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Great info. My wife has told me that she was first attracted to my style and my confidence. We were out with mutual friends and later in the night, we all went to a 24-hour diner. We were having great fun and really connecting. So I took a big risk, I just opened my flip phone (yes this was some years ago) set it to add new contact, and handed it to her with a big smile. I did it lightheartedly but with the confidence of Patton. She grabbed the phone and put her name and number in and handed it back to me with a big sexy smile. I remember thinking "damn that actually worked!" We now have four kids and are best friends. :D
Well played!
This still works today
Good for you!
I'm Super Happy for you and your wife's good fortune!!! Cherish it Forever !!!
Usually it doesn't.
True story: Many years ago when I was single, I finally gave up and decided to follow the George Costanza “do the opposite” approach. It worked better than what I had been doing and I now have been happily married for 23 years. I wish I had had some of your advice back then.
Thanks for watching and commenting Robin!
@@40OverFashion You should do a video like this except with 40-65 subjects
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Do the opposite is the same as doing nothing?
@@asmrfoodieuk7965 Not really. It is taking actions that go against what your gut is telling you.
@@RobinsWatchJourney going against your gut? 🥴
Someone needs to make this video for women over 40!
John I agree with you but I think there is one item missing, dancing. I’m 75 and have dancing all my life and every lady likes to be asked to dance, EVERY LADY. I may not be Fred Astaire but when I’m on the dance floor my job is to make a lady look good and feel like Ginger Rogers.
This is true...It's almost mandatory and borderline cliché for single women on dating apps to put they do salsa and bachata.
I totally agree!I go out and dance with men who want to dance and dance with me! I'm a really good dancer have been dancing all my life. Imalways friendly,but not flirty. I don't represent myself as looking for a date. Just fun and conversation on an adult respectful level.
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My father says the same thing. Started ballroom dancing in his late 40s/50s and he has all kinds of women lining up for a dance. Not just at the events.
Amen brother!! I'm 57 and dancing has helped me. In all ways.
The style/dress thing is HUGE, and most men don't realise it. Younger women don't care as much, but for older women, especially 35+, it really matters.
Last year I decided to upgrade my wardrobe and bought some nicer coats, jackets, jumpers, shoes etc, and I noticed a difference in how women responded to me, including ones in my immediate social circle.
It really does make a difference, and older men who want to date should take their general overall appearance more seriously when trying to meet women.
Absolutely!
Great video! It hit home, and it hurt... I'm disabled, just turned 59, don't own a car, and am trying to repurpose my life after many years away from my career. At this point in my life I don't see myself ever dating again...
James many women would understand but the beginning point is up to you-the short term/ long term of a relationship.
It can start out whenever you know which you want.
James I dont know your handicap but one of my first jobs was working at a rehab unit of Tufts NE Medical Center, Boston. We got mostly males for long term rehab. Paraplegics and quads.The unde r 30s were sports injuries, diving off bridges etc, motorcycle accidents. 30s to 50s were often falls all these were spinal injuries. There are today many therapies to help even quads...I see in your photo you are standing....not sure why you mentioned your disability or what it is. If you are in an urban area there are likely available licensed trained surrogates who can help you....check for sex therapists they may be able to help and often use sex surrogates to do rehab...you are a young good looking man I see in your photo....you most certainly CAN date.
Sybil.Francis PhD clinical psychologist and professor
Just keep moving forward James!
Ok
Don't worry James your not missing out on today's liberal feminism. Unless you're a top 10 percent man they will chew you up and spit you out.No joke!
Sounds good to me.
The loss of ambition (desire) and confidence (belief) hit me a while ago. I'm working on restoring them to long-lasting and meaningful levels, hence my interest in style channels.
Thank you very much for watching!
Well said.
The bravest thing a man can do is to take care of himself and his family.
I’m 37 years old now almost 38 this October and I’m already gearing up to be 40 years old in 2024 and I want to attend my High School’s 20th Anniversary in April or May 2024. I’ve become a self -starter small business owner and I’ve got a growing list of business operations on my business plan that I’m going to gear up for when I turn 38, 39 and 40. I’ve been making a network of business contacts with the SBDC and SCORE and the trucking logistics industries. I’m going to soon be a fleet owner and a owner operator later this spring once I secure the business credit funding. I’ve been studying for my CDL Permit to get my Class A CDL so I can have a financial security in the trucking business and the export shipping management business. I’m needing ALL THE HELP I can get right now
OMG! Your commentary on political views is RIGHT ON the mark for me and my recent lady. We have made it ALMOST one year since meeting online but we both knew from the beginning that our politics were at opposite ends of the spectrum! I knew in my heart of hearts that we would have difficulties with that but she kept insisting that it would be easy, "we just don't talk about it"! I finally reached MY END of it this past weekend. I tried to discuss something current but she was having NONE of it. I told her then, we simply do not have a future, which upon hearing that, she suddenly gets up, goes into the bedroom and gathered all her belongings, loaded up her car and said, "have a good life.". Wow!
We are done. She's a nice wonderful lady but I cannot live knowing that I can't talk to her about something that might be happening that I find interesting in some way! Time to regroup and work on me some more. Thanks John for your insight. (It's possible she could see this since I've turned her on to the channel and she loves it!)
Wow Dale! I’m sorry about that. Thanks for commenting.
Looks like you dodged a bullet. I don’t mean exactly that she’s on the opposite side politically but the way she abruptly left with the “have a good life” comment, well, rude is putting it mildly. Also, suggesting that it will be easy to avoid the topic of politics...how naive.
I’m starting to think she just wanted sex. No way she was thinking long term.
@@eyeheartsushi2212 Sex? Looking for a sperm donor*
Sorry to hear that, but I am with you on this. I would NEVER be involved with a libtard. Never!😁
Sounds "right on point." I must say that being an older adult (70s) and trying to reestablish goals at this age is terribly difficult even though I'm not in the market for a new partner.
1st Take:
"My advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier."
Yours sincerely,
Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook
2nd Take:
“My music is always going to make a woman feel like a bad bitch. When you make a woman feel like she’s the baddest bitch in the room, to me, that’s female empowerment.”
Decently yours,
Cardi B.
My Humble Take:
What most simps, feminist fe/males, white-knights, betas and conservative guys fail to realize: bad boys provide excitement, novelty, unpredictability and fun (fear, roller-coaster drama) to a new level. In other words, stability and commitment (no longer) won't cut it for today's 🦄. Why is that? Before she was your girlfriend, wife or lover, she already had been "run through" so many guys. And each time she slept with someone (both wo/men), she lost a part of her psyche, well-being or mind/soul/spirit. In other words, she is no longer able to have emotional attachment in a healthy or committed way.
*The Rational Male Series* by Rollo Tomassi
*The Manipulated Man* by Esther Vilar
*Anatomy of Female Power* by Chinweizu Ibekwe
*Men on Strike* by Helen Smith
*Silent Weapons for Quiet Wars: An Introductory Programing Manual* by Anonymous
I think you're spot on, John. I'm looking forward to Part II.
Thank you!
Yes, Part 2, please. This is great "real world" advice that we probably already know but it gets covered up by all the other noise on this topic so it's nice to be reminded.
Thanks Steve! Appreciate your comment!
Ok
Good video as always. I'd recommend a second one, if not already done. As a 51YO single father in the dating scene, I can attest that these are important to know. Men have to have their stuff together and then look for compatibility items.
Again I want to thank you for mentioning how important it is to get help for your mental health . As a mental health professional it is important for the stigma of getting help be challenged. Especially with men in our age bracket. Please reach out to a professional if you need it. You gave a good resource. Thank you
Thanks for commenting Randy!
Famous Henny Youngman joke. " Hey doc you think I'm crazy" .
If a person is broken good luck you can't fix them. It's their choice.
Oh buy the way to finish the gag.
Doc stays yup your crazy.
Patient says I need a second opinion doc replies your ugly too.
works every time.
No degree required 🤔
PART 2 PART 2, PLEASE!!!
Very good John, we need more of this, alot of what you are saying is Common sense, but Common sense is not Common, keep it coming, like the %%%
Thank you very much!
In a year I'll enter my 40's and after watching a Jordan Peterson video where he talks about dressing up, I found your channel. Great topics, I look forward to listening and learning.
Thank you very much!
The number one thing women want is security. Whether that be physically, emotionally, financially, or even medically. They're most happy when a good balance exists in the relationship.
Love your videos John. This is great, good to see dating tips as well for married men like myself, reason I say this is because in married life you can get a bit complacent and rusty with romance as you get comfortable being with your long term partner so it's very refreshing to get ideas on how to keep treating your long term partner like you guys have just started dating again and re assure your wife/ partner that romance is not dead. Also, I am Scottish, my wife is Polish. A lot of guys think eastern European girls just want western men for money, not the case my friend, my wife loved the fact I could treat her well, spend qaulity time with her, my job at the time I first met her was pretty average, so don't let the whole "women just love a fat wallet"get you down, go out and get that girl, who knows, she maybe turn out to be your soul partner.
Thank you! Well said! You can’t stop trying!
Absolutely.I am virtual talking with a Ukrainian woman.gorgeous inside and out.Hope our first meet be just as successful at the end of the month.
This is So True! We tend to get too relaxed and comfortable with the special someone person we've been married to for years (like 28) then seem to neglect and ignore take for granted that once great person we first married. My special someone has now passed now widowed 3 years.
Its true i dated a younger guy and i was annoyed that he put no effort into his outfit on our first date.
Excellent John, looking forward to next video.
Thank you!
Thanks
Good stuff John. I appreciate the videos. Thanks for doing all our homework too. 🙃
Thank you for watching!
Make a part #2 , good job and keep the info comeing.!!!👌🙂
Solid and reassuring advice, just need to fight the depression and get into action. Peace
1st Take:
"My advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier."
Yours sincerely,
Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook
2nd Take:
“My music is always going to make a woman feel like a bad bitch. When you make a woman feel like she’s the baddest bitch in the room, to me, that’s female empowerment.”
Decently yours,
Cardi B.
My Humble Take:
What most simps, feminist fe/males, white-knights, betas and conservative guys fail to realize: bad boys provide excitement, novelty, unpredictability and fun (fear, roller-coaster drama) to a new level. In other words, stability and commitment (no longer) won't cut it for today's 🦄. Why is that? Before she was your girlfriend, wife or lover, she already had been "run through" so many guys. And each time she slept with someone (both wo/men), she lost a part of her psyche, well-being or mind/soul/spirit. In other words, she is no longer able to have emotional attachment in a healthy or committed way.
*The Rational Male Series* by Rollo Tomassi
*The Manipulated Man* by Esther Vilar
*Anatomy of Female Power* by Chinweizu Ibekwe
*Men on Strike* by Helen Smith
*Silent Weapons for Quiet Wars: An Introductory Programing Manual* by Anonymous
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Thank you for sharing.. its helpful and informative ❤😍😍😍
this is the first time i see your videos. there're very encouraging and is teaching me something that I like. HOW TO LOOK GOOD. HOW TO DREES A LOT BETTER. THANK YOU VERY MUCH. TAKE CARE AND STAY SAFE. THIS VIDEO IS GOING TO CHANGE MY LIFESTYLE. THANKS AGAIN
Thank you very much!
I’m 61. Been through the mill with women all my life. The ONLY thing I want from a woman now is to be left the hell alone. I’m a happy bachelor again and intend to keep it that way. 🎉
Great Cliff Notes summary John. Some of the first 3 things I try to find out is, credit score, political affiliation/beliefs, and relationship with family. That'll tell you a lot about any person.
Solid advice
@@eyeheartsushi2212 huge deal in a relationship. Learned it early on thank goodness.
@@Shreadingtongood comment, I add religious (cult) beliefs as well as a red flag
Thank you John, this is fantastic advice. I even got my note book out to make notes.
Thank you very much!
I'm 72. My wife of 40 years died 3 years ago. What do I think? I think you have said some very sensible things. I think you are on the right track.
Thank you Reg!
Happy to see all of your dress sense especially for above forties. Ur videos are morale booster who have assumes that sunshine has gone.
Definitely true about the money. A lot of younger men do stupid things to ruin their credit. Also, just having a retirement account shows women that you care about the future.
I'm married but everything you said works with me and I agree with you 💯%... And of course being a gentleman to a lady is a plus plus... Great topic though 👍
Great vid John & spot on advice...
I’d consider adding this tidbit for Those who’re NOT experiencing THEIR desired success; ‘If whatever you’re doing isn’t working, do something else/different...’.
Be intellectually honest w/Oneself first & foremost...
You’re channel provides ‘high quality’ content & for that, I’m very grateful...
I’m headed to NOLA for live music & a brunch date...
Have a great weekend...!!!
Mac😎👍
Thank you very much!
Brilliant I love it keep on educat the unwise
Thanx for the advise wiseman.
Interesting insight
Great advice! You are spot on especially with last point! Thank you
Awesome video! One of the best I have seen here on UA-cam. Thank you and well done!
Well done sir
I just got you sight this morning. I have to say you do a great job. Thank you for posting.
Great Video. Very Inspiring. Keep them coming. Enjoy watching them.
Great video. A lit bit different perspective than the normal "what woman want" video. 😃
Thanks Eric!
I know a guy who keeps blaming others for anything bad that happens to him, i noticed women don't ever get attracted to him. Worst is he doesn't take care of his physical appearance. It's no wonder despite his age he never had any girlfriend. Sori dude just had to tell the truth so others may learn. ✌🙁 👀
I totally agree with you on the subject of money!Your right"most complaints are from men who have no money!I'm one of those"and know the feeling is frustration!And just that!
Wht do u do to earn money or u jobless
Perfectly stated. Enjoyed your video
Glad you enjoyed it!
This was a good watch John. Looking forward to part 2. Have a great week. 👍
Thank you very much!
Good content every thing you said is true.Make a part 2 because dating in the 40s is not like dating in our 20s.
Thank you Melvin!
1940 OR 1920 LOL
Enjoyed your discourses!
Great video, spot on.
Great video. Very good, sensible advice, much appreciated!
Thanks for watching!
Hei! This is great knowledge and it's clear it's coming from a great source! It's indeed educative and inspiring.
Yes itis true John. Thank you very much, your words are true, especiallt in the case of couples conseling. This will really affect on life if it isignored. I myself lost two relationship because of the inflexiblity of the other party in getting help and counceling... Thank you so much again🙏💛💜💗
Thanks for watching!
Great points.
Same as the ones under 40,Money!
Actual video starts at @01:50
Pure Gold my Man! Yes part II please.
Great video.
Good one. Would love to see episode 2
Good advice. I'm married but care about what my wife thinks. This was helpful.
Glad you enjoyed it
You are 💯 on point, can’t agree more
Understanding what your partner wants is key
Very nice wise message plz send me the next part thanks
John. I appreciate your information you share with us. I watch a few different sources to understand women by women, but I look forward to your position and opinions also. Keep up the good work.
I appreciate that! Thank you!
KEEP IT UP THANK YOU
Great infor. and lesson for all the 40 plus
👏 My friend, 10:30 is🔥! I hope more people hear and understand this.
I appreciate you and your efforts!
Regarding politics, religion and finances - Don't ask Don't tell policy is the best (or need to know bases).
Wrong, “need to know” is right up front. I’m not wasting my time with a poor, cultist , Trumper.
Really excellent video today John! This is a dimension you offer that goes further into what it is to be a man above the age of 40 than most UA-cam channels! Definitely think this deserves a part 2.
Thank you very much Dan!
Women in their 20s carry much less baggage
Great content - turning 49 this year!
Very good content and advice, looking forward to part 2
Thank you!
Hey am Terrol from Grenada 🇬🇩 and I enjoy listening to you thank u
Great insights. Things that really matter. You cannot put it better than how you have done in this educational video. Simple things but really useful Thank you Grateful.
Thanks for watching!
That was pretty damn good, thanks
Thanks for watching!
I love the Videos; not in my 40's but great information to help me plan things out for the future. Thank you
It was an amazing short lecture! Thanks. Raphael, Rio de Janeiro (Brazil)
Thank you!
Very. Good. Advise. And. Help.
Nicely done and well thought out.
Good information.
Nice work.
Right on target. Very informative content. Looking forward for part 2.
Awesome, thank you!
great video John!
Thank you!
"thanks"
That was a very good video on a tough subject. Keep up the great work.
When dating perform the "leave money in the ATM test" ... Have her wait with you while getting ATM cash, get someone in front of you walk away from the ATM leaving their cash... if she quickly pockets it... run!
Hi John! Terrific video!!!!!!! Greate info!!!! Im looking foward for part 2!!!!!
Thank you!
This is an amazing service to many men who struggle with women. On UA-cam there is a proliferation of guy content that tells men they need to make 300k+/yr, drive a Ferrari, be 100% muscle, act cold toward women, spin plates but demand she be monogamous, red-pill/Alpha/Sigma nonsense . . . and it all misses the point, is a blame game, and sends guys down a weird path aiming to be John Wick. It's nuts. Your videos show that it's much easier, much simpler, and no need for BS that blames women or objectifies them. If young guys cleaned up their act just like you advise old guys, women would be banging down their doors.
Love this!! Thank you very much for commenting!
Awesome content John! #2 very worthwhile!
Agree on all counts John, btw I'm a filipino and live in the Philippines, I'm 59 separated and dating an amazing 29 yo woman, who's had experience with guys her age, her reasons for preferring older guys like me were the ones you just mentioned, and no, it's not the money, as she's prefers to be independent on those matters, although the first thing that attracted her was my love of life, I'm a mountaineer, diver, surfer and love to travel, the first time i took her those activities, she loved it, and yes we share the same values and political views, and the best part, we are sexually compatible
You nailed this 👏. You even brought up politics!
Good video man....thanks
Thanks for watching!
This is an important channel! Despite what women say, looks are highly important to them. Women are more visually discriminating than men. There are men that will date heavy women ,some even have a preference for it. When was the last time you have heard of a woman that has a preference for short men? It doesn't exist!. Height, the way you dress, and your face are supremely important in dating. There is double blind, meta analysis testing proving this. Gimmicky lines and " game" will get you absolutely nowhere unless she is visually attracted you. If you look good to her , all you have to do is show up, and have decent social graces, and you can date almost any woman you want.
100% right.
I always suspected this this is why I never really tried with women and never had a relationship . I’ve done weights had eBay surgery wear insoles in my shoes (am only 5ft7 in the morning ) - still Girls/women were either horrible to me at school (most) or just not nice or not interested in my working life so I got bitter and gave up and had little luck in night clubs. Now I’m 53 and alone and now it’ll be my age as to why they never notice me . It’s just the way it is lol
Finally someone steps up and tells the truth.
Not for women 40+. It's far less important.
Up until 30 - absolutely. In fact its so unfair and imbalanced up to this point that they are hurting a big portion of men in our society (hence incel movement etc.) but From 30 or mid 30s onwards its pretty obvious it becomes less important. Im 33 now and can see/feel the changes in my peers, especially the women. Now of course you can get bitter as a man if you didnt have "youthful love" before and just now, as we all get older, get to actually love and be loved, but well - thats why you gotta use your teens and twenties for experience and 30s onwards for the real "mature" stuff. Sexuality becomes less important for many people with increasing age (and decreasing/changing hormones lol) but companionship, communication and having a nice life together is getting more important by the day. Sex only lasts so long - you have to have much more of a "same level" with a person than just the physical.
I think women over 38 are still attractive
For many men , they are over the hill
LOL. What do women want ? EVERYTHING !!!!........ RuuuuuuuN !
Nice way of advertising. Its not interrupting to much, which often is the case. I ALLWAYS go "out" whenever there is a ad that last over 6 sek.
Thank you
That is an incredibly handsome hair cut and color for you. Very sharp!
Thank you for the video John; where I fail is stepping out of my comfort zone.
I have much the same issue when it comes to trying new routines, or just doing that one new thing I've never tried before.
What I found has helped me is to make the new thing my top priority for the month.
I'm an early riser but not a consistent enough exerciser so I made exercising one of the first things I do in the morning.
Try doing that for 30 days straight and see if you don't find yourself setting aside time to do it bc you've habituated yourself to the goal of ?
And you'll notice you'll start to miss the activity if you can't do it bc you have to go to the doctor.
Great advice. To piggyback on the political compatibility. Religion should at least be in the same ballpark as each other. Loved this video John.
Was thinking the same thing! My wife and I are a perfect match when it comes to religion and it’s awesome!
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New subscriber here! Love your content . On point !
Thank you very much!
Lots of great advice.
Thanks for watching David!