Coming Out In The Workplace
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- Опубліковано 21 жов 2024
- Hello, everybody today im talking about coming out in the workplace the benefits and the downfalls about being openly bisexual in the workplace from my own personal experience. I would love for everyone to share their experience doesn't matter if you are gay, bisexual, transgender, pan sexual or if you represent one of the many labels in the LGBT please do share your stories.
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What a great video!
I have a firm belief that people who are 100% heterosexual do not spend a lot of time thinking about homosexual sex. And "straight guys" who do, are doing it for a very bisexual reason. But that's just my opinion. I have yet to see a study done on the topic.
I also try and remember that biphobia is real. And the people who are the loudest about their biphobia are probably overcompensating for something. And even though we are on the uncomfortable side of their biphobia, we become a part of their evolution to self acceptance.
I'm not 'out' at work. I work with a lot of non-English people. Their culture isn't as accepting of LGBT. A few of them would even say they would disown their child if they were gay. There's another guy who is heavily religious (protests in the streets with pitchfork kind of religious).
There are a few people who I have hinted to that I'm bi but I've never out-right told them.
I work in a shipping center, and I don't really "show" my sexuality (it's impossible to tell unless I'm asked). Someone asked me if I was gay during a conversation about the legalization of gay marriage, and I told them I was bi, and they were pretty cool with it. Words got around, some people couldn't care less, and others seemed pretty upset about something that didn't affect them in the slightest. My boss didn't care because it didn't affect my ability to do my job. It's just like anything else; some people will be supportive, some will be dickheads, and the rest are too busy living their own lives to worry about yours.
For those of us who have always sought, had, lost, and still hope for a single person to love and be faithful to...your honesty is so wonderful....my best sexual relationships have been gay, my best emotional relationship was with a woman....and that relationship has blessed me for a lifetime, in that I am a father, and a grandfather....i saw that relationship as a compromise to society when I was young, because I assumed that I denied my sexual attraction for what society wanted me to be....but....while that may be true in many respects...it also denies that I loved this woman, which I did....and still do (having a child together is a bonding that will never go away, even in times of disappointment, anger, and hate caused by aggressive divorce lawyers)...I don't regret my life, my choices, nor the results of them....how could I regret my daughter, my granddaughter????? Totally absurd. We live in the now....looking back or looking forward is dependent upon how you feel...in this moment. Whether it's seen as sad, a mistake, or a golden moment in your life....our memories, our appreciation of our lives...change depending on how you feel now. Not sure, I'm actually making a point here, other than we, as people, are not set in stone, we are as fluid as time itself. Our memories, our feelings about them, our hope for the future is all based upon how we feel now...because there is a difference between reality and how we feel about it...and that changes with time. So, I'm friends with my exes now...and I regret nothing. And try to be
hopeful about the future....and know that whatever label I choose to wear is nothing more than a hint of what I am inside or how might feel at any moment....I just want a person who will love me as much as love them and will be as faithful as I would be. Labels, for me are about sex....not so much for the heart. Maybe that's why I'm single after so many years because, in my youth I valued the connection of sex more than the heart. The conundrum of labels and identity, when trusting your heart should've been enough. We didn't think like this, I didn't think like this when I was young in the 70's and 80's....I'm glad it's on the table today....
It's easier for me to come out to strangers because I don't care as much about opinions and they don't show shock or shame.i came out to someone friends at work with no problem but, I'm still not out to my friends and family.
takes time its not a race its marathon
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#1 tip of coming out is always have a plan B
#2 tip is bring up homosexualuty before coming out to feel the water
pretty much my tips to everyone , generally your friends and family will be honest about it
You are so easy to listen to :) I'm a BI female and I'm sooo happy I found your channel. I've been watching so many videos on this and yours are just so clear and relatable. Thank you!
Thank you, Courtney-Jai, for making this video. It offers up the reality that we don't know how people will react so we can be aware that some might not be as okay with it as we would hopenpeople.would be.
It's nice that some people are as you put it, happy for us to be who we are. To those who are less understanding , and in an ideal world they wouldn't be, they hear the word sexual and their internal homophobia kicks in.
Much love ❤️
I saw your video of your coming out of 10 years ago and then again i encountered you at "Patreon" but i did not
see the link between the two. Now i see that the two are one and the same person just a decade older!
I wish you all the best and a lot of success in all of your online activities!
@reuterromain1054 well thank you it's been quite a journey so far
@@Courtney-Jai When i first saw your coming out video of 10 years ago,
i was very moved by it and it . Here you had a mere boy of 19 y/o, who took
to the social media to tell the world that he was bisexual.
I know a few bisexual friends of mine, that are twice that age, who would NEVER have that
courage. I will subscribe to your Patreon-page.
Wishing you a lot of success and loads of fun with all your internet-activities!
I watch your videos when I do my homework, and its very calming and they make me happy!! : )
Courtney you have now realized not everyone is going to accept or like you. It will impact your work place situations. I think you covered that and said it well. I do not use social media. You said the reason why. I am sorry about your bad experiences. You pointed out the positives in your life. You learned and that is what life is about. You keep being you and moving forward in life.
It was great hearing you talk about this, I'm lucky to be working in a corporation that supports the LGBT+ community in Australia and as a result it has helped me feel more comfortable coming out to the people I work with on a day to day basis. But I've heard a lot of stories where this hasn't been the case and its so sad that we still have this be such a prominent issue in society today. Hopefully educating these people and all of us standing with each other can help change these negative experiences that some of us have. Great Vid :)
Only time will tell
Omg Gary is hilarious!! I adore him ❤❤
Im still in school and work part time. I've found it difficult to come out in both environments because everyone assumes I'm straight and I never really know how to drop it into a conversation, especially in a work environment. Although I'm open about my sexuality only close friend at school and one person at work know because I dropped it in a conversation. I've had to explain and debunk stereotypes to most people who I've come out to in school. I am just lucky that my closest friends when I came out were a gay and bi guy, questioning girl and straight open minded girl. Those friends and channels like this have helped me feel safe and not as alone in my sexuality and experience.
But the thought of next year going to university and changing jobs, Having to meet new people, re-introduce and re-comeout excites me and terrifies me.
Because of people assuming I'm straight I've had people make lesbian jokes in front of me that I know they wouldn't do if they new I was bi. Which makes me sad and worried that people would distance themselves from me if they knew.
Anyway great video and thanks for making me feel less alone one video at a time 😊
Hey Courtney, Good to be on your channel and listening to your thoughts. Good job!!
Thanks glad u liked it
It is nobodies business what your sexuality is in the work place. People need to leave their social/personal life out of the work place.
Depends where you work and who you work with most people I've worked with i have inevitably become friends with regardless the penny does eventually drop
When I came out I was told that I couldn't be looked at the same again to Wich I never understood because Im the same person
It’s good to come out anywhere you want!! You are awesome. Most level-headed guys don’t care. Come out, be proud, who the hell cares if anyone would have issue using same restroom. It’s their damn problem. Be yourself. You are more man than most straight guys!!
Problem is, not everyone is level headed, and it will be your problem. This is not a perfect world for racism, homophobia, women’s rights and you have to look no further than the moron sitting in the oval office to realize, not everyone has to know everything about you
HamiltonRb Problem is you. I’d meet him in any bathroom. Lol
Mick Welch Wrong there pal and being an internet warrior won’t help some kid getting bullied at work in small town Mississippi. Im straight, but have a gay son, and a lot of the problem of coming out at work is you are allowing people you don’t know, may not like, and anyone they decide to tell, into your life. There are people watching this video from cities that have gay districts, which would embrace them, as well as countries where they would be put to death for being gay. There are small conservative towns were gangs prey on people who are different. So before you puff your chest out, remember this is going to be seen by many, and not all are accepting as we wish were the case
@@HamiltonRb conservative group tried it with me until i pulled out my gun.
Hey 😊, awesome video, I've been thinking about coming out where I work for a while now, and this video gave me a good idea of what to expect. Thanks for putting your, sexual journey 😅, out there. I hope you're doing well 😊, take care!
I am doing very well and I'm happy I could help
6:10 you guys have a great relationship, I love it. 😂😂😂
Now, about the video...well, I don't feel the need to tell my co-workers about my sexuality but if they ask I won't deny it.
So far, just a few people know it and I felt so good. And all was because they confessed something to me and I had the trust to tell them.
Sometimes it builds a better friendship beacuse they feel as though u are consoling in them
Courtney-Jai Yes, Indeed, and that bond is amazing.
your videos are always a blessing to my day and very helpful, have an amazing day
Well thank you I'm happy my videos could bless ur day
I am out at but not everyone knows which I find weird. I finally rationalized it but tell myself that good news does not travel fast like bad news. With this I'm going off the saying "bad news travels fast" which leads to good news travels slow so my news is slowly getting around.
That's good
Courtney-Jai, you are mature way beyond your years. You found and know the secret: all people need to get beyond thinking that love is only for opposite sexual organs. Love is love; sex is sex. We practice the latter to manifest the former. Thanks, bro, love you............Ray
Thanks ray I'm happy u liked the video
Such an amazing video. Thanks for sharing your story!
I'm just really happy you liked it
Glad you’re back :) and cool vid
You wanted workplace experiences... I'll give you one for the books.. You see, around two years ago i officially came out as bi (was done via Facebook, meaning, to everyone at the same time, family included.. Maybe not the smartest move). I had just gotten a new job at that point, and i didn't know any of these guys on Facebook, so my emidiate collegues didn't know (and I never got the chance to tell). My boss was a bid wierd, but we all knew that, and during one of the weekly 2-4 houer private meetings, he suddenly started to comment on my messenger history, specifically the history with my boyfriend and comments from family and friends... And by comment, i mean openly stating that he was against "such activities". I tried not to react, because, how the hell did he know and how the hell could he quote these private messenger conversations?! I didn't say anything to anyone, I was scared, I mean, if he knew this, then what else could he possibly know?! The wierd thing though, from this point, my boss always did this at the private meetings only, but never when anyone else could hear. So, I told the boss of my boss... He got pissed, tried to change the contracts, unfortunatly that was not possible. Thus, i resigned and haven't been able to find employment ever since.. In other words, comming out on Facebook costed me my career.. The wierd thing is, I did not and have never known my boss at Facebook, nor any of my - at that point - new co-workers.. Me being bi is not set to be "public" at Facebook, not that i mind telling, i just don't want the hate.. I have always used two-factor verification on Facebbok (and thus messenger as well), it has never been triggered... I don't know how this is possible, but it is creapy as hell... Only explanation i can think of is if my boss was keeping taps on the pc provided by the workplace (I picked it up at IT myself), but I have never left it unlocked and it used a fingerprint to unlock... I don't get it, all i can say is this, be carefull, there are plenty of haters out there...
Fantastic video Courtney loved it
Very happy u enjoyed it
ayeeee! that outro!!
what about the intro
Courtney-Jai no squeaky chair? sexual journey made up for it tho
Thanks Courtney
I am out but not at work...I find my co workers are so homophobic omg just so sad...I blame homophobia on religion period...don't get me wrong I believe in God and thank him for allowing me to be gay. Us gays are more accepting of others wish all straight people could be gay for a month. The world would be much better for it....
I think there is alot of reasons for homophobia not all religion , pedophilia is another big one or lack of education people always fear what they don't understand
Courtney how different is the sex experience as a bisexual?
Very different
I think ur very pretty, and I luv ur accent.
Well thank u
Love you Courtney-Jai
Luv u 2
well said bud
well thank you
I feel like coming out to a co-worker is much easier than a family member. At least for me it was. I guess I give less of a fuck what they think haha.
I think its depends where you work
@@Courtney-Jai good point
I never got this one: Why come out at the workplace?
Sometimes it's not a choice social environment you might hear someone being homophobic or you might make friends with someone they eventually learn your sexuality and then it's revealed at work , it can also create alot of anxiety because it's like being back in the closet
@@Courtney-Jai I see the "back in the closet" point and being outed is not fun. Thanks.
I like your face. Lol
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Don't brother break do not touch not like me really remember 💘 see ya later
Okie dokie
Your very smart & cute ☺️😊I could listen to you talk all day long ❤️🌈❤️💜
You are very kind thank you
This is funny tall them you have a girlfriend and you will be fine they will never know good for you straight passing is so good ✌
But it's something g you shouldn't have to do
I see I need to put it out there , I am scared of something and it’s getting pick at, cas coming up I was pick on a lot that hurt ,I actually don’t care wat they think I just need too come out but how I have not figured it out,i can go come out too a person I don’t know if certain people r not around and build from that too openly come out take my time I will,sexuality is between two people who make the decision to be together why people say it’s wrong correct me if I am wrong religion