The fact that people want to talk to you about their problems every time you just mention what you do, just made me think how much we need each other and how much we crave for someone to listen.
My therapist is amazing I was getting to where I couldn’t afford to keep going so she lowered her price for me as a Christmas present. Sorry unrelated I just had to share that!
We have a huge conference (Evolutions Conference) every 5 years for all therapists (social workers, psychologists......etc). 7000 participants and I can always tell the LMFT’s because we are so cheery!
I hear yah- I sometimes don't tell people I'm a veterinarian because I get endless questions from strangers and I'm sort of an introvert . I had a whole flight with a guy telling me about his super unique golden retriever like it was a dinosaur and not a dog
Maybe people don't realize that being a therapist is your job, and maybe you love it, but you are not just a therapist, you are much more than that, you are a whole complex human being! So it is completely normal if you want to be among people without being their therapist !!!
One time I asked a friend I was talking to, who wanted my opinion/advice - do you want to know what I actually think, or what I would say at work? 😂 I also get people sometimes spilling random things to me, too...
I agree. It’s rather quite simple. Example, if you’re an accountant or financial advisor at your job. And then at the end of the day, you leave the office to go home or hang out with your friends at a party, you don’t want people to expect you to do their finances for them simply because it’s what you do for a job. You’re there at the party to enjoy, not to work.
I totally relate to dreading the "what do you do for a living?" lol. As a social worker, I get a lot of "Wow, I couldn't do your job", and a lot of "I'm really worried about a kid because of xyz, should I report it to child services?" My state has mandatory reporting for all people over 18, so usually the answer is yes. And then my pharmacist husband gets all the medical questions and strange rashes shown to him at parties.
Its a lot of years...i know in Australia if you want to be a psychologist with a specialisation e.g. Clinical Psychologist you need to study at the very least 6 years..
Also for music therapists the response from other people is totally different... mostly because people don’t realize that it’s a real thing. So we get “oh! What’s that?” Most people think we just sing to people...😑 My go to answer is “I’m a trained therapist and a trained musician and I studied methods on incorporating the two”
I’m studying Art Psychotherapy also at the moment and have been working up to it almost my whole life but everyone always asks what art therapy is and they’re always so fascinated when I explain it and how helpful it is for people from all walks of life but not enough people have heard of it which is a shame!
You had me at "she threw poop at us." Where do I sign up? In all seriousness, your profession attracts a very special type of person with a very special type of personality. Your contribution to our humanity is awesome. Thank you :)
I'm an undergrad psych major now planning to go to graduate school for marriage and family therapy too, so its really helpful to hear about different people's pathways getting there. Thank you :)
Hey Kati, I am not a therapist, but have studied Mental Health as tertiary level. I agree 100% about sending out a vibe. I'm pretty sure that I have a tattoo on my forehead inviting people to confide in me. When I was studying, even one of my module teachers dumped all of his problems on me. LOL Love your work young lady!
I guess people just notice if you're a trustworthy and good listener. I am no therapist and haven't studied that (well, I'm currently studying for becoming a dog's behavioural therapist lol) but I am also one of these persons everybody opens up to. But it's not so hard for me, I don't listen to other people problems all day :D
Ditto, I am not either and people always talk to me. I am a long term care ombudsman but it is why I am going back in the next year to get my MSW. I also don't bring my job up and don't want to deal with it.
No one ever confides in me, but they do ask me for directions all the time, less now that smart phones are a thing.. but I didn't used to be able to go anywhere without someone asking me for directions on the way
To be honest, I don't think I could do all of it within the deadlines because I am not neurotypical. I wouldn't be able to do full time work and then internships on the side. That is insane. How sad that such a valuable career is so incredibly difficult. On top of that, I can't imagine putting that many years of work to earn so little. Those who can endure are definitely incredible and I am so thankful for those of you that do this line of work- but my heart aches that it is this complicated and that what you earn as a therapist is so meager compared to the work put it. Oi.
Rachel Cyders I’m not neurotypical and I’m in school to be a counselor. I live in a different state though. It’s possible. I know that you can complete my grad program in 5 years but full time is 2. And then you need the 3000 hours within 8 years, which is what I read recently. I think it’s possible to do it part time and with boundaries so you can care for your mental health, but that’s just my opinion. I used to be in a way worse place with my mental health and wouldn’t be able to handle it but I’m in a better place now. I hope that things get better for you over time. 💕
I know right?!? I have always felt like the important career paths.. the ones we really need aren't always paid well at all. Teachers definitely fall into this category as well, and I wish we could change that. xoxo
Kati Morton Yes, I completely agree. I don't know how, but I deeply hope it changes someday. My interests and skills are both in mental health and teaching, and it's been difficult to make any forwards motion knowing the financial situation either paths would put me into. I don't care to be rich, but I do long to be financially stable enough to support a family of my own someday. I know it's not impossible, but the lack of security freezes me up.
Rachel Cyders well my mom is a teacher and she struggles with an anxiety disorder. I actually work in a school as a teacher’s aide and have managed but yes, unfortunately it doesn’t pay well. I think if you truly love something you should strive to do it, but at your own pace of course. It’s nice that a lot of schools offer part time programs for that reason. The teaching route in the states from what I know is a bit easier because the masters program is a lot shorter and you need way less internship hours to become a teacher.
I’m on the first step of becoming a therapist, I started off with taking general classes with a community college and I just began my first psychology class! General psych :)
You inspired me to become a counselor! I’m just about to start my second trimester as a graduate counseling psychology student. :) I really love school so far. I’m nervous about the licensure exam and getting all the hours but people have been telling me it tends to fall into place when you’re organized. I hope so!!
@cøffe3 I’ve been a therapist for 1.5 years and am leaving my job soon and taking a break from the field but I will be back in a different setting once I get some personal stuff sorted out !
oh wow! the degrees + licenses vary so much. i took the licensure exam 6 months after grad school because I'm an LMSW. but then there are 3 more years and 3,000 hours to an LCSW. thank you for all you do, and for this video! thank you for giving us credit for the things we do!
So happy to hear you talk about your reaction to people in your non-professional life reacting to you being a therapist. I'm also a therapist and I sometimes feel like it makes me a worse friend because I just don't want to hear all about people's problems after a long day at work. Definitely true that we don't always have our therapist hats on, and that's absolutely OK!
*Gaaahhh* That happens to me all the time. Except when I tell people I'm a therapist they usually think I'm gonna read them. Does a chef thats a friend come into your kitchen and start to cook you food?!?!
Pinnacle Of Man TM Both my father and my boyfriend are in IT and they have a similar problem where if they tell someone their job they will spend the next 10 min - 1 hour fixing someones pc, smartphone, tablet or internet connection.
I have been freaking out about what kinda path I need to take in order to get to becoming a family therapist. All my life that’s what I wanted to do. But I never knew how to get there. Thank you for showing me how you got there and a way I can get there too.
I’m so happy that I found this video. I’m majoring in general studies of psychology with an substance abuse/addiction counseling license. I’m also not in it for the money, just really wanna help people. Really enjoyed this
I can’t speak for other people, but I feel like certain people do give off this vibe that they are a warm and non-judgment person. It weird to say this because you guys are often strangers, but you guys also give off the vibe that makes people feel safe and that you can be trusted. I think that’s why people are so incline to tell you about their problems.
I remember watching your channel when you were studying for the exam(s), hoping you would pass, waiting to hear your results, and finally celebrating that you passed! You’ve come so far not only as a therapist but a UA-camr! All the kinions are so proud of you!! 💖
People like you are very valuable in this insane world. Mental health is on the decline when we have psychopaths ruling us and making everything harder for everyone.
Currently a psych graduate and applying for masters for the third time in 2022 It's a tough journey, especially here in SA (8-12 chosen out of thousands) but watching your videos are so informative guiding and enjoyable. It's so refreshing to relearn and hear things from a different perspective. Thank you for what you do. ❤
I am not a therapist. Heck, I'm not always the healthiest and need a therapist, but my PTSD makes me quiet and more of a listener than than a talker. This causes people tell me things I am not always able to deal with. I think with the high-speed lifestyle so many people live under, when they find someone who listens, they use that opportunity. That may be why even when you don't tell someone you are a therapist, they are still telling you things. You make a good listener even when not in therapy mode. It may be a bad hypothesis, but it has been something I have noticed around me for years as well.
thank you for this! found your channel because i was dealing with difficult life things. before that, i decided i wanted to become a therapist after 13 years of working random service industry jobs & 7 years of education from 4 different colleges. i've always felt that "career" was never going to bring me fulfillment until some recent things that make me realize how rewarding helping others was & how much i cared about people in general. pursuing becoming a therapist has created a goal for me that i haven't had for decades. & yeah, your straight forward description has been both a reality check & an inspiration :) so ty.
The process is so overwhelming and lengthy but worth it in the end. For me it was undergrad, 3 years in grad school (Pepperdine GSEP), 2.5 years post grad accruing my 3,000 hours, 7 weeks studying for the clinical and recently passed on my first try! Btw now the CA clinical is 170 questions (multiple choice) in 4 hours. Love your videos!!!! You’ve helped me over the last few years grow as a clinician. THANK YOU!!
Super interesting, thanks for the behind the scenes :) I'm in my 4th year of studying psychology right now and knowing that there are still so many years ahead of me before I can do what I really want to do can be extremely discouraging at times. So it's really nice to get inspired by someone who has already gone through everything it takes to become a therapist! xo
This makes me appreciate what therapists and other mental health professionals do even more! It takes such a dedicated and compassionate individual to become a therapist, and you certainly have those qualities and many more! Thank you, Kati! ❤️
I really get you with the ppl knowing that you are a therapist. I am not one yet, I am literally just a highschooler and my friends who know that i want to become a therapist only talk to me when they need something like whaaa?? If it's tiring for me it's definitely EXHAUSTING for you!!
i finally found what I want to do after highschool! i've decided that I want to become a psychologist and help people who struggle like I did. I really enjoy these videos because they excite me even more about the future and being able to help people. Im really happy that I found what I want to do and it makes me happy about what is to come.
This is so helpful to me starting out in my journey to becoming a therapist. It reminds me to take a step back accept that I’m not perfect, I’m just human. Also it reminds me to put myself first and acknowledge my ability and limitations. Thanks for sharing Kati ❤️
Thank you so much for being honest. ❤️ I’m an undergrad majoring in Psych. I do have an scholarship but now that I know that you don’t get paid a lot for an internship I’m definitely going to start saving up as much as I can. I would love to finish those hours within 5 or less years.
This video is really refreshing. I started practicum in August for Clinical Mental Health Counseling. I've been looking for vlogs to learn more about the profession. I would like to comment two things on this video. 1.) In Alabama, we can't begin our 3k towards licensing until we graduate. Ugh. 2.) Your comment about wearing your counseling hat is exactly how I already feel. I don't tell anyone what I'm going to school for. I try to explain to my friends that my counseling hat is off when I'm around them. I love what I'm doing, but I do not practice active listening unless I'm working. Great video!
I really appreciate your emphasis on the time commitment. I'm at the beginning stages of my journey to earning my LPC and hearing that you worked while gaining your hours part time on the weekend is really inspiring.
Dear Kati, you're really inspiring. I'm just a 16 year old girl that is really into Therapy and you helped me understand so many mental illnesses better, I always watch your videos and take notes of what you say and try to understand everything fully. I don't know if I will study psychology in the future or not but I just want to thank you for making me gather so many informations about it and about mental illnesses 😊 you're an amazing person and I hope you have a great day. ❤
After being in eating disorder recovery for about 4 months now, I have decided that it is my calling to be a therapist. I'm a confused high school freshmen and this video was so helpful. Thanks for all you do! I hope I can be a therapist like you one day.
This was posted a long time ago but I’m planning to be a therapist so this helped me. I don’t know who I’ll help yet because I’m young (11 years old) I helped someone before and they told me that I’m so helpful. They were going thru depression and they were harming themselves. And I made them a schedule and I have them advice and tips. I also critiqued their life and they improved! I’m so proud of them because a while after, they improved! They still harmed themselves but they only did it not often. So this is so helpful! Thank you so much...
Haha I'm a therapist too and all my life people have approached me to tell me really personal stuff; we give off the vibe, Kati. But real talk, I had to learn to regulate that openess, and it's a delicate line between preserving myself and trying to avoid the person becoming super anguished because of the nature of what they're telling. Would love to hear how you do it, if possible.
In all honesty, I have gotten used to having referrals handy. I will often stop people and tell them I have some great colleagues that would be able to help.. but since we are at a party or dinner or whatever, we should probably get back to that. Obviously I try to do that as quick as possible before they get into too much stuff, but that has saved me from getting stuck in hour long conversations. I hope that helps a bit! xox
Kati Morton That's smart!! I'm very new to being a professional (only since last year), so I love hearing how other collegues handle themselves. Thank you!!
I admire you so much!! And you're not the only one with that kind of problem with people telling you everything, even when they don't know what you do. I'm not a therapist by any means, yet everyone in my life treats me as I am, including co workers and acquaintances. Some stranger off the street that I bump into and just say "sorry" to will start spilling their life story to me. I have no clue how to stop it without seeming mean or uncaring.
She helped me heal from 5 diffrent types of childhood abuse it took me 2 years of watching and learning what she teaches there was 6 therapists but they talked alot about themselves when i talk about my own ptoblems Thanks so much The world is a much better place with you in it definitely wish I can talk to you You know why i chose you and what watch whatyou teach BECAUSE YOUR REAL !!!!!!! AND YOU ALSO SHARE YOUR EMOTIONS AND JUST BEING REAL WE NEED MORE OF THESE PEOPLE LIKE YOU BUT YOUR ONE OF A KIND
Hi! Thanks for this information. I have my undergraduate degree in Elementary Education and am in a graduate program to become a school counselor. My anticipated graduation is 2020. My program is at LEAST 3 years!
This was very very good I have fallen on bad grounds with my councellor looking to find someone else also I had The best inspirational speaker Ever I got A hug Even I love people like that
I was seeing a therapist at a community clinic who in her spare time worked (for tips only) in a restaurant owned by friends. She worked there to help the restaurant get by; she didn’t seriously need the income. But it was her second job, and as I was attending a group luncheon that started 15 minutes after my therapy session ended, there she was, unexpectedly, filling my water glass. No weirder experience in my life than her pouring water for me just 15 minutes after I poured my innermost self out to her!
You're awesome!! I'm currently 52 days away from graduating with my MS in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and am taking the NCE next month!!! It is quite a journey and lots and lots...and lots of hard work aside from just counseling. Love your videos!
Hey kati! I have been dealing with depression and anxiety for years and being home or around my family makes it much worse even though they are not necessarily bad people. They don’t know about my mental issues so when I avoid them they think I’m trying to be a jerk. Because of this, they just so and do things that make it even worse. The worst part about the situation is that the only way I think I could ever get the help I need is through my parents. I can’t even imagine how I Would mention this to them. I have no idea what to do but the longer I wait, the worse it gets, i fear that soon I won’t be able to be helped anymore but I don’t know what to do. I love your videos and they help me so much! Thank you for all of the work you put in every week!
Great info. I'm a paralegal. Thinking I should have been a therapist. Well, after hearing this. Its best to be grateful for what you have and who you are.
It is really extremely comforting that therapists have to go the rough the educational and experiential gauntlet before they are licensed. (I realize the process needs refinement but I digress) Really allows me to have more confidence that - like any graduate with an advanced degree - they know their stuff!
You're very down to earth and friendly, so your viewers want to know more about you. Behind the scenes looks create a feeling of intimacy between you and your viewers. Sometimes on UA-cam presenters are just pretty faces reading a script, and it's nice to see you're more than a pretty face. Some old Psychologists give off an "I'm better than you" vibe. You look like a someone I'd meet at a dinner party. I watched this this because I'm a Psychology student.
Kati, I love that you don't tell people you're a therapist, I'm a trainee lawyer and as soon as someone knows that suddenly they want to tell you all their legal issues, which unless you're wearing that "hat" is something you can't do anything about. Glad it happens in other professions to!
9:54 - The exact reason why I'm thinking I should become a therapist, psychologist, or something in the mental health field. I'm 38 now, been in a completely different line of work for a long time. Kinda want a change and this just makes sense. Thanks for your videos, really helps.
Thank you for this! I am in a Clinical Mental Health grad program and I had the hardest time getting someone to tell me what it was actually like to be a therapist before I went into it! This was helpful and reassuring. I don’t expect to make a ton of money but I do hope that I can leave a good legacy of love and healing behind. Thank you for you candor ❤
I think a lot of us who work in the field put off that vibe unintentionally. I work in addictions counseling, and random strangers tell me their life story ALL THE TIME. It's one of the main reasons I don't take public transportation that much anymore.
I gave this video a thumbs up. I really didn't think about how therapists are normal people too and they don't do therapy 24/7 they have their own lives. So the best takeaway from this video is if you know a therapist don't try to make them do their job when they are off the clock
I’m applying for mental health counseling programs and I’m really scared but excited to do it. I have no idea how I’m going to balance everything and make a living during school but I’m going to make the leap. I hope it works out since I’m 31 and running out of time to figure out my career
You have all these strangers confiding to you with their innermost secrets because you are open, friendly, and very genuine. Humans are adept at detecting who we can trust.
That feeling when I discovered this video just when it was released without even getting the notification yet, haha! I love love love these "behind the scenes" kinda videos so much! 💕 Looking forward to watching this while packing up and getting ready to move out on my own for the first time next week! 😄
Oh, I felt this in the depths of my soul. I give off the same "vibe" and had to learn proper self-care. To keep my good boundaries, I have to practice them and keep myself in check. I haven't practiced in a decade but keep my licenses current. I prefer freelance writing in the field now. Thank you for sharing your experience!
I wish more mental health professionals were as encouraging and uplifting as you are; I understand this job takes alot but I wish I wasn't treated like the problem when sometimes I just need help getting to the solution. Thank you for giving me hope again
Hello Kati! I’m a therapist too and what you said is super relatable! I’m an LAC and it’s taken me FOREVER to get my LPC. NJ requires 4500 hours and I had to put part of my counseling on hold to raise my autistic child. I’m getting there though. I absolutely love your videos and I’m glad that I’ve been able to find you! Best!!
Oh my god literally the first time I watched one of your videos just the way you talked and looked as you talked I actually thought “is this girl a counselor?” That counselor vibe thing is so true it reminds me of the school counselors
Thank you Kati, I am a marriage and family therapist too, graduated last year and will start studying for the licensure exam soon. Your videos are so helpful. Here in Florida the hours required are less and the university I went to did not require the GRE. Like you said each state is different. Just wanted to encourage others that before getting dissapointed they should check their state's requirements. I commend you for persevering and now you are helping us all. Thank you so much for your dedication and your valuable information.
Yep I have always had people tell me all their info moments after I meet them. Think that's why I decided to go back to school to be a counselor...If people are already comfortable (apparently) talking to me about intimate stuff I might as well learn the best way to respond and not cause harm....And learn how to turn that off.
I'm a therapist myself (Clinical social worker) and I myself don't like to tell people sometimes what I do because usually I come across two types of people: A) they'll tell you everything that's going on and at that moment you're not in therapy mode or B) Some people would stop talking because they probably think you're diagnosing them at the moment (which is NEVER the case). I love helping others just like you Kati, but there's a time and place where I like to relax for a bit and not be a therapist a let loose and chill. The only time I'm in therapist mode is when I'm actually seeing client's. Other than that, I'm just a regular person like everyone else. So I know how you feel in that area. Great video. I love watching your videos Kati.
Hi Kati! First of all congratulations for passing all your licensing exams and becoming a therapist! I really admire your perseverence :) I'm also on this similar road now, just started working as an "intern" type therapist. I'm working in Hungary but I can say it's pretty similar than over there... Lots and lots of years of learning and gaining experience and working loads of side jobs to actually make money :D But it's very encouraging to see you do what you like and so well, but at the same time being honest about the rocky parts of this road. Thank you for your videos! Keep them coming :)
Last year I was feeling really isolated and decided to talk to strangers because I didn't feel like I could talk normally with my friends. But I ended up listening to strangers about their problems so I get that vibe you're talking about.
I’m currently a music and psychology major as an undergrad too (it added an extra two years for me 🙄)! But how cool!! Love your work and this channel! I watch religiously! ❤️ I’ll be starting my master’s program in August (for both my LPC and LMFT here in Texas, no music!). This was very cool to hear what to expect! It seems like an endless process at the moment... lol
I was in a hospital psych ward as a patient for a week when my wife left me. I have bipolar disorder. I loved my time in the hospital and except for the fact that I was separated from my children who were under 18; It was wonderful. Being around others like myself who understood my pain was calming. I do not remember my nurses and therapists, just my fellow “inmates.”😊
You do give off a very calming and understanding vibe - it’s comforting for others but unfortunate that you have to set more boundaries than most. That’s a lot of work!
I'm super glad for this video! I'm on my path to hopefully becoming a therapist, and it's honestly all so confusing on what I'm supposed to do, what degrees I need to get... This definitely helped clarify some for me. I currently only have an associates degree in psychology, and honestly was feeling a little lost on where to go next since I did those two years at a community college.
this has helped me so much because im debating on becoming a therapist or a psych nurse 😭 . i love talking & helping people so im aiming for a therapist i just didn’t know the route to take becoming a therapist
I am in my second year of a 5 year doctoral counseling program. I appreciate your perspective on what real life is like while being a therapist a lot! Maybe you could tell us some more about those different settings and how their demands affected your self care?
Dude, that last part about having people approach you with their problems is super relateable lol. I'm currently in my 2nd semester of my Masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling, on top of that I work as a Graduated Administrator at my University's Counseling center. That being said, I am glad I found your channel. It's a great guide to deciding if I want to get my LPC and stuff. Keep making content!
You REALLY wanted to be a therapist. So much respect. If you were my therapist, I’d trust you so much more knowing all this.
xoxo
It’s ok bud, I think we all want her to be our freaking therapist...😂 she’s like the queen of therapiss
Agree!! So much passion and effort.
I want to be. A therapist but i have to many problems myself i would probably need therapy
@@bigred35471 you have the same thoughts as I do. Even therapists see therapists so all hope is not lost
The fact that people want to talk to you about their problems every time you just mention what you do, just made me think how much we need each other and how much we crave for someone to listen.
My therapist is amazing I was getting to where I couldn’t afford to keep going so she lowered her price for me as a Christmas present. Sorry unrelated I just had to share that!
Apparently being a therapist makes you bubbly, animated, and infectiously positive;)
Awe :) xoxo
Michael Wilson wtf.....?? Yeah, u need serious help lol.....I’ll contact Kati or Dr. Phil, don’t worry :))
We have a huge conference (Evolutions Conference) every 5 years for all therapists (social workers, psychologists......etc). 7000 participants and I can always tell the LMFT’s because we are so cheery!
I hear yah- I sometimes don't tell people I'm a veterinarian because I get endless questions from strangers and I'm sort of an introvert . I had a whole flight with a guy telling me about his super unique golden retriever like it was a dinosaur and not a dog
hahah!! Yeah it can get to be too much.. sometimes it's just better to say I work in marketing or something.. haha!! xox
Ughhhh I feel you. I work with horses and people react like I say I breed and train dragons for battle.
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Maybe people don't realize that being a therapist is your job, and maybe you love it, but you are not just a therapist, you are much more than that, you are a whole complex human being! So it is completely normal if you want to be among people without being their therapist !!!
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One time I asked a friend I was talking to, who wanted my opinion/advice - do you want to know what I actually think, or what I would say at work? 😂 I also get people sometimes spilling random things to me, too...
Poemi10304 That did not make any sense at all but ok
I agree.
It’s rather quite simple. Example, if you’re an accountant or financial advisor at your job. And then at the end of the day, you leave the office to go home or hang out with your friends at a party, you don’t want people to expect you to do their finances for them simply because it’s what you do for a job. You’re there at the party to enjoy, not to work.
@@VideosOfRandomContextit made so much sense
I totally relate to dreading the "what do you do for a living?" lol. As a social worker, I get a lot of "Wow, I couldn't do your job", and a lot of "I'm really worried about a kid because of xyz, should I report it to child services?" My state has mandatory reporting for all people over 18, so usually the answer is yes.
And then my pharmacist husband gets all the medical questions and strange rashes shown to him at parties.
This helped me a lot because I'm also thinking about becoming a therapist. Thanks!
Oh yay!! I am so glad :) xoxo
Me too!
Same:)
Haha me too (:
Me too..
Great video Kati! I think it explains why therapist are expensive. You guys study for 11 years. Totally deserved!
Thanks! I am so glad you enjoyed the video :) xoxo
Kevin Abroad it's not 11 years
Kevin Abroad it's basically bullshit
Its a lot of years...i know in Australia if you want to be a psychologist with a specialisation e.g. Clinical Psychologist you need to study at the very least 6 years..
Leila Nadine That's very true. There's similar in Australia like different processes but most of them that i know about still take around 6 years.
Also for music therapists the response from other people is totally different... mostly because people don’t realize that it’s a real thing. So we get “oh! What’s that?” Most people think we just sing to people...😑 My go to answer is “I’m a trained therapist and a trained musician and I studied methods on incorporating the two”
Just got accepted into an art therapy grad program and I get this all the time too! I get 'Oh, like those coloring books?' *all* the time.
ASL Anissa when I was in grad school I took a mini seminar and I didn’t even know it existed! It’s pretty powerful stuff! Kudos to you!
I’m studying Art Psychotherapy also at the moment and have been working up to it almost my whole life but everyone always asks what art therapy is and they’re always so fascinated when I explain it and how helpful it is for people from all walks of life but not enough people have heard of it which is a shame!
I'm an MT-BC myself.
yay fellow music therapist!
You had me at "she threw poop at us." Where do I sign up? In all seriousness, your profession attracts a very special type of person with a very special type of personality. Your contribution to our humanity is awesome. Thank you :)
I'm an undergrad psych major now planning to go to graduate school for marriage and family therapy too, so its really helpful to hear about different people's pathways getting there. Thank you :)
Hey Kati, I am not a therapist, but have studied Mental Health as tertiary level.
I agree 100% about sending out a vibe. I'm pretty sure that I have a tattoo on my forehead inviting people to confide in me.
When I was studying, even one of my module teachers dumped all of his problems on me. LOL Love your work young lady!
I'm glad I'm not the only one!! haha!! xoxo
I guess people just notice if you're a trustworthy and good listener. I am no therapist and haven't studied that (well, I'm currently studying for becoming a dog's behavioural therapist lol) but I am also one of these persons everybody opens up to. But it's not so hard for me, I don't listen to other people problems all day :D
Ditto, I am not either and people always talk to me. I am a long term care ombudsman but it is why I am going back in the next year to get my MSW. I also don't bring my job up and don't want to deal with it.
No one ever confides in me, but they do ask me for directions all the time, less now that smart phones are a thing.. but I didn't used to be able to go anywhere without someone asking me for directions on the way
I wanna be the girl that everyone bakes pies for. How do I get to be that girl.
I’m not a therapist in any capacity and people still tell me their life story...
spydalover bro same
Moodddd lol
Same here
Same here
Same. My whole life
To be honest, I don't think I could do all of it within the deadlines because I am not neurotypical. I wouldn't be able to do full time work and then internships on the side. That is insane. How sad that such a valuable career is so incredibly difficult. On top of that, I can't imagine putting that many years of work to earn so little. Those who can endure are definitely incredible and I am so thankful for those of you that do this line of work- but my heart aches that it is this complicated and that what you earn as a therapist is so meager compared to the work put it. Oi.
Rachel Cyders I’m not neurotypical and I’m in school to be a counselor. I live in a different state though. It’s possible. I know that you can complete my grad program in 5 years but full time is 2. And then you need the 3000 hours within 8 years, which is what I read recently. I think it’s possible to do it part time and with boundaries so you can care for your mental health, but that’s just my opinion. I used to be in a way worse place with my mental health and wouldn’t be able to handle it but I’m in a better place now. I hope that things get better for you over time. 💕
I know right?!? I have always felt like the important career paths.. the ones we really need aren't always paid well at all. Teachers definitely fall into this category as well, and I wish we could change that. xoxo
guiltmenot that's really wonderful you've found a way to make it work well for you!
Kati Morton Yes, I completely agree. I don't know how, but I deeply hope it changes someday. My interests and skills are both in mental health and teaching, and it's been difficult to make any forwards motion knowing the financial situation either paths would put me into. I don't care to be rich, but I do long to be financially stable enough to support a family of my own someday. I know it's not impossible, but the lack of security freezes me up.
Rachel Cyders well my mom is a teacher and she struggles with an anxiety disorder. I actually work in a school as a teacher’s aide and have managed but yes, unfortunately it doesn’t pay well. I think if you truly love something you should strive to do it, but at your own pace of course. It’s nice that a lot of schools offer part time programs for that reason. The teaching route in the states from what I know is a bit easier because the masters program is a lot shorter and you need way less internship hours to become a teacher.
Could you make a video talking about your experience in grad school/how to decide what psychology based career to pursue?
Lol, hearing how long it takes to become a therapist breaks my heart
I’m on the first step of becoming a therapist, I started off with taking general classes with a community college and I just began my first psychology class! General psych :)
And just to add, being a therapist can be emotionally exhausting but also so very rewarding. 😊
You inspired me to become a counselor! I’m just about to start my second trimester as a graduate counseling psychology student. :) I really love school so far. I’m nervous about the licensure exam and getting all the hours but people have been telling me it tends to fall into place when you’re organized. I hope so!!
How is it going?
@cøffe3 I’ve been a therapist for 1.5 years and am leaving my job soon and taking a break from the field but I will be back in a different setting once I get some personal stuff sorted out !
oh wow! the degrees + licenses vary so much. i took the licensure exam 6 months after grad school because I'm an LMSW. but then there are 3 more years and 3,000 hours to an LCSW. thank you for all you do, and for this video! thank you for giving us credit for the things we do!
So happy to hear you talk about your reaction to people in your non-professional life reacting to you being a therapist. I'm also a therapist and I sometimes feel like it makes me a worse friend because I just don't want to hear all about people's problems after a long day at work. Definitely true that we don't always have our therapist hats on, and that's absolutely OK!
*Gaaahhh* That happens to me all the time. Except when I tell people I'm a therapist they usually think I'm gonna read them.
Does a chef thats a friend come into your kitchen and start to cook you food?!?!
Pinnacle Of Man TM Both my father and my boyfriend are in IT and they have a similar problem where if they tell someone their job they will spend the next 10 min - 1 hour fixing someones pc, smartphone, tablet or internet connection.
Photographer here! I am expected to “bring my camera” everywhere. Nahhhh.
Erm I'm a chef friend that starts cooking in your kitchen...
I have been freaking out about what kinda path I need to take in order to get to becoming a family therapist. All my life that’s what I wanted to do. But I never knew how to get there. Thank you for showing me how you got there and a way I can get there too.
I’m so happy that I found this video. I’m majoring in general studies of psychology with an substance abuse/addiction counseling license.
I’m also not in it for the money, just really wanna help people.
Really enjoyed this
I can’t speak for other people, but I feel like certain people do give off this vibe that they are a warm and non-judgment person. It weird to say this because you guys are often strangers, but you guys also give off the vibe that makes people feel safe and that you can be trusted. I think that’s why people are so incline to tell you about their problems.
It’s so cool to see how your channel has developed, love the new editing style!
Yay! I am so glad :) xoxo
I remember watching your channel when you were studying for the exam(s), hoping you would pass, waiting to hear your results, and finally celebrating that you passed! You’ve come so far not only as a therapist but a UA-camr! All the kinions are so proud of you!! 💖
People like you are very valuable in this insane world. Mental health is on the decline when we have psychopaths ruling us and making everything harder for everyone.
Currently a psych graduate and applying for masters for the third time in 2022 It's a tough journey, especially here in SA (8-12 chosen out of thousands) but watching your videos are so informative guiding and enjoyable. It's so refreshing to relearn and hear things from a different perspective. Thank you for what you do. ❤
I am not a therapist. Heck, I'm not always the healthiest and need a therapist, but my PTSD makes me quiet and more of a listener than than a talker. This causes people tell me things I am not always able to deal with. I think with the high-speed lifestyle so many people live under, when they find someone who listens, they use that opportunity. That may be why even when you don't tell someone you are a therapist, they are still telling you things. You make a good listener even when not in therapy mode. It may be a bad hypothesis, but it has been something I have noticed around me for years as well.
thank you for this! found your channel because i was dealing with difficult life things. before that, i decided i wanted to become a therapist after 13 years of working random service industry jobs & 7 years of education from 4 different colleges. i've always felt that "career" was never going to bring me fulfillment until some recent things that make me realize how rewarding helping others was & how much i cared about people in general. pursuing becoming a therapist has created a goal for me that i haven't had for decades. & yeah, your straight forward description has been both a reality check & an inspiration :) so ty.
The process is so overwhelming and lengthy but worth it in the end. For me it was undergrad, 3 years in grad school (Pepperdine GSEP), 2.5 years post grad accruing my 3,000 hours, 7 weeks studying for the clinical and recently passed on my first try! Btw now the CA clinical is 170 questions (multiple choice) in 4 hours.
Love your videos!!!! You’ve helped me over the last few years grow as a clinician. THANK YOU!!
Super interesting, thanks for the behind the scenes :) I'm in my 4th year of studying psychology right now and knowing that there are still so many years ahead of me before I can do what I really want to do can be extremely discouraging at times. So it's really nice to get inspired by someone who has already gone through everything it takes to become a therapist! xo
This makes me appreciate what therapists and other mental health professionals do even more! It takes such a dedicated and compassionate individual to become a therapist, and you certainly have those qualities and many more! Thank you, Kati! ❤️
I really get you with the ppl knowing that you are a therapist. I am not one yet, I am literally just a highschooler and my friends who know that i want to become a therapist only talk to me when they need something like whaaa?? If it's tiring for me it's definitely EXHAUSTING for you!!
i finally found what I want to do after highschool! i've decided that I want to become a psychologist and help people who struggle like I did. I really enjoy these videos because they excite me even more about the future and being able to help people. Im really happy that I found what I want to do and it makes me happy about what is to come.
This is so helpful to me starting out in my journey to becoming a therapist. It reminds me to take a step back accept that I’m not perfect, I’m just human. Also it reminds me to put myself first and acknowledge my ability and limitations. Thanks for sharing Kati ❤️
Thank you so much for being honest. ❤️ I’m an undergrad majoring in Psych. I do have an scholarship but now that I know that you don’t get paid a lot for an internship I’m definitely going to start saving up as much as I can. I would love to finish those hours within 5 or less years.
I have SO MUCH respect for licensed therapists now
This video is really refreshing. I started practicum in August for Clinical Mental Health Counseling. I've been looking for vlogs to learn more about the profession. I would like to comment two things on this video. 1.) In Alabama, we can't begin our 3k towards licensing until we graduate. Ugh. 2.) Your comment about wearing your counseling hat is exactly how I already feel. I don't tell anyone what I'm going to school for. I try to explain to my friends that my counseling hat is off when I'm around them. I love what I'm doing, but I do not practice active listening unless I'm working. Great video!
I really appreciate your emphasis on the time commitment. I'm at the beginning stages of my journey to earning my LPC and hearing that you worked while gaining your hours part time on the weekend is really inspiring.
I admire what you do because I could never do what you do. You have a special level of patience.
You must be an amazing therapist because I instantly felt very comfortable with your personality.
Dear Kati, you're really inspiring. I'm just a 16 year old girl that is really into Therapy and you helped me understand so many mental illnesses better, I always watch your videos and take notes of what you say and try to understand everything fully. I don't know if I will study psychology in the future or not but I just want to thank you for making me gather so many informations about it and about mental illnesses 😊 you're an amazing person and I hope you have a great day. ❤
Being a therapist is such a rewarding job.
After being in eating disorder recovery for about 4 months now, I have decided that it is my calling to be a therapist. I'm a confused high school freshmen and this video was so helpful. Thanks for all you do! I hope I can be a therapist like you one day.
This was posted a long time ago but I’m planning to be a therapist so this helped me. I don’t know who I’ll help yet because I’m young (11 years old) I helped someone before and they told me that I’m so helpful. They were going thru depression and they were harming themselves. And I made them a schedule and I have them advice and tips. I also critiqued their life and they improved! I’m so proud of them because a while after, they improved! They still harmed themselves but they only did it not often.
So this is so helpful! Thank you so much...
Haha I'm a therapist too and all my life people have approached me to tell me really personal stuff; we give off the vibe, Kati.
But real talk, I had to learn to regulate that openess, and it's a delicate line between preserving myself and trying to avoid the person becoming super anguished because of the nature of what they're telling. Would love to hear how you do it, if possible.
In all honesty, I have gotten used to having referrals handy. I will often stop people and tell them I have some great colleagues that would be able to help.. but since we are at a party or dinner or whatever, we should probably get back to that. Obviously I try to do that as quick as possible before they get into too much stuff, but that has saved me from getting stuck in hour long conversations. I hope that helps a bit! xox
Kati Morton That's smart!! I'm very new to being a professional (only since last year), so I love hearing how other collegues handle themselves. Thank you!!
ojiverdeconfleco HOW LONG DID IT TAKE YOU TO BECOME Licensed
I admire you so much!! And you're not the only one with that kind of problem with people telling you everything, even when they don't know what you do. I'm not a therapist by any means, yet everyone in my life treats me as I am, including co workers and acquaintances. Some stranger off the street that I bump into and just say "sorry" to will start spilling their life story to me. I have no clue how to stop it without seeming mean or uncaring.
She helped me heal from 5 diffrent types of childhood abuse it took me 2 years of watching and learning what she teaches there was 6 therapists but they talked alot about themselves when i talk about my own ptoblems
Thanks so much
The world is a much better place with you in it definitely wish I can talk to you
You know why i chose you and what watch whatyou teach
BECAUSE YOUR REAL !!!!!!! AND YOU ALSO SHARE YOUR EMOTIONS AND JUST BEING REAL WE NEED MORE OF THESE PEOPLE LIKE YOU BUT YOUR ONE OF A KIND
Hi! Thanks for this information. I have my undergraduate degree in Elementary Education and am in a graduate program to become a school counselor. My anticipated graduation is 2020. My program is at LEAST 3 years!
This was very very good I have fallen on bad grounds with my councellor looking to find someone else also I had The best inspirational speaker Ever I got A hug Even I love people like that
I was seeing a therapist at a community clinic who in her spare time worked (for tips only) in a restaurant owned by friends. She worked there to help the restaurant get by; she didn’t seriously need the income.
But it was her second job, and as I was attending a group luncheon that started 15 minutes after my therapy session ended, there she was, unexpectedly, filling my water glass. No weirder experience in my life than her pouring water for me just 15 minutes after I poured my innermost self out to her!
You're awesome!! I'm currently 52 days away from graduating with my MS in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and am taking the NCE next month!!! It is quite a journey and lots and lots...and lots of hard work aside from just counseling. Love your videos!
Hey kati! I have been dealing with depression and anxiety for years and being home or around my family makes it much worse even though they are not necessarily bad people. They don’t know about my mental issues so when I avoid them they think I’m trying to be a jerk. Because of this, they just so and do things that make it even worse. The worst part about the situation is that the only way I think I could ever get the help I need is through my parents. I can’t even imagine how I Would mention this to them. I have no idea what to do but the longer I wait, the worse it gets, i fear that soon I won’t be able to be helped anymore but I don’t know what to do. I love your videos and they help me so much! Thank you for all of the work you put in every week!
Great info. I'm a paralegal. Thinking I should have been a therapist. Well, after hearing this. Its best to be grateful for what you have and who you are.
It is really extremely comforting that therapists have to go the rough the educational and experiential gauntlet before they are licensed. (I realize the process needs refinement but I digress) Really allows me to have more confidence that - like any graduate with an advanced degree - they know their stuff!
You're very down to earth and friendly, so your viewers want to know more about you. Behind the scenes looks create a feeling of intimacy between you and your viewers. Sometimes on UA-cam presenters are just pretty faces reading a script, and it's nice to see you're more than a pretty face. Some old Psychologists give off an "I'm better than you" vibe. You look like a someone I'd meet at a dinner party. I watched this this because I'm a Psychology student.
Kati, I love that you don't tell people you're a therapist, I'm a trainee lawyer and as soon as someone knows that suddenly they want to tell you all their legal issues, which unless you're wearing that "hat" is something you can't do anything about. Glad it happens in other professions to!
9:54 - The exact reason why I'm thinking I should become a therapist, psychologist, or something in the mental health field. I'm 38 now, been in a completely different line of work for a long time. Kinda want a change and this just makes sense. Thanks for your videos, really helps.
LCSW here- respectfully it can be financially rewarding. Just depends where you go and how you apply yourself.
Thank you for this! I am in a Clinical Mental Health grad program and I had the hardest time getting someone to tell me what it was actually like to be a therapist before I went into it! This was helpful and reassuring. I don’t expect to make a ton of money but I do hope that I can leave a good legacy of love and healing behind. Thank you for you candor ❤
I think a lot of us who work in the field put off that vibe unintentionally. I work in addictions counseling, and random strangers tell me their life story ALL THE TIME. It's one of the main reasons I don't take public transportation that much anymore.
You definitely put off a vibe--everything about your demeanor says "safe" to me, so it totally makes sense that you get a lot of oversharing.
I gave this video a thumbs up.
I really didn't think about how therapists are normal people too and they don't do therapy 24/7 they have their own lives.
So the best takeaway from this video is if you know a therapist don't try to make them do their job when they are off the clock
I’m applying for mental health counseling programs and I’m really scared but excited to do it. I have no idea how I’m going to balance everything and make a living during school but I’m going to make the leap. I hope it works out since I’m 31 and running out of time to figure out my career
"I'm not always in therapist mode" something I've said about me about myself often "I'm not in manager mode all the time."
You have all these strangers confiding to you with their innermost secrets because you are open, friendly, and very genuine. Humans are adept at detecting who we can trust.
As an undergraduate student in Psych, I found this video very informative and helpful. Thank You!
That feeling when I discovered this video just when it was released without even getting the notification yet, haha! I love love love these "behind the scenes" kinda videos so much! 💕 Looking forward to watching this while packing up and getting ready to move out on my own for the first time next week! 😄
Made it to the part about boundaries. Yikes!! *runs away* 😅
Yay!! Good luck with the move :) I am so excite for you!! I hope you enjoy the video!! xoxo
Oh, I felt this in the depths of my soul. I give off the same "vibe" and had to learn proper self-care. To keep my good boundaries, I have to practice them and keep myself in check. I haven't practiced in a decade but keep my licenses current. I prefer freelance writing in the field now. Thank you for sharing your experience!
I wish more mental health professionals were as encouraging and uplifting as you are; I understand this job takes alot but I wish I wasn't treated like the problem when sometimes I just need help getting to the solution. Thank you for giving me hope again
Hello Kati! I’m a therapist too and what you said is super relatable! I’m an LAC and it’s taken me FOREVER to get my LPC. NJ requires 4500 hours and I had to put part of my counseling on hold to raise my autistic child. I’m getting there though. I absolutely love your videos and I’m glad that I’ve been able to find you! Best!!
Kati you are a wonderful therapist.
Oh my god literally the first time I watched one of your videos just the way you talked and looked as you talked I actually thought “is this girl a counselor?” That counselor vibe thing is so true it reminds me of the school counselors
Just started CBT today & was some what prepared thanks to your videos!
Thank you Kati, I am a marriage and family therapist too, graduated last year and will start studying for the licensure exam soon. Your videos are so helpful. Here in Florida the hours required are less and the university I went to did not require the GRE. Like you said each state is different. Just wanted to encourage others that before getting dissapointed they should check their state's requirements. I commend you for persevering and now you are helping us all. Thank you so much for your dedication and your valuable information.
Yep I have always had people tell me all their info moments after I meet them. Think that's why I decided to go back to school to be a counselor...If people are already comfortable (apparently) talking to me about intimate stuff I might as well learn the best way to respond and not cause harm....And learn how to turn that off.
Yes! This is exactly the type of video I wanted. I’m deciding to get my license too and this video is prefect for me! Thank you!
Yay! So glad it was helpful :) xoxo
I think it's because you are so nice,caring, and empathetic person.
I'm a therapist myself (Clinical social worker) and I myself don't like to tell people sometimes what I do because usually I come across two types of people: A) they'll tell you everything that's going on and at that moment you're not in therapy mode or B) Some people would stop talking because they probably think you're diagnosing them at the moment (which is NEVER the case). I love helping others just like you Kati, but there's a time and place where I like to relax for a bit and not be a therapist a let loose and chill. The only time I'm in therapist mode is when I'm actually seeing client's. Other than that, I'm just a regular person like everyone else. So I know how you feel in that area. Great video. I love watching your videos Kati.
Hi Kati!
First of all congratulations for passing all your licensing exams and becoming a therapist! I really admire your perseverence :) I'm also on this similar road now, just started working as an "intern" type therapist. I'm working in Hungary but I can say it's pretty similar than over there... Lots and lots of years of learning and gaining experience and working loads of side jobs to actually make money :D But it's very encouraging to see you do what you like and so well, but at the same time being honest about the rocky parts of this road.
Thank you for your videos! Keep them coming :)
Last year I was feeling really isolated and decided to talk to strangers because I didn't feel like I could talk normally with my friends. But I ended up listening to strangers about their problems so I get that vibe you're talking about.
You're very personable and open seeming so no wonder people want to share with you even if they do not know you are a therapist.
This inspires me. You’re a very soulful human being. You aren’t just a simple chase pleasure and take the easiest route type of person.
I think your great at what you do, some people just have a natural gift of communicating with people. And your a beautiful lady.
You mention GRE and I cringe inside. I am so grateful that is in the past for me. Thanks for the video :)
Currently getting my masters in clinical and mental health counseling. Glad that I found your channel. New subbie 🤎❕
I’m currently a music and psychology major as an undergrad too (it added an extra two years for me 🙄)! But how cool!! Love your work and this channel! I watch religiously! ❤️ I’ll be starting my master’s program in August (for both my LPC and LMFT here in Texas, no music!). This was very cool to hear what to expect! It seems like an endless process at the moment... lol
Love the note to Jeff... help Kati with her student fees already!!!!
I know right?!?! hahaha!! Love that you caught that!
I like that you put the cards on the table. I wondered why so many therapist have three jobs. At least you got benefits working in the hospital.
I was in a hospital psych ward as a patient for a week when my wife left me. I have bipolar disorder. I loved my time in the hospital and except for the fact that I was separated from my children who were under 18; It was wonderful. Being around others like myself who understood my pain was calming. I do not remember my nurses and therapists, just my fellow “inmates.”😊
You do give off a very calming and understanding vibe - it’s comforting for others but unfortunate that you have to set more boundaries than most. That’s a lot of work!
Empathy for my therapist as well, and so greatful.
I'm super glad for this video! I'm on my path to hopefully becoming a therapist, and it's honestly all so confusing on what I'm supposed to do, what degrees I need to get... This definitely helped clarify some for me. I currently only have an associates degree in psychology, and honestly was feeling a little lost on where to go next since I did those two years at a community college.
this has helped me so much because im debating on becoming a therapist or a psych nurse 😭 . i love talking & helping people so im aiming for a therapist i just didn’t know the route to take becoming a therapist
"How do people respond when they find out Im a therapist?" - You've become a superhero in the most meaningful sense, Kati.
I LOVE your honesty very insightful
I am in my second year of a 5 year doctoral counseling program. I appreciate your perspective on what real life is like while being a therapist a lot! Maybe you could tell us some more about those different settings and how their demands affected your self care?
Dude, that last part about having people approach you with their problems is super relateable lol. I'm currently in my 2nd semester of my Masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling, on top of that I work as a Graduated Administrator at my University's Counseling center. That being said, I am glad I found your channel. It's a great guide to deciding if I want to get my LPC and stuff. Keep making content!