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Question- how should a wife react when she is married into a family where open drinking is prevalant where father in law says my husband to drink and my mother in law is okay with us but I am not
Almost 2 years hone wale hain husband se alag rehte huye and honestly i agree on the part ki detachment hone lag jata hai, it definitely takes an emotional toll on you. Life’s not easy this way but we keep telling ourselves that we chose this so can’t complain. All we do now is keep planning for ways to move back together somehow.
I am in central government , I recieved many proposals from women working in state govt but I rejected each of them because of this very reason sir. I finally married a non working educated woman . I want marriage to look like a marriage. I didn't want to be a bachelor while being so called married.
@@sachoubey Tum jese log khud form bharte ho aur phir job nahi mil pati to apne grudge ese nikalte ho ya to private ko sahi thehrate ho ya govt ko gali dete aur system ko corrupt bolte ho, reservation ,paper leak ko dosh so funny Ps- I am general and a good ranker too
@@sachoubey Your vision can't become a reality of system as it's narrow. What do businessmen like you do create HUF for evasion of taxes ,black marketing ,hoarding etc. You are into Garments business what rates do you pay electricity bill, do you employee labour if yes are they getting minimum wages ,are they registered epf act, or even are their statutory provident fund or even unregistered provident fund is getting deducted, is your business with no encroachment of public space and in commercial are ....when the system is not developing you guys blaming government officials for everything depicts your mindset and you are sadistic people.
@MyHemant13 whatever you say, I do not care, everyone knows in India, govt employees are corrupted and haramkhor and kaamchor. Keep speaking, bit will not reply.
Short term thinking is root cause of all problems. People wanting to get married for short term gains rather than giving importance to person whom they have married
I used to work in the state govt job. My husband is in IT. I left the job after 3 Months of marriage . Starting living together now it's 10yrs of marriage everything in the relationship between is destroyed. Now I regret leaving my job. Edit 1 - recently joined back job.
Women should always be financially independent if possible emotionally too. Society doesn't propagate it because it becomes difficult to manipulate and control such a woman someone who can ask for her rights. Be courageous and find some source of income for yourself as far as relationship is concerned it takes 2 to tango. Give it your best efforts to mend it but the interest and efforts of other person are not in your control.
@@pinksky_466_00 if both are working who will take care of kids that's the biggest concern nowadays. A man earn for family but woman earn for herself. If nothing workout woman has option for fake cases alumni money etc.
@@Sumit-hi1on No idea what made you assume that if woman earns it is her money , whatever both partners make is family money. Bringing up children is both partners job not only women both have to chip and be present and it can be done if both partners are willing and prioritise it. What is the point of making our daughters study and make them independent if they finally have to give up everything and sit at home rather make them study homescience and train them to be homemakers. What would you advise if you in future have a daughter.
@@vishdgr8 I wonder how you tried to wrongly infer that I am Bihari. Now similarly let me try to infer that your ancestors are snakes bcz your YT name comprises the word 'vish'.
@@saitamathecoder1386 True, indeed!! However I just tried to bring in light humour here. I have seen couples like Rohit & Neha living very peacefully. However we can't ignore the reality and cost(emotional & financial) incurred by the families bcz of this
Why do you feel afraid to tell truth and main problem in this scenario ? I work in Wipro Kolkata office where a lady married a boy living in Bangalore. In lunch break time she has visited apartment of at least 5 different men from my project. Extramarital affairs is biggest reason behind this kind of set up.
My case is the edge case - My wife is in Govt Job and stay is Govt Resident provided there, While I am in Software staying with Mom Dad , 2 Kids all under our home I am survived from Saas-Bahu kalesh and life is so balanced Kids are growing , My mom dad (Kids Dada-Dadi) help them to grow very well with proper sanskars provided by them Wife coming 2 home weekly or bi-weekly and doing all home essential works happily upto 3-4 days of chutti, which I assume she could not do if she residing with saas-sasur permanently in our home (If she not employed case)
This is why I don't do long distance relationship or even friendships. It just doesn't work out no matter what. Just occasional hi, hello, happy birthday etc take hi baat reh jati hai after a while
Sir bilkul sahi analysis hai apka, I was in corporate IT sector and wife in state govt. We were separated for 5 years when we married. Covid bring WFH culture due to which I am shifted with her from past 5 years now. We were able to plan second child and i have much more strong bond with my second child as I saw her growing in front of me as compared to my elder child who generally does not show a much closer bond with me. Also me and wife used to fight atleast 2-3 days in week when we were in separate states and things have sorted to quite a greater level now. With IT sector starting to end WFH culture now, if again i have to separate then I will resort to freelancing or setting up some small buisness of my own than to go back to IT job in different city again
Shaadi ke time to boy and girl laalch me pad kar shaadi karte hain us time kuch sochte nhi hain ki alag alag kaise rahenge baad me rote hain 10-15 saal baad. Ya to paise kama lo ya pariwar dekh lo. The biggest looser always be man in this situation. Ladies ko to kisi na kisi ka support mil hi jata h 😂
What if biwi kalesh hi nhi karti… dono koi fark hi nhi padta door rehne ka… they r both chill living apart. Wife is living with kid and husband is living alone…
Uncle jee humari family ek sath rahti hai. Mai, meri wife, dono ki govt job hai same dept me.father, mother k sath rahte hai. hum dono ne decide kiya hai k PROMOTION nhi lenge bcz transfer nahi chahiye. Kya humne sahi kiya uncle jee. Plz reply
Unemployment and inflation is at peak ..not everyone can work in ITsector ..for small town people government jobs are better than anything …so there is not any solution to postings..people shud stay happy anyways
Pati job chod dega, phir patni tana maregi kuch din baad, phir bacche lekar chali jayegi mayka, phir divorce file karegi with alimony and maintenance, phir bacche se nahi milne degi, phir court court kheliye and at last ...... Atul Subhash Part 2. Inki baatein sunoge aaplog to ghar bachega nhi balki tut jayega. Shuru me accha lagega lekin sab faltu logic hai. Patni dhundo aisi jo job na kare to shadi chalne ki sambhavna jyada hai. Kalesh to har jagah hi hona hai.
If the wife is that kind then you are in a horrible relationship. It is better to find someone in the same town, while holding the job and then get out of the long distance relationship
Hello Sir , I really wish you to make a video on topic like A city girl marrying a comparatively small town boy ? What all factors should be kept in mind , what all complications is one about to face ? 🙂
U do it nd make it work untill others say that yes its possible....m married. Both me nd my husband are in govt jobs....both posted in different states nd doing our best to give time to both our families nd ourselves...he hs nvr asked me to leave my job nd cm stay with hm...he cn cook,clean the house,do his chores nd is the most self independent guy...dsnt need a momma or wife to take care of hm...m feel m da happiest women alive. His parents though hd certain objections earlier are now ok seeing both of us happy...so yeah dont fall fr wat odrs say to u....only u knw wats best fr u....nt evry situation or person is similar....if u r lucky enuf to make it wrk wid ur partner whu supports u fully nd makes up fr ur absence smtyms den its gonna wrk....btr den dose couples whu stay together whr da girl resents her lyf is dpndnt on hsbnd to luk after her nd hs no dreams or aspirations of her own.
lol ,this is more of political comment than a realistic ones . I have seen people living in gulf far away from their families trying to date other women despite being married . Staying away from family is not every man's deal . You are merely tokenizing
People don’t realise how many couples exist like this even in past and make things work, i am happy to listen to your experience, there are many like u and yes these kind of couples exist but ones has to work for its own challenges. All the best for your life
👍Great analysis and insights, even though every situation is unique and complex, and there are no 'one pill cures all' solutions! Marriage is a necessary institution even in today's dynamic societal structures and it requires a lot of patience, tolerance, adjustment and compromise from both partners!
Make a video for people who are working alone in gulf for lifetime especially people from kerala. Either wife is working as nurse or husband working as a worker or labrour
I'm working in gurgaon as an IT professional and wife is working in Mumbai as an investment banker company Now it has been 7 months since we met each other.
Sir can you make videos on what to do when in-law s has three son n one daughter Daughter has taken her full equal property from parents without informing brothers n 2 sons are not keeping parents as they live abroad n in different state n elder son n daughter in law is forced to do sewa while others siblings will be. benefited in terms as they have no kalesh with in laws Living their own life but will get portion of property they deserve What about the Bahu who will do sewa like unpaid labour
Don't do sewa. Let the in laws live in their son's house and give him nothing. Its their understanding. The bahu should not do their sewa, and live her life the best she can. No other solution. If the husband insists that she should do sewa, then she should ask for compensation of 30-35 thousand per month from him.😂😂😂
@@MohitVerma-yv9du check what is more important for you asset or relationship. If you are have very much trouble from wife due to long distance you both can make some emergency fund and resign and look for job into there location.
That's a big issue tbh and if your loan is not of that much amount loan than you can prepay it with your current savings or extend its tenure to decrease the burden of heavy EMI that for the time you are unemployed pay it with your wife's money that will give you sufficient time to find a job or set a business or what so ever
Sir aapki bat sahi bhale ho lekin humari didi ki govt job thi, shadi aur pati k liye onhone resign kar diya qki husband rote rhta tha aur other drama tha oska ki family life ni h pyar ni mil rha, ghar ni bs rha, bache ko bda hote ni dekh pa rha bla bla, ab halat ye h ki woi pati 3-4 jagah chakkar chala rha, onki pitayi lga rha, baccha ko chuta tk nahi, aur to aur tu karti kya hai tujhe divorce kar dunga tujhe road pe la dunga, mere bagair bhik mangegi, tujhe kahi ka ni chorunga, daru ladki aur pta ni kya kya chal rha. Hum jitna b reasoning, logic, emotion, romance ki soch len sach ye h ki humare samaj me mahila agar depend hai fir bhagwan bhi oski madad ni kar rha. Humara samaj aur parivaron me ple hue ladke ladki ki koi value ni karte. 4 din naya rishta, parwah, care, value sab h; fir nayi titli naya josh, naya nautanki; patni gyi bhad me. Hum onko ghar le aae, aspas k log, rishtedar, zahar gholna shuru, fir ghar ladai lgwae, mtlb bhabhi onse lad li. Kya karen kuch rasta ni sujh rha.
I am in the same situation…my wife is in UP state government job & I was working in Gujrat at very good package but I have to left my job and premium life there. But aapne bilkul sahi bola hai ki working wife k liye ki government job cchod hi nahi sakti bcz unhe pata hai ki uske baad kuch nahi hoga
Income tax department and excise department mai transfer policy band ho gyi hai jo jha hai vahi sadoo lifetime,jin logo ki wife state mai Job karti hai unka bhi kuch nhi hai,😢ye sab nichle tabke ke employees ke liye hai bus,IRS leval pe sab khula hai
This is the reality of GST, Income tax, Railway and most of the Central Government departments. The reason for such type of marriages, centre and states, is because of favorable policy at the time of Congress regime which is becoming worse and worse only in the current regime. All are hoping for change of regime.
You spoke in favour of men in Atul Subhash case which was right but every bad guy after that got validation that he is good. You have now gathered sakht badtameez laundas on your channel. Look at the comments they are making. Quality of your subscribers have worsened now.
Yeah .. atul Subhash wale case pe bolna jarruri tha ... But tab se thoda views me changes dikh rahe hai halke se .. ki ladkiya to aesa karegi hi .. Aur idhar comments me sabhi ladke like ladkiya to asi hoti waise hoti .. This is totally wrong
Sir please make a video on the topic of husband and wife from two different parts of India then in that case should they marry and if they marry what kinds of challenges will they face and how will they try to overcome them.
Come to Kerala sir you can find lots of successful long distance relationship...most of the husband are abroad and there wife and children were in their home town yes problem occurs when inlows interfere in their personal matters otherwise everything is sorted...
Please remove the word “successful” from the pharse “successful long distance relationship”. You seems to have no idea on what a successful relationship means
Kindly make one video on how to handle negativity, criticism, sympathy from friends and relatives (specially in laws while staying with them)on having two daughters. While we are happy but people still expect to go for third baby and so on. Getting depressed😢
Hi didi Even my mother was also taunted by my grandmother Just because I was born as second girl child My mom and dad straight rejected her pov regarding third child for boy Ki khud toh do chaar se mein marr jaogi Konsa mere bache ko paal dogi Pls ignore them Mere parents mein ko bhi sab bhot bakwas bolte h kyunki do betiyan hi h Lekin aaj hum career wise sahi chal rahe h toh muh band h sabka Aap unko padhane likhana ka socho Ye relative aise bhi ghanta kabhi kaam aate h
Still its fine...at least financial solvency rehti hai ..baccha bhi accustomed and self dependent ho jata hai..usko spoon feeding nahi karna padta...husband wife can care for each other even if they are living in separate places .yeh mentality ki baat hai .. mehangai itni badh gayi hai ki single income se bahut difficulty hoti hai .If both are working, life financially sound rehta hai ....provided the couple has mutual respect.....😊😊
@@bipinkumarcse family pressure bolke ek chiz hoti hai bhai.....parents didnt want working girl...and arranged marriage ....ab parents ki to sunni hi ha..and later on family ka bhi take care karna padta hai......I was saying considering today socio economical scenario.....correct me if Iam wrong...
Itni high salaries bahut kam logo ki hi hai, aajkal dono ko kamana padta hai kharcha chalane ke liye. Agar ek hi kamaye, to fir koi child mat karo - childfree marriages can work well for couples in which only one is working.
Woman is working here, taking care if the kid and in top of that parents and in laws also come😮... saala sara sir dard toh neha ka hi ho gaya. Husbands ke toh maze hain. Extramarital ke liye mast time nikal jaata hai. Other than job, no responsibilities😂
Case study , Husbsnd manager in pune , wife in Ahemadabad vice president earning in cr , no kids they meeet monthly on weekend , very busy , age 36 but look 50 , 3 bhk flat stay alone ,eat outside or order zomato , or only dal chawal ,
jealousy from DIG couples is for real in all PSUs. co location is strictly followed in maharatna PSUs but locations given are remotest to DIGs so that all mode of transport are used indeed. and most money is spent in travelling.
Beyond a doubt. If you are far apart, find somebody close by. Long distance relationships are non sense, unless you just want to be in a state of relationship for the sake of it. You can call yourself to be in a relationship till you find some one better nearby or fend off useless creatures. There is not much in this long distance non sense
Sir I have messaged you on the app I need the course extended for three months I could not complete the full video please could you extend it for just three months.
Sir your videos are very useful but it becomes habitual to go through it and relate it our current situation… I know it’s up to viewers up to what limit they should watch and learn from it … It’s just like Sandeep Maheshwari channel where viewers are searching for something related to it (I am not comparing this with your channel ) and get becomes engaged due to productively content or just went on recommendation (due to idiotic UA-cam algorithm) …
Sir mera mere husband ke sath jhagda ho gya tha......kyoki mujse shadi krne ke baad jab mai pregnant ho gyi to vo dobara apni ex ke sath jud gye.....hamara divorce case chalaa lekin kyoki maine koi bohot bada case nahi kiya tha ......simple bachche ki maintenance ka case kiya tha ....4 saal case chala..pr court me judge ne samjhaaya to ab case khatam ho gya h ...sath reh rahe h ek bachcha h ...lekin jo baat pehle thi vo ab nahi h hamare riste me ......ham bachche ke mata pita ki tarh reh rahe hain...... Vo khud v koi efforts nahi krte rista theek krne ka.......or mai aage isliye nahi badh paati....kyoki galat to vo the na .....or in 4 saalo me mere husband ka us lady se sexual relation bhi raha hi hoga definitely....ye soch kr muje unko touch krne ka bhi Mann nai krta .....Mai andar se itna dukhi hoo ye soch kr .. although I love him so much.......but is dhokhe ko bhool nai paati...Mai kyaa karu😓
If you truly love him, toh aap ek kaam kro. I can understand ki glti apki nahi h, ese m khud jhukna muslik hota h, but life to aap dono ki hi khrb hori h. Ese m apne pati ko ek muka aur deke dko kya pta sb thik ho jay. Aur muka dene se pehle usse beth k hr baat clear krlo, usko bolo ki tmne jo kiya glt tha pr aaj bhi m tmse hi pyr krti hu isiliye ek muka aur dena chahti hu tumko. Aur chahti hu tm bhi efforts kro. Bs condition de dena ki ex se dubara koi contact na ho wrna iss br sb khtm. Jb aap usko khul k man ki baat batayengi toh ho skta h usko realise ho uski glti. Wo nahi jhuka koi nhi ek baar aap jhuk jao riste k liye, isme kchh glt nahi. But apne pati se acche se communication aur discussion kr lo bina lade ya behass kre. Bolo usko ki sb thik krna h ya nahi. Uske baad bhi agr result negative aye toh mujhe update krna m aur solution dunga. Aur hmesha yaad rkke jitna communicate krenge apas m utna rista accha bna rahega. Aur usko dubara se Emotionally and Physically apna le, kya pta wo bhi yhi sb chahta ho pr bol na para ho apni glti ki wjah se, ki kis muhh se bolu. Isiliye aap start kro y sb discuss krna.
If you have any self respect, leave that man. Loyalty is the base of marriage, if base is shaken then there is no point. You should do what is right in long run, not what you want today. Women keep their emotions above self respect, thats the problem. My brother-in-law also cheated on my sister and was not ready to listen against his own character when my sister confronted him. Ek toh chori upar se seena zori. Dont do mistake of giving him another chance, men never give second chance when wife cheats. For men their self respect and ego is above emotions, women should also do the same.
@@_13456 You didn't read her full comment, she still loves him and wants to stay with him as well if he seeks her forgiveness. So please don't ruin someone's life by giving them poor advice. And for your sister it was her choice to leave her husband.
Thank you for sharing this case study. This video is very relevant to me as I recently moved to US and wife back in India with my mother. We both are in corporate so she obviously doesn't prefer to become homemaker all of a sudden. Also she cant work in US if she comes with me due to dependent visa restrictions. By god's grace, there hasn't been any issues between us. My plan is to work and save as much as possible and return in few years. Not sure how it will play out. Aap bataye if I have taken a right decision?
17:42 koi speculation nahi h. Sach mein aisa hi hota h. Lady 8 months pregnant ho ya 6 months baby ki mother ho...koi farak ni padta... Kahin bhi utha k transfer kar dete h
In case of central govt job. If your wife is not doing any job. In this case the wife can work as a private school teacher, in whichever city tue husband is posted. Govt job husband and wife who is willing to teach are better partner in this situation. There is no need for husbands to leave their job and become servant of an lady. Why not wife leave her job and take care of home.
Sabse pehle to ye baat hai ki alag location jobs ke couples ki shadi fix kaise hogi, parents kaise maan jate hain ki unki daughter in law husband se , sasuraal se alag rahegi, shadi fix kaise hogi😮😮
Sir aapki. Ak bhi bat galat nahi hoti. ...aisa koi nahi batata man ki bat ... Bete ki.ghutan uski mummy kabhi nahi samzti... Ma ko pention hai o bachat rakhati hai aur bete ko magti hai ..jab ki jarurat nahi usko. Uski vajah se bete bahu me zagde hote hai....espe video banaye...dusare bete ko deti hai ak ko maggke
Are you in defense to ask this question ? If so talk to your CO not to extend your posting beyond 2 years on hostile territory, if you are posted beyond 2 years
Aap kuchh bhi bole, govt employees ke hi maje hai. Surabh sharma bhopal ne kya 8cr paisa kamaya hai hum to uske aas paas bhi nahi soch sakte hai kitmi bhi imandaari se kaam karle.
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Sir, I just wanted to know that in which central gov job, govt is giving 1.7 lacks salary in 12-15 yrs of service?
Question- how should a wife react when she is married into a family where open drinking is prevalant where father in law says my husband to drink and my mother in law is okay with us but I am not
Almost 2 years hone wale hain husband se alag rehte huye and honestly i agree on the part ki detachment hone lag jata hai, it definitely takes an emotional toll on you. Life’s not easy this way but we keep telling ourselves that we chose this so can’t complain. All we do now is keep planning for ways to move back together somehow.
Appreciate your constructive thinking. Best of luck
I am in central government , I recieved many proposals from women working in state govt but I rejected each of them because of this very reason sir. I finally married a non working educated woman . I want marriage to look like a marriage. I didn't want to be a bachelor while being so called married.
👌 nice
@@sachoubey Tum jese log khud form bharte ho aur phir job nahi mil pati to apne grudge ese nikalte ho ya to private ko sahi thehrate ho ya govt ko gali dete aur system ko corrupt bolte ho, reservation ,paper leak ko dosh so funny
Ps- I am general and a good ranker too
Wow last line 👌
@@sachoubey Your vision can't become a reality of system as it's narrow. What do businessmen like you do create HUF for evasion of taxes ,black marketing ,hoarding etc. You are into Garments business what rates do you pay electricity bill, do you employee labour if yes are they getting minimum wages ,are they registered epf act, or even are their statutory provident fund or even unregistered provident fund is getting deducted, is your business with no encroachment of public space and in commercial are ....when the system is not developing you guys blaming government officials for everything depicts your mindset and you are sadistic people.
@MyHemant13 whatever you say, I do not care, everyone knows in India, govt employees are corrupted and haramkhor and kaamchor. Keep speaking, bit will not reply.
Short term thinking is root cause of all problems. People wanting to get married for short term gains rather than giving importance to person whom they have married
Yes @@nareshagarwal772
@nareshagarwal772 looks, job, caste, etc. ideally what a person thinks , emotional needs, long term goals are overlooked or taken for granted.
Faeda ke sauda hai sab
@Curioussouuul ok thanks....
They need to create future for them and have their own individual career.... Not everybody can afford to sit at home and eat other spouse money
A Teacher who teach for real life survival.
Thankyou sir for your free guidance.
Long distance marriages are never worth it....very true
Tuje ase lagta h
Karodo shadi chal rahi h India me
I used to work in the state govt job. My husband is in IT. I left the job after 3 Months of marriage . Starting living together now it's 10yrs of marriage everything in the relationship between is destroyed. Now I regret leaving my job.
Edit 1 - recently joined back job.
Safety and security always comes first for a woman
I don't think so you did anything wrong at that time. We don't have control on everything, try to make your realtion better.
Women should always be financially independent if possible emotionally too. Society doesn't propagate it because it becomes difficult to manipulate and control such a woman someone who can ask for her rights. Be courageous and find some source of income for yourself as far as relationship is concerned it takes 2 to tango. Give it your best efforts to mend it but the interest and efforts of other person are not in your control.
@@pinksky_466_00 if both are working who will take care of kids that's the biggest concern nowadays. A man earn for family but woman earn for herself. If nothing workout woman has option for fake cases alumni money etc.
@@Sumit-hi1on No idea what made you assume that if woman earns it is her money , whatever both partners make is family money. Bringing up children is both partners job not only women both have to chip and be present and it can be done if both partners are willing and prioritise it. What is the point of making our daughters study and make them independent if they finally have to give up everything and sit at home rather make them study homescience and train them to be homemakers. What would you advise if you in future have a daughter.
First of all Rohit & Neha are lucky to get into Government jobs amidst growing competition.
No they aren't. Agar lucky hote toh ye case study thodi na aati, everything comes with a cost.
This cost is HUGE.
Are Bihari..tumhare liye to yeh jannat hi hai
@@vishdgr8
I wonder how you tried to wrongly infer that I am Bihari.
Now similarly let me try to infer that your ancestors are snakes bcz your YT name comprises the word 'vish'.
@@saitamathecoder1386
True, indeed!! However I just tried to bring in light humour here.
I have seen couples like Rohit & Neha living very peacefully.
However we can't ignore the reality and cost(emotional & financial) incurred by the families bcz of this
Why do you feel afraid to tell truth and main problem in this scenario ? I work in Wipro Kolkata office where a lady married a boy living in Bangalore. In lunch break time she has visited apartment of at least 5 different men from my project. Extramarital affairs is biggest reason behind this kind of set up.
My case is the edge case - My wife is in Govt Job and stay is Govt Resident provided there, While I am in Software staying with Mom Dad , 2 Kids all under our home
I am survived from Saas-Bahu kalesh and life is so balanced
Kids are growing , My mom dad (Kids Dada-Dadi) help them to grow very well with proper sanskars provided by them
Wife coming 2 home weekly or bi-weekly and doing all home essential works happily upto 3-4 days of chutti, which I assume she could not do if she residing with saas-sasur permanently in our home (If she not employed case)
Rohit is commandant in some CAPF. AND his wife is teacher in state school.😂😂
Why are you laughing ?
Neha doesn’t need to worry at all. She will have the full support of all the young men living nearby.
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And vice-versa 🤣
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😂 root cause for further issues!
This is why I don't do long distance relationship or even friendships. It just doesn't work out no matter what. Just occasional hi, hello, happy birthday etc take hi baat reh jati hai after a while
Hupp!!
Sir bilkul sahi analysis hai apka, I was in corporate IT sector and wife in state govt. We were separated for 5 years when we married.
Covid bring WFH culture due to which I am shifted with her from past 5 years now. We were able to plan second child and i have much more strong bond with my second child as I saw her growing in front of me as compared to my elder child who generally does not show a much closer bond with me.
Also me and wife used to fight atleast 2-3 days in week when we were in separate states and things have sorted to quite a greater level now.
With IT sector starting to end WFH culture now, if again i have to separate then I will resort to freelancing or setting up some small buisness of my own than to go back to IT job in different city again
Today, "Luxurious relationship" Is called,
@Distance relationship❤
Shaadi ke time to boy and girl laalch me pad kar shaadi karte hain us time kuch sochte nhi hain ki alag alag kaise rahenge baad me rote hain 10-15 saal baad. Ya to paise kama lo ya pariwar dekh lo. The biggest looser always be man in this situation. Ladies ko to kisi na kisi ka support mil hi jata h 😂
Marriage means being together not apart
I previously got this type of matches, UA-cam hacking my brain 😄
What if biwi kalesh hi nhi karti… dono koi fark hi nhi padta door rehne ka… they r both chill living apart. Wife is living with kid and husband is living alone…
Rare chance but if it really the case then be sure that they both are really chilling you understand what mean
Dono ki apni apni setting ho to ho sakta hai😅
then that is not married life
Bas samjh jao 😏
@@cks2422Tu bol skta h kya jo sath rahte unke affair nhi hote
Uncle jee humari family ek sath rahti hai. Mai, meri wife, dono ki govt job hai same dept me.father, mother k sath rahte hai. hum dono ne decide kiya hai k PROMOTION nhi lenge bcz transfer nahi chahiye. Kya humne sahi kiya uncle jee. Plz reply
Han bhai sahi kiya jitna ka payment nahi badhega usse jyda kharch badh jayega. Sath main rahna jyda jaruri h
Unemployment and inflation is at peak ..not everyone can work in ITsector ..for small town people government jobs are better than anything …so there is not any solution to postings..people shud stay happy anyways
Pati job chod dega, phir patni tana maregi kuch din baad, phir bacche lekar chali jayegi mayka, phir divorce file karegi with alimony and maintenance, phir bacche se nahi milne degi, phir court court kheliye and at last ......
Atul Subhash Part 2.
Inki baatein sunoge aaplog to ghar bachega nhi balki tut jayega. Shuru me accha lagega lekin sab faltu logic hai.
Patni dhundo aisi jo job na kare to shadi chalne ki sambhavna jyada hai. Kalesh to har jagah hi hona hai.
If the wife is that kind then you are in a horrible relationship. It is better to find someone in the same town, while holding the job and then get out of the long distance relationship
Hello Sir , I really wish you to make a video on topic like A city girl marrying a comparatively small town boy ?
What all factors should be kept in mind , what all complications is one about to face ?
🙂
Pls make a video on a person who is a merchant navy officer and his married life
U do it nd make it work untill others say that yes its possible....m married. Both me nd my husband are in govt jobs....both posted in different states nd doing our best to give time to both our families nd ourselves...he hs nvr asked me to leave my job nd cm stay with hm...he cn cook,clean the house,do his chores nd is the most self independent guy...dsnt need a momma or wife to take care of hm...m feel m da happiest women alive. His parents though hd certain objections earlier are now ok seeing both of us happy...so yeah dont fall fr wat odrs say to u....only u knw wats best fr u....nt evry situation or person is similar....if u r lucky enuf to make it wrk wid ur partner whu supports u fully nd makes up fr ur absence smtyms den its gonna wrk....btr den dose couples whu stay together whr da girl resents her lyf is dpndnt on hsbnd to luk after her nd hs no dreams or aspirations of her own.
lol ,this is more of political comment than a realistic ones . I have seen people living in gulf far away from their families trying to date other women despite being married . Staying away from family is not every man's deal . You are merely tokenizing
People don’t realise how many couples exist like this even in past and make things work, i am happy to listen to your experience, there are many like u and yes these kind of couples exist but ones has to work for its own challenges. All the best for your life
I can't live more than 1day without him..even his 9hours of job makes me lonely at home...hats off to u
You are absolutely right sir, I'm facing the same problem exactly you explained.
apko 2022 se dekh rhi hu apke har ek video se relate krti hu
👍Great analysis and insights, even though every situation is unique and complex, and there are no 'one pill cures all' solutions!
Marriage is a necessary institution even in today's dynamic societal structures and it requires a lot of patience, tolerance, adjustment and compromise from both partners!
Make a video for people who are working alone in gulf for lifetime especially people from kerala. Either wife is working as nurse or husband working as a worker or labrour
Aapke vedios best 👌 he
Thank u changing our life positively.😊
I'm working in gurgaon as an IT professional and wife is working in Mumbai as an investment banker company Now it has been 7 months since we met each other.
So accurate, Mazaa Aa Gayaa!
You are talking very true and fact
Congratulations Guruji on 5 lac Subscriber
Aap jo fact batate o fact hi hai. Par log manne ko tayar nahi hote
Great analysis guruji . I am an IT professional i am only looking for girls in the same city or profession.
We both are central government employees....Goa and assam.
Guruji,,, please comment on co-sleeping with kids. I have couple friends who keep weeping that there is no romance... does it have a negative effect ?
Sir can you make videos on what to do when in-law s has three son n one daughter
Daughter has taken her full equal property from parents without informing brothers n 2 sons are not keeping parents as they live abroad n in different state n elder son n daughter in law is forced to do sewa while others siblings will be. benefited
in terms as they have no kalesh with in laws
Living their own life but will get portion of property they deserve
What about the Bahu who will do sewa like unpaid labour
bahut dard hain tumare behan
Maa baap ki sewa agr paiso k liye krri ho, toh tm vese bhi kchh deserve nhi krti ho.
Saas sasur k badle property chahiye bahu ko, pr apne maa baap se kbhi property nhi mangegi
Don't do sewa. Let the in laws live in their son's house and give him nothing. Its their understanding. The bahu should not do their sewa, and live her life the best she can. No other solution. If the husband insists that she should do sewa, then she should ask for compensation of 30-35 thousand per month from him.😂😂😂
@@ashish5412Kya aap jante hai...ma bap. Bahu ghar aate hi bete ko kharcha karne ko bolte hai...aapna bachake rakhte hai....q bhai...?
Do 6 parts of property. N jo bhai ma bap ka karte hai ..unka hissa phir us bete ko Milana chahiye. Jinse. Ma bap ki sewa ki
Very well said Guruji. Truth in every word.
Ye koi solution nhi hai. Jab kuch pata nhi ho to guruji type drama nhi karna chahiye.
Finally! someone said this👍👍
If person not able to leave his job due to EMIs ...what he should do??
EMI wali cheez bhech shako tho beech do nahito kuch save karke emergency fund banalo jab tak dusri jagha job ya business nahi suru karte use karo.
@PuneCityFarmer bhai it's not practice to sell assets
@@MohitVerma-yv9du check what is more important for you asset or relationship.
If you are have very much trouble from wife due to long distance you both can make some emergency fund and resign and look for job into there location.
That's a big issue tbh and if your loan is not of that much amount loan than you can prepay it with your current savings or extend its tenure to decrease the burden of heavy EMI that for the time you are unemployed pay it with your wife's money that will give you sufficient time to find a job or set a business or what so ever
Great video, great case study guru ji 👍👍
Good Morning Guruji.....
Im ready to take VRS and ready to become house husband. No shame. Kiddos life suffering a lot. Please make a video on it.
Sir aapki bat sahi bhale ho lekin humari didi ki govt job thi, shadi aur pati k liye onhone resign kar diya qki husband rote rhta tha aur other drama tha oska ki family life ni h pyar ni mil rha, ghar ni bs rha, bache ko bda hote ni dekh pa rha bla bla, ab halat ye h ki woi pati 3-4 jagah chakkar chala rha, onki pitayi lga rha, baccha ko chuta tk nahi, aur to aur tu karti kya hai tujhe divorce kar dunga tujhe road pe la dunga, mere bagair bhik mangegi, tujhe kahi ka ni chorunga, daru ladki aur pta ni kya kya chal rha. Hum jitna b reasoning, logic, emotion, romance ki soch len sach ye h ki humare samaj me mahila agar depend hai fir bhagwan bhi oski madad ni kar rha. Humara samaj aur parivaron me ple hue ladke ladki ki koi value ni karte. 4 din naya rishta, parwah, care, value sab h; fir nayi titli naya josh, naya nautanki; patni gyi bhad me. Hum onko ghar le aae, aspas k log, rishtedar, zahar gholna shuru, fir ghar ladai lgwae, mtlb bhabhi onse lad li. Kya karen kuch rasta ni sujh rha.
Uski ek baar tabiyat s kutai kar do tamiz wali
Ap ki di ko naukari chodne nahi thi ..
Kyuki is duniya me kisis ka koi bharosa nahi kab kon daga kar jaye ..
Sir make a video on Baniya type of the case
I am in the same situation…my wife is in UP state government job & I was working in Gujrat at very good package but I have to left my job and premium life there. But aapne bilkul sahi bola hai ki working wife k liye ki government job cchod hi nahi sakti bcz unhe pata hai ki uske baad kuch nahi hoga
Bas aapki wife ye comment na dekhle bhai😅😂😂 premium life n all haha
Already completed 14. Wife just joined one week ago in state govt and i will give up after 20. Tooo much related topic.
Main central government me hu, main shadi nahi karunga
Great! You will contribute to population control in India. Amit ji always advises everyone to marry a good girl.
Mr Sangwan, I purchased your premarital course on 27 Dec , but no link is shared to me, I'm not able to attend
Please check and guide
Thanks Sir 🙏
Income tax department and excise department mai transfer policy band ho gyi hai jo jha hai vahi sadoo lifetime,jin logo ki wife state mai Job karti hai unka bhi kuch nhi hai,😢ye sab nichle tabke ke employees ke liye hai bus,IRS leval pe sab khula hai
Sir your pending video on foreign studies, jobs , settlement and becoming passport bros
Passport bros means
Gr8 ... rightly said
I m in central govt 31 years old, wife is in private job banglore. We decided that i will leave in 2026 and will go to banglore and live with her
How much bribe you eat?
Unka job chudvao na central ki job koi chodhta h kya
U shd not leave ur central govt job
Central govt job nahi chhodna chahiye pvt job koi bhi city mein kar sakte ho
House husband baby sitter bnna hai kya bhai tujhe😂 uski churwa wrna regret krega
10:20 great reaction by guru ji😊
This is the reality of GST, Income tax, Railway and most of the Central Government departments. The reason for such type of marriages, centre and states, is because of favorable policy at the time of Congress regime which is becoming worse and worse only in the current regime. All are hoping for change of regime.
Amit Sir.....kindly make video on working women plz.....
Also one question....your jupiter is in Dhanu or Meen or Karka Rashi na...?
You spoke in favour of men in Atul Subhash case which was right but every bad guy after that got validation that he is good. You have now gathered sakht badtameez laundas on your channel. Look at the comments they are making. Quality of your subscribers have worsened now.
Yeah .. atul Subhash wale case pe bolna jarruri tha ... But tab se thoda views me changes dikh rahe hai halke se .. ki ladkiya to aesa karegi hi ..
Aur idhar comments me sabhi ladke like ladkiya to asi hoti waise hoti ..
This is totally wrong
Tu kyun trigger ho rahi हे 😂
🤡🤡🤡🤡
Atul ke case bare main bolla tou tujhe jiyo mirchi laag rahi hain .
Sir please make a video on the topic of husband and wife from two different parts of India then in that case should they marry and if they marry what kinds of challenges will they face and how will they try to overcome them.
So realistic!!
Come to Kerala sir you can find lots of successful long distance relationship...most of the husband are abroad and there wife and children were in their home town yes problem occurs when inlows interfere in their personal matters otherwise everything is sorted...
Please remove the word “successful” from the pharse “successful long distance relationship”. You seems to have no idea on what a successful relationship means
Good one
Ek no 😂 sir andar ke arma ko apki bate taza kar deti hai 😅😅😅
Live Session Please... We have done 5 Lakhs 🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉
Same condition apply for when husband in transfareble job and wife live with kids in same city..
Or the wife can be a private school teacher. At least she will be independent.
Kindly make one video on how to handle negativity, criticism, sympathy from friends and relatives (specially in laws while staying with them)on having two daughters. While we are happy but people still expect to go for third baby and so on. Getting depressed😢
Hi didi
Even my mother was also taunted by my grandmother
Just because I was born as second girl child
My mom and dad straight rejected her pov regarding third child for boy
Ki khud toh do chaar se mein marr jaogi
Konsa mere bache ko paal dogi
Pls ignore them
Mere parents mein ko bhi sab bhot bakwas bolte h kyunki do betiyan hi h
Lekin aaj hum career wise sahi chal rahe h toh muh band h sabka
Aap unko padhane likhana ka socho
Ye relative aise bhi ghanta kabhi kaam aate h
Still its fine...at least financial solvency rehti hai ..baccha bhi accustomed and self dependent ho jata hai..usko spoon feeding nahi karna padta...husband wife can care for each other even if they are living in separate places .yeh mentality ki baat hai .. mehangai itni badh gayi hai ki single income se bahut difficulty hoti hai .If both are working, life financially sound rehta hai ....provided the couple has mutual respect.....😊😊
Dont live in utopian world 😅😅
@sanjaychoubey7563 kuon bhai?galat bola maine?🤔
why are you both married , instead each of you would have adopted a child, life is to live a happy fulfilled life and not for earning money
@@bipinkumarcse family pressure bolke ek chiz hoti hai bhai.....parents didnt want working girl...and arranged marriage ....ab parents ki to sunni hi ha..and later on family ka bhi take care karna padta hai......I was saying considering today socio economical scenario.....correct me if Iam wrong...
What non sense are you saying? I am sure either you are not married or unhappily married. This is the time when you make such type of remarks.
more case studies plz
Please share more case studies.
Koi ek kamaye ,dusra ghar pe rahe😊
Itni high salaries bahut kam logo ki hi hai, aajkal dono ko kamana padta hai kharcha chalane ke liye. Agar ek hi kamaye, to fir koi child mat karo - childfree marriages can work well for couples in which only one is working.
Woman is working here, taking care if the kid and in top of that parents and in laws also come😮... saala sara sir dard toh neha ka hi ho gaya. Husbands ke toh maze hain. Extramarital ke liye mast time nikal jaata hai. Other than job, no responsibilities😂
Why women cannot shift from bank psu job?
Case study , Husbsnd manager in pune , wife in Ahemadabad vice president earning in cr , no kids they meeet monthly on weekend , very busy , age 36 but look 50 , 3 bhk flat stay alone ,eat outside or order zomato , or only dal chawal ,
jealousy from DIG couples is for real in all PSUs. co location is strictly followed in maharatna PSUs but locations given are remotest to DIGs so that all mode of transport are used indeed. and most money is spent in travelling.
Really a good vedio as usual ❤ love it.
This is the old video
Rereleased?
Sahi h Guru ji
Aadmi ko to chai hukka daaru sab me baithna he padta
Girl friend and boyfriend doing higher studies in medical Colleges at distant places will affect their personal life and relationship in this context?
Beyond a doubt. If you are far apart, find somebody close by. Long distance relationships are non sense, unless you just want to be in a state of relationship for the sake of it. You can call yourself to be in a relationship till you find some one better nearby or fend off useless creatures. There is not much in this long distance non sense
Think of the plight of the couple living in Canada and USA or India and USA due to Visa issue.
Sir I have messaged you on the app I need the course extended for three months I could not complete the full video please could you extend it for just three months.
Guru ji jaane mann ki baat😂
Sir your videos are very useful but it becomes habitual to go through it and relate it our current situation…
I know it’s up to viewers up to what limit they should watch and learn from it …
It’s just like Sandeep Maheshwari channel where viewers are searching for something related to it (I am not comparing this with your channel ) and get becomes engaged due to productively content or just went on recommendation (due to idiotic UA-cam algorithm) …
Sir mera mere husband ke sath jhagda ho gya tha......kyoki mujse shadi krne ke baad jab mai pregnant ho gyi to vo dobara apni ex ke sath jud gye.....hamara divorce case chalaa lekin kyoki maine koi bohot bada case nahi kiya tha ......simple bachche ki maintenance ka case kiya tha ....4 saal case chala..pr court me judge ne samjhaaya to ab case khatam ho gya h ...sath reh rahe h ek bachcha h ...lekin jo baat pehle thi vo ab nahi h hamare riste me ......ham bachche ke mata pita ki tarh reh rahe hain...... Vo khud v koi efforts nahi krte rista theek krne ka.......or mai aage isliye nahi badh paati....kyoki galat to vo the na .....or in 4 saalo me mere husband ka us lady se sexual relation bhi raha hi hoga definitely....ye soch kr muje unko touch krne ka bhi Mann nai krta .....Mai andar se itna dukhi hoo ye soch kr .. although I love him so much.......but is dhokhe ko bhool nai paati...Mai kyaa karu😓
Is it arranged or love marriage.?
If you truly love him, toh aap ek kaam kro.
I can understand ki glti apki nahi h, ese m khud jhukna muslik hota h, but life to aap dono ki hi khrb hori h. Ese m apne pati ko ek muka aur deke dko kya pta sb thik ho jay.
Aur muka dene se pehle usse beth k hr baat clear krlo, usko bolo ki tmne jo kiya glt tha pr aaj bhi m tmse hi pyr krti hu isiliye ek muka aur dena chahti hu tumko. Aur chahti hu tm bhi efforts kro.
Bs condition de dena ki ex se dubara koi contact na ho wrna iss br sb khtm.
Jb aap usko khul k man ki baat batayengi toh ho skta h usko realise ho uski glti. Wo nahi jhuka koi nhi ek baar aap jhuk jao riste k liye, isme kchh glt nahi. But apne pati se acche se communication aur discussion kr lo bina lade ya behass kre. Bolo usko ki sb thik krna h ya nahi.
Uske baad bhi agr result negative aye toh mujhe update krna m aur solution dunga.
Aur hmesha yaad rkke jitna communicate krenge apas m utna rista accha bna rahega. Aur usko dubara se Emotionally and Physically apna le, kya pta wo bhi yhi sb chahta ho pr bol na para ho apni glti ki wjah se, ki kis muhh se bolu. Isiliye aap start kro y sb discuss krna.
@@H_M_HM2024 arranged
If you have any self respect, leave that man. Loyalty is the base of marriage, if base is shaken then there is no point.
You should do what is right in long run, not what you want today. Women keep their emotions above self respect, thats the problem.
My brother-in-law also cheated on my sister and was not ready to listen against his own character when my sister confronted him. Ek toh chori upar se seena zori. Dont do mistake of giving him another chance, men never give second chance when wife cheats. For men their self respect and ego is above emotions, women should also do the same.
@@_13456 You didn't read her full comment, she still loves him and wants to stay with him as well if he seeks her forgiveness. So please don't ruin someone's life by giving them poor advice. And for your sister it was her choice to leave her husband.
Guruji, what if both neha & Rohit both earning 3/4 lakhs per months??
Thank you for sharing this case study. This video is very relevant to me as I recently moved to US and wife back in India with my mother. We both are in corporate so she obviously doesn't prefer to become homemaker all of a sudden. Also she cant work in US if she comes with me due to dependent visa restrictions. By god's grace, there hasn't been any issues between us. My plan is to work and save as much as possible and return in few years. Not sure how it will play out. Aap bataye if I have taken a right decision?
saari vedio se conclusion to yhi nikl rha ki ..... keval bchpn se bcho ko pdaae n krva ke other activity krvana chahiye ...
17:42 koi speculation nahi h. Sach mein aisa hi hota h. Lady 8 months pregnant ho ya 6 months baby ki mother ho...koi farak ni padta... Kahin bhi utha k transfer kar dete h
Sir but army me bhi to gents bahar rahte hain unke family bhi to palati h
Bhai usme option nhi h to guzar Krna padta hee hai ...but corporate jobs aur dusre govt job me option h to alag nhi rehna best h...
In case of central govt job. If your wife is not doing any job. In this case the wife can work as a private school teacher, in whichever city tue husband is posted.
Govt job husband and wife who is willing to teach are better partner in this situation.
There is no need for husbands to leave their job and become servant of an lady. Why not wife leave her job and take care of home.
Why should wife leave her job and become servant of a man? Why not husband leave his job and take care of his wife and children.
Sabse pehle to ye baat hai ki alag location jobs ke couples ki shadi fix kaise hogi, parents kaise maan jate hain ki unki daughter in law husband se , sasuraal se alag rahegi, shadi fix kaise hogi😮😮
Awesome
Sir aapki. Ak bhi bat galat nahi hoti. ...aisa koi nahi batata man ki bat ...
Bete ki.ghutan uski mummy kabhi nahi samzti...
Ma ko pention hai o bachat rakhati hai aur bete ko magti hai ..jab ki jarurat nahi usko. Uski vajah se bete bahu me zagde hote hai....espe video banaye...dusare bete ko deti hai ak ko maggke
Husn hazir hai 😂😂😂 ye gaane ke baad maine zyada attention diya ❤❤
thank you. more case studies please
What about defence and paramilitary personnel???🤨🤨🤨sab job chodd de?
Are you in defense to ask this question ? If so talk to your CO not to extend your posting beyond 2 years on hostile territory, if you are posted beyond 2 years
@ no but my brother is in army
Sir parents sadi karneka pressure dale aur hame nahi karni to kya kare
Aap kuchh bhi bole, govt employees ke hi maje hai.
Surabh sharma bhopal ne kya 8cr paisa kamaya hai hum to uske aas paas bhi nahi soch sakte hai kitmi bhi imandaari se kaam karle.
Sir Govt. job karni chaiye ki nahi?