emily is doing this for your veiws which = her money she dont care she is part of the problem making money off sad people your terrible emily the worst of them all at least the women who do suck tell you not lie to you then use you that hurts way more emily and you know that.........
Definitely a "thank you"! Those two simple words can mean a lot and it's not even the words themselves that have meaning. It's the act of acknowledging my actions and being THANKFUL for said actions.
This captivating video triggers a flood of painful memories from the end of my 5-year relationship just three months ago. The woman I loved with all my heart chose to walk away, leaving me grappling with an insurmountable sense of loss. Despite my relentless efforts to salvage what we had, I'm left feeling disillusioned and unable to imagine a future without her. Despite my attempts to move on, I'm drawn to express my deep-seated longing for her here.
Releasing your grip on someone you deeply care about can be a formidable challenge. I found myself in a comparable predicament when my 12-year relationship came to an end. Despite the odds, I couldn't bear to let her slip away. I exhausted every avenue to reunite with her, eventually turning to a spiritual advisor for guidance, whose intervention ultimately facilitated her return.
Most of the time what I really want is to be forgiven when I say I'm sorry in the same way that I forgive her, on those rare occasions when she does apologize. Basically all I want is to be treated as well as I treat her.
How much he has in the bank, how much he gets paid, what type of car he has, does he own any property and what sort of credit card does he use... Am i in the ballpark with those 😜
1 contents on smartphone 2 pin number from creditcard 3 if they can cook 4 if they have jailtime open . 5 if their means of transport was stolen or bought. 😊🤣🙏😇🥰🥰❤️&Light
As a women, I believe that ALL MEN want the simple things out of good women and a long lasting relationship. But also, I think women need to start educating themselves, understanding and realizing, that men aren't hard to please, y'all just come into his life and make it more toxic for him. He doesn't need your toxicity. All he really wants are the things in this video. Thank you Emily. I learn alot from you about what men want in relationships.
@@davidleblanc7563 Thank you. Learning about men is very important and also heartbreaking at times because men don't get the love, gratitude or respect that they deserve.
Dwelling on negativity does nothing but breeds misery, bringing all down around you and eventually destroys. A real lady or gentleman shines and empowers. Nobody's perfect however, If you go threw life with little respect for everything and everyone, and view them replaceable, well then that's how the world will look upon you. Just maybe should take a breath look in the mirror, take stock in what may be missing in yourself.
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emily is doing this for your veiws which = her money she dont care she is part of the problem making money off sad people your terrible emily the worst of them all at least the women who do suck tell you not lie to you then use you that hurts way more emily and you know that................
What I want from a woman: 1. Kind 2. Selfless 3. Romantic 4. Affectionate 6. Empathetic 7. Intelligent 8. She can be average-looking but takes care of herself and dresses well 9. Appreciative
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Sadly, the pervasive, horrible behavior of modern women has changed the norms of relationships. Men have finally come to realize the incredibly selfish nature of most women today. So a woman will need to do the right things AND THEN be patient for quite awhile before any sane man will believe that her behavior is genuine and not just some ploy to get what she wants and then revert back to her true, horrible nature.
emily is doing this for your veiws which = her money she dont care she is part of the problem making money off sad people your terrible emily the worst of them all at least the women who do suck tell you not lie to you then use you that hurts way more emily and you know that............
Any normal man is already running screaming away, well knowing it's too late, the trap has already got him, now is it just, how much is this going to hurt!! I unfortunately think most men will feel a lot more calm if she shouts at him and blame him for being the reason for her terrible life. This is something known and almost comforting.
I have a channel that provides information to bridge the gap between male ignorance and sanity. I like Emily’s channel. She raises issues. But young men still need to figure out what to do about the issues.
My wife is pretty good at doing this, but here’s one of the things I’ve learned I need. Let’s say I spend the afternoon fixing something, like the screen door, or maybe I put up some new blinds on the windows. When I’m done, and it works, I clean up, put the tools away, and I look at it myself for a minute. Then I go get her to show her. If she says, “Looks great, nice job, thank you,” my day/week/month is made. And because I know I need this, I try to do the same thing when she does something, like mending my favorite pair of gloves, or even just a doing a chore or cooking a meal. Gratitude is a wonderful thing.
I'm seeing this a lot in the comments. I mentioned it as one of 3 things for me. I make it a habit in normal interactions with service workers, too, though. I thank security guards and custodians regularly. I'm not even sure if it's appreciated.
@@Agimus_AGO56 Yes, I do this too! But I get strange reactions. It feels like some of them are like: "Nooo...do not appreciate me that much.....I am married and have wife and 3 kids...Your appreciation is too much for me to handle and I can not marry you instead of my wife" 😅 They act like I just said to them that "I love you deeply" 😅 Men are so sweet and their love language is appreciation and respect ❤❤❤❤❤
Funny thing, I am not fond my wife saying me 'thank you' (nor does she do it). My reaction would be 'why ? that is what I am for here'. But I am from the culture where continuous confirmation of affection was not standard. My wife said 'I love you' probably three times altogether in our 40 years together. So there are variations
1:49 "Men desire forms of intimacy other than s3x." Accurate. I had an ex who gradually stopped making any forms of contact (hand holding, arm rubbing, definitely sex) and then wondered why I no longer wanted to rub her feet and shoulders.
Number 1, most men relate respect to love. Women need unconditional love from their man? We can do that. Can woman give unconditional respect? Do you know what respecting your man looks like on a regular basis? If not, it's never too late to learn.
As a woman, I would very much like to know what respect looks like for a man. What are ways I could best show/express the deep respect I have for my man? I know (I think anyway) how to show my love for him, but I'm not as confident on how to show respect.
Thank you for being a positive voice for change in society. I'm sure you get a lot of hate or backlash for your content, but you're really helping change hearts and minds for the better. Thanks for all you do.
Yes!!! All women get tons of incoming interest from zillions of guys 24/7/365. And they KNOW they have this continuous, neverending ABUNDANT flow of incoming interest from men, WHETHER THEY CARE ABOUT WHAT MEN NEED, or not!!! So.... why should they care???
@@UberToekneePeople who think this do not understand the culture they are looking at. Asian women are some of the most mercenary you will ever find. I know a guy from Australia who married a Vietnamese woman. He loved Vietnam, and he started a ceramic factory there. He built her a very nice house, and located the factory near her family so she could see them and be involved in their lives. He was crazy about her… fast forward 15 years and one day she just ups and asks him if he was EVER going to move back to Australia. Not angry-like… just talking about future plans. He told her he had built a home in Vietnam and he loved their community, her family, and was responsible for his employees and he did not think he would ever want to go back to Australia. The Very Next day, he came home to find the house emptied out of everything. The only thing still there was HIS clothes. After 15 years of thinking she loved him, and his building a life he thought she would love, it turned out she had only ever married him because he was Australian and she wanted to live in Australia. Just because Asian women are better at concealing their agenda does not mean they don’t have one. Travel there are you will have lovely women throw themselves at you despite a huge age difference, and their being way out of your league, looks-wise. But they are attracted to your passport. Not necessarily you. And I can’t tell you how many guys I know who married some overseas girl, brought them back the US or Canada, got all smug with their pals about how traditional and respectful their women were… and then discovered that once they had legal residence, a job, and prospects, that they were very quick studies on divorce law and support.
#2 can literally be as simple as resting your hand on a guy's shoulder to show that you want to/love being near him. I swear, I am imagining that happening to me rn, and it is almost bringing me to tears. Why? Positive emotional weight.
Nope. Men like to be touched in one place, and one place only. They react bored or annoyed if I touch anything else, so I'm not wasting my time with that anymore. Same with point 3: He doesn't want to open up? - That's fine. I don't want to open up either.
To be a partner in life. Life is better when a woman is your partner and you know that she is totally on your side. Simple touch like massage my shoulders when I’m tense, working at the computer etc lets me know that she is there to help me and comfort me by letting me know she is there for me. We men don’t think like women, women don’t think like men but we can enjoy the support and comfort that we give each other.
There are 2 kinds of men, those who are faithful and hardworking, and those who are disloyal and lazy. Most women's mistake is that they met the 1st type, and treat them as if they are the 2nd type, but when they met the 2nd type, they treat them as if they are the 1st type.
On that last one; a man doesn't want to provide for his woman because of it'll get him something, he wants to provide for her because he wants to make her happy. He wants to make her happy because of who she is, and that kind of desire is something that a woman needs to earn - it's not given.
On a first date, one time , the woman and I were walking on a beach, and she reached out and took my hand, and that made me feel so wonderful! And later we hugged, and I will never forget that special day! The Beatles were right when they wrote, "I Want To Hold Your Hand"!
Regarding the last point, Yes a man normally has no problem with providing for the woman and sharing in his life but because the general attitude of alot of women has become more the side of i want this or you have to provide for me and my friends. this has become so common place since the 80's I think most men share a mentality of having separate bank accounts so as not to lose half or more of his life and earnings. Also if he wants to purchase something he really wants he doesn't have to ask permission to spend his hard earned money. And if she wants to buy that high dollar pair of shoes or hand bag or whatever, he doesn't have to shell out his hard earned money on something that might get used once or twice.
Damn this woman's good. She really hit the nail on the head in my opinion. To be fair my standards are very heavily influenced by how I am treated in the relationship, which starts before you even become a couple. I was kinda always the guy everyone looked past, so I have had almost no physical intimacy of any kind other than hugging my parents. Things like money and status can go away or be meaningless due to unexpected events, they're simply not important in comparison to what you get up and do with your life every day. This is all subjective, but every single positive relationship I've been in follows this formula.
Number five is totally wrong. We are Trained and conditioned to not expect to get as much as we give, and we are trained in conditioned to undervalue ourselves. A healthy man really does want 50-50, because in a relationship that is long term and faithful he deserves 50-50. He’s just been trained to believe he will never get it. Therefore, he doesn’t expect it and wouldn’t dare ask for it.
I have to disagree with your last point. A man does want 50-50, however you claim men are trained to deal with it and not ask for it. That’s my issue. A true man will earn respect through his actions and words and will, likewise, command respect if it’s not given. Real men communicate. Honesty starts with yourself and if truth is on your side then respect should follow.
5 i dissagree. I would look that as a red flag if i do more than her. My parents are long life married and theyr relationship is balanced. Both do theyr part. They survived corona. They very happy. Also u forgot 1 point. Women wants to be told compliments MEN TOO.
Definitely have separate bank accounts. I use to work in a bank and many times I have seen men come into the bank on payday just to find that all the accounts are empty with the overdraft maxed out. Women even take all the food in the house.
I agree Emily has hit the nail on the head again! I have been in that situation before about touch and it is terrible. It is nice to just hold hands, get a neck or back rub with out the feeling of trying to get more. There is a time and place for everything. Maybe there is no trust from her if she feels you extra ever time she touches you
All true, again. That fourth one reminded me of a co-worker I knew. Typical old geezer a-hole perceived by most, to be the one you "ignore." But what he told me and verified with me cause I met her once. Was he was in a 41 yr relationship with his wife who was passing from lung cancer. And they lived in a trailer home. Because medical expenses took everything and poor life decisions. That loyalty tho, to provide everything he could for her in the end was why my other coworkers were confused when I made them cut the bs about him. That kind of loyalty is something else and seems like archeologists will be digging for it like dinosaurs sooner than later.
Comments section: All the Men: Yes plus some additional All the womenn: ./crickets... oh there is a Emily King video I need to watch?.... No thanks I'm going to keep partying and will eventually find some beta s!mp and settle and gaslight him into marriage and him giving me all his money. Will eventually be divorced and 50 and go to one direction concerts and drink wine. Eventually ill realize I was wrong but by then it will be too late and ill get on social media and cry looking for pity.
One of the things I want is to be shown appreciation. I don't want gifts, I don't want bedroom fun, I don't want platitudes. I want to be told "You did X for me, and I appreciate you for it. Thank you." Be loyal to me. Hold up your end of the relationship; when you say you're going to do X, Y and Z...do them. Honor your commitments. Communicate, because I'm not a mind-reader.
Yes, yes, yes - we want other forms of intimacy besides intercourse. You know what I mean. Ladies do that every so often, keep him interested in you. Guys are very simple. Also appreciation, communication, respect, honesty, give him his space and limit the emotion.
So often I hear of a man wanting sex or lesser physical intimacy from his wife, and she ridicules him for being "shallow". I recall once in marriage counseling with my now ex-wife, the counselor said we should tell each other what we really what. And my wife said, "I tried asking him, but he wouldn't give me a serious answer. All he talked about was sex." Like, she simply couldn't believe that sex could be important. Considering that high on most women's list is "money", a man could easily ridicule here saying all she cares about is material things. Whether or not sex is important to you, it's important to him, and denigrating it as not important isn't going to make him not care. It's just going to make him frustrated and unhappy.
MY PET PEEVE is that men get ZERO APPRECIATION for working 8-12hr/day at a mind-crushing, back-breaking job just to see the lion's share of the fruits of that labor got to take care of SOMEONE ELSE. It's just EXPECTED ENTITLEMENT.
Generosity (in the broader sense); generous in affection, in kindness, in acts of service, in passion, and even with money (if she happens to have a successful career or come from a wealthy family) - to be a giver, not a taker. Being a team player; supporting and making his life easier.
*#5 - Because I was burned by my second wife filing for bankruptcy (leaving me legally responsible for ALL debt - including all wedding debt), I went into my next relationship with the stipulation of separate bank accounts, and 16 years later, my current wife is still fine with that. She understands that my ex-wife burned that trust in me, and that trust can NEVER be restored - even with time !!!* *The wedding with my Ex was in 2003, and I am still paying off that debt to this day !!! In short, I heard your point, but it really doesn't take into account individual circumstances !!!*
100% ... also it is interesting "NOT" that all of her videos attract 99.9% of men ONLY ..and lot of them are singles ... who just found THE "excuse" why they life by them self . We men are not the prefect creatures either gentleman's ...keep that in mind when with a woman
A real man want more then just sex he wants partnership working as a team enjoying life together. Let’s face it sex is easy too find on every street corner but finding a wife is like winning the lottery.
Food. Peace. Kindness. Safe home. A man needs a full time career. Respected by other members of the community. Silence. Sleep. Working car. Running water. Deep, meaningful connection with friends and family. Some men wish to marry, some want to be single. Wait to be asked, invited, by the man. God bless. Sister in Jesus Christ Holly 🕊🌿🌳🌲🍀🌱🌴🍃🍏🍈🥝🥑🍐🥦🕊🌿🌳🌲🍀🌱🌴
You had it mostly all pegged on #1. Bonus points for the rest. The only way a woman knows what she’s asking of a man is to do it for them…and few woman will. I tile floors, clean the toilets, fix the cars, do the laundry…make the $$$. Women typically focus on mascara and makeup while I’m in the gym or running a few miles. Then mostly? Then they focus mostly on themselves.
As a guy, I just need love, respect, loyalty, openness, intimacy, happiness, peace, intelligence, romance, affection, kindness and selflessness from a good woman. When I say something is private, it must remain that way until death. No one besides the two of us should ever know about those conversations. I have never revealed any secrets from my former girlfriends and I am not going to start now. I expect the woman with me to do the same. For me, there is nothing better than holding my lover in my arms on the couch watching TV or listening to music with a pizza. Sure, I love the adventurous sex in the bedroom, but the relaxing with the correct woman is truly special. These moments allow me to unwind and forget about the world for a while. I have never been afraid of conversation. We can talk about anything and everything or we can just remain silent together. It doesn't matter to me. All I care about is being with her in a peaceful and private setting.
What can women learn from mean have been in combat together? Ever wonder why that bond is so intense and solid ladies? Think on this. Every minute of every day in combat requires each man to have total, absolute faith and belief that his guys will if necessary, die to protect him. In turn of them know this of him. A team like that is incredibly hard to defeat. The problem with todays woman is they only care about themselves. Lasies really think about just how willing you REALLY are to ALL IN for your man. Because, if you can't, your marriage survival, ESPECIALLY TODAY, might be bleak.
1. Respect and appreciation…YES! 2. Various forms of non-sexual physical intimacy… YES! 3. Need a PROVEN “safe space” to open up… OMG YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!💯 4. Feel loved for who I am… OMG YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!💯 5. Want to do for her… YES! Emily, have you been reading my mind?
Dear Emily, in one of your "shorts you talk about 2 people "conversating". The correct form is "conversing". Thank you for everything else that you release.
Bang on except switch #5 to #1 and vice versa. So number 1 is Respect. To be clear. A man wants that whole list , yes... but Respect, above all is number 1... make NO MISTAKE about that.
Very good list Emily. Every one hits home. Accurate and Truthful. Have to add something when you said about touch, if a woman every grabbed my inner arm to hold it while walking, I might melt right there. That just builds trust, feeling safe and love as well as respect. 4 in 1
So you are actually saying that women do not touch their guy because they are afraid he will want sex? So women apparently do not like sex and only do if when they cannot avoid it. That pretty much confirms what I already knew and explains why my sex to self-abuse ratio is 2 : 363.
I didn’t date much and never had a girlfriend. Maybe because I’m a nice guy and gentleman. Yes I was looking for someone special who liked me. Smart nerd computer guy. Then I found her. We just celebrated our 45th anniversary a few months ago. Back in 1978 you could not rent an apartment if you were not married. Morality laws and contracts. So we were married months after my college graduation. When our second child was born. We both reviewed our incomes and advancement. My computer technology network skills offered us the opportunity for my wife to stay home with our children. Being a computer geek, nerd, and designer offered us a very nice income. Unfortunately my success required some travel away from home. As a guy I cannot pick out colors. She excels at color combinations and accessories. Never have I regretted marrying my first girlfriend. We’re retired now with grandkids. She taught me so much. Like never give a woman a brand new $100 from the bank for a $10 pizza and expect to get back any money. Love your videos.
Howdy. The touching thing is difficult. I hate ambush touching. I ended a couple of relationships because of the compulsive ambush touching. She could grab my hand over the coffee table or grab my head to turn my face toward her. Or grab my waste as one would do in a fist fight. Must have been strong impulses of affection I guess. But it made my heart turn to ice and stone. Regards.
Guy here. I don't feel that I speak for ALL men, but I think a significant percentage of men would agree with this: Men *DON'T* want to rehash things that are weeks, months, and especially YEARS old. Listening to hurts and injuries a woman received in the past is important, but after we have heard about it a half dozen times, you don't need to tell us about it again. Unless something has changed, you aren't giving us any new information. Even when that injury or wrong was committed by the one you are re-telling, it is a PAST issue. We have either apologized for it or given you our rationale. Bringing it up for the n-teenth time isn't going to help anything. No man has yet managed to get his hands on time-travel technology, so it's simply not something we are able to fix. I think most men agree that the past is IN THE PAST, and we can only fix current problems.
I've seen videos where women say, "I think I'm a good catch. I have a good career, I'm strong and independent." Those may be things you think are good qualities in a man, but to the average man, they are worth zero points in a woman. Would you want a man who expects you to support him? Probably not. So why should he value a woman who could?
All you women out there...listen to what Emily says in her video and subscribe!!....she gives great advice on what makes men tick and what simple things to do to find a great man and keep him. :))
Just to note at the closing about "men wanting to make their woman happy" part that needs to be clarified. It is NOT your partner's responsibility to "make you happy" (this goes both ways); only YOU can "make you happy". I see your closing statement about happiness conveying an unintended sense of obligation that a man MUST make his woman happy (which I don't think you were espousing). Yes, generally speaking, men want their woman happy. And likewise, women should want their man happy. Happiness is subjective to each person, so couples should be communicating actively about what that means for each so they can actively contribute to each other's lives to being in a "happy state". Unfortunately, what seems to happen is one (or both) partners have un-communicated expectations ("boundaries") in the relationship and become resentful that the other does not already know what is expected despite there has never been any demonstration or evidence of mind-reading capabilities within the relationship. Then things get bitter & passive-aggressive leading to the failure of the relationship. Our ability to effectively communicate with the opposite sex in relationships has never been this so divided and out of synch with each other in modern history, in my view. The longevity of Western society is doomed if we, as human beings, do not collectively make a course correction in our intersexual relationship dynamics in a positive direction for the healing our species needs now more than ever.
Totally agree with number 3 and 4. When I'm with my woman I just want things to be easy. I want to come into a space of peace after a stressful day at work. I do not want to feel like I'm being tested and judged at every moment. And I do not want to be the only one responsible for all our (her) projects. I also have some projects of my own. Kinda disagree with number 5 though. Even if I'm not looking into perfect 50/50 I will want something really close to it. I will never ever again do 99% of all the meals, groceries, laundries, house work etc., while she's giving hours to her child. So the only way to make sure it's right for everyone is to plan things so the tasks are assigned equally between me and her.
So correct. I have been single and by myself. All my life. Even when I was in two relationships. Both woman where vodka drinkers. One was an opioid addict turning to meth. The other. Was induced by Doctor Sutton. A pill doctor. She was 30 years plus taking opioids and still is today. She will take the drugs to her grave. People will never get off opioids. There bodies are picked. With this drug. So sad.
That bit about how intimacy not needing to lead to “the other thing” is spot on. I personally don’t have a very high “drive” and I would MUCH rather spend that time in other ways. I’d love to make a cuddle fort out of every pillow, seat cushion, and blanket in the house and just cuddle with my partner while we watch a movie. Or, I’d love to lay my head in my partner’s lap while they play with my hair. The option of just making out always stands. And none of that has to go any father. Hugs from behind, neck kisses (surprise or not), hand holding, tickle fights, and so many other options exist that would make me happy without going into naughty territory. I think about this stuff a lot because my primary love language is Physical Touch. And I’m sure I can’t be the only one.
You are so right, I have found mine and she is Ukrainian and these women are taught by their mother and can't find real men. Mine loves and appreciates me, while US women on average are so into themselves only and search for attention. I am considered toxically masculine as I work in Law Enforcement, Former Special Ops Army and Martial artist for many years and work out in the gym. But want a strong close family and will make her sons my sons and they love me teaching them martial arts and about the bible.
Compassion, Understanding, Loving kindness. These are the 3 core traits inherent in femininity or a woman's true nature. A woman who understands, is connected to, grounded in, accepting of and acts out of this true nature, has a calming, centering and healing effect on a man -- as well as all others. Compassion, Understanding and Loving kindness are healing. She doesn't have to work at being a healer -- she just naturally is that. This is True power. Women are naturally powerful. A real woman lives in this power. A man will do anything for his woman if she is this type of woman. Unfortunately, these women are rare in our current culture and society. "Modern" women's disregard and disdain for their true nature has been massively harmful to the rest of society on many levels. Feminism?
Some youtuber believes that women can conceive and carry and produce limited eggs whereas men produce unlimited sperms. That's why women are more valuable accordingly they behave too.
What do I want from my wife? Number one, first and foremost, I want her to make herself pretty for me -- keep her weight under control, wear nice clothes, etc. Number two, I want to do fun things together. Three, I want her to cook and clean. That's about it.
I want my businesses to be successful. They are. I want to own my own plane and have my private pilots license. I do. I want to own my own 4 befroom house outright. I do. I want peace of mind. I have it. I dont want drama, lies, BS. I dont. None of this would be possible with a woman in my life.
Lack of sex is one reason why a wife’s physical touch may lead to sexual advances from her husband. I’m into touch for touch’s sake, but when I get touched during a drought I assume it means the rains are coming.
This is dead on the money. I'm 64 and 32 years in a toxic marriage and my wife just doesn't understand these 5 basic needs. And doesn't want to, despite my trying to explain multiple times over the years. I've learned that what she really wanted was a long-term roommate, not a husband.
I am 53 and I would say that the greatest way that a woman can show love to a man is to just simply be in his corner, and you do that by NOT being a problem, but by being easygoing, by being part of the solution, by being reasonable and generally kind, by putting the union and the home before yourself, by expressing graditude. Our culture, which is really to say our mass media, has really done a number on women. 200 years from now we will still be discussing the harm caused to these generations, the impact on family, marriage, birth rates, single moms, childless and manless women, etc., not to mention several lost generations of men. But, nothing is going to change anytime soon, what we can see in the comments as it is almost exclusively men commenting. Women wholesale aren't even digesting this type of content- they want what they want and nobody is going to tell them otherwise. Only rock bottom is going to change that, individually and collectively.
The background to some of these things is that most men have a very deep experience of loneliness that starts after early childhood. Consider, the only person who ever loves us unconditionally is our mom. That usually becomes conditional between five and ten years old. After that our lives are about developing independence, and giving everyone a good reason to love us. Things like wanting non-sexual physical affection and being accepted when we open up hearken back to that early childhood motherly love. Mistrust of being open about our deepest feelings is because even mom stopped accepting our flaws, and needed us to be stronger and better. It is disaster for a man if his woman thinks he is weak. So, we try to be better and stronger, and we hide our weaknesses and vulnerabilities. (Frankly I truly doubt that most women can handle their man being emotionally vulnerable.) I think every man wants to be his family's hero, and be respected and admired for that. I know I do. Men yearn to be needed because it is a chance to be heroic. We want to contribute more than our wives because that is also heroic. People need, respect, and often love their heroes. Being needed is more secure than being wanted or even loved. People sacrifice what we want and love in order to get what we need. This is why a man can be satisfied with not being loved, so long as he is respected. There is still some security in that. He cannot bear it if his woman does not respect him. This is why it is so important that a woman NEVER criticizes her man to others, and why she must never discuss marital problems to people outside the relationship. No man wants his flaws on a billboard because they make us less respectable and less loveable. What is often called "toxic masculinity" (hiding vulnerability, ignoring feelings, working a lot, competing for status) is the healthiest possible way men have to deal with the loneliness and insecurity that has been normal in our lives since we were five years old. Men work, sacrifice, and attempt greatness because women cannot love men unconditionally.
Men are scattered across a spectrum, just like women are spread across a spectrum. Even when you do the right things, some people are still jerks. But for the most part, learn wisdom, and the things Emily talks about here are pretty good. I'll disagree with her and say that there are lots of good books out there about relationships. Now I come from a Christian perspective and the facts are that married couples who attend church at least twice a month (because they want to) have a much lower divorce rate, like 10%, than the general population which is 50% or so. There is something about Christianity (and many other faiths) that encourage you to be the best person and also best partner possible. Yeah, there are people that abuse their faith or screw it up out of proportion, but most of them are not in the 10% either. Nevertheless the stats still say that divorce rate is lower among people of faith. When a couple is heading the same direction in personal growth, character development and such, they are more likely to have a great relationship. Faith is one part of that puzzle.
She is so clearly and right about what she says. Unbeliveable such women still exists with this mindset. Men are easy and the easy things make most of them really happy !
I have done very well in life in business and financially. I do not care if my partner is a waitress or a CEO as long as she does these things and one more. Live within her financial means - be an adult. If you make 50k and year and live on it or 500k a year and live on it. If a man knows you have a bunch of debt he is going to be expected to pay, or at least help, pay of that debt and your debt is not our debt - or the other way around. Yes we want to provide but not be your plow horse. As for the bank account statement. You should each have your own accounts and a joint account.
No flowers. No drama. Quiet and peace. Say thank you a few times weekly.
No surprise parties!
Compared to all the things we want to/need to give to the woman we love you should think this would be easy...
emily is doing this for your veiws which = her money she dont care she is part of the problem making money off sad people your terrible emily the worst of them all at least the women who do suck tell you not lie to you then use you that hurts way more emily and you know that.........
Definitely a "thank you"! Those two simple words can mean a lot and it's not even the words themselves that have meaning. It's the act of acknowledging my actions and being THANKFUL for said actions.
Flowers are nice at times, for Valentine's or for anniversary
This captivating video triggers a flood of painful memories from the end of my 5-year relationship just three months ago. The woman I loved with all my heart chose to walk away, leaving me grappling with an insurmountable sense of loss. Despite my relentless efforts to salvage what we had, I'm left feeling disillusioned and unable to imagine a future without her. Despite my attempts to move on, I'm drawn to express my deep-seated longing for her here.
Releasing your grip on someone you deeply care about can be a formidable challenge. I found myself in a comparable predicament when my 12-year relationship came to an end. Despite the odds, I couldn't bear to let her slip away. I exhausted every avenue to reunite with her, eventually turning to a spiritual advisor for guidance, whose intervention ultimately facilitated her return.
Incredible! Where did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with her?
Suzanne Ann Walters is the name of an exceptional spiritual counselor renowned for her ability to reunite you with your former partner.
Thank you for this invaluable information; I've just checked her out online. Very impressive indeed!
One my second marriage. A couple of promising relationships. Never been loved. I was a resource, emotional and financially.
Most of the time what I really want is to be forgiven when I say I'm sorry in the same way that I forgive her, on those rare occasions when she does apologize. Basically all I want is to be treated as well as I treat her.
Men are simple creatures we love our peace.We just want to be loved and appreciated.
Nothing more nothing less.
How much he has in the bank, how much he gets paid, what type of car he has, does he own any property and what sort of credit card does he use... Am i in the ballpark with those 😜
1 contents on smartphone 2 pin number from creditcard 3 if they can cook 4 if they have jailtime open . 5 if their means of transport was stolen or bought. 😊🤣🙏😇🥰🥰❤️&Light
As a women, I believe that ALL MEN want the simple things out of good women and a long lasting relationship. But also, I think women need to start educating themselves, understanding and realizing, that men aren't hard to please, y'all just come into his life and make it more toxic for him. He doesn't need your toxicity. All he really wants are the things in this video. Thank you Emily. I learn alot from you about what men want in relationships.
Ty! Finally one of you gets it. I'm not even being sarcastic. This post needs to be shared on every SMP.
@@davidleblanc7563 Thank you. Learning about men is very important and also heartbreaking at times because men don't get the love, gratitude or respect that they deserve.
You have nailed it. May you have a peaceful and loving lifelong relationship with a man who will learn from you as you learn from him.
Dwelling on negativity does nothing but breeds misery, bringing all down around you and eventually destroys. A real lady or gentleman shines and empowers. Nobody's perfect however, If you go threw life with little respect for everything and everyone, and view them replaceable, well then that's how the world will look upon you. Just maybe should take a breath look in the mirror, take stock in what may be missing in yourself.
Thank you, GorgeousJewel, for taking the time to watch Emily's videos!
…when I get home from a long day on the job, a welcoming hug, kiss does wonders. I’m easy, don’t need much to feel loved.
emily is doing this for your veiws which = her money she dont care she is part of the problem making money off sad people your terrible emily the worst of them all at least the women who do suck tell you not lie to you then use you that hurts way more emily and you know that....................
True
A hug is always good!
Yes agree
emily is doing this for your veiws which = her money she dont care she is part of the problem making money off sad people your terrible emily the worst of them all at least the women who do suck tell you not lie to you then use you that hurts way more emily and you know that................
Yes
What I want from a woman:
1. Kind
2. Selfless
3. Romantic
4. Affectionate
6. Empathetic
7. Intelligent
8. She can be average-looking but takes care of herself and dresses well
9. Appreciative
A hot body is just as attractive as a pretty face.
@@gregorytremain4086 - To each his own!
@@gregorytremain4086 - You can fix a body by working out but you can't fix a face without surgery.
@@gregorytremain4086and money. Lots of family money
You forgot one thing. Fidelity.
21 years with my husband on February 18! He’s simple to please. ❤ I will defend my man to the death. He’s a hardworking, devoted, strong man.
emily is doing this for your veiws which = her money she dont care she is part of the problem making money off sad people your terrible emily the worst of them all at least the women who do suck tell you not lie to you then use you that hurts way more emily and you know that..........
Respect is symptom of a condition. That condition is loyalty. Men prize loyalty above all else.
Loyalty number one. Honesty number two.
@@iamcarrot1 I think trust is the core of both.
@@jonmce1 it should be but I don't think it always is.
Sadly, the pervasive, horrible behavior of modern women has changed the norms of relationships. Men have finally come to realize the incredibly selfish nature of most women today. So a woman will need to do the right things AND THEN be patient for quite awhile before any sane man will believe that her behavior is genuine and not just some ploy to get what she wants and then revert back to her true, horrible nature.
God Not4, this brilliantly incisive! I truly mean than!!
emily is doing this for your veiws which = her money she dont care she is part of the problem making money off sad people your terrible emily the worst of them all at least the women who do suck tell you not lie to you then use you that hurts way more emily and you know that............
Any normal man is already running screaming away, well knowing it's too late, the trap has already got him, now is it just, how much is this going to hurt!! I unfortunately think most men will feel a lot more calm if she shouts at him and blame him for being the reason for her terrible life. This is something known and almost comforting.
I have a channel that provides information to bridge the gap between male ignorance and sanity. I like Emily’s channel. She raises issues. But young men still need to figure out what to do about the issues.
This is extremely true
My wife is pretty good at doing this, but here’s one of the things I’ve learned I need. Let’s say I spend the afternoon fixing something, like the screen door, or maybe I put up some new blinds on the windows. When I’m done, and it works, I clean up, put the tools away, and I look at it myself for a minute. Then I go get her to show her. If she says, “Looks great, nice job, thank you,” my day/week/month is made. And because I know I need this, I try to do the same thing when she does something, like mending my favorite pair of gloves, or even just a doing a chore or cooking a meal. Gratitude is a wonderful thing.
Respect! That’s our greatest need imho
This is so true. It's such small simple things like that that make a huge difference in a relationship.
I'm seeing this a lot in the comments. I mentioned it as one of 3 things for me.
I make it a habit in normal interactions with service workers, too, though. I thank security guards and custodians regularly. I'm not even sure if it's appreciated.
@@Agimus_AGO56 Yes, I do this too! But I get strange reactions. It feels like some of them are like: "Nooo...do not appreciate me that much.....I am married and have wife and 3 kids...Your appreciation is too much for me to handle and I can not marry you instead of my wife" 😅
They act like I just said to them that "I love you deeply" 😅
Men are so sweet and their love language is appreciation and respect ❤❤❤❤❤
Funny thing, I am not fond my wife saying me 'thank you' (nor does she do it). My reaction would be 'why ? that is what I am for here'. But I am from the culture where continuous confirmation of affection was not standard. My wife said 'I love you' probably three times altogether in our 40 years together. So there are variations
Your first statement is spot on. Women are not raised on how to treat men.
1:49 "Men desire forms of intimacy other than s3x." Accurate. I had an ex who gradually stopped making any forms of contact (hand holding, arm rubbing, definitely sex) and then wondered why I no longer wanted to rub her feet and shoulders.
Number 1, most men relate respect to love. Women need unconditional love from their man? We can do that. Can woman give unconditional respect? Do you know what respecting your man looks like on a regular basis? If not, it's never too late to learn.
As a woman, I would very much like to know what respect looks like for a man. What are ways I could best show/express the deep respect I have for my man? I know (I think anyway) how to show my love for him, but I'm not as confident on how to show respect.
I'm a 57 year old guy and you have that absolutely correct
Thank you for being a positive voice for change in society. I'm sure you get a lot of hate or backlash for your content, but you're really helping change hearts and minds for the better. Thanks for all you do.
"Not much is out there to educate women about men".
Not many women WANT TO or CARE TO be educated about men. Law of supply and demand I suppose.
Yes!!!
All women get tons of incoming interest from zillions of guys 24/7/365. And they KNOW they have this continuous, neverending ABUNDANT flow of incoming interest from men, WHETHER THEY CARE ABOUT WHAT MEN NEED, or not!!! So.... why should they care???
Women don’t understand that what they supply as a s€x object is different from what they provide as wife material.
Go to the far east those women are truly thankful to find an awesome average guy
@@UberToekneePeople who think this do not understand the culture they are looking at. Asian women are some of the most mercenary you will ever find. I know a guy from Australia who married a Vietnamese woman. He loved Vietnam, and he started a ceramic factory there. He built her a very nice house, and located the factory near her family so she could see them and be involved in their lives. He was crazy about her… fast forward 15 years and one day she just ups and asks him if he was EVER going to move back to Australia. Not angry-like… just talking about future plans. He told her he had built a home in Vietnam and he loved their community, her family, and was responsible for his employees and he did not think he would ever want to go back to Australia.
The Very Next day, he came home to find the house emptied out of everything. The only thing still there was HIS clothes.
After 15 years of thinking she loved him, and his building a life he thought she would love, it turned out she had only ever married him because he was Australian and she wanted to live in Australia.
Just because Asian women are better at concealing their agenda does not mean they don’t have one. Travel there are you will have lovely women throw themselves at you despite a huge age difference, and their being way out of your league, looks-wise. But they are attracted to your passport. Not necessarily you. And I can’t tell you how many guys I know who married some overseas girl, brought them back the US or Canada, got all smug with their pals about how traditional and respectful their women were… and then discovered that once they had legal residence, a job, and prospects, that they were very quick studies on divorce law and support.
#2 can literally be as simple as resting your hand on a guy's shoulder to show that you want to/love being near him. I swear, I am imagining that happening to me rn, and it is almost bringing me to tears. Why? Positive emotional weight.
Nope. Men like to be touched in one place, and one place only. They react bored or annoyed if I touch anything else, so I'm not wasting my time with that anymore. Same with point 3: He doesn't want to open up? - That's fine. I don't want to open up either.
@@unterdessen8822
You extremely wrong and possibly damaged
damn onion ninjas.
To be a partner in life. Life is better when a woman is your partner and you know that she is totally on your side. Simple touch like massage my shoulders when I’m tense, working at the computer etc lets me know that she is there to help me and comfort me by letting me know she is there for me.
We men don’t think like women, women don’t think like men but we can enjoy the support and comfort that we give each other.
There are 2 kinds of men, those who are faithful and hardworking, and those who are disloyal and lazy. Most women's mistake is that they met the 1st type, and treat them as if they are the 2nd type, but when they met the 2nd type, they treat them as if they are the 1st type.
Both stupid and wrong
@CushtyCrowtruly hard working man don’t really have time for unfaithful event.
I also want our love life to be OUR business and not her girlfriends and the world to know about!
That was her third point.
On that last one; a man doesn't want to provide for his woman because of it'll get him something, he wants to provide for her because he wants to make her happy. He wants to make her happy because of who she is, and that kind of desire is something that a woman needs to earn - it's not given.
On a first date, one time , the woman and I were walking on a beach, and she reached out and took my hand, and that made me feel so wonderful! And later we hugged, and I will never forget that special day! The Beatles were right when they wrote, "I Want To Hold Your Hand"!
Regarding the last point, Yes a man normally has no problem with providing for the woman and sharing in his life but because the general attitude of alot of women has become more the side of i want this or you have to provide for me and my friends. this has become so common place since the 80's I think most men share a mentality of having separate bank accounts so as not to lose half or more of his life and earnings. Also if he wants to purchase something he really wants he doesn't have to ask permission to spend his hard earned money. And if she wants to buy that high dollar pair of shoes or hand bag or whatever, he doesn't have to shell out his hard earned money on something that might get used once or twice.
Damn this woman's good. She really hit the nail on the head in my opinion. To be fair my standards are very heavily influenced by how I am treated in the relationship, which starts before you even become a couple. I was kinda always the guy everyone looked past, so I have had almost no physical intimacy of any kind other than hugging my parents. Things like money and status can go away or be meaningless due to unexpected events, they're simply not important in comparison to what you get up and do with your life every day. This is all subjective, but every single positive relationship I've been in follows this formula.
Number five is totally wrong. We are Trained and conditioned to not expect to get as much as we give, and we are trained in conditioned to undervalue ourselves. A healthy man really does want 50-50, because in a relationship that is long term and faithful he deserves 50-50. He’s just been trained to believe he will never get it. Therefore, he doesn’t expect it and wouldn’t dare ask for it.
I have to disagree with your last point. A man does want 50-50, however you claim men are trained to deal with it and not ask for it. That’s my issue. A true man will earn respect through his actions and words and will, likewise, command respect if it’s not given. Real men communicate. Honesty starts with yourself and if truth is on your side then respect should follow.
No. I always want less, im satisfied if i could make someone happy but i feel awkward getting praised or done smth good to.
BRAVO!!! VERY well said!!
5 i dissagree. I would look that as a red flag if i do more than her. My parents are long life married and theyr relationship is balanced. Both do theyr part. They survived corona. They very happy. Also u forgot 1 point. Women wants to be told compliments MEN TOO.
Emilywking,
How do I communicate with you? I am not on any social media, only email.
"Most men want respect and appreciation." Protect this woman.. Yes and we don't get it. And women wonder why we don't approach..
Definitely have separate bank accounts. I use to work in a bank and many times I have seen men come into the bank on payday just to find that all the accounts are empty with the overdraft maxed out. Women even take all the food in the house.
100%
I totally agree Emily but it's also very rare to find that type of Woman 😊
Good women are not unicorns 🦄 They do exist.
I will tell any man to talk to women like you're talking to the police 🚓.
I agree Emily has hit the nail on the head again! I have been in that situation before about touch and it is terrible. It is nice to just hold hands, get a neck or back rub with out the feeling of trying to get more. There is a time and place for everything. Maybe there is no trust from her if she feels you extra ever time she touches you
and act like you are happy to see him when he comes home
All true, again. That fourth one reminded me of a co-worker I knew. Typical old geezer a-hole perceived by most, to be the one you "ignore." But what he told me and verified with me cause I met her once. Was he was in a 41 yr relationship with his wife who was passing from lung cancer. And they lived in a trailer home. Because medical expenses took everything and poor life decisions. That loyalty tho, to provide everything he could for her in the end was why my other coworkers were confused when I made them cut the bs about him. That kind of loyalty is something else and seems like archeologists will be digging for it like dinosaurs sooner than later.
Comments section:
All the Men: Yes plus some additional
All the womenn: ./crickets... oh there is a Emily King video I need to watch?.... No thanks I'm going to keep partying and will eventually find some beta s!mp and settle and gaslight him into marriage and him giving me all his money. Will eventually be divorced and 50 and go to one direction concerts and drink wine. Eventually ill realize I was wrong but by then it will be too late and ill get on social media and cry looking for pity.
Actually there are quite a few women on this comment section.... We want to learn too.
Just don't be stupid is all I ask 🤔
One of the things I want is to be shown appreciation. I don't want gifts, I don't want bedroom fun, I don't want platitudes. I want to be told "You did X for me, and I appreciate you for it. Thank you."
Be loyal to me. Hold up your end of the relationship; when you say you're going to do X, Y and Z...do them. Honor your commitments. Communicate, because I'm not a mind-reader.
Yes, yes, yes - we want other forms of intimacy besides intercourse. You know what I mean.
Ladies do that every so often, keep him interested in you.
Guys are very simple.
Also appreciation, communication, respect, honesty, give him his space and limit the emotion.
Thank you so much!!!! U said very important things. Women nowadays dont understand these mens issues.
what i want is someone to be kind to me, thats it
"He wants gratitude..."
So often I hear of a man wanting sex or lesser physical intimacy from his wife, and she ridicules him for being "shallow". I recall once in marriage counseling with my now ex-wife, the counselor said we should tell each other what we really what. And my wife said, "I tried asking him, but he wouldn't give me a serious answer. All he talked about was sex." Like, she simply couldn't believe that sex could be important. Considering that high on most women's list is "money", a man could easily ridicule here saying all she cares about is material things. Whether or not sex is important to you, it's important to him, and denigrating it as not important isn't going to make him not care. It's just going to make him frustrated and unhappy.
60 years old and married 39 years to my beautiful wife. I could not agree more with you. Quite literally everything you stated was spot on
Everything is out there about what men want. Women just know better than we do.😂
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MY PET PEEVE is that men get ZERO APPRECIATION for working 8-12hr/day at a mind-crushing, back-breaking job just to see the lion's share of the fruits of that labor got to take care of SOMEONE ELSE. It's just EXPECTED ENTITLEMENT.
The real problem is that this is not something most women care about, they only care about their own agenda
Generosity (in the broader sense); generous in affection, in kindness, in acts of service, in passion, and even with money (if she happens to have a successful career or come from a wealthy family) - to be a giver, not a taker.
Being a team player; supporting and making his life easier.
MEN WANT a woman that will ENABLE him to go out and fight dragons without worrying about the dragon waiting for him at home.
*#5 - Because I was burned by my second wife filing for bankruptcy (leaving me legally responsible for ALL debt - including all wedding debt), I went into my next relationship with the stipulation of separate bank accounts, and 16 years later, my current wife is still fine with that. She understands that my ex-wife burned that trust in me, and that trust can NEVER be restored - even with time !!!*
*The wedding with my Ex was in 2003, and I am still paying off that debt to this day !!! In short, I heard your point, but it really doesn't take into account individual circumstances !!!*
100% ... also it is interesting "NOT" that all of her videos attract 99.9% of men ONLY ..and lot of them are singles ... who just found THE "excuse" why they life by them self . We men are not the prefect creatures either gentleman's ...keep that in mind when with a woman
A real man want more then just sex he wants partnership working as a team enjoying life together. Let’s face it sex is easy too find on every street corner but finding a wife is like winning the lottery.
Food.
Peace.
Kindness.
Safe home.
A man needs a full time career.
Respected by other members of the community.
Silence.
Sleep.
Working car.
Running water.
Deep, meaningful connection with friends and family.
Some men wish to marry, some want to be single.
Wait to be asked, invited, by the man.
God bless.
Sister in Jesus Christ
Holly 🕊🌿🌳🌲🍀🌱🌴🍃🍏🍈🥝🥑🍐🥦🕊🌿🌳🌲🍀🌱🌴
You had it mostly all pegged on #1. Bonus points for the rest. The only way a woman knows what she’s asking of a man is to do it for them…and few woman will. I tile floors, clean the toilets, fix the cars, do the laundry…make the $$$. Women typically focus on mascara and makeup while I’m in the gym or running a few miles. Then mostly? Then they focus mostly on themselves.
As a guy, I just need love, respect, loyalty, openness, intimacy, happiness, peace, intelligence, romance, affection, kindness and selflessness from a good woman. When I say something is private, it must remain that way until death. No one besides the two of us should ever know about those conversations. I have never revealed any secrets from my former girlfriends and I am not going to start now. I expect the woman with me to do the same.
For me, there is nothing better than holding my lover in my arms on the couch watching TV or listening to music with a pizza. Sure, I love the adventurous sex in the bedroom, but the relaxing with the correct woman is truly special. These moments allow me to unwind and forget about the world for a while. I have never been afraid of conversation. We can talk about anything and everything or we can just remain silent together. It doesn't matter to me. All I care about is being with her in a peaceful and private setting.
What every woman should know : Stop being an awful person. Done. Now, you know the secret.
I love scruffing my husband’s beard. And little kisses every time I see him.
Emilywking,
What do you mean you have a conversation with your private overhead? What is overhead?
What can women learn from mean have been in combat together? Ever wonder why that bond is so intense and solid ladies?
Think on this. Every minute of every day in combat requires each man to have total, absolute faith and belief that his guys will if necessary, die to protect him. In turn of them know this of him. A team like that is incredibly hard to defeat. The problem with todays woman is they only care about themselves.
Lasies really think about just how willing you REALLY are to ALL IN for your man. Because, if you can't, your marriage survival, ESPECIALLY TODAY, might be bleak.
1. Respect and appreciation…YES!
2. Various forms of non-sexual physical intimacy… YES!
3. Need a PROVEN “safe space” to open up… OMG YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!💯
4. Feel loved for who I am… OMG YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!💯
5. Want to do for her… YES!
Emily, have you been reading my mind?
@_Dm-Te_legrem-EmilyWking1 Not sure how that would work
That said, I would be okay with that.
Ms Emily! : you should do a segment on how women just go thru life thinking all of guys running around are just fixer uppers ! Or some pet projects!
Dear Emily, in one of your "shorts you talk about 2 people "conversating". The correct form is "conversing". Thank you for everything else that you release.
Bang on except switch #5 to #1 and vice versa. So number 1 is Respect. To be clear. A man wants that whole list , yes... but Respect, above all is number 1... make NO MISTAKE about that.
Very good list Emily. Every one hits home. Accurate and Truthful. Have to add something when you said about touch, if a woman every grabbed my inner arm to hold it while walking, I might melt right there. That just builds trust, feeling safe and love as well as respect. 4 in 1
So you are actually saying that women do not touch their guy because they are afraid he will want sex? So women apparently do not like sex and only do if when they cannot avoid it. That pretty much confirms what I already knew and explains why my sex to self-abuse ratio is 2 : 363.
I didn’t date much and never had a girlfriend. Maybe because I’m a nice guy and gentleman. Yes I was looking for someone special who liked me. Smart nerd computer guy. Then I found her. We just celebrated our 45th anniversary a few months ago. Back in 1978 you could not rent an apartment if you were not married. Morality laws and contracts. So we were married months after my college graduation. When our second child was born. We both reviewed our incomes and advancement. My computer technology network skills offered us the opportunity for my wife to stay home with our children. Being a computer geek, nerd, and designer offered us a very nice income. Unfortunately my success required some travel away from home. As a guy I cannot pick out colors. She excels at color combinations and accessories. Never have I regretted marrying my first girlfriend. We’re retired now with grandkids.
She taught me so much. Like never give a woman a brand new $100 from the bank for a $10 pizza and expect to get back any money.
Love your videos.
Howdy.
The touching thing is difficult.
I hate ambush touching. I ended a couple of relationships because of the compulsive ambush touching. She could grab my hand over the coffee table or grab my head to turn my face toward her. Or grab my waste as one would do in a fist fight.
Must have been strong impulses of affection I guess. But it made my heart turn to ice and stone.
Regards.
Guy here. I don't feel that I speak for ALL men, but I think a significant percentage of men would agree with this: Men *DON'T* want to rehash things that are weeks, months, and especially YEARS old. Listening to hurts and injuries a woman received in the past is important, but after we have heard about it a half dozen times, you don't need to tell us about it again. Unless something has changed, you aren't giving us any new information. Even when that injury or wrong was committed by the one you are re-telling, it is a PAST issue. We have either apologized for it or given you our rationale. Bringing it up for the n-teenth time isn't going to help anything. No man has yet managed to get his hands on time-travel technology, so it's simply not something we are able to fix.
I think most men agree that the past is IN THE PAST, and we can only fix current problems.
At least I have cured my wife of throwing me a surprise birthday party.
I've seen videos where women say, "I think I'm a good catch. I have a good career, I'm strong and independent." Those may be things you think are good qualities in a man, but to the average man, they are worth zero points in a woman. Would you want a man who expects you to support him? Probably not. So why should he value a woman who could?
All you women out there...listen to what Emily says in her video and subscribe!!....she gives great advice on what makes men tick and what simple things to do to find a great man and keep him. :))
Just to note at the closing about "men wanting to make their woman happy" part that needs to be clarified. It is NOT your partner's responsibility to "make you happy" (this goes both ways); only YOU can "make you happy". I see your closing statement about happiness conveying an unintended sense of obligation that a man MUST make his woman happy (which I don't think you were espousing).
Yes, generally speaking, men want their woman happy. And likewise, women should want their man happy. Happiness is subjective to each person, so couples should be communicating actively about what that means for each so they can actively contribute to each other's lives to being in a "happy state". Unfortunately, what seems to happen is one (or both) partners have un-communicated expectations ("boundaries") in the relationship and become resentful that the other does not already know what is expected despite there has never been any demonstration or evidence of mind-reading capabilities within the relationship. Then things get bitter & passive-aggressive leading to the failure of the relationship.
Our ability to effectively communicate with the opposite sex in relationships has never been this so divided and out of synch with each other in modern history, in my view. The longevity of Western society is doomed if we, as human beings, do not collectively make a course correction in our intersexual relationship dynamics in a positive direction for the healing our species needs now more than ever.
Totally agree with number 3 and 4. When I'm with my woman I just want things to be easy. I want to come into a space of peace after a stressful day at work. I do not want to feel like I'm being tested and judged at every moment. And I do not want to be the only one responsible for all our (her) projects. I also have some projects of my own.
Kinda disagree with number 5 though. Even if I'm not looking into perfect 50/50 I will want something really close to it. I will never ever again do 99% of all the meals, groceries, laundries, house work etc., while she's giving hours to her child. So the only way to make sure it's right for everyone is to plan things so the tasks are assigned equally between me and her.
So correct. I have been single and by myself. All my life. Even when I was in two relationships. Both woman where vodka drinkers. One was an opioid addict turning to meth. The other. Was induced by Doctor Sutton. A pill doctor. She was 30 years plus taking opioids and still is today. She will take the drugs to her grave. People will never get off opioids. There bodies are picked. With this drug. So sad.
Yes. Especially, if a man opens up to a woman and she later uses that as ammunition--- end of relationship. Forever. Period.
That bit about how intimacy not needing to lead to “the other thing” is spot on. I personally don’t have a very high “drive” and I would MUCH rather spend that time in other ways. I’d love to make a cuddle fort out of every pillow, seat cushion, and blanket in the house and just cuddle with my partner while we watch a movie. Or, I’d love to lay my head in my partner’s lap while they play with my hair. The option of just making out always stands. And none of that has to go any father. Hugs from behind, neck kisses (surprise or not), hand holding, tickle fights, and so many other options exist that would make me happy without going into naughty territory. I think about this stuff a lot because my primary love language is Physical Touch. And I’m sure I can’t be the only one.
You are so right, I have found mine and she is Ukrainian and these women are taught by their mother and can't find real men. Mine loves and appreciates me, while US women on average are so into themselves only and search for attention. I am considered toxically masculine as I work in Law Enforcement, Former Special Ops Army and Martial artist for many years and work out in the gym. But want a strong close family and will make her sons my sons and they love me teaching them martial arts and about the bible.
Compassion, Understanding, Loving kindness. These are the 3 core traits inherent in femininity or a woman's true nature. A woman who understands, is connected to, grounded in, accepting of and acts out of this true nature, has a calming, centering and healing effect on a man -- as well as all others. Compassion, Understanding and Loving kindness are healing. She doesn't have to work at being a healer -- she just naturally is that. This is True power. Women are naturally powerful. A real woman lives in this power. A man will do anything for his woman if she is this type of woman. Unfortunately, these women are rare in our current culture and society. "Modern" women's disregard and disdain for their true nature has been massively harmful to the rest of society on many levels. Feminism?
You naked it, Emily! All 5 talking points are accurate.
Some youtuber believes that women can conceive and carry and produce limited eggs whereas men produce unlimited sperms. That's why women are more valuable accordingly they behave too.
What do I want from my wife? Number one, first and foremost, I want her to make herself pretty for me -- keep her weight under control, wear nice clothes, etc. Number two, I want to do fun things together. Three, I want her to cook and clean. That's about it.
Yikes this sounds like something out of the 50's! Seems to be for some really insecure men! Times have changed, man up.
I want my businesses to be successful. They are. I want to own my own plane and have my private pilots license. I do. I want to own my own 4 befroom house outright. I do. I want peace of mind. I have it. I dont want drama, lies, BS. I dont. None of this would be possible with a woman in my life.
Lack of sex is one reason why a wife’s physical touch may lead to sexual advances from her husband. I’m into touch for touch’s sake, but when I get touched during a drought I assume it means the rains are coming.
This is dead on the money. I'm 64 and 32 years in a toxic marriage and my wife just doesn't understand these 5 basic needs. And doesn't want to, despite my trying to explain multiple times over the years. I've learned that what she really wanted was a long-term roommate, not a husband.
After 40 years together, forever and always has come and gone...
I am 53 and I would say that the greatest way that a woman can show love to a man is to just simply be in his corner, and you do that by NOT being a problem, but by being easygoing, by being part of the solution, by being reasonable and generally kind, by putting the union and the home before yourself, by expressing graditude. Our culture, which is really to say our mass media, has really done a number on women. 200 years from now we will still be discussing the harm caused to these generations, the impact on family, marriage, birth rates, single moms, childless and manless women, etc., not to mention several lost generations of men. But, nothing is going to change anytime soon, what we can see in the comments as it is almost exclusively men commenting. Women wholesale aren't even digesting this type of content- they want what they want and nobody is going to tell them otherwise. Only rock bottom is going to change that, individually and collectively.
The background to some of these things is that most men have a very deep experience of loneliness that starts after early childhood. Consider, the only person who ever loves us unconditionally is our mom. That usually becomes conditional between five and ten years old. After that our lives are about developing independence, and giving everyone a good reason to love us.
Things like wanting non-sexual physical affection and being accepted when we open up hearken back to that early childhood motherly love. Mistrust of being open about our deepest feelings is because even mom stopped accepting our flaws, and needed us to be stronger and better. It is disaster for a man if his woman thinks he is weak. So, we try to be better and stronger, and we hide our weaknesses and vulnerabilities. (Frankly I truly doubt that most women can handle their man being emotionally vulnerable.)
I think every man wants to be his family's hero, and be respected and admired for that. I know I do. Men yearn to be needed because it is a chance to be heroic. We want to contribute more than our wives because that is also heroic. People need, respect, and often love their heroes. Being needed is more secure than being wanted or even loved. People sacrifice what we want and love in order to get what we need.
This is why a man can be satisfied with not being loved, so long as he is respected. There is still some security in that. He cannot bear it if his woman does not respect him. This is why it is so important that a woman NEVER criticizes her man to others, and why she must never discuss marital problems to people outside the relationship. No man wants his flaws on a billboard because they make us less respectable and less loveable.
What is often called "toxic masculinity" (hiding vulnerability, ignoring feelings, working a lot, competing for status) is the healthiest possible way men have to deal with the loneliness and insecurity that has been normal in our lives since we were five years old. Men work, sacrifice, and attempt greatness because women cannot love men unconditionally.
Men are scattered across a spectrum, just like women are spread across a spectrum. Even when you do the right things, some people are still jerks. But for the most part, learn wisdom, and the things Emily talks about here are pretty good. I'll disagree with her and say that there are lots of good books out there about relationships. Now I come from a Christian perspective and the facts are that married couples who attend church at least twice a month (because they want to) have a much lower divorce rate, like 10%, than the general population which is 50% or so. There is something about Christianity (and many other faiths) that encourage you to be the best person and also best partner possible. Yeah, there are people that abuse their faith or screw it up out of proportion, but most of them are not in the 10% either. Nevertheless the stats still say that divorce rate is lower among people of faith. When a couple is heading the same direction in personal growth, character development and such, they are more likely to have a great relationship. Faith is one part of that puzzle.
She is so clearly and right about what she says. Unbeliveable such women still exists with this mindset. Men are easy and the easy things make most of them really happy !
ok, he DOES want it to lead to the next thing.. because the touch brings him closer to her. ... and why would that be wrong?
I have done very well in life in business and financially. I do not care if my partner is a waitress or a CEO as long as she does these things and one more. Live within her financial means - be an adult. If you make 50k and year and live on it or 500k a year and live on it. If a man knows you have a bunch of debt he is going to be expected to pay, or at least help, pay of that debt and your debt is not our debt - or the other way around. Yes we want to provide but not be your plow horse. As for the bank account statement. You should each have your own accounts and a joint account.
I remember seeing something where they said that prostitutes say men mostly talks to them . Sex is secondary
Number 1. "you may have dozens of things to tell him But the moment of his arrival is not the time" - Daan
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