Delaying Having Kids Is Impacting Your Future Kids! Dr Michael Eisenberg
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- Опубліковано 2 чер 2024
- Dr Michael Eisenberg is a Professor of Urology at Stanford University, and is a male fertility and sexual function specialist
Topics:
00:00 Intro
02:02 Why do you do what you do?
02:58 What does reproductive health encapsulate?
04:27 Fertility health is growing
06:14 Researching on fertility issues
06:46 Why are we seeing more infertility?
07:18 Are you concerned about society's fertility issues?
11:14 What chemicals are reducing our sperm count?
13:50 Society measures
14:59 Sperm quality
20:37 Micro plastics affecting sperm count
23:57 Technology and heat fertility damage
30:07 Countries with biggest fertility problems
32:41 Does sitting for long periods affect our sperm count?
33:53 Fertility issues caused by OBESITY
34:46 Alcohol consumption and sperm count
36:32 What you can do to give yourself the best chances of conceiving
39:08 Man or woman, who has the most issues?
40:06 Male testosterone decline
41:31 The impact of exercise on our sperm count
43:04 What does Testosterone do?
45:23 Side effects of taking testosterone
48:18 Common symptoms of testosterone use
51:01 Female fertility
51:57 How is testosterone therapy given?
54:15 Exercise and health impact on testosterone
55:04 Penis average size increasing
57:24 Erectile dysfunction treatments
01:03:58 Pelvic floor strength
01:05:31 What causes cancer in the reproductive system
01:14:20 Other male issues Dr Michael is being asked about
01:15:47 Best diets for better fertility
01:24:41 What's next for Dr Michael
01:26:04 biggest concerns
01:27:14 Advice to men who are struggling
01:03:11 Does shock wave therapy work for erectile dysfunction?
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Remember fellas. Don't get married. Don't have kids. It's not worth it. My case proves that. Drizzle drizzle.
Please talk about post finasteride syndrome!
Ughhhh for an expert this guy does not understand nuance - 3x more death for men without kids or wife, how about looking into why doc? How about thinking maybe there are outliers in that data that drive that number?
4 children, omg
Are you guys able to change a thumbnail after the video has been posted? In the red box, I'm pretty sure it should be penises (plural) not penis' (possessive apostrophe)... All the best.
It's not our fault that the cost of living has gone so high people can only afford kids after they turn 30.
26 with 3 kids on 2,200 pound a month missus brings in 1,500 not that hard you budget and don’t have loads of luxuries it’s not impossible people did it during the war with families of 12 like my Grandma. Stop making excuses you’re scared of your only one job in life to reproduce. Stop reading into the propaganda. Find the woman you love settle down and have children!
Pfft, I'm 37 and make 44k a year. I save just over a grand a month on average. If I had a kid, basically all my savings each month go to just having them in care while I work. It's absurd. Even when my fiance and I live together, it's a massive drain on your finances. We both save about a grand a month, and you'd be wiping half that out JUST IN DAY CARE FEES. That's not counting the nappies, the food, the new beds, the speed at which they outgrow clothing, oh my god it gives me a nosebleed just thinking about it. Pass. MASSIVE pass on kids.
@@Dynasty1818 agreed I have 68000 saved and I’m not using that on a kid lol nope invest in my own future
Yep, late 30's and same bucket. Would I give up future progress for getting a home and investing for retirement and the ability to live life? Nope. Would like to, but it's just too damn expensive just living.
@Dynasty1818
I totally hear you, and here in Canada, they don't make it easy for new parents.
if you're Swedish, they are so much more advanced. here you get the feeling that they don't want you having kids.
they gave me 6 months' maternity leave which is the worst thing you could do for the infant.
I know that you said you are not going to have children, do you not think about the future if you were ever to become incapacitated which is very possible - I hear and see it all the time (I'm an RN), do you not worry about who is going to be your advocate?
you guys are not thinking about this because you're in your 30s, I was the same way, but shit happens.
plus you'll never know the feeling of a higher love than you could ever imagine for a child.
My parents were able to buy a house at 20 years old with an average wage. That is not the case anymore and people struggle to even own a place let alone start a family at a young age.
Remember fellas. Don't get married. Don't have kids. It's not worth it. My case proves that. Drizzle drizzle.
Yes, I have seen a few references to life in the US in the 50’s where a carpenter without a degree had 8 children and supported them on 1 salary……now both partners work and often live paycheck to paycheck, this is much more common than 50 years ago
Whilst houses might have been cheaper years ago, wages were also lower. My parents recall when it was the norm for the mortgage interest rates to be at 15%. And according to them the wages against the cost of a home was no better then than now & they lived through it.
As for kids, it’s not for everyone, not everyone should have kids. But I’m also of the view that if people wait for a “right time” to have kids, they’ll never have them.
@@soapfan2700 houses were much cheaper, and the 15% mortgage rate made it almost as expensive , I am from generation X, you are referring to the time of my parents (the 70’s). It didn’t stop my parents, hence I am here writing this 😂, but my parents believe times are worse now (for young people than they were then ). You are right as well, even my parents were telling me that in the 1970’s there were people saying they would not have children because there were too many people already (maybe it was an excuse to not have them)
@@tobygrice6496see my parents who bought their house in the 70’s don’t see it as worse now. I even said “yes but weren’t wages better in relation to the cost of the house? And they said “no, not at all, it wasn’t easier then at all on that front.”
I'm delaying having kids to the point of never having them
Well done.
the Caucasian race is decreasing all the time, more and more. we are going to be observed in the future in a history book.
Yep. I am 40 and on track to retire at 50 because I decided to never have kids at 28.
@@michelleroberts6597and that's a good thing.
@@michelleroberts6597 given hiw white laydees treated me? That's a good thing. White laydees should have treated me better.
The most important decision you will ever make in your life is who will be the other parent of your children. Ladies, do not make this decision during the week you ovulate. Men, do not make this decision below your waistline. Romance and attraction are important, but values and character are what will get you through tough times, and you should be sure of those before you go ahead and start making new humans (who need both parents equally)
Deep
Spot on comment
Man this hits deep because I had my son under such Dior circumstances like I doubt I would be here if it wasn't for him, I can't even write this without bawling because he saved me but the thought of not being able to provide for him makes me even more sad for him. I love him and I know he loves me but what if it's not enough and what if I end up making him feel the way I feel.. 😭😭
You're describing nature, these instincts are what ensures the species continues to reproduce.
If it was entirely based on common sense, humans would go extinct. (that's not necessarily a bad thing)
I don't think women OR men decide in one specific moment which partner they want. It's something we decide over time, isn't it?
No one can afford to have kids including me, im 29, and its not feasible. That is why we need you to start doing interviews on the economy, raise awareness please!!!
There's never a good time to have kids just like going back to school. It just happens or people just do it. If we all planned on planning for children, there would be very few children. It's all about our values. Young adults don't value children anymore which is why we see more single and childless people .
Has nothing to do with this, people used to be poorer than today and had kids. What has happened is women do not want them, it is that simple.
Or they could make better walkable communities where people actually want to raise their families in first@@SilverWolvesScarletForestSnow
@@SilverWolvesScarletForestSnow many women plan on having kids but never do because the time isn't right. I'm behaviorist and community and family planning expert.There are many women who don't wants kids but many wait and wait for the right time that never comes. It's a combo of many things.
@@chrisp7114 Which translates to they do not want kids. They used to want kids right away and a family and now they just say kids will get in the way of their life style. I'm not even talking about the crazies online in videos. Even the normal girl next door or the average girl in the office. They just aren't interested in having kids and just keep putting it off. When I was at school, their ambition was to meet "the one" and have a family, but that is all gone and now it's money money money.
People everywhere don't want to bring children into this present day struggle. The human race will most definitely enjoy making families again, when existing isn't so expensive.
By then it will be too late. Nearly all the western countries are below the replacement rate. For example, it is predicted that South Korea and Japan will cease to exist in about 100 years. Some sources say "It has been pointed out that the Korean population may decline at a faster rate than in medieval Europe in the 14th century, when the population plummeted due to the Black Death." Even if the fertility rate in Korea picked up, it is too late for them at this point.
Many European nations won't be able to support their future economies due to low birth rates.
It takes present time children to work for your future retirement.
@@slaviapolandia7541I teach young men to never get married and never have kids because its not worth it. Drizzle drizzle.
People have birthed babies into war zones and caves. All of human history has been more perilous than right now. Avoiding having children you otherwise would have because you've been convinced the world around you (which you can see and feel) is boiling, or because of a little temporary inflation, is dumb.
@@slaviapolandia7541 it is too late already for the social systems around the west. For the population, not so much, it can recover. It has already done many times.
It will never be less expensive.
People always talk about women when it comes to the effects of children, so I’m GLAD finally someone is talking about men too. Because it’s both that impact the children. Thank you Dr.
I grew up impoverished. We literally ate out of the trash on multiple occasions. We lived in a house that was condemned, and the toilet bowl water was frozen when we woke up in the morning. Not saying this is how we should want to live 😅 but I am saying, this doesn't mess up a child, necessarily, if there's love and connection within a family. People are saying "I would never raise a child in impoverish circumstances", but honestly, I only know a handful of adults who grew up with money that aren't annoying and entitled in some (or every) way. Poor doesn't mess up a kid, it teaches them to be resourceful, it makes them strive. Bad parenting messes up a child, not lack of extra money or things. And in a lot of cases, it means they eat better. Making meals at home with simple ingredients was all we could afford, never had sugary cereals or white bread or soda, and we are all four super healthy adults who know how to eat well. And have careers. And children. The kind of vacations we took as a child were wilderness adventures, visiting springs and gorges, camping out and building fires together. Who needs a nasty trash dumping cruise. People have a twisted idea of what kids actually "need" because of capitalism. F*ck it. Make your own fun. Teach your kid how to cook from scratch and find their own fun. When their teenagers they might be mopey 😅 but that's gonna happen regardless, if it's gonna happen. The more time you spend with your kids the more they respect you and you enjoy each other. I've never heard of anyone complaining about money or careers on their death bed. Or wishing they had worked more. It's only ever about relationships and time spent in peace and love together. The only regrets being working too much and not sitting down together enough. Not mending a relationship or staying in touch.
If we're really worried about our future, and this guy (and all longevity experts, doctors and scientists) all agree that community and relationships and having children extends your life, why not listen to that? I had my kids in my 20s, kept them home til elementary school, AND built a career working from home while i did it. Now they are 18 and 15, and I'm doing well enough financially, and we are super tight. IT'S POSSIBLE.
you definitely overcame the challenges and struggles
Yes, I agree. At the same time, most of my psychological trauma from childhood comes not from the abuse I experienced, but from the physically disfiguring effects from lack of medical care due to poverty. Plus, my height and brain development were stunted due to malnutrition from poverty.
You're the type of an inspiring parent that keep your kids' morale high throughout their lives.All those hardships that you'd been thru could be a life long motivation for your kids in times of adversary. Stay loving and together forever!
💯 agree 👍 👏 🙌 couldn't be truer! Well done, and I'm sure your children will be amazing on their own, also with you at the helm! 👍
I became pregnant with my first at 21. The father I had only known for 2 months at the time. Now I'm 28 and we have 3 kids (all unplanned.) It is hard having children at a younger age, I fully understand why people wait. I feel I could have provided more for my children if I waited until I was 30 but, I am glad I had children young. Motherhood feels magical. It is the hardest yet most rewarding thing I've done in my life.
Remember fellas. Don't get married. Don't have kids. It's not worth it. Globalmans case proves that.
You had kids at 21, motherhood is the only thing you've done with your life.
More than anything material, your children need love and emotional support and guidance. People birthed babies into caves and war zones, and here we are with the totality of human knowledge available to us in a little electronic box in our pocket. You're doing great.
I don’t think there is ever a “right time” and having them young you have the advantage that hopefully if you live a long life, you’ll be around into their adult years.
@@pez6905 the “only” thing. She’s done the MOST important job in life there is.
I decided I couldn't afford it and found it hard to find someone I could trust enough to be a good dad and husband/partner. It is what it is. I didn't want to struggle more than I already am and didn't want to end up a single mum, struggling even more. Life is hard enough as it is.
I had the opposite sex problem, found a girl I liked and she seemed fine until her dad shook our infant child when I was 21. I had to flee with out kid and before I could even try to talk to my partner about it she took her fathers side (her was claiming I was just taking the kid away from her to gaslight her)
Now I have 50% custody that neither the courts or police enforce so I haven't seen my kid since she was 9 months old and all I have are facebook photographs that I get sent by mutuals occassionally. Also them denying me my right to see her is part of a long game, you see they dont take child support from me, she knows that if she applies for CS, I'd be forced to see my kid by the government as a requirement, so to hurt me the most they chose not to take CS.
So yeah no more kids for me, no more dating other people.
@kitkat0768 see mam if you think Life is hard enough then yes it is but is a way to make life more easier because you control 80% of your life 20% is destiny or god what you call what I suggest people to take courses on "Law Of Attraction :- To attract what you want" & "Face Reading - To understand people better" you can also get podcast on that topic
Move to Australia, let's hook up and have a child together. I'm serious. What could go wrong?
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@Hectorheroic Um, I'm already in Australia 🤣 . I think I'm past the point of having kids safely now. Did you know I was already here? That's funny.
Some of things i do that keep me in shape, healthy and happy:
1. Eat whole foods. (Zero processed and fast foods)
2. Simple exercises (walking, jogging, bicycle rides, swimming...etc)
3. Quit alcohol
4. No smoking
5. Fasting
ETC
These things are easy, no money needed but very important.
Currently dispatching Men in Black to your door.
They should arrive within 24 hours to...take you away.
@@EriPages😅
Fasting can be omitted
Good whole food costs more money.
@@EriPages 😂😂😂 why?
20 years of obscene house prices, no real jobs that pay untill you are late 20s, insecure work, and much more. Now compare that with the pre 2000s era.
Yet every time house prices rise, the Daily Mail will have a headline about the "good news".
But birth rates have been below replacement level since 1970s in many developed nations, so your argument can be part of but certainly isn't the sole reason for low birth rates.
I wasn't ready to have a child until I was 30.
people delay having kids until they can actually afford to have one, this includes money, energy, time, housing, school, food etc...or some couples simplx cannot have kids cuz different issues beyond them so leave people alone and stop telling them should they have kids or not
You have more energy when you are young, the modern generation is too lazy to parent and it’s best they didn’t because they’d only fuck more children up like themselves have been fucked
People should decide for themselves of course but it should be informed. They should know the chaos they will face when old if birth rate drops beyond manageable. Being old with a broken pension system, no doctor around will be very difficult. Less kids mean less doctors, less everything. So even though it is a personal choice it is a collective suicide if too many people don’t have children. They shouldn’t imagine that they will have the life they have now when they are 80. The system will have collapsed by then. Not even sure that immigration and technology will compensate. If you are 25 now and don’t want children, think hard first about the society you want when you grow old.
Amen ♥️
@@DC-oh1um my fiancee and I do want a kid, but raising only one child here costs 1 milion yen including being pregnant in the first place, giving birth, doctors, school, food, clothes extra stuff in general and that is a lot of money evem if both of us work, also we need a bigger apartment or even a house, insurance, car, gas it all cost money and you cannot simply force a couple that after tax earns 200.000¥ to have a child because they simply cannot afford to have one without being in debt, and I would like to live in a society where having and rising a child is as cheap as possible, but that is very rare im todays world and situation
@@user-yk9ie5wy5n yeah japans birth rate is so low it’s quite strange how the government aren’t encouraging and helping couples start families.
I had my daughter at 42…it’s all about the love! Nothing compares to that in life, job promotions, owning a business/ businesses, big bucks, travelling around the world etc! This becomes your biggest and best achievement…if you are prepared to be a good parent and put in the time.🇨🇦❤️
disgusting. love has nothing to do with it. you were selfish and had a kid so you don't die alone.
@eotikurac you're the disgusting one.
Damn your bitter, how do you know there life? Your assuming from a hateful place ..@eotikurac
@@eotikuracReal
@@ExpatTraderFXIts sadly the truth... There is little to no reason to have children. Its not like Life is perfect. The world is fucked Up.
Life is too stressful and expensive that having kids is not an option for many people. And then when you're older with the risks of having defective fetuses, the pregnancy is terminated as it should be. We don't need more challenges that way.
It is always an option, but people have their priorities set completely wrong.
@@dragana_petkovic and you have no right to say what their priorities are it’s not your life why does it concern u
@@dragana_petkovicI teach young men to never have kids. It's not worth it for men.
@@Bunny11344It concerns everyone, we're all human and will age. It is always an option to have kids up but only to a certain point that cannot be undone.
@@lyndonbauer1703 you know how many seniors who have grown adult kids who don’t visit them ever or even when they pass? I see it everyday at work. And what anyone does to their body or not do is none of your concern. If they want kids, great, if they don’t, fantastic. The world will continue to spin whether you like it or not.
Amazing podcast Steven! You would be surprised how many young men will listen to this and feel much better moving forward in life. Good one. We(thousands of young men) learned a lot.
This is extremely interesting!
As we were older parents, and went through 8 years of infertility procedures…the egg wanted to attach to my tubes instead of my uterus…therefore a surrogate was needed to carry our child. He is now in college. We are a tight family. We are young in our minds/ physically as well. Most importantly, we knew each other for many years before marriage…coming up on our 30 year anniversary.
I teach young men to never get married and never have kids because its not worth it.
Thank you so much for sharing your experiences! So glad you found the episode so interesting! Team DOAC ❤️
@@GomersPile01glass half empty
I'm glad this topic is being brought up, as delaying having kids is something that is not the best as health concerns/ complications do raise. Hearing this info can impact is something that need be shared more
No one is choosing to delay having kids. If you want them, it's impossible to be in a position to have them before 30 unless you're from an extremely wealthy family who will bankroll your life for you.
I hate people like this. Yes, we know it's bad to wait! Fix the economy so we don't have to
Remember fellas. Don't get married. Don't have kids. It's not worth it. My case proves that. Drizzle drizzle.
You do have a choice!
@@pamelaryan8753 I teach young men to never get married and never have kids. We are winning.
Interestingly though, people from lower income households often have the most children, and those of "middle and upper class" tend to think how you think, put off having kids, and have them later in life because they factor in finances. It would suggest that it is a choice, and those of us that wait simply think differently about the correlation between money and children. Those that don't have money but have kids anyway clearly don't prioritise money as a factor to deter them from having them.
@@natbizzle04 but those from lower income are often uneducated too.
why everyone is so triggered? if you don’t want to have kids its fine, good for you, there are people who want kids.
Same in real life. I got married at 36 and had my only child at 37. Things have worked out well. It is nobody’s business what other people do. The pressure some put on unmarried and childless ppl is extreme.
They're triggered because people keep pressuring them, and turning low fertility rates into a selfishness problem versus an "it's almost impossible to survive and governments and banks are doing nothing to stop this/ are actively encouraging this" problem. I don't care that people want to have kids, it's their weird obsession with what I do with my gonads that I take issue with.
People are triggered because of people who don't mind their own business and bully people who do not agree with them.
Everyone should be able to decide whether or not they want kids with being called names.
I've gotten more pressure about having children from random strangers than anything else in my life, and the irony is that random strangers don't have to raise nor pay for any child I might have. I don't want children, I never have. I don't want to birth a being to "take care of me when I'm old" (Ps I watched my great grandmother be alone and old until she got ovarian cancer and passed and she had 7 adult children so thats not a guarantee.) Or any of the other bullshit people justify for judging.
@@AlongfortheThrillAnd it’s always the bottom feeders in society who can’t even afford the children they have that have the most to say about people who are voluntarily childless. They act like they are raising some grand specimen of a human being when in reality most people’s children are basic at best. Really wish these fools would get over themselves bc there is nothing innately honorable about being a parent.
I really liked the caring and compassionate way that he explained a lot of these vulnerable health problems that men can face. Hopefully that will encourage anyone struggling, to understand that there are tools out there and no shame 😊
good bedside manner goes a long way
This is a really helpful episode, thank you so much for sharing!
For anyone who has or is going through any of the issues mentioned on this episode, please don't be discouraged and keep the faith.
Surround yourself with love and positivity. Although it may be hard sometimes, but count your blessings and acknowledge your progress (even the small ones). Think positive and things will work out eventually ❤
he did finally talk about epigenetic changes at the very end. so much has gone on in the last hundred years-above ground nuclear testing, water fluoridation, innumerable novel organic compounds-including ddt, other pesticides and plastics, lead from leaded gasoline, medicines, that it is almost impossible to parse out. epigentic changes are interesting in that sometimes future generations are actually more affected than those experiencing the first exposure.when you add all the accrued insults over time with each generation burdened by the one before and also more of their own, it takes a toll. glad he mentioned reproductive health as being a good stand in for overall biological fitness-all this loss of fertility could be a canary in the coalmine sort of thing
Great conversation. IMO, Steve asks the questions that a lot of men probably wouldn't ask, #get men talking and some revealing/surprising answers that inform men & women. Another great from DOAC team 👏👏
I think he’s saying if you want kids to get them early; I don’t think he means everyone should
The problem is that everyone that wants/deserves kids aren't having them early. Mostly due to the economy.
Or fertility problems@@AGirlCalledNicole
"You'll never be ready."
"You'll be ready and still feel not-ready"
These are common things I've heard from fellow fathers.
Personally I think you should wait until you're sure you can afford the kid, that means you have savings being made AND you have disposable income that you are't blowing on yourself or your partner.
I think also having a kid before 25 is a mistake, most people spend their 18-25 years figuring out who they really are, now that they are out from under the thumb of their parents.
After 25 is when you settle into that and it takes years to do that, so may as well have a kid during that slow process as it will morph you into a different, hopefully better person.
@@Rexhunterjand some people may actually feel ready when they're older. We are all different. I would have had an abortion had I gotten pregnant in my early 20s. I had an unplanned pregnancy at 29 but I was in a place in my life where I could handle being a mom.
Great health advice. There are life changing takeaway moments in this discussion for anyone listening and wanting to make an improvement in the quailty of the life they lead.
If men want family life and children then they need to restructure society and the ideogogies to support that. And at the same time they need to consider the health and mental health of their partners and children. We need something completely new that hasn't been available to anyone before. Women rejected the religious patriarchal model because they ended up being slaves to the house while men felt trapped in their work. Let's start with a list of what we want and work out a structure that supports that.
you make good points. Quality post.
the conclusion you stated for the previous model was only applicable to a minority. There is really no alternative model, other than some new tech like artificial wombs which would likely not happen.
Societies will restructure themselves just as natural selection restructures life to suit its environment. That the current progressive ideology fails to replicate itself just means it will be outcompeted by the traditional ideologies that have a track record of replicating itself for thousands of years.
Too late feminism was the Trojan horse it’s over for the west and women are the ones that killed it
Abandoning what has worked for thousands of years to engage in a utopic social experiment and having it fail doesn't mean we have to go back to the drawing board and start from scratch.
My wife and I were married in 1995 we were 21. We raised eight kids on less than 40,000 a year, we did this by moving to a depressed rural area where we could afford a 3 Acre Homestead for under $100,000, even so it requires a lot of sacrifices, we also home educated our children. You have to go outside the box.
If you were good and loving parents and were able to provide WELL for ALL your kids, it was a good decision. If not it was selfish and irresponsible.
@@chrystelelacroix4681guessing you don’t have children
Many believe that trailer park trash shouldn't have so many kids.
After reading the comments....its amazing how divisive this topic is.
No it’s not 😅😅
Remember fellas. Don't get married. Don't have kids. It's not worth it. My case proves that. Drizzle drizzle.
subscribed and liked. I like the format of your interviews, calm reasoning, good questions.
Well what a informative pod cast really enjoyed this and hopefully we will get a lot more thankyou
That's some great, unhelpful advice. Until the UK does something to incentivise rather than penalise parenthood, us millennials and zoomers will be delaying it indefinitely.
Delay until you are 80 and then realise there is no doctor to look after you because a whole generation will have not had enough children for enough to become doctors? And no pension because the system will have collapsed? And no food because no one to farm? If you are worried about money, make sure you have a child! There are interesting reads about demographics if you want to look at both sides of the issue. If you don’t want children you need to project yourself in a society not as you see it today but in a society with few children and reinvent how it might work. Immigration, technology will fill some of the gaps ok but what else? And who will lead and manage these changes? Will it fall in the right hands? You may have a pretty chaotic retirement.
@@DC-oh1um AI will take care of us when we're old 😆
Except for the Arab immigrants. They get paid by the government to breed.
@@DC-oh1um you seem to forget the rest of the world is producing children to take care of us. Meny care takers currently are imports, i dont see that trend slowing down
Lol as if it is a choice. Having child is bordering financial gross negligence now. What life can I have/provide when it's hard enough solo ffs...
Agreed.
Womp womp
Who is going to take care of you when you are old? The government? LOL!
@@jasonherriottSo that's the reason for having a child?I know a case of an old women who have 2 childrens that don't give a s**t about her.They wait for her to die, to sell her house and share the money.How about that?
@@jasonherriottIf you don’t have the money to provide a good, quality life for a child but would still conceive one with the expectation that they grow up and do just that for you - you’d deserve it if you died alone in misery with no contact from those kids bc that entire line of thinking is absolutely despicable. No wonder these kids are so messed up these days. The parents are a bunch of fxcking losers, smh.
There are many ways to depopulate the earth. It really feels like it's by design at times The past 4 years has had me asking a lot of questions
Yeah I'm having my first kid now and I was stunned how many things tried to stop me, from doctors to peer pressure, to medicine, to work and finances. All of it.
Vaccines?
@@wendiewilliamson4227 Not all. Just a new novel one that we never used before
I was just having this thought the other day. It really feels like everything is stacking up against us, so much so that I don't think it could be coincidence unfortunately
We live in a world where the poor and the stupid have the most children and the more wealthy clever people are only having one or none. The future looks bleak.
Because that is what is promoted.
Intelligent people don't make good worker-class citizens, they are thinkers, not workers.
The ruling class (top 0.5% of the world) need workers, not thinkers. They can fleece a thinker every few decades for their science progression but beyond that they want everyone else to be working non-stop to support the economy that makes them feel good.
This is all about controlling the 'peasants' and enriching the already ridiculously rich.
People are looking at the core resulting problems and ignoring the main cause/source of it looming behind them, mostly because ignorance is bliss and addressing the problem that the boomers have destroyed the world economically and financially, is very uncomfortable for most people over the age of 40 nowadays.
Everything goes back to the boomers, there were too many of them and they did not reproduce as fast as their parents did, so we have had a declining population ever since (besides Millenial generation block), boomers are also the recipients of the massive welfare hole called the aged-care pension or whatever your nation calls it.
The aged care pension was a goodwill action the Boomers did for their parents because the war vets deserved a good retirement, then they silently stepped into that role too (retired/pensioner) and they outnumbered their parents 3:1, did not produce 2 children per family on average and now they are seeing their pensions/assets devalue because there are less youthful generations to work and raise that value.
Instead of accepting the extremely good golden times are over, the boomers want to extract ever last little cent of wealth they can before they die.
There are Boomers who are dying and donating their entire estate to charities while their kids suffer in the terrible financial situation their parents forced them into.
All of my Boomer relatives have no finances left, they spent it all on vacations, TVs, Computers, nice houses, fancy furniture, new cars, etc. When they pass away there are no funds waiting for distribution among their few children/grand children. Every child in my generation (I'm the eldest from my generation by 7 years) is set to not see a single cent, or any land, or even an asset from any of our older relatives, we are extremely poor as a result and work non stop (or in my case I am disabled and unemployed/unemployable) my younger brother by 7 years is a mechanic at an auto shop, has been for 6 years now and he often tells me how worried he is for his partner because he just can't afford to move out from his partner's parents place no matter how many hours he puts in or how many cares he fixes.
Brother you could say that again.. Looks like gov assistance and jail have a great future ahead.
Welcome to the West.
@@tracesoflife9500 And because the smarter people realize life can be better without kids. Fertility rates go down with education.
The data also shows us the young parents are worse at parenting than mature people.
Look it up. Is it that suprising that a person in their 40s is more emotionally regulated, got more money, patience etc...
In comparison to the self obsessed 21 year old.
You couldve mentioned that data too.
Would you rather your parents have you at age 21 or 41? One is wise the other is egotistical and unwise, most likely broke too
Plus the brain isn’t fully developed until 25-26 years old. Yeah, I’ll take the 41 year old parents.
Historically, grandparents would have been around nearby to be a moderating and more patient influence on younger parents.
21- they don’t need to be perfect to have me .. I rather they have me young and get to enjoy being grandparents and GOD willing, great-grand parents. Would be a dream to see the family line grow!
Old people shouldn’t be having kids
@@rogenniedominguez8291 My children got to see three of their great grandparents. It really is an awesome thing.
this has been known for a long time. I remember being in a biology class in 2003! they were studying the water birds and how these plastics are leaking these chemicals that mimic these hormones.
I don't know why the alarm wasn't sounded long ago.
Because...profit over people.
@@hey_kudisco_podcastyou mean like in the divorce courts? Hm?
Because it’s done on purpose
Because the industries making this stuff has massive lobbying clout.
My husband and I are above average earners and modest spenders. But we live in a metropolitan city, where we can only afford a studio flat. As we are approaching our mid thirties, we have to consider moving out of the city and completely change careers to be able to afford a house with room to have kids.
Yep, being an above average earner is often not enough now. I would like to see more podcasts trying to also link families/rates of children to the economy. This podcast was very good, but they didn’t touch on the economy this time around
Remember fellas. Don't get married. Don't have kids. It's not worth it. My case proves that. Drizzle drizzle.
You don't need a big house to have kids. They won't need their own room till atleast 10 years old. You've got time.
This part is so correct
@@PeterNolan-009 wow, sounds like trauma...I hear you bro
Our newest health issue is chemical romance : quality foods/small portions/micro gut biom lifestyle, exercise plan lifestyle, stress management lifestyle.
My dad had me and my sis when he was 25😂 ....and here I am, 30 and single
I'm delaying having kids until I die 😂
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Excellent choice!
I've learned SO much from this podcast.
It’ll be very sweet to witness Steven transition into a father ❤
It's truly a privilege these days to become a (healthy, present, and capable) mother/parent when you're young. This economy is a mess!
All three of my kids are in their 20s....none of them want kids.🤷♀️
I teach young men to never get married and never have kids. We are winning.
Women don't need to partner with men these days. Sperm donation@PeterNolan-009
@@PeterNolan-009with how the laws are set up in America, it’s not in their favor
@@zergslayer69 Not just the laws. It is the wide spread contempt of men that is also a big issue. There is no respect for men any more. And men know it.
99.99% of babies are an accident
really informative, lots of info , thank you both
Thank you, this is man is bringing awareness to the truth and until you’re the parent in that situation you ain’t realize the importance of him sharing the truth
Ummm...it's not rocket science, it's simply due to the high cost of raising a child.
Great video as usual, but missed him not answering the previous guests question for next guest.
I really do appreciate your channel and love the content that you’re bringing out recently. Completely in a constructive way, have you implemented the changes that you’re promising in other words have we seen it or is there more to come? I’m becoming impatient. It’s not just a coffee we are addicted to.😂
He had me at you know.
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You would think "specialists" would...you know...know how to speak. He's a fertility expert, not a speaking expert 😅
@@CiprianFx59 I know 😬
Currently society places too much emphasis on possessions (quantity) vs. the quality of life. Young people are more selfish. Having children at any age or income is difficult because the struggle to raise a quality individual takes time, patience, and love.
Young people not having children, leads them to have a better quality of life. I'm a Mom of 2, a toddler and infant and I fully support young people (people my age) in not having children. It is not selfish to not have children. It's actually far more selfish to have children, especially if you can't provide for them. Also young people (my generation) are struggling to gain possessions (quantity), all they have is to try to improve their quality in life and they're barely scraping by. Children will not improve an adults quality of life, especially if they are unwanted or a burden.
Great conversation! I am sharing it with my male friends 😉
Remember fellas. Don't get married. Don't have kids. It's not worth it. My case proves that. Drizzle drizzle.
Very informative. Thank u.
You can't win.
We're having children very close together for many of these reasons, and some people think were ridiculous and rushing. We planned and thought a lot about all our choices, especially considering our ages. But people roll their eyes and cite their friends who are 40 having kids, no need to rush. 🥴
There should at least be a 2-year gap between pregnancies for recovery time to reduce complications (you can look up studies for yourself), please be careful.
It’s great having children close together, I had 4 under 5 and while it was hard at first we are all very close because of it!
❤ Children are the best ❤
Not for me, thanks. Always cats & dogs over kids. Too many people!
Unless you don't like them.
Listening to this podcast at this moment means I have no control over things that effect me in this way before I’m born , only if my parents had listened and taking these steps as I developed and grew . So this info being present is for the listener to help the following generation to come. Most of us can’t even afford to have kids so have decided to opt out of it. It’s irresponsible to bring someone into this world you know you can’t afford to give a good enough chance and life without putting them up for adoption for someone who has the means but doesn’t isn’t able to have kids for whatever reason. I think it’s time to start talking about a life that’s content without children for your listeners who have to live a childless or single life against there will, and how to live that best life and avoids these increase of 60% mortality rate without a wife and child. When I go to a high end restaurant and I don’t reserve for two than say the other person cancelled I get a seat by the washroom or next to the front door outside . I’m from the heart of Vancouver BC downtown
So, i was brought up drinking water supplied by victorian lead pipes coated with limescale. I was born in the sixties and fertility was a problem in that it only took one time, we, in the recent past have been warned about plastics, hormone laden drinking water, hormone laced food etc. Now, all our water pipes are plastic.
You can be delayed!
But not me, I still hold multiple world records for speed, conceived at 39 ;)
I was 25 and we conceived with our first child very easily. At the time I was training 2-3 times a week, but eating and drinking a lot and slightly overweight. Over the past 3 years I have trained consistently 5-6 times per week, competed in CrossFit and Hyrox competitions and would say I am very fit and healthy. However, with my partner, we have been trying for our second child for 2.5 years. My sperm test show there is low morphology and the advice I was given was to make sure I'm eating well, exercising, not drinking too much etc etc .. when in fact I am 100% fitter than I was when we easily conceived the first time. The main difference that I sticks out like a sore thumb to me are the 3 COVID vaccinations I had in the middle, however no one seems to mention this at all. Every week there seems to be new revelations about the side effects the vaccine has had, but no one has the answers
It’s not the covid vaccinations 🙄
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Bingo
why would you have 3 vaccines?
@@sergeynewlayer we had to get a booster UK in order to fly and enter certain countries
very interesting... one of the best ones yet
Jus subbed today u really have improved my ways in a way
Having kids is very sadly an 80s, 90s thing. Maybe the first few years of the 00s. But yeah it slipped out of many couples financial grasp year after year going forward.
stop complaining man.. if you cant afford it.. tough luck. I can and I plan to have more. You choose to live where you live. I choose to live in South Georgia where I can have an abundance of children.
If you have money pop out as many as you want but the reality is that not everyone is in the 1% club. Most people will want to stabilise there finance in these crap times
I'm in the 1% and can't stand kids so made sure I never had them.
@@dedesunbeam9361Dont say that I was a kid once 🥺 (jk)
This was a pretty good conversation, you know.
I think… because we are so separated from each other, families don’t live together, we don’t work hard side by side every day with all other relatives and friends in different ages, so we also know a lot less about life experiences so we are more afraid of life because we don’t have sufficient support. You don’t need just a whole village to raise a child but every child needs that village full of people. We are all so lonely and cut off. And ofc money also - but i don’t think everyone agould life separately, i’d love to see more families together, people more loving each other and just a big change from the basis of fear - what if I don’t have enough etc. It’s not just about the money.
The toxic cynicism and anti-natalism in every comment section to do with fertility/population decline/children is just staggering. Yes, life is hard. Life has its challenges. It’s always been this way. My own grandmother grew up in an industrial warehouse in complete poverty during war time and the Great Depression. What if her generation had decided life was too hard and not worth it? She just turned 90 and has lived a joyful, beautiful life, and gifted so much to her descendants. I truly hope there is a strong cultural pendulum swing away from these attitudes with the upcoming generation. It’s not serving anyone.
Remember fellas. Don't get married. Don't have kids. It's not worth it. My case proves that. Drizzle drizzle.
The world has become selfish. They want to serve themselves first. If having a child means self sacrifice, they run the opposite way.
@@paulgrewal587 why should men sacrifice for laydees children? They are not ours. And they don't need no man. Remember? The issue is laydees. Not men..
Worry not. They will eliminate their "selfish gene" from the gene pool by not procreating.
I do however partly understand them, back in the day a young couple with a child could count on help from parents, aunties, grandparents, the neighbours etc. Also the parenting expectations were much lower (basically to feed the kids was enough.) Children were also often expected to contribute to the household and take on jobs on the field / with animals etc alongside their parents. Overall despite the times being seemingly more difficult, one could argue parenting was actually much easier. Notably though those who comment post about children affecting their finances so don't think they really thought about this in depth.
Facts. We have it easier than most generations, for sure. Holocaust survivors procreated, and thank goodness, cuz we have Gabor Mate and Esther Perel. People think kids require so much money, but that's because capitalism gives them a warped idea of what kids "need".
There are millions of kids living in poverty through no fault of the parents. Life is becoming more of a struggle everywhere and yet there are still people advocating, for various reasons, for more children should be born. Now the USA is in the process of forcing women, it's still almost always a woman who ends up bearing the brunt of unwanted children, to have babies they don't want and cannot afford to feed, clothe and house effectively. What are our politicians offering? Increased costs, less employment for less financial reward, the prospect of WW3 looming while the already wealthy become mega rich and increasing numbers of even the middle classes living a paycheque away Fromm poverty; all good reasons to bring more children into the world I'm sure.
Women sure love the freedoms they get here tho I wonder how many women have died for their freedom?
Pathetic feminist bs
Thanks team 🎉
Are there some typos in the timestamps?
Nice info
Having children is a gift and a miracle, praying for everyone struggling with this 🙏
Remember fellas. Don't get married. Don't have kids. It's not worth it. My case proves that. Drizzle drizzle.
It's biology and physics. It's not a miracle.
Interesting how the world has changed since I was young. I spent my 20s and 30s desperately trying to not get my girlfriends pregnant. When I finally decided to get married 27 years ago my wife and I chose not to go down the baby making path, unlike normal people. Sex has remained fun and fulfilling without the pressure of reproduction and I think that has gone a long way to maintaining a healthy testosterone count and no need for little blue pills, even as I turn 70.
I definitely get the importance of love, connection and companionship for physical and mental health but sperm count has never been of any interest other than trying not to let it get me in trouble. My wife has a good friend who had twins at 49 so I guess I still worry about an accident even as she shows signs of being perimenopausal. Funny how those who want kids the most often struggle while those who don’t sometimes end up with kids in spite of efforts to avoid them.
Anyway I am surprised my generation survived at all since we didn’t know anything about all these modern hazards.🙏
These chemicals have had more time to accumulate in the generations that came after yours. Also, food was more nutritious back then, because the soil wasn't as depleted.
I'm with you. I'm a 72 year old woman who made absolutely certain I never had a kid. Been in a 20 year relationship with a childfree man and we have an awesome relationship, sexy and fun with lots of shared interests. We were also able to retire early and pay off the house. :-)
Pay off the house and leave it to who lol the state will auction it and so much for that ayy
This is such a great video and I wish I could share it but the thumbnail is too much.
I need the thumbnail on a t-shirt, yesterday
They keep saying men who smoke and drink alcohol have the highest risk of infertility but every man ik who smokes and drinks have the most kids so something is misconstrued
From 1900- 1989 every man smoked & drank 😂
Also, they’re getting the women drunk 😂
My parents & their generation were ridiculously poor. They had to grow their own vegetables as a necessity, eat lots of substandard boring meals and make a lot of their own furniture because they couldn’t buy it. Despite that they didn’t think they “don’t have enough money to have kids” Look at Irish families who had 8, 9 or 10 children (my grandfather was Irish and had 10 siblings). It’s not just economics that’s changed, it’s people’s attitude and priorities that have dramatically changed as well. The world is 100% a different place nowadays - plus, like it or not, human beings have way more demands than they used to.
people has nothing to steal, 100 years ago
Lol "they" did not decide to have kids at all. There was no birth control and wives had no choices so anytime grandpappy got horny she was likely to pop put another baby 9 months later with possibly some protection during breast feeding but not much as the Irish are also known for "Irish twins" I'm sure grandma was secretly miserable and I bet a bunch of them died on the birthing bed too.
good episode!
Spent years preventing pregnancy then when I decided to try as a responsible adult that could afford children couldn't. Tried for 8 years and spent a lot of money to no avail. Mentally I think it impacted me more thinking my husband deserves a woman who could have a child.
Kids NEED parents with a fully developed cortex because kids have basically just their limbic brain for processing. Kids need fully developed, emotional regulated parents. No chance for that with anyone under 27 years old. Better to have an older parent that has had a fully developed brain for a few years.
Better to have young parents and extended families
Most women are to damaged by 30 to have kids with
@@leyubar1we can't have it all
@@mastercheeks3017 that’s true. But you can have young parents and extended families. We did for most of our evolution
I had my first at 25, and perhaps my brain was still forming, but motherhood definitely changes you and your brain chemistry. The hormones and the instincts are powerful, and very much take over who you were previously. You’re never the same after. Your body and brain know what to do when a child is born.
People are being smarter by delaying and or not having them
Yes that’s smarter not to fulfil your one role in life at animal form.
@@babyj5184 you have the smoothest brain
#childfree rise up
@@babyj5184please stop. Most ppl who have kids have no love or energy for kids. They’re indeed like animals just giving birth to something that looks like you so ppl in your life don’t judge you.
@@Dynasty1818 the Caucasian race will be able to be observed only in the history books.
I was 40 when I had my first child, and 2nd was at 41. Though, she left because the children were cramping her style. She doesn't support them, nor do they want anything to do with her. I may not reach the retirement age because my health went down dramatically. My parents went down in health right after the children were born. Working full-time and full-time health care provider, plus full-time parent completely drained me (this is without any help from the other side family. Men don't support men who are single parents. I went homeless, and the government was trying to take the kids from me. As a veteran, I couldn't receive any help either. I looked asked for help every single corner of the Earth.) If I had the chance to do it over I would not had them, not that I don't love them, cause the struggle is more than anything anyone person could ever face. Unless you have more than 10 million dollars, DO NOT HAVE CHILDREN, unless you want to lose everything you own because children first become dependent upon you and your life is over because their life is just beginning.
Wow. I know you had a hard time, but it is NOT necessary to have 10 million dollars in order to have children.
It’s amazing That we ask ourselves about our character , have a self check before making the decision to have kids when we should be doing that out of the gate.it’s so true that we will do more for our kids than ourself. I believe GOD GAVE US THE DESIRE TO HAVE KDS IS SET UP TO LEARN WHAT LOVE IS. TO COMPREHEND THAT GOD LOVES US EVEN MORE THAN WE CAN LOVE OUR KIDS.WE MUST KEEP THIS IN MIND.
Fascinatingly, if you take away the males partner he has increased mortality but women with partners have decreased mortality. Important to note.
Remember fellas. Don't get married. Don't have kids. It's not worth it. My case proves that. Drizzle drizzle.
@@PeterNolan-009 And women, don't get married either and only date men with vasectomies. Then keep your favorite one. 🙂
Who says finding the right partner is easy! It took me a long time to find the right person, I'm still against spending the rest of my life and parenting with a person that isnt a good fit, that would make me a bad wife and mother, and it would have been a horrible crime against myself (Also, with the right person you are more confident about life outcomes in general, a sense of security you need in a home for family life). Not to mention the maturity, level of responsibility and the financial stability. They are all good payoffs for delaying having kids.
Remember fellas. Don't get married. Don't have kids. It's not worth it. My case proves that. Drizzle drizzle.
You're right that stability is a key condition we look for in order to start a family. That's sensible but it's become harder over time to meet partners that are a good fit. One of the reasons is that clubs and online dating is now the main way couples meet and both of those self-select for impulsive behaviour. In those scenes, men are encouraged to display conspicuous consumption rather than the skills required to create stable abundance. They also tend to be looking for sex now, rather than someone they want to introduce to friends and family. All of this means that if we want to meet good partners, we have to look elsewhere and to understand that it's going to take time. The younger we start, the better off we'll be. I started young but this was because I worked for a very successful woman who put off having children until she had the high income. Of course, the goal then became maintaining that level of income and that took her away from her kids. The kids (aged 2 and 6 months at the time) didn't care about the high income level at all. They were just distressed that she kept taking off to work. What they wanted more than anything else was her time and attention. That's a big responsibility that she was happy to forego but I was not - so I started at 21 and got to have 3 sons. I really wanted at least 4 kids and my only regret is that I didn't get to have more - especially that I didn't get to have daughters. As for the women I grew up with, only 1 other woman from our friend group had kids. She also started young. The rest of them went into great management positions and were partying well into their 30's. Then they hit 35 and started to panic. One got married at 38 and divorced 18 months later. There was a period around their 40's where the reality (and depression) really started to sink in.
First of, I love Steven and DOAC is my top 1 podcast... But, I'm like: It's obviously the time we gotta see "David Goggins"...
Anyways, thanks a trillion for your podcasts!
A whole heart of love! 💗
Some people worry about having children because of not affording it. I don’t think they realise that when we will hit economic chaos and various systems collpase, they will struggle more. In a way having children is more garantee that you will grow old with a minimum of comfort. If you want doctors when you are old, you need children who want to become doctors.
in poor countries with NO social security, having children are the social security... 15$ per month, a Thai retiree gets... A MONTH, if not worked for government, army, police, teacher...
wow - way to shame people for the various reasons of delaying having children -such as financial , true emotional maturity or simply life's struggles
Middle class people like him live in a bubble that's why
Most valuable player is about hard work. I have to agree on Shaq work ethic. I'm not mad at his work ethic he seemed to enjoy himself. He did movies, rapped, wrestling, and parties. To be top 10 is amazing
We purposly need to reduce our chances and prove them wrong
Here’s me kicking back on the beach and Spain having had a vasectomy 10 years ago. 39 now. Ah life is perfect!
Awesome!
I'm a woman with the same attitude!!!
Would have never dated a man with kids or who wanted them since there was no way I was going to have one.
Each to their own but its a mindset I can't understand. Does it not get boring ? I spent up to my early 30s travelling/ going to nice restaurants / lounging around on beaches etc etc but found it meaningless and felt the same in the end.
I seen many comments on living costs too high. Reason costs are high are bosses, stakeholders and employees wanna bigger paychecks. The system is designed to always go up. This trend will only continue unless some major overhaul of the system. Like a global median income? Don't know not the expert but we all need to break barriers to work on this stuff. Is a global thing
The Dr didn't stress on DHT , when asked about high Testosterone for the Hair loss
It’s a choice 👍🏼
Having them too early will fuckup your life and theirs so...
This is why it's best to ignore the opinion of society and do what works for you. At the end of the day society isn't going to assume responsibility for your kid or the consequences of having one. Yet random people are so intent on telling you how to live your life. They can stick one up their craw.
Very interesting about MENS Fertility
I’m noticing while watching this video that he doesn’t mention the importance of diet. Diet plays a huge role in improving blood flow to all areas of our body. Heart disease can actually be reversed by improving our diet in order to clear out our arteries.IMHO improving circulation to the penis and all parts of our body would rate almost # 1 in importance when it comes to fertilization . Right up there with hormones and exercise .ive heard that circulation is the major cause of erection problems…..oh he did mention it at the end as I compose this text….but lower the fat in diet and clear out the arteries!
He's in the "fertility business"? What a perverted world we live in.
All these people saying kids are not worth it 🤷♂️
Worth what 🤷♂️
My toddler changed my life ! It’s pure love
And what value does that have 🤷♂️
Worth more than money ❤️
Spot on, exactly this. 👍🏻👆🏻 However, those that say it’s not worth it to have kids, I’m glad (for the child’s sake) that they haven’t had any. It’s not for everyone is it.
Kids aren’t a one size fits all. For those that want one and have one, more power to them.
Get back to me after your divorce.
@@PeterNolan-009 my wife has money bro 🤷♂️
@@r3fl3xion then she should be sending me some to compensate me for the crimes of her fellow laydees.