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I work on myself mentally, emotionally and physically, but since I started this some years ago, I've lost the desperation to have a woman in my life. Working on ourselves is true freedom.
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Exactly. Once you've dated them all its nice to take a break and embrace the fact that your penis might be a little sore and needs a rest.
Agreed, woman can ruin everything you have achieved. They spend your money, stop you going to the gym and want you to watch mind numbing Netflix with them instead of you working on improving your life.
@@ianbetts4435 That sounds seemingly & plausibly true.
Legend. At 53 years old, many of the gals I encounter just don't check off enough boxes to earn any interest. They are literally walking red flags. I'd rather stay on my purpose of self investment than invite what seems to be an endless stream of wrong women into my life and home. I don't mind being single. It adds to the mystery. 👍
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Well said. Women need to be called out as well.
I'm more than positive you have your choice of women. Keep up the good job.
@Andrew Sutalo call them out by removing your time, energy, and attention from them. There is no need to waste any of the former on the wrong ones.
@@facelessfaceman9716 I don't, trust me.
Made the mistake of chasing someone who I thought would be a good and proper fit. I was honest with myself and realized I wasn't what that person wanted. I sucked it up as a lesson learned and decided to concentrate on myself instead. Since then I find myself more relaxed, more confident, and much easier going than I was. If there's anything I've taken from your channel is to get to know yourself, warts and all, and improve yourself. No matter the subject you've hit many excellent keys in regards to ones self, ones value in themselves, and their their own self worth! Keep up the excellent content like this! It helps tremendously!
Thank you very much! I appreciate your comment!
Legend! You hit the nail on the head about these dating coaches out here. They’re so angry with women and the world and want me and you to be as well. You, and a few of them, have shed that light onto me and I couldn’t agree more. Great stuff man!
Thank you very much!
I agree with you about the games. Too many people hide behind facades and aren’t authentic. I’ve dated many women who can’t pull their guard down within a couple dates. That’s when I’m out of there. I’ve dated a lot but I just want one woman who can be sincere.
I agree with you about boundaries.
I quite dating apps. I’ve been meeting many women dining out, meet ups and just simply hanging with friends.
I appreciate your videos John. You’re straight up and sincere. Keep up the good work.
Thank you!
Dating over 40 is like walking into a thrift store and trying to find the least damaged thing that doesn't smell like cat piss.
Oh my!
hmm this is ok but my comment got deleted...youtube bleh
This literally made me laugh 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
lol
I'm 51 and happily married btw but I am watching the train wreck that is called online dating through various friends lol. Some of it is hilarious.......and some of it is downright scary. There are diamonds in the tough out there though. It takes A LOT of patience. Something I have less and less of the older I get. I don't know how some of you do it, but I guess I would have to try being in that situation.
John, i absolutely loved the way you replied to that lady who wanted to 'interview' you. I came across that kind of women and i have no patience with them. Thanks for another insightful video.
Thank you for watching!
Legend!! Loved the way you responded back to that lady. Totally agree with you...it's not a job interview and one shouldn't have to work that hard for a date. Thanks for your take on this subject!! 👊
Thanks Michael!
those women fall into the checklist pile, a hundred ridiculous demands while they bring zero to the table
Another spot on video , John.Im 43 , single , from Spain and living in Utah and I can tell you that the dating world have changed a lot but if you don't have a purpose , goals and you work in yourself , what you're going to attract is not what you really want.
Exactly! Thanks for commenting!
I’m Utah now. Full of beautiful women. A recommendation, singles ward. You may not be religious but it’s a bunch of single people getting together. Just be clean, fashion on point, and age won’t matter.
@@alexbell8865 I'm LDS , my friend.But women here , oh well , don't even know where to start neither...Too much hurt , I'm afraid.I can focus on me and be better , that's for sure !
The best thing I’ve ever done was to invest in myself. Lost weight by eating healthy, ditch my clothes & buy a new wardrobe/shoes, get my debt under control. And start hanging out more often with friends & coworkers. My confidence level went up and now I’m starting to notice women looking at me with that twinkle in their eye.
Sounds like another kind of Investments in time and expenditures.
Good job. Keep moving forward. You will succeed.
If you put someone on a pedestal, they WILL look down on you!
The things you discuss here are really true, spot on stuff. The pedestal thing, the having your finances in order, all of it is true. I'm an old fart, 70, that lost my wife to pancreatic cancer 8 year ago in 2014. I currently have a lady that I will never marry but have many shared values with and that alone is huge. BTW, in this day and age NEVER overlook the importance of political views. If you're both liberals or both conservatives is more critical than anytime before.... seriously!!
My Dad gave me one great piece of dating advice many years ago: "If you want to meet a good girl, go to church". You have no idea how true that is!! Of course this works only if you are religious and it makes no difference if you are Christian, Jewish.. whatever! People of depth and good values go to church... period. The women that go to church are NOT as "holy" as one might be led to believe. They know they're sinners and live with their lusts and other shortcomings much as us guys.
Peace, love and Bobby Sherman! 😁😁😁
Thanks Ken!
No chasing , no begging is my rule. Work on being the best version of myself I can be.😅
This is great stuff, John---good advice. Many of the "Dating Coaches" on UA-cam are folks with limited experience, and experience only comes with age and experiences over the long run. Regarding the "Red Pill, MGTOW, Simp, etc." videos that flood UA-cam, it's kind of sad----it's a lot of angry guys making them for angry audiences. The hosts rarely smile or laugh, but accuse much---a great indicator of attitude, with a focus on blaming and manipulation for "results." Most of that content is about how bad women are. Fact is, women aren't bad, men aren't bad----we all have our flawed moments. Yeah, 4% of the world may be crazy, but that leaves 96% trying to do their best in life. It's encouraging to see a positive channel like yours.
Thank you very much!
In my 20’s, I didn’t like being a third wheel or a fifth wheel. It made me feel like I “needed” a girlfriend. It took having relationships to realize that I didn’t need one. None of them made me “happy”. I have come to realize that happiness doesn’t always come from the destination, but from the journey. In my 40’s, I barely have time to schedule dates.
yeah i dont have time either. when you're immersed in your passion, you dont care about dating which wastes time and money
You are genuine, honest and authentic. It shows. You're clear about who you are, what's important to you, your goals and your value. All of that will filter out the ones you wouldn't want to be with anyway and attract similar people who can respect and value that because they share those attributes.
Thank you Jeff!
good job on deflecting that "boss babe" lol.
Awesome video my friend! I especially enjoyed the part where you recounted the dating app message from the woman who started with “Okay, let’s get this going” and proceeded to treat the exchange like a job interview. I met a Physician recently who conducted our first meeting similarly (ie a meeting for coffee and a chat). She started in with “Do you have a 5 year plan?”….and “Where do you see yourself in 10 years?” I responded with “Breathing” and then told her something similar to what you mentioned. I told her “I’m not on a job interview and in fact I haven’t even determined if I want to work for you yet”:)
Haha!
I am not in the dating game, way too busy working on improving myself.
Love it Juan! Thanks for commenting!
ZERO ZERO ZERO tolerance for game playing. Absolutely. Know when your personal self-respect is being compromised/tested. Don’t put up with it.
Exactly!
Super like this video! You know what you're talking about. Fellas you gotta have purpose and Passion.
Appreciate that!
Health is highest priority in life.
All else is illusion.
Excercise,not eating junk & sleep early.
Having a job in something one is good at and dance life away,latin,rock & roll,all music!
John, finally I agree with you on this topic
Thanks for watching!
Good video. I personally refuse to date anymore and think it's not worth it due to meeting too many women having unjustified entitlement behavior thinking they are 11s when they are 5s or 6s, but this is good advice. Focusing on hobbies and self while having strong boundaries is the way to go.
Absolutely Jason! Totally hear you on that.
Legend. Another great video. I think working on yourself is very important. Once you have your own confidence, your own self worth, you own boundaries then that shows and women like that in a guy. To your point about games. Some women who know you have an “unbreakable” date/time/event will try and get you to change it as a power play. The moment you say yes she loses respect for you as she knows you will bend for her. Again another great one. Keep it up please.
Thank you!
Great content once again! You always come first, you always needs to value yourself all other things will fall into place.
Thank you!
Fifty something here. Since I’m not seeing the results in my dating life from all the positive changes I’ve made in the last year, I’m more focused on improving my career and traipsing off to anime conventions.
Absolutely it's a fact that a person can live well with a productive life without having to undergo on having someone beside him. Adult male after a long busy life as provider with wife and family as time progress the kids grows up to have their life elsewhere and most adult male seems to find themselves peace just being single and doing what they love to do in a positive way both in health and financial security.
Avoid shiny objects and don't run with scissors. This philosophy has served me quite well over the years.
At this point in my life I'm more focused on myself and making friends. I let life get by me and I don't have many friends or hobbies. I'm hitting 41 this year and it's all about being a better me, not really going to try dating
Thanks for commenting Adam!
@@40OverFashion Thank you for steering more guys away from this toxic hatred of women. It's refreshing to see some common sense advice
Well balance view in a sea of dating "coaches" sharks preying on people's insecurities. Well Said.
It’s absolutely true. “Buy my course!”
Simple shouldn’t work, but it does. Great advice. Thank you for the honest preface. “Not a relationship expert.” Others on UA-cam should do the same.
Thank you!
I needed to hear this, I feel like I'm turning very mature on certain areas of life, this helps
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@@40OverFashion thanks for posting, I just turned 40 literally 2 days ago and I have noticed in the past few months the some switches are flipping, my wife is throwing a party tonight, ....i want to make my 40s even better times for me and my wife .... and this certainly helps
he admits being a single guy... that means he is smart...
the dating scene is an absolute nightmare these days.
At least here in Australia.
generally speaking, almost all women look rushed, annoyed and even angry on the streets, nobody looks at anyone, let alone approaches a stranger.
And the dating sites are absolutely chocked full of women who do not want to meet anyone, but only want attention, and fake profiles.
it was certainly not always like this.
I am 43 now, in my earlier days women were much more relaxed, and open.
Sure , it’s the women.🙄🤣🤣
The dating apps have had their day they changed into a pointless validation thing only for most people. Just time wasting basically
I like to be the designated driver for my female friends when we go out since I don't drink anyways and yes it does help catch the attention of other ladies who are also out and about.
Thank you, Great Advice Have A Great 4th of July weekend
This is the best outro so far . I’d keep it.
Perfect shared knowledge John 👌
Thanks Andy!
Really motivating and taking people in right direction and right space. GREAT
Great video which totally agrees and repeats exactly with the very great woman coaches who I listen to say !!!
I am 43 years young.
You are absolutely right : based from my experience.
Spot on! Self love first gents! You can't live somebody else till you have it for yourself
Happy Thursday John! Have a great day and great video as always!
Thank you very much!
I tell you John great advice reach one teach one preach
Thank you John!
Great video glad you posted keep them coming thanks
Thank you very much!
uk dave reinforcing high value men, spot on John .
Thanks Dave!
I do agree with what you said. Side note, as a 52 year old it’s hard to actually get noticed by men at similar age.Why would they want to deal with all the wrinkles, hormonal problems, belly fat, grey hair, cellulite etc yes we are more mature but guys just like to have a more prettier version then there ex-wives! I’m speaking from expropriations, the better looking have it together men date younger women and my kind is left with the leftover let’s say not so put together ones ☹️. If you disagree make a video on “why middle aged men like to date mature women “ love to watch that.
Good sound advice, there are nice girls out there that are worth your time,
Met my wife through friends , they knew we were both ok people and not into silly game playing, we got to know and like each other in a relaxed environment amongst friends.
The idea of dating apps fills me with dread lol
That happened because you liked the person not just the body, of course i asume there are physical things you like about your wife but i don't think that was the main rason you married her. Many guys in the comment here seem to only look at a perfec physic , if a woman doesnt have it even if she is a good person they just discard her ...
@@blancantutumu2338 yes, I find her attractive but more for the person inside not just looks.
Looks fade over time but the person grows if treated right.
Not saying it's been easy or that we have a perfect marriage but we stay together because we like and respect each other .
two comments, I not looking for women, but the pic in the thumbnail drew me in, whooohooo. Secondly, the best outfit I have seen you wear is the first one in the lead in, excellent I will steal that one!!
Thanks George!
Brilliant video John,a lot of men can learn from this.
I apparently hit to close to home so I will just say, most women today are not worth the effort....
Always on point!
Good perspective - do what you love to do, be proactive with finances, travel, exercise, etc, and the chips will fall where they may for the chicas.
Thanks for commenting Daniel!
So true. Do not make an idol of another person. 😎
All very good points.
I think the advice you give is good, on a certain level. But from my own experience I realised that what really attracts Women is when you get to the point where you truly dont need them. And the only way to get to this point is to overcome your attachment(more like addiction)to sex. What I noticed was so many guys would chase Women around with their tongues hanging out, they were hungry and desperate. And when you're hungry and desperate for something and someone has the power to give or withhold what you (think)you need, then they are the ones calling the shots, not you. As man you gotta overcome this, be someone who can live happily without sex or a relationship. Like truly happy, not fake put on an act, happy. A big part of that is giving up masturbation and all forms of porn. Trust me, when you do this you'll realise you ne er needed sex to be happy and when you know this you'll view and Interact with women in a completely different way. The hunger is gone, so you're not trying to get anything from them. And women pick this up, so they're drawn to you because women want a guy who doesn't need them. Everywhere you go women will come to you. They'll sit near you in cafe, flicking their hair, making eyes at you. They'll make an excuse to start talking to you. In a room full of guys the women will congregate around you. This is for real and all you have to do is give up on the idea that you need sex or that you need a woman. This is not anti woman, it's the opposite in fact but in the bible it says this: "Man was not made for woman but woman was made for man". And so many guys don't even know this. There's a proverb: "He who conquers himself is greater than he who conquers the city".
I did enjoy this one, thank you.
Solid content, as always.
Thank you!
Watching my nephew play" farlines from outer space." Which more stuff happens as you get older. That's life, or time management.
At Rockabilly shows! When I dance with one girl! Almost every girls want to dance w/ me!
There you go!
Thank you John.
You’re welcome Mike! Thanks for watching!
The challenge I have dating in my mid 40’s is meeting single mothers and women over 200 lbs.
And they're the ones that are too lazy to do anything about their weight but still expect to find a man.
Women trade up - in there minds - not down…so the women we want, I guess are already with someone…you need to be the ‘trade up’ guy…so how do you meet women that are already in a relationship but not happy and looking to trade up??
2023 cumin up we MEN are and WILL BE the prize power to us 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I have that same wall unit in my office at work, really like it. Keep up the good work
Thank you!
Love the shirt, John!
Thank you!
@@40OverFashion Another great video!! What brand is the shirt your wearing?
True dating apps not good at all
Thanks John.
Having women show interest and chase me @70 is great even tho I'm married to a woman 25 years younger than me I would never go after them but it feels awesome
Thanks for watching Robert!
Then don't give them hope , then you are the ones complaining that women are damaged today, but you are the ones causing the harm. You know that you are married but giving hope to the poor women Who are after you. Lol.
I never needed a loan. I never had much, but I always managed to get along without making debts. But it doesn't help with woman.
Hi: The shirt you are wearing in this video looks nice. May I ask what brand it is? I live in Hamburg, Germany. Not sure if I can buy it here.
Thank you! It’s several years old from the store Express.
great practical advice as always
Hello John really great content here. I actually had a woman pull the interview type deal on me too. I basically told her pretty much the same stuff. This is not a job im trying to get nor do i need the drama who are you to actually place me beneath you when you dont even. Know me. 😎💙🔥👍👍👍👍
"Use" friend zoned women to get other women or at Least the one you Really want😉
Great job recently divorced from my girl and my kids but you know what I don't feel a thing I feel fine got a new apartment new place going to work I'm a good person I agree everything with you said so if she screwed up move on
Agree on the other 'coaches" i screwed up a perfectly decent relationship with someone i genuinly like liked for 15 years by listening to that bs. Its toxic twatwaffle. Your vid gives the listner the option to cut through that crap. Working on just being me and being kind to current partner.. without being a pushover.. So far.. much better 👍
Appreciate you! Thanks for sharing!
Interesting video, although I'll admit that after 34 years of marriage that's still going strong, I'm hoping I won't ever need the advice. In other observations, I do like that shirt; the cut, the attention to detail, the quality of fabric all stands out on camera. Nice.
Thank you!
Great advice im 66 lost the love of my life 3 years ago suddenly its a jungle out there
I can't secure dates period. It's been that way my entire life. I only ever went on four dates in my lifetime and I'm 44. They were all setup by friends. I tried every major dating site for over 20 years with zero dates. I have life good, great job with pay well over the national average, no debt, great body type, not shy in any way and a great vocabulary yet a 100% rejection rate with the ladies. I can also retire at age 56 easy also. Ladies either only go for for the top 10% or some thug. I don't fit into either one so I'm invisible.
My married friends don’t go out or do anything. I’m on my own
Passionate. Love it.
Thank you!
This is a good video for me.
1- SIMPS do exist really, in huge numbers. just scroll the comment section in any social media.
And now this is my rant/venting:
I'm 40, and dating has become very difficult for me. I used to have girls interested in me on a decent basis (sometimes randomly). I entered my last LTR at 32, ended up in a marriage that lasted 1 year, and since my 37yo I'm divorced.
I'm better on many levels than my early 30s (every aspect) but I feel like I'm not having any luck with women anymore. I feel like I'm too hot for the 5- girls, and too foreigner for the 7+ (ethnicity-wise maybe, i'm living alone in France since 20 years).
in the 30-40 range, most women (esp. on dating apps) have at least one child. so it's a strict no (I learned it first hand).
the 20-30 range, despite what all the coaches say, are not interested in 40yo men. unless for gold digging or if it's a specific social circle.
I tried to be open to everything, but this isn't helping neither.
my social circle shrinked a lot. the few I still see once in a while are married, the others are 10 years younger than me. And despite trying to go out with them, this didn't lead to anything... women in that age range as I said are interested in the same category only, once they know my age you can sense that a romantic interest won't be possible (I don't display any creepy behavior or thirst, it's just an observation) I feel like I'm the granpa of the evening :D.
I went out with some of them with their girlfriends, and nothing else came out from that.
I questionned my looks, my attitude... (the same that gave me the relative success with women in the past. I'm talking about 40+ notch count) but I can't see what to do with that. I'm really outgoing, confident, I think my looks are more than just OK, I'm very fit since 2008, my finances are more than good, my savings... And I'm cool and funny to be around.
I tried to make new friends, but people prefer to keep things shallow in general. My neighbors are symlpathetic but... a part from having a drink once every 4 months, it's just a Hi... if we cross each other in the hallway.
I have standards, but I don't feel like I'm the one doing the filtering. I still won't accept a damaged person to enter my life. But I'll be like vetting a random girl that I would meet each 2 years... which, to me, doesn't sound like choosing, rather like dealing with the left overs of the left overs... something is off, and I don't understand what it is (I think the social circle is the main problem, but I'm not that sure it would've helped solving my problem)
This video worked. i was watching your videos back to back for 30mins and then took my dog around the block and as i entered my house there was literally 5 young hot women out the front of my house. One was my neighbour but her friends wanted to know my dog's name and started up a conversation. thanks over 40 fashion!
Great video!
Thank you Fred!
you are welcome ---my pleasure------go and enjoy your day to the ultimate---the NOW is all there is
If Sunday is your day to go out golfing with your buddies, and she wants to make plans to go out with her, why not spin the situation into "hey, why don't you join me and my buddies for a game of golf?" Then she can see you interacting with your friends, showing that you're a good guy.
90% of this video is defending against accusations not even shown on this video. And "wouldnt it best to find a fish that wants to be caught?" is complete, complete, complete, DOWNS. Slurpy guy in California (ofc) step it up!
Telling a woman off and unmatching did just the opposite of what you wanted to achieve.
You validated this silly woman with your time, energy, and attention.
Sure, it may have felt good in the moment, but if you truly valued yourself( and, more importantly, your time), you would have simply unmatched and moved on.
• Legend • GREAT VIDEO BOSS •
Legend!
How about this----------think about what you can bring INTO a relationship rather than what you can get OUT of it----works every time---and you'll know soon enough if it doesn't.
A man's time and devotion to work, hobbies, and finances are where he seeks self-validation. The moment he gives all that to a woman, he just lost a whole lot of self-respect. Why I am saying this, I have been there and never again.
Thanks for commenting Larry!
No fish wants to get caught. They love a rollercoaster.
Yup!! My Man John ☺️ need to be chosen one!! Good advice I work in the health industry get well paid so that's fine . Let me tell u something even been married the women at work are like cheetah 🐆 you see them staring at like you were piece of meat. And I know I'm 40, great shape do lots of things to maintain myself, well dress, always smelling 👍 that's my top priority Man, some of the guys seen me like the alpha of the group in my work area either way I'm not assistant or supervisor it's that I know what I'm doing and people at knowledge my duties and more important be humble help other in n whatever you can.
Thanks for commenting!
The best way to get a woman chase you is to show her your bank account. Hypergamy is a real thing for women.
I have accomplished enough to not have to work, per say, but I always want the women to feel they are important.. I think it is important. And, it may be putting them on a pedestal, per say, but its important for them to know they have value too. Or, am I way off the chart.
I don't understand why do some girls still likes or be with a guy who beats her. Guys this question is so very serious so if anybody knows why please share.
In terms of the individual who stated “let’s get this interview over with” could have been taken in a playful way and had fun with. I get your point. We ain’t play’n.
However-
If you be a true Jedi-
That “interview” statement could have been taken in-personally. acknowledged and-
Flipped!
We can have fun with some of the rigidity that’s being put forth.
For instance-
“Let’s get this interview over with”
“Yes ma’am” I’m applying for the position of life partner?”
“I pay my bills on time”
“I love my dad”
“I think you’re really neat”
And I might just be over qualified for this position” 🤣
Note the laughy face^
Again-
Totally get what you’re saying bro!
And us fellas don’t have tile for games.
But!
It. Is. A. GAME.
Play it. Have fun with it. Be true to them and yourselves. ♥️
'Never allow someone to be your priority, while allowing yourself to be their option.'
Mark Twain
How will taking a 30 day break from dating sites make any difference? How will that change who you are and whom you are attracting?
It won’t. When you go back to them, it’ll still be the same people on there!
@@oldschool8330 exactly!!!
What if all your friends live in different states and your single and alone