8 Signs That You Aren't Their Priority
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- Do you feel as if you're someone's choice rather than their priority? Does the person you put first always puts you last? Do they take you for granted and don't treat you like a priority? The truth is, you should never feel guilty or ashamed about asking someone to put in as much effort as you do into making a relationship work. There may be times when you’ll just have to understand if they’re too busy or overwhelmed with all the things going on in their lives to spare you much of a thought, there’s a difference being someone’s priority sometimes and being an option. So, we've created this video to help you find out whether the person you love truly prioritize you in their lives.
If you relate to this video and you're worried about whether your relationship with them will last, we've also made a video on the signs a relationship won't last: • 12 Early Signs A Relat...
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Do you feel this could be describing someone you know?
I think.....
Actually yes...
My best best friend 🤧😢
She just always talk about how happy she is with her other friends and I just die inside cuz I literally do everything for her 🥺
yes
Yea i think so
I think 😭
Yes, because we're not that close, QwQ
It's kind of sad because I'm the one who always initiate the conversation.
1 signs that you’re not a priority. You start watching videos like this one.
God I know. Sucks
Here i am
Well heck 🙃
Spot on
Exactly
My life has been filled with one sided relationships and friendships .... where I’m ALWAYS the one that cares more sigh
You're a tagalong. One of these days, Psych2Go should make a video about how to cling less and be more independent.
Yeah, same in my life too. No one messages me and when somethings wanted and when they don't had help they uses me. Rather than telling iam victimized i move on to walk lonely.🙌
@@celticandpenobscot8658 I definitely need to be more independent!! I would love a video like that
@@marudeeshan that’s a really good mindset, I should move forward like that
I’m not on anyone’s priority. If I don’t initiate a text or conversation I get the feeling I’ll never hear from them. Let’s test that theory. I’m going to count how many days it takes to get a text or call if I don’t initiate. This could take a while. 😔
Feeling lonely in a relationship is the worst you can experience
for me i want to do my owe thing, i has always been controlled, i feel free, i m not interested in anybody but guys always want to hang with me, i m very popular with guys, i have one good girl as a friend that s it, if had too many bro kida boyfriends, i want feedom from trouble
@@soniabernatchez7466 same for me, I have always been used, so now I ignore them.
Being alone is better than being manipulated.
how do I deal with it?
What it means is you're NOT REALLY IN A RELATIONSHIP ‼️‼️‼️
You're in a mess/bullsh+#
Better off without
"Never make someone a priority if all you are to them is an option" -Maya Angelou
Damn, that hits home
Signs that you aren't their priority: your gut tells u. Listen to your gut.
all my gut makes is a grumbling sound
True, Martha.
But I have BPD lmao
OMG this is awful advise, please delete it. My BPD is literally about to make me jump off a cliff and it's DIRECTLY from "listening to my gut" that got me here.
@@nobodynowhere21 Interesting you say that. I thought I had BPD, but months and even years after a relationship ended I found/heard evidence showing that my gut was correct. This has happened 5 times in my life now.
I spent YEARS messaging people and not realising that I was always initiating (because I messaged so often). It eventually dawned on me that they were “replying” and not having a conversation once I messaged. It was so sad when I realised it. I stopped texting to see if they noticed and would message me to see if I was ok.... they didn’t 😢
You are loved ❤❤❤. Everybody is loved whether it feels like it or not ❤❤❤
I think too many people live the majority of their social lives on the phone or the internet, posting crap on Facebook and the other sites, or just texting on the phone instead of talking. There are no deep connections that way. From what I see, it's all a popularity contest again, just like being in school again. Some folks post some crap and within 30 minutes there are 150 likes, but others post something and get nothing, or maybe two or three. I would concentrate on in person relationships as much as possible. If anyone doesn't show interest in you, forget them and look elsewhere. There is somebody out there that is lonely and would love to love you. You just have to find that person. Don't waste your time when you know someone doesn't care about you. Find the right one.
A**holes 🤨
This sounds so relatable...... Ooofff...... Life sad...
You are not the only one 😩😭...it hurts ...
I got so tired of being the only one who cares. That I stopped caring and ghosted everyone.
I feel this exact same way. Not in 2021, not ever again. I dropped contact w all of my friends and changing my number next. It will be a wonderful fresh start :)
@Lady Destiny we sure can! I was sad at 1st but no longer. its refreshing. I rather be alone and patient until I meet the right people than have fake friends.How are you feeling today?
i wonder why is having friends so hard sometimes when they're supposed to make someone's life much better, even if they do it without realizing by just being good friends
Oh thats sad
Did the same... 👌 Turned right 👉 and have kept going.
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This happens a lot to me and I've learned to just put down your feelings or kick them far away. If you aren't a priority then they shouldn't be yours. Go out do something fun have a nice meal and get right back out there. Maybe try new things whatever puts you back on your feet, it's hard I know but like c'mon man get over them. They aren't worth it.
I wish I was a child again things were easier honestly. Not gonna lie.
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How did you make this comment as this video was made today not 3 moths ago??!!
These cramming time travellers....
Jk jk
TIME TRAVELER!!
1. They always show up late (0:48)
2. They cancel on you at the last minute (1:13)
3. They exclude you from things (1:36)
4. They don't remember special occasions (2:09)
5. They don't make things up to you (2:46)
6. They never take initiative (3:17)
7. They don't make time for you (3:43)
8. They make you feel alone, even when you're together (4:08)
Personally, I don't recommend keeping someone as a priority when all you are to them is a mere choice. I feel that it's best you leave this person and find someone who appreciates your uniqueness and cares for you, you deserve to be handled preciously♥️ I love y'all🥺💞
Thank you🥺💙
@@jaykaysdimple9718 no issues💜💜❤️ stay safe🥺
Thank you 😊
It shows me this video is uploaded 5 min ago and the comment is 2 weeks ago!!!!
@@Vaishnavi-wh3jq Time traveler :)
There's certain age when you just don't want people that aren't ready to give you as much attention,respect or love as you give to them. Relationship and friendship is giving and both sides should give equally
That's not an age. That's reaching a point of self respect.
@@taicollins2303 Yeah, definitly, but it usually comes with age, after you get tired of giving your time and effort to wrong people. Someone might get to that point at age of 16, someone elese might live his/her whole life without realizing that some people are not worth their time.
@@jakov1426 most of the people ive met weren't most of my time to begin with they act like they want to be around me but only because they want something to be done without them doing it themselves so im basically their little slave and a friend that gets put on the back burner
I am always a friend that gets thought of the least
Not everyone who grows old grow up. Sad but true
I SO hear you.
Video: 14 seconds ago
Comments: 4 months ago
Me: ...
Yeah ikr, youtube is drunk for sure 🤦🏾♀️😂
power of unlisted videos
Lol omgg sammmeee
I'm glad this channel exists.
ikr me too 😊
Me too
Like thanks 😔
Me too
same. this video makes me feel soo soo soooo better. it's like a therapist to me:).
SAME-
Literally everyone in my life fits every category. I'm realizing I'm not valued by my friends like I thought I was. All I ever hear is "I'm too busy". So, I'd rather have no one in my life then fake friends who dont value me. I'll be alright.
This was exactly how someone i considered a friend treted me. We ended our friendship 2 days ago after an argument caused exactly by all these behaviors he was showing. This makes me think i did the right thing and let him go.
🤎i think u did bud!
I have a group of friends who treat me like this. Plus they all went to a house party for someone else on my birthday and they knew it was my birthday. I was the best man in one of their weddings too.
Nobody should ever let you feel unimportant. If they were, they are surely not right for you and continuing the relationship may lead you towards the abyss of self depreciation. Know this, however it turns out, you are more worthy and valuable!
Huh, exactly my situation. We were friends for 5 years and knew each other for 7.. In the end I just decided it ain't worth it and ended it all a few months ago and I feel much fresher now! Don't waste time on people who don't value you, you can use this time to find a new friend! :)
@@crystalroche2168 jerks, you shouldnt hang around them
I used to be someone’s priority like they are my priority but all a sudden they don’t prioritize me anymore and idk why. I can relate to everything on this video now
People change, unfortunately, everyone does. Talk to them, ask them what is going on. Just because they ignore you now, doesn`t have to mean that it was your fault. Remember, depression might make people distance themselves from others, maybe that is the case? Best thing is to just talk about it and figure out what the problem might be.
Maybe its because they are narcissistic and loved bombed you in the beginning... this is what happened in my case...
Hey this looks like a club to me. I relate to every one of this video’s parts with a person who used to prioritize me constantly for the first few months. Aand after that within two following months they slowly distanced themself from me. And a month ago I was almost completely discarded.
Still I have a feeling deep in me that longs and yearns for that first few months of the relationship even though logically thinking it’s pretty uncertain.
Remember to only place a high significance on someone who constantly makes you feel significant to them. I’m still struggling to understand this today.
Worth pointing out that a lot of different things can be at the root. I'm all for talking about it, at least... Then you're gonna have to "play it by ear" so to say, depending on what really is causing this behavior.
Serial Relationship(per)... This happens in friendships just like among "lovers". Their whole excitement about a friendship is worn off quickly. They get exuberant about "the new friend" entirely because of the novelty of the person, not for anything deeper than "s/he's NEW"... SO as soon as they know much about a person, s/he falls into the "meh" category, not exactly or entirely ignored, but certainly no priority to them.
Depression, BiPolar, etc... There are several mental health issues that present with symptoms of emotional instability or mood swings... and even occasionally "morose withdrawal". Some of them will be selective in what's "depressing" or "triggering" in their life. You can't always tell just by observation, and they don't even always notice when they're "doing the thing"...
AND finally, of course, you have the variations of narcissist, user, socio- and psycho- path, etc... These people are messed up on a level of their inner humanity that you're going to struggle if you can even understand at all. They're habitual about using and manipulating people, and even a conversation will seem tiresome and confusing more than helpful... BUT without the investment to that conversation, you can't exactly notice that a conversation is draining or useless.
At least TRY to talk it out. Try to keep your own ego and emotions in check, and just face it like an engineering problem. It's an issue, and you need a solution or at least some kind of work-around. Maybe you can't cure their psychological problems, but you CAN figure out a system of basic communication so they can acknowledge when they're not good company, and you don't have to feel "put out" to accept it and go find anything else to do. ;o)
In my relationship, after almost two year of being together.. Suddenly he started to avoid me. I decided to talk but he break it off. We werent talking for a week and both of us just couldnt not be with each other. After that i realise he left me due to his problem with financial and study and his busyness of overcoming that problem by working that unconsciously making me a burden. It was a miscommunication, if we both communicate, this wouldnt have happen. I knew he still loves me but for now, im not his no 1 priority and im okay with it. I'll wait. We still talk and call every single day and lil by lil i saw many improvements. Its true how mental illness can break your bonds. So if u havent try to talk, talk first and if u have its up to you to do whatever u wanna do kay?
It's time to get rid of the person whom I have valued for so long. When the person doesn't reciprocate your efforts, it's better to call it off.
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Comments: A MONTH AGO
Wait yeah what is happening lol
Time Travelers
Time Travelers
jk this video was unlisted and I'm assuming that there's some sort of membership thing where you can see videos early
@@alyshaa6841 yes members get early access to the vid... I mean the time machine.
Wtf 😱
I recently walked away from someone I believed was a good friend. He displayed every one of those traits... too bad it took me so long to realize that I was just getting strung along🙁
Same, sometimes it’s taking a long time before you realise it:)
Never hold on to a Toxic person such as this.
Let go, your number one priority should Always be yourself first. This is not being selfish, its vital for your health and well being 💜
Then you'll manifest someone who Does make you a priority, you must love yourself first. Otherwise if you don't, You'll manifest someone who's abusive towards you to justify your own negative belief/self hatred towards yourself
Very true.
Beautifully said. I wish I could hit that thumbs-up more than once.
Great advice:)
No
hi sexy,,,
When I broke up with my bf and went to the psi, I told her that I don't feel like a priority for him, and that made me feel depressed. She told me that he didn't have to make me a priority, I was only the "gf", not wife, not family, not work, not hobbie. I won't make him gain money, happiness or do something important about his future and career.
And bcause of that, I feel so egoistic and really bad for asking him more time (we used to see each other once per week or two weeks), attention and compromise. Now seeing this, I don't think I was egoist.
So the psychologist told you that you boyfriend didn't have to make you a priority? That's fucked up.
I strongly disagree. A girlfriend might not be family or work, but it's a person intended to *become* family and wife. The level of commitment you can ask out of a boyfriend depends on how long you've been together (and at the beginning don't expect to be their first priority), but if it's long term or there's a long term plan ahead of becoming family you should *be* a priority, and pretty high up.
People don't switch from being like that to putting you first place the moment you become wife. Don't ever expect a person to change based on a title or a status.
Of course be flexible! There are going to be moments where you are *the* priority, moments where work is, moments where family is etc.
@@Serena-or7sl yes I honestly thinking about this
the partner we expects to prioritize us is having his problems and own life too
i had this problem occurred 6months ago when I felt he didn't prioritize me again
but I see his effort he started bussiness and think way he should provide his family while he has his old om to be taken care of
i told you it's hard, really hard
OMG! Your Therapist should be JAILED! That's what a Relationship is...spending all your free time together. If you don't want to do this. Stay single. Yes. Everyone has there life away from the Relationship. But you should be there Priority!
I wouldn't go back to that therapist
@@mjj7781 Believe your Gut...your instincts. If you feel unhappy...something wrong.
Value ourselves enough. Be brave enough to let them go if you are not their priority. Because you are valuable. You deserve the best
0:48 They always show up late
1:16 They cancel on you at the last minute
1:38 They exclude you from things
2:10 They don't remember special occasions
3:18 They never take initiative
3:44 They don't make time for you
4:08 They make you feel alone even when you're together
My ex was gathering all of those traits, and this video made me remember them. Thinking back about this, I feel so stupid for staying so long with her despite seeing that something was wrong. But, on the other side, I was deeply in love with her, so I decided to stay, even if it meant suffering and not being in a "normal" relationship. I kept being nice and attentionned. And she ended up cheating on me one day.
DO NOT STAY WITH SOMEONE IF YOU FEEL LIKE THEY DON'T FEEL THE SAME ABOUT YOU OR/ AND IF YOU AREN'T THEIT PRIORITY. THEY WILL NOT CHANGE, AND YOU'LL END UP SUFFERING EVEN MORE AT THE END.
Thank you for reading this, stay safe and love yourself, and you'll find the right person one day!
Damn I hope you find someone who you truly deserve
When you see your significant other rather going out with friends then you.
Relateable...
Yep know what you mean same boat
i know being a priority is important but sometimes you need to find life outside of the relationship as well. always making your relationship a priority isn’t good like you need to have time for yourself and do things on your own instead of depending on your relationship all the time. sometimes people prefer other things before a relationship which is totally fine but at least update and make efforts every now and then so the other person doesn’t feel outcasted or left out :)
Why are people thinking that this means ALL THE TIME.. It should be obvious that this doesn't mean a person can never be late, or never decide that they want to make plans without you... Its when its the theme of the relationship that it becomes a problem
I would never be with someone who values some other relationship of his more than ours.
7 Major Signs Your Partner Sees You As An Option, Not A Priority
All Plans Are On Their Terms. ...
You Feel Like You Are Not As Important To Them. ...
You Make All The Effort And Moves. ...
Your Partner Treats You Horribly. ...
You Feel Generally Unhappy And Misused. ...
They Are Constantly Lying. ...
They're Most Interested In The Physical Side.
stop putting uppercase letters at the start of words that aren't proper nouns
Is that how you feel? Just asking...
@@DellaWatson-cz3mq no , what about you ?
not sure if it's their love style or i really am just an option to them
@@pyschologygeek nah, but I was curious cus you wrote the list. I thought maybe you wrote it cus thats how you felt. Good to know it's not :-)
People who use others love it that you are their for them but they don´t like it if you have needs too.
I feel like most people I loved in my life treated me this way. Now I have no one.
I watched this just to confirm that I wasn’t someone’s priority when I was in their life. They’ve left now, and it hurts, but I’m doing my best to prioritize those who do care.
Stuff like this makes my heart hurt because most of the people I considered friends did this to me. And others wonder why I feel unimportant most of the time
'The power in relationship is on the person who cared less. But happiness is not power'
I feel like these relationships are super damaging to the self esteem
This always hurts to figure out when ur not a priority to someone and what hurts more is distancing yourself from them thinkingbthey will change and them not even taking notice 😔
I just feel like sad for the people who went through this. Like youve done so much for them, and they dont PRIORITIZE you. Irs just liks so sad. I feel sorry for the ppl who just ugh..
My first girlfriend did this. I always wondered what I did wrong but I moved a few weeks later from when I told her that's enough and I'm not gonna deal with her so I'll never know 😔
A one-sided relationship should be eliminated. That is what I am doing. It is difficult though.
It is really difficult especially when you care for someone and they do this , it's really painfull to let them go but that's the beat thing
Y’all word of advice. If the significant other or friend does this to y’all. Leave! They’re not worth your time and you can find someone even better. Been through this with a recent ex of 7 years, also father to my 2 kidlets. I’m currently 26. So please gather the strength and courage to leave the toxic relationship no matter how hard it gets. Even if this means leaning into trusted friends/family. If you don’t have anyone in RL you can always count on your online friends! ❤️❤️❤️
Hi I want you to know that earlier today I planed to end my life because I felt very stressed, depressed and I’ve been suicidal for a while now. But just before I was going to I stopped myself, locked my self in a room with nothing that could kill me with my phone and I just started watching your videos. I made myself think hard about what would happen then I decided to love another day. I also called my friends and talked to them after watching some videos. Thank you so much for your videos because if it went for them I may be dead now. Thank you.
I think that's wonderful xx and I think no one else has commented because they don't know what to say. You are very strong and brave to carry on if you are feeling so down and lonely💜 It's been a difficult year for many people so you're not alone 😊. PsychtoGo will be so relieved they were able to help you this way 👍but I still think maybe you should tell your parents (yes I know you may not want to) 👪 . You could let them know them how low you are feeling and explain you might need a bit of support and kindness right now. They will want to help you, I promise. 💟🌸💟 Or if you are sure just confiding in friends is enough support for now then good 4u 🌈 Please post here again if you start to feel worse. Take care of yourself lovely 🌝🌼 xx
I'm happy you find this place. I understand how difficult life could be, and sometimes we just want to end everything and find peace. It can be hard, but you already started, u are so strong, u choose to live, and little by little you'll make it. Find support with family and friends, look for experts if necessary even with some strangers on internet. There's always people you can count. I can also be here for you. U can do it 💚
- and sorry for my bad english
Oh my gosh... I'm so glad you took the right steps before you did something that may have been permanent... And yes, anytime you feel suicidal, call and talk to your loved ones (friends or family)
Stay safe, and please try to be strong, and don't suffer in silence... Its awful, but the difference between you and me is, you actually have people you can talk to. I don't, so please take advantage of that
@@DellaWatson-cz3mq I'm glad someone else cared enough to reply. I was very concerned to read the young ladies post, and it's nice to see someone else reached out too. 😊 I hope you're OK though, you say you have nobody to really talk to.😦 Please, there is ALWAYS someone. You deserve better than to be alone, you can ring helplines of consult your doctor.👍🌷 xx My partner doesn't understand my anxiety and ocd and worsens it on occasion so please don't think that you are necessarily at a disadvantage if you don't have many friends or family to confide in. Since my father passed away I feel like I have lost my mother too, I can't remember the last time I spoke to my baby brother who I adored. I'm alone but I have 100 contacts on my phone but I can't talk to anyone. Please if you ever feel 2 stressed or depressed call your doctor or a helpline like Mind (sorry, I don't know what country you reside in!). I'm not going to preach at you or he condescending but you deserve to be happy and have someone listen if you need to talk xx Take care 🌞🌹 xx
Thank you everyone for the kind replies ❤️
Well, I guess I need to ditch my family, friends, neighbors and every human on earth ☺️
How many of these signs described them?
No I would allow it
@@Psych2go yes
That's about it.
If everyone in your life is TOXIC. Only discouraging you and never encouraging. Yes. Even your Mom and Dad can be Toxic.
MY GOSH I SAW THE TITLE I click ...and now I cry
Many of these things have happened to me growing up. So as an adult. I can usually foresee the signs. When somebody acts this way I completely cut conversation/stop inviting them to events. The icing on the cake is when they too move on or don't question why you both stopped talking. That's when you know they weren't worth your effort and time. Don't take it personally, above all else value yourself. There's somebody out there that would love to see that side of you. 😁✌️
Other signs that you are not their priority:
1). When you are in their company they fail to ask you anything about you or what you are doing
2). They fail to recognise your special occasions such as birthdays - I had to arrange my own 60th birthday celebration, and I had to arrange it around their preferences, not mine!
3). They send you a last minute invite to an occasion you were not originally invited to because someone in their party has dropped out and they want you to make up the numbers.
4). They send you an invitation and then ask if you could make all of the arrangements, I.e. you were only invited because they wanted you to do all the hard work.
You can guess I’m talking from personal experience here.
Those are users not friends
u must understand these people who don’t care about u as much as u care about them can be going through something. a persons own well being always comes first
Agreed. How can you care about someone and not be accommodating and understanding that sometimes life and extenuating factors get in the way? They come first even at the expense of our relationship.
okay so with that logic if they are going thru something and taking it out on their partner then the partner should leave because their well-being also comes first. my boyfriend is most likely depression and apathetic and that's why he is ignoring me and not putting me as a priority but guess what? I'm depressed and apathetic too and he is still a priority in my life. so it really isn't an excuse and if he doesn't get his shit together I will be leaving, for my well being.
Yes, but from another point of view, someone who is going through something can also say it to their (supposed to be) close friends. Even if you don't want to talk about it, you could say hey, i'm having some stuff going on so if i seem very zoned out, it's just cause i need some time. Cause I had this reason thrown on me from a friend, but i had often texted her like hey how are you, is everything okey? A simple; im abit overwhelmed - couldve really changed a lot.
im depressed and still make some people my priority, why is it that difficult for them to do the same?
It makes me physically sick that I waited 5 hours for a friend a day ago
That’s fucked up. Sorry you went through that.
That's exactly what happened to me.
So I simply lowered my priority of them, instead spending time with somebody who prioritizes me equally highly.
My partner of 15 years just puts every single thing in his life before me. I’ve slowly allowed this behavior because he’s kind, doesn’t cheat, takes care of our family.. but that doesn’t equate to emotional stability, or a consistent feeling like I matter to him personally.
It was my birthday on November 6 but none of my friends ever remembered my birthday. Not until I told them. All of those list in the video describes my life btw, hope y'all are doing okay❣️
Happy belated birthday! I have a birthday on Nov 17 and my mom went on a cruise during that time so I get how you feel ❤️ I hope you had someone who actually appreciates you to spend time with on your birthday!!!
@@marissagiberson3140 thank you, belated happy birthday to you too! 💓
It means they are not your friends
Advance happy birthday enjoy your life 🥳 it's worth it
@@amrinmarliya4147 hello! Thank you! It was indeed worth it 😄
I JUST WANNA BE APPreCiatED
You are appreciated ❤❤
I 100% get this reference and I completely agree!
Please, when you feel like you're in this situation, stop calling the off taker your best friend and stop living in the past, maybe you are not meant to be friends anymore and you should accept that
I recently ended a friendship because of 4 - 8. It really hurts to suddenly be on the receiving end of this and not know why. Best to end it for your own mental health.
I had a "friend" tell me, after I said I'd wait her out to talk to me: "if you expect me to talk to you first then it'd be like not wanting ot talk ever again because I don't do that for anyone"
Some time later I separated from her because she was toxic af.
Damn it. Five minutes and twenty-eight seconds of my relationship with my friends. Everyone. You are going to get used to everyone forgetting your birthday and disregarding you.
I really needed to hear this video tonight.
A bunch of people are off the list, even family unfortunately
Thank you
I donno but it struck my heart watching this....maybe I just think negatively....
Yo y'all unlisted this
It wasn't our priority!
@@Psych2go ouch
@@Psych2go oh haha
Tinyboi how r u from 3 months ago
@@Psych2go ouchi-
My partner told me once word for word I’m not his priority, work is and chasing his goals. And he told me on the other hand that he shouldn’t be my priority either.. I still don’t know how to feel about that
Leave
Are you guys still together
@@handsomesquidward5160 we split up 10 months ago
It's not so much of the fact that I get treated as less important. I feel that I can show good example by making others feel prioritised by doing the exact opposite of the 8 signs indicated in the video. Very helpful video if you want to show your compassion towards others.
Family stays forever though I had not find a true friend but my family always there .💖
this is so me and my sister,
i always knew she never priorities me but this video made it very clear.
This was my ex-bestfriend, she totally didn't wanted me. Only used me, even didn't offer help when I broke my wrist where she was involved with. I always apologized to her, thought it was me. Now she's out of my life, gladly. Never keep around a toxic 'friend'
@@more1494 Thank you, I hope you'll be well too.
Absolutely beautiful! Made me realize what I need to do to show my family they are my priority.
Its remind me, when i went everyday visited a girl i care the most in my life. Being with her, is like nothing, i feel empty, like there is no one there with me. Thank you for this great video.
I know I'm not a priority but I wanted to watch this as a reminder and to help me cry as well
It’s sad that we go thru this 😥until we realize our worth❤️
All the best to everyone. Truly believe that if someone doesn't put in the effort into a friendship whether that's through calling/hanging out or being open about what needs to be done in order for the friendship to thrive, then it's not worth being friends or at least to drift apart from them without doubt. Truly you matter and must learn to love yourself first:)
When they no longer do things with you, are always "busy" yet, later post pics of them and a coworker when they told you they were "busy"
Here to comment so when they unlist it everyone’s gonna ask how it’s an hour ago
Exactly what they planned us to do
Well
*3 months ago
whatchu mean by unlist ?
Bruh
Watching this really solidifies the fact that my supposed bestfriend doesn’t really care for me as much as I care about her. Oh well, it’s fine, thanks for this eye opener. This serves as a good closure at least for me and i can finally move on from my life without her. Walking away from the relationship we have is the greatest gift i can give to myself because it’s a sign of self-love and self respect and I will not let her take that away from me by staying on this kind of relationship. So I’m gonna move on because I believe that one day I will actually cross paths with someone who can reciprocate my energy, and synchronizes with my wavelength. 💯❤️🤟🏻
If you’re ALWAYS initiating conversations and making plans or trying to spend time with people, try just not doing it for a bit.
You’ll quickly realize none of them care about you. They’re not gonna reach out. So just stop and move on. You need new friends/relationships.
It’s painful but it has to be done.
You may even start consulting your partner to find out. Putting your relationship as priority ONE means that you consider everything through the lens of the two of you as a couple and how your decisions and actions will impact your partner and your relationship going forward. This means putting the relationship first.
I just realized that no one made me their priority.. 😂😂😂 well, imma start to prioritize myself then..
This video:2 minutes ago
Comments: 3 months ago
Me: this always happens...
Apparently this happens when the video is unlisted. So even though we're only seeing it today. Its been available for ages, you just had to have a link
Cedella Watson ok sorry I didn't know that
@@romancrisologo4679 no need to be sorry. Actually, I found that out about 3 minutes before I told you... Just thought I'd spread the knowledge... :-D
cedella you are doing good work
keep it up
Pysch2Go uploads at 4:15 in the morning.
Tryin to wake me up, eh?
After seeing this I finally start to feel a bit confident that someone likes me and wants to hang out with me
It is... frightening... how accurate and relatable this video is.
Why is this unlisted lol
👁👄👁
*time travel*
@The Random Guy magic
This video was made today wth??!
3 months ago? Maybe some membership thingy?
This video is very true. I recognize both sides. In the past I've treated certain people as an option who had deserved to be treated as a priority. In my adult life, this fired back to me. Exactly bcs of this reason, I lost a few good friends this year. I learned a lot about this and I asked them straight to the person why they were acting like this? And I learned that probably I start to value people as a priority too soon and I'm lost in how to understand different kinds of friendships. With one of them, I understood from half of these reasons, they don't treat me as a priority, and that it's also because our friendship has changed. Now we are more "loose" friends, which is okey for me. But, I do really miss to have someone treat me as a priority, how I want to treat someone as well. Maybe it would be a cool idea for @psych2go to do a video about different sorts of friendships and/or how to make new / stronger friendships while being in your adult life. :)
People often see me as someone who's able to quickly make friends, and I do, but it's all platonic.
Anyone else struggling with this?
I personally just started to distant myself from them and to accept that, they are my people even if I thought they were. People change or sometimes show you a version of themselves you have never seen before. It's better to find out now then a decade down the track. It hurts but you learn from the pain and move on with your life.
I had someone in my life like that and it hurt so bad. I'm glad that person is no longer in my life, they never deserved my love and support
I was really thinking about this right now.. The timing of this video...
Same
We hope this video gives you clarity. Did you relate to it?
@@Psych2go yes and i really love your all videos.. But it's sad i discovered your channel late.. And the voice it's so soothing.. Please keep up the good work..
I try to treat everyone around me how I would want to be treated. I try comfort them how I can, how I would like people to comfort me. At least I do that to the people that I think didnt get treated how they deserved to be treated. And I am also trying to change, trying to be nicer because that one toxic person I absolutely dont wanna be "best friends" with anymore, changed me so much to the negative. But I still am everyones second choice and that is so annoying, I give people everything, I care about them and our friendship more than they do but they dont give me what I deserve and they continue to put me second choice and treat me like shit.
I had a friend who was very much everything that you put on the list. So I communicated how I felt neglected in the relationship and my friend still didn't bother changing so I decided not to put in anymore effort into that friend. Best decision I made! Showed me if she was a true friend or not.......NOT!
I got myself with such relationship and friendship almost Everytime.
I mean imagine you fill unloved since your childhood 💔💔😔
So insightful and thought provoking 🤔🤔🤯🤯.
Love the channel and content 😁👍🏾
Thank you! Super helpful as always 🥰
Soo heartbreaking it seems 11yrs wasting to a person that knowing u are not the priority
Everytime I'm with my dad, he always asks when was the last time mom stocked up on medicine or got me new clothes. I always 'a while ago' because I don't like to lie. He then tells me that I'm not her top priority. I never believe him, *because I don't live with him.*
The world has to many distractions for me... and yes! Initiative, effort, communication is down to one self.. And does one be an option is this wonderful life? Great videos as usual. How do you know all this stuff 🧐
Thanks for the kind words! The world is a very busy place if we learn to see it! :) Communication is always key, but harder said than done! We just work with what we have! :)
David... I assume this person is a psychologist...
Literally perfect timing
Why, cause of Unus Annus death? Cause if not, I feel really sorry for you...
Same here
What I get out of this is that I'm not anyone's priority, not even my own.
Been there multiple times. I just left that relationship and made myself a priority for me.
Months later, when they needed something and remembered to call me, and, of course, I refused them, they were the ones to angry at me for not saying anything `for so much time` or of being `so selfish and egocentric`.
If I'm not their Priority then why should they be mine?
I Haven't Experience This yet but I Hope I Won't
Well I guess no one prioritize me. That sucks
Yep, I'm in a long term relationship with someone who exhibits most of those signs. He puts other people on a pedestal, people that don't ask him to hang out or anything like that. He pushes himself on them, he looks desperate. They don't care about him. I asked him if that was the secret to gaining his undivided attention is to not give a shit about him.
Sometimes when I'm feeling upset or anxious and my wife isn't around (not even necessarily about them, but just upset in general.) I will go back and watch your videos on romantic relationships. Weather they're about good things or bad things in a relationship, because we either check all of the boxes, or none (like this one.)
To hear such a comforting voice, and pretty arts style tell that my marriage is amazing is enough to soothe even the most anxious mind. (of course I knew this already, but they're asleep, and if I wake them up, they'll know I'm upset and insist on staying up at 4:30 in the morning. I picked a keeper.)
A lot of people go through this with their dead beat dads.
Damn... That is apparently what leads to the person that will accept this type of behaviour vs the person that won't... Dont know how true it is but its meant to be like psycologically/medically proven...
Hii~ a loyal subscriber here. Just a tip from a broadcasting student on voice over. I would like to recommend for whoever doing the voice over to match your tone with the background music. Because I realized a lot of times the topic is sad but the bgm is cheerful. OR the topic is happy but the VO is monotone and the bgm is mellow.
Some changes will help you boost the message of your video.
Other than that, keep up the good work! I learn a lot from your videos~
Awww that was sweet of you...and insightful too. Its interesting when you learn some tricks of someone else trade... Ive always wondered what type of things people that do media (broadcasting, journalism) have to study... :-D
I’m always the one who cares more and they always betray me and leave me.
Yeah. A couple of months ago I had to stop a friendship with someone who was almost top on my priority list...yet I always felt the bottom of theirs.
Its been really tough for me doing this, but it was sadly the right thing to do. Always feeling the bottom of their list hurt me so many times...
After putting so much time, planning, effort & creativity into a gift and being blanked I was broken. It took me a bit to work out we needed to stop being friends & I should move on.
It sucks, it's been really hard - but I know it's been the right thing for me to do. Losing a friendship sucks, even though the friendship left me hurt so much.
Stay strong, I pray for your healing... I have a friend who I prioritised more than she did me, but she stopped talking to me after an argument. I miss her and our friendship sometimes, I even dream about her sometime too, but its been several years now so... We argued because I just felt dismissed... I mean, We've just got off one of those party bus things and I realise that I can't find my bag... Now keep in mind, this bag contains my whole life... Money, bank card (remember were partying as well), phone, house keys... Now the fact that we were partying was low on my priority list but still... I haven't got £50, to throw down the drain, my bank card is also gone so I can't just draw out more money, I have 3 children (at the time, 5 now lol), I do not need to lose, money plus and my main issue, I'm a little overprotective and a worry wart and now my phone is gone so I can't be reached if needs be... Add to this, I live in the black county, my friend had moved to reading, so I'm like a 3 hr drive home... It's the first time I've been to my friends place, we've been friends for years... So I'm like, PLEASE, can you drive me back to your house so I can look for my bag... At this point we've finished our stint on the bus and we're going to the club... The club is a 10 minute drive away from her house... She won't do it, then I realise, oh gosh, I could have left it on the bus, I ask her to call the bus company to see if they found a bag... She'll do that tomorrow... I'm hurt & frustrated because I can't help myself, I dont know anything about the area etc... And I know, had it been the other way around, I would have held off the partying for half hour to try and help my friend... It wouldn't have taken any longer than that to make a phone call, and run me back to her house to have a quick look for my bag... If the bus company had said they have my bag, I would have gladly waited till the next morning to get it... Yea, so this started an argument... Well, she didn't help me, we get back to the house after clubbing, and what do you know... My friend comes downstairs with my bag... We kiss and make up, but then her cousin decides that my apology wasn't sincere, so we start bickering again, because she just picking holes in everything I've tried to say and do to make it up to her... In the end I get fed up, and I'm like look... I said I'm sorry, time & again, I'm not going to keep on apologising can we move on... Well she decided no, she just wanted to keep beating a dead horse and I was just over it. It even got to the point where her partner was like OK just stop now... Keep in mind all of this happened 4 months after my only brother passed away... And that pain was dismissed to because when her partner pointed out that, maybe I was lashing out a bit cus I just lost my brother, she said, something like... Well I lost my dad when I was 15 and I didn't do that... I let that one slide off of me cus I would not have been responsible for my actions had I let that one sink in... Anyway, I left on bad terms, but I really didn't want to lose her, so I left it a couple weeks and phoned her to see if we could move forward, but it was like, same shxt different day... I just came to the conclusion that theirs no fixing this... I tried, more than once, I can do no more... As I said, its been a few years now so...
Whew, sorry for the biopic... Quite therapeutic though... This channel is great... It doesn't feel so lonely here..