I wish I'd had a rational philosophy from an early age. I used to feel a lot of stress and anxiety, and this was brought on by a lot of cognitive dissonance. Basically, like a lot of people, I needed a coherent philosophy. I was filled with a mass of unexamined premises that I had picked up over the years of my life, and they were all jumbled together, and many were contradictory. When I found and validated rational philosophy, the order it brought to my mind was reflected in my outer life. I no longer feel the cognitive dissonance. Now, even when bad things happen, I can deal with them and feel at peace.
I think🤔 these forest thoughts are beautiful ❤ I used to sleep in my car parked up in a forest a few years ago I had nothing or no one I lived in my car used to drive to work and back to the forest every day it was so peaceful and the sound of the🐦🕊 and the wild life was what kept me going no matter what life throws at you just take a walk in the woods you'll come out feeling better I go back every week to feed the birds 🐦🐦and the squirrels .thank you for your lovely video 📺🌹🌷❤
Thank you 💛 The forest truly is the most peaceful and tranquil place, particularly for grounding us during difficult and turbulent times 🌲 Your experience sounds very humbling, thank you for sharing ✨
In the midst of mental breakdown a few years ago I had a deep inner realisation that the thing I needed most at that time was stillness, simplicity, silence and solitude, I just had to create space mentally and physically to reflect. I continue to strive to live a wiser, calmer simple life. My best advice is slow down and it’s all about what you let go of. Do not chance happiness, instead seek contentment and do whatever creates a sense of inner flourishing.
Love your thoughts here, thank you for sharing this 💛 Such an important point and I think is spot on when it comes to processing, accepting and managing truly challenging emotions and periods - stillness is transformative. Wishing you all the best ✨
Letting go is a process. There's no use pretending you've let go when in fact you haven't yet processed your emotions. A better practice is naming your emotions or feelings and observing them non-judgementally. If you feel angry, just observe that feeling. By allowing space and time for your emotions you will naturally move on from each challenging situation. You can also call this self compassion. It's the foundation of an intentional life. 🙏💙
I totally agree and think that's a healthy way of looking at things. In order to let go we must acknowledge and process what it is, but most importantly we must be kind to ourselves 💛
People can live their whole life just to learn a few of these things …so how ever you managed to learn so much and be so balanced at a age of twenty years old is remarkable….Holly it’s usually a person’s grandma that sits you down and has these talk’s …well I think you’re the most youngest and definitely the most beautiful grandma In the world….and just the sound of you laughing I believe can instantly create a whole field of wild flowers with a rainbows and butterflies 🦋 ….luv you buddy wish me luck there’s another hurricane coming this Wednesday …
Thank you Andy, I really appreciate your kind and heartwarming words here ☺️ Really pleased you enjoyed and found it helpful! I'm already a granny in spirit so that would make sense 😆 But sending my wishes to you across the pond during the turbulent times to come, that you are safe and as well as can be 💛
Thanks, Holly! I’ve had to work on the points you made to better myself - wasn’t easy. Learning to care less has helped and brought inner peace. Be well and bye for now.
It's a journey for sure with a mix of up and down moments😊 But its part of the process and in time to come makes life a lot more peaceful 💛 Thank you for watching!
Beautiful message and setting Holly :-) very humbling message too. It always surprises me how relevant so much of the things you say are to me, almost as if God is using you to speak to me. Letting go.. that's a really hard one for me, especially when it comes to betrayal, if I'm being honest, she was someone I considered to be my mentor, almost two years later and it still hurts. But I know and I've seen, God makes up to me what I lose, so when one dear friend leaves, another one comes in, and that beautiful new friend I've made happens to be you Holly. It always surprises me you're very beautiful, positive, and kind, but at the same time incredibly wise, like a deep well of wisdom. It can be a very rare thing to see but, it's often the most rare things that are the most beautiful :-)
What a lovely message Stephen, this truly has warmed my heart thank you💛 Letting go is never easy, especially when it comes to people we care about deeply. It’s a tough part of the process if we wish to grow, move forward and be better for ourselves and others. But we need to remember that with growth comes pain of leaving the comfort zone and familiarly. It’s hard, really hard but from my experience I do believe we’re challenged in these situations to move towards something greater, whether that’s new people, experiences or a better version of ourselves. It’s the realisation we must let go if we wish for something better to come along, which more often than not it always will😊 Wishing you the best✨
@lagomholly Thank you so much beautiful Holly :-) I'm so glad I could make you smile. You're absolutely right, I believe that God allows certain things to not work out to make way for something greater. I believe that something greater has come, I couldn't ask for a more beautiful friend than you Holly, I thank God often for you :-) the former friend I referred to was my bible study teacher, we used to study the bible together and I used to write these devotions every day, she absolutely loved reading them and was really inspired by them. I don't write those anymore, however when I comment on your videos it's like I'm writing a devotion each time, so now I get to write to you instead, which makes me happy :-) wishing you the best too, and thank you for sharing your beautiful wisdom with me ❤️
I love your comparison of life to a video game. Just like leveling up in a game, life presents us with obstacles that shape us into stronger and more resilient characters. Your analogy beautifully highlights the importance of embracing each stage and enjoying the journey. I’m good with it as long as I don’t ever hear the dreaded “all your base are belong to us”, haha! 🎮💡
Absolutely, I really like that perspective! It is a journey for sure and like with levels in the game, although it may get harder at each stage, the feeling of accomplishment and growth that comes afterwards makes the challenge worth while ☺️ Thank you for watching! 💛
I almost never encounter Swedish on my for you page because I rarely follow people from my own country. I prefer English content creators. But your name sounds familiar of being “lagom” and I’m happy to have find your video. I resonated a lot with many things you said. Although I’m never “lagom” (never just about right, I’m always too much or too little😅). Thanks for this video ❤
Thank you, it's a philosophy I hold very dear and has helped me find better balance both mentally and physically in life - the origin and ethos that forms this channel ☺️ I hope to help others utilise this philosophy too ✨
Letting go is very difficult for me, not that I stay angry with people but the hurt is always so close to me. This also is the case if I hurt someone else, they forget but I just can’t forget what I did or said to this person. I do take everybody as they are. If they are difficult I always think to myself that I’m not perfect either and probably am difficult to them in another way. Of course I moan when the weather is bad but I’m also well aware that I can’t change it, it just feels good to moan now and then 😅. Thanks for another nice video 🤍
Nobody can hurt us mentally. People just do what they know best. It is we who hurt ourselves by taking those words to our heart. It is best to avoid overthinking, nurture forgiveness and engage the mind in various constructive hobbies.
@@Shashwat_1729 I know you are right but I’m a very insecure person so it’s easy for someone to say something to me that really hurts me and there are people that sometimes say something to me really to hurt me. I know that that person is either very unhappy herself or very angry at that moment but she will say things that she knows are very hurtful to me. And that is very difficult to deal with.
Thanks for sharing this, I understand your difficulties and can assure you you're not the only one feeling this. Letting go is never easy especially if we've been hurt. But it truly is the only way we can ever move forward and be at peace. It's like ripping of the plaster, it hurts initially and we're reluctant to do it but the growth and peace that comes afterwards makes it all worthwhile both for yourself and others 😊 Be kind to yourself and I promise things will be easier 💛
Letting things we like go is hard and I will never have a solution. Pain is a natural respond to it but with time, the fact of getting used to the situation will make us stronger. We cannot really change without going through different states of emotions, we don't like it but ,sometimes life is not about what we like, we just have to keep going. Habituation to sad moment will make our expectation weaker, and it's like we have less to lose but it's a cycle. It's easier to be happy when we bounce back. The fact of overcoming difficult situations will make us have a big picture of situation and we will visualize the big pattern. We tend to care less about smaller things and be content with what we have. - Our relation to pleasure is important too. I know it's annoying to always refer to dopamine :) but I think we could not build a life based on that or we have to earn pleasure. Hapiness =/= pleasure but contentment and our sensibility to like things where most people don't see it. Every time we stimulate pleasure is like we are creating more and more dopamine receptors. (To be happy, those receptors has to be fulfilled) We could think like every time we create a dopamine receptor is like we are adding a condition to be happy. When e depend on too much conditions to be happy, we will no longer be able to have realistic goals. By the way, I hope you got some fresh air in the forest :) You don't have to focus on many things than the peacefulness of nature. 😊😊
Thank you for sharing this, I enjoyed reading your thoughts and think you make some really important points! 😊 I agree that it comes down to the fact pain, suffering, heartache is all unavoidable in life whether we try to mask it or run away it will always be there. There's great power in facing and dealing with it though which is what from my experience has helped in dealing with these sort of things, letting go and feeling free. It's a process with no set-in-stone formula. It's part of being human and I think having such an array of experiences and emotions is what makes life so cherish-able ✨ Thank you for watching 💛
I sometimes Think of My self as a simulation character or My own child - it has needs and wants. Then I ask myself What would I give it - it needs a Nice walk in Nature and healthy foods and then I go for that walk and feel so good and fullfilled afterwards. I treat myself a lot nicer when I Think like that
I really like that idea and think it's a really nice way to be kinder to ourselves. There is an inner child within us that we shouldn't forget to take care of 💛
Do you have any advice on pain and discomfort in the body. Life doesn’t feel like a video game when you’re suffering in pain. Life doesn’t feel like it can’t be taken seriously. I truly would love to hear your thoughts on this. Forgive me if you’ve already addressed this, as I just subscribed to your channel, and this is the first video I’m seeing.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts here. I don't think I can provide a complete bullet-proof solution to this, but I can share some things that have helped me during painful periods (be it physical or emotional). Firstly I think acceptance and feeling the pain in its entirety is crucial if we wish to let go. One of my favourite reminders during times like this is the serenity prayer - accepting what I cannot change and the courage to change what I can. Being kind to yourself is something we can change and is the first thing I'd focus on. That alone does tend to ease some tension and pain we may be feeling. I also always try to find a positive in any situation as I believe there is always something 😊 Even if in pain, I look around and practise gratitude for what I have - a supportive family who are caring for me, food to help nourish my body, a bed to rest and recover in. I know it sounds overly simplistic but when we focus on these things it really does help "lighten" the burden of such pain. Also I think having some kind of humour does help but I know this isn't always easy. Even just looking at photos from good times with family, friends or memes to help take my mind off the pain and realise this moment is temporary does help a lot. Of course there's moments in life that have to be taken seriously and by no means am I suggesting we don't, but from my experience finding the good, being grateful and focusing on what I can control have helped phenomenally to make such difficult times more bearable. I hope this is of some help 💛
@@lagomholly Thank you so much for your very thoughtful reply. I really have to work on myself as far as gratitude goes. I am grateful for so much, but I still feel down when I’m in pain. It’s hard for me to get to a place where gratitude outweighs pain.
Holly, you are literally giving off 'best friend vibes' 🫶😊. I wish could spend more time with my friends and family. I loved how you put your points. They were really therapeutic and valuable. I wish I could have been there in person to have this conversation with you; it would have been great. Talking about control, most of us wish to control because we are conditioned to tackle disorder in our lives by bringing order. Surprisingly, I had a conversation today in a discussion group about order and disorder in our lives. Plus, I love the forest setting as I am a nature lover🌳.
Thank you so much! Super pleased you enjoyed this and found it both relatable and comforting ☺️ It's something I could definitely talk about for hours especially in the forest that is truly so serene! 🌲 Appreciate your thoughts and for watching! ✨
What do you think of these forest thoughts?🌲 Any lessons you wish you knew sooner for inner peace?✨
I wish I'd had a rational philosophy from an early age. I used to feel a lot of stress and anxiety, and this was brought on by a lot of cognitive dissonance. Basically, like a lot of people, I needed a coherent philosophy. I was filled with a mass of unexamined premises that I had picked up over the years of my life, and they were all jumbled together, and many were contradictory. When I found and validated rational philosophy, the order it brought to my mind was reflected in my outer life. I no longer feel the cognitive dissonance. Now, even when bad things happen, I can deal with them and feel at peace.
There are so many lessons I wish I knew sooner..
I think🤔 these forest thoughts are beautiful ❤ I used to sleep in my car parked up in a forest a few years ago I had nothing or no one I lived in my car used to drive to work and back to the forest every day it was so peaceful and the sound of the🐦🕊 and the wild life was what kept me going no matter what life throws at you just take a walk in the woods you'll come out feeling better I go back every week to feed the birds 🐦🐦and the squirrels .thank you for your lovely video 📺🌹🌷❤
Thank you 💛 The forest truly is the most peaceful and tranquil place, particularly for grounding us during difficult and turbulent times 🌲 Your experience sounds very humbling, thank you for sharing ✨
In the midst of mental breakdown a few years ago I had a deep inner realisation that the thing I needed most at that time was stillness, simplicity, silence and solitude, I just had to create space mentally and physically to reflect. I continue to strive to live a wiser, calmer simple life. My best advice is slow down and it’s all about what you let go of. Do not chance happiness, instead seek contentment and do whatever creates a sense of inner flourishing.
Love your thoughts here, thank you for sharing this 💛 Such an important point and I think is spot on when it comes to processing, accepting and managing truly challenging emotions and periods - stillness is transformative. Wishing you all the best ✨
Letting go is a process. There's no use pretending you've let go when in fact you haven't yet processed your emotions. A better practice is naming your emotions or feelings and observing them non-judgementally. If you feel angry, just observe that feeling. By allowing space and time for your emotions you will naturally move on from each challenging situation. You can also call this self compassion. It's the foundation of an intentional life. 🙏💙
I totally agree and think that's a healthy way of looking at things. In order to let go we must acknowledge and process what it is, but most importantly we must be kind to ourselves 💛
People can live their whole life just to learn a few of these things …so how ever you managed to learn so much and be so balanced at a age of twenty years old is remarkable….Holly it’s usually a person’s grandma that sits you down and has these talk’s …well I think you’re the most youngest and definitely the most beautiful grandma In the world….and just the sound of you laughing I believe can instantly create a whole field of wild flowers with a rainbows and butterflies 🦋 ….luv you buddy wish me luck there’s another hurricane coming this Wednesday …
Thank you Andy, I really appreciate your kind and heartwarming words here ☺️ Really pleased you enjoyed and found it helpful! I'm already a granny in spirit so that would make sense 😆 But sending my wishes to you across the pond during the turbulent times to come, that you are safe and as well as can be 💛
A wonderful message and the perfect place to be. I love the forest. X
Thank you! It really is the most serene place☺️🌲
Such a serene, lush green, cosy ambience around you Holly😮
We are all so lucky to be born as humans on this beautiful planet.❤
Very nice lesson.
We are and thank you it truly is so tranquil and peaceful 🌲 Perfect place to reflect and contemplate! ☺️
What a lovely video and so timely. Exactly what I needed today. Thank you.
Really glad you enjoyed this and found it helpful 💛 Thank you for watching! ✨
Thank you Holly
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Thanks, Holly! I’ve had to work on the points you made to better myself - wasn’t easy. Learning to care less has helped and brought inner peace. Be well and bye for now.
It's a journey for sure with a mix of up and down moments😊 But its part of the process and in time to come makes life a lot more peaceful 💛 Thank you for watching!
Probably the best message I've heard on UA-cam or anywhere else for that matter!
Wow thank you very much!😄 So glad you enjoyed this☺️
I needed to hear this thank you Holly ❤
So glad this helped! Thank you for watching 💛
Beautiful message and setting Holly :-) very humbling message too. It always surprises me how relevant so much of the things you say are to me, almost as if God is using you to speak to me. Letting go.. that's a really hard one for me, especially when it comes to betrayal, if I'm being honest, she was someone I considered to be my mentor, almost two years later and it still hurts. But I know and I've seen, God makes up to me what I lose, so when one dear friend leaves, another one comes in, and that beautiful new friend I've made happens to be you Holly. It always surprises me you're very beautiful, positive, and kind, but at the same time incredibly wise, like a deep well of wisdom. It can be a very rare thing to see but, it's often the most rare things that are the most beautiful :-)
What a lovely message Stephen, this truly has warmed my heart thank you💛 Letting go is never easy, especially when it comes to people we care about deeply. It’s a tough part of the process if we wish to grow, move forward and be better for ourselves and others. But we need to remember that with growth comes pain of leaving the comfort zone and familiarly. It’s hard, really hard but from my experience I do believe we’re challenged in these situations to move towards something greater, whether that’s new people, experiences or a better version of ourselves. It’s the realisation we must let go if we wish for something better to come along, which more often than not it always will😊 Wishing you the best✨
@lagomholly Thank you so much beautiful Holly :-) I'm so glad I could make you smile. You're absolutely right, I believe that God allows certain things to not work out to make way for something greater. I believe that something greater has come, I couldn't ask for a more beautiful friend than you Holly, I thank God often for you :-) the former friend I referred to was my bible study teacher, we used to study the bible together and I used to write these devotions every day, she absolutely loved reading them and was really inspired by them. I don't write those anymore, however when I comment on your videos it's like I'm writing a devotion each time, so now I get to write to you instead, which makes me happy :-) wishing you the best too, and thank you for sharing your beautiful wisdom with me ❤️
I love your comparison of life to a video game. Just like leveling up in a game, life presents us with obstacles that shape us into stronger and more resilient characters. Your analogy beautifully highlights the importance of embracing each stage and enjoying the journey. I’m good with it as long as I don’t ever hear the dreaded “all your base are belong to us”, haha! 🎮💡
Absolutely, I really like that perspective! It is a journey for sure and like with levels in the game, although it may get harder at each stage, the feeling of accomplishment and growth that comes afterwards makes the challenge worth while ☺️ Thank you for watching! 💛
@@lagomholly you’re welcome. Btw “all your base…” is a meme on a mistranslation in an old game called Zero Wing :))
I almost never encounter Swedish on my for you page because I rarely follow people from my own country. I prefer English content creators. But your name sounds familiar of being “lagom” and I’m happy to have find your video. I resonated a lot with many things you said. Although I’m never “lagom” (never just about right, I’m always too much or too little😅). Thanks for this video ❤
Thank you, it's a philosophy I hold very dear and has helped me find better balance both mentally and physically in life - the origin and ethos that forms this channel ☺️ I hope to help others utilise this philosophy too ✨
Letting go is very difficult for me, not that I stay angry with people but the hurt is always so close to me. This also is the case if I hurt someone else, they forget but I just can’t forget what I did or said to this person. I do take everybody as they are. If they are difficult I always think to myself that I’m not perfect either and probably am difficult to them in another way. Of course I moan when the weather is bad but I’m also well aware that I can’t change it, it just feels good to moan now and then 😅.
Thanks for another nice video 🤍
Nobody can hurt us mentally. People just do what they know best. It is we who hurt ourselves by taking those words to our heart.
It is best to avoid overthinking, nurture forgiveness and engage the mind in various constructive hobbies.
@@Shashwat_1729 I know you are right but I’m a very insecure person so it’s easy for someone to say something to me that really hurts me and there are people that sometimes say something to me really to hurt me. I know that that person is either very unhappy herself or very angry at that moment but she will say things that she knows are very hurtful to me. And that is very difficult to deal with.
Thanks for sharing this, I understand your difficulties and can assure you you're not the only one feeling this. Letting go is never easy especially if we've been hurt. But it truly is the only way we can ever move forward and be at peace. It's like ripping of the plaster, it hurts initially and we're reluctant to do it but the growth and peace that comes afterwards makes it all worthwhile both for yourself and others 😊 Be kind to yourself and I promise things will be easier 💛
Hi 💚have a beautiful day lagom 🧚♀️ your always good and no comments in my side
Thank you! I hope you have a lovely day too! ☺️ 💛
Letting things we like go is hard and I will never have a solution. Pain is a natural respond to it but with time, the fact of getting used to the situation will make us stronger. We cannot really change without going through different states of emotions, we don't like it but ,sometimes life is not about what we like, we just have to keep going. Habituation to sad moment will make our expectation weaker, and it's like we have less to lose but it's a cycle. It's easier to be happy when we bounce back. The fact of overcoming difficult situations will make us have a big picture of situation and we will visualize the big pattern. We tend to care less about smaller things and be content with what we have.
- Our relation to pleasure is important too. I know it's annoying to always refer to dopamine :) but I think we could not build a life based on that or we have to earn pleasure. Hapiness =/= pleasure but contentment and our sensibility to like things where most people don't see it.
Every time we stimulate pleasure is like we are creating more and more dopamine receptors. (To be happy, those receptors has to be fulfilled) We could think like every time we create a dopamine receptor is like we are adding a condition to be happy. When e depend on too much conditions to be happy, we will no longer be able to have realistic goals.
By the way, I hope you got some fresh air in the forest :) You don't have to focus on many things than the peacefulness of nature. 😊😊
Thank you for sharing this, I enjoyed reading your thoughts and think you make some really important points! 😊 I agree that it comes down to the fact pain, suffering, heartache is all unavoidable in life whether we try to mask it or run away it will always be there. There's great power in facing and dealing with it though which is what from my experience has helped in dealing with these sort of things, letting go and feeling free. It's a process with no set-in-stone formula. It's part of being human and I think having such an array of experiences and emotions is what makes life so cherish-able ✨ Thank you for watching 💛
@@lagomholly Thank you! Greatly said! =)
Again thank you, another great video. But a quick questions, was it cold sat on that log?
Good question 😂 I had a waterproof cover which I was (discretely) sat on to prevent getting cold or wet! 😃
I sometimes Think of My self as a simulation character or My own child - it has needs and wants. Then I ask myself What would I give it - it needs a Nice walk in Nature and healthy foods and then I go for that walk and feel so good and fullfilled afterwards. I treat myself a lot nicer when I Think like that
I really like that idea and think it's a really nice way to be kinder to ourselves. There is an inner child within us that we shouldn't forget to take care of 💛
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I don't live in nature I AM THE NATURE.
Concerning control, I highly recommend books by Ryan Holiday. He has revived stoicism in a big way.
Thank you! I agree, his work is super helpful particularly with these kind of topics 😊
Do you have any advice on pain and discomfort in the body. Life doesn’t feel like a video game when you’re suffering in pain. Life doesn’t feel like it can’t be taken seriously. I truly would love to hear your thoughts on this. Forgive me if you’ve already addressed this, as I just subscribed to your channel, and this is the first video I’m seeing.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts here. I don't think I can provide a complete bullet-proof solution to this, but I can share some things that have helped me during painful periods (be it physical or emotional). Firstly I think acceptance and feeling the pain in its entirety is crucial if we wish to let go. One of my favourite reminders during times like this is the serenity prayer - accepting what I cannot change and the courage to change what I can. Being kind to yourself is something we can change and is the first thing I'd focus on. That alone does tend to ease some tension and pain we may be feeling. I also always try to find a positive in any situation as I believe there is always something 😊 Even if in pain, I look around and practise gratitude for what I have - a supportive family who are caring for me, food to help nourish my body, a bed to rest and recover in. I know it sounds overly simplistic but when we focus on these things it really does help "lighten" the burden of such pain. Also I think having some kind of humour does help but I know this isn't always easy. Even just looking at photos from good times with family, friends or memes to help take my mind off the pain and realise this moment is temporary does help a lot. Of course there's moments in life that have to be taken seriously and by no means am I suggesting we don't, but from my experience finding the good, being grateful and focusing on what I can control have helped phenomenally to make such difficult times more bearable. I hope this is of some help 💛
@@lagomholly Thank you so much for your very thoughtful reply. I really have to work on myself as far as gratitude goes. I am grateful for so much, but I still feel down when I’m in pain. It’s hard for me to get to a place where gratitude outweighs pain.
When do you make a new video?I like your videos ❤
Thank you! I make new videos each week☺️
@@lagomholly ohhhhhhhhhhhh Great ♥️♥️
Good luck to you♥️
Holly, you are literally giving off 'best friend vibes' 🫶😊. I wish could spend more time with my friends and family. I loved how you put your points. They were really therapeutic and valuable. I wish I could have been there in person to have this conversation with you; it would have been great. Talking about control, most of us wish to control because we are conditioned to tackle disorder in our lives by bringing order. Surprisingly, I had a conversation today in a discussion group about order and disorder in our lives. Plus, I love the forest setting as I am a nature lover🌳.
Thank you so much! Super pleased you enjoyed this and found it both relatable and comforting ☺️ It's something I could definitely talk about for hours especially in the forest that is truly so serene! 🌲 Appreciate your thoughts and for watching! ✨
Got Instagram?
I do @lagomholly☺️