If a lady wants to be happy in life, she must be self dependent, always work on self improvement and overall growth in life. This way she has very less relationship troubles in parents house and in-laws house and she eventually gets respect from both the houses. Shifting focus from small small relationship problems (expectations and hurt) to continuously working towards improving overall quality of life is the key. There may be times initially when you are misunderstood but worry not, soon others will start respecting you. No-one messes with you and you get everything in life from money, health, good relationships and a peaceful mind.
Sir mere pas ek beti do bete he Tino bachche videsh me settelled he Mere pas tun prooerty he jo me tino ko dugi Par shart te he beti bete tino muze same ammount kharacha bheje Beti ko apna huq chahiye to use jimmedari bhi leni hogi Seva bhi karni padegi esa nahi hona chahiye ki seva to bahu aur beta kare aur nanad sirf huq jatane aa jaye Abhi abhi big b amitabh ne apni beti ko bunglow diya to usi time bete ko bhi de dete ek bunglow Beta bahu to sath rahe seva kare fir marne ke bad milega to ye galat he
@@nishrinvaghjipurwala4061 Mam apko zabardasti sewa karake kyu unko pareshan karna hai, jab bhi aisa time aye jab physically apko unki zarurat ho wo aa jayenge ap hi ke to bache hain. Apke pas property h ya source of income hai to ap apna kharcha khud hi bear kar sakte ho, kisi ka ehsaan kyu Lena hai. Apni passive income pehle khud par lagao, ache se jiyo, care taker or house helps rakho, ghumo firo. Jo baccha apko zyada time de or apke zyada kaam aye use ap apni taraf se expensive gifts ya gold de diya karo unko acha lagega. Remember Jo bacha apke liye present rehta hai wo zyada emotional hone ki vaje se aisa karta hai use koi laalach nahi h. Koi or bacha shayad itna emotional na ho or uski busy life ho. Beti ho ya beta ap hi ka hai, unko judge mat karo, or unka haq barabar rakho.
Hi Simran...you are right but a little problem is here... when a women don't engage on petty issues of family and focus own her own life improvements and career development thn most of the time husband became insecure... why?..because when the wife focus on herself, her career, her self development etc she definitely rise to a point where she gain respect from others but because of it her husband becomes insignificant in front her achievements which most mon can't tolarate... men actually love when his wife mind and engage his own families issues and even quarrels.... I see it through my personal experience.
1. Generally, husbands ask the wife to make a good relationship with the sister. Please do not destroy the relationship with your spouse due to relatives and other people. Live in a separate and nearby house than your parents if you need to 2. Saas/Sasur and Maa Baap are different. They have their own great place in life but please do not consider them as same and equal. Our behaviours cannot be the same with both 3. Similarly Beti and Bahu are different
Alag Ghar m rehne Lage toh sasural valee aur bolte h ki bete ko alag krdiya ......koi mana nai Kiya hai bete ko rehne ko saas sasur k sath but problm tab hoti hai.....jab bahu ko faltu m parshan kiya jata h
In my opinion, it’s emotional insecurity that comes in the way of drawing boundaries. Sometimes parents are manipulative and keep playing favourites to exhibit control, which ruins all relationships. If they make both children independent in every way, a lot of issues will be resolved. 😊
Saving money is not the only reason to stay with parents. Many sons spend more money( than rent) to be with parents due to 1.under society pressure 2. To be declared good son n brother
Ekdum sahi kaha. A son does bot get respect in society if he separates himself from his parental house. And also many a times itself parents does not allow their son to live in another premises, even if it is next door apartment.
I live with my parents and it's super expensive. My nephew (2) stays with them hence net expenses are more. Plus I have a nepali wife she just knows to spend and spend and spend cos all of her cousins are married to foreign nepali and I can't match their expenses. Over all my net saving is 0. I can't even buy a god dam playstation 5
Meri nanad ke saas sasur nahi hain .. They celebrate nearly all festivals with us . She has a big family in sasural but hardly meets her brother in laws or their families. But my FIL and Mil dont ever say any thing . सारे नियम क़ानून दूसरों की बेटियों के लिए होते हैं ।
Some parents dnt let do der sons job.... Kyu ki... Agar ladka jayda kama lega... Tho parents se paise kaise mange ga... Son n dil ko daba k rakhne ko ek humare neighborhood mai hi... Dey dint let there son get job wen he was young.... Saying ki tuje kya jarurat hai paiso ki... Wen he aged usko acha job nahi mila... N bauth late uski shadi ki gaon ki ladki se..ki woh ladki ghar k Sare kaam karegi... Now that man don't have enough money.... He is having 2 kids... Now he have to depend on his parents... Dis toxic Indian parents r😢😢
Sisters only we can break this joint family cycle, study hard get a job and have enough to get your house. This does not mean you don’t respect your in-laws, this means you have respect for yourself.
Parents ne ladke bahu k chkkr me Apni beti ko mayke aane se mna kar diya Na vaar na tyohar Bcoz bahu ne shart rkhi k pehle apni beti ka mayka khatam kro tab apke bete ka ghr basaungi Bina kisi galti k maa baap ne sab khatam kr diya Shukar hai self depend hu Sasuraal vale ache hain Otherwise mayke valo ne to aisa haal kr diya tha... Ab insaniyat se bharosa utth gya hai Jab apne maa baap aisa or skte hain to ..... Par chalo sabar hai Bhgwan apne aap dekhega Jisne jaisa b kiya Or humare sasural me alag hisab hai Beti ko beto se jyada hissa diya gya hai Uske baccho ko humare baccho se jyada Or bola gya hai k beti sbse upar hai....
@@AnjaliShrama-ld7cvit's not the case always. Sometimes Nanad kitni bhi achi kyun na ho Bhai and bhabhi Kahane doondhte usko blame kare ka so that they do not visit at all.
Apne bhabhi k sath kuch galat kiya hoga ki bhabhi itna irritate hogi apse ki ana thk band krwa diya ..nanad bhi kha km hoti h unko mayke m bhabhi pr order chalane hote h
Indian men want to live with their parents in the same house. One reason is money, another major reason is that they do not want their wife to be the boss of the house
Meri nand to mere ghar se 10 minute ki duri pe rheti hai,meri saas har din puri ghar ki story btane jati hai,meri nanad ko sab pta hota hai, fir wo aake puchti hai kaun aya tha ye kyu kiya 😂
My mom has thrown me under bus and treats daughter in law as daughter. I lost job and only earning member of the family but no help from mother or brother even though she is investing crores of money for him while I am begging for job. Even though I haven't fought for anything 😢
@@swatishukla5184 Thankyou, but unfortunately she is way more smarter than me. Both parents have already transferred everything in his name. He and his wife too have quietly brainwashed them, while I have been struggling with trying to make my family survive.
I mistakenly assumed parent love is rightfully obtained. But we need to play political games , not be genuine with our feelings and put up fake drama to win them throughout life. Parents too can be manipulated for material gains, and that too without doing any hardwork and only drama. I am too late to understand things.
Why are most of your example with the assumption that the daughter in law is a non working dependent lady. Even when she is contributing her 50% along with husband , living separately abroad, the Nanand can influence her parents to hate the DIL by sowing the seeds of jealously and insecurity. She will be called names like extremely independent, beta chor, family breaker etc. Parents always trust the daughter no matter how close the DIL is with the in laws. The Nanand always has a benefit of doubt and upper hand with parents!
My husband build house but because of my sister in law's influence I was asked to shift to rented house with my two babies! My mother in law stays in three storey bungalow alone. I live with children in 2BHK While husband works abroad.Some people are pure evil.
Sau baat ki ek baat. Rishta wohi sahi hai jo khushi de, shanti de. warna..... Har kand ke peechhe kaam, krodh, moh, lobh, aur ahankar hai.... Aur jaha ye saare aa gaye use situation or relation me satark ho jaaye.... Thodi doori banani jaroori hai.
Sometimes money is not the problem but if son share his thought of having his own personal house next to them even that klesh happens .Very next day Mil will call her all relatives " Bahu nay mera beta cheen liya , kush to jadu tona kiya hai bahu nay .Like every bahu is having special kala jadu classes
@@Mountaingirl-qi9omto parents bete ki shadi krk q laye the hr koi ldki independent nhi hoti ki wo khudka ghr khrid le or pati bhi maa bhen ka sath dete h mostly
It is not always due to financial problems.. This happens.. It also happens when nanand is over possessive about her brother ..she doesn't consider her bhabhi as a family..
She always thinks bhabhi is outsider. Bhabhi also takes the whole responsibility of family in a financial way that too taking care of house..but she is still outsider for her
@@archanashinde1764it is a problem in India that bahu has rights in property acquired by husbands parents. She should only have right on her husband’s income.
Sir i m also a nanad i m separated with my husband due to his extra marital affair but in my case my bhabi used to copy me which is very annoying she’s doing competition with me even i m not saying anything i m living my life with all hustles😞
Same...meri cousin sister ki bhabhi bhi usko copy krti thi...😂😂😂 same nail paint...same kapse...meri mausa mausi ko 10 saal se ek roti tk bna k ni di...abb meri cousin London chli gyi h after marriage....abb bhi vo koi kaam ni krti
This is only one side of the story... I know a sister in law(bahu) created such an environment in her martial home that an unmarried sister in law had to leave her parental house and apply for a transfer
Its the practical reality. ..well explained .Bahu is also a daughter of her parents. ....and same thing applies to her as daughter when she visits her parents home
Jo brother financially weak hai khud per confidence nhi hai parents ki godh mein baith ker rule krna chahte hai wo apni bahano ki respect nhi ker paate. Bahan agar bimar bhi hoti hai to equality ko kayam rakhne ke liye bhai bol deta hai meri wife bhi bimar hai wo kaam nhi ker sakti is tarah se pura ka pura ek pariwar barbaad ho chuka hai.
Ji bàhut gharon mein story ekdam different hai jahan well established betiyan apne un bhaiyon ko loot rahi hain jinki financial condition ka unse koi comparison hee nahi kiya jaa sakta
Great insights! Still, most parents don't consider giving property to daughters. They pretend they don't know. If they think daughters have in-laws' property then why there is a need for property from the maternal home? In such a case how to convey and convince the daughter's parents? This is such a crucial topic to discuss
Very well said.,sir. But please put some light on interference by bahu's parents,sisters brothers and relatives. These days boy's parents are staying away but girls' parents live with their daughter. Also one scene you have missed is when nanad is young and unmarried,then what should be the approach of parents.
Kdva h but true h … I am one who have four nanad and this video changed my whole process of thinking thanks sir it’s really needed for me and such women who like me
Jaise hi parents daughters ke liye equal property rights declare krte hai verbally bhabhi ke gharwalo ke wahan se farmaan aa jata hai older age mein maa baap ko phir daughter hi dekhe chaahe uska ghar base ya ujar jaaye. Childhood se 50 50 gender equality parents agar bolte hai to bhaiya log puri ki puri responsibilities gusse mein aaker bahano per thop deti hai sir.
Depends bhabhi kaisi hai aur bhai kaisa hai, maine 50-50 divison hote dekha hai and kisi ne object nahi kara But jo log ache nahi hain woh achank se ache nahi ho jayenge, aise logon se dur raho bas, jiss din in se dur jao,uske baad kabhi contact mat rakhna Sab ko budha hote hi, bhai-behen sab yaad aa jate hain, acknowledge hi mat karo
You have the option of going to court aur apka bhai bura mat maniye ga dande ki bhasha samjhne wala hi lagta hai, he seems far too arrogant and egoistic
Har koi court nahi jata....kuch jagah nand bhi pareshaan hoti hai and bhai bhabhi maa baap ko bhi pareshaan karte hai....bechare maa baap bacho ko Kasht na ho isliye court to kabhi nahi jate aur sab sahte hai😢😢😢😮😢😢😢
parents agr half property daughter ko dege to old age m daughter karne k name PE peeche kyu jat jati h ...Karo apne maa bap ki seva. .Bhai property lega tb bhai karega ..bhn bhi legi to apne parents ko bhi dekhe ..ldkiyo ka vo kam h property m adha hissa lege ..pr karege kuch nhi karne k liye bhai bhabhi h
That's my sister jiska apna kingdom bana rakha hai, doosron ki lagaane me lagi rahti hai Yes i m second nanad to my bhabhi but trust me i never ever interrupt in their lives Yahaa tak ki when they sit together in drawing room or balcony i never go there I believe in giving their space to everyone
Mai haryana se aur aur ek cardiologist hu maine shadi mp kr rhi hu hu airforce officer se love marriage but I really feel mere meri nand bilkul aise hi krti h shadi hone wala aur abhi se drama lga hua last ma mai discision li ager nanad ki chle gya to mai shadi nhi krugyi kuki unlogo mere behaviour language work sb chez se problem h but thanks god mere husband mujhe support krte h aur mere saasru ji v😢
Same story different state se hu shadi uttarakhand ki family me hui or itna Ganda behaviour hota hai bahu ke sath muje pata ni tha... Kaaran sirf yehi ki aap bahu ho dusre ke ghar se aayi ho
Maine bahut dhyan se aapka video dekha . Main khud saas hoon aur 2 bahu hai meri . Ek beti bhi hai jiski shaadi ho gayi hai. Hamare desh mein bahu ko khrab bolne walon ki kami nahin hai. Par khrab bahu ko isliye bola jaata hai taaki nanad aur saas jo bahu ko aansu deti hai , usko cover kiya ja sake. Main criminal lawyer bhi hoon aur women commission mein kaam bhi kiya hai. Hamara desh shuru se bahu ke against hi raha hai. Par aaj log aur zyada khtarnaak hai. Log bahar se meetha bolte hain par andar se waise hi hain , zeher se bhare hue. Maine khud hamesha bahu beta ke rishte ko mazboot banaya hai. Izzat earn ki jaati hai . Meri beti thoda roughly baat karti hai apni bhabhi se to maine usse samjhaya to wo abhi izzat de rahi hai bhabhi ko. Nanad tabhi aansu deti hai bahu ko jab usse apni maa ka aupport milta hai. Bahu ko har baar dosh dene se accha hai ki apni galti sudharen tab sabhi khush rahenge
Nanad is always portrayed as a villain. No one looks at the other side. If a guy is married before his sister, the bhabhi makes his sisters' life hell. They create obstacles in nanad's education, they try to push the family to marry her off even if she's still studying and in her early 20s, they start competition against nanad, show jealousy and chhoti chhoti baat ko pakad ke kalah karna. Many bhabhis are traumatising out there. Please show both sides. Ive already suffered a lot. And many like me out there. My bhabhi pushed me into depression and it had consequences on my physical health also. My mom was also hit by her. The least we expect is humane behaviour and respect and even that much we don't get bjt are villainised over social media all the time.
Even if someone can afford living separately, still they cant if parents emotionally manipulate him and take it as a ego thing that how can u move out... Iska kya kare Ps : In all ur videos u make it sound easy if u have money,... It sounds like gf leaves u, have more money.. Parents problem have more money, any other problem have more money... But in reality even if u have more money and have the choice to be independent ... There are other psychological and emotional things which takes place and impact ur mental health And if it was so easy with money then why only rich ppl with depression and anxiety are there with therapist, counsellors etc.
Exactly move out kr b gye na to mobile hai uspe maa behen sab rote hai ki haaye alag ho gya to beta cheen liya maa budhi ho gyi dyan nhi de rha joru ka ghulaam blah blah to udr I feel if husband mature hai to kahega bhai mummy tere paas daddy hai to main b to ek hee hu iske liye main b akela chor du to kaise chalega
@@neha_ankolekar true but I think they aren't resilient enough mentally as well...middle class bandaa ya Garib admi apna fate samjke will accept biggest of tragedies but idr choti choti baat pe therapist speed dial pe hota hai ...padosi ne volume badaya anxiety hota h call therapist...kutta bimar h ghar me depression ayega inko call therapist .....koi scene dekhke trigger hue call therapist ....kisi ne comment paas kia call therapist k bhai muje trigger kr dia ...so yeah mentally resilient nhi hote that's countable too
The job of money, is to provide the options. It's the person to decide which option to choose. If there's no money, there are no options. As simple as that.
Yes ultimately because they are not going to understand, better support them with money and stuff otherwise politics ke liye ready raho, Aur apni family se dur rhna chahiye girls ko bhi
@@aman3232bhai bahut poltics hota hai families me 😂.. pt abhi kya hoga jb hm jaise naye ladko ki shadi hogi but ab hm log apne parents and others ke saath Hui politics smjh chuke hai toh in future'acche se deal krenge taki politics na ho 😂😊
@@abhaysoni926 people might change but politics will remain same bss kirdar badlenge aur bhai jitna smjhle ladai jagde apke haath mein nahi apke ghar ki ladies ke haath mein hai
Bahut shi mein bhi pareshan ho gyi thi sasural me depression me the husband to maa baap ke hi ghar me hi rahana chahate the mera ek beta bhi h bahut chhota tha bs mei mayke sasural krti thi bs mera beta 3 years ka hua aur husband se boli dekh lo aap ko kisale sath rhna h bs mujhe yha nhi rhna h aap ko rhna h to rh lo mein ja rhi hun private school me padhaungi aur rent pr rhungi strictly aur puri planning se ab sb thik ho gya husband job location hi change kr liye ab 😂
I have four sisters in law. Three of them have husbands that live far, far away, like in different cities or different countries, and they stay at their parents' house all year long with their children. One of them have constructed a house just nearby and she lives there. But her son and daughter as well as her are always in the house, crowding it. One of the sisters in law comes here very rarely. But the others are here all the time. My husband and I have decided that we will shift and build a house nearby Inshaallah, because it's almost impossible to live here. We were living on rent but I'm currently living here because of my baby which is due soon.
What if a married girl with two kids is working in mayka(exact same location, govt job) and with a long distance relationship husband. If she get 2 days holiday then she always go with husband and come back. In mayka she is doing 90% of household chores (of whole family) and her own(with kids) all expenses by her salary. But if she asked her parents and brother to arrange a rented house in nearby city. They asked to not to live anywhere else. If she have to live separately her husband should be live with her otherwise they don't allow her to live on rent.because ye unki ijjat ka sawal h.but husband refused to live there because he is that sanskari boy of family who can't left their parents and bhai bhabhi. Her bhai bhabi always mentally, emotionally torture her and parents asked her to live accordingly. They always taunted but can't arrange a rented house. Beause if they does so unke ghar k kam kon karega.Everyone has taken her for granted.
Ma'am jitna jaldi ho ske aap alag ho jao Bcoz ye sab aane vale time me apka Aisa haal bna dega K aap kahoge meri life k itne saal barbaad ho gye.... Apka surname dekh kar lgta hai aap Haryana se to nahi ??? Jitna marji kar lo Mayk vale aapko hmesha for granted lenge Na apki nokri ki koi ehmiyat hai Na apke baccho ki Vo nokar jaisa behave krenge humsha Apni bete bahu ki timardaari krwake Ek din laat maar denge Kisi par trust na krna Na maa baap par hi Sab moh rkhte hain ladke ka Ladkiyaan jitni marji self depend ho jayein Vo humseha neeche hi rahegi Bahu anpadh hai to bhi kahenge unki gulami kro Or anpadah in the sense Gaali de to bhi sun lo
1. Sath rahoge toh bache ki b dekhbhal hoti rehti ha or kahi na kahi apko b Thora support rehta ha unse.Kabhi jarurt pari toh vo help b kar denge logo k dar se toh isme apki b bhalai ha. 2. Or agar jyada he problem ha toh bol do me khud rented house dhund leti hu. Rent or sari expenses jab apko hi bear karne ha toh. Fir koi rok thorina lega.
Sir good morning, really u r great the way of conversation between saas n sister in law . Very nice, after 21year of my lofe i now understand tht mother in law is saas not my mother. But anyway i feel if i do good thn god is there. But sir very nice explaintion. 💯💯💯
Sometimes Nanad is villian because she takes care of father/mother/ parents and son and daughter inlaw wants their property only so waiting them to go from this world asap
Sir.. Kitne saral aur sidhe sabdo me itni badi baat samjha di aapne... Kash ki logo ko samjh aaye....... Exactly middle class me hota bhi kuch aisa hi hai..........
Mere maa ki aur mere fufi ki sirf 1 baar ladai hui hai... Mere fufi jyada aati bhi nhi ghar par aur kabhi jyada bate bhi nhi karti ki aap aise karo waise karo... Unke unke rehte hai wo ... Pr sukh dukh me hamesha saath hote hai... Mai abhi 20 saal ki hui.. Mere mummy papa ke marriage ko 22 years hogaye pr sach me meri fufi bohot acchi hai
Sir apki bato me 2 bate non practical lagi 1-agar ladke ki bahen apne ghar aake janbuz kar bhabhi ko oareshan kar rahi ya faltu ke drame kr rhi hai idhar ki udhar kar rhi hai to wo sabse pehle apne bhai ka accha nahi chahati she is a really bad person 2- agar jis ghar me baap ki nahi chalti pehle to baap ni or second agar baap ko pta hai ki yeh meri ladki yaha aake thoda overreact karti hai to usse apne ladke or bahu jo unhe khana de rhi hai dwai de rhi unka khayal rakh rahi uska oadh lena chahiye or day one par apni ladki ko confront krna chahiye ki beta yeh acchi baat nahi agar esha karogi to yaha jada ane zarurat nahi hai kyoki budhape me ladka or uski bahu khana pina deta hai take care karta hai na ki wo ladki wo 7 day ko aati h or faktu bak bak karke chali jati h jisme uski mummy uska sath deti hain kyoki women are emotional creatures to wo apni ladki ka path lengi baki male jo hota hai usse practical hoke decision lena chahiye to lead his house I can talk about this or zada but aaj ke liye itna hi
Nanad mayke aake overreact karti h... Because uski aadat hoti h wahin pali badhi hoti h... To kabhi achchhe ke liye karti h kabhi bure ke liye... Hum kisi ko doodh ka dhula nahi kah sakte... Lekin bhabhiyan aur bahuen kya karti hn Saas kaam men haath bataye milke aadhe se zyada kaam karwaye to bhi shadishuda nanad se kaam ka hiska hota h Balki kuchh log order bhi karte hn... Aur overreact to aisa puchho mat... Wo bhi har chiz men...
Sir, please make a 20 hour course on this and teach this as a course in all Tier-1 MBA colleges in India. If you want I will help you get connected. MBA colleges help people succeed professionally. But if people are not happy in their personal life’s, they will never do well professionally. Hence, this should be introduced as a core course along with Accounts, Finance, Statistics etc.
Excellent video sir Mere yahaan dono example hain meri sister in-law or chacha sasur ki beti ka dono ne abhi tak mayke m cantrol kar rakha hai but sabke karmo ka apna hisab hoga
In my relation family, muslim,the parents separated divorced daughter to stay in another flat to make son & DIL happy.The son continues to live with parents. Unmarried/ divorce nanands are treated badly by brothers & DILs in Muslim community.
Not true ,the bahus have to do all the work mostly, the nanads are supported by their parents, maybe in some cases the nanand is treated badly but in most cases the bahus are the ones who are doing all the work
Great video, Mazza agya, Sir if possible try to make a video on..after parents death where will nanand go, when bhai n bhabhi are hard core selfish since the time of parents, inspite of nanand, taking all responsibility of both parents in their illness n hospitalization financially as well.*Nanand having good respective family life, but still feels the emotional needs for Mayka for 1or 2 days in a year or so.Bhai only calls when he is in some financial or support need n then blocks the call till next need arises.
Sir meri 4 nand h .aap ki har baat shi h but ye kha par likha h k jb nand ghar par aaye to bhu hi sara kaam kre .na husband ka sport na sas sasur ka .jb bhi family ek saath hoti h to sara burden mujh par aata h or sb ki seva krne k baad nand milke sas sasur ko bhi ulti pati padha deti h kya bhau k liye koi rule nhi hote kya uski koi iccha nhi hoti kua sasural me uska koi fever nhi kar skta
Kam ke liye beti nhi hoti .beti to lene or gr ke fasle lene ke liye hoti hai. Fir apni beti se hi seva krwa lena .nokr ki trh bhu kam kre .fasle beti le to fir apne beto ki Saadi na kre .kyuki bhu bhi beti hai kisi Ghar ki wo bhi apne gr rha skti hai
Yes sir m hun to shaadi hote hi shift ho gye the alag rented house me due to our job , and that was our best decision 🙌 savings kar paaye hum itne years me due to expense but atleast shanti h
Bahut si mothers beton se rishta banakar rakhti hain kyunki bete accha kamate hain. Fir bete se paesa anth kar betiyon ko deti hain . sir is topic pe video banao.
Mere husband ko aur muze hamare hi ghar se mere sas sasur aur divorcee nanand ne nikala...Humne zagade bhi nahi kiya tha aur muze divorce ke bare main 3 saal tak nahi bataya ...unko nanad ko leke rehna tha. Aur mere husband chup rahe..ab hum log alag rehte hai..But mere husband ko abhi abhi woh sab kharcha karna padta hai dono ghar ka ..we are not complaing but muze ghar main aane hi nahi dete..gayi to khana banane aur andar jane nahi dete..husband stand nahi lete tab..Ab is case main kya hona chahiye?
Super.....meri bhi bhabhi ka muh phool jata h mere mayeke jane se jbki maine aj tk usko kuchh nhi glt bola ..bahen to apna hisaa bhai k liye chhod deti h fir bhi bhabhi 1glass pani tk nhi deti nanad ko..
Agar bahen bhai ke liye mayeke mein hissa chor rahi hai to yeh koi sacrifice nahin hai. agar mayeke mein hissa lena hai to apne sasural wale mein se bhai ko hissa de.
Acha hai tum judge a video dekh ke aye ho😂 phele toah bet it’s kya sacrifice kart hai Tosha who bhi dekhlena bhai toah bas 10 rs kharch karne pe biwi se izzazat lete hai sara kharch beti ke kande par dalke bhag hate hai
Mujhe to mere mayke se na sasural se kuch chahiye 😅 Humne mehnat karke khud ka chota sa ghar lia Aur hum happy he usme Mere fil ne hume nikal kar Sil ko rakh diya So never depend on mayka and sasural Khud mehnat karke property lo ,hardwork always pays Never expect from ur in laws and bhai bhabhi That's the key of happiness Khud me mast raho
@@babitapandeykrk8558 tum trevel krke Mayeke jati hu bag rkh k khud hi kitchen me pani logi...Ajeeb soch h tumhari....koi guest aaye tumhare yha to usko gate bhi bolna khud khol k jaahir h jo ander h wahi open krega...jb wo baith payega tbhi to pani utha k piyega ...nonsense
बदलते परिवेश में सोच बदलने की जरूरत है जिस तरह ताली एक हाथ से नहीं बजती उसी तरह रिश्ते भी एक तरफा नहीं चल सकते l अगर उसे परिवार कहते हो उसे बनाए रखने की ज़िम्मेदारी सब की बनती है l क्लेश से अच्छा है दूरी पर रहो कम से कम रिश्ता बना रहेगा l
100 baat ki ek baat aaj k time me bahu ka samajhdar hona he kaafhi ni or ni b ho to chalega but bete ka samajhdar or ek achi personality hona bahut jaruri ho gya h ager bete ki soch achi h to kisi b ghar me saash,,namad or bahu dushman ni bnegi thoda bahut jaghda hota h thk h but Mahabharata vhi hoti h jha beta galat ka saath dene lge or biwi k sath hum aapke h kon❤❤ kabi b aap log observe karna jha family me sub thk h nand b aate h sub normal chal raha h vha humesha beta samajhdar milega......ager humare parents beti k saath saath beto ko b ghar parivaar ki smjh de to kbi aisa hoga he ni jo hota aarha h gharo me ..... Sab excuse hote h ki nanad ne ye kha saash ne ye bola bahu badmash h vgera vgera ❤ but ashli vjah ghar k mard hote h jo ghar ka mahol jante huye b koi action ni lete Verna kisi ki b himmat ni hoti ki ghar ko sarkash bna k rakh de or last me ladies bol de humne to kuch kiya he ni❤ saash nand to baad k h phle husband to biwi ko izzat kre baaki sub ache hote h......❤ Bhaadh me javo😂😂😂😂
But the story doesn't end here. bahu ye show karti he ki ham to parents ki dekhbhal karte he aur apna pura life ka sukh sacrifice kar dia and send the man and his parents in a guilt trip playing victim before anybody n everybody.
Nanad ki ek aur Jat bhi he jo badi umar tak shadi nahi karti us ke papa ke ghar me bethi rahati he Jab papa retire ho jate he aur khud ma bap ka kharcha bete ki kamayi par depadnt he tab nanad agar koi kamayi nahi karegi aur bhai se aiyashi vale kharche karvaye gi to bahu kya kare Kai ma bap bhi bete se paisa le kar betiyo ko deti rahati he has deti rahati he aur kalesh badhata rahta he Har individual ko kamana chahiye bhale nanad shadi kare na kare ma bap ke ghar me jese beta kamata he vese beti ko bhi jamana chahiye agar bete ke sath beti ka jaydad me huq he to beti ko apne ma bap ka kharcha uthana bhi aana chahiye Jitna beta deta he beti ko bhi ghar me kharch de na chahiye Par vaha mabap kahege nai nahi hum beti se paisa nahi lege ye bhi galat he
Ghar ke bete beti ka huq agar equal he to beti ki bhi budhe ma bap ka kharch uthana chahiye hospital ka bill pay karna chahiye Seva karni chahiye Kai gharo me beti kavari hoti he ya talaksuda to vo ma bap ke ghar me aa to jati he par bap to retire he vo khud apne bete ki kamayi par nirbhar he vaha nanad ko bhi kama kar ma bap ko kharch dena chahiye
Insanely truth ! Shocking that missed this out episode and It ruined !! Itna sach that already suffer karne k bad apne maa baap k gjarme ... Kaise lesson nahi milti ha pata nahi. What steps need to take to prevent beautiful relationship!
Guruji Mai bhi ek aisi hi nanad hu jiska ek ghanta bhi maa ke Ghar me rahna bhabhiyo ko bardast nahi😢😢😢maa ka khud ka Ghar hate hue bhi koi stand nahi le sakti , meri mummy ki pension bhi aati hai Bhai bhabhi meri insult kar dete tab bhi kuch nahi bolti
What about those nanad jo door rahkar bhi pura mayka control krti hai.. kai bar interfare krne ke liye sath rahna jaruri nahi..kuch ladkiyan itni talented hoti hai ki jhunt bolkar.. emotional blackmail karke..maa ko aage lakar bhi door se hi bhai ko financially and emotionally exploit karti hai
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Is baat pe main apni maa ki bahut respect karti hu. No matter I am her daughter but she always gives priority to my bhabhi coz she knows very well ki bahut ki kya importance h. Ek achi beti wohi hoti h jo apni wajah se apne parents ka budhapa kharab nai hone deti. My mom always says agar mayeke mein beti ka vaas h toh bahu ka naash hona confirm h. Always maintain the distance.
Sir please suggest what should a daughter do when she is taking care of mother because mother and brother always fight but when matter comes to property then mother suggests “ Betiyan Bhai se hissa leti achhi nhi lagti” Am I wrong if i start thinking that if brother has only rights of everythything mother should go and live with them only.
Sir said very true solutions as I want to share my life experience. My Nanad had married with business man, Saas Sasur got expired before her marriage so she is only boss of house and all. After my marriage she started interfering in saas Bahu relation. She call 3-4 times to my saasu on daily bases and take all updates and then call me to do this or that. Overall destroyed my and MIL realation. So we decided to take other home and not I m happy with my small family. No kalesh no rona no suiside. Now my MIL settled with his very richer damad house.
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If a lady wants to be happy in life, she must be self dependent, always work on self improvement and overall growth in life. This way she has very less relationship troubles in parents house and in-laws house and she eventually gets respect from both the houses. Shifting focus from small small relationship problems (expectations and hurt) to continuously working towards improving overall quality of life is the key. There may be times initially when you are misunderstood but worry not, soon others will start respecting you. No-one messes with you and you get everything in life from money, health, good relationships and a peaceful mind.
Sir mere pas ek beti do bete he
Tino bachche videsh me settelled he
Mere pas tun prooerty he jo me tino ko dugi
Par shart te he beti bete tino muze same ammount kharacha bheje
Beti ko apna huq chahiye to use jimmedari bhi leni hogi
Seva bhi karni padegi esa nahi hona chahiye ki seva to bahu aur beta kare aur nanad sirf huq jatane aa jaye
Abhi abhi big b amitabh ne apni beti ko bunglow diya to usi time bete ko bhi de dete ek bunglow
Beta bahu to sath rahe seva kare fir marne ke bad milega to ye galat he
@@nishrinvaghjipurwala4061 Mam apko zabardasti sewa karake kyu unko pareshan karna hai, jab bhi aisa time aye jab physically apko unki zarurat ho wo aa jayenge ap hi ke to bache hain. Apke pas property h ya source of income hai to ap apna kharcha khud hi bear kar sakte ho, kisi ka ehsaan kyu Lena hai. Apni passive income pehle khud par lagao, ache se jiyo, care taker or house helps rakho, ghumo firo. Jo baccha apko zyada time de or apke zyada kaam aye use ap apni taraf se expensive gifts ya gold de diya karo unko acha lagega. Remember Jo bacha apke liye present rehta hai wo zyada emotional hone ki vaje se aisa karta hai use koi laalach nahi h. Koi or bacha shayad itna emotional na ho or uski busy life ho. Beti ho ya beta ap hi ka hai, unko judge mat karo, or unka haq barabar rakho.
Agar aap apnay sabhi bacho ko equal property ma hissa datay ha roo sab ko jimadari bhi equal uthani padagee
That’s good 👍🏻 advice
Hi Simran...you are right but a little problem is here... when a women don't engage on petty issues of family and focus own her own life improvements and career development thn most of the time husband became insecure... why?..because when the wife focus on herself, her career, her self development etc she definitely rise to a point where she gain respect from others but because of it her husband becomes insignificant in front her achievements which most mon can't tolarate... men actually love when his wife mind and engage his own families issues and even quarrels.... I see it through my personal experience.
1. Generally, husbands ask the wife to make a good relationship with the sister. Please do not destroy the relationship with your spouse due to relatives and other people. Live in a separate and nearby house than your parents if you need to
2. Saas/Sasur and Maa Baap are different. They have their own great place in life but please do not consider them as same and equal. Our behaviours cannot be the same with both
3. Similarly Beti and Bahu are different
Alag Ghar m rehne Lage toh sasural valee aur bolte h ki bete ko alag krdiya ......koi mana nai Kiya hai bete ko rehne ko saas sasur k sath but problm tab hoti hai.....jab bahu ko faltu m parshan kiya jata h
Bahut sahi points
I have 4 sister in laws....Sara din phone pe report leti rehti hai. 😢😢
जब सास ससुर के हाथ पाव न चले तीन तीन महीने बेटियों के पास भेज देना
Same here
Same here
Phone charge karna band kar do
बहुत बढ़िया सलाह-मशविरा है ये तुम भी सोच लेना किसी घर मे तुम भी nanad हो
In my opinion, it’s emotional insecurity that comes in the way of drawing boundaries. Sometimes parents are manipulative and keep playing favourites to exhibit control, which ruins all relationships. If they make both children independent in every way, a lot of issues will be resolved. 😊
Very true! Manipulative parents... and they love to play favoritism! Pure narcissists!
Parents are always manipulative
Not always
True
@@seemakaushik7815 u r lucky, rare. Bhai behno ka apas ka jhagda hi maa baap ki wajah se hota hai
Saving money is not the only reason to stay with parents. Many sons spend more money( than rent) to be with parents due to
1.under society pressure
2. To be declared good son n brother
Ekdum sahi kaha. A son does bot get respect in society if he separates himself from his parental house. And also many a times itself parents does not allow their son to live in another premises, even if it is next door apartment.
I live with my parents and it's super expensive. My nephew (2) stays with them hence net expenses are more. Plus I have a nepali wife she just knows to spend and spend and spend cos all of her cousins are married to foreign nepali and I can't match their expenses. Over all my net saving is 0. I can't even buy a god dam playstation 5
@@sstalks469 sad
Meri nanad ke saas sasur nahi hain .. They celebrate nearly all festivals with us . She has a big family in sasural but hardly meets her brother in laws or their families. But my FIL and Mil dont ever say any thing . सारे नियम क़ानून दूसरों की बेटियों के लिए होते हैं ।
Some parents dnt let do der sons job.... Kyu ki... Agar ladka jayda kama lega... Tho parents se paise kaise mange ga... Son n dil ko daba k rakhne ko ek humare neighborhood mai hi... Dey dint let there son get job wen he was young.... Saying ki tuje kya jarurat hai paiso ki... Wen he aged usko acha job nahi mila... N bauth late uski shadi ki gaon ki ladki se..ki woh ladki ghar k Sare kaam karegi...
Now that man don't have enough money.... He is having 2 kids... Now he have to depend on his parents...
Dis toxic Indian parents r😢😢
Sisters only we can break this joint family cycle, study hard get a job and have enough to get your house. This does not mean you don’t respect your in-laws, this means you have respect for yourself.
Parents ne ladke bahu k chkkr me
Apni beti ko mayke aane se mna kar diya
Na vaar na tyohar
Bcoz bahu ne shart rkhi k pehle apni beti ka mayka khatam kro tab apke bete ka ghr basaungi
Bina kisi galti k maa baap ne sab khatam kr diya
Shukar hai self depend hu
Sasuraal vale ache hain
Otherwise mayke valo ne to aisa haal kr diya tha...
Ab insaniyat se bharosa utth gya hai
Jab apne maa baap aisa or skte hain to .....
Par chalo sabar hai
Bhgwan apne aap dekhega
Jisne jaisa b kiya
Or humare sasural me alag hisab hai
Beti ko beto se jyada hissa diya gya hai
Uske baccho ko humare baccho se jyada
Or bola gya hai k beti sbse upar hai....
Bilkul mere khaani jaise h apki khaani
Bhut interfere krti hogi tum Bhai or bhabhi k bich tbhi asa bhabhi ne bola hoga vrna Bina bat ke kyu asa kregi vo ....
@@AnjaliShrama-ld7cvit's not the case always. Sometimes Nanad kitni bhi achi kyun na ho Bhai and bhabhi Kahane doondhte usko blame kare ka so that they do not visit at all.
Apne bhabhi k sath kuch galat kiya hoga ki bhabhi itna irritate hogi apse ki ana thk band krwa diya ..nanad bhi kha km hoti h unko mayke m bhabhi pr order chalane hote h
@@vizulchaudhary422 Mere hisab ajkl kisi ko itni fursat nhi h mayke Jake order chlaye bhabhi prr ......
Indian men want to live with their parents in the same house. One reason is money, another major reason is that they do not want their wife to be the boss of the house
Meri nand to mere ghar se 10 minute ki duri pe rheti hai,meri saas har din puri ghar ki story btane jati hai,meri nanad ko sab pta hota hai, fir wo aake puchti hai kaun aya tha ye kyu kiya 😂
Meri dadii bhi apne beti ko sb batati hai aur unki beti enko😂
Same here 5 min distance only
Same here, bt meri nannd hi roz aati he mayke me
Aap bhi apni beti ko sbb btana..😅😅😅
Ya koi badi baat nahi hai
This type Duniya Dari ka knowledge actually useful for our Generation
My mom has thrown me under bus and treats daughter in law as daughter. I lost job and only earning member of the family but no help from mother or brother even though she is investing crores of money for him while I am begging for job. Even though I haven't fought for anything 😢
Same sister pr sabko bahu sahi lgte hai 😢
@radha consider talking to advocate
Typical Indian mother 😂😂😂 yeh hain humari tyag ki murat
@@swatishukla5184 Thankyou, but unfortunately she is way more smarter than me. Both parents have already transferred everything in his name. He and his wife too have quietly brainwashed them, while I have been struggling with trying to make my family survive.
I mistakenly assumed parent love is rightfully obtained. But we need to play political games , not be genuine with our feelings and put up fake drama to win them throughout life. Parents too can be manipulated for material gains, and that too without doing any hardwork and only drama. I am too late to understand things.
Why are most of your example with the assumption that the daughter in law is a non working dependent lady. Even when she is contributing her 50% along with husband , living separately abroad, the Nanand can influence her parents to hate the DIL by sowing the seeds of jealously and insecurity. She will be called names like extremely independent, beta chor, family breaker etc. Parents always trust the daughter no matter how close the DIL is with the in laws. The Nanand always has a benefit of doubt and upper hand with parents!
My husband build house but because of my sister in law's influence I was asked to shift to rented house with my two babies! My mother in law stays in three storey bungalow alone. I live with children in 2BHK While husband works abroad.Some people are pure evil.
Very good move or decision. Let your mother leave alone .
2BHK me Shanti hai na?
Aapke pati ko aapne nahi uski maa ne Paula hai....usko izzat do pehle
Pyar khud se mil jayega
Very good decision 😂
Mere yaha bhi same huwa hai
Sau baat ki ek baat. Rishta wohi sahi hai jo khushi de, shanti de. warna..... Har kand ke peechhe kaam, krodh, moh, lobh, aur ahankar hai.... Aur jaha ye saare aa gaye use situation or relation me satark ho jaaye.... Thodi doori banani jaroori hai.
Sometimes money is not the problem but if son share his thought of having his own personal house next to them even that klesh happens .Very next day Mil will call her all relatives " Bahu nay mera beta cheen liya , kush to jadu tona kiya hai bahu nay .Like every bahu is having special kala jadu classes
My sister in law is the head of the family in my in law family, she visits here more than 8 months in a year , she is too much pampered and spoiled….
You should start living separately with husband if too much trouble.. or best move to another city for job as excuse 😉
Because its her parents house .....buy your own house and be the master of your own empire ...
@@Mountaingirl-qi9omright...🎉❤
@@Mountaingirl-qi9omto parents bete ki shadi krk q laye the hr koi ldki independent nhi hoti ki wo khudka ghr khrid le or pati bhi maa bhen ka sath dete h mostly
Amit Sangwan sir....great thinker!!
It is not always due to financial problems.. This happens.. It also happens when nanand is over possessive about her brother ..she doesn't consider her bhabhi as a family..
She always thinks bhabhi is outsider. Bhabhi also takes the whole responsibility of family in a financial way that too taking care of house..but she is still outsider for her
@@archanashinde1764it is a problem in India that bahu has rights in property acquired by husbands parents. She should only have right on her husband’s income.
Same
My story
You deserve nobel prize for such type of awareness
True🙏
Sir i m also a nanad i m separated with my husband due to his extra marital affair but in my case my bhabi used to copy me which is very annoying she’s doing competition with me even i m not saying anything i m living my life with all hustles😞
Same...meri cousin sister ki bhabhi bhi usko copy krti thi...😂😂😂 same nail paint...same kapse...meri mausa mausi ko 10 saal se ek roti tk bna k ni di...abb meri cousin London chli gyi h after marriage....abb bhi vo koi kaam ni krti
I am also suffering this problem.
Same my bhabhi is bad chudail me kuch ni bolti toh bhi pareshan karti hai
Kuch nai bus ignore kare value na de
This is only one side of the story... I know a sister in law(bahu) created such an environment in her martial home that an unmarried sister in law had to leave her parental house and apply for a transfer
Its the practical reality. ..well explained
.Bahu is also a daughter of her parents. ....and same thing applies to her as daughter when she visits her parents home
Best thing ye h ki jb bhi nand festivals pr aaye vacation pr aaye tb bahu bhi apne ghr me jaye festivals, vacation celebrate krne very simple
What a Idea
Mind blowing 🤣🤣
Tab tak nanad ghar ka kabada kar degi
How will the children will have bonding
Hamare ghar to sare festival per nand aati hai bahu festival per mayke chali Gaye Kam kon karega ye rewaj he nahi hai
@@jyotiprajapati2837 apne maa k ghar ka kregi..tum apna bna ko..itni hie takleef h agar
Jo brother financially weak hai khud per confidence nhi hai parents ki godh mein baith ker rule krna chahte hai wo apni bahano ki respect nhi ker paate. Bahan agar bimar bhi hoti hai to equality ko kayam rakhne ke liye bhai bol deta hai meri wife bhi bimar hai wo kaam nhi ker sakti is tarah se pura ka pura ek pariwar barbaad ho chuka hai.
Ji bàhut gharon mein story ekdam different hai jahan well established betiyan apne un bhaiyon ko loot rahi hain jinki financial condition ka unse koi comparison hee nahi kiya jaa sakta
Great insights!
Still, most parents don't consider giving property to daughters. They pretend they don't know. If they think daughters have in-laws' property then why there is a need for property from the maternal home? In such a case how to convey and convince the daughter's parents? This is such a crucial topic to discuss
If daughter can take the property of her parents, she should also be ready to take responsibility of her old parents!
Ys exactly
Exactly@@hemagupta5943
@@hemagupta5943 that we daughters always do. Put insight on what I asked. Not your gyan
@@hemagupta5943it is quite common to see bhabhi calling nanand to come take care of sick in laws . But property is for bhabhi
Very well said.,sir. But please put some light on interference by bahu's parents,sisters brothers and relatives. These days boy's parents are staying away but girls' parents live with their daughter. Also one scene you have missed is when nanad is young and unmarried,then what should be the approach of parents.
Well said
Nand aati hai or suddenly sb bigad jata hai
Same here 😂
Kyunki tum log lalchi ho..uska hisse ki property pe baith k ye expect krte ho..ki vo na ghar aye..na call kre
@@divinesoul1313 suna tere ko kitna pta jo lalchi kah rhi hai tu hi akeli nanad hai kya jo teri jl gyi
@@joomatuzomato7844It's their parents house .
Excellent advice sir, being independent is this only solution to these problems
Kdva h but true h … I am one who have four nanad and this video changed my whole process of thinking thanks sir it’s really needed for me and such women who like me
Sir ur recent webinar on will was very effective and in shirt time got lot of insights ...great work
My real sister life was ruined by her sister in law and mother in law, now she is all alone 😢
where were you. Why didn't you support her
Even sister in laws are jealous of Bhabi status sometimes
And they deliberately create problems even if everything is going smooth
Right.. ..
Maine dekha hai bahu log jealous krti hai...nanad se.
Very true
Jaise hi parents daughters ke liye equal property rights declare krte hai verbally bhabhi ke gharwalo ke wahan se farmaan aa jata hai older age mein maa baap ko phir daughter hi dekhe chaahe uska ghar base ya ujar jaaye. Childhood se 50 50 gender equality parents agar bolte hai to bhaiya log puri ki puri responsibilities gusse mein aaker bahano per thop deti hai sir.
Depends bhabhi kaisi hai aur bhai kaisa hai, maine 50-50 divison hote dekha hai and kisi ne object nahi kara
But jo log ache nahi hain woh achank se ache nahi ho jayenge, aise logon se dur raho bas, jiss din in se dur jao,uske baad kabhi contact mat rakhna
Sab ko budha hote hi, bhai-behen sab yaad aa jate hain, acknowledge hi mat karo
You have the option of going to court aur apka bhai bura mat maniye ga dande ki bhasha samjhne wala hi lagta hai, he seems far too arrogant and egoistic
Har koi court nahi jata....kuch jagah nand bhi pareshaan hoti hai and bhai bhabhi maa baap ko bhi pareshaan karte hai....bechare maa baap bacho ko Kasht na ho isliye court to kabhi nahi jate aur sab sahte hai😢😢😢😮😢😢😢
parents agr half property daughter ko dege to old age m daughter karne k name PE peeche kyu jat jati h ...Karo apne maa bap ki seva. .Bhai property lega tb bhai karega ..bhn bhi legi to apne parents ko bhi dekhe ..ldkiyo ka vo kam h property m adha hissa lege ..pr karege kuch nhi karne k liye bhai bhabhi h
Aapki vajah se life mein goals sahi directions mein aa paaye hain. Abb samajh aata hai separate real estate ka value
Husband and wife should have their independent house,bhale hi wo chhota ho
I wish everyone parents understand this ❤
That's my sister jiska apna kingdom bana rakha hai, doosron ki lagaane me lagi rahti hai
Yes i m second nanad to my bhabhi but trust me i never ever interrupt in their lives
Yahaa tak ki when they sit together in drawing room or balcony i never go there
I believe in giving their space to everyone
Amazing uncle ji.. serious topic PE bhi hasa dete ho aapa.. aapi ki sari videos dekhti hu mai.. maaza aa jata hai..
Bahut sahi gyaandiya h guruji.❤🎉
Mai haryana se aur aur ek cardiologist hu maine shadi mp kr rhi hu hu airforce officer se love marriage but I really feel mere meri nand bilkul aise hi krti h shadi hone wala aur abhi se drama lga hua last ma mai discision li ager nanad ki chle gya to mai shadi nhi krugyi kuki unlogo mere behaviour language work sb chez se problem h but thanks god mere husband mujhe support krte h aur mere saasru ji v😢
Same story different state se hu shadi uttarakhand ki family me hui or itna Ganda behaviour hota hai bahu ke sath muje pata ni tha... Kaaran sirf yehi ki aap bahu ho dusre ke ghar se aayi ho
🙏🏻Thanks a lot for bringing up this topic .. Its so relatable and true🙏🏻
Maine bahut dhyan se aapka video dekha . Main khud saas hoon aur 2 bahu hai meri . Ek beti bhi hai jiski shaadi ho gayi hai. Hamare desh mein bahu ko khrab bolne walon ki kami nahin hai. Par khrab bahu ko isliye bola jaata hai taaki nanad aur saas jo bahu ko aansu deti hai , usko cover kiya ja sake. Main criminal lawyer bhi hoon aur women commission mein kaam bhi kiya hai. Hamara desh shuru se bahu ke against hi raha hai. Par aaj log aur zyada khtarnaak hai. Log bahar se meetha bolte hain par andar se waise hi hain , zeher se bhare hue. Maine khud hamesha bahu beta ke rishte ko mazboot banaya hai. Izzat earn ki jaati hai . Meri beti thoda roughly baat karti hai apni bhabhi se to maine usse samjhaya to wo abhi izzat de rahi hai bhabhi ko. Nanad tabhi aansu deti hai bahu ko jab usse apni maa ka aupport milta hai. Bahu ko har baar dosh dene se accha hai ki apni galti sudharen tab sabhi khush rahenge
Excellent video very practicle like all your videos 🙏 superb
Nanad is always portrayed as a villain. No one looks at the other side. If a guy is married before his sister, the bhabhi makes his sisters' life hell. They create obstacles in nanad's education, they try to push the family to marry her off even if she's still studying and in her early 20s, they start competition against nanad, show jealousy and chhoti chhoti baat ko pakad ke kalah karna. Many bhabhis are traumatising out there. Please show both sides. Ive already suffered a lot. And many like me out there. My bhabhi pushed me into depression and it had consequences on my physical health also. My mom was also hit by her. The least we expect is humane behaviour and respect and even that much we don't get bjt are villainised over social media all the time.
Sir has has ke rona aya video bahot achha laga aapne muzhe khudko sochane pe majboor kiya hai thank you so much sir 🙏🙏pranaam🙏🙏
Even if someone can afford living separately, still they cant if parents emotionally manipulate him and take it as a ego thing that how can u move out... Iska kya kare
Ps : In all ur videos u make it sound easy if u have money,... It sounds like gf leaves u, have more money.. Parents problem have more money, any other problem have more money... But in reality even if u have more money and have the choice to be independent ... There are other psychological and emotional things which takes place and impact ur mental health
And if it was so easy with money then why only rich ppl with depression and anxiety are there with therapist, counsellors etc.
Exactly move out kr b gye na to mobile hai uspe maa behen sab rote hai ki haaye alag ho gya to beta cheen liya maa budhi ho gyi dyan nhi de rha joru ka ghulaam blah blah to udr I feel if husband mature hai to kahega bhai mummy tere paas daddy hai to main b to ek hee hu iske liye main b akela chor du to kaise chalega
Because only the rich can afford counselor and therapists 😂
@@neha_ankolekar true but I think they aren't resilient enough mentally as well...middle class bandaa ya Garib admi apna fate samjke will accept biggest of tragedies but idr choti choti baat pe therapist speed dial pe hota hai ...padosi ne volume badaya anxiety hota h call therapist...kutta bimar h ghar me depression ayega inko call therapist .....koi scene dekhke trigger hue call therapist ....kisi ne comment paas kia call therapist k bhai muje trigger kr dia ...so yeah mentally resilient nhi hote that's countable too
@@neha_ankolekar yes but my point is they also don't have it easy, if other things are not sorted.
The job of money, is to provide the options. It's the person to decide which option to choose. If there's no money, there are no options. As simple as that.
Very honestly said
Awesome 👍
Thank you so much amitji
Excellently explained..
Aapke video ke hisaab se maa baap ke saath rehne wale ladke se bilkul shadi nahi karni chahiye
Agar aap unke maa baap ke relatives ko sahan na kar paavo
Yes ultimately because they are not going to understand, better support them with money and stuff otherwise politics ke liye ready raho,
Aur apni family se dur rhna chahiye girls ko bhi
Bilkul nahi
@@aman3232bhai bahut poltics hota hai families me 😂.. pt abhi kya hoga jb hm jaise naye ladko ki shadi hogi but ab hm log apne parents and others ke saath Hui politics smjh chuke hai toh in future'acche se deal krenge taki politics na ho 😂😊
@@abhaysoni926 people might change but politics will remain same bss kirdar badlenge aur bhai jitna smjhle ladai jagde apke haath mein nahi apke ghar ki ladies ke haath mein hai
Action nd consequences its like u have experienced all this by yourself really enjoyed the concept make more
Well said Guru ji. I have two nanand and when they come our home they can't say anything but in in-laws house they display lot of nakhare 😂
Best video we need more of this
Bahut shi mein bhi pareshan ho gyi thi sasural me depression me the husband to maa baap ke hi ghar me hi rahana chahate the mera ek beta bhi h bahut chhota tha bs mei mayke sasural krti thi bs mera beta 3 years ka hua aur husband se boli dekh lo aap ko kisale sath rhna h bs mujhe yha nhi rhna h aap ko rhna h to rh lo mein ja rhi hun private school me padhaungi aur rent pr rhungi strictly aur puri planning se ab sb thik ho gya husband job location hi change kr liye ab 😂
I have four sisters in law.
Three of them have husbands that live far, far away, like in different cities or different countries, and they stay at their parents' house all year long with their children. One of them have constructed a house just nearby and she lives there. But her son and daughter as well as her are always in the house, crowding it. One of the sisters in law comes here very rarely. But the others are here all the time. My husband and I have decided that we will shift and build a house nearby Inshaallah, because it's almost impossible to live here. We were living on rent but I'm currently living here because of my baby which is due soon.
😊 very true, the first one. Her husband will say- din ko raat if she says so.
What if a married girl with two kids is working in mayka(exact same location, govt job) and with a long distance relationship husband. If she get 2 days holiday then she always go with husband and come back. In mayka she is doing 90% of household chores (of whole family) and her own(with kids) all expenses by her salary. But if she asked her parents and brother to arrange a rented house in nearby city. They asked to not to live anywhere else. If she have to live separately her husband should be live with her otherwise they don't allow her to live on rent.because ye unki ijjat ka sawal h.but husband refused to live there because he is that sanskari boy of family who can't left their parents and bhai bhabhi. Her bhai bhabi always mentally, emotionally torture her and parents asked her to live accordingly. They always taunted but can't arrange a rented house. Beause if they does so unke ghar k kam kon karega.Everyone has taken her for granted.
Just focus on urself.... Use ur hard earn money on u n kids..... Move out... N ask husband to stay with u or come for holidays at ur house...
Have patience. When children grow up a little you can move out . This may take 10 years, but 10 years is not a lot in 80 years lifetime
Ma'am jitna jaldi ho ske aap alag ho jao
Bcoz ye sab aane vale time me apka Aisa haal bna dega
K aap kahoge meri life k itne saal barbaad ho gye....
Apka surname dekh kar lgta hai aap Haryana se to nahi ???
Jitna marji kar lo
Mayk vale aapko hmesha for granted lenge
Na apki nokri ki koi ehmiyat hai
Na apke baccho ki
Vo nokar jaisa behave krenge humsha
Apni bete bahu ki timardaari krwake
Ek din laat maar denge
Kisi par trust na krna
Na maa baap par hi
Sab moh rkhte hain ladke ka
Ladkiyaan jitni marji self depend ho jayein
Vo humseha neeche hi rahegi
Bahu anpadh hai to bhi kahenge unki gulami kro
Or anpadah in the sense
Gaali de to bhi sun lo
Be strong and move out
1. Sath rahoge toh bache ki b dekhbhal hoti rehti ha or kahi na kahi apko b Thora support rehta ha unse.Kabhi jarurt pari toh vo help b kar denge logo k dar se toh isme apki b bhalai ha.
2. Or agar jyada he problem ha toh bol do me khud rented house dhund leti hu. Rent or sari expenses jab apko hi bear karne ha toh. Fir koi rok thorina lega.
Sir good morning, really u r great the way of conversation between saas n sister in law . Very nice, after 21year of my lofe i now understand tht mother in law is saas not my mother. But anyway i feel if i do good thn god is there. But sir very nice explaintion. 💯💯💯
Sir, aap saas- bahu k rishtey ka mimicry bohut accha kiye.....so hilarious.....( and harsh truth of middle class people)
Sometimes Nanad is villian because she takes care of father/mother/ parents and son and daughter inlaw wants their property only so waiting them to go from this world asap
U r the most clarity giver person of India
Sir.. Kitne saral aur sidhe sabdo me itni badi baat samjha di aapne... Kash ki logo ko samjh aaye....... Exactly middle class me hota bhi kuch aisa hi hai..........
Mere maa ki aur mere fufi ki sirf 1 baar ladai hui hai... Mere fufi jyada aati bhi nhi ghar par aur kabhi jyada bate bhi nhi karti ki aap aise karo waise karo... Unke unke rehte hai wo ... Pr sukh dukh me hamesha saath hote hai... Mai abhi 20 saal ki hui.. Mere mummy papa ke marriage ko 22 years hogaye pr sach me meri fufi bohot acchi hai
Sir apki bato me 2 bate non practical lagi 1-agar ladke ki bahen apne ghar aake janbuz kar bhabhi ko oareshan kar rahi ya faltu ke drame kr rhi hai idhar ki udhar kar rhi hai to wo sabse pehle apne bhai ka accha nahi chahati she is a really bad person
2- agar jis ghar me baap ki nahi chalti pehle to baap ni or second agar baap ko pta hai ki yeh meri ladki yaha aake thoda overreact karti hai to usse apne ladke or bahu jo unhe khana de rhi hai dwai de rhi unka khayal rakh rahi uska oadh lena chahiye or day one par apni ladki ko confront krna chahiye ki beta yeh acchi baat nahi agar esha karogi to yaha jada ane zarurat nahi hai kyoki budhape me ladka or uski bahu khana pina deta hai take care karta hai na ki wo ladki wo 7 day ko aati h or faktu bak bak karke chali jati h jisme uski mummy uska sath deti hain kyoki women are emotional creatures to wo apni ladki ka path lengi baki male jo hota hai usse practical hoke decision lena chahiye to lead his house
I can talk about this or zada but aaj ke liye itna hi
Nanad mayke aake overreact karti h... Because uski aadat hoti h wahin pali badhi hoti h... To kabhi achchhe ke liye karti h kabhi bure ke liye... Hum kisi ko doodh ka dhula nahi kah sakte... Lekin bhabhiyan aur bahuen kya karti hn Saas kaam men haath bataye milke aadhe se zyada kaam karwaye to bhi shadishuda nanad se kaam ka hiska hota h Balki kuchh log order bhi karte hn... Aur overreact to aisa puchho mat... Wo bhi har chiz men...
Sir, please make a 20 hour course on this and teach this as a course in all Tier-1 MBA colleges in India. If you want I will help you get connected. MBA colleges help people succeed professionally. But if people are not happy in their personal life’s, they will never do well professionally. Hence, this should be introduced as a core course along with Accounts, Finance, Statistics etc.
4:54 is epic 😅
🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂
Yes indeed 😂
Socially no one takes blame not son no wife no daughter in law but lot of frustration at home
Excellent video sir
Mere yahaan dono example hain meri sister in-law or chacha sasur ki beti ka dono ne abhi tak mayke m cantrol kar rakha hai but sabke karmo ka apna hisab hoga
Very true, nanand who don't have their own family troubles a lot,,, see same kind of family then proceed further
In my relation family, muslim,the parents separated divorced daughter to stay in another flat to make son & DIL happy.The son continues to live with parents.
Unmarried/ divorce nanands are treated badly by brothers & DILs in Muslim community.
In all communities women’s problems are almost same
@@krutikah1468in muslims they are more
2nd marriage is accepted in muslim community than in hindu. I think you should try for 2nd marriage if they wish and help them earn living
@@varunmittal3617 did you forget to read the word “almost” in my comment
Not true ,the bahus have to do all the work mostly, the nanads are supported by their parents, maybe in some cases the nanand is treated badly but in most cases the bahus are the ones who are doing all the work
Kya Baat hain. So TRUE n so clear
Mind-blowing 😊👍
Great video, Mazza agya, Sir if possible try to make a video on..after parents death where will nanand go, when bhai n bhabhi are hard core selfish since the time of parents, inspite of nanand, taking all responsibility of both parents in their illness n hospitalization financially as well.*Nanand having good respective family life, but still feels the emotional needs for Mayka for 1or 2 days in a year or so.Bhai only calls when he is in some financial or support need n then blocks the call till next need arises.
Sir meri 4 nand h .aap ki har baat shi h but ye kha par likha h k jb nand ghar par aaye to bhu hi sara kaam kre .na husband ka sport na sas sasur ka .jb bhi family ek saath hoti h to sara burden mujh par aata h or sb ki seva krne k baad nand milke sas sasur ko bhi ulti pati padha deti h kya bhau k liye koi rule nhi hote kya uski koi iccha nhi hoti kua sasural me uska koi fever nhi kar skta
Kam ke liye beti nhi hoti .beti to lene or gr ke fasle lene ke liye hoti hai. Fir apni beti se hi seva krwa lena .nokr ki trh bhu kam kre .fasle beti le to fir apne beto ki Saadi na kre .kyuki bhu bhi beti hai kisi Ghar ki wo bhi apne gr rha skti hai
I got the answers for my office Kalesh here by analogy. Thank you so much.
Yes sir m hun to shaadi hote hi shift ho gye the alag rented house me due to our job , and that was our best decision 🙌 savings kar paaye hum itne years me due to expense but atleast shanti h
Bahut si mothers beton se rishta banakar rakhti hain kyunki bete accha kamate hain. Fir bete se paesa anth kar betiyon ko deti hain . sir is topic pe video banao.
Totally agree 👍
Mere husband ko aur muze hamare hi ghar se mere sas sasur aur divorcee nanand ne nikala...Humne zagade bhi nahi kiya tha aur muze divorce ke bare main 3 saal tak nahi bataya ...unko nanad ko leke rehna tha. Aur mere husband chup rahe..ab hum log alag rehte hai..But mere husband ko abhi abhi woh sab kharcha karna padta hai dono ghar ka ..we are not complaing but muze ghar main aane hi nahi dete..gayi to khana banane aur andar jane nahi dete..husband stand nahi lete tab..Ab is case main kya hona chahiye?
Super.....meri bhi bhabhi ka muh phool jata h mere mayeke jane se jbki maine aj tk usko kuchh nhi glt bola ..bahen to apna hisaa bhai k liye chhod deti h fir bhi bhabhi 1glass pani tk nhi deti nanad ko..
Agar bahen bhai ke liye mayeke mein hissa chor rahi hai to yeh koi sacrifice nahin hai. agar mayeke mein hissa lena hai to apne sasural wale mein se bhai ko hissa de.
Acha hai tum judge a video dekh ke aye ho😂 phele toah bet it’s kya sacrifice kart hai Tosha who bhi dekhlena bhai toah bas 10 rs kharch karne pe biwi se izzazat lete hai sara kharch beti ke kande par dalke bhag hate hai
Ek glass pani yei to problem h .. mayke jaakr khud bhi ek glass paani liya ja sakta hai na kitchen se.. yhi se to problem start hoti h.
Mujhe to mere mayke se na sasural se kuch chahiye 😅
Humne mehnat karke khud ka chota sa ghar lia
Aur hum happy he usme
Mere fil ne hume nikal kar Sil ko rakh diya
So never depend on mayka and sasural
Khud mehnat karke property lo ,hardwork always pays
Never expect from ur in laws and bhai bhabhi
That's the key of happiness
Khud me mast raho
@@babitapandeykrk8558 tum trevel krke Mayeke jati hu bag rkh k khud hi kitchen me pani logi...Ajeeb soch h tumhari....koi guest aaye tumhare yha to usko gate bhi bolna khud khol k jaahir h jo ander h wahi open krega...jb wo baith payega tbhi to pani utha k piyega ...nonsense
By God pure video me hassi nhi ruki
But itna sach kisi ne nhi bola hands off 🙏🏻
apki saari baate bilkul sahi hoti hai kash apki tarah he sab hote
Please make a video on unmarried or divorced brothers of husband in the family.
बदलते परिवेश में सोच बदलने की जरूरत है जिस तरह ताली एक हाथ से नहीं बजती उसी तरह रिश्ते भी एक तरफा नहीं चल सकते l
अगर उसे परिवार कहते हो उसे बनाए रखने की ज़िम्मेदारी सब की बनती है l
क्लेश से अच्छा है दूरी पर रहो कम से कम रिश्ता बना रहेगा l
हम तो परिवार से काफी दूर रहें फिर भी प्यार बना हुआ नहीं रहा, मायके में बेटियो की चलती है वहां प्यार खतम हो जाता है
100 baat ki ek baat aaj k time me bahu ka samajhdar hona he kaafhi ni or ni b ho to chalega but bete ka samajhdar or ek achi personality hona bahut jaruri ho gya h ager bete ki soch achi h to kisi b ghar me saash,,namad or bahu dushman ni bnegi thoda bahut jaghda hota h thk h but Mahabharata vhi hoti h jha beta galat ka saath dene lge or biwi k sath hum aapke h kon❤❤ kabi b aap log observe karna jha family me sub thk h nand b aate h sub normal chal raha h vha humesha beta samajhdar milega......ager humare parents beti k saath saath beto ko b ghar parivaar ki smjh de to kbi aisa hoga he ni jo hota aarha h gharo me ..... Sab excuse hote h ki nanad ne ye kha saash ne ye bola bahu badmash h vgera vgera ❤ but ashli vjah ghar k mard hote h jo ghar ka mahol jante huye b koi action ni lete Verna kisi ki b himmat ni hoti ki ghar ko sarkash bna k rakh de or last me ladies bol de humne to kuch kiya he ni❤ saash nand to baad k h phle husband to biwi ko izzat kre baaki sub ache hote h......❤
Bhaadh me javo😂😂😂😂
I liked before starting 😊
I am so happy that atleast you spoke on this matter.status lagane ka mann kar raha h par nahin kar sakte.
But the story doesn't end here. bahu ye show karti he ki ham to parents ki dekhbhal karte he aur apna pura life ka sukh sacrifice kar dia and send the man and his parents in a guilt trip playing victim before anybody n everybody.
Arey satisfy her ego na, your family will be peaceful. Acknowledge her role so she doesn’t have to look for validation.
Nanad ki ek aur Jat bhi he jo badi umar tak shadi nahi karti us ke papa ke ghar me bethi rahati he
Jab papa retire ho jate he aur khud ma bap ka kharcha bete ki kamayi par depadnt he tab nanad agar koi kamayi nahi karegi aur bhai se aiyashi vale kharche karvaye gi to bahu kya kare
Kai ma bap bhi bete se paisa le kar betiyo ko deti rahati he has deti rahati he aur kalesh badhata rahta he
Har individual ko kamana chahiye bhale nanad shadi kare na kare ma bap ke ghar me jese beta kamata he vese beti ko bhi jamana chahiye agar bete ke sath beti ka jaydad me huq he to beti ko apne ma bap ka kharcha uthana bhi aana chahiye
Jitna beta deta he beti ko bhi ghar me kharch de na chahiye
Par vaha mabap kahege nai nahi hum beti se paisa nahi lege ye bhi galat he
Ghar ke bete beti ka huq agar equal he to beti ki bhi budhe ma bap ka kharch uthana chahiye hospital ka bill pay karna chahiye
Seva karni chahiye
Kai gharo me beti kavari hoti he ya talaksuda to vo ma bap ke ghar me aa to jati he par bap to retire he vo khud apne bete ki kamayi par nirbhar he vaha nanad ko bhi kama kar ma bap ko kharch dena chahiye
You are also doing this ..because you are also a bahu
Middle class ma kaha par betiyo ko huq( property ka heessa) milta ha ji...betiya annay samurai ka bhi karya or sewa ma bap ki bhi karya
Insanely truth ! Shocking that missed this out episode and It ruined !! Itna sach that already suffer karne k bad apne maa baap k gjarme ... Kaise lesson nahi milti ha pata nahi. What steps need to take to prevent beautiful relationship!
Guruji Mai bhi ek aisi hi nanad hu jiska ek ghanta bhi maa ke Ghar me rahna bhabhiyo ko bardast nahi😢😢😢maa ka khud ka Ghar hate hue bhi koi stand nahi le sakti , meri mummy ki pension bhi aati hai Bhai bhabhi meri insult kar dete tab bhi kuch nahi bolti
thats why me and my husband stay in abroad very far from my sil. she is pure evil but har sher ko savasher mikta hai. that savasher is me 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Ekdum sahi kaha aapne sir ❤❤🙏🍫
Aise bhi baap hain singhania jaise jinhone sab bete ko de diya ...jisne unhe nikal diya
Great topic sir ✌✌✌✌✌
What about those nanad jo door rahkar bhi pura mayka control krti hai.. kai bar interfare krne ke liye sath rahna jaruri nahi..kuch ladkiyan itni talented hoti hai ki jhunt bolkar.. emotional blackmail karke..maa ko aage lakar bhi door se hi bhai ko financially and emotionally exploit karti hai
🙏मेरी तीन ननदे है । सबसे छोटी 18 सालो से तलाकशुदा है ,। सबसे बडी ननद भी शादी के छः माह बाद वापिस आ ग ई थी,। 5 साल के बाद वापिस चली ग ई, ।उसके 1साल बाद से ये छोटी रहती है मंझली का भी पति के साथ मतभेद है ,।हमने वो घर तीनो बहनो को छोडकर अलग बना लिया है ।लेकिन ,बहुत समय तकmental torture झेलना पडा है, उन सब कीfrustrationमुझ पर ही उतरती थी 😢
Amejing speech 😊i trubuld my sister in law.
Is baat pe main apni maa ki bahut respect karti hu. No matter I am her daughter but she always gives priority to my bhabhi coz she knows very well ki bahut ki kya importance h. Ek achi beti wohi hoti h jo apni wajah se apne parents ka budhapa kharab nai hone deti. My mom always says agar mayeke mein beti ka vaas h toh bahu ka naash hona confirm h. Always maintain the distance.
Bahut sahi baat bola aapne lekin bahut kum log hain jo is tarah ki soch rakh pate hain
Sir please suggest what should a daughter do when she is taking care of mother because mother and brother always fight but when matter comes to property then mother suggests “ Betiyan Bhai se hissa leti achhi nhi lagti”
Am I wrong if i start thinking that if brother has only rights of everythything mother should go and live with them only.
Very well explained ....guruji
Sir said very true solutions as I want to share my life experience. My Nanad had married with business man, Saas Sasur got expired before her marriage so she is only boss of house and all. After my marriage she started interfering in saas Bahu relation. She call 3-4 times to my saasu on daily bases and take all updates and then call me to do this or that. Overall destroyed my and MIL realation. So we decided to take other home and not I m happy with my small family. No kalesh no rona no suiside. Now my MIL settled with his very richer damad house.