What is an Anger Target?
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- Опубліковано 14 тра 2024
- What is an anger target and why is it so important to understand? In this video, I'll show you what it is and why I think it's so vital for you to be aware of it.
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I love this slam poetry cadence
When I realized I was doing this particularly with women that I was in relationships with I felt like the biggest pos. I couldn't stop, I was so angry all of the time and anything they did that upset me sent me off the deep end. It never felt intentional when I would lose it. I always felt justified but when I realized this behavior was a cycle and I felt I couldn't stop I made my fiancee and our daughter leave me so I wouldn't make her cry anymore and so our daughter would not think my behavior was acceptable. I don't like who I am most days and I'm trying to change for my daughters. The strange thing is I was never this way with my kids. I could some how silence the storm when it comes to them.
Thank you doctor for this reminder
You a great helper big brother
So true i recently just stopped talking to a guy all he wants is money a. He is so selfish. COntrolling dominating etc an feel i do not want to be around him
What's being talked here, I think good resources. When one can admit oneself's wrong doings and thinking without exaggerating, there starts the problem solving, correctly and efficiently, with people understanding each other and not struggling nor fighting.
New to your channel and I appreciate your videos 😭🙏🏽🫶 some videos come from people who seem like they’ve never experienced internal rage a minute in their life - you seem to speak from experience and I appreciate the advice 🙏🏽
Dr Conte,
What would I have done without your videos? Your videos make me so calm and help me understand the situation. I appreciate what you doing for the community, and I really can`t thank you enough
Thanks Dr!! Awesome topic!
videos are amazingly helpful. Thank you so much Dr
So happy to see you back brother, really miss your videos and appreciate them alot. God bless you man
Thank you! Starting in August of this year, I will be uploading regularly. My hope is to add insight and peace to people's lives. Thank you so much for your kind words and support! Sending you much peace for sure!
Thanks Dr Conte! The world needs people like you. If there was only a way you could smooth over this Ukraine/Russia conflict. Things are about to get even more ugly and some peaceful settlement desperately needs to be reached before it is too late!
Thanks so much
Good video
Always great content Dr.Conte!
I would like to "misplace my anger target".... well said again Doc.
Thank you 🙏🏼
Sending you much peace!
I forgot to add a big "thanks" for you podcasts. Listening to you and Timber Hawkeye is a great way to start your day
Wow ❤thx so much
Happy I found this page.
You always make a video at the perfect time for me in life for a real learning opportunity Doc. Thank you so very much.
I absolutely love this video Dr. Conte. I think practically everyone on earth would benefit from watching this video. I will watch it a lot!
I think this channel is underrated, it should have more subscribers it contains many useful videos
Thank you for your kindness, for sharing this. I figured out who my anger target is and how misplaced it is.
That's awesome! It's so freeing to figure it out and then call ourselves on it. We all do it, so it's not "wrong" or "bad" of us to do, but my goodness is it freeing to recognize and let go. Definitely sending you all my best and tons of peace!
I recently heard you on Sounds True podcast and now have your book Walking Through Anger, It has come to me at the right time, it IS taking work, but that's OK, prior to this, I've read my Third book on how to listen, your thoughts and teachings are adding on more (that I need) to the listening experiences. THANK YOU!!
Thank you so much!
Thank you so much for these video's. You are making a difference in my life!
Thank you brother. I genuinely appreciate hearing that. Starting in Aug this year, I am committed to posting regularly on here. I hope what I share can continue to be helpful. Sending you much gratitude and peace!
the audio in this video is really good you should try to replicate it
I am an angry target to a coworker. No matter how nice and respectful I am they get defensive and dramatic when I offer advice or try to console them
great content. do you do coaching?
Omg! Dr Conte I really needed to hear this today! It’s a co-worker that return back to work after 2 years and back to doing the same thing she was doing when left. I’m so angry because all she does is watch every move I make, then have the audacity to start her lies and trying to defame me through her lies, so me trying to be the best me was not able to let it walk, I lost it and went completely off on her, at first I was trying to feel bad but I just can’t. What is we with me to allow her to get out of control??
I'm so sorry to hear that you are the target of her anger. That's just awful. Now, the challenge for you is to avoid allowing her to take away your sense of peace in your own internal world, too. I hope this video is helpful for you in that. Please know I'm definitely sending you all my best and tons of peace!
@@DrChristianConte thank you so much for responding, I will definitely no longer allow her to take away my peace when entering the work place also my work area, I will continue to be the best me I can be because I’m definitely better then this. Again thank you!! For your videos and inspiration.
I Have Bad And Anger At People At People Bulling Me And Others Telling Others What To Do And Being Bossy And Sick Of Everyone Telling Me To Calm Down And Cool Off Sick Of Telling Lies Being Manipulative And Backstabbing Unfaithful People And I Dont Like When People Scare Me And Do Stuff Me To And Sick Of The People Conniving Assumptions About Mr And Talking Mess About And Spreading Rumors About Me To My So Called Friends And Lied On Me And One Of The Girls That I Was Friends With From Day Program Miles P. Richmond Spreading Rumors About Me To Other So Called Friends That Im Done With Lying Vindictive Conniving Backstabbing Manipulative I'm Done With The Haters Talking Crappy And Two Faced People And Im Done With Haters
Im not sure if youve done a video on this yet. But can you make a video on how to not break things out of anger?
Omg i have an anger target shes a close friend, shes always making poor decisions and im always triggered by the things she does.
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hi this is Tara. I heard a person tell someone I am mad at you. do they mean that or do they not want to show hurt they are feeling?
Hey Dr. Conte, this video definitely made sense to me. i hate to admit it but i find my kids are my anger targets. when their mom left us i was extremely mad at her and still am for her leaving me with our kids with special needs to raise by myself. i hate to get angry at them when they just act like kids and i know it’s not their faults. what’s wrong with me? what do i do?!
First, great awareness, and second, that's tremendous humility to have the courage to admit it. It's possible that you see their mom in them and that you project her onto them, and it certainly would make sense that the hurt you feel from her you see in them. I'm sorry it took me so long to see this question, and I really hope you can receive it now. I would invite you to do your best to call yourself on it in the moment when you're doing it, and if you're willing, maybe even let your children know you recognize it and that you will commit yourself to working on not doing it. It certainly makes sense that you would feel hurt that you felt abandoned and don't have the kind of partner help and support that you believed you were going to have with her. So yes, it's understandable, but just because we can understand why we're doing what we're doing, it doesn't give us an excuse to keep doing something that's not right to do; so again, I love that you have the insight and courage to call yourself on it, and now I would ask you to consider to keep pushing yourself to continually shine light on it, as well as actively change the behavior at every turn you can. Most definitely sending you all my best and tons of peace!
Thank you so much! I just read this and it still rings so true, catching myself in the moment has been the key. Not always easy but it’s on me to not take my emotions out on anyone. It’s gotten a lot better, I’m still finding my way and learning but never giving up on myself or kids. Thank you! Thank you for replying back! Thank you for your work and words.
Dr. Conte,
What if the anger is a result not of the self (hunger, bad day, just got off work etc) but rather because they see a target not a person. People who look condescendingly on others, or someone that's unable to put up a resistance, essentially a seemingly easy target. There is no logic behind their actions, they only want to stir the pot. How would you deal with such people?
Please for the love of god talk with me please
Hi I recently found your videos and need to know if youhave one for my situation. Im a newlywed. 5 weeks. My husband had hid a meth habit from me for several months in the beginning, he has relapsed and lied about it. i KNOW he used last week. I know it but he wont admit it nor take a drug test. Im angry and bringing it up constantly and he is to the point of not talking to me cuz, I wont stop and he wont admit. How do I stop harping on it? Its on my mind all the time.
You can’t control him. You can set boundaries and if he continues to deceive you choose to remove yourself but we cannot control others. Our anger tells us when we are being violated but when we start trying to make others do what we want with anger, now we are violating their boundaries. You can only tell him what you will and won’t live with. And not making threats, threats to leave aren’t boundaries. It’s simply “I can’t accept drug use into my life so I am sad you have this issue but I will have to remove myself if it continues because it isn’t healthy for me to be around and when you hide it or are dishonest I lost trust in you”.
What if the target of your anger is injustice coming from people you actually cared for? Should you stop to just care for these people?
My anger target is the government and politicians
You lost me on this one. You also sound angry as you speak. I do like a few of your other videos, and I look forward to listening to more.
No worries! Not every video will resonate. I appreciate you not giving up on my work just because this one didn't resonate. I definitely wasn't angry talking about this (although I'm aware that I come across as pretty intense, so I can see how you could interpret it that way). An anger target is someone (or something) that we direct our anger towards. Sometimes people can blame their anger target for everything that goes wrong, even though their anger target might have literally nothing to do with what's going on in their lives. People frequently do this with political figures... they pick one they dislike, usually for not agreeing with everything they think, and then they channel tons of anger onto this political figure, as if this person is actually the source of all their challenges. I hope that makes sense. Definitely sending you tons of appreciation and peace!
@@DrChristianConte Thank you so much for taking the time to explain! I don’t have anger issues, but I want to learn why or how others do since I have a few ppl in my life that will sometimes target me. If I can better understand the anger, maybe I can help deescalate a particular episode, although running away can come in handy and be the safest option. Situational, of course. I will say this about your intensity, it is quite sexy. 😃
Watching this video and at 6 fucking seconds started to pause FUCKKK annoying I was so angry