When should your partner say, “I love you?”

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  • @jeffcrenshaw9932
    @jeffcrenshaw9932 5 років тому +101

    LEAVE NO REGRETS! If you mean it, and are showing it ... SAY IT!!! Leave them admiring your courage, even if they don’t return it at that moment, or ever.

  • @loveandhappiness1111
    @loveandhappiness1111 5 років тому +46

    My boyfriend is not vocal about his love, he is a doer and his actions are everything.. When he does say it, I melt. He says it in small doses, lol

  • @raz.
    @raz. 5 років тому +66

    Only strong and courageous people have the power to put themselves in a vulnerable position because they know they can handle the consequence if things don't turn out as planned. Putting ourselves out there and saying "I love you" is not weakness. It is strength :)
    Thanks for this nice video, Susan! Your hair looks a bit more wavy than usual today, and it looks very good on you!

  • @donh1572
    @donh1572 2 роки тому +26

    I find it amazing that people will have sex by the third or fourth date…but need months and months to say I love you

    • @helloitsmehb
      @helloitsmehb 6 місяців тому

      It’s just words.
      Me and my wife have never told her each other “ I love you”. It turns into a cheap phrase that means nothing

    • @donh1572
      @donh1572 6 місяців тому +1

      @@helloitsmehb sounds like an exciting relationship

    • @helloitsmehb
      @helloitsmehb 6 місяців тому

      @@donh1572 is that a dig ? It’s has its ups and downs

    • @donh1572
      @donh1572 6 місяців тому

      @@helloitsmehb Hey, I have my flaws too

    • @helloitsmehb
      @helloitsmehb 6 місяців тому

      @@donh1572 I never mentioned flaws. What flaws are you referring to?

  • @violetlune72
    @violetlune72 5 років тому +22

    I just did this recently with someone in my life knowing he wouldn’t say it back, but I didn’t care. It felt empowering to be honest with myself and him. Thank you for your video that reinsured my choice, it means everything coming from someone I absolutely respect 💜

    • @simontmn
      @simontmn 2 роки тому +2

      I'm a man in kinda this position - I want to say 'I love you' all the time, knowing she won't say it back. But all her actions show someone who does seem to love me.

  • @antilaw9911
    @antilaw9911 2 роки тому +7

    If you mean it, then saying "i love you" is a good way to see how the other truly feels about you. If not reciprocated then maybe move on and stop investing

    • @YasminYoruba
      @YasminYoruba Місяць тому

      No it depends, just because you say it doesn’t mean the other person must. You’d want the other person to mean it

  • @zillionairetc1212
    @zillionairetc1212 5 років тому +49

    U have a beautiful soul. I have been following your you tube for years. Always very informative! Excellent job. I learn alot from you. I just want to tell you how grateful I am for you.. I just want to tell you that I love you. I just want to tell you how amazing you are. You are one of the most talented people I know in this field. I want to tell you you are one of the greatest relationship and life coach I know. You got a incredible heart. Hope you have amazing day.

    • @LemansSunset350
      @LemansSunset350 5 років тому +4

      Zillionaire TC that is super sweet! I feel the same way about her! I think she is excellent at what she does.

    • @MV-ex9nd
      @MV-ex9nd 5 років тому +1

      Awwww, 100% 😇😇❤❤❤💜💜🎆🍀🌼💞💋🌹💐🎶👼🤗

    • @jasminej6281
      @jasminej6281 5 років тому +1

      Awww so sweet. I agree.

    • @nessiequin
      @nessiequin 4 роки тому

      Thank you Susan! Your videos have gotten me through these tough days. I had two breakups in the months leading up to Coronavirus and I am very sad and lonely right now. You have helped me tremendously. THANK YOU, sweet woman.

  • @jadeboller3657
    @jadeboller3657 Рік тому +4

    i’m old-fashioned as well and always believe that the guy should say it first but you can only wait so long and my boyfriend has been cheated on before so I feel that he definitely is hesitant to say it first so I’m gonna say it first! let you know how that goes

  • @arnedelange9857
    @arnedelange9857 4 роки тому +8

    Thank you Susan! Your perspective is liberating and empowering. I was hesitating to say I love you to a woman I am dating because we have known each other for 2 months. And then she said it, that she loves me. And my feelings of love for her got stronger. Wow! She showed me how confident She is. And I Said to her that I love her.

  • @MadawaskaObservatory
    @MadawaskaObservatory 5 років тому +8

    Hi Susan, well said. I think saying "I love You" is assuring. But actions will convey feelings much better. In certain circumstances saying the magic words may allow you to open up and express yourself better, now that the 'cats out of the bag". I remember I girl I dated and never told her that I loved her. I cried profusely when she dumped me. And cried hours more when I got back home. At the time I thought that our relationship could never work out, she had some serious personal issues. Still today after many years I still have some feelings for her.

    • @janochs
      @janochs 5 років тому +1

      Why didnt you say you love her back?

    • @feliolipa3851
      @feliolipa3851 5 років тому

      Touching....

  • @scorpiorisingproductions6694
    @scorpiorisingproductions6694 3 роки тому +7

    Yes! You are stronger for allowing your feelings to flow freely and being true to who you are. Don't hold back out of fear. I love your videos!

  • @frogazonbuttonup950
    @frogazonbuttonup950 5 років тому +2

    OMG SUSAN WINTER! MY 24yo bf just texted me "I love you"... I've been soooooo enamored by him. And I'm a 51yo divorcee... he's my neighbor! YOUR videos have helped me navigate all my questions feelings concerns balancing all things.... thank you!!!! I'm toooooo excited....I love him too!

    • @frogazonbuttonup950
      @frogazonbuttonup950 5 років тому +1

      Thanks to you, I didn't push him away as I intended when I felt our mutual attraction. You helped me navigate my worries about having two sons, 21yo and 32yo... both are accepting and loving as long as I'm happy... and THIS guy is seriously one of a kind!

  • @teachmetofish8710
    @teachmetofish8710 5 років тому +7

    Life is funny because you only live once if you love her or him I agree with the Susan tell him I believe that when we Embrace who we are and what we feel the universe will smile at you just a thought

  • @susangj300
    @susangj300 5 років тому +17

    K...here goes. I love you!! You are one of my most favorite people that I've never met. lol you look so beautiful today looks like you changed your haircolor just a tad perhaps?? Have an excellent weekend girl. xxoo

  • @hobbyhive
    @hobbyhive 5 років тому +5

    Also different people have different love languages. My aunt when she was in her early 20s had been dating a slightly younger man and his love language definitely was not Words of Affirmation. Their first fight which ended in a breakup (for a couple of weeks haha) went along the lines of "you never say you love me" "I thought it was obvious that I do" etc. This gentleman may express his love through acts of service, quality time etc. whereas the lady may be a words of affirmation person. If that is the case, then she needs to communicate it.

  • @jasminej6281
    @jasminej6281 5 років тому +4

    I love how genuine and talented you are. You make sense and you say it with kindness and calm. Thank you xox

  • @mackelly4581
    @mackelly4581 5 років тому +14

    Haha! When I was in my 20's, I dropped the L bomb on a girl I was dating. She said 'thank you' lol. Cue the sad trombone sound; wah wah wahhhh.

  • @ScottH7651
    @ScottH7651 Рік тому +1

    "your internal accountant is keeping track" I love it!!

  • @kourtenayt1927
    @kourtenayt1927 Рік тому

    "It's just life" love this!! Life school! Here to learn right!! Great video ❤

  • @PibsMegie
    @PibsMegie 22 дні тому

    Thankyou for the advice it makes so much sense and now I feel much more confident

  • @silvermont331
    @silvermont331 5 років тому +3

    I had a Capricorn for 2 years, recently we broke up and I almost never heard him saying I love you ? But once in the middle of the night he woke up, probably dreaming of us and immediately he said , I love you sweetly !! To which I responded I love you 2 baby .. then he felt asleep right away 😆 I will never forget that moment .. I’m a Leo woman and I usually say to the other person I L U with out hesitation, but I think that’s my nature 😆. Good question my friend ,, thanks Susan you are amazing !

  • @butterflyqueen9260
    @butterflyqueen9260 5 років тому +2

    Great question! I didn't even think about it. But it is only 3 months for us. Wow.... now I'm thinking about this...

  • @twinsoul1137
    @twinsoul1137 3 роки тому +1

    Came across this video after a year.. but must say.. you look absolutely gorgeous in this black top Susan.

  • @kramersone
    @kramersone 4 місяці тому

    I said it and i think it complicated the relationship. Dating as a senior is streeful😮

  • @JewishKeto
    @JewishKeto 7 місяців тому +1

    So… I’m currently dating a wonderful woman. But I won’t say “I love you” yet… I want to show it by my actions.

  • @maryscott7929
    @maryscott7929 2 роки тому

    You have a beautiful soul. I’m thankful you make these videos, you are an insightful and intelligent woman. Watching from UK😊

  • @avalonmist254
    @avalonmist254 5 років тому

    I agree if I'm feeling Love and Loved if I say I Love you it's not going to save a broken heart because I don't express my Now feelings. If anything I feel our planet is in need of Love instead of pushing it away be grateful for that Loving feeling. And I lead with Respect for myself and for my other...

  • @zaumnanzez8108
    @zaumnanzez8108 5 років тому +2

    Susan, wow! What a bombshell of an answer you gave to this question about timing and telling someone you love them. Here are my thoughts: Without first taking the time to know him/her, how can you expect to love or be loved in a meaningful way? And therein is the answer: (know him/her) before you give yourself permission to open up for love. Unfortunately many people confuse repeated physical satisfaction with the same partner to mean love. Wrong!!! Let me repeat that again. WRONG!!! If real communication doesn't take place between the two individuals; it will spell "into-the-blender" for your emotional feelings. Dear, you did say, "personally" you are willing to put it out there. No harm no foul. Q. What's the success rate for that approach?

  • @clarkkent2816
    @clarkkent2816 5 років тому +4

    Wish you had videos on emotional damaged woman. I told her that I loved her but she basically said there’s no way I could love her after 4 months. I sometimes wonder if she knows that I do love her with my actions. I’m a man of few words but loud actions.

  • @marianastoyanova7926
    @marianastoyanova7926 4 роки тому

    While reading each their book on the balcony during the Corona lockdown, I spontaneously told my 16 - years younger flatmate/lover, that I love him very much. He made me repeat it three times (intentionally or not) and then he told me, that he loves me too. I then said nothing, continued to read and 3 min later went to finish my baking. By mistake I did close the door so that he couldn't get in the next 15 minutes :) our ways parted as planed since then but I still recall this occasion in to my mind with smile on my face. It was so profound, easy, natural and deep experience that is capable to shake us up to call us to our true self of loving human beings. Thank you, Susan for your always encouraging, uplifting videos! I would love to "show up" for love with this guy

  • @RG-hf4et
    @RG-hf4et 5 років тому +1

    I said it once first after waiting some time & didn't get a response. I was instantly sorry I said anything.

  • @carriejo5225
    @carriejo5225 2 роки тому +1

    Love you, Susan.
    Please check your audio. It is "troubled" on this video.

  • @MM-fb5hc
    @MM-fb5hc 5 років тому +3

    Well the comments below are more better than the video !

  • @LalboiHangsing-zr9zj
    @LalboiHangsing-zr9zj 3 місяці тому

    She said thanks when i say i love you

  • @suncrew1
    @suncrew1 5 років тому +1

    Thank you this video is what I needed

  • @Lana0624
    @Lana0624 5 років тому

    Another great video! Thanks Susan

  • @erikap311
    @erikap311 3 роки тому

    Amazing video! Thank you!

  • @willy6829
    @willy6829 5 років тому +3

    I love your curvy hair!

  • @ishtarashtaroot7126
    @ishtarashtaroot7126 5 років тому

    Thank you very much. I love you Susan. 💙💙

  • @sandym3239
    @sandym3239 5 років тому

    Excellent as always. You look very lovely today.

  • @c-notethelastgreatest4298
    @c-notethelastgreatest4298 Рік тому +1

    what about if I said I love you but I don't want her to lose interest how do I fix this and still manage to keep her passionatly open?

  • @gothicyid
    @gothicyid 5 місяців тому

    I said it first and he didnt say it back. I was patient and about a month later he finally said it. I was patient and kind and saw in nis actions he was showing it but not saying it. If actions dont show it and he doesnt say it its not there.

  • @ImCheesedOut
    @ImCheesedOut 5 років тому

    Love the new hair!

  • @nickimarie378
    @nickimarie378 5 років тому +8

    Him: "You know I love you." Me: "What does that mean?"

  • @avalonmist254
    @avalonmist254 5 років тому

    Great information

  • @qaradd4265
    @qaradd4265 5 років тому

    thank you susan

  • @kes1582
    @kes1582 5 років тому +1

    I love your hair...

  • @DayaTom
    @DayaTom 5 років тому +2

    I said it first after half a year and he dumped me .
    Worst break up ever.

    • @andre1987eph
      @andre1987eph 3 роки тому +3

      he dumped you because of something else, trust me

  • @Victoria-ix4vr
    @Victoria-ix4vr 5 років тому

    He said we can talk but do not ask me to tell you "I love you" and don't you tell me...I feel he is married and she lives with him on and off and I feel she listens to our conversations and is making me look like a fool...I heard her say what is SHE talking about? He had said I don't know...and made me a idiot...I have asked and of course he said no...and he said if you ask me again...I don't want to talk to you anymore...what can I do? I am obsessed with him....and I have know him for over 32 years and we only talked on the phone he is 100 miles away...and I always wondered WHY I can not stop answering that phone...he treats this other one like he had treated me and it hurts....thank you Susan 'Victoria

    • @Victoria-ix4vr
      @Victoria-ix4vr 5 років тому

      Psychics, have told me that the "Universe" put him into this relationship and he can't understand why HE is obsessed with her as I am with him...

    • @Victoria-ix4vr
      @Victoria-ix4vr 5 років тому

      He has said he loves no one but his dog...and I am wondering if it is because the dog belongs to her husbands farm of dogs...the female is a very selfish person.....He used to love me and I think he still does but he is now confused and this female messed him up and I wish I could of gotten to him before she messed up his mind....I truly believe she is not a nice person IMO

  • @lynnetg
    @lynnetg 5 років тому +1

    I love you already...

  • @alberonibaggio9680
    @alberonibaggio9680 5 років тому +4

    I told this girl that I was seeing at college for about 6 months ( but we were just friends and appreciate each other) that “I want her “ and suddenly She became cold with me, while she used to be super excited to talk to me and answer my messages, now she takes hours to reply to any of my messages and when I asked her on a date she said she was busy after she’d told me she had time on the weekends... what should I do ? Give up or keep chasing her , pls someone reply

    • @pam164
      @pam164 5 років тому +5

      Scuzy Baggio I would say just back off and leave her alone for a while if she likes you she will reach out, if you pester her you will push her further away. Watch Corey Wayne coach hes good on how women feel. Hope that helps you.

    • @alberonibaggio9680
      @alberonibaggio9680 5 років тому +4

      k meg thanks for the reply, yeah I’m gonna try that if she doesn’t contact me back it means she didn’t feel the same way about me and only wanted me as a friend

    • @erikaerika7788
      @erikaerika7788 5 років тому +3

      She probably has a boyfriend now

    • @pam164
      @pam164 5 років тому +2

      @@alberonibaggio9680 Yes you don't want to be friend zoned! Let her come to you. Good luck x

  • @aa-jm7js
    @aa-jm7js 5 років тому +2

    So, what do you do about people that like to play reverse psychology and other things like that with you?

  • @sookieluo2769
    @sookieluo2769 5 років тому

    He said it the day before yesterday 😱

  • @kumbanigumba5885
    @kumbanigumba5885 5 років тому

    Susan I love you

  • @CF-kj4pm
    @CF-kj4pm 5 років тому +2

    I think I'm falling in live with you & they say "ya, who would'nt"...lol!

  • @dave4138
    @dave4138 Рік тому

    Im skeptical to say it because what does it really mean? It's fluid...people fall in and out of love all the time. Are you happy? Yes or no? Than what else actually matters? I really dont see the point. I have a 9 year old, which i know i love and between her and my mom these are probably the only.people i feel i have ever loved. So i date someone for half a year and they are in the same catagory? Again, i dont really get it.
    I'm in a new relationship going on four months and im really into this girl but i will never say it because im worried it will change thr dynamic and i dont know what it means in this context.

  • @qed1649
    @qed1649 4 роки тому

    I said it on the first hour

  • @karolinamiszkiel4437
    @karolinamiszkiel4437 5 років тому

    Better in wavy hair, love it :)

  • @zuzananosalova6304
    @zuzananosalova6304 5 років тому

    :O That hair!!!!

  • @sitifarhanafajrinadnan
    @sitifarhanafajrinadnan 5 років тому

    Hi Susan ;)

  • @asifmuniruniverse7732
    @asifmuniruniverse7732 3 роки тому

    Hi,

  • @dwayneheeter
    @dwayneheeter 4 роки тому

    10 months!!? I am worried u meant a week.

  • @k4ir0s
    @k4ir0s 5 років тому

    You look just like my ex. it's entrancing.

  • @andre1987eph
    @andre1987eph 3 роки тому

    I came here for the laughs

  • @Ksbabyg
    @Ksbabyg Рік тому

    She waited 10months??? You need to watch more relationship advice girl. If has not say that, END IT NOW!