200 reasons why you should live 1. your family 2. your friends 3. the feeling you get when you’ve finished something 4. the feeling you get when you get a compliment 5. the feeling you get when you buy new clothes 6. the feeling you get when you try on new clothes 7. the feeling you get when your room is tidy 8. the feeling you get when you're laughing hesterically. 9. the feeling you get when you make a new friend 10. the feeling you get when you make someone smile 11. you’d have to watch your family and friends grieve. 12. you’ve never been to that place you always wanted to visit. 13. you’ve never been to disney world. 14. you’ve never been skinny dipping. 15. you’ve never swam in a lake. 16. you’ve never met your idol. 17. you haven’t gotten married. 18. you’ve never decorated your own house. 19. you’ve never saved someone’s life. 20. you haven’t learnt to drive. 21. there is music you haven’t listen too. 22. you have so many more people to meet. 23. everyone who thought you’d do well in life, would have been wrong. 24. the people who said you’d end up no where, would have been right. 25. all the fake people would pretend to like u and post u on their stories. 26. you would have been the best mom or dad. 27. you haven’t lived the ‘my funeral will be packed’ type of life. 28. your friends would suffer. 29. your mum would never be able to walk into your room. 30. you haven’t apologised to people you have hurt. 31. someone loves you. 32. you are not alone. 33. i’m here for you. 34. the clothes you’re buried in might be gross. 35. you haven’t truly loved yourself yet. 36. suicide is a permanent solution to temporary problems. 37. you haven’t watched your kids open their christmas presents. 38. you haven’t watched your kids grow older. 39. the pain you feel right now, isn’t forever. 40. there are so many foods you haven’t tried. 41. you’ll never get the feeling of walking into a warm building on a cold day. 42. finding your person. 43. really soft pillows. 44. eating pizza with your kids and partner. 45. you’ve never danced in the rain. 46. you’ve never kissed someone in the rain. 47. there are so many hobbies you haven’t tried. 48. you’ll never have a sleepover with your best friend again. 49. your friends would blame themselves. 50. your mom's smile. 51. your best friend's laugh. 52. your sister would lose her best friend. 53. your cousins that look up to you. 54. hot chocolate on cold days. 55. ice water on hot days. 56. getting a tan. 57. hearing ‘i love you’. 58. not being able to sleep the night before and exciting day. 59. your birthday. 60. you’ve never been to a nightclub. 61. long hot showers. 62. long steamy baths. 63. freshly shaved legs. 64. perfectly smooth hair. 65. watching people trip over small objects. 66. you could have a huge impact on someone’s life. 67. you would regret dying. 68. you can’t change your mind once you're gone. 69. you wake up everyday for a reason. 70. stars. 71. you will always be enough. 72. movies that make you feel warm when they’re over. 73. reading powerful quotes. 74. genuine smiles. 75. the crunch of autumn leaves. 76. christmas. 77. christmas eve. 78. decorating the tree. 79. long meaningful hugs. 80. sunsets. 81. ice cream. 82. you never got that puppy. 83. you are so brave, it would be a waste to let the fire go. 84. rainbows. 85. travelling to new places. 86. funny stories. 87. funny jokes. 88. inside jokes. 89. coffee. 90. your talents would go to waste. 91. the feeling you get when you’re truly happy. 92. all nighters with friends. 93. cuddling. 94. reconnecting with old friends and family. 95. smiling. 96. capturing perfect moments on camera. 97. swimming on a hot day. 98. feeling cozy in blankets. 99. helping other people with the same thing you got help with. 100! becoming successful. 101. cute babies. 102. cute old people. 103. love stories that make you jealous. 104. telling crazy stories. 105. watching lightning. 106. watching rain. 107. star gazing. 108. recovery. 109. melted chocolate. 110. freshly baked cookies. 111. late night adventures. 112. overcoming fears. 113. sunday mornings. 114. friday mornings. 115. you’ll be dead, forever. 116. you will make a difference to people. 117. picnics with friends. 118. waking up late. 119. waking up late and ending up being on time. 120. to prove them wrong. 121. to prove them you can. 122. to prove you're strong. 123. to love and be loved. 124. the ocean. 125. pets. 126. very loud music. 127. days out. 128. finishing a book. 129. conversations that just flow. 130. learning new things. 131. you are important. 132. you are wanted. 133. mistakes. 134. snow. 135. sun. 136. flowers. 137. flowers that look gorgeous but smell gross. 138. new bed sheets. 139. new home decor. 140. roller coasters. 141. theme parks. 142. smiling at strangers. 143. random acts of kindness. 144. the sound of water. 145. visiting a place from your childhood. 146. to look back on all the things you got yourself through on your own. 147. to feel proud. 148. reassurance. 149. cute nicknames. 150. long stares that make you feel loved. 151. meaningful gifts. 152. blowing out candles. 153. meeting online friends in real life. 154. success. 155. to work the job you always wanted. 156. the live the life you dreamt of. 157. babies smiling. 158. sleep. 159. slingshots. 160. breaking rules. 161. dreams. 162. the last day of school/work. 163. taking pictures. 164. brownies. 165. bubbles. 166. water slides. 167. holidays. 168. to fall asleep on someone. 169. to feel protected. 170. to grow taller. 171. to grow stronger. 172. to grow old. 173. to make memories you’ll cherish. 174. to laugh at old pictures. 175. to be loved by a pet. 176. the first signs of summer. 177. the first signs of autumn. 178. the first signs of winter. 179. the first signs of spring. 180. to binge watch a series. 181. to live independently. 182. to get somewhere in life all by yourself. 183. to not have broken any promises. 184. to fulfill your promises. 185. to breathe. 186. so you can tell your children stories of when you was there age. 187. so say you’re alive. 188. to know you’re stronger than you think. 189. falling in love. 190. you’ve never snuck out. 191. you’ve never not smashed your phone. 192. you’ve never stayed out all night. 193. you are a kind soul. 194. you have a warm heart. 195. you care for others. 196. the smell of pancakes. 197. when you walk over frosty grass. 198. you haven't truly apologized to all the people you've hurt 199. the rest of your life 200! to say you made it. (Before someone says this is copied and pasted, nah, it's not. I just post this comment on vids, this list is smth that I thouthgt of when I was thinking of doing it ❤)
Things suck. But not everything. Live and let go, man. It’s hard, losing something, getting rejected, anything. It sucks. But please. I know it sounds cliche, but please just keep going. For your family, your friends, hell, even me! Just please get back up after tripping. Nothing is worth cutting the lights for.
you're one of the few people on the internet who actually talks about the strugle and the mistakes that you went through on self improvement, and that's what is helping us the most, keep the autenticity
you're one of the few people on the internet who actually talks about the struggle and the mistakes that you went through on self improvement, and that's what is helping us the most, keep the authenticity.
if you dealing with this more just think god is by your side and like just in your mind just think that god opening doors for you but you have to push to get to the other doors
if you dealing with this more just think god is by your side and like just in your mind just think that god opening doors for you but you have to push to get to the other doors
@Theunicorn2012 James 4:8 “Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded.” Repent of your sins to God, my friend! ❤😊 Jesus Christ is the true cure to depression 😊❤ Romans 10:9-10 “If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved.” 😊👍
I feel that man. And btw I’m sorry about your dad passing. I had a similar experience but Ill just say this thanks for making my life easier and having a role model to look up to since my dad passed
Man you did not need to do that, but thank you so much. It sucks man, but unfortunately its a way of life, all we can do now is make our old man proud aye ❤
I just asked this girl out yesterday and got friendzoned. Honestly it was probably the best outcome for me as a person moving forward. So much of this confidence to ask sm1 out for the first time came from you Jak, thank you for just being you in this world these days.
I just asked this girl out yesterday and got friendzoned. Honestly it was probably the best outcome for me as a person moving forward. So much of this confidence to ask sm1 out for the first came from you Jak, thank you for just being you in this world these days.
Thanks!, I always wished I had an elder brother, if he were there, I am pretty he would be like you brother, this one may not be that much in USD, but this is the max I can do right now to see a brother become successful. You really changed me quite a lot brother, I wished I can meet you in person but things have gotten tough so I can't I learnt to have fun while grinding hard and having good memories with my boys 2 years ago, but now all of them are quite literally strangers and I feel like an outcast each and everyday, only because I did what I was supposed to do nothing else, no hatred, envy days just became a hella tough all of a sudden I just went from loving to go to school and talking to friends to QUITE LITERALLY HATING SCHOOL AND ALL OF THEM but your videos just make me remember to trust this process and be positive all time , after which things got better for me . Thanks Jak This is from a true well wisher I guess we all can agree that it's a good time THIS ONE IS OF PURE LOVE AND RESPECT BROTHER, YOU INSPIRE MANY
Man you did not need to donate but I appreciate you more than you think. You remind me of me a lot. I tend to spend more time alone now but I truly think that is for the best. I’ve always been an outcast and I’ve come to learn that there is nothing wrong with that, you shouldn’t think nothing wrong of it either ❤
I hate the fact that I relate so much with your past self Jak because I’m living like your past self right now. I’m putting women on a pedestal, too scared to to talk to them and just completely ignored them when they seem to be interested in me. This has fucked my mental health so much and thinking about girls a lot is impacting my “friendships” a little. I would just overthink and overthink on making the first move that I will just give up on dating them at all. Thank you for making this video Jak because it will help me not to make the same mistakes you did. I’m 15 rn and hope you’re feeling good. We both need to forgive the decisions our past selves made and just let go.
You shouldn't feel any shame brother, because without my experiences I would never be the person I am today. Never. Trust me, if you follow the right path, you will look back on these times in 3-4 years - just like I am rn - and be so glad you went through them because they will teach you so much. I am now confident in my ability to create an amazing future because of the knowledge I have no gained. Someone who doesn't experience these "hard times" never callouses their mind which is the key to success. Keep your head up brother, you're never alone.
Jesus Christ is the true cure to depression 😊❤ Romans 10:9-10 “If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved.” 😊👍
Yes, I know I didn't have to do this, but I feel the need to show you my appreciation for your content, Ive found many uses for the things you 'teach' and I just want you to know how much your impacting your viewers.
Yes, I know I didn't have to do this, but I feel the need to show you my appreciation for your content, I've found many uses for the things you 'teach' and I just want you to know how much your impacting your viewers.
As a 16-year-old girl, I’ve learned that your first priority should be yourself. Your future is in your hands, not anyone else’s. You have the power to make your own choices and build your own life. Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish-it’s important. Focus on your dreams, work hard, and trust that with God’s help, everything will happen at the right time. When you put yourself first and take care of your goals, everything else will come together.
100%, take care of yourself for you, but also taking care of you means you can show up the best version of you around the people you care about, and your energy becomes magnetic, its a win win for everyone ❤
Come on, do you even face any issues, struggles, or problems in the first place ? As far as I know, maximum a girl can face are insecurities. But we boys face a package of problems (if the guy is a monk then it's different). Be it mental stability, low feelings, maturity, decision-making, hormonal issues (example - low Testosterone i.e very common in teens and young adults), heavy distractions (come on, you know that; I need not explain this contrast between boys and girls). These all, I don't think are faced by you. Also like our puberty is later than you, with puberty comes many roller coaster things and it highly co incides with important phases in teen life. May be you have those roller coasters but they don't necessarily co incide with other important things. Get it ? I don't mean to hurt or underestimate women, but come on - my sayings aren't that far from truth, are they ? Edit : I mentioned those specific issues as they are particular to us. Everyone knows at this stage you are more stable and more mature than us, just saying. Also please don't get mad or angry at me, I'm just a random teen boy from a corner of the world that no one knows and cares (except family and very close friends, I guess).
@@anshulpowersmart4729 Hey, I hear you, and I get that you’re just trying to share your perspective, so no anger here. But let me tell you something; don’t assume what someone else is or isn’t going through. You don’t know me, and you don’t know anyone’s struggles before they even bring it out. I’ve faced plenty: extreme social anxiety, getting bullied, identity crises, body insecurities, and yeah, my hormones are all over the place too. I’ve had roller coasters of my own that collided with important life phases, just like you’re describing. And hell, I got my period at 8 and hit puberty way earlier than most. My life’s been a roller coaster ever since, dealing with everything that came with it: physical pain, mood swings, and trying to figure myself out in the chaos. On top of that, I’m also struggling with school, a fear of being left alone, and the pain of feeling excluded. That kind of stuff eats at you in ways that are hard to explain.If i had to tell you my life idk where to start having to move all the time almost killed by family in laws; enterrd wrong groups or websites i was not supposed to enter as a 11 year old; and hell i copied things i wasn't supposed to(not the hanky panky). And while we might be different, you’ll never fully understand a girl’s pain when you’re the opposite gender; ust like I’ll never completely understand yours. But that’s okay. We’re all dealing with our own struggles, and they’re valid no matter how different they are just because of our genders. So, all I’m saying is, give people the benefit of the doubt, because everyone’s fighting their own battles. 😊 edit: and hell i actually relate to the vids Jak does i am not kidding; and i am also a random girl at the other side of the world so no worries
Thanks sis! 🙏🏻 But you know there's time in life when you are "unable" to take care of yourself. I'm chronically depressed and have attempted s/icide before and the cause of this is humiliation, self hatred, and loneliness. I always wish I have someone with same intentions as me, same goals and understand me. If only I had someone who can provide me with love. I know parents do but my parents don't, they just want the biggest expectations from me. It's like expecting a fish to climb trees. So let's see, my life is pretty much ruined right now tho, mentally.
@@detox3330Hey, thanks for sharing this. I know it is not easy to open up, and I wanted you to know that I'm here for you. Sometimes, life may seem so unbearable at times; this thought comes when one feels that he does everything by himself, but this feeling of loneliness is just apparently reverse. It's OK to feel like you're struggling right now. You are not ruined; you are human, and this somehow is a part of the growth process-messy or not. You deserve love, understanding, and kindness-no, not just from other people, but from yourself, too. It's hard, I know, but taking small steps toward prioritizing your well-being-talking to someone you trust, seeing a therapist, participating in a support group-can make a world of difference. If Christian: I can promise you, with God, nothing is impossible. Luke 1:37. He sees your pain, loves you endlessly, and has a plan for you, even in the darkness. In 2 Corinthians 12:9, God says, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." You are not ruined; you're a masterpiece in progress. Everyone goes through hardship, and everyone is born for a reason. Who knows-you may be the light in someone else's life without knowing, and God will never fail to bring along into your life people who love and understand you. Take it one step at a time, and you'll be able to do anything with GOD by your side; just trust the process. edit: i also am figuring myself out but i trust GOD in process
When I was a teenager, especially during the ages 15-18 in 2016-2019, I was so obsessed with a girl I had a crush on. I fell in love with her when I was 15. She’s the most beautiful girl I've ever seen in my entire life. When I was 17 in 2018, I wrote her a love letter. Sadly, I got rejected by her because she doesn't have any feelings towards me and doesn't feel the same way at all. That broke my heart into a million pieces which made it hard for me to get over it. I eventually kind of got over it a year later. I will always have some sort of romantic feelings towards her and will always love her no matter what she thinks or feels. Since I truly love her, I don't bother with her. I’ll never force her to be in a relationship with me or do anything. I let her be because that's what’s best.
That same happened to me in the year 2024 25 You love someone dream of a life together then come to know that she doesn't have any feelings towards you
When I was a teenager, especially during the ages 15-18 in 2016-2019, I was so obsessed with a girl I had a crush on. I fell in love with her when I was 15. She's the most beautiful girl I've ever seen in my entire life. When I was 17 in 2018, I wrote her a love letter. Sadly, I got rejected by her because she doesn't have any feelings towards me and doesn't feel the same way at all. That broke my heart into a million pieces which made it hard for me to get over it. I eventually kind of got over it a year later. I will always have some sort of romantic feelings towards her and will always love her no matter what she thinks or feels. Since I truly love her, I don't bother with her. I'll never force her to be in a relationship with me or do anything. I let her be because that's what's best.
The same happened when me and my ex broke up. Her parents wanted her to stop dating, and I was dumb enough to belive everything other ppl said, such as shes lying because she likes someone else. So I said a few things I shouldn’t have. I fucked up hard. No matter the times I told her I was sorry and she said she beilived me, I could tell I hurt her. I kick myself every godamn day for it. She apparently doesn’t like me anymore, and I’ve been trying to get over her…
3:20 brother that was me for the past 3 years, and yes it is painful especially after she rejects you, but you just gotta stay positive and keep on moving forward man.
I know that feeling + she has a boyfriend 😭😭 I really like her but she friendzoned me 2 times But idk why i just dont want to give up. It is kinda hopeless but she keeps giving me hope🥲 But i never know if she is using me or if ahe doesnt mean It like that. And I have all this hope because we are really close friends too (Sry if my english is bad. Im from germany) Advice???
Jak, you are so brutally honest which is why you have made my life better than any other self improvement creator. I love your videos and I wish you the best.
ikr? in 2022, i met this guy and we were in a relationship, but things got worse because he was 4 years older than me and could easily dominate my feelings and make me feel like shit sometimes. it wasn’t actually love because love is such a compassionate feeling that we have with ourselves and our loved ones. i’m glad i got back outta it and quitted doing that shit that was being in love with someone hopelessly. it’s still not the right time to be in love tho. i gotta focus on myself. it’s been like 2 years ever since i had a crush on any guy and i’m glad about it, and also because i stopped being DELUSIONAL. you did a wonderful job to guide me through the right path of being physically and spiritually attached with the world. your morals and values are too wise, Jak. thank you so much. you don’t know how much you mean to me, my man❤️
I just went through this last week and it really hurts. If you're someone who's also going through this, don't give up. Focus on the things that really matters. Remember, time heals and you'll move on eventually. Start showing up for yourself every morning with a smile. There's so much the future has to offer. Keep believing.
You might not believe it, but I was going through all of this and I still am. All the things you said, they are true. I am currently 16 and I am now waking up from it. Glad that I am getting away from it, but probably not all out yet. Thank you for this video, it got me more secured that I am not the only one who is or who was living through this. For my fellow comrades, take care and wake up to reality. It is a shock, but also the results are amazing. Keep the good work, Jak
We are more alike than we think. So many guys goes through a similar experience but we're just scared to admit it to come across as weak. You're never alone ❤
Just so you know Jak, about a year ago, you motivated me to get up early and go to bed early, go to the gym every day, (and rest days ofc) take cold shower which are really underrated, you should talk about them more, and also journaling, it helps me collect and organize my thoughts at the end of the day, and because of you I have ended every single entry with the words: “Keep going bro, you got this.” You’re a huge inspiration to me man thank you much love.
Life sometimes goes down a different pathway than you want. Don’t look back at it with regret and what ifs your on a different journey adapt and enjoy it just like jak!
i understand this pain, being heart broken and just feeling lost is absolutely devastating it affects people more than it’s ever talked about, though it is helpful to talk about no matter how long it takes, i just got out of a relationship about month or so ago it’s been hard to be on my own relationship wise again(keep in mind i am in my early 20s, specifically 23 years old) so as you gain more in life you learn each time
Hi Jak, I got the same situation with that type of girl at the beginning of the year. She got with another guy I used to know but they never broke up cause we're a bit older I guess (about year 11 in your country probably). I lost myself instead of finding strength in it and I lost much confidence, you were good in Basketball, I was the best student of my whole school for a lot of years and also lost that status. I feel like I also had the mindset of girls are boring, useless and just distractions but since I got to college I began to see women differently, craving for their attention and lost my real values, those my parents gave me and I truly believe in. Respect, kindness, Peace. Now I know I lack of authenticity because I always need to modify myself to appear better in front of everyone, be loved, popularity shit or Idk. I truly believe I didn't work enough on myself with that and feel immature or too much away from everyone else.
Don't know how much this relates to the topic but I don't want to wait anymore to tell people about this. Roughly 3 years ago there was this girl I met through a friend of mine online, she was very shy around new people but she warmed up to me fairly quickly. We started talking and eventually developed feelings for each other but neither one of us wanted to take the next step, I was just to afraid of being turned down even though I knew she liked me. About a year and a half passed and I told her I liked her "just a bit", what a fucking lie that was. She friendzoned me as she was a lot less shy around new people, something that I'd like to think I helped her get through. About a week after that she told me she liked me, but she had just crushed my heart so I couldn't really reciprocate her feelings anymore. I helped her in dozens of ways that are far too hard to count, her friend killed themself and she believed it was all her fault. No one was going to help her so I did, gave her my word on it, and faster than you'd think she went from sobbing to at least speaking sentences I could understand. I'd go over everything I'd helped her through, and everything she's helped me through but that would make this comment 10 times longer than it already is. About 2 weeks ago we had a video call, we both like each other again at this point, but we don't talk as much anymore, but I can tell she meant what she said. She was telling me how cute I am, how kissable my face is, everything she'd do to me in bed. That night I told her "Promise me you aren't toying with me for your own amusement." She told me that if I felt like she was toying with me, I should tell her and she'll stop. I told her that I didn't want it to stop, I loved the feelings I got when I talked to her in those ways. About a week later I'm at work and I see these chocolate bars with "I LOVE YOU" and "THANK YOU" text on them. I told her "If I was dumb enough to spend 5 dollars on a chocolate bar I'd totally get this for you. We chat for a few seconds before telling me "Oh by the way there's someone I'm interested in" as if we didn't just have the biggest sex talk the week prior. I felt like she never loved me even after everything I did for her. I don't care how selfish that made me sound but I'm tired of putting effort into trying to be the humble guy if this is how I get treated for it afterwards, I deserve nice things too. I just really thought someone would actually put the effort into loving someone like me, but it turns out it was just my turn out of the toy box. I don't feel like I'm not good enough, I know that someone out there would truly love me for me, but the 3 years that I knew her for just to turn out to be toying with me really hurts. Thank you for reading this if you did, I've never posted a wall of text before and hopefully this is the last.
Hope things get better! Having a hard time to! But we just have to accept that things like these happen to us! We’re human! So keep going strong brother! ❤
I was tricked … (if you wanna know) Back in sixth grade There was a girl I liked But she just used me To sneak out of church Because she didn’t like being adopted to a Christian family… And my dumb brain 🧠 thought it was love It wasn’t though
Bro you got ignored by your childhood gf and friends in your school but your not ignored by millions of peaple including me bro. Stay strong. By the way , watching your videos are soo calming than other videos and your voice is like a purification that filled with hidden advises.your a life saviour. If that girl and your friends didn't ignore you then, this channel would have not existed. Thanks for advises bro
I hope you know you're one of my favorite youtubers and I love watching each and every video that gets released. You are very wise and hearing your thoughts actually means a lot to me. Thank you, Jak Piggott.
Oh my gosh, this story is so much like me right now. I played basketball and loved the sport so much and I didn’t make my team either, got this girl’s number who I liked and she friendzoned me and then slowly ghosted me, and I haven’t talked to a girl since. I’m not scared to talk to them at all it’s just that I want to find THE ONE. They aren’t really attracted to me either but this video helped a lot. Thanks Jak
Hey, I absolutely love your videos and how genuine you are. They’ve taught me so much, and I really appreciate your transparency. Wishing you all the best!👍🏼
My favorite quote: The pain of discipline will turn into joy later, but the joy of sinning will be converted into pain afterwards. Even if you’re not a Christian, I genuinely believe that this has some truth in it.
Your explanation of Australian culture unlocked the truth of that social barrier that I've been trying to figure out for years. Makes sense why people that do nothing to earn status have one just for being involved in sports like soccer, whereas others that make an effort to connect with people that are focused on interests outside sport are looked down on. I now play soccer in my break times with boys in my own grade as well as friends I have made in other grades, but it still doesn't seem to be enough, I'm still partially ignored by most people or seen as the attention seeker. It's been interesting to discover how every grade has very different dynamics, in particular this group two grades below mine is very obsessed with gym, muscles, wrestling, being moderately rough, etc., you know, they get me to flex all the time... I try to be part of what they do without showing my weaknesses or giving myself a poor reputation.
Jak, i dont know if you see this but i just wanted to tell that youre fucking awesome person. Thats all i want to say. You helped me so much in the hard times and many more people too. Keep going, you earn all of it💪💪
This video touched me, Jak. I am a sophomore in high school. During my freshman year, I met this really cool girl. She was sweet and funny and probably everything I could want in a girl. After some time went by and we were talking a lot, I started to build the feeling that she liked me. I could just tell by the things that she did. She started asking me hugs and shit. However, I liked another girl while she liked me. So I ended up telling her a few weeks before Valentine's Day that I only wanted to be friends with her because she had feelings for someone else. And mind you, I had a porn addiction during this time period (I still do now), so I shouldn't even have been so worried about girls. Anyways, she told me that she understands, and that we could still be friends. A few days before Valentine's Day, the girl that I liked friendzoned me. Me and the girl that I liked are really good friends still, like best friends, but my friendship with the girl that liked me is really bland now. During band camp and summer break, we barely talked. During the first two months of my sophomore year, we did not talk at all. A few weeks ago, she told me that she hated me through Discord dm's because I didnt talk to her anymore. She and the girl that I liked were really good friends, and now they do not talk anymore, and she was blaming it on me that they did not speak to each other anymore. I told her that I don't know what happened, and I apologized for not talking to her. She then apologized to me and then said that she doesn't hate me. But now I'm confused because when I try to talk to her, she just walks away. It's like she's mad at me for doing what she asked me to do. Idk man, and I'm still stuck in this porn addiction and I'm kinda jealous of my friends and their relationships, but I dont wanna date until I fix myself.
I met this girl in August, and after a week of knowing her, i told her i had a crush on her. She had said she also did, which made me feel really good. We started saying "i love you" and even asked each other that if we saw each other, if we could kiss each other. But just recently, her dad saw her emails between me and her and said we couldn't talk anymore. This broke me so much to the point where i just cried myself to sleep. Her mom said me and her could text from time to time, but it's not the same as going on a call with her and seeing her face :( Now i am really confused if she likes me or not anymore. She has done some things that made me think she still does, but there is no way of knowing for sure. i am really confused about my life right now and also depressed and just need some advice from anyone. Also btw, me and her are 12 years old
Hey bro, what you are going through is really tough and trust me I know. I just backed out of a 10 month relationship with my girl and it hurts like hell. The crying yourself to sleep, looking up at the ceiling, wishing you were with her, zoning out and just imagining the times you had or could have had, it really sucks. One thing that is helping me get through this is understanding that I was fine before her and I can be fine without her. Another thing that has helped me is understanding that there are so many people out there, and much like you, I feel as if there is no one else, that there isnt another girl, that she was my one, but time has the power to heal anything. If you are religious (im christian), praying has helped me so much, trule it really has. Im sorry that your going through this, and as someone who shared everything with that girl, I understand what your going through. Better times are on the horizon. From a 16 year old.
@@tojo-v8w Of course bro, and dude the simplest way to not see her in your friends UA-cam videos is simply by unfollowing your friend. If he is your friend then he will totally understand why you unfollowed him. If you don’t I totally understand, but the best way to let go is to have no contact with them. It’s hard trust me, I have to share multiple classes with her 😂
@thejunior9376 i mean to be fair, I am allowed to message her and her dad said he will think about us talking again, AND I told her if she could apologize to him for me and she said she would. I asked her what her dad said and she said that he wants to talk to me. Tomorrow is her birthday so knowing her she might ask if her dad will let me and her talk again so I might talk to him tomorrow honestly.
Im 13 and 2 years ago i had a girlfriend too and she broke up with me 2 days before Christmas. The reason was because I sat next to an other girl but with my best buddy next to me and I didn't really talked to the girl, and when we met at my home she was like angry but the funny thing was that she was litterly flirting with an other guy right in front of me like 2 weeks befor and when I asked her in private why she did that, she said it wouldn't be that deep and then I called her a c**t. After that we didn't talk for 4 days and then she broke up with me. I appreciate it very much that you are making these videos because it makes me really feel that I'm not the only one who had to go trough this s**t.
Im probably about to end up writing a long ccomment but here i go, im a teenager js for context. I moved to a new place earliier this year, for about 2 months i had no friends, and i was at the library for teen game night, reading aa book by myself, when this one girl complimented my shirt (it was for a series we both liked) and i said thank you, i am by NO MEANS introverted, i am hyper-extroverted but im socially paranoid and am scared of what people think of me... and im not the most popular person, so about 5 minutes later, i took my oppurtunity and brought up my favorite series at the time... turns out shes like, obsessed with this series and its her favorite series and shes like in love with the main character, we talak for a bit about the series and various things before she heads off to talk to other people. Before i leave the teen game night... she asks for my number, now, after about 3 days, i see a video about a product themed around this series, and think of this girl... hmmmm ill call her by her middle name, Nicole... anyways, i think of her, and send her the video, (it was a themed mug) and she replies with a video of HER themed bowls, and thus starts... friendship. Within days i develop a bit of a crush over this girl, i was conflicted though because... ive only ever had one crush before her... after a bit, i give in and realize i really do like Nicole... (more context, we are both homeschoolers, bit detail because homeschoolees typically interact and act differently) and due to my clingy personality, i constantly think about her. Im scouring the internet for advice, as at the time, my sellf confidence is EXTREMELY low, and i just try to think of hundreds of ways to boost her opinion of me, and maybe, just maybe, do the impossible, and get her to like me? Well, after a while, i started picking up on some hints or signs, but due to low self confidence and social paranoia, i really thought i might be overthinking it. Even though a few were EXTENELEY OBVIOUD SIGNS. And anyways, i had invited her over for our family's 4th of july party... but about a week before, our friend kinda texted me asking if i liked Nicole, and i wouldnt deny but i said stuff like "why?" And eveentually i callels this friend and asked her questions, and shee hinted that nicole might like ME... i asked Nicole if we could call and she was busy for like 20 more minutes, in the meanwhile i was sobbing and smiling and hyperventilating, this was it. Someone ACTUALLY likes me... i called her, it took maybe... 40 minutes for me to work up the confidence. She likes me. She likes me. She likes me. She likes me. We have a conversation aavout it, but she cant date til 2026 due to parents, i was planning on waiting til then to date anyways so it was fine... we were waiting ppatiently, patiently waiting... i promised myself i would takae the entire relattionship at her pace. And i did, she went further then i thought, we never held hands or anything, but we got all the way up to romantic conversations, talking about marriage only half-jokingly, and even... "I love you"... Life was its happiest, i was happier than ive ever been. And about a month ago... "So, basically, I've been thinking about how we act, and how we're kind of way too lovey-dovey for people who aren't even dating, and I think we should just reel back. This is all going way too fast for me. I feel bad getting your hopes up for MARRIAGE when we arent even dating yet. Im sorry, its not you though. Its me." Thats just the beggining of the message, she explains she doesnt KNOW anymore if she wants to date me, and she will have to see how we grow over the next 2 years... but she said she will always want to be close friends... (to clarify, this was NOT rejection, but it means what i thought was guarenteed, something i thought i was done working for, i must continue working towards, and continue improving fo) im destroyed. I cant stop thinking avout her. From the happiest to most painful time in my life, in a matter of minutes. It still hurts unimaginably badly, i withdrew from even our friendship for a while, my self confidence that i had built up? Down the drain. But, i wont give up, i will NOT give up, she is worth EVERY SECOND of the pain. I got her to like me once, i will do it again, i HAVE to do it again. Sometime before this message, she had invited me to a local homeschool group winter formal dance. She said she would still love if i came, so i did, it was two nights ago. She was beautiful, her dress, stunning. I didnt want to ask her to slow dance, because i honestly didnt know if i wwould break the boundary she has set,, i just dont want to do that. There caame a "girls ask boys to dance" time... she didnt ask, it brought my hopes down, but later during a slow dance song, she said, somewhat quietly, "yknow, we can dance if you want to... i just want you to be uncomfortable" i freak out and say "oh i wouldnt be uncomfortable dont worry." But it disnt get aanywahere further than that... during another slow song later on "we really can dance you know..." I say "sure" as thats all i could say in my blissful stupor. We end up getting up on the dance floor (it was outsidee at nigiht and awesome) and she asked if i knew how to slow dance, and i isaid (i used to.... lets hope i remember) so we end up doing a sort of put together box waltz, it was rough, but it was... amazing, i loved every second of it. I couldnt keep eye cintact tho, i kept looking to the side of her head, but it was still absolutely AMAZING... i couldnt build up the courage to ask HER to dancee on abother song, but some of the jokes she made too... i have hope, its small, but there... i have HOPE! HOPE!!! I heard there was another dance in april, so here i am, going to practtice dancing better, going to build confidence in various ways (i have no idea how tbh), abd im going to INVITE EHER TO THE DANCE AND THEN ASK HER TO DANCE. I WANT US TO HAVE A HAPPY ENDING. I WANT TO DANCE WITH HER SO MANY MORR TIMES, AND SO MUCH MORE. Thank you... idk what else to say, sorry thisbcomment is so long Thats my goal, for the year, for the next year, ans the next year... right now its get her to like me again, then it will be to make her as happy as i possibly could UPDATE: mutual friend asked her about it even after I asked her not to... supposedly I'm a bit too... "immature" for her right now, Idk who she's expecting to find bc ever other teenage boy I've seen are definitely more immature. Idk, am I screwed, should I. Given up? I hate myself, I hate life, idk WHT to do, im scared.
You are still very young and developing the maturity to do life. Don't hyper analyse your teenage self too much as when you look back at 50 you'll realise you are that same person just with more layers of experience. Nothing is left behind by self awareness of your thoughts and behaviour patterns, it's just reinvented with perspective. I know this for sure because I'm old.
We need to move on bro. Being stuck on someone who has clearly decided they dont want you in their lives anymore ruins your present and your future. It´s not worth it
The reason you are one of the best UA-camrs is because of the way you talk to everyone watching you don’t speak like you’re above everyone giving wisdom you’re talking to the audience on a personal and relatable level ❤ thank you
I'm 21 and I'm kind of "lost" in life. I have a lot of qualities and everybody at work and school is happy with what I do. But deep inside of me, I feel so much (you can't even imagine really) fear of not being successful enought in the future. I'm afraid of failing my life and never get a wife and a familyw which my biggest dream. I really feel clueless with this situation which is lasting for years now. Thanks for your content. It's very positive. Hope that one day things are gonna get better 🙏.
You know what man! this man has encouraged me literally to do some productive work! I am not kidding what the thing is that you know i was a bad habbit addict and now? left all, started working out , nature walks! and also my passion for drawing/art which i thought was dead due to video games , came back! now i started an art channel! you gave me a goal i will not hesitate to share to you all my goal is to become a great comic writer or mangaka! if i somehow ever become something big i will never forget you and would mention you there! salute ❤
I fell for a girl that seemed perfect. One of my friends that used to be friends with her warned me not to go for her, but I ignored her. All I’m doing to say is that she ended up not being such a great person. That was a few months ago. I’m over her and am finding someone worth going for
Jack, iam currently experiencing the same thing you did. Let me explain: im only 13 and i always have this girl on my mind. This has affected my friendships and my studies. I kissed her a few days ago , but recently I've not been greating her when I saw her. She made a bet with her friend that if she kissed me, she would get money. I feel like I'm being used, but for some reason I still have feelings for this girl, i can't let her go.
9:42 I feel that I loved playing sports and especially hockey but my dad also had to quit because we have godawful knees and I got asthma from my mom. I’m thinking of starting skating again but I’m currently out of commission after I got Covid and it set off even more bad genetics
Between 2015-2018 I was 15-18 and really rebellious, I definitely didn't have a big friend group and a high status, my reputation with students and teachers was bad I only had 2-3 friends at most, I didn't think about girls because I was always getting into trouble and pulling pranks and if I did it was always on one girl who always tolerated me. I've always loved rapping and combat and that never changed even today. If u heard of Bully by Rockstar Games, the story and experiences of Jimmy Hopkins really resonate with me
Thank God, I'm16 turning 17 in March, I've been In 2 relationships before but I didn't know not to put a woman on a pedestal I mean I always kinda knew not really but deep down I knew, I had a feeling but I didn't fully understand it at that time. But I figured it out a year ago, What I know is stop fucking putting women on pedestals, treat them as an equal, don't be afraid to speak, just say whatever the fuck you need to them but like obviously speak them in a polite way and and just be yourself stop trying to impress women by doing stuff you don't do or act like someone you're not, just be yourself in the best way possible.
When I was in 8th grade I was bullied and I liked a girl the whole year and I didn’t talk to any of my friends because I was scared from what she would think of me, and I let anxiety get to me and I was only focusing on her when I never focused on myself, so that’s why I took control over my high school years I started to hit the gym and work on myself
We humans are not perfect ,you think your past isnt what you hoped it to be but it made you who you are today if you change anything in your past you wouldn't have become the person you are today who inspires thousands, i think that you have came along way and you are still young you still have along way to go and room for improvement
Its my 14th birthday tomorrow, and this video made me think about how i asked someone out earlier in the year that i found attractive. She said no, but it changed me greatly for the better, and, like you, my whole motivation for a long time was this girl. After she said no, i managed to find a new purpose now, and it definitely helped me to just ask instead of keeping things bottled up. Im forever grateful that i was able to ask her, despite my fears.
I am a girl and your story really resonated with me. Like almost word for word, except it was about a boy for me. To know that someone else went through these emotions as well. I wish u the best ❤️
Remember, no one can separate you from yourself, from your soul and soul, the only one who has this ability is yourself when thinking that you are better or worse than you think, this thought is collected in the art of war and it says "make your enemy think that you are stronger than you appear or weaker than you appear to deceive him and take advantage" Why would anyone take themselves as an enemy? That is because human beings have the ability to benefit themselves at will without thinking about the consequences,If you want to be better, it is not enough to believe it with false hopes from people that want to profit from you telling you complements and giving you faith, but to be better you have to improve yourself with training in technique and skill.
I never played sports at school. I’m not a very athletic guy, I don’t like to party as much as the rest, I don’t drink or smoke. That has always put me at the bottom of the social hierarchy at school. I’m the weird kid, the guy who does well at school without any effort / study and the tech guy who knows 10x more about tech than everyone else on my class. I’ve had moments where I had doubts about my future, my life, my friends. And I’ve had worries about girls. I sometimes get worried, think I’ll never find The girl (as you so well put it) because of my social anxiety. But I keep going. I go after my purpose in life, and just hope one day I will find the woman of my dreams, a woman that shares my values and that will love me for who I am, to create a family and spend the rest of my life with. But first I need to deal with my social anxiety. I need to learn how to keep conversations flowing (something I struggle to do) and to engage others when they’re talking to me. And I feel your videos are helping me through that. Since I started watching your videos, I’ve felt more comfortable around girls. Before I would give them one word answers when they talk to me, and now I feel myself trying to engage more. I am really grateful for what you do, you are changing lives and I really appreciate it.
Hey bro, even if you see this comment or didnt see it, I just wanted to tell you i am experiencing the same thing right now. I know i might just be a random person commenting and cant be easily trusted but I am really going through the same thing. I'm a middle schooler and have a crush on a super attractive girl in school. I also noticed her staring at me sometimes, idk what she was thinkin but we barely know each other and had never spoken to each other as well. So idk when i see her, And is with a friend or anyone that i know, i realise that im not myself but a different person. I always say to my friends that i aint a simp but its actually the opposite. I always think abt her and wanted to stop so i watched your vids. It is winter vacation for me so i wont see her for a while and will continue to support and watch you while my feelings gradually pass away.. My motivation is always you bro,you helped me through difficult times and had situations similar to mine. I really think of you as my idol and Will continue to support you in the future... Sorry bro this is the last thing imma be saying, as you can tell my name itself is mr lonely yea cringe right i know. I basically gave this name to myself cuz like yk i hurt many people in my school, not physically but verbally which could also include mentally. Im just a loner and eat lunch by myself but guess what happened? There's one guy that just comes up to me and says can we be friends? Yea yk the guy was someone i knew before but for a short amount of time. We spend good times and guess what happened again? I started watching your amazing content and gained a group of friends older than me but suitable for me. It was always bc of you and that friend who always had my back. And rn im at a position where i can make everyone proud of my achievement and bc of my behaviour which was yea not loveliness but solitude. Up until now You helped me develop my lonely attitude towards solitude when i feel lonely. Im glad i saw your channel when i needed motivations. I will always support you. Peace out Brotha 👐🤝🤟✌❤
I almost lost one of my best friends due to chasing women. Its kinda crazy how much you change when youre mind is shifted on pulling girls, Never listen to your lustful self no matter the excuse you wont regret it 👊❤️
jak i’m only 14 years old i have some things goin on and idk how to get all this too work out i’ll be fully honest with you and this entire chat my dad cheated on my mom and they split up i have 3 other brothers in my life and two of them are twin babies and it’s hard to manage helping them i am dealing with not being able to see my mom or dad much bc they are fighting for us in court and they want way more hours than the other and it’s not even for me and im scared i also have school and at school i had a toxic relationship with someone who cheated on me with 6 different guys and i broke up then she ended up to try and kill herself and i saved her life by calling her family and calling 911 then she ended up telling everyone i begged her to do it to herself and telling others i wanted her to die so now im in court for two different things and one of them i never have done idk what to do and i know you can help me
So many men and boys are afflicted with this obsession with female attention. It’s sad to see when the desire grips them so strongly that they begin to act in a manner far removed from their true personalities in hopes of something even as little as a smirk or an extra glance from whichever girl they’ve hyper-fixated on. We’ve all been there. It’s probably the case that men need phases like that in their lives in order to end up with a well-adjusted view on romance, and it certainly is a natural male tendency, but it seems like many men aren’t getting out of their girl-obsessed ruts. You see it on social media all the time, self-improvement content with a big focus on what will attract women. In the end, self-improvement for the sake of it will attract women anyway, so it’s a win-win if you approach it that way, but by hyperfixating, men train themselves to believe that women are the end-all be-all of life itself. There is much higher meaning in this life to be attained. Aim for that higher meaning, and you’ll pick up the romance life has to offer along the way. Hyperfixating on women may be the “natural” male mindset, but it’s no goddamn way to live at all. Don’t let your mind’s ideations of the perfect woman make decisions for you. Make your own decisions. Live life free as it’s meant to be lived. Much love Jak
As a person who is about to end their own misery, i would like to say goodbye to everyone reading this comment. No one has ever cared for me before so even talking about this to my parents wouldn't make a difference, they wouldn't try to stop me. So , everyone stay safe and don't end up like me, goodbye everyone :).
lately i've been curious about this cybepunk edgerunner and i really want to stay at your house, now im curious i feel like "why do people really got depressed because of this good song" ...thats my biggest regret in my life, i keep searching and searching seeing countless of david and lucy video until i watch the actual anime and i understand..now i got haunted by the feeling of love, depression, empathy and sympathy i never had any relationship, and that one comment "its never about the moon david, she loves you" i...feel like a fkn trash right now..i need help i know i need help and i know i got defeated by this feeling
The title is so relatable. I was obsessed with this girl for 2-3 years. But I was idealizing her, seeing her as this perfect person that didn’t exist. I also used to seggsualize her because I used to be addicted to the bad content (I’m 56 days clean right now), and worst of all, I didn’t care about her real personality. I didn’t care about the real her. I wasn’t in love with her, I was in love with the perfect version of her that didn’t exist because I wanted to feed my selfish desires. I tried DMing her weeks ago, wanting to just value her for who she is. I didn’t want anything out of her. I just wanted to repair the friendship and make her feel valued for who she is. But she didn’t even bother to read my message. And I know she’s somewhat active on IG. And I felt that the friendship is dead. I screwed up! And I felt so guilty for who I was, even though I have changed since then. It was only through repentance that I was able to forgive myself. But it still isn’t ideal at all.
@@gameswithtroyYT well my daily routine is pretty typical. Wake up go to tschool for 6-7 hours, workout ussualy 1-2 hours and then I either go out with friends or stay inside, do schoolwork and play games on my pc. Nothing out of the ordinary, I used to smoke cigs and vape but I quit.
@arsenprod999 It is great that you quit vaping or smoking, it will make you, to majority of the girls more attractive, and more unattractive to certain girls, do you use online dating apps?
Well when u think about it it’s good this happened because u now have 1.5 million people who support know you and care for you and also respect and relate to you.
Lesson of the video in a line: Don't chase girls, use the time to become a better one of yourself, keep yourself original. When time will come things will automatically settle down.
Dude this came at the exact right time. The timing is insaine but I literally just had a dream abt all these girls that I’ve crushed on, mainly one tho. I just really needed this. I was thinking about how sad my life is because I have no one to share it with. Thank you bro 💪
200 reasons why you should live
1. your family
2. your friends
3. the feeling you get when you’ve finished something
4. the feeling you get when you get a compliment
5. the feeling you get when you buy new clothes
6. the feeling you get when you try on new clothes
7. the feeling you get when your room is tidy
8. the feeling you get when you're laughing hesterically.
9. the feeling you get when you make a new friend
10. the feeling you get when you make someone smile
11. you’d have to watch your family and friends grieve.
12. you’ve never been to that place you always wanted to visit.
13. you’ve never been to disney world.
14. you’ve never been skinny dipping.
15. you’ve never swam in a lake.
16. you’ve never met your idol.
17. you haven’t gotten married.
18. you’ve never decorated your own house.
19. you’ve never saved someone’s life.
20. you haven’t learnt to drive.
21. there is music you haven’t listen too.
22. you have so many more people to meet.
23. everyone who thought you’d do well in life, would have been wrong.
24. the people who said you’d end up no where, would have been right.
25. all the fake people would pretend to like u and post u on their stories.
26. you would have been the best mom or dad.
27. you haven’t lived the ‘my funeral will be packed’ type of life.
28. your friends would suffer.
29. your mum would never be able to walk into your room.
30. you haven’t apologised to people you have hurt.
31. someone loves you.
32. you are not alone.
33. i’m here for you.
34. the clothes you’re buried in might be gross.
35. you haven’t truly loved yourself yet.
36. suicide is a permanent solution to temporary problems.
37. you haven’t watched your kids open their christmas presents.
38. you haven’t watched your kids grow older.
39. the pain you feel right now, isn’t forever.
40. there are so many foods you haven’t tried.
41. you’ll never get the feeling of walking into a warm building on a cold day.
42. finding your person.
43. really soft pillows.
44. eating pizza with your kids and partner.
45. you’ve never danced in the rain.
46. you’ve never kissed someone in the rain.
47. there are so many hobbies you haven’t tried.
48. you’ll never have a sleepover with your best friend again.
49. your friends would blame themselves.
50. your mom's smile.
51. your best friend's laugh.
52. your sister would lose her best friend.
53. your cousins that look up to you.
54. hot chocolate on cold days.
55. ice water on hot days.
56. getting a tan.
57. hearing ‘i love you’.
58. not being able to sleep the night before and exciting day.
59. your birthday.
60. you’ve never been to a nightclub.
61. long hot showers.
62. long steamy baths.
63. freshly shaved legs.
64. perfectly smooth hair.
65. watching people trip over small objects.
66. you could have a huge impact on someone’s life.
67. you would regret dying.
68. you can’t change your mind once you're gone.
69. you wake up everyday for a reason.
70. stars.
71. you will always be enough.
72. movies that make you feel warm when they’re over.
73. reading powerful quotes.
74. genuine smiles.
75. the crunch of autumn leaves.
76. christmas.
77. christmas eve.
78. decorating the tree.
79. long meaningful hugs.
80. sunsets.
81. ice cream.
82. you never got that puppy.
83. you are so brave, it would be a waste to let the fire go.
84. rainbows.
85. travelling to new places.
86. funny stories.
87. funny jokes.
88. inside jokes.
89. coffee.
90. your talents would go to waste.
91. the feeling you get when you’re truly happy.
92. all nighters with friends.
93. cuddling.
94. reconnecting with old friends and family.
95. smiling.
96. capturing perfect moments on camera.
97. swimming on a hot day.
98. feeling cozy in blankets.
99. helping other people with the same thing you got help with.
100! becoming successful.
101. cute babies.
102. cute old people.
103. love stories that make you jealous.
104. telling crazy stories.
105. watching lightning.
106. watching rain.
107. star gazing.
108. recovery.
109. melted chocolate.
110. freshly baked cookies.
111. late night adventures.
112. overcoming fears.
113. sunday mornings.
114. friday mornings.
115. you’ll be dead, forever.
116. you will make a difference to people.
117. picnics with friends.
118. waking up late.
119. waking up late and ending up being on time.
120. to prove them wrong.
121. to prove them you can.
122. to prove you're strong.
123. to love and be loved.
124. the ocean.
125. pets.
126. very loud music.
127. days out.
128. finishing a book.
129. conversations that just flow.
130. learning new things.
131. you are important.
132. you are wanted.
133. mistakes.
134. snow.
135. sun.
136. flowers.
137. flowers that look gorgeous but smell gross.
138. new bed sheets.
139. new home decor.
140. roller coasters.
141. theme parks.
142. smiling at strangers.
143. random acts of kindness.
144. the sound of water.
145. visiting a place from your childhood.
146. to look back on all the things you got yourself through on your own.
147. to feel proud.
148. reassurance.
149. cute nicknames.
150. long stares that make you feel loved.
151. meaningful gifts.
152. blowing out candles.
153. meeting online friends in real life.
154. success.
155. to work the job you always wanted.
156. the live the life you dreamt of.
157. babies smiling.
158. sleep.
159. slingshots.
160. breaking rules.
161. dreams.
162. the last day of school/work.
163. taking pictures.
164. brownies.
165. bubbles.
166. water slides.
167. holidays.
168. to fall asleep on someone.
169. to feel protected.
170. to grow taller.
171. to grow stronger.
172. to grow old.
173. to make memories you’ll cherish.
174. to laugh at old pictures.
175. to be loved by a pet.
176. the first signs of summer.
177. the first signs of autumn.
178. the first signs of winter.
179. the first signs of spring.
180. to binge watch a series.
181. to live independently.
182. to get somewhere in life all by yourself.
183. to not have broken any promises.
184. to fulfill your promises.
185. to breathe.
186. so you can tell your children stories of when you was there age.
187. so say you’re alive.
188. to know you’re stronger than you think.
189. falling in love.
190. you’ve never snuck out.
191. you’ve never not smashed your phone.
192. you’ve never stayed out all night.
193. you are a kind soul.
194. you have a warm heart.
195. you care for others.
196. the smell of pancakes.
197. when you walk over frosty grass.
198. you haven't truly apologized to all the people you've hurt
199. the rest of your life
200! to say you made it.
(Before someone says this is copied and pasted, nah, it's not. I just post this comment on vids, this list is smth that I thouthgt of when I was thinking of doing it ❤)
Man if someone asks me to give another name for positivity, I'm gonna take your name.
Much love bro peace🫂✌
This needs as many likes as possible
This is perfect! ❤
201: getting knee surgery
This is incredible and i really need to think more positively ❤
Things suck.
But not everything.
Live and let go, man.
It’s hard, losing something, getting rejected, anything. It sucks.
But please. I know it sounds cliche, but please just keep going. For your family, your friends, hell, even me! Just please get back up after tripping. Nothing is worth cutting the lights for.
I don't know why, but this comment is lowkey heart touching
@@Fortnite_Noob55clearly the other one
If she like you, she’ll like you, if she don’t like you, she won’t like you. LIFE IS JUST LIFE🎉🎉🎉
@@ColaTheHater genuinely this comment is inspiring and I will take it to hearr
@@CuteCat-x7j lol I think I should just do the same thing
you're one of the few people on the internet who actually talks about the strugle and the mistakes that you went through on self improvement, and that's what is helping us the most, keep the autenticity
Yes u can feel the realness
I will Afonso, comments like these keep me going, thank you ❤
you're one of the few people on the internet who actually talks about the struggle and the mistakes that you went through on self improvement, and that's what is helping us the most, keep the authenticity.
@Theunicorn2012 why’d you copy Afonso’s comment
Thank you! I really appreciate it. I have been dealing with suicidal thoughts and you have really helped me.
Sorry to hear about that I used to self harm last year thankfully I’ve not selfed harm for over a year. I hope your doing ok
Thank you! I really appreciate it. I have been dealing with suicidal thoughts and you have really helped me.
if you dealing with this more just think god is by your side and like just in your mind just think that god opening doors for you but you have to push to get to the other doors
if you dealing with this more just think god is by your side and like just in your mind just think that god opening doors for you but you have to push to get to the other doors
@Theunicorn2012 James 4:8 “Draw near to God and He will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded.” Repent of your sins to God, my friend! ❤😊
Jesus Christ is the true cure to depression 😊❤
Romans 10:9-10 “If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved.” 😊👍
I feel that man. And btw I’m sorry about your dad passing. I had a similar experience but Ill just say this thanks for making my life easier and having a role model to look up to since my dad passed
Tx for supporting him I am a student and don't have money to give him but I like someone did 😅
@@SiddharthRao73 same thank you bro for donation to him lol:)
@@СтасюкАндрій I didn't donated the og comment did ! ❤
Man you did not need to do that, but thank you so much. It sucks man, but unfortunately its a way of life, all we can do now is make our old man proud aye ❤
@@SiddharthRao73 No no no bro you do not need to donate at all, your viewership alone means the world to me ❤
I just asked this girl out yesterday and got friendzoned. Honestly it was probably the best outcome for me as a person moving forward. So much of this confidence to ask sm1 out for the first time came from you Jak, thank you for just being you in this world these days.
Sometimes life's plan is better in the long run than your own, and it looks like you already understand that. You'll go for with this mindset Alex ❤
I had it too, but it was a good thing in the end
I just asked this girl out yesterday and got friendzoned. Honestly it was probably the best outcome for me as a person moving forward. So much of this confidence to ask sm1 out for the first came from you Jak, thank you for just being you in this world these days.
@Theunicorn2012 ur gonna turn out better than u would have been with her, trust
@@JakPiggott ye it’s gods plan
Thanks!, I always wished I had an elder brother, if he were there, I am pretty he would be like you brother, this one may not be that much in USD, but this is the max I can do right now to see a brother become successful. You really changed me quite a lot brother, I wished I can meet you in person but things have gotten tough so I can't
I learnt to have fun while grinding hard and having good memories with my boys 2 years ago, but now all of them are quite literally strangers and I feel like an outcast each and everyday,
only because I did what I was supposed to do nothing else, no hatred, envy days just became a hella tough all of a sudden I just went from loving to go to school and talking to friends to QUITE LITERALLY HATING SCHOOL AND ALL OF THEM but your videos just make me remember to trust this process and be positive all time , after which things got better for me . Thanks Jak
This is from a true well wisher
I guess we all can agree that it's a good time
THIS ONE IS OF PURE LOVE AND RESPECT BROTHER, YOU INSPIRE MANY
Man you did not need to donate but I appreciate you more than you think. You remind me of me a lot. I tend to spend more time alone now but I truly think that is for the best. I’ve always been an outcast and I’ve come to learn that there is nothing wrong with that, you shouldn’t think nothing wrong of it either ❤
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I hate the fact that I relate so much with your past self Jak because I’m living like your past self right now. I’m putting women on a pedestal, too scared to to talk to them and just completely ignored them when they seem to be interested in me. This has fucked my mental health so much and thinking about girls a lot is impacting my “friendships” a little. I would just overthink and overthink on making the first move that I will just give up on dating them at all. Thank you for making this video Jak because it will help me not to make the same mistakes you did. I’m 15 rn and hope you’re feeling good. We both need to forgive the decisions our past selves made and just let go.
You shouldn't feel any shame brother, because without my experiences I would never be the person I am today. Never.
Trust me, if you follow the right path, you will look back on these times in 3-4 years - just like I am rn - and be so glad you went through them because they will teach you so much. I am now confident in my ability to create an amazing future because of the knowledge I have no gained. Someone who doesn't experience these "hard times" never callouses their mind which is the key to success.
Keep your head up brother, you're never alone.
Jesus Christ is the true cure to depression 😊❤
Romans 10:9-10 “If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved.” 😊👍
Yes, I know I didn't have to do this, but I feel the need to show you my appreciation for your content, Ive found many uses for the things you 'teach' and I just want you to know how much your impacting your viewers.
Dang I thought Jak would notice my comment 😕
Yes, I know I didn't have to do this, but I feel the need to show you my appreciation for your content, I've found many uses for the things you 'teach' and I just want you to know how much your impacting your viewers.
@@Theunicorn2012 ??? Why'd you copy what I said
Jak!!! You need to see this
Don't forget, never run a mile for someone who wouldn't even cross the road for you
(btw this isn't mine but I just wanted to share it with you guys)
Always choose someone who chooses you ❤️
@@JakPiggott facts ❤
just know your value
@@nikorzech ???????? HOW
As a 16-year-old girl, I’ve learned that your first priority should be yourself. Your future is in your hands, not anyone else’s. You have the power to make your own choices and build your own life. Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish-it’s important. Focus on your dreams, work hard, and trust that with God’s help, everything will happen at the right time. When you put yourself first and take care of your goals, everything else will come together.
100%, take care of yourself for you, but also taking care of you means you can show up the best version of you around the people you care about, and your energy becomes magnetic, its a win win for everyone ❤
Come on, do you even face any issues, struggles, or problems in the first place ?
As far as I know, maximum a girl can face are insecurities. But we boys face a package of problems (if the guy is a monk then it's different). Be it mental stability, low feelings, maturity, decision-making, hormonal issues (example - low Testosterone i.e very common in teens and young adults), heavy distractions (come on, you know that; I need not explain this contrast between boys and girls). These all, I don't think are faced by you. Also like our puberty is later than you, with puberty comes many roller coaster things and it highly co incides with important phases in teen life. May be you have those roller coasters but they don't necessarily co incide with other important things. Get it ?
I don't mean to hurt or underestimate women, but come on - my sayings aren't that far from truth, are they ?
Edit : I mentioned those specific issues as they are particular to us. Everyone knows at this stage you are more stable and more mature than us, just saying.
Also please don't get mad or angry at me, I'm just a random teen boy from a corner of the world that no one knows and cares (except family and very close friends, I guess).
@@anshulpowersmart4729 Hey, I hear you, and I get that you’re just trying to share your perspective, so no anger here. But let me tell you something; don’t assume what someone else is or isn’t going through. You don’t know me, and you don’t know anyone’s struggles before they even bring it out.
I’ve faced plenty: extreme social anxiety, getting bullied, identity crises, body insecurities, and yeah, my hormones are all over the place too. I’ve had roller coasters of my own that collided with important life phases, just like you’re describing. And hell, I got my period at 8 and hit puberty way earlier than most. My life’s been a roller coaster ever since, dealing with everything that came with it: physical pain, mood swings, and trying to figure myself out in the chaos.
On top of that, I’m also struggling with school, a fear of being left alone, and the pain of feeling excluded. That kind of stuff eats at you in ways that are hard to explain.If i had to tell you my life idk where to start having to move all the time almost killed by family in laws; enterrd wrong groups or websites i was not supposed to enter as a 11 year old; and hell i copied things i wasn't supposed to(not the hanky panky). And while we might be different, you’ll never fully understand a girl’s pain when you’re the opposite gender; ust like I’ll never completely understand yours.
But that’s okay. We’re all dealing with our own struggles, and they’re valid no matter how different they are just because of our genders. So, all I’m saying is, give people the benefit of the doubt, because everyone’s fighting their own battles. 😊
edit: and hell i actually relate to the vids Jak does i am not kidding; and i am also a random girl at the other side of the world so no worries
Thanks sis! 🙏🏻
But you know there's time in life when you are "unable" to take care of yourself.
I'm chronically depressed and have attempted s/icide before and the cause of this is humiliation, self hatred, and loneliness. I always wish I have someone with same intentions as me, same goals and understand me. If only I had someone who can provide me with love.
I know parents do but my parents don't, they just want the biggest expectations from me. It's like expecting a fish to climb trees. So let's see, my life is pretty much ruined right now tho, mentally.
@@detox3330Hey, thanks for sharing this. I know it is not easy to open up, and I wanted you to know that I'm here for you. Sometimes, life may seem so unbearable at times; this thought comes when one feels that he does everything by himself, but this feeling of loneliness is just apparently reverse. It's OK to feel like you're struggling right now. You are not ruined; you are human, and this somehow is a part of the growth process-messy or not. You deserve love, understanding, and kindness-no, not just from other people, but from yourself, too. It's hard, I know, but taking small steps toward prioritizing your well-being-talking to someone you trust, seeing a therapist, participating in a support group-can make a world of difference.
If Christian: I can promise you, with God, nothing is impossible. Luke 1:37. He sees your pain, loves you endlessly, and has a plan for you, even in the darkness. In 2 Corinthians 12:9, God says, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." You are not ruined; you're a masterpiece in progress. Everyone goes through hardship, and everyone is born for a reason. Who knows-you may be the light in someone else's life without knowing, and God will never fail to bring along into your life people who love and understand you. Take it one step at a time, and you'll be able to do anything with GOD by your side; just trust the process.
edit: i also am figuring myself out but i trust GOD in process
When I was a teenager, especially during the ages 15-18 in 2016-2019, I was so obsessed with a girl I had a crush on. I fell in love with her when I was 15. She’s the most beautiful girl I've ever seen in my entire life. When I was 17 in 2018, I wrote her a love letter. Sadly, I got rejected by her because she doesn't have any feelings towards me and doesn't feel the same way at all. That broke my heart into a million pieces which made it hard for me to get over it. I eventually kind of got over it a year later. I will always have some sort of romantic feelings towards her and will always love her no matter what she thinks or feels. Since I truly love her, I don't bother with her. I’ll never force her to be in a relationship with me or do anything. I let her be because that's what’s best.
that happened to me last school year 2023-2024, it’s very hard to think about everyday but don’t let that stop for what you could become, good luck
That same happened to me in the year 2024 25
You love someone dream of a life together then come to know that she doesn't have any feelings towards you
When I was a teenager, especially during the ages 15-18 in 2016-2019, I was so obsessed with a girl I had a crush on. I fell in love with her when I was 15. She's
the most beautiful girl I've ever seen in my entire life. When I was 17 in 2018, I wrote her a love letter. Sadly, I got rejected by her because she doesn't have any feelings towards me and doesn't feel the same way at all. That broke my heart into a million pieces which made it hard for me to get over it. I eventually kind of got over it a year later. I will always have some sort of romantic feelings towards her and will always love her no matter what she thinks or feels. Since I truly love her, I don't bother with her. I'll never force her to be in a relationship with me or do anything. I let her be because that's what's best.
The same happened when me and my ex broke up. Her parents wanted her to stop dating, and I was dumb enough to belive everything other ppl said, such as shes lying because she likes someone else. So I said a few things I shouldn’t have. I fucked up hard. No matter the times I told her I was sorry and she said she beilived me, I could tell I hurt her. I kick myself every godamn day for it. She apparently doesn’t like me anymore, and I’ve been trying to get over her…
3:20 brother that was me for the past 3 years, and yes it is painful especially after she rejects you, but you just gotta stay positive and keep on moving forward man.
Yeah brother I feel you. Just gotta try your best to use it as fuel ❤️
I know that feeling + she has a boyfriend 😭😭
I really like her but she friendzoned me 2 times
But idk why i just dont want to give up.
It is kinda hopeless but she keeps giving me hope🥲
But i never know if she is using me or if ahe doesnt mean It like that.
And I have all this hope because we are really close friends too
(Sry if my english is bad. Im from germany)
Advice???
"The fuck is that a dragonfly?"
Beat me to it lol
Fark I haven’t seen one of those in a while 😂
Lol, dragonflies r cool
"The fuck is that a dragonfly?"
got the timestamp?
Jak, you are so brutally honest which is why you have made my life better than any other self improvement creator. I love your videos and I wish you the best.
Thank you brother, however I am nothing special, I'm sure there are a bunch of other guys who can advise you greater than I ever could
ikr? in 2022, i met this guy and we were in a relationship, but things got worse because he was 4 years older than me and could easily dominate my feelings and make me feel like shit sometimes. it wasn’t actually love because love is such a compassionate feeling that we have with ourselves and our loved ones. i’m glad i got back outta it and quitted doing that shit that was being in love with someone hopelessly. it’s still not the right time to be in love tho. i gotta focus on myself. it’s been like 2 years ever since i had a crush on any guy and i’m glad about it, and also because i stopped being DELUSIONAL. you did a wonderful job to guide me through the right path of being physically and spiritually attached with the world. your morals and values are too wise, Jak. thank you so much. you don’t know how much you mean to me, my man❤️
I just went through this last week and it really hurts. If you're someone who's also going through this, don't give up. Focus on the things that really matters. Remember, time heals and you'll move on eventually. Start showing up for yourself every morning with a smile. There's so much the future has to offer. Keep believing.
Y3s
A trees roots must reach hell before its leaves reach heaven. Every event is a part of the plan ❤
You might not believe it, but I was going through all of this and I still am. All the things you said, they are true. I am currently 16 and I am now waking up from it. Glad that I am getting away from it, but probably not all out yet. Thank you for this video, it got me more secured that I am not the only one who is or who was living through this. For my fellow comrades, take care and wake up to reality. It is a shock, but also the results are amazing. Keep the good work, Jak
We are more alike than we think. So many guys goes through a similar experience but we're just scared to admit it to come across as weak. You're never alone ❤
I personally find that school hierachy doesn't mean anything. Once you graduate it means nothing.
Oh 100% bro, problem is that's the only thing that really matters in high school, or at least I thought that way 😂
@JakPiggot I thought the same way as you.
Just so you know Jak, about a year ago, you motivated me to get up early and go to bed early, go to the gym every day, (and rest days ofc) take cold shower which are really underrated, you should talk about them more, and also journaling, it helps me collect and organize my thoughts at the end of the day, and because of you I have ended every single entry with the words: “Keep going bro, you got this.” You’re a huge inspiration to me man thank you much love.
Life sometimes goes down a different pathway than you want. Don’t look back at it with regret and what ifs your on a different journey adapt and enjoy it just like jak!
i understand this pain, being heart broken and just feeling lost is absolutely devastating it affects people more than it’s ever talked about, though it is helpful to talk about no matter how long it takes, i just got out of a relationship about month or so ago it’s been hard to be on my own relationship wise again(keep in mind i am in my early 20s, specifically 23 years old) so as you gain more in life you learn each time
Hi Jak, I got the same situation with that type of girl at the beginning of the year. She got with another guy I used to know but they never broke up cause we're a bit older I guess (about year 11 in your country probably). I lost myself instead of finding strength in it and I lost much confidence, you were good in Basketball, I was the best student of my whole school for a lot of years and also lost that status. I feel like I also had the mindset of girls are boring, useless and just distractions but since I got to college I began to see women differently, craving for their attention and lost my real values, those my parents gave me and I truly believe in. Respect, kindness, Peace. Now I know I lack of authenticity because I always need to modify myself to appear better in front of everyone, be loved, popularity shit or Idk. I truly believe I didn't work enough on myself with that and feel immature or too much away from everyone else.
My boy Jak really be showing people’s faces uncensored 😭
Haha I gotta respect people's privacy 😂
Don't know how much this relates to the topic but I don't want to wait anymore to tell people about this.
Roughly 3 years ago there was this girl I met through a friend of mine online, she was very shy around new people but she warmed up to me fairly quickly. We started talking and eventually developed feelings for each other but neither one of us wanted to take the next step, I was just to afraid of being turned down even though I knew she liked me. About a year and a half passed and I told her I liked her "just a bit", what a fucking lie that was. She friendzoned me as she was a lot less shy around new people, something that I'd like to think I helped her get through. About a week after that she told me she liked me, but she had just crushed my heart so I couldn't really reciprocate her feelings anymore. I helped her in dozens of ways that are far too hard to count, her friend killed themself and she believed it was all her fault. No one was going to help her so I did, gave her my word on it, and faster than you'd think she went from sobbing to at least speaking sentences I could understand. I'd go over everything I'd helped her through, and everything she's helped me through but that would make this comment 10 times longer than it already is.
About 2 weeks ago we had a video call, we both like each other again at this point, but we don't talk as much anymore, but I can tell she meant what she said. She was telling me how cute I am, how kissable my face is, everything she'd do to me in bed. That night I told her "Promise me you aren't toying with me for your own amusement." She told me that if I felt like she was toying with me, I should tell her and she'll stop. I told her that I didn't want it to stop, I loved the feelings I got when I talked to her in those ways.
About a week later I'm at work and I see these chocolate bars with "I LOVE YOU" and "THANK YOU" text on them. I told her "If I was dumb enough to spend 5 dollars on a chocolate bar I'd totally get this for you. We chat for a few seconds before telling me "Oh by the way there's someone I'm interested in" as if we didn't just have the biggest sex talk the week prior. I felt like she never loved me even after everything I did for her. I don't care how selfish that made me sound but I'm tired of putting effort into trying to be the humble guy if this is how I get treated for it afterwards, I deserve nice things too.
I just really thought someone would actually put the effort into loving someone like me, but it turns out it was just my turn out of the toy box. I don't feel like I'm not good enough, I know that someone out there would truly love me for me, but the 3 years that I knew her for just to turn out to be toying with me really hurts.
Thank you for reading this if you did, I've never posted a wall of text before and hopefully this is the last.
Jak piggot usually comments for liked comments so i liked you're comment he never answered mine les see what happens
This is really crazy, I hope it gets better for you bro
Hope things get better!
Having a hard time to!
But we just have to accept that things like these happen to us!
We’re human!
So keep going strong brother! ❤
Man it really does hurt, I was in the same position but it was only for 1 and a half years and she abandoned me recently, it feels so empty now
Man im sry that this happened to you. You definitely deserve nice thimgs and someone who appreciates your effoet
Jack I’m glad I found your video honestly and found you it’s surreal how much it helps me healed fr fr
0:20 no i dont know that feeling
I will never know that feeling 😔🤦♂️
Fr tho lol
I was tricked
…
(if you wanna know)
Back in sixth grade
There was a girl I liked
But she just used me
To sneak out of church
Because she didn’t like being adopted to a Christian family…
And my dumb brain
🧠 thought it was love
It wasn’t though
😔
Haha I don't know if that's a good or bad thing
Bro you got ignored by your childhood gf and friends in your school but your not ignored by millions of peaple including me bro. Stay strong. By the way , watching your videos are soo calming than other videos and your voice is like a purification that filled with hidden advises.your a life saviour. If that girl and your friends didn't ignore you then, this channel would have not existed. Thanks for advises bro
I hope you know you're one of my favorite youtubers and I love watching each and every video that gets released. You are very wise and hearing your thoughts actually means a lot to me. Thank you, Jak Piggott.
*We can't change the past, but we can make our future better*
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So long as you learn from the mistakes of the past that have happened around you.
Oh my gosh, this story is so much like me right now. I played basketball and loved the sport so much and I didn’t make my team either, got this girl’s number who I liked and she friendzoned me and then slowly ghosted me, and I haven’t talked to a girl since. I’m not scared to talk to them at all it’s just that I want to find THE ONE. They aren’t really attracted to me either but this video helped a lot. Thanks Jak
The girl watching this is malding rn
Haha I don’t even know if she watches my vids, she probably doesn’t 😂
Hey, I absolutely love your videos and how genuine you are. They’ve taught me so much, and I really appreciate your transparency. Wishing you all the best!👍🏼
My favorite quote: The pain of discipline will turn into joy later, but the joy of sinning will be converted into pain afterwards. Even if you’re not a Christian, I genuinely believe that this has some truth in it.
Your explanation of Australian culture unlocked the truth of that social barrier that I've been trying to figure out for years. Makes sense why people that do nothing to earn status have one just for being involved in sports like soccer, whereas others that make an effort to connect with people that are focused on interests outside sport are looked down on. I now play soccer in my break times with boys in my own grade as well as friends I have made in other grades, but it still doesn't seem to be enough, I'm still partially ignored by most people or seen as the attention seeker. It's been interesting to discover how every grade has very different dynamics, in particular this group two grades below mine is very obsessed with gym, muscles, wrestling, being moderately rough, etc., you know, they get me to flex all the time... I try to be part of what they do without showing my weaknesses or giving myself a poor reputation.
Jak, i dont know if you see this but i just wanted to tell that youre fucking awesome person. Thats all i want to say. You helped me so much in the hard times and many more people too. Keep going, you earn all of it💪💪
Im sure I can say the same for you my friend, thank you ❤
@@JakPiggott ❤️💪
This video touched me, Jak. I am a sophomore in high school. During my freshman year, I met this really cool girl. She was sweet and funny and probably everything I could want in a girl. After some time went by and we were talking a lot, I started to build the feeling that she liked me. I could just tell by the things that she did. She started asking me hugs and shit. However, I liked another girl while she liked me. So I ended up telling her a few weeks before Valentine's Day that I only wanted to be friends with her because she had feelings for someone else. And mind you, I had a porn addiction during this time period (I still do now), so I shouldn't even have been so worried about girls. Anyways, she told me that she understands, and that we could still be friends. A few days before Valentine's Day, the girl that I liked friendzoned me. Me and the girl that I liked are really good friends still, like best friends, but my friendship with the girl that liked me is really bland now. During band camp and summer break, we barely talked. During the first two months of my sophomore year, we did not talk at all. A few weeks ago, she told me that she hated me through Discord dm's because I didnt talk to her anymore. She and the girl that I liked were really good friends, and now they do not talk anymore, and she was blaming it on me that they did not speak to each other anymore. I told her that I don't know what happened, and I apologized for not talking to her. She then apologized to me and then said that she doesn't hate me. But now I'm confused because when I try to talk to her, she just walks away. It's like she's mad at me for doing what she asked me to do. Idk man, and I'm still stuck in this porn addiction and I'm kinda jealous of my friends and their relationships, but I dont wanna date until I fix myself.
I met this girl in August, and after a week of knowing her, i told her i had a crush on her. She had said she also did, which made me feel really good. We started saying "i love you" and even asked each other that if we saw each other, if we could kiss each other. But just recently, her dad saw her emails between me and her and said we couldn't talk anymore. This broke me so much to the point where i just cried myself to sleep. Her mom said me and her could text from time to time, but it's not the same as going on a call with her and seeing her face :(
Now i am really confused if she likes me or not anymore. She has done some things that made me think she still does, but there is no way of knowing for sure. i am really confused about my life right now and also depressed and just need some advice from anyone.
Also btw, me and her are 12 years old
Hey bro, what you are going through is really tough and trust me I know. I just backed out of a 10 month relationship with my girl and it hurts like hell. The crying yourself to sleep, looking up at the ceiling, wishing you were with her, zoning out and just imagining the times you had or could have had, it really sucks. One thing that is helping me get through this is understanding that I was fine before her and I can be fine without her. Another thing that has helped me is understanding that there are so many people out there, and much like you, I feel as if there is no one else, that there isnt another girl, that she was my one, but time has the power to heal anything. If you are religious (im christian), praying has helped me so much, trule it really has. Im sorry that your going through this, and as someone who shared everything with that girl, I understand what your going through. Better times are on the horizon.
From a 16 year old.
I appreciate you taking to time to respond 🙏
@thejunior9376 The hardest part about the whole situation is that she is in my friends' youtube videos, so I am always seeing her.
@@tojo-v8w Of course bro, and dude the simplest way to not see her in your friends UA-cam videos is simply by unfollowing your friend. If he is your friend then he will totally understand why you unfollowed him. If you don’t I totally understand, but the best way to let go is to have no contact with them. It’s hard trust me, I have to share multiple classes with her 😂
@thejunior9376 i mean to be fair, I am allowed to message her and her dad said he will think about us talking again, AND I told her if she could apologize to him for me and she said she would. I asked her what her dad said and she said that he wants to talk to me. Tomorrow is her birthday so knowing her she might ask if her dad will let me and her talk again so I might talk to him tomorrow honestly.
I see kids at my high school in full on relationships, the fact that I never had a girlfriend is so hard to push through everyday..
trust me most of high school "relearionship" is bs they prolly gonna get a break up after school or even a month
Im 13 and 2 years ago i had a girlfriend too and she broke up with me 2 days before Christmas. The reason was because I sat next to an other girl but with my best buddy next to me and I didn't really talked to the girl, and when we met at my home she was like angry but the funny thing was that she was litterly flirting with an other guy right in front of me like 2 weeks befor and when I asked her in private why she did that, she said it wouldn't be that deep and then I called her a c**t. After that we didn't talk for 4 days and then she broke up with me. I appreciate it very much that you are making these videos because it makes me really feel that I'm not the only one who had to go trough this s**t.
Im probably about to end up writing a long ccomment but here i go, im a teenager js for context. I moved to a new place earliier this year, for about 2 months i had no friends, and i was at the library for teen game night, reading aa book by myself, when this one girl complimented my shirt (it was for a series we both liked) and i said thank you, i am by NO MEANS introverted, i am hyper-extroverted but im socially paranoid and am scared of what people think of me... and im not the most popular person, so about 5 minutes later, i took my oppurtunity and brought up my favorite series at the time... turns out shes like, obsessed with this series and its her favorite series and shes like in love with the main character, we talak for a bit about the series and various things before she heads off to talk to other people. Before i leave the teen game night... she asks for my number, now, after about 3 days, i see a video about a product themed around this series, and think of this girl... hmmmm ill call her by her middle name, Nicole... anyways, i think of her, and send her the video, (it was a themed mug) and she replies with a video of HER themed bowls, and thus starts... friendship. Within days i develop a bit of a crush over this girl, i was conflicted though because... ive only ever had one crush before her... after a bit, i give in and realize i really do like Nicole... (more context, we are both homeschoolers, bit detail because homeschoolees typically interact and act differently) and due to my clingy personality, i constantly think about her. Im scouring the internet for advice, as at the time, my sellf confidence is EXTREMELY low, and i just try to think of hundreds of ways to boost her opinion of me, and maybe, just maybe, do the impossible, and get her to like me? Well, after a while, i started picking up on some hints or signs, but due to low self confidence and social paranoia, i really thought i might be overthinking it. Even though a few were EXTENELEY OBVIOUD SIGNS. And anyways, i had invited her over for our family's 4th of july party... but about a week before, our friend kinda texted me asking if i liked Nicole, and i wouldnt deny but i said stuff like "why?" And eveentually i callels this friend and asked her questions, and shee hinted that nicole might like ME... i asked Nicole if we could call and she was busy for like 20 more minutes, in the meanwhile i was sobbing and smiling and hyperventilating, this was it. Someone ACTUALLY likes me... i called her, it took maybe... 40 minutes for me to work up the confidence. She likes me.
She likes me.
She likes me.
She likes me.
We have a conversation aavout it, but she cant date til 2026 due to parents, i was planning on waiting til then to date anyways so it was fine... we were waiting ppatiently, patiently waiting... i promised myself i would takae the entire relattionship at her pace. And i did, she went further then i thought, we never held hands or anything, but we got all the way up to romantic conversations, talking about marriage only half-jokingly, and even... "I love you"...
Life was its happiest, i was happier than ive ever been. And about a month ago...
"So, basically, I've been thinking about how we act, and how we're kind of way too lovey-dovey for people who aren't even dating, and I think we should just reel back. This is all going way too fast for me. I feel bad getting your hopes up for MARRIAGE when we arent even dating yet. Im sorry, its not you though. Its me."
Thats just the beggining of the message, she explains she doesnt KNOW anymore if she wants to date me, and she will have to see how we grow over the next 2 years... but she said she will always want to be close friends... (to clarify, this was NOT rejection, but it means what i thought was guarenteed, something i thought i was done working for, i must continue working towards, and continue improving fo) im destroyed. I cant stop thinking avout her. From the happiest to most painful time in my life, in a matter of minutes. It still hurts unimaginably badly, i withdrew from even our friendship for a while, my self confidence that i had built up? Down the drain. But, i wont give up, i will NOT give up, she is worth EVERY SECOND of the pain. I got her to like me once, i will do it again, i HAVE to do it again. Sometime before this message, she had invited me to a local homeschool group winter formal dance. She said she would still love if i came, so i did, it was two nights ago. She was beautiful, her dress, stunning. I didnt want to ask her to slow dance, because i honestly didnt know if i wwould break the boundary she has set,, i just dont want to do that. There caame a "girls ask boys to dance" time... she didnt ask, it brought my hopes down, but later during a slow dance song, she said, somewhat quietly, "yknow, we can dance if you want to... i just want you to be uncomfortable" i freak out and say "oh i wouldnt be uncomfortable dont worry." But it disnt get aanywahere further than that... during another slow song later on "we really can dance you know..."
I say "sure" as thats all i could say in my blissful stupor. We end up getting up on the dance floor (it was outsidee at nigiht and awesome) and she asked if i knew how to slow dance, and i isaid (i used to.... lets hope i remember) so we end up doing a sort of put together box waltz, it was rough, but it was... amazing, i loved every second of it. I couldnt keep eye cintact tho, i kept looking to the side of her head, but it was still absolutely AMAZING... i couldnt build up the courage to ask HER to dancee on abother song, but some of the jokes she made too... i have hope, its small, but there... i have HOPE!
HOPE!!!
I heard there was another dance in april, so here i am, going to practtice dancing better, going to build confidence in various ways (i have no idea how tbh), abd im going to INVITE EHER TO THE DANCE AND THEN ASK HER TO DANCE. I WANT US TO HAVE A HAPPY ENDING. I WANT TO DANCE WITH HER SO MANY MORR TIMES, AND SO MUCH MORE.
Thank you... idk what else to say, sorry thisbcomment is so long
Thats my goal, for the year, for the next year, ans the next year... right now its get her to like me again, then it will be to make her as happy as i possibly could
UPDATE: mutual friend asked her about it even after I asked her not to... supposedly I'm a bit too... "immature" for her right now, Idk who she's expecting to find bc ever other teenage boy I've seen are definitely more immature. Idk, am I screwed, should I. Given up? I hate myself, I hate life, idk WHT to do, im scared.
good.luck man
@yuixesu thanks ._. It hurts...
You are still very young and developing the maturity to do life. Don't hyper analyse your teenage self too much as when you look back at 50 you'll realise you are that same person just with more layers of experience. Nothing is left behind by self awareness of your thoughts and behaviour patterns, it's just reinvented with perspective.
I know this for sure because I'm old.
We need to move on bro. Being stuck on someone who has clearly decided they dont want you in their lives anymore ruins your present and your future. It´s not worth it
you know your just chill when you’re watching Jak’s videos
I also hoop, and after this video, imma forget everything else, and for us on basketball. Only basketball. Thank You for this motivation.
The reason you are one of the best UA-camrs is because of the way you talk to everyone watching you don’t speak like you’re above everyone giving wisdom you’re talking to the audience on a personal and relatable level ❤ thank you
I'm 21 and I'm kind of "lost" in life. I have a lot of qualities and everybody at work and school is happy with what I do. But deep inside of me, I feel so much (you can't even imagine really) fear of not being successful enought in the future. I'm afraid of failing my life and never get a wife and a familyw which my biggest dream. I really feel clueless with this situation which is lasting for years now. Thanks for your content. It's very positive. Hope that one day things are gonna get better 🙏.
I feel bad for the girl that u spoke abt in this vid. She must be so guilty 😭
this was exactly how i behaved from 14 to 17
a reason i like this channel is because it isn't mysoginistic like a lot of the self improvement and motivation space on UA-cam
So nice watching a dude my age tell his stories, it's like i'm talking to a friend. Also keep thinking about stories i could tell, maybe one day...
You know what man!
this man has encouraged me literally to do some productive work!
I am not kidding what the thing is that you know i was a bad habbit addict and now?
left all, started working out , nature walks! and also my passion for drawing/art which i thought was dead due to video games , came back!
now i started an art channel!
you gave me a goal
i will not hesitate to share to you all
my goal is to become a great comic writer or mangaka!
if i somehow ever become something big i will never forget you and would mention you there!
salute ❤
I fell for a girl that seemed perfect. One of my friends that used to be friends with her warned me not to go for her, but I ignored her. All I’m doing to say is that she ended up not being such a great person. That was a few months ago. I’m over her and am finding someone worth going for
Jack, iam currently experiencing the same thing you did. Let me explain: im only 13 and i always have this girl on my mind. This has affected my friendships and my studies. I kissed her a few days ago , but recently I've not been greating her when I saw her. She made a bet with her friend that if she kissed me, she would get money. I feel like I'm being used, but for some reason I still have feelings for this girl, i can't let her go.
9:42 I feel that I loved playing sports and especially hockey but my dad also had to quit because we have godawful knees and I got asthma from my mom. I’m thinking of starting skating again but I’m currently out of commission after I got Covid and it set off even more bad genetics
Between 2015-2018 I was 15-18 and really rebellious, I definitely didn't have a big friend group and a high status, my reputation with students and teachers was bad
I only had 2-3 friends at most, I didn't think about girls because I was always getting into trouble and pulling pranks and if I did it was always on one girl who always tolerated me. I've always loved rapping and combat and that never changed even today. If u heard of Bully by Rockstar Games, the story and experiences of Jimmy Hopkins really resonate with me
Thank God, I'm16 turning 17 in March, I've been In 2 relationships before but I didn't know not to put a woman on a pedestal I mean I always kinda knew not really but deep down I knew, I had a feeling but I didn't fully understand it at that time. But I figured it out a year ago, What I know is stop fucking putting women on pedestals, treat them as an equal, don't be afraid to speak, just say whatever the fuck you need to them but like obviously speak them in a polite way and and just be yourself stop trying to impress women by doing stuff you don't do or act like someone you're not, just be yourself in the best way possible.
When I was in 8th grade I was bullied and I liked a girl the whole year and I didn’t talk to any of my friends because I was scared from what she would think of me, and I let anxiety get to me and I was only focusing on her when I never focused on myself, so that’s why I took control over my high school years I started to hit the gym and work on myself
Just got broken up with recently. It’s been a struggle, but you’ve really helped me pick myself up. Much love brother.
We humans are not perfect ,you think your past isnt what you hoped it to be but it made you who you are today if you change anything in your past you wouldn't have become the person you are today who inspires thousands, i think that you have came along way and you are still young you still have along way to go and room for improvement
The timing of your videos is unbelievable.
Aye much love ❤
Its my 14th birthday tomorrow, and this video made me think about how i asked someone out earlier in the year that i found attractive. She said no, but it changed me greatly for the better, and, like you, my whole motivation for a long time was this girl. After she said no, i managed to find a new purpose now, and it definitely helped me to just ask instead of keeping things bottled up. Im forever grateful that i was able to ask her, despite my fears.
Happy Birthday in Advance Lad.🎉🎂❤️
Hey Jak listened to your video last night. Asked a girl out today. She said yes 😁. Thank you so much bro 👍
You really help me brother 🙏
I am a girl and your story really resonated with me. Like almost word for word, except it was about a boy for me. To know that someone else went through these emotions as well. I wish u the best ❤️
7:38 the fuc is that a dragon fly😂
Love can be sometimes be a fantasy, but not the real thing.
Always glad to see your videos pop up. 👍🏼
7:39 “tf is that a dragon fly 😭
lol I didn’t notice that
Haha I don’t even know if it was but it looked like one 😂
I have only got one thing to say ,
THANKYOU BROTHER.❤
Nah man I should be saying thank YOU. I wouldn’t be where I am today without support like this, much love ❤
@@JakPiggott Much Love Brother ❤️
The first few sentences he said I could relate to that, thx bro for doing that video, ur such an inspiration
Remember, no one can separate you from yourself, from your soul and soul, the only one who has this ability is yourself when thinking that you are better or worse than you think, this thought is collected in the art of war and it says "make your enemy think that you are stronger than you appear or weaker than you appear to deceive him and take advantage" Why would anyone take themselves as an enemy? That is because human beings have the ability to benefit themselves at will without thinking about the consequences,If you want to be better, it is not enough to believe it with false hopes from people that want to profit from you telling you complements and giving you faith, but to be better you have to improve yourself with training in technique and skill.
The fact that you are slightly older than me and you are so successful and kind makes me depressed...😂
I never played sports at school. I’m not a very athletic guy, I don’t like to party as much as the rest, I don’t drink or smoke. That has always put me at the bottom of the social hierarchy at school. I’m the weird kid, the guy who does well at school without any effort / study and the tech guy who knows 10x more about tech than everyone else on my class.
I’ve had moments where I had doubts about my future, my life, my friends. And I’ve had worries about girls. I sometimes get worried, think I’ll never find The girl (as you so well put it) because of my social anxiety. But I keep going. I go after my purpose in life, and just hope one day I will find the woman of my dreams, a woman that shares my values and that will love me for who I am, to create a family and spend the rest of my life with.
But first I need to deal with my social anxiety. I need to learn how to keep conversations flowing (something I struggle to do) and to engage others when they’re talking to me. And I feel your videos are helping me through that.
Since I started watching your videos, I’ve felt more comfortable around girls. Before I would give them one word answers when they talk to me, and now I feel myself trying to engage more. I am really grateful for what you do, you are changing lives and I really appreciate it.
Hey bro, even if you see this comment or didnt see it, I just wanted to tell you i am experiencing the same thing right now. I know i might just be a random person commenting and cant be easily trusted but I am really going through the same thing. I'm a middle schooler and have a crush on a super attractive girl in school. I also noticed her staring at me sometimes, idk what she was thinkin but we barely know each other and had never spoken to each other as well. So idk when i see her, And is with a friend or anyone that i know, i realise that im not myself but a different person. I always say to my friends that i aint a simp but its actually the opposite. I always think abt her and wanted to stop so i watched your vids. It is winter vacation for me so i wont see her for a while and will continue to support and watch you while my feelings gradually pass away..
My motivation is always you bro,you helped me through difficult times and had situations similar to mine. I really think of you as my idol and Will continue to support you in the future...
Sorry bro this is the last thing imma be saying, as you can tell my name itself is mr lonely yea cringe right i know. I basically gave this name to myself cuz like yk i hurt many people in my school, not physically but verbally which could also include mentally. Im just a loner and eat lunch by myself but guess what happened? There's one guy that just comes up to me and says can we be friends? Yea yk the guy was someone i knew before but for a short amount of time. We spend good times and guess what happened again? I started watching your amazing content and gained a group of friends older than me but suitable for me. It was always bc of you and that friend who always had my back. And rn im at a position where i can make everyone proud of my achievement and bc of my behaviour which was yea not loveliness but solitude.
Up until now You helped me develop my lonely attitude towards solitude when i feel lonely. Im glad i saw your channel when i needed motivations.
I will always support you. Peace out Brotha 👐🤝🤟✌❤
remember no matter how crap you feel you can do it. I believe in you ❤
dont worry you are still a chill guy
Factsss bro I almost forgot ❤
Is that a dragonfly
I don’t actually know bro but it def looked like one 😂
@ 🤣 keep up the good stuff man love your videos im 14 and your videos are such an inspiration thanks man 🙏⭐️
7:38 I thought you only swears at deep feelings like heart break
8:04
I almost lost one of my best friends due to chasing women. Its kinda crazy how much you change when youre mind is shifted on pulling girls, Never listen to your lustful self no matter the excuse you wont regret it 👊❤️
10:18 Yep lol in my part of Australia you're looked down on if u play footy(AFL)
Yeah in most parts of vic it’s looked up to, but I know in some parts and other states it’s looked down upon
Wow amazing, I can feel ya and these videos are really touching
jak i’m only 14 years old i have some things goin on and idk how to get all this too work out i’ll be fully honest with you and this entire chat my dad cheated on my mom and they split up i have 3 other brothers in my life and two of them are twin babies and it’s hard to manage helping them i am dealing with not being able to see my mom or dad much bc they are fighting for us in court and they want way more hours than the other and it’s not even for me and im scared i also have school and at school i had a toxic relationship with someone who cheated on me with 6 different guys and i broke up then she ended up to try and kill herself and i saved her life by calling her family and calling 911 then she ended up telling everyone i begged her to do it to herself and telling others i wanted her to die so now im in court for two different things and one of them i never have done idk what to do and i know you can help me
2:24 not a good pic for the moment
Fr bro I'm dying 😂
So many men and boys are afflicted with this obsession with female attention. It’s sad to see when the desire grips them so strongly that they begin to act in a manner far removed from their true personalities in hopes of something even as little as a smirk or an extra glance from whichever girl they’ve hyper-fixated on. We’ve all been there. It’s probably the case that men need phases like that in their lives in order to end up with a well-adjusted view on romance, and it certainly is a natural male tendency, but it seems like many men aren’t getting out of their girl-obsessed ruts. You see it on social media all the time, self-improvement content with a big focus on what will attract women. In the end, self-improvement for the sake of it will attract women anyway, so it’s a win-win if you approach it that way, but by hyperfixating, men train themselves to believe that women are the end-all be-all of life itself. There is much higher meaning in this life to be attained. Aim for that higher meaning, and you’ll pick up the romance life has to offer along the way. Hyperfixating on women may be the “natural” male mindset, but it’s no goddamn way to live at all. Don’t let your mind’s ideations of the perfect woman make decisions for you. Make your own decisions. Live life free as it’s meant to be lived. Much love Jak
Girls aren't a distraction, but falling into love deeply is a distraction
Can we actually appreciate him for how he has improved in life.He was depressed but now a UA-cam inspiration.God bless u for coming to my recommended🙏
Jak man I have noticed you have been making some good progress in the gym, keep it up man! Your very inspiring
Your video always come at the right time of my life. They always come at the time when im facing a problem in my life or something. Thank you Jak :)
As a person who is about to end their own misery, i would like to say goodbye to everyone reading this comment. No one has ever cared for me before so even talking about this to my parents wouldn't make a difference, they wouldn't try to stop me. So , everyone stay safe and don't end up like me, goodbye everyone :).
lately i've been curious about this cybepunk edgerunner and i really want to stay at your house, now im curious i feel like "why do people really got depressed because of this good song" ...thats my biggest regret in my life, i keep searching and searching seeing countless of david and lucy video until i watch the actual anime and i understand..now i got haunted by the feeling of love, depression, empathy and sympathy i never had any relationship, and that one comment "its never about the moon david, she loves you" i...feel like a fkn trash right now..i need help i know i need help and i know i got defeated by this feeling
You're videos are strangely comfortable.
The title is so relatable.
I was obsessed with this girl for 2-3 years. But I was idealizing her, seeing her as this perfect person that didn’t exist. I also used to seggsualize her because I used to be addicted to the bad content (I’m 56 days clean right now), and worst of all, I didn’t care about her real personality. I didn’t care about the real her. I wasn’t in love with her, I was in love with the perfect version of her that didn’t exist because I wanted to feed my selfish desires.
I tried DMing her weeks ago, wanting to just value her for who she is. I didn’t want anything out of her. I just wanted to repair the friendship and make her feel valued for who she is. But she didn’t even bother to read my message. And I know she’s somewhat active on IG. And I felt that the friendship is dead. I screwed up! And I felt so guilty for who I was, even though I have changed since then. It was only through repentance that I was able to forgive myself. But it still isn’t ideal at all.
Yep this is why im happy i went to a special school in secondary school and i had no intrest with girls and focused on more stuff which mattered.
I'm 17 and No girl has ever shown attraction in me. What am I doing wrong
Can you describe your life? Your qualities?
I don't guarantee advice.
@@gameswithtroyYT well my daily routine is pretty typical. Wake up go to tschool for 6-7 hours, workout ussualy 1-2 hours and then I either go out with friends or stay inside, do schoolwork and play games on my pc. Nothing out of the ordinary, I used to smoke cigs and vape but I quit.
@arsenprod999 It is great that you quit vaping or smoking, it will make you, to majority of the girls more attractive, and more unattractive to certain girls, do you use online dating apps?
This video was so relatable !
Much love Harshal ❤️
Well when u think about it it’s good this happened because u now have 1.5 million people who support know you and care for you and also respect and relate to you.
Bro you are so inspirational love ur vids
jak piggott isn't good because he's famous, he's famous because he's good....
Lesson of the video in a line: Don't chase girls, use the time to become a better one of yourself, keep yourself original. When time will come things will automatically settle down.
Choose someone who chooses you.
Dude this came at the exact right time. The timing is insaine but I literally just had a dream abt all these girls that I’ve crushed on, mainly one tho. I just really needed this. I was thinking about how sad my life is because I have no one to share it with. Thank you bro 💪