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1. Separate the anger from aggression. Anger is an emotion which should not be suppressed. However, aggression of other people can be controlled by setting boundaries 2. Make some boundaries regarding the aggression shown to you, with your spouse, boss etc. Tell them the consequences of crossing these boundaries 3. Validate the anger of the other person to some extent. Do not dismiss the feeling of anger entirely 4. Maintain your composure as well. If you will lose your composure, then the other person will justify aggression shown to you
1) Type A- Once a person realises that you are weak they will delibrately create drama or create some disturbance in your life personal or professional to create anger issues in you and disturb your mental health and healthy relationship . Solution- 1) If you feel someone is doing this allow them to speak up their mind without bombarding themselves offer them a glass of water make them sit in a place listen to them carefully 2) In majority of the situations they will cool down once they speak up . Understand their situation make them feel comfortable and tell that you have solution to their problem . 3) Give them options and idea about the consequences they will face if they choose option a or b . 4) Also make them trust you that whatever you tell them that is for their betterment . Type -B In case if you feel they are deliberately doing it to destroy you - consider you as a threat, politics , negativity etc. Solution- Be strong and smart make them to speak up their mind understand their situation , strength and weakness . 2) Never tell them your problems personal or professional . 3) Never show them your weakness be strong and protect yourself and fight back . 4)in case of violence or any other emergencies take legal action ,inform higher authorities , be honest take right action at the right time .All the best 😊👍🙏😇
Society has taught us, ek ko dus nahi bologe tho koi baav nahi dega. Since I am exaggerating, I assume everyone else is also exaggerating. Trust issues, fear of losing and more lies and exaggeration. And the cycle repeats. Break the cycle: ek ko ek bolo
amazing enlightenment gurudev .....aapse seekhkar mai new vocabulary bana raha hoo. apni bhi change kar raha hoo aur apne bachhe ko by default seekhunga taki usse bade hokar change na karni pade.
My mother is a short tempered women, gets angry when things don’t go her way and often tries to commit suicide by gulping down number of medicines. I had been seeing this since my childhood and she always blamed me, my siblings and my father for her actions. Over the time I realised her behavioural pattern & things got really ugly when she created the same Tamasha by shouting, crying and attempted suicide in front of my husband & in-laws at my brothers wedding. Reason: my dad was busy with wedding preparations and forgot few things she asked. It created such a bad impact on me that I don’t even want to talk to her anymore. She often complaints that I am not the same daughter anymore, but I cannot forget all those incidents nor I want to indulge in these family dramas anymore.
Namaste sir Really like to listen your most of the video.But sometimes people take u for granted if dealt with sophistication and start exploiting you untill you blast like volcano.
Please sir,kindly make a video on how to engage small kids,as parent s in metro are facing issue, finding frends for their kids,thus landing in play zones. High ego issues amongst parents and also aggressive children make it difficult for many parents to leave their children in play area,children can abuse each other to any extent, ie wat m seeing in metros.
Video ka wait kar rahe ho toh it means ur looking for reason to keep the marriage... If marriage rakhi ja sakti hai reh sakte ho toh reh jao shaadi me manage karlo sab manage hi toh kar rahe hai
@@sstalks469 Not for me , it's for my brother. There is one reason for which we should do divorce is that the reason that I want to see. Otherwise by continuing he will suffer again.
Tod do bhyi jab zindagi mein Khushi nahi hai. Yeh reality hai ki khushi uske baad b nahi Milne Wale but atleast agar mental harrasment ho rhi hai toh Tod do@@vedvyasmudgalkarpravachan8262
Sir, Do u live in joint family and if yes whether you faced aggression after anger of any member and if yes then what action was taken by you to tackle the situation.
I'm very quite person and have never dealt with any angry person in my life till date or simply avoided those people, but now I'm nervous and little bit scared because I'm getting married to a girl ,which according to me she is a little bit angry type personality , it's an arrange marriage. I have not talked much to her and I really dont like over tantrum personality. Other than that all good. How should I prepare myself to deal with this fear. This video might help me and I will share it. Thankyou Guruji.
Achha hoga AAP pehle hi khul kar baat kar le qnki married life me adjustment ke to bahut mauke ayenge b. Ek angry person ke sath life btana is not an easy job
My mom's sister didn't get married she has rahu first house in Capricorn and she has moon in Scorpio. Her parents passed away 4yrs ago since then she is agitated. My father didn't use his brain while my mother is still alive he proposed her hand in marriage from my grandfather before he passed away and since then she is very angry and everytime the same thing is triggered and she has some problem. I tried to stay quiet let her say everything she wanted my mom also let her speak what she wanted to and also didn't keep boundaries. Now everyday she keeps taunting about the marriage proposal
Guruji what about all time Angry husband though all things getting properly done as myself as wife doing every stuff since morning 5 am to 10 pm proper n avoid anything making him annoying I don't disturb him n respect his space too
Passive aggression show karna toh jada mean and disrespectful lagta hai. I have been told that I get angry very soon. I want to know ki agar voice raise karna bhi form of aggression hai toh in what forms anger should come out?
Also want to add that I am very expressive and have a good vocabulary toh I can very well say, I am feeling angry, I am feeling jealous, I am feeling irritated etc. But jab saamne se gaslighting milti hai toh voice raise hota hai.
Start looking for other job options .May take some time . If there is an independent HR dept you can inform them about the objectionable behaviour of your boss. Also introspect if you have truly underperformed. If yes, then you need to improve.
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Sir can we use this strategy with Narcissistic people?
Where should we bargain? and where do we not bargain?
1. Separate the anger from aggression. Anger is an emotion which should not be suppressed. However, aggression of other people can be controlled by setting boundaries
2. Make some boundaries regarding the aggression shown to you, with your spouse, boss etc. Tell them the consequences of crossing these boundaries
3. Validate the anger of the other person to some extent. Do not dismiss the feeling of anger entirely
4. Maintain your composure as well. If you will lose your composure, then the other person will justify aggression shown to you
Point number 2 sahi hai. Non poisonous snake bhi fufkar to marte hi hai.
These abstract concepts nobody explains so beautifully soultion oriented as you do Guruji 🙏
1) Type A- Once a person realises that you are weak they will delibrately create drama or create some disturbance in your life personal or professional to create anger issues in you and disturb your mental health and healthy relationship .
Solution- 1) If you feel someone is doing this allow them to speak up their mind without bombarding themselves offer them a glass of water make them sit in a place listen to them carefully 2) In majority of the situations they will cool down once they speak up . Understand their situation make them feel comfortable and tell that you have solution to their problem . 3) Give them options and idea about the consequences they will face if they choose option a or b . 4) Also make them trust you that whatever you tell them that is for their betterment .
Type -B
In case if you feel they are deliberately doing it to destroy you - consider you as a threat, politics , negativity etc.
Solution- Be strong and smart make them to speak up their mind understand their situation , strength and weakness . 2) Never tell them your problems personal or professional . 3) Never show them your weakness be strong and protect yourself and fight back . 4)in case of violence or any other emergencies take legal action ,inform higher authorities , be honest take right action at the right time .All the best 😊👍🙏😇
Real Content !!! Clarity Given Profoundly !
Society has taught us, ek ko dus nahi bologe tho koi baav nahi dega. Since I am exaggerating, I assume everyone else is also exaggerating. Trust issues, fear of losing and more lies and exaggeration.
And the cycle repeats.
Break the cycle: ek ko ek bolo
Super advice Guruji ..Thank you so much . This will save a lot of relationships..☺️🌸
Zabardastttttt Ananddddddd Aa Gayaa! 🔥🔥🔥
Apke topics bahut acche hotey hain. Nice explanation
Well said.
amazing enlightenment gurudev .....aapse seekhkar mai new vocabulary bana raha hoo. apni bhi change kar raha hoo aur apne bachhe ko by default seekhunga taki usse bade hokar change na karni pade.
My mother is a short tempered women, gets angry when things don’t go her way and often tries to commit suicide by gulping down number of medicines. I had been seeing this since my childhood and she always blamed me, my siblings and my father for her actions. Over the time I realised her behavioural pattern & things got really ugly when she created the same Tamasha by shouting, crying and attempted suicide in front of my husband & in-laws at my brothers wedding. Reason: my dad was busy with wedding preparations and forgot few things she asked. It created such a bad impact on me that I don’t even want to talk to her anymore. She often complaints that I am not the same daughter anymore, but I cannot forget all those incidents nor I want to indulge in these family dramas anymore.
Please consult a psychiatrist.
Learnt many useful things from you . Thank you soo much.
Bhaut bhadiyaa, Today I'll call you GURU JI 🙏
Bohot Achha laga video Amit Sir. Iss video ka summary kal hi mere notes mein likhne wala hun.. Thank you!
Very practical tips indeed!
Very good and practical videos, but difficult to implement, taking these actions will let us to face the issues rather than running away from it
Namaste sir
Really like to listen your most of the video.But sometimes people take u for granted if dealt with sophistication and start exploiting you untill you blast like volcano.
Quite relatable and basically u are explaining people how to stay Assertive. l really liked it.
How to deal with mental ill peoples log guruji ,, aajkl toh sab hi hain pls video banaiye
Very insightful and practical
Anger doesn't solve anything. It can only destroy everything.
Thank you guruji 🙏
Important subject you addressed with practical solution 🎉
Yeh video 100 million views aur yeh channel 25 million subscribers deserve karta hai.
Great analysis sir 👍
Thank you Sir,
You explained it so well
Please sir,kindly make a video on how to engage small kids,as parent s in metro are facing issue, finding frends for their kids,thus landing in play zones.
High ego issues amongst parents and also aggressive children make it difficult for many parents to leave their children in play area,children can abuse each other to any extent, ie wat m seeing in metros.
How to set boundaries for your self ?
Excellent learning guruji!
How to deal with anger of self ?
You rock Guruji as always.
Very practical sir....
Excellent 👍 గురు
Third Approach
Shadi kyu na tode sir please video jaldi upload karenge kya ? Urgent hai. 🙏
Kyu na tode bilkul tode
Thodh do urgent hai tho
Video ka wait kar rahe ho toh it means ur looking for reason to keep the marriage... If marriage rakhi ja sakti hai reh sakte ho toh reh jao shaadi me manage karlo sab manage hi toh kar rahe hai
@@sstalks469 Not for me , it's for my brother. There is one reason for which we should do divorce is that the reason that I want to see. Otherwise by continuing he will suffer again.
Tod do bhyi jab zindagi mein Khushi nahi hai. Yeh reality hai ki khushi uske baad b nahi Milne Wale but atleast agar mental harrasment ho rhi hai toh Tod do@@vedvyasmudgalkarpravachan8262
Thanks Sir 🙏
Sir future mein aapke video ko dekhna school mei homework diya jayega.
But what if people around you don't respect your boundaries? How to deal with it?
Jai ho guru ji ki ❤❤
Beautiful✨🎉
Practical solution
sir i would like you to make a video on trauma bonding.
Sir, Do u live in joint family and if yes whether you faced aggression after anger of any member and if yes then what action was taken by you to tackle the situation.
Sir saas daur ko to mujhe jinda dekh kar hi anger hota he..... 12saal maine yahi dekha he... Ppl also show anger to keep u suppressed
What if your wife does not want to understand, even with knowing everything.
She is literally abusing me and saying swear words?
I'm very quite person and have never dealt with any angry person in my life till date or simply avoided those people, but now I'm nervous and little bit scared because I'm getting married to a girl ,which according to me she is a little bit angry type personality , it's an arrange marriage.
I have not talked much to her and I really dont like over tantrum personality.
Other than that all good.
How should I prepare myself to deal with this fear.
This video might help me and I will share it.
Thankyou Guruji.
Achha hoga AAP pehle hi khul kar baat kar le qnki married life me adjustment ke to bahut mauke ayenge b. Ek angry person ke sath life btana is not an easy job
PPL never change its a clear red flag plz find somebody else good for u
Leave her or regret your decision leisurely
Waiting sir ji
My mom's sister didn't get married she has rahu first house in Capricorn and she has moon in Scorpio. Her parents passed away 4yrs ago since then she is agitated. My father didn't use his brain while my mother is still alive he proposed her hand in marriage from my grandfather before he passed away and since then she is very angry and everytime the same thing is triggered and she has some problem. I tried to stay quiet let her say everything she wanted my mom also let her speak what she wanted to and also didn't keep boundaries. Now everyday she keeps taunting about the marriage proposal
Nice video
But in reality, people don't change so easily, they do the same thing again and again. Despite explaining. Need to have next level of patience.
Yes..u r right...
Aab toh hum haste hai, pehle toh darte the, samjhate the
Guruji what about all time Angry husband though all things getting properly done as myself as wife doing every stuff since morning 5 am to 10 pm proper n avoid anything making him annoying
I don't disturb him n respect his space too
Passive aggression show karna toh jada mean and disrespectful lagta hai. I have been told that I get angry very soon. I want to know ki agar voice raise karna bhi form of aggression hai toh in what forms anger should come out?
Also want to add that I am very expressive and have a good vocabulary toh I can very well say, I am feeling angry, I am feeling jealous, I am feeling irritated etc. But jab saamne se gaslighting milti hai toh voice raise hota hai.
Thambnail ki quality badha di guruji ne😂
Tab kya karein jab boss gussa ho ki saamne wala employee apni aisi taisi nhi karwana chah raha hai. Aur naukri chodna bhi option na ho.
Start looking for other job options .May take some time . If there is an independent HR dept you can inform them about the objectionable behaviour of your boss. Also introspect if you have truly underperformed. If yes, then you need to improve.
Taooji jhagde badhane ka sujhav. Consequence batana "mai ghar chodke chali jaunga/I"
But sir jab ek banda bina baat ke hi gussa karta rahe so that vo apni wife ko suppress karke apni galtiyan ya ya kamiyan chupa sakey
Sir इसपर एक वीडियो बनाईये बच्चों को school भेजना चाहिए या Akshat Shrivastava जैसा Model use करना चाहिए please इसपर आपकी एक राई चाहिए ✅❤️❤️🙏
Chillam chilli 😂
Wo to punkchar hi chala leta hai 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Husband Saturday Sunday hi fight karte hai...
Bahot dino se aapko dekh ke lag raha tha ki aapka chehra kisi se to milta hai.
Ab yad aaya, aap Israel ke p.m Benjamin Netanyahu ki tarah lagte ho.
😅
Nice video