Why Rejection is Good for You
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Do you believe in embracing rejection? PS comment a cookie if you came from instagram 🍪
Lana Blakely yes it can make you a better person in the long run
Rejection always leads to something better.
why do i have to "deal with rejection" ? can't i just.... not care ? and respect everybody's right to choose ? just as maybe others were rejected by me ? see... rejection goes both ways.
accept things for what they are ? "NO" is part of life. it's no big deal actually.
my mother rejected me, my family rejected me, some employers rejected me (hey ! it's their lose not mine, i am loyal and responsible. but then again... maybe i am not what they needed. idk) so yeah... rejection is.. what it is. let's not blow it out of proportion.
Been rejected my whole life...By life, friends, family, girls I liked, etc... For many years it made me a bitter and angry person. About a year ago, I finally had enough and decided to change my life for the better. And I used all that hatred and resentment I used to have, to make me stronger, and now people even enjoy being around me again. I even have women flirting with me and acting interested.
It’s almost like people saw me on the outside how I felt on the inside. And once I pulled a 180* change, people were able to see the real me again. I’ve always been a fighter...But now I know how to harness it for my own positive benefits.
Lana Blakely 🍪 i did not came from instagram....but i have notifications turned on in UA-cam...and yes i do believe in embracing rejection....as a matter of fact i believe whatever doesn't kills you...makes you stronger
The regret that comes from not trying, is a lot more painful than the instant rejection of going for it
ABSOLUTELY!
So far I’ve regretted not trying cause she’s taken. Otherwise I would have done it.
@@Capitan_Chaos been there done that , it sucks
Agreed
Regrets are way harder to swallow than rejections
"A life thats held back by fear isn't living, its merely existing"
♥️
Then I just want to exist.
Wrote that important shit down and hung it on my wall...Great quote!
I’m so scared of internet trolls finding this channel, she’s too important to be mocked here, I hope that only good souls will find this channel honestly.
It's too late i'm afraid 😈
Karan lmao 😂
Jonathan Njieptchi yep, unfortunately !
Awe how sweet
Luis Alvarez I mean... Who likes trolls lmao.
*_rejection is hard, but_* if you never experience rejection can you say you truly lived?
#truthBOMB
I must have lived a lot, then.
Technically, yes. Living is literally what we do every second until we die regardless of what we do. I know I'm being "too literal" but that's how I am.
what kind of word salad is this?
Yes.
Rejection is a blessing in disguise. I’ve grown more as a person after every rejection.
If so then, I reject you too 😉😄😄
It’s totally fine to be rejected. Life goes on.
Not all the damn time
@@thelegendkillersshittyduff1335 You have to move on
@@thelegendkillersshittyduff1335 so if not move on in that ''damn time'', what's you gonna do? Let's me guess..... move on!
My problems r always take rejection too serious . Thats something always drag me down . Very bad for me . But slowly changed a lot ) kill Ego 🤙🤙🤙
@@thelegendkillersshittyduff1335 That time when nature (r)ejects you and you ded
I GOT OVER REJECTION, WHEN I REALIZED WE WILL ALL DIE ONE DAY
Same😂
Same here
yeah, we'll die one day wondering "what if I did not get rejected at that point"
Same 😂
Nice
As Aubrey Plaza said "I like being rejected. It makes me feel alive"
Exactly. Rejection = authentic living IMHO
Aubrey Plaza seems mean so people like her actually depress me. That is why I'm more inspired by woman like Rose Namajunas and Tulsi Gabbard. I like when nice people succeed because I'm always told nice guys finish last and that depresses me as someone who can't get rid of their kindness and sympathy.
@Emilia No problem thank you for explaining your reasoning. I might have seen a bad interview of hers and she might have been joking about being a mean person. I understand where you are coming from because Rose was on a reality show to join the UFC. A reality show full of woman fighters can get pretty nasty so if you see certain scenes where she was defending herself you might get the wrong impression about her.
What is she a masochist?
looool says the woman who is incredibly hot. she has no say in this
What a beautiful and powerful message and the timing is so perfect for me. Today marks the 2nd anniversary of losing my beloved bride of 23 years. I was thinking about all of the relationships and jobs that I was heartbroken over before meeting her and having my world changed forever dramatically instantly. She lead me to move to Atlanta and the South where my career took off and we got married and had three wonderful children who have helped me deal with the loss of their mom. I am so thankful for all of the rejections and failures that lead to the best thing that ever happened to me in my life. One that I never planned or saw coming and even though it ended much too soon (we were supposed to grow old together) I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. Thanks for a great message and reminder. I hope your young audience listens to this message. Trust me... it's worth the risk! Take chances, kids. This is our one life to live. Keep getting back up and going for it. I know this old cowboy is getting back on the horse before my final sunset.
So sorry for your loss.. Wishing you a peaceful period of healing. We will all go through this one way or another..
Sending you love Doriano!
Just get back on your horse brother
❤❤❤
❤❤good luck with your wonderful children..I'm sure you're and you'll always be an awesome dad..your wife would be really proud 😊
“The alternative is nothing” that really resonated with me, thank you
Rejection can sometimes push us beyond our comfort zone and give us the opportunity to do something we only dreamed about. It's hard, but embrace the downs as well as the highs.
For me, I always believe that everything happens for a reason. So whenever I feel rejected for let’s say, trying to invite all my friends for my bday and none of them came, or or trying to work out an issue with a friend who in the end doesn’t want to hear even a word from me, it really hurt but at least I know that I’ve tried. Therefore, I leave these problems to God and I just continue focusing on my studies and just be with people who acknowledge the fact I tried and still be there for me despite everything that has happened. I always believe that through rejection, God has better plans planned out for me and I’ll just go along with it. Maybe one day, friends may come for my bday, or maybe one day I will finally get a girlfriend. I believe patience plays an important role in this as well. So, with that said, my advice is just accept that everything happens for a reason and always believe that if you do good, things will work out for you just fine. And always be with people who truly care about you. My advice may not be that strong, but I just hope it made someone’s day better.
You are too available for those "friends" invest that time in making a better version of yourself, if you are a man people will love you for what you can provide.
Don't worry brother, those people don't deserve you. You are way too precious :)
Thank you for giving me a new way of looking at the rejection in my life. Seriously, I feel better about it already. I wasn't sure why I was binge watching your videos, but now it's obvious to me that I was meant to hear this exact message. Sometimes it's really hard not to take rejection really hard because it feels so personal. Thank you. :)
Your thoughts are so beautiful and so is the way you put it in words. Being an introvert myself, i can relate pretty well.
She is beautiful no matter what, even being rejected, you are beautiful!!!
Juni Delgado Colon rejections its not just about relationships
My dates have been flaking me, the feeling sucks so much. But I try to be stoic and vulnerable about it, this is a part of life. Thanks.
Your videos are always adapted to my situation. Really thank you for existing
Thanks for watching :)
Hey Lana, so I have been following your UA-cam videos for a short while. I enjoy the reflective, sombre and honest contemplations.
Thank you for that motivation. I think it helps a lot to evaluate something very well instead of just associating it with bad emotions and not coping with it in any way. You did very well with evaluating rejection
Just having a marathon of your videos, sometimes I get attached to people who don't really know me, thank you for all positivity you've added in me
Lana, you are one of the best reasons there is an internet. Ty, for all you thoughtfully share. 💛🙏
" you are where you need to be "
now make decisions .
Hi. I love your work. You your motivation and philosophy doesn't come from fake positivity, rather, comes from deep empathy and thoughtfulness.
Omg. Why you always know what I am feeling at the moment...
Tack Lana! Det är som att du läste mina tankar, behövde verkligen en sådan video. Jag önskar jag kunde träffa och prata med dig en dag, det är så mycket jag relaterar till :')
Önskar dig allt gott!
I needed this video! 2 years ago I went to an audition to enter the acting group in my school I got rejected. Right after I felt like I wasn’t good at anything and cried so much but after a while I actually got proud of myself because I stepped out of my comfort zone.
A year later I found out that the teacher that runs the acting group regretted rejecting me and that gave me even more clarity: I was good but I wasn’t the best and that’s okay because you can always improve.
The way you put words together and communicate your ideas so clearly is amazing. I feel refreshed after watching this video :)
One smart person said: “if God loves you dearly, he will send into your life a lot of rejection - to mold your character so you will not become too proud of yourself when you will finally reach all heights.”
I guess I am meant for heights unknown lol
Rejection makes me incredibly bitter, hurt and lowers my confidence. That experience will do that to ya.
@@mikecheatham6176exactly, I feel like some of these UA-cam videos aren’t exactly relatable. Now it makes me think I need professional help which makes me think worse of myself
I don’t know what to say.. You are my role model, you are so wise.I love you with my whole heart, you will achieve much!
That's so sweet. Thank you.
Love this video, thank you! The beautiful side of a broken heart is that once it's broken, the light can go in. The compassion and understanding we gain after rejections and heartbreaks, the journey of discoverying great treasures of love & high achievements are the things that makes it worth it.
"Gamble everything for love, if you are a true human being. If not, leave this gathering. Half-heartedness doesn’t reach into majesty." Rumi
YOU HAVE SURPASSED YOUR ORIGINAL GOAL ALREADY... YOU ARE A GENUINE HUMAN BEING...
YOU CRAVE SUBSTANCE...
YOU ARE LIVING THROUGH EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT...
YOU FOUND A WAY TO MAKE IT HAPPEN... IT IS JUST STRUCTURED IN A UNIQUE MANNER... ♥️
I don't find anyone more relatable than you. It's like I keep on watching your videos till the sentences stick in my mind. How well you connect with all of us. I hope you keep motivating us💘💘💘
Thanks a lot!
I think you're the most beautiful person inside and out and I can see the sincerity and honesty in all of your videos. Keep up the magnificent work! Lots of love 😊💕
Thanks so much Lana. I am so thankful for finding your youtube channel
Wow. Thank you Lana...for sharing your experience. I’ll say, among others rejections push me to actually start to transmute negative energy, I seek a light and I appreciate wisdom.
Thank You Lana... for transforming my life..I don't know what else to say.. but u took me from a point where I was really low,depressed and held me high to face the world and to face the truth named life..
Kaushik SB this made me smile. Here’s two 🍪🍪
I just want to let you know your UA-cam channel and your book club have changed my life I'm in a much much better place in my life than before I found your channel I just wanted to say I'm extremely thankful for how amazing you are as a person and I used to be nervous and scared and when talking to people now it's nothing to me like water on a duck's back.
“not everything you desire will be meant for you, nor will you be meant for everything you desire” ...that one hit hard..but oh so true🙏🏼
Thank you for being vulnerable enough to admit that you gave up on the acting dream.In this modern culture it has become a lot more difficult for people to move on from something even though they know it might not be right for them in the long run.
Lana this is such a timely post, Ive been dealing with rejections lately with trying to get a job!
I haven't even watched the video yet I just know it's gonna be good. ;)
Thank you so much for these videos
Been there with the job hunt! Best of luck.
I can’t explain how much this helped me. Really made me view rejection with a different perspective. I needed this. Thank you Lana ♥️
Best thing i have watched in youtube today !
Thank you so much for making these videos
Thanks a lot!
youre too much of an artist to be limited as another actor, this was an amazingly creative and insightful video. Thank you for the reminder to keep pushing your boundaries and never give up!
Yeah. Failures and rejections open new dimensions and avenues to our lives, sometimes that we can't even think of. Human mind and thoughts are limited for knowing what's good for one, only nature knows. So it's okay to face rejections and flow with life. And Lana you are doing very good by spreading these values to us. You faced rejections in acting but you do very nice on youtube screen. My best wishes and lots of love for Lana.🎁💖😊
Those shots of your auditions are awesome! Thank you, for all of the valuable life lessons. Good information.
Lana is the greatest brunette in all of Scandinavia. It's not even close.
She's not Scandinavian though...
@Johan BossieKamp
To me she looks Castizo-Spanish or Persian. She could be Syrian or Lebanese too.
You are dishonouring the scandinavian people and insulting the people of her ethnicity. Embrace your heritage, your inheritance.
She has black hair tho
Karl Marx burns in hell mate
I'm glad I found this channel, although I still find rejection painful considering how often it happens, you've just given me a new perspective on it and I'm thankful for that
Rejection is yet another form of re-direction for self-improvement and self-respect to lead you into a stronger and more ideal place... in the heat of the moment, we're yet to know it and sometimes it takes alot of time to meditate through it to discover it. Thanks again for sharing your mind Lana, much appreciated. My love for that is shown through this gift: 🍪
Thank you so much that you send your videos with the correct subtitles🙏Love your channel❤
Everything I'm meant to have will be mine and everything I thought I wanted and was denied I'm so glad I didn't get because I have something so much greater.
You leave impact, and you do move people.
This channel is awesome
Hey, this girl is a wise one. I’m subbing.
hey, thanks for helping me, the way the videos are edited and the way you talk just seem more convincing and clear to me, keep doing your thing.
I was needing to hear these words, thank you so much! 🙏🏻
I’m literally obsessed with your voice and speech pattern. 🥰
The older I get the more I appreciate my rejections. And I really have a lot of them.
Hi Lana. I don’t even know what to say. I love ur videos but this one specially hit me harder. I’m a prospective actress and I’ve receives a lot of no’s from US universities this and last year. I’m already thinking in other paths, but, this video helped me to not be afraid of taking risks. To not be afraid of rejection when my social anxiety hits harder. “A life that is held back my fear, isn’t living, it’s merely existing.” Thank you for being you and sharing your journey with us.
UA-cam can recommend great stuff, sometimes. Thank you Lana, I'm glad I found you.
I love your attitude. It gives me strength and motivation to try new things
I like your style in doing videos. And the content is relevant. Especially today that most people are not anymore disposed to suffer.
My teenage life save because of your genuinely deep advice. pure hearth soul may god bless and reward you❤
❤️ I can’t wait to hear your advice!! I know I shouldn’t take things personally, but getting rejected often hurts and it’s somewhat dented my self-esteem
I'm not sure why you do all these videos, but it's soothing to have these thoughts shared.
This message hit me
this video/script is very well written especially the sylvia plath quote
Your voice helps me sleep..it's comforting ♥️
Aww
I'm really thankful to you for showing a beautiful way of looking at rejection . Kudos 🎉
Your so wise and beautiful, so glad I found your channel. I really needed this, got rejected for the first time on a date and it really affected me. But I got over it, shit happens.
I completely agree with you. And I LOVE your voice and your manner of speaking!
Thanks for creating these videos, i feel deeply inspired by your wise words.
I love creating them so it's my pleasure.
You have given words to my own thoughts and experiences. I felt so connected listening to you.
Thanks for another lovely video Lana
You are wise beyond your years, an old wise soul. What a wonderful gift, for us to have your insight. Thank you sharing with the world. You have changed my life, and many others I am sure, THANK YOU.
Ngl, this video was acc helpful and made a lot of sense, subscribed because you have a lot of interesting videos about these kind of subjects such as loneliness, rejection and self worth, great job there very helpful 👍
I love the work you put into your videos and your whole aesthetics.
I love this girl, her wisdom is so good
A very inspiring video for me when I have got continuous rejections for job interview. Thanks so much
Thank you for your video. I was rejected throughout my whole life. This is inspiring.
Each word each lines has so much meaning. I think you will be some day a great talk show host. Because you are so genuine..god bless you so much. ❤️
You don’t understand how bad I needed this video. Thank you so much!
This is everything I needed to hear right now. Thank you.
Ever since I found this video, I listen to it at least 5 times in a day, to remind myself that rejection is the part of life and the experience that we got from it shows that at least we tried something in our life.
Thank you, Lana
I’m loving your reflections
I needed this, thank you
Thank you :)
Rejection is common to all of us. The important thing is not to see the world from this experience of rejection instead try learning to find fields for improvement. It works for me. Thanks for sharing part of your life (you are brave) and for the advices as well.
After a string of romantic rejections, a wise friend once told me: "If you are somewhat pretty/attractive, you will get your lion's share of rejection, because you will automatically attract many more people who will be interested in you, and within that group, there will be a certain number of immature individuals who will hurt you, since they won't know how to love you." Going further, I would say: if you are vibrating at a higher level than most people, then it is normal to have a harder time finding a romantic partner (or even friends) who vibrates at a similar frequency as you. This has helped me immensely. As for professional/work-related rejection, ponder this : some of our most important relationships are with coworkers/colleagues/fellow artists or whatever, given the sheer amount of time spent together every day. It can therefore be interesting to entertain the idea that if we don't end up being chosen to pursue work in one place or another, it is because we are meant to spend time with a specific group of people associated with another employer......
Your videos are inspirational, your subjects are more focused on deep topics it forces you to look delve deep and do some soul searching but we are not always willing to perform psychoanalysis on ourselves every day that we watch a UA-cam video.
Such a beatifull Soul 🌈
Beautiful, topical, important video. Your language around fear and living has helped me. Thank you.
Well, I really needed to hear this, so... thank you very much
P.S. For anyone wondering if it is true that rejection redirects you to something better, in my experience it is, but you cannot keep curling up into a ball and waiting for time to pass for too long, that is what actually destroys you, not rejection itself, from my experience.
Tienes toda la razón. El momento posterior a un grave rechazo es peligroso, porque uno no tiene una alternativa inmediata hacia la cual dirigirse: es justamente por eso que el rechazo fue doloroso. A mí me rechazaron una tesis doctoral (por razones ideológicas, yo vivo en Argentina) y pensé en ese momento que tenía que abandonar mi vida intelectual. Fue un grave error. Perdí varios años de mi vida por ese error. Yo tenía que buscar otro lugar en donde hubiese libertad académica y gente decente. Mi vocación era fuerte y volví a mi vida intelectual, y ahora vivo de eso porque soy profesor. Pero en ese lugar no merecían mi trabajo: solo tenían el poder y no querían competencia. Mi país está lleno de esa gente ignorante.
Watching these videos give me PMS
Whenever I get lonely, I feel much relieved after watching your videos. I realise that I'm not alone in this world. Thank you so much Lana, I really need the company of someone like you in my teens.
P.S. Jonna Jinton and you are both from Sweden. I really enjoy both of your contents! I can see why Sweden is one of the happiest countries in the world.
Thanks a lot for your comment. Yes I know of her!
So sweet and young! Don’t give up, keep trying. I could see you as an actress.
This came out at the perfect time.. thank you so much
Thanks for watching :)
First of all, I really enjoyed this and found it inspiring. Secondly, it is _really_ well done on so many levels. Thanks!
Why is that I tear up after every video of hers ♥️ #goodtears #hugs
You may not be an actor, but you found parts of yourself along the way. And now your videos have been watched millions of times. I'd say that's damn close. Thank you for these reminders.
How can anyone reject you, Lana? With your beauty, charm, intelligence and articulation. They don't know what they are missing.
You're kind. Everyone gets rejected regardless of any of those things. :)
Not skipping ads as my support. Great video!