Signs You're Being Manipulated Without Realizing
Вставка
- Опубліковано 4 лис 2020
- Manipulators often target insecure, sensitive, and trusting people.
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Denise Ding
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Clarisse Lim Xingyi
UA-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
If you have any personal stories or video requests that you would like to share with us, please email us at editorial@psych2go.net
![ПОЛНАЯ ИСТОРИЯ ЭКЗОРЦИЗМА [Топ Сикрет]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/qBySr6Bt0B8/mqdefault.jpg)
“Speak to people in a way that if they died the next day, you’d be satisfied with the last thing you said to them.” 🙏🏽
I need to remember this
That's kinda scary tho
Wow. Thank for the reminder
Hopefully I’m the one who dies first 😅😅😅 haha.......
@@SomeSCP--withInternetaccess you good?
Help from the future:
1. They do the bare minimum in your relationship 0:38
2. They're only nice @ the beginning 1:01
3. They only see you when they feel like 1:25
4. There is an imbalance in the relationship 1:43
5. They intimidate you into agreeing with them 2:09
6. They act differently behind your back 2:36
7. They're not really interested in getting to know you 3:00
8. They don't respect your boundaries 3:25
9. Relationship/ Friendship feels one-sided 3:50
10. They make you pay for everything 4:19
With love :-)
How wut-
Thank you, kind time traveler
How is this 2 weeks ago-
Thank youuu! 😊
@@zzainii early access. I think patrons get it
“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”
― Bob Marley
Anyone who quotes Bob Marley gets a like from me.
Holy shit that was deep
Great quote very true as well!💛
“Life is one big road with lots of signs
So when you riding through the ruts
Don't you complicate your mind
Flee from hate, mischief and jealousy!
Don't bury your thoughts
Put your vision to reality”
- Bob Marley on Wake Up and Live
200000% disagree
10 signs someone is trying to use you:
1. They do the bare minimum
2. They are only nice at the beginning
3. They only see you when they feel like it
4. Imbalance in the relationship
5. They intimidate you to agree with them (Power play)
6. They act differently behind your back or don't defend you
7. They don't remember Informations about you
8. They don't respect boundaries
9. It feels one sided
10. They make you pay for everything
thanks for the list, stranger!
When I was younger, basically all of my "friends" were like this. This is the reason why I'm happy having no friends rather than these annoying people🙄😌
But having one friend is good 💛
I feel you bro most of my friends were like this too
Same.
Great choice !
yea, it is the best to have a one caring, supportive friend, or no friends , rather than a group of fake ones 💗
and this is why i have severe trust issues. i only trust my bed since it holds me when i sleep.
Yea I feel you too man 😂
I know how that feels but you can still make friends they're people out there wanting to be friends with you go out and meet them!💛
No worries, we can be friends.
*_splat_*
"OW!"
But what if your bed is actually spying you?
My “friend” stopped being friends with me and and our group because she left for a popular girl, I feel bad for her because she’s going to get hurt and it’s not the first time she’s been depressed
and you’re jealous because you wish you could do the same thing. emotions are a bitch.
Well I hope she learns her lesson.
What a _friend_
Be grateful she has shown who she truly is. People(like your “friend”) can be so immature and petty
@@ian6280 i don’t understand..
"If people don't want your friendship they don't deserve it."
“Don’t let people treat you like a cigarette, they only use you when they are bored and step on you when they are done. Be like a drug, let them die for you.”
I love my cigs
@@hel2727 😂
@@hel2727 Hol up-
My god, that’s dark!
But, otherwise, it’s a great metaphor!
@@thebutterscotchkid2481 👍🏻
I need to stop people pleasing.... that's my downfall. The worse part about being used is the gaslighting. I had an ex exactly like this
my ex-boyfriend did this to me. our relationship was one-sided. i did and initiated everything while he just took and took and took. my love. my money. my time. its my fault for not realizing it sooner. i couldn't admit to myself that he was that type of person to use people. he did the same to others around him, it was only a matter of time before i admitted to myself he was doing it to me also. nobody is exempt from users, they only care about themselves. i'm finding it very hard to move on because of the investment i put into him and the way he would make me feel, on top of the world (rarely but it felt special to me). but none of it was genuine. its a hard lesson im learning even at age 28.
Went through the same thing this summer. Perfect time for a narcissist to prey on someone.
That's great that you're getting better. I hope you're moving on and taking it easy for awhile hope you cut that bastard out of your life because there's no place for rude people like that.
Of course it's your fault.
stay strong girl people like him are literal trash and you deserve way better
Same thing I went through. We'll be strong and move on !!
"No one deserves to be treated like this"
Parents: *I will ignore that*
"10 signs someone trying to use you"
Me : im finally useful
Nice joke.
ikr finally
Lol
This just makes me sad to realize that I don't really have any friends 😔
DON'T WORRY.I can be your friend 😀😀
Go make some new ones and cut off the people who aren't your true friends be confident and go get some new pals to hang with 💛
Lemme guess ur in high school? Same. High school is not real life. I promise you. Same with any schools before. It’s not real life and it won’t stay like that I promise.
@@tannersevern8851 Exactly most of my high school friends are like this T_T
Having no friends is better than having fake and using ones ....
i always feel like everyone's using me, even my own family member. I feel like no one's rlly genuine to be my friend. And that's kinda sad.
Sorry to hear that. Hope you get better soon.
👍The conversation is always about them.
They always let you pick up the check
You always have to come to their rescue.
They never say thank you.
They're always asking for favors.
You start to resent them.
My friend has been weird lately, asking for money and stuff all the time. Wondering at the EXACT time, you upload. A sign for sure
If this person has proven to be a Friend in the past, ask what's wrong. Get to the root of the problem.
Don't ever lend money to a friend. Learned that the hard way.
Cut that person OFF
I'm glad to have good friends. Ty Psych2Go
???
H o w ????
2 mO n t h s ?
HOWWWWWWW
Pleases teach me
HOW ARE YALL DOING THIS 😭😭
I have a f fake fren
I was friends with a girl for three/four years. She left me because I wasn't popular enough, and I wasn't pretty enough. Jokes on her I had a glow up and plan on being more social and becoming more popular at this new school.
Hey you...yes you reading this or scrolling by
Just wanted to tell you that
You're amazing
You're worth it
You're beautiful
Don't give up on yourself
Don't quit on yourself
Cuz you know what
I love you❤️❤️
Take care of yourself ....alright??
Love ❤️❤️❤️ you
I have learned to cut off one-sided relationships!!! In the past I have kept these friendships because I felt bad for letting them go but I decided to put myself go. They would only talk to me when they needed something from me and I finally put my foot down!
YES
I DID THE SAME
@@billybob6604 im PROUD OF US
Hi people
We are from future
Make sure to take care of yourself
Bye
Please teach me how to do this
Oh ok human from the future
HOLD UP
Tell me what happens in da future 👁👄👁
pls teach me
Hi! I'm here from the past to tell you that you have the power to change your life, so don't be sad if you haven't found how yet! ^^
-Your local Time traveller
Hello fellow time traveler
Hello Fellow Time Traveller
1 MONTH AGO
HOW DID YOU DO ITT
@@nourwalid5352 they are a paitrion
I love it when people are confused ✨
I am! 🤣🤣 What the hell how these people posted 2 months ago??
?
How's this from 2 weeks ago?
Me to :D
How did you do it
my “friends” only talk to me when they need stuff from me especially answers to the homework and class work and when i ask them they ignore me for more than a day and then make up excuses
Just don't do any favours to such people they are worthless of any favours. Find someone who genuinely comforts you and makes you feel happier in life, you will be happiest in life.
We have the same problem :(
@@eatingpizza2560 I would insist that the same applies to you
@@sanikakadam4992well, thank you for the advice! I will try my best to solve my problem ❤️
@@eatingpizza2560 That's the spirit. You can always share your problems and ask for solutions in the Psych2go community.
i watched this just to make sure i ditched the right person. i did
“Don’t trust people who tell you other people’s secrets.” - Dan Howell
This was an important video for me to watch. Lately I've been feeling very used, being pulled in all directions to help others when I barely have time to work on my goals. And they don't ever make room for me. My one friend is constantly asking me for help with her college assignments. Last year it went too far and took up too much of my time. And now it was pretty much impossible for me to make time for her with all of my other issues. She's really struggling in so many ways right now which aren't at all her fault, and I care about her. I wanted so badly to help but this time I felt a little like no one cared about me. So I said I would see if I could help and let her know. And she waited for me to respond but I never did, and she did poorly on her midterms. So I actually made a big mistake and hurt her and the situation even more because I didn't communicate, I couldn't say no even though I wanted to so badly. Set your boundaries. And if they seem disappointed in you, you need to just make it a conversation. I care about my friend. Just as I apologized for thinking I could make room in my schedule even though it was unrealistic, she apologized too. She said that having people help her is the only way she feels loved. She said she needs to work on that. I think that having this honest conversation really helped us both. Everyone needs space, self healing, and to find the answers that work for you.
This is a great lesson and you can't help someone else until you helped yourself it's not selfish it's self care ❤
@@paniniprincess5211 thank you, it has taken me 20 years of life to start understanding that. Thanks for reading such a long comment ahah! :)
@@reelheck I love reading long comments it's like a book and I've seen longer one's than THIS imagine a comment that looks like a 5 page essay 😐
@@paniniprincess5211 oh thats really cool im glad heheh
I lost a lot of friends because of this. They didn't care about me whatsoever :(
so yeah...i was used all this time...(i had this feeling when i broke with her, because i was the only one who showed how i loved her, and the only thing i received in back was "can you help me?" "could you do me a favor?" in the end, i had the feeling that she never loved me thatt was horrible
I'm so tired of "friends" who do the bare minimum, while I hold on to them for fear of abandonment. :(
wow this gave me a whole new perspective and i think i need to try and treat my friends better i feel absolutely horrible
I've had 9 happen to me a lot, mostly because my parents have taught/raised me to be a giver and sometimes I give so much ex-friends have ended up taking advantage of me because of it. So, then our relationship ends up being one sided
That fact that a friend of many years that I knew was like this to me ..
When Someone shows you who they Are "Believe" them......
Man, so many time travelers in the comments today.
ikr lol
@@random_youtuber8095 these videos are put up early for pateron subs and them made public later.
They have early access that's why
@@SevCaswell I’ve said this as well. It’s pretty easy to realize when you think about it or have been a long time fan of them.
Thanks! I didn't know.
Being used is one of my fears.
You can tell how others feel about you by how genuine their smile is!
Never be so nice that you start to resent the people you're nice to. I didn't realize I was being manipulated until I started to resent the people I was helping.
Had 2 people like this in my life and cut off both of them after I tore my ACL in front of them and they showed zero sympathy. Best thing to ever happen to me. A horrible injury actually has benefitted me so much. Now I have found a great new group of friends!
Would've helped a lot to know this before I met her.
I cared so much about her, that when she stopped talking to me all of the sudden, I (dare to say) became depressed.
It's been three or four years now, and I started to get over it just some time ago.
(Thx to all of those who read this, and I'm sorry if I made a mistake, English is not my native language)
love hearing your story! also dw abt it i didn’t even notice any issues with your speaking! ☺️
I understand how u feel... Ghosting is the worst action to end things and only showed how coward they are. You can do it! Heal at ur own pace :)
I feel like this could potentially happen to me in the future. Thank you for warning me ahead of time ❤️
Even if someone like this approaches you, don't fall for them. Ask some questions to yourself before making anyone your friend, because not everyone deserves a beautiful friendship-
1. Do I genuinely feel happier with this person?
2. Does this person care for my needs or concerns or is least bothered?
3. Is he just sticking with me for his own benefit?
If the answers to these questions are not satisfactory i.e. it proves that this person is either using you or is a fake friend. Beware of such people. Being alone is better than having such fake/toxic or selfish friends.
Ask other people around him, about his nature, obviously you won't directly ask them about that person's nature, but indirectly ask them or observe his behaviours around them. Try to find someone who is genuinely considerate and caring and who makes you feel happier when you are with them, life will be beautiful than ever and if you already have one person who is like that in your life, you are the luckiest person.
The way people talk about other people to you behind their backs is the way they talk about you to other people behind your back.
My mother is always using emotional blackmail to get me to do stuff for her :(
Hello to the Future,
I know you're Life will Be Awesome and you will pick the right partner who will not Use You.
- Totally Not a Time Traveler
xdddd
2 weeks ago-?
i-
@@ellqistic He's a member
HOWWWWWW
Wow, all of this really did happen to my childhood and I'm always sad. At that for almost 13 years I've been always struggling depression until my family and I moving house because my father have job there. Later I'm choose to be coming introvert and losing my weight after that I'm getting back to normal. And yes right now I'm 18 years old .....in 3 month.
This made me remeber when I was in 5th grade, and I got bullied a lot. So when someone asked to be friends, I wouldn't hesitate to say yes because of the bullying.But I didn't realize this person was using me I should've got all the hints when she'd ask me to buy her something from the book fair or when she only talked to me for answers to my homework or test. She wasn't a really nice friend either but she made me believe I would be nothing without her so I stuck by her side, until I finally snapped. She was talking about me and spreading rumors that I heard from all my bullies talking about it.So I told the principal everything and she got expelled along with everyone whoever bullied me. It sucks to get taken advantage of because you think the person you known for half of your life actually cared about you. so the message I am trying to convey here is watch for what the person does watch the small little things they do so that you can see if they're using you or not l.To anyone who's gotten taken advantage of I hope you got justice or cut that person off because nobody deserves it EVER. Loved this video as well great job!😊❤💜💛
Me and this girl were in a "relationship" but then I started to see her true intentions which was to use me to help her pass our thermo class so on the day of the our 2nd midterm I sent her wrong work and then I was going to help her while she took her exam but then I just said I need to go for a business meeting. She might fail that class because she did bad on the first exam, bad on the second exam and now all we have left is a final, so good luck to her and if she didn't try and used me I would have genuinely help her. 😈😈😈
Sign #11. They gaslight you to make it seem like what they ask of you is not what it is. I had a beautiful theater female manager do this to me, that's why I added #11.
Just got out of one. I knew this was going on but I couldn't do anything about it until the year finished at college. This video definitely helps thank you Physc2go!😊
We are glad to help! You got this! :)
Right on my birthday, thank you! Love your videos, they're helping so much ❤️
I love the characters you make for these type of scenarios!
😊👌
I highly dislike people like this its hurtful and painful especially to an empath like me and a kind loving person
the amount of content you guys publish so constantly is so amazing, wow!!
Thank you so much! We are trying so hard to push out more content to PsychFam. 💕 Help us by sharing this video if it helped you! - Cindy
I've learned to give others the same energy they give me. If they can't do favors for me, I can't do favors for them as well. If they are cold, I'm also cold towards them
Facts
I was just recently broken up with by a girl who manipulated me into thinking EVERYTHING was my fault and making me seem AWFUL for the mistakes that i made, took accountability for, and did what I could to make them up to her. I told friends about the relationship, in which she called me manipulative constantly, and every one of them, even friends her and I shared, said she was being manipulative and I can relate all 10 of these things to specific examples of things she did.
When you look back and realize how many people you used....
Ouch
Glad to see I'm not the only one lol
Lol, I already knew this deep down inside. I guess I needed you to help me hear these feelings or thoughts out loud.
Thanks for making this video.
Glad to help! I hope you learned something new from this video! - Cindy
Thank you for this feed... So interesting topic and I really can relate to it... Thanks a lot! 🙏🏿💙🙏🏿
Thank you so much for this incredible vid, it helped me a lot to make my decision ❤️
Damn they uploaded at the perfect time! I was thinking about this lately.
Same, my best friend that i've known for about 6 years has gotten ruder and ruder each year. She yells at me constantly and only cares about what other people should think about her. I went on a group call with 5 people (all the people me and her know) and all of them agreed that they hate her cause of her attitude, she deserved it but i wish she could of gotten better, i feel kind of guilty and sick just thinking about how nobody likes her that much and i wish i could of done her good but she uses all her friends. One time she asked me to buy her something and i said i'm saving up but after that she started whining and yelling an screaming at me so i had to agree. I haven't talked to her in a month and honestly i'm real happy cause she was giving me anxiety and making me feel bad about myself.
PastelGalaxy hope you feel better
Time traveling :D
Da fawk😃✨
BUT HOW??
2 WEEKS AGO-?
WOWW THE PATREON RECEIVE THE VIDEO WAY BEFORE
H-how.
I love how there was a solution and plan of action at the end :)
I had a best friend for twelve years, until last year. During the summer break, she deleted me on all social media, and I noticed a month later- she unfollowed me before that as well, multiple times. I was always the one asking to hang out, and she never wanted to be at my house. She was often angry at me, but I thought it was normal that people where angry sometimes. I often blamed myself, and when we fought, I was the only one to say sorry even though I did nothing wrong. Once, I lost my completely new phone on my way home from her house, and she didn’t let me look for it at her house “because it was my fault, and it shouldn’t affect her”. She also only invited me to the last part of her birthday partys, where she and her friends would go bowling, eat pizza and slush, and then go home to her house and eat cake, and I only got invited to the cake part, not knowing they were going bowling. I’m actually really happy I’m not friends with her anymore. She was really toxic, and I feel like I’m becoming a better person. I don’t hate her tho. I don’t miss her one bit. It’s kind of strange tho, cuz we take the same bus home from school everyday, and walk the same way from the bus. She often glance at me and quickly looks away. I hope she’s having a great life, even though she was like that. I also had another reeeaaally toxic best friend the first to years of school. I was very little so I didn’t understand what she was doing was wrong. When the bell rang, she would hold me, and hit me multiple times. Especially if I did something she didn’t like and she got angry at me. She often hit me, and got angry. I started pretending to be sick so I wouldn’t meet her, when I was SIX. I understand though, cuz her parents got divorced, but still.
That was very long sorry- I just had to get it out. Also, English isn’t my first language, so there might be some sentences that doesn’t make sense. There’s also other things I would like to include, but it’s long enough as it is-
I think I had something similar to this happen to me. I was friends with someone who once got me to write a story for them. I didn't want to, but they kept begging me to, and when I kept saying "no", they pouted which made me feel bad and I did it for them. Throughout the writing process they acted really pushy and demanding and was really nitpicky on what went in the story. They also had me write a second story while working on this one, and they used the same tactics: repeatedly beg me, then pouted about it when I kept telling them no. Not sure if it's the same as using me but yeah.
I feel like a bad friend now and that my friends are bad...
Lots of good info here😊 I just want to add that if you have a friend that doesn't often initiate calls and visits there could be a less cynical reason. In fact, I have complex post traumatic stress disorder and I have a hard time even answering my phone at times. Leaving my home often involves a lot of mental climbing the wall first. I appreciate and love those who don't give up and call me a flake.💖 They are real friends, the best😊
Thank you guys, I think it will help all of us one day
i know that this one person is using me, but i am always so blind to it and even when i do notice i don’t care bc they are all that i have. they are the only person willing to listen to me and i honestly love them. it is just that i know they are using me because they only talk to me when i give them what they want.
Thank you for this video really helps me be more cautious about my friends 😁
No problem 😊 Glad to help! Did you relate to any of these signs?
Thank you so much for this video. There is this guy whom I took as a friend. We were close, but soon it became one-sided. I didn't detect it ealier until recently. He tried those old tactics of being nice only once and draw back, but no more. I have learnt my lesson. It still hurts that we are no more friends. But I love myself too much to be manipulated by him. This video confirmed my thoughts about him.
This is why my family is not around at all. This is why there are very few people around. This is a high percentage of people. If you follow your gut feeling it will let you know. Listen to it. These people are everywhere. They are users. I don't people like this around me. I learned the hard way. I never forgot the lesson
Ladies and gentlemen, my ex girlfriend. I dumped her and continuing to heal.
well done mate
Good job! I hope you'll be fully better soon
Congrats💛
Why? Use her up instead of getting used up lol
@@tairix3616 that’s bad advice in my opinion, what you wouldn’t like to happen to you don’t do it to others
Bruh you dont know how many times I’ve been used by my “friends” I fell for the “my dad works at Nintendo” trick the first time and did everything I can to try to go to my best friends house (I was 9 btw). I soon realized after she moved that she took advantage of me for three entire years. I fell for other things even as I got older, and yea...
anyone relate??
Your videos are really helpful thanks a lot for these videos
"Look at there actions, not there words"
Just an answer for everyone who doesn’t know how these people are “time traveling”. Most of psyche to go’s videos are released to members a few weeks before the public. Happy to clear things up.
Thank you
I was freaking out
How do I get the membership doe
@@nourwalid5352 Patreon I believe
@@nourwalid5352 there used to be a subscription on UA-cam next to the subscribe button as well but I believe that was removed
Video : 10 Signs someone is trying to use you
Me : OMG I am using people😱😱😱
thank you so much i was so sad you guys makey day💕
I’m just watching this even know I already know
OMG 💔💔 that was so hard
I knew it but last night stopped it. I hope you can! :D
This is exactly what I needed lmao I have a "friend" back in college who I let after shifting majors. She's a bit manipulative like in a very subtle manner,e.g. If she can act cute to get out of a situation she will. She's a bad liar yet she still does it.thanks for convincing me that cutting her off my life is a good decision as I have always felt guilty about it lol
Great video!
Just remember, you can't be used if you're useless
i'm extremely guarded and cautious when comes to love and friendships...it's simply a two way street...give and take...i have zero tolerance for takers...♡
Yes is especially true with family!
I have a friend named lily and in online school she always asks me what answer is on whatever we’re doing. Here is story. We were doing math and she asked me what number 14 was and I said the answer when I shouldn’t have then today the teacher wanted to test our knowledge on a test and she asked me what number 2 is. Yes. She talked behind my back before but I told our teacher (that time was in real school) but she keeps texting me what the answer is and stuff and I don’t know if she is using me lol. Can you tell me?
I sounds a lot like my step sister and the worst part is I had to live in the same house under our parent's strict rules and abuse. Her mother always takes her side! Every time she wants something from me I say "NO!" So she runs to her mother with fake tears telling some sort of concocted lie and then she tells my father and I end up treated like I'm the bad guy! Yet he wonders why I never get things done like I was supposed to! I try to explain to them how it was all of my step sisters doing and They chew me out for making up excuses and lying, only I wasn't lying and there was nothing I could do about it! I could have left home but they would later find me, drag me home, beat me to a pulp and then keep me locked in a room! So that wasn't an option. It was by some miracle my real mother helped me out of that situation and helped me to to become independent. I find it hard to trust anyone these days after all of all that cruelty I suffered from others growing up. Other than that, life has been really good so far.
Hi guys! Can you please do a video about the difference between this kind of person - malicious/selfish and someone who is depressed. Sometimes, it feels the same when they don’t seem to care.
Thanks for your posts :)
Hi, could you do video on cutting (for any self harm) Are alternatives :) I’m trying to quit and this would really help thank you
Hewwo I hope you guys have a good day today ,drink some water and spend some time outside 🌟🤗☀️
how do you do this lmaoo
dreaming in hell I don’t knoe
@@dreaminginhell4047 go to their channel,click on a random playlist,there will be a little icon on the video to let you know it's unlisted,meaning the haven't posted it to the public yet so yeah
And you just comment and wait for the confusion
BOT ALERT
BOT ALERT
BOT ALERT
ITS A BOT
Cut out the losers and users that attempt to come in your life before it’s to late and the damage is done emotionally and financially.Financial abusive people are the worst in my experiences.
They only see you, when they feel like it and talking bad behind your back because they are secretly jealous of your access, appearance and so on...
yes, that's why I left all my 'friends'... :D
Hey Psych2Go, can this apply to relationships with parents as well? Cause quite a few of these behaviors seem to describe me and my mom most of the time. I have ADHD and Aspergers Syndrome and yet she sometimes treats me like I'm a freak of nature. Doesn't help that my parents are divorced and to see my dad requires a 4-5 hour airplane flight (not including a layover)
Hello Fellow time travelers
Ye
This was a difficult video to watch but very eye opening
Hey psyh i am a new subscriber and your vids really help me so much
This is the first time I time travelled 🙂
How?!
How to get the membership
Most of these signs I’ve seen in a former girlfriend.
HAH-
Been there, done that, NOT doing it again. My ex-husband did almost everything just as you describe. I finally was able to break free after many torturous years. One good thing about it is that I can identify a person like that very quickly. Once I spot the signs that a person is a manipulator, I make sure to keep them at a distance.
I love your channel and would love to have you on my radio show
HAH, No one uses me, I have no worth nor advantage that can benefit literally anyone lmao #SadButLifeHacks 😭😂