You are speaking directly to me w/ this one- my husband just did this to me after almost 20 years. My heart is shattered- this has been the worst pain ever felt. But I will eventually find a way to breathe in my new normal. Thank you Derrick!
Yes. Trauma. Transformed me.. but, only for a short time.. it is too tiring. I'm gaining myself back 😉🥰. I'm happy I finally chose to let him go without caring if I "lost him." He lost me. That's reality. His loss ❤😊
My friend was a model....beautiful. She had the worst relationships ever because she was a broken woman. She had to learn to fix herself. She finally did- years later!
It truly changed me , honestly I became bitter and I'm struggling everyday with trying to forgive him, because how he lied on me and tried to paint me as a horrible person,which I'm not but he blamed everything on me and truly discarded me like trash and acts like I never existed it hurts so bad, but thank you for this video it helps me to understand things better!
This all hits home hard. Sadly all my relationships were like this. This time I refused to let myself go. My boundaries were the issue and that's what he said was the change he didn't like. This time I didn't let it go on for years. It does hurt like hell though. I miss things that weren't even there.
I can relate. But in honesty, he isn't the same as when I met him either. For us I think the trauma went both ways. But my efforts were endless. Until they weren't.
Yes I can definitely relate to that . Yes I feel like we were both traumatized coming into the relationship & being that we were both incomplete & broke only invited the toxicity & made things even worse
Gawd Dmn it Derrick Jaxn (if I knew your whole government name I would’ve called you by that cause that’s how serious this is for me) when I tell you, you must’ve been a fly on the wall for the last 37 years….You are speaking directly to me, about me and it is 100% on point and it hurts so bad. But if I never experienced hurt I would never experience healing. I know the best of being hurt and now I’m learning the best of healthy healing. Thank you for continuing to use your voice and your insight( despite your own public adversities) to help many, many people heal. You walking in your purpose is definitely helping others to find their very own purpose! ❤
Hi Steph. Please try and eat something even if it's just toast and cup of tea. I have been there and I know how much it hurts, but you will get better. Keep going every day ❤❤
All of this happened to me. Our marriage was 13 years with one child. I am now 4 years removed and getting my original self plus some extra confidence back on top of it. It has been the most painful Journey
Yep, Told him last night he had turned me into a less than nice woman, as he chewed me out for having concerns, rather than comforting me and offering to help.
He transformed me to a person where I choose my self and love myself more. It made me open my eyes on my value and worth. It wasn't easy however it was all part of the process. The feeling of being torn and ugly, low self esteem, a lot of questions. However, after everything, after I got the non-verbal answer to my own question of "why." I did my part. and I know that I did good. And after the relationship I know that I still did good. It's enough already to say that. Now, it's my turn to choose myself and transform to a beautiful woman I could be and should be.
Wow! You was talking directly to me awesome video. I like when you use the word internship. That's how I felt in my newly relationship which I thought I'm happy I didn't open my heart too quickly. I'm just tired of these dead end relationship my walls are back up even extra higher. In your videos you hit the nail right on head. You are in the spirit. ❤🙏👏
i was crying the whole time as i was listening to this. then when you said "new woman you should get ready because youre going to go through part 2" i laughed craaaaaaaaazily!! ahahahahahah
Good thing about me, is that I only transform with the person who didn’t appreciate my love. So I will move on with God and be open and receptive for someone who is sent my way. I have a great way of compartmentalization. ❤
This is straight-up facts. My ex jumped straight into a relationship1 and wants out of that relationship, and now he's begging me to take him back. I had to remind him, " I walked away, and I'm staying away.
It will always happen nothing good will ever come out the relationship or internship time has become so cold we must change our ways as a woman it’s so true.
Was with my x husband for 42 years. Always told me he would never marry again. Not…. He is now remarried. Was also in a relationship for 6 years. Just up and left.
11 years of Hell but I'm alive so there is still hope for me some women don't make it out but I did I know God gonna bless me because He already has..... with my life❤for that much I'm humble and grateful forever...
We were together for 6 years, but he didn’t move on with another woman. He left work on himself and have God change him, but I don’t have peace in that. I feel used. Promises were made and now he can pretend like I don’t exist? I’m so confused.
Everything you give and gave in behalf of a "higher love " is not for nothing. What most do not realize is you have a spiritual account b"anhk" ( bank) account that you are putting funds in when you give from authenticity and from the heart. This spiritual fat you collect gets you through the Eye of the needle after you make it through the valley of the shadow of " doubt" ( death is doubt that you are dearly loved by something larger than yourself) So much love to your heart and soul right now. I know it's not easy.
18 years my ex husband and I were together and married. We were the first (virgins) for each other. Had children and a life. He divorced me for another woman that he was running around with behind my back. Put my kids and I away for her and her kids. Our children are 19 and 17. My children say that he doesn’t love her but will do anything she wants to keep her from leaving him. I don’t understand! I don’t understand any of it!
Yesss Trauma transformed me to be a better version of my self am not the person l was he hurt me so badly that pain changed me completely it hurt at first but much happier single
I don’t care. It feels so good to be happy. Better to be happy and single than miserable and with the wrong person.
That part...
Exactly
Yes INDEED!!
This!
Facts 💯💯💯🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🔥🔥🔥
If you think that you are lonely single, marry the wrong person.
Whole new level of lonely right there!!😢
Men start emotionally/mentally detaching prior to doing it physically. They just stay around to interfere with you doing the same.
So true
He puts you through Trauma and you don't even realize at the time....how much damage he is doing to you!!!
He made me so miserable..I never want to go back...
You are speaking directly to me w/ this one- my husband just did this to me after almost 20 years.
My heart is shattered- this has been the worst pain ever felt.
But I will eventually find a way to breathe in my new normal.
Thank you Derrick!
You got this girlfriend
@@nic3715 thank you- I appreciate the encouragement!
@@nic3715yesssss for saying that. She got this!!!
❤
My prayers with you 🫶
I’ve been there I feel you 🙏
Yes. Trauma. Transformed me.. but, only for a short time.. it is too tiring. I'm gaining myself back 😉🥰. I'm happy I finally chose to let him go without caring if I "lost him." He lost me. That's reality. His loss ❤😊
He was in the relationship before he ditched me
Yes he leaves then after 2 years he goes and married plus a child. It hurts like dying
My friend was a model....beautiful. She had the worst relationships ever because she was a broken woman. She had to learn to fix herself. She finally did- years later!
A lot of so called men, are so pathetic and toxic. This was great video, a lot of clarity, Thank you🙏
This explains a lot. I was transformed from the inside out trying to hold on.
I spent 4 years and this happened to me with my ex. It really hurt, but after a year I'm better. Single by choice now ❤❤❤
'Honeymoon hopper' ... I love that saying ... aswell as 'internship' ... you are so right !
You need a TV show ... 👏👏👏
And you will , God has a way of giving us back twice from every hurt..pain and disappointment
It truly changed me , honestly I became bitter and I'm struggling everyday with trying to forgive him, because how he lied on me and tried to paint me as a horrible person,which I'm not but he blamed everything on me and truly discarded me like trash and acts like I never existed it hurts so bad, but thank you for this video it helps me to understand things better!
This all hits home hard. Sadly all my relationships were like this. This time I refused to let myself go. My boundaries were the issue and that's what he said was the change he didn't like. This time I didn't let it go on for years. It does hurt like hell though. I miss things that weren't even there.
I was in a VERY TOXIC & UNHEALTHY relationship for 15 1/2 years . & the way that I was when I first met him is no where near the person I am today .
I can relate. But in honesty, he isn't the same as when I met him either. For us I think the trauma went both ways. But my efforts were endless. Until they weren't.
Yes I can definitely relate to that . Yes I feel like we were both traumatized coming into the relationship & being that we were both incomplete & broke only invited the toxicity & made things even worse
Omg. Yes. I became as nasty as him. Didnt recognize myself. Got fat. Getting thin being away from him. He said im more cynical. No surprise.
He is telling the truth it took me 24 years.
Gawd Dmn it Derrick Jaxn (if I knew your whole government name I would’ve called you by that cause that’s how serious this is for me)
when I tell you, you must’ve been a fly on the wall for the last 37 years….You are speaking directly to me, about me and it is 100% on point and it hurts so bad.
But if I never experienced hurt I would never experience healing. I know the best of being hurt and now I’m learning the best of healthy healing.
Thank you for continuing to use your voice and your insight( despite your own public adversities) to help many, many people heal.
You walking in your purpose is definitely helping others to find their very own purpose! ❤
Thank you for keeping it real 100, so tired of game players.
I definitely still trying to regain myself again
Thank you for this message
At the end of it, the voice in my head was screaming at me to get out and I did.
#3 for sure
Feels good to finally be awake ❤
I feel sorry for his new victim
“I was all that after 15 years, and yes he held it against me.
Gave my all; it was not enough!!!
Not everyone is filling a void. Some people find a new and true love!
It is filling a void
He just got back to his true love that left him 30 years ago. It's all about ❤
Your statement is contradictory.
I can’t say thank you enough! God bless you.
Yep im definitely in survival mode right now.... health isn't doing soooo good atm because of it, because of him and his actions.
Hi Steph. Please try and eat something even if it's just toast and cup of tea. I have been there and I know how much it hurts, but you will get better. Keep going every day ❤❤
That's why you don't date somebody that just broke up with somebody's car rebound
Much respect for keeping it so real!
Damm I was part of all 3 points
40 yr marriage down the drain.
Damn I thought 25yrs down the drain was a lot. Sorry
32 year marriage down the drain. I never been so happy in my life!
I hope I find someone who wants me for me and not a lazy person. We are just friends.
I definitely stayed way too long in a relationship
All of this happened to me. Our marriage was 13 years with one child. I am now 4 years removed and getting my original self plus some extra confidence back on top of it. It has been the most painful Journey
Yep, Told him last night he had turned me into a less than nice woman, as he chewed me out for having concerns, rather than comforting me and offering to help.
She was a placeholder ‼️
He transformed me to a person where I choose my self and love myself more. It made me open my eyes on my value and worth. It wasn't easy however it was all part of the process. The feeling of being torn and ugly, low self esteem, a lot of questions. However, after everything, after I got the non-verbal answer to my own question of "why." I did my part. and I know that I did good. And after the relationship I know that I still did good. It's enough already to say that. Now, it's my turn to choose myself and transform to a beautiful woman I could be and should be.
You are ON POINT!!! 👍👍👍👍
Wow! You was talking directly to me awesome video. I like when you use the word internship. That's how I felt in my newly relationship which I thought I'm happy I didn't open my heart too quickly. I'm just tired of these dead end relationship my walls are back up even extra higher. In your videos you hit the nail right on head. You are in the spirit. ❤🙏👏
❤HEAVY, WOW. DEEP. DEEPER THAN DEEP. TRUTH.❤Thank u for sharing your wisdom and brilliance. This info is so hard but SO FREEING!❤
I wish him the best no hard feelings moved on long ago
i was crying the whole time as i was listening to this. then when you said "new woman you should get ready because youre going to go through part 2" i laughed craaaaaaaaazily!! ahahahahahah
Good thing about me, is that I only transform with the person who didn’t appreciate my love. So I will move on with God and be open and receptive for someone who is sent my way. I have a great way of compartmentalization. ❤
They just don't have the ability to really invest in anyone!
He treat my like I was nothing
This is straight-up facts. My ex jumped straight into a relationship1 and wants out of that relationship, and now he's begging me to take him back. I had to remind him, " I walked away, and I'm staying away.
Derrick your best video of 2023💯💙
My heart was so broken that I use to cry everyday now I thank God took that pain away from me
Amen ,some people are just unlovable.
You are always right on!
It will always happen nothing good will ever come out the relationship or internship time has become so cold we must change our ways as a woman it’s so true.
Was with my x husband for 42 years. Always told me he would never marry again. Not…. He is now remarried. Was also in a relationship for 6 years. Just up and left.
Literally crying listening to this. The last one is me. Thank you I can finally free myself. 😌😔
@beatricelaurent5059 Hey, here's the link for free enrollment into my Self-Crowned Inner Circle: derrickjaxn.rurl.me/freeenrollmentvip1
Wow…”You just dodged a bullet.”
Thank you, Derrick, and God bless you
Yes. He left and blocked me.
This was deep!
so true derrik....about the usage especially..they rinse the best out of me...then theyre gone as if nothin
That was jaw-dropping. Thank you. It makes so much sense... I want to vomit. But I know now.
Very very true statment it was him
It happened to me. Dated 2 years and married 22 years.
He always acted happy!
This video was incredbly helpful!!! It almost seems like it was made it for me and my situation it’s crazy. Thank you
Damn, Damn, Damn! You are ON POINT! 💯
This was amazing, thank you ❤
That's. Because he was. Nothing.
17 years together Meant nothing
Yes it does to feel good and happy and instead of being miserable and I feel good being single and having my peace
Yes! For years. So glad I got the courage to walk away.
Yes it changed me ….
I don't follow Derek any more but I really needed to hear this ❤
This is my life now no real communication, say; he don't want talk. Phone off when home and disrespectful. All the actions your talking about.
Its hurtful to hear the facts...i had to learn the hard way... u speak the facts..Thank u
He said speak ur mind speak up now he saying where is all this coming from
Hard to hear, every word you said is true. Number three hit hard. I don't recognize the lady I've become.
15 years and left like it was nothing.
Boom! Number 3..you said it all
THANKYOU DERRICK. YOU ARE SOOOOO AWESOME. MAY GOD BLESS U FOREVER!!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉✝️✝️✝️🙏🏾✍🏾😇😇😇😇🙏🏾⛪⛪⛪
Facts I am better 4 it!! Finally
He's a dating player he has experience and got more chicks around. He's busy with the other chicks.
It's easy to leave like It's nothing, but what's the chances of returning???
18 years trying to get out of it now
I say he never loved me any way
This was SPOT ON!
11 years of Hell but I'm alive so there is still hope for me some women don't make it out but I did I know God gonna bless me because He already has..... with my life❤for that much I'm humble and grateful forever...
I am this documentary. From begin to end,y it's so unfair, we are married.
God says guard your heart
He should definitely know because he did it
Yes, I dodged a bullet phew!
We were together for 6 years, but he didn’t move on with another woman. He left work on himself and have God change him, but I don’t have peace in that. I feel used. Promises were made and now he can pretend like I don’t exist? I’m so confused.
Everything you give and gave in behalf of a "higher love " is not for nothing. What most do not realize is you have a spiritual account b"anhk" ( bank) account that you are putting funds in when you give from authenticity and from the heart. This spiritual fat you collect gets you through the Eye of the needle after you make it through the valley of the shadow of " doubt" ( death is doubt that you are dearly loved by something larger than yourself)
So much love to your heart and soul right now. I know it's not easy.
@@tinahuskey6539thank you for this.
18 years my ex husband and I were together and married. We were the first (virgins) for each other. Had children and a life. He divorced me for another woman that he was running around with behind my back. Put my kids and I away for her and her kids. Our children are 19 and 17. My children say that he doesn’t love her but will do anything she wants to keep her from leaving him. I don’t understand! I don’t understand any of it!
Hello Derrick👋 Let the Truth be told 💯
I got put through so much trauma he transformed me smh
LORD HAVE MERCY
TEACH Brother!!
Yesss Trauma transformed me to be a better version of my self am not the person l was he hurt me so badly that pain changed me completely it hurt at first but much happier single
now he has me on green text message I think almost blocked !!!! disgusting!!
Who really cares,it is a blessing it just means that Almighty will give you something better.
I was in a marriage for 37 years. He hasn’t found someone yet he left like it was nothing..