. God Bless you.
Cute woman.
I like how she's acting like it's not noticeable doesn't she recieve a paycheck to take care of him wow
@@wyleejensen3646 Most likely she does. The amount is not enough, but he's her father. I can't believe she said she DIDN'T want to clean between his toes. Wow.
The way the caregiver said "everday!!!" In regards to his daily hygienic needs and foot powder was extremely telling. She is overwhelmed and needs to hire a home health care aid 😢
she need get another job, cause she no dam good mane
Few caregivers are able to afford to hire home health care aides and it’s not free for most people.
It’s obvious that he didn’t get any foot care. It’s teetering on neglect. Poor fella.
It was! She annoyed me. Even if he wouldn’t let her touch his feet she should have taken him in to get cared for. His feet should never be this bad. You can tell the dr was dropping hints that she needs to be doing more. But respectfully of course. He’s amazing.
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Did anyone notice his feet dancing at the end? He was so relieved and grateful. My dad lived until he was 100, and we cared for him like we cared for ourselves. Not trying to judge his daughter bc i know caregiving is a difficult responsibility, but if you can't do it, then get someone else to do it or help you. This gentleman is a veteran, and there are services available for him. Get the help he needs and deserves. The transformation of his feet was exceptional.
I think that’s the point. Care for others the way you care for yourself. Granted if your toes looking sketchy too…🤷🏽♀️😭
I agree 💯 percent.
This may sound silly but I cried like a baby over this poor gentleman’s feet. I’m so glad that you were tactful but straight forward with the daughter. Although it is very difficult to be a caregiver for an individual with dementia.
Stay safe and God Bless
I did too.
It doesn't sound silly at all. My heart broke for this poor man, and his daughter - well, momma always said if you can't say something nice -. I would hope that maybe he can have a visiting nurse stop by at least once or twice a week. I spent 17 years care-giving for my parents, both who had Alzheimer's. It's a terribly difficult job, but when someone can't take care of themselves, you find a way to make it happen.
As a age care nurse it's very hard to look after a patient with dementia and it's heart breaking I used to cry but after a while it became second hand
I did, too!!
@@judithfarlow3326 Thanks for your honesty. Sunday down is a monster.
So glad to see that there was no breakdown of the skin under all that gunk. You have a gift, Dr. Jefferson.
When you took that chunk out between the pinkie toe, my face looked like shear terror....wow!!! 😲
Same!
I watch these videos all the time, but that chunk of toe jam from the pinkie toe was SHOCKING! How long did it take to get that massive!?
@@MeganVictoriaKearns prob the five years she has been taking care of him. Disgusting.
I've had toe jam but never nothing like this thank God...
My goodness 😳
Thank you for caring enough to clean his feet up. Wish all drs were so kindhearted! You are the best!
Wow, I don’t know if daughter was listening, make sure they schedule regular appointments!
That quiet “Thank you, sir” and the repeated “He knows what he’s doing” tells it all. Daddy’s in there, he’s just wrapped up by the dementia. Caring for your parent(s) can be extremely challenging, because in their eyes, we’re always their babies! The relief he must have felt when his toes were made new. Stay strong, daughter, and thank you for caring for your Daddy. 🌺
Give it a year or two. Dementia is a progressive disease so sooner than later he will lose himself completely. If he hasn't already. Like watching when my dog had cancer and just wasted away at 14 because she was too old to live through any surgery. And before anyone comments, my grandfather and uncle had dementia/alzheimers. And I can say 100% my grandfather was no longer there. Especially when the family decided to push him to get chemo at 81 for his stomach cancer. He suffered so badly and the chemo ended up shortening his life (big surprise there!). But I was honestly so glad to hear he passed. That had not been him since I was 11 (he died 2 years ago when I was 28) and he was diagnosed after a stroke. I lack empathy and rather take a more cynical but logical view. Or nihilist, I suppose. But I do not think I have ever cried or felt bad or been empathetic toward anyone except when I was rolling on some mdma, or toward animals. Anyway, it is a shame that families will push so hard to try to get someone to live just a few years longer by sacrificing their comfort. It is ALWAYS because people want to avoid grieving at any cost. So they will keep a loved ones body artificially working like a mindless tumor, just because they do not want to let go. It is selfish to make someone do that. My great grandmother died a few years back and was begging for at least 2 years before that to be brought to Oregon to be euthanized, but she did not have any chronic fatal diseases. She just didn't want to live without her husband and was done with this shithole people call life.
@@antwan3163 we KNOW. But gee whiz what a downer comment.
@@antwan3163Everyone progresses differently. They are always in there, however less and less able to escape and express. It’s a terrible disease for anyone to endure. You just gotta cherish the good days when they happen. And take the bad when they come. 🤷🏻♀️
@@alissabee5923 I agree 100 percent. They are always there.
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If she has a “thing” about feet, she should get him regular care from this doctor instead of neglecting foot care.
Absolutely
Her comment, he won't let her? I don't think she has really tried. Those feet are in horrible shape. Don't they know a care giver is responsible for his cleanliness and health? Who ever she is probably got an ugly look from the doctor. This is just insane!!
Wow, have any of you actually been a caretaker for an adult…for years? You only have so much energy and you have to pick your battles or you’ll wear out pretty quickly. This woman is not a young person. And you don’t know what her medical condition is.
She’s 90 years old and needs a caregiver herself, don’t judge if you haven’t been there, I’m a caregiver of a very sick husband and disabled myself, it is not easy. He has had a few diabetic sores and the doctors praised me fir what a great job I did helping him heal.
Yall stop making excuses for her poor neglect. Caregivers must have a treatment plan to ensure good health and hygiene. You don't just sit there and watch t.v. or feed your face. You work! This woman didn't want to do it! The doctor said she has to, every day. I wonder how much she gets paid for such poor care?
That looked like years of build up! Thank you for taking care of EVERTHING for this patient! You're the BEST!!
Was that dead skin
Absolutely , just lazy unhygienic , listen to her , lazy cow
@@mommish2403 Yep a build up of manky dead skin, it must have smelled horrendous.
It must be traumatic at times to be confronted with such degrading lack of care. I know you're a Doctor, but also a human being. You have my admiration and best wishes.
As a registered nurse I have never seen such uncared for feet. Thank you for cleaning him up and for caring for his skin as you did.
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The doctor tells the daughter to put foot powder every day and she says what if she is the one taking care of him she need to step up and do her job. I feel bad for the poor man he lets the doctor do his feet he would let her to if she would do it.
She gets paid to care for him
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@@SmokytheBear6969 I wouldn't call it care.
I am so glad that your patient didn't have any sores between his toes.
When she said “EVERYDAY” that’s what made me see she needs someone else to take care of him. It’s overwhelming for her to manage.
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His daughter can’t take care of him it’s best she just come to this realization these are the simple facts.
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She seems trifling bc she initially bragged about working for a drs office. She don't take care of this man at all.
He needs a care taker
THIS VIDEO NEEDS TO BE REQUIRED VIEWING FOR DOCTORS & NURSES! Your approach, and the way you assisted him while educating them was everything.
I will always remember shortly after I was diagnosed with asthma. I had an asthma attack, was brought to ER in an ambulance with my mother. First the nurses were nasty to the ambulance driver for not informing them they were coming to their location. After I got situated, My mother stepped out of the room to go to the bathroom, and The nurse was so nasty to me, because I didn’t know how to use a nebulizer, and had to come there so late. I thought i was dying, and then was made to feel like i was in their way, and the stupid scum of the earth. I told my mother years later, and she was so angry that i didn’t tell her then.
That's sad too.Ive had similar treatment read a bad head injury( fractured skull)..
Ones can have the knowledge but their needs to empathy...All who have been through such things...take care...😊
I am so very sorry that that happened to you!
You can tell that his feet feel so much better after being treated. He is wiggling his feet like a child does! Happy feet! 🦶🦶
This poor man!
I teared up when he thanked the Doctor. What a blessing you are. You can hear your frustration but you're respectful and kind to his daughter. You educated her without belittling her.
I didn’t hear any frustration. His tone was patient and kind the whole time
It's a woman not a man
@@susanbutton3348the patient was a man
Thank you for taking the time to clean up the nails! As a licensed cosmetologist its a huge pet peeve of mine to see podiatrists just cut away then leave dead skin & sharp jagged nails.
A lot of people who come to podiatriats are elderly or disabled & cant reach their own feet to clean them up. Jagged nails lead to catching on things & dead skin leads to more toenail issues including ingrowns.
I think these doctors that dont clean up think they are creating repeat patients... but thats not the case.
People return to those that actually care for them and do a good job!
Look how nice his feet looked afterwards. I took care of mother and father before they passed away. My dad had a stroke and was lying on his floor for three days before he was found. I remember bringing him home and had to take of him like a baby. I know he felt shameful that I had to do those things for him but I always assured him how much I loved him and I was returning the love and care he showed me as a child. I’m the baby of 11 children(6 girls and 5 boys) I had to learn how to shave him. What was shameful to me was that none of his sons cared enough to shave or bathe him. I wouldn’t change a thing, I’d do it again!
Thank goodness for your responsibility and caring for your dad. He needed you and you stepped up to do what needed to be done. Thanks to you! God Bless you.
That made me emotional
Bless ur heart, you will be rewarded for your kindness.
Bless your heart ❤❤❤❤
I know this is old, but I am touched by how well the doctor cared for his elderly patient, showing him dignity and great care as if it were his own loved one. Bless this man
Right and I'm bedridden nobody messes with my feet unless I want them to which is very seldom they hurt when you mess with them in the doctor understands that and frankly most doctors don't
Happy foot dance @ 27:10
I love the respect and compassion you have for not only the patient but to the caregivers, too! You didn’t come off as higher than thou. So she listened to you. Had you confronted or embarrassed her, she’d ignore anything you said. Another great job, sir😇
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Great bedside manners, Dr. But somebody should have been aware of the need to see a professional before it got that bad. Smh.
@@melissajackson6805I agree, but if the doctor alienates the caregivers, the patient’s life will not be improved.
If the doctor was a professional, he'd be calling the authorities after this one. That woman isn't not doing a good job as a caregiver. She isn't even helping to wash the guy's feet.
AMEN to that!! 🙂👍❤️
After an injury my grandad was declared brain dead. The Dr was demonstrating how they came to this diagnosis and the foot tickle test was one of them. Why I bring this up is the private joke my mom and i shared thru our tears. My grandad NEVER EVER let anyone see his feet. There was nothing wrong with them at all. I guess HE felt there was something wrong with them. You have a new sub. Your care and candor are a blessing. Plus I'm just kinda weird that I love this stuff anyways.
she said he fights her when she tries to do his feet but I didn't see him once pull away from you...I think he enjoyed it..but maybe it was because you're a doctor and he was just happy to be out of the house.
Could be because he was also a man. When she said, "Every day?", makes me wonder how her feet are. You take a shower/bath every day, do your feet too.
Or maybe she's never actually touched his feet.
She's not doing it. She annoyed me.
Yes I agree.
@Lark - I think her incredulous ‘every day?’ said it all!
This was quite distressing , between the toes looked like they were beginning to rot I’m so glad he could be helped.
I worked for a Podiatrist for 15 years and loved my job. I saw a lot of cases like this but never this bad. Thank you for your utmost care that you gave these gentlemen. You were patient, kind, thorough, tender and professional. That his caregivers would let it get to this point is a very sad thing. Talking to them the way you did was a great way to address the issue. We need more Doctors like you. I went into Dialysis after the Foot Dr but I will always remember my time there as humbling.
What agreat job.
With each passing year I learn that I cannot assume anything and I don’t know these people. That said, here are my impressions
- which don’t mean much.
1. This is 100 percent clear. This doctor should be recognized for his excellence in care. He did not demean or shame the caregiver. He gave clear instructions. He encouraged home health care. He suggested she get the most days of help possible.
2. She does not come across as a concerned caregiver and she appears to have lots of excuses. But if he’s 90, she’s 70. Some 70 year olds are still sprite. Other 70 year olds have dementia themselves and struggle to care for themselves let alone a 90 year old father.
3. My dad has dementia. I know what combative behavior in a dementia patient does and doesn’t look like. I also know each day is different. But this man was relaxed. He was making noises of being soothed and relief. He clearly loved how getting his feet done by the doctor felt. Since we don’t know the situation I am not comfortable blaming the daughter but but I think it’s far more likely that his care might be overwhelming to her. Perhaps whenever she tried she hurried through it, she wasn’t gentle enough, etc. Maybe because it was too much for her her technique suffered and his response was a result of that.
4. I cannot in good conscience blame her without knowing her and the situation but I can say that the amount of “toe jam” built up 100 percent indicated neglect of this poor man. It might merely be circumstantial. The daughter’s feet might look the same. Whatever the case, this man needs more personal assistance than he’s receiving. I hope arrangements can be made because at the end, he’s so clearly relieved. The man is rubbing the shea butter on and his nails and feet are clean and he’s moaning with satisfaction. It had to feel so good to him.
5. Without more information I don’t think we should attack the daughter, but I also hope people who can help them line up resources to get assistance with his care and potentially her care, too.
6. Again, kudos to the doctor who could not have been kinder, more thorough or more patient! ❤️
Your approach to the caregiver was subtle and brilliant. Much better choice than confrontational. You are always so caring with your clients. I don’t know why, but I like to watch these videos sometimes, and I like listening to the smooth jazz. Thanks for your instructions, I’ve learned much.
I don’t actually blame her as much as other people are because when I looked after my mom she was just like this. Every time we went to the doctor she was nice but when I tried to do things she wouldn’t cooperate. I would spend ages setting things up and she would end up firing anyone we got to help her. She wouldn’t even take showers near the end. Who knows what kind of relationship they had before. It’s very easy to sit back and criticize but it’s very hard to look after someone you are related to.
Yes! My grandmother has moderate stage dementia and whenever my mom takes her to her doctor she would be nice and almost put on a front as if nothing is wrong.
I don't blame her either. She said herself that he won't allow her to touch his feet or bathe him. One comment said they would do it while their parent is sleeping... Ummm not when they have dementia. That'll wind up being a very messed up situation, as someone without dementia just the thought of waking up to someone touching me is scary... I can only imagine how scary that would be for someone with dementia.
ABSOLUTELY Right!! Well stated Dear 👍🤗! Thank you.
Not brush their teeth
@@taylorwaylor8965 yes!! I understand so well. Mom acts like there is no pain or complaints... Then get her home, a different story. Grrrrrr
Your care of this gentleman's feet was amazing - the gentleness, caring, compassion & treating him with respect, was absolutely a pleasure to watch! On top of all that, being willing to share your personal experience as a caregiver to help his daughter deal with this difficult & horrible disease of dementia, was above & beyond the call of duty - not too many doctors would do that! I have so much respect for not only your skills as a doctor, your professionalism, 'bedside manner', but you as a human being above all! Keep on doing what you do best, helping the world one patient at a time, & don't ever change that wonderful caring attitude for each & every patient!!
Gg
Well said
Yes ma'am you're kind words and gentle touch are second to no one!!
Everyone always says he's gentle. I dunno but I always found him heavy handed.
I was my Mom's caregiver and she was always impeccable! People used to comment how beautifully dressed and groomed my Mom always was. I agree with another person's comment, negligence, down right elder abuse! AND I NOTICED AFTER YOU MANICURED AND CLEANED HIS FEET AND MOUSTURIZED THEM, HE WAS LOVING IT AND MOVING HIS FEET IN GRADITUDE AND THANK YOU TO YOU! LIKE OH THANK GOD! FINALLY!
But sometimes not….. my impeccable mother completely changed in her mid 90’s and dementia started to set in …..we have to make appointments for her to shower, get her hair done, get toes trimmed……
Everyone’s story or circumstances aren’t the same
every situation is different! a lot of elderly people especially with dementia can be very hostile to caregivers and caregiving and sometimes they have so many other things to deal with that some things fall to the side. i take great care of myself but sometimes i get busy with work and family and life that i can’t take the same time and attention to take care of myself at that level. we dont know whats going on in these people’s lives so we shouldn’t be making such big assumptions and judgements.
There is no way I would let my father's feet get to this condition! There is no excuse! She should be ashamed of herself!!! Thank you Dr. Jefferson for all that you do. God bless you.
God bless you, Dr. J., and bless this patient. My mother had dementia and wouldn’t let me near her feet.
My mom also had dementia and the only time I can cut her toenails or fingernails was when she was asleep taking a nap. Otherwise she would become angry and try to hit or bite me. She just didn’t understand & thought I was trying to cut her. Had to keep her fingernails short since she would eat with her hands sometimes or rub her eye & I didn’t want her nails to trap & transfer bacteria
Toe Bro has another favorite of mine to watch. Same bedside manner. Love you both. 💕
One thing I learned from lookin after my pops, you can't let them tell you what to do. You gotta do what you gotta do. Let them pout. You're lucky if you get a thank you. If you gotta be rough, get it done.
if only my mom had pouted. she was 5 ft tall and weighed less than 100 lbs. one day she wanted me to leave her alone. i was trying to get her dressed for a dr’s appointment. she balled up her little bony fists, hit me w/a left and drew blood!
@@joycedavis9996 im so sorry you went through that! it seems like you were just trying to help 😕
Exactly, just like with kids, hygiene is not up for discussion
Yes but some dementia patients can get violent, it's not always so easy to care for them. :(
I think you are the only foot doc that actually takes the time to make the nails look their absolute best instead of just cutting them off!!❤❤
Dr. Jefferson’s bedside manner is exemplary. I love to watch him care for the feet of the elderly. Surely his kindness, patience, and expertise is a gift from God. Thank you for sharing.
To those who are complaining that the daughter is uncaring please consider this: the doctor stated that Daddy was 90 years old which means that if he had his daughter at 20 years old, she would be 70 years old herself. If she isn’t in the best of health herself, it would be a challenge to take care of his needs. Sometimes people need help. I can’t help but wonder if those who are scolding would have been willing to care for his feet if daughter couldn’t physically bend.
Wow, I actually didn't think of it like that. Thank you, because honestly I thought she had definitely neglected him but after this comment I'm understanding a lot more.
@unicornmadness6286 plus on top of that it's his daughter. He may not be putting up a fight because it's a doctor. It's his senior daughter who has ro take care of him. It takes a lot of humility to want to ask for that kind of help from their kid in any case. Caretaker fatigue is a real thing, and takes a toll on people half her again. If she's a senior as well, her health isn't the best to be taking care of another senior who needs a lot of help.
Doc, you did an absolutely wonderful job on this elderly patient.
Your kind, smooth and reassuring voice and attitude, puts you miles ahead of your group of medical professionals.
Plus the fact that you have experienced first hand at being a caregiver and at such a young age.
Thank you for what you do.
@michelehawkins7440 I agree 100%! 🙂
Morgan Freeman of the pediatrist
Dr. you not only did an amazing job on his feet, but you also subtlety asked about all other aspects of his home care & medical care. Thank you for what you do & how you do it! I'm in Southern Maryland BTW & take care of my 89 year old Dad, along with my daughter & 3 teenage granddaughters, & my husband who takes him to at least half of his Dr appointments. I take him to the podiatrist every 10-12 weeks to help keep his feet in good condition.
Dr. Jefferson is an artist! The gentleness he treated this gentleman with is lovely. He made such a huge difference in this man's comfort & life.
I like how he gave the daughter advice instead of just getting mad like most of the comments. It really is hard caring for someone with dementia and what you see at the doctor's is not what you see at home. This is the daughter, not a professional, doing unpaid work on top of everything else, it can't be easy. Of course I hope she or someone will take care of the feet better but let's not judge too hard for having neglected them.
My Mum was a bit disabled plus dementia, every week I made pedicure and manicure, and every day I washed her. And cooked. I was lucky to have the time to do so and it made her so happy and comfortable. It was exhausting, but I guess it was also exhausting for her when I was a child. The circle of life.
Girl didn't even know why he couldn't walk 🤦♀️ she knew ....just didn't want to touch them, don't blame her ...but damn ...take him to the doctor sooner!
Doc you are the best. This is the worse I've ever seen. I love how you don't scold the family, but he needed intervention prior to your visit. This is as nice as I can say it, without being judgemental. Thank GOD you're available for our DC elderly. GOD bless you!
You are a good man with a big heart and a great podiatrist. Your "bedside manner" is excellent and i praise you for not being judgemental. Your patients and their families are fortunate to have you caring for them.
I really enjoy Dr Jefferson's videos. In my opinion he enjoys caring for his patients and teaching them how to maintain their feed properly
I don't care if they fuss and cuss I'm going to get thm finger nails and toenails. I had to do it for my Aunt because she didn't want anyone touching her hands or feet. But she got thm done.
My dad used to sit on the floor with my disabled brother on his lap and Dad would wrap around brother like an anaconda trying to kill its prey. It was the only way to trim hair nails. But damn it, it got done regularly!
Agree
If he was combative with her, as my mom was with me, she could cause injury to fight him. However, she should bring him to the podiatrist as often as his insurance allows.
I don’t care what anyone says! This was straight up negligent! I cared for my mother and she fought me everyday putting lotion on, clipping her nails, cleaning her feet…..but damn it, it was done because she deserved the best care! My heart breaks for this man!😢
Totally agree.. it’s no way she takes good care of this poor man she is negligent in her care.. put him in a nursing home if you’re not going to do your job properly
100 percent agree !
I agree, totally!!!
That's right! You might have to keep talking your way through to do it but you do it. I feel so bad for him 😔
I agree with you 100% this was nothing but neglect. This man's feet have not been cleaned or cared for in what looks to be years. I think the doctor was amazing, but he really needs to report this because this elderly man is not being cared for whatsoever.
Oh my!!! The patients laugh at 15:55 just put pure joy into my soul!!! His laugh is pure orneriness!!! I bet he was a hoot during his hey days!!! Thank you, Dear Sir, for the wonderful moment of happiness that made me laugh really hard!!! It was much needed!!! Be blessed!!! Amazing job DOC!!! Amazing 🤩!!!
A soft bristle toothbrush helps to remove built up dead skin as well. Very helpful for between the toes and the areas around the toenail.
Thanks for the great tip
In this mans case a tooth brush won’t help. He needs a wire brush and a Dremel Tool🙂
Good idea. Thanks.
Some one took terrible care of this person. Or he was too lazy to soak them
Terrible. Dr did awesome nob
You can hear in her reaction that she won't be caring for his feet every day. That is years of build up right there.
I heard that too. When she stated that "She's been his caregiver for 5yrs" I said that she's getting paid and isn't doing skin care at all. He needs a new caregiver with passion to love the dignity of who God created.
I was thinking the same thing, sad.
That’s exactly right. The way she said, “Every day?!” at one point made me cringe. Yes, moron, every freaking day. He can’t do it himself. If you can’t stand to do it, pay someone else to. Don’t just ignore growing problems.
My thought as well. "Everyday!" don't you bathe everyday?? Wash your dads feet!
No she ain't gonna take care of him. She hasn't done it for 5 yrs, she ain't gonna do it now. She ought to be ashamed.
I have never seen toe jam this thick....like ever. 🥴😳
It's almost unbelievable how much gunk there was!
Yeah this was a TREAT!
@@Black0bsidian ABSOLUTELY!!
@@Black0bsidian that was also neglect!!!
I have never seen toe jam!!! I am amazed and appalled.😧😲😉
Look how nice his feet look after your TLC!! He has been SEVERELY NEGLECTED!!
Towards the end of this gentleman's procedure, you could tell that he was happy! He kept shaking his feet and moving them around! 😊✨️🙌 Great job Doctor!
Because he found some sensitivity dummy
I bet he was saying to himself, "Look at my pretty feet"!
When the Doc says she has to use foot powder everyday, the daughter is shocked! What does she do herself to keep her feet clean? Doesn’t she bathe everyday? Or dry her feet? How could she allow her dad’s feet get to this state?
For real! I could never do that to my dad.
The answer is NO, she doesn’t do anything for herself. SMH, right?
That was the first thing I thought too!!! WTH does she do with her feet then? Does she not have kids? You gotta take care of them every day too. Jesus.
Yeah, I was thinking the same thing when she said "every day!", I was like WTF lady 🤬
Again, we don't understand what people go through. Some people just literally do not know certain things. Instead of criticizing her or asking all the "how could she not know" questions, let's just praise this doctor for being there to teach them. I'm sure there's stuff you do that people would ask questions about, just because they don't have the same life experiences as you do.
I use to cut both my parents nails every two months, after every shower I would put lotion on their feet. They appreciated it so much. Your compassion shows by how you take care of your parents. Unfortunately there are very few who would even think of their discomforts and care enough to do something about it. Thank you for what you do.
Dr. You performed a miracle! Your patient care is that of a Saint! God bless you for giving this gentleman
the care he so desperately needed!
Best of health to this patient- prayers 🙏🏽
My daddy had Alzheimer and my mom and I took care of him for 5 years until he passed away. I bathed him 4 times a week, cut his nails, his hair, brushed and cleaned his mouth. My Mommy cooked and fed him. We NEVER NEVER would have let his feet get in that condition!! I was truly appalled by the sight of the poor man’s feet. We should always take care of our parents with love and patients.
Well said !
Patience* ☺️
Agreed..i took care pf my dad for a year bfor he psdded..no way in hell would this happen
Be thankful that your dad was cooperative. My mom was not. She would kick, bite, scratch and scream.
It appears this was years of neglect.
I used to work in a retirement home and it kinda pisses me off when I hear caretakers complaining about doing there job. It reminds me of my old co-workers who would always do the bare minimum and would just be plain lazy. Some people just don't deserve to be around such vulnerable people. It's gross.
You don’t know the whole story. Stop judging
@@RD-vz6cc they were referring to the caregivers as gross, not the patient. The point was that a lot of ppl who worked with them didn't really give a crap about their patients. So yeah, if a professional caregiver is letting it get that bad, they need to be judged. They need a different job, one where they aren't putting people in danger or jeopardizing the health and well-being of their patients. SMH
The social worker at the nursing home my mom was at said they don’t do client’s nails. The podiatrist comes in to see them every so often (less with COVID) and that’s it. I am 2000 miles away and couldn’t do it for her. I even called around to local nail places and they wouldn’t go to nursing homes.
I bet she knows the story by heart. I do. I work in healthcare and elder abuse/neglect is rampant.
Hon, I'm 84 years old and trying to care for my 85-year-old husband when I can hardly reach my own feet. I have trouble changing the sheets. It takes me half a day because I have to do a little at a time and keep resting because it hurts my back. He's like a 2-year-old and I clean up after his messes and spills all day. He can't get into the tub. He won't change his own clothes. He has urinary incontinence, sometimes fecal. He won't wash himself. He doesn't want to change his socks or underwear, even his urine-soaked underwear. He asks me the same half dozen questions many times each day. He won't let me out of his sight. I can't even go to the bathroom without being called. Don't you get pissed off at me and others like me if things are not perfect around here. This is an old video, but 3 years later, your post still annoys me. I damn well will complain if I want to.
Great job treating this elderly gentleman’s feet. He has got to have felt better after you were done. Hope the family takes your advice on caring for his feet, and hoping the elderly man is willing to let them do it.
I don't think the gentleman daughter even tried to do it he never tried to pull away once when doctor was doing it..
I was in awe when I saw his feet. You are amazing. Thank you for caring so much 💗 💓 💖 blessings.
Congratulations. Thank you, Dr. Kevin for the video and many more videos. It's very sad when a person toe nails get very bad. Some doctors do not care about their patience. That happens when a person becomes elderly in some cases. Yes, toe jam holds an odor. That comes from not taking baths and hygiene. Home care providers can contribute to the problems also by not taking care of their problems and not caring. Thank you again for helping this elderly person. Everyone is greatly appreciated. Love always, Patricia ❤🎉😊
Great job! Thank you. The feet's look fine. Love always, Patricia ❤😊
Doc you deserved "combat pay" on this job. I cannot even begin to imagine the strength of the odor from accumulated dirt between the toes. Good man and good job! I am rising in age now (69) and the need for a Doctor with the people skills you possess is important to me. You have a rich blessing for the service to man that you provide.
I don't like to do much 🙄 that much is obvious. The neglect of this man is sickening.
When did he last have a bath or shower? For her not to know how bad they were was what really shocked me. I know people with dementia can be stubborn, refusing to let you help. But if you're doing even just the bare minimum you'd know it was there. She has a husband who could help out, probably kids as well. I worked with dementia care patients - in a care home, as a visiting carer and as a live-in. They are so lucky coming to this doctor who did such a thorough but gentle job.
@@BakeryHobbit You can’t hold people down and force care. Patients always have the right to refuse. Other than reporting it to your management that they continually refuse or to family you can’t do anything more
@@Cynful033 Very true! I work at a nursing home in the dementia unit, and one man in particular refuses all the time..the ONLY way he will shower is if his wife is there..unfortunately she doesn’t visit him often…maybe once every 3 weeks..it’s sad…basically I have to try to get him to shower and ask several times, and if he refuses each time, I inform my nurse, she re asks him and then we document…it’s sad
combat pay x 2 .... it's ridiculous how his family never bothered to help him
You can tell the difference between the people that REALLY take care of their loved ones versus the ones that don't. My grandfather is 96 years old with dementia. We take VERY GOOD CARE OF HIM ON A DAILY & REGULAR BASIS. We make sure he's clean because WEEEEE keep him clean EVERYDAY. Even if he has a "bad day" and doesn't really wanna get in the tub or shower, we still, at the very least, wash him up. When you walk in the house, you WILL NOT smell urine or any foul odors that you tend to smell when you know a person isn't being taken care of. And to be honest with you, it's not a burden AT ALL to take care of my grandfather. It's actually very rewarding and a privilege to look after him. Every bath I give him, every diaper I change, every sheet I change if he had an "accident" during the night, every shave of his face I give him, every meal I prepare for him, and every kiss he gives me to THANK ME for taking care of him is my pleasure to do those things. Mabey it's easier for me to feel this way because I'm a very empathetic person & can't stand to see the elderly, the disabled, and kids being mistreated. I don't really know, but I DO KNOW that I'm happy to oblige in helping my grandfather with all of his needs.
God Bless you sweetheart. Folks who care for others are the greatest blessing, and not appreciated enough, Thank You.
God bless you and your family. Thank God your grampa has you
@dagobilly6043 thank you very much.
I wish I had someone like you!!
@@laurieeyebee thank you so much! I don't know the position you're currently in, but if you're ever in need of assistance throughout your life, I hope & pray you have someone just as PATIENT, loving, caring, and empathetic as I am.
He’s not jumping cause he’s so grateful that you, a stranger care about him.
I really appreciate your non-judgmental tone when talking to both the patient and their caregiver. As a newly minted healthcare professional watching you work has been truly inspiring. Thank you for being patient communicative and educational for all involved.
That’s the worst case I’ve seen since watching your videos. This is years of neglect. I’m glad you got him together Dr. J. I know he feels a lot better!
Being an Air Force Veteran, (Medic), this interaction between Doctor, patient, and family member is very heartwarming indeed!! It is very apparent that you as a physician have a genuine investment with your patient’s care and well being. Truly an educational and inspirational video!! God Bless 🙏
That poor man. He must feel so much better. I'm so thankful that there are caring people like this foot doctor to help people.
You sir are a compassionate Doctor with great skill.
Not many Md's are that way.
Thank you for taking care of us old people.
I am a retired pharmacist.
Much respect, sir.
Did you notice how he was kinda doing a happy dance with his feet? I think he gives your care, 2 thumbs up 👍🏿
For some reason...the stuff in between the toes grosses me out more than the nail fungus. Poor guy!
It hurts so GOOD ,for me, hated to see it, but I enjoyed it.
Looks like mushrooms
insane
Because it represents a lack of hygiene and proper care. The toe nails are an infection that can be caught anywhere. I got it from dancing.
But that skin- that’s neglect, plain and simple.
The toe jam was worse than the nails except the fungal nails
I really love the way you directly address the care issue without sounding like a pedantic teacher. I bet he went home and marveled at his refreshed feet for days.
I swear you are the best doctor I have ever seen. Seriously, Thank you! You never lose your cool, and stay very professional when telling the caretakers what they should be doing. As well as letting the patients know all the problems without making them feel embarrassed or self-conscious. And you treat all your patience equally from the homeless to the upper middle financial class. You do your job so thoroughly and perform miracles on feet that some other doctors might have given up on. You are truly amazing! It's too bad I'm not in the DC area or I would recommend everybody I know to you.
-shout out from Chicago brother✌️
My Goodness Dr. Jefferson, that build up between this sweet little man's toes is unreal. That took a long time to get that much. I love his little chatter and talk while you are working on him. You have such a way with your patients they really trust you. He reminds me of my start in healthcare, I worked twenty years in long term care until the nineties. I loved it and my residents so much we were like one big extended family unlike today. Our elders deserve so much respect. I personally enjoyed the naughty ones because you could see changes in them with a little TLC. My heart went out to them and I will cherish all my memories, years and love I gave to and received from them (and a few smacks a long the way). I must admit...never did I soak any feet that had that kind of "toe jam" like you just cleaned out. Wow!!!!! You are the man!!! :)
Your are a earthly angel!!!
After about 2 years of subscribing to this channel and watching it consistently, this is probably my favorite episode of all. The kindness and thorough work Dr. Jefferson does here is wonderful. I've also always had a soft spot in my heart for elderly people; they deserve all the respect and good care they can get. God bless you, Dr. J!
The man is definitely a credit to our species and his people. For younger generation its not as big an issue, but for an older black man with dementia Im sure it is very comforting to have someone who looks like him providing his care. That is why it is so important to have diversity amongst professions.
Yes
@rsktransport VERY well said! 🙂👍❤️
I remember my grandfather having dementia and Alzheimer's. We went through about 4 home health aides before we found 1 that he would accept. He ended loving that woman like she was family. He listened to her because she never got upset with him, but she was firm about the things he needed to do. To this day, her and my grandmother are still friends.
I really appreciate the Doc causally asking about the patient's other medical visits, ie "When did he last go to his primary care doc?". It seemed the doc was trying to see if the patient was being taken care of in other aspects.
My granny had dementia and I cared for her she would get upset with me doing her feet,but when the hospice nurse came she would let her do anything. As long as it got done I was happy
You are such a kind hearted doctor. You took the time to explain everything as you went along. His nails were shocking, especially between the toes. I was a caregiver myself, and understood completely when his daughter explained that her father isn't always cooperative. Thank you for giving her ideas on how to get around the different moods that her father may have day to day. Sometimes hour by hour. Very good advice. 😊
Incredibly kind doctor! He treated his patient with so much respect and very gently instructed the daughter on how to provide continuous footcare to her father in between appointments. He went above and beyond in caring for this patient, even giving him a foot massage with shea butter. What a class act!
The daughters not gonna do a damn thing sadly
@@titsmagee4469 Agreed she's a lazy cow and should be ashamed at the state of his feet. I just can't believe she was acting like she didn't know that cleaning his feet and between his toes was as important as cleaning everywhere else, is just ridiculous. So either she's cleaning everywhere, except his feet and toes or she's not cleaning and part of him properly I think it's the latter!
@@titsmagee4469
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Oh I know...AWESOME DR!!!!!
This doctor is top notch! Kind, compassionate, informative, helpful 👍
The gentleman may not know why his feet are so comfortable now, but what a blessed difference!
Wow… having that filth removed from his feet must have felt fantastic for that elderly man! Thank you for looking after him, and for your diplomatic approach to his carer.
I have to say he is behaving very well for a dementia patient. The ones i worked with did not like me to clean their feet at all.
Sounds like he's like your other patients when he's at home, and if they got bad enough to feel sensitive I can even sort of understand. He really took a shine to Dr Jefferson though. Did I hear him even cut in to say, "He knows what he's doing?" 🤣
I think he truly appreciated it. 🙏
Great Dr. Very compassionate. Does the best work of any of the foot professionals on UA-cam.
That precious man is a Veteran. Thank you Dr. Jefferson for taking excellent care of his feet.
I have been watching you for a while now and I have to say you must be one of the most caring people I have seen
You treat all your clients with the utmost respect and dignity
Your patients are very lucky to have you as thier physician. You teach and explain, you do not admonish or embarrass your patients. I have to say I wish just one of my physicians had your respectful demeanor. Thank you for helping your patients and for teaching me how to care for my feet.
7:50 you can tell by her demeanor and how she said "EVERY DAY?!" that she's so overwhelmed. She needs to hire home care with Medicaid
I already told my kids if my feet get like this My second call after the doctor will be to my lawyer. I am leaving them Nothing .
If that happened to me, I would leave them a bag of toe-jam and clippings from the dr. Put it in a fancy locked chest with money signs on the outside 😂😂
@@bumpasaurus487 😂😂😂
I really really appreciate the empathy and care you showed for the patient AND his caregiver, choosing to educate compassionately rather than scold. The research shows that shame never creates sustainable change. You just impacted both of their lives positively, I’m sure.
Bless You for taking care of his feet. I'm sure he feels much better. So sad to see our seniors health neglected. You can tell he was grateful when he told you, "you know what your doing."
He is hands down the most consistently thorough doctor of all the other doctors, as well, he is so respectful and sincere with his patients, especially the seniors, very diplomatic and just such a nice person.
This breaks my heart. I can’t listen to audio because I’d break my phone trying to reach out and connect with her face. If she’s not willing to care for him she needs to get him professional care. This is unacceptable.
And I bet your hit wouldn’t land. Who are you to promote VIOLENCE of a stranger?
@@Mrszhersheyy you sound dumb. She deserves it for this neglect and abuse. Hopefully you never cared for an elder.
I am humbled by your empathy, honesty and compassion for this situation. I believe that you made such a positive impact on both their lives. Loved how he was wiggling his feet at the end. You could see how much better he felt.
Dr you are a good man. I am a retired nurse that was neglect. Poor man. Thankyou Dr you will be blessed. ❤❤❤❤❤
Thank for your caring, no judgemental way of taking care of these folks!