Get the Most Out of Therapy! | Kati Morton
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- Опубліковано 29 вер 2024
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I just revealed to my group that I had a hard time reading the materials. I am so happy that you will have an audio that will help me a lot. Kati I think a lot of us have trouble with our reading. And remembering what we read. So that makes this process challenging. I bought a book. And then I purchased an e version on my Kendal. This help because I can choose to pay for the Audio or let Alexa read it to me. Well anyway thanks for another great video.
How can I get over losing a therapist who I was very attached to? She meant the world to me and was the single most important person in my life
I read this as “How to Get Out of Therapy” lol
Jay Robert sorta seems like what the vid is lmaoo
I meaaaan, that can be the ultimate goal of going to therapy! To get out of therapy!
I just started therapy again, I was with the same therapist for 7 years because I was young and didn’t understand what to gain from those appointments. There was no homework or real gain from the conversation most of it was me venting because I was so young I really didn’t know how therapy was supposed to work. Eventually I vetted countless therapists until I found someone that genuinely cares and gives me “homework” during each visit. It’s been more constructive than any session I’ve had & this video just confirms for me that I’m on the right path. Thank you so much.
Thank you so much for bearing the emotional slings and arrows that come along with putting your advice out there in the digital world, your guidance is truely a priceless additional tool for those seeking progress xo
Thank you for listing everything out in the description 🙏
ive known my therapist for more than 2 years, she was referred to me through my high school and now that i’ve started college the time has come for us to terminate our sessions. And when you mentioned the part about being attached to your therapist it really struck a chord within me. She’s helped me through some of the most difficult situations i’ve ever had in my life and i’m genuinely sad because i won’t have her anymore to be able to talk to. My college offers counseling with therapists but i just don’t want to let go of my therapist because she’s absolutely amazing and has been such a big help. I guess im afraid of starting over with a new therapist because im still clinging to the relationship and bond that i have with my old one. I don’t know how to come to terms with the fact that i won’t be seeing her anymore because i believe that i still need to have sessions with her even though she thinks that i don’t need her counseling anymore
anell peña that really sucks that you have to move on. What might help is seeing if your therapist can reach out to a counselor at your university and brief them on the work you’ve done so you won’t be starting over. You can also ask if you can do phone sessions and then tapper off so it’s not so sudden. Kati also has some great videos on this! Hope this helps! ua-cam.com/video/4NxMtG4Jp98/v-deo.html
ua-cam.com/video/R-_dFO432vg/v-deo.html
TK thanks so much! i’ll look into those videos
Your pretty good. My therapist is much like you. It took my several attempts to find a good one. Now that I have, I'm not looking for another. Ever!
Thank you so much for this video! I am about to start therapy again and it’s kind of scary. This really helped💛💛💛
What I've experienced is that sessions are episodic, and left to go with the flow. I have touched base to therapy a few times in the last years for really specific topics. I explained what I wanted to work on and my goal with the therapy in question. A couple of sessions later therapist default to "tell me what you feel" and passively sitting down. I realized that it is better for me to solve my issues by my own and do a thorough research on my end (meta analysis included). With that, I'm not suggesting anyone to avoid a therapist. That's not the case as I've always recommend people to go see one. I'm just stating that to me, therapy hasn't been helpful given the passive, lack of focused and poor follow up nature of my interactions. Just in case, I don't reach any therapist out of the scheduled session.
Great points! Definitely making the most out of it can ensure you come out ahead! I'm glad therapists are out there doing what they can!
Congratulations on your book ❤ will be checking it out 🙂
Thanks!!!
Kati could you do a video on maintaining recovery from eating disorders
Ella Gigg Kati has some amazing videos on this! Here is a playlist of her ED videos. Hope this helps! ua-cam.com/play/PLAB41960D35357E06.html
I've tried so many and I can never find the right person, I wish I could find a person to help. In the UK it's very difficult to find a good person
Hey I just saw that you're in Shane Dawson's new series! It's awesome to see 2 of my favorite people collabing!
Great achievement Kati,going get someone to buy me this is a gift for xmas😁
How do you know where to start with therapy goals? I’m getting anxious just thinking about it and just know I’m not happy and stuck.
What should I do if I want to go to therapy but I don't want to worry my parent?
Kati, I know this isn't related to this video in particular, but I just wanted to say I'm so excited to see your upcoming video with Shane Dawson! I've been subscribed to you for quite a while and can't wait to hear what you have to say about sociopaths in general! ❤
Oh my GOD i didn't expect the shane-collab at all
What do I do if my therapist is not setting goals or treatment plans with me
Hey katie, Ive gone to therapy for about a year now and in the summer I nearly got put in an inpatient unit as I attempted suicide twice but since September I’ve began to starve myself and take lots of laxatives but I’m too afraid to tell my counsellor, I don’t want to upset her, WHAT DO I DO, really hope you see this as I’m kind of at a crisis point
I literally started therapy today. Coincidence?! I think NOT! 🤣
Therapie should be paid by the government like its for me
Why should someone pay theirself, doesnt matter if it is a service or not, it can take a long time too
No wonder People go ham in Amerika, they cant even talk to someone about their problems because they are alone with it, and when they are in prison its already to late
Kati how can I help a friend of mine. She has become super depressed won't eat isn't sleeping. She won't let me or anyone else in. I'm about ready to give up idk what to do anymore. HELPPP
Amber brown FWIW I think the answer is be there for her and listen. I don't know that there's anything else. But the listening will be meaningful even if it doesn't feel like that.
I have a video about this!! ua-cam.com/video/rGGU1xr59C4/v-deo.html I hope it helps :) xoxo
What should you do if therapists don't respond back to you?
Yes yes yes!!! I loved this. Not all therapist are created equal. The gems are out there
Agreed!!! It's worth waiting until you find the right fit :) xoxo
Kati Morton How long does one have to wait?? And how to recognize if it is the right fit?
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@@theflittingbutterfly 4 session at max. For me.
Thank you for this video and all the advice talked about in the video I haven't been with this channel very long but really been looking for a good therapy video I been watching a few video s already of what relates to me I get comfort from these videos thank you
Hi Katie, I finally told my therapist after 4 years about a past trauma and I was surprised of how liberating it was. Of course it was hard but she really helped and understood me, I wish I could have told her earlier but I just couldn’t. Anyway thank you for your video!
I am SO PROUD OF YOU!!! Yay!! I know it can be so hard, but it's so worth it :) xoxo
greta I am waiting for my appt. with my therapist and I think I’m going to tell her about my own trauma even though my insides are screaming not to... Glad it helped you! :)
Greta what happened eith you?
My therapist is trying to set goals but I'm just messed up and not sure what I'm supposed to be like. I wish she would just tell me how to act and feel because I have no point of reference.
I was there too.I wanted my therapist to tell me what to do. I didn't want anything. I would sabotage the suggestions he gave me. What worked was to try behaviours and thoughts and see if the outcome was good or not good. I believe that only I can decide what I want.
Well it all depends on the person you see, so you two get along or not? What they say is not completely law though skilled,You kind of have to be your own reference
how do i explain myself properly when i have trouble knowing how i feel?
try to start tracking what goes on each day (just major points) and print out a "feelings chart" you can search for them online and print them out from there. When you write down the major points in your day, see if any feelings words jump out at you and help you better describe how that situation made you feel. I may be hard at first but just have your goal be coming up with one every other day and build from there :) I hope that helps give you the words to describe how you feel!! xoxo
thank you that might be very helpful
your nearly right
i think it's because of the amount of anxiety of not wanting to disappoint people in my life.
i think i'm putting too much pressure on myself really
just in time for therapy tomorrow! thank you :)
Yay! xoxo
Same here for my session Wednesday!
I can't find any more words to say you're absolutely incredible and another amazing video! Thank you!
Awe you're so welcome!! Glad you found it helpful :) xoxo
Is it weird for your psychologist not to give you any homework to do inbetween sessions? Thank you for this Kati!
Not all of them do.. but you can definitely tell them you would like some :) xoxo
Kati Morton - Thank you Kati! I just preordered your book on Amazon UK! I cannot wait!
Hi Honor, to build off of Kati’s reply, it depends a lot on the model they’re using. CBT and DBT are notoriously big for homework, but frameworks like Psychodynamic therapy tend to have a large focus on what happens in the session as opposed to outside it.
Of course, if you want homework, feel free to ask!
Ty Catts Thank you so much!
Mine does and I never do it.
Love you Kati! I so needed this right now. I’ve been really struggling with what I’m getting out of therapy lately and this is so helpful. Thank you so much! ❤️
Awe yay! I am so glad it was helpful :) xxoox
I don’t know if I want to go to therapy because at the moment I don’t want to get better. Or I’m scared to get better
Another awesome video kati thank you❤️
Hi Charles
Is it okay to have sex with your therapist?
I really wish I could benefit from therapy. I go to Kaiser for Therapy and have worked with two therapists. The first one kept telling me to distract myself instead of helping me cope. The second Therapist just told me to "let it go" and "move on". I've quit therapy because this advice is not worth the time or money.
It can take seeing a few therapists before you find one that works for you :) So don't give up! Also, you may want to see someone outside of Kaiser.. and see if they will work with you on cost, so you can still afford it :) xoxo
Therapists at Kaiser are awful tbh try and go to someone outside of them even though it can be expensive
Joseph, I don't know where you live, but here in Tacoma, WA there are several low-income/sliding scale mental health centers. My new therapist worked at one of them and now he is letting me pay a discounted fee for therapy. If you have a United Way where you live (only in the States), you can call them and they can give you a list of resources so you can get the help you want and need. I hope this helps.
@@DrummerGrrrl Thank you!
@@lindseyrob4001 You're right. I will be looking elsewhere for treatment.
"You might feel like you're back at square one but trust me, you're not"
That teared me up the moment I heard she says it....
Y'all can I just say that her voice is so relaxing like all the time. Hearing her voice everyday makes me smile.
I CANT WAIT FOR YOU TO BLOW UP WHEN YOU GET FEATURED IN SHANES VIDE AHHHH IM SO HAPPY YOU DESERVE IT
Aaaaand she blew it.
Shiznit 91 how?
“I can’t wait for you to blow up“ sounded like a terrorism threat for a moment there
Kati, what if my psychiatrist and my mum don't take my depression seriously (I'm thinking about ending my life, I feel so terrible but I can't explain them how, I also worry about school because I can't make myself to start studying, I just don't have any energy left and I want medications because I feel like only they can help me to stay alive but my psychiatrist said that she won't give them to me yet...)? P.S. Changing my psychiatrist isn't an option
I would stop seeing that psychiatrist!!!! They should always take our symptoms and struggles seriously! I would instead try to see a school counselor or confide in a teacher that you like. That would be better support for you, and can hopefully help you see that things can and will get better. xoxo
and you've told this all to your psychiatrist, yes? then it may depend on how old you are. I honestly was so desperate for help I told my mom to please get me help and was sent to the hospital. it took a lot of explanation and no one seemed to understand how I was suffering and unable to help myself. hope you get the help you need!!!
Thank you..❤
You can also do CBT. It is good at helping with depression too.
Please don’t do anything permanent for a temporary issue. I know anxiety feels horrible. I take medication. Please change your doctor and talk to an understanding friend and/or family member. May God bless you! Insist and don’t quit until you find the meds that work for you.... 💓
Great video!! Could you do a video on recovering from childhood molest? Thank u so much for the videos!
Yes, please, PLEASE Katie
Please!!!
My last therapist just chatted and there was zero treatment plans, she never wrote anything down, didn’t give me work to do, and would usually just talk about herself as well.
She was a very nice person and I liked her, but I got nothing out of sessions. :(
I got discouraged for a while and stopped going, but I finally found a Dr that knows her stuff! She helps so much!
yes this is a typical story, i hear it all the time.
my first (and current) therapist is like this as well.
Me too😕My first/second and current therapist is like this. I’m currently doing a free program though; I wonder if I should continue.
Hey kati. Recently ive been diagnosed with borderline Personality Disorder and i hate it. Before my diagnoses was depression and i was okay with that. I feel ashamed i got labeled BPD because i feel like bpd means youre just really needy for attention. Rationally i know this is not true but i can't shake the feeling. I love your videos keep up the great work xx #katiFAQ
You know one thing I wished more people talked about? “You wanna get the most out of therapy? Stop lying to and/or trying to manipulate your therapist. Don’t minimize your behavior. Don’t try to justify any of it. Be raw and REAL. Stop blaming everyone else for everything going wrong in your life, too.”
Awesome video, Kati! (As per usual!) I think therapy homework is so critical. Even when my therapist doesn’t assign homework, I have found that journaling between sessions helps me guide my therapy and gain personal insight. I would add a cautionary note that my abusive husband “sent me” (the therapist’s words) to a therapist who happened to specialize in child psychology. This combination was a horrible one. The therapist had as my therapy goal to make me a more obedient housewife. I saw this therapist for many years, and he enabled the emotional abuse that was going on at home. He was a very respected therapist who used to head the adolescent unit at Menninger. Not an easy situation from which to escape. It was really only the intervention of a friend coupled with the national domestic abuse hotline that allowed me to finally see the situation for what it was. So I think I would add that as well: let people in your life know roughly what is going on. You don’t need to give all the details. But it’s good to have an objective opinion. If you’re not allowed to have friends because of the abuse at home, try to join an online support group. That’s what I did, and it saved my life.
Jori Church wow 😯. That’s really scary. I’m glad you were able to see the situation for what it was.
Samantha Khan I was not initially able to. It took my friend a while to help me understand that all that behavior wasn’t normal.
Thank goodness for that friend of yours I’m so happy you got out of that abusive situation
hey quick question i dont know if anyone can answer but being a sociopath does it make it easier being a therapist? because i like the feeling of helping others feel better just something about it hits different.
I love that you do the descriptions I know they probably take a long time but I have no energy and concentration to absorb all this but to be able to click on videos and read the desc quickly and just watch the bits that I feel I don’t understand :”) is lovely
I'm having hard time to talk honestly. It's very hard. I understand that nobody can help people who are not ready to change, but I want to know how I can get ready to change myself. It needs a big courage. For example, I'm struggling with my eating disorder for four years. I know that I'm not really thinking like I want to recover. But, I strongly hope I can recover from this unhealthy thoughts. Thank you for your great video.
Sometimes i practice honesty with myself. I'll write in a journal as i feel things and share it with my therapist or I'll practice saying things out loud in the mirror. But you are right, it's super hard and does take a lot of courage because being honest is being vulnerable. But it's also the best way to be authentic (apropos, yesterday i just had a very very honest conversation with my best friend about something very painful and oh boy did i cry and i was scared, but i know that if i hadn't been able to be honest with him, it would ha eaten away at and destroyed our relationship--i journaled my thoughts first to help).
Eyebrows on point thouu
Awe thanks!! xoxo
Well, that's good! Eyebrows ARE the most important thing with a UA-cam personality! LOL.
I went into therapy without thinking much about therapy goals and it just made it a bit confusing. So I decided that before I go back, I should do some self-evaluation and identify the problems I need to solve and then develop my goals. Though I'm wondering if I should go back to CBT now or just work on it for myself for a bit... But then again, am I not wanting to go back because I think I can handle things or because I think I'm don't deserve it? I think I'm comfortable right now, but I'm about to start uni again (stressss) so maybe this is just the calm before the storm?
Love the way you say 'Welcome', it's so sweet!
"Are you new to my channel?
Welcome"
I love how you always say that. 😊
It has taken me a while, but I think I found the source I need... a psychologist group focused on my needs (diagnosis & type of therapy needed). I contacted them via their form email on their website. Still waiting to hear back. Will call next week if I don't hear something today. This is going to be a slog, but I can't put it off any longer and I've found what I think is a good fit.
I always felt bad about always talking about myself in therapy, but now what you said makes me feel better.
Hello. Do I need a Therapy? Anyway I can't even afford to pay for a therapist. No question about it. Probably the answer is yes but since I can't afford to get a new one so I guess will wait for a miracle to happen before my psychiatrist will open up and explain everything to me. My illness is getting worse, I hope i can reach out to someone who will be open and honest about everything I wanted to know, at least someone who can provide an a honest EXPLANATION, someone who will empathize and put themselves in my own shoes. Medication is useful but I think a therapist would be great! A combination of medicine and therapy will greatly help me improve of chances of recovery.
Ive been going therapy recently and its what i needed in my life. From being depressed and lonely, and noone caring, i feel happy and focusing on my future
I like my therapist so much! She is such a sweet nice woman. I have been seeing her for nearly 4 years now. But still I can‘t really believe she likes me(that’s a believe of mine, that I am not likeable ). Hope I can change this.
What happened to me is more painful than suicide. If not because of medication I would not survive. I wish I just died in an accident. I don't deserve to suffer this much but I do not have any choice. People in Philippines is brutally cruel, savage and merciless. It's not my fault and I didn't do anything wrong or against the law but see I'm the one who suffered too much because of other people fault. I can't even protect myself and I can't expect no one for protection. This life is a living hell. 😭😭😭
Thank you for making this video! I feel like my therapist and myself have gotten a bit complacent in just talking about things as they come and more so focused on check ins regarding my overall mood. It's important to reconnect to my goals. 😊
Little harder to be picky in rural areas, struggling pretty bad to find the right fit. Totally preordered your book though :)
You can do therapy online
Do you know any good therapist/psychologist in abudhabi or dubai?
Omg omg omg KATI I JUST SAW YOU IN THE NEW SHANE SERIES IM SO EXCITEEED!!!!
This is so helpful! I just started therapy and I feel like I am having frustrating "why am I not better" thoughts. And I know I need to be patient, and continue to do my home work... but I am so quick to compare my situation to the rest of my family and question if it's not working while at the same time praising therapy.
who else came from Shane's video xD ?
I just worked up the courage to source and contact a therapist suitable for me, I’m so glad I watched this before! I can’t afford to waste time or money, so thank you very much 💕
There are no wrong in wanting to get better or wishing for a mental health and wellness. I'm not asking for money but just a little help because this event is too stressful for me to handle. I'm pleading and requesting for them to stop humiliating me and make a scandalous scene but nobody even heard me or they don't want to cooperate. So the only way is to suffer. This life is too much for me to handle with all the stressful events I witnessed on internet and local media. Nobody even explain. People is evil! ☹️
@Anne-Lou i wish she would answer these comments, this person seems like to be in a real bad situation
I've been struggling with derealization and it was so bad that I honestly thought my last option was suicide. Luckily I have a partner who pushed me to see a doctor and find a therapist. My second session is coming up soon and there is so much that I've been holding onto. My only problem is I have no clue what happened to me when I was younger. There is a chunk of my childhood that seems so dreamlike and I have vivid dreams already so it's difficult to discern what really happened. I don't want to feel like this but, I feel lost when it comes to what to talk about.
I wish you were my therapist ...You seem so down to earth and straight forward!
Hey girl! I just saw in Shane’s video that you’re in his series about Jake Paul, that’s amazing!!!! Keep up the amazing work 💛
Hi Kati. I LOVE your videos. Please could you do one on Intermittent Explosive Disorder (IED) and also Insecurity? i'd be most grateful... thankyou :)
I feel like I was really motivated to begin with, but now my energy levels are better (and that was my main complaint) I feel like I'm getting lazy with my progress. Is this something I should mention
Just saw a small clip of you in Part 1 of Shane's new series. I AM SO EXCITED to hear your thoughts and to finally see you and Shane meet in this series!!
Yesss gurl i just discovered her from the series she s great
@@guitarbitch8414 I've been on the "Kati train" for the last couple of years or so. I've been a fan of Shane since 2009-ish. "Name a better duo; I'll wait." Haha.
My therapist never talked about goals or give me anything to work on outside of therapy
I was just thinking about this Katie.. I said to myself that enough is enough. I will start being more open to my therapist because I’m really not making any progress...
Being honest is hard sometimes but its sooo fkn important in therapy.
That's the first thing my therapist asked me our first meeting, "what do I want to get out of my treatment." And then she would always follow up on the next meeting.
I should expand on my comment. There seems to be some evidence - see J. Shedler for example - that long-term psychodynamic therapy is effective, perhaps very effective. Yet you don't have 'goals' or a treatment plan in that kind of therapy. What do you reckon Kati? Love your videos- thank you for all that you too and please take care of yourself too! Xx
*do not too lol
Hi Katie! I was wondering if you could make a video on how to cope with getting a new therapist. Thx
Ooh wow I got here so early! Kati I love your videos, they have given me much insight and peace of mind! Thank you!
Of course!! I am so glad they are helpful :) xoxo
Excellent video Kati. As a therapist in training. I am so looking forward to reading your book too. Keep up the good work.
Is it okay if the Therapist talks about themselves?
Are they just trying to relate?
Depends on HOW much the therapist talks about themselves! My retiring therapist has told me maybe four things about herself in the fourteen years I've been seeing her (on and off, not fourteen years in a row). Therapy is about YOU, not the therapist. I would be really irritated and angry if my therapist started talking about her life, her hobbies, her friends. That would be the end of therapy with her. You are paying her/him to help YOU, not the other way around.
I think it depends on how much they talk about themselves. Therapy is about you so the focus should be on you. My therapist always asks if I mind hearing a short, personal story, but they only bring up their personal stuff if they think it can help. Most of the time, it is information from a conference they just went to. I appreciate the information and for me, it helps me feel less alone. But the focus is still on me. If you feel that the focus is being taken off of you, you may want to look around for a new one.
I don’t like my current therapist. I’m 31 and she’s 28, which automatically feels weird like getting advice and guidance from someone younger. My therapist talks a lot, and a lot about herself, while also reminding me that we don’t have a lot of time 🙄
#7... hit me hard..i just dont feel like doing any homework and im very forgetful. she wants to put me on meds since the first meeting.
I've been in therapy for many years, and I love my therapist. She listens and is caring. She's great but since I've been in therapy for as long as I've been in it I've come to realize what are some things that would be good to look for in a therapist. Anyway, when my sister got married to a guy that was studying to become a therapist I could tell right away that he's going to be a bad therapist. Lol I lucked out finding my therapist when I did.
Study psychology people.
I'm one of thee most fucked up people on earth...
But i NEVER allowed myself to EVER get this weak and unstable.
Find strength, kick the shit outta of your demons.
Medication and therapy only does so much, you need to dig deep and do the shadow work to begin a healing process.
1. Be picky and don’t be afraid to try several therapists out before you decide whom to work with (can refer to Kati’s videos about characteristics of good/ bad therapists)
They should challenge you, remember your goals and click with you. The therapeutic relationship is key to make the most of it.
2. Have an idea of what you want to talk about/ change in therapy. You don’t have to know how to fix it though.
3. Be honest and open. You can share through different medias like art as music if speaking out loud may seem a little uncomfortable at times.
4. Set goals (long term/ short term) treatment plans are important, even if it’s a lose guide.
5. Set boundaries and uphold them.
6. Do your therapy homework. It could be reading a book or making use of a workbook. Do the work between your sessions.
7. Take responsibility for yourself and your actions. (Doing your homework, being honest, attend the sessions) you have to make the change in your life
8. Be patient and kind with yourself. The therapeutic process is hard and sometimes you’ll have slip ups but it’ll get better.
So......idk i dont really post stuff often.....but...is anhedonia(feeling numb) a symptom of Depression? Also....how do u know how "bad/severe" depression is?
I'm 62yo and in a week, I have an appointment with a Psychologist for the 1st time in my life. I'm nervous about it and have no idea what to say or do.
Congrats on your book! Keep up the good work :))
As a therapist, I fully agree with you about therapy goals and a treatment plan is so important.
When comes to insurance you are limited to what therapists are available.
How to stop perfwctionism
#KatiFAQ I was sexually abused, as a child and I'm not sure I want to report it. My therapist mentioned possibly bringing in a friend of theirs, who is a state officer. If the officer did come in, would I have to report? I'm not sure because I don't want my therapist getting in trouble. I'm not in danger now, these incidents happened 10-14 years ago. Please, answer, even if it isn't in a video. Thank you, Kati
My therapy is going to start next month!!! Already was diagnosed with 3 personality disorders (biggest one BPD), and was supposed to start years ago, unfortunately was in another country with the hubby when I got previous invitations, but now it's finally going to happen and I've never been more ready! Made a lot of progress on my own (hoarder house cleanup, binge watching lovely Kati, journaling), but the big work is coming. Finally. Good luck to everyone going through the same!
I have a question for you, Kati: how emotionally exhausting is your job as a therapist? I am looking to start a master’s program in counseling this summer. I feel like this field would be a good fit for me, but sometimes I worry that talking with people that are hurting all day might leave me feeling depressed. If you don’t want to make a video on this topic, please at least reply to this comment if you can. Thank you!
I am not Kati, but I work as a therapist (MS in Clinical Mental Health Counseling). In my experience, most counseling programs make an effort to prepare you for the field and encourage practicing firm boundaries and self-care. However, these skills can be hard to develop on your own, so most therapists I know have engaged/are engaged in some form of therapy. Additionally, while there are some days that work is emotionally exhausting, I also have plenty of sessions where I laugh or celebrate client's successes.
I'm not practicing yet but the program is exhausting and challenging!
TY for your videos! Question. I really like my therapist, but you were saying some don't really work for a treatment plan but just day to day help.
I think this is a big issue for me. Technically we do have a treatment plan but it really is just a formality imo, most patients have insurance through the city, and it's low cost. But the therapist are professional and clearly work hard.
However my therapist may at times hit on something that could be important in a session, and even end the session saying let's explore this more next week. However when next week comes the first question is just "how is everything, how have you been feeling". I have a horrible memory and I know there was something that was important but I don't remember what and I end up just talking about the week or anything that I know is a struggle versus anything I don't know about myself. Anything that could be a hidden problem which I am searching for the possible answers or what to do to fix an issue.
So I don't really know how to express that I feel like she should be remembering what questions she asked or topics she touched on that we are supposed to continue. I don't want to be aggressive, I appreciate the kindness that she shows and I don't want to ruin that by being formal about it or accusatory. But I know I have a responsibility not work on myself, but it feels like we can go around in circles by not always getting to a point where something vital is brought out in 45m before it's forgotten and we have to start again it feels like.
But anyway I can't tell if I am really making the progress that I need. Its more than just being able to function in certain areas, for me I really want to understand why I view things a certain way and how to be more balanced in order to benefit myself and my relationships. Anyway if there is a way to kindly explain this or if I am the one that needs to do all this work than please let me know.
I am not very good at journaling either, it feels awkward to me. So idk where to go with that but I would like to progress.
thank you so much for this video! I have my first therapy appointment ever in early October and this helped a lot!
Kati, I really like your videos. I've been diagnosed with all kinds of stuff. I feel like I have lazy therapist
But that could just be me.. I quit taking the meds alot that is prescribed to me.. I start to feel like I know more that the thropist. I don't know if that's a problem. But I feel good then stop. I really like being manic..but people can't stand me when I'm manic.. I feel like I'm never going to be normal. Can you give me your opinion
Is there a reason people cancel at the last minute? I do this often. I dread going out in public, talking to people more than the first few times, and will cancel plans and flake out on appts, friends, work, etc. I hate it when I do it, but I am such a flake! I'm just realizing how much I do this and it needs to change. :)
*If anyone knows a good video for this, I would appreciate it. Don't be mean! :P