The behavior I’ve seen executed by the old money style is that no matter what is being educated and having exceptional manner etiquette when treating other people well. No matter what!
My great grandmother, now decease, prioritized classic fashion, quiet sophistication, despite being perhaps only 2 generations away from being a slave in Georgia. She maintained a clean, organized, unfussy home with very few luxuries.
from a young age you accept staying within the station you were born. Often identified as elitism or snobbish, it is an inherent acceptance that life for outsiders is often miserable. Less is always more. You do a nice job explaining so many things but the "aloofness" is often to shield others.
I have a dear friend who is old money. Her family money goes back many many generations. She told me once that the reason why their money keeps growing and not disappearing like the Vanderbilts is because #1, they live sensibly, they're not flashy and strongly prefer to blend into the background or as she said to me once, "under the radar". She also lives by and practices the mantra of "wealth whispers". Secondly, the money (inheritance) skips generations. Her money came from her grandparents, her son will inherit his money from her parents. This way the money has a whole generation to be invested wisely, grow and replenish itself.
I spilled a glass of red wine on Mr. Konica, owner of Konica Industries, while waiting on him at a restaurant in the 1980s. He laughed a little and said, "Thank you. But I don't use wine this way," My manager came over and started to berate me in front of him. He stopped her and said it was no big deal, an honest mistake. He was thrilled to get his dinner comped that night and have his $75 shirt paid for by the restaurant. He left a $20 tip and was back again the next week. My manager did not permit me to wait on him again! He was truly a class act.
I wouldn't have made a scene out of this, either. And neither would most people. It's just you don't appreciate good manners unless it comes from a wealthy person.
@@viharsarok the wealthy have the option of getting away with bratty, rude , arrogant and disrespectful behaviour and are tolerated for throwing around their weight (think Meghan Markle).. good behaviour inspite of this choice is admired and appreciated
I was once a guest of the Bavarian royal family. We drove from their home outside Munich to St Anton, Austria. A large portion of the trip flanked by 'family' forests, fields and chateaux. For him, he was very aware that he inherited a 900 year old asset: his daily decisions had to maintain and grow it 900 years forward. Doing so meant educating himself and his children on latest environmental skills, newest farming methods: a steward of his inheritance, not an entitled taker.
@@raiseyourworld5324 I said what I said, or, more accurately, what I wrote. It was a GENERAL observation, not necessarily specific to the Rothschilds, anyway.(although true, I'm sure)😐
1) Legacy and long term thinking 2) Importance of etiquette and Good Manners 3) Discreet Success 4) Emphasis on “Giving back“/Philantropy 5) Valuing Education and Intellectual Pursuits
Years age I did a remodeling job for a Congressman in Marietta Ga. I miss priced the job to my detriment by quit a lot. At the end of the job he looked over the work and asked if I had priced it too low. I admitted that I had, but did not expect him to pay more than we agreed on. He wrote the check for several hundred dollars more and thanked me. A class act!
My family was well off, but we certainly didn't have the kind of money to buy Rolls-Royces and such. And yet, this video shows exactly the principles I was brought up on. No wonder that I find the modern world so disturbing and worrying: an idiocracy, actually.
I understand where you are coming from. I didn't know that we had money growing up, and to this day still don't realize just how much. As children we were raised to have the most tip-top of behaviors, manners, and were to be seen and not heard when in front of company. We were aloud to play and get dirty, but knew exactly when and where the time was for that as well. We were not children of lavish gifts, parties and events for our birthdays, graduations, etc. We got jobs in high school and placed 50% of our net pay into savings, gave portion to charity and what we were left with went to clothes or savings for a vacation/trip. We gave to the community and volunteered at events like Special Olympics, SPCA and church events. I too am bothered with the way generations behave with the lack of manners that I thought were normal. I raised my own children with those same manners, morals, and they are now raising their children with them.
Well, I can assure you that your world was equally idiotic. Your "principles" prevented you from seeing the real world. Or maybe mirrors didn't exist then.
My husband has taught me a lot about the value of choosing classic and well-made articles of clothing, and especially shoes. I always wanted to save money and have variety, but he always said "Buy good shoes!" This has carried over into other philosophical shifts, but I'm grateful for this lesson. Quality counts and lasts longer.
I wholeheartedly agree with you. To add to that, things of quality are usually made by artisans. Cheap fashion is usually made by workers being taken total advantage of.
"It's not what you can afford but what you can sustain" "Etiquette can open doors that even money can't" "Nothing says class like good manners" "Wealth doesn’t define a person's worth or character" "Success is personal and doesn’t need an audience. It's not about how others perceive us but how we perceive ourselves"
I think the big thing is these ideals require a lot of impulse control and tempering which often comes from upbringing and being around money for a while in a responsible manner. The issue is a lot of new money are overwhelmed by the money they've earned. They didn't have others controlling them nor expectations of maintaining a reputation to be in the good graces of other rich peers, so they feel free to do whatever they want and show-off. Probably cause they still think in the manner of middle or working class folks who are deprived DESPITE now having money. Many working class folks would be figuratively eaten alive and abused if they couldn't engage in direct confrontation (including showing their literal worth to skeptical peers). In a nutshell, new money folks act as they do because they have the money of old money but retain the mindsets of more common working people and act in a way that would make sense in their former class life.
At one time the Rockefellers and the Astors, Vanderbilts were poor and just coming up. At one time all the old money was new money, and people adapt and learn as they.. go up the ladder,, about the proprieties of society. Money does not buy class you either have it or you don't. You can be poor and still have class. There are plenty of rich people who are rude and nasty.
@@Katharsis44-091Exactly. I have no idea why people think that old money equals class. They clearly haven’t seen the IG/TikTok pages of some “old money” offspring. They are full of “look at me on my expensive holiday”. Or “look at all the free stuff that I was given because my family is really rich.”
old money is the royals or the landowners because they had the responsibility of taking care of the land and the people on it. ill use that fictional tv show Downton Abbey where that earl and his mom said they employed people, so they thought about the people.
That is only somewhat true. There are old money families that stood the test of time for generations Some built their way up, and remained up, Some historically were high and are part of the new poor. I would consider myself that. My family came from everyone having masters degrees, wealthy careers, military, wealth, belonging to fraternities and sororities, all of a sudden doing none of those except making more than $100k a year per member and struggling to check the boxes of affording private schools, vacations, investments. And that’s when I realized we were upper middle class in income and declining intergenerationally, since my ancestors struggled with none of that. Education and manners never stop to beer the highest values, but unfortunately access to opportunity and privilege did decline overtime
I was raised in a low-income home, but my French mother instilled the ideals of "comportement distingue" in her daughters, few but quality clothes, good manners and reserve (restraint) when in public. These are values that have nothing to do with old, new or no money. They refer to character building and alas, old money (and no money) can install those values in some of their children, but not in others (think trust fund babies).
This resonates with me. We also grew up low income, and my family was also from Europe. Though we didn’t have much, we were always taught to conduct ourselves with grace and style. The fine things that did have were passed down from previous generations, and we were taught how to value and preserve them. Education, and self enrichment was a standard part of life. I studied art, music, science, history. We had tea from (inherited and secondhand) fine china every day after school, sitting at a nicely set table, eating fancy (though home made) pastries. Elegance was normal, and it would sound like I had a privileged upbringing. But it’s completely achievable by anyone. The lesson was that class it’s self does not cost money. The trappings of “wealth” do cost, but the attitude one has regarding themselves, others, possessions, etc., are completely free.
Both my parents were from Old Money families, Dad from the Bonham Carters and Mum from a Scottish Laird’s family. But we lived in a working class suburb, Dad worked a 40 hour week at his blue collar trade (fitter and turner) and we (mostly) went to State School. I only had a couple of terms at a Catholic college and hated it! But at home? Our home was full of antiques, old, original fine art by famous artists, a fine piano that Dad played for about an hour every night (Tchaikovsky, Beethoven, Mozart, Bach, Handel, etc). Mum had opals and garnets in her jewellery box, gifts from Dad over the years that she treasured. Some were inherited from his family as well, and a few pieces from her mother including an exquisite carved ivory pendant, from India, that was very, very old. Dad was always terrified of being robbed, but we never were. Us kids were all sworn to secrecy about the treasures in our home and many years later I learned he had a .303 rifle and a .22 rifle as well. He would have used them as well, had we ever been robbed, but like I said, that never happened. Dad spoke six languages, including Russian, German, two indigenous languages (he was a former Missionary) and Ancient Greek and of course English. Mum was a stay at home Mum, cleaned houses for pocket money and her mother was good friends with Elizabeth Bowes-Lyon, AKA the Queen Mother! I never met my grandmother, but she was a model of class and culture although her husband (also high born) had the reputation of being the Town Drunk, meaning he drank all their money and when my mother was a little girl during the Great Depression, she often had no shoes. Nevertheless, Grandma’s manners earned her the nickname of Queenie, and rightly so! That’s my story, and the story of my family. God Bless You All…
Mum’s family estate was featured in the “Scottish Field” magazine and a copy of that magazine was in the farmhouse when I moved into my current estate. Paid cash for the estate thanks to help a long time ago from a cousin who was a department store owner and executive. I took it as a sign that I was on the right track. Mum said her family always regarded themselves as being farmers and have been on the same estate since the Stone Age! In this magazine article, Her Ladyship was featured with her daily routine, which involved working in the vast, wildcrafted gardens. Her first task was discussing her latest plans and the day’s tasks with her head gardener, then out there with the spade and plants in the golf cart, for a day’s digging and cultivating! His Lordship deals with the business end of the Estate, but the amazing gardens are entirely her work, over many, many, many decades. She has recreated a Scottish Woodland, that has been her life’s work and to look at it, you’d never know it was 100 percent man (woman!) made! I live on my own and have no staff, but I have a similar conference with myself each day before I begin my work and a similar style of gardening, although the species are different as I live in Australia, not Scotland.
Dad’s ancestor married an Anglo Indian Woman when on military service in the Punjab. He brought her home to England and they were shunned by the whole family. Because of this, they moved to Australia. Mum’s parents moved out here to Australia as Soldier Settlers after World War One. The whole thing was a disastrous sham, their 200 acre farm was a forest, not a field, they were required to clear it and it had a mortgage on it! Home was a corrugated iron hut and there was no electricity or running water! Pop felt deeply betrayed and this was why he began drinking. He would have felt even worse because he was actually a veteran of the Household Cavalry (guarding Buckingham Palace!) Mum and Dad met in Geraldton, West Australia, Dad’s family had somewhat recovered their fortunes but Mum’s family was still destitute. Nevertheless, they fell in love, married and the rest, as they say, is history…
I worked for a certain very old money family, as an au pair, and they were excellent employers, exceptionally kind, very generous. I asked the mother of the children I was caring for why they, as opposed to the employers of others I knew, were so polite and kind, and she said "we were taught to view everyone who contributes to our quality of life as essential to our family's well-being." And I have always held on that and done my very best to treat my employees with the same respect. I will say that I have met many "old money" families who are not so kind to their employees and are not particularly well-mannered or respectful, but believe it, that lack of respectful and respectable behavior doesn't stay a secret.
My Mom worked for a lady who came from old money. She was very kind to not only my Mom, but also my Dad and siblings. It was like being part of the family, while also not being part of the family. She did attend my brother's wedding. My Dad would visit her and play his guitar for her and talk religion. My Mom was her caregiver for many years as she had various health conditions in her elder years. She has now passed and I miss "Miss Terry" as does my family. Her home was so modest and simply furnished for a millionaire, but very good quality and timeless natural style. She always had lots of snacks and treats on hand for her caregivers so no one would go hungry.
My late father who had is own law practice and 5 children to raise always gave generously to charity and regularly donated his time, to charitable works on top of all his other duties. Our education was a priority and his mantra was always "knowledge is never a burden." He never put anyone down. He always carried a notebook and pencil in his top pocket to write down the many requests he would receive from others asking for his help, be it a visa application, money, or a relationship problem. He spent his life being useful to the world, and volunteered in WW2. Never left the house looking anything less than immaculate. He used to take my brother in the car with him in the morning to take him to school and would have my brother read Caesar's war commentaries in their original Latin to him as he drove. He didn't waste any of his time!
Old money is all about family. As a person from a broken family, I say, God bless old money. Old money may have expensive tastes, but it comes from the old adage: "If you can't afford to buy 5 of a thing, you can't afford to buy one."
My guess is that ‘old money’ parents teach their children about the value of saving money and investing it. This is seldom spoken about in most families or especially in schools. Our culture promotes the importance of consuming and showing off rather than investing in the future.
My child’s state school educates about saving money, as did my state school. Perhaps it’s a cultural focus more than schools in general. Most children I know are making money decisions in regards to allocating savings, expenditures etc. quite interesting.
Old money treats everyone equally, with courtesy and respect. They don't look down on people who are "beneath" them, and act arrogant. The groundskeeper, the server at the restaurant, the butcher, the baker, etc.; each are granted their human dignity.
This is because it is VERY hard to find trustworthy people who will do a great job and not gossip about the family business they hear in the course of their duties, also their discretion is not the only thing that is valuable. Finding someone who doesn't want to shake you down is another big challenge.
This is exactly how I was raised. Loud voice, crass behavior, rudeness, 'me, me, me' is very tasteless. It is never all about me. It's about the long term, treating everyone the same, humility, quiet grace, subtle humor, and expecting one's clothes due to choosing quality, not quantity. I remember when I was about 4/5 attending a party and wanting a chocolate eclair. However, there were only two on the plate and several others were talking about the eclairs, so I chose something I didn't really like, and left the eclairs for the others.
That is class, and you encapsulated it brilliantly. I was raised in hard scrabble farm country, where manners were essential because that's all anyone had of much value beyond the land if you were fortunate enough to keep it. Someone was always welcomed in, offered a drink or something to eat, and you would never take a popular food item that others wanted. I worked for a pair of attorneys in college, and the old money partner was very different from the new money partner. The only thing negative I ever heard about the old money partner was that he was a poor tipper to waitstaff, but it could genuinely have been a lack of understanding of how their earnings were predominantly tip-based. He was very kind, treated everyone with dignity and good will, and was highly approachable. The new money partner was bombastic, flashy, demanding, and had much less concern about being rude. An earlier comment talked about living in a modest home in a very modest area, working a j-o-b, but having lovely things with history, and a rich life with music and language -- that is living a good life.
My parents both came from poor immigrant backgrounds and emerged from the Great Depression and WW2 with modest means. My father invested always with an eye to making a solid foundation of resources with an eye to future decades and generations. We lived nicely, but not ostentatiously and were not aware of net worth until we were adults. My mother, though prevented from attending college or art school by her step mother, encouraged us to read, take music classes and attend cultural events. I always resented that my dad did not buy luxury cars, etc. unlike others in around us. Now I appreciate my upbringing and can identify with this video.
Thanks for sharing your story! Definitely when we are younger we tend to resent that our parents didn’t splurge like some other parents on flashy items, but in adulthood we realize how much value the emphasis on manners, education, and culture from parents is worth! Cheers! :)
I inherited the last 10 acres of our family's circa 1863 farm. It was worn out but had some lovely Savanna Oak trees and standing 1800 buildings. I determined to seek a higher value for the land, trees, water and food source, and endeavored to learn about organic farming and ecology. Armed with this knowledge, I wrote and received several grants from our local county watershed and conservation district (Each county in each state of the USA has one of these offices. These federally funded government programs were established by Teddy Roosevelt to help reverse the damaged watersheds throughout the Nation). The Savanna Oaks were a prized and now rare tree, which brought in almost $100,000 in grants to revitalize the farm as an Organic Certified program co-existing with the Savanna ecosystems. I invited children, FFA, and 4-H students to come and plant over 1000 trees, my only legacy because I have no children. I discovered a rare garlic on the farm for which I received a plant patent and found partners to grow the garlic out. One partner is in Nevada who's farther was incarcerated in the WWII Japanese camps. The second partner is from a family whose parents escaped Hitler. It is a national healing garlic for a nation weary of negative news. The experience of the farm enabled me to return to college, although late in life, I am glad I did so. I received some scholarships, but started a cleaning business to help pay for the entire Master's program. I graduated with not one, but two Masters in Ecology from our State University. The farm is now a forest of trees and healthy food, filled with deer, cougar, birds, eagles and more. It is an island of hope. Because I have no family, I found a deserving family who can carry on some of my legacy, and someday they will benefit from my life and work. Give more to the world than you take, and plant trees. One never goes wrong planting trees.
Wealthy people are not flashy and you can feel their class just by talking to them. English class goes back many centuries. They appear normal and take great interest in everyone regardless of where they work or their position.
African and Middle Eastern society goes back THOUSANDS of years beyond the Bible. The BRF are Germans, essentially, and just "recently" Anglicized their name. 🤫
I believe that good manners never go out of style. It's just in my nature to be kind to people. Others will remember how they are treated, no matter who you are!
My maternal grandparents who were nothing more than, mere children at the time were greatly influenced by the Forbes Family from, the 1930's. The 2 'old $$' traits that she passed down to me were, the value of education to help make oneself a more well rounded individual; and charitable giving / volunteering. Actually, my grandmother in particular was a stickler for this rule and one other. My grandmum had a family mandate that before any of us kids graduated from high school we were expected to learn at least 1 or 2 other languages; AND do some volunteer work. She once said if you can do these things it will go a long way to making someone a much more well-rounded person.
My father, brought up in English Quaker schools. Quiet, unassuming, more interested in decorum than show. Quietly lending a helping hand where needed, and well loved by his associates and servants. He hired the down-and-out to give them a hand up, kept up with the news and read books by authors like Winston Churchill. He had a wry sense of humor and insisted in correct pronunciation, honesty and fastidious care of tools. His legacy was, as written on his gravestone, "Here lies a true gentleman"
My Mother drilled into me "You can't buy Class"! And my Father toned, time & again, "Don't Flaunt ANYTHING you have & don't try to Lord over those who have Less. You could easily be in their shoes tomorrow!" (Remembering the Depression) I'm 73 & so glad they instilled those Values in me! With Money comes responsibility! Bc of your Advantages, You need to help those who have Needs you can meet. To dress Conservatively in Timeless pieces, you can take the Energy it takes to obtain more, more & Focus that Energy on the things that really matter instead of trying to keep up with "The Joneses" & buying the latest "In Thing" that is only Temporal.
My mom would alway say” there’s a time & place for everything and you better be on your best behavior when your amongst the adults”, she allowed me to be a child and play with dirt etc but we were all reminded on manners, honor, respect, integrity, compassion, intelligence & courage. Especially compassion. Dinner was followed by a lecture by my father on those things.
“Vanity and pride are different things, though the words are often used synonymously. A person may be proud without being vain. Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves, vanity to what we would have others think of us.” ― Jane Austen in 'Pride and Prejudice' [Re: "Success is personal & doesn't need an audience." ]
Ah. But it needs to be the right sort of knowledge. I mean if you know all about economics + maths + can do those tricky sums and work out interest.etc thats useful but having a brain stuffed with random knowledge so youre a great quizzer that's fun but not useful IMO. I am one of those brain sponge people. I get every question right on tv quizzes,well nearly,but that is not at all useful in real life.
We found out that a family member was a millionaire when she passed away. No one had a clue. She wore simple things, decorated her house with timeless classic furniture and never spoke *about* money. My step grandfather too. Old money. He practically wore his clothes until they were rags. He spent a lot of time studying the stock market and invested his money wisely. Pinched pennies whenever he could and didn’t spend what he didn’t have. You would have almost assumed he was poor because every cent of his bad value.
Looks like I don't have a need to look farther from me because I get it from my family. Now I'll pass this on to my child and to my students. Thank you for sharing your timeless and priceless wisdom and knowledege! Young generation needs to learn from this video and apply it in their daily lives.
Consider how long it took for the late Princess Diana to speak out about her situation in the royal family. She was a class act. Much missed and beloved Lady Diana. Much love to you.
But the way she did it, through Andrew Morton's book, was most unfortunate. As was the Panorama interview. A clear case of abandoning her aristocratic values. God rest her soul.
Giving and philanthropy is an essential value to me. I’ve been on both ends and prefer giving. Education and lifelong learning is also something I’ve come to appreciate. While having a top-tier degrees is nice, it’s the process of learning, and realizing that I know little that keeps me humble and motivated to improve.
Hands down, double salute to the entire team behind this video. Continue doing whatever you guys are doing the world will be a better place. Many thanks and utmost appreciation from Uganda - East Africa
I dated a Kennedy in college. And as a whole, his entire family valued giving back, education, refinement, and knowledge. It was refreshing from the showy perspective of the newer “generations “
Thank you for this refreshing video. My father taught me good values which I cherish. My mother taught about manners and appearances but was toxic. I learned to not have that in my life and avoid it as much as possible. My grandmother taught that one must dress well and had a love for good fabrics. My dear old friend was there for me when nobody else was and was well mannered, kind, practical, and truthful and safe and talked about boundaries. It took me a long time to learn to honour my own personal boundaries and enforce them. Counselling and support and study helped a lot. I have learned that respect, kindness, financial security and purchasing good quality items is important bot only for others but for myself too. Some can be passed to future generations. Dressing well in good quality fabrics and good personal hygiene does make a huge difference in the way people treat me. Mind you, attitude and heart go along with this too. Planning for future generations and generational safety is important. Making safe choices about everything is important. Play it safe and there is no benefit in doubt are a couple of my mantras.
It's so refreshing to see a focus on long-term thinking, etiquette, and discreet success in a world obsessed with instant gratification and flaunting wealth. The emphasis on philanthropy, giving back not just financially but with time and expertise, is something we can all learn from, regardless of our financial status. It's not just about accumulating wealth, but how we use it to enrich our lives and the lives of others. This video is a stark reminder that wealth isn't just what's in our bank accounts, but what we do with it. Subscribed for more wisdom like this!
I love the guys voice that narrates these videos he has the perfect pitch! I believe reading books is a great way to expand your horizons and almost live the life of these so called rich people.
I agree with you about manners and respect. Be polite and not be ill-mannered. Ill-mannered behaviour gets you no where. I agree that to be rich do not flaunt off your wealth. Easy money is easily gone.
I wish manners were taught today. “Manners Maketh Man.” I collect Victorian etiquette books & wish that this was taught today. And manners don’t cost a thing. Class, manners & politeness would serve the population well today if they understood how to use them. Thank you for this video. Going to subscribe 🙏
Thank you for this! I enjoyed knowing that some of my values, while in conflict with modern pop-culture, have a place and I'm in good company. Now, if only I could close the gap a little between their $ and mine.
This is how my parents raised my siblings and I. My husband and I tried to do our best to pass this on to our kids, who are now just becoming young adults! This was educational and infotainment! Thank you and great job!! Be blessed and keep inspiring! 😊
I still marvel over my luck at forming a friendship with Diana Hobby, whose husband, mother-in-law (Oveta Culp Hobby) and father-in-law were powerful political figures in the state of Texas and nationally. Their family legacy extends over several generations. A major Houston airport is named after the family, and they also owned one of the most popular Houston newspapers. We met while in graduate school classes and discovered a mutual interest in opera. I was stunned when she offered her husband's opera ticket to me several times so we could go together, and during one intermission she kindly introduced me to another lady whose family turned out to be owners of the other major news media in Houston. The Hobby family is exceptionally supportive of cultural and educational endeavors and institutions. Diana was a lady of such grace and beautiful manners, and unusually natural and charming. It was a great privilege to know her, and I was touched when she allowed me to treat with a glass of champagne during a couple of opera intermissions.
This makes me think about how flaunting of new money has become so pervasive in Hip Hop culture. It is irony at it’s finest. Majority of their audience is poor so they resort to showcasing flashy consumerism to delineate themselves from their audience like - ‘hey we’re both from the hood but I’m better than you because I can afford this’. As a result, the audience sees these logos as an identifier of status, wealth, and worthiness. The luxury brands are now pandering to the culture by pasting logos all of over their collections instead of prioritizing creativity. Just look at Pharrell’s recent LV collection as the new creative director.
I’m not wealthy by any stretch of the imagination. However, even though I am in my sixties, I still love to read or watch shows where I will learn something that I did not know about. I just finished a book on architecture. Now, I am reading a book on earthquakes and volcanoes. I don’t do this to show off. I just want to try to understand what is going on on this planet and in this universe.
All the people from long term money I’ve met were surprisingly thrifty, keeping cars for years and years, wearing the same clothes for years and years, and treating everyone with dignity. If they looked down on us, it was not obvious.
Nourishing the mind and giving back stood out to me. Something I can relate to and remember how I was taught growing up. This is a great lesson/reminder for all of us. Thank you for putting this video together and sharing it!
"Planting trees under which you may never get to sit" :o beautifully seen. I see several parallels with Christian thinking in the Bible as well (even though the world is broken). Thinking of legacy and love for children with the bigger picture (Not frustrating your kids, leaving inheritance even with prodigals), loves others by not wanting to disgrace anyone and listening, living in peace as far as it depends on them (reactions too), displaying 'fruit' to and for others that benefits everyone, positive thinking, etc
I had several family members who worked for the Hill and Whitney families in MN during the first part of the 1900s. When my grandmother died during the depression, the Whitneys brought ice cream to the funeral. In an era dependent on ice houses, and in the summer to a rural area, this was quite the luxury. All because my aunt was a nanny. These families honored their former employees into their old age. Noblesse oblige.
It’s not about old money shaming new money it’s about representation of your manners and self culture. Old new or no money your values always prevail first
Most of those money classes of yesterday went to “ finishing” schools or etiquette trained schools - at least for women, where manners of speech and manners as well as etiquette of the day were reinforced.
I love this. We run with some people that aren't in this class exactly but they are well-off. I love being with them. They are absolutely passionate about giving. Mostly of their time. Many come second. They're a great bunch of people.
I was raised with the biggest house, most land, in the area. My family drove Packards black of course. I was expected to treat everyone with respect. To behave a certain way in the parlor and dining room. Dress to fit the occasion. And we had money. Not Rothschild but we'll off it was just there. My brothers were all expected to work fulfill military obligations. A handshake was a binding contract. I am 79 and am appalled at the loud vulgar behavior of Americans no manners words are said on TV that I asked what they meant the first time I heard them after I was married. Our society has no respect for anyone or anything. Just listen to the news
What I have found is that there are many, many young people who exhibit good values, but they aren’t the ones who put themselves out there on social media or the news. The reporters are almost constantly misrepresenting the US because they want views, not the truth. Don’t fear! There are many wonderful, polite, kind young people still out there. I know them from volunteering with them and having the privilege of being related to a large number of them. They’re just not attention seekers, so you don’t hear about them. They do not use vulgar language. The ones who I have traveled extensively with actually speak more quietly in public so as not to draw attention to themselves as US citizens in other countries, so they try to consciously avoid being the “ugly American” when in foreign countries. They are very aware that they are young ambassadors wherever they go, and this idea was instilled in us from a very young age. (Travel is such an essential part of an education to help one realize the great privileges we enjoy in the US, no matter how awful the media portrays it. Though our country may have many problems, we are still very blessed to enjoy the freedoms that we do.) I was raised with these values and automatically lower my voice when having a conversation in public, and these young people have been taught to do the same. I hope this has made you feel a bit better. I promise you that good manners still exist and that the idea that volunteering is essential to everyone is being passed down to future generations in many US families.
This is 100% correct. I grew up affluent in the US. Classical education, manners/etiquette/grace, sportsmanship and caring for others were the norm. And we never flaunted our wealth.
I’ve raised funding from wealthy philanthropists for 28 years. There’s a huge difference in attitude between old and new money, for sure. Personalities and likability don’t have anything to do with wealth. But everyone who isn’t rich sure loves to hate them.
It’s an attitude, it’s not just money. The most important thing is long term thinking. The problem arises when the next generation is indifferent to the concept and prefers short term pleasures.
This is highly enlighten and educative. What a life. What one takes seriously another one takes it lightly and it doesn't fit in. What a life. Thank you for the exposure.
Charming. Yes the world could use a class in class. Your appearance and behavior says a lot about yourself. Thank you for sharing. Five great tips I'll be sure to implement. 🥰
Having good manners, being educated and generous, speaking languages does not necessarily have to do with old money. You may find a lot of examples of all that in middle-class families of intellectuals.
I didn't have the privilege of an college education, money or anything else, but I was fortunate enough to put my kids through parochial school and they have turned out well, have great jobs, and are extremely kind, generous and independent. We don't have major money, but we're okay and we are very much like old money, discreet and giving. So I consider us blessed even though we are far from wealthy.
This is very intriguing!! Love Love Love This!! Very educational and a wealth of information. Me personally Love the "Old Money" lifestyle. 🥰 Glad this came through my channel feed. First time seeing this. Thank you for sharing!!
I worked in private aviation for 5 years and have met a lot of old money. These people are very simple, classy, focused and cordial. They even tip well. New money never tips, tend to be very flashy, sometimes rude when they need something done for them. The differences between old and new money were quite obvious to me. The wealthiest people and nicest people I met were old money. New money barely even wanted to communicate with us. Busy taking selfies and making videos.
Just my personal opinion: I not sure if rhetoric is only a gift/ talent! It is a result of growing up, education, reading books, reading let grow your stock of words, your vocabulary and putting thogether sentences! Read every genre, poems to novels..... Try it - you will love it - and you will see results😊! My mother was a teacher😅!
I have friends that are incredibly wealthy for a couple generations already - they are among my (very few) best friends, and incredibly kind, philanthropic and discrete people ❤
I do place immense value on furthuring education. After an MBA and being a linguist I opted for learning the secrets of classical art on the Aristides online Atelier. Superb choice to help fulfill my dream.
I was once told that, 'the rich spend- but the truly wealthy invest' - & while I'm not exactly rolling in money, I am trying harder to maintain that mindset- to ignore trends & fads, for that which will last, style-wise; classic wardrobe basics, sensible & sound pieces- you can have seasonal flirtations with a couple of things- like tops, but a classic style is never meant to look overly 'dated'- I want to really invest in jewelry, with a handful of pieces that will be timeless (I have some simple pieces, & want to continue on in that vein- I'm not a 'blingy' person by nature - I also want to get some stones that I have, set in classic, understated styles). Same with my home, though that is harder; it's a fixer-upper, & we don't really have any spare money - I'm not a fan of that almost hospital-like, kind of sterile quality so many 'modern', 'elite' homes have; while I've had to stay within my limited budget with furniture & furnishings, I try to buy real timber furniture where I can- I only have a couple of pieces, but as the chipboard & fiberboard pieces (that were all we could afford) have worn out, I've tried to 'cycle out', as I call it, into pieces that- while a little pricey- aren't going to essentially be rubbish in 5-7 years, taking up space in a landfill - that they can be passed on
If you are a woman and THE RIGHT SORT of wealthy you dont pay for that designer dress you wear on the red carpet,at the charity ball,etc . The designer is only too happy to loan it to you because of all the good publicity he/she will get from the pictures in the media. It's ironic that the richer you are the more you can get for free,if you choose.
And that is why they are affluent because they think of others not themselves... Their families and next generations and their environments. Thank you for sharing. Timeless values to live by. ❤
I have a great envy of Boston's dead elite - the Brahmin. Because of them, America has fine ivy-league institutions, now under threat due to extremism. My personal style is highly influenced by "Old Money" even though I cannot afford to buy antique furniture.
You need to be so "cool" that your friends and other people you come in contact with see the kind of furniture you have,even if it's charity shop,through the filter of you,so it's cool too!
The most important thing is empathy. Empathy that derives from the pursuit of the most profound and essential education - understanding human nature. It’s akin to being an archeologist of the spirit. It’s passed down more by osmosis than anything else. This is the true meaning of Grace.
The Everyman midwesterner tenants adhered to by my father were : "Be discreet about wealth, don't flaunt good fortune, keep your head down, work hard, don't be boastful or self-aggrandizing, display good manners and use education to communicate well, not to lord above others" were handed down to me. I see the precise opposite on display everywhere - whether rich or poor. The extreme narcissism and "look at me" the self-anointed "queens" in social media, the vulgar displays of wealth and privilege of new money. I cite: JayZ and Beyonce. To name but one of the distasteful many.
COMMENT: Which of these “old money” behaviors have you seen a particular person you know exhibit in real-life? Tell us your story.
The behavior I’ve seen executed by the old money style is that no matter what is being educated and having exceptional manner etiquette when treating other people well. No matter what!
My great grandmother, now decease, prioritized classic fashion, quiet sophistication, despite being perhaps only 2 generations away from being a slave in Georgia. She maintained a clean, organized, unfussy home with very few luxuries.
Thet are ot allowed to see them.
Parte melone alle ore due edifici da Nuoro come al ospedale Trane il martedì giovedì le infermiere che anno non rientro
from a young age you accept staying within the station you were born. Often identified as elitism or snobbish, it is an inherent acceptance that life for outsiders is often miserable. Less is always more. You do a nice job explaining so many things but the "aloofness" is often to shield others.
I have a dear friend who is old money. Her family money goes back many many generations. She told me once that the reason why their money keeps growing and not disappearing like the Vanderbilts is because #1, they live sensibly, they're not flashy and strongly prefer to blend into the background or as she said to me once, "under the radar". She also lives by and practices the mantra of "wealth whispers". Secondly, the money (inheritance) skips generations. Her money came from her grandparents, her son will inherit his money from her parents. This way the money has a whole generation to be invested wisely, grow and replenish itself.
Great story, Craig, wow!
Old money is all about trusts and sophisticated wealth management-a lesson everyone could benefit from!
There is also the danger that money like honey attracts flies. Not a good idea to show off because there are many predators.
@gormenfreeman499 Look at the youngest boy of the Romanov family.
Interesting... what is the purpose and method of "skipping generation " that you mentioned? Could you explain that?
I spilled a glass of red wine on Mr. Konica, owner of Konica Industries, while waiting on him at a restaurant in the 1980s. He laughed a little and said, "Thank you. But I don't use wine this way," My manager came over and started to berate me in front of him. He stopped her and said it was no big deal, an honest mistake. He was thrilled to get his dinner comped that night and have his $75 shirt paid for by the restaurant. He left a $20 tip and was back again the next week. My manager did not permit me to wait on him again! He was truly a class act.
Wow, what a story! Spot on
I wouldn't have made a scene out of this, either. And neither would most people. It's just you don't appreciate good manners unless it comes from a wealthy person.
@@viharsarok the wealthy have the option of getting away with bratty, rude , arrogant and disrespectful behaviour and are tolerated for throwing around their weight (think Meghan Markle).. good behaviour inspite of this choice is admired and appreciated
yes they are light hearted in their approach
Wow very kind of him
I was once a guest of the Bavarian royal family. We drove from their home outside Munich to St Anton, Austria. A large portion of the trip flanked by 'family' forests, fields and chateaux. For him, he was very aware that he inherited a 900 year old asset: his daily decisions had to maintain and grow it 900 years forward. Doing so meant educating himself and his children on latest environmental skills, newest farming methods: a steward of his inheritance, not an entitled taker.
I met "Otto" in Munich, while he was visiting his family Doctor.. We were houseguests. He was a wonderful person.
Wow! It is so rare to come across someone who thinks in this manner. It was wonderful to read and a great lesson in a few short sentences. 💕
So amazing
Wow. That’s beautiful.
That's beautiful ❤️
I worked for Rothschild back in 2011. I met a lot of 'old money'. Trust me. They do look down on people.
Of course they do. But, with a smile!🤭
@@itoo3654 Rothschild are not a good example, maybe you should do a little research on what this family is about.
@@raiseyourworld5324 I said what I said, or, more accurately, what I wrote. It was a GENERAL observation, not necessarily specific to the Rothschilds, anyway.(although true, I'm sure)😐
@@raiseyourworld5324 The Rothschild are mentioned in this very video
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Love that line about “it’s not what I can afford, it’s what I can sustain”
We have forgotten that over the last 30-40 years
People aren't thinking in generations because they value hedonism over social structure.
"Who is we, sucker?"
@@acmarston😂😂😂😂
@@acmarston didn’t realize I was talking to a billionaire
What about "Embrace the power of etiquette and good manners. Make grace, tack, and politeness the currency of your interactions". @@acmarston
My grandma used to say, “Just because you’re poor doesn’t mean you need to act poorly.”
Wise words!
Is pa wise!
She has the mood
That is correct
Well said.. core truth
1) Legacy and long term thinking
2) Importance of etiquette and Good Manners
3) Discreet Success
4) Emphasis on “Giving back“/Philantropy
5) Valuing Education and Intellectual Pursuits
Look at rich Parisian kids and repeat it again (if you can) lol
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Giving back to their charities n future generations.
Crooks they are .
This video is everything what USA 🇺🇸 n UK 🇬🇧 don't want you to experience n achieve. 😂😂😂
4) philantropy like killing us all wirh a virus......😉
Years age I did a remodeling job for a Congressman in Marietta Ga. I miss priced the job to my detriment by quit a lot. At the end of the job he looked over the work and asked if I had priced it too low. I admitted that I had, but did not expect him to pay more than we agreed on. He wrote the check for several hundred dollars more and thanked me. A class act!
He should have written a check for a thousand dollars more.
And you, sir.
@@sonjak8265 how can you know that without having any firm numbers?
The opportunity to be generous is a privilege.
Did you make a profit, after he paid more?
Also did he recommend your work to others afterwards?
A true gentleman.
My family was well off, but we certainly didn't have the kind of money to buy Rolls-Royces and such. And yet, this video shows exactly the principles I was brought up on. No wonder that I find the modern world so disturbing and worrying: an idiocracy, actually.
My family is proletarian. I was raised this way too. Oddly, my mom's side were recently aristocratic.
I understand where you are coming from. I didn't know that we had money growing up, and to this day still don't realize just how much. As children we were raised to have the most tip-top of behaviors, manners, and were to be seen and not heard when in front of company. We were aloud to play and get dirty, but knew exactly when and where the time was for that as well. We were not children of lavish gifts, parties and events for our birthdays, graduations, etc. We got jobs in high school and placed 50% of our net pay into savings, gave portion to charity and what we were left with went to clothes or savings for a vacation/trip. We gave to the community and volunteered at events like Special Olympics, SPCA and church events. I too am bothered with the way generations behave with the lack of manners that I thought were normal. I raised my own children with those same manners, morals, and they are now raising their children with them.
You know you can buy a new brain at a dollar store. It will be much better than the one you have now.
Get over it. It's just a fad
Well, I can assure you that your world was equally idiotic. Your "principles" prevented you from seeing the real world. Or maybe mirrors didn't exist then.
“Success is personal and doesn’t need an audience”. Yes!
My husband has taught me a lot about the value of choosing classic and well-made articles of clothing, and especially shoes. I always wanted to save money and have variety, but he always said "Buy good shoes!" This has carried over into other philosophical shifts, but I'm grateful for this lesson. Quality counts and lasts longer.
I wholeheartedly agree with you. To add to that, things of quality are usually made by artisans. Cheap fashion is usually made by workers being taken total advantage of.
@@maureenrhysjones4643totally correct
I feel like a million bucks in my expensive shoes. Style and quality that holds up.
To be honest I may not be old money but I’m grateful to have adopted the old money concept, it just makes sense.
It makes for nicer people.
@@ciatris9006 most of the time, I would agree, however, I know a few that are not very nice.
"It's not what you can afford but what you can sustain"
"Etiquette can open doors that even money can't"
"Nothing says class like good manners"
"Wealth doesn’t define a person's worth or character"
"Success is personal and doesn’t need an audience. It's not about how others perceive us but how we perceive ourselves"
I think the big thing is these ideals require a lot of impulse control and tempering which often comes from upbringing and being around money for a while in a responsible manner. The issue is a lot of new money are overwhelmed by the money they've earned. They didn't have others controlling them nor expectations of maintaining a reputation to be in the good graces of other rich peers, so they feel free to do whatever they want and show-off. Probably cause they still think in the manner of middle or working class folks who are deprived DESPITE now having money. Many working class folks would be figuratively eaten alive and abused if they couldn't engage in direct confrontation (including showing their literal worth to skeptical peers).
In a nutshell, new money folks act as they do because they have the money of old money but retain the mindsets of more common working people and act in a way that would make sense in their former class life.
Love these comments & it's a yes! spot on.
Rodney Dangerfield STILL can't get no respect!
At one time the Rockefellers and the Astors, Vanderbilts were poor and just coming up. At one time all the old money was new money, and people adapt and learn as they.. go up the ladder,, about the proprieties of society. Money does not buy class you either have it or you don't. You can be poor and still have class. There are plenty of rich people who are rude and nasty.
YES !👍
@@Katharsis44-091Exactly. I have no idea why people think that old money equals class. They clearly haven’t seen the IG/TikTok pages of some “old money” offspring. They are full of “look at me on my expensive holiday”. Or “look at all the free stuff that I was given because my family is really rich.”
old money is the royals or the landowners because they had the responsibility of taking care of the land and the people on it. ill use that fictional tv show Downton Abbey where that earl and his mom said they employed people, so they thought about the people.
people should really look into HOW they acquired their wealth and added to it
That is only somewhat true.
There are old money families that stood the test of time for generations
Some built their way up, and remained up,
Some historically were high and are part of the new poor.
I would consider myself that.
My family came from everyone having masters degrees, wealthy careers, military, wealth, belonging to fraternities and sororities, all of a sudden doing none of those except making more than $100k a year per member and struggling to check the boxes of affording private schools, vacations, investments.
And that’s when I realized we were upper middle class in income and declining intergenerationally, since my ancestors struggled with none of that.
Education and manners never stop to beer the highest values, but unfortunately access to opportunity and privilege did decline overtime
I was raised in a low-income home, but my French mother instilled the ideals of "comportement distingue" in her daughters, few but quality clothes, good manners and reserve (restraint) when in public. These are values that have nothing to do with old, new or no money. They refer to character building and alas, old money (and no money) can install those values in some of their children, but not in others (think trust fund babies).
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Sounds good to me.
This has been my experience as well.
This resonates with me. We also grew up low income, and my family was also from Europe. Though we didn’t have much, we were always taught to conduct ourselves with grace and style. The fine things that did have were passed down from previous generations, and we were taught how to value and preserve them. Education, and self enrichment was a standard part of life. I studied art, music, science, history. We had tea from (inherited and secondhand) fine china every day after school, sitting at a nicely set table, eating fancy (though home made) pastries. Elegance was normal, and it would sound like I had a privileged upbringing. But it’s completely achievable by anyone. The lesson was that class it’s self does not cost money. The trappings of “wealth” do cost, but the attitude one has regarding themselves, others, possessions, etc., are completely free.
Both my parents were from Old Money families, Dad from the Bonham Carters and Mum from a Scottish Laird’s family. But we lived in a working class suburb, Dad worked a 40 hour week at his blue collar trade (fitter and turner) and we (mostly) went to State School. I only had a couple of terms at a Catholic college and hated it!
But at home? Our home was full of antiques, old, original fine art by famous artists, a fine piano that Dad played for about an hour every night (Tchaikovsky, Beethoven, Mozart, Bach, Handel, etc). Mum had opals and garnets in her jewellery box, gifts from Dad over the years that she treasured. Some were inherited from his family as well, and a few pieces from her mother including an exquisite carved ivory pendant, from India, that was very, very old.
Dad was always terrified of being robbed, but we never were. Us kids were all sworn to secrecy about the treasures in our home and many years later I learned he had a .303 rifle and a .22 rifle as well. He would have used them as well, had we ever been robbed, but like I said, that never happened. Dad spoke six languages, including Russian, German, two indigenous languages (he was a former Missionary) and Ancient Greek and of course English.
Mum was a stay at home Mum, cleaned houses for pocket money and her mother was good friends with Elizabeth Bowes-Lyon, AKA the Queen Mother!
I never met my grandmother, but she was a model of class and culture although her husband (also high born) had the reputation of being the Town Drunk, meaning he drank all their money and when my mother was a little girl during the Great Depression, she often had no shoes.
Nevertheless, Grandma’s manners earned her the nickname of Queenie, and rightly so!
That’s my story, and the story of my family.
God Bless You All…
Wow thanks so much for this AMAZING comment and sharing your story :) We hope to feature it some day on them program!
Mum’s family estate was featured in the “Scottish Field” magazine and a copy of that magazine was in the farmhouse when I moved into my current estate. Paid cash for the estate thanks to help a long time ago from a cousin who was a department store owner and executive.
I took it as a sign that I was on the right track. Mum said her family always regarded themselves as being farmers and have been on the same estate since the Stone Age! In this magazine article, Her Ladyship was featured with her daily routine, which involved working in the vast, wildcrafted gardens. Her first task was discussing her latest plans and the day’s tasks with her head gardener, then out there with the spade and plants in the golf cart, for a day’s digging and cultivating!
His Lordship deals with the business end of the Estate, but the amazing gardens are entirely her work, over many, many, many decades. She has recreated a Scottish Woodland, that has been her life’s work and to look at it, you’d never know it was 100 percent man (woman!) made!
I live on my own and have no staff, but I have a similar conference with myself each day before I begin my work and a similar style of gardening, although the species are different as I live in Australia, not Scotland.
Dad’s ancestor married an Anglo Indian Woman when on military service in the Punjab. He brought her home to England and they were shunned by the whole family.
Because of this, they moved to Australia.
Mum’s parents moved out here to Australia as Soldier Settlers after World War One. The whole thing was a disastrous sham, their 200 acre farm was a forest, not a field, they were required to clear it and it had a mortgage on it! Home was a corrugated iron hut and there was no electricity or running water! Pop felt deeply betrayed and this was why he began drinking. He would have felt even worse because he was actually a veteran of the Household Cavalry (guarding Buckingham Palace!)
Mum and Dad met in Geraldton, West Australia, Dad’s family had somewhat recovered their fortunes but Mum’s family was still destitute. Nevertheless, they fell in love, married and the rest, as they say, is history…
Thank you for sharing your amazing story!
Would make a great book/movie.
I worked for a certain very old money family, as an au pair, and they were excellent employers, exceptionally kind, very generous.
I asked the mother of the children I was caring for why they, as opposed to the employers of others I knew, were so polite and kind, and she said "we were taught to view everyone who contributes to our quality of life as essential to our family's well-being." And I have always held on that and done my very best to treat my employees with the same respect.
I will say that I have met many "old money" families who are not so kind to their employees and are not particularly well-mannered or respectful, but believe it, that lack of respectful and respectable behavior doesn't stay a secret.
My Mom worked for a lady who came from old money. She was very kind to not only my Mom, but also my Dad and siblings. It was like being part of the family, while also not being part of the family. She did attend my brother's wedding. My Dad would visit her and play his guitar for her and talk religion. My Mom was her caregiver for many years as she had various health conditions in her elder years. She has now passed and I miss "Miss Terry" as does my family. Her home was so modest and simply furnished for a millionaire, but very good quality and timeless natural style. She always had lots of snacks and treats on hand for her caregivers so no one would go hungry.
My late father who had is own law practice and 5 children to raise always gave generously to charity and regularly donated his time, to charitable works on top of all his other duties. Our education was a priority and his mantra was always "knowledge is never a burden." He never put anyone down. He always carried a notebook and pencil in his top pocket to write down the many requests he would receive from others asking for his help, be it a visa application, money, or a relationship problem. He spent his life being useful to the world, and volunteered in WW2. Never left the house looking anything less than immaculate. He used to take my brother in the car with him in the morning to take him to school and would have my brother read Caesar's war commentaries in their original Latin to him as he drove. He didn't waste any of his time!
Wow! What an amazing story, thank you so much for sharing. Speechless!
You have an amazing father ❤️❤️❤️
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@@pinkfuture8275 thank you, alas he has passed away but he was amazing.
What a legacy your father left. He sounds like an amazing man. Rip.
Unfortunately very few people follow the old money behaviour. Personally I have great admiration for this life style.
Sadly true. I embrace old money values fully.
Old money is all about family. As a person from a broken family, I say, God bless old money. Old money may have expensive tastes, but it comes from the old adage: "If you can't afford to buy 5 of a thing, you can't afford to buy one."
I've never heard that one! I do know "if you have to ask the price you can't afford it"
@@janebaker966that’s an exaggerated saying.
I prefer the one above
If you can’t mathematically afford 5 don’t buy one
My guess is that ‘old money’ parents teach their children about the value of saving money and investing it. This is seldom spoken about in most families or especially in schools. Our culture promotes the importance of consuming and showing off rather than investing in the future.
My child’s state school educates about saving money, as did my state school.
Perhaps it’s a cultural focus more than schools in general. Most children I know are making money decisions in regards to allocating savings, expenditures etc.
quite interesting.
On point. THANX
Old money treats everyone equally, with courtesy and respect. They don't look down on people who are "beneath" them, and act arrogant. The groundskeeper, the server at the restaurant, the butcher, the baker, etc.; each are granted their human dignity.
It's very poor form and classless to be rude and disrespectful to people. Sometimes you don't know who you're really talking to.
The middle classes and new rich find gratitude with thought that others are beneathe them.
This is because it is VERY hard to find trustworthy people who will do a great job and not gossip about the family business they hear in the course of their duties, also their discretion is not the only thing that is valuable. Finding someone who doesn't want to shake you down is another big challenge.
@@PLegalrep quite true
@@ClickyPen0101I know a family who curses like sailors yet drops names and brags. They don't come from money but are wannabes.
I love how you emphasize that you can be like the old money regardless of your job or wealth.
Good manners, etiquette, knowing how to control one's emotions are values we need to hold near.
Why is Diana featured? She did an assassination job on her husband on TV.
I NEED to learn this!!
This is exactly how I was raised. Loud voice, crass behavior, rudeness, 'me, me, me' is very tasteless. It is never all about me. It's about the long term, treating everyone the same, humility, quiet grace, subtle humor, and expecting one's clothes due to choosing quality, not quantity. I remember when I was about 4/5 attending a party and wanting a chocolate eclair. However, there were only two on the plate and several others were talking about the eclairs, so I chose something I didn't really like, and left the eclairs for the others.
That is class, and you encapsulated it brilliantly. I was raised in hard scrabble farm country, where manners were essential because that's all anyone had of much value beyond the land if you were fortunate enough to keep it. Someone was always welcomed in, offered a drink or something to eat, and you would never take a popular food item that others wanted. I worked for a pair of attorneys in college, and the old money partner was very different from the new money partner. The only thing negative I ever heard about the old money partner was that he was a poor tipper to waitstaff, but it could genuinely have been a lack of understanding of how their earnings were predominantly tip-based. He was very kind, treated everyone with dignity and good will, and was highly approachable. The new money partner was bombastic, flashy, demanding, and had much less concern about being rude. An earlier comment talked about living in a modest home in a very modest area, working a j-o-b, but having lovely things with history, and a rich life with music and language -- that is living a good life.
My parents both came from poor immigrant backgrounds and emerged from the Great Depression and WW2 with modest means. My father invested always with an eye to making a solid foundation of resources with an eye to future decades and generations. We lived nicely, but not ostentatiously and were not aware of net worth until we were adults. My mother, though prevented from attending college or art school by her step mother, encouraged us to read, take music classes and attend cultural events. I always resented that my dad did not buy luxury cars, etc. unlike others in around us. Now I appreciate my upbringing and can identify with this video.
Thanks for sharing your story!
Definitely when we are younger we tend to resent that our parents didn’t splurge like some other parents on flashy items, but in adulthood we realize how much value the emphasis on manners, education, and culture from parents is worth!
Cheers! :)
Respect & Dignity in every interaction. Grace, tact, politeness.
I inherited the last 10 acres of our family's circa 1863 farm. It was worn out but had some lovely Savanna Oak trees and standing 1800 buildings. I determined to seek a higher value for the land, trees, water and food source, and endeavored to learn about organic farming and ecology. Armed with this knowledge, I wrote and received several grants from our local county watershed and conservation district (Each county in each state of the USA has one of these offices. These federally funded government programs were established by Teddy Roosevelt to help reverse the damaged watersheds throughout the Nation). The Savanna Oaks were a prized and now rare tree, which brought in almost $100,000 in grants to revitalize the farm as an Organic Certified program co-existing with the Savanna ecosystems. I invited children, FFA, and 4-H students to come and plant over 1000 trees, my only legacy because I have no children. I discovered a rare garlic on the farm for which I received a plant patent and found partners to grow the garlic out. One partner is in Nevada who's farther was incarcerated in the WWII Japanese camps. The second partner is from a family whose parents escaped Hitler. It is a national healing garlic for a nation weary of negative news. The experience of the farm enabled me to return to college, although late in life, I am glad I did so. I received some scholarships, but started a cleaning business to help pay for the entire Master's program. I graduated with not one, but two Masters in Ecology from our State University. The farm is now a forest of trees and healthy food, filled with deer, cougar, birds, eagles and more. It is an island of hope. Because I have no family, I found a deserving family who can carry on some of my legacy, and someday they will benefit from my life and work. Give more to the world than you take, and plant trees. One never goes wrong planting trees.
Wow, thank you so much for sharing this amazing story! We will have to share it at some point!
@@oldmoneyluxury Yes, I would welcome you sharing this thumbnail of my work. There is much more, and I would be happy to share that too!
@@AllysonJFlagg Feel free to email us theoldmoneyluxury@gmail.com we'd love to chat!
I like the idea of being quiet about your money.
Yeah especially when there is none to be talked about 😭
Always. It's the best way. No one else needs to know
Wealthy people are not flashy and you can feel their class just by talking to them. English class goes back many centuries. They appear normal and take great interest in everyone regardless of where they work or their position.
African and Middle Eastern society goes back THOUSANDS of years beyond the Bible. The BRF are Germans, essentially, and just "recently" Anglicized their name. 🤫
I believe that good manners never go out of style. It's just in my nature to be kind to people. Others will remember how they are treated, no matter who you are!
My maternal grandparents who were nothing more than, mere children at the time were greatly influenced by the Forbes Family from, the 1930's. The 2 'old $$' traits that she passed down to me were, the value of education to help make oneself a more well rounded individual; and charitable giving / volunteering. Actually, my grandmother in particular was a stickler for this rule and one other. My grandmum had a family mandate that before any of us kids graduated from high school we were expected to learn at least 1 or 2 other languages; AND do some volunteer work.
She once said if you can do these things it will go a long way to making someone a much more well-rounded person.
Philanthropy is my favorite habit since we no longer see many people really involved in giving back genuinely. Congratulations for the great content !
I like the focus on living a richer more meaningful life. Not about consumerism. I like this
My father, brought up in English Quaker schools. Quiet, unassuming, more interested in decorum than show. Quietly lending a helping hand where needed, and well loved by his associates and servants. He hired the down-and-out to give them a hand up, kept up with the news and read books by authors like Winston Churchill. He had a wry sense of humor and insisted in correct pronunciation, honesty and fastidious care of tools. His legacy was, as written on his gravestone, "Here lies a true gentleman"
Lovely!
Beautiful!
Lovely. Makes me proud to have come from Quaker stock.
My Mother drilled into me "You can't buy Class"! And my Father toned, time & again, "Don't Flaunt ANYTHING you have & don't try to Lord over those who have Less. You could easily be in their shoes tomorrow!" (Remembering the Depression)
I'm 73 & so glad they instilled those Values in me! With Money comes responsibility! Bc of your Advantages, You need to help those who have Needs you can meet. To dress Conservatively in Timeless pieces, you can take the Energy it takes to obtain more, more & Focus that Energy on the things that really matter instead of trying to keep up with "The Joneses" & buying the latest "In Thing" that is only Temporal.
My mom would alway say” there’s a time & place for everything and you better be on your best behavior when your amongst the adults”, she allowed me to be a child and play with dirt etc but we were all reminded on manners, honor, respect, integrity, compassion, intelligence & courage. Especially compassion. Dinner was followed by a lecture by my father on those things.
And yes my daughter now has the same values instilled in her.
“Vanity and pride are different things, though the words are often used synonymously.
A person may be proud without being vain. Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves,
vanity to what we would have others think of us.” ― Jane Austen in 'Pride and Prejudice'
[Re: "Success is personal & doesn't need an audience." ]
Knowledge is a wealth no one can take from you. ❤
Ah. But it needs to be the right sort of knowledge. I mean if you know all about economics + maths + can do those tricky sums and work out interest.etc thats useful but having a brain stuffed with random knowledge so youre a great quizzer that's fun but not useful IMO. I am one of those brain sponge people. I get every question right on tv quizzes,well nearly,but that is not at all useful in real life.
We found out that a family member was a millionaire when she passed away. No one had a clue. She wore simple things, decorated her house with timeless classic furniture and never spoke *about* money. My step grandfather too. Old money. He practically wore his clothes until they were rags. He spent a lot of time studying the stock market and invested his money wisely. Pinched pennies whenever he could and didn’t spend what he didn’t have. You would have almost assumed he was poor because every cent of his bad value.
this is absolutely true! my parents and grandparents all exhibit these behaviours. i admire them tremendously.
Looks like I don't have a need to look farther from me because I get it from my family. Now I'll pass this on to my child and to my students. Thank you for sharing your timeless and priceless wisdom and knowledege! Young generation needs to learn from this video and apply it in their daily lives.
Thanks for the kind comment and thoughts, Starr!
@@oldmoneyluxury You're welcome! 😊 Please make more educational old money videos like this.
Consider how long it took for the late Princess Diana to speak out about her situation in the royal family. She was a class act. Much missed and beloved Lady Diana. Much love to you.
But the way she did it, through Andrew Morton's book, was most unfortunate. As was the Panorama interview. A clear case of abandoning her aristocratic values. God rest her soul.
Sadly, at the end of her life, her behavior left much to be desired.
I never realized my family is "old money" until watching this video.
New rich does the opposite of old money and it’s not generational. We can learn a lot
Giving and philanthropy is an essential value to me. I’ve been on both ends and prefer giving.
Education and lifelong learning is also something I’ve come to appreciate. While having a top-tier degrees is nice, it’s the process of learning, and realizing that I know little that keeps me humble and motivated to improve.
Hands down, double salute to the entire team behind this video. Continue doing whatever you guys are doing the world will be a better place.
Many thanks and utmost appreciation from Uganda - East Africa
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What is a double salute?
"Many thanks" sounds a lot like Canary Mugume😁
They did an amazing job explaining everything I want to tell others.
I dated a Kennedy in college. And as a whole, his entire family valued giving back, education, refinement, and knowledge. It was refreshing from the showy perspective of the newer “generations “
The bootlegging criminal and unfaithful ones.b
Thank you for this refreshing video. My father taught me good values which I cherish. My mother taught about manners and appearances but was toxic. I learned to not have that in my life and avoid it as much as possible. My grandmother taught that one must dress well and had a love for good fabrics. My dear old friend was there for me when nobody else was and was well mannered, kind, practical, and truthful and safe and talked about boundaries. It took me a long time to learn to honour my own personal boundaries and enforce them. Counselling and support and study helped a lot. I have learned that respect, kindness, financial security and purchasing good quality items is important bot only for others but for myself too. Some can be passed to future generations. Dressing well in good quality fabrics and good personal hygiene does make a huge difference in the way people treat me. Mind you, attitude and heart go along with this too. Planning for future generations and generational safety is important. Making safe choices about everything is important. Play it safe and there is no benefit in doubt are a couple of my mantras.
It's so refreshing to see a focus on long-term thinking, etiquette, and discreet success in a world obsessed with instant gratification and flaunting wealth. The emphasis on philanthropy, giving back not just financially but with time and expertise, is something we can all learn from, regardless of our financial status. It's not just about accumulating wealth, but how we use it to enrich our lives and the lives of others. This video is a stark reminder that wealth isn't just what's in our bank accounts, but what we do with it. Subscribed for more wisdom like this!
I love the guys voice that narrates these videos he has the perfect pitch! I believe reading books is a great way to expand your horizons and almost live the life of these so called rich people.
Cheers! Thanks so much for the kind words and viewing
One does not need money for these behaviours and attitudes, just intelligence and self-respect.
I agree with you about manners and respect. Be polite and not be ill-mannered. Ill-mannered behaviour gets you no where. I agree that to be rich do not flaunt off your wealth. Easy money is easily gone.
I wish manners were taught today. “Manners Maketh Man.” I collect Victorian etiquette books & wish that this was taught today. And manners don’t cost a thing.
Class, manners & politeness would serve the population well today if they understood how to use them. Thank you for this video. Going to subscribe 🙏
I'm chuffed to see someone influencing people the right way. Thank you.
Cheers!
Thank you for this! I enjoyed knowing that some of my values, while in conflict with modern pop-culture, have a place and I'm in good company. Now, if only I could close the gap a little between their $ and mine.
This is how my parents raised my siblings and I. My husband and I tried to do our best to pass this on to our kids, who are now just becoming young adults! This was educational and infotainment! Thank you and great job!! Be blessed and keep inspiring! 😊
Thank you!
They charity because charity is their job. I personally think that it’s the most clever way to earn money. Whoever created this business is a genius.
I still marvel over my luck at forming a friendship with Diana Hobby, whose husband, mother-in-law (Oveta Culp Hobby) and father-in-law were powerful political figures in the state of Texas and nationally. Their family legacy extends over several generations. A major Houston airport is named after the family, and they also owned one of the most popular Houston newspapers. We met while in graduate school classes and discovered a mutual interest in opera. I was stunned when she offered her husband's opera ticket to me several times so we could go together, and during one intermission she kindly introduced me to another lady whose family turned out to be owners of the other major news media in Houston. The Hobby family is exceptionally supportive of cultural and educational endeavors and institutions. Diana was a lady of such grace and beautiful manners, and unusually natural and charming. It was a great privilege to know her, and I was touched when she allowed me to treat with a glass of champagne during a couple of opera intermissions.
Thank you for sharing @pepperbird1212!
This makes me think about how flaunting of new money has become so pervasive in Hip Hop culture. It is irony at it’s finest. Majority of their audience is poor so they resort to showcasing flashy consumerism to delineate themselves from their audience like - ‘hey we’re both from the hood but I’m better than you because I can afford this’. As a result, the audience sees these logos as an identifier of status, wealth, and worthiness. The luxury brands are now pandering to the culture by pasting logos all of over their collections instead of prioritizing creativity. Just look at Pharrell’s recent LV collection as the new creative director.
I’m not wealthy by any stretch of the imagination. However, even though I am in my sixties, I still love to read or watch shows where I will learn something that I did not know about. I just finished a book on architecture. Now, I am reading a book on earthquakes and volcanoes. I don’t do this to show off. I just want to try to understand what is going on on this planet and in this universe.
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I admire that you are still learning at you’re age and I hope you continue doing so.
I am teaching myself some math I didn’t learn in school. I am 62
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All the people from long term money I’ve met were surprisingly thrifty, keeping cars for years and years, wearing the same clothes for years and years, and treating everyone with dignity. If they looked down on us, it was not obvious.
Nourishing the mind and giving back stood out to me. Something I can relate to and remember how I was taught growing up.
This is a great lesson/reminder for all of us. Thank you for putting this video together and sharing it!
"Planting trees under which you may never get to sit" :o beautifully seen.
I see several parallels with Christian thinking in the Bible as well (even though the world is broken). Thinking of legacy and love for children with the bigger picture (Not frustrating your kids, leaving inheritance even with prodigals), loves others by not wanting to disgrace anyone and listening, living in peace as far as it depends on them (reactions too), displaying 'fruit' to and for others that benefits everyone, positive thinking, etc
I had several family members who worked for the Hill and Whitney families in MN during the first part of the 1900s. When my grandmother died during the depression, the Whitneys brought ice cream to the funeral. In an era dependent on ice houses, and in the summer to a rural area, this was quite the luxury. All because my aunt was a nanny. These families honored their former employees into their old age. Noblesse oblige.
This was awesome. Thank you for the straight talk on some very important facts for how to live well despite your financial strata.
Cheers, Red Bird!
It’s not about old money shaming new money it’s about representation of your manners and self culture. Old new or no money your values always prevail first
These values are shared by many people who would never qualify as 'old money'.
Most of those money classes of yesterday went to “ finishing” schools or etiquette trained schools - at least for women, where manners of speech and manners as well as etiquette of the day were reinforced.
I love this. We run with some people that aren't in this class exactly but they are well-off. I love being with them. They are absolutely passionate about giving. Mostly of their time. Many come second. They're a great bunch of people.
I was raised with the biggest house, most land, in the area. My family drove Packards black of course. I was expected to treat everyone with respect. To behave a certain way in the parlor and dining room. Dress to fit the occasion. And we had money. Not Rothschild but we'll off it was just there. My brothers were all expected to work fulfill military obligations. A handshake was a binding contract. I am 79 and am appalled at the loud vulgar behavior of Americans no manners words are said on TV that I asked what they meant the first time I heard them after I was married. Our society has no respect for anyone or anything. Just listen to the news
What I have found is that there are many, many young people who exhibit good values, but they aren’t the ones who put themselves out there on social media or the news. The reporters are almost constantly misrepresenting the US because they want views, not the truth. Don’t fear! There are many wonderful, polite, kind young people still out there. I know them from volunteering with them and having the privilege of being related to a large number of them. They’re just not attention seekers, so you don’t hear about them. They do not use vulgar language. The ones who I have traveled extensively with actually speak more quietly in public so as not to draw attention to themselves as US citizens in other countries, so they try to consciously avoid being the “ugly American” when in foreign countries. They are very aware that they are young ambassadors wherever they go, and this idea was instilled in us from a very young age. (Travel is such an essential part of an education to help one realize the great privileges we enjoy in the US, no matter how awful the media portrays it. Though our country may have many problems, we are still very blessed to enjoy the freedoms that we do.) I was raised with these values and automatically lower my voice when having a conversation in public, and these young people have been taught to do the same. I hope this has made you feel a bit better. I promise you that good manners still exist and that the idea that volunteering is essential to everyone is being passed down to future generations in many US families.
This is 100% correct. I grew up affluent in the US. Classical education, manners/etiquette/grace, sportsmanship and caring for others were the norm. And we never flaunted our wealth.
I’ve raised funding from wealthy philanthropists for 28 years. There’s a huge difference in attitude between old and new money, for sure. Personalities and likability don’t have anything to do with wealth. But everyone who isn’t rich sure loves to hate them.
Well said! Thanks for watching and commenting Emelie!
"Everyone who isnt rich sure loves to hate them" Well said!!
Yes can be their opinion but doesn't make it true. Most people are too busy running their own lives.
I learned a lot this morning watching this, thank you for saying all these nice things on this awesome video.
Glad you enjoyed it!
@oldmoneyluxury Thank you I loved it.
This society you describe is all but gone, it is greatly missed. Thank you for the video.
It’s an attitude, it’s not just money. The most important thing is long term thinking. The problem arises when the next generation is indifferent to the concept and prefers short term pleasures.
Well said!
This is highly enlighten and educative. What a life. What one takes seriously another one takes it lightly and it doesn't fit in. What a life. Thank you for the exposure.
Charming. Yes the world could use a class in class. Your appearance and behavior says a lot about yourself. Thank you for sharing. Five great tips I'll be sure to implement. 🥰
Thanks for viewing and commenting!
Having good manners, being educated and generous, speaking languages does not necessarily have to do with old money. You may find a lot of examples of all that in middle-class families of intellectuals.
I didn't have the privilege of an college education, money or anything else, but I was fortunate enough to put my kids through parochial school and they have turned out well, have great jobs, and are extremely kind, generous and independent. We don't have major money, but we're okay and we are very much like old money, discreet and giving. So I consider us blessed even though we are far from wealthy.
Perhaps you are wealthy indeed! ❤
This is very intriguing!!
Love Love Love This!! Very educational and a wealth of information. Me personally Love the "Old Money" lifestyle. 🥰
Glad this came through my channel feed. First time seeing this.
Thank you for sharing!!
Glad you enjoyed it!
I worked in private aviation for 5 years and have met a lot of old money. These people are very simple, classy, focused and cordial. They even tip well. New money never tips, tend to be very flashy, sometimes rude when they need something done for them. The differences between old and new money were quite obvious to me. The wealthiest people and nicest people I met were old money. New money barely even wanted to communicate with us. Busy taking selfies and making videos.
Was brought up working class but all of these principles were instilled in me
You have a magical way with words,a gift of gab to dir for. I could listen to you all day. Thank you
Cheers! Thanks
Just my personal opinion:
I not sure if rhetoric is only a gift/ talent!
It is a result of growing up, education, reading books, reading let grow your stock of words, your vocabulary and putting thogether sentences! Read every genre, poems to novels.....
Try it - you will love it - and you will see results😊!
My mother was a teacher😅!
I will definitely take your advice, I was an avid reader a while back and I am getting my mojo back. Good diction sweeps my feet away
Quick Tip - (in regards to journaling ✍️) write down short poems when you become inspired … Then, you can gradually start writing songs … Enjoy! 😄
Definitely for me: philanthropy or service; education value; pivoting to success for self vs others or industry; love timeless clothing.
We are not talking about old coins lodged in your sofa.😂😂😂😂
I have friends that are incredibly wealthy for a couple generations already - they are among my (very few) best friends, and incredibly kind, philanthropic and discrete people ❤
I do place immense value on furthuring education. After an MBA and being a linguist I opted for learning the secrets of classical art on the Aristides online Atelier. Superb choice to help fulfill my dream.
My step grandmother use to wait for a sale when buying expensive clothes. She said never pay full price. She also taught me quality over quantity.
I was once told that, 'the rich spend- but the truly wealthy invest' - & while I'm not exactly rolling in money, I am trying harder to maintain that mindset- to ignore trends & fads, for that which will last, style-wise; classic wardrobe basics, sensible & sound pieces- you can have seasonal flirtations with a couple of things- like tops, but a classic style is never meant to look overly 'dated'- I want to really invest in jewelry, with a handful of pieces that will be timeless (I have some simple pieces, & want to continue on in that vein- I'm not a 'blingy' person by nature - I also want to get some stones that I have, set in classic, understated styles).
Same with my home, though that is harder; it's a fixer-upper, & we don't really have any spare money - I'm not a fan of that almost hospital-like, kind of sterile quality so many 'modern', 'elite' homes have; while I've had to stay within my limited budget with furniture & furnishings, I try to buy real timber furniture where I can- I only have a couple of pieces, but as the chipboard & fiberboard pieces (that were all we could afford) have worn out, I've tried to 'cycle out', as I call it, into pieces that- while a little pricey- aren't going to essentially be rubbish in 5-7 years, taking up space in a landfill - that they can be passed on
If you are a woman and THE RIGHT SORT of wealthy you dont pay for that designer dress you wear on the red carpet,at the charity ball,etc . The designer is only too happy to loan it to you because of all the good publicity he/she will get from the pictures in the media.
It's ironic that the richer you are the more you can get for free,if you choose.
I think wood pieces are a very nice way to bring warmth and timelessness to any home.
And that is why they are affluent because they think of others not themselves... Their families and next generations and their environments. Thank you for sharing. Timeless values to live by. ❤
Thank you for providing a positive light on good people that often make difficult choices💕
Of course!!
This is exactly how I was brought up and I don’t have old money… let’s say it’s old school :)
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Agreed. We had very little, but we were raised this way-discretion and education.
Exactly
I have a great envy of Boston's dead elite - the Brahmin. Because of them, America has fine ivy-league institutions, now under threat due to extremism. My personal style is highly influenced by "Old Money" even though I cannot afford to buy antique furniture.
You need to be so "cool" that your friends and other people you come in contact with see the kind of furniture you have,even if it's charity shop,through the filter of you,so it's cool too!
These days antique furniture costs less than new furniture, on account of changing tastes.
Coins always make sounds, but paper money is always silent. So when your value increases keep yourself silent and humble.
The most important thing is empathy. Empathy that derives from the pursuit of the most profound and essential education - understanding human nature. It’s akin to being an archeologist of the spirit. It’s passed down more by osmosis than anything else.
This is the true meaning of Grace.
The Everyman midwesterner tenants adhered to by my father were : "Be discreet about wealth, don't flaunt good fortune, keep your head down, work hard, don't be boastful or self-aggrandizing, display good manners and use education to communicate well, not to lord above others" were handed down to me. I see the precise opposite on display everywhere - whether rich or poor. The extreme narcissism and "look at me" the self-anointed "queens" in social media, the vulgar displays of wealth and privilege of new money. I cite: JayZ and Beyonce. To name but one of the distasteful many.
Because thanks to social media a LOT of new money today is made by drawing attention. Whatever we 'pay' attention to makes money
Manners and patience are pretty universal values!