How To Get People To Open Up
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Welcome to the BeeFriend course. In today's lesson, I'm going to share with you the mindset I have when trying to have deeper conversations with people. I'm often on the receiving end of many secrets and bottled up emotions from the get go. And this is because of 2 things that I tend to do while talking to others. This is how I get others to open up to me.
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Dentist: Open up please
Me: Sometimes I get sad.
Mark Angelo Sambrano 😂😂😂
Lmaoo
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😂😂😂😁😄😀😃🙁☹️😟😞😢😭
@@user-he3yn1pl2f ti gelas sta elinika tha nomizoun oti les xaxaxa
The hardest thing about opening up a person, is when they start screaming :(
🤣🤣🤣really...you saw some weird ass ppl
ahh... yes. murder
@@jonathanjohn1075 YOUR FUNNY BRO 💀😭
Lol🪚
:D
Most important advice about opening up: be ready for people to judge/reject you. Not everyone can bring themselves to be objective and understanding.
Me: are you okay with open relationship
My friend: no why
Me: I'm okay with this because.....
My friend: SCREAMING CHEATING, BULLY JUDGES ME
I'm not finish conversation but I can't talk to him because he dont try understand and listen. And bully me. I stopped open up
@@iamdoctorcat6347 please don't stop opening up, it's important for your mental health. if you're friend really does that, ask yourself if you really want to keep being friends with them. you might be happier without them
Sometimes you feel like the person is always ready to judge and reject you whatever you say. Or that they don’t take you seriously because they are not used to opening up.
@@itszahra4075 exactly!
Ayyy I'm your 1.1k liker :D
-doesn't care about what society thinks
-explains the importance of 'social value'
Hmmm
That part seemed somewhat contradictory. But maybe, he was just explaining how people tend to percieve others, more than anything, and how that affects opening conversations with weird topica or something.
yes i found that ironic lmao
@@rnbois6346 Exactly! I made one of my classmates open up to me about them being a failed abortion yesterday.
Those things aren't mutually exclusive in any way.
man: **opens up to you and hasn't told anybody**
you: **puts it on internet**
🤣🤣
You have trust issues my dude
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Merrill George r/whoooosh
@@weirdchamp4601 he literally just said he knows that it's a joke.
Also it's not a reddit post.
When you open up, others open up. Remember, though: you can only open the door. Don't get mad if they don't walk through. Same for getting anybody to like you. If they don't respond, move on.
So true.
This needs more attention:)
Million dollar comment
Okay homeless guy watching UA-cam from the McDonalds parking lot
@@austintomkewitz7206 What the hell are you on about?
"Hello I squat on toilets"
"Oh wow I feel like we’ll be best friends !"
How to open up someone
First step - iniciate with small talk
Second step - get a little deeper, but slowly
Third step - talk about things that bothers you, and ask for the other person's opinion
Fourth step - be intimate, just don't rush things, at this step, you should prioritize being genuine
Remember that being smooth and intuitive are keys that will help you opening that door, and the progression should be slow, and remember to listen the person you're conversating. The thing you must prioritize in the entire conversation is being genuine.
For some reason I read the first line as
"Fisrt step - lick them"
I was really confused lmao
First step: initiate with small talk
Second step: get a little deeper, but slowly
Third step: go deeper inside of them and release all of your coem
Man you said exactly what I’ve been saying 💪🏾 it really stems from being genuine. But yeah you hit the nail with this💯💯💯💯
On history class a girl opened a conversation by saying, "have you ever licked a wall" it was a very deep conversation
I've had someone open with "Do you support unionizing workers"
😂
@@MM-vs2et step 1. Be hot
Step 2.reduce brain/verbal filter
Step 3. Ask assumption question
I hope you mean deep in more than one way
I like the: you have more chance to die by cow than by shark
“I actually squat on the toilet”
*Finally.. someone who understands me*
Kisenon I do it too
People at my country do but I don't and they think I'm weird.
i do it before. but now I dont cuz its tiring and i might break the toilet lol
Where is jschlatt?
Me too...
I like that you address the "social value" aspect. How certain things can land differently depending on who they come from, and some advice isnt a one size fits all type of deal.
I just realized that that's why my roommate and I had a deep connection right from the start. We both did those things. My strength is opened up by telling weird stories and being honest about who I am, his strength is listening very closely (he's extremely attentive, something I have to pay more attention to)
The scary part about opening up is when they judge and avoid you after the conversation
But just think for a second: does it strongly affect you if someone avoids you? If it does, then don't worry man, you're you and you can do how you please (but obviously no murder lol) and other bad stuff nono lol sorry im just trying to help in the best way i can
Damn, i haven't thought about this
@@emmahart9715 dude you really disd help. Sometimes I limit my creativity and my childlike personality just because I am afraid of peoples ideas about me. BUT I REAAALLY LOVE BEING THAT WAY. Your comment surely did help people like me. Thank you for commenting dis loge ya take care💙
@General relativity oof hey there hope you are safe in this pandemic :) Damn i had forgotten about my comment xD So, from the beginning i was very cautious of everything i told them because i didnt want to be misunderstood (i apologize but i cant share much of what had happened). I was always careful with my words and the reason why i decided to confront them was because i noticed some shady behavior on their part. I never attacked them, on the contrary i tried to be civil with them and asked them if they had any problems with me but they reacted in a very inappropriate manner (i tried to reason with them but one ignored me and the other was really immature and insulted me for no reason) I know that the lack of contex isnt helping but i can only say that i did have a valid reason for the confrontation and the way the other friend reacted (the one who insulted me) told me everything i needed to know about her actual view of me and my situation :(
There are other people to open up to, that one person is not everyone
Omg, It works! I followed these tips and I got a person to open up about them being a serial killer.
Esther V. Kinda what Ted Bundy did 😍😍
Esther V. when the comments r funnier than the video
@@benjaminhaynes8032 I don't think the video was meant to be funny
:0
Nice
This is something I've realized I do unconsciously. I have never understood why people suddenly open up to me about so private stuff even though I haven't even known them for long. My next step is to learn how to actually respond to someone suddenly opening up cause rn I get really overwhelmed and I don't know how to properly answer.
The dude who told him bout his fiance watching this: 😳
Me: *breathes*
Everyone: "I had a horrificly traumatic childhood"
Annie A breathed in my perimeter, I feel happy!
ah yes. the shonen protag personality
Nobody:
Improvement pill: so I don't actually sit down on toilets, it turns out that's not how we're biologically designed to do it.
Explains Indian toilets
But he is right y'know
I already knew that and I always use to do it and my family would laugh at me for doing it.
I also don't like the cold seat touching my butt. However, I also don't care to disrobe and squat.
I'm gonna do it next time I need to at home just because then I can.
As a half Japanese/Irish child me and my brothers did squat a lot to play in the dirt. I cannot squat as well as I could then. I'm guessing it's like bicycle riding. I'll be able to get right back to it once I try.
I place a wide, thin wad of tissue at the center of the toilet before I squat so I don't get splash up. I also came up with this idea as a kid lol. As a bonus, it also helps to avoid smear marks. Oh, and also the second the turd hits the water be sure to flush immediately to mitigate the smell and if done right, nobody would ever even know you took a shit in the first place.
As a person who rarely opens up I find it annoying and even more hard to open up when people try to hard to get me to open up. Like even if I know they aren’t being harmful it’s still difficult.
This is exactly why every time I try to talk to someone in person it's always so awkward!!!! It's so sad to finally leave the house after quarantine just to be scared to socialize
"reduce your filter.. show youre comfortable with expressing yourself"
me, with severe ADHD and zero filter: *ah so this is why people feel very comfortable around me*
I have adhd, but i filter literally everything before i say anything, which is y i dont talk to people and try avoiding any social interaction, i only open up to people who r close to me (close friends) ,not even my parents
SAME like everything i say is unfiltered
TRUE, i would've meet someone and randomly tell them abt how i swallowed a coin and then pooped it out afterwards
For real
Can we make a club of people just like us lol
I feel you bro
"... people know you have friends" .. well, I'm already doomed :D
Ayyy lmao. Same here xD
Same lmao
Substitute act friendly and ask them for little favors like lending you a pencil or something silly like that
😢
Damn rip
This video: *Exists*
The therapist friend: *rigorously takes notes*
Thanks for this! I got a friend of mine to open up to me just recently. It was touching and heart warming to know that she felt comfortable sharing something she doesn't want anyone to know, and trusts me to keep it a secret.
Pill low key believes in aliens
The evidence is overwhelming, so yea me too
pillowkey
Don't most people
Tbh, if humans are real, then aliens should be real too. There can’t be only one planet that can withstand life.
@@ctrlzme.6448 also different creatures and organisms my need different enviroments just like different animals maybe theres living species on planets that would be un habtiable for humans
1.Lower your filter. This will make others believe that you can't be any crazier than them.
2.ask assumption questions. Pick up on cues and ask questions based off those and what interests you about them. It's okay to be honest.
This is my way of engraving these lessons into my noggin :)
jokes on you, people open to me because i am most definitely crazier then them
@@e.m.3074 I bet im crazier
@@fallentitan7704 mental health is not a competition my guy
@@fallentitan7704 No, I'm craziest
@@e.m.3074 Said nobody ever
Omg I've been doing these things for a while & I didn't know how exactly i improveed myself & it's so nice to see it being talked about and put into actual words
me: Opened up about myself to people I trust
then I either get blackmailed or bullied
And they tell everyone about it..
and they would use that to bring you down
Maybe something a bit less personal, like about how clouds and stars share a commonality of being in the sky!
(Based on a true story because i literally can't think of any other examples, i'm sorry xD)
Me: Can't wait to make people open-
My social anxiety: Nope.
I can't agree more with you!!!
Si eu :(
@Dashi
Do you think i do that on purpose?
Same, I try to tell someone about the things I care about I remember what happened after telling someone about what I care about that one time in 4th grade and I still blame 4th grade and probably shouldn't.
@@somebodylikesbacon1960
I'm sorry to hear that...take: ❤...a bit of love from me to everyone (i think we all need some) 🤗
I needed this. The older I got, the more anxiety I gained, and the less I felt comfortable socializing with people. I have NEVER had a filter as a child and I was perfectly fine doing weird crap and making a fool of myself to have fun and be childish, but I lost this trait as I got older and stopped being able to talk to people because I felt uncomfortable being myself. This video really helps me to gain back what I once had.
I have the same problem, I hope one day I go back like the old me
I have the exact same problem
Same... I was not even able to put it into words :(
@@anassjebali5684 u are me
Happened the same, felt like i had much more friends and conversations when i was a kid compared to high school and nowadays. It's okay to be mature but sometimes we have to go back and pick up what we left behind, what we value the most about ourselves, that spark that once made us become happy somehow
Thank you for this, I’ll try it and hope for the best. I rlly want people to open up to me, I want to be able to support my friends and let them know they can trust me
That reducing filter thing, you mentioned it in another video about how to use is get rid of awkward silences, and I have been using it ever since and it does really help the conversation to flow, all thanks to you.
This is great. I hate small talk. I love deep, bonding conversations. I will definitely try this in my search to find a friend. Thank you 😊
Agreed!!! Tried to learn from my extrovert friends , but in the end I still think small talk isn't suitable for me to use. I dislike it! Especially if it makes up most of your conversation.
I beat my wife now talk to me.
@@MissCaptainStrange yes I let her win a game called "sorry" every two years the rest of the time I beat her
I'll never understand what's so bad about casual conversations. You shouldnt expect to have a deep conversations with dozens of strangers.
@@trombonetribute6433 Exactly!
it's much easier to tell some "secrets" to someone who you don't know that people don't have a business to share this information to others or judge
Yep, cuz those people don't know who you are talking about, haha
Yessir, sounds right
Thanks man. Been trying for so long to let this girl open up to me. Used your tips and she finally opened up her legs. *Subscribed*
DUDE! This worked immediately for me. I talked with strangers and people that I know and I was able to connect emotionally with everyone! Thanks so much! It changed my life!
Seriously 😮 or sarcasm 😂
I'm watching this so that I know when people are trying to get me to open up and I can stop all of their efforts
lol samedt ☠️
It’ll help you to open up tho. Trust me
@@mattb1568 its a joke tho, I have no friends to open up to lol
smart
@@mattb1568 True but don't force it. It's even more unhealthy.
My friend's friend quite literately called me a "9 seconds best friend" because how in nine seconds she said "I feel like i can tell you anything"
You're a legend haha! how do you do it? 😭
Share us some tipsss
I'm assuming you are quiet?
Answers is just respond in mid conversation like: _hmm really okay_
GREAT POINT ABOUT THE "VALUE" THING.
This video just blew up my mind in so many different ways. I'm liking a girl on school, and even though I felt this kinda "opening" with her, I wanted her to feel the same. I never knew how to really talk to her, now for the first time I think I can, really appreciate man.
Most people don’t want to hear you talk too long about your own life or interests at first. It’s natural, everyone is guilty of it because people are inherently more self centered. But nobody likes the guy that dominates the conversation and ignores your thoughts to talk more about themselves. And everybody likes the guy that listens to what you have to say. So be the guy that asks questions and makes the other person open up to you while you make comments about whatever they’re talking about while trying to flatter them and boost their confidence. Makes conversation a lot smoother and both people more happy.
Yep, this is truth
True, something I really have to work on. I tend to overshare and not get to an end🙄
Makes me feel guilty af whenever it happens (I usually realize it after the convo ends), I hope I'll be able to improve that soon
@@strivingfornewhorizons9281 bruh this is me
It’s hard bc im simply trying to keep the convo going- but it ends up with me talking nonstop
Carnegie rule
*This here is a great tool to live an influential life*
Indeed
A little to influential, I must say...
lmao my classmate’s influence just uses it for her own gain I hate the fact that she’s like that
Thanks for posting this. Now I know what to look for when talking to people so I'm not tricked into talking too much.
This is a great video. I've noticed that people open up to me pretty quickly which will come in handy as a future healthcare provider. It also helps that I never shy away from sharing strange stories about myself haha
"people always tell me their deepest secret, even if we just met"
"guys I poop in squat position, it rly cool"
🏆
*Indian toilets intensifies*
2:21 My immediate question would be: Have you broke a toilet doing that?
People break seats all the time doing this.
Ive been in places that have to put signs up saying don't stand /squat with a diagram.
I do that because I don't want to have cramming poop, that's lt
I broke the two toilets in my house, but is so much better to poop this way
I use the trash bin that's right next to the toilet
my first question is: has he broken his bones sitting like that? i mean, just a slip and-
I love your art style, it’s so soothing for me.
Even though I have few friends, they are open with me and tell me things they might not usually tell others. In fact, this is nothing to be proud of, but I am very happy that I was able to help, even if it was simple, by supporting, encouraging and advising them, and even listening is enough sometimes.
Ask deep questions, don't judge and just listen. Nobody likes to share intimate stuff so then someone can critic or give you advice.
First thing is to listen.
Its so hard to start a conversation though
but then they take it as a way for them to talk on forever
@@guanedits6349 Mmm true
@@amansafeer2347 At this point I'm a professional listener lol
Ah, I can remember, when I told my friend a weird thing I tried one day. he didn't open up, instead, he told everyone in class about it and the whole class mocked me about it for several weeks. Nice.
Jackarolax from what I can tell, and this is just my guess, it sounds like that may have been not the best situation to have a deep conversation and opening up time. Maybe try something similar, but alone and in a more serious setting? Or maybe your friend just wasn’t being nice, as well as your classmates, that didn’t sound very nice either. I’m not actually sure, but that’s just what I could think of to try and help. Oh and maybe also try deepening your relationship with your friend beforehand by sharing things like that over time (hopefully without him going off and telling everyone else so they can mock you) and then try to get him to open up. Or maybe just doesn’t get it and doesn’t take what you say to heart or seriously. I really don’t know, sorry, just trying to help
@@alexale665 Thanks for the attempt to help, but I think that he is just not mature enough (me and him are 15) and I always tend to have really superficial conversations with him, even though I sometimes try to deepen the conversation. He basically just points out "funny" or stupid things in people or in other things. At first, its reslly funny, but then it starts to wear off and is really annoying. But I'm now in whats called in Germany "Obetstufe". Its the 11th and 12th Class and everyone has a customized schedule, that is based on what lessons he picked and which of them he left out. That leads to Classes beong torn apart and luckily me and my "friend" dont picked the same lessons, so we dont see each other that often again. I think, Im also starting to get to know better friends in the 11th class.
@@jackarolax5770 I feel you
@@jackarolax5770 bin in genau der gleichen situation
@@user-fz3ip3ke8pwoher weißt du, dass ich deutsch kann?
This is great as they will see you as a trusted person they can open up too and probably become friends with you!
You're helping me with both my relationships and my English. Thanks a lot!
Be yourself and dont care what other people think and you're filter will come off.
Sydney Shorltz Problem is, I can’t be myself. I really care what other people think about me and it makes me scared and sad and it stops me from doing things just because I don’t know what people will say about me.
@@ace-4634 LMAO you just opened up 😂 (It's not a bad thing)
Matt Writesalot In the internet im okay with it because nobody knows who I am but in real life.... yikes. ;-;
@@ace-4634 I have friends who i became friends with super quick even I was surprised how quick and deep our relationship got (no homo) just be yourself even if your weird that dosent mean ppl wont be your friends if they see you dont care what others think and your true to yourself trust me they'll open up
@@ace-4634 btw I'm the serious type so it grew on me how fast I became friends with some ppl i honestly dont even know who opened up first but yea
I’m the person WHO ain’t opening up to my friends, i feel like a bad friend BuT i just can’t do it 👁👄👁
It's better to open up. One way or another, the bottle of emotions will explode. I believe that maybe by taking small steps, you can fully open up.
You're gonna need to open up if you wanna maintain strong connections with your friends. Otherwise, your friends will eventually drift away.
@@endlesssalt5887 Thanks Sherlock, I haven't thought about that yet! I am so lucky to read your comment (:
@@insecurebee Lol why you gotta be rude about it tho.
What, how are they like actually your friends if you are not yourself my problem is that I don't use my filter with my friends but I do it with everyone else so I don't end up making new friends
this is very accurate! i did notice people opening up to me more often than ever since i started to live abroad. now it makes sense its just my conversation style. I hope ill get my friend to open up today, i really love him. really love.
A year later, how did it go?
Hi Improvement Pill! I know you'll likely never see this comment among the many that you must get regularly, but it's been only one day and I feel like seeing this video made me change for the better (with a little extra help of mustering up confidence!) so I wanted to come back to this video and thank you very honestly.
It was a small and simple tip, but by asking one assumption question I got an entire conversation out of it with my best friend just today - despite the fact I've hardly been able to make topics between the two of us, and that's been making me sad until about an hour ago. Genuinely thanks again, for sharing your effective advice with everyone who greatly needed it~ ❤️❤️
How to make people open up and make new friendships?
*Be attractive and have friends*
Uff
No.
@@pepperdayjackpac4521 but also yes
@@kennychallis1 lel yed but actually no but yes
Well yes but actually no,
Everything that was stated was something that COULD be improved upon. So don't be too intimidated by the value given.
it’s true.
My weird dilemma, is that I'm an introvert whose general body language nd lack of judgement invites ppl to share their life story with me. I definitely agree that the context of ur mode of thinking nd conversational topic makes a difference cuz I get bored of the everyday safe conversation
I’m the same way lol. People know I’m not surface level so they just jump in
I'm glad that it's not just me.
Comment from three years ago, but I feel the same way, I mean, what are the chances that when I'm in the mall, if I don't have my cell phone at hand, they talk to me? and I am severely introverted when the people on the buses are with me and I am there looking at the window all calm, they begin to talk to me. And they absolutely grab my attention. (From asking for the time, until a guy who sold tangerines on the road tried to make a sale with me even when I said NO. Several times)
This is literally my brother lol
And then I'm the ADHD one with overt body language and very talkative haha
3:09 is the part where it says "if you're out of shape or poor, don't even bother". That's great. That judgmentalism is why a lot of people off themselves.
be open, transparent and your authentic self who brings value, supports others and isn't afraid to share your weaknesses
But then they ghost you 😖
Don't share all your weaknesses with others. The world is a cruel place, it's not all butterflies and people are just gonna like you more and support you more. You can however open up about your weird traits, things that bother you, etc. Revealing your deep dark weaknesses to too many people will generally lead to them someday taking advantage of you when you're not close to them.
Squat On The Toilet Party 2020
Brick 😂
Brick lmaooooo
I’ll be there, written it on the calendar
Dates my man?
WOO
I’ve always held the opinion that small talk is the killer of burgeoning friendships, and that if you really want lasting friendships you need to talk and share things that are real. Emotions, conflict, and happiness these are all experiences that we share and shouldn’t be shy’d away from in conversation
I got the opposite problem. Pretty much as soon as I meet people they dump their life story on me. Sometimes it's lovely, other times I don't have space for it. Some days, it feels like a curse. I don't really get too vulnerable with strangers like I used to. I like to think I don't really 'open the door,' rather they get a certain feeling from me and feel invited in, when really there has been no express invitation. It's weird.
I experience this as well. They also don't open the door for you at all, either. It's festive.
@@popsicIes are we just human door mats or what. I don’t get it.
This is what i was thinking about just now, u reading my mind or smthing lol
Funny, I got surprised by his upload.
Same same
It’s called synchronicity, nothing is a coincidence.
Same
Dude I also squat on the toilet seat
Didn't know I was doing the right thing😂😂😂
You didn't know, but it felt right didn't it?
...that question came off way weirder than I intended...
@@zzdesolatezz lol😂
I would like to see LoL
Same, it just feels more natural
Try squats toilets then. A lot of seat-toilet is quite fragile for holding up adult human and will break eventually
thanks! these videos help me towards my career, im trying to become a Psychologist. All these videos are helping me achieve my career
HOW AMAZING IS THIS CHANNEL!!!
In social psychology, we call this reciprocal self-disclosure, and it's how relationships naturally develop. When you first meet somebody, you start with small talk, then start asking each other questions or volunteering information about yourself that is increasingly more personal (eg. first you ask about career and kids, then you discuss opinions about a superficial topic, then a more meaningful topic, etc). When one person in the conversation discloses information about themselves that is personal, this makes the other person feel more comfortable in disclosing something personal about themselves, which encourages person 1 to continue disclose things that are increasingly personal, and that's how people go from strangers to friends.
It seems that Improvement Pill's strategy is to fast-forward this natural process by disclosing something very personal from the get-go. Note that it doesn't necessarily have to be something social unacceptable, this strategy should still work if you disclose anything that is pretty personal. That said, the reason people don't usually do this is that disclosing personal things feels vulnerable, and most people don't want to put themselves out there like that without the build up in the conversation that I described earlier, that assures them that their partner will react favourably to their self-disclosure. Only very confident people who actually don't really care what people think would be able to do this, which probably isn't most of us.
you just saved me seven minutes of my valuable time thanks
I just realized that I'm always the listener for my friends and I never open up to them cause I have trust issues and not act trust
Them
Same.
Like this vid is about how to open up OTHERS but in my case, I'm the one that needs to open up, but idk how to do it, cuz sometimes i feel like my friends talk more than they want to listen, or maybe I'm the one that doesn't talk...idk😞
Exactly! Most of my friends tend to open up and they tell me their problems, secrets and stuff. But now I'm realizing that I actually never opened up to any of them.
this is the channel I never knew I needed
I started doing this instinctively a couple of years ago and it works like magic
I always wondered why random new acquaintances would just open up, but your reasoning behind why makes a LOT of sense
My crush has all these tips perfected, he just knows exactly how to talk to people and how to get people to feel relaxed around him. I hardly talk to anyone because I’m so shy and anxious all the time, but this guy always knows exactly how how make me open up, he’s very encouraging and listens intently to everything I say and gives the best advice... He’s very popular and loads of people enjoy hanging around him because he’s just so easy to relax around. He can say the most random funny things and it instantly lets everyone know he’s always being completely himself so he’s someone people can trust opening up to. I really want to be like that, and this video definitely highlights his key aspects and explains it well. I lack confidence and would love to be able to just say random funny things to just break the ice with people and be that person everyone trusts enough to open up to.
Wow this really does help. No wonder it kept on showing on my recommendations even though i don't watch it. Thank u sm :)
Awesome video. I've been on a psychology video binge lately and ended up with a similar conclusion on the "assumptions" section. Wish i had just watched this video first!
Me, about to be a freshman: *takes notes*
"Not my friends my coworkers not even anyone"
Posts it on youtube for the whole world to see
Thank you for making this quality content available.
I met situations when people opened up on very early stages of conversations and they started to avoid me after. I knew I didn’t make them feel judged or something but the fact that I knew them from the hidden side made them feel scared of me in some way. I know their deepest secrets and therefore I have a power over them
Person: hey hows it goi
Me: I LIKE TO SQUAT ON TOILETS
I’ve been trying to become friends with people, and realised that the thought of too many ingenue friends is crowding and randomly useless.
I realised what to talk about is what my passions are, because if it’s deemed as acceptable by at least one person, then I would feel a lot more comfortable than trying any small talk (as this video mentioned).
It isn’t thanks to this video that I realised this, but it is thanks to this video that I feel more empowered with my ability to make rationalised decisions with no limits of ‘realism’.
This is exactly me. Hahaha!
This answered my long time question on why people always can easily open up to me even if we barely know each other.
hhh ive literally been doing this exact thing most my life and i 100% agree! especially if you are more widely known to be a open and non-judgmental person.
there are two types of people then, the ones that first talk to you expecting you to "do worse" than they expect, mostly to be suprised by how easily they do loosen up (especially if you tell them about how you do it, eg. getting people out of their shell), or the ones that come into the conversation with the mindset people that know you have told them about! it makes it a little easier to get a conversation going when they do the latter, but i do it for the people, since i wanna meet them, so i guess i dont really mind either :D
Im gonna start doing this. It's scary but I want to change man.
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Can you update us on how it goes? (:
Any updates yet?
Any update yet😐
As someone who started doing this, nothing has really change, but hey, it takes time and we have to be consistent.
2:38 no, let's talk about that instead
This was in my recommended and I realized I've been doing this naturally for years
thanks to beefriend course i can now properly evade any and all attempts of other people to crack me up
I heard a scalpel works pretty well
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Ah, yes.
Dude shotguns do it quick
I’m so glad you talked about when it’s okay to reduce your filter vs being filterless, because there are so many people I’ve talked to who don’t have filters and it produces a very negative effect on me and the people around them. So thank you for clarifying that difference so that everyone isn’t just running around without a filter haha 😆
I'm 26 and only now I'm realizing all of this. Actually listening to people feels amazing.
this video saved my life ,legend
That's exactly what I've been doing for years without even knowing it
I realize a while ago after analizing the way i acted in a specific situation! its great to know about it, that way i can actively make people feel safe around me :D
Now I get why a lot of my high school friends told me secrets (not gossip, they liked to gossip about each other, I wasn't interested in tea) and one of my English institute friends came out of the closet to me in a party. I consider myself an introvert and can't go further than small talk without getting socially exhausted, but I guess the small interactions and me listening to others was all I needed to be trustworthy! I'm glad people can count on me when they need to get something out of their chest :)
I'm thankful for this channel
Cuz I'm an introvert girl and this can help 🥺♥️
Got this in vid inmy recommendation after not having many friends and getting bffzoned. Thank u for the vid!!
That was the shortest 7 minutes of my life
Im really hoping we can see you bro. Ur awesome.
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I do too. :)
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I got so valuable information. I’ll try to talk strange things next time. Thank you for making this video.
I feel like opening up to people is based on our vibes with each other, sometimes i overshare and get bad rumours about me,i made a friend a few weeks ago,and she opened up so fast to me,her vibes were different,we didnt have awkward silence since she kept leading the conversation,saying weird stuff about herself and not being scared to embrace it,ever since i started a convo with her,she immediately started talking to me like we're friends for ten years like that,once she opened up to me,our friendship had no bad Vibes❤
What's interesting is, instead of just learning, this video rather reminded me of a few important things I used to do, and how I used to do it. Thanks Pill, I think I'm getting back chunks of an old me I left along the road haha.