Is He Charming or Dangerous? 5 TERRIFYING Signs You’re Dating a Psychopath | Karen Conti

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  • @LisaBilyeu
    @LisaBilyeu  Місяць тому +26

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    • @PeggyHartman-e2q
      @PeggyHartman-e2q Місяць тому

      How do you know he wasn’t laughing at God when he went to church? The clown in him. Maybe he blames God for not protecting him as he suffered sexual abuse. A lot of people want to blame God when something bad happens to him.

  • @AshleyPalmer-p8f
    @AshleyPalmer-p8f Місяць тому +236

    Thank you for clearing up... It's not weak woman that are targets it is kind woman.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому +18

      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
      Without Conscience by Robert D Hare
      Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood
      Boundaries by Henry Cloud
      Safe People by Henry Cloud
      Non Violent Communication by Marshall B Rosenberg
      Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It by Kamal Ravikant
      The Language Of Emotions by Karla McLaren
      Emotional Intimacy by Robert Masters
      Avoidant's Are Too Good At Dating -Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Why You Choose The Wrong People-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Avoidant Attachers And Covert Control-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Severe Avoidant Attachers And Marriage - Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Ken Reads Episode 7 Confusing And Manipulative Behavior podcast 🌞
      Your Past Relationships Explained -Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Coercive Control - Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞.
      What Love Is Not-Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Spot A Narcissist Or Psychopath On Your First Date - Sam Vaknin podcast
      Why Be A Swindler Scammer Con Artist? - Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Narcissistic Abuse Checklist 100 Tips For Survival And Healing - Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Body Language Of Narcissistic Abuser- Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Self Love To Self Healing - Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
      Take Back Your Life Own It! Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️

    • @heide-raquelfuss5580
      @heide-raquelfuss5580 Місяць тому +11

      It is ALSO the weak women.
      I heard this from a man that intervieuwd prisoners of violent crimes, like rape and killing women..
      The man asked them how he choosed the women ( walking on the streets ).
      They said...they choose women>
      1 women who are distracted with headphones.
      2 women who walked in a strange way, unstable walk, with a bowed spine, etc
      3 women who had a handicap.
      4 women alone, where where walking alone or in the dark alone with no one around, in empty parkinglots, etc.
      4 women in high heels, narrow dresses ( can not move well or/and walk fast ).
      ● vulnerable, weak, alone, handicaped, distracted, headphones on, sickly, the way they walked/body posture weak/vulnerable, etc
      ■ the kind, empathic, etc are also vulnerable, weak ( in his eyes easier to lure them in ) >>> Ted Bundy who used empathic/kind women who helped him, when he pretended to be injured ( arm in a wrap ) and needed help to put something in his car for example ).

    • @katarinatibai8396
      @katarinatibai8396 Місяць тому

      We are gaslighted from childhood on into being kind all the time to all people who don't deserve it.
      Boys will be boys. They can do what they like, but a girl has to obey, be quiet, and never fight.
      This upbringing fucked us up. The patriarchal society had allways groomed their next victimes.
      We have to get rid of the subservient spirit.
      Don't drill into the small girls that they have to be allways kind.
      Learn your children to protect themself.
      Learn the children to listen to their guts.

    • @ginaqc78
      @ginaqc78 Місяць тому +2

      Living proof of this 😢😢😢😢😢😢

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому

      @@heide-raquelfuss5580
      Vulnerable, traumatized, kind ,distracted and naive women.. His explanation is correct.
      There is a section in The Gift Of Fear about how criminals select victims.
      I will add it's not wise to advertise your wealth publicly.

  • @Mystic_Paths
    @Mystic_Paths Місяць тому +246

    If something feels off, don’t ignore it. Your instincts can be a powerful guide in recognizing unhealthy behaviors.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому +6

      👍. The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
      Without Conscience by Robert D Hare.
      Why You Choose The Wrong People-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Avoidant Attachers And Covert Control - Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Avoidant Attacher Gaslighting - Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Why Didn't You See The Red Flags? Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Ken Reads Episode 7 Confusing And Manipulative Behavior podcast 🌞
      The Boomerang Avoidant' - Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Avoidants Are Too Good At Dating -Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Your Past Relationships Explained -Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Coercive Control - Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Spot A Narcissist Or Psychopath On The First Date - Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Body Language Of Narcissistic Abuser- Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Why Be A Swindler Scammer Con Artist? Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      What Love Is Not-Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Self Love To Self Healing - Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
      Take Back Your Life Own It! Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️

    • @Poppya2024
      @Poppya2024 Місяць тому +2

      Amazing book. You'll never doubt yourself again.​@@SherriFlemming

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому +1

      @@Poppya2024 Indeed. It saves lives. ♥️

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому +1

      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
      Without Conscience by Robert D Hare

    • @findingdori442
      @findingdori442 25 днів тому

      Don’t ignore that “gut feeling” RED FLAGS 🚩

  • @simplypositiveme
    @simplypositiveme Місяць тому +364

    I just stay by myself out of a relationship. So much more peaceful and much less dangerous. I don't trust most people.

    • @victoriavitoroulis3273
      @victoriavitoroulis3273 Місяць тому +51

      Yes I agree ..especially if you’ve been in a relationship with a cluster B great actors .

    • @AshleyPalmer-p8f
      @AshleyPalmer-p8f Місяць тому +17

      I don't know what I've been up against! They wouldn't see a psychologist to actually get diagnosed ! 😅

    • @baileyleah2376
      @baileyleah2376 Місяць тому +32

      Me too. I've been targeted 3. Times all three had totally different problems but all were dangerous I am in therapy for 10 years and just don't want the trouble

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому

      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
      Without Conscience by Robert D Hare
      The Hoffman Process by John Gottman and Nan Silver
      The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer
      The Body Keeps The Score Brain Mind And The Healing Of Trauma-Bessel Van Der Kolk
      Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It by Kamal Ravikant ❤️
      Safe People by Henry Cloud
      Boundaries by Henry Cloud
      Non Violent Communication by Marshall B Rosenberg
      It takes a strong independent person to remain single in a world that is accustomed to settling with just anyone to say they have someone.
      Why You Choose The Wrong People-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Your Past Relationships Explained -Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Are Attachment Styles Biological? Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Avoidant's Are Too Good At Dating -Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Self Love To Self Healing - Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
      Take Back Your Life Own It! Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому

      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
      Without Conscience by Robert D Hare
      Boundaries by Henry Cloud
      Safe People by Henry Cloud
      Non Violent Communication by Marshall B Rosenberg
      Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It by Kamal Ravikant ❤️
      Avoidant's Are Too Good At Dating -Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      5 Shocking Behaviors You Should Never Tolerate In A Man by Jonathon Aslay podcast 🌞.
      5 Boundaries You Must Set With Men by Jonathon Aslay podcast 🌞
      How To Tell Apart Narcissist Borderline Psychopath (Hint Stability) Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Why Be A Swindler Scammer Con Artist? - Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Personality Disorder and Normal Personality - Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Self Love To Self Healing - Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
      Take Back Your Life Own It! Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️

  • @jmang5953
    @jmang5953 Місяць тому +55

    🙏 I believe that educating kind, unsuspecting people is the most noble thing a person can do. Lisa, this is saintly. Ty❣️

  • @Tamara_W
    @Tamara_W Місяць тому +77

    Narcissist play the victim in divorce, accuse the wife for the abuse they inflicted upon their wife. Twist stories that sound unbelievable, yet all these people in the court system believe them. What is so traumatizing divorcing your abuser, then being called the abuser. Its still too much for me after all these years.

    • @cougmom9317
      @cougmom9317 29 днів тому +10

      I’m going it through it now and can relate. It is harrowing and so difficult to expose.

    • @Ptls68
      @Ptls68 27 днів тому +4

      I know

    • @tamraholland2285
      @tamraholland2285 25 днів тому +5

      you are spot on
      tamra S.

    • @tamraholland2285
      @tamraholland2285 25 днів тому +9

      living it for almost 9 yr. working on my way out . Afib and stroke from stress ..
      i am a heart patient , congential defect.. open heart at age 11. when we married ,,, he never cared about the amount of stress i had, if you hear his side he’s the victim in everything…

    • @AimeeKateKelly
      @AimeeKateKelly 24 дні тому +6

      I can relate , my ex used to gas light me and completely fabricate things to make me look bad and so he could play the victim. Luckily for me I had evidence that he was the abusive one . He had no evidence of the things he was saying .

  • @robertaturk
    @robertaturk Місяць тому +82

    My husband, when he got triggered by his past traumas could not understand that his emotions are not facts. He would treat them like facts and because he was in pain you were responsible for his pain and don’t you ever do anything to cause me emotional pain because you are responsible for my feelings. If you came back with facts - even prove them - he would be unreasonable and irrational and pound you into the ground until you called uncle. His feelings were facts and you were guilty because he was in pain - you are responsible for his feelings. That’s one of the reasons that he never felt remorse.

    • @FunnyShellBear
      @FunnyShellBear Місяць тому +12

      You explained that weird thing they do so so well, you can tell you’ve really been through it many times. Sending you peace of heart and healing 💜

    • @Vixinaful
      @Vixinaful Місяць тому +16

      Thats overt narcissism. The partner isnt a person but an extention of him so what he thinks, YOU must think, what HE feels, YOU must feel. You are not you, you are him. The narcissist sees you as himself. He cannot differentiate between you two.

    • @tanyadepoalo4312
      @tanyadepoalo4312 Місяць тому +5

      Wow, you explained this so well. This is exactly how my ex bf was. To a T!!!

    • @heide-raquelfuss5580
      @heide-raquelfuss5580 Місяць тому

      HIS feelings where FACTS.
      If you want to know how you can build healthy relationships, read >>>
      Dr. John Gottman.
      ● He has also podcasts.
      Please watch them all.
      Not much people know about his findings.
      His wife and him have together podcasts also with this intervieuwer!!

    • @heide-raquelfuss5580
      @heide-raquelfuss5580 Місяць тому

      HIS feelings where FACTS.
      If you want to know how you can build healthy relationships, read >>>
      Dr. John Gottman.
      ● He has also podcasts.
      Please watch them all.
      Not much people know about his findings.
      His wife and him have together podcasts also with this intervieuwer!!

  • @-cMc-
    @-cMc- 21 день тому +10

    The traits of a narcissist is a cycle and will never change so if you read up on it you can be armed for life. They don’t change

  • @cindynimmo
    @cindynimmo 26 днів тому +8

    Recognize, make a plan, gather support, focus on yourself.

  • @drcarlaspeaks
    @drcarlaspeaks Місяць тому +92

    So true! These people are so dangerous and destructive. No longer a victim to this game. Grateful I am still alive. He can’t take it from me.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому +1

      You're a brave woman to survive!
      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
      Without Conscience by Robert D Hare
      Boundaries by Henry Cloud
      Non Violent Communication by Marshall B Rosenberg
      Safe People by Henry Cloud
      The Language Of Emotions by Karla McLaren
      Emotional Intimacy by Robert Masters
      Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It by Kamal Ravikant ❤️
      8 Dates by John and Julie Gottman defines the blueprint of healthy relationships.
      Are You The One For Me Knowing Who Is Right And Who Is Wrong by Barbara De Angelis
      Coercive Control- Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      What Love Is Not - Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Why Be A Swindler Scammer Con Artist? Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Avoidant Attachers And Covert Control-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Avoidant Attacher Gaslighting -Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      The Boomerang Avoidant' - Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Ken Reads Episode 7 Confusing And Manipulative Behavior podcast 🌞
      Severe Avoidant's And Marriage - Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Self Love To Self Healing - Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
      Take Back Your Life Own It! Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️

    • @wisdomdantecourt8179
      @wisdomdantecourt8179 Місяць тому +7

      @@SherriFlemmingThe Gift of Fear was a lifeline for me. Thx for sharing these tips! ❤

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому +2

      @@wisdomdantecourt8179 You're very welcome!. Indeed it saves lives ❤️

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому

      Avoidant Attachers And Covert Control - Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Ken Reads Episode 7 Confusing And Manipulative Behavior podcast 🌞
      Avoidant Attacher Gaslighting 🌞
      Why You Choose The Wrong People-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      The Boomerang Avoidant' - Ken Reid podcast 🌞.
      Severe Avoidants And Marriage - Ken Reid podcast
      🌞
      Avoidants Are Too Good At Dating -Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Coercive Control - Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Avoidant' vs Narcissist - Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      What Love Is Not- Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Why Be A Swindler Scammer Con Artist? Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Committment Phobia Explained Men That Can't Love Animated Podcast
      (avoidant attachment)

  • @bonniekelley1130
    @bonniekelley1130 Місяць тому +34

    In hindsight, it is so apparent to me that on first meetings with the malignant covert narcissist with psychopathic traits, he was "interviewing" me to determine what was important to me and how to appeal to me. He knew that it was important to me that I identified as a good mom and flattered me re same. I succumbed to the flattery. Turns out he was very jealous of my children and grandchildren. I was 17 years into the deception before he dropped his mask.

    • @flipdiva0007
      @flipdiva0007 Місяць тому +7

      My X jokingly referred to our first date as "the interview". After he discarded me for standing up for myself and going against his wishes, I realized it in fact was an interview. He viewed me as someone he could control and boss around. He even joked in the beginning about being the "master". Boy was I blind to his MO. Never again. It's been 3 years since the discard and I'm still emotionally wrecked from it.

    • @jolesliewhitten6545
      @jolesliewhitten6545 23 дні тому +2

      I married one too. I’m now 81 and still shudder at memories of what he did to me behind closed doors.

    • @PeggyLawrence-cn1jn
      @PeggyLawrence-cn1jn 23 дні тому +1

      @@jolesliewhitten6545 So sorry for you. You are a brave woman!

    • @FittyTrader-fp8bm
      @FittyTrader-fp8bm 21 день тому

      . Wow 86 . I'm an 26 yearold ugly incel . At my late teens I have accepted the fate dying a virgin . ​@@jolesliewhitten6545

    • @LolaAileenVanslette
      @LolaAileenVanslette 14 днів тому

      Mine immediately dropped his mask. I just didn't know what narcissism was. My first husband was a sociopath (diagnosed), so I recognized that, I started looking into narcissism because of my mom, and found out the triggers he was bringing up were a reenactment of my mother's abuse of me. Suddenly, I was laser-focused on what I was dealing with in him. Looking back, I know he hates his mother, father, and siblings just as much as all the women he goes through. Evil.

  • @LizzyBee600
    @LizzyBee600 Місяць тому +62

    This is completely irrelevant to the conversation but is anyone else just loving these waves in Lisa's hair? It's such a pretty style, I think it suits her very well😊

    • @Poppya2024
      @Poppya2024 Місяць тому +3

      Haha, yes.

    • @jaelbarboza9739
      @jaelbarboza9739 Місяць тому +1

      So cute

    • @4seasons546
      @4seasons546 Місяць тому +1

      Yes I love it 🥰 she looks beautiful with full hair softly framing her face. I feel it is Definitely a more approachable softer feminine glamour look.

  • @TartarianTreasures
    @TartarianTreasures 25 днів тому +10

    "HIS hands were small and he didn't look like he could over power anyone".. THATS EXACTLY WHY HE CHOSE YOUNG BOYS!

  • @TheSwordandPearl
    @TheSwordandPearl Місяць тому +103

    Satan appears as an angel of light

    • @wisdomdantecourt8179
      @wisdomdantecourt8179 Місяць тому +14

      …and the last person you’d expect to meet @ church! 👹

    • @Coco-xr5eq
      @Coco-xr5eq Місяць тому

      ...and it's you​@@wisdomdantecourt8179

    • @katarinatibai8396
      @katarinatibai8396 Місяць тому +2

      99% of the priest are narcissists, so you can expect a devil in the church.
      He can't be a rock star because of a lack of talent ?
      He can still have a cheering publicum when he becomes a priest.
      Narcissism is a hungry ghost. It needs to be fed constantly. Prise, admiration, and power....
      It's all about that.

  • @closingthedivide1187
    @closingthedivide1187 Місяць тому +26

    Excellent interview! Thoroughly enjoyed your discussion with Karen. She’s super sharp. Thanks for highlighting and sharing this pertinent information, Lisa!

  • @drea9913
    @drea9913 26 днів тому +7

    I only have one small detail to add. The only two times I’ve ever been told by a man that nothing weird is going to happen it turns into some kind of either sexual assault or physical and financial assault.

  • @saturdayschild8535
    @saturdayschild8535 Місяць тому +44

    28:26 Triangulation is instinctive to narcissists and sociopaths. Watching the ex husband use networking and sales contacts to destroy his competition at work was very instructive before I filed for divorce.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому

      @@saturdayschild8535
      Good for you!
      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
      Without Conscience by Robert D Hare
      Take Back Your Life Own It! Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
      Self Love To Self Healing - Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️

    • @wisdomdantecourt8179
      @wisdomdantecourt8179 Місяць тому +10

      I swear that is true. Those creeps will even triangulate the dog or the cat!

    • @nasreenbari2765
      @nasreenbari2765 19 днів тому

      Borderlines triangulate too.

  • @jilligain3409
    @jilligain3409 Місяць тому +45

    I grew up abused & neglected because I “birthed myself the wrong sex so I deserved it”. The predators of this world target neglected children. And let me tell you, they are a dime a dozen. Parents, NEVER leave your child alone, esp w/ a man. So many will take advantage. Like I said, they are a dime a dozen

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому

      @@jilligain3409
      Protecting The Gift by Gavin De Becker
      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
      Without Conscience by Robert D Hare
      Avoidant's Are Too Good At Dating -Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      The Boomerang Avoidant' - Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Avoidant vs Narcissist - Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Avoidant Attacher Gaslighting -Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Why Be A Swindler Scammer Con Artist? Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Take Back Your Life Own It!
      Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
      Self Love To Self Healing - Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️

  • @sherrymurphy855
    @sherrymurphy855 Місяць тому +127

    They absolutely blend and not all sociopaths are prolific serial murderers. Some are the doctors we trust or the teacher we trust or the neighbor we trust who are child predators. 'There's nothing like the sight of an amputated spirit.'💔

    • @irme8930
      @irme8930 Місяць тому

      True. I was severely damaged by one of these narcissistic doctors during a procedure. His nurse was a psychopath and they did the deed together. Now they are covering each other. They even wanted to drug me afterwards in order to take advantage of me.

    • @P.e.m.a.
      @P.e.m.a. Місяць тому +1

      And often these people choose certain professions BECAUSE they get closer to their victims that way. Why do you think all these woke pedo gender obsessed weirdos get into "teaching" young children? Why do the energy vampire types go into therapy or become clergy? How many creepy men get into Ob/Gyn?

    • @joannturi3968
      @joannturi3968 Місяць тому +3

      It can be anyone, even the man on the moon

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому +10

      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
      Without Conscience by Robert D Hare
      Protecting The Gift by Gavin De Becker
      The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman
      The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer
      The Body Keeps The Score Brain Mind And The Healing Of Trauma-Bessel Van Der Kolk
      Complex PTSD Surviving To Thriving by Pete Walker
      Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It by Kamal Ravikant ❤️
      Safe People by Henry Cloud
      Boundaries by Henry Cloud
      Non Violent Communication by Marshall B Rosenberg

    • @sherrymurphy855
      @sherrymurphy855 Місяць тому +10

      @@SherriFlemming I read The Gift of fear shortly after it was published - about the significance of intuition. For those who have survived brutal narcissistic abuse, this is a good book to help you to remember and reunite with your intuitions after they've been slowly and insidiously compromised - without your even knowing.

  • @Sue-s5v
    @Sue-s5v 29 днів тому +6

    On A t shirt... " No is a complete sentence." Don't try to explain yourself. They don't care. Don't tell them your weaknesses. They use them against you. No contact is the best answer all the way around. Get out as soon as you figure it out!! Run and don't look back!!

  • @-cMc-
    @-cMc- 21 день тому +6

    When narcissists and serial killers believe their own justification. That’s a wild delusion to play the victim like nobody’s business. To be the aggressor and have the nerve to believe they are the victim

  • @georgiehughes4858
    @georgiehughes4858 24 дні тому +3

    The man you’re describing… was playing a massive game… yes strategy… to manipulate a target… doing whatever he must in order to lure a target… before the kill. Other men won’t kill… just treat us poorly for 50 years

  • @heathermj3620
    @heathermj3620 28 днів тому +6

    THIS WAS ONE OF YOUR BEST INTERVIEWS!!!❤❤❤

  • @November185
    @November185 Місяць тому +4

    This is one of THE BEST talks I’ve heard on the subject. Great job!!

  • @adimeter
    @adimeter Місяць тому +13

    Ooo. I love you Lisa. You are so yourself and so different. You have the best guests and you ask useful questions.

  • @SherryG370
    @SherryG370 Місяць тому +8

    "They" pick out people that are needy? Uhhhh I've been in a few needy positions. I opted "out" because i have high morales, values and that has surprised many who have tried to take advantage of me when I was vulunerable.

    • @mariangrimsdell1112
      @mariangrimsdell1112 18 днів тому

      That is what to me is so terrifying, whether we like to admit it or not there are times in life when we are all vulnerable, no matter how independent or strong we like to imagine we are, the truth of the human condition is that not everything is ideal all the time due to many factors, these creeps know that and opportunistically wait and watch.

  • @Vixinaful
    @Vixinaful Місяць тому +40

    The victim card, the depressed guy and the bragger, watch the F out! And for those of you who think "But he didnt use me" If he abused you he used you as a punching bag to get his anger out. You were his verbal and or physical boxing bag. I'll give you a hint though: They dont like it when the bag hits back. 😉
    To the interviewed: Thank you so MUCH for talking about the contradictions! 😮 One minut its this, the next its that. The CONSTANT contradictions creates a very painful confusion.

    • @hellemarc4767
      @hellemarc4767 28 днів тому

      So, for you, depression equals psychopathy? Maybe you're the one with a serious problem.

    • @Vixinaful
      @Vixinaful 27 днів тому +4

      @@hellemarc4767 No I'm actually evaluated by three different psychologists because I had been brainwashed into believing I was the problem, just as you are saying now. Turns out I am fully sane and healthy and that they had diagnosis. If you act like a covert narcissist that means you ARE a covert narcissist. And if you suffer from depression, I advice you to check your vitamin D levels. :)

  • @wisdomdantecourt8179
    @wisdomdantecourt8179 Місяць тому +8

    Thanks Lisa for sharing this interview. She’s awesome! I would see her on Fox news as a legal analyst from time to time and she always came through. I found a good podcast on John Wayne Gacy called The Clown and The Candyman and it was riveting. To this day, I don’t think he acted alone and this podcast was one that solidified my thinking.

  • @jean-pierrep6844
    @jean-pierrep6844 24 дні тому +6

    Sociopath doesn't function well in groups and ends up making mistakes due to emotional disregulation. They end up getting caught. Psychopaths are more socially functional and harder to catch.

  • @tinyproject6388
    @tinyproject6388 Місяць тому +65

    Oh yess... not only killers are manipulative narcissists. My ex boyfriend is always looking for his next victim... as he is just absolutely toxic but charming and pretending to be interessted in a woman or ppl ike Mr Right or your next best friend🎉and even worse he is a successful CEO... his attitude is live and let die, but he never says it, he seems kind of not even conscious about it. And yess he tried to harm me phisically twice but from far away... these men are potential criminals. Women be aware.

    • @rubberbiscuit99
      @rubberbiscuit99 Місяць тому +11

      Yes. A person does not need to kill in order to harm.

    • @SoulFireMoonKing
      @SoulFireMoonKing Місяць тому

      You send anything to the FBI?
      Shadow Company Investigations?
      Darksiteoperations?
      0:33 Timestamp They look almost identical Page 62 According to plan Kevin D Freeman
      Looks like Elon Musk
      m.ua-cam.com/video/JE9AIzPQbNw/v-deo.html&si=BwGBIhHRtz3T97mf&fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAR3Ly53AK-KpopX9C00MPW05onp1VwYEjslIj6ZIco4Y1XBWxtNWLMWL-zA_aem_LLTu8If7s2J80Di9BN8ZLg

    • @SoulFireMoonKing
      @SoulFireMoonKing Місяць тому

      ua-cam.com/video/kn_oarVRtkw/v-deo.htmlsi=HRDQOqV8TpYmexpT

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому +5

      I'm glad to hear he's an ex.
      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
      Without Conscience by Robert D Hare
      Men That Can't Love by Stephen A Carter - avoidant attachment
      Avoidant's Are Too Good At Dating -Ken Reid
      podcast 🌞
      Avoidant Attachers And Covert Control-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Avoidant Attacher Gaslighting -Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Why You Choose The Wrong People-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Ken Reads Episode 7 Confusing And Manipulative Behavior podcast 🌞
      The Boomerang Avoidant' - Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Severe Avoidant Attachers And Marriage - Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Avoidant vs Narcissist - Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      What Love Is Not - Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Coercive Control - Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Take Back Your Life Own It! Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
      Self Love To Self Healing - Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
      Sam Vaknin PhD and David Tian PhD have educational podcasts on The Red Pill and Alpha Males.
      Committment Phobia Explained Men That Can't Love Animated Podcast
      ( avoidant attachment)

    • @Angela-ph1ik
      @Angela-ph1ik Місяць тому +2

      Why can't they watch this video in highschool to protect boys and girls

  • @barbarajansen4912
    @barbarajansen4912 29 днів тому +4

    I found this very fascinating and engaging. There are thousands of psychopaths everywhere but not all are serial killers. There are factors that were brought out here that went beyond the garden variety narcissists. Coming from a different angle on the spiritual side, I believe in demonic oppression and possession that makes people do things that can't be explained. Nobody can explain demonic possession. We can only evaluate actions and words but we cannot read the heart to explain why these misfits do what they do. Very well explained and presented. Human nature is one big rabbit hole!😊

  • @oralie.bordeaux
    @oralie.bordeaux 22 дні тому +3

    You should interview Kealy Severson. Toxic Mold is a thing. She started Exposing Mold. She shut it down over all the hate. A powerful woman & understanding. This interview is fascinating

  • @Ana-n8y1c
    @Ana-n8y1c Місяць тому +5

    Sometimes if they dont seem to want anything then it coukd ne they just want supply. The thrill of seeing you happy and sad etc. The thrill of dimishing your light mood. Hopefully if they have dead blank eyes it can be noticed but dont go by their smile or personality laughing etc. Look for little tiny white lies, overexaggerations, inconsiderate in sharing the conversation. Subtle victim mentality. Statements they mahe about themselves. Mine ssid "i dont think like other people." It bothered me as sone other unusual things but my friend said oh he is just trying to sound mysterious. But i felt like he was being honest at times even when he made other things to be more joking.

  • @sylviealexandris6696
    @sylviealexandris6696 Місяць тому +9

    This is a really good interview, so insightful.

  • @LadyForestStar
    @LadyForestStar Місяць тому +49

    I had a friend who was open about being a psychopath.. and all of this is true! He was very admired and he was very skilled at communicating. By questions and philosophical statements. A well adapted member of this society. He told me he learnt navigating this world by watching people. And at one time I was watching him manipulate a narcissist to bring up the guys bad sides while he was still remaining super calm just by asking questions.
    All this memories comes to me now that I totally forgotten.. 😬
    (They were talking about eating human flesh...) I only heard those very few words of that. I never asked any questions or digged deeper in to that. I just moved far away from that guy. Because he was emotionally unstable. While my friend remained calm. There are some who claim to be satanic but aren't really. That was what they talked about.
    He was a member of that town's secret society which he said they're all satanic. He was a Satanic guy and he encouraged me to sacrifice blood to the demons. I never did because I have empathy for living beings and I turned back to God.
    Other people would never know this about him. I know he trusted me. And I was his kind of disciple. A lost child of God. That was his victory.
    I happened to a major trauma a half year before I met him and I was so down and lost and searching for something, grasping light. I was so much in the dark that the darkness seemed like light to me. Not until I got out from the dark I saw how dark it truly was. God pulled me back into his light.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому +1

      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
      Without Conscience by Robert D Hare
      Why You Choose The Wrong People-Ken Reid podcast ( attachment theory)
      Your Past Relationships Explained -Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Avoidant'Attacher Covert Control-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Coercive Control -Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Take Back Your Life Own It! Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
      Self Love To Self Healing - Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️

    • @staciacrick3373
      @staciacrick3373 Місяць тому +4

      Psychopaths are more dangerous than narcissists because they are in reality and don’t need people like narcissists need supply

    • @LadyForestStar
      @LadyForestStar Місяць тому +1

      @@staciacrick3373 Absolutely! 👍

    • @staciacrick3373
      @staciacrick3373 Місяць тому +4

      @@LadyForestStar yes I work and provide treatment for people who have experienced narcissistic abuse. I have had a few men come for therapy who have NPD but it’s always because someone is about to leave them or has left them or they want to manipulate the court system according to Sam Vaknin, we need to be more concerned about the increase in psychopaths, not narcissists.

    • @staciacrick3373
      @staciacrick3373 Місяць тому

      @@SherriFlemming it is unfortunate that these podcast people and interviewers don’t have Sam Vaknin , who is absolutely the expert in our time about narcissistic personality disorder.

  • @andreahoyosl
    @andreahoyosl 23 дні тому +1

    I loved this interview. Bring her more often. And as usual, your questions are always on point.

  • @alimccreery755
    @alimccreery755 Місяць тому +14

    I’ve encountered these fake con people. Your words are all on point 👍

  • @TruthandJustice-hz9nv
    @TruthandJustice-hz9nv Місяць тому +10

    This was pure gold, Thank you so much to the both of you for this, The devil is in the details, Peace, love and respect to you both and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory praise and smiles to the most high :-)

  • @tanyakilbane7636
    @tanyakilbane7636 Місяць тому +2

    This was such an insight. Thank you for this interview with Karen.
    She is a brave woman!

  • @betsytucker4788
    @betsytucker4788 26 днів тому +1

    Excellent interview with Karen Conti. Lisa you ask great questions.

  • @amerubix185
    @amerubix185 Місяць тому +27

    Potential predators asking a lot of questions: Indeed. But then again, not all of them. Unfortunately, there is no universally applicable pattern. Also trauma survivors can tend to ask a lot of questions or gain as much information as possible from people who they consider to let them in their life for protecting themselves. But indeed better be careful with personal information.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому

      👍
      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
      Without Conscience by Robert D Hare
      Avoidant's Are Too Good At Dating -Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Avoidant Attachers And Covert Control-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Ken Reads Episode 7 Confusing And Manipulative Behavior podcast 🌞
      He Lovebombed Me Then Dumped Me - Ken Reid podcast
      Severe Avoidant Attachers And Marriage - Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      5 Boundaries You Must Set With Men by Jonathon Aslay podcast 🌞
      5 Shocking Behaviors You Should Never Tolerate In A Man by Jonathon Aslay podcast 🌞
      Take Back Your Life Own It! Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
      Self Love To Self Healing - Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️

  • @bmbarnum
    @bmbarnum Місяць тому +8

    I had an Anatomy & Physiology class for nursing school where the instructor was a Forensicologist. When he was in grad school he had to help bag up bodies at Gacy's crime scenes. I can't imagine.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому +1

      It's what they do.
      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
      Without Conscience by Robert D Hare

  • @KelleyCarter-gm2nd
    @KelleyCarter-gm2nd Місяць тому +9

    What kind of person is your spouse yet hides your car key. Molested you in your sleep and gaslight you into believing you're crazy and none of it happened. Even when confronted with proof.

    • @lovablemunchkins
      @lovablemunchkins 26 днів тому +5

      Describes my experience! He would hide my prescription glasses, car keys, water bottle. Lock me out if the house, leave me stranded.

    • @beckers4376
      @beckers4376 18 днів тому +1

      @KelleyCarter-gm2nd, that is a sociopath!

    • @caroleminke6116
      @caroleminke6116 13 днів тому

      Malignant narcissists are dark tetrads: besides narcissism as well as sadism & Machiavellianism but still psychopaths. This is ASPD or antisocial personality disorder

  • @staceylynn7749
    @staceylynn7749 Місяць тому +16

    I feel for the wife. It' doesn't matter what the issue is - whether it be anything from cheating, hiding drugs or secret sexual desires, or gender identity all the way to hiding dead bodies under the house, there's always those thoughts that beat you up inside, how did I not see that? you did, but you were blind to it. The more you look back on it you start to question little events that happened, maybe signs become clearer in retrospect too, because now you know what was really going on. When it's happening, sometimes you just get that uneasy feeling that something is off, but you aren't really sure and blow it off until you have more evidence. Sometimes you do think the worst and panic because you think it's just your mind playing tricks on you/ you are going crazy. You always want to believe the best of your spouse because it reflects badly on you if they are not who you believed them to be, not just to society, but you lose trust in yourself, you begin to question every decision you have ever made and you can lose yourself in that if you are not careful. I really hope she got the healing she needed.

    • @wisdomdantecourt8179
      @wisdomdantecourt8179 Місяць тому

      I think it comes from the way u are groomed as a child. Girls are mostly taught to give EVERYONE the benefit of the doubt to their detriment. The Green River killer comes to mind. He was married too.

    • @SusanaXpeace2u
      @SusanaXpeace2u Місяць тому +3

      Or if the suspicion entered your head, but it felt tooʻ dramatic, or confrontational, or threatening to current safety to raise the issue and ACT

    • @ThinkThompson
      @ThinkThompson 24 дні тому

      @@SusanaXpeace2u Likes not endorsements.

    • @ThinkThompson
      @ThinkThompson 24 дні тому

      Likes not endorsements.

  • @fionam3735
    @fionam3735 24 дні тому +1

    Didn’t have a good lawyer and didn’t have support when I got away. He still abuses me through our daughter and it’s court ordered. I’d rather he done it to me directly than go through her. There is no escaping from these monsters!

  • @angorag
    @angorag 21 день тому +1

    Amazingly useful interview, thanks both of you.

  • @rubberbiscuit99
    @rubberbiscuit99 Місяць тому +28

    Karen Conti suggests that if we gave Gacy the truth serum, that he would justify his actions because of his entitlement. I agree with her. I think entitlement is a key trait that makes a person dangerous, and that looking out for someone who is entitled and presents himself or herself or theirself as a victim (of circumstances, of other people, of systems, etc.) is a good red flag to look out for. Edited for clarity, thanks to commenters.

    • @ImSimplyAHuman
      @ImSimplyAHuman Місяць тому +6

      That’s true, but also sucks for the victims of these predators because they present in a very similar way - but truly *are* victims.

    • @Lyrielonwind
      @Lyrielonwind Місяць тому +3

      There are people with cptsd but they will be those who would be bad vibes to others and they are victims.

    • @abstract3213
      @abstract3213 Місяць тому +3

      Yeah, now you kinda victim blame. Now we should see all victims of abuse as red flags?? I don't think that's wise. There is a big difference between playing a victim and truly being the victim.

    • @rubberbiscuit99
      @rubberbiscuit99 Місяць тому +4

      @@abstract3213 I agree. What I mean is, if someone is entitled, and also presents themself as a victim, this is someone to keep an eye on.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому

      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
      Without Conscience by Robert D Hare .
      Safe People by Henry Cloud
      Boundaries by Henry Cloud
      Non Violent Communication by Marshall B Rosenberg
      The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman
      The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer
      The Body Keeps The Score Brain Mind And The Healing Of Trauma-Bessel Van Der Kolk
      Why You Choose The Wrong People-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Are Attachment Styles Biological? by Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Avoidant's Are Too Good At Dating -Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Your Past Relationships Explained -Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Take Back Your Life Own It! Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
      Self Love To Self Healing - Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️

  • @cr3062
    @cr3062 14 днів тому +1

    A coworker told that if he could get a woman to laugh he was half way there to get what he wanted.
    A narcissist i know uses humor in his emotional manipulations and pretends to care about you and also shares personal information about himself to draw you in.
    Two good books to read...about these certain tactics are called
    Dark Psychology 101 and Dark Psychology 202.

  • @mellio9077
    @mellio9077 Місяць тому +6

    amazing interview!

  • @lesliedenton6656
    @lesliedenton6656 Місяць тому +1

    Thank you for this VERY eye opening information 💛

  • @lynnschaeferle-zh4go
    @lynnschaeferle-zh4go Місяць тому +2

    Abuse is the lesser of two evils. My ex practiced parental alienation. He was very sly about it, my therapist said it’s just like building a cult. The ex used to hand out the paychecks and saw how many men were paying child support. He had no intention of doing so himself.

  • @ninashirley432
    @ninashirley432 Місяць тому +3

    Thank you for sharing! I am lucky to be alive ! We have a huge problem in Australia with a very broken criminal system! The police are not doing their jobs, they are laughing at the victim, escape goat in families. I was adopted by a sick family that have tried to kill me . These people have read to many books, and try to make the adopted people look like the problem! This is not the case. Every case is different. People need to understand that seriously situations that as the psychopath will set up the scapegoat, I’m in the process of writing a book about my life and how I escaped on my beach, death threats and how many people in my life I’ve dated and the girls that I was around very unstable. I did not know any better because I grew up around psychopaths that have got away with poisoning parents grandparents for money, this is very common and extremely sad. We should be very grateful that there are people like Karen , in the world and thank you Lisa for sharing this story.

  • @soumyajoseph7429
    @soumyajoseph7429 Місяць тому +7

    Gacy screams ego dystonia (dressing up as a clown and pinching little kids to make them cry/wanting to remain in prison):
    - most predators deceive their targets rather than overpower them
    - Predators often evade suspicion by blending and being an upstanding citizen
    - Predators can proclaim contradictory opinions depending on the crowd since they are concerned about appearance (they may not have a consistent core-self/moral compass)
    - They show extreme compartmentalization of their life and their life narrative might be disjointed/inconsistent (see above point)
    - Emotionally unaware but interpersonally astute?
    - Felt justified in his actions; I can't tell if he was a psychopath or a sociopath

    • @LouEth-q1k
      @LouEth-q1k 19 днів тому

      Both are considered ASPD in modern diagnoses

  • @lt4203
    @lt4203 Місяць тому +6

    Sad. Deep trauma, narcs are usually intelligent, but emotionally void. No hope for some.someone, No longer a friend as he couldn’t even treat me as one ,gave him the opportunity to understand himself. continued to see me as his next female victim,though playing the victim . Totally understand why his wife left him, I’m glad she did. No hope for some

  • @carlaplotner
    @carlaplotner 26 днів тому +1

    You are so right! NOT WEAK!

  • @Tamara_W
    @Tamara_W Місяць тому +3

    Your guest Karen C. a defense lawyer has more knowledge and intelligence than psychologists and psychiatrists. Extremely rare to understand know the behavior of narcissists and psychopath narcissists.

  • @lisabayliss3524
    @lisabayliss3524 Місяць тому +2

    Fascinating interview, thank you Lisa 🙏🏻❤
    Regarding the clown thing, there’s a theory I recently come across, that clowns are channeled demons, The nephilim looked like clowns , is a book by Paul Stubbs, he has a UA-cam channel, Understanding Conspiracy , it’s out there but very interesting 😊🙏🏻

  • @-cMc-
    @-cMc- 21 день тому +3

    You have to trust your instincts

  • @iUnderstand
    @iUnderstand Місяць тому +1

    She is amazing! Excellent episode

  • @iaf4454
    @iaf4454 Місяць тому +7

    Wow this story is just incredible. Thanks for this interview!!

  • @catcat9582
    @catcat9582 Місяць тому +31

    This is why I love swagless men

  • @samratsai7062
    @samratsai7062 Місяць тому +56

    My main concern is how to survive all of these financial and political crisis, especially in light of the
    US political power scuffle. The
    government has really called things more difficult for its citizens, and we can't sit back and bear all the consequences of the bad governance!!!.

    • @KuramaUchiha-id1ow
      @KuramaUchiha-id1ow Місяць тому +3

      I began investing in stocks and Def earlier this year, and it is the best choice l've ever made. My portfolio is rounding up to almost a million and I have realized that when a stock makes it to the news, chances are you're quite late to the party, the idea is to get in early on blue chips before it becomes public. There are lots of life changing opportunities in the market, and maximize it.

    • @samratsai7062
      @samratsai7062 Місяць тому

      Impressive! Been trying to trade on my own for a while now, but it isn't going well. few months ago I lost about $8,500 in the trade. Can you please at least advise me on what to do?

    • @KuramaUchiha-id1ow
      @KuramaUchiha-id1ow Місяць тому +1

      You can make a lot of money from the market regardless of whether it strengthens or crashes. The key is to be well positioned.

    • @samratsai7062
      @samratsai7062 Місяць тому +1

      I would really like to know how this actually works.

    • @amalmberg13
      @amalmberg13 Місяць тому

      Investing can be a powerful tool for building wealth and securing financial stability especially in this hard time. but it’s important to understand that it’s not without its challenges. The investment landscape is inherently volatile, with periods of both gains and losses. This variability is a natural part of investing and requires a clear strategy and patience to navigate effectively.

  • @tamarazwinak
    @tamarazwinak Місяць тому +3

    Maybe you can get a few sociological experts to interview how serial killers can operate in society. That would be interesting also.

  • @DA-ee1xi
    @DA-ee1xi Місяць тому +14

    Some witnesses may not come forward sooner due to fear, however, MANY don't speak up because they're as rotten as the main perpetrator and actually benefit from their association with this person.
    Let's not forget, birds of a feather flock together.

    • @dreamscape405
      @dreamscape405 Місяць тому +4

      True! You don't get that close to someone as famous as Sean Combs, if you're not into the same thing. Those women had to have known about something beforehand. I'm not saying they deserved what they got,, but they couldn't have been unaware of the nasty stuff he was involved in, and they sacrificed their morals, and souls for it. There's always going to be major consequences for that, especially at that level.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому +5

      Actors and entertainers are eccentrics. They don't lead normal lives and have no anonymity.
      Very narcissistic industries.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому +2

      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
      Without Conscience by Robert D Hare
      Boundaries by Henry Cloud
      Safe People by Henry Cloud
      Non Violent Communication by Marshall B Rosenberg

    • @QuantumAscensionAlchemist
      @QuantumAscensionAlchemist Місяць тому

      All the toxic puppet masters have a gathering of Flying Monkey's to do their bidding.

    • @fridaytieday
      @fridaytieday Місяць тому

      Flying monkeys.

  • @charlotteb6519
    @charlotteb6519 Місяць тому +18

    People are probably more afraid of Sean Combs flying minions now. I hope people are brave enough to come forward despite that.

  • @user-ng8zf6wy7q
    @user-ng8zf6wy7q 16 днів тому +1

    Damn.....@58:50 and on, seeing themselves as the victims. I have recent personal experience dealing with this. And really, for the past 25yrs. Never seemed like true remorse.

  • @hassanatubah3595
    @hassanatubah3595 Місяць тому +2

    This is very insightful.

  • @kathymunsee6468
    @kathymunsee6468 19 днів тому +2

    He saved your life because you were his lawyer/his supply. Anyone else would have been dead

  • @jocelynthomas5104
    @jocelynthomas5104 18 днів тому

    She is so on point!! I love her!

  • @dianevanderlaan9523
    @dianevanderlaan9523 Місяць тому

    Great interview and guest.

  • @cherylackerman3411
    @cherylackerman3411 17 днів тому

    Thank you for this podcast I’ve always wondered about the psyche psychopath! Why did they do it fetish uncontrollable ways of dealing with their traumas! Thank you❤

  • @kaizen_5091
    @kaizen_5091 Місяць тому +6

    Watching this interview was fascinating because the lawyer strikes me as someone who is not quite what you would consider 'normal' socially herself. The way she describes her thought process and actions and seeing how she was mimicking Lisa with certain things physical reactions and words seems very manipulative and much what I'd expect from a psychopath. Just fascinating!!

    • @tmking7483
      @tmking7483 Місяць тому +1

      He needed this lawyer (a win) and she needed to to prove herself a lawyer with consciousness and control over her mind & body (a win)
      A win win

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому +4

      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
      Without Conscience by Robert D Hare

    • @kaizen_5091
      @kaizen_5091 Місяць тому

      @@SherriFlemming Thank you for the book recommend.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому

      @@kaizen_5091 You're very welcome! ♥️

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому +1

      Avoidant Attacher Gaslighting -Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Avoidant Attachers And Covert Control-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Severe Avoidant Attachers And Marriage - Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Why You Choose The Wrong People-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      The Boomerang Avoidant' podcast 🌞
      Ken Reads Episode 7 Confusing And Manipulative Behavior - Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Avoidant's Are Too Good At Dating -Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Avoidant vs Narcissist - Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Why Didn't You See The Red Flags? Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Your Past Relationships Explained -Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Take Back Your Life Own It! Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
      Self Love To Self Healing - Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
      Committment Phobia Explained Men That Can't Love Animated Podcast
      (avoidant attachment)

  • @alipainting
    @alipainting Місяць тому +18

    Too charming is a red flag. Too interested, compared to other men of the same level of attractiveness.

    • @elipotter369
      @elipotter369 Місяць тому +3

      I had a fellow classmate like that- a couple of things seemed not quite right - he was super charming & friendly to all the young women & older attractive women (who I didn't think would have been quite good enough to be a permanent partner of his), he also claimed he was a medical specialist in a field I was familiar with & it just didn't ring true for his persona...
      So I googled him as soon as I got his surname & found a court case where he'd lied in court (which was ignored), had moved on decades earlier from the specialty (probably never practiced) & had multiple sx partners!! Probably a sx addict, I decided. But he had presented himself as a highly successful family and career man!

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому

      Charm is a verb. It is not a character trait - Gavin De Becker The Gift Of Fear
      Without Conscience by Robert D Hare
      Avoidant's Are Too Good At Dating -Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      He Lovebombed Me Then Dumped Me - Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      What Is Fearful Avoidant Attachment? Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      What Love Is Not-Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Committed Phobia Explained Men That Can't Love Animated Podcast
      (avoidant attachment)

  • @thesagedsanctuary1940
    @thesagedsanctuary1940 Місяць тому +2

    Great Great Episode 👍🏾

  • @gc2137
    @gc2137 Місяць тому +8

    Tupac? Feel like the case should also be re opened in the light of current findings

  • @aquastone5870
    @aquastone5870 Місяць тому +33

    What I'm hearing is one person with 2 distinct opposing personalities. One is mostly all good and "normal" almost too good to be true. The other is evil, malevolent, cruel and sadistic, someone who comes only to kill, steal and destroy, but can't unless he leads with the good actor. His father was like that too, so it created cognitive dissonance in the child. The child never knew which version he was dealing with. When he grew up he used that same model in his own life. 80% was too good to be true while hiding the 20% that was filled with hatred and sadistic pleasure seeking.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому +2

      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
      Without Conscience by Robert D Hare
      Protecting The Gift by Gavin De Becker
      Toxic Parents by Susan Forward
      Avoidant Attachers And Covert Control-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Avoidant Attacher Gaslighting -Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Avoidant's Are Too Good At Dating -Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Ken Reads Episode 7 Confusing And Manipulative Behavior podcast 🌞
      What Love Is Not-Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Your Past Relationships Explained -Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Why Be Swindler Scammer Con Artist? - Sam Vaknin podcast 🌞
      Take Back Your Life Own It! Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
      Self Love To Self Healing - Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️

    • @amelie-db7gu
      @amelie-db7gu Місяць тому +2

      Yeah and we should be talking more about the psychology of trauma and how to treat and work with this rather than just all these millions of true crime stories turning it into entertainment and sensationalism.

  • @richardgroth3877
    @richardgroth3877 27 днів тому

    Excellent Expose
    thanks for the Enlightenment

  • @thisiswarima5506
    @thisiswarima5506 Місяць тому +9

    It's mad how when we'd watch the 4 I'd always find sth so off about Diddy and I'd voice it so passionately because my feelings were strong, I couldn't stand him and that is very rare for me so I knew things were very very wrong.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому

      @@thisiswarima5506
      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
      Without Conscience by Robert D Hare
      The Entertainment and Acting occupations are narcissistic industries. They are eccentrics that don't lead normal lives and have no anonymity.

  • @queenbee6885
    @queenbee6885 12 днів тому

    Omg it takes lot of energy and effort and planning to come out of a narssasistic relationships

  • @christinax9104
    @christinax9104 26 днів тому

    Ppl always talk abput them being "charming" but some of them aren't....but i do think most of them are disarming

  • @latinalife2458
    @latinalife2458 26 днів тому

    Wow she is brave and so wise

  • @Numaz
    @Numaz Місяць тому +1

    The intro and music on this are so good 0:20

  • @mollyb7043
    @mollyb7043 Місяць тому +13

    Their play book is done instictually …. It gives them sexual excitement to dupe others , control them and have them do whatever they say …. It is exciting and gratifying to them. They are not interested in regular connections …

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому

      @@mollyb7043
      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
      Without Conscience by Robert D Hare
      Avoidant's Are Too Good At Dating -Ken Reid podcast 🌞
      Take Back Your Life Own It!
      - Sam Vaknin podcast ♥️
      Self Love To Self Healing - Ken Reid podcast ❤️

  • @migdaliavasquez1874
    @migdaliavasquez1874 Місяць тому +1

    I am going to share this podcast on Facebook 🌻

  • @radmilasvensson4428
    @radmilasvensson4428 Місяць тому +1

    Fascinating!

  • @Corliestings
    @Corliestings Місяць тому +10

    I have so much respect and thankfulness for what you do for us ladies. Most of us have been victimized. We're too loving and keep choosing the same kind of men. Im simply staying away from men but its nice to try to understand how this happened to me so I can let the trauma go. Its really hard to free those blocks in our spirit. Those clogs. Like, once you are victimized, it's hard to set it free so you dont cause disrase in your body. Its the absolute hardest and maybee impossible thing ever. Keep your chin up ladies!!! It was nothing we did wrong. It wasnt our fault. You just cant love and nurture men. They only like the whores. Loving loyal women are always abused. Im so angry and confused but trying to let it go and learn self love and bee brave enough to bee ok single. We dont need men. We are strong talented and beeautiful!!!! Even though they took everything. My x took my business, money, home, children, beat me up and I went to jail for self defense. Now im broke and homeless cuz I spent all I had on lawyers and 3 yrs later have not one penny from him or my business. He controls my kids so they wont talk to me. I lost ot all. 27 yr marriage. I was working so hard I had no idea he was living a secret life. Trafficking of all kinds.... Mexican border. Its so corrupt down there. I almost got 7 yrs in prison for self defense. His crime ring involves the local law enforcement. They agreed to drop my charges but only cuz now im banned from the state of nm forever. Banned from a state!!! Whos ever heard of such a thing!! I took it so i could get out of jail and avoid prison. 27 years yall. My lifes investment. Im trying to find my worthm He made sure I knew I was worthless. I think he is wrong. Im seeking my beauty and worth. Its incredibly difficult so im really thankful for your videos. ❤

  • @nadyatytian279
    @nadyatytian279 16 днів тому

    I'm not WITH one, I live next door to one!!!!!!! He's actually done just about EVERYTHING to me, and by stealing my security camera, I don't have any proof to show police. 😮

  • @lynnschaeferle-zh4go
    @lynnschaeferle-zh4go Місяць тому +1

    The cause is either, or both. They can see psychopathy in the amygdala. The psychopath I knew had brothers and a father that were the same. Enter a sociopathic step mother and that just took it over the top. That’s where they learned hatred.

  • @kleogaruda815
    @kleogaruda815 25 днів тому +1

    I think he was severely abused as a child which made him MPD. So as the lawyer says he doesn't mean what he says, isn't true. One personality says one and next day other personality says another.

  • @janicebustamante5193
    @janicebustamante5193 24 дні тому +1

    They even use "goog vibes only" stuff😅

  • @yveeriksson7437
    @yveeriksson7437 Місяць тому +10

    This conversation made think about DJT more than one time.

  • @meaculpa22
    @meaculpa22 Місяць тому +1

    Great Woman ❤
    Great interview

  • @patriciasaltzmann6221
    @patriciasaltzmann6221 19 днів тому

    Would love to hear yall speak on the wayne wilson phone calls

  • @ExecutiveZombie
    @ExecutiveZombie Місяць тому +4

    It’s wild to watch from the outside…..

  • @dreamscape405
    @dreamscape405 Місяць тому +6

    Regarding Gacy, I think another reason he went to church, was because that's how he was raised. Back then, the bible belt stuff was mainstream, not absent, like it is today. I also think he was possessed by a demon. Obviously, his shadow side was pitch black darkness, and since he seemed to have been unaware of what that side was really doing, being compartmentalized, that's fertile ground for dark spirits to reign there...and they did. I'm not saying he should have been let off the hook because of that, definitely not, but in order to do those things, to that many victims, there's no humanity in that. At all. I truly think he had "help" from the dark side. Then about Sean Combs...I mean, what do we think a man with that much money, fame and power won't do...Cmon man! 😅 and those women had to have known what he was in to. You don't get that close to him, without having something in common. Not saying they deserved it, but they had to have known something, and were willing to sacrifice their morals, and souls for it. There's always going to be consequences for that, especially at that level. ....what happens in the dark, will come to light....the proud will be humbled.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming Місяць тому +1

      The Gift Of Fear by Gavin De Becker
      Without Conscience by Robert D Hare
      Gary Ridgeway went to church as well.

    • @cjpark1461
      @cjpark1461 Місяць тому +2

      Yes amen. God/Jesus and His angels are real and the devil is real, along with the devil's demon servants that possess people. However every person that reaches the age of "accountability" have their own choices that God will hold them to in the end. Those people made the choice to do evil things.

    • @fridaytieday
      @fridaytieday Місяць тому +1

      Yes. I thinkhe was possessed for sure!

  • @cathyjennings5580
    @cathyjennings5580 24 дні тому

    Buying AFFECTION with Bling jewelry & food & clothing that he insisted U must wear like high 👠. Charming words. Gentlemen manners appealing, attractive enticing ( moths go to the flame 🔥). Shallow life manifested demonstrated.
    Thanks so much .

  • @Dynamic_heart
    @Dynamic_heart Місяць тому

    I think the intent set is more important than to say the goal.

  • @aliasrose33
    @aliasrose33 Місяць тому +3

    thank you

  • @julianawilliams8392
    @julianawilliams8392 21 день тому

    How do you cope with a narcissistic mother who sometimes visits your home and stays for weeks or months at a time??? (And you can't ask her not to stay she has nowhere else to stay?)

  • @migdaliavasquez1874
    @migdaliavasquez1874 Місяць тому +3

    Hi Lisa this was terrific 😊 thx for sharing this podcast; can i suggest you invite Yaguar Wright, singer who is famous singer and because she has a very insightful testimony based on her experiences, traumatic, with Sean p Diddy and information she disclosed were confirmed to me by your guest today, please 😊 I am going to purchase her book 📕😊😊😊😊🙏