I really liked Justin's vibe and it kind of seemed like the group (especially Mia) got weirdly hostile toward him toward the end for no reason. Laughing when he tried to explain feeling closer to other hetero men felt especially rude.
He seems like a great guy. It might be that him as a comedian brings laughter even when he's not planning to, but vibes were indeed weird. He handled it really respectfully while standing up from himself. Nice social skills.
bruh nobody was being rude, they were all joking around. she laughed because justin is very hetero and called himself hetero in the most hetero way, he understood why she was laughing and stayed deadpan for her amusement. vibes were great, yall dont know how to read a room.
@And so it begins I just think it's kind of disrespectful and it made me uncomfortable watching the video when he was talking and Mia was laughing. Even if it may not have been towards him, her passive aggressive behaviour from beginning to end of the video threw me off and kind of made that particular part feel like it was disrespectful and maybe inappropriate assuming she's an adult.
Mia and that other girl really treated Justin terribly. I really admire that he insisted on speaking about serious topics and just engaging in stimulating conversations
Mia was so disrespectful. Justin looked extremely uncomfortable.. and just tired. I can’t imagine the frustration of trying to get out a meaningful thought and constantly being interrupted.
@And so it begins Mainly, I’m speaking on how Mia and the other person cut him off with the laughing, as he started speaking about his sexuality. I’m just wondering what was so funny about that(?) His delivery didn’t seem to be invoking humor.
I don't get it. She is put into first place by everyone but then she ends up having 1 partner. She could move herself down, it's not about who is the mole or something. Seems to happen more often in Ranked
The first two rounds are more about stereotyping based on information other than the actual numbers , so she should have followed along exactly how she did
Please never have Mia on an episode again until she learns to not laugh at people for sharing really personal things about themselves. Wow. I feel sorry towards Justin, he seems like a very genuine person.
@@toriibooh She was helping them. She ended up being on the higher end, meanwhile the girl in platforms kept instigating to be high up when she was really low with only 1 partner.
I don't see what was wrong with Mia. She wasn't dissing him by laughing, she was even agreeing. I think she understands the world and how it is to have polarising conversations in the real world. Also it always bugs me when people are like how dare you laugh or smile this is serious. I am being serious but being serious doesn't mean you can't laugh or smile. Justin is a comedian. His entire job is about having light hearted/funny serious conversations.
Quite an assumption to make of someone you’ve never even met or had a convo with lmao. Wonder if you’d be brave enough to say that in person but probably just another insecure keyboard warrior anonymously lashing out at people on the internet.
She kept getting mad for the smallest things like CALM tf down it's just a game. She's so mean to people for no reason... Can't believe she can have more than one partners lmao
Wow that's quite confident of you to say. We are seeing snips of what they discussed. Some of the things she did was disrespectful, but that doesn't mean that's who she is as a person. Reading into it wayyy to much and being rude yourself.
I agree BECAUSE I’ve seen her in another video and didn’t like her in that one either, something about her is just there that you can’t look past that I just don’t like when she’s interacting with people 😂
@@andsoitbegins_for me, personally, 8:27 and 9:28 when she was laughing at him felt a little rude just bc he was sharing personal parts of himself and she was being a little disrespectful by laughing but idk
@@FactsInCheckk because she doesn’t deserve the hate and I’m surprised to see this much for her and none for Justin when he actually did things wrong. It reeks of misogyny.
@@geopoonaniluva4141 We aren’t all like these weirdos in the video, no need to stereotype. I’m personally just dating two guys and they’re dating each other, too, that’s all there is to us. It’s not much different. I’m actually straight too, being a woman. It’s also a closed relationship.
I know that polyamory is becoming more common, but every single jubilee video over the topic really makes people in the those sorts of relationships seem selfish/rude. Justin seemed so nice and they were hostile for no reason.
@And so it begins The only time I saw a couple people be rude was when they were laughing at him for sharing something about himself. Otherwise the group seemed pretty polite to each other to me
Mia is the type of person that I cringe just thinking about having to have a conversation in passing at work. The type of person you can always hear before you can see.
@@actuallyimnotreallysureyet6360 @zdf202 I am a RavenClaw by “Sorting” and have came to terms with my way too real description with its insecurities. I fear her by nature, but will never hate her for that. I seek to move in and understand and befriend as a Pisces. Take what a said as a first response but not necessarily the truth for Mia.
Also just reading Mia at the surface level, this is what I observed. She seeks the attention of all for insecurities she has in herself, but presents herself as a carefree no shits given individual but finishes every reaction with a calculated expression of her being the vulnerable one. Her reactions with Justin seemed to be completely over calculated in the sense that he was more disapproving towards her, so she had to display her beliefs of him holding judgment over her was his weakness even though it was her insecurities of him making her display her predetermined judgments of him. Her prejudice made her become close minded; which, contradicted any of her statements that made her feel so important and forward thinking. This is just my guess at a Surface level.
Thank you so much for having me on!! It was really lovely meeting everyone and discussing a part of my life that I never typically talk about. ~ Anya 💛
@@andsoitbegins_ how was justin rude at all.... he seemed so geniuine, didn't even talk back rudely when he was laughed at for his sexuality, instead he literally apologised. i understand thinking he came off strong maybe because he's a comedian but in no way was he rude to the others
Fr like how would you fight for the freedom to love who you wanna love and then laugh at someone who love who they wanna love😂 the hypocrisy is fabulous 💀
@And so it begins we all know queer people think they’re better then straight people and that many straight people are lying about being queer or all have urges. It’s what happens when you think you’re oppressed yet have the loudest voice.
I'm totally cool with poly relationships, but a lot of the issues such as fear and jealousy that they associate with monogamous relationships don't exist in my long term monogamous relationship. I think healthy and unhealthy relationships can exist all relationship styles
Those issues may not exist for you but I'm sure you deal with complex feelings that maybe are not experienced as much in polyamorous relationships. Jealousy isn't something to avoid, like they said in the video, when you experience jealousy you get to learn more information about yourself and meet yourself on a deeper level whereas if you didn't experience it at all, you wouldn't have as much of an opportunity to meet that part of yourself. Like if a person doesn't want to be poly because they would be jealous, that's just avoiding a part of them that could help them grow to face. Of course people can do whatever they want and have boundaries. But being monogamous doesn't make it go away. it might still be there within them and it's just laying dormant. Avoiding something doesn't make it go away if it exists. Facing it helps it dissipate. But jealousy can happen in both poly and monogamous relationships.
I agree with the replies that they stated this but also with you that there is also the underlying assumption from the group that lack of communication in mono relationships fuels jealousy and puts a lot of the onus on the person feeling jealousy or getting abused. Plus having shared romantic feelings towards one person would probably not resolve many hetero problems but fuel them. Alas to say, painting with broad strokes tends to miss many parts of the canvas. People have been poly forever but mono tends to be sufficient for most
they might not exist in your one monogamous relationship but fear and jealousy are normal things that exist in a lot, if not most monogamous relationships. your one relationship doesn't take that away lmao
Yeah they definitely acknowledged that they deal with same stuff as monogamous people just in a different setting. I think it was Mia who said that which was very insightful.
Not to undermine the panel, but Justin seems the most average and relatable to the majority of viewers who may be thinking about a poly-relationship. I think a more in-depth discussion with him and his partners would be really helpful.
I agree, except for the part where their poly journey started by recruiting a unicorn. Not judging them for it, but too many people think the easiest way to ease a monogamous relationship into polyamory is by "adding a third" and that has its own set of advanced challenges.
@@stefan98TH it’s primitive!! it’s barbaric, animal-like decadence. one of the main traits of modern society is monogamy. its a pillar of construction of our cultures.
@@MarkArness adding a third even in media just ruins the couple for me lol it never works out just ruins the whole dynamic n riddles it with jealousy n becomes abt making ppl equal unstead of cherishing ur unique bond with ur og partner n new partner. Alot of ppl must confuse being open to being poly lol and even with triads i have never read about a healthy one.
Justin saying he was straight and getting laughed at for it was pretty disrespectful. I get that there are nuances, but if that were the other way around it wouldn't be glanced over like that.
I think Justin is just older than all of them and is speaking from his experience and the rest of them are just immature and think they know everything.
Mia gives off such an immature vibe. That's so rude to laugh at someone when they're trying to open up. Imagine if the tables were turned and Justin started laughing at her.
I hate the whole "if people are polygamous it'll stop/reduce domestic abuse" argument. Like there are very dangerous monogamous and polygamous people. I was groomed by polygamous men when I was aa teenager, and have met so many polygamous people when in the dating scene who would objectify me and were jealous of anything I did even though we'd never even been on a date. It's definitely not all polygamous people, there are lovely people who are polygamous. But just like monogamous people the community has issues and dangerous people in it who will pray on others, get jealous and be abusive to their partners EDIT: I MEAN POLYAMORY! I'm dyslexic and the two words basically look identical to me, and I'm not going to risk changing them as I'm worried my autocorrect might correct some words as polyamory and others as polygamy, so will confused more people with inconsistencies. So yeah ai mean polyamory, sorry for the confusion
100% agree, abuse is not because of a relationship structure, it's because of problems inside the person who's abusing. Abuse can happen in any relationship, between any types of people. The onus is on the individual who is behaving poorly, not on the relationship structure.
I think that his argument made sense. A lot of domestic abuse comes from control and jealousy and if people were able to speak about it more openly and be honest with how they feel and where it truly vibes from, it wouldnt bottle up as much and explode. Of course there will be shitty people everywhere but jealousy is at the root of a lot of violence.
I don't get why they were laughing when Justin stated that he was heterosexual. Very immature of them but respect to him for handling it well. Hope they apologized after this was filmed.
This comment section is wild. There's so many judgements being made on these people's character based on a video that's not even fifteen minutes. Jubilee is known to edit with the intention of portraying people in a bad light to get more engagement and you're all falling for it.
It's already hard dealing with one person's baggage let alone multiple. It's definitely cool to have multiple sex partners but more power to you if you can actually make something work relationship wise
Mia said “jealous is hot” I want an explanation on this. It’s hot when someone is feeling jealous of her? Like one of her partners is jealous she is sending time with another and she likes that? If the jealous partner is into that then it’s fine and it can work, but if they aren’t then that could be very toxic, as in she’s attracted to her partner feeling a negative emotion
This is one of the worst episodes based on the passive aggressiveness and obnoxiousness. Denaja, She was trying to be a mole and keep the top spot. Even though she KNEW she had 1 partner. There was 1 serious conversation in this whole video by Justin and they LAUGHED at him.
This isn't an Odd One Out episode lol, this show is supposed to explore stereotypes, how we judge others, and how our initial judgements about someone could be completely wrong. It wouldn't be very interesting if they guessed the whole lineup correctly so when everyone else guessed that she was at the top, so she stayed at the top even though she knew damn well that they were wrong. I agree with you on the other point though...
I am never writing negative comments, but this Mia is absolutely disrespectful and annoying. She completely made me mad by how she is talking to people.
is it me or were the beliefs on being able to talk to your partner, being honest and having open communication, just normal things that people should have in all relationships across the board??
@@Mole-Esther No, it's pretty common for a lot of monogamous relationships because A LOT is taken for granted. It's great that you and your partner are able to do this, but you are actually the exception instead of the norm.
@@baoxology9958 Hello, 10 months later. I was specifically responding to a comment that has since been deleted. I don't remember what that comment was, but its disappearance is making my comment seem 'random' or 'disjointed'.
1st round is based off of first appearances, and how people stereotype you. The open discussion had her saying "I'm trying to tell y'all" She didn't give any indication that she had the most partners, and in fact, if you listen to what she says, it's pretty clear that she doesn't have a lot of partners
Yeah, it felt like she didn't understand the assignment in that regard. But it can be tricky to be instructed with "you can't say how many partners you have" - so what, you just let others move you around? Same with the one with 0 partners (Anya?) - she should've stayed put at number one because she knew no number is greater than her 0. Kind of an iffy concept.
I thought the point was that you had to let the others rank you? Like they couldn't have a say in where they were ranked, other had to do it based on what they hear ig idk
Okay… I think Mia was having a little bit of mean spirited humor. I don’t think she’s a horrible person. Let’s all calm down. Justin is going to be okay (very nice guy btw). We’re all going to be okay. Let’s not try so hard to make sure that Mia is not okay. We’ve all had awkward days/ moments, not all of them are filmed.
Very true, and very wise. However, that’s not gonna stop me from hating her in this video. She knew this was filmed and was consciously making the decision thinking she would be the star of the video. I’m guessing the fam she had gotten from previous videos got to her head and now she believes the internet takes her side, even if she’s too blind to see past her bad attitude.
It seems like poly people seem to △⃒⃘ℓωαуѕ think they’re better than monogamous people. That they are more “evolved” than us.They seem to have a very narrow view of what people are like in monogamous relationships.
why’s everyone being so rude about mia she just laughed at the wrong moment because maybe she expected something else or was just awkward from interactions with people it was a ten second moment 💀
2.50 being in a monogamous relationship doesn't automatically mean you're selfish, thats so wild. dont rrly care if ur poly but why hate on others choices for no reason?
crop black tank top girl- when she said after she became poly, she got less jealous? Like you can resolve those issues of jealousy within yourself, without being poly? Just because your monogamous, doesn't mean you can't deal with jealousy in a healthy, self reflecting way
Mia has no chill. Girl let Justin talk. Mia chill tf down. I got weird vibes from her from build a boo. She the type of person to think she's cool but literally has no chill.
@@actuallyimnotreallysureyet6360 again no one saw it that way other than you. Justin didn't come off bad and actually handled Mia laughing at him for being heterosexual really well. And what is that anyway? Laughing at someone's sexuality? As if you can't believe there are straight people? Girl grow tf up.
Great. I also do prefer a relationship based on mutual respect where partners are connected to each other through emotional bond and are loyal,instead of someone casually sleeping with dozen other while also carrying multiple different diseases like herpes,STDs or AIDS
For me, I consider myself primarily monogamous too, but I am currently in a polyamorous relationship with two men. The three of us are all equally intimate with each other, so I always considered it pretty close to being the same as a monogamous relationship. It’s nice. Call me monoflexible maybe? Like heteroflexible but for number of partners? Lmao
A lot of them seem to be hesitant, or felt embarrassed to be towards the top of the line. Which is interesting to me because I wonder if still even within the polyamory community. There is a shaming against having more than X amount of partners.
Thanks, Jubilee, for the representation. :) I very much appreciated Justin's choice of words and topics, hoping to see him again in a future video. I also feel like the men in this video spoke kindly and openly about their views, wish I could hug you for it.
Ngl they weren’t funny and high key rude for laughing when he just said he was heterosexual like it isn’t funny for this world to progress we need to make things equal not make being homosexual better 8:22
They're all so funny and seemingly comfortable with each other. Rather than the awkward "not trying to offend you" vibes I get from most other groups in this series.
A healthy Monogamous relationship is so beautiful. But a healthy poly relationship just seems like a “you will never be enough for me and youre okay with that” mindset
Healthy monogamous relationships really are beautiful. Healthy polyamorous relationships can be beautiful, too. I used to understand poly the same way you're describing, before I found out that a couple of my friends are polyamorous. For them, it's not about the other person not being enough. It's more like, "how can I embrace all the things about who you are, how can I celebrate you, what gift can I give you." It comes from a giving place, not a deficit place. Their relationship is complete with or without them seeing other partners. They really changed my understanding of the ways relationships can play out, and seeing how much they love each other has made it easy for me to support them. All *healthy* relationships are beautiful. I don't think a relationship where someone made their partner feel "not enough" would ever be healthy.
Being mono, I have a difficult time imagining people just casually dating around like these with multiple partners. The only one I could somehow relate to was Justin, where it seemed to be two very long term relationships and all of them being together.
I disagree, they're living their truth and telling other people it's okay to do the same. There's nothing wrong with either way of living, but judging from either side isn't necessary.
I don’t act that way, it sucks to see these people misrepresent us. They’re all making this their personality trait when to me it’s… really just a relationship. I’m in a closed relationship with two men. That’s all there is to it. These people are super loud and arrogant.
@AlzMarioWolfe from what I've seen closed poly relationships see to work out a lot better then open ones. So I wish the best for you and your partners!
It's a case of the squeaky wheel gets the grease. You're necessarily going to hear from those that are discontent because they have A LOT of complaints. Those that are content and happy are just going to keep doing what they're doing without much of a peep 🤷
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dont ever have mia on this show
I really liked Justin's vibe and it kind of seemed like the group (especially Mia) got weirdly hostile toward him toward the end for no reason. Laughing when he tried to explain feeling closer to other hetero men felt especially rude.
He seems like a great guy. It might be that him as a comedian brings laughter even when he's not planning to, but vibes were indeed weird. He handled it really respectfully while standing up from himself. Nice social skills.
He was in on the joke though. He understood what was going on.
I think they just took the fact he was a comedian as carte blanche to make him the butt of as many jokes as possible. I didn't see it as that bad.
I agree.
bruh nobody was being rude, they were all joking around. she laughed because justin is very hetero and called himself hetero in the most hetero way, he understood why she was laughing and stayed deadpan for her amusement. vibes were great, yall dont know how to read a room.
yeah they definitely need to have more older, mature people like justin on here who can actually have insightful conversations...
and less people like Mia, she makes polyamorous people look bad.
That’s not what we’re here for these videos are supposed to be light and fun who tf wants to listen to deep convos on UA-cam 😂.
Justin had some really thoughful insights. I don't have any clue why someone would laugh and act so disrespectul when he was just sharing his truth
There's his truth, and then there's the truth.
@@ishy6875 the idiocy in this comment. With this topic, there’s no *one* truth.
@@nadiaishimwe3663 Your inability to refute a single I've said is pretty telling.
@@ishy6875 lol cuz all you said was "nah that's true" there's nothing of substance there to even argue wit. It's literally a child like argument.
@And so it begins I just think it's kind of disrespectful and it made me uncomfortable watching the video when he was talking and Mia was laughing. Even if it may not have been towards him, her passive aggressive behaviour from beginning to end of the video threw me off and kind of made that particular part feel like it was disrespectful and maybe inappropriate assuming she's an adult.
didn't like at all how they laughed at justin when he said heterosexual. he just spoke facts. the whole time.
Because their sad people
They live online
They're sad insecure confused people, who think that because you're heterosexual it's unnatural, because it's so normal to be gay today probably.
the venn diagram of poly people and insecure people is a circle.
They are insecure, Mia especially
Mia and that other girl really treated Justin terribly. I really admire that he insisted on speaking about serious topics and just engaging in stimulating conversations
Mia was so annoying like i wish she would have just stfu
Yeah they seemed really full of themselves and full with the spirit of egocentrism. Gross
what number
@@EtherealBeing that's what polyamorous people are - narcissists
why were they laughing at him bru💀
Mia was so disrespectful. Justin looked extremely uncomfortable.. and just tired. I can’t imagine the frustration of trying to get out a meaningful thought and constantly being interrupted.
@And so it begins Mainly, I’m speaking on how Mia and the other person cut him off with the laughing, as he started speaking about his sexuality. I’m just wondering what was so funny about that(?) His delivery didn’t seem to be invoking humor.
@And so it begins someone didn't pay attention
He looked very comfortable
She was not being nice.
I don't get it. She is put into first place by everyone but then she ends up having 1 partner. She could move herself down, it's not about who is the mole or something. Seems to happen more often in Ranked
The first two rounds are more about stereotyping based on information other than the actual numbers , so she should have followed along exactly how she did
She was stereotyped because she mentioned having a bunch of poly roommates earlier on
She was probably told beforehand to not move down:/
When you have +4 in a game of Uno do you yell it out for everyone to know?
@@l3n1san that is not the point. I guess the point used to be to make an accurate estimate of the outcome
Please never have Mia on an episode again until she learns to not laugh at people for sharing really personal things about themselves. Wow. I feel sorry towards Justin, he seems like a very genuine person.
which one is mia??
@@stef62777 the girl who kept saying she didn't like being at the end and wanted to move herself up, then moved her self down at the end
@@toriibooh She was helping them. She ended up being on the higher end, meanwhile the girl in platforms kept instigating to be high up when she was really low with only 1 partner.
Preach
I don't see what was wrong with Mia. She wasn't dissing him by laughing, she was even agreeing. I think she understands the world and how it is to have polarising conversations in the real world.
Also it always bugs me when people are like how dare you laugh or smile this is serious. I am being serious but being serious doesn't mean you can't laugh or smile. Justin is a comedian. His entire job is about having light hearted/funny serious conversations.
Mia is the type of woman who acts like she is open minded and progressive but instantly talks down to anyone who isn't as woke as she is
Typical
Mia is the type of person who won't value someone opinions just because they are straight.
Quite an assumption to make of someone you’ve never even met or had a convo with lmao. Wonder if you’d be brave enough to say that in person but probably just another insecure keyboard warrior anonymously lashing out at people on the internet.
She kept getting mad for the smallest things like CALM tf down it's just a game. She's so mean to people for no reason... Can't believe she can have more than one partners lmao
she wasn't even woke just pretty pretentious w a big ego wanting everyone to see her as someone w multiple partners
Mia’s the kind of person you immediately dislike after having one conversation
😂😂 so true
No she’s not, she seemed like a funny and nice person. I hate how the comment judge someone based on one interaction :/
Wow that's quite confident of you to say. We are seeing snips of what they discussed. Some of the things she did was disrespectful, but that doesn't mean that's who she is as a person. Reading into it wayyy to much and being rude yourself.
@@actuallyimnotreallysureyet6360 Hi Mia
I agree BECAUSE I’ve seen her in another video and didn’t like her in that one either, something about her is just there that you can’t look past that I just don’t like when she’s interacting with people 😂
This one was actually kind of upsetting to watch. Folks laughing at someone when their talking about their sexuality is just not cool. BLUGH.
Fr and if it was the opposite, they would be homophobic 🤬
@@nutellalatte7522 such double standards
@@LeahSifris omg heterophobia /j
@@szasbaddest1 lol
What was the time stamp?
Mia is so passive aggressive it's annoying
She was just in “build a boo” four days ago and she was chill there lol
I think she might have been nervous and was overcompensating, but it came across so rude and passive aggressive.
Being nervous doesn’t make being rude to others okay.
Who’s Mia
@@andsoitbegins_for me, personally, 8:27 and 9:28 when she was laughing at him felt a little rude just bc he was sharing personal parts of himself and she was being a little disrespectful by laughing but idk
Mia is the chronically online poly that we get bad reputation thanks to, and Justin and the others are how poly irl people usually are.
The other girls also laughed at Justin and Mia was only pointing out how controlling Justin was, Mia is not at all as bad as these comments are saying
@@actuallyimnotreallysureyet6360 they laughed because she started laughing. She is passive aggressive and clearly has anger/communication issues.
@@actuallyimnotreallysureyet6360 stfu, Karen
@@actuallyimnotreallysureyet6360 you’re as chronically online as she is 😂
@@nicholasm4013 sorry Nicholas but that’s projection there
‘Mia’ THOUGHT she was being the main character but failed miserably at that attempt. She was so annoying for no reason.
Really? I think Justin was trying to be the main character, just look at how he behaves and cuts people off?
@@actuallyimnotreallysureyet6360 you trynna defend mia in every comment
@@FactsInCheckk because she doesn’t deserve the hate and I’m surprised to see this much for her and none for Justin when he actually did things wrong. It reeks of misogyny.
@@actuallyimnotreallysureyet6360 I am all about calling out misogyny but get serious this girl was annoying as heck and rude for no reason
@@FactsInCheckk because she is Mia from alt account.
Damn, Mr. Beard guy has a really listenable voice when he slows down and gets in this low range. I like that.
Omg me too his voice is idk how to say it smooth?
His voice reminded me of Kendall's from Succession
Laughing at justin when he said he was heterosexual is very mature of you’all (sarcasm)
Were you expecting maturity from polys?
They need to be with multiple people at once to feel fulfilled, what do u except
@@magnificusdominusduxchad4229 but that doesn’t mean they can’t be mature I’ve met very mature and forward polyamorous people before.
@@geopoonaniluva4141 that’s sort of assuming that all polyamorous people aren’t mature.
Justin is polyamorous and comes off as very mature
@@geopoonaniluva4141 We aren’t all like these weirdos in the video, no need to stereotype. I’m personally just dating two guys and they’re dating each other, too, that’s all there is to us. It’s not much different. I’m actually straight too, being a woman.
It’s also a closed relationship.
Mia is taking this thing like a competition 🤣
She seems very competitive.
Not really, she was just trying to speak and Justin kept cutting her off and controlling where everyone’s placement was
@@actuallyimnotreallysureyet6360 Mia is that you?
@@actuallyimnotreallysureyet6360 Hi Mia
Haha competitive for a hoe title lol!
I know that polyamory is becoming more common, but every single jubilee video over the topic really makes people in the those sorts of relationships seem selfish/rude. Justin seemed so nice and they were hostile for no reason.
Maybe they are hostile for a reason they have issues wanting to all flex their mental illness
You're waking up Neo
@And so it begins The only time I saw a couple people be rude was when they were laughing at him for sharing something about himself. Otherwise the group seemed pretty polite to each other to me
I think it's a little different when it's a long term marriage or relationship that opens up verse casually dating multiple people.
That's because they suffer from mental illness 🤷♂
Gonna need Justin to make some audiobooks or something, could listen to him talk for ages!
DAS WHAT IM SAYIN
Not gonna lie but I thought there would be at least one with 20+ partners. 👀
Mia is the type of person that I cringe just thinking about having to have a conversation in passing at work. The type of person you can always hear before you can see.
yeah lol like every topic needs to relive around her
why this comment hating on mia so hard😭 she seemed cool i was literally thinking i would go on a date with her
@@zdf74 same she seemed really cool in build-a-boo I think Justin just made her more aggressive bc he was so controlling.
@@actuallyimnotreallysureyet6360 @zdf202 I am a RavenClaw by “Sorting” and have came to terms with my way too real description with its insecurities. I fear her by nature, but will never hate her for that. I seek to move in and understand and befriend as a Pisces. Take what a said as a first response but not necessarily the truth for Mia.
Also just reading Mia at the surface level, this is what I observed. She seeks the attention of all for insecurities she has in herself, but presents herself as a carefree no shits given individual but finishes every reaction with a calculated expression of her being the vulnerable one. Her reactions with Justin seemed to be completely over calculated in the sense that he was more disapproving towards her, so she had to display her beliefs of him holding judgment over her was his weakness even though it was her insecurities of him making her display her predetermined judgments of him. Her prejudice made her become close minded; which, contradicted any of her statements that made her feel so important and forward thinking. This is just my guess at a Surface level.
Mia being on here when she was just on Build-A-Boo… guess that relationship isn’t going to work out lol
People like her are superficial and only do things to gain clout and popularity.
I had the same thought 😅
Yea but aren’t these episodes filmed a while before they actually get uploaded?
My guess is all of these people on dating shows join just to get exposure and gain popularity not to actually find a partner.
Honestly a lot of these people seem like actors or wanna be actors so
Thank you so much for having me on!! It was really lovely meeting everyone and discussing a part of my life that I never typically talk about. ~ Anya 💛
ur a queen and ur outfit was sooo cute! where is ur top from is it balmain or loewe it looks boujee
Omg! How did I not make the connection that this was u??
i love ur art ur inspiring and i loved u on this ep 🖤
typical Anya slay
You are beautiful and your accent is really nice to listen to
Justin’s words on the conversation with other heterosexual men were so thought-provoking, and meaningful.
just saw mia in a nectar episode and thought she was really nice. she is like a completely different person in this one.
LMFAO IKR
You can tell she's a snake by the way she talks. Kind of gross honestly
probably because she talks less there
was looking for this comment lmao
truue i thought the same thing
Please don’t ever bring Mia back, so rude and childish
Or the girl with the platforms. They were both pretentious assholes. Idk who they think they are.
She didn’t do anything that the others didn’t also do. Justin was rubbing everyone the wrong way.
@@andsoitbegins_ how was justin rude at all.... he seemed so geniuine, didn't even talk back rudely when he was laughed at for his sexuality, instead he literally apologised. i understand thinking he came off strong maybe because he's a comedian but in no way was he rude to the others
@@actuallyimnotreallysureyet6360 no he wasn’t, unless you were there?
@@KateCarew So Mia wasn’t either, unless you were there?
Was laughing necessary after Justin said he’s straight?
That was so disrespectful, I felt SO sorry for Justin
Fr like how would you fight for the freedom to love who you wanna love and then laugh at someone who love who they wanna love😂 the hypocrisy is fabulous 💀
@@lizzyezekiel116 that's feminism.
We KNOW that being straight isn’t cool. I’m being sarcastic.
@And so it begins we all know queer people think they’re better then straight people and that many straight people are lying about being queer or all have urges. It’s what happens when you think you’re oppressed yet have the loudest voice.
I'm totally cool with poly relationships, but a lot of the issues such as fear and jealousy that they associate with monogamous relationships don't exist in my long term monogamous relationship. I think healthy and unhealthy relationships can exist all relationship styles
They said that
Those issues may not exist for you but I'm sure you deal with complex feelings that maybe are not experienced as much in polyamorous relationships. Jealousy isn't something to avoid, like they said in the video, when you experience jealousy you get to learn more information about yourself and meet yourself on a deeper level whereas if you didn't experience it at all, you wouldn't have as much of an opportunity to meet that part of yourself. Like if a person doesn't want to be poly because they would be jealous, that's just avoiding a part of them that could help them grow to face. Of course people can do whatever they want and have boundaries. But being monogamous doesn't make it go away. it might still be there within them and it's just laying dormant. Avoiding something doesn't make it go away if it exists. Facing it helps it dissipate. But jealousy can happen in both poly and monogamous relationships.
I agree with the replies that they stated this but also with you that there is also the underlying assumption from the group that lack of communication in mono relationships fuels jealousy and puts a lot of the onus on the person feeling jealousy or getting abused. Plus having shared romantic feelings towards one person would probably not resolve many hetero problems but fuel them. Alas to say, painting with broad strokes tends to miss many parts of the canvas. People have been poly forever but mono tends to be sufficient for most
they might not exist in your one monogamous relationship but fear and jealousy are normal things that exist in a lot, if not most monogamous relationships. your one relationship doesn't take that away lmao
Yeah they definitely acknowledged that they deal with same stuff as monogamous people just in a different setting. I think it was Mia who said that which was very insightful.
I love Anya’s outfit and their whole vibe!
Yes! She has a beautiful style and seems very calm
I'm really close to 700 sobs I'm currently at 693 if anyone could help that would be great
Ahhh thank you so much! That means a lot 🥹💛
And she was one of the few who didn’t laugh at Justin
Anya literally looks like a forest fairy and I love that for her
yo tbone same
hope the girl from build a boo let the other girl know she’s poly before agreeing to go on a date 🙄
my thoughts exactly. i think mia should have said it before she let the boo maker choose her over all those other girls.
facts
Was thinking the same thing…
Not to undermine the panel, but Justin seems the most average and relatable to the majority of viewers who may be thinking about a poly-relationship. I think a more in-depth discussion with him and his partners would be really helpful.
I agree, except for the part where their poly journey started by recruiting a unicorn. Not judging them for it, but too many people think the easiest way to ease a monogamous relationship into polyamory is by "adding a third" and that has its own set of advanced challenges.
who wants to encourage polyamory lol? a literal ailment in society
@@youtubechannelchannel9363 care to elaborate? seems prety polyphobic to me
@@stefan98TH it’s primitive!! it’s barbaric, animal-like decadence. one of the main traits of modern society is monogamy. its a pillar of construction of our cultures.
@@MarkArness adding a third even in media just ruins the couple for me lol it never works out just ruins the whole dynamic n riddles it with jealousy n becomes abt making ppl equal unstead of cherishing ur unique bond with ur og partner n new partner. Alot of ppl must confuse being open to being poly lol and even with triads i have never read about a healthy one.
i love that every single person collectively agrees that mia is shitty person
Justin saying he was straight and getting laughed at for it was pretty disrespectful. I get that there are nuances, but if that were the other way around it wouldn't be glanced over like that.
Ya idek whats so funny? These are the people that believe everyone would be gay if they just tried it once.
I think Justin is just older than all of them and is speaking from his experience and the rest of them are just immature and think they know everything.
Mia gives off such an immature vibe. That's so rude to laugh at someone when they're trying to open up. Imagine if the tables were turned and Justin started laughing at her.
I hate the whole "if people are polygamous it'll stop/reduce domestic abuse" argument. Like there are very dangerous monogamous and polygamous people. I was groomed by polygamous men when I was aa teenager, and have met so many polygamous people when in the dating scene who would objectify me and were jealous of anything I did even though we'd never even been on a date.
It's definitely not all polygamous people, there are lovely people who are polygamous. But just like monogamous people the community has issues and dangerous people in it who will pray on others, get jealous and be abusive to their partners
EDIT: I MEAN POLYAMORY! I'm dyslexic and the two words basically look identical to me, and I'm not going to risk changing them as I'm worried my autocorrect might correct some words as polyamory and others as polygamy, so will confused more people with inconsistencies. So yeah ai mean polyamory, sorry for the confusion
We’re talking about polyamory not polygamy
100% agree, abuse is not because of a relationship structure, it's because of problems inside the person who's abusing. Abuse can happen in any relationship, between any types of people. The onus is on the individual who is behaving poorly, not on the relationship structure.
I think that his argument made sense. A lot of domestic abuse comes from control and jealousy and if people were able to speak about it more openly and be honest with how they feel and where it truly vibes from, it wouldnt bottle up as much and explode. Of course there will be shitty people everywhere but jealousy is at the root of a lot of violence.
polygamy and polyamory are two VERY different things
Polygamy and polyamory aren't the same thing
mia and d’nayza are literally so chronically online it’s insane
Mia was so annoying
that mean girl laugh when justin said he was straight made me cringe...
I don't get why they were laughing when Justin stated that he was heterosexual. Very immature of them but respect to him for handling it well. Hope they apologized after this was filmed.
I could tell straight away Mia was going to have bully vibes.
those roots really gave it away
@@neerin4178 literally
@@neerin4178 hahahahhaha
No need to insult her looks
her vibe was weird but so is this comment lmao, she was mostly fine throughout the first half
So the girl from build a boo got a girl with 3 partners... Nice!
funny how that didn't come up in the episode lol
Justin is just wonderful, what a mature, genuine person. He reminds me of my favorite people who are self-aware, confident but still open.
This comment section is wild. There's so many judgements being made on these people's character based on a video that's not even fifteen minutes. Jubilee is known to edit with the intention of portraying people in a bad light to get more engagement and you're all falling for it.
It's already hard dealing with one person's baggage let alone multiple. It's definitely cool to have multiple sex partners but more power to you if you can actually make something work relationship wise
Mia said “jealous is hot” I want an explanation on this. It’s hot when someone is feeling jealous of her? Like one of her partners is jealous she is sending time with another and she likes that?
If the jealous partner is into that then it’s fine and it can work, but if they aren’t then that could be very toxic, as in she’s attracted to her partner feeling a negative emotion
Yes because it makes you feel more wanted I guess
This is one of the worst episodes based on the passive aggressiveness and obnoxiousness.
Denaja,
She was trying to be a mole and keep the top spot. Even though she KNEW she had 1 partner.
There was 1 serious conversation in this whole video by Justin and they LAUGHED at him.
This isn't an Odd One Out episode lol, this show is supposed to explore stereotypes, how we judge others, and how our initial judgements about someone could be completely wrong. It wouldn't be very interesting if they guessed the whole lineup correctly so when everyone else guessed that she was at the top, so she stayed at the top even though she knew damn well that they were wrong. I agree with you on the other point though...
I am never writing negative comments, but this Mia is absolutely disrespectful and annoying. She completely made me mad by how she is talking to people.
@@andsoitbegins_ no one asked?
Wow, watching people laugh about being heterosexual was insane. I knew it was coming but witnessing it happen was crazyyyy!!
is it me or were the beliefs on being able to talk to your partner, being honest and having open communication, just normal things that people should have in all relationships across the board??
Yes it is but in a lot of monogamous relationships I’ve been in and have experiences there isn’t a lot of room for it
@@waveyvlogs thats on you and your partner not because it's monogamous
@@Mole-Esther No, it's pretty common for a lot of monogamous relationships because A LOT is taken for granted. It's great that you and your partner are able to do this, but you are actually the exception instead of the norm.
@@marmar90000 Your point? It’s the same for polyamorous relationships too.
@@baoxology9958 Hello, 10 months later. I was specifically responding to a comment that has since been deleted. I don't remember what that comment was, but its disappearance is making my comment seem 'random' or 'disjointed'.
Wow Justin was so open and thoughtful, and he was very intelligent too!
She knew she had 1 partner but decided to stay at the top? Why? Idk these people are iffy
1st round is based off of first appearances, and how people stereotype you.
The open discussion had her saying "I'm trying to tell y'all"
She didn't give any indication that she had the most partners, and in fact, if you listen to what she says, it's pretty clear that she doesn't have a lot of partners
Yeah, it felt like she didn't understand the assignment in that regard.
But it can be tricky to be instructed with "you can't say how many partners you have" - so what, you just let others move you around?
Same with the one with 0 partners (Anya?) - she should've stayed put at number one because she knew no number is greater than her 0.
Kind of an iffy concept.
I thought the point was that you had to let the others rank you? Like they couldn't have a say in where they were ranked, other had to do it based on what they hear ig idk
I have the fattest crush on Justin.
That voice, his kindness, his humour, his awareness, oof. 🥵
Okay… I think Mia was having a little bit of mean spirited humor. I don’t think she’s a horrible person. Let’s all calm down. Justin is going to be okay (very nice guy btw). We’re all going to be okay. Let’s not try so hard to make sure that Mia is not okay. We’ve all had awkward days/ moments, not all of them are filmed.
Very true, and very wise. However, that’s not gonna stop me from hating her in this video. She knew this was filmed and was consciously making the decision thinking she would be the star of the video. I’m guessing the fam she had gotten from previous videos got to her head and now she believes the internet takes her side, even if she’s too blind to see past her bad attitude.
Ehh im okay with hating her.
fr people acting like judging a straight person for being straight is equally as bad as judging a queer person for being queer
@@kp-bh8eh it is just as bad lmao no one should be judging anyone
@@Mole-Esther it’s not nice but there is no history of oppression with straight people
Here to support Jacob who I went to high school with!! They are also vegan and super cool!
I was their coworker a couple years ago and friend since ☺️
@@tavenstrickert9658 nice!!
He is*
Anya has such gorgeous eyes! Really pretty eyeliner too!!
Mia rubs me the wrong way
That seems like a you issue, Mia seemed fine to me.
Yeah she's definitely a b****
@@wheatstonebridge oh look casual misogyny
@@actuallyimnotreallysureyet6360 really? I'm a woman and she clearly is one
@@wheatstonebridge agreeing with a misogynist doesn’t make you any less of of misogynist just bc you’re a woman
It seems like poly people seem to △⃒⃘ℓωαуѕ think they’re better than monogamous people. That they are more “evolved” than us.They seem to have a very narrow view of what people are like in monogamous relationships.
I don't know why I was so suprised they all had 5 or less partners
why’s everyone being so rude about mia she just laughed at the wrong moment because maybe she expected something else or was just awkward from interactions with people it was a ten second moment 💀
That was so mean they laughed when Justin said heterosexual
2.50 being in a monogamous relationship doesn't automatically mean you're selfish, thats so wild. dont rrly care if ur poly but why hate on others choices for no reason?
What are those two laughing at? The heck. It’s givin me yOU caNt siT wIth uS energy
crop black tank top girl- when she said after she became poly, she got less jealous? Like you can resolve those issues of jealousy within yourself, without being poly? Just because your monogamous, doesn't mean you can't deal with jealousy in a healthy, self reflecting way
D’NAYZJA looks like an anime villain. I would watch that anime.
I found it funny that all of them talked about being really busy and not having enough time. 😂 it’s hard to maintain one relationship already.
Mia has no chill. Girl let Justin talk. Mia chill tf down. I got weird vibes from her from build a boo. She the type of person to think she's cool but literally has no chill.
@And so it begins literally everyone here and in the comments disagrees with you but you keep believing whatever you want lmao.
@And so it begins I think you just hate men
@And so it begins >using incel as an insult cause the only value that I have is sex
Justin was talking over other and pulling them by their clothes to rearrange them. They laughed at him once and they’re the bad guys here?
@@actuallyimnotreallysureyet6360 again no one saw it that way other than you. Justin didn't come off bad and actually handled Mia laughing at him for being heterosexual really well. And what is that anyway? Laughing at someone's sexuality? As if you can't believe there are straight people? Girl grow tf up.
"someone that i keep in touch w/ + expect them to do the same"
...that's just a *NORMAL FRIENDSHIP*
I found out that I'm not polyamorous because I'm content giving my affection to one worthy person. More power to you poly people, though!
Great. I also do prefer a relationship based on mutual respect where partners are connected to each other through emotional bond and are loyal,instead of someone casually sleeping with dozen other while also carrying multiple different diseases like herpes,STDs or AIDS
@@coldplayfan7357 Me too! That's why I'm poly and don't sleep around and have mutual respect for partners I deeply love and am commited to!
@@alangarde2928 Just don't give your multiple partners dozens of life threatening diseases
For me, I consider myself primarily monogamous too, but I am currently in a polyamorous relationship with two men. The three of us are all equally intimate with each other, so I always considered it pretty close to being the same as a monogamous relationship. It’s nice. Call me monoflexible maybe? Like heteroflexible but for number of partners? Lmao
@@AlzMarioWolfe nah you arent monogymous lmao
justin is giving complete zachary quinto vibes and i love it
I love the way Justin slowly and sneakily moves when he finds out that one woman is a dominatrix
A lot of them seem to be hesitant, or felt embarrassed to be towards the top of the line. Which is interesting to me because I wonder if still even within the polyamory community. There is a shaming against having more than X amount of partners.
why did I expect to get those Disney numbers in the end up in the 1000s 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Thanks, Jubilee, for the representation. :)
I very much appreciated Justin's choice of words and topics, hoping to see him again in a future video.
I also feel like the men in this video spoke kindly and openly about their views, wish I could hug you for it.
Imagine being poly and not having any partners 😭
It's just them laughing, sometimes it's just a response not an offense
Jax-Prince saying “assigned ho at birth” then D’Nayzya saying “real” and the video just ends. Top tier editing decision.
Ngl they weren’t funny and high key rude for laughing when he just said he was heterosexual like it isn’t funny for this world to progress we need to make things equal not make being homosexual better 8:22
this whole video screams " i'm so edgy and different and cool
Just like goths
This generation is doomed. They lost and don’t even realize it
Why are they acting like polyamory is a sexuality? It’s a life style
Oml exactly I was so mad lmao
No one said it was. It's a **relationship style**. I think it's just you that's confused 🤔🤔
@@marmar90000 No, they were definitely treating it as if it were a sexuality. They said things like “when did you realize you were poly”
you Cannot tell me this isnt a mental illnes
thats bc it is
They're all so funny and seemingly comfortable with each other. Rather than the awkward "not trying to offend you" vibes I get from most other groups in this series.
"The Stand user could be anyone in the room."
LMFAOO
💀
Why was it okay for them to laugh when he said he identified as heterosexual
Because of the way he said it. Idk why everyone is simpin so hard for Justin and taking everything so seriously.
what is funny about being hetro 💀
Bring normal I guess is funny to them
It's not that deep we have no idea why mia actually laughed
Next, y'all should test if teachers can identify if text (or art, music, ect) is written by ai or a person.
Me and anya have the same amount of partners!!!!
imma say it since no one else is . . .
Justin is *hot*
that voice??? i'm drooling the entire episode
For real I liked his voice, didn’t think it was hot though. 😂
A healthy Monogamous relationship is so beautiful. But a healthy poly relationship just seems like a “you will never be enough for me and youre okay with that” mindset
did you watch the video...?
@@gyosob7265 in my opinion. I may have missed the point of the video. But that’s just my opinion on polygamy
that's exactly what it is
Healthy monogamous relationships really are beautiful. Healthy polyamorous relationships can be beautiful, too. I used to understand poly the same way you're describing, before I found out that a couple of my friends are polyamorous. For them, it's not about the other person not being enough. It's more like, "how can I embrace all the things about who you are, how can I celebrate you, what gift can I give you." It comes from a giving place, not a deficit place. Their relationship is complete with or without them seeing other partners. They really changed my understanding of the ways relationships can play out, and seeing how much they love each other has made it easy for me to support them.
All *healthy* relationships are beautiful. I don't think a relationship where someone made their partner feel "not enough" would ever be healthy.
they just wanna cheat and don't want one person to sleep with.
Mia wasn’t even that bad y’all draggin it
For real
Well this was a mess 😂 they had no idea where to rank themselves lol
guy in green shirt has a recognizable voice, from what tho ?
markiplier
Being mono, I have a difficult time imagining people just casually dating around like these with multiple partners. The only one I could somehow relate to was Justin, where it seemed to be two very long term relationships and all of them being together.
I find other peoples alternative lifestyles really interesting. Love this channel.
D’Nayzja has such an interesting look! Reminds me of the club kids in the 80’s and 90’s like Party Monster.
Poly people seem like the vegans of relationships. "Look at us, we're so enlightened" Bleh.
I disagree, they're living their truth and telling other people it's okay to do the same. There's nothing wrong with either way of living, but judging from either side isn't necessary.
I don’t act that way, it sucks to see these people misrepresent us. They’re all making this their personality trait when to me it’s… really just a relationship. I’m in a closed relationship with two men. That’s all there is to it. These people are super loud and arrogant.
Goddamn, i didn't expect to see so much anti-poly hatred from this particular comment section.
Everyone I've personally known who tried poly ends up extremely jealous or jaded by the end of it.
I’ve been in mine for over 3 years, no jealousy yet! But then again, there’s only 3 of us and we’re in a closed relationship so…
@AlzMarioWolfe from what I've seen closed poly relationships see to work out a lot better then open ones. So I wish the best for you and your partners!
@@lilguyonhiswaytothemall Thank you!
It's a case of the squeaky wheel gets the grease. You're necessarily going to hear from those that are discontent because they have A LOT of complaints. Those that are content and happy are just going to keep doing what they're doing without much of a peep 🤷
@@marmar90000 Very true too!