INTJ here with an ENFJ marriage counselor. He thinks he is INFJ but he doesn't get nebulous. This is spot on. He makes me cry sometimes and I hate it and its healing and I really appreciate it and he'd better stop.
@@SoulShiftingInsight too Ti for impact, essentially - INFJ points can get to sounding very kookie to an INTJ because of the whole Te conflict thing (I have an INFJ mom, and she makes my husband nuts 🤣)
@@SoulShiftingInsight When being ponderous, INTJs like to take the shortest distance to the point. "It's about the journey" isn't our favorite. We like to get the answer and scoot. Anything else uses up precious energy. When asked a question or presented with an idea or opinion INFJs take that time and energy to expand in all directions and without limits to explore every corner of the universe from every angle forever and it's exhausting and I just want the answer!
@@SoulShiftingInsight Ending up with more questions than answers is more of an INTP thing. They expand instead of narrow things down, too. Not putting anyone down, just highlighting differences.
@@SoulShiftingInsight NTJs are impatient with that kind of thing because they're so innately pragmatic. Don't underestimate their ability to Ti - when they're reasonably mature they wield that function very well - but they will never care about that stuff like an NFJ does. They're there to find the essential point, so that they can click it into the right slot, realign the system, and go do the things better. An ENFJ is more of a mentor than a mystic guide - they will hook into someone's inner drive and choose not to arrest their movement with more than is required for their growth at the time, as that might just muck up the cogs. The universe has a way of sending things back around for clarification later, anyway: best to keep it clear and keep things moving forward. I think that's the difference that's being referred to, here.
I can assure you that that feeling is in fact not just a feeling but the reality of yourself. Believe me as I got older I had been an ENFJ and slowly became an ENFP
Stoppp that describes me so well I'm actually lowkey in a crisis, I definitely thinking I'm an ENFP, especially with the Ne and Si but I keep relating to ENFJ stuff, making m doubt myself
I once expressed to my INTJ husband that I couldn't wrap my mind around the concept of someone having an internal monologue. Or even just a dialogue. I've got an internal house of commons up in here: there's always a bunch of loonies going off and this one exhausted dude forever banging a gavel. 🤣 This seemed to alarm him, and I'm like, dude, it's fine: the secret is knowing how to just enjoy the show. And he... didn't look any less worried. 🤣🤣 - an ENFJ
@@iwashere583 this is also me 100%! typed as ENFP when younger, now I type as an ENFJ. It feels as if now, I can channel the chaos energy into a laser beam
I love seeing ENFJ as a horror movie character! 😂😂 So, INTP and INTJ parts are hilarious!😂😂 ISTP part is hilarious, too! 😂😂 And, for some reason, I find your ESTJ so cute! ❤❤ Thank you Kristin, The completion is wonderful! 👏👏👍👍
I've only been aware of one ENFJ in my life, but I enjoyed talking to her. However, I was watching her trying to take on everyone's burdens and seeming so overwhelmed by it that when she tried to ask about my hardships, I just told her I didn't want to add to that burden. She still wanted to know, but...man, I felt like I'd be responsible for a train wreck if I did what she wanted me to do and still refused. - INTJ
I've been aware of one ENFJ in my life... my grandmother. But oddly enough, I've actually found I have an easier understanding with her in discussing some "abstract" questions than with other members of my family. Maybe because we're both the only two Ni-high users (INTJ here) in our sensor-dominant family.
@@zk7830Same here! Discussing any philosophical or ethical concept with my ENFJ mother is always fun and enriching, and our overlaps pretty much guarantee us being able to see eye to eye even if we don't agree -INFJ
@@zk7830 That's so true! ENFJs are awesome for NI heavy conversations. It's wonderful that you have your grandma to talk to like that. I get why some INTJs might be wary of talking to an ENFJ, but I think as long as healthy boundaries are drawn, there is more to enjoy than to avoid.
FYI, healthy ENFJs can have good boundaries. I've been married to an INTJ for seventeen years: I can take on a lot, but over time he's learned that there's a lot of difference between him taking on a burden and me taking on a burden. Fe - when wielded well and maturely - lets you genuinely invest without letting the load go down into your being the way it does with a Fi response. I've had to learn to be careful "talking shop" around him too candidly: he can't always help but feel things in a gut-punch kind of way, and that's something I reserve very carefully, as a natural function of my skillset.
@@YellaSpiceFamily The gut punch thing is so real. I've accidentally upset INTJs in my life by expressing or otherwise tackling too big of feelings around them. They start crying out of left field and we need to take things down a notch or five. - ENFP
The rap from the ESFP video still lingers in my brain, rent free, especially the ENFJ part. Also, I mistyped as an ENFJ for years, but I'm really an INFJ. I suppose that I'm great at pretending to be extroverted.
@@waftsofpetrichorHowdy, it's always wonderful to meet a fellow INFJ. Fittingly, INFJs tend to be the most extroverted introverts, while ENFPs are the most introverted extroverts.
@@trinaq hello! it is indeed! ^^ yeah, I agree! even though other types can be like their introverted/extraverted counterparts, I think that’s very true! I definitely am an extraverted introvert, which I’ve seen can often cause people to assume I’m an extravert. A close friend of mine is an enfp, and she also thinks that she’s definitely an introverted extravert, which has caused people to assume _she_ is an introvert 😆
INFJs are generally pretty close to being ambiverts. Their functions are very different from ENFJs, though, so if you go by the functions, you can't really confuse an INFJ for an ENFJ. INTJ and INFJ appear very dissimilar, but their functions are very similar.
Enfj.. stop jumping to the wrong conclusions.. do what istps do.. assess in your head, then wait to see if you are correct or incorrect overtime so you dont offend people or piss them off in my case. Same with you, enfps. ❤
I'm ISFP, one letter off, but I understand. ENFJs trying to analyze me not doing or saying anything is a major pet peeve! Trust me, if I have something to say, I'll say it, and if for some reason I'm keeping it secret, ENFJ will never be the person to force it out lol
gooood alll is going according to plan.... Don't worry we won't make you go to a social event that you didn't plan for or want to go to. *many passive aggresive winks*
@@SqueakyPhilosopher I'm an INFJ with an ENFJ mother and we get along on a psychotic level. Though I seem emotionless and/or insincere when I compare myself to her haha...
When will you make ENFJ tier list ranking or whatever. You know. All of us get one but somehow this type still left behind. Our leader deserve love like ESFJ.
I finally read your title before starting to type! Also, would probably help to type if I watched one of your skits for once. This will be my first. I've only listened to your podcast. I just look at your beautiful thumbnail and get excited to type. I learned my lesson though. Learning my lessons is the only way I ever got an "A." No point to type more because you're the BEST type! P.S. This doesn't count as typing more according to my criteria. It's Extra Credit, and I need all I can get because I failed math not knowing how to count. Hope you're enjoying your maternity leave! I don't know if you gave birth to your blessed baby but been praying for you both and your awesome Andrew honored husband!
INFJ here and I remember clearly that I’ve felt proud of not being as pushy as ENFJ when it comes to giving people unsolicited advice and support - and it’s absolutely happened more than once in my life time 😂 some ENFJs can be so nosey (sorry) in their desire to help and support others that it hurts to witness :’-) But they are absolute sweethearts nevertheless
With the videos edited in this way, I can really see how much thought and effort went into everything in these videos. Specifically, the backgrounds and how it relates to the type seeing the other types. Like how the ESTJ is seeing the ENFJ in an office setting, or the ESFJ at the dinner party.
The amount of people who seem to dislike (or worse) ENFJs for qualities I don't do, like being super pushy or being an unwanted therapist to people I barely know, will always be so unfortunate. Our type is either the forgotten about NF or hated on like many of the comments here.
@@44RisingSun44 I agree. There are some things described in here that strike me as really unhealthy/dark morph traits: I can't even relate to WANTING to do them, and there's 0 question about the accuracy of my typing. Not even my ENFJ Dad, who's a bit less handy with his Ni and a lot less measured about his Se, does these things. It makes me wonder about age ranges, trends, if the world has become a place that turns out unhealthy ENFJs in a skewed ratio? Possible, I think. I can't afford to participate in conventional social media - Facebook, Instagram, etc - because it's like it was made to encourage every unhealthy impulse I possess. But I'm old enough (39) to see it as optional - it wasn't part of my landscape at all until I was twenty or so.
@@YellaSpiceFamily Agreed unfortunately it seems like the world is a place that normalizes & glorifies unhealthy versions of everyone and as a result the "norm" for every type might be the unhealthier versions of said type.
Kristen does way overemphasize the therapist stereotype. And I don't think ENFJs are pushy, actually I think they could stand to be more honest sometimes I don't see hate for ENFJs in these comments, maybe they got less likes and aren't as visible anymore. Or maybe I don't think of it as hate because ESTJs get called narcissistic and evil online sometimes, which is worse than just bringing up our actual negative traits. "They can be a little like this" is different than "I hate all ENFJs"
@@sarahberkner I've seen some "I can't stand ENFJs, they're all so fake & manipulative" style comments but yes I must say we don't catch it nearly to the degree ESTJs catch it. I might cry if we did; you guys are so strong & resilient imo.
I sometimes feel that way with an ENFJ friend of mine, so feel like this is so accurate! 😅❤ One time our class had an art project that we have to do in pairs... The ENFJ, as the one with superior art skills + actual background on the subject, shouldn't be forced to limit their creativity because their partner wants things a certain way, especially since the dude isn't even helping with the actual work 😭. (Me an INFP , the other person paired with my ENFJ friend idk what personality type they are but ngl the ideas sounded pretty bland 🥹)
What the....how come there's so few comments here? Years ago, I had a running gag about ENFJ just to pick something trying to motivate people to be comfortable expressing opinions and bringing fun competition since I thought there was so much societal/cultural division that it would help get back to fun over picking sides and debating/nerding out over a fandom. Why is ENFJ so unpopular? I hope you remember this for your ENFJ ranker video, Kristin! haha This was a good video imo! If ENFJ is still considered the second rarest type after ENTJ, I'd think people would be excited for more insight....However, with my past experience with 16 personalities...that's not the case since people generally appeared to just want to know about whatever people think about their own type. I didn't have a favorite type but this makes ENFJ my favorite because I like adding balance. Not that pity makes people feel better..or at least more than temporarily. I wouldn't even know if INFJ is still popular. I just guessed from your videos since I don't pay attention so I just continued with the metaphorical running gag....I gotta go! Hope you and your family are well, Kristin! You're the BEST type...ENFJ?
ENFJs who aren't trying to "fix" me are great... but that's a minority within a minority. The rest are fine people, but I'm going to try to fly under their radar so I don't become their next pet project... which, to be honest, is my default with most people, so it's not like I'm going out of my way overmuch. -- INTP EDIT: ENFJs tend to by frustratingly reserved in conversations, taking in as much information as they can, but revealing very little in return. Usually, I prefer to get someone else talking so I can just kick into neutral and not have to think about what to say, but that rarely works well with ENFJs. High Ni-types can be difficult like that. Being around them makes me feel like I'm perpetually disappointing them... although, at the same time, they seem very polite about it. Other NTs (and ISTPs) are MUCH easier to interact with or ignore, as the situation requires.
(I'm ISFP) My ENFJ mother is not as intelligent as the ENFJ in your videos so she isn't using psychological terminology on me (especially not correctly), but she absolutely reads into every non-reaction I have and it drives me mad 😭 If I give a non-committal answer she refuses to accept it as earnest, and if I say nothing at all and just nod and quietly ignore or take in what she's saying, she'll try to assign meaning to my lack of facial expression or get upset by my tone or phrasing, even though to me it came across as entirely neutral. No idea how to get her to stop! lol
My ESFJ mother was the same way to me (INTJ) while I was growing up 😅 We're incredibly close now, but things really changed after I put a lot of effort into understanding her and learned how to better communicate my side of things. She really tries to understand me now, too.
As an enfj it breaks my heart she comes across as annoying, she will probably be very hurt if she heard this in person, believe me no matter how annoying she gets or how badly she is doing , pls remember she is only doing it cause she cares about you , your life and your emotional well being , immensely so , we provide care for even random strangers let alone our own children, she absolutely NEEDS to know you are doing okay in order for her to function, so pls next time she asks you a question just truthfully answer how you feel, don't make her guess otherwise her brain will literally explode with worries , I know it's uncomfortable for some poeple to open up but do her and yourself a favor and have some genuine conversations about what going on through your mind and in your life ,from time to time I am sure she is dying to know , assure her you are doing okay and that you will reach out to her if you need any form of help , that should make her stop overly psychoanalysing your every move , try to communicate this to her as well in much gentler vocab if possible, with inferior Ti and superior Fe nothing feels more soul crushing then hearing , you are unhelpful and unintelligent 😢
@@wendyhelen3031 thanks for the good wishes, I am doing okay , -ish , I was just talking from the prespective of this enfj mother , if I were in her shoes , how broken hearted and sad i would be if i saw this comment, I know too much fe+ Ni but that's just who I am 😅
As an ENTP I have to warn ENFJs, I basically see incorrect statements made boldly in ignorance as the tipping of your hand. On the bright side, if an ENTP cares about you they will be able to dig quickly through the fluff and get to know more of the real you. If not you might get tuned out because the lack of consistency from you makes the information coming from you an inefficient and therefore unnecessary source of knowledge. ENTPs love seeking reliable information so you might be glossed over with some dancing bananas! Sorry! I do tend to like ENFJs but I’m pretty fast now to make sure you are in charge of nothing that I do.
Dear Kristin: It's time to unpack. Also Dear Kristin: It's time to unpack the unpacked within the unpacked. More Dear Kristin: UR aware that within you there is a box within a box within a box.....ad infinitum........
Enfj in fiction make the best villains ever you can do better than that... i think about people like pelle(midsomar) wendy birde(ozark) abigail(the favorite) joan(hereditary) rose armitage(get out) jasmin(angel) morgana(merlin tv show) leonard(umbrella academy) makima(chainsaw man) on the other hand they also make the best good people too i think about rasumikhin in crime and punishment.
Hi people. I dont know what my type is. But im going to tell you a real story of me. I once saw an injured mouse and impulsively picked it up to take care of it, but I didn't really have a plan, I just tried to see if I could come up with one. Of the options I saw, none seemed viable, and than it bit me (I hadn't considered the consequences of a bite at the time, although I knew they exist. The protective instinct was stronger). After some time without any other valuable option, I ended up leaving the mouse in a field where it died two days later. The bite fortunately didn't affect me. But the point is, this can actually say something about my personality. What do you think my mbti is based on cognitive functions? Thank you ❤
Please do your own test. You should do your own work to get to know yourself better. It's not always accurate but better than asking random strangers like this.
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I'm an INTJ and my closest friend at my new school is an ENFJ, we've only known eachother for a few months and typically INTJs dont like ENFJs... am I screwed?
Is there a chance your friend is actually ENFP, instead? If not, and the friend really is ENFJ... any type can get along with all other types if both have respect for one another and are committed to the friendship. My INTJ husband and I (ENFP) get along amazingly well. We have a friend who is ENFJ. We love how caring she is and kind. She also has a side that is super judgmental of everyone and that part drives us both up a wall because it doesn't respect the way we each choose to approach a problem. She's pushy with her ideas. She also can sometimes come off as seeming inauthentic, because she is so worried about group harmony, that we both get irritated about it. For example, if I am struggling with a family crisis and I express that I'm very hurt or angry or any other negative emotion, her immediate response is, "But you know, you are actually more than okay because you have victory over this already and remember to hold on to that." While yes, she's trying to be helpful... it isn't helpful when I'm sharing that I'm angry or sad. I'm literally telling her I am not okay in those moments and I'm looking for understanding and empathy, and when I've had a few minutes to rant or cry... then give me advice. Not the other way around. It also feels super fake to me, because I know full well that she struggles when she feels sad or angry in tough situations. Other than those occasional issues, we have a lot of fun with her while hiking, playing games, talking about life, etc. So, I say all this to answer your question by letting you know... it doesn't matter what your friend's type is, as long as the two of you learn how to work together within your types, communicate well and are committed to making the friendship work. 😃
I am confused with my mbti test get change. I am somewhere in the green and purple introvert. But somehow I can feel the difference between enfp and enfj. When I put myself as INFP, I get watched by a guy. It's creepy smile. When I talk to fellow infp, this guy contact me and keep asking about my feelings. Like oprah. Why you not smile enough? Why you are not feeling happy? I mean enfj give me goosebumps like esfj. Why he is offended when I am not smiling enough to him? If the topic is not my interest, then I will not talking or smiling. Enfj need to understand infp and infj is not sunshine and rainbows all the time. 🤨
Heart: Big The Bigger to Crush...on you with...to crush. *sniff* I still remember her bubble font. And it's bringing back the smell of its ink. *sniff* was it bananas? *sniff* it smelled like bananas! very authentic just like me! Where did she get it from? It was bananas!
Well, all tools can be sharpened and used as the utilizer wills, and the cognitive functions are no different, though what is your personality type that you find ENFJs perplexing?
She put my type first and my husband's type at the end (he's also an INTJ), so we would both have to watch the whole video. Well played, Dear Kristin, well played. 😂
Ugh, why is it always like that with ENTJs? I genuinely don't want it to turn into power struggle weirdness, but the more I try to deescalate them, the more they chase me down. It's like I've got some secret, and they simply HAVE to make me give it to them. I think it doesn't help that I'm happily married to an INTJ - it's like they can tell I know their code.
Well. ENTJ and INTJ share similarities which is micro management. If they want you, then prepare with questions. They will try to put you in their plans. That's why these XNTJ will asked deep questions based on rationality. Don't take it too seriously with feelings. They always seek efficiency.
@@wendyhelen3031 I'm well aware of now the xNTJ nexus works - I've been married to an INTJ for eighteen years - but there's something extra weird about how the ENTJs zoom in. I think it's the tertiary Se: they pursue things SO much harder, and they can often sense that this is a common ground between us (ENFJs also have tertiary Se). But we live on very different planets, and ENTJs are not as flexible and intuitive as INTJs, so they just get frustrated and confused and start bludgeoning me with their assumptions, putting the onus of correction onto me with like, staggering gumption. 🤣 On the one hand - respect! Tert Se respects that drive. But it's WILDLY uncomfortable, because they always end up looking like a special kind of stupid to me and I struggle to hide it: and I'm *used* to the differences in an xNTJ landscape. They just have so much audacity! 😂
@rachel4060 it only looks stupid because of how different our intelligences can be, I guarantee your ENFJ in no way thinks you're actually stupid. ❤️ Reflecting on it, I can think of a few patterns in my interactions with ENTJs that you might want to look for, seek to analyze if they apply. I'll post them as individual comments.
Raw truth time. My INFP sister totally thinks that about me: all the time. It's just about the only thing she ever says to me. Except - the real issue is that she's so freaking self-focused that I don't trust her. Of all the people on planet Earth, she will probably forever be the last one to know anything about who I really am. My INTJ husband, who she thinks is a helplessly nerdy, people-stupid dweeb, is ten times more capable of understanding my complexities, because he's actually capable of seeing the world through a lens that isn't entirely determined by his own comfort level. #traumadump
I love how ENFJ are stereotyped as being unofficial therapists, who will pschoanalyse nearly EVERYONE they come across.
incorrectly. but yes they will.. they make a lot of annoying assumptions about me.. istp.. 😂
makes for great comedy (even though there is much more nuance to them in reality) 😂
Yea my ENFJ co-worker drives me bonkers sometimes but he's also awesome at his job and connecting with people. I'm INTJ.
@@trinaq Also, is that the Addams family in your profile picture?
@@waftsofpetrichor Yes, indeed it is. We did that musical for my community theatre production a few years ago, and it was so much fun.
INTJ here with an ENFJ marriage counselor. He thinks he is INFJ but he doesn't get nebulous. This is spot on. He makes me cry sometimes and I hate it and its healing and I really appreciate it and he'd better stop.
You just described my whole marriage dynamic 😂 (I'm the ENFJ: seventeen very happy years with an INTJ)
@@SoulShiftingInsight too Ti for impact, essentially - INFJ points can get to sounding very kookie to an INTJ because of the whole Te conflict thing (I have an INFJ mom, and she makes my husband nuts 🤣)
@@SoulShiftingInsight When being ponderous, INTJs like to take the shortest distance to the point. "It's about the journey" isn't our favorite. We like to get the answer and scoot. Anything else uses up precious energy. When asked a question or presented with an idea or opinion INFJs take that time and energy to expand in all directions and without limits to explore every corner of the universe from every angle forever and it's exhausting and I just want the answer!
@@SoulShiftingInsight Ending up with more questions than answers is more of an INTP thing. They expand instead of narrow things down, too. Not putting anyone down, just highlighting differences.
@@SoulShiftingInsight NTJs are impatient with that kind of thing because they're so innately pragmatic. Don't underestimate their ability to Ti - when they're reasonably mature they wield that function very well - but they will never care about that stuff like an NFJ does. They're there to find the essential point, so that they can click it into the right slot, realign the system, and go do the things better. An ENFJ is more of a mentor than a mystic guide - they will hook into someone's inner drive and choose not to arrest their movement with more than is required for their growth at the time, as that might just muck up the cogs. The universe has a way of sending things back around for clarification later, anyway: best to keep it clear and keep things moving forward. I think that's the difference that's being referred to, here.
ENFJs feel like me from a different reality where all of my chaos is internalized. - ENFP
I can assure you that that feeling is in fact not just a feeling but the reality of yourself. Believe me as I got older I had been an ENFJ and slowly became an ENFP
Stoppp that describes me so well
I'm actually lowkey in a crisis, I definitely thinking I'm an ENFP, especially with the Ne and Si but I keep relating to ENFJ stuff, making m doubt myself
I once expressed to my INTJ husband that I couldn't wrap my mind around the concept of someone having an internal monologue. Or even just a dialogue. I've got an internal house of commons up in here: there's always a bunch of loonies going off and this one exhausted dude forever banging a gavel. 🤣 This seemed to alarm him, and I'm like, dude, it's fine: the secret is knowing how to just enjoy the show. And he... didn't look any less worried. 🤣🤣 - an ENFJ
Wait this makes soo much sense because I was typed as ENFP when I was younger but I'm in fact an ENFJ with the chaos slightly more controlled now
@@iwashere583 this is also me 100%! typed as ENFP when younger, now I type as an ENFJ. It feels as if now, I can channel the chaos energy into a laser beam
I love seeing ENFJ as a horror movie character! 😂😂 So, INTP and INTJ parts are hilarious!😂😂 ISTP part is hilarious, too! 😂😂 And, for some reason, I find your ESTJ so cute! ❤❤ Thank you Kristin, The completion is wonderful! 👏👏👍👍
I've only been aware of one ENFJ in my life, but I enjoyed talking to her. However, I was watching her trying to take on everyone's burdens and seeming so overwhelmed by it that when she tried to ask about my hardships, I just told her I didn't want to add to that burden. She still wanted to know, but...man, I felt like I'd be responsible for a train wreck if I did what she wanted me to do and still refused. - INTJ
I've been aware of one ENFJ in my life... my grandmother. But oddly enough, I've actually found I have an easier understanding with her in discussing some "abstract" questions than with other members of my family. Maybe because we're both the only two Ni-high users (INTJ here) in our sensor-dominant family.
@@zk7830Same here!
Discussing any philosophical or ethical concept with my ENFJ mother is always fun and enriching, and our overlaps pretty much guarantee us being able to see eye to eye even if we don't agree
-INFJ
@@zk7830 That's so true! ENFJs are awesome for NI heavy conversations. It's wonderful that you have your grandma to talk to like that. I get why some INTJs might be wary of talking to an ENFJ, but I think as long as healthy boundaries are drawn, there is more to enjoy than to avoid.
FYI, healthy ENFJs can have good boundaries. I've been married to an INTJ for seventeen years: I can take on a lot, but over time he's learned that there's a lot of difference between him taking on a burden and me taking on a burden. Fe - when wielded well and maturely - lets you genuinely invest without letting the load go down into your being the way it does with a Fi response. I've had to learn to be careful "talking shop" around him too candidly: he can't always help but feel things in a gut-punch kind of way, and that's something I reserve very carefully, as a natural function of my skillset.
@@YellaSpiceFamily The gut punch thing is so real. I've accidentally upset INTJs in my life by expressing or otherwise tackling too big of feelings around them. They start crying out of left field and we need to take things down a notch or five.
- ENFP
The rap from the ESFP video still lingers in my brain, rent free, especially the ENFJ part. Also, I mistyped as an ENFJ for years, but I'm really an INFJ. I suppose that I'm great at pretending to be extroverted.
I'm an extroverted infj too!
@@waftsofpetrichorHowdy, it's always wonderful to meet a fellow INFJ. Fittingly, INFJs tend to be the most extroverted introverts, while ENFPs are the most introverted extroverts.
@@trinaq as an enfp I can say that we are 💀
@@trinaq hello! it is indeed! ^^
yeah, I agree! even though other types can be like their introverted/extraverted counterparts, I think that’s very true! I definitely am an extraverted introvert, which I’ve seen can often cause people to assume I’m an extravert.
A close friend of mine is an enfp, and she also thinks that she’s definitely an introverted extravert, which has caused people to assume _she_ is an introvert 😆
INFJs are generally pretty close to being ambiverts. Their functions are very different from ENFJs, though, so if you go by the functions, you can't really confuse an INFJ for an ENFJ. INTJ and INFJ appear very dissimilar, but their functions are very similar.
Enfj.. stop jumping to the wrong conclusions.. do what istps do.. assess in your head, then wait to see if you are correct or incorrect overtime so you dont offend people or piss them off in my case. Same with you, enfps. ❤
This is very accurate, ISTPs tend not to be the biggest fans of ENFJs, since they're always trying to "fix" them. Just ask my two cousins.
I'm ISFP, one letter off, but I understand. ENFJs trying to analyze me not doing or saying anything is a major pet peeve! Trust me, if I have something to say, I'll say it, and if for some reason I'm keeping it secret, ENFJ will never be the person to force it out lol
yep, i agree! that's what i usually do as an infj
@@jijitters my enfp sister is always analyzing my isfp brother in law.. sets him off EVERY time... he says "stop psychoanalyzing me dammit!"
@@trinaq I'm more patient when I understand where they're coming from. but not by much hahahaha
as an enfj the infp bit was way too accurate 😭
As an INTJ I'm really scared of ENFJs
gooood alll is going according to plan.... Don't worry we won't make you go to a social event that you didn't plan for or want to go to. *many passive aggresive winks*
@@ElizabethWalters-yk4ui 😶
I'm an INTJ with an ENFJ grandmother... It's not so bad, once you've had a few decades to get used to it.
@@zk7830 I have an ENFJ mom haha. Kinda got used to it at some point...
@@SqueakyPhilosopher I'm an INFJ with an ENFJ mother and we get along on a psychotic level.
Though I seem emotionless and/or insincere when I compare myself to her haha...
People do share a lot with me..... There, there, ENFJ. i got you - INFP
ENTJ (smiling enthusiastically): “tell me more…” 😇
INTJ, thinking: “NOOO!! I need to escape!!” 😖
But whyyy is the stereotype so correct 😫- I’m an entj and I really want to know more about an enfj colleague
When will you make ENFJ tier list ranking or whatever. You know. All of us get one but somehow this type still left behind. Our leader deserve love like ESFJ.
Glad to see myself through the eyes of the stereotyped people that I love who judge me in the form of a video!! :D
the infj vision is so real
I finally read your title before starting to type! Also, would probably help to type if I watched one of your skits for once. This will be my first. I've only listened to your podcast. I just look at your beautiful thumbnail and get excited to type. I learned my lesson though. Learning my lessons is the only way I ever got an "A." No point to type more because you're the BEST type!
P.S. This doesn't count as typing more according to my criteria. It's Extra Credit, and I need all I can get because I failed math not knowing how to count. Hope you're enjoying your maternity leave! I don't know if you gave birth to your blessed baby but been praying for you both and your awesome Andrew honored husband!
INFJ here and I remember clearly that I’ve felt proud of not being as pushy as ENFJ when it comes to giving people unsolicited advice and support - and it’s absolutely happened more than once in my life time 😂 some ENFJs can be so nosey (sorry) in their desire to help and support others that it hurts to witness :’-) But they are absolute sweethearts nevertheless
Clever reuse of the old clips! I'm surprised I didn't expect this sooner. I ain't even mad. Now I've gotta see all of the personalities!
She has done two of these (INTJ and ENFP) already.
@@douglasandrews8977 Two of my favs, must have overlooked them. Thanks for pointing it out!
With the videos edited in this way, I can really see how much thought and effort went into everything in these videos. Specifically, the backgrounds and how it relates to the type seeing the other types. Like how the ESTJ is seeing the ENFJ in an office setting, or the ESFJ at the dinner party.
The amount of people who seem to dislike (or worse) ENFJs for qualities I don't do, like being super pushy or being an unwanted therapist to people I barely know, will always be so unfortunate. Our type is either the forgotten about NF or hated on like many of the comments here.
@@44RisingSun44 I agree. There are some things described in here that strike me as really unhealthy/dark morph traits: I can't even relate to WANTING to do them, and there's 0 question about the accuracy of my typing. Not even my ENFJ Dad, who's a bit less handy with his Ni and a lot less measured about his Se, does these things. It makes me wonder about age ranges, trends, if the world has become a place that turns out unhealthy ENFJs in a skewed ratio? Possible, I think. I can't afford to participate in conventional social media - Facebook, Instagram, etc - because it's like it was made to encourage every unhealthy impulse I possess. But I'm old enough (39) to see it as optional - it wasn't part of my landscape at all until I was twenty or so.
@@YellaSpiceFamily Agreed unfortunately it seems like the world is a place that normalizes & glorifies unhealthy versions of everyone and as a result the "norm" for every type might be the unhealthier versions of said type.
Kristen does way overemphasize the therapist stereotype. And I don't think ENFJs are pushy, actually I think they could stand to be more honest sometimes
I don't see hate for ENFJs in these comments, maybe they got less likes and aren't as visible anymore. Or maybe I don't think of it as hate because ESTJs get called narcissistic and evil online sometimes, which is worse than just bringing up our actual negative traits. "They can be a little like this" is different than "I hate all ENFJs"
@@sarahberkner I've seen some "I can't stand ENFJs, they're all so fake & manipulative" style comments but yes I must say we don't catch it nearly to the degree ESTJs catch it. I might cry if we did; you guys are so strong & resilient imo.
I sometimes feel that way with an ENFJ friend of mine, so feel like this is so accurate! 😅❤ One time our class had an art project that we have to do in pairs... The ENFJ, as the one with superior art skills + actual background on the subject, shouldn't be forced to limit their creativity because their partner wants things a certain way, especially since the dude isn't even helping with the actual work 😭. (Me an INFP , the other person paired with my ENFJ friend idk what personality type they are but ngl the ideas sounded pretty bland 🥹)
The INFJ part was so spot on I almost got shivers. Get out of my head! 😅
What the....how come there's so few comments here? Years ago, I had a running gag about ENFJ just to pick something trying to motivate people to be comfortable expressing opinions and bringing fun competition since I thought there was so much societal/cultural division that it would help get back to fun over picking sides and debating/nerding out over a fandom.
Why is ENFJ so unpopular? I hope you remember this for your ENFJ ranker video, Kristin! haha This was a good video imo! If ENFJ is still considered the second rarest type after ENTJ, I'd think people would be excited for more insight....However, with my past experience with 16 personalities...that's not the case since people generally appeared to just want to know about whatever people think about their own type.
I didn't have a favorite type but this makes ENFJ my favorite because I like adding balance. Not that pity makes people feel better..or at least more than temporarily.
I wouldn't even know if INFJ is still popular. I just guessed from your videos since I don't pay attention so I just continued with the metaphorical running gag....I gotta go!
Hope you and your family are well, Kristin! You're the BEST type...ENFJ?
ENFJs who aren't trying to "fix" me are great... but that's a minority within a minority. The rest are fine people, but I'm going to try to fly under their radar so I don't become their next pet project... which, to be honest, is my default with most people, so it's not like I'm going out of my way overmuch. -- INTP
EDIT: ENFJs tend to by frustratingly reserved in conversations, taking in as much information as they can, but revealing very little in return. Usually, I prefer to get someone else talking so I can just kick into neutral and not have to think about what to say, but that rarely works well with ENFJs. High Ni-types can be difficult like that. Being around them makes me feel like I'm perpetually disappointing them... although, at the same time, they seem very polite about it. Other NTs (and ISTPs) are MUCH easier to interact with or ignore, as the situation requires.
When I saw that this video was posted, I for some reason went like "YEEEEEEAAAAAAAAA", Idk why...
Always very on point !!
(I'm ISFP)
My ENFJ mother is not as intelligent as the ENFJ in your videos so she isn't using psychological terminology on me (especially not correctly), but she absolutely reads into every non-reaction I have and it drives me mad 😭 If I give a non-committal answer she refuses to accept it as earnest, and if I say nothing at all and just nod and quietly ignore or take in what she's saying, she'll try to assign meaning to my lack of facial expression or get upset by my tone or phrasing, even though to me it came across as entirely neutral. No idea how to get her to stop! lol
My ESFJ mother was the same way to me (INTJ) while I was growing up 😅 We're incredibly close now, but things really changed after I put a lot of effort into understanding her and learned how to better communicate my side of things. She really tries to understand me now, too.
As an enfj it breaks my heart she comes across as annoying, she will probably be very hurt if she heard this in person, believe me no matter how annoying she gets or how badly she is doing , pls remember she is only doing it cause she cares about you , your life and your emotional well being , immensely so , we provide care for even random strangers let alone our own children, she absolutely NEEDS to know you are doing okay in order for her to function, so pls next time she asks you a question just truthfully answer how you feel, don't make her guess otherwise her brain will literally explode with worries , I know it's uncomfortable for some poeple to open up but do her and yourself a favor and have some genuine conversations about what going on through your mind and in your life ,from time to time I am sure she is dying to know , assure her you are doing okay and that you will reach out to her if you need any form of help , that should make her stop overly psychoanalysing your every move , try to communicate this to her as well in much gentler vocab if possible, with inferior Ti and superior Fe nothing feels more soul crushing then hearing , you are unhelpful and unintelligent 😢
@saralaradji6766 it is okay buddy. it's just through different perceptions from a sensor. No need to explain that much. I hope you are doing okay.
@@wendyhelen3031 thanks for the good wishes, I am doing okay , -ish , I was just talking from the prespective of this enfj mother , if I were in her shoes , how broken hearted and sad i would be if i saw this comment, I know too much fe+ Ni but that's just who I am 😅
Thank you, this helps me understand my mother in law
Hi, yes I feel seen. Thank you. This is my new gospel.
I think I blocked the ENFJ probing INTJ ending from my memory. An ENFJ would telling me that I'm "repressing trauma", whatever that means.
🎵🎵 I'm suppressing wounds 🎵🎵
The last clip
can you make debate series infj vs intj, infp vs estp will be very intresting
Could you make an INTP version? Love your content!
This WHOLE video seems like a DIS! 😂
I’m an ENFJ dating an INTJ and we both laughed so hard at the view from the INTJ’s perspective. Very accurate 🤣
All of these are so accurate I'm literally scream-laughing at every. single. ONE. Nailed it, Kristen. -an ENFJ
As an ENTP I have to warn ENFJs, I basically see incorrect statements made boldly in ignorance as the tipping of your hand. On the bright side, if an ENTP cares about you they will be able to dig quickly through the fluff and get to know more of the real you. If not you might get tuned out because the lack of consistency from you makes the information coming from you an inefficient and therefore unnecessary source of knowledge. ENTPs love seeking reliable information so you might be glossed over with some dancing bananas! Sorry! I do tend to like ENFJs but I’m pretty fast now to make sure you are in charge of nothing that I do.
That’s actually how I feel about people.
Infj
Dear Kristin: It's time to unpack.
Also Dear Kristin: It's time to unpack the unpacked within the unpacked.
More Dear Kristin: UR aware that within you there is a box within a box within a box.....ad infinitum........
Enfj in fiction make the best villains ever you can do better than that... i think about people like pelle(midsomar) wendy birde(ozark) abigail(the favorite) joan(hereditary) rose armitage(get out) jasmin(angel) morgana(merlin tv show) leonard(umbrella academy) makima(chainsaw man) on the other hand they also make the best good people too i think about rasumikhin in crime and punishment.
Hi people. I dont know what my type is. But im going to tell you a real story of me.
I once saw an injured mouse and impulsively picked it up to take care of it, but I didn't really have a plan, I just tried to see if I could come up with one. Of the options I saw, none seemed viable, and than it bit me (I hadn't considered the consequences of a bite at the time, although I knew they exist. The protective instinct was stronger). After some time without any other valuable option, I ended up leaving the mouse in a field where it died two days later. The bite fortunately didn't affect me. But the point is, this can actually say something about my personality. What do you think my mbti is based on cognitive functions?
Thank you ❤
Please do your own test. You should do your own work to get to know yourself better. It's not always accurate but better than asking random strangers like this.
Hey guys, I'm here to say this because the world can be a confusing place. We need a sense of hope and security to hold onto, especially for the times we're living in now.
According to Matthew 24, the end of the world is coming (no one knows when, except God). None of us know when we'll pass away. Don't base your knowledge of Christianity or Jesus himself based on Christians' and pastors' wrong doing or shortcomings. Get to know God for who he is through the Bible. You can also study apologetics to have a strong defense for Christianity being the true religion. The invitation is yours today to escape hell and living in unneeded suffering today/tonight.
LMAO, the ISFJ one is too real. You feel stupid for thinking you've bonded with someone who can't even remember the most basic things about you.
“i literally have no idea who i am without other people.” ooof….. that one hit home.
also “figures out others as to not figure out self…”
I'm an INTJ and my closest friend at my new school is an ENFJ, we've only known eachother for a few months and typically INTJs dont like ENFJs... am I screwed?
Is there a chance your friend is actually ENFP, instead?
If not, and the friend really is ENFJ... any type can get along with all other types if both have respect for one another and are committed to the friendship.
My INTJ husband and I (ENFP) get along amazingly well. We have a friend who is ENFJ. We love how caring she is and kind. She also has a side that is super judgmental of everyone and that part drives us both up a wall because it doesn't respect the way we each choose to approach a problem. She's pushy with her ideas. She also can sometimes come off as seeming inauthentic, because she is so worried about group harmony, that we both get irritated about it. For example, if I am struggling with a family crisis and I express that I'm very hurt or angry or any other negative emotion, her immediate response is, "But you know, you are actually more than okay because you have victory over this already and remember to hold on to that." While yes, she's trying to be helpful... it isn't helpful when I'm sharing that I'm angry or sad. I'm literally telling her I am not okay in those moments and I'm looking for understanding and empathy, and when I've had a few minutes to rant or cry... then give me advice. Not the other way around. It also feels super fake to me, because I know full well that she struggles when she feels sad or angry in tough situations. Other than those occasional issues, we have a lot of fun with her while hiking, playing games, talking about life, etc.
So, I say all this to answer your question by letting you know... it doesn't matter what your friend's type is, as long as the two of you learn how to work together within your types, communicate well and are committed to making the friendship work. 😃
I am confused with my mbti test get change. I am somewhere in the green and purple introvert. But somehow I can feel the difference between enfp and enfj. When I put myself as INFP, I get watched by a guy. It's creepy smile. When I talk to fellow infp, this guy contact me and keep asking about my feelings. Like oprah. Why you not smile enough? Why you are not feeling happy? I mean enfj give me goosebumps like esfj. Why he is offended when I am not smiling enough to him? If the topic is not my interest, then I will not talking or smiling. Enfj need to understand infp and infj is not sunshine and rainbows all the time. 🤨
I like it ❤
You love it
0:33 - Vindictive ENTJ. So you've figured out Fe-Ti axis and where did that get you?
I love how intimidating ENFJ is to most Ts
How is this so accurate. 😂
Infp here. I need to hang out with entps so we can hallucinate bananas together and shiet. 💀✈️
Heart: Big
The Bigger to Crush...on you with...to crush. *sniff* I still remember her bubble font. And it's bringing back the smell of its ink. *sniff* was it bananas? *sniff* it smelled like bananas! very authentic just like me! Where did she get it from? It was bananas!
Tbh characters that are enfjs are some of the hardest to type for me, they’re all so different from one another 😅
Well, all tools can be sharpened and used as the utilizer wills, and the cognitive functions are no different, though what is your personality type that you find ENFJs perplexing?
1:20 *hyperventilates* STOP!!!! It’s too real!!!!
INTPs who felt that… 😩
P.S.: 😂
As as infj,I would say Enfj one was ON POINT😂
As an ENFJ, I'm scared
She put INTJ last so I would watch the whole video 🙄
🤣 well. Wdy expect buddy? Ofc intj is the most person to be terrified with enfj.
She put my type first and my husband's type at the end (he's also an INTJ), so we would both have to watch the whole video.
Well played, Dear Kristin, well played. 😂
Ugh, why is it always like that with ENTJs? I genuinely don't want it to turn into power struggle weirdness, but the more I try to deescalate them, the more they chase me down. It's like I've got some secret, and they simply HAVE to make me give it to them. I think it doesn't help that I'm happily married to an INTJ - it's like they can tell I know their code.
Well. ENTJ and INTJ share similarities which is micro management. If they want you, then prepare with questions. They will try to put you in their plans. That's why these XNTJ will asked deep questions based on rationality. Don't take it too seriously with feelings. They always seek efficiency.
@@wendyhelen3031 I'm well aware of now the xNTJ nexus works - I've been married to an INTJ for eighteen years - but there's something extra weird about how the ENTJs zoom in. I think it's the tertiary Se: they pursue things SO much harder, and they can often sense that this is a common ground between us (ENFJs also have tertiary Se). But we live on very different planets, and ENTJs are not as flexible and intuitive as INTJs, so they just get frustrated and confused and start bludgeoning me with their assumptions, putting the onus of correction onto me with like, staggering gumption. 🤣 On the one hand - respect! Tert Se respects that drive. But it's WILDLY uncomfortable, because they always end up looking like a special kind of stupid to me and I struggle to hide it: and I'm *used* to the differences in an xNTJ landscape. They just have so much audacity! 😂
😫 crap am I doing this to my enfj. Why does it look stupid 🥹 -entj
And why am I doing it??? Pls help meeee
@rachel4060 it only looks stupid because of how different our intelligences can be, I guarantee your ENFJ in no way thinks you're actually stupid. ❤️
Reflecting on it, I can think of a few patterns in my interactions with ENTJs that you might want to look for, seek to analyze if they apply. I'll post them as individual comments.
I pull the ENFJ'S away from the edge, and we both babysit the ENFP'S. -INFJ.
Oh that's cute.
You forgot ISTP!!
i'm confused? How does this video make sence? - it's too confusing
Mhm. And that irritates me. My personal life is private ENFJ. Stay back.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Raw truth time. My INFP sister totally thinks that about me: all the time. It's just about the only thing she ever says to me. Except - the real issue is that she's so freaking self-focused that I don't trust her. Of all the people on planet Earth, she will probably forever be the last one to know anything about who I really am. My INTJ husband, who she thinks is a helplessly nerdy, people-stupid dweeb, is ten times more capable of understanding my complexities, because he's actually capable of seeing the world through a lens that isn't entirely determined by his own comfort level. #traumadump
Oh the irony in this post.