Being emotionally ignored can make a woman/man fall into deep depression! It is very sad how many ppl are going through this behind closed doors! Emotional abuse leaves deep scars! Smh! It's just terrible! Save yourself!
Miss Sasha, I'm in that boat right now. I didn't date for six years, and now I'm broken after dating this dude for sick months. I should have stayed single.
@@butlerubutleru1217 Speak *life* over yourself. Find another word to describe your condition other than *broken* . And don't blame yourself for dating him. Now, you know where you need stronger boundaries. Start learning about (Empaths/Codependency/Narcissism) "Assc Direct" is a great resource/channel. And always remember, the words we choose to place after, I Am, have power. So if you don't already use I Am affirmations, please begin to.🌹
I'm not gonna lie...I'm beyond tired of being that loyal, loving, understanding, supportive to the 100th power woman. Which is why I'm single. Just don't feel like dealing with anyone. Dating nowadays is the hardest smdh.
My father adored me. Women, do not settle for anything less than a man cherishing you, respecting you and holding you up.A real man will help to keep a healthy relationship in balance.. Great video
Just listened to this and I just realized the guy I’m talking to will never have the capability of caring about me that level. Thank you for saving tears and time.
My son has a better marriage even than my own. My husband raised him to be a responsible and hard working family man and I tried to raise him to be a loving, kind and compassionate human being. I told him from day one put no one in front of your wife, not even me. If you want to have a happy marriage put your wife first even before your needs and thank God he has followed those instructions, putting her through dental school, buying her a BMW, well he drove an older car, taking care of her when she was sick. In a lot of situation it takes the mother to tell their sons how to treat their girlfriend and wives, but on the turn of the coin, women who have men like this cannot abuse or take for granted a man that has these qualities.
Party Cake. I agree. We have to grow our sons to be the men that we can be proud of . No excuses. I never had that with my husband of 25years whom I'm now divorcing. I should have left his Narcissistic behind years ago. Even today his family make excuses for him . He has never been made to take responsibility for his actions. Spoilt , spoilt , spoilt . So now they reap what they sow , but they will never admit it . It will always be someone else's fault as his family are unwilling to look at themselves. I have to deal with the lies, character assassination and deflections. While he rides around in his expensive car and designer clothes pretending to be the victim. But I know the true wealth is in my children and he is no longer a presence in their lives as they have also seen through him.
@till infinity I was about to say that her son’s relationship seemed like it could potentially become so that her son would be the victim . There cannot be just one person doing All the Giving in a relationship !! It Must be Equal . I am sorry for you Sir . God Bless .
so true I dated a man for 2yrs. he is 56 I'm 35 he didn't own anything and played games constantly I moved on I'm now happy with a man that truly adores me and appreciates me and we talk about building wealth together it feels so good to be truly loved and desired. date up ladies we deserve and can have better.
Derrick... you must have gone through a lot to be so wise. wise beyond your years! your words and thoughts are greatly appreciated and I pray they touch others and set those who need it most on fire...a fire so strong they can't remain complacent any longer. keep inspiring ☺ thank you!
Either that, or Derrick is the type of man that he talks about in his videos and he's trying to help us avoid men like him. I've seen some videos on here where people are saying he's a fraud and they aren't watching anymore of his videos. I see it like this, the information he is giving is SPOT ON mostly, so either he is wise beyond his years, or he's a user, abuser, narcissist, etc., and he should NOT stop doing these videos in either case.
Stacie Lee most of these men do these video to get girls,likes and to be famous. I wish he is honest, he has good body but he should not take those narcissistic photos on ig
rose eze. It is dumb to concentrate on his body and his pictures instead of the message...you people are so superficial...His messages help both men and women grow into better human beings, if they are mature enough to receive that kind of info....I chose to not care why he " maybe" doing these videos...
be careful tho bc Narcissistic men charm and worship u, making u feel so secured w him...then once ur emotionally hooked..BOOM! u r suddenly trash...its eerie
They are absolutely evil. Mine was all about me until I was married to him and pregnant with our son. He couldn't even be bothered to feel our son kick in my belly. But the asshole sure worked hard to show me how much he valued family, and how hurt he was from being cheated on by all these other women. It kills your soul to commit to a man like that. If you have been there, or still are there like me, you're not alone, and it is not your fault. Only a narc can spin the web so well that even a smart, good, educated woman will fall into the trap. Motherfuckers are Satan.
Lucky I ain't kill his small joint narco ass. GTFOH with that fake shit u not hair or nails or costume jewelry nor a knock off bag. WTF I don't tolerate any kind of fake love internet social media hype nonsense. U picked the right one your satan set u up from you bowed n had u meet a child of Jah. Knowing it would mash you up eternally for your disrespect. Ya whole evil plot must spin right back around on u like a draddle top and send u n your flunky arse demons str8 back down to the abyss. #Ladies Don't Sulk Be Strong tekk them out one by one as they try come. Someone has to be Wonder Women, someone has to protect society! If u detect these kind of rubbish men crush them like the cockroaches they are. They dont believe they can receive consequences for their actions against humanity. Give them double for the trouble. N if u had enough go repent n know your innocent n let God give you your greatest love on Earth in a good normal God fearing man after you conquer dat rubbish!
Amen.... I had one and let him go after 7 yrs and one baby girl. He won't see his daughter if he's mad at me lol his loss. I'm so over him! He tries to come back in my life but I'm not giving him the Light of day!!!! I never once told him he couldn't see his child smh. Narcissis 👎🏾🔥
Ronnice Johnson i just went thorough the same thing had to let go of my past so my furture can come he was no good n 40 n still rather be in the street with homies then home making a life when he had it great. All needs meet didnt want 4 nth but went bk to his ex who couldnt offer him shit ..guess nothing plus nth equals nth they can have eachother n whn i start doing better he think hell have mw back umm no sir im good ✌...be strong n knw your worth.
I needed this. I had a friend for two years. He turned into such a jerk. Very emotional hot and cold. Acting like he wants a relationship but doesn't want one. Wants the benefits but not making a commitment. I deserve a hell of a lot better than him. I was always there for him but he didn't connect with me whenever things were bothering me. All he did was insult and criticize me. Telling me I have issues...no real man will ever want me or take me seriously. I need to be thankful he even is interested in me. But made me feel like I wasn't shit. Like I had nothing. But I have about two college degrees, published author and working on building my own dream business and have my own home.
Author Janae Marie I’m in the same boat. Actions speak louder than words. I decided to move on bc there are men out there way better and will do what others won’t do..
This message truly touched me! I'm currently in this situation!, A part of you is tired of waiting for consistent change and you just want to throw in the towel, then the other part of you doesn't want to throw away the time invested!
Kat brock Sometimes the time invested or history that you have with a person does not matter if you are not Happy, loved, appreciated, understood, respected, or adored. Never sacrifice your Happiness by settling with the wrong person. Know your worth and you deserve to be Happy. You will never be the "Right One" for the wrong person. If you're not growing with this person and value is not being added to your life....it may be time to move on.....Pray about it and weigh the pros n cons.....It will be revealed what you need to do....You are a Queen and deserve to be treated like one my Sister.....We are supposed to get into relationships to build, but that's hard to come by these days.....I lived and I learned....Thank God that now at 40 I now know my worth and what I truly deserve.....Sorry for long response...speaking from the heart...I am my brothers and my Sisters Keeper. God Bless!
Tori Williams, truer words have never been spoken, no need to apologize for the lengthy message, your message is a blessing I needed to read! I keep hoping for a day that he'll " get it together" but I'm slowly coming to the realization that day may never come. I'm going to pray on it! Thank you for your comment, God bless you!
Tori Williams this message summed up my whole 4 years relationship, and I recently mustered up the strength to leave because I deserve so much more. He took me for granted because I loved him but now I am loving myself. He said he'd change but goes back to his old ways. Thanks for the encouragement
Lynette L. Russell Just straighten up your crown. You are a queen and you are more than enough to the man God specificly designed just for you....Stay Encouraged, Keep the Faith, Continue to Love yourself and prepare yourself for who God has for you....Peace & Blessings to you my Sister!
I needed to hear this. I shouldn’t have to beg a man to show me how much he cares for me, like he says he does. His words mean nothing without action. And his actions don’t hold weight without consistency. I love him. But if I stay any longer, it’ll cost me even more of my self worth. I no longer have the heart to try, or to fight for this relationship on my own.
Ur the best. The woman who has u in her life is truly blessed. Ur a real man and I enjoy hearing ur words. If more men thought like u it would be a better place.
Amen my last relationship I gave my all. But I realized that he wasn't putting effort in the relationship as much as I was so I confronted him. Even after I confronted him there was no change so I just left it alone. Eventually last week he stop talking to me and moved on with some other Female. So pretty much he did the easiest job for me by finding someone else. Which was easy for me because I had already knew this relationship was going to fall down hill. I rather be single for now that being with someone who doesn't appreciate me at all and constantly leaving me.
Jalecia Jefferson I been through same mess,drama I accepted an move on an woman he with now dont give damn a bout him he though grass was greener it was he got what he deserve. He misery as hell. I move on. It gets better thxs to Derrick video I listen daily so I don't make mistakes an so no one can run the same drama
Great video, I dated a man with this problem, prideful, attitude selfish, had enough of his ugly way, fed up realized that was not love, & you can not change people, if you give your all 100% & not getting same in return its time to let them go, better alone then wasting time & be miserable, with someone who doesn't see your value.
"Get you a man that reflects your efforts," beautiful... I really needed this. I haven't been in a relationship for over 2 years. I recently felt I was able to date last year, and wanted it to work so bad I excused him ignoring me because it was so early on in the dating stage. End result, it ended horribly and I try to forget about it. That point in the end of this video really touched me because I haven't been looking for a guy to match my level of effort, or felt men had to (just realized this was my way of thinking too). Though I'm trying to embrace this moment of singleness, it's good to see the worth in self and effort and to seek that as a prerequisite moving forward.
True!! I've been thru this when I made my ex mad, he wouldn't talk for days or longer. When I finally would get fed up, he'd try to get me back like nothing happened. Too much damage done. Felt I was trying to "fix" him or wondering if it was really me? I would not advise anyone to keep accepting the silent treatment. Keep walking away if u have to. It's so great when a guy cherishes you, they communicate which is healthy, even if they're mad.. they still make you feel loved...Amen! 💜
I always dropped everything when my ex needed me. I was there when he was down. He always ignored me for long periods and I constantly asked if there was anything I could do better. I thought I needed to improve but not it was he who needed to. I always felt like he didn’t care and that i wasn’t important. That shit can ruin a person. A woman will do so much for a man to please and love him. We have so much love to give only for it to be thrown in our faces. I knew my relationship wasn’t healthy but I stayed because I loved him so much. But I didn’t beg him to hang on when he broke up with me; I know I deserve better.
been a year with this 3 hour away relationship, I see now that he really doesn't, want me.his mouth, say one thing, but his actions say it all, I'm done !! living with his mom, never talk about he and I doing something together, girl gone !!
So you picked an LDR with some loser that lives with his momma? LOL. I can only imagine the mistakes you've made pifking men, and bet there were tons of perfectly normal men all around you, but you chose this impossible situation because it appealed to your emotional position. That's a major detrimental trait of women. It causes you to make so many bad decisions.
I wish I heard this year's ago... it took me too long to figure out my ex was never going to be There for me emotionally unless he could use the info against me later...
knoctavia washington I am already in tears because I am in love with MA boyfriend and I just hope this isn't true and I am not in this situation. we were best friends and we both wanted 2 cross the line. how can this b tru
damn...you set it off in the last couple of seconds in this video. My eyes are watering thinking about the effort I have given to fuckboys. the last couple of seconds renewed me. Thanks, Derrick...for real.
make a video about these women that need to stop getting use to bs to the point where she looks at a good guy as if he is weird because he treats the way she should be treated. Thanks bro
I can't believe this, another day and another video that is running parallel to my life! I'm so glad you mentioned the man that isn't perfect, but is willing to step outside of his comfort zone to keep his significant other and himself happy and progressing. Once again, thank you.
I always feel so comforted hearing the deep truth within all of your messages. I only know too well how it feels to give my all, and to be met with this type of disrespect. Now I'm working on myself and how to say no to less than I deserve 🤔👍 TY
Those good dudes really do exist. I know firsthand. If you can't find one, honest to God it's so much better and healthier to stay celibate and with yourself. Cuz the ignoring or mean guys JUST. AREN'T. WORTH. IT.
I'm not a perfect man but I'm a good man and I listen to the girl I be with.. I'm now single now because the girl said I was a bitch for trying to tell her my feeling about her and what I need from her and what I will give to you.. now I gave 1000% of myself to this but she still didn't care, so I let her go.. after that once I got with someone else she wanted me back.. she Facebook me and I blocked her because I was in a relationship at the time.. I'm single because the girl I was in a relationship with was cheating.. so it's not just some man ignore women, it's women that ignore men too..
Joey Jackson amen brother , it goes both ways , men are ignored and undermined most women don't even know that has emotion too, because most of them can Care less about our emotional side unless it's us being emotional about there needs and the hell with men's needs because it really don't matter to most,just talking load but really ain't saying nothing.
Joey Jackson amen brother , it goes both ways , men are ignored and undermined most women don't even know that has emotion too, because most of them can Care less about our emotional side unless it's us being emotional about there needs and the hell with men's needs because it really don't matter to most,just talking load but really ain't saying nothing.
Joey Jackson yeah it's true, then some will say why are you talking to this person why are you talking to that person you could have came and confide in me, but I've been trying to it's just that you're not listening you're so caught up into yourself you don't hear nothing else then when you stop talking now them pissed and feel like they're disrespected.
Point blank said. Yes, just that this because when you are fully there and fully worked on yourself you will never settle for less because you respect yourself so much so if you are settling for this type of men that means you have a lot to work on personally and take pride in that enjoy that journey of working on yourself. I am
Wow, I have no words. This message was for me. It’s hard when you have become emotionally attached to someone and truly love the person and have to let go. Everything about what you said is so true. Being in a relationship and feeling ignored everyday is very depressing. In my case, depressing and disappointing because I’m pregnant. But I’m worth someone’s time and I know this. I’m financially stable, on my own, and have my own everything and am a really good person but I need to open up my eyes and be valued. Hearing this makes me know that there are people out there that will value me. I just need more self discipline, patience, and focus to finding and loving myself first. Thank you for your words and time.
I always had thought that being fat was the reason I hadn't found a good man to be in a serious relationship... but I've noticed that literally everyone has been in these same situations! Definitely letting go and waiting to find that man that adores you is hard because its a lonely road to him!
Thank you. Great video. Yes...I am experiencing this right now. He has grown so much since we decided to commit. We went thru the changes...but...he fixed it. Never thought about it this way. He does adore me, because....he cleaned up the lingering Batchelor habits that still had the player moves. He knew that I was not playing and has stepped up significantly. That is why I love him so. Thank u for this Derick.
You hit home with this one. Just ended a relationship because he ignored me emotionally, and proved time and time again that he didn't feel the need to put in any effort or fight to make the changes to ultimately have a happy and successful relationship.....thank you for confirming that my decision to let go was not in vain.
Desha Jackson-Simmons my husband and I been together since 2013 got married in 2016 and since day 1 I been giving my all but I’m starting to see that he is only giving me maybe 25% of his time it’s like I’m not his priority but after listening to this video I see things more clearly
I'm going through a really harsh breakup and it is so heartbreaking. But I am so grateful for your videos. I know I was more than he deserved. I'd even done research to try to better help him with a fictitious problem he uses to seek attention and sympathy to make women want to be there for him. I was so busy trying to help heal his pain, I couldn't see how he was causing me pain. Thank you for these videos. You give me hope that there are still good men and that a broken heart can be overcome. God bless you.
I gave a lot to a man who was indeed ignoring me emotionally. I tried so hard to be patient and give multiple opportunities to show that he cared but it was just more confusion and disappointment. I am so thankful for videos like this bc few ppl speak the truth on what things really are.
Thanks so much for posting all your video’s on your views. Your analytical perceptions are so profound, rational and solid across the board. Just wanted to express gratitude and appreciation, bless you Derrick 👊🌷
I just stumbled upon your channel and you are wise beyond your years. I play your videos on loop for strength to keep my no contact, in tact. Cause its easy to get weak when lonely.
I needed to hear this.. It brought tears to to my eyes. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you for who are. Thank you for everything you are doing and for being a willful vessel that God uses. I truly appreciate you and the truth you elicit through your videos. Respectfully, Future Nurse Practitioner
You have noooo idea, my whole life i was abused in everyway, explainable and unexplainable ways, 4 a while i gave up, thinking worse of men...but seeing people like you is a big part of my healing, thank you 4 empowering us!! THANK YOU!!😇
Right on Team Jaxn! And don't fall for the same one who only steps up intermittently because he thinks someone else is knocking at ur door. If that's the only thing that drives him to you, competitiveness, he's not really for you. God bless!
Now this man has his shit together. Ran across him on utube recently as have had my heart shattered by a beautiful man who is absolutely adored. GOD bless Derrick Jaxn. Of all research ive done recently to help deal with my situation this man is the only one who makes sense. GOD bless you Derrick and Thank you for all women out there and especially for me. i appreciate that you give advice to men too. You have a true GOD given gift. YOU are helping me get thru this horrible pain. GOD BLESS you and much peace!!
Thanks Derrick! Great advice. Was too busy being there for him. Was always trying to survive the tornado of lies & deception, shunning & neglecting, raging inferno of a man to even remember I existed & should be adored.
I go by Grandma's motto... "Betta make sure HE loves you a little more than YOU love him!" I have a hubby who thinks I walk on water and because I was so into MY issues I almost let him go. Thank Allah for knocking some sense into me!! Keep up the Good work, Dear Heart.
This is the truth you don't have to cheat on your women to lose her you can lose her by being emotionally detached from your relationship
Beauty OnABudget
Amen!!!
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I’ve just experienced this. It was weird because we were supposedly together but I felt so alone.
Preach
My Grandma used to say...
"Find a Man who loves you a little bit more than you Love him."
Sonja Teal did your grandma have a solution for those of us without a magic wand?
Sonja Teal Tried that. And it backfired...
NaDean Bowles I've seen plenty of women who have that option but choose someone who is more of a challenge.
Sonja Teal mine said that too!!
Mine too and I thought she was nuts....25 years later I completely get it!!!
For me I find that if a man is ignoring you emotionally he will also ignore you physically too.
So true
😭 it just hurts so bad when you give your all and they dont appreciate. I'm still mad at him, but glad I'm done with mistreatment!
Keep loving yourself... do things for yourself, and know that you deserve better! 💕
Being emotionally ignored can make a woman/man fall into deep depression! It is very sad how many ppl are going through this behind closed doors! Emotional abuse leaves deep scars! Smh! It's just terrible! Save yourself!
Miss Sasha, I'm in that boat right now. I didn't date for six years, and now I'm broken after dating this dude for sick months. I should have stayed single.
I agree 100%.
@@butlerubutleru1217 Speak *life* over yourself. Find another word to describe your condition other than *broken* . And don't blame yourself for dating him. Now, you know where you need stronger boundaries. Start learning about (Empaths/Codependency/Narcissism) "Assc Direct" is a great resource/channel. And always remember, the words we choose to place after, I Am, have power. So if you don't already use I Am affirmations, please begin to.🌹
Thank you. You gave me a push...
Happened to me! I am just now recovering.
I needed to hear this....I know I did right by letting him go
Jasmine Carr Confirmation for me too.
Jasmine Carr Same here!!
Jasmine Carr same here!!!!!!
Jasmine Carr been there it's like a weight was lifted off of me
same here!
Women who don't have a father like myself can really benefit from hearing this.
Alicia TheG truth ❤️❤️
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Or a dad like mine that’s been married to my mom 30 years and not of quality.
💯💯💯💯💯💯
My father passed away when I was two years old.
I just broke up with my boyfriend, you influenced my decision 💀. I'm a diamond, I have to be a priority, no matter what.
Your lonelyness turns to insecurity. Then you become deeply depressed & you stop caring about yourself & lose yourself in the process😔..
Earth Angel how do we get through that? 😭
A man that lets that happen wants that to happen
@@burneraccount4602 I need to come back and re'read this thread. Love you ladies
"that's not love, that's depletion" SO TRUE
I'm not gonna lie...I'm beyond tired of being that loyal, loving, understanding, supportive to the 100th power woman. Which is why I'm single. Just don't feel like dealing with anyone. Dating nowadays is the hardest smdh.
I agree.
I totally agree...it seems more stressful
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Real talk
Stay away from dotish men. You're Guyanese, so you know what I mean.
My father adored me. Women, do not settle for anything less than a man cherishing you, respecting you and holding you up.A real man will help to keep a healthy relationship in balance.. Great video
"I deserve a man who reflects my efforts. "
Right on, Derrick. Thanks.
Just listened to this and I just realized the guy I’m talking to will never have the capability of caring about me that level. Thank you for saving tears and time.
My son has a better marriage even than my own. My husband raised him to be a responsible and hard working family man and I tried to raise him to be a loving, kind and compassionate human being. I told him from day one put no one in front of your wife, not even me. If you want to have a happy marriage put your wife first even before your needs and thank God he has followed those instructions, putting her through dental school, buying her a BMW, well he drove an older car, taking care of her when she was sick. In a lot of situation it takes the mother to tell their sons how to treat their girlfriend and wives, but on the turn of the coin, women who have men like this cannot abuse or take for granted a man that has these qualities.
Party Cake. I agree. We have to grow our sons to be the men that we can be proud of . No excuses. I never had that with my husband of 25years whom I'm now divorcing. I should have left his Narcissistic behind years ago. Even today his family make excuses for him . He has never been made to take responsibility for his actions. Spoilt , spoilt , spoilt . So now they reap what they sow , but they will never admit it . It will always be someone else's fault as his family are unwilling to look at themselves. I have to deal with the lies, character assassination and deflections. While he rides around in his expensive car and designer clothes pretending to be the victim. But I know the true wealth is in my children and he is no longer a presence in their lives as they have also seen through him.
@till infinity I was about to say that her son’s relationship seemed like it could potentially become so that her son would be the victim . There cannot be just one person doing All the Giving in a relationship !! It Must be Equal . I am sorry for you Sir . God Bless .
Every time i hear u i feel like sending flowers to your mom/dad for raising u this way 💖👌
leads to depression
Angela Smith absolutely 😞 Unfortunately this is too true.
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You stop caring about yourself..😔
Yep that's what they want tho to shut you up and just give give give to them.Selfish fucks
Where are the real men? I need to attract a new class of men.
They are out here
Angelita Hudson Where where
Lol... He'll find you... Sometimes we are too occupied with life or the wrong ppl we dnt see him... too many distractions
in the friend zone
Farah Ideal - Rotflmao 😂😂😂 'in the friend zone', that's real, we can be a trip 😭
so true I dated a man for 2yrs. he is 56 I'm 35 he didn't own anything and played games constantly I moved on I'm now happy with a man that truly adores me and appreciates me and we talk about building wealth together it feels so good to be truly loved and desired. date up ladies we deserve and can have better.
This is so familiar I am 36 ,he is 54 ..waste of time,i am highly ambitious feels like i am stifling..i am out mentally, hoping to get my place soon
Preach!! He can kick rocks with no socks!! Upgrade mode🙌🏽🙏🏽
Derrick... you must have gone through a lot to be so wise. wise beyond your years! your words and thoughts are greatly appreciated and I pray they touch others and set those who need it most on fire...a fire so strong they can't remain complacent any longer. keep inspiring ☺ thank you!
Either that, or Derrick is the type of man that he talks about in his videos and he's trying to help us avoid men like him. I've seen some videos on here where people are saying he's a fraud and they aren't watching anymore of his videos. I see it like this, the information he is giving is SPOT ON mostly, so either he is wise beyond his years, or he's a user, abuser, narcissist, etc., and he should NOT stop doing these videos in either case.
Rissa C no he's stating the obvious just for someone
Reason women act like a man saying it makes it facts vs their own intuition 🙄 ding dong
SJ lol I see right thru him...
aleesa rogers lol, so do you believe he's a fraud like some are saying?
Spiritual Beauty you don't think he's who he's portraying to be?
My hats off to you for your consistency. Hopefully, your example will encourage more men to stand up and speak out too.
Keenan Wade That's too bad because it should be a human being code instead of a bro code.
Stacie Lee most of these men do these video to get girls,likes and to be famous. I wish he is honest, he has good body but he should not take those narcissistic photos on ig
rose eze. It is dumb to concentrate on his body and his pictures instead of the message...you people are so superficial...His messages help both men and women grow into better human beings, if they are mature enough to receive that kind of info....I chose to not care why he " maybe" doing these videos...
Bianca Neve Really!!??
@@K33nan97w go have relationships with your bros then.
Enough was Enough! So happy I ended it! Self worth is number one.
be careful tho bc Narcissistic men charm and worship u, making u feel so secured w him...then once ur emotionally hooked..BOOM! u r suddenly trash...its eerie
They are absolutely evil. Mine was all about me until I was married to him and pregnant with our son. He couldn't even be bothered to feel our son kick in my belly. But the asshole sure worked hard to show me how much he valued family, and how hurt he was from being cheated on by all these other women. It kills your soul to commit to a man like that. If you have been there, or still are there like me, you're not alone, and it is not your fault. Only a narc can spin the web so well that even a smart, good, educated woman will fall into the trap. Motherfuckers are Satan.
You right, and probly some are lurking around here learning better ways to trip us up.
Love bombing stage followed by the devaluation stage which leads to the discard stage
Lucky I ain't kill his small joint narco ass. GTFOH with that fake shit u not hair or nails or costume jewelry nor a knock off bag. WTF I don't tolerate any kind of fake love internet social media hype nonsense. U picked the right one your satan set u up from you bowed n had u meet a child of Jah. Knowing it would mash you up eternally for your disrespect. Ya whole evil plot must spin right back around on u like a draddle top and send u n your flunky arse demons str8 back down to the abyss. #Ladies Don't Sulk Be Strong tekk them out one by one as they try come. Someone has to be Wonder Women, someone has to protect society! If u detect these kind of rubbish men crush them like the cockroaches they are. They dont believe they can receive consequences for their actions against humanity. Give them double for the trouble. N if u had enough go repent n know your innocent n let God give you your greatest love on Earth in a good normal God fearing man after you conquer dat rubbish!
Amen.... I had one and let him go after 7 yrs and one baby girl. He won't see his daughter if he's mad at me lol his loss. I'm so over him! He tries to come back in my life but I'm not giving him the Light of day!!!! I never once told him he couldn't see his child smh. Narcissis 👎🏾🔥
man I'm at this point, at this very moment! i just told him I not doing this anymore it's over. he is flipping out right now. 😢😢😢😢
Ronnice Johnson I hope you are safe& okay sis
yes been their walked away best thing I ever did now in a better relationship with a man I dated 15 years ago we are both very happy now.
Ronnice Johnson i just went thorough the same thing had to let go of my past so my furture can come he was no good n 40 n still rather be in the street with homies then home making a life when he had it great. All needs meet didnt want 4 nth but went bk to his ex who couldnt offer him shit ..guess nothing plus nth equals nth they can have eachother n whn i start doing better he think hell have mw back umm no sir im good ✌...be strong n knw your worth.
I needed this. I had a friend for two years. He turned into such a jerk. Very emotional hot and cold. Acting like he wants a relationship but doesn't want one. Wants the benefits but not making a commitment. I deserve a hell of a lot better than him. I was always there for him but he didn't connect with me whenever things were bothering me. All he did was insult and criticize me. Telling me I have issues...no real man will ever want me or take me seriously. I need to be thankful he even is interested in me. But made me feel like I wasn't shit. Like I had nothing. But I have about two college degrees, published author and working on building my own dream business and have my own home.
Author Janae Marie I’m in the same boat. Actions speak louder than words. I decided to move on bc there are men out there way better and will do what others won’t do..
Sounds like Mark. The person I was with for 5 years
He showed classic signs of being a narcissist!
Same situation I’m going through
You were dating a narrcicist.They can't love you..only themselves.
damn, my own father never told me I deserve a man that adores me...thanks.
Pricey Princess Mine neither... Had to reprogram myself to recognize and only accept what I truly deserve!
This helped me walk away from this type of treatment tonight. Thank you Derrick.
I need to let him go
Malinda Hill Did you do it?
Same here girl.
I did.. After this video. I've been single now 2 years. Feels so amazing. I love it. He was definitely toxic and no good for me.
Same
Yes, let Derrick Jackoff GO!
This message truly touched me! I'm currently in this situation!, A part of you is tired of waiting for consistent change and you just want to throw in the towel, then the other part of you doesn't want to throw away the time invested!
Kat brock Sometimes the time invested or history that you have with a person does not matter if you are not Happy, loved, appreciated, understood, respected, or adored. Never sacrifice your Happiness by settling with the wrong person. Know your worth and you deserve to be Happy. You will never be the "Right One" for the wrong person. If you're not growing with this person and value is not being added to your life....it may be time to move on.....Pray about it and weigh the pros n cons.....It will be revealed what you need to do....You are a Queen and deserve to be treated like one my Sister.....We are supposed to get into relationships to build, but that's hard to come by these days.....I lived and I learned....Thank God that now at 40 I now know my worth and what I truly deserve.....Sorry for long response...speaking from the heart...I am my brothers and my Sisters Keeper. God Bless!
Tori Williams, truer words have never been spoken, no need to apologize for the lengthy message, your message is a blessing I needed to read! I keep hoping for a day that he'll " get it together" but I'm slowly coming to the realization that day may never come. I'm going to pray on it! Thank you for your comment, God bless you!
Kat brock You are so Welcome!! God Bless You...Keep the Faith!!
Tori Williams this message summed up my whole 4 years relationship, and I recently mustered up the strength to leave because I deserve so much more. He took me for granted because I loved him but now I am loving myself. He said he'd change but goes back to his old ways. Thanks for the encouragement
Lynette L. Russell Just straighten up your crown. You are a queen and you are more than enough to the man God specificly designed just for you....Stay Encouraged, Keep the Faith, Continue to Love yourself and prepare yourself for who God has for you....Peace & Blessings to you my Sister!
Yup! Spot on!! I just dumped someone for not giving a damn!
I needed to hear this. I shouldn’t have to beg a man to show me how much he cares for me, like he says he does. His words mean nothing without action. And his actions don’t hold weight without consistency. I love him. But if I stay any longer, it’ll cost me even more of my self worth. I no longer have the heart to try, or to fight for this relationship on my own.
beeswax SAMMMMMMEEEEE
Ur the best. The woman who has u in her life is truly blessed. Ur a real man and I enjoy hearing ur words. If more men thought like u it would be a better place.
Moni Love44 Lets.hope.so but it would be nice to.hear her version of this guy. He sounds nice.
Amen my last relationship I gave my all. But I realized that he wasn't putting effort in the relationship as much as I was so I confronted him. Even after I confronted him there was no change so I just left it alone. Eventually last week he stop talking to me and moved on with some other Female. So pretty much he did the easiest job for me by finding someone else. Which was easy for me because I had already knew this relationship was going to fall down hill. I rather be single for now that being with someone who doesn't appreciate me at all and constantly leaving me.
Jalecia Jefferson I went through the EXACT SAME THING.
Jalecia Jefferson I been through same mess,drama I accepted an move on an woman he with now dont give damn a bout him he though grass was greener it was he got what he deserve. He misery as hell. I move on.
It gets better thxs to Derrick video I listen daily so I don't make mistakes an so no one can run the same drama
Great video, I dated a man with this problem, prideful, attitude selfish, had enough of his ugly way, fed up realized that was not love, & you can not change people, if you give your all 100% & not getting same in return its time to let them go, better alone then wasting time & be miserable, with someone who doesn't see your value.
Amen!
😩 I've been screaming that I've been giving 100% and only getting 50%.
"Get you a man that reflects your efforts," beautiful... I really needed this. I haven't been in a relationship for over 2 years. I recently felt I was able to date last year, and wanted it to work so bad I excused him ignoring me because it was so early on in the dating stage. End result, it ended horribly and I try to forget about it.
That point in the end of this video really touched me because I haven't been looking for a guy to match my level of effort, or felt men had to (just realized this was my way of thinking too). Though I'm trying to embrace this moment of singleness, it's good to see the worth in self and effort and to seek that as a prerequisite moving forward.
Me too. I was single for six years, and dated this dude for six months and regret it. I may need another six years to get over this mess.
We need more guys like you on UA-cam !
True!! I've been thru this when I made my ex mad, he wouldn't talk for days or longer. When I finally would get fed up, he'd try to get me back like nothing happened. Too much damage done. Felt I was trying to "fix" him or wondering if it was really me? I would not advise anyone to keep accepting the silent treatment. Keep walking away if u have to. It's so great when a guy cherishes you, they communicate which is healthy, even if they're mad.. they still make you feel loved...Amen! 💜
I always dropped everything when my ex needed me. I was there when he was down. He always ignored me for long periods and I constantly asked if there was anything I could do better. I thought I needed to improve but not it was he who needed to. I always felt like he didn’t care and that i wasn’t important. That shit can ruin a person. A woman will do so much for a man to please and love him. We have so much love to give only for it to be thrown in our faces. I knew my relationship wasn’t healthy but I stayed because I loved him so much. But I didn’t beg him to hang on when he broke up with me; I know I deserve better.
been a year with this 3 hour away relationship, I see now that he really doesn't, want me.his mouth, say one thing, but his actions say it all, I'm done !! living with his mom, never talk about he and I doing something together, girl gone !!
Sharon Stallwort 🏃🏽🏃🏽🏃🏽
So you picked an LDR with some loser that lives with his momma? LOL. I can only imagine the mistakes you've made pifking men, and bet there were tons of perfectly normal men all around you, but you chose this impossible situation because it appealed to your emotional position. That's a major detrimental trait of women. It causes you to make so many bad decisions.
For real...that's why I want to focus on my child for now. Imma be alright ;-) 👀
Quin Arnett yeah u are! !!❤
Amen.
I wish I heard this year's ago... it took me too long to figure out my ex was never going to be There for me emotionally unless he could use the info against me later...
your channel saved my life
This hit home for me to the point I want to cry..I needed to hear this. thank-you Mr.Jaxn
Me too.
knoctavia washington me too.
knoctavia washington I am already in tears because I am in love with MA boyfriend and I just hope this isn't true and I am not in this situation. we were best friends and we both wanted 2 cross the line. how can this b tru
Ms Joyful Love33 me too
damn...you set it off in the last couple of seconds in this video. My eyes are watering thinking about the effort I have given to fuckboys. the last couple of seconds renewed me. Thanks, Derrick...for real.
I love to listen to you. your woman is very lucky! you are so insightful. thank you
Then you get a man who adores you and 3 years later he has turned into a completely controlling psycho.
sponge bob Leave🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️
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sponge bob and if he does you leave his ass to which is why we need to be independent and love ourselves
This literally has me crying 😢😢 Thank you for this
U r too sharp 4 words.😊
make a video about these women that need to stop getting use to bs to the point where she looks at a good guy as if he is weird because he treats the way she should be treated. Thanks bro
pharmac2 i am that girl. We have been accustomed to da whole mess already so we put our guard up. Just be consistent
Damn you got it right!! I am one of those women who gives my all in a relationship 😊 and I hate when a guy ignores me.
When I heard your message tears just begin falling that is my truth
I can't believe this, another day and another video that is running parallel to my life! I'm so glad you mentioned the man that isn't perfect, but is willing to step outside of his comfort zone to keep his significant other and himself happy and progressing. Once again, thank you.
you speak so much real... be having me in tears because this hits home for me
I always feel so comforted hearing the deep truth within all of your messages. I only know too well how it feels to give my all, and to be met with this type of disrespect. Now I'm working on myself and how to say no to less than I deserve 🤔👍 TY
Crying real tears right now😢
I'm so glad to hear this. I think I give too much
NEVER HAD A MAN ADORE LIKE THEY EXIST???? Been ignored my whole life
Those good dudes really do exist. I know firsthand. If you can't find one, honest to God it's so much better and healthier to stay celibate and with yourself. Cuz the ignoring or mean guys JUST. AREN'T. WORTH. IT.
@@christianone6611 That's what im doing
@@arteisiacalvin6286 Good for you!
Me too
He ain't talking to y'all...He's talking to us!
The one's that give 💯
I'm not a perfect man but I'm a good man and I listen to the girl I be with.. I'm now single now because the girl said I was a bitch for trying to tell her my feeling about her and what I need from her and what I will give to you.. now I gave 1000% of myself to this but she still didn't care, so I let her go.. after that once I got with someone else she wanted me back.. she Facebook me and I blocked her because I was in a relationship at the time.. I'm single because the girl I was in a relationship with was cheating.. so it's not just some man ignore women, it's women that ignore men too..
Joey Jackson
amen brother , it goes both ways ,
men are ignored and undermined
most women don't even know that has emotion too, because most of them can Care less about our emotional side unless it's us being emotional about there needs and the hell with men's needs because it really don't matter to most,just talking load but really ain't saying nothing.
Joey Jackson
amen brother , it goes both ways ,
men are ignored and undermined
most women don't even know that has emotion too, because most of them can Care less about our emotional side unless it's us being emotional about there needs and the hell with men's needs because it really don't matter to most,just talking load but really ain't saying nothing.
Paul Foster yeah.. and get mad when you find someone that would listen to you.. it's quite weird to me
Joey Jackson
yeah it's true, then some will say why are you talking to this person why are you talking to that person you could have came and confide in me, but I've been trying to it's just that you're not listening you're so caught up into yourself you don't hear nothing else then when you stop talking now them pissed and feel like they're disrespected.
Paul Foster yes.. truth. big fat booty truth..
this goes both ways....if u come across a guy that makes u feel the same than u need to improve yourself as well
Point blank said. Yes, just that this because when you are fully there and fully worked on yourself you will never settle for less because you respect yourself so much so if you are settling for this type of men that means you have a lot to work on personally and take pride in that enjoy that journey of working on yourself. I am
I thank God for the one I have. Kenyon baby, I love you so much. I truly never experienced the man of my dreams until he came into my life.
Yes I need this type of man in my life lord where he at?!?😍😘
Our men can talk the game but cant play to win. TOGETHER. Thankyou for being a voice of truth!
I didn't see this coming, but I'll be damned if I let it walk away!!! WOW, just WOW, LOVE IT!!! 🌹
Wow, I have no words. This message was for me. It’s hard when you have become emotionally attached to someone and truly love the person and have to let go. Everything about what you said is so true. Being in a relationship and feeling ignored everyday is very depressing. In my case, depressing and disappointing because I’m pregnant. But I’m worth someone’s time and I know this. I’m financially stable, on my own, and have my own everything and am a really good person but I need to open up my eyes and be valued. Hearing this makes me know that there are people out there that will value me. I just need more self discipline, patience, and focus to finding and loving myself first. Thank you for your words and time.
Bless you
Same situation as me.
I always had thought that being fat was the reason I hadn't found a good man to be in a serious relationship... but I've noticed that literally everyone has been in these same situations! Definitely letting go and waiting to find that man that adores you is hard because its a lonely road to him!
This message made me cry. Thank you. Know your worth ladies.
This makes so much sense..!! I swear I needed this. Right on time. Thanks for sharing...
Thank you. Great video. Yes...I am experiencing this right now. He has grown so much since we decided to commit. We went thru the changes...but...he fixed it. Never thought about it this way. He does adore me, because....he cleaned up the lingering Batchelor habits that still had the player moves. He knew that I was not playing and has stepped up significantly. That is why I love him so. Thank u for this Derick.
Thank you Derrick 💜 I'm crying right now. I didn't realize how much I needed someone to tell me this and you did. Thank you a million times
You hit home with this one. Just ended a relationship because he ignored me emotionally, and proved time and time again that he didn't feel the need to put in any effort or fight to make the changes to ultimately have a happy and successful relationship.....thank you for confirming that my decision to let go was not in vain.
Preach!......
I needed this my husband does this all the times.
He is a demon if he mistreats you. PERIOD!!!
Desha Jackson-Simmons my husband and I been together since 2013 got married in 2016 and since day 1 I been giving my all but I’m starting to see that he is only giving me maybe 25% of his time it’s like I’m not his priority but after listening to this video I see things more clearly
I'm going through a really harsh breakup and it is so heartbreaking. But I am so grateful for your videos. I know I was more than he deserved. I'd even done research to try to better help him with a fictitious problem he uses to seek attention and sympathy to make women want to be there for him. I was so busy trying to help heal his pain, I couldn't see how he was causing me pain. Thank you for these videos. You give me hope that there are still good men and that a broken heart can be overcome. God bless you.
God has gifted you with wisdom. Thank you.
He's right! Ain't no better feeling.
This was a great video. I love all of your videos. You are amazing and so inspirational. Such great advice.
I gave a lot to a man who was indeed ignoring me emotionally. I tried so hard to be patient and give multiple opportunities to show that he cared but it was just more confusion and disappointment. I am so thankful for videos like this bc few ppl speak the truth on what things really are.
Thanks so much for posting all your video’s on your views. Your analytical perceptions are so profound, rational and solid across the board. Just wanted to express gratitude and appreciation, bless you Derrick
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I just stumbled upon your channel and you are wise beyond your years. I play your videos on loop for strength to keep my no contact, in tact. Cause its easy to get weak when lonely.
Men with your mindset is a gift from God! Be Blessed Sun!
I look forward to your videos! Big hugs!
Amen! Straight up will settle for nothing less (ever again)... and I will adore him right back.
I needed to hear this.. It brought tears to to my eyes. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you for who are. Thank you for everything you are doing and for being a willful vessel that God uses. I truly appreciate you and the truth you elicit through your videos.
Respectfully,
Future Nurse Practitioner
Thanks Derrick for always keeping it rea!
here early today, beginning of video is a little messy but this is something everyone needs to hear..
Wonderful advice😇
You have noooo idea, my whole life i was abused in everyway, explainable and unexplainable ways, 4 a while i gave up, thinking worse of men...but seeing people like you is a big part of my healing, thank you 4 empowering us!! THANK YOU!!😇
Right on Team Jaxn! And don't fall for the same one who only steps up intermittently because he thinks someone else is knocking at ur door. If that's the only thing that drives him to you, competitiveness, he's not really for you. God bless!
Sigh I needed this. Thank you Derrick 💜
Queen LaLa we all do
Now this man has his shit together. Ran across him on utube recently as have had my heart shattered by a beautiful man who is absolutely adored. GOD bless Derrick Jaxn. Of all research ive done recently to help deal with my situation this man is the only one who makes sense. GOD bless you Derrick and Thank you for all women out there and especially for me. i appreciate that you give advice to men too. You have a true GOD given gift. YOU are helping me get thru this horrible pain. GOD BLESS you and much peace!!
I was involved with someone that ignored me. I woke up and left him. Now he's on his 2nd marriage.
This is so right! I have someone who ignores me.....I deserve to be adored! Thanks for the good word!
When you give give give, that's depletion!
I loved this message!! Thank you Derrick
Thanks Derrick! Great advice. Was too busy being there for him. Was always trying to survive the tornado of lies & deception, shunning & neglecting, raging inferno of a man to even remember I existed & should be adored.
Being ignored emotionally is the worst! In the process of getting myself out of an emotionally draining marriage of 18 years.
this made me sad being married 19 years 💔 an i am depleted God help me
You're in my prayers. Time heals old wounds.
I go by Grandma's motto...
"Betta make sure HE loves you a little more than YOU love him!"
I have a hubby who thinks I walk on water and because I was so into MY issues I almost let him go. Thank Allah for knocking some sense into me!!
Keep up the Good work, Dear Heart.
This video made me cry. I pray God sends a man like this to my life.
THANK YOU!
i really NEEDED this! ~Bri