Couple Therapist answers your burning questions about love, intimacy, breakups and marriage.
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- Опубліковано 10 лип 2024
- Hope you guys enjoy and get as much out of this conversation with my mum as I did. Through years of experience as a couple therapist she has so much knowledge regarding love, intimacy, breakups and marriage that it felt like a real privilege to e able to ask her your questions! Sending you all so much love!
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ME: / joyishhhh
MUM: / tamarbenhur
📍timestamps:
00:00 - Intro
1:58 - How to best navigate an intimate non-monogamous relationship?
3:37 - How can you help your partner understand and respect your boundaries and vice versa?
5:32 - How to have balance and not allow your partner to dominate your life?
7:40 - What to do when you‘re unable to hold space for your partner when they are struggling?
8:57 - How to ask for things from your partner/ not feel guilty expressing your emotional needs?
10:43 - How to keep a long distance relationship alive and how to deal with struggles and one time cheating?
14:06 - How do you know for certain you are in the right place personally to meet someone?
14:59 - How to open up to people and be less anxious during a conversation?
16:33 - How to overcome body image issues that impact enjoyment of intimate moments with a partner?
18:22 - How to not feel jealous/ resentful of friends in relationships when you‘re single?
21:06 - How nit to fail into anxiety if someone doesn‘t show their emotions as much as me?
23:05 - How to forgive an ex?
24:12 - Can a relationship work long term with a relatively big difference in sex drives?
24:59 - Constructive ways to deal with having very opposing opinions to your partner on heavy topics
26:01 - How to build trust when you have trust issues?
26:56 - What does your mom think about getting married at young age? - Навчання та стиль
your channel is my safe place
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I swear I could listen to your mum speak all day. Such a soothing voice and wise woman.
Can this become a regular segment 😭 I feel like I just went to therapy without going to therapy. Thank you for this, both of you! Please never stop being so authentic, Joy. You are making such a difference 💕
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Hi friend
1:58 How to best navigate an intimate non-monogamous relationship?
3:37 How can you help your partner understand and respect your boundaries and vice versa?
5:32 How to have balance and not allow your partner to dominate your life?
7:40 What to do when you‘re unable to hold space for your partner when they are struggling?
8:57 How to ask for things from your partner/ not feel guilty expressing your emotional needs?
10:43 How to keep a long distance relationship alive and how to deal with struggles and one time cheating?
14:06 How do you know for certain you are in the right place personally to meet someone?
14:59 How to open up to prople and be less anxious during a conversation?
16:33 How to overcome body image issues that impact enjoyment of intimate moments with a partner?
18:22 How to not feel jealous/ resentful of friends in relationships when you‘re single?
21:06 How nit to fail into anxiety if someone doesn‘t show their emotions as much as me?
23:05 How to forgive an ex?
24:12 can a relationship work long term with a relatively big difference in sex drives?
24:59 constructive ways to deal with having very oposing opinions to your partner on heavy topics
26:01 How to build trust when you have trust issues?
26:56 What does your mom think about getting married at young age?
If i forgot a question please tell me:)
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Thanks!!!! ^^
Thank you so very much!!! You are the best
Your mum seems so wise and lovely. I love the videos that you two do together ❤️❤️
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The part where your mom talks about being jealous of couples.. "it's not because you don't want them to have that you're jealous because YOU want to have that" WOW.
I felt the same way. THE WISDOM.🙏❤️
I guess it would be more a feeling of being envious rather than being jealous ^^
Your mum is stunning! This was also such a refreshing video :)
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"vulnerability is the biggest measurement of courage" w o w that will probably stay in my mind forever
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When your mom talked about the betrayal situation... wish i could show that to my ex, the way he should have trated me instead of making me feel bad about being hurt and triggered, not even a month after the thing happened. i cant 😭 you're both great!! also the answer about forgiveness 💛 (yes we need more!!)
I feel for you. I can only imagine how much that would’ve hurt. Sending you love❤️❤️❤️ so glad you enjoyed the video xxx
MY TWO FAVOURITE QUEENS 🥺🥺🥺✨
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Love these Podcasts-Videos, where you can listen and watch out the window and let your mind wander✨
Naw!! That means so much xxxx
I am actually so surprised about you saying people were angry about the way you cut her or something. I feel like you two have such a strong and special bond, we can feel it through the screen, it felt like you were always finishing each other's thoughts. Beautiful. I absolutely loved the way you talked about everything, so so helpful and magical. I don't know if you thought about this, but I think it would be really important and helpful too if we could continue this conversation while explicitly including LGBTQ+folks. I appreciate the way I felt really included by the terms you used throughout this video. Thank you for showing such an inspiring mother and daughter relationship! ❤️
Naw thank you so much ❤️❤️ means a lot. Thanks for bringing that up. I’m definitely going to try and keep that in mind when filming next video. Much love xxx
This is exactly what I needed rn. You & your mom have such a calming vibe & wonderful perspectives. I could listen to you guys all day.
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I think we would LOVE for this to become a regular thing on your channel. It’s great advice that’s given to us in a very gentle way and I think it’d be extra useful for those that don’t have access to therapy or are in a position where they’re not ready for therapy. It’s a good way to be exposed to it without it being too startling or scary ❤️ I’ll keep some of the stuff she’s said with me forever as some of it was very valuable to me and something I’ve needed to hear for a long time. Love you guys !
That means so much. Thankyou ❤️❤️❤️❤️
My mom passed away a few years ago and your mom reminds me so much of her. Brings me comfort❤️
Sending you so much love❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
“there has to be an understanding that betrayal of trust is experienced as trauma” ❤️ thank you
beyond excited to finallly watch this! your mom seems to be such a sweet person 🥺
EDIT: „moving from performance into experience“ - thank you, i really needed to hear that.
if you have boundaries you also know who really respects you
thank you for this video, your mom seems like such a sweet human!!
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I don’t comment very often but I wanted to say thank you so much to you and your mum for this video it was so insightful and will have comforted a lot of people like myself :)
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I needed this. I needed this so much. You and your mom are both absolutely amazing and beautiful people. Your mom just saved me I think, my question wasn‘t in the video but through another question I heard what I needed to hear. Thank you so so much ♥️ Lots of love to everybody! 🥰
That makes me so happy. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Wow your mum is such a beautiful person! Outside and it seems like inside too. Great video :)
I’ve never clicked on a video so fast. You and your mom are so loving and wise. This was amazing❤️❤️
We need part 2!!!
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CRAZY USEFUL OMG! when your mum talked about being in a relationship where they can be more reserved and you are working out their feelings for them, i literally had an epiphany damn..so incredibly insightful
You both are so amazing! Your calm voice and your mom’s words made me emotional 🥺🤍
Your mum is so wise 🌸
Your mom is so adorable! I love all your videos so so much everytime🥺❣️thank you!
Love this kind of video, thank you for making one! ❤️
This was a great video. Your mom is awesome. She is so calming.
Listening to your mom truly heals my hearth and mind, thank you so much.
You guys are so perfect❤️
I am so glad that I found your channel! Thank you for your amazing advice
Loved everything about this video. So calming and helpful. Love you and your mom!
Thank you! Your mum is so lovely!
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i definitely had a good time watching this! very interesting, deep and useful answers, thank u very much 🌸
also you and your mother have an amazing mother-daughter relationship, its nice to see two great women in such a comfort and support with each other 🤍
You guys are the best🤍 I think we all appreciate your words and advice so so much☀️
So lovely to watch you two...And also such great advice ✨🤍
i love these videos. you two are so helpful and kind❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love these!!
Joy, I just watched this video and I feel like it would be so lovely to see another video with your mom! (And you obviously☺️) and everything you’ve learned, ways you’ve grown from travelling etc and just life chats because you both are very wise. Beautiful dynamic between you both🥰💛
i feel so comfortable in your chanel, your videos are really helpful. Love the dinamic you and your mom have, you both build such a safe place and this talk is extremely important and absolutely helps me grown. Hope to see more os this here :)💖 you both are blessings
So divine to see you two together and hear Tamar's wisdom! And so impressed with Heidi's crocheting skills - the top looks gorgeous on you Joy 💕
How good is the top!! Thank you 💕💕💕
i’m so down to see another one of these videos ! Your content always makes me happy, you give off such good energy ! and i really admire you and your mum☺️
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wow i really needed this, i’m super stuck in my relationship and this helped me so much. thank you so much for being such a safe place for me :)
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This was amazing! So glad I found your channel xx
More plzz! You and your mom are amazing!
Such good advice!! Your mom is so kind :)
Loved this sm
Yes please more of this! ❤️ It’s so helpful
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Thank you so much for such an informative video. I'm pretty sure that my relationship would definitely go in a better direction. This honestly made me feel a bit more confident, and taught me somethings extremely important. Thank you for this
Love listening to your mom's advice, she has such a nice calming voice!!
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This was amazing!
I got advice I didn't even know I needed 🙏🏼! You are both amazing, thank you💕
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I wish it never ended, this video is what I didn't know I needed, I find it really helpful, so thank you from the bottom of my heart 💖🙏🏻
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I absolutely loooove this video! I adore those vibes
Love your momma, i could listen to her all day!
manifesting a part 2
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It was such a needed video, thank u !!! And at beginning, when you talk about the last video with your mum, it was absolutly stunning how you talk about your behaviour and the critic of some people. I didn't think that you interrupted her a lot, but when you said that you try to not interrupt her, you show such a wonderful behaviour of dealing with critic. That behavior is so rare on UA-cam. Lots of love from Germany!!! I live for your videos
Thank you so much❤️❤️ I appreciate it xxx
JOYYY IM SO HAPPY I FOUND YOUR CHANNEL TODAY!!! I’ve been working on myself so so much lately, and it’s been hard to sometimes stay aligned with what I want or even KNOW what I want sometimes. I love your channel and your journey and what you discuss on here. The way you approach life and relationships and self care is so beautiful!!!! I’m so grateful you share this with us
My heart!!❤️🥺✨🙏💐
i dont' think that you have idea how much you changed my view for life since i started following you and i appreciate you so much for that ❤️❤️❤️❤️
That makes me so happy 🥺❤️ thank you!
Your Ima is a fountain of wisdom! These definitely helped me gain perspective and insight on all relationships- not only relationship related ones. Thank you both!
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Some of her advice blew me away... such wise words. Thank you and your mother so much for this video!! Would definitely like a part 2 (and 3 and 4 and...)🥰
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This video was amazing! Would love to see more❤️
💛 loved it and thank you and your mum for spending the time to help us all out basically for free :)
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I really needed this. The part where she was talking about not knowing how to translate what our partner asks us into action...I wish I knew this months ago, it would have saved me a relationship. Thanks Joy! Love all your vids
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I loved it!!! So helpful
This is so insightful, even if I didn't experience the exact same things, it's really nice to think about and be aware of.
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you guys are so inspirational..... I can't! Your mum is the cutest!!
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Heavy and brilliant qs. Id say the answers did the equal justice too!
Thank you for this video! I could really connect with the things you said and I love the way you two talk
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Joys videos are so soothing and comfortable 🥰
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What an amazing video! Just wanted to say that I decided to start journaling because of you! Like I found that writing down all my feelings is really helpful ❤️
Awww! That makes me so happy xxx
I adore the two of you together! Such a wonderful and helpful Video! Love from switzerland xx
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This is such a good video and your mom is the BEST! Please, make more videos like this with her!!!!!
Yay! Thank you🥰🥰
Wow joy this was such a good video!
Both you and your mother have such a soothing voice, I didn't even realize how quickly this video got over
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I always used to think how you are so good at expressing your emotions in a way that I could really understand and seeing your mum it really makes sense now.❤ you both are very beautiful and very inspiring.❤❤
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Wow, Joy this was beautiful! I'm a fairly new subscriber, I really like your content and your energy, you've inspired me in different ways. I loved this video, very helpful, resonated a lot with some of the personal realisations, new perspectives, and changes i've been going through myself lately. I also really appreciate the genuineness and realness you show in your videos, like with the farting segment hahah So lovely to see the beautiful interaction you and your mother have. Sending love to you all from Italy
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I have been quarantined for the past 5 days (during my spring holidays🙄) and so I am checking at least three times a day if there's a new video from you😂 And here it is and it's long😍😍
Awwww! Sending you so much love 🤍🤍🤍🤍
@@Joyish Sending the same back❤️❤️
this was so helpful!
the whole world deserves to see this video
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Would love to see more of these!
This video is amazing!
you both are amazing!
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early but love you and your mom!❤️❤️
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i would looove more videos like this!!! ✨✨
Really nice video !! A part two please !!! :D
So peaceful... I loved it! Nice topics to think about and reflect even if it doesn't apply to me right now. Is it too much to ask for a part 2? Hahaha sending love, as always!
Yay! I’m so glad!!❤️❤️ part 2 is definitely coming! 🥰💕
You look like your mom. Both beautiful! And amazing video 🥰
loved this video even though I didn't need any advice, do more Q&A's with your mom!!:)
this is my favorite video of 2021 , wow
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SO wise omg
this really helped yess 🙏🙏🙏
You give me ESFJ vibes and your mom gives me INFJ vibes 💛
Part 2 pleaseee💘
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you two are Gorgeous!
love this talk, the both of you are beautiful souls. I wonder how it would be like without the background music
Yeah i wasn’t sure if to add it in. We will see how i feel next time 💕💕
Je vous aime toutes les deux 💜 thank you T for your kindness and knowledge and wisdom... i miss you
Missing you beauty ❤️❤️❤️
heyy i was wondering if you could do a video about what you want to study and what you’re doing atm. i find it quite hard to figure out what i want to do and what my interests are. would live to hear some advice!
verry helpfull!
I do really like to listen to the both of you😍
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