Why Rejection is Good for You
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- Опубліковано 3 гру 2019
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Do you believe in embracing rejection? PS comment a cookie if you came from instagram 🍪
Lana Blakely yes it can make you a better person in the long run
Rejection always leads to something better.
why do i have to "deal with rejection" ? can't i just.... not care ? and respect everybody's right to choose ? just as maybe others were rejected by me ? see... rejection goes both ways.
accept things for what they are ? "NO" is part of life. it's no big deal actually.
my mother rejected me, my family rejected me, some employers rejected me (hey ! it's their lose not mine, i am loyal and responsible. but then again... maybe i am not what they needed. idk) so yeah... rejection is.. what it is. let's not blow it out of proportion.
Been rejected my whole life...By life, friends, family, girls I liked, etc... For many years it made me a bitter and angry person. About a year ago, I finally had enough and decided to change my life for the better. And I used all that hatred and resentment I used to have, to make me stronger, and now people even enjoy being around me again. I even have women flirting with me and acting interested.
It’s almost like people saw me on the outside how I felt on the inside. And once I pulled a 180* change, people were able to see the real me again. I’ve always been a fighter...But now I know how to harness it for my own positive benefits.
Lana Blakely 🍪 i did not came from instagram....but i have notifications turned on in UA-cam...and yes i do believe in embracing rejection....as a matter of fact i believe whatever doesn't kills you...makes you stronger
The regret that comes from not trying, is a lot more painful than the instant rejection of going for it
ABSOLUTELY!
So far I’ve regretted not trying cause she’s taken. Otherwise I would have done it.
@@ElCapitan88 been there done that , it sucks
Agreed
Regrets are way harder to swallow than rejections
"A life thats held back by fear isn't living, its merely existing"
♥️
Then I just want to exist.
Wrote that important shit down and hung it on my wall...Great quote!
One smart person said: “if God loves you dearly, he will send into your life a lot of rejection - to mold your character so you will not become too proud of yourself when you will finally reach all heights.”
I guess I am meant for heights unknown lol
Rejection makes me incredibly bitter, hurt and lowers my confidence. That experience will do that to ya.
I’m so scared of internet trolls finding this channel, she’s too important to be mocked here, I hope that only good souls will find this channel honestly.
It's too late i'm afraid 😈
Karan lmao 😂
Jonathan Njieptchi yep, unfortunately !
Awe how sweet
Luis Alvarez I mean... Who likes trolls lmao.
Rejection is a blessing in disguise. I’ve grown more as a person after every rejection.
If so then, I reject you too 😉😄😄
It’s totally fine to be rejected. Life goes on.
Not all the damn time
@@thelegendkillersshittyduff1335 You have to move on
@@thelegendkillersshittyduff1335 so if not move on in that ''damn time'', what's you gonna do? Let's me guess..... move on!
My problems r always take rejection too serious . Thats something always drag me down . Very bad for me . But slowly changed a lot ) kill Ego 🤙🤙🤙
@@thelegendkillersshittyduff1335 That time when nature (r)ejects you and you ded
*_rejection is hard, but_* if you never experience rejection can you say you truly lived?
#truthBOMB
I must have lived a lot, then.
Technically, yes. Living is literally what we do every second until we die regardless of what we do. I know I'm being "too literal" but that's how I am.
what kind of word salad is this?
Yes.
I GOT OVER REJECTION, WHEN I REALIZED WE WILL ALL DIE ONE DAY
Same😂
Same here
yeah, we'll die one day wondering "what if I did not get rejected at that point"
Same 😂
Nice
As Aubrey Plaza said "I like being rejected. It makes me feel alive"
Exactly. Rejection = authentic living IMHO
Aubrey Plaza seems mean so people like her actually depress me. That is why I'm more inspired by woman like Rose Namajunas and Tulsi Gabbard. I like when nice people succeed because I'm always told nice guys finish last and that depresses me as someone who can't get rid of their kindness and sympathy.
@Emilia No problem thank you for explaining your reasoning. I might have seen a bad interview of hers and she might have been joking about being a mean person. I understand where you are coming from because Rose was on a reality show to join the UFC. A reality show full of woman fighters can get pretty nasty so if you see certain scenes where she was defending herself you might get the wrong impression about her.
What is she a masochist?
looool says the woman who is incredibly hot. she has no say in this
" you are where you need to be "
now make decisions .
Rejection can sometimes push us beyond our comfort zone and give us the opportunity to do something we only dreamed about. It's hard, but embrace the downs as well as the highs.
For me, I always believe that everything happens for a reason. So whenever I feel rejected for let’s say, trying to invite all my friends for my bday and none of them came, or or trying to work out an issue with a friend who in the end doesn’t want to hear even a word from me, it really hurt but at least I know that I’ve tried. Therefore, I leave these problems to God and I just continue focusing on my studies and just be with people who acknowledge the fact I tried and still be there for me despite everything that has happened. I always believe that through rejection, God has better plans planned out for me and I’ll just go along with it. Maybe one day, friends may come for my bday, or maybe one day I will finally get a girlfriend. I believe patience plays an important role in this as well. So, with that said, my advice is just accept that everything happens for a reason and always believe that if you do good, things will work out for you just fine. And always be with people who truly care about you. My advice may not be that strong, but I just hope it made someone’s day better.
You are too available for those "friends" invest that time in making a better version of yourself, if you are a man people will love you for what you can provide.
Don't worry brother, those people don't deserve you. You are way too precious :)
“The alternative is nothing” that really resonated with me, thank you
What a beautiful and powerful message and the timing is so perfect for me. Today marks the 2nd anniversary of losing my beloved bride of 23 years. I was thinking about all of the relationships and jobs that I was heartbroken over before meeting her and having my world changed forever dramatically instantly. She lead me to move to Atlanta and the South where my career took off and we got married and had three wonderful children who have helped me deal with the loss of their mom. I am so thankful for all of the rejections and failures that lead to the best thing that ever happened to me in my life. One that I never planned or saw coming and even though it ended much too soon (we were supposed to grow old together) I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. Thanks for a great message and reminder. I hope your young audience listens to this message. Trust me... it's worth the risk! Take chances, kids. This is our one life to live. Keep getting back up and going for it. I know this old cowboy is getting back on the horse before my final sunset.
So sorry for your loss.. Wishing you a peaceful period of healing. We will all go through this one way or another..
Sending you love Doriano!
Just get back on your horse brother
❤❤❤
❤❤good luck with your wonderful children..I'm sure you're and you'll always be an awesome dad..your wife would be really proud 😊
“not everything you desire will be meant for you, nor will you be meant for everything you desire” ...that one hit hard..but oh so true🙏🏼
The older I get the more I appreciate my rejections. And I really have a lot of them.
She is beautiful no matter what, even being rejected, you are beautiful!!!
Juni Delgado Colon rejections its not just about relationships
I needed this video! 2 years ago I went to an audition to enter the acting group in my school I got rejected. Right after I felt like I wasn’t good at anything and cried so much but after a while I actually got proud of myself because I stepped out of my comfort zone.
A year later I found out that the teacher that runs the acting group regretted rejecting me and that gave me even more clarity: I was good but I wasn’t the best and that’s okay because you can always improve.
Everything I'm meant to have will be mine and everything I thought I wanted and was denied I'm so glad I didn't get because I have something so much greater.
Lana is the greatest brunette in all of Scandinavia. It's not even close.
She's not Scandinavian though...
@Johan BossieKamp
To me she looks Castizo-Spanish or Persian. She could be Syrian or Lebanese too.
You are dishonouring the scandinavian people and insulting the people of her ethnicity. Embrace your heritage, your inheritance.
She has black hair tho
Karl Marx burns in hell mate
Creativity and limitations coexist to make us grow.
Because of being rejected ... it has helped me learn that I am worthy of anything I set my mind to.
Silence response is not just in the acting world, love. It's most professions and applications.. If only the world had more empathy
❤️ I can’t wait to hear your advice!! I know I shouldn’t take things personally, but getting rejected often hurts and it’s somewhat dented my self-esteem
You don’t understand how bad I needed this video. Thank you so much!
"I get to live with less regrets. And for that reason; I would take that pain any day. Because, again, what the hell is the alternative". These last few words of yours @Lana Blakely is the living proof that I am not alone on this planet earth. This is how practical am I too.
Just having a marathon of your videos, sometimes I get attached to people who don't really know me, thank you for all positivity you've added in me
I like your style in doing videos. And the content is relevant. Especially today that most people are not anymore disposed to suffer.
I love this girl, her wisdom is so good
Those shots of your auditions are awesome! Thank you, for all of the valuable life lessons. Good information.
Lana, you are one of the best reasons there is an internet. Ty, for all you thoughtfully share. 💛🙏
Omg. Why you always know what I am feeling at the moment...
Your so wise and beautiful, so glad I found your channel. I really needed this, got rejected for the first time on a date and it really affected me. But I got over it, shit happens.
The way you put words together and communicate your ideas so clearly is amazing. I feel refreshed after watching this video :)
Ever since I found this video, I listen to it at least 5 times in a day, to remind myself that rejection is the part of life and the experience that we got from it shows that at least we tried something in our life.
Thank you, Lana
Thank you for giving me a new way of looking at the rejection in my life. Seriously, I feel better about it already. I wasn't sure why I was binge watching your videos, but now it's obvious to me that I was meant to hear this exact message. Sometimes it's really hard not to take rejection really hard because it feels so personal. Thank you. :)
I was needing to hear these words, thank you so much! 🙏🏻
My dates have been flaking me, the feeling sucks so much. But I try to be stoic and vulnerable about it, this is a part of life. Thanks.
Couldn't agree more. Rejection is somehow the best ever happened that I'd be thankful to it. Big support to you and everyone. *Peace*
Thank you for that motivation. I think it helps a lot to evaluate something very well instead of just associating it with bad emotions and not coping with it in any way. You did very well with evaluating rejection
Love this video, thank you! The beautiful side of a broken heart is that once it's broken, the light can go in. The compassion and understanding we gain after rejections and heartbreaks, the journey of discoverying great treasures of love & high achievements are the things that makes it worth it.
"Gamble everything for love, if you are a true human being. If not, leave this gathering. Half-heartedness doesn’t reach into majesty." Rumi
Your thoughts are so beautiful and so is the way you put it in words. Being an introvert myself, i can relate pretty well.
I can’t explain how much this helped me. Really made me view rejection with a different perspective. I needed this. Thank you Lana ♥️
Your videos are always adapted to my situation. Really thank you for existing
Thanks for watching :)
I’m learning to trust that “any rejection that I face is the best thing that could happen to me because it forces me to stop and reflect upon myself and that’s where learning happens, that’s where growth happens”. 👌
Thank you for your video. I was rejected throughout my whole life. This is inspiring.
You are such a pure soul.Your videos are just...I don't have words.
Thanks so much Lana. I am so thankful for finding your youtube channel
Best thing i have watched in youtube today !
Thank you so much for making these videos
Thanks a lot!
I’m so thankful I found this channel 🥺❤️
I'm glad I found this channel, although I still find rejection painful considering how often it happens, you've just given me a new perspective on it and I'm thankful for that
Rejection is yet another form of re-direction for self-improvement and self-respect to lead you into a stronger and more ideal place... in the heat of the moment, we're yet to know it and sometimes it takes alot of time to meditate through it to discover it. Thanks again for sharing your mind Lana, much appreciated. My love for that is shown through this gift: 🍪
It is rare!
“It is rare that one finds the love of a lifetime. It is exceptionally rare that you find it a second time. The pain and loss of either love is equally devastating… be it taken from you or unrequited!”
Written by Joseph D Powell
I love the work you put into your videos and your whole aesthetics.
I feel so sad that such kind person is too far away. Interacting on social media is not as satisfying as having a face to face conversation with someone like you. Guess I have to make do. Thank you Lana.
I'm in university right now, and I'm at that point in life where I'm starting to grow and develop. I've been very interested in self-development, which is how I came across this youtube channel. Life has never been as hard as it is now, and it will only get harder. I've seen a lot of rejection happen, and it makes me think if anything I do is still worth it if i'm just gonna get rejected again. I'll always try to remember that one day, after all the no's, there will finally be a yes. I'm holding on to hope because it's keeping me alive.
Hey, this girl is a wise one. I’m subbing.
Tack Lana! Det är som att du läste mina tankar, behövde verkligen en sådan video. Jag önskar jag kunde träffa och prata med dig en dag, det är så mycket jag relaterar till :')
Önskar dig allt gott!
hey, thanks for helping me, the way the videos are edited and the way you talk just seem more convincing and clear to me, keep doing your thing.
Failure is indeed inevitable, moving forward is only life
Thank You Lana... for transforming my life..I don't know what else to say.. but u took me from a point where I was really low,depressed and held me high to face the world and to face the truth named life..
Kaushik SB this made me smile. Here’s two 🍪🍪
youre too much of an artist to be limited as another actor, this was an amazingly creative and insightful video. Thank you for the reminder to keep pushing your boundaries and never give up!
Hey Lana, so I have been following your UA-cam videos for a short while. I enjoy the reflective, sombre and honest contemplations.
I don't find anyone more relatable than you. It's like I keep on watching your videos till the sentences stick in my mind. How well you connect with all of us. I hope you keep motivating us💘💘💘
Thanks a lot!
I cried watching this I always ask myself why do I try meeting new people when it comes with pain this video made everything clear
Wow. Thank you Lana...for sharing your experience. I’ll say, among others rejections push me to actually start to transmute negative energy, I seek a light and I appreciate wisdom.
Thank you so much that you send your videos with the correct subtitles🙏Love your channel❤
I never really comment on UA-cam but this one really helped me. A thanks is what I have.
This is totally helping my healing process. I have distanced myself to my ex-group of friends for 3years now yet the pain is still there because I thought they were my real friends. I experienced bullying from them during our college years and being with the group felt really toxic. When I had a gut to leave the group, I just did and felt soooo free. I messaged them my open letter to made them realize of their toxic actions on me. But it didn’t end the way I want it to be. I still love them though but knowing that no one really cared to talk to me and ask how I felt hurt me so bad. That only shows that they are not a real friend after all.
I’m literally obsessed with your voice and speech pattern. 🥰
"Life has a million ways to say no". Wow, I did not think of rejection in this way. Thank you for sharing!
Whenever I get lonely, I feel much relieved after watching your videos. I realise that I'm not alone in this world. Thank you so much Lana, I really need the company of someone like you in my teens.
P.S. Jonna Jinton and you are both from Sweden. I really enjoy both of your contents! I can see why Sweden is one of the happiest countries in the world.
Thanks a lot for your comment. Yes I know of her!
Thanks for another lovely video Lana
I completely agree with you. And I LOVE your voice and your manner of speaking!
I just want to let you know your UA-cam channel and your book club have changed my life I'm in a much much better place in my life than before I found your channel I just wanted to say I'm extremely thankful for how amazing you are as a person and I used to be nervous and scared and when talking to people now it's nothing to me like water on a duck's back.
Lana this is such a timely post, Ive been dealing with rejections lately with trying to get a job!
I haven't even watched the video yet I just know it's gonna be good. ;)
Thank you so much for these videos
Been there with the job hunt! Best of luck.
Thanks for creating these videos, i feel deeply inspired by your wise words.
I love creating them so it's my pleasure.
This is a perfect timing of my life thank you so much I really needed this .
This is everything I needed to hear right now. Thank you.
This came out at the perfect time.. thank you so much
Thanks for watching :)
Well, I really needed to hear this, so... thank you very much
P.S. For anyone wondering if it is true that rejection redirects you to something better, in my experience it is, but you cannot keep curling up into a ball and waiting for time to pass for too long, that is what actually destroys you, not rejection itself, from my experience.
Tienes toda la razón. El momento posterior a un grave rechazo es peligroso, porque uno no tiene una alternativa inmediata hacia la cual dirigirse: es justamente por eso que el rechazo fue doloroso. A mí me rechazaron una tesis doctoral (por razones ideológicas, yo vivo en Argentina) y pensé en ese momento que tenía que abandonar mi vida intelectual. Fue un grave error. Perdí varios años de mi vida por ese error. Yo tenía que buscar otro lugar en donde hubiese libertad académica y gente decente. Mi vocación era fuerte y volví a mi vida intelectual, y ahora vivo de eso porque soy profesor. Pero en ese lugar no merecían mi trabajo: solo tenían el poder y no querían competencia. Mi país está lleno de esa gente ignorante.
You seem like a really calm person ❤️
I love your attitude. It gives me strength and motivation to try new things
This message hit me
I needed this, thank you
Thank you :)
Beautiful, topical, important video. Your language around fear and living has helped me. Thank you.
Starting tomorrow, I will smile more and get out of my comfort zone to be a better person, to be better person
Your voice is so healing !!love from india❤
Wow she is an angel
I think you're the most beautiful person inside and out and I can see the sincerity and honesty in all of your videos. Keep up the magnificent work! Lots of love 😊💕
I’m loving your reflections
Thank you for this I needed to hear this! ☺️☺️
I'm glad :)
Yeah. Failures and rejections open new dimensions and avenues to our lives, sometimes that we can't even think of. Human mind and thoughts are limited for knowing what's good for one, only nature knows. So it's okay to face rejections and flow with life. And Lana you are doing very good by spreading these values to us. You faced rejections in acting but you do very nice on youtube screen. My best wishes and lots of love for Lana.🎁💖😊
You have given words to my own thoughts and experiences. I felt so connected listening to you.
this right here video is helping my heartbreak/breakup !!
probably the best stuff for heartbreak is this kindof tough love advice I keep discovering. thank you
Ngl, this video was acc helpful and made a lot of sense, subscribed because you have a lot of interesting videos about these kind of subjects such as loneliness, rejection and self worth, great job there very helpful 👍
The pain, suffering, torment, of rejection and not being good enough serve to help you see reality for what it is, and it also teaches one so much about people. I will not elaborate here, it's much to much to get into, but I am so grateful, and I appreciate you saying that in your video. Nevertheless, there is a point of no return, where all you can do, and all you "have" - to do - is wait until it's finished; also enough becomes enough when you've had enough, but in my case, even that may not be enough, or you might say in that respect, that I'll surely be rejected again somehow even if I don't try, but it doesn't matter for me or for anyone; maybe the end will be the only thing that won't reject me?, well I'm looking forward to it You my friend are not there, so LIVE your best life, the one that you have been placed in, and have to live, and continue being grateful for whatever comes your way. The best is yet to come for you. Believe it! Receive it! Love, Love, Be! | Hi from Montana, USA!
"That rejection redirected us to some place better." ❤
UA-cam can recommend great stuff, sometimes. Thank you Lana, I'm glad I found you.