Transforming my stressful messy kitchen into a happy haven!
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- Опубліковано 28 тра 2024
- In this video, I address an issue in the kitchen that has been affecting me for a good few weeks now! We work on making it a cozy, happy space again!
The two accounts I mentioned are @GabrieleRandone and @HouseOfHighbrations
You’re too hard on yourself..it’s such a breath of fresh air to finally see a real woman taking care of her home with real and raw footage…well done..🎉🎉🎉
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Thank you Linda, I couldn’t have said it better. She is so precious, love her to pieces. You are my hero Remi.
You're helping give me hope for my own cleaning & decluttering, and I think you're getting better at it too!
She amazing sick of “influencers” who just pretend their homes are perfect and they constantly plug crap from shops ! Remi is the sort of girl you’d be lucky to call a friend x
Well said Linda!
Oh, Remi. As a grandparent who spoils her grandchildren, I can see my daughter in your struggle to keep up with all of your childrens' stuff, especially toys. My daughter never asked me to limit their gifts because she feels the same way you do. But one day we were talking, and she was mentioning how difficult it is to keep up with a toddler, a baby, a job, and a house. She was exasperated by how many toys the boys had. I understood her struggle, so I mentioned limiting the gifts myself. She was so grateful she didn't have to say anything. Now I limit myself to giving each of the boys one gift THEY choose, and an annual membership to their local zoo. I also suggested that her and her toddler son go through his toys and find toys that can be gifted to other kids. Daycares, churches, community centers, pediatricians offices all love receiving good quality toys.
Really good ideas here! 😊
Hugs, what a lovely family.
You are only one person ❤ one. But set up a challenge for your whole family of putting coats and boots away when you get home. That will stop the pile. ❤. It works but someone has to take the lead. You be the boss and make the babies help. ❤
Love your channel and wish you all the best all the time. ❤
Good move! Very practical & helpful ❤
Good job grandma. Can i suggest some other options? I've asked if the grandparents could stop buying gifts and instead, like for their birthday, take that grandchild on a dinner date. They actually love quality time more than anything. Making memories like that will be remembered and cherished forever. Whereas toy's will eventually get tossed. ❤
Ask the grandparents to limit to one present and then add to a savings account for college fund for later.
That’s another good idea, we have junior ISAs for the boys, and my grandparents always gift money for their savings 😊
It would be great for you to set some firm boundaries with grandparents . I’m a grandparent and I always check with parents first . It’s respectful to them . I like the limit you set of two and be honest about the anxiety it causes you. This is your life, and the only opinion that counts is yours. Especially as the Mama. They’ll get over whatever issue they have . You are keeper of the keys to the grandchildren kingdom. You’re in charge!
Hi all, im in the same boat as we probably all are with the cleaning,(mum of 3 boys) 16-10-7
I ask family/friends for vouchers towards days out for Xmas presents as for birthday they have money to save or spend on their computers things like that.
It knocked me sick 2 years I was sorting the boys rooms out their black hole under thie beds ,I found unopened, new toys that I was stressing about buying for them all year saving just for them to play on their computers(lonely computer mum) but as long as the kids are happy and safe. I don’t mind.
I give all the toys to charity to little kids that need its or to people I no that have children, iv even given presents to the local dog walkers for thier grandchildren.
and when asked what boys wants for presents, funds towards days out or gaming cards. Or just a keep sake even if it’s a home made drawing something, if it’s thoughtful gift is better then unopened toys that other Children could have. My lesson was learnt and family days out full of memories were created. Xxxx
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I agree with some of the other comments. I would start asking for "experience" gifts like a voucher to a children's museum, or consumables like snacks, clothes etc.
This comment is not meant in any way to judge you or anyone. When my four kids were growing up, we set a rule that any new toys coming in had to "replace" a toy they had already. They got to choose which you was going to be donated to the children's wing at the hospital. I had no room either. When the kids got a bit older, like 6 and up, I encouraged family and friends to contribute to the kids college fund instead of toys they lost interest in after a few weeks. Just sharing what worked for me.i enjoy watching your videos and like listening to your accent 😊
I am confounded by haters as there is absolutely nothing about you to hate! You're adorable and I enjoy your videos so much. Thanks for sharing your life with us! ❤
Agree...there's absolutely zilch to hate!
She's so embarrassed but puts it on youtube? Her whole family are like this, it's so weird!
I think it’s great that there are normal people on here with messy homes.
@@sharonrobinson1031 And sometimes doing stuff with your kids is more important than housework too!
Well done! I am a Grandma, living in Switzerland having my only granddaughter living in Sydney, Australia. So I felt a big desire to compensate my "not being present physically often" ( only once a year) with gifting typically Swiss toys, clothes and choclat. But then I noticed during our twice a weekly videocalls, that she likes most, when I am singing or telling her stories and childrens verses in swiss german. So I send her regularly videos I record with my cell phone, telling her stories with four Finger puppets. She loves it and my songs and stories do not need physical space. Just an idea, how you can make a gift to your child, grandchild, niece or whatever. Love. Eva
I'm just a mum reading this but I just wanted to say that's so beautiful and I think that's such a lovely thing to do for your granddaughter ❤
What a lovely grandma ❤
I love this!! You're a special grandma!❤
Eva, that is absolutely brilliant! ❤ Such a special treasure!
This is so lovely, I'm welling up!
My future granddaughter in law came up with a brilliant solution this past Christmas. Instead of getting her daughters things as gifts, she asked that people consider giving them experiences. The girls are having so much fun doing things together and separately with grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins, all the while building memories with them. And no clutter!
That’s a really good idea! My children are grown and live far away. And a lot of my friends have kids or grandkids and are busy with them. But maybe some kind of soul come along and gift me some help in the house! I still have plenty to be grateful for. And I still make a difference in this world. Even if I don’t get around too well, or my house might stay a mess! Blessed among thorns is what I say! And there’s always so someone who has it worse, and yet I can always count my blessings, no matter how many trials I have!
As a child free auntie I can’t wait till their old enough for auntie movie nights and sleep overs and trips to places! I much rather be a person they can come to with anything and know we can have fun!
Breaking down gift giving is a FANTASTIC idea. Grandparents can easily do 1 toy, 1 adventure, 1 savings deposit, and/or 1 clothing item. I would still feel like I was spoiling a child by being able to contribute to all of those
You are such a beautiful wee soul, hope you realise how many many people you are helping, thank you so so much, gorgeous girl, god bless you love, Lynette Belfast x
As a granny who loves spoiling her grandkids, i limit myself to one toy i know they want and then contribute to school uniforms, shoes etc. The kids are happy and it helps the parents who are feeling the effects of the financial crisis.
Keeping at what you are doing! You’re definitely doing a great job.
Less is more , you’ll be more relaxed and less stress on you.
Thank you, I do hope so! 🤞🏼
I need to clean but first, a dose of Remi to get me motivated! Thank you for everything you do and for bringing light and love and a friendly presence to the world ❤
Remi! This is so refreshing! I have just been told off by a Mod of a fresian horse channel that has nearly 400k subs (and don't ask me why I'm subscribed as I'm really not a horse person at all 😂). I had mentioned another friesian horse channel a few times in comments as I thought people who watched the first one might like it and it's only got about 8k subscribers at the moment. I was asked (albeit very nicely) to desist. It really really upset me as I didn't understand why there would be competition. It wasn't like all 400k viewers were suddenly going to move over to the other channel. So then I thought there must be some unwritten rule I wasn't aware of about doing this and now I hear you recommending another cleaning channel!! This has really made my day - thank you for your generosity ❤❤❤❤
Wow!! If there is an unwritten rule it’s not something I’m aware of!! I love recommending other channels. It was good of you to try in those comments ❤️ also, I love that you’re not a horse person but you watch horse channels, that’s SOO funny, and definitely something I would do when I get a random obsession 😂
@@remiclogthanks Remi I do feel a bit better about it now and yes it's got so mad that I keep thinking of booking in for something called a stable stay at the 2nd one which is only an hour from me. It's where you stay for a night with a horse in the same room (barrier between) or going to help them muck out. I would absolutely hate it but I'm so into the channel I forget 😂😂
Magical update yet again. Thanks for the sunshine you bring.
Sweetheart...You are wise beyond your years...never change. ❤ Give yourself some grace when things get out of hand. I'm chasing seventy years old, it's just me and the hubby and i'm still trying to get it right.
I have 3 boys. I had no choice but to tell their grandparents to give gift certificates. So many things for gift certificates; a movie and popcorn...a pair of shoes...school supplies...video game...computer accessories. I had so so so many "toy boxes" and every holiday season I had to buy another toy box. After 7 or 8 years, I lost my mind! I told them, just gift certificates or we can make a day of it as a gift. So many events for the holidays. We used to visit the Rockefeller Center Christmas Tree or see a parade. Afterwards a nice dinner out. It was a perfect gift...the gift of memories...as a family...something that will be remembered for a long time.
I was having the same issue with so much stuff. Mine are older now and I’ve asked family and friends to gift experiences rather than stuff. We’ve had memberships to the zoo. Safari park. Bird sanctuary. They also gift spending money for days out. People have been very receptive to it. We send the photos when we’re out and about and they seem to love that. When family see how much it pleases you and the children they’ll love doing it I’m sure.😊
We appreciate you too, my dear! Don’t worry about all the haters, you have so many people that love you you’re doing a great job.
Remi, speaking as a childless person, over 40, who has a lot of honorary nieces and nephews, believe me when I say gift buying guidance from their parents is never interpreted as controlling or ungrateful. The only exception for me would be if a parent demanded very expensive things or was otherwise rude about it. I generally appreciate the help because I don't know all the things children enjoy or what they might need at any specific time. And I don't want to burden their parents with more clutter and chaos. I also agree that children now have so many things. It's a blessing because they're well provided for, but it contributed to less ability to appreciate what they do have, shorter attention spans, and more focus things rather than on the blessing of being loved to the point of receiving gifts. When I was young it was common to receive one, maybe two "fun" gifts at Christmas, and anything else was something you needed (like a pair of shoes or new pillows). We were so excited by everything because we weren't receiving tons of things all the time.
I’m a new grandparent and we always say “it’s a grandparent privilege to treat grandkids but please donate if duplicated by the other grandparent or if grandchild not bothered” win win either way x
You sound like a fabulous grandparent, and parent! 😊
@@remiclog amber great grandmother Jean don't care about her
What a lovely kitchen you have, and the flowers are the icing on the cake. Eating every meal (breakfast, lunch and dinner) at the table is something we always do, and when the kids got home from school we had drinks at the kitchen table too, chatting about things happening at school while drinking tea, eating a biscuit and ending up playing at the same table. It was a moment to unwind, before going to play elsewhere, or do their homework.
That’s so lovely 🥰
i hope this comment doesn’t put too much pressure on you but i just wanted to say how important your channel and you sharing your struggles means to me, right now life is overwhelming and chaotic and watching your videos is so so calming for me. you really truely help people through tough times your videos are so important. such a beautiful video ❤
Oh bless you!! I’m so pleased to hear they help calm you. Your comment hasn’t put any pressure on me, not in a negative way anyway, it’s just all the more incentive to keep on posting as and when I can. Sending love your way ❤️
Oh dear Remi, I’m so sorry to hear you have been sad!!
As a grandparent I think your request to limit gifts is completely acceptable. They will understand. Being a grandparent is the most wonderful experience a person can have. Truly it’s like nothing else. The last thing a grandparent wants is to create problems and if over flow of gifts is causing problems your idea is a simple way to correct that. If they want to buy more toys, perhaps they can be toys that stay at the grandparents so the babies can play with them when they visit.
As always, I adore you and your fighting spirit. Keep your chin up, and know that you have people who are cheering you on. ❤
Amber got grandma and grandad house today pick her up after tea tonight
Yay!!! I was hoping you'd post today!! My husband just went through his closet and decided to get rid of a bunch of stuff. He's on his way to donate it right now!!
What you share is literally how I feel but can't seem to find the right words to say, so thank you ❤
Amazing!! I bet it feels like such a relief! 😊
My grandchildren have SOOOO many toys. My husband and I decided to start a college fund for all three of them. We add $ for each holiday/birthday instead of buying a lot of “stuff.” Then we give them one small gift or a book to open or sometimes we don’t give them a physical gift. They’re 2, 4, 6 and get so many other gifts that they don’t even notice!
I see a Remiclog video, I click, watch and enjoy 🙂💛 ignore the haters, you can't please everyone all of the time. You're fabulous and we like you so remember that's why we come back to you. 💛
Thank you! That means the world ☺️❤️
We asked for experiences, and it was great. We got an English Heritage membership, and my son loved all the castles we visited. We also got a trip to Harry Potter studios, cinema cards and it was amazing, so many great memories. He couldn't tell you what present he got for his 6th birthday but remembers 'fighting' in a mock battle at a castle later in the year. And the gift giver loved hearing about how much fun he'd had! Anyway long-winded way to say fewer presents, more experiences! ❤
Oh Remi…. Hugs. As a grandmother I’ve realised that consumables and gift cards are the best for grandkids! My grandies already have everything I could ever afford. Zoo and cinema tickets are excellent. Your house is small but even bigger would just mean more corners for ‘stuff’. I can see a nice big plant in a pot in that corner. Something there that can’t have stuff just dumped on it. Everyone dumps things.. I think it’s common. Your kitchen always looks so lovely when you’ve finished. PS washing in the kitchen and drying all over the house would be a nightmare.
A very small gift together with putting money in the bank to help support a grandchild's future is, IMO, a great gift. This might seem cold, but a special letter written every Christmas, birthdays, Easters or other faith holidays that are important. A letter will add that warmth to the cold gift of money. They can be read by the grand-parent/s at the time, the the letters can be squirrelled away in a special box and gifted to a grandchild on their 18th birthday along with their 18th birthday gift. Imagine reading a letter of what you were up to at birth, 18 months, three, seven & a half, nine and three quarters, thirteen, sixteen, etc. How special would that be? 18 years of savings could help with all sorts of things at a time, when, money will be needed. To me, this works better than heaps of toys and equally expresses love.
The box by the way is called My yesterday, My today and My tomorrow x
@@dandare2586That’s not cold at all , it’s a great idea and I have been doing for grand children since they were born .
You are such an inspiration- there are more of us like you than you think but you allow us to think “if Remi can do it …. So can I” ❤️
Oh this has made me so happy!! ☺️❤️
@@remiclog so it should - you deserve it x
Definitely ask your relatives to give experiences or just time rather than stuff. What they do is their choice. Your only choice is to ask. You might be surprised how one simple babysitting day benefits everyone so much! Nothing comes from nothing changed. 💐💃💞
STOP!! Being so hard on yourself! I have to tell my daughter that all the time. You have such a sense of humor about life, you were ment to help others. I'm retired and I've slowed down, I've done it all, wife, mother, Teacher it's time for me now. Love life!❤
The use of the space often dictates how things should be organized. We used to keep our board games and art supplies in a low bookshelf next to the dining table because that's where those items were used. And for years we've had a row of coat hooks in the kitchen because everyone comes and goes through the outside door.
You are doing such a great job. Everything won't look perfect at any given minute, but it will average out.
Remi, I want to thank you so much from the bottom of my heart for all of your motivation. And it's not just your motivation, It's your deep care for others. Since 2015, I've struggled when I had several miscarriages and lost my dad. Because of these things, it caused me to clutter so much stuff and to try to fill the voids. Your channel is so healing. Sending love and hugs from across the world to a lovely person!
Oh Remi, I know full well about Mardy time. I have those regularly. But you know, they happen, they are just moments in time. They are just a little knot in the thread of life's tapestry and quickly unravel themselves.
I fully understand about too much stuff. As a little girl I once saw a teddy bear in a shop window. My parents didn't have much money so I just said bye bye to the teddy bear and walked away with them. That Christmas, imagine my surprise and happiness when I opened my present and it was that bear! I still have it over 50 years on, and although, moneywise, its not worth a penny, sentimentally, its priceless, and a gift beyond everything. That bear has been with me through everything in my rollercoaster of life. It has been there with everything we've experienced, yet here we are, together as always.
Every time we got a new toy, my mother would ask us to sort through the toys and pick one to go to a poor child the church knew of, or the prisoners wives group, for their children (my mother set it up as a support for my dad in his work with prisoners, to help them cope with their husbands being away and learn to understand why),for their children.
But the rule was, it had to be complete and in good working order or out it went into the bin. My teddy bear was never donated or binned, ever.
I left my vile husband and left all my childhood bears in the loft. Gutted they'll be in landfill now!
@@lynneleverton8825 I, too had to leave my marital home very quickly. Luckily I was able to rescue the bear. Lots of things have happened and many loved items ended in landfill which breaks my heart, However, I now look at it all as 'Better to lose stuff, than lose my life'.
I am so sorry you had to experience your challenges and hope you are now moving on as best you can.
Our dog also moved from chewing cuddly toys to plastic bottles!!! Your home is beautiful - love lives there ❤
As a grandparent (not that i speak for all) we have made donations in our grandchildren's name since they were little. They get to pick the organization and that is one of their Christmas gifts. The kids actually love it. They get in touch with me in October to remind me that its time to send in the donations. We started this to help teach them generosity to others, and helping those in need.
You are way too hard on yourself. My kids are grown up well my youngest is 14. Open a bank account for each of your kids or a trust fund and for the birthdays etc ask people who were going to buy them a toy or such to deposit money in the account they would spend. Gives them something they can have a good start as the get older. Also you can use like ziplock bags to store board games and such instead of the bulky boxes that need taped up every 5 mins lol. If you were to see my house you would stop being hard on yourself x
Have you ever considered making just talking videos? I love the cleaning ones they motivate me so much, but what motivates me the most is you! The way you talk and outlook on life is so relatable. I find just listening to you helps me to have a better day ❤
Please don’t beat yourself up! Life happens and often leaves a mess behind. At the end of the day you’re a good Momma and that’s the most important thing! ❤
It's not ungrateful at all to make that request of your parents and family. It's sensible and thoughtful.
I just want to show some respect for how aware you are regarding the issue of presents. I’m a lot older than you and you’re right, we would have one or two very special presents which we cherished. Your children are young enough to benefit from your wisdom. Family experiences and events create lifelong memories, much more so than multiple presents. What lucky kids to have you as their mum!
I love the thought of your kitchen as a happy haven. As for gifts, If a family member is near by and is able to, how about mentioning that it would be nice as a gift for your child, to have the family member and your child to have a one-on-one experience together.
I haven't watched this yet because I always save your new videos as secret weapons to whip out when nothing else will kick me out of task paralysis. Just one person's worth of dinner dishes to wash can have me anxiously procrastinating for most of an evening. As someone who experiences executive disfunction, your videos have saved me so many times, thank you!
It absolutely does not sound ungrateful to ask for experiences instead of toys. Those will be remembered long after the toys are gone.
You have such a huge heart. If only more people thought of others even slightly as much as you...
Remi, thank you for taking the extra time and effort to film cleaning up your kitchen and offering your thoughts. You are a gem. 💕 Experiences over physical gifts are a wonderful thing! I’m sure the grandparents will understand that. Have a blessed week!
When you added "Oy" to the beginning of your door sign idea, I laughed REALLY HARD!!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Never apologise for speaking your mind or having a rant you are doing amazing. You keep it real which makes me and sure plenty others feel ‘normal’. Have a great week. Mary, Joes wife 🙇♀️👏💪👍🙏💐🐕🦺
You're a doll.. I could listen to you and watch your videos all day.. XO
A tip for family. Start with limiting what you get the kids first. Santa gives a few smaller bits, like a colouring book, soft toy, bubbles, play doh and something else. The kids get one or two things from us, and maybe a joint present, like last year they got a totem tennis to play with together.
It’s easier to ask to reduce from families once you have done it yourself. Last year the kids got a lot less from family. Not just one gift like I would like, but heaps better than the past.
You're a mom, you work, don't stress so much. Some days are better than others!😊
You’re so right, thank you 😊
Yay, a Remi video, one of very favorites on UA-cam! I love your humor, compassion, hard work and determination Remi. You are such an inspiration because this is real life, how things can get out of control without realizing it with kids, grandkids, pets, jobs, holidays, illness, etc. You are amazing❤❤❤
You know, it always humors me to see lit candle post-clean. I grew up with my grandmother and her brother. He would always tell me that lit candles meant, “Touch nothing within the glow of the candle.” To this day, I light a candle, fill a diffuser, or plug-in a candle lamp post-cleaning. True to form, my uncle was always right-candles are for whomever cleaned a room. They, indeed, do mean-enter at your own risk.
For Christmas:
Something to wear, something they need, something to play with, something to read.
The kitchen looks great. It was lovely to see you sitting down as a family to eat dinner. Please do not apologize for not answering all the comments you get. We know you read them, that is enough. You are a good mum, you care about your kids. Perhaps you could suggest that the grandparents buy the kids toys that stay at their homes. Then the kids have 2 different sets of toys to enjoy when they visit their grandparents. Thanks so much for sharing this video with us. Best wishes from Canada.
Lovely Remi, I love your videos so much. I am a half day cleaner, but not at home 😂
Well, my Children, I have 2 girls and a boy, the oldest is 36, the youngest is 28. They never understand how clean it was at home, long ago. But today I am all on my own, only with my little dog. So I only clean once a week now. Life is so much more than being perfect. It‘s about love and peace. And that‘s what I hear, while you are cleaning. Don‘t set yourself under such big pressure. You are lovely anyway. Mandy greetings from Germany ❤
You are just so sweet… it is so refreshing to see a person like you in this world. So kind, thoughtful and you worry about good values. Well done. Much love to you x
Yes, everytime I'm on top something happens and new things come I to the house and it's chaos all over again. It's overwhelming and I try not to let it run my life but it does to a degree. Thank you for the inspiration to keep on top xx
Gosh the boys are getting big!😊
Believe me Remi, crying about housework happens. I run my own little domestic cleaning business and ironically I love cleaning others houses, but cleaning and staying on top of mine feels like the biggest chore and sometimes it gets to me too. You're amazing
Love your videos, your honesty is refreshing🎉❤
Dear Remi! I hope you're really proud of yourself. Please remember, as we're living in our houses, our cleanliness and tidiness is circulating around a certain middle ground, deviating from it in both directions. The middle ground should not be a health hazard. You have a busy life and two young children and a dog, so by default your house cannot be kept as clean as the place of a single person working as a flight attendant (aka never at home). And that's ok! You do your best and I personally think you ace it. Your house looks better than mine every time at the end of a video, and worse than mine at the beginning 😂 and in the end we have the same middle ground. I love your videos, thank you so much! Greetings from Luxembourg 🇱🇺
Remi, I think UA-cam family are the best. Most of us are looking for your types of videos. I don’t know if you seen my post but I resonate with you more than anyone I watch. We have tremendous amount in common. Thank you for being you. I love everything about you and your channel.
Remi, I so enjoy and appreciate you speaking your heart so eloquently.
I also have a hard time with the influx of stuff. It makes me cry, too! Sometimes I designate toys for outside only just so they can get ruined and I can toss them out! When possible I use the 1 in, 1 out method. Like if my daughter asks for another bag I ask her which thing she's getting rid of when we get home!
I gift my nieces experiences: visits to the pool, cinema, indoor playground, zoo etc. because they already have so much stuff and dont need another toy. Its a win win win situation. I get to make fun memories with my nieces, they love our days out, their parents get a childfree day and there aren't mountains of toys cluttering their home.
I think its a great idea suggesting this to your family ❤
Great job Remi your wee kitchen looks warm & cosy with happy kids, 🙏🌹❤️☘️🇮🇪
Seeing your family eat at that table made me tear up! You have been working so hard to accomplish this!!❤
Maybe a cute little piece of art above the table that says something like "Family gathers here" or something to remind yourself and Charley not to drop things on the table? I also like the bin system. 4 bins, 1 for each family member, and each person grabs their bin at the end of the day and puts all of the items where they belong. Of course little Ike will need assistance for a bit, but it helps the whole family to get into the habit of tidying up before things get out of hand
You're a wise, wonderful woman! Try not to worry about everything. See yourself for who you are, doing an excellent job when still feeling so low. I agree with what others say ," you're a breath of good fresh air". Love you and your videos. Thank you Remi .
Hello Remi from Los Angeles. Thank you for putting yourself out there and posting these videos. You are so inspiring! 😀
Your comment on having too much stuff really hit me. My Opa passed this week and we've spent all week cleaning out his condo. He never got rid of anything when my Oma died so there's just so much stuff. Besides the obvious sentimental stuff we've donated about 17 boxes of trinkets, kitchen stuff, decor, etc. I think that's why I'm obsessed with decluttering my own house. We can't take it with us and when we're gone our stuff will just be a burden to our loved ones.
Pro tip for flower arranging! I noticed one time someone bought my mom a very beautiful bouquet, and she cut off the rubber band and put it in a vase, but it then looked all messy, loose, and chaotic when it had been a very beautiful arrangement before. If you leave the rubber band on (even if you need to trim the stems before you put them in water so they will fit better), leave them in the rubber band! A lot of times, they come in a beautiful arrangement already, and you can just take advantage of that!
I always feel the same way you do, that I don't want to seem ungrateful or controlling, but my mother-in-law asked for a specific wish list when the kids were young, so now I write an email each year before the holidays. It's very detailed and I feel ridiculous doing it, but the grandparents LOVE it and ask me for it every year. I list things the kids actually need, like a new coat or shoes and what size, their current interests, and link to specific products for a few toys. We ask them to limit to one fun gift, like a toy, and one need per child. My MIL loves to give lots of gifts, but she does try to make sure they are mostly needs. It truly does get overwhelming and become a burden when people pass too much stuff onto you. You're right. There actually is research that it is better for kids to have less. Most of our family members have said they actually find the list very helpful, and it takes a lot of stress off of them to know the money they are spending is going toward something the kids actually want or need, rather than something they already own or might not like. That system also helps as the kids get older and have more expensive wishes. My youngest daughter really wanted a pair of Ugg Boots this year, which are pricey, but she received them from her grandparents for Christmas. They were her only gift from them and she was THRILLED. Honestly, she was much happier with that one gift than she would have been with a huge pile of individually less expensive (but overall the same amount of money spent) things she didn't actually want.
When i was around 10 years old my parents gave me and my brother and sister “experiences” rather than toys. I grew up in a very small house and my parents struggled with the toys as well. I remember all of the trips as simple as they were. A treasure hunt in a local park… it was so much fun digging up that treasure chest filled with candy. When I turned 21 I decided that I wanted to go to a museum with all of them, and nothing else. It was such a lovely day ❤
This was a wonderful pick me up, you can also really see how clean you've been keeping your house by how little you need to do to reset the space. I am so proud of you, you are so inspiring ❤
I love hearing all the grandmums chiming in here on this ❤
I just love how you share exactly what you think and feel. Your accent is beautiful.
It’s so easy for things to get messy and sometimes difficult to keep up with everything. Thank you for putting yourself out there and inspiring us to do better.
This is just what I needed for motivation. I am doing a house project creating such a mess everywhere. I’m feeling overwhelmed but this helps me to realize I just need to start somewhere and go.
Yes Remi! Stop the inflow. 💪You are right, there's good evidence that too much "stuff" stifles kids creativity. Boundaries with grandparents can be set with kindness.❤
As a grandmother of 16, we now give experiences. We are happy as are the children.
You did a wonderful job, Remi. The kitchen looks fabulous. I think you're an awesome Mum! ❤😊
I thought I was having a good day today only to see my queen Remi has posted... Now it's been made!
Don't be that hard on yourself! You work outside the home, also!!! Fabulous job in the kitchen ❤
Thank you so much 😊❤️
I think your children and their grandparents would enjoy experiences more than things. Creating memories is always something people remember more than things.
As a wife, mother, & working outside the home. . . You are working 3 jobs so lighten up on yourself 💕.
You are a hard working wife and mother. None of are perfect so don't be too hard on yourself. You are a breath of fresh air.
Some.of my daughters favorite memories are from time at the dinner table, I know this because my youngest mentioned how she missed having dinner at the table after my husband died when she was 13 and we started eating in the living room more often. She missed that sense of family togetherness. Some of that was missing her Dad and feeling less connected, so now she is 31 and whenever we are together I make a point of eating together at the table at home or in a restaurant. Keep making those memories, the simple things done together are what matter. I remember Spring cleaning with my Mother ( we were a messy family too), and helping my Dad with his power tool protects. My kitchen magnet says ' A clean house is a sign of a boring life.' 🌷💐🌻
This year we've started asking grandparents for experiences too and it's wonderful to see both our daughter and our parents having a great time together ❤
Remember your idea about grandparents. Limiting toys is a great idea. The kids would get so much joy out of the excursions. I have an idea for your corner. If you guys can put up hooks or make like little cubbies. That way , the kids can put their cubby their jackets , their backpacks and their shoes right there in that corner. That might help you with a place for all that. You are a wonderful person, I love seeing your videos. I have recommended you to a friend. You be you. Heck with the haters. They can go some place else. We love you❤
Remi, you are such a breath of fresh air! I really enjoy listening to you talk and watching you clean somehow relaxes me lol.
I am so glad that you got that spin mop. It makes mopping so much easier.
New toys in. Old toys out. I did that when I was younger and it kept things in check. Clothes and shoes though - I'm just learning how to purge. Now I've become a digital hoarder as I take pictures of things I let go!
Ah, Remi, I can see how things can quickly get overwhelming with all the toys and things for your little boys. I never had children, nor ever an indoor pet, so my life has not had the challenges that many parents face. I do agree with you about kids having too much "stuff". It's not that stuff that's going to impact their lives positively but the time spent doing things they enjoy by the people in their lives they love and depend on. Nowadays it seems too easy to buy the child something he or she can entertain themselves with than to invest the time to entertain them. I think you're doing a great job with all of it and at least are always thoughtful about what's best for Rudy and Ike. ❤❤
Don't feel so defeated you have a busy work and home life and you do the best you can, never let any mean comments or sly remarks get to you ignore them they don't live your life
Also I would recommend Aurikatariina for anyone who enjoys cleaning videos and also suffers from depression and anxiety, her channel is so good and helpful, don't get me wrong the cleaning is extreme these houses haven't been cleaned in months or years but again there's no judgement and I think we can help support her doing this as a teaser she cleans for free
Never let people get to you, do your best and keep going
You are an absolute gem of a human being. Such a treasure. It is so wonderful to see your videos. I am so happy to have someone as positive as you in the UA-cam space.
Awh thankyou angel❤❤❤ love this! Love you ❤
Thank you for your videos!! ❤️
I'm so excited to see how many subscribers you have!! You deserve all good things!!! Love watching your videos! The longer the better!! Thank you for sharing!! ❤
I feel so ridiculously lucky!!! Thank you so much!! 🥰❤️
They say money can't buy happiness but it turns out it can if you use it for experiences or to buy time. That's things like trips or lessons or for someone super busy a house cleaner or such. Asking for that as a gift for the boys is perfect. I've bought experiences for my girls as gifts numerous times and they remember them more than most of the toys they've had.