Defensiveness can also be you being too PROUD to have someone tell you something about yourself that is NOT praiseworthy or flattering. That can also be self-deception &/or blaming others. A HUMBLE person would listen, consider what is said, and ASK GOD to show you if it's true. If it's true, then humble yourself before God and be willing to DIE TO THINGS IN YOU that ARE NOT IN CHRIST, to be transformed into HIS IMAGE !!! That is TRUE GROWTH and a move toward maturity! Praise God!
@@AlyssamarieGloryCarrier I've reached my limit means : I'm not submissive to my husband as God wants it because I'm a proud feminist who hates God and man ...
@@framboise595 no it means my husband is not going to lay another hand on me. He’s not going to have me up against a wall spitting in my face as he yells at me for asking when he’ll be home from work because dinner is on the table. It means I’m tired of making sure the house is clean, bills are paid, groceries bought, and paying half the bills and working full time as a mail carrier while he sits on his butt playing video games and then tells me I’m not trying. Give me a break on your feminist comment. Men are needed as equal as the woman. Children need their fathers in their lives as the leader of the home. Our country has killed the spirit of men and their importance in this world. So give me a break and before you judge, ask why I’ve had enough. Get off your high horse. Get over yourself. FYI I’ve been fasting and praying and KNOW My God does and will do a miracle. But I have to get out of the way first.
I could not have watched this at any other time i needed to find and watch this video taday..Ive been so lost in my marriage Ive always just wanna run...I have replanted my feet in the cement of love for Jesus...I now know we are going to be ok...
Nancy, at least you held yourself accountable and decided to fight for your marriage. You should be very proud of yourself, because I am. Well done!!! 👏🏾
Sis God IS ABLE. My husband has been so bound to smoking pot all his life and drinking n when it wasnt that it would be a drink here n there and cigarettes. Praise the Lord bcuz we had so much going on n no where to live and moved from Ca to Tx just last winter. Now we are both working, both in graduate school, hes working on his undergrad degree and he hasnt drank, smoked even cigarettes in over 3 months now. God is ABLE. Just keep praying for urself and ur husband and fast but focus on Jesus.
Criticism births defensiveness. Then no one can talk. Then hearts start to shut down and then affairs happen. Hearts break, and lives are torn apart. It's an aweful way to end half your life.
I absolutely LOVE your messages. I have suffered so much wondering why my voice never mattered to my husband of 42 years. He actually walked out 3 weeks ago and I’ve been learning how to become strong and Love myself. I was never a part of any decisions and didn’t know anything about our finances. I pray we will both learn through your videos. Thank you🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Amen God wants us to be around people who are not against your marriage.Encouraging you to be unfaithful to your spouse and divorce. Thankyou for your personal testimony of overcoming marriage issues.Abuse in marriages can turn around for Gods glory.
There is almost no hope for a narcissistic relationship. The narcissist will always be the victim and don't take responsibility for their actions. It's a Jezebel spirit.
@ Chan T Continual learning of what ? Evans's lies ? Feminist rubbish ? If you want to be a woman and wife , simple : submit to your husband in every area of life. Moreover , there is nothing more arousal to us women than male dominance . Nothing.
This message has helped heal my past wounds. I've listened to this multiple times. THIS goes straight to the core - of what is misunderstood, at times. Thank you Pastor Jimmy! It's a healing process. 💛
The best leader is the man in the trenches with his troops, as an equal in carrying the load. A true leader treats his troops as equals with different roles.
@@heliaalves9062 No he can't you feminist ! What you are saying is that you want to strip him of his GOD GIVEN authority because a leader who leads with no authority is no leader at all. He will soon be ruled over by his beloved wife who is nothing but a serpent today .
I absolutely love your teachings. I wish I new many many years ago what I am now learning through your ministry. It's so powerful. No one should get married without listening to this series.
@ B Curiel No . A man is and will never be a woman's equal. He is the HEAD of the woman and she is there to please him and submit to him in every area of life.
Both are equal and this is said in the bible. The husband is called to lead sacrificially and as a servant leader. Please don’t spread false teachings. This leads people away from God. The husband is the head but, he has to led with love and gentleness. He is meant to love his wife like Jesus loved the church. This isn’t about control.
Many times its not the complaint but the approach on how that complaint is introduced. I haven't found a way yet to introduce a complaint that is accepted. There's no winning this "game".
Yes I keep trying to talk to my husband and work at our marriage and he tells me,this is no test..he won't talk.all he needs is sex from me, he doesn't want nothing else from me. I refuse to have sex with him and the name calling from a 65 year old man is disgusting. I don't want to kiss that filthy mouth
Researcher Shaunti Feldhahn discovered that the couples who believed the best of each other flourished in their marriages. When your spouse says or does something that hurts you, don't stuff the offense away and let it metastasize. Believe the best and then confront the issue with grace and mercy. This approach will knit two hearts together.
Tried to share feeling with wife and she destroyed me. “Me don’t have feelings!” She has attacked me ever sense and I lost her respect. And she was the Christian then. I was a baby Christian and nearly left Christ. Now I just exist and try to get through each day.
the flip side of that is, "I don't mind you doing (enter act that bothers spouse) just don't do it every day and I won't complain every day about you doing it. "
I think it's really about looking for the good overall that makes the biggest difference. For example: "Thank you so much for taking the time to make me biscuits this morning! You didn't have to do that! What a sweetheart!" Give a few hugs and kisses and maybe mention that you'd "love it if in future the biscuits were softer." A person is MUCH more likely to HEAR you when you communicate with love and appreciation. It won't even SOUND like complaining.
My msrriage is failing and idk what to do anymore. Arguements over money, stepdaughter and her step children. Its really sad, my wife spends more time with stepdaughter when shes here then me or the other children. We do have 1 child together and she neglects even her. I need prayers for me. Im wanting to give up and give her a divorce but i dont wsnt to but i cant handle it anymore. Her addictions with meds and over taking them and then having seaizures bcuz of it. Shes offensive yells and cusses me out in front of the children. My wife doesnt respect me nor am i a priority. I need prayer so much. Idk why im going thru this but im suffering
I used to look into the sidelines and imagine my parents in the crowd. They weren’t ever. Just other people’s parents. I tried to go to everything my kids were in if at all possible. Break that legacy.
The bible tells us how to be wifes obey your husband and husband's love your wife as Chirst loved the church and gave himself for it. We get married we become 1. So would u do anything to hurt your self no u wouldn't so keep that in mind always render get used to saying I love u. And I'm sorry. Treat each other as there the most precious.
Im failing. Mariied 17yrs in completely uncompatible unhappy life. 25yr differnce between us. I didnt trust God to provide for me now in controlling life. I belief God, he doesnt, its very difficult and lonely.
21 years difference for my marriage- let me encourage you: Overcome evil with good. Do all things without complaining. Pray continuously, patiently waiting for God to work in both your lives. Obedience to God will free you even without leaving your husband. Doctor Les Carter on UA-cam is great - I believe he loves God and will give you ideas that can help you endure. God is greater than our sins. God doesn’t make mistakes. Just start trusting God now - if you have anyone you can trust for prayers, be honest with them. Over the past few years, I have seen God answer prayers, after I began to read His word every day. If you wish, look me up on Facebook as Sharry Lauerman- message me first.
My husband has no respect for me whatsoever. I am so lonely. He is no longer intimate with me for 2yrs, when I ask him he gives excuses and gets verbally aggressive and refuses to discuss it. He sits on the phone speaking to other women in front of my face. He doesn't help me with the kids, I have 2 very young girls. He watches me exhausted taking care of them and just sits on his phone and criticises me for everything. I'm not allowed to have an opinion about anything, if I do he says I'm nagging. I pay all the bills, he buys nothing for the kids, just takes himself on holiday and buys himself expensive clothes. He leaves me paying for everything on a low income. He never remembers my birthday or anniversary. I haven't got a clue what it it is like to be loved, just hold a marriage title. I love Jesus and God is so awesome as He always super naturally provides for me and girls and never allows me to go without anything as He sees my pain. I'm so humiliated by my marriage as I feel like such a failure but I know I'm a good mom. I waited 10 years faithfully for my husband to join me in the uk. Then when he arrived 4 years ago, it was satan himself who came into my home inside of my husband to attempt to destroy me. I have prayed, fasted many times, seeked Godly counsel on what to do. Recently I have had dreams about my husband that is not good and there are no signs of anything improving. I'm a christian and he is not. He believes in Jesus but not saved and seems to enjoy sin. I'm so afraid to walk away as my kids love their dad despite his lack of care for them. I desire to please God and make it with him but this marriage is sending me around in ungodly cycles.
Charlie C ...I had counsel from three pastors, that my first husband gave me Biblical grounds to let him go legally. It took me years to decide what direction was right. I didn’t divorce until I knew that God was directing me to do so. I was legally separated 16 years. I would not counsel you to choose legal separation in your case. Hold onto the story of Joseph. What was meant for evil, God intended for good. If I could repeat the years I raised my daughter, I’d have spent more time in scripture with her. May I suggest the YouVersion Bible app with a children’s version choice for you to share with your children? If young enough, there is an affiliated children’s Bible interactive app that is really, really nice. I did that first with my disabled son. Lord, guide Charlie in her decisions. Protect her children from the evil around them and call them to yourself while they are still young... Amen
@@charliec7951 hes cheating on you and u know it. God said that is allows u to be free but u keep wanting to be with him. Yes, sometimes if he is willing to repent the Lord will convict him but u said urself he enjoys sin, he might be legally married to you and ur 'husband' but hes already made his own choice based on his free will to sin. I think at this point since u are already paying Bill's like if ubwere single and take care of ur kids without him, u should really focus on ur own salvation and healing most of all. Remember aside from being someones wife u still have ur own salvation to workout before God. ua-cam.com/video/GxsO71dIDbM/v-deo.html
You can only place your husband on the Hands of God. I learned that because they arent ready.. it's actually a turn off for them for us wives to be ministering to them. It's not our job. Our job is to love. And respect. Bless when they curse us. And trust Jesus will move in their heart. but you must COVER THEM! COVER THEM IN PRAYER. ALWAYS. LET GO AND LET GOD.
I bought the workbook from Amazon and have been working through the program with my fiancé. I also bought Marriage on the Rock 25th Anniversary book and The Four Laws of Love. Any other suggestions to prepare for marriage?
It depends on what it is you had to forgive. If it's a small thing, if he forgot to buy the milk you had asked, that's alright. If it's something serious, then you need to think carefully about what to do.
My. Husband listen to his family and friends with negative and trying tear up marriage we been separated two months n i want my husband back home with me
Married life is warriors life they always fight to win even they lose every day single living is dirty living like still water gets dirty day by day. Husband’s house wife’s real house she is real queen in that house.,
A lot of this information is good except the self esteem responsibility. I think the action should be the same but you can't and shouldn't take responsibility for something you don't have control over.
roshun eppenger are you married? Are you a true believer? When you say you shouldn’t take responsibility for how you make your life partner feel about what you have said to them is selfish. If you truly love someone you take responsibility for the words you say, if you don’t, you leave your partner thinking you don’t care about how your words affect them and that can be damaging to your relationship. That’s why the verse that says “the power of life and death lies in the tongue” is such a powerful one.
@@philipbuckley759 Yeah true Jesus is such a wimp ... That's the reason why the church bows down to him and praises him lol You men are so clueless today . You have no idea how much women hate you since you treat them as equals . No idea .
@@framboise595 ewww you are just gross. You are of the devil! You give me the creepy crawlies under my skin. On here commenting on so many posts. Get a real life and get JESUS!!! Yuck!
Yelling is but one way of arguing and hurting unyour spouse. You can ignore them, manipulate, criticise, blackmail, without shouting and it damages as much the relationship.
EMOTIONAL ABANDONMENT: doesn't have to be for another woman/man... it can be for alcohol, party friends, business, how or where in scripture does it address that?
Think it would be easier for me to forgive and let go if it weren't being crammed in my face in a day to say basis. I just want it to not be part of my life anymore.
What should I, a Christian wife, 66 y.o. whose husband gets irrated from things said in this video and pulls certain things out and starts yelling and wanting to argue with one of the subjects in this video? My husband age 68, thinks he should not have to spend time around me. Makes me feel stupid, un loved, uncredited for and everything that could be negative he does it to me. Will sit outside in the attached garage to smoke, and call and talk to all his friends and people he hasn't talked to in years. This will go on from 8 am straight to 4, 5, 6pm. He will never come in the house for anything. Even gets up to go to the store and never asks me if I want to go to. But it's always for what he needs/wants. 😢 These videos just make him angry at me more. I don't know what to do. 😢 ????
I am not too sure what you should do. You need to pray to God. Make sure you go to church, join a bible study, and find a Christian friend to hang with on occasion. Make sure you fellowship with other Christians. Read the bible and obey God's word. Pray. Forgive your husband. Love God. And love your others as you love yourself. God can heal you. Be your strength. Give you hope. Save you through Jesus Christ. I will pray for you. ❤
"....or if you're A DIVORCED TO GIVE YOU HOPE TO PREPARE YOU FOR A MARRIAGE" ... WHAT EXACTLY DO YOU MEAN WITH THIS? To my memory, the bible says, when you get divorced you should not get married again.
Here is my question...... How long does the servant stay while being abused? I do not mind being the/a servant to my wife. I must also remember that Eve tried to trick Adam. How can I be the master of my house and a servant being abused at the same time??
Do you know this? Marriage is between a man and a woman. Marriage is for better and for worse until death separates (Matthew 19:3-6). ‘Wherefore they are no more two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together let no man put asunder (separate)’. Cheating on your wife or husband is sin. Proverbs 28: 13 says, ‘‘He that covers his sins shall not prosper...You must repent of them, confess and forsake them (1 John 1:9). Are you into worldliness? Don’t you know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? (James 4:4; II John2:15-17). So, you must stop bleaching your body or painting your mouth, eyes, hands and legs or fixing attachments, weave-on, earrings (Genesis 35:2-4), bangles, chains and frying or perming your hair. Tattooing your body is satanic. Are you one of those that put on nude dresses, short skirts, transparent dresses to seduce men or women (a Seducer or a Promoter of lust is a Sinner - Mathew 5:28) Perhaps you wear trousers as a woman? (Read Deuteronomy 22:5), that is an abomination (Revelation 21:8, 27). Therefore, make up your mind, repent and give your life to Jesus Christ. Are you spoilt? Jeremiah 4:30 says, ‘‘And when thou art spoiled, what wilt thou do? Though thou clothest thyself with crimson, though thou deckest thee with ornaments of gold, though thou rentest thy face with painting, in vain shalt thou make thyself fair; thy lovers will despise thee. They will seek thy life’’. (2 Kings 9:30; Hosea 2:13; Exodus 33:1-6) A Christian is not a Sinner and a Sinner is not a Christian (I John 3:9). If you must be a blessed child of God, then you must repent of your sins and give your life to Jesus Christ. If you believe Jesus Christ today, righteousness of God will come into your life and abundant life will be your portion (1 John 11-12). If you neglect this call to repentance and salvation and die, you will not escape fire of Hell (Hebrews 2:3). It is foolishness and sin to say or think that there is no God (Psalm 14:1; 9:17). Luke 13:3, Jesus said, ‘I tell you, Nay: but except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish’. Cut off every besetting sin (Hebrew 12:1-2; Mark 9:43-48). If you have decided now (2 Corinthians 6:2) to give your life to Jesus Christ and to forsake your sinful lifestyle, please say this prayer: Almighty God, I come unto you in the name of Jesus. Father I confess that I am a sinner. All my sins I confess to you. I am very sorry for all my sins (mention those you can remember). Lord I promise you that from today I will never continue in them anymore. I believe that Jesus Christ died and rose again on the third day for my justification. Almighty God, use the blood of Jesus to wash my sins away. Lord Jesus, come into my heart, be my Lord and personal Saviour. I surrender my life to you. Cancel my name from the books of death and write it in the book of life. Give me power to sin no more. In Jesus name I pray. Amen!! 'THE LORD'S CHOSEN CHARISMATIC REVIVAL MOVEMENT'. www.tlccrm.org OR www.tlccrm.org/chosentv ua-cam.com/users/IamaChosen1 1John 1:9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Hell is a place of torment forever...continuous burning by fire. The fire is never quenched, with crying and weeping forever (Mark 9:43-48; Psalm 9:17; Mathew 25:41). It was originally prepared for satan and his demons, but anybody that obeys the devil in committing sin and refuse to repent and accept Jesus Christ, if the person dies in sins, he or she will be thrown into Hell. You still have the opportunity to repent now, amend your ways, live and spend eternity in heaven. Go to www.tlccrm.org You may be asking; how do I stop all these sins? Simply take the first step of repentance and have inner hatred for those sins, then ask Jesus to forgive you and come into your life to be your Lord and personal Saviour. In John 1:12, there is power that will be given to you, and in Mathew 11:28, if you receive Jesus into your life, He will deliver you and give you victory over those sins; then you will need to cut off from the source of those sins in your life (may be sinful friends; stop the evil relationship. This gospel is not to condemn you, but for you to be convicted so that you will repent and give your life to Jesus Christ who loves you and really wants you to make it to heaven at the end of your life here on earth
@ mark marchiafava Evans does not teach that the husband is the head at all. He makes everything equal in order to serve Satan and please his feminist agents that have crept into the church .
@ mark marchiafava You are right in everything you are saying but you won't be heard because SATAN is behind Evans and his awful teachings. The woman is here to meet man's needs first and foremost. That is what God made the woman for when he saw that man was alone.
@@tooge47 Those pissed off women are everything but christian . They hate God's word and their goal is just to try and redefine it . Evans is a horrible feminist liar and as a woman who loves the Lord , I cannot stand his twisted teachings.
@@tooge47 You mean within the church ? It is very serious. Evans and co will have so much to answer to the Lord for twisting his word and pandering to women . I as a christian woman am supposed to teach young women the things in line with sound doctrine. Not the lies this clown spreads.
Sorry bud. The bible can only so much but it's fighting personal choice. That personal choice is why the devil rules the earth and God's power is only in heaven.
"A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones." Proverbs 12:4 Other versions say rotenness or even cancer In other words , the Bible cleraly states that it is wives who have the most destructive behaviour towards their husbands. Not the opposite. Because such verses like " a husband of noble character if his wife's this or that " are never to be found in the Bible. Evans and so many others today just try to make everything equal because they are feminist liars . They voluntary silence the essential truth that it is the woman who was mde for the man's sake (hence those verses fitting God's purpose perfectly) . Not the opposite.
And? Women need support, care and consideration too. We're both human beings beloved of God. So you see men as the main authority, what does that have to do with treating eachother with respect and care? We both have needs and they vary, main thing is God's will for us and having eachother's backs which falls under that. There are things both are to do for eachother. It may be that the woman was made for man, that doesn't mean we don't get anything out of a relationship. Having someone to give to is good for humans just as being one given to and in authority. God has commands for women, submission, etc.. He also commands men to love their wives. There's a lot that provides. I desire to be heard by the one person that has power over decisions having to do with me whether or not it's my choice in the end. I desire my own TLC in bed. Help with some chores & finances we both partake in. And he has needs I help fulfill. Nobody else does for us what we do for eachother. We're a team.
@@FangnclawXD Evans the feminist liar has taken the hierarchy out of marriage and God's right order . God made the woman for the man . Not the man for the woman. So , a woman cannot demand anything from her husband . She can just ask him . But Evans deceives us into thinking we are "equal" to our men. The Bible is crystal clear that a husband has three things to provide , which is food , clothing and sex (marital right). Exodus 21:10 and if he does not want to provide those things , the woman can go free. All the rest has been added in order to turn wives into self entitled whimsical children who would suddenly have tons of "needs". Moreover , a wife is not called to "meet the needs" of her husband if she wants to but to SUBMIT to him in everything. I can't believe how much of a liar this man is.
@@framboise595 God is agape love and a man and women both have that for eachother. It's a beautiful thing. He's over the house and the protector but that doesn't mean he treats us all like slaves. Submission doesn't mean there's not love and care, he's a provider and does these things out of love and care and because he is in charge he has responsibility over the house. It's not some forced thing, it's through love.
WOW SO DEMONIC MAN, YOU ARE TO NEVER EVER SHARE hurt to a wife, the wife is supposed to do that, share hurt to her husband the husband as the head should never ever ever share feelings with his wife only good ones, this guy is Twisted
@@gayleengland-triplett3179 Gayle no offense but women can't even handle their own problems let alone a man's, it is a disservice for a husband to share problems with his wife, this dude isn't biblical at all just secular marriage teaching, are you saying I don't know Jesus because I don't follow this guys marriage advice?
Defensiveness can also be you being too PROUD to have someone tell you something about yourself that is NOT praiseworthy or flattering. That can also be self-deception &/or blaming others. A HUMBLE person would listen, consider what is said, and ASK GOD to show you if it's true. If it's true, then humble yourself before God and be willing to DIE TO THINGS IN YOU that ARE NOT IN CHRIST, to be transformed into HIS IMAGE !!! That is TRUE GROWTH and a move toward maturity! Praise God!
Agreed
It should be taught in high school. I watched this hoping to save what's left of my marriage
Godspeed, Mary. I really hope that the lord stepped in and restoration took place.
How is your marriage now Mary? I’m packing my things to leave. I’ve reached my limit.
@@AlyssamarieGloryCarrier
I've reached my limit means :
I'm not submissive to my husband as God wants it because I'm a proud feminist who hates God and man ...
@@framboise595 no it means my husband is not going to lay another hand on me. He’s not going to have me up against a wall spitting in my face as he yells at me for asking when he’ll be home from work because dinner is on the table. It means I’m tired of making sure the house is clean, bills are paid, groceries bought, and paying half the bills and working full time as a mail carrier while he sits on his butt playing video games and then tells me I’m not trying. Give me a break on your feminist comment. Men are needed as equal as the woman. Children need their fathers in their lives as the leader of the home. Our country has killed the spirit of men and their importance in this world. So give me a break and before you judge, ask why I’ve had enough. Get off your high horse. Get over yourself.
FYI I’ve been fasting and praying and KNOW My God does and will do a miracle. But I have to get out of the way first.
@@AlyssamarieGloryCarrier I pray you heal from this trauma
11:00-12:15😢 *AMEN* & *AMEN* this is an *answer* to *prayer.* Thank *you* *heavenly* *father* for *always* answering.🙏🏻
I could not have watched this at any other time i needed to find and watch this video taday..Ive been so lost in my marriage Ive always just wanna run...I have replanted my feet in the cement of love for Jesus...I now know we are going to be ok...
Nancy Temple I feel you
Maybe you have to 🏃♀️ run physically. Helps me😁
Nancy, at least you held yourself accountable and decided to fight for your marriage. You should be very proud of yourself, because I am. Well done!!! 👏🏾
Only god knows how unhappy and lonely I am I’m my marriage - I know what I need to do , Jesus I trust you-
Sis God IS ABLE. My husband has been so bound to smoking pot all his life and drinking n when it wasnt that it would be a drink here n there and cigarettes. Praise the Lord bcuz we had so much going on n no where to live and moved from Ca to Tx just last winter. Now we are both working, both in graduate school, hes working on his undergrad degree and he hasnt drank, smoked even cigarettes in over 3 months now. God is ABLE. Just keep praying for urself and ur husband and fast but focus on Jesus.
I wish I'd find these videos before I gotten married ❤️❤️❤️
Me too
Criticism births defensiveness. Then no one can talk. Then hearts start to shut down and then affairs happen. Hearts break, and lives are torn apart. It's an aweful way to end half your life.
I absolutely LOVE your messages. I have suffered so much wondering why my voice never mattered to my husband of 42 years. He actually walked out 3 weeks ago and I’ve been learning how to become strong and Love myself. I was never a part of any decisions and didn’t know anything about our finances. I pray we will both learn through your videos. Thank you🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
You can’t hate someone you are praying for 🙏🙏🙏
Hmmm
Watching this as single man waiting for my future wife. I feel nothing but blessed.
Confused by your grim reaper picture?
@@Jesussavedmein2015 - grim reaper? Idk how you're reading that into his comment. Instead, he sounds positive.
Unforgiveness is dangerous to a relationship. Thanks for sharing 👍
Marriage is important for generations growth. Good marriage gives society good children.
Your videos are helping me so much. As long as i have been married I have never found guidance like this until now. Thank you.
Same!!
please pray for me and my husband and for my children and there spouses
❤️ I take responsibility to build my spouse's self-esteem
Jimmy and Karen evans: this is an amazing ministry of yours. I believe you will reduce the divorce rate by 25%
Amen God wants us to be around people who are not against your marriage.Encouraging you to be unfaithful to your spouse and divorce.
Thankyou for your personal testimony of overcoming marriage issues.Abuse in marriages can turn around for Gods glory.
I like the part where he said my happy place was their obituary but God came and said I want you to bless them.
Please do a teaching on Narcissistic marriage partners.
Yes !!! -it is very much needed !!
There is almost no hope for a narcissistic relationship. The narcissist will always be the victim and don't take responsibility for their actions. It's a Jezebel spirit.
@@NIYA-7 they don't experience any growth.
I'm a marriage student and I just committed to continual learning of being a woman and wife.
@ Chan T
Continual learning of what ? Evans's lies ? Feminist rubbish ?
If you want to be a woman and wife , simple : submit to your husband in every area of life.
Moreover , there is nothing more arousal to us women than male dominance . Nothing.
It is leadership not dominance. The husband is called to lead not to control.
This message has helped heal my past wounds. I've listened to this multiple times. THIS goes straight to the core - of what is misunderstood, at times. Thank you Pastor Jimmy! It's a healing process. 💛
I am a marriage student too....and I've been married for almost 15 years.
Nice one
Every thing here said sounds great, except the equality part. I beloved a man must lead, but he MUST be a benevolent, loving, and sacrificial leader.
A man can lead and be an equal at the same time :) Those are the really good men, the ones that are a "great catch"
The head is useless without the body.
The best leader is the man in the trenches with his troops, as an equal in carrying the load. A true leader treats his troops as equals with different roles.
@@heliaalves9062
No he can't you feminist ! What you are saying is that you want to strip him of his GOD GIVEN authority because a leader who leads with no authority is no leader at all. He will soon be ruled over by his beloved wife who is nothing but a serpent today .
This is amazing and much needed rn. Pray for my marriage.
Praying for you guys
I absolutely love your teachings. I wish I new many many years ago what I am now learning through your ministry. It's so powerful. No one should get married without listening to this series.
This is a great message!!!
Thank you so much for all of you messages . Me & my husband need to hear them all, I’m praying he will make the effort to listen to them!!!
This is outstanding!! I needed to hear this today.
I agree it should be taught in high school.
Amen 🤍 🙌
Thank you for this video. I find it very helpful to my situation. God is good.
Helped my marriage tremendously!❣️
“My equal”❤️
@ B Curiel
No . A man is and will never be a woman's equal. He is the HEAD of the woman and she is there to please him and submit to him in every area of life.
Both are equal and this is said in the bible. The husband is called to lead sacrificially and as a servant leader. Please don’t spread false teachings. This leads people away from God. The husband is the head but, he has to led with love and gentleness. He is meant to love his wife like Jesus loved the church. This isn’t about control.
Definitely agree this information should be taught in high school indeed, less divorce rate, however now days people don't get married, awesome video
My son says, 100% me plus 100% u equals 100% us! 100% whole in God!
This should be a class in high school
Agree! This should be teach in school.
I completely agree
It is the course is called Family Life Education. It's a semester long class.
@@Lioness_Es cool I graduated 🎓 many many many many moons ago so I didn't know
Thank you for these teaching.. It needed!
Kind regards from Poland.
Such a good and helpful video!! Thank you for this upload! ❤🙌🏽
Many times its not the complaint but the approach on how that complaint is introduced. I haven't found a way yet to introduce a complaint that is accepted. There's no winning this "game".
Yes I keep trying to talk to my husband and work at our marriage and he tells me,this is no test..he won't talk.all he needs is sex from me, he doesn't want nothing else from me. I refuse to have sex with him and the name calling from a 65 year old man is disgusting. I don't want to kiss that filthy mouth
Great wisdom 🤗💒🏔
Thank You Sir.
Researcher Shaunti Feldhahn discovered that the couples who believed the best of each other flourished in their marriages. When your spouse says or does something that hurts you, don't stuff the offense away and let it metastasize. Believe the best and then confront the issue with grace and mercy. This approach will knit two hearts together.
Thank you for all you do and share
Tried to share feeling with wife and she destroyed me. “Me don’t have feelings!” She has attacked me ever sense and I lost her respect. And she was the Christian then. I was a baby Christian and nearly left Christ. Now I just exist and try to get through each day.
Good information have to have a learning spirit
12:48 that part. I don't mind complaining. Just don't do it everyday.
the flip side of that is, "I don't mind you doing (enter act that bothers spouse) just don't do it every day and I won't complain every day about you doing it. "
I think it's really about looking for the good overall that makes the biggest difference. For example: "Thank you so much for taking the time to make me biscuits this morning! You didn't have to do that! What a sweetheart!" Give a few hugs and kisses and maybe mention that you'd "love it if in future the biscuits were softer."
A person is MUCH more likely to HEAR you when you communicate with love and appreciation. It won't even SOUND like complaining.
My msrriage is failing and idk what to do anymore. Arguements over money, stepdaughter and her step children. Its really sad, my wife spends more time with stepdaughter when shes here then me or the other children. We do have 1 child together and she neglects even her. I need prayers for me. Im wanting to give up and give her a divorce but i dont wsnt to but i cant handle it anymore. Her addictions with meds and over taking them and then having seaizures bcuz of it. Shes offensive yells and cusses me out in front of the children. My wife doesnt respect me nor am i a priority. I need prayer so much. Idk why im going thru this but im suffering
I used to look into the sidelines and imagine my parents in the crowd. They weren’t ever. Just other people’s parents. I tried to go to everything my kids were in if at all possible. Break that legacy.
Thank you for these teachings.
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Such an awesome ministry!!! Thank you Pastor and Mrs Evans!!! ❤️
Too late for me, but this is a great video for couple's. I wish I could've made my changes before it cost my marriage.
yes, let's get rid of sexual education and teach how to maintain healthy relationships
Great message!
Thanks Jimmy, I always need more.
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Betrayal has been killing me
Great video
The bible tells us how to be wifes obey your husband and husband's love your wife as Chirst loved the church and gave himself for it. We get married we become 1. So would u do anything to hurt your self no u wouldn't so keep that in mind always render get used to saying I love u. And I'm sorry. Treat each other as there the most precious.
Im failing. Mariied 17yrs in completely uncompatible unhappy life. 25yr differnce between us. I didnt trust God to provide for me now in controlling life. I belief God, he doesnt, its very difficult and lonely.
Sabine ask God to forgive you and forgive those that have hurt you and begin to love .. love or hurt ?
21 years difference for my marriage- let me encourage you:
Overcome evil with good. Do all things without complaining.
Pray continuously, patiently waiting for God to work in both your lives.
Obedience to God will free you even without leaving your husband.
Doctor Les Carter on UA-cam is great - I believe he loves God and will give you ideas that can help you endure.
God is greater than our sins. God doesn’t make mistakes. Just start trusting God now - if you have anyone you can trust for prayers, be honest with them. Over the past few years, I have seen God answer prayers, after I began to read His word every day.
If you wish, look me up on Facebook as Sharry Lauerman- message me first.
My husband has no respect for me whatsoever. I am so lonely. He is no longer intimate with me for 2yrs, when I ask him he gives excuses and gets verbally aggressive and refuses to discuss it. He sits on the phone speaking to other women in front of my face. He doesn't help me with the kids, I have 2 very young girls. He watches me exhausted taking care of them and just sits on his phone and criticises me for everything. I'm not allowed to have an opinion about anything, if I do he says I'm nagging. I pay all the bills, he buys nothing for the kids, just takes himself on holiday and buys himself expensive clothes. He leaves me paying for everything on a low income. He never remembers my birthday or anniversary. I haven't got a clue what it it is like to be loved, just hold a marriage title. I love Jesus and God is so awesome as He always super naturally provides for me and girls and never allows me to go without anything as He sees my pain. I'm so humiliated by my marriage as I feel like such a failure but I know I'm a good mom. I waited 10 years faithfully for my husband to join me in the uk. Then when he arrived 4 years ago, it was satan himself who came into my home inside of my husband to attempt to destroy me. I have prayed, fasted many times, seeked Godly counsel on what to do. Recently I have had dreams about my husband that is not good and there are no signs of anything improving. I'm a christian and he is not. He believes in Jesus but not saved and seems to enjoy sin. I'm so afraid to walk away as my kids love their dad despite his lack of care for them. I desire to please God and make it with him but this marriage is sending me around in ungodly cycles.
Charlie C ...I had counsel from three pastors, that my first husband gave me Biblical grounds to let him go legally. It took me years to decide what direction was right. I didn’t divorce until I knew that God was directing me to do so. I was legally separated 16 years. I would not counsel you to choose legal separation in your case.
Hold onto the story of Joseph. What was meant for evil, God intended for good.
If I could repeat the years I raised my daughter, I’d have spent more time in scripture with her. May I suggest the YouVersion Bible app with a children’s version choice for you to share with your children?
If young enough, there is an affiliated children’s Bible interactive app that is really, really nice. I did that first with my disabled son.
Lord, guide Charlie in her decisions. Protect her children from the evil around them and call them to yourself while they are still young... Amen
@@charliec7951 hes cheating on you and u know it. God said that is allows u to be free but u keep wanting to be with him. Yes, sometimes if he is willing to repent the Lord will convict him but u said urself he enjoys sin, he might be legally married to you and ur 'husband' but hes already made his own choice based on his free will to sin. I think at this point since u are already paying Bill's like if ubwere single and take care of ur kids without him, u should really focus on ur own salvation and healing most of all. Remember aside from being someones wife u still have ur own salvation to workout before God. ua-cam.com/video/GxsO71dIDbM/v-deo.html
I pray for a husband who thinks like this.
All this is very good information if you're not married to a narcissist
I agree in Jesus name 🙏🙏🙏
I can't get my husband to watch anything to help our marriage. HELP ME GOD.💔
Aleecha, neither can I. Put your husband in the hands of the lord. Continue to do your part, pray for him and watch how God works for you.
@@angeliqueevans6768 BLESSING and thank you.
You can only place your husband on the Hands of God. I learned that because they arent ready.. it's actually a turn off for them for us wives to be ministering to them. It's not our job.
Our job is to love. And respect. Bless when they curse us. And trust Jesus will move in their heart. but you must COVER THEM! COVER THEM IN PRAYER. ALWAYS. LET GO AND LET GOD.
I cant either, so I know how you feel
I’ll pray for you shall we are both in the same both
I bought the workbook from Amazon and have been working through the program with my fiancé. I also bought Marriage on the Rock 25th Anniversary book and The Four Laws of Love. Any other suggestions to prepare for marriage?
I forgive but I don't want the relationship or friendships
It depends on what it is you had to forgive. If it's a small thing, if he forgot to buy the milk you had asked, that's alright. If it's something serious, then you need to think carefully about what to do.
not wanting something, is not a Biblical reason, for divorce and remarriage....
Дякую!!!
Without wife house is graveyard. Without husband house doesn’t look house. Always faithful to each other
My. Husband listen to his family and friends with negative and trying tear up marriage we been separated two months n i want my husband back home with me
Tessy = My better half 😘
Is it possible to get those two books?
I have the DVDs.
Ex use to throw the food in the garbage. Then call me horrible names.On and on it went !!
Should have watched this before I destroyed my marriage 😢
To tired i have given up . Im waiting for him to divorce me he making me exhausted tired and frustrated married 12 uears
Praying for you ❤️
Hos 4:6
What do we do if I was the critical aggressive spouse? She left me and doesn’t want to come back.
Pray change get into domestic violence class for men
with all respect with all respect thank you attractive sir thank you attractive sir.
Married life is warriors life they always fight to win even they lose every day single living is dirty living like still water gets dirty day by day. Husband’s house wife’s real house she is real queen in that house.,
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Holy Rubber Dog Shit! I loved the message
A lot of this information is good except the self esteem responsibility. I think the action should be the same but you can't and shouldn't take responsibility for something you don't have control over.
roshun eppenger it is in context for marriage.
@@KimmyRyuLove Even then.
roshun eppenger are you married?
Are you a true believer?
When you say you shouldn’t take responsibility for how you make your life partner feel about what you have said to them is selfish.
If you truly love someone you take responsibility for the words you say, if you don’t, you leave your partner thinking you don’t care about how your words affect them and that can be damaging to your relationship.
That’s why the verse that says “the power of life and death lies in the tongue” is such a powerful one.
What do I do when my wife isn't interested no matter how much or what I try, this after 24 years... that she needs to find her "happiness"..
you love your wife, like Jesus loves his Church..
@ Shylockza
Be IN CONTROL once in your life !
@@philipbuckley759
Yeah true Jesus is such a wimp ... That's the reason why the church bows down to him and praises him lol
You men are so clueless today . You have no idea how much women hate you since you treat them as equals .
No idea .
@@framboise595 ewww you are just gross. You are of the devil! You give me the creepy crawlies under my skin. On here commenting on so many posts. Get a real life and get JESUS!!! Yuck!
Pray pray and pray harder. I'm going through this too.
No secrets here.the neighbors hear him yelling
Yelling is but one way of arguing and hurting unyour spouse. You can ignore them, manipulate, criticise, blackmail, without shouting and it damages as much the relationship.
EMOTIONAL ABANDONMENT: doesn't have to be for another woman/man... it can be for alcohol, party friends, business, how or where in scripture does it address that?
Think it would be easier for me to forgive and let go if it weren't being crammed in my face in a day to say basis. I just want it to not be part of my life anymore.
you have to love it....a study, turns into a promotion......er.....next...
What should I, a Christian wife, 66 y.o. whose husband gets irrated from things said in this video and pulls certain things out and starts yelling and wanting to argue with one of the subjects in this video?
My husband age 68, thinks he should not have to spend time around me. Makes me feel stupid, un loved, uncredited for and everything that could be negative he does it to me. Will sit outside in the attached garage to smoke, and call and talk to all his friends and people he hasn't talked to in years. This will go on from 8 am straight to 4, 5, 6pm. He will never come in the house for anything. Even gets up to go to the store and never asks me if I want to go to. But it's always for what he needs/wants. 😢 These videos just make him angry at me more. I don't know what to do. 😢 ????
I am not too sure what you should do.
You need to pray to God. Make sure you go to church, join a bible study, and find a Christian friend to hang with on occasion. Make sure you fellowship with other Christians.
Read the bible and obey God's word. Pray. Forgive your husband. Love God. And love your others as you love yourself.
God can heal you. Be your strength. Give you hope. Save you through Jesus Christ.
I will pray for you. ❤
My husband is looking at porn and I feel used and he wants nothing to do with change or negotiating with me. I am lonely and I am married 💔
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I have no joy or love . Everyday is a insane asylum
Light has come into the dark world of ours.That light is Jesus Christ my friend.He is with you.His light shine upon you.🙏
I feel you! I’m there today. Leaving.
The only thing that feels real is hate and vengeance
"....or if you're A DIVORCED TO GIVE YOU HOPE TO PREPARE YOU FOR A MARRIAGE" ... WHAT EXACTLY DO YOU MEAN WITH THIS? To my memory, the bible says, when you get divorced you should not get married again.
Deuteronomy 24 vs 2
Jimmy Evans will NEVER convince my now EX-wife her kids and not-so-grand kids do NOT come before me
Here is my question...... How long does the servant stay while being abused? I do not mind being the/a servant to my wife. I must also remember that Eve tried to trick Adam. How can I be the master of my house and a servant being abused at the same time??
I have $50,000 that says Jimmy Evans cannot change the way my now EX-wife thinks about marriage
Do you know this? Marriage is between a man and a woman. Marriage is for better and for worse until death separates (Matthew 19:3-6). ‘Wherefore they are no more two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together let no man put asunder (separate)’. Cheating on your wife or husband is sin. Proverbs 28: 13 says, ‘‘He that covers his sins shall not prosper...You must repent of them, confess and forsake them (1 John 1:9).
Are you into worldliness? Don’t you know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? (James 4:4; II John2:15-17). So, you must stop bleaching your body or painting your mouth, eyes, hands and legs or fixing attachments, weave-on, earrings (Genesis 35:2-4), bangles, chains and frying or perming your hair. Tattooing your body is satanic. Are you one of those that put on nude dresses, short skirts, transparent dresses to seduce men or women (a Seducer or a Promoter of lust is a Sinner - Mathew 5:28)
Perhaps you wear trousers as a woman? (Read Deuteronomy 22:5), that is an abomination (Revelation 21:8, 27). Therefore, make up your mind, repent and give your life to Jesus Christ. Are you spoilt? Jeremiah 4:30 says, ‘‘And when thou art spoiled, what wilt thou do? Though thou clothest thyself with crimson, though thou deckest thee with ornaments of gold, though thou rentest thy face with painting, in vain shalt thou make thyself fair; thy lovers will despise thee. They will seek thy life’’. (2 Kings 9:30; Hosea 2:13; Exodus 33:1-6)
A Christian is not a Sinner and a Sinner is not a Christian (I John 3:9). If you must be a blessed child of God, then you must repent of your sins and give your life to Jesus Christ. If you believe Jesus Christ today, righteousness of God will come into your life and abundant life will be your portion (1 John 11-12). If you neglect this call to repentance and salvation and die, you will not escape fire of Hell (Hebrews 2:3). It is foolishness and sin to say or think that there is no God (Psalm 14:1; 9:17). Luke 13:3, Jesus said, ‘I tell you, Nay: but except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish’. Cut off every besetting sin (Hebrew 12:1-2; Mark 9:43-48).
If you have decided now (2 Corinthians 6:2) to give your life to Jesus Christ and to forsake your sinful lifestyle, please say this prayer:
Almighty God, I come unto you in the name of Jesus. Father I confess that I am a sinner. All my sins I confess to you.
I am very sorry for all my sins (mention those you can remember). Lord I promise you that from today I will never continue in them anymore. I believe that Jesus Christ died and rose again on the third day for my justification.
Almighty God, use the blood of Jesus to wash my sins away. Lord Jesus, come into my heart, be my Lord and personal Saviour. I surrender my life to you. Cancel my name from the books of death and write it in the book of life. Give me power to sin no more. In Jesus name I pray. Amen!!
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1John 1:9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Hell is a place of torment forever...continuous burning by fire. The fire is never quenched, with crying and weeping forever (Mark 9:43-48; Psalm 9:17; Mathew 25:41). It was originally prepared for satan and his demons, but anybody that obeys the devil in committing sin and refuse to repent and accept Jesus Christ, if the person dies in sins, he or she will be thrown into Hell. You still have the opportunity to repent now, amend your ways, live and spend eternity in heaven. Go to www.tlccrm.org
You may be asking; how do I stop all these sins? Simply take the first step of repentance and have inner hatred for those sins, then ask Jesus to forgive you and come into your life to be your Lord and personal Saviour. In John 1:12, there is power that will be given to you, and in Mathew 11:28, if you receive Jesus into your life, He will deliver you and give you victory over those sins; then you will need to cut off from the source of those sins in your life (may be sinful friends; stop the evil relationship.
This gospel is not to condemn you, but for you to be convicted so that you will repent and give your life to Jesus Christ who loves you and really wants you to make it to heaven at the end of your life here on earth
Jesus is the head of the man, the MAN is the head of the WOMAN..........at MY home, I was the head of NOTHING
@ mark marchiafava
Evans does not teach that the husband is the head at all. He makes everything equal in order to serve Satan and please his feminist agents that have crept into the church .
the Lord made the woman for the MAN, not the man for the WOMAN
@ mark marchiafava
You are right in everything you are saying but you won't be heard because SATAN is behind Evans and his awful teachings.
The woman is here to meet man's needs first and foremost. That is what God made the woman for when he saw that man was alone.
@@framboise595 Direct quote from scripture, of COURSE I am right ! How COULD I be wrong? Pisses off a LOT of women, too
@@tooge47
Those pissed off women are everything but christian . They hate God's word and their goal is just to try and redefine it .
Evans is a horrible feminist liar and as a woman who loves the Lord , I cannot stand his twisted teachings.
@@framboise595 I cannot find a wife due to my expectations of what a wife should be.
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You mean within the church ?
It is very serious.
Evans and co will have so much to answer to the Lord for twisting his word and pandering to women .
I as a christian woman am supposed to teach young women the things in line with sound doctrine.
Not the lies this clown spreads.
Sorry bud. The bible can only so much but it's fighting personal choice. That personal choice is why the devil rules the earth and God's power is only in heaven.
God's power is not only in heaven but on earth. It's man's responsibility to manifest the power of God on earth.
"A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones." Proverbs 12:4
Other versions say rotenness or even cancer
In other words , the Bible cleraly states that it is wives who have the most destructive behaviour towards their husbands.
Not the opposite.
Because such verses like " a husband of noble character if his wife's this or that " are never to be found in the Bible.
Evans and so many others today just try to make everything equal because they are feminist liars .
They voluntary silence the essential truth that it is the woman who was mde for the man's sake (hence those verses fitting God's purpose perfectly) . Not the opposite.
And? Women need support, care and consideration too. We're both human beings beloved of God. So you see men as the main authority, what does that have to do with treating eachother with respect and care? We both have needs and they vary, main thing is God's will for us and having eachother's backs which falls under that. There are things both are to do for eachother. It may be that the woman was made for man, that doesn't mean we don't get anything out of a relationship. Having someone to give to is good for humans just as being one given to and in authority. God has commands for women, submission, etc.. He also commands men to love their wives. There's a lot that provides. I desire to be heard by the one person that has power over decisions having to do with me whether or not it's my choice in the end. I desire my own TLC in bed. Help with some chores & finances we both partake in. And he has needs I help fulfill. Nobody else does for us what we do for eachother. We're a team.
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Evans the feminist liar has taken the hierarchy out of marriage and God's right order .
God made the woman for the man . Not the man for the woman. So , a woman cannot demand anything from her husband . She can just ask him .
But Evans deceives us into thinking we are "equal" to our men.
The Bible is crystal clear that a husband has three things to provide , which is food , clothing and sex (marital right). Exodus 21:10 and if he does not want to provide those things , the woman can go free.
All the rest has been added in order to turn wives into self entitled whimsical children who would suddenly have tons of "needs".
Moreover , a wife is not called to "meet the needs" of her husband if she wants to but to SUBMIT to him in everything.
I can't believe how much of a liar this man is.
@@framboise595 God is agape love and a man and women both have that for eachother. It's a beautiful thing. He's over the house and the protector but that doesn't mean he treats us all like slaves. Submission doesn't mean there's not love and care, he's a provider and does these things out of love and care and because he is in charge he has responsibility over the house. It's not some forced thing, it's through love.
WOW SO DEMONIC MAN, YOU ARE TO NEVER EVER SHARE hurt to a wife, the wife is supposed to do that, share hurt to her husband the husband as the head should never ever ever share feelings with his wife only good ones, this guy is Twisted
Guess you don't know Jesus.
@@gayleengland-triplett3179 Gayle no offense but women can't even handle their own problems let alone a man's, it is a disservice for a husband to share problems with his wife, this dude isn't biblical at all just secular marriage teaching, are you saying I don't know Jesus because I don't follow this guys marriage advice?
Back up your opinion with the Word then instead of calling him a demon.
You are wrong
So stuff it and Lie. I Don't think so. Burying your junk isn't from God
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