Which Couple Has The Biggest Age Gap? | Assumptions vs Actual
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I’m glad the girl said that age sometimes matter. Because a 60 year old dating a 19 year old is completely different from a 21 or 22 year old doing it.
OH NOOOOOOOO!!! I have two girlfriends, but very few people on YT are happy for my relationship success. They disl*ke all of the videos I make with my 2 girlfriends. Please be kind, dear sku
@@AxxLAfriku ok why did you censor dislike
@@AxxLAfriku then why block your face
age can defintely be just a number as long as both individulals are adults and are old enough to make their own decisions, but no when it comes to a 19 year old dating a 16 year old thats when age becomes serious and not just a number! For anyone who has the belief that age is just a number please be sure to carry it the right way.
I agree. The 60 y/o should wait until they have 63 and 22 so it will be acceptable, having 0 contact during the waiting time.
Actually, we should even raise the consent age of sex to 22. We all know that people dont have the brain developed enough before that. Before 22 its almost the same as rape.
This just means that when she was 34, she was dating an 18 year old as they had been together for 2 years, idk about that
Knowing how dating works she might’ve talked to her when she was younger but idkk
that’s icky 🤢
well they are both adults though
@@EmelieStenberg yh but she was probably fresh out of highschool when they started dating.
Yikes I didn't even think about that and she wants to get married "immediately" when her partner is only 20 and basically still a kid in the eyes of people who are older and wiser. That's no bueno for me. Now I understand why her family questioned it.
I was fresh out of high school when I dated a 30 year old. At the time I would have argued I was mature, we “vibed”, all of the things the couples with the 16 & 12 year age gap are saying. Now that I’m 30 looking back- my view has totally changed. I can’t even fathom having a romantic relationship with an 18 year old because we are not at the same stages of life. No one is saying it’s illegal. But there’s a huge difference between a 20 and 40 year old dating verse a 30 year old and 45 year old etc.
Yes totally, like as a young person ofc you wanna be called mature and date someone that is older and has potentially more life experience and things to offer, but the other way around? Like WHAT do you want from someone who has seen nothing outside of school? Or if you’re 30 and probably have a job, someone that’s just beginning college?
I'm 23 and i feel the same for people under 20, i see them as "kids"
Dude there's a guy in the comment section who MARRIED his wife when she was 18 and he was almost 40. His defense is younger women are more attractive and "less jaded" than 30 yr old women and will have "healthier babies". Many of us younger people love to hide behind "but I'm mature!" When guys like that are there to take advantage of us... his beliefs aren't even true. I'm glad you're okay!
@@lexmcdufflepants4332 Typical predator excuses. I wised up after this guy would constantly bring up how “hot” it was that he took my virginity. Predators will always find a way to manipulate.
I think you meant “fathom.”
My issue is that the 16 year age gap one had been together for 2 years and the 12 year one had been together for a couple of months. Which means they got together when the youngest were freshly 18... I don't understand why a 30+ year would even be associating with 18 year olds
you don't have to
She could’ve given birth to her as a teen mom 🤣
ikkrrr very creepy
RIGHT??? That should be an FBI investigation
I was in my late 30s when I married my 18 year old wife. I don’t see what the problem is.
No offence but Rose and Mia have been together for 2 years meaning they were dating at 18 and 34 which is kinda weird to me
And they were probably talking when she was younger
I sure hope she wasn't still in highschool then because most seniors in highschool are 18
Finally someone with common sense
@Turtle or maybe the youngins are boomer groomers
Yes and I’m 18 years old and my mom is 34, she had me at 16 and a half. I can’t believe there can be relationships that have the same age gap as parents-kid. Unbelievable😳
Age is definitely not JUST a number. I get the saying, but it does make a difference in some people and in certain areas of life.
So, as an adult it is just a number. It's more about maturity, and intellect.
thats y she said sometimes…
When people say that I say a jail cell is just a room 🤷🏾♀️
@@MoreSand12 LMFAOOOOOOO. This comment had me cracking up 💀🤣
@@MoreSand12 🤣🤣🤣
That’s actually really weird for the couple with the oldest age gap.. they’ve been dating for two years so when the youngest was 18 the oldest was 34.. what would a 34 yr old want to be doing with a teenager . Weird
Yup
It’s gross honestly
Right
Why isn’t anyone talking about this :0
Yeah so wrong
Matrix and John look like such a chill couple, literally perfect for eachother
Couldn’t agree more
Me too! they seemed so cool
For me, anyone younger than 21 is too immature to be getting in relationships far outside of your peers. Don’t get enticed by these red flags saying “you’re so mature for your age” 🚩
For real, I moved out and live independently since 18. I'm 25 now, I look back and I was nowhere near from the maturity I have now, even though I had "adult responsabilities".
Lol literally my cousin or family friends who are females tell me that, I don’t think that someone saying that automatically makes them a pedophile, I have told people younger than me that they’re very smart for their age, but I never had plans or intentions of preying on them
100%
Frr. Just cause it's legal doesn't mean it should happen. It's crazy to me that people think 18 year olds are adults or mature enough to date older people
@@mina8495 RIGHT. Like 18 is not an actual adult! I just turned 18 a few days ago and I’ve been told for a long time I’m more open minded and mature compared to others my age but at the same time, I could NEVER imagine being with someone that older than me. I’m not ready yet at ALL
I’d argue that most of them look pretty young in general. I’m 24, but couldn’t imagine dating a 20 year old or anyone over 28 as well.
Fr
20 and 24 is fine
Same. I'm 22 and I don't date a 18 years old. I barely want to date a 19 years old. I'm almost done with my master while a 18/19 years is just done with high school or just started college.
@@liverpoolbuttonf1fan how is that even possible
@@jaxorgate How’s what possible?
Hot take: the only reason people don't mind these relationships is cuz everyone here looks young, and I think thats messed up. like, alls it takes is bad genetics, just have more pronounced wrinkles and bam, suddenly your relationship is gross and you should be ashamed of yourself.
I don't think big age gaps are irelavent, but I'm not really hardcor against them either (although i do think they should be discouraged to an extent), it's case by case like most things in life but I think it's worth double checking in relationships where they exist due to the higher proclivity for them to be toxic, regardless of if they "look to old for them" or not.
for the question at the beginning of the vid. No, 20 is too much for me whether I'm older or younger, I think 4 years is a nice comfy range for me, I think the very most I could ever go is 8, but idk, never say never.
true, the producers really tried there best not to have any old men in their 60's and their 20 year old "girlfriend"
I think when ppl see couples interact too it humanizes them and ppl aren’t just reacting on a tabloid headline. There’s a reason these ppl got together. Public just loves to get hung up on ages of ppl they know nothing about
I’m 8 years older than my babe and it’s honestly not as bad as you might think it is.
@@fbspin Because they need the age gaps to not be noticeable... For the challenge
I like how you say "never say never" at the end. I always thought age gap relationships are a bad idea and can easily have power issues or abusive issues. So I always told myself I'd never be with someone 3yrs older than me. Then I dated someone 6yrs older than me, and I said I'd never date someone more than that. Now I'm with someone 11yrs older and I've never been happier or ever wanted to spend the rest of my life with someone than I do with him. Life's crazy and unpredictable.
Thirty year olds dating 19 or 20 is creepy, flat out. You learn so much between those years. That’s wild.
Look up Henry Cavills ex girlfriends
Don’t let that Drip fool you , Rose is sus. They just magically started dating when she turned 18? I call cap
wondering how they even crossed paths bc the 18year old wouldn’t have been able to be in a bar so
You have a point...
Right??? I was like uuuhmmm wait a minute this doesnt seem right…
exactly that means they started dating when Mia was 17 because they've already hit 2 years. She's a predator and just because shes a woman shes being slick and getting away with it.
I feel like a lot of people are letting it slide because they're both women and Rose is attractive and looks much younger than she is, but the undertones of manipulation are pretty loud when you look at it deeper.
The older you are the less age gaps matter, however the younger you are they matter much more. You do a lot of growing from 18-21 so keep that in mind when dating old people at that age. I only have a 3 year age gap so when I was 18 my partner was 21 and even then there was a bit of growing pains as we got older. If you are mature for your age that means the other person is probably immature for their age and as you grow up and become more mature, they won't, so keep that in mind.
Exactly! Couldnt't have said it better; there is such a big difference between a fresh out of highschool 18 year old and a 34 year old who's well into adulthood
Dang straight up…
Where were you 2 years ago when I need to here this😅
OMG SO TRUE.
Wow that last sentence stood out to me!! Currently in a 5 1/2 year age gap and maybe I got some rethinking to do
My sister was 17 dating a 24 year old, and my parents brushed it off cause it was only 6 years apart but the maturity level of 17 and 24 is very different. She wasn’t even an legal adult yet.
The person who dated your sister is a pedo. What is wrong w your parents?
That’s okay. Love don’t hate
*7yrs
One of former my co workers married at 18 to a 29 year old…
@@agustinjr.enriquez6238 You know why that is right? Just watch a single episode of the fresh and fit podcast or Kevin Samuels. Women ages 18 to 8000 all want the same thing regardless of socioeconomic or educational backgrounds. They all want providers and protectors. And the 18 year old isn't gonna get it from someone her own age.
I wish matrix and John talked more because they seem sooo cool and that they possibly compliment eachother. I wanted to hear about them more :(((
same!!
boohoo
I was bad at this guessing game
Also, I'm glad that these people are happy in their relationships, but I, as a 20 years old can't imagine myself with someone over 30. We don't even get on well with my sister & she's "just" 28.
Predatory folks like young people because they're easier to manipulate. Basic psychology.
@@DA-js7xz Did you learn that from Tiktok?
When you don’t have friends that are you SO’s age or as a couple you look off then must likely your relationship is based on an age kink. I really thought this people had a 5 year age gap tops.
@@sophiegriffin8351 Well, the gay couple looked like 10+ years & the lesbian couple looked like the 20 years old was around 28, the 36 years old looked like 25 to me:/ The 2 black folks, I thought the guy was like 15-20 years older than the girl, the older girl-younger guy couple looked like they have around 5 years of difference (I was right lol), the uni graduates looked same aged, but I thought they're tricky & maybe there's more years than 1 between them.
Yea but that’s not necessarily an age thing. I don’t get on with my sister and she’s almost two years older but my friend in 9 years older and we get along really great
My first college roommate was 18 dating a 42 year old with kids… literally had to hold back my puke when I heard that. It seemed like a very manipulative situation, I hope they got out of that relationship. Needless to say I moved out ASAP
yeah a situation like that is disturbing af. i know one person who dated a 45 + year old and she was 17 … she met him through her dad 🤢
@@Miss_Daddy THROUGH HER DAD?! Yikes.. yeah I forgot to mention they met when the older lady brought her kids to swim school which my roommate (17 at the time) was working at 🤢
Yikes
@@Miss_Daddy jesus christ. Did her dad approve of that??
@@Miss_Daddy how tf
idk i'm 24 and i couldn't imagine dating a 19/20 year old there's just so much maturing happening between those development years. i always seen myself as mature, but you grow and you grow and even now looking back at myself at the start of college is a different person. your brain keeps developing until you're 25 so i get the older age gaps but emerging adults is different whether they can see it yet or not
Some people mature earlier than others. Some 19 year olds could have gone through more & be more mature than a 30 year old. It all depends on your situation and the life you’ve lived.
@@justayari well i've gone through a lot in life so i don't know what you're saying. people are still going to be different from 19 to 30... it's brain development it's literally science.
@@justayari True but here’s what you don’t understand. Someone around that age could go through a crap ton and that’s more than understandable. But the age range based on scientific evidence where they actually process that or develop is where the difference lies
@@justayari Those 19 year olds may appear "older", but that's not true according to science, as the commenter above me stated.
I agree I’m 23 and feel so much more mature then I was at 19 and 20 I’ve also been through a lot more since then. I cannot date anyone under 21,it just doesn’t ever work out. At 19 I dated a 24 year old up until I was 21 and I honestly don’t see how they did it I was hell lol😂🤣
i definitely thought Matrix & John were older. they seem “seasoned” from the vibe/ look they give off. but i think it was Mia who said age doesnt define maturity so that also plays a part and how you’re presented/ viewed too. immaturity is usually associated with younger ages.
I really though matrix was at least 26/27. I’m her age but she feels so much more mature/independent than me
@@ash.613 see, i guessed she’d be like 29. she definitely gives off a more mature/grounded vibe.
@@ash.613 I agree!! I'm also 22 but Matrix seems so much wiser haha
I honestly thought Matrix and John would have at most a 3 year gap and they’d be like 27 & 30
I thought matrix was 18 and her partner was in her mid 40’s
Hearing real adult people talk about jobs and living situations helps me put my current life in perspective and not beat myself down for my privileges, disadvantages or mistakes. I like videos like this with the reality of young adult life in this day and age. Helps me feel less alone and like I’m not doing everything completely wrong.
Right, I mean with this economy, let's be honest, it's just way harder.
Believe in yourself! You can do it! :)
In my early 30s. I only have ONE friend that is a single homeowner. Most people I know are renting in apartments with their partners. I even know a few people who have their parents pay their rent, a couple of people still live with their parents to have a babysitter so they can get on their feet. No one judges the others circumstances, everyone moves at their own pace.
i am in my 30s. i did a career change at the age of 31, 3 years ago. i decided to pursue my passion went back to college. i then networked and landed my dream job. very happy.
i was super nervous at first because i thought no one would hire an older college graduate doing a career change but i found employers were receptive and had no problem with it. i even think it worked in my favor because they saw an older person doing a career change meant that i was serious about the job and career change...like they knew i wasn't some 18 yr old who went to college just to go to college and get a degree because that's what you are meant to do.
Just learn to tell yourself that and be easy on yourself. There’s no right way to do things and not everyone has the same idea of what success is
I just want to know what a 30 year old has in common with someone that just became an adult and can't even drink yet? Genuine question
Edit: I guess I made the gurls mad with this one lol
Fr
Literally nothing lmao
No but literally cause 🤨🤨🤨
Well, not every 21+ even drinks, I think it just depends on the couples interests, and maturity level. Even couples with the same age could be less compatible.
Yeah 😬
my parents are 19 years apart, and they have never gotten along since I was born(20 years now). My dad could easily be my grandfather and my mom has been struggling with doing most of the domestic work due to the power imbalance of such a wide age gap. It may not be the case for every relationship, but this is just my family’s personal experience.
I just wanna say My family faced the same struggle as yours: my parents have also more than 10 years age gap, and I feel like there is a power imbalance that still exists many years after my parents married each other. Age number is not just a number, it is not about the fact that « that’s okay if the people in That kind of relationship are okay with it ». It is not, because thee is no difference to my mind between a huge age gap and a pedophile relation. That’s it. Even though the huge age gap is between two adults people. It doesn’t care. That is pedophilia. Because the mentality of the older one in the couple is not that different than the pedophile’s way of thinking. He just wait just few years, for the younger one to be adult, to be able to date that younger person
Yeah my grandparents had over 10+ years apart and he was abusive to her.
my parents have a 16 years age gap and we're in the exact same situation
my parents are 13 years apart
My parents also have an age gap and have one of the most functional relationships I've seen. I remember as a kid being so shocked hearing about my friends' parents' dysfunctional relationships. It is a smaller gap (11 years) but they did meet when my mom was just 20 which in a typical American's mind would mean that my father is a predator preying on a younger woman. Yet here they are 40 years and 3 kids later and never had any big issues.
I think all the couples look happy. But you still could „feel“ their age, especially with the lesbian couple. The younger one felt very teeny to me...
Yes VERY
I agree with the last sentence. She also was immature because she acted like nothing mattered like the fact she wasn’t moving in so she didn’t have to pay rent and she looked clingy just so everyone could “see how close they were”
@@skylimitonyt6674 she also seemed very insecure whenever people made comments about them
i thought so too. she had a very teen/tiktok vibe to her.
why would a 36 year old be interested in a 20 year old, the maturity level is going to be at such different points. personally I would say staying within 4 years of eachother would be ideal, especially if one of the partners is under 30.
It’s worse when you realize it was a 34 year old who was interested in an 18 year old.
@@alexlol152 true that’s weird
@@alexlol152 or a 30 year old in a 14 year old
Personally it's none of our business, and it's their relationship, but I get what you're saying but we just have to mind our business. You may be uncomfortable but they are comfortable and that's all that matters. Maybe later on they'll realise that it was wrong but for now let them do what they want
also that 19 yr old boy dating a 31 yr old dude, I turned 19, I can't imagine that lol but if they're happy I shouldn't judge
Wait if the lesbian couple have been dating for 2 years... That means they were 18 and 34 (depending on their birthdays) when they got together... WEIRD!
Right, it's so weird that two consenting adults are happy together.
The older one did say that she thought the younger one was older. Like maybe at least 20 something when they met. Maybe she was hesitant at first but I guess it's just the vibe and the fact that the younger one looked and acted more mature for her age. Since it wasn't illegal she probably said f it. And they went for it.
@@BoltXedits What could an 18 year old who just graduated high school and a fully grown 34 year old POSSIBLY have in common?
@@lizsolahr3727 she could be her mom too
exactly my thought
age doesnt always matter but when someone is that young, it definitely does
No it dont barley legal is still legal. 20 cant drink 21 can. 17 cant vote 18 can. 17 illegal 18 legal dont like it run for office ajd change it
AGE does matter. Shes 20 they been dating for 2 years. She was 18 and that lady was 34 at that time. An absolute no.
being 18/19/20 and being told by someone wayyy older that you're "mature for your age" is a 🚩🚩 ASK ME HOW I KNOW
How?
how sway
Is it not possible for someone to simply be mature for their age? Seems to me people automatically assume the older person as just some predator. They could be genuinely interested in someone that so happens to be younger. As long as they are consenting adults tho.
lemme guess, it happened to you
@@wodahs4200 she is a predator. these comments are letting it slide bc she’s a woman lol
I just want to know what a 30 year old has in common with someone that just became an adult and can't even drink yet? Genuine question
when they started they were 18 and 34..
Sobriety
nothing. and that's what makes the two 30 year olds who got with 18 year olds look weird as hell.
They might have everything in common except the fact one of them can't get a drink at a bar. The younger one might be mature for his age and the older one seems youthful.
@@jj-if6it ok but what is that everything
Matrix and John match each others' vibes so well. Kinda obsessed with them tbh
I also love what Matrix said at the end! Age is sometimes nothing but a number. Sometimes. Sometimes is the very key word. Sometimes, it doesn't matter a whole lot. Other times, it can be incompatible, unhealthy, or even just downright dangerous. Sometimes. I think that sums up my view on age gap relationships pretty dang well.
My parents have a big age gap, 15 years. BUT when they met my mom was 27 going on 28 lmao. She was a vet, he was a lawyer. They were both established adults. And that’s when it becomes okay to date someone much older/younger.
And even considering it worked out in my parent’s situation, I wouldn’t want it for myself. I’m 18 and I would only date 18-20 lmao. Even when I’m older I can’t see myself dating someone who is not close in age to me.
Yeah, since she was already 27/28 than I think 15 years is fine.
i agree !
I agree. When the younger one is a PROPER adult, it doesn't matter ,the age gab
I'm typically comfortable with any age gap as long as the younger person is at least 25, as that's about when the prefrontal cortex is finished developing. But idk, relationships are weird and humans are weird. If a 20yo and a 30yo are together but their relationship is healthy and going well, why should I even be bothered? I'm obviously against adults taking advantage of underaged people (minors) and I'm against people using their knowledge and experience to prey on/manipulate/take advantage of less experienced people. Those are my two big things. But not every big age gap relationship is predatory or toxic.
Males prefrontal cortex developpe later than females, males prefrontal cortex can finish develloping at 30 so technically you should wait till males are 30 and female 25.
You should be bothered BECAUSE of the lack of development, and the fact that most times those who are significantly older - who prey on folks that are 18-21 - are looking for someone they can manipulate and control.
@@DA-js7xz No, that's just what society has brainwashed you to believe.
@@dunyacaliskan7495 that's not an argument.
@@mcchilde2903 What isn't an argument
Hold up.. the two women with the 16 yr gap have been together for 2 years and the younger one is 20 right now. So she was 18 and the other one was 34 when they first got together?..
Yeah, is that weird?
@@Neo.Jordon yes very
@@eyerenesbitch why?
@@Neo.Jordon because what does a person in their mid 30’s want anything to do with someone who either is in high school or FRESH out of high school…
@@angelicarivera9272 so 18 year olds out of highschool cant make their own choices now?
matrix and john are literally such a beautiful couple. they compliment each other so well.
19 and 30 is so wrong. I'm sorry but some of these made me uncomfortable. Why would a grown adult want to be with a teen or someone who's brain isn't fully formed yet? I feel it's definitely a power imbalance
Some people have kids and their kids are literally the same age as the partner… disgusting
I don’t think age is just a number for me… I still think even 16 years is weird when it’s a 20 year old and an almost 40 year old, That’s just how I think. For me personally, I wouldn’t know what to talk about, a whole generation older it’s crazy to me. They do seem like a really cute couple and I’m sure they have more common Interests than ppl think.
yeah I agree, I personally couldn't care less when they're both adults but I know a 15 year old who's dating a 19 year old (they knew each other when she was still 14) and thats just a bit weird to me
0captain_mycaptain That would be super weird for me too and illegal in a lot of places. Barely a teenager and someone who has just entered adulthood. I have always been "mature for my age" as they say, but when I was 19 I couldn't imagine being with a 15 year old, it's just so odd to me even if the maturity levels are around the same. You're just in totally different life arenas because the rate of maturity and how much you change as a person year by year from life experience and puberty during that period of your life is so fast.
@@hot_damn99 ew 19 and 15… he’s a predator like what
Exactly and they got together when she was an 18 year old…
@@worldstarmoneybyjoji they're both girls, but yeah, seems a little weird
Omg, Mia is hilarious 😂 and Rose matches her vibe. Couple goals
Honestly, they were all couple goals! xD
Exactly. Like I was shocked about the age difference reveal but it just goes to show that it's really about the vibe, connection and maturity level. Some people may have a big age gap with someone who's younger, but if that younger person acts wise beyond their years for example, that's understandable to me.
no they werent...
mia seemed pretty immature to me so idk
No, it's super gross. The brain isn't even fully developed until 25. This is PREDATORY behavior and she's looking for someone young and naive to manipulate.
Age definitely matters, but matters less as your older. For example 17 year old and a 26 year old is more concerning then a 55 year old and 69 year old.
It’s disgusting dating someone under 21 when you’re in your 30s or older. 🤢
very
Why? My wife was 18 when we married and we haven’t had any problems. Maturity matters more than age.
@@thespartanwarrior2986 a mature person wouldn’t dare a child. Tell me what a person just starting their life has in common with someone in the middle of theirs
@@geekyboy6875 An 8 year old is a child. An 18 year old is an adult. What do we have in common? Same values. Same religion. Both wanted a big family. Who cares if we don’t share the same hobbies or taste in music? We align on the important issues.
@@thespartanwarrior2986 no you don’t different stages of life and the age of consent is universally different from culture and country
I was shocked by the 16 years age gap but like ok, its fine, then I realized it was a 34 year old dating a 18 year old.. oh
Why do people act like there's nothing to talk about with a big age gap? There's literally a tonne of differences between two people with a big age gap which makes for great discussion and can learn from each other
The moral dilemma is that the big age gap should be highlighted and discussed in detail, not ignored.
These 2 age gaps in this video: 19&31, and 36&20 is morally corrupt. Why?
Because the obvious adult should be the mentor, not a sexual, intimate outlet. They’re in different parts of their life, and the obvious adult should be more educated in terms of morals and ethics based on life experiences.
Um, in a relationship one person shouldn't play teacher. wtf does a 36 year old have to learn from a 20 year old?
@@geko9214 you never taught your parent anything?
@@RevolveR2011 bad comparison last time I checked most ppl dont fuck their parents.
@@aus-li how old are you? Imo many older Gen Z and millenials have many things in common so it's not hard to see them together. Now when you're talking a 40+ year old and 18-21 year old then yeah that would look very strange and I have a negative stigma with that. From 20-35 there's not as much difference physically so it's not too strange.
But I still do think it's kinda weird with that 20 yo and 36 yr old tho tbh...if they're really consensually happy then ok
My boyfriend is 7 years older then me and I can say that age isn’t just a number. At the beginning of our relationship it wasn’t noticeable, but that changed after a bit. I’m 20 and sometimes I can feel a certain power dynamic. I mean, our relationship is perfect in every other way and I think it’s gonna get better the older we get, but if I could change something, I‘d close the gap a bit.
Atleast you are honest.
I'm also 20 and my bf is 6 yrs older than I am. It's had no bearing on us yet, but we haven't been dating long. I definitely thought about his age leading up to the relationship when I was crushing on him, but maturity-wise we're about the same. He has more work experience than I do, but we're similar in a lot of other ways
How long y’all been together though that plays a lot in to it though because of you been dating longer than 2 yrs/ + you were under age and…..🤔🧐
@@noelleweaver7331 how long y’all been dating for is the real question
SKY LIMIT on YT I was also the one who was crushing first and pursued getting to know him better, not the other way around. I would be worried if a random 26 yo asked me out in any other circumstances
I've dated both guys who were much older and much younger, and, to be honest, the more it happened to me, the more I grew sceptic about big age gap relationships. I don't think it's impossible for a couple to be happy this way, but asking the question "why" is very relevant.
To each their own i guess. I personally think anything within 6 years, after 20 years old, is okay.
Does anyone find the 36 & 20 year old being together kind of sus… they said they have been dating for 2 years so when they started dating she may have just turned 18 or was not yet 18….
Exactly no one is talking about it
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highly
Yup
I've seen worst.
My dad and stepmom have a 11 year age gap- 37 and 48 (they were married 4 years ago) and it’s never seemed weird… But also they are both adults- I think when the younger partners brain hasn’t fully matured yet, or the pair are in two very different stages of life, ie college and workforce, is when it can be problematic…
But see it’s different that’s your stepmom though
i agree.
I'm impressed about how cute and funny the dynamics between all these couples, everyone is super friendly and nice and they seemed to get along
mia does NOT look her age wtf, i thought for sure they were the closest in age
I thought their ages were swapped!
Yeah I did to now I feel bad for that relationship
I’m sorry, but what are you doing as a 36 y/o dating a 20 y/o.
Been together 2 years too so a 34 yo with an 18 yo yea thats disturbing
She’s living her best life
Leonardo DiCaprio vibes
@@ellebelle6439 king vibes
As someone who has been in a 20-year age gap relationship for over 20 years now, I can offer some observations from my experience:
1) Age gaps matter, and they *will* 100% affect your relationship and your life. How and by how much is highly individual. Boomer vs millennial can be tough in ways you won’t even realize until years down the road, no matter how wise the millennial is or how young-at-heart and open-minded the boomer is. I’m almost 40 and talking to my husband about his retirement and long-term care insurance. It’s wild.
2) Age gaps also *don’t* matter. Love is love, period. I wouldn’t trade my partner or the life we’ve built for anything in the world. Knowing all I know now, I would do it all over again, no hesitation.
3) People will judge you for any decision you make. That includes your family. So if it makes you happy, do it and eff them.
4) Try not to judge others for making any decision for their own lives, even if it doesn’t make sense to you. As I get older, the more kind I try to be because I’ve been through it myself.
ETA: best to not feed trolls in replies who take things out of context for their own inexplicable reasons.
This is referring to people OVER 18 right?!!
@@itsnatemate7697 Absolutely.
@@itsnatemate7697 nah it’s still werid to date somone 20 years older than even if ur over 18. That’s weird, like no offence, but it is. Even at 30 dating a 50 year old seems to odd.
@@rotisserie8444 oh no I KNOW that for a FACT. I’m was asking cause that comment was a whole red flag and sounded off. If your were to ask me personally...that’s a different convo cause I the over 20 thing is kinda gross but that’s just me.
@@itsnatemate7697 no one's forcing you to be in a relationship with someone 20 years older/younger. But as long as a relationship is legal there's nothing for you to agree to, it's none of your business.
I feel like anyone under 23 has absolutely nothing in common with a 30 year old, I myself am 19 and let alone can't even think of one thing I have in common with a 25 year old
The fact that you can recognise that actually shows maturity because plenty of 19 year olds think there’s no difference in age because they are “legal adults”.
@@nate2759 yea cause how you dating some who’s life is just starting but you 30, in the middle of ur or 60 at the end of it dating a 30 year old
Interesting. So what does it say about a 23 yr old who DOES feel like they have things in common with a 30 yr old? We cant say it never happens bc clearly it does. I see a lot of ppl projecting.
@@fans-ed1td what you feel and what is true are two different things. If a young person feels that way they need therapy and I’m not talking about likes and dislikes and personality I’m talking about stages of life and troubles
@@geekyboy6875 so basically youre saying ppl should be focusing on being with someone who is in the same stage of life as them... so they can relate to troubles and things etc... and anything outside of that means you need therapy. Lol got it.
A 5-10 years age gap is probably comfortable for me. Maybe that's because I like a little bit older guys ig. And in my family, we have age gaps that went up to 18-20 years(Arrange marriage), But I can't really imagine myself dating a guy who is 20 years older than me(That is possible, Not preferred)
depending on your age that's really not an age gap. a 34 year old dating a 44 year old is really nothing compared a 24 year old dating a 44 year old.
@@FatalCharade learn the definition of an age gap
Since you're so damn smart why don't you tell me.
I think in some cases you can stretch to 15 years and maybe a little more but they both have to be 30 and over.
I am a 20 year old My dad's 49 my mom's 39 so a 10 year age gap and they don't get along that much.
im sorry but age is just a number at a certain point but 20 and 36. 20 is still at the maturing phase.
And they’ve been dating for 2 years… so started at 34 and 18 and who knows how long they were talking before she was 18
@@ericafoust7743 exactly
same with 19 and 31? like that 19 yr old barely became an adult at 18, what common does he find with a 31 yr old
Yeah 20 is still no different than teen years imo 22+ ok but 20 is a kid in my opinion and they shouldn't date too much older
@@ellebelle6439 i agree
Love this video! Thanks Jubilee~! Best Summer Ever!
Okay, but that means they started dating when she was 18 and the other girl was 34? She was barely even legally an adult and could have even still been in high school. I don't know how to feel about that.
I’m sure they been talking before they dated so it could go as follows
34-18
33-17
32-16
If they been “talking” for 2 years that’s a 32 year old woman talking to a 16 year old girl
I feel like they should’ve done this video in silence and switched places based on appearances. Idk them talking about being in school and all that gave stuff away
I agree
On a second or third channel, you guys should post the full uncut versions of each question (with middle ground and other shows too) I just find it interesting to see how relationships and conversation grow and it's hard to get a full grasp of that with only brief cuts of each question, y'know?
Ikr these rapid cuts are like for people who cant pay attention
I agree, especially for middle ground
This is a brilliant idea!!!
Love these kinds of videos, keep it up!
It’s as simple as this , every couple is different and no two couples are the same if it works for them that’s awesome !
Her name is MATRIX?? wow i have never been more jealous
Her hair even has the zion vibes
she gave herself that name
@@talltreeyeti still jealous
@@denizimre3154 You can legally change your name. Or ask people to call you matrix. Why jealous then?
Does somebody know her insta?
20 years age difference... thats 2 decades how would conversations go without growing up in the same era .. strongly disagree
I agree
My Dad is 20 yrs older than my Mom. It can work 🤷♂️
agree
Strongly disagree with what? That they decide to be in a relationship? Y'all need to learn how to mind your business and let people live. Life is too short to worry about how another couple can be compatible. Focus on yourself!
@@chrisandtimothy “strongly disagree” with the prompt at the beginning of the video asking for their opinion on whether they’d date someone with a 20 year gap lol
While I would question someone in their 60s dating someone in their 20s, It's not really that wild for there to be a 10 to 20 year age gap. It's less about the age gap and more about what stage in life people are in. Especially when dating is more about figuring what you want in a relationship now a days, rather than just finding the first person to marry you.
so 18 to 35 is ok ?
@@inihilisme1511 absolutely NOT. the 35 y/o is a pred. be careful.
I''m almost 27 and really can't imagine dating below 24. I feel like anyone below that age is too immature and at a different stage in their life. Even the humor I feel like is different with people a few years younger. I am often attracted to people like 40+ but I wouldn't date older than early 30s personally.
that’s true. humor is often different in big age gaps and can feel a little awkward especially because they just won’t be able to get you entirely often times. for example (in general) your mom won’t get you the same when a friend would. so why would you want that in a partner yk
I'm 27 and prefer dating people around my age, give or take a couple years. most of the men I've been with have been a few months or a year younger than me and I've always found that's been sort of stigmatized in a way? when I was 19, my boyfriend (at the time) was 18 and people made jokes about him being into milfs and me being a cougar. I like my partner to be on a similar page as me, it's nice to be able to hit milestones around the same time and I find people my age to be easier to relate to.
I agree entirely 💕 when I was a young teen around 15-16 all the way up until around 18 I remember only really being attracted to older men and women because I craved the freedom of adulthood and my relationship with myself was wounded. My partner now is the same age as me and we're both in our 20s and I couldn't be more in love and excited by the fact that we're always growing together throughout life on the same frequency.
Shouldn’t matter if the guy is a bit younger or older, if you are around the same age who cares.
A year is nothing. Ignore that
@@gamma21285 Are you okay? Did someone do that to you? Not everyone goes through life permanently miserable, empty, and shallow. It's not actually functional or normal to keep recycling your partners for material vanity that is temporary. Some people strive to evolve and love. Some people value the wisdom that comes with growth and maturity in a balanced way. I learned that there was a deeply wounded aspect of myself that craved the attention of older people, you don't just deal with that and continue to be wounded. You shift it and become a healthier, whole individual. You don't have to continue through life imbalanced. I'm still incredibly happy actually, been with my partner for several years now, and now we're actually getting married so looking back at this comment was kind of funny. I hope you get better, you feel deeply bittered by our society. You don't have to live that way.
Purely in my opinion...even more important than any sort of age gap is the maturity level of each person in the relationship. If both individuals are of similar or complementary maturity then it will work regardless of age gap. If the maturity difference is too great the relationship will not last....no matter the age....
That's a subjective idea though and can not be measured. The age gap matters more because it is the de facto way to measure maturity. Your logic is like saying "Even more important than IQ is the EQ" one can be measured and is applicable to the conversation, one is a figment idea of what CAN be represented.
@@vexial97 age gap is a generalisation, many people act significantly older or younger than the average person their age
Yes, but if your maturity level at 40 is the same as someone's at 19, then that's a problem...
@@xaviertrujillo506 See what you just did there? You brought up, yet again, another figmental idea. You brought up that many people "act" significantly older and or younger than the average person their age. How do you measure how someone is suppose to act at a certain age? How do you measure the level of maturity in said age. Does maturity vary? Like I said, age is the de facto way to telling how mature someone is. All of these other constructs are figments..
Except that the brain doesn't develop until 25, and most folks have more life experience after that age simply due to being out of school.
The top two couples have some legit predatory behavior.
My wife and I have a 24 year age gap. I met her when I was 26 and she was 50. We are on our 10th wedding anniversary after only knowing each other for 2 months. I met her in August of 2012. By October we were married. When you know You know.
I'm 24 and 20 is my limit for younger but i could see myself dating up to like, 32ish. I think it's also an interesting factoid that both the lgbt couples had larger age gaps than the rest. It just kind of happens in our community i find, we don't really attach ourselves to tradition in that sense as much and it's probably because we're not biologically having kids most of the time.
True
Well said!
@Nonaya Bidness Are you dating people of the same gender?
@Nonaya Bidness that's based. I was gonna make the point that the age thing doesn't apply to you if you're dating heterosexually, but nvm go off queen
matrix and john are so swag😭
thanks bae 🖤
@@matrixunni ahh ofc, you guys suit each other so well and match each other’s vibes!! not to mention both your styles are so cool
They are 🔥
Faxxxx
36 and 20 is cradle robbing let's be real
The two girls would have gotten together when they were 18 and 34 which is almost double the age so I honestly really do understand the "Why" reaction the family gave
that was fun and happy episode
Your content inspires me and I love all Jubilee crew❤️
This is actually one of the most attractive group of people I’ve ever seen
Omg i absolutely love this 😭 it was so funny and everyone's energy is amazing!!!
Great video dudes
"he has the Mexican genes" uhh he looks old that's why you guys were on the right
🤣
Also Mexican is a nationally not any type of ethic or racial features anyone can be Mexican
Fr and I thought he looked 35 lol
Strongly disagree 20 years ???! i can’t even fathom the ins and outs of how that relationship could work
yeah if the person ur dating is closer to your parents age than you.....that's a no from me
I know it sounds crazy but it can be one of the best relationships ever, it brings a sense of open Ness and less shame and judgment,when it’s a younger person with an older soul feels like they’ve already lived the life they wanted to live and an older posted with a young soul who is forgiving and understands the mistakes that young people make. Because everybody’s at different levels of experience and maturity when I would date people that were my age I would question them so much as to why they would do things because we have the same amount of experience in life and I wouldn’t understand why we would do things so differently. Now I’m able to be heard while still learning new things and vice versa. It’s also a question of what the different generations value and what you personally value and seek in your life. Because the age gap could also work when both of them want to be very adventurous. My boyfriend and I have plans to be settled but still have adventures as our relationship progresses, both of us mainly just want a quiet life where we can enjoy the things we enjoy. As we have a lot more in common is that somebody who was just looking at us would think we do. I make him feel young, he makes me feel fulfilled and proud of myself. Something I feel a lot of people need and can’t find.
@@Camise100 that still dose not make it right or any less weird like the 16 year gap couple
They are currently 36 and 20 they been together 2 years
34 to 18 they said they been talking before dating let’s say they talked for 1 year before dating that means
A 33 year old woman made contact with a 17 year old for the hopes of a relationship its gross its even worse if they talk for 2 years before dating
That would be a
32 year old contacting a 16 year old they are both either way in 2 different parts in life when the met a 18 year old should be a senior in high school or freshly graduated thinking about college or getting a job a 32 year old should be getting there life time career or getting ready to settle down for a family or marriage if a 20 year old was with a 40 year old they could be in a parent relationship dosnt that stick as odd why would anyone want to date some one who could be there child why would anyone want to date some one who could be there parent
@@randomboi346 Well it’s not wrong or weird so, it’s not like we’ve been dating since I was 16 and he groomed me or something, i’m almost 25 years old. I think you need to broaden your understanding of what a relationship is and what you’re looking for in it.
@@randomboi346 I completely agree and grooming is completely wrong and no normal person would want to date a minor or honestly even somebody that’s like only 18, 19. He wouldn’t, I was 22 when we met and i’ve lived more than most 25-year-olds have, at 16 I was doing things that people do at 20 and I did grow up really fast but that’s part of the reason why I am able to be mature and actually be in a long lasting relationship instead of wasting these years with somebody who wants nothing and has no ambitions. Or even wasting that time with somebody that didn’t allow me to be myself around them and judged me. But there are a lot of really creepy people that will take somebody who’s a 15 year old family friend and start grooming them at that age, I mean child brides still exist and it’s legal with parental consent in the United States still. That’s the real problem that people need to be worried about is that people are literally by children as brides not worried about what two consenting adults are doing. My boyfriend was with a women 15 years older than him, he met her when he was 27, he wasn’t groomed, neither was I. I think it’s really problematic when men will have a set age limit like Leonardo DiCaprio and only date 20-year-olds and break up with them when they age out of them. That’s weird because it’s like what are you doing with so many young people why can’t you be with someone your own age. But realizing that love has no bounds is very important, what people like that there love does have bounds and they only like that person because of the age they are. And they always pick the ones that are barely legal.
Strongly Agree! Cheers xoxo
I'm 3 years older than my boyfriend (for 3 months of the year it's 4 years). I don't think you can tell by looking at us and although it's less common for a woman to be older than her boyfriend, it's common amongst my friends! I could notice the age difference more when we were younger as men mature later than women, and I'm also further ahead in my career than him. But other than that you can't really tell and I don't think about it.
it’s so nice to see them talking about this in the same room. just the idea of trying this online or something would be a train wreck
huh? why would they not be in the same room?
@@stefan98TH idk i’m thinking as if it were in the context of an online comment section type thing. it wouldn’t be pretty
they all seem like really cool people. The top 2 age gap couples are a little weird in my own opinion though
no bc i feel like if it was a straight relationship they would've reacted differently
We've been married 30 years and we have an 8 year age gap. When we were younger it kind of had an effect. During the middle years, it didn't matter at all. I think in the last few years as she approaches retirement and I am in my early 50 years, it doesn't matter, I still adore her, but we do have some different perspectives, I think.
How did your family and friends react when you first got together 30 years ago? I feel like it’s less common for the girl to be older, even now, and I’m sure it seemed wild back then! Would love to hear how you dealt with any pushback from people
Yes the relationship takes more patience and alot of learning but honestly i feel like it makes it more unique just bc obviously it takes some getting use to each other since normally you wouldn't date someone so far from your age but i don't consider it to be a bad thing as long as its legal and not an 18y/o with a 60y/o
I went on a date with a guy that was 30 years older, but I don’t think I’d ever be with someone that far apart in age
So that's basically a guy who's like 50...?
@@evothenew3333 yes! Lol I was 19
@@brendanawesomeness
And was he really interested in you as a person?
@@evothenew3333 I wouldn’t say so. Haha he thought I was cute. That’s probably it
Yeahhh I’m 26 and can’t even begin to imagine dating someone who just took their senior class photo 🙃 the 20 year old was like 17 or 18 when the 30-something year old started dating her that’s so weird to me
My husband is 11 years older than me. Our core values and beliefs are similar, and we share some important traits and interests that is difficult to find. We are perfectly happy, and I definitely don’t care that he’s older, and same with him. We just had our first baby, and our five year marriage anniversary is coming up :).
Personal opinion …. I’m 23 and I can’t see dating anyone under 21 because they can’t even do certain things yet and also can’t be myself dating 28 because I feel like we’d be on two completely different paths in life with not much in common. But all the couple compliment each other very well!!!
Yup. There was this girl I met while doing an internship last year that I liked, but the moment I knew she was 20 (I had just turned 24) I was like "ew no, cradle robber allert"
@Sadia Sharmeen but 19 is closer to 23 than 29 is🤔
I agree with your overall point, but what can someone who's under 21 not do that an over 21 can, besides drink alcohol?
my bf is 23 and i’m 19 he’s turning 24 this month. we have the biggest age gap he’s ever had, but i feel like it really depends on the people and what they enjoy doing. clubs and parties aren’t his scene, he only drinks sometimes. so that doesn’t bother him, also because not everyone who is 21 wants to drink. it’s a personal choice for me. so i feel like what matters more is the emotional maturity both partners have.
when people see large age gaps, they automatically assume some is being manipulated or groomed. hopefully this video helps people see that people can make discussions for themselves without being abused
As long as their not underage it shouldn't be a problem.
Cus usually they are being manipulated. Not all the time, but the older person can definitely have an influence on the younger one. I’ve witnessed it with a roommate before, the older lady was verbally abusive to me for literally no reason and tried to get my roommate to hate me even though I’ve literally never talked to her in my life
@@PeterGriffin11 so the second they turn 18 it can no longer be a problem...?
People assume it because its mostly true. Of course there are exceptions, nobody denies that.
@@vinregret That's the age of consent. Do you think the age of consent should be made higher?
Yay! A video for me. I wish there were people who were a bit older tho.
My fiancee is twice my age. I am 27. And we are very happy... Not that every age gap is healhy. It depends... But please, do not judge adults who choose to be together.
As someone that dated older from a young age I can say it's not always problematic, I did have some problematic ones but also some great relationships. My ex helped me grow up fast , maybe that's not how I would be without her in my life. Point being don't judge when you don't know all the details.
I’m in an age gap relationship of 17.5 years apart but I’m 30 so it’s not weird that he’s almost 50. Regardless of age, I truly love him and it works for us. 💗
Yeah that’s totally fine, hope you guys are happy!
@Sadia Sharmeen why tho, grow up lmao she's happy. sounds like ur just bitter
@@charlotte1567 I think it’s more of the context she saying she’s happy dating a 50 year old probably in response to all the justified negative thing being said about the 16 year old relationship gap she’s saying it like the age gap isn’t bad but it is for the 16 year old gap
A 36 year old dating a 20 year old dated for 2 year 34 and 18 not to mention they talked before dating maybe 33 and 17 or 32 and 16 it’s just gross
I don’t think it’s weird at all, since you’re both fully matured adults! I’m glad you guys are happy together
That's creepy
Huge age gap creep me out to be honest.
You'll get it when you're older
My roommate was 18 dating a 42 year old with kids… literally had to hold back my puke when I heard that
@@jeremysmith9694 uhhh no… the only people who would understand it are the ones who are desperate and can’t seem to find someone around their age.
@@jeremysmith9694 older people are the only ones who really understand the pedophilic tendencies in certain age gaps. Like that 36-20 relationship in the video. They dated for 2 years. A literal 34 year old looking at a high schooler. That's a pedophile right there.
16 yrs apart?! and Mia is only 20… kinda weird imo
Yes 36 and 20 together 2 tears a 34 year old dating a 18 year old yikes
they got along so well as a group!
Y'all pick the prettiest people to be on your channel I swear haha 😩❤
Matrix goes so much with her name i love it
im in a 20year age gap marrige..im 28 and his 48 one thing before getting into a marrige with this age diffrence is you need to understand power dynamic and diffrences within life ..we earn more or less the same , i earn a little more ..in a lot of these age gap relationships there is a financial power dynamic and mental dynamic
Living together after four months 👀 I tried it after three years of being together and it ended our relationship. I guess starting early saves both parties a lot of time.
i feel weird even thinking about dating someone who’s more than 2 years apart from me
that’s very limiting lol
What are you 14???
they're probably child leave them alone...stop obsessing over age gaps damn...
You must be a teenager
When you grow up you'll realize not everyone is at the same mental and emotional maturity while being the same age as you. Once you graduate HS everyone takes their own paths. Some grow up fast and immediately become parents, some go to college, some become 28 and still look and act like their 19 year old self. Age really is a number for the most part.