Life after 50: What to do when You Feel Like You Haven't Achieved Enough in Your Life
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- Опубліковано 11 гру 2024
- Are you over 50 and feel like you haven’t achieved enough in your life? You’re not alone. We’ve all been there. Turning 50 is a time when many of us look back and think that we haven’t accomplished enough in our life. Sound familiar? But, “I have not accomplished enough” is a vague and self-defeating statement. Paige offers helpful perspective on shifting the way we view our accomplishments and definition of success, and prepare our mental outlook for new and great potential ahead. It is absolutely possible that the best is yet to come!
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Im 54. I hate birthdays because every year I am closer to the end of my life. Only about 10-20, max, good quality years left, and they will fly by. Once people hit 80, they are very old. I am already too old for many things I did back in the 80's- if I did some of that stuff now, it might actually kill me! 😱I HATE getting older. I don't mind "being" 54, in itself, it's the fact that I'm on my way out that upsets me. I'm not at all afraid of dying, I just don't want to. I want to be around, and in good health for 50 more years! And time goes by so incredibly fast now, twice as fast as it used to! I feel like I still haven't started living the life I want to live yet , and that by the time I get even halfway there, it'll be time to go. I also feel 54. I feel the same as I did when I was 34.
I think about this stuff constantly, and it upsets me. I wonder if I'm the only one that feels this way, or if there are any others out there that feel the same? 🤔
I feel exactly the same way your not alone, something i think about everyday
I'm 51. I race motorcycles for fun. Hell ya, I done a lot up to now. I did go thru the self doubt phase, but I geared out and am on a roll now❤. I loved the speaker. So real.
I'm 51 and finishing a year of cybersecurity training in a classroom of 20 year olds.
During this time, I earned 2 certifications, made many friends in the class and have become an unofficial leader.
There is still plenty of fight left in me!
I'm turning 50 in 8 weeks and was considering doing the same. Were you able to find gainful employment after obtaining your training in the field?
@@daymondcain2903 Turned 51 3 months ago been doing the same IT for last 7 years and everyone around me got younger. The older guys I work with all retired a few even died bone cancer at 60, and stomach cancer at 48. My manager was 5 years older he just was let go and replaced with new guy in his 40's. He working on a masters degree 20 year old they hired she has a cyber security. I have the most experience with firewalls yet I know she will be making more money then I do in 5 years before she is 30. I'm one of those guys never went to college just worked my way up in IT. Now I'm afraid to move on to a new job or out of state I'm not marketable. Too old, and not enough education. I just have to take less money maybe that's okay financially I'm doing great been saving and paid everything off. Still I regret not going to college I could now but just don't have the energy I'm a slow learner by books too. Tried to pass some certs last year even in stuff I know hands on really well they ask such stupid obscure questions one never use in real world. I spent almost $1000 taking the same test 4 times was really down on myself didn't tell anyone my wife kept asking why I can't pass it. Her pressure made it worse.
@@Mike-01234 I am sorry. It 's such a shame people aren't appreciated despite all their hard work & service. Praying u' ll continue to be paid well, be happy & have a long , successful career. My husband's an over- worked programmer.
I needed to read that!
Congratulations well done!
Ive been 50, for six months. And feel like Im in free fall. Ive been a mother since 21. All my kids are now grown, and Im finding me again.
We understand how you feel, you are not alone! Enjoy finding you again!! It can be a wonderful process, and we are BIG believers in the best is still ahead!!!
Now you can experience child-free 20s ... A second chance to focus on education, career, music, sport, love.
Wow how are you doing that ?
How’s it going? Xx
I’m right there with you! 😣
I'm 50 Dads passed Mom is still here. The biggest worry for me is My Mom passing and existing on this planet without my most loved ones Mom and Dad. Just thinking about it makes me start to cry :(
God bless you, I totally understand 🙏
Thank you. I feel the same.
I feel the same way…..
I am 50 today and I hope I am the last one so my parents don't suffer losing another child. I am the last child and expect to be the one to handle all of the arrangements for my parents. It makes me sad too and I am bracing myself for how hard this is going to be. You aren't the only one that is left behind
@@karmasutra4774 Cyber hug for you.
58 and very busy living, loving and learning
Good for you Steven!!
Fantastic, important topic that is not talked about enough. I think a lot of people suffer in silence with this feeling of not accomplishing enough because they feel too ashamed to talk about it. It was extremely helpful for me to know I'm not the only one.
Thanks so much for your comment!
I feel the same way
Sometimes people have just truly wasted their lives, haven't accomplished much of anything, or done what they really wanted to do in life- like me. I am that person. I'm 54, and I am not where I want to be, but it's too late now. I took what came to me, I didn't plan anything because I didn't know any better when I was younger. I grew up with zero parenting, which totally affected how my life turned out, too.
Hi Mary,
I'm pretty sure it's never late for anyone.
I don't know your life, but maybe the best event of tour life will happen later.
I just want you to know, you are not alone.
Have a good day
I turned 22 recently and I was feeling inadequate. I happened to stumble upon this video and it was an eye-opener for me as if people in their 50s can have such a positive attitude in their lives then I can certainly look at my life in a more positive way.
Turning 50 and I needed this.
True happiness at any age is having the ability to love yourself, especially if you’re alone.
My wonderful Uncle Jerry died at 59 years old. We included this famous phrase on his headstone: "A successful man is one who has lived well, laughed often and loved much." Is financial success really that important? It's not as though you can take it with you. Yet when people refer to "success" they are usually speaking in terms of finances. But do you know what you CAN take with you? The love and respect of the people whose lives you have touched. In the end that's what really matters.😍
So true!! Love, love, love your comment :-)
@@2ndActTV Thank you!
You are right, always the same bulllllll
RIP to Uncle Jerry. U were blessed to have such a wonderful role model.
@@cswong6102 Thank you very much! 😘
Hi,
Just saying thank you so much for helping me to keep things in perspective.
You are right, I tend to stay focus on negative things, and I have to dramatically change this bad habit.
Please keep going.
Take care.
The problem is , not many want to higher people 50 and up unless you have previous experience
You have a different way of thinking and that gives an indication of affection thank you beautiful lady with a beautiful heart
hire vs. higher. 50 is young. I think it’s all how you present and sell yourself. You have valuable life experience. Age is just a number. Take care. Believe in yourself.
I do relate to this subject... I will be 50 in three months... and seriously had that awakening... and it lead me to such a disappointment... I felt that I was such a loser, the worst mother, horrible sister to my brother and sisters and awful daughter to my parents. I am not on bad path but generally I have not Succeeded ( not really accomplished much) Like having my own business, having a family life or just simply accumulating wealth...;)
My goodness. I thought I was the only one bogged down by feelings of failure after 50.
Whatever you have you've accomplished. 😊
same boat
🙋🏾♀️
I've accomplished a lot in spite of a lot of adversity, but my jealous sister has campaigned against me all my life and has managed to turn my own children against me with lies and manipulation. My children refuse to even speak to me or let me see my grandchildren. I was strongly bonded with my grandchildren and this is devastating to them as well.
I'm so heartbroken I really want to die. I don't know how I can enjoy anything when my own family is hurting me this way. 💔😭
You are lovely ladies with such sweet reminders on what really matters.
I'm 36 and I already feel like I haven't done enough.
Things we have to pursue in Life is , and the rest will follow :
1. Healthy ( Low carbs, High Protein , vitamins , med insurance )
2. Share Knowledge ( Mentoring to young people )
3. Wisdom ( steer the wheel )
4. Enjoy every moment ( surender into God's will )
5. Positive Routinity ( gain Energy , vitality , )
6. Healthy Relationship ( part of your identity , remove toxic relationship )
7. Acomplishment layer by layer ( achievement , make a better neighbourhood )
8. Keep smile and Laughing ( fulfill your Life )
9. Value your Self ( dont compar e to others )
10. Adventure ( short one )
11. Be kind to everyone , and they will respect you
12. True Friends ( even younger ), get rid of those Fake
13. Great SEX ?? ( intimacy , get connected )
14. Spirit , Motivation ( have Goal to help others )
15. Self Control ( yoga , meditation , Let Go )
16. Bound with the Nature ( fresh air , nature sound )
Happiness is simple , as simple as that , let it Flow like a river which never dry
House , car , tittle , whatever it doesnt mean anymore , dont get stuck by it.
why do we have to create a must do list? it adds to the whole pressure. there is no simple guide or manual to life
@@ambberhill1090 its not a must do list, its serotonin trigger list ( the happy hormone )
I think this is so much the case with women who had families too young. IMO, you NEED to find and know yourself before you should contemplate starting a family.
I am 47, I moved two times to different countries, raised (still raising) three kids, built a successful business with my husband , and still I ask myself: where did my life go? My whole life has been about fighting, struggle, patience, working hard. Now what? It's so crazy.
Time to take a deep breath, find some quiet time (even just a few minutes) and regularly reflect on all you've done and accomplished without judgement and comparing yourself to everyone else. This is such a big problem as we get older, and it doesn't have to be!! Make a conscious effort to stop the struggle! YES, you CAN choose to do so!! It all start with committing to change your mindset. The fact that you wrote this comment tells me that you've already started that process! 🤗 (Lots written on this that can help)
@@2ndActTV I am so thankful for your reply. Yes, I will do it! ♥️
This was great!! Thanks❣️
What do single people in there 50's do for fun? I've been struggling to find my smile lately. Ya I live with regret and I am 51 and I'm paycheck to paycheck. Being passed over for younger people. Idk . I do nothing...
you get a cat. I am not being sarcastic.
You're not alone. Same here, but I have to do what I can to pull through. Regret is a terrible feeling.
Great segment. We have to always love ourselves. Ageing is an honor not something to fear.
Thanks so much for your comment Georgia - we of course agree!! :-)
Yes, I ' ve always looked young but haven't for d last 4 years.
I acco plished all i could, i did the best i could in my situations, i have no regrets
Thank you!
Love your hearty laughter💕
its hard to find new friends with same level of everything
Impossible
I have no friend to be honest...i live a lonely life but have started to enjoy it as its more peaceful but sometimes boring
Turning 50 is definitely a big milestone. IMHO, by the time you turn 50, you should be mellowed out and have learned to accept life for what it is. Life is hard. Life is not easy and life is not fair. Hopefully, by 50, you should also have learned that life is about serving God or a Creator or a Higher Power etc. It's now about what you want to accomplish in your 2nd Act of your life and what your legacy will be. Hopefully, you''ll make a difference and pass the baton onto the next generation.
Have always been a positive person but after following my husband to Europe, I 've become less happy. People here are unfriendly & arrogant, everyone looks angry & no one approaches anyone to talk. Even in church or a class.
D foreigners end up being just like them after being snubbed. My countrymen aren't supportive, either.
try that after decades in an abusive marriage with a loser who ruined your finances.
Thank you
Good morning Tammy, how’s it going with you?
OK I'm 50 and worried about money like I'm 21 this video isbull shit to me ... thank you
exactly. tell this to women who have suffered in financially abusive marriages to drunken losers so that they could protect their kids from being left alone with the dad if divorce had happened. I sacrificed my life to protect my kids. I did my job and paid the price, and now I have nothing and am old and depressed with no hope, living in a world that despises older women
We are all free falling Reality and gravity have one thing in common. At some point you will hit the ground.
Awesome talk ladies just found u
So glad you did!! Welcome and thanks for watching Lin!
I turn 50 tomorrow.
Happy birthday!! The fifties were the BEST decade of my life (so far) 🙂 Wishing the same for you!! Thanks for watching!
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Loved this!
Thanks Lana :-)
Are you up to 50 Lana
You have a different way of thinking and that gives an indication of affection thank you beautiful lady with a beautiful heart
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Good morning Lana, how’s it going with you ?
My life has been a huge failure.
No, no, please don't think like that. You still have time to do a lot of things.
@@cookie_dough_hangover Meh. Not that much time. And the past is done. Its hard to see that I can have a satisfying future.
@@someonesomeone25 If you truly believed that you wouldn't have watched this video.
@@cookie_dough_hangover Maybe.
Thank you. Awesome segment!
Glad you liked it! Thanks for watching Regina! 🙂
What if the career, house and nice car have not happened, even though you feel like you have given everything you have, let alone many other things where you fell short?
You need to do something about your sound levels - the audio is whispery in some places, normal in others, and I keep blasting my neighbors raising the volume to hear Paige, then it's loud again when Silke speaks.
You’re right, and we’re not shooting like that anymore. Sorry about that, and thanks for watching!
WE can hear Paige.
I am turning 50 and I haven’t accomplished anything 😔 I need help
Hi Frank, you're not alone, which is one reason we did this video - a lot of us feel that way, because somehow we didn't live up to certain expectations or goals - and those are typically self-imposed. So many people don't give themselves credit for what they actually achieved! We discount so much!! There are a lot of resources out there to "change your mindset" about the accomplishments in your life. Here is an article for starters. And please remember, it's NEVER too late to be the person you always wanted to be ... it's reframing your thinking ... www.huffpost.com/entry/have-not-accomplished-enough_n_5925de0ce4b0265790f49720 My best to you!
Being a man used to laugh at the term midlife crises now I know what it feels like turned 51 this year being 50 is more then half way average age of death is 75 for men I have 25 years left now. Worst thing for me might sound odd is when I look at an attractive girl in her 30's she looks back at me thinks "old man stop looking at me". They don't understand inside I think I look like I did in my 30's until I look in a mirror. I'm not even wanting to be with them just habit I guess to smile a nice looking woman. Just reminds me that no longer a viable mate for girl 20 years younger. I never had a family just never met the right girl I guess I always put it off and I'm the last one the family name of over 130 years will die off with me. I have all the family pictures I wonder what will I do with them my parents are gone, and my nephews are not close to me they don't even talk to my sister their mother. They turned 20 moved out they have no interest in family I don't blame them my sister was not a great mother. My hope is I don't live long I don't want to end up in a nursing home awful places where families dump their burdens. I don't have the money to pay for really nice place. I do have a wife she is an alcoholic only nice to be around her before noon I tried many times to get her to quit she won't even ended up in the hospital more then once. I given up on that can't make someone quit I should leave her she threatens suicide if I leave I feel stuck. I have a good job but lot of regrets all I can say advice to younger people is make your life what you want out of it young don't ever waste a minute of your younger years.
Thanks for your comment and sharing your situation, this is Silke. First, you are not alone! There are thousands of people feeling like you do. Second, it is never too late to start over and change your life! Fifty one is EXTREMELY young - you can have many great years ahead if you choose to do so. I'm not saying it would be easy, but it sounds like it would certainly be worth it. Your advice to "younger people" is correct!! Don't ever waste a minute of your life. Well, I am 61 so you are much younger than I am. I left an extremely unfulfilled marriage 10 years ago and completely turned my life around. And you can too! No, you can't make your wife quit drinking - she has her own demons and you are not responsible for those. At some point, we all need to help ourselves. Really think about that!! I wish you well, and stay safe!!
Hi. Thanks for sharing these thoughts on your life. You'll be surprised that many men, including myself think in a similar way. I'm 50. I think about when I'm 75 who is going to remember me when I'm that age. Most of my friends, parents, uncles and aunties are older, they would have passed by then. I'm actually looking very closely at my younger family - nieces, nephews, and other family members who I can spend more time with. Maybe both of us can look at coaching young people in sports, or other hobbies, or join a hobby group and make some younger friends. Younger women, yes. I feel the same as you described, including looking in the mirror. Like you, I have frequent thoughts that most of the best years of my life are gone, but we do have retirement to look forward to. More time to do the fun things.
I am with you and do not want to live much longer. It is a lie sold to us that we should all be happy about growing older. Not all of us want this or feel this way. I am personally done.
I still wish I was 35 :(
I wish I was too 😔
How old are you now
What it you have nothing but missed opportunities and have no property or wealth. Why death has come for so many who had so much more I do not understand. It’s my turn reaper.
I'm just waiting to die now. There's nothing else to live for. My hope is gone.
Marlo Thomas twin
LOL, someone else said that before, we love Marlo! :-)
why is she the one talking and not the 50 year old?
Well, Paige will love hearing that because she is in her mid fifties! :-)
@@2ndActTV No Way! Ok, well she's had something done but she looks really natural- good job! Maybe the other one has too- perhaps eyelids. Nothing against cosmetic surgery as long as it's done well!
I am sad to see so many people be upset about their lives and lack of accomplishments. Life is about experiences. So anything you have done no matter how good or bad has value. Just being alive is an accomplishment. ❤